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HOW TO REACH US - PHONE 860-442-8062 • FAX 860-540-1475 • EMAIL [email protected] • BY MAIL: 28 CHANNING STREET, NEW LONDON, CT 06320 I Love Israel with. . . Marcia Reinhard This is the first post in a series featuring community members discussing their love of Israel. Get on the Bus – Auschwitz What is your most memorable moment in Israel? Light the first candle and being picked up at the airport by May Arriving in Israel alone for the first time Sunday, Dec. 22 Hadassah and The Jewish FederationAUSCHWITZ. are NOT sponsoring LONG AGO. a trip NOT on Abudraham (YE 2013-14). I was the first to be FAR AWAY to New York City to the Museum of Jewish Heritage to diverted away from the crowd waiting to greet see the much acclaimed exhibit the passengers. (Murphy’s Law) I did not see . The exhibit arrived in New York City after the exhibition May and thought she must be outside. I texted completed a successful run at Madrid’s Arte Canal Exhibition Centre, her and asked her where she was parked. She where it was extended two times, drew more than 600,000 visitors, responded, “Parked??!! I’m inside waiting for and was one of the most visited exhibitions in Europe last year. The exhibition explores the dual identity of the camp as a physical you. Where are you?” I responded by telling BUS CONT. ON PG 13 her I was already outside looking for her. When location—the largest documented mass murder site in human we finally connected, there was May holding a big, beautiful blue and white balloon that said, “Welcome to Israel” with a big Star of David in the center. From the airport, we drove to Azrieli Towers where we met Oren Levi (YE 2007-08) in a coffee house and had the long-awaited iced coffee you can only get in Israel. The memory of Marcia Reinhard (c) with 2019-20 Young Emissaries Tal all that, seeing May with the balloon and sharing Amar (l) and Roi Refaeli. couldmy first have Israeli ever icedreceived! coffee with May and Oren, still warms my heart. It was the best reception I the outside and the grottos are Best food you had in Israel? beautiful place, inside and out! beautiful inside. It’s literally a That’s easy. Schawarma. And any food cooked by the Israeli families who embrace me as their family and welcome me with open arms into It’s also right on the border with Favoritetheir homes. place to visit in Israel? WhichLebanon. one Fascinating! is your favorite and why? Mediterranean Sea, Sea Campaign appeal on the way of Galilee, The Dead Sea, The Another easy one. The home of every Israeli Emissary that has Red Sea. passed through our community and our hearts. Short of that, Afula us do to care for people in and the Gilboa Region and being with our Partnership friends and LOVE CONT. ON PG 13 At this time of year, we ask the same questions: Whateach of can us eachtake toof colleagues. Standing atop of the Gilboa mountain is nothing short of need or comfort those in distress? How breathtaking. After that, Rosh Hanikra. The view is spectacular on canGiving we stand to upthe for Jewish Israel? FederationWhat simple of actions Eastern can Connecticut is a Party with the Young Emissaries strengthen and, connect our community? SAVE THE DATE that has a powerful step dramatic, positive impact on the lives of Thursday, Nov. 7, is just others and the world we share. It’s hard to believe that the Jewish Federation’s evening 6:00of Pizza, pm STEVEN ensuring an abundance of Your Federation has the responsibility of providing for the atPasta Temple and Party Emanu-El with the Young Emissaries, GOLDSTEIN around the corner. This year’s emissary welcome begins at evolving needsYour of the giving vulnerable to the while Annual Campaign empowers , 29 Dayton Rd. in Waterford. meaningfulus to change experiences lives for anyone and everyone looking to connect The menu will include salad, pizza and pasta and a gluten free THURSDAY to Jewish life. option. And back by popular demand apple cider and cider doughnuts here in Eastern Connecticut, in Israel and in 70 NOV 14, 2019 countries across the globe. for dessert and a few other surprises. Friday, Nov. 1 at your current Your gift allows us to bring Federation into an enthusiastic To help us [email protected]. the right amount of food, please let us know you 7 PM will be attending by contacting Mimi at the office by community. We are hoping you will not only maintain 860-442-8062 or OLIN SCIENCE annual campaign giving level but will consider a meaningful increase Some of you may have already met Tal and Roi so come join us as well -- allowing us to expand impactful programs, connective events, for an evening to get to know them even better. If you’ve not yet met CENTER educational opportunities, safe existence, and collective community them, don’t miss this evening for a “Meet and Greet.” action. Admission for this fun evening is $15 per adult 13 and up; $5 per CONN. COLLEGE Your appeal letter and pledge form are in the mail and we hope you children 5-12, free for kids under 5; $45 maximum for families of 4 take a few minutes to complete and return the pledge form in a timely or more. Payment in advance would be appreciated. Make checks SEE PAGE 2 fashion. payable to JFEC and remit to 28 Channing St., New London, CT 06320. We are so appreciative of your continued support of the Federation. Looking forward to seeing everyone there! Please help take us to the next level in Federation strength and leadership. 2 THE JEWISH LEADER, October 25, 2019 DVDs Available

The Federation has just received a limited with the internet. There is a nominal charge number of 30-minute DVDs of Jerry’s Retirement of $20 to purchase the DVD. To pick up a copy Dinner held on August 13. For those who didn’t stop in M-Th 9-4:30 or Fridays 9-3. https:// attend or had to leave early, this DVD captures the youtu.be/sYgLTqiqOMMFor those of you who want to view the event highlights of the evening and provides a permanent online, here is the link on uTube -- memento for those who are not on good terms An Evening with political activist STEVEN A lone shtreimal GOLDSTEIN By Edgar Asher, Ashernet Thursday, Nov. 14, 2019 Above the steps leading down to the Mamilla pedestrian precinct 7:00 PM in central Jerusalem a lone shtreimal was spotted, carefully placed on a lighting unit and waiting patiently for his owner. At anywhere between two to four thousand dollars, or more, Olin Science Center, apiece, it is just as well that the shtreimal has somebody to make sure that it is not taken, as ownership of the head covering is very much Connecticut College soughtEditor’s after, Note: particularly A shtreimel in Hasidic is a fur communities. hat worn by many married Haredi Goldstein will discuss his new book THE TURN ON: Jewish© ASHERNET men, particularly (although not exclusively) members of Hasidic How the Powerful Make Us Like Them from Judaism, on Shabbat and Jewish holidays and other festive occasions. Washington to Wall Street to Hollywood Candle Lighting for Eastern CT area “Insightful… A psychologically provocative study on the gravity of Friday, Oct. 25 • 5:34 pm charm, charisma, and outward impressions.” (Kirkus Reviews) Friday, Nov. 1 • 5:25 pm References to presentͲday events improve readers’ understanding of Friday, Nov. 8 • 4:17 pm the author’s thesis and the work’s timely relevance. Highly recom- Friday, Nov. 15 • 4:10 pm mended. (Library Journal) Hosted by: Connecticut College Hillel | OutCT National Award Winner of the Council of Jewish of Jewish Federations as the Outstanding Small Cities Jewish newspaper. Published every other Friday for the dissemination of Jewish news and views by the Jewish Federation of Eastern Connecticut, 28 Channing Street, New London, CT 06320, 860-442-8062. Managing Editor...... Mimi Perl Layout Editor...... Jen Gault Social Editor...... Freida Katz President ...... Romana Strochlitz Primus Executive Director...... Carin Savel Mailing Volunteers...... Mimi & Milt Seed, Marlene Siegel ...... Gerald & Marilyn Rubin Advertising: Call Mimi Perl 860-442-8062 or [email protected]. Advertising Deadline: Wednesday, October 30 for November 8 issue. Editorial Content: Preferred receipt of editorial material is via email to [email protected]. Photo(s) submitted via email should be separate attachment(s) from article. Preferred photo format is a .jpg format; resolution should be a minimum of 200 dpi. Material sent via fax [860-540-1475] or first class mail [28 Channing St., New London, CT 06320] should be typed/double spaced or neatly printed. If you submit a hard copy of a photo and wish the photo returned, include a stamped, self- addressed envelope. Editorial Deadline: Friday, November 1 for November 8 issue. Printing: The Gazette Press, Northhampton, MA Postmaster: Send address changes to Jewish Leader, 28 Channing St., New London, CT 06320 THE JEWISH LEADER, October 25, 2019 3 Father of Jewish Sandy Hook THE MAMBONIKS The Best Film You’ve Never Seen victim awarded $450,000 By Westerly A. Donohue By JTA Staff

I can’t believe you missed it: The Mamboniks! The father of a Jewish boy killed at the Not just the film of the same name; but two of the original, larger- Sandy Hook Elementary School won a $450,000 than-life dancers, Mambo Judie and Marvano, who appeared in person judgment against the editor of a book that claimed with the documentary maker, Niantic’s Lex Gillespie, at Mystic Luxury the 2012 massacre at the school never happened. Cinemas for the opening night of the Mystic Film Festival, October 2. A jury in Wisconsin determined the amount to Mambo Judy and Marvano were in fine form, offering to show be paid to Leonard Pozner, whose 6-year-old son beginners the five elementary steps of this dance, both before and Noah was the youngest of the 26 people killed at after the screening. To put it simply, the dance was a fusion of Cuban the Connecticut school. rhythems and American Swing. The award came four months after a judge The two had travelled from Florida (where many of the Mamboniks ruled that Pozner had been defamed by James live) just for the showing, but, for the local Jewish community, the Fetzer and Mike Palecek, editors of a book claiming Noah Pozner, 6, was among the 20 child victims of the timing could not have been worse: Smack dab in the midst of the that the government had staged the killing to High Holy Days. Or, as Marvano—now in his Nineties—quipped from Dec. 14, 2012 shooting massacre at the Sandy Hook advance gun control measures. According to the Screen Four’ stage, “LShana Tova! Cha Cha Cha!” Elementary School in Newtown, Conn., that also claimed book, Pozner had faked his son’s death certificate Well, a few brave six adults. (Courtesy of the Pozner family, via Forward) to advance the conspiracy. souls from the Fetzer, a retired professor emeritus at the thatcommunity traces tookthe roots time University of Minnesota-Duluth, called the out to see the film judgment “absurd” and said he plans to appeal, the Wisconsin State Journal reported. Palacek has already settled with Pozner for an undisclosed amount, according to The New York Times. of Mambo music from Pozner is a party to multiple lawsuits against those who claim the massacre was faked, including Alex Africa, to Cuba, and then Jones, the online provocateur who runs Infowars. Jones has also made claims to the effect that the parents to the United States, of Sandy Hook victims are part of a plot to take away firearms. between the 1920’s and itthe hit 1950’s. Borscht Its heyday Belt hotels,was in andthe servedFifties, aswhen the inspiration for another

Pizza, Pasta & Party with Tal & Roi film, Dirty Dancing. Welcome this year’s Young Emissaries on The screenwriter for this film appears in the Thursday, November 7 at 6:00 PM Gillespie documentary.) “We were at Temple EmanuͲEl flamboyant, and refused 29 Dayton Road, Waterford, CT to become responsible adults, but that was okay,” said Mambo Judie, Dinner & Dessert: Salad, Pizza, Pasta, and a whose family owned The Bronx’s largest deli, located near Yankee Gluten Free alternative, Apple Cider & Cider Stadium. “I was known as the Hot Dog Queen of The Bronx, and Donuts and a few other surprises. notice that The, in Bronx, is the only one of the Five Boroughs to be capitalized,” Mambo Judie said. “I knew Joe DiMaggio, and Marlon Brando played the bongos,” she To ensure we order enough reminisced. food, please let us know your Mambo is a Bantu word that means ‘A conversation with the Gods’, attendance plans by Marvano reminded the attentive audience after the screening, during FRIDAY, NOV. 1. a Q & A session, and the instrument used to sound out Mambo’s beat was the clavé, a Cuban Mambo expert told Gillespie, in one of the film’s many interviews. MAMBONIKS CONT. ON PG 4 Admission: $15/adults 13 and up Also filmed was a reunion of the numerous Mamboniks who are $5/child 12 & Under Free for ages 5 & under | Maximum $45 for families of 4+ Payment in advance requested. Make checks payable to JFEC and remit to 28 Channing St., New London, CT 06320 Since 1919 Southeastern Connecticut’s Oldest and Most Respected Jewelers Diamonds ❖ Watches ❖ Crystal Questions or to Fine Contemporary & Antique Jewelry reserve contact Custom Jewelry Design ❖ Expert Jewelry & Watch Repair Mimi at Estate Jewelry Bought & Sold [email protected] 44726 or 860.442.8062. 262 Boston Post Road • Utopia Centre Waterford, CT • (860) 442-4391 Monday - Thursday 10:00-6:00 ❖ Friday 10:00-7:00 ❖ Saturday 10:00-4:00 4 THE JEWISH LEADER, October 25, 2019 World’s oldest leftovers found in cave in Israel By Josefin Dolsten, JTA That chicken still Humans would save the bones to eat the marrow inside, according to the researchers, who are affiliated with universities in Israel, Spain and Switzerland. appealing?in the fridge from a The remnants in Qesem Cave are “the earliest evidence for fewTry days ago notthese so storage and delayed consumption of bone marrow,” according to the researchers. An article published earlier this month in Science Advances details years!leftovers: They may the findings, which are from about 200,000-420,000 years ago. go Researchers back 420,000 have The marrow could be stored for nine weeks with only a low rate of found deer bone degradation, according to the findings. MAMBONIKS CONT. FROM PAGE 3 Israeli cave about remnants inside an Aviv that are being still living. Maybe it’s the music and movement that keeps them going? These deer bone remnants were found in Qesem Cave in Israel, not far from seven miles from Tel “If you knew how to dance, you had romance,” Marvano advised. Tel Aviv. (R. Blasco/ Science Advances) The Mambo epicenter was Miami Beach, in places like the called the world’s Fontainbleu Hotel’s Boom Boom Room, but Mambo did its own oldest leftovers. northward migration, to New York City and venues such as Midtown’s Palladium Ballroom where, by the late 1940’s Jewish Mamboniks, and Mambo devotees of other ethnicities blended seamlessly to the sounds of the three big Latin bands of the time: Tito Puente, Tito Rodriguez, and Machito. The Mystic Film Festival celebrated its second season October 2-6, and next year’s promises to be more exciting than ever. Meanwhile, Gillespie hopes that PBS may pick up The Mamboniks, so Southeastern Connecticut’s Jewish community will have another chance to see it— come what may. GAMES

1936, Berlin. When Jewish #GET ON THE BUS athlete Helene Mayer is selected JOIN HADASSAH & THE JEWISH FEDERATION OF EASTERN CT for the Nazis’ Olympic Squad, she realizes she is fighting for much ON SUN., DEC. 22 FOR THIS EXTRAORDINARY EXHIBIT more than gold. Based on a true Auschwitz. Not long ago. Not far away. arrived in New York City after the story, GAMES is a cautionary tale for our times. exhibition completed a successful run at Madrid’s Arte Canal Exhibition Centre, A multi-award-winning, sell-out where it was extended two times, drew more than 600,000 visitors, and was one of success, the show won the Adelaide the most visited exhibitions in Europe last year. The exhibition explores the dual Fringe Weekly Award and received identity of the camp as a physical location—the largest documented mass murder an astonishing 14, five and four-star reviews in Edinburgh where it site in human history—and as a symbol of the borderless manifestation of hatred was called: “Breathtaking and powerful, Henry Naylor’s GAMES is and human barbarity. sharp, funny and poignant, a must see.” EdFest Magazine; “A truly genius piece of writing.” Voice Mag. GAMES is playinghttps://www.sohoplayhouse.com/soho-playhouse- at the SoHo Playhouse, 15 Vandam St. in New York A deluxe motor coach will depart events.now through November 24. Go to their website for dates, times, and the New London Shopping Center, ticket prices -- 282 South Frontage Road, RETIRED & SENIOR VOLUNTEER New London, near Town Fair Tire PROGRAM promptly at 9:30 AM. SANTA BOOT DRIVE Lunch will be on your own before RSVP Volunteers distribute the exhibit. Tickets are $75 and winter boots to children include luxury bus ride, exhibit referred by schools & social tickets and a healthy snack on the workers throughout New London County. ride home. Call Georgia James, RSVP Coordinator Call Mimi at 860-442-8062 to at 860-425-6617 for more information. reserve your seat by Fri., Dec. 13. Donations of new boots or checks accepted through mid-December. A Joint Program of Make checks payable to TVCCA-RSVP and remit to 83 Huntington St., New London, CT 06320 THE JEWISH LEADER, October 25, 2019 5

By his mind. During college, he Meanwhile, somewhere in South Fallsburg, New York, Reuben sat remembered the day he went along with thirty retreat attendees in a ramshackle building, built back to a World Series game on Yom in the days when the “Borscht Belt” reigned supreme. He thought of Artie Kippur eve, lying to his parents his parents in Connecticut and wondered what they might say if they hadthat produced he was sicktickets in behind bed, when the saw him like this on the eve of Yom Kippur. A sense of unease settled actually his roommate’s father upon him. “If my father knew what I was doing right now, he’d kill me, Dean Reuben said to the young man sitting to his right. “I know,” said the dugout. Even now, the betrayal young man. “My parents only want me to be just like them—to think The Day of Atonement haunted him and he’d never and act as they do. As if I can’t make my own decisions. It’s infuriating.” told a soul. He pictured arriving Reuben nodded. “Same here. I couldn’t tell my Dad. He probably home two days later to find that thinks I’m out hiking the Appalachian trail.” Reuben pictured his On the eve of Yom Kippur Jon Levine sat in the last row of the Grandpa’s stroke had left him parents sitting in synagogue in the same row as always, surrounded congregation, glancing out the window, forcing himself to concentrate paralyzed. “Remember, God by the same old people, reciting platitudes.What He imaginedif they won’t the accept Rabbi on the service. Beverly, his wife of 25 years, sat by his side, a glum knows everything we do,” the old mygiving new the life? same sermon about assimilation—so stale—only this year expression on her lips. His mind kept wandering to the events of the reconnectingman had muttered. to our traditional there’d be an empty seat next to his father. previous day, the heated conversation with his son, Reuben, and his As the Rabbi went on about Reuben fell silent, but he continued to ponder the unavoidable unexpected defiance. The ark opened. As the congregation rose in A young man turned around to stare at Reuben. Embarrassed, unison, Jon leaned over and whispered in Beverly’s ear. roots, Jon thought of his own son. The leader took his place at the front lectern and a heated discussion She frowned. “Can’t you just let it go?” anReuben adventurer was a brilliantof the boy,highest so showdown with his father. Chastened, Jon recoiled. “You’re taking Reuben’s side? What kind full of promise, yet mercurial— of son refuses to come to Kol Nidre services to go off on some hair to perfect hang gliding, having began, on topics Reuben barely understood. Yet he listened attentively, brained adventure in the Catskills?” order who used his spare time trying to discern the meaning of the argument. Her lips pursed. “Perhaps if you heard the boy out instead of As the evening passed, Reuben found an irrepressible smile forming hanging up the phone we’d know exactly where he went.” offfound a sheer bungee rock jumping cliff invoking too tame. the steppedon his lips, into and the an cool inner of the peace evening, that comeshe paused from and deciding. looked Finally,back at the His flame of resentment flickered and then blazed. “A two-week life Jon imagined his son jumping meeting ended and people filed out of the cramped building. As he changing adventure were his exact words.” Through clenched teeth valley silhouetted by the setting Jon reiterated his many sacrifices. “I work two jobs, drive a twelve- almighty as he drifted down a faded wooden sign on the building’s façade. year-old car so my son can attend college, and this is how he repays “The Maimonides Center of South Fallsburg.” me?” sun. He pictured Reuben landing “So have you confronted your parents yet?” a friend asked Reuben. “He’s making his own decisions now. Asserting himself. That’s a in a grassy meadow, perhapsIf hishe Reuben wiped his lips as if to dispel a bad taste. “No, not yet. good thing.” getsson’s killed unique hang way gliding of ushering in the Perhaps when I return after the retreat. “He’s spitting in my face, turning his back on his family and his wilderness,in the Day how of Atonement. would we ever The friend nodded. “I don’t envy you. My parents still won’t talk to religion. How dare he miss Yom Kippur services.” know? me.” Maybe I won’t tell him until the end of the semester. “Did you always do everything your parents wanted?” ToReuben’s be continued. smile faded. He pictured the way his father’s eyes bulged An older man in the row ahead turned and placed a finger to his when he was furious. lips. “Shh, please. I can’t hear the service, and the Rabbi is speaking Jon let his eyes close and any minute.” aplaced Buddhist a hand robe, over preparing his face. to Snowbirds – Let us know Jon nodded as the Rabbi settled in front of the lectern. Then he He pictured Reuben wearing leaned back in his chair, folded his arms across his chest and closed his when you leave eyes. As the Rabbi began his sermon—something about assimilation, launch himself off a cliff. 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Murmuring Hebrew phrases and “After the holidays there’ll have shaking fervently, Grandpa Hillel seemed to belong to another world. to be a reckoning. I can’t let him “Above all, be a good person,” he used to say in his heavy accent. “But make a mockery of everything remember to study, learn everything you can at that Hebrew School of we’ve taught him.”*** yours. Follow the commandments, and never forget: “It’s up to you to pass your Jewish heritage to the next generation.” EnergyJon’s smile Saving faded. The Windows specter of his & own Doors! intransigence rose in ORDER FACTORY DIRECT! Vinyl Replacement & New Construction Windows Storm Windows & Commercial Aluminum Chuck and Romana Primus, Owners Professional Installation Available ~ Duralite warm edge spacer stays warmer and keeps you cozy. 860.848.9258 ~ When you’re cozy you save energy and money! ~ Saving energy is also good for the environment. 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The rabbi notified the New churches expressed support for the congregation. An Israeli flag defaced with a swastika and white supremacist England Anti-Defamation League Sukkot festival services and programs have continued as scheduled symbols was found on the grounds of a Cape Cod synagogue hours and local police. He said it’s the and Lieberman said he has heard that many people from outside the after the end of Yom Kippur. first such incident in his nearly synagogue community will attend the congregation’s open Sukkah Police are investigating the incident at Falmouth Jewish 30 years leading the Reform program on Saturday afternoon, he told JTA. Congregation after being notified by the synagogue’s rabbi, Elias congregation. Swastikas and sexual images were found at another location in Lieberman, who found the flag on Thursday morning, the Cape Cod patrolsThe during Falmouth services Policeand Falmouth and at a public high school in a nearby town during the same Times reported. Department is providing extra week. Both are being investigated by local police. Lieberman said the incident occurred between the end of Yom Last year, the Anti-Defamation League recorded 144 anti-Semitic Kippur on Wednesday night and the following morning. He believes increased security, Lieberman incidents in Massachusetts, including 82 acts of vandalism, the the defaced flag, spray painted with a red swastika over the flag’s Star told JTA Tuesday and said he was second highest year of incidents recorded in the state, the ADL’s audit of David and with the numbers 14 and 88, symbols that refer to Hitler scheduled to meet with the police reported. and white supremacy, may have been left elsewhere, perhaps in the later in the day. synagogue’s courtyard, and was blown to the bushes by wind. Religious leaders from local Israel in the Spring — March 8-19, 2020

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Home hospitality in a Druze Village Contact Carin Savel at 860-442-8062 or [email protected] 8 THE JEWISH LEADER, October 25, 2019 Yachad BBYO Adventures in October By Ellanora Lerner

responsibility was assigned to sort them into manageable boxes to prepare them for donation to Over the course of the last two weeks, Yachad BBYO has been hadtwo-chapter the task members, of collecting but with the the Gemma E. Moran United Way Labor Food Center in New London. very busy. The month started off with the Regional Kickoff on besta twist. bag The of twoapples team they captains could Karen Bloustine, the chair of the Temple Emanu-El Social Action October 12th. Fifteen of our members gathered in the parking lot Committee, came to the synagogue to explain the task at hand. Our of Temple Emanu-El where we boarded a bus en route to Quassy choose at the beginning of the deservedmembers breakgot right and to joined work resortingtogether andin the moving social the hall goods. for a hearty Amusement Park in Middlebury, CT. After an hour and a half long find, and each attendee could Once the ramen was finished cooking, both groups took a well-

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bunch. After about 45 minutes, the apples were selected, team photos were taken, and we returned to Temple Emanu-El in Waterford. After settling in at the temple team’s apples. The apple committee, composed of chapter President bus ride filled with conversation and snacks, we arrived at the park we split into two groups. The Trevor Fornara, Vice President of Jewish Heritage Ethan Novick, and where we joined over 400 other Jewish teens from Connecticut and first group headed into the Advisor Marcia Reinhard, deliberated extensively about the merits Springfield, MA. The Connecticut Valley Region rented out the park kitchen to prepare the ramen of the apples including color and taste, before ultimately choosing for the night. which would be our dinner. The a winner. After filing into the park, we split up into small groups and onarea the quickly broth began and tonoodles, bustle as beenIn sorting the end the though, donations all ofheaded the apples into the met kitchen the same to cut fate. and Afterpeel began enjoying all that the event had to offer including free-reign small groups began working dinner the two groups switched and the group that had previously of the rides and unlimited access to the proverbial baked potato and grilled cheese food truck, as well as a new the apples and bake them into two delicious apple appearance by a truck serving French fries with crisps. a variety of interesting dipping sauces. While the Meanwhile, the group that had cooked the event was in the evening, the park was well-lit and sortedramen andremained placed in by the the social door readyhall to to finish be picked sorting up easily walkable. Faint strains of early 2000’s pop the donations. Around 7:30, the donations were all songs filled the air giving the night a pleasant tinge of nostalgia. while the crisps were baking in the oven. With our For some of us, our first stop was the bumper work completed, we all headed into the social hall to cars, where we put our drivers ed skills to the join together for a Havdalah service, accompanied by test in an intense, but friendly, competition. Next, our new colorfully braided candle that Ethan Novick we headed to the swings where teens could be ordered for our chapter. After the prayer, Ethan seen tossing stuffed animal prizes between the also reminded everyone about the significance of seats. Other stops included the pirate ship and the holiday of Sukkot. He showed everyone the the unpleasantly nauseating teacups, as well as Lulav and Etrog, how to perform the ritual waving intermittent stops at the food trucks and the arcade. reallyand the appreciated prayers that the needed beauty to of be this said. holiday Many and of the its With all the excitement, the night passed quickly and chapter members had the opportunity to do this and soon we were back on the bus for the ride back to the temple. As always, regional kickoff was a great correlation with the earlier apple-picking aspect of addition to our fall, but it was only the beginning of our event. the excitement. After this, we closed out the night with a movie, We met next on Friday, OctoberThe Diary 18th of when Anne a Frank, starring the classic Ferrisstopping Bueller’s part Day way Off, through but technology to return toissues the social got in hall the small group of us gathered at The Shack for dinner and then headed well as preparing numerous for some of the delicious apple crisp. The original plan was to watchThe to Waterford High School to see gatheredsides of vegetables on the stage and in chicken. front of Bee Movie, our chapter’s Treasurer, Amanda Rowe who was spectacular as Meanwhile, the other group way, as they often do. Instead, we watched a more recent classic, Anne. The play was incredibly well-done and extremely moving. which also features Matthew Broderick. The movie was When the show ended, Amanda was met with well-deserved praise, the extensive spread of canned a relaxing end to a fun-filled event, and a jam-packed October for the not only from us but from the many other community members who and boxed food goods collected teensEllanora of Yachad Lerner BBYO. is the Vice President of Programming for Yachad had come to support her and see the show. by the community during the BBYO. She is a senior at the Fishers Island School and a Rising Voices The weekend was jam-packed with Yachad activities as the afterhigh holidays.services for Our collecting chapter Fellow with the Jewish Women’s Archive.” next day was our annual apple-picking event. We gathered in the was asked to pass out the bags late afternoon at Scott’s Yankee Farmer in East Lyme. The chapter needed to buy two bags of apples for a later part of our event and this donations and now we had to THE JEWISH LEADER, October 25, 2019 9 Jerusalem Welcomes Thousands For

AnnualBy Edgar Asher Succot March Each of the participating nations was preceded by Thousands of visitors filled the streets of Jerusalem their national flag, and in many cases their national dress. on Oct. 17 to watch or participate in the traditional At least for a few hours the political news was put on one Sukkot march through the city center. This is the sixty- side and the marchers and spectators cheered each other fourth annual parade to take place in Jerusalem. It is theas the heavy parade rain made that itsfell way earlier, through nearer Jerusalem. the coast, did not an opportunity for both evangelical Christians, as well This year the weather was unusually overcast, however as marchers from Israeli organizations to honor not only the Sukkot festival, but to honor Israel’s capital – reach the capital. © ASHERNET Jerusalem. 10 THE JEWISH LEADER, October 25, 2019 Buy fresh unsold food from restaurants; save money and waste By Abigail Klein Leichman, Israel21c sales statistics. SpareEat earns a commission from the business for For Itzhak Molcho, the new Israeli app each transaction. SpareEat is a win-win: He gets a meal For customers, the free app uses geolocation to display nearby from one of his favorite restaurants in Tel participating businesses. The minimum retail value of each box is Aviv at half price, while simultaneously shown along with the price to be paid, which can be as much as half off. preventing perfectly good meals from “You can buy as many boxes as are available. You order and pay going in the garbage. directly on the app and simply go to pick up the box at the specified “I saw a post about SpareEat on time,” says Fischer. Facebook as a way to save food in Israel. The app also brings food establishments to the attention of users. I downloaded it and used it two times in a Molcho, for instance, purchased surplus cookies via SpareEat from a row the first week. It was convenient and café he’d never frequented before. He was happy with the quality so givesnot complicated you a consciousness to use,” says about Molcho, the issue 31. he’s likely to go again. “You feel you are part of something big. It The app was built in English because SpareEat’s founders have plans to expand outside of Tel Aviv and even outside of Israel. SpareEat of throwing away food.” was one of six finalists in the Strauss Group/EIT Foods Startup It was this issue that motivated Elie Competition at FoodTechIL in Tel Aviv on September 23. Fischer and his cousin, Laetitia Jessner, to Meanwhile, the app is making a small but important dent in the amount of food wasted in Israel. launch SpareEat in August. Participating businesses make Israeli institutions such as workplaces, hotels, restaurants, Working in the hospitality industry in France and Israel, they were up predefined boxes containing schools, hospitals, catering halls and army bases toss out some 507 upset to see how much surplus food hotels and restaurants trash every single portions of items often left million pounds of food annually, representing 30% of institutional day. unsold. food consumption, worth approximately $1 billion. About half of all They found a few smartphone apps in Europe that enable people For example, the Vietnamese discarded food is fit to eat. to purchase unsold food from local establishments. With their own restaurant from which Molcho got spring rolls and bobun salad or That information comes from a report released last year by Leket funds, they built SpareEat for Israel with the goal of simplifying the his meal offers a box containing transaction for both businesses and customers. Israel, a nonprofit that rescues fresh surplus agricultural produce and cooked meals. About 200 partner organizations distribute the rescued SpareEat was launched for iOS and Android in August, starting with the special of the day plus salad. food to 175,000 needy Israelis every week. 16 restaurants, hotels, bakeries, grocery stores and cafés in Tel Aviv. By A supermarket might offer a tuna Fischer says SpareEat is hoping to do some type of collaboration September 1, about 2,000 people had already downloaded the app and salad, pastry assortment and with Leket. additional businesses are in the pipeline. fresh fruit. the business to check and Meanwhile, he sees the SpareEat app as potentially powerful tool in “From the business side, it is all about reducing food waste, The app’s dashboard allows increasing revenues, bringing in new customers and bringing a fresh avoiding food waste. “A win-win-win situation, basically, for the planet, customers and businesses,” he says. and eco-friendly image to the brand. From the customer side, it is all confirm orders and pick-up about reducing food waste and at the same time buying fresh and good times, adjust the contents of the program at Kennedy Space Center in college. food at a very reduced price,” Fischer tells ISRAEL21c. This Incredible Jewish Astronautboxes if necessary, Part and track 3. The youngest of five children, Meir was born in Caribou, Maine to an Israeli Iraqi dad and Swedish mother. 4. Although Meir’s mom didn’t want to convert to Judaism, the of the First All-Female Spacewalk family identified as Jewish and went to synagogue at a nearby town. 5. Judaism is very important to Meir: “Personally I’m not really a religious person, but I think my Jewish cultural background is “I’m very excited to participate obviously a big part of my culture and especially traditions.” in the science,” Meir told JTA in 6. It took the Jewish astronaut three attempts to get into NASA’s the spring, before her mission astronaut training program — third time’s the charm! She started in began in September. “And also 2013 with eight other candidates and graduated two years later. the other big thing personally, my 7. Meir never stops hustling. She spent a year preparing for this dream has always been to go for a monumental mission, which included training in Russia and learning spacewalk.” Russian, exercising on anti-gravity treadmills (to prevent muscle loss During Meir’s mission, in space), and numerous medical tests. she’s conducting a number 8. If you could only bring three personal items to space with you, of physiological, medical, and what would they be? For Meir, it’s an Israeli flag, menorah-printed chemistry experiments to dig socks — she loves novelty socks! — and a piccolo. The astronaut plays deeper into how being in space the piano, flute, and saxophone, but settled on the piccolo because of affects humans. She’s set to its small size. return from space this spring. JT’s All Seasons Landscaping In honor of this monumental Call Joel Tomsky @ 860-271-9549 A successful repair mission has made NASA astronauts Jessica Meir day, here are some fun things you It’s time for fall yard cleanup! need to know about the Jewish (left) and Christina Koch (right) the first to participate in an all-female A good time for hedge & tree trimming spacewalk. The two returned safely back inside the Intl Space Station. astronaut. 1. Not only is she among the before winter ice & snow By Arielle Kaplan, Kveller first all-female spacewalk, Meir break overgrown branches is also the first Swedish woman, Driveway Sealing - protect it the fourth Jewish woman, and the Two astronauts made history on Oct. 18 when they participated from harsh winter weather 15th Jewish person to participate in the first-ever all-female spacewalk. That’s pretty spectacular in its in a space mission. Incredible! own right, but it gets even better: one of them is Jewish! Commercial & Residential 2. 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powerful reminder of where this a meaningful: Sheryl Sandberg is honoring her parents’ 75th birthdays with an hate can lead.” doing mitzvahs adorable flashback photo — and a meaningful gift inspired by Jewish It was on Yom Kippur, the day and making the pride. that an anti-Semite attempted to donationworld a to better the To honor Adele and Joel Sandberg, the author and COO of Facebook shoot up a synagogue in Germany, place. Her made a donation to the Anti-Defamation League, a non-profit that inthat synagogue, Sandberg decidedthinking howabout to just that, she fights all forms of hatred and anti-Semitism. It’s an unusual birthday honor her parents: “I was sitting said,ADL is because doing present, but in a Facebook post on Wednesday the Jewish mom of two “hate begets shared the touching reason why the donation is so meaningful. how, earlier that day, a gunman hate, and attacks “My parents taught my siblings and me to be proud of our Jewish showed up at a synagogue in on one group Germany, hoping to kill as many heritage and that leading a meaningful life meant doing what you can of vulnerable Header image via Lino Mirgeler/DPA/AFP/Getty Images to make the world a better place,” Sandberg, 50, wrote. Jews as he could. He knew the people can Growing up, she wrote, her parents would write letters pushing temple would be full because of for the release of persecuted Jews and political prisoners in the Soviet the holiday.” Union. Following the Halle and Tree quickly lead to “[My parents] watched in horror as anti-Semitic attacks have hadof Lifetaught synagogue her about shootings, leading attacks on others.” risen here at home and around the world,” the Facebook post reads. Sheryl recalled what her parents Though Sandberg didn’t specify the amount of her donation, in a “And my family’s visit to Yad Vashem in Jerusalem this summer was a statement the ADL said it was $2.5 million. Tree of Life building will reopen Sandberg encouraged her Facebook followers to take “meaningful By Marcy Oster, JTA action” and join her in donating to the ADL’s “11 Actions for 11 Lives” campaign meant to commemorate one year since the Pittsburgh building, the site of an attack a A community planning process will determine the building’s “precise attack. CONT. FROM PAGE 1 The Tree of Life synagogue future,” according to the statement. The process was announced to the BUS congregation during Kol Nidre services on Yom Kippur. year ago that left 11 worshippers “We are poised to become an incredible center for Jewish life in the “There is no dead, will reopen as a “center for United States,” Tree of Life’s Rabbi Jeffrey Myers said in a statement. history—and as a symbol of betterEllis Island. way Hadassahto commemorate member, Jewish life in the United States.” “When we reopen, and we most certainly will, I want the entire world to the borderless manifestation of theCarol tragedy Curland said,and triumph of The Tree of Life Congregation say, ‘Wow, look at what they have done.’ To do anything less disrespects hatred and human barbarity. the Jewish experience than to issued a statement to announce the memory of our 11 martyrs.” A deluxe motor coach will visit the Auschwitz Exhibit and its “vision” for the building on The plans reportedly include worship space for the congregations depart the New London Shopping then light the first Chanukah toFriday. three different congregations, that want to return, space for the Holocaust Center of Pittsburgh to Center near Town Fair Tire, candle.” The building, which was home move into the building, and space for the Chatham University. 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I went to my cousin Liora’s wedding recently. As is the case for many at her table with her husband’s I told a friend about what Deeta had said, weddings in Israel, the event was held outdoors (you don’t have to family. The dancing at the he suggested that her words revealed that worry about rain here between May and October; indeed, some venues wedding was mainly to the music she was aware of the shallowness of Liora’s are only open during the “dry” season and have no indoor facilities). of popular American and British wedding in terms of its Jewishness. I’m not Liora’s wedding was called for 7:30. I arrived at 8:00, knowing that I rock groups from the sixties to the Theseso sure couples about this. travel Some outside Israeli the couples, country after for was still going to be early for the ceremony. Liora was stunning, her present. There was no traditional all, do not have Jewish religious weddings. blond shoulder-length hair contrasting wonderfully with her tanned Jewish (simcha) music, and only body in her beautiful off-the-shoulder wedding dress. a handful of contemporary Israeli civil marriages, which are then recognized Other than the bride (my third cousin) and her family, I didn’t know tunes. Despite this, I was having by the Israeli Rabbinate. anyone at the wedding (my wife Sarah was at a business dinner in Tel a good time. Liora and Ron had a Clearly, Liora and Ron’s wedding Aviv). Yet I was happy with my gin-and-tonic and the hors-doeuvres lot of their friends out with them was “Jewish.” But how Jewish was it? Here is where I think Deeta’s (there was even sushi), and I knew almost all of the music played by on the dance floor, and everyone comment comes in. Deeta was telling me to enjoy myself and not to the disc jockey, including hits from Van Morrison, Donna Summers, seemed genuinely happy. Yet be busy comparing this wedding to other weddings. She made me Diana Ross, the Bee Gees, Credence Clearwater Revival, and Billy Joel. something in me was murmuring ask myself right there and then: Who appointed me arbiter of Jewish The wedding ceremony was short and uneventful. Only about 30 this seems more like a dance culture? I remembered too that even Jewish tradition says that the chairs were set up at the ceremony for a crowd of several hundred floor at a night club than at a most important thing for a guest to do at a wedding is to rejoice with people. I took this to stand for the attitude of the wedding party toward Jewish wedding. the bride and groom. So telling myself “oh, give it a rest,” I returned to the ceremony itself, performed by an ultra-Orthodox rabbi (no need to During a break in the dancing, I the dance floor -- just in time to move to the beat of the Village People’s sit and get comfortable). Just one moment stood out in my mind at the had a chance to speak with Deeta, “YMCA.” Appleby Bar Mitzvah ceremony: when the groom arrived, with his father and father-in-law Liora’s mom. After a while Deeta holding him on each side, some members of the crowd applauded. said: “You’re probably not used to Miles Richard It seemed to me that in the absence of any meaningful music, the this kind of a wedding. Well, we people needed a vehicle through which to express their emotions do things a little differently. But and they did it with their clapping (if one listened, there was some our weddings are nice too.” I was Appleby will become traditional Jewish music coming from the DJ’s speakers on the other moved by this. I knew that Deeta a Bar Mitzvah on side of the grounds, but it did not create any kind of mood for the had recently attended my cousin’s Saturday, November ceremony). very traditional Jewish wedding 2, 2019, assisting The ceremony over, we proceeded to a lovely buffet. My cousin in New York. In effect she was Rabbi Marc Ekstrand Alona, Liora’s sister, was nice enough to look out for me and seated me telling me: “Don’t judge us.” When leadingand Cantorial services Soloist 93-year-old Albanian to be honored Sherry Barnes in

personals By Cnaan Lipshiz, JTA on Friday evening, November 1, and A Muslim man from Albania who saved theSaturday Torah morning. portion, He Jews during the Holocaust will attend an will be reciting from event in Poland honoring rescuers from across Europe. Noach, which tells the story of the flood and Noah’s Ark. Xhemal Veseli, 93, who is among a Miles is the son of Celena Reiser (Appleby) of Stonington and Jason handful of Muslim rescuers alive today, will Appleby of Groton, and brother of the late Ruben Reiser Johnson. A travel to Warsaw with Albania’s foreign member of Temple Emanu-El for the past year, and Beth El synagogue minister, Edmond Panariti, whose family previously, Miles has fully committed himself to his religious school and also saved Jews from the Holocaust. They temple life, engaging in numerous community projects and embracing will attend in Warsaw an event titled “An core Jewish values. He is also a member of the Jewish Federation of Evening for the Righteous” on Nov. 14. Eastern Connecticut’s Junior Youth Group. “In the remarkably fragmented and Xhemal Veseli, left, with Jonny Daniels in Tirana, Albania in Miles is an eighth-grade high honors student at Cutler Middle aggressive world we live in today, religion October 2019. (Courtesy of From the Depths) School in Mystic, CT, where he sits on the Student Council and recently sadly often divides us,” said the organizer, was selected to be an assistant manager of the Boys’ soccer team. For Jonny Daniels of the From the Depths the past two years, Miles has dedicated his free time to the TigerEye Dance Team, a team from the region who excel at hip-hop and commemoration group. But testimonies to the Yad Vashem Holocaust like Xhemal’s, Daniels added, “bring us together as Jews and Muslims.” contemporary dance and regularly perform statewide--having won memorial and museum in Israel. numerous competitions. He has also developed a passion for cooking In addition to Albania, the event will be attended by rescuers from Yad Vashem recognized the Poland and Belarus as well as officials from Israel, Denmark and the and enjoys making dinner and baking for his family and friends often. brothers as Righteous Among the Additionally, Miles has attended Vermont Youth Dancers camp in United States. Nations in 2004. Xhemal Veseli and his late brother, Hamid, rescued two Jewish Jericho, VT, for the past three summers where he has been cast in a Derita Veseli, Xhemal’s wife, variety of leading roles in their productions. families from Italian occupation forces in 1943. Xhemal, then 17, said her family also rescued Jews walked with elderly Jews for 36 hours to his family home, according Miles has a passion for animals, theater, dance, and helping those Byles-MacDougall toin Albania.cover the costs of her eye in need. For his Mitzvah project, he has been volunteering at Giving From the Depths has pledged Funeral Service, Inc Garden at Denison Pequotsepos Nature Center’s Coogan Farm in (860) 442-0343 Mystic, CT. Giving Garden donates all its produce to help the food (888) 736-7036 medication, Eylea, for the rest of insecure population of Southeastern Connecticut. Knowing that his her life. It costs about $10,000 efforts would help to feed people in need was the reason why Miles Daniel W. Byles annually. chose Giving Garden. He enjoyed the atmosphere and being in a Reid B. Burdick Albania was the among different environment and for Miles this only added to a rewarding John D. MacDougall a handful of Nazi-occupied experience.Everyone counts: We are counting on you! countries whose Jewish Here in Eastern Connecticut the JFEC works to Byles Memorial Home Byles-Groton Memorial Home minorities grew during the support, sustain and revitalize Jewish life. But we 99 Huntington Street 310 Thames Street Holocaust. Most of the 2,000 New London, Conn. 06320 Groton, Conn. 06340 can’t do it without you. Send in your donation today. Jews living in Albania after the Holocaust were refugees from neighboring countries. 16 THE JEWISH LEADER, October 25, 2019