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Practice @sexwithemily to w o H Edging AKA, Orgasm Control What is Edging? Edging is the practice of building up to extremely powerful The Many Benefits of Edging orgasms either alone or with a partner. It also expands your pleasure and gives you a beer understanding of your body. Extend and intensify your orgasm The intention is to repeat geing closer to the “edge”- or brink Make sex last longer with a partner of orgasm and then backing o, so the release is even more Deeper connection and pleasurable (trust me on this one). Also called the “stop-and-start understanding of your body method” because you’re literally stopping and starting sexual Expand control of ejaculation for stimulation until you’re ready for an even bigger finish. penis owners Enhance intimacy and connection Scale Imagine edging as a scale of 1-10. 10 is with your partner ng gi reaching your orgasm. Try to pleasure yourself d E until you reach about an 8, just before you're about to experience orgasm or ejaculation. Party o Solo f Tw o Pleasure 1. Talk to each other 1. Set the mood Stay connected throughout, use verbal or Create a vibe, turn down the lights, turn on your non-verbal cue. favorite sexy playlist, and relax. 2. Get it on 2. Do you Warm-up with kissing, mutual masturbation, Expore your sensations, touch yourself or oral teasing. and get going. 3. Turn it up 3. Slow it down Increase the intensity through more When you feel like you’re close to orgasm, slow down touching, penetration or toys. your stimulation, pay aention to your breath. 4. Bring it down 4. Go again Pause or reduce stimulation, get creative with Heat it back up. Repeat this process until play and remember to breathe. Repeat. you’re ready to orgasm. 5. Let go 5. Let go If you got there first, no problem, just remember When you’re ready, release and enjoy to lend a hand. Happy endings for all. your orgasm. d Tips Your body, your orgams oo G For vulva-owners: For penis-owners Your orgasms might be dierent day to day A vibrator could be helpful for Edging can help close the “orgasm so try not to get aached to a specific kind vulva-owners who need gap” which exists between penis and of orgasm. It’s also okay if you prefer a clitoral stimulation to orgasm. vulva owners. You can also try the quick release rather than an extended Remember: you can use a squeeze method which involves climax. Orgasms are subjective, so paying vibrator with a partner or on geing close to the edge and aention to your body, it’s rhythms and your own! stopping to squeeze the tip of the sensations will help you find what feels penis for 30 seconds and then build right pleasurable to you. up again. Copyright © 2021 Sex With Emily, All rights reserved..

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