LESSON 4 - RITUAL TIME: FULL SOLO SEX MAGIC PRACTICE

DECEMBER 25th In the fourth lesson you'll learn how to create sacred space for your sex magic rituals, how to practice the entire sex magic process together and land the energy and intention back into the material realm afterwards! This includes: ◊ How to integrate and combine all that you've learned so far in order to create a personalized sex magic ritual ◊ Edging to charge your "erotic battery" ◊ Full guided audio of the sex magic version of the Extended Orgasm Technique so you can plant the seed of your desire in a state of relaxed arousal (high excitement and deep relaxation) ◊ Full guided audio using a crystal dildo to perform sex magic while stimulating your g-spot and cervix for even more magical and orgasmic power and pleasure ◊ Other ways to play with sex magic: mirror magic, word magic and more! ◊ How to prepare for your desire as if it's a form of erotic worship

Let’s get into this week’s lesson… Here we are! You did it! This is the exciting part you’ve been waiting and preparing for - learning how to integrate and combine all that you've learned so far in order to create a personalized sex magic ritual. You’ve been preparing yourself by clearing, cleansing and purifying. You’ve been getting intimate with your deepest fears, darkest shadows and most taboo desires. You’ve also been waking up the sleepy serpent of sexual energy that exists within you and building more of it in your body while training yourself to circulate it and move it up into your orgasmic heart. You’ve been uniting your will through all of this and creating full energetic alignment with your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual bodies. You’ll be given a step-by-step method for doing solo sex magic, but you’re also encouraged to play, explore and curiously experiment. This might be a formula, but it’s a rather loose one. There are times where my own sex magic seems like a typical self pleasure practice where I infuse a teeny bit more magic or intention into it, but not much. Other times it’s a more elaborate ritual with altars, tools and other magical and erotic practices layered within it. And so many sex magic rituals in between. There are limitless ways to practice and play with sex magic, but you’ll have two sex magic self pleasure audio practices to help you while you get familiar with the art of solo sex magic through self pleasure. We’ll further explore this when we talk about subtle sex magic in next week’s lesson. I'll also be teaching two methods of sex magic as it relates to orgasm, but it’s not limited to that and it starts with redefining what orgasm means to you. But for now, let’s dive deeper into the cultivation method you’re undergoing in this course.

SEX MAGIC - SINGLE CULTIVATION The style of sexual energy work and sex magic you’re practicing in this course is called called Single Cultivation in Taoism, which means you generate and build sexual energy in your own body by yourself. You use things like breath, touch, sound, movement, intention, self pleasure, awakening your breasts, etc. to build up this energy. This is what you’ve been doing so far. The focus of this course is not on partnered sex magic, but I know you may want to bring this practice in with your partner, which would be Dual Cultivation. Dual Cultivation means that two people generate and build sexual energy in their bodies together. You use things like breath, touch, sound, movement, intention, mutual self pleasure, pleasuring one another, you or your partner awakening your breasts, etc. to build up this energy between you. You can eventually circulate the energy from your body into theirs and simultaneously receive energy from their body into yours and keep it flowing between you. This naturally happens with your partner during sex magic. The reason we focus so much on building sexual energy in your body before and during sex magic is because it amplifies your personal power. All of this work you’re doing trains you for more sexual energy and amplifies your manifestation. When you do sex magic, especially the way I’m teaching you (which also includes your own play, exploration and experimentation), you are building more sexual energy in your body and… more energy = more amplified results. The more energy you put in, the more you get out. The more you do sex magic (even in its every day aka “Subtle Sex Magic” form as I’ll be teaching you in next week’s lesson), the more you build sexual energy, and therefore, the more energy you have to put into your manifestations. The more energy that goes into supporting your united will and intention, the easier it can manifest and the more aligned the results will be with what you really want! Sex magic is a power building practice. When you practice sex magic you start to notice something amazing happening: you start to feel more powerful. Can that be really scary? Hell yeah, but can it also be super wonderful? YES! Building more power shows up first in how you unite your will, come into full energetic alignment (through sexual shadow work and other practices) and build sexual energy in your body. Then, building more power shows up as building more trust in yourself. More confidence, ease, pleasure, self esteem, intuition, love. More embodiment of your true erotic power as a creatress. Sex magic is such a power-building practice, because for most women we give our power away sexually. We shut down. We hide, repress, deny and cover it up. We play the “good girl” part. We silence ourselves, remain quiet during sex. We become a vessel for someone else’s pleasure and orgasm. Sex magic shows you how to take your power back and finally own your own erotic power. It demands that you reclaim WHO you are as a powerful, sexual being and woman. This is what changes lives. You my notice as you keep building sexual energy that your body starts to ascend the stages of arousal and move into different states of sexual energy. It’s not a linear process and you might notice your arousal and energy rising and falling at different times.

STAGES OF AROUSAL & SEXUAL ENERGY STATES I mentioned a few lessons back about sexual energy being often felt or experienced on its most basic, primal level as the horny urge to fuck or feeling the arousal and swelling in your genitals, but we’re going to talk about the states of sexual energy you can experience and how they correspond with stages of sexual arousal.

SUBTLE SEXUAL ENERGY / LITTLE TO NO AROUSAL When you’re in an everyday state of arousal, which is little to no arousal, you’ll often feel like you’re not turned on. Usually you’re preoccupied with things like cooking dinner, paying bills, going to work, driving, getting ready for the day or taking care of your kids. The sexual energy is still there as a subtle pulse and electricity thrumming through you. Generally in this state you have no desire for sex or much pleasure. I invite you to make a regular daily practice of becoming aware of your subtle stream of sexual energy while you’re doing non- sexual things and breathing into it. A helpful method is to create an event or reminder in your smartphone calendar and set alerts to go off at certain times. It could be once a day, every few hours, every hour, once in the morning and once at night or whatever turns you on, but try to get into the regular habit of bringing conscious awareness and attention to your subtle sexual energy. Remember: where attention goes, energy flows.

LOW AWARENESS OF SEXUAL ENERGY / LOW AROUSAL In this state you might be experiencing or desiring pleasure in a small amount. If you’re self pleasuring or having sex (or getting ready to) it might be the sensation of pleasure and sexual energy (turn on) beginning to develop. Sexually, you may not be engorged or wet yet, but you might be starting to feel a low-grade level of excitement.

MEDIUM AWARENESS OF SEXUAL ENERGY / MEDIUM AROUSAL In this state you might be building more sexual energy, pleasure and arousal. You may be in the beginning or middle stages of self pleasure, foreplay or sex. You may notice you’re wet, engorged, desiring to be penetrated or already enjoying the pleasures of sex or self pleasure. You may notice your breasts swelling, nipples more erect and darkening in color, chest and face becoming flushed and your breath starting to quicken. You may be using your breath, sound, pelvic floor, intention, movement of your hips and body or touch to build more sexual energy and circulate it through your body. Arousal is rapidly growing here.

HIGH AWARENESS OF SEXUAL ENERGY / HIGH AROUSAL On a scale of 1-10, 1 being little to no arousal and 10 being an actual orgasm or climax, you’re at about an 8 or 9 here. You’re getting close to reaching the point of no return, which is the point at which you will not be able to stop an orgasm or climax from happening. Your body will start responding more here. Naturally you may notice your hips thrusting, grinding, your mind seeking orgasm, holding your breath or breathing faster, pulling your partner in deeper or faster, rubbing your clitoris harder and more intensely. This is an important state because you have three options here. You can continue to go faster and harder into a climax, which may or may not be all that fulfilling depending on where you are in your sexual journey and if quick, intense climax is all you seem to be able to experience. You can edge or stop stimulation all together and revel in the energy or feel like you “lost the orgasm,” which again, may or may not be fulfilling depending on where you are in your journey and whether you know how to contain, circulate and store this built up energy in your body. Yes, that’s possible! You can sustain this energy and circulate it through your body while continuing to have sex or self pleasure as you relax and surrender into higher states of relaxed arousal and relaxed excitement, allowing yourself to enter into an altered state of consciousness. A trance state…

TRANCE STATE OF SEXUAL ENERGY None of these states or options are better than the other, but if you want to have different experiences sexually and open yourself up to those altered states of consciousness, which are powerful and healing, then accessing high states of sexual energy is essential. Another reason why the highly excited, yet relaxed arousal trance state is so great is because it becomes the most potent time to plant the seed of your desire! It’s the most ripe and ready time to combine your intention/desire with your high state of sexual energy and arousal. As you build sexual energy, you are building erotic power. As you build sexual energy and erotic power, you are building creative energy and power, which is the key to manifesting. I like to think of the arousal stages during sex and self pleasure (and your sex magic ritual) as similar to the menstrual cycle. The trance state is like ovulation, a time where it’s fertile, juicy and literally primed for creating something. Plant that seed of desire and intention, baby!

CLIMAX VS EXTENDED ORGASM I mentioned earlier that I’ll be teaching you two methods of sex magic as it relates to orgasm, but it’s not limited to that and it starts with redefining what orgasm means to you. So let’s do that. Let’s look at what orgasm traditionally has been defined as and then I’ll give you my personal definition, which I invite you to explore for yourself to see what’s true. Alright, what is orgasm in a traditional sense? Orgasm, which I usually call climax when talking about it from this standpoint, is the experience of releasing sexual tension in your genitals through a series of muscular pelvic floor contractions over a period of seconds or minutes. For a lot of women this comes as a result of clitoral stimulation, but not always. Climax can result from penetration or any other kind of orgasm that you experience that causes your pelvic floor to contract in response. That definition has always felt very limiting to me, although I love having orgasms in the climax sense. But I also love expanding my definition of orgasm and feeling that expansion shift how it feels in my body and life. I love being able to feel orgasmic, not just have orgasms. I invite you to see your orgasm as a state of BEING. I personally consider orgasm to be those moments when we feel the most alive and filled with life-force (sexual energy). When we’re in alignment with the erotic pulse of life. Yes, it can show up as climax, but it can also show up in waves of pleasure, ecstasy and sensation flowing through your whole body from head to toe that can last minutes, hours or days. I’ve experienced orgasms as in climaxes from stimulating many different parts of my vulva and vagina like clitoris, g-spot, a-spot and cervix or a blend of them. I’ve experienced them from stimulating my breasts and nipples, using breath alone, squeezing and releasing my pelvic floor without touching myself at all and from raising my breath into different chakras causing me to have a chakragasm or chakra orgasm. I’ve had them in pretty much every chakra and they all feel different. Now sometimes these are more like waves of pleasure that feel like a bunch of mini orgasms yet don’t really resonate so much in a contraction or release of my genitals and other times they do or are a mix of them. There is also a sexual energy state that you’ll be working with. The extended orgasm, which is not so much a genital climax, but rather a state of orgasm that seems to expand, rise, fall and generally extend over time. The extended orgasm technique that you’ll be learning is something I also teach in my course, Orgasmic Pleasure, but this time it has a sex magic twist where you’ll have the opportunity to plant the seed of your intention (aka your sexually charged sigil) into your deep unconscious mind and the cosmic womb through your heightened state of sexual energy. The cosmic womb is essentially the astral plane, the plane where energy in the form of your intention merges with and impregnates the plane of energy that is cosmic, astral and beyond your perception of Self. The extended orgasm technique will allow you to find the most amazing, intense pleasure from a very gentle, rhythmic and consistent stroke on your clitoris. This means you can easily move into a healing, ecstatic, trance state just from one specific stroke. This is a totally different experience than what most women feel when they touch their clitoris. This is a slower, more expansive approach that will extend your arousal and the stage of orgasm. And in this state, you can plant your seed.

WHAT IS EXTENDED ORGASM? Extended orgasm is the experience of entering into an ecstatic, almost trance-like state that feels timeless, limitless, floating, deeply relaxed and meditative. With a traditional climax and that’s a rather loose term, you experience a rather quick rise in arousal and pleasure, which upon climax, quickly shoots down and enters a resolution phase. On a graph you could imagine a line steadily or quickly (depending on how much time a woman spends pleasuring herself before experiencing orgasm) rising up to a high state of arousal, but then reaching a point at the top and then a dramatic line falling down and entering a somewhat flat-lined resolution phase. For a lot of women, once the orgasm is over, the energy feels depleted and like it’s been expelled out. Not always though, especially if you learn to circulate your sexual energy and many women can have multiple orgasms of all kinds. With an extended orgasm, the energy steadily builds and rises, maybe falling here and there, but then it enters a peak state and continues to trend there, not falling dramatically, but instead sustaining that same level of arousal. Of course it’s not always linear, so you may rise even higher or dip a little, especially if you’re edging or peaking, which you’ll learn about soon. I added a few graph images below from the Orgasmic Pleasure Course material so you can see the difference between climax and extended orgasm.

I do want to say that you can enter an extended orgasm state in limitless ways, not just using the technique I’ll be teaching you. I’ve experienced extended orgasm from stroking my clitoris, having my partner lick my clitoris in a specific spot (not the same spot you’ll be using in the technique), through stimulating my g-spot, deep vagina, cervix, using breath, using sound, etc. Don’t let yourself feel limited like you can only experience extended states if you’re using this one technique and don’t think that you can’t experience orgasm in a million ways. You can have orgasms, whether it’s a more climactic sensation or an extended state, a mix of both or anything in between, through things like stroking your nipples, sounding out on a chakra, breathing into a part of your body and more. So yes, the technique I’ll be teaching you will involve your clitoris. Your body and clitoris are so sensitive that very little stimulation is required and rhythmic, consistent strokes continue to keep building your extended orgasm. Your extended orgasm can go on as long as you like and the feeling isn’t “over” after you end the practice. Usually you find that the energy carries out into your day in every way, feeling ecstatic, alive, rejuvenated and “full.” In an extended orgasm, your pelvic floor is typically fully relaxed with genital contractions that are more gentle, spaced out over time (like electrical pulses every now and then) that feel very involuntary. As if it’s happening to you and flowing through you. The extended orgasm is the state where high excitement meets deep relaxation. You are highly aroused, yet deeply and meditatively relaxed. This is the perfect space to consciously embed your sexually charged sigil, because you are aroused enough to access the energy that creates it while being relaxed enough to surrender to the intention and energy itself. Which is a metaphor for how excited and surrender you are to the desire itself and your life before, during and after receiving it. You want to be able to see how whole you are without the desire by releasing attachment to it, which feels lacking like “I need to have this or else I am unlovable, unworthy, not good enough, etc.” You want to enjoy your life now and during the unfolding process, including the sex magic practice itself and all of the other rituals, practices and techniques you’re playing with. You also want to be able to surrender to the magic that shows up in everyday life. The signs, synchronicity and miracles that show up if you're open to seeing them. It also means being able to surrender to the journey that lies before you and the actual unfolding and materialization of your manifestation and intention. If you want more money, but you can’t appreciate and surrender to the money coming in, you might sabotage it, block it or cause the opposite to happen. This is why shadow work is a powerful practice along with naming your fears. Surrendering to it, in this example, would be allowing money to come in, spending it wisely, sharing it when it feels aligned and allowing even more to come in - not stopping the flow. My biggest suggestion for you when doing your sex magic practice is this: don't focus on orgasm. Sex magic isn't about having an orgasm. You can definitely have an orgasm and use that to fuel your desire, but it's not necessary. Climax can be great because the lateral orbitofrontal cortex located behind your left eye shuts down, which is responsible for judgement, reason and behavior. This is ego territory. This means you have a few seconds (or however long your climax lasts) where the veil between you and your truth is lifted, the "ego" is shut off. Having said that, there's also something powerful about planting the seed of your desire in a state of relaxed arousal (where high excitement meets deep relaxation) such as an extended orgasm state, which does not require any kind of climax. If you have one, that's great. If you don't, that's great. I don't always have an "orgasm" aka climax when I do sex magic. I focus more on being sensually present and feeling my sexual energy build as I relax deeper and plant the seed in that state. The climax/orgasm version and the extended orgasm version. It's all a playground for experiment with arousal, sexual energy and orgasm. You can create epic things without having an actual climax, but if you love to have climaxes, you can do amazing things with them! Instead be present with your senses and FEEL how you are powerfully creating something in that moment as you touch yourself during your sex magic ritual. So if you have an actual climax that you feel coming on, where you know you’re past the point of no return you can take the orgasm/climax and shoot it out of the top of your head when it comes. If you are in an extended orgasm state or any other state, you can use breath, your pelvic floor and sound to simulate it without an actual climax. Essentially what I like to do when I feel full and like I’m ready to complete my ritual, I’ll take a big inhale squeezing my pelvic floor muscles and draw my sexual energy all the way up into my crown, holding it there for a few moments. Then, I’ll exhale with long, drawn out sound while visualizing that I’m shooting my sexually energy charged sigil out of the crown of my head and into the cosmic womb, which is really just the cosmos. The astral plane. You will most likely be working the energy through your chakras using breath and sound anyway while you self pleasure so it may happen naturally for you. I also use this technique if I’ve been self pleasuring and doing sex magic, but I’m not really headed towards climax nor am I really entering much of an extended orgasm state. If I want to wrap up my sex magic session, I’ll just shoot it out of my head. I want to note a common question I get a lot, which is this: do you need to have an orgasm for the spell to work? Absolutely not. Hopefully everything I’ve shared already will help you see that it’s more about your sexual energy and intention merging, drawing it upwards and then sending it out with intention. There’s a little bit more to it that you’ll find just by doing your practice, but orgasm isn’t totally necessary. Orgasm can help you surrender more so if you’re caught up in your head, that can inhibit your pleasure, sensation, sexual energy and sex magic working, but there are tons of ways to let go, surrender, get out of your head and into your body and breath is the easiest and most powerful way to do that. This is why I’m teaching you how to use the climax AND the extended state of arousal and relaxation to charge and plant your sex magic intention. Now let’s discuss how to build the most power possible so you can experience extended orgasmic states, whether a climax is waiting for you at the end or not. My favorite way to do this is edging or peaking… EDGING TO CHARGE YOUR EROTIC BATTERY Edging basically means that you build your sexual energy and arousal up right before the point of no return, which is a little bit before you start experiencing the signs of climax coming on, and then you either stop all stimulation or you change the style of stimulation, pace, pressure or technique to drop it down a little bit. This can make you feel like you’re “losing your orgasm,” but I assure you that whether or not you actually have a climax, your orgasmic experience will greatly benefit from edging and peaking. You’re invited to see what the point of no return feels like for you. What are the signs your body starts to display right before you go over the edge into a climax? Does your heartbeat quicken even more? Do you start moving your hips in a certain way? Squeeze your pelvic floor more? Hold your breath? Does your complexion change? For me it feels like this building of energy yet this sensation of wanting to be released. If I’m not careful I might grind faster or harder, hold my breath or start squeezing my pelvic floor muscles to make myself come faster. Sometimes that’s great and other times I’m not all that into having an orgasm yet. Knowing your point of no return and climax signs will help you hold off so you can edge to charge your erotic battery. Doing this will allow you to experience more energy, pleasure and when and if you do orgasm, it will feel even more expansive and amazing. Most of the time for me, it radiates into my whole body, not just my genitals. It feels like my whole body is having an orgasm. You can repeat edging once if you like or you can do it as many times as you like. When it comes to the extended orgasm technique you’ll be using the concept of edging, but I call it peaking. They’re essentially the same thing so you can use the terms interchangeably. Using peaking techniques allows you to take yourself down or “edge” to expand, extend and build even more energy to be extended and expanded over and over again to higher and higher levels. I’ll discuss peaking techniques in a while after I talk more about the extended orgasm technique. Alright. Now you’re ready to embark on the full sex magic process. FULL SEX MAGIC PROCESS STEP BY STEP Let’s start putting it all together. I’ll be giving you a step-by-step method you can use when you freestyle your self pleasure sex magic sessions, but this will naturally be woven into both of the sex magic self pleasure audio practices so don’t worry about having to fully remember them. This is not a linear, rigid process by any means. Do what feels good and feel free to add in other elements to it so that you feel powerful, connected and tuned in to what feels good and true in each moment. Every time you step into your sex magic practice, you’ll have a totally unique experience. Why would you want to have the same experience over and over again? Instead, I want you to use this process as a pleasurable, magical framework to structure your sex magic sessions, while you weave in your own unique magic to make it feel exciting, transformational, pleasurable and fulfilling. I do want to note that sometimes you’ll have an intention set to experience your self pleasure or sex magic session a certain way, but it may not always unfold that way. For example, maybe you’ll go into it really turned on at first, but as you keep stimulating yourself, some strong emotions come up and you have to slow down or change pace to hold space for yourself. Maybe you need to stop altogether. Maybe you need to take a break. Maybe it doesn’t feel all that sexy or magical. It is. Nothing is sexier, more powerful or more magical than you honoring you. Another example. Let’s say that you’re feeling a lot of resistance. You don’t want to touch yourself, let alone do sex magic today. Maybe you’re grumpy or moody or feeling uncertain and kind of disconnected. You do some practices and then begin to gently hold space for yourself as you slowly stroke and pleasure yourself. You decide to drop in and be present with it all. After a few minutes, you start to feel something shifting inside. Your sexual energy is rising, clearing away some of that moody, grumpy energy in your solar plexus and heart chakras. You start to feel some loving bliss settling in and it feels really good. You keep riding the waves of pleasure and sensation as your mood shifts, because you took the time to physically move through your resistance using sexual energy and pleasure. Nothing disrupts mental patterns like pleasure, orgasm and ecstatic feelings. Let’s get into the step-by-step process and framework for your sex magic practice. HOW TO PRACTICE SEX MAGIC THROUGH SELF PLEASURE STEP 1. Create sacred space for your ritual. Make sure you feel safe, sensual and able to dive deeper into your erotic side. Maybe you light some candles, put on a sexy playlist or close the blinds. Arrange blankets and pillows, red roses in a beautiful vase or lock your doors. Whatever feels good and allows you to let completely go. I personally love to smudge my ritual space with sage or palo santo smoke and open a circle (more on this below) before getting started. IMPORTANT: Make sure your sigil is in front of you or near you so that you can gaze at it.

STEP 2. Begin breathing deeply into your pussy as you gaze lightly and softly at your sigil. Here you will begin to charge it with sexual energy. You can also do any of the other practices to charge it, like Pelvic Chakra Sigil Rocking or Orgasmic Chakra Sigil Breath, for example. You can also start with some of the breathing techniques I taught you like the Microcosmic Orbit or doing yoni breathing, which is just breathing in and out of your vagina. As if your vagina is a mouth, inhaling and exhaling from there. Inhale, lightly squeeze your pelvic floor muscles, exhale slowly and relax fully.

STEP 3. Bring your intention to mind while looking at your sigil…what do you desire or want to manifest with this particular sex magic ritual? If you’re alone and feel comfortable, you can say your intention aloud three times if you like, which stimulates your throat chakra and already begins to plant your intention into the energy field around you. Doing this also communicates the importance to your conscious and unconscious minds. Or you can think it to yourself. I’ll give you a few examples below. I find that when it comes to stating my intention aloud it really helps me ground into the energy of having it already if I recite it in present tense. You will also want to keep imagining your symbol or sigil too. Here are some examples: ‣ I’ve received x amount of money in my bank account. ‣ I’ve called in an aligned lover. ‣ I’ve created a piece of amazing artwork. ‣ INSERT YOUR DESIRE/INTENTION of choice for the course in present tense. Having the photo of your symbol near you will definitely amplify your power and of course, your belief in the desire, which is just as potent and necessary. STEP 4. Embody the feeling of having it NOW. Close your eyes and imagine what it would look, and most importantly, FEEL like to have that. Bring yourself deep into the emotion of it. Would you be celebrating with gratitude? I love to smile deeply and laugh as I’m envisioning/feeling my desire. See if you can feel into the emotions (excitement, gratitude, love, peace, fulfillment, etc.) and try your best to sensually experience it in your mind’s eye. What would it feel like to kiss your lover’s lips? To have them inside of you? To feel their deep, unending love for you? To hold the keys to that new car? To walk into that retreat center in Bali? To slip the new, sexy lingerie over your skin? To see the money in your bank account? To be able to donate some of it to your favorite charity, because you’re overflowing? To feel it in your hands as you hand it to the barista in exchange for your favorite latte or hot tea? Bring it in NOW and revel in it. Let yourself get TURNED ON by the vision, sensation and thought of it.

STEP 5. Begin to self pleasure using one of the techniques I’ll be teaching you or doing your own thing. You can use a crystal dildo or just your hands or any other pleasurable toys you fancy. This is when you’d press play on the audio if you’re using it. NOTE: You don’t have to think of, visualize or focus on your intention the whole time. You don’t need to gaze, stare at or even think of your sigil the whole time unless you want to. It’s mostly important before you begin and right at orgasm/climax or during your extended orgasm state (the trance state). Periodically I recommend bringing your sigil back into mind or envisioning it circulating through your body, but for the most part, feel the sensations in your body so you can feel high excitement dancing with deep relaxation. There are days where I keep looking at my sigil the whole time and there are days where I only gaze at it here and there or envision it alone in my mind from time to time.

STEP 6. Begin to raise your sexual energy. You’ll begin to raise your sexual energy through each chakra from the root chakra/pussy to your crown chakra in the top of your head by using your breath and your mind’s eye for visualization purposes. You can also breathe through the Microcosmic Orbit, circulating the energy up the back of your spine and down your front or the Orgasmic Core Breath through your central channel up to your crown on the inhale and back down to your pussy on the exhale. You can also bring the Orgasmic Chakra Breath in here, which is really powerful. You can play with it. Sometimes it feels like I’m focusing on activating each chakra, other times it feels like a circular breath and other times it feels like it’s up to my crown and back down again. You can also envision your sigil being circulated, raised and embedded in each chakra.

STEP 7. Build up to orgasm, whether it’s a climax or an extended orgasm state. This is not linear since I don't want you to necessarily try to have an orgasm, but rather see if you can relax into your sexual energy, pleasure and sensation while being present with everything that’s there. Continue to deepen into pleasure and arousal by self-pleasuring. You can build up to climax and do ‘edging’ where you get close to orgasm/climax (say an 8 or 9 on a scale of 1-10 for arousal, 10 being an actual climax) and then stop for a minute or two to build it up again. Or you can just build up to orgasm or an extended orgasm state and then move into the next step. Imagine planting your intention, desire or symbol/sigil like a seed into the fertile excitement of your sexual energy. This is where you’d see your sigil blending into the bright white light of your crown chakra, embedding itself in your deep, unconscious mind, impregnating your consciousness.

STEP 8. Shoot the energy out of your crown chakra (top of your head) into the universe as you experience orgasm/climax or you when feel complete or at your highest state of extended orgasm state and imagine your intention going into the cosmos. As this happens bring the feelings back in again of having it NOW. Let yourself feel the emotions and visualize having it. You can imagine your symbol or sigil exploding out of the crown and continuing to grow further and further away from you until it disappears. If you choose to not have an orgasm or it just seems like it’s not happening, no worries. Your sexual energy being harnessed and directly channeled is still potent. You can just choose to stop and still imagine it shooting out of your crown into the cosmos and feeling the desire NOW.

STEP 9. Let the energy flow back down into your crown and all the way down into your pussy and root chakra, the material realm. Remain seated for a few more moments as you come down from orgasmic bliss. Imagine your intention-infused sexual energy permeating the cosmos and then slowly trickling back into your crown chakra and down all the way into your genital and root chakra again, the material realm where you can experience the manifestation. Do something that grounds you like eating, going outside and walking barefoot on Mother Earth or feeling your legs like tree roots.

QUICK SUMMARY OF SEX MAGIC PROCESS 1. Connect to your intention and desire for your intention by gazing at your sigil 2. Use breath and light pelvic floor pulsing to begin awakening energy in your root chakra. 3. Envision the feelings, emotionally and sensually, of your desire being here now in your entire body and mind. FEEL it as if it’s here NOW. 4. Start to self pleasure in whatever way you desire. 5. Raise sexual energy upwards, through each chakra, sending your charged sigil upwards too as you keep self pleasuring. 6. Edge or peak a few times to sustain high states of arousal, planting the seed of your desire: your sigil. 7. Shoot your sigil out into the cosmic womb upon orgasm or when you feel highly aroused and ready to do so! See your sigil move farther away, becoming one with the universe. 8. Ground the energy back down, allowing it to fall through your crown all the way down to your genitals again.

EXTENDED ORGASM TECHNIQUE FOR SEX MAGIC The extended orgasm technique is done by stimulating the upper left hand quadrant of your clitoris. If you imagine that the top of your clitoris is 12 o’clock, then you’ll want to stroke around the 1:30 position of your clitoris. This can of course be reversed or played with, especially if you’re left-handed and used to stroking your right side using your left hand, for example. You’ll want to explore your clitoris until you find the most pleasurable spot since every woman’s clitoris and level of sensitivity in each spot is different and unique. Some women are okay with stimulation on the head itself and some need to stroke this spot through the clitoral hood. You’ll bring in breath, touch of the clitoris in a focused stimulated way, peaking your sexual energy, sound, stillness and movement of the energy itself through deep relaxation of your whole body, especially your pelvis. I’ll be inviting you to keep your pelvis still and your whole body in stillness and relaxation during this technique, but you can use touch, breath, sound to spread the energy. You’ll also be encouraged to keep your pelvic floor muscles fully relaxed, allowing them to naturally contract on their own, involuntary vs voluntary. Using steady, even, rhythmic and consistent strokes to build energy. This is a very light stroke, almost like you’re stroking an eyelid, but again, you’ll be invited to play with speed, pressure, stroke range (broad or barely moving). Using other strokes that bring your excitement down like stroking the other side of your clitoris or another spot, stroking up and down the length of your inner and/or outer vaginal lips, using more firm pressure, faster speed, etc. These bring your excitement down a bit because they shift the meditative stroke, breaking the “trance, meditative, deeply relaxed state” that created by maintaining a specific stroke in a specific way softly and with focus and intention. Instead it takes your focus away from that deeply relaxed, highly meditative state and brings you down a notch or two (or more) so you can build it up again. Peaking techniques to use during self pleasure: ‣ Stop stimulation of your genitals all together (if you desire). ‣ Using your hands to spread your sexual energy up through your belly, breasts, chest, neck, face, head, etc. or even down your hips, thighs, legs, feet, toes. ‣ Take a break for a few seconds or minutes. Get a drink, use the bathroom, eat a snack, breathe deeply, move your body, etc. ‣ Stroke other parts of your body instead: nipples, vagina, butt, belly, etc.

HOW TO PRACTICE: To begin the extended orgasm practice make sure you’ve spent some time opening your body and building sexual energy and arousal through things like pelvic chakra rocking, breathing exercises, erotic dance or even a whole body oil massage. You’ll want to make sure you have plenty of coconut oil or your lubricant of choice, just make sure it’s organic and all natural. I like melting my coconut oil in a dish so I can easily access it. Come to lie down on the bed or a comfortable space where you have privacy and feel safe, warm and cozy. I recommend having a pillow propped up underneath your head. Have your sigil nearby or in front of you so that you can gaze at it periodically. Place your feet on the bed several feet away from your butt, knees very gently bent and allow your legs to fall open. Allow your legs to be relaxed and knees bent slightly onto the bed with pillows propped underneath each knee so that your legs are spread open. You can play with how wide your knees are bent and your legs are spread. Make sure it’s comfortable for your pelvis to relax with intention yet you can easily access your vulva. You might feel tension and numbness at first but over time, you’ll be able to relax your whole body into an extended state of subtle ecstasy. Close your eyes, begin to breathe deeply fully opening your belly and pelvis to the breath and exhaling until the air is fully pushed out. Allow your body to begin melting and relaxing as you breathe deeply this way. Filling yourself up with life-force energy. Place a hand on your heart and a hand on your vulva and just breathe inhaling into your heart, exhaling down into your pussy. Gaze at your sigil and lightly pulse your pelvic floor muscles. Imagine that you’re sucking the sigil deep inside of your vagina. See it blending deep in your cervix and genitals with the red energy of your root chakra, merging here. Relax fully, including your pelvic floor. Now take some oil or lubricant and massage it into your hands slowly and sensually, activating your hands. As you do this, gently pulse your pelvic floor muscles a few times and gaze at your sigil, imagining the sigil flowing into your pussy and imprinting itself in your hands and fingertips. Begin to sensually glide your oiled hands from your pubic mound up the center of your belly in between your breasts, over the top of your breasts and down on the side of your breasts and belly, returning them back to your pubic mound. Keep this sensual massage going up the center and down the outside, blending your sigil into your breasts. If you aren’t already, move into a relaxed, open mouth breathing style, but allow it to be slow and intentional for now. Applying more oil if you desire, place both hands over your vulva and begin to sensually circle your hands around your whole vulva. Allow the pressure to be light and the speed to be slow. Now, using one hand at a time, begin to intentionally glide your fingers and palms from your perineum up over your vulva and clitoris to the pubic mound. Repeat with the other hand going one at a time or following with the other as your first hand reaches the upper part of your pubic mound. Begin to massage your inner and outer lips with well oiled fingers. You can massage up and down the length, stretching them open or pulling them up and down, gliding your fingertips gently up and down or whatever other massage and stroke techniques feel good for your vaginal lips. Avoid stroking your actual clitoris for now. Take your index fingers of each hand and stroke the fingertip from the vaginal opening and perineum meeting spot up along the length of your inner lips to where they connect at your clitoral hood and back down. Now take the index and middle finger of your dominant hand and begin to press down on the clitoral hood over the shaft like you’re gently pulsing it. Don’t press too firmly or grind hard, just a gentle pulse like a heartbeat, pressing, releasing, repeating, to build arousal in your clitoris. If you want to take longer to arouse your clitoris or labia, press pause and do so. We’re going to move into the extended orgasm technique now. To anchor the clitoral hood, using your thumb and middle finger of your right or dominant hand, gently pinch the clitoral hood where the inner lips connect at the top and pull up and slightly open to expose the clitoris from beneath the hood. Depending on the size of your clitoral head whether fully aroused or not and the retractability of your clitoral hood, you may have to play with a comfortable way to pull the hood back. If you’re stroking in this position with your dominant hand both anchoring and stroking the spot on your clitoris, you’ll remain here for the rest of the practice. A second stroking option if it feels better is to use your thumb and middle or index finger of your non- dominant hand to anchor the clitoris, gently pinching and pulling the hood up and stroking the upper left side of your clitoris with the index or middle finger of your dominant hand. There’s no right or wrong way, just what feels comfortable and potentially pleasurable. If your thumb and finger are slipping to anchor, you can use a soft towel to lightly remove some of the oil from your fingers and the area you’re trying to hold. You’ll want to keep oil handy to use on your stroking fingertip since the clitoral head is such delicate tissue, constant lubrication is beneficial. Using your index finger with oil begin to softly and gently stroke the upper left side of the clitoris up and down with slow, even, intentional strokes with very light pressure. It’s about the 1:30 position if the top of your clitoris was 12 and your perineum was 6. You’ll want to stroke up and down with the tip or pad of your fingertip as if you’re stroking an eyelid. You’re stroking up and down in very short strokes around ½ to 1 ½ centimeter. Shorter, deliberate strokes allow you to build energy towards a peak and longer strokes or stroking other spots will take you down, which we’ll bring in later. If this spot isn’t doing it for you, allow yourself to play with other spots. If you’re left-handed, you can explore the upper right hand quadrant instead, but try the upper left hand quadrant and explore different short, gentle strokes up and down until you feel your fingertip settling into a groove. You can also use a hand mirror with your other hand to make sure you’re stroking the right spot. If you feel nothing at all, just know that pleasure will build over time and you may have to re-sensitize your clitoris since the touch is so soft, consistent and gentle. If you’re used to rubbing your clitoris very hard, light pressure and speed may feel like nothing at all at first, so be patient and keep practicing this. Keep doing this up and down short stroke on your clitoris. Breathing deeply in and out of your mouth. Sounding out on the exhale if you like. Make sure your hips stay still melting into the bed, your legs and pelvis and whole body stay fully relaxed, including your wrist and fingers holding your clitoris. You want to maintain the anchor, but not holding tension. I’ll let you know when it’s time to do your first peak. Stroke for at least 5 minutes before your first peak. Make sure you’re fully relaxing your pelvis, your jaw, your whole body. Breathing in and out of your mouth, using sound to take you higher. Imagine your sigil blending into your clitoris as you stroke and then flowing up through your chakras or circulating through your body as you breathe. You might feel the urge throughout this practice to move your hips in grinding or humping motions or feel the primal urge to press harder and faster into your clitoris to reach for climax or even holding your breath, tightening your jaw, throat, belly and thighs. You might also start contracting your pelvic floor. Relax, relax, relax. Let it all go. Breathe deeply in and out of your mouth, drawing out your exhale with sound, letting it tingle up and down your spine. Keep the rhythmic short up and down stroke on your spot, letting it be meditative, taking you higher and maintaining arousal. As you feel the energy build higher if that’s your experience you can do your first peak. You can peak yourself by stroking longer up and down the length, stroking the other side of your clitoris, through the hood or stopping the stroke to spread energy up and down your body with your hands. You can also use your pelvic floor while you’re peaking by squeezing the muscles inwards and upwards, sending energy up into your head and relaxing on the exhale. If you still feel nothing, keep the same up and down stroke on your spot, breathing, relaxing, sounding. Once you’ve peaked anywhere from a few seconds or longer, you can go back to stroking your spot just like before with a fully relaxed pelvis and body. Breathing and sounding to build and extend orgasmic energy and relaxed arousal. Stroke your spot again for another 5 minutes at least before peaking again. Peak again, whether for a few seconds or a minute of different strokes (like on the right side of the clitoris, up and down the vaginal lips, etc.) Stroke again for 5 minutes. Peak again. Stroke again for 3-5 minutes (or longer). Feel into your sigil again. Where is it at in your body? We’re going to send your sigil out now. Inhale, squeeze your pelvic floor and send the sigil up into your crown, filling it with white bright light. Hold. Exhale, orgasmically drawing out your sound as you imagine shooting your sexually charged sigil out of the top of your head into the cosmos. See it moving farther and father away from you, expanding into the universe and disappearing like a tiny speck. Inhale and exhale slowly and evenly. Feel your energy flowing back down from the crown to your third eye, descending down into your throat, heart, solar plexus, sacral and down into your root chakra again. See the energy move down your legs and feet into mother earth. Feel your legs and feet planted, rooted into the floor. Imagine seeing red roots coming out of your feet and descending down into the dark, rich soil of mother earth, plugging into the center of mother earth’s core.

VAGINAL SELF PLEASURE SEX MAGIC In this sex magic self pleasure session you’ll be stimulating yourself vaginally using a crystal dildo (I recommend an Obsidian wand from Chakrubs) or your fingers. A crystal dildo will help you reach the deeper parts of your vagina, like your cervix. You can stimulate the following regions in your vagina: ‣ G-Spot: located on the front wall of the vagina about one to two knuckles in (belly side) ‣ A-Spot: located on the front wall of the vagina (belly side) deeper than the g-spot, but right before the cervix ‣ Cervix: deepest part of the vagina and the closed entrance to the uterus (slightly rounded and feels like the cartilage in your nose) You’ll be given plenty of space to explore and free-style. Here are some of my personal favorites when it comes to internal stimulation with my fingers and/or crystal dildo: ‣ Using a finger or two to stroke, massage and press into the g-spot. ‣ You can do in and out motions with a slight dip in them so it’s not just the standard in and out motion (unless that feels good to you, then by all means, go for it!) ‣ You can pulse or circle the g-spot ‣ You can use a crystal dildo (even one designed for g-spots) to massage your g-spot ‣ You can do ‘come here’ motions using your finger(s) ‣ You can start out slow and then pick up the speed ‣ You can vibrate your fingers over you g-spot ‣ You can circle the wand around ‣ You can place the wand at your cervix and just focus on breathing, sounding and connecting to the subtle stream of sexual energy at your cervix ‣ You can stimulate your A-spot (deeper part on upper wall before the cervix) ‣ You can blend in clitoral stimulation if that feels good too NOTE: In the audio I will be leading you through it without the goal of orgasm/climax in mind. If you do have an orgasm, shoot your sexually charged sigil out of your head into the cosmos. I recommend reading this over beforehand and practicing a few times just using your breath and mind’s eye so that it feels more like second nature when you’re doing your actual self pleasure. That way you don’t have to be inhibited by the audio or constantly checking the pdf transcript. The audio will give you about 30-35 minutes of self pleasure time and at the end, we’ll consciously send the energy out, but again, if you have an orgasm before or even after, follow your own flow.

HOW TO PRACTICE: Lie down comfortably and make sure you have private, safe, comfortable space. You can prop pillows under each knee or under your hips to elevate your pelvis for deeper internal reach and for your head if you desire. Lots of lubrication is also suggested. I like to melt coconut oil. You can also use any organic lube of choice. Keep it in a little dish or the bottle near you. Have your sigil positioned in front of you or beside you so you can gaze at it from time to time. Grab your crystal dildo (like Chakrubs) for deeper internal stimulation, especially of the cervix. Make sure you've properly aroused your body and warmed yourself up with pleasure and sexual energy cultivation practices like breathwork, breast massage, whole body oil massage, erotic dance, etc. You want your body to feel open as much as possible and your vulva and vagina fully engorged. Relax deeply and begin to breathe into your whole body, softening. Place one hand on your pussy and one hand on your heart. Close your eyes and tune into your intention. Move into a quick visualization meditation. Envision yourself having your desire NOW. How does it feel emotionally for you to be living this desire right now? What sensations do you feel? Let it feel as real as possible. Go into it. If you want to say your desire out loud 3 times in the present tense to supercharge it, feel free to do that now. Take some oil on your hands as you breathe deeply, gazing lightly at your sigil, and start to massage your hands and fingers. Imagine blending the sigil into your hands. Begin to awaken your breasts by massaging your hands from your pubic mound up the center of your belly and breasts and down the sides of your breasts. Keep doing this movement. Move into a relaxed, open mouth breathing style. Use sound on your exhales. Place both hands over your vulva and begin to sensually circle your hands. Move into up and down strokes. Massage your inner and outer vaginal lips using extra oil. You can begin to massage your clitoris slowly and intentionally. Massage near your vaginal opening. Preparing your body for insertion. Begin to pulse your pelvic floor muscles, imagining that you are sucking the sigil into your vagina. See the sigil merging and filling your pussy like a lover. When you feel ready, insert your crystal dildo or fingers slowly into your vagina. Breathe deeply and allow your vaginal muscles to relax around the wand. Begin to massage the inside upper wall by doing very slow in and out style motions, perhaps with slight dip in them. You’re welcome to use your free hand to massage your clitoris, nipples or the rest of your body to spread sexual energy. As you are self pleasuring, imagine breathing your sigil up through each chakra in a way that feels good for you. You can do the Microcosmic Orbit if that’s easiest. Self pleasure for 10 minutes. Edge for a few seconds to a minute. As you’re edging, bring your sigil to mind. Gaze at it. Let it mingle in your mind’s eye and your chakras. Self pleasure for 10 minutes. Edge for a few seconds to a minute. Tune back into your sigil again. Self pleasure for 10 minutes. Edge for a few seconds to a minute. Feel into your sigil again. Where is it at in your body? We’re going to send your sigil out now. Inhale, squeeze your pelvic floor and send the sigil up into your crown, filling it with white bright light. Hold. Exhale, orgasmically drawing out your sound as you imagine shooting your sexually charged sigil out of the top of your head into the cosmos. See it moving farther and father away from you, expanding into the universe and disappearing like a tiny speck. Inhale and exhale slowly and evenly. Feel your energy flowing back down from the crown to your third eye, descending down into your throat, heart, solar plexus, sacral and down into your root chakra again. See the energy move down your legs and feet into mother earth. Feel your legs and feet planted, rooted into the floor. Imagine seeing red roots coming out of your feet and descending down into the dark, rich soil of mother earth, plugging into the center of mother earth’s core.

MIRROR MAGIC One of my most powerful sex magic rituals was using mirror magic. I also combined it with word magic too, which we’ll talk about in a minute. Mirror magic in a nutshell is using a mirror to embody the reflection of your magical intention. When you gaze into your own eyes as you self pleasure a very powerful portal opens up. You see the reflection of what’s true: your power, beauty, magic and pleasure. Mirrors allows us to see what we usually cannot see. Now there are tons of ways to use mirrors in actual practical magic, including enchanting the mirror for self love, but for this purpose of the course you’ll learn the basics of using a mirror to gaze into your own eyes as you self pleasure and/or experience orgasm. But first, a story I want to share with you on why mirror magic is so powerful. The day I decided to do a powerful solo sex magic ritual I knew that mirror magic needed to be on the menu. I also knew that I needed to write my intention on my chest in gold body paint backwards so that I could read it as I pleasured myself in front of a full length mirror. So I did what I usually love to do before any big sex magic ritual - I embodied the energy I was feeling, which was sex witch meets sex priestess. I felt earthy, sexual, powerful, magical and like a divine goddess so I adorned my body with earrings, jewels and gold paint on my face, anointed my chakras with some sensual oil and created a sacred space for my ritual. I painted the words LOVE across my chest in gold paint and spent a few minutes envisioning and feeling what embodied LOVE felt like right now. In this body, in this skin, in this moment. I moved into my ritual space in front of my full length mirror and began to do some breath work, breast massage with oil and then I grabbed my red jasper crystal wand (from Chakrubs - the Gaia Stone) and began to "ride" the wand, which I'd sandwiched between some towels and pillows. As I pleasured myself, I kept breathing my sexual energy in a circle up the back of my spine and down my front, exhaling with the heart chakra sound Ahhhh... And the entire time I maintained eye contact with myself. It was deeply intimate...yet it was also terrifying to SEE and literally feel and embody my true, uninhibited, unfiltered power. Ever heard the Marianne Williamson quote talking about how our deepest fear isn't that we are inadequate, but that our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure? Yeah, that's what I'm talking about. I was getting in touch with my deepest fear...my power. My true, full sexual power. My orgasmic power. My power to use my sexuality to literally create my life. That can be terrifying considering that feminine souls have been repressed, oppressed, raped, abused and forced underground by systems and structures that simply fear our raw erotic power. As I self pleasured, looking not only at my eyes in the mirror but INTO my eyes...INTO my soul and heart and wildest desires...I saw myself for the first time. I felt how powerful I truly was and how having an orgasmic heart fueled by LOVE and sexual energy was my true nature as a woman who can create her own life by design. I knew in that moment that I was meant to teach this to women. That coming to terms with how sexual, magical, erotic and witchy (whatever that means for you - even if you don't identify with the word itself) we are and how we use our sexuality to literally create, gestate and birth our innermost desires would essentially rebirth this planet through our sexual and orgasmic awakening. As I entered the extended orgasmic state and then followed up with a deeper climax, I saw in my eyes and felt my power deep within...I saw how I was going to contribute to bringing ritual sex magic forward in a practical, pleasurable and powerful way. As I embodied the essential qualities of LOVE upon orgasm, I felt a part of me that had always felt afraid of my power come home and click back into place with true erotic power. Mirror magic shows you who you really are: beautiful, magical and fucking powerful.

HOW TO BRING MIRROR MAGIC INTO SEX MAGIC: ‣ Place a mirror in front of you, whether you’re on the floor or bed and self pleasure while looking into your own eyes ‣ Position mirrors around your bed so you can see your body at different angles ‣ Combine mirror magic with word magic (see below) and either paint the words (or your sigil) on your body while looking at yourself or the word/sigil in the mirror while self pleasuring. WORD MAGIC: WORDS AS WANDS I once heard amazing love witch Veronica Varlow say in an interview that words are wands. Ever since then, it’s stuck with me. Words are like wands that we channel something out into the universe with. I like to use word magic in a variety of ways. I might paint words on my body or on my mirror and look in the mirror as I’m self pleasuring so that I can see and feel the embodied qualities of the word simultaneously. I might also speak words aloud like saying my intention in present tense before going into sex magic and even right upon orgasm. You can write words down on pieces of paper, roll them up and freeze them in water using ice cube trays. Then, pop them out and sensually seduce them over your skin and as they melt, the intentions begin to come through. I love painting words on my body in gold body paint, but you can use your imagination and get creative. I also enjoy painting words on my mirror and painting my actual sigil on my body or mirror too. You can even go all out and use gems, glitter or other adornments to play it up.

PINTEREST BOARD SEX MAGIC This is another one of my favorite ways to practice sex magic. In fact, I credit being able to go to Salem this past October due to my Pinterest board sex magic rituals. Last year during the holidays I realized that I really wanted to spend some time in Salem, MA the following year. And I wanted to go in October when all of the spooky, witchy magic would commence. So I went to work creating a Pinterest board using images of Salem itself, images that reminded me of fall, October, Halloween, magic or witchiness. I compiled images of cozy cafes, wickedly carved Jack-O-Lanterns, spooky cemeteries, witchy shops in Salem, sexy fall clothes I might wear while there and other photos that made me feel the energy of ‘Salem in October’ inside. Then, I began to self pleasure while gazing at my Pinterest board. I would imagine beforehand what it would feel like to be in Salem, MA in October, both sensually and emotionally. I envisioned smelling the crisp autumn leaves, drinking warm chai while taking brisk walks among the shops and buying magically charged candles. Once I tuned into that feeling, I would self pleasure, gazing often at my Pinterest collage. Sometimes I looked at one image, but usually I would look at the photos showing up when the whole page was open. Often I would do the Microcosmic Orbit and Orgasmic Chakra Breath while gazing at my Pinterest board as sex magic foreplay or even in place of a full sex magic ritual. Those days where I’m short on time or just not fully in the mood for a longer, more involved ritual are great to do something like this. You don’t necessarily need to use Pinterest, but I find it’s a fun and easy way to collect images and you can set it to Public or Secret. This could essentially be considered Image Magic, where you’re gazing at an image while you self pleasure, enter an orgasmic state or experience climax. You can do this with your sigil too.

OTHER WAYS I’VE USED SEX MAGIC SEX MAGIC IN NATURE: I’ve self pleasured (safely and privately) out on the local beach near me during new and full moons. Nature is a very erotic source of sexual, life-force energy. Look at nature and all of her creations. A lot of plants are very erotic. Flowers are actually the sex organs of plants. If you’re going to embark on sex magic outside in nature, make sure you’re somewhere with privacy and that you feel safe. Connect with nature as your lover. Feel the wind, the dirt, sand or water. Feel the sun or moon. Connect with the stars. Inhale the aromas of the season.

CANDLE MAGIC: carving my sigil, symbol or intention into a candle using a knife and then rubbing oil (from the bottom up to the top of the candle) to dress and charge the candle with my intention and then burning it while I do my sex magic and afterwards to stay connected to my desire. Different colors can often represent certain things like red for passion, pink for love or black for banishing, for example, but I invite you to choose a candle color based on how it makes you feel rather than worrying about whether or not you’re “allowed” to use a black candle for sex magic or a green candle for romance. I’ve used candles for many things and I like to trust my intuition for the most part. Carving words, symbols or sigils into them is very powerful and so is dressing them (which means to anoint) with things like oils, glitter, herbs, even things like drizzled chocolate or menstrual blood. These are all just suggestions of things I’ve tried, but I invite you to check in and play around. Is there something fun you want to bring in? Do you want to wear a certain piece of lingerie? Do you want to self pleasure while wearing a crown of rose petals, a tiara or fairy wings? Don’t let your ego inhibit the fun you can have! HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR DESIRE AS IF IT’S EROTIC WORSHIP This will lead us into next week’s lesson where you’ll learn the art of Subtle Sex Magic, including charm bags and building altars. I want you to adopt the mindset, intention and energetic container of treating your desire itself like a lover to be worshiped. How do you prepare for your desire? How do you dress for your desire? Live for it? Adorn and anoint yourself for it? How do you pleasure yourself so your desire can bring in more pleasure for you? You can consider this part 1 of how to prepare for your desire like it’s erotic worship. It’s your invitation and we’ll get into the how-to in next week’s lesson. Until then...enjoy your sex magic practice. The best way to learn what works and what doesn’t is to practice sex magic and see what comes of it. Remember that you’re either getting what you want or you’re learning more about what you do want. There’s no way to lose.

SEX MAGIC ASSIGNMENTS & HOMEPLAY ‣ Continue doing your daily or 3 times per week breathing practices like the Microcosmic Orbit and/ or Orgasmic Core Breath. ‣ You can scale down to once per week for the Orgasmic Heart Cultivation unless your heart feels very closed. ‣ Continue doing the Chakra Sigil Practices 3 times per week. You can do one of them in particular 3 times or mix and match them. You don’t need to do each one 3 times each though. ‣ Continue to do daily or 3 time per week shadow work, 7 Daily Truths and Naming Your Fears, especially if you feel a lot of fear or shame around your desire. ‣ Choose a day over the next week to plan a full-blown sex magic ritual. You can use either audio or freestyle it.