LESSON 4 - RITUAL TIME: FULL SOLO SEX MAGIC PRACTICE DECEMBER 25th In the fourth lesson you'll learn how to create sacred space for your sex magic rituals, how to practice the entire sex magic process together and land the energy and intention back into the material realm afterwards! This includes: ◊ How to integrate and combine all that you've learned so far in order to create a personalized sex magic ritual ◊ Edging to charge your "erotic battery" ◊ Full guided audio of the sex magic version of the Extended Orgasm Technique so you can plant the seed of your desire in a state of relaxed arousal (high excitement and deep relaxation) ◊ Full guided audio using a crystal dildo to perform sex magic while stimulating your g-spot and cervix for even more magical and orgasmic power and pleasure ◊ Other ways to play with sex magic: mirror magic, word magic and more! ◊ How to prepare for your desire as if it's a form of erotic worship Let’s get into this week’s lesson… Here we are! You did it! This is the exciting part you’ve been waiting and preparing for - learning how to integrate and combine all that you've learned so far in order to create a personalized sex magic ritual. You’ve been preparing yourself by clearing, cleansing and purifying. You’ve been getting intimate with your deepest fears, darkest shadows and most taboo desires. You’ve also been waking up the sleepy serpent of sexual energy that exists within you and building more of it in your body while training yourself to circulate it and move it up into your orgasmic heart. You’ve been uniting your will through all of this and creating full energetic alignment with your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual bodies. You’ll be given a step-by-step method for doing solo sex magic, but you’re also encouraged to play, explore and curiously experiment. This might be a formula, but it’s a rather loose one. There are times where my own sex magic seems like a typical self pleasure practice where I infuse a teeny bit more magic or intention into it, but not much. Other times it’s a more elaborate ritual with altars, tools and other magical and erotic practices layered within it. And so many sex magic rituals in between. There are limitless ways to practice and play with sex magic, but you’ll have two sex magic self pleasure audio practices to help you while you get familiar with the art of solo sex magic through self pleasure. We’ll further explore this when we talk about subtle sex magic in next week’s lesson. I'll also be teaching two methods of sex magic as it relates to orgasm, but it’s not limited to that and it starts with redefining what orgasm means to you. But for now, let’s dive deeper into the cultivation method you’re undergoing in this course. SEX MAGIC - SINGLE CULTIVATION The style of sexual energy work and sex magic you’re practicing in this course is called called Single Cultivation in Taoism, which means you generate and build sexual energy in your own body by yourself. You use things like breath, touch, sound, movement, intention, self pleasure, awakening your breasts, etc. to build up this energy. This is what you’ve been doing so far. The focus of this course is not on partnered sex magic, but I know you may want to bring this practice in with your partner, which would be Dual Cultivation. Dual Cultivation means that two people generate and build sexual energy in their bodies together. You use things like breath, touch, sound, movement, intention, mutual self pleasure, pleasuring one another, you or your partner awakening your breasts, etc. to build up this energy between you. You can eventually circulate the energy from your body into theirs and simultaneously receive energy from their body into yours and keep it flowing between you. This naturally happens with your partner during sex magic. The reason we focus so much on building sexual energy in your body before and during sex magic is because it amplifies your personal power. All of this work you’re doing trains you for more sexual energy and amplifies your manifestation. When you do sex magic, especially the way I’m teaching you (which also includes your own play, exploration and experimentation), you are building more sexual energy in your body and… more energy = more amplified results. The more energy you put in, the more you get out. The more you do sex magic (even in its every day aka “Subtle Sex Magic” form as I’ll be teaching you in next week’s lesson), the more you build sexual energy, and therefore, the more energy you have to put into your manifestations. The more energy that goes into supporting your united will and intention, the easier it can manifest and the more aligned the results will be with what you really want! Sex magic is a power building practice. When you practice sex magic you start to notice something amazing happening: you start to feel more powerful. Can that be really scary? Hell yeah, but can it also be super wonderful? YES! Building more power shows up first in how you unite your will, come into full energetic alignment (through sexual shadow work and other practices) and build sexual energy in your body. Then, building more power shows up as building more trust in yourself. More confidence, ease, pleasure, self esteem, intuition, love. More embodiment of your true erotic power as a creatress. Sex magic is such a power-building practice, because for most women we give our power away sexually. We shut down. We hide, repress, deny and cover it up. We play the “good girl” part. We silence ourselves, remain quiet during sex. We become a vessel for someone else’s pleasure and orgasm. Sex magic shows you how to take your power back and finally own your own erotic power. It demands that you reclaim WHO you are as a powerful, sexual being and woman. This is what changes lives. You my notice as you keep building sexual energy that your body starts to ascend the stages of arousal and move into different states of sexual energy. It’s not a linear process and you might notice your arousal and energy rising and falling at different times. STAGES OF AROUSAL & SEXUAL ENERGY STATES I mentioned a few lessons back about sexual energy being often felt or experienced on its most basic, primal level as the horny urge to fuck or feeling the arousal and swelling in your genitals, but we’re going to talk about the states of sexual energy you can experience and how they correspond with stages of sexual arousal. SUBTLE SEXUAL ENERGY / LITTLE TO NO AROUSAL When you’re in an everyday state of arousal, which is little to no arousal, you’ll often feel like you’re not turned on. Usually you’re preoccupied with things like cooking dinner, paying bills, going to work, driving, getting ready for the day or taking care of your kids. The sexual energy is still there as a subtle pulse and electricity thrumming through you. Generally in this state you have no desire for sex or much pleasure. I invite you to make a regular daily practice of becoming aware of your subtle stream of sexual energy while you’re doing non- sexual things and breathing into it. A helpful method is to create an event or reminder in your smartphone calendar and set alerts to go off at certain times. It could be once a day, every few hours, every hour, once in the morning and once at night or whatever turns you on, but try to get into the regular habit of bringing conscious awareness and attention to your subtle sexual energy. Remember: where attention goes, energy flows. LOW AWARENESS OF SEXUAL ENERGY / LOW AROUSAL In this state you might be experiencing or desiring pleasure in a small amount. If you’re self pleasuring or having sex (or getting ready to) it might be the sensation of pleasure and sexual energy (turn on) beginning to develop. Sexually, you may not be engorged or wet yet, but you might be starting to feel a low-grade level of excitement. MEDIUM AWARENESS OF SEXUAL ENERGY / MEDIUM AROUSAL In this state you might be building more sexual energy, pleasure and arousal. You may be in the beginning or middle stages of self pleasure, foreplay or sex. You may notice you’re wet, engorged, desiring to be penetrated or already enjoying the pleasures of sex or self pleasure. You may notice your breasts swelling, nipples more erect and darkening in color, chest and face becoming flushed and your breath starting to quicken. You may be using your breath, sound, pelvic floor, intention, movement of your hips and body or touch to build more sexual energy and circulate it through your body. Arousal is rapidly growing here. HIGH AWARENESS OF SEXUAL ENERGY / HIGH AROUSAL On a scale of 1-10, 1 being little to no arousal and 10 being an actual orgasm or climax, you’re at about an 8 or 9 here. You’re getting close to reaching the point of no return, which is the point at which you will not be able to stop an orgasm or climax from happening. Your body will start responding more here. Naturally you may notice your hips thrusting, grinding, your mind seeking orgasm, holding your breath or breathing faster, pulling your partner in deeper or faster, rubbing your clitoris harder and more intensely.