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SecretsToLastingLonger.com SecretsToLastingLonger.com WELCOME TO THE CLUB Hello and welcome my friend. Big Mike here. First of all, I want to thank you for buying my book and welcome you to the club of “Sexual Tycoons.” It’s the sexual “elite,” a small group of men that operate in another level. Giving women the type of pleasure they’d die for and few knew even existed. She’ll be ready to do anything and everything to please you in return. No matter how crazy and wild your desires are. Yes – when you have total control over your orgasm and can please her like no other guy ever could or will – women will fight to keep you and unleash their hidden “inner slut.” You’ll basically have your very own, personal porn star to play with. That’s the type of power you get when you can perform on that next level and last as long as you want. And the best part is, very few men are able to do this. In fact, 90% of guys perform poorly in bed, and most guys can’t last longer than a few minutes. So you’ll have the skills most guys never will. I promise. Follow my advice and by the time you complete my program, you’ll be a full- member of the world’s sexual elite. Not only will you totally overcome your premature ejaculation forever, but you’ll also take complete control over your performance and take your sex-game to that next level. A level most guys will never experience. Don’t worry, it’s easier than you think. Anyway, I hope my Secrets to Lasting Longer program proves as valuable and life- changing to you, as it has to hundreds of other men.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com HOW TO USE THIS PROGRAM? Before we jump into the whole thing, let me give you a bit of background info about myself. My name is Michael, but in the industry they usually just called me “Big Mike.” I’ve been in porn for 12 years. Started as a broke, cash-strapped 23 year-old kid with nothing to show for myself except a big penis, six-packs, and more testosterone than I knew what to do with... Now I’m out of the biz as an actor, started a family and my own consultancy business. During my time in the biz, I’ve been with hundreds of women, who knows, maybe even a thousand – I stopped counting. The numbers are so high because many of these were just “auditions” for wannabe stars that never made it to the big screens... but then again we had lots of “repeat business” where you shoot dozens of scenes with the same actress – and these are some of the hottest, most sexual women in the world. Imagine if she gets millions of guys off through a TV or computer screen – how crazy hot she is in REAL LIFE! Trust me – not blowing your load in 5 seconds when she puts those wet, craving lips around your penis and then goes throat-deep is like walking on a string connecting two sides of a cliff. It’s just crazy. And if you orgasm quickly – you’re OUT. FIRED. You’re done. They send you home and send in another guy with a better-working penis to finish the job. The only guys that stay in the biz are the ones that can last long and orgasm at command. Sadly, most guys turn to pills, steroids, and other dangerously unhealthy stuff just to enhance their performance. That works, but usually they burn-out or pass-out at some point and can’t take it any longer. Trust me, it’s not a nice picture, and I never wanted to go down that road. Anyway... During my time in the industry... I’ve had sex in every position imaginable, done things that were too hardcore even for porn. You can’t imagine how crazy some of these film directors were in their requests, and they loved me because I learned how to last as long as I wanted. Total control. But I wasn’t born with this knowledge. On the contrary. I probably had the worst-case premature ejaculation ever. It was troubling me so much as a teen that I made it my life- mission to achieve total mastery when it comes to sex.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com I always wanted to get into porn, but knew I couldn’t because I was quicker than a rabbit. I knew I wouldn’t last a day. And word travels fast there. You can’t waste their time... and nobody gives you second chances. You gotta get in there and iron-clad a reputation for lasting as long as they need you to (for hours, and hours on end.) Premature ejaculation was killing me. But I was determined to learn and change it. I read everything ever written about performing better, lasting longer, getting bigger. Everything. But most of my real-world knowledge came from picking the minds and talking to old- school guys that were in the adult film industry for over a decade. These guys were getting out of porn, so I wasn’t their competition. I talked to dozens of the best guys through a connection I had in the industry and picked their brains until I had the whole puzzle. I was looking for a certain technique or a trick. The problem was – there wasn’t anything – at least not something they consciously knew about or knew how to TRANSFER to another person. Anyway, little by little, things started to click and I was ready to “jump into the fire” – I was practicing on my girlfriend and things seemed OK, but I wasn’t sure how I’ll react when I’m with one of those SUPER-HOT, new, fresh chicks. You know the smell of another woman, something new you didn’t experience before. It’s just something special. You just get an instant pump of adrenalin. Especially because... you’re in front of a camera! This makes it double-harder to last long when you’ve got performance anxiety. I mean, you don’t want to let this chick down and seem like a total failure. The added pressure is that you ruin everyone’s day and schedule, because here’s everything prepared on set and then they don’t have what to shoot with! As you’d expect... my first scene was a complete blunder. Nothing that I’ve read and talked about with pro’s worked... obviously, ‘cause I came in under a minute. I just couldn’t hold it back how excited I was. But I refused to give up. I kept going and going until I figured things out on my own and came up with my own way, my own methods and tricks to control my orgasm. That was more than a decade ago, and now that I’ve left the industry, started a family and got into other type of businesses, I knew how many men had this problem because I’ve mentored dozens of young guys breaking into the industry and I knew exactly what to tell them to make their penis “work” like magic.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com All of which made their phones ring all the time with producers and directors calling them for gigs. So by teaching them my methods, the one’s I’m sharing with you here in this program, I directly put money in their pockets. And they loved me for it. These are things I’ve perfected over the last decade of being persistent and not giving up. And, unlike the porn-veterans I tried to learn from back in the day – I managed to put my tricks and techniques into a transferrable, easy to use SYSTEM, a program that can work for anyone. No matter how experienced or not they are, my system makes you perform better and longer. While I was coaching these young industry studs that didn’t want to use drugs to perform better... I realized that lasting longer wasn’t just an issue guys in the industry had and that this was messing with their careers and bottom lines... no... Premature ejaculation was a MUCH bigger, global problem... an issue that’s ruining marriages and relationships on every corner of the world. That’s why I created this program. Knowing how many men struggled with this, I saw how this one thing influenced so many other aspects of a guy’s life. I had to make my program available to everyone, not just guys performing on camera. And the best part is that – if my system worked for dozens upon dozens of porn-guys that had to perform on camera – which is MUCH harder – then imagine how well it’ll work for regular guys in regular relationships. I just knew I couldn’t keep this just for myself and a small group of guys. Before I completely left the industry, I knew I had to leave my mark and leave something of real value behind other than a bunch of scenes that will be forgotten by the infinite stream of new stuff hitting the net as we speak. That’s why I decided to put my secrets into this program and make it available to every guy out there. I just had to tell you this so you understand where I’m coming from and why you should listen to me – a guy with real experience and real-world knowledge – and not some stupid YouTube videos and doctors that just want to sell you pills or send you to talk to some shrink. I promise. Just follow my advice and by the time you complete my program – you’ll never have to worry about premature ejaculation again. But enough about me, let’s talk about what I can do for you. According to a British study from 2014, 20% of the entire male population suffers from premature ejaculation. Think about it – one in five guys can’t last longer than two minutes. And 60% of the remaining 80% can’t last longer than 7 minutes.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com Just imagine how much ahead you’ll be of the entire male population after you’re done with my program. I must warn you though: this is not a typical BS last longer guide you’ll find on Internet. Most of guys who create those have one or two techniques around which they put a lot of fluff, package that into a 40 page ebook and charge you hundreds of dollars for it. The common advice you will receive in men’s magazines and blogs is even worse. Here are just a few typical suggestions guys get about lasting longer: “Think about baseball stats or how high your electric bill will be...”
This is by far the most common advice men will hear when it comes to prolonging their lasting time. Every man will at least once in his life hear how thinking about your last month’s electric bill can suddenly make you last half an hour. This is obviously false because A) You’re reading this so it clearly didn’t work and B) This is taking your focus away from sex and away from pleasuring her.
I don’t know ONE GUY who can simultaneously do algebra in his head while rocking her world in bed with his body. Plus – she’ll feel that you are not “present” during sex and that your mind is wandering away somewhere – which is a total turn off for her. The whole idea of thinking about something else and distracting your mind is just counter- productive.
The stop and start method
This technique looks like this: When you feel an orgasm approaching, stop the sex, pull out your dong and wait until you can safely start having sex again, provided of course that you still have your erection.
Squeeze method
This is a variation on start and stop method, except this time when you pull out your penis you squeeze it right below the head. Along with the stop and start method, it is one of the most recommended techniques when it comes to preventing quick climax. Now, reading this advice one clearly sees that doctors and scientists that do recommend these techniques clearly never suffered from premature ejaculation. Why do I say that? Well imagine the scenario: you are heaving hot, sweaty, glorious sex with your girl. She is moaning, twisting, and rolling her eyes with ecstasy. She’s grabbing you; forcing you to pound her faster, harder, to be more intense and….you pull out and squeeze your dick.
Now imagine doing that every few minutes. That’s what your doctors recommend.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com Clearly this is not the optimal solution. Not only will you (rightly) piss off any girl you’re having sex with, she will lose any respect for you inside and outside of the bedroom.
Why You Shouldn’t Use Numbing Sprays
Oh boy, where to start?
No doubt you have wondered about numbing sprays, gels, oils and similar products. After all, why go through all these trouble with kegels, edging etc., when you can just spray your dong and be ready to go?
Well, for starters, finding the correct dosage can be a bitch. Spray too little and it won’t have any effect whatsoever…Spray too much and you will completely lose every feeling down there – a surefire recipe for completely losing the interest in sex forever.
Secondly, there is a significant chance that some of that spray or cream can rub off and affect your girl. As if numbing your enjoyment just to last longer wasn’t bad enough, imagine how will she feel when she starts losing her enjoyment.
And this is all said assuming these sprays are completely safe, for both you and her. Most of these companies claim that their products are 100% safe to use, but it seems like FDA is constantly cracking down and banning various substances these days. And for a good reason, too. Most of these companies don’t give a rat’s ass about you, and if they could increase their profits by selling dangerous chemicals to you, the consumer, they would do so in a heartbeat.
Can you imagine if you use some of those sprays and for some simple, stupid chemical error completely lose the feeling down there…forever?
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to fear for my entire sexual future every time I’m spraying that shit over my john.
And while we’re at the topic of things that numb your dong, let’s talk about numbing condoms. True, the chances of something wrong happening are slimmer here, but still: you are relying on something to LOWER your enjoyment of sex. Just think about it – in order for you to last longer, and therefore increase the time in which you are enjoying sex, you are using things that literally lower your enjoyment. Silly isn’t it? And it’s not your fault – the companies that make these sprays and condoms spend millions of dollars a year to convince you that you NEED their product, or you will suffer from premature ejaculation all your life. They will never promote healthy, natural ways of curing your problem because, quite obviously, there can’t make a profit from that.
Antidepressants
SecretsToLastingLonger.com Sadly, some men are turning towards antidepressants as their last hope for prolonging their lasting time. Even some doctors have started prescribing these meds when men come and complain to them about premature ejaculation.
The sad thing is which most doctors won’t tell you, these drugs do work, and you do last longer – but you also turn into a mindless drone and almost completely lose desire for sex. Stay away from them at all cost.
The bottom line is that all these tips & products rely on tricks & chemicals to distract you, and lower your enjoyment of sex. I for one think that is a silly idea and my entire course is based on a premise that you shouldn’t seek to lower your enjoyment of sex, but rather to increase it, while lasting as long as you want to.
You won’t find a lot of fluff here, because I have a low tolerance for bullshit and want to give you exact tips that will make you last longer. Am I going to teach you techniques and tips to last longer? Of course. What makes my program different is that, unlike other guides, I don’t just give you quick-fix solutions that are like a bandage... No. We’ll go deep – to the ROOT, the real reasons why you orgasm quickly. Once we get that done, you won’t need quick-fix techniques anymore. Your orgasm happens in your MIND first – and my program gives you the mind-power and muscle-power that you train in your penis so that you can last longer without having to THINK about it. You’ll just last longer automatically, and effortlessly – because we’ll get to the root of the problem instead of just quick-fix solutions and instant-techniques. And because we’ll attack the ROOT of the problem, that’s exactly why my program works so well and works long-term for LASTING results. So what’s the root of your premature ejaculation problem? Why do you come so quickly? Lack of control. It doesn’t matter if you last 3 seconds or 3 hours, if you’re not in control of your ejaculation, you will have a lousy sex life. Control is the most important thing. Control over your and your partner’s orgasm. And that’s what I’ll teach you – how to take back control over your sex life. Whether you last 10 minutes or 10 hours, if sex is pleasurable for both you and her, and both of you achieve an orgasm when you want to – you’re good in bed.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com The stuff I’ll reveal below will dramatically change your sex life… you’ll last longer, have better sex, give your girl more orgasms… BUT only if you apply the material. You have to realize that this isn’t a quick fix. If you have that mentality you can close my program now and ask for a refund, because you can’t be helped. I say this because I’ve seen countless men going from one technique to another, constantly switching, never fully mastering any one of them, always chasing the next magic bullet. I’m not going to lie to you – it’s going to take some time to really integrate this into your life. Like anything worth doing in life, long lasting changes require some time and effort. If you are already thinking of giving up and going to look for yet another quick fix, realize this: This is no joke. If you don’t apply this material you will be miserable for the rest of your life. You will have girlfriend after girlfriend cheat on you and break up with you because you can’t satisfy her in bed. You’ll spend your days wondering if she’s cheating on you, never fully trusting her, never completely relaxed in your relationship. Because of your own insecurity. Don’t let your quick cumshots ruin your love life. And those of you who are in a relationship that has lasted quite some time, you think you have it easy? She says it’s no big deal, right? You’re lazy, but she will forgive you because she loves you, she always has... Right? Wrong. Lack of intimacy and sexual satisfaction is the number one reason why women cheat. So, next time you’re looking for: One Quick Tip to Help You Last 30 Minutes in Bed! – realize that:
1. It’s a lie; 2. Your premature ejaculation is the side effect of much larger problem; 3. You CAN get rid of it, but it will take some time and effort. 4. And the only way to solve your problem is by tackling the root cause… that’s the only way you get rid of this – for life. Not just for a night. Real men take action to solve their problems. You already showed that by investing in my program. Now I’m asking you to study and apply this material – no matter how long it takes. Every person is unique; and if you follow my program, I GUARANTEE you’ll never worry about premature ejaculation again. You’ll orgasm whenever YOU want to.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com How long will it take? As I said, every person is unique. I had people apply just some of my advice and last longer that SAME DAY, but it does take practice, and it’s quite a unique thing. Some of you may be ejaculating too quickly because of anxiety, some because of their diet/lifestyle. It depends on your unique situation, mostly from a psychological perspective. It could take you a week, or a month, but if you follow my advice to the letter, I know you’ll last longer sooner than later. Because every guy is unique, there’s no general, one-size-fits-all type of cure for premature ejaculation. But my program covers each individual root reason that you can combine to make work for you. Here are some of the most common mistakes guys make when it comes to sex.
Each one of these could be causing your premature ejaculation. I’ll talk more about each one in chapters to come, but try to see if you recognize yourself in any of these behaviors.
TOP MISTAKES THAT MAKE YOUR ORGASM QUICKLY
Pumping like a jackrabbit
You don’t stop, slow down or change the rhythm… EVER. You’re in and out before she even realizes what you’re doing. If your dick was made from metal, it could be used for road construction work.
You need to realize that sex isn’t a race and the one who finishes first doesn’t get a medal. Slow down, and be sure to focus on her, not just your own pleasure.
Rushing to the orgasm
This goes hand in hand with the point above. As soon as you feel an orgasm approaching, you rush towards it eagerly, and her pleasure be damned.
It’s going to take some discipline, but you will learn how to stop rushing to the orgasm and instead finish when YOU want.
Skipping foreplay
Ask any women what is the most common mistake guys make in bed, and you will almost certainly hear: Skipping foreplay. Well, I’m here to tell you that they are right.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com If you skip foreplay and go right in, not only are you missing the chance to make her cum multiple times before you even start having sex, you’re also only speeding the time of your own orgasm. How? Well if you go in without the foreplay, she’s going to be dry and tight, which is going to cause a lot of friction with your penis. Friction = premature ejaculation. Don’t skip foreplay – ever.
Stressing about your performance
This one is mental, and I go into greater detail in the Mindset chapter, but here’s the gist of it: by constantly stressing about sex and being anxious about your future performance, you’re just conditioning your mind into expecting the same results (premature ejaculation) each and every time. It’s a vicious cycle and it can be hard to break free from it. Fortunately, I have designed multiple drills and exercises to help you change your beliefs and improve your mindset.
Not switching positions (only having sex in missionary positions)
There are some position which are beneficial to your lasting time, and then there are some which can cause you to last just a couple of minutes. Missionary pose is one of the latter. If you only have sex in that one pose, your chances of premature ejaculation are much greater than if you switch positions regularly and have sex in some positions that can make you last longer (like a cowgirl position).
Laziness
This is not a mistake per se, more of a general attitude. But it is still the major reason for premature ejaculation so I included it in. How does laziness affect your lasting time?
You lack self-control and discipline to last longer than couple of minutes. Your desire for immediate gratification is slowly ruining your life, one ejaculation at the time.
In fact, I would argue that most of your premature ejaculation problems are caused by your rush towards the orgasm. It all started with masturbation, and then crossed over to the actual sex.
People in general lack enough self-control to delay instant gratification, whether it is saying no to the dessert in order to lose a couple of pounds, or not rushing towards an orgasm in order for their partner to enjoy more.
So here’s the solution: just as you’re approaching that sweet moment of orgasm, instead of saying “Fuck it” and ejaculating right there and then, be a champ and resist the urge.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com If you can’t make it and still end up ejaculating, no biggie – there are plenty more tips available in this guide to help you overcome this dreaded problem.
But the solution to your problem could be as simple as this, so it is worth a try.
Shallow breathing
Shallow and fast paced breathing causes your stress levels to go up, which can, and often does, lead to an early orgasm.
The problem is that most of the time we’re having sex we’re not really paying attention to the breathing, and can start to breathe shallowly without even knowing it.
Pay attention next time you have sex, and you may be surprised.
As you can see, the reasons for premature ejaculation can vary.
Maybe your diet and lifestyle is good, but you have a loser, orgasm-in-a-second attitude. Or perhaps you regularly do every trick in the bedroom to last longer, but you practice bad masturbation habits that ruin your performance no matter how hard you try. And often it’s not a single thing that’s holding you back but a combination of factors that make you orgasm too quickly. That’s why I’ve developed my 5 Pillars of Sexual Health – covering every area of your sex life. After over a decade of shooting porn, I’ve witnessed every imaginable penis problem there is. And after closer examination, I’ve discovered that each and every one of them could be put under one of these 5 pillars. The 5 Pillars are: 1. Mindset and Attitude; 2. Masturbation Training; 3. Kegels; 4. Sex Tips & Techniques; 5. Diet & Lifestyle improvement. Master just one of them and you will last at least 3 times longer than before. Master all of them and you will join the 1% of men who are unforgettable in bed … whose phone is constantly ringing with hot girls calling, begging them just for an opportunity to have sex with them. Fighting over your penis as if it’s the last source of food on the planet. Like it’s the fountain of eternal youth.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com Yep, just like the scenes from porn. That could be a reality. Because men that are THAT good in bed are as rare as an albino whale, and women worship these men and the ground they walk on (more on that later). I recommend that you first read my program from start to the finish, and take your time to fully absorb everything in it. Take your time and carefully read each chapter. Later you can use it as a manual and just quickly access whatever you need based on what your situation calls for. In every chapter you’ll find dozens of exercises designed to make you last longer and have better sex. You can use each exercise on its own, but you’ll see the greatest improvement if you apply them all, gradually. There is just one more important thing you must do before we continue with the program and that is to forgive yourself for your past performance.
Whether you realize that or not, you probably hold a grudge against yourself because of your inadequate past performance. It’s time to let that go.
In fact, I will argue that you should be GRATEFUL for your past performance.
Look at them not as a failure and an embarrassment, but as a motivation – not just for lasting longer, but for becoming overall the best lover your girl ever had.
After all, if you were average in bed, you would have never bought this book and took your first step towards a legitimate sex god. You would have stayed average and would have never experienced the confidence and satisfaction that comes from KNOWING you’re the best she’s ever had.
So, with that out of the way, let’s go on into the Mindset chapter.
Ready? Let’s party.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com CHAPTER 1: HOW ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR SEXUAL LATITUDE The first pillar is about changing your attitude. Your orgasm happens in your MIND first, and then your penis follows. Your brain basically commands your muscles to start pumping stuff out and reach climax. What most people tell you when it comes to lasting longer is focused on your penis, on external factors and techniques... that’s nice, but WORTHLESS if you don’t have your mind under control. Your mind is more powerful than your body. Don’t get me wrong, mind and body work together and your body can also influence your mind – BUT, your orgasm is just a physical reaction of a psychological cause. Anyone can learn a few easy penis “squeezing” techniques, but few can control their mind. And mind-control leads to COMPLETE orgasm control. That’s what this first chapter is, your FOUNDATION to lasting as long as you’d like. Understand and master this and everything else will be a walk in the park. Develop a “winning”, long-lasting attitude, a FRAME of mind that sets you up for success... and you’ll last as long as you want, easily. But before we can put together the correct frame in your mind, you’ll have to let go of all the negative social conditioning society creates that BLOCK you from performing well in bed. That’s what this chapter is all about.
SecretsToLastingLonger.com HOW PERFORMANCE ANXIETY RUINS YOUR PERFORMANCE The #1 reason for premature ejaculation? Sexual anxiety. Millions of men, all over the world, regardless of age suffer from sexual performance anxiety. It is one of the most insidious problems that plague men today because if the thought of possessing this condition ever crosses your mind – you are now thousands times more likely to develop it, even if you didn’t have it before. It’s like when someone tells you NOT to think about a green apple. You can’t stop the image of a green apple coming into your mind’s vision, the same goes for sexual performance anxiety. It is a vicious circle in which most men fall into and never climb out. The worst part is that... once you perform – not-so-well – even if it’s just once, the thought of your performance starts creeping up, little by little, directly influencing you to perform worse, and worse every time. Just take a look at this picture: