Male Chastity Tease & Denial Guide

Intro

Odds are, if you’re reading this, either you or your partner is into Tease & Denial, also known as T&D.

In this booklet, I will be explaining what Tease & Denial (T&D) is, what benefits come from it, and how it is used with male chastity, including various techniques. This book is written around the basis of male chastity, but most – if not all – of the techniques can be incorporated into other forms of T&D play as well.

What is T&D?

Tease & Denial is the act of sexually teasing your partner, but without giving them the satisfaction of an orgasm at the end of it. This can be done countless ways, by exploiting their deepest fetishes, by verbally turning them on (dirty talk), or most commonly by edging them.

Edging is when you pleasure your partner to the point right before an orgasm. When your partner feels that buildup, just a second or two away from exploding with an orgasm, and then you stop all sensation. They are either forced to pull back their orgasm or experience a ruined orgasm.

A ruined orgasm is when you bring your partner to the point of no return, giving them the extra second or two of pleasure so they cannot hold it back, and then removing all stimulation. They will have an orgasm and fluids will come out; however, no climax is achieved and it will be about as pleasurable as urinating (maybe even less so),.

T&D can take place in the bedroom to spice up the night, or it can be dragged out for days, weeks, months, or even YEARS at a time with the help of a chastity device; whereby the partner’s only experience of an orgasm is nothing but a distant memory.

© 2019 LL Creations LLC (Locked in Lust) All Rights Reserved 2 As previously mentioned, those whom participate in longer T&D sessions tend to wear chastity devices. This helps ensure the integrity of the denied party and can also enhance the overall experience by building up the relentless desire. We will assume a chastity device is being used moving forward.

Why Would Someone Participate in T&D?

Tease & Denial can sound brutal, so why would anyone willingly participate in it? Because with most fetishes, it can be fun! Not only that, but T&D has numerous benefits for both partners.

T&D is nearly synonymous with power exchange (Domination/Submission). It can be the ultimate surrender of control to another person. Where they, and only they, can grant permission to the sub to have an orgasm. However, it can be used in less extreme scenarios as well.

The person being denied (the Sub) will feel more connected to the person teasing & denying them. They will also feel more submissive to the person denying them (the Dom). The longer the sub goes without an orgasm, and the more he/she is teased, the more the arousal and frustration will build up. As this happens, they will begin thinking about their Dom more and more (usually dirty thoughts), further denying themselves. This build up of frustration and denial will become pleasurable, it can even become more intense than an orgasm itself! The best part is, the feeling is not fleeting like an orgasm. This immense wave of intensity can be experienced for 10, 20, 30 minutes or even longer at a time (depending on the length and intensity of the T&D session)!

The Dom will also reap many benefits of T&D. Not only is it a complete power rush bringing the sub to the brink of orgasm over and over again, knowing you can push them over at any moment, but not doing it. But, when the sub is denied for long periods of time, and the sexual frustration builds up, they have to channel it somehow, and that’s typically done by giving the Dom countless orgasms!

Either way, T&D is practiced by both Dom’s and Sub’s as a fun way to add variety and intensity into the bedroom. It takes trust and cooperation, and when done correctly, it can be one of the best experiences of your life.

Frustration and Denial

Now that we have covered what T&D is, let’s talk about frustration and denial. Frustration and Denial are two different emotions experienced when long-term denial is played.

Frustration is the buildup of sexual energy, lust, and desire. This is the “fun” part of T&D for the sub. Frustration enhances the emotion of denial, and even makes it enjoyable. Frustration is experienced after a good tease & denial session. And the best part is you can never have too much frustration!

Denial is just that, denial. It’s that feeling of being left unsatisfied. When coupled with frustration, it becomes a spicy cocktail of emotions and energy which is unlike anything else. However, if denial by itself without any frustration (teasing) can become destructive for the psyche. The mind can take a turn into negative emotions and thoughts too quickly and can become quite consuming.

For the best results, always keep a minimum level of frustration in the submissive. It’s better to do light, consistent teasing 4+ days/week rather than one or two intense sessions per week. Of course, you can couple intense teasing with the consistency of near daily teasing – it can never be too much!

A light session can be a brief 5-10 minute session. Just enough to get the blood rushing and the hormones raging. An intense session can last 30-60 minutes or more! You will see techniques for both light and intense sessions ahead.

Intensity and consistency will vary with every individual, which is why it’s best to talk to your partner about your preferences ahead of time, during the session, and after the sessions; until you both are on the same frequency.

Now that we have an understanding of the different types of T&D and the frustration/denial factors, let’s see how each combination of T&D techniques will affect each parameter.

Here is a list of the parameters: • Teasing with no penile stimulation (TWO) • Teasing with penile stimulation (TWPS) • Edging (E) • Ruined Orgasm (RO) • Full Orgasm (FO)

We will go over each with being locked (L), and being unlocked (UL) in chastity, and how each one will tip the frustration & denial scale (1-10, with 1 and none, and 10 as immensely). And a few techniques for each!

Teasing with no Penile Stimulation

TWO-L Frustration (F): 3-5 Denial (D): 3-5 Teasing without penile stimulation and being locked will give the sub a constant reminder of them being locked up. Depending on the level of teasing, the frustration factor can be mild to moderate, and the feeling of denial is usually similar. This is a great technique as it’s very easy to implement, and requires little to no work by the Dom. This technique should be used often.

© 2019 LL Creations LLC (Locked in Lust) All Rights Reserved 5 Techniques: • Verbal (dirty talk) o Exploit his fetishes here, tell him all of the dirty nasty things he’s always dreamed of • Have him watch porn, but NO TOUCHING • Have him pleasure you – orally or with a toy • Have him watch you pleasure yourself • Use him for massages (especially foot massages) • Use him as furniture (a chair, a footstool, etc.). • Have him use a strap-on on you

TWO-UL Frustration (F): 4-8 Denial (D): 3-5 Teasing without penile stimulation and being unlocked is similar to being locked (identical techniques); however, it can be significantly more frustrating for the sub. For the sub, being “free” from the cage, but unable to touch is a great mindfuck. It’s being so close, yet so far away, and it amps up the frustration. This is great to juice up your sub and make him feel very desperate and submissive, and show him who’s in control. This can be used with hand restraints to prevent him from touching himself, but they are not needed.

Techniques: • Verbal (dirty talk) o Exploit his fetishes here, tell him all of the dirty nasty things he’s always dreamed of • Have him watch porn, but NO TOUCHING • Have him pleasure you – orally or with a toy • Have him watch you pleasure yourself • Use him for massages (especially foot massages) • Use him as furniture (a chair, a footstool, etc.) • Have him use a strap-on on you

TWPS-L Frustration (F): 4-8 Denial (D): 4-8 Teasing with penile stimulation and being locked is another great way to constantly remind your sub that they are locked up, and keep them immensely frustrated, with mild to moderate work on the Dom. This gives the ultimate feeling of being locked in chastity. You can get your sub frustrated and lit up like a Christmas tree for as long as you desire. And the effects of seeing them in the desperately denied state can also be humorous.

Techniques: • Briefly use a vibrator on the cage (remember, we’re not going for an edge here, so only little spurts of stimulation – 30-60 seconds will usually suffice) • Give the cage a blowjob (he will only feel the warmth of your mouth – very frustrating) • Lick and suck on his balls • Push your genitals onto his

TWPS-UL Frustration (F): 6-10 Denial (D): 5-9 Teasing with penile stimulation and being unlocked is the holy grail of teasing. It will give you the most frustration out of any other technique. The sub gets the sweet stimulation he craves so deeply, but is left completely unsatisfied, with not as much as even an edge. It will leave him desperately craving “just a bit more”. With practice, you can keep him in a constant state of a 10 on frustration and turn his brain into jelly. This is a very powerful tool in your arsenal of teases.

© 2019 LL Creations LLC (Locked in Lust) All Rights Reserved 7 Techniques: • Stroke his cock ever so gently (you can do this for as long as you’d like) • Stroke only the shaft of his cock (without touching the head) • Stroke only the head of his cock • Stroke it firmly/normally for 30-60 second intervals and stop, without approaching the edge • Use the vibrator on and off for 30-60 seconds without approaching the edge • Give a slow, agonizing blowjob o Lick the shaft up and down o Rub your lips up and down his shaft o Lick only the head of his shaft • (For female Doms) Sit on him with his cock inside of you, but don’t move! You can also use a vibrator on yourself here (extremely frustrating). • Hold the shaft of his cock with one hand, and (with lube) rub the palm of your other hand in circles on the tip of his head. It’ll be extremely intense, but he won’t cum from it. • Gently rub his cock with only a few fingers. o Imagine the “claw game” where you win stuffed animals. And now imagine your hand as the claw, and gently grab his cock with your fingers and slowly glide them up the shaft.

Edging

E-L Frustration (F): 6-8 Denial (D): 6-9 Being edged while locked up can be both a risky and rewarding game to play. It can be harder to control the “edge” when locked up, so you want to take it slow here and pull away at the first signal of the edge, until your sub can clearly identify where it is. These edges will not be nearly as satisfying as the unlocked edges, but something is better than nothing!

© 2019 LL Creations LLC (Locked in Lust) All Rights Reserved 8 When edged, all of the pent up cum will begin to churn, and after each subsequent edge, he will become more and more frustrated. Once you both know where the edge is, this can be dozens of times. Once all of the edges are finished, the sub will certainly feel more denial than frustration, and this can be fun.

Techniques: • Vibrator only

E-UL Frustration (F): 4-9 Denial (D): 8-10 Unlocked edges can be both a reward and a punishment. Because after all of the edges, the sub must then put the device back on, and nothing succumbs to more spirit crushing denial than that. But this will also be a treat the sub will greatly look forward to. All of that time locked up, getting the stimulation he so desperately craves AND getting to bring himself to the edge and churn the pent up cum. This experience can become more fulfilling than an orgasm itself if done correctly (and for a long enough lockup). And the best part is, it’s not over in 10-30 seconds like it is with an orgasm, this wave can be ridden as long as you desire.

Techniques: • Handjobs • Blowjobs • Intercourse • Vibrators

RO-L Frustration (F): 3-5 Denial (D): 5-7 Ruining an orgasm while still being locked can be quite the punishment/reward. It helps drain all of the pressure in his balls from the days or weeks of denial, but it is far from satisfying. Being locked up the sensation of this ruined orgasm is about as satisfying a going to the bathroom to urinate. It is simply there to just relieve the pressure. It keeps all of the frustration and denial in tact. If anything, it even enhances the sensation of denial!

Techniques: • Vibrator only

RO-UL Frustration (F): 5 Denial (D): 10 This can be a very cruel “reward” for the sub. It both relieves him from all of the pressure from the pent up cum inside, but delivers pure denial from not achieving an orgasm. The best part is it keeps all of the frustration! Just as he’s about the have his moment of truth, you simply stop teasing the cock, and it all just dribbles away. You can consider this a “soft reset” for him. It’s also a lot of fun watching him realize what is happening, right before it happens. For added frustration, you can tell him, even make him truly believe, that you are going to be giving him a full orgasm. That will ramp up the frustration and denial even more.

Techniques: • Handjobs • Blowjobs • Intercourse • Vibrator

Full Orgasm

O-L Frustration (F): 1-2 Denial (D): 2-5 While having the sacred orgasm is something the sub should treasure greatly, giving him one while he is still locked up only gives him about 90% of the satisfaction (can’t have too much fun now, right?). There will be an immediate sense of relief, but once the euphoria wears off, it will quickly be followed by the feeling of denial and frustration, realizing he is still locked up for however long you decide.

Techniques: • Vibrator only

O-UL Frustration (F): 0 Denial (D): 0 Imagine this as the reset button. This is the one sensation the sub looks forward to every waking minute of every day. This will erase all of the pent up frustration and denial, and the sub will be fully satisfied. Consider this the end of the T&D session (but who says you can’t start another immediately after). There is no frustration or denial as a result of this.

Techniques: • Handjobs • Blowjobs • Intercourse • Vibrator

So there you have it, a handful of different techniques and tactics to add to your arsenal. As you practice with these, you can start reaching the higher numbers on the scale. It becomes even more fun as you start interlacing them (i.e. doing an unlocked stimulation with no edge for a good 30 minutes, and end it with a single edge before lock up).

It will take time to master these techniques, and to understand how both the Dom and the sub respond to them; but once it has been mastered, it can be some of the most intense and passionate fun you both will experience in the bedroom.

You can visit our website (lockedinlust.com) to find every single toy listed in this manuscript to assist with your T&D techniques. I would recommend the crotch rocket strap-on if you do want to experience strap-on play, as it is the most comfortable for the sub, and sits right above the chastity device, and allows for a realistic sensation for both parties when having intercourse.

The only other toy I would recommend to enhance the experience that we do not carry as of the writing of this manuscript is a stainless steel chastity cock cage. That is the name they go by. The cage is quite heavy, and not recommended for daily wear, but it is an extremely devilish toy for tease and denial sessions.

I hope you enjoyed this reading. If you have any questions or recommendations, please reach out to us at [email protected].