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YES/NO/MAYBE PLEASE REMEMBER THAT REVISITING THESE LISTS EVERY NOW AND AGAIN IS A GOOD IDEA… WE SHIFT IN OUR TASTES AND PREFERENCES OVER TIME Ask additional questions like: How willing are you to explore outside your identified sexual orientation? Are certain parts of your or a partners body off limits? What kind of sexual aftercare do you prefer? Do certain sexual acts or scenarios trigger post traumatic response? What other acts make you uncomfortable (being seen fully naked, eye contact during sex, etc.)? Do you have any medical conditions or allergies that affect your sexuality? Anal Sex Analingis/Rimming Biting Blindfolds Bondage Breath Play Cock Rings Costumes or Uniforms Couples Massage (with or without Happy Ending) Cross Dressing Cuddling Cunnilingis Dirty Talk Domination (Topping) Double Penetration Ejaculation on Partner’s Body Electrosex Erotic photography/videos (Taking or Viewing) Exhibitionism Eye Gazing Fellatio/Blow Job Fetish Clothing Fingering (Anal or Vaginal) Fisting (Anal or Vaginal) Flogging Food Play Foot Worship Frottage Furry Play Gags Gender Play Group Sex G-Spot Stimulation Hair Pulling Hickeys Hand Job (Penis or Vulva) Ice Cubes Intercourse Vaginal Kissing Lap Dance Massage ©Natasha Helfer Parker 2019 Masturbation (Mutual or Alone) Menstruation Play Nipple Stimulation/Play Open Relationship Orgasm Delay/Denial (Edging) Outdoor Sex Pain Play Positions (Rear Entry, Top, Bottom, Standing, etc.) Phone Sex Polyamory Pornography (Video or Reading Erotica) Prostate Massage Public Sex Quickies Rape Fantasy or Role Play Role Play (Age, Teacher/Student, Medical, etc.) Rough Sex Scratching Sensory Deprivation Sex or BDSM Clubs Sex or BDSM Parties Sex Toys Sexting Shaving/Grooming Slapping Slow Play Spanking Strap-On Sex Strip Clubs Strip Tease Submission Swinging Threesome (MMF, FFM, MMM, FFF) Tickling Titty Fucking Voyeurism Wax (Dripping) Webcam Sex ©Natasha Helfer Parker 2019.

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