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The Friends Academy Magazine for Alumni, Parents & Friends The Meeting House Winter/Spring 2012

Friends in the 40s and 50s: The Closest Thing to Home Friends Academy Board of Trustees, 2011-2012 Co-Presidents Thomas Hawkins ‘78 Scott Rechler

Treasurer Francis Ingrassia

Board Members Strong Minds. Carl Ashkin Kind Hearts. Cynthia Boults Peggy Brucia The Friends Academy Mission Jeff Daniels ‘90 Debra Del Vecchio Founded in 1876 by Gideon Frost for “the children Albert Granger of Friends and those similarly sentimented,” Friends Elizabeth McCaul Ingrassi Academy is a Quaker, coeducational, independent, Jodi Leeser college preparatory school serving 775 students Victoria Quesada Moore from age three through twelfth grade. Joe Podbela Robert Rosenbaum

The school’s philosophy is based on the Quaker Honorary Trustee principles of integrity, simplicity, patience, John W. Oelsner moderation, peaceful resolution of conflict, and a belief that the silence and simple ministry of the Head of School “gathered meeting” brings the presence of God into William G. Morris Jr. the midst of busy lives. Friends Academy is Friends Academy Alumni Association, 2011-2012 committed to developing a diverse community whose President members value excellence in learning and growth in Peter Stein ’79 knowledge and skill, a genuine commitment to service and ethical action, and a realization that Vice President every life is to be explored, celebrated, and enjoyed Penelope Wylie Mayer ‘75 in the spirit of the Religious Society of Friends. Secretary Pamela Foschi Danbusky ‘97 The Meeting House Editorial Board, 2011-2012 Alumni Board Members Amanda Fisk '99 Park Benjamin III ‘61 Kathy Fox Barbara Shoen Brundige ‘63 Natalia Porcelli Good '93 Thomas Hawkins ‘78 Hayley Kucich ‘03 Elisabeth Dillof Dreizen ‘78 Penelope Wylie Mayer ‘75 Lydia Fichera ‘84 Andrea Miller Kathryn Hawkins Schneider ‘86 Jennifer Ryan Woods '99 Colleen Doyle Moran ‘91 Elizabeth Siris Winchester ‘91 Alana Teutonico ‘94 Thomas Pascarella ‘95 Courtney Devon Taylor ‘01 Salwa Touma ‘01 Jenna McCann ‘06

President Emeritus James R. Greene ‘74

Alumni Office The Meeting House | Fall 2009 Alumni Affairs Coordinator, Kathy Fox From the Head of School William G. Morris Jr.

Friends, into a vibrant, functioning community.” Of course, e have reached that place in the school I am also reassured that our students from six and year where time seems to defy logic and seven decades ago enjoyed their share of youthful Wthe laws of physics as we accelerate to shenanigans, another strong link to our students graduation and summer vacation. For the faculty today! Whether we recall fondly the FA of the 1940s and staff, the mantra this time of the year is and 50s or we witness the school today as “Hold on!” We have had a terrific year with revealed in the other articles in this issue or record demand in admissions and superb in the lives of Diane Loviglio ’01 and Mats college placement, so we have much to Lemberger ’02, both of whom realize that celebrate with the Class of 2012 and all the their years at FA grounded them in service, members of our unique community as we we should recognize and celebrate Gideon look forward to June and a break. Frost’s vision that created a place that nur- In reading the personal memories of our tures the hearts, minds, and souls of those graduates from the 1940s and 1950s in this fortunate enough to pass through the doors Meeting House, I see the enduring qualities of our great school. of our mission as a Quaker school. So many of the In the end, as we experience the joys and challenges stories speak to the sense of being at home at Friends, of life and navigate an increasingly complex and and 60 or 70 years later, our graduates from that era uncertain world, it is our connections to our families, vividly recall the special qualities of a community friends, colleagues, and those we know and do not built on a caring, dedicated, inspirational faculty and know through our service and outreach that give us a diverse, engaged, and fun-loving student body. meaning and comfort. The spirit of equality, respect, service, and integ- I am proud that each day at Friends we give rity that abounded then defines the essence of our students myriad opportunities to learn the value of community today. Gonzalo Pardo ’47 captures it best relationships, reflection, and resilience. These lessons when he writes, “Perhaps FA’s greatest gift . . . is the will allow them to let their lives speak as they become mutual caring that converts a gaggle of individuals members of the 136-year-old Friends family.

From The Archives: June 7, 1908 – Friends Academy Postcard FA Trivia Contest

“If you were a student, faculty or staff member and ate in the Friends Academy Commons, chances are you’d see me every day." Who am I? E-mail your answer

to [email protected].

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all correct entries,

rtesy u co will receive a surprise Addressed to Miss Avery Willets, Jericho NY: “I feel pretty sure we understood each Friends Academy gift. other this morning but in case we didn’t I write to say that 3rd day (the) 9th was the day we can come. – Emily F. Jackson (Take a look at more archival postcards on page 7.)

The Meeting House | Winter/Spring 2012 The Second Annual MS/US Jazz Concert March 8, 2012 insideVol. 48, No. 2 Meeting House Letters. 6

Members of the Upper Around the Quad. 8 School choir, Middle School Jazz Band and “Embracing Us” Upper School Jazz Band Community service abounds at FA delighted audience A three-peat for FA Chess members with rousing Blues, Swing and Rock ‘n Students take 1st place in regional biology contest Roll selections. Little Masters World Travelers in Lower School The Arts. 14 Meet me at the corner... of Broadway and Friends Academy The Winter Concert series Feature Story. 16 Friends in the 40s and 50s: The closest thing to home A collection of stories about life at Friends Academy from alumni who attended Friends in the 30s, 40s and 50s. Compiled by Margaret Whitney Shiels, ’52. Sports: Go FA! 24 This was a season of firsts, from the ice to the track and everywhere in between. Personal bests and school records broken; plus, building for the future. Take a look back at the 2012 Winter Sports season. Faculty Milestones. 30 Alumni Profiles. 34 Diane Loviglio ’01: Clean energy advocate and innovative startup founder Mats Lemberger ’02: Boundless energy for service, music and medicine Class Notes. 38 In Memoriam. 54 The Meeting House Staff

Editor Andrea Miller, Director of Communications and Marketing 516.393.4295 | [email protected] Writers Kathy Fox, Natalia Porcelli Good ’93, Hayley Kucich ’03, Andrea Miller and Margaret Whitney Shiels ’52 Photographers Michael Damm, Amanda Fisk, David Gatoux and Al Quackenbush on the cover FA MEMORIES. Scenes from Friends Academy between 1947 and 1949 that were generously given to Friends from an anonymous donor. View the entire collection of photos at www.fa.org/alumni.  Meeting House Thoughts, memories and reflections letters from our readers ... you!

Providing hope for heels FA Trivia Contest Responses and soles for souls (Excerpted from a letter to Evan Cagner “It would be ‘cake’ to simply describe [this mystery man] as a caring and ’91, who was profiled in the Fall/Winter 2011 warm guy but that would be too simple. The Cool Man façade, however, is Meeting House). only a shell disguising a concerned friend.” – The Lamp 1994. Who am I? ust last week I received my publica- Jtion of The Meeting House. As I flipped Answer: Alec Dick through to see what was new, the article that Natalia Porcelli Good ’93 wrote “To our beloved teacher, our trusted friend, regarding you, your business and most of and the best darn bike rider in the world. all your generosity, caught my eye. For four years you have provided us with the My children attend a modest syna- support, the confidence, and, of course, all the gogue in Trumbull, CT and recently one laughter necessary to succeed. You have always of the good faith projects the students put us first, teaching us not only derivatives of the Hebrew School took on is to raise and volumes, but also the ability to believe in enough money to purchase over 150 pairs ourselves and to trust our instincts. For that of sneakers and school shoes for Emunah we are eternally grateful. The more we got to Children’s Center in Afula, Israel (named know you, your humorous disposition and your Heels for Hope). We are looking to optimistic nature, the fonder we grew of you. provide each child with a pair of school We are now your biggest fans. Though it may shoes and a pair of sneakers. be impossible to express our true appreciation – Julie Gordon Tillotson ’83 and admiration, we, the senior class of 2003, dedicate this yearbook to you, Mr. Dick, an Moved by Craig White ’61 profile Academy legend.” he recent issue of The Meeting A friend to all THouse was excellent. I particularly You can’t fool us ... Mr. Dick, with that appreciated the article on Craig White, a bushy mustache and those dark shades. dear friend and classmate. He certainly Your million-dollar smile gives you away. epitomizes Quaker values and dedication Always a friend to all. One-of-a-kind smile to serving others in many ways. That great smile could only belong to – Sue Hancock, alumni parent of Rhett – Pamela Harris McClure-Johnston ’61 Hancock ’89 and Samantha Hancock Lenz ’90 Alec Dick, a larger-than-life teacher and coach. f course, my cousin, John Craig – Mary Craig, former faculty and alumni Made Geometry fun White’s entire life has been of That picture is of none other than Alec parent of David Craig ’82 and Ian Craig ’86 O service to his community, to America in Dick – he made (hated) Geometry as fun as service to his country, in devotion to the it could possibly be! And oh, that “ugly tie Eternal Orioles fan tenets of Quakerism and his support and collection” – who could forget that! The man in question with the trademark love for Friends. – Philippa Barnat Miller ’85 cap and ‘stache, is none other than eternal Baltimore Oriole fan, Mr. Alec Dick. One of – Margaret Whitney Shiels ’52 Character of a teacher the greats. PS. – I think he stole the “cake” Al Dick – math teacher par excellence – line from me. a real character! – Frank Caponegro ’83 – Susan Match, alumni parent of Laura Send Us Your Thoughts Match Schaffer ’85 and Debra Match Morse ’81 Other correct responses: Ellen Coffey ’80 We want to hear from you! To send a letter, Faculty accolade Barret Gargano ’91 respond to an article or share a memory of I think the mystery man is Alec Dick, Heather Adler Schoen ’96 Friends Academy, please e-mail Kathy Fox at who I had the pleasure of working with [email protected]. from 1972-1977. – Lesley Graham ’68

The Meeting House | Winter/Spring 2012 From The Archives: Early 1900s – Friends Academy Postcards

June 8, 1906 Addressed to Mrs. Anna Weeks: November 16, 1908 “Dear Mrs. W., How shall I thank Addressed to Miss Elizabeth W. you for the view of your home? Vinden: “Leave here this A.M. for Wish love and hopes of soon Wantagh. I like E.M.P. best but seeing you again.” that is like home you know.” – Sincerely Mrs. E. Willitts.

March 13, 1908 June 6, 1908 Addressed to Ms. A. Locks, “Thy “The twenty-eighth Annual Meeting postal received thanks for kind of the Friends’ Academy Reunion will invitation do not see how we can be held at Friends Academy. 6th day, visit thee at the time mentioned. I 6th month, 19th, 1908 at 8 o’clock suppose thee have received my let- P.M.” – Eleanor Coles Titus, Sec’y. ter the first of week.” - Lovingly A.L. Glen Cove, L.I.

A glimpse of Friends and friends from the early 1900s n the early years of the twentieth century, collecting Real Photo on Duck Pond Road. What was most striking about this image, and IPostcards (RPPCs) became a popular hobby in America. Advances in those that were later found, was that after the passage of so many years photography made it possible for a scene, no bigger than 3½” x 5½”, to bringing change, the Meeting House, Friends Academy, and other places become a souvenir of a trip, an advertisement of an event or simply a re- were still very recognizable. While the heyday of Real Photo Postcards cord of a particular landmark. I became interested in photo postcards has long since passed, with their giving way to newer technologies, of Friends Academy, and related places, after discovering one on the in- they continue to serve as reminders of places we have known, places ternet while searching for old maps of Locust Valley. The first of what we know now, and the places that will always remain snapshots in our would become a growing collection, depicted the original Matinecock memories as we embrace the future. Friends’ Meeting House in panoramic view, looking slightly northeast – Ed Dugger, Director of College Counseling *Due to handwriting, some of the letters may have been inaccurately transcribed, but if you recognize the letter writers or have postcards or other Friends Academy memorabilia of your own, we’d love to hear from you! The Meeting House | Winter/Spring 2012 8 Around the Quad

Forging New Partnerships at Friends REACHING OUT AND EMBRACING ‘US’ From Peace Week to new Diversity Parenting Series to Quaker Youth Leader Conference – celebrating and discovering how differences matter By Andrea Miller Director of Communications

his year our students, faculty and staff explored and celebrated their differences, came face-to-face with issues ofT local and global poverty, dove into themes of essential tension and shared their homes with friends from a continent away. It has been a year packed with events and milestones that ultimately have shown us the strength of community and what it means to be “us.” In early February, Friends hosted the 15th Annual Quaker Youth Leadership Conference for the first time. Working with Brooklyn Friends, the event drew ALIX LISS/friends academy over 150 people from different Friends Students from Martinique attend an FA basketball game with host FA and French students. schools, involved over 20 FA students and countless FA parents and faculty. Dr. Pamela Reed of Virgina State Upper School Spanish teacher Angie University leads a Martin, who is also a Quaker, helped to presentation for faculty/staff, organize the conference and was instru- parents and their mental in bringing it to Friends. children about how “The theme this year was Essential to raise culturally competent children. Tension,” said Martin. “We examined the conflicts between individuals and community, connected it to social justice and discussed the responsibility to recognize dents, faculty, parents, trustees and guests Songwriters and musicians Kim and Reggie Harris that when there is tension, we don’t performed songs of peace for Lower School students. from outside the FA community to hear ignore it, but hold it up and sometimes the panelists, who had been featured in create it so that we can solve it.” crime, when it hosted a special film the PBS documentary. The three-day conference treated screening and panel discussion of “Not in Talking openly about differences students to workshops, service projects Our Town: Light in the Darkness” about continued with a new two-part Parent- and a presentation by Playback Theater, the town of Patchogue taking action after ing Diversity Series, “Raising Culturally based in Manhattan, where students’ anti-immigrant violence devastated their Competent Children.” “Through these conflicts were brought to life on stage and community. workshops, FA parents and students interpreted through professional actors FA’s new director of Diversity and learned how to comfortably talk to chil- and dancers. Multicultural Affairs Shanelle Robinson dren about (and develop comfort with) Friends helped shine a light on hate organized the event, which drew 60 stu- people of different facial, cultural and

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Peace Week 2012

AMANDA FISK/friends academy Mike Fox ’91 and Courtney Lenoir ’10 returned to Friends during Peace Week to address students, faculty and staff about finding their passion and pursuing it via service. Both alumni later shared a lunch with the senior class at the Jackson House. ethnic backgrounds,” explained Robinson. Mixed community groups of third through 12th graders count the number of service activities they do. Through In mid-February, 12 students and two iPads and a custom-built program, sixth graders tracked and broadcast a live “tally” of the activities, which num- chaperones visited from Martinique to bered over 8,000 at the end of the exercise. Sample questions ranged from “Have you ever given to the Mitten stay and learn from their FA homestay Tree?” to “Have you ever done service in another country?” friends, who had traveled to Martinique the previous year. A Community of Problem Solvers “The biggest thing the exchange Addressing Poverty Essential Tension: Quaker teaches is how little the racial, cultural at Peace Week 2012 Leadership Youth Conference and linguistic differences really matter,” said World Languages and Cultures head here is nothing new about must confess that I am not afraid Polly Duke. “But how wonderful those poverty. What is new, however, of the word “tension.” I have ear- differences really are!” “T is that we have the resources to “Inestly opposed violent tension, but This year, the all-school Peace Week get rid of it...There is no deficit in human there is a type of constructive, nonviolent examined the link between peace and resources; the deficit is in human will.” tension which is necessary for growth.“ – – Martin Luther King Jr.’s Nobel Prize Speech, 1964 Martin Luther King Jr. “Letter from Birmingham Jail” poverty with powerful workshops, compelling speakers and an all-divisional The four-day all-school Peace Week chal- For three days, FA hosted 150 other study of some of Martin Luther King Jr.’s lenged students to take a look at poverty, Friends school students and faculty to ex- most important thoughts linking poverty, not only around the world, but also in plore Quakerism and the theme of “Essential racism and peace. Hugh Evans and Meg their own backyard. Middle School students Tension.” A mix of daily Meeting for Worship Watkins, from the Global Poverty Pre- watched a series of videos that asked them gatherings, workshops (led by students and sentation, spoke with Middle and Upper to think about who is in poverty and why. faculty), a service project with Island Harvest School students about the 1.4 billion Students were asked to consider what they and LI Cares, and social mixes,including a people living in extreme poverty (living thought were essential expenses for a family coffeehouse that featured 24 acts of student on less than $1.25/day), as well as how of four, define a soup kitchen and a food talent, rounded out the conference. and why this affects and relates to every- pantry, define minimum wage jobs and think Brown University Chaplain Janet Cooper one. Upper school students gave them a about what jobs have no benefits. Nelson (and mother to FA history teacher standing ovation. At the end of the week, Community Geoff Nelson) delivered the keynote address, The conversation continued at a special Groups of third through 12th graders gath- emphasizing that in order to succeed over Peace Week “Diversity Lunch & Learn” ered to mark and tally the number of com- conflict, we must seek a middle ground in about the unspoken “ism” of classism. A munity service activities they had contrib- the pain we feel and experience – there must new series this year, the monthly work- uted. The total number? Well over 8,000. be some, but if there is too much, one will shops are open to Upper School students, give up. faculty and staff to discuss issues encom- passing cultural diversity. The Meeting House | Winter/Spring 2012 10 Around the Quad

A Three-Peat for FA Chess Small band captures county title again, Seventh graders Claire Handa, Jessica Oxer, Olivia Constantino and Frank Lizzax help make sandwiches for a Hempstead soup kitchen. and again – and again

Service abounds at FA n Wednesday, February 1, the n Wednesday, February 29th, Friends Academy Varsity chess Othe entire class of FA 7th Oteam swept Jericho HS on all six graders, 64, gathered in the Friends boards in the final round to capture their Academy Commons to make turkey third straight Nassau County Interscho- and cheese sandwiches as part of lastic League Chess Championship, by a their community service activity. score of 45-0. Their sandwich goal? 270! And all It was an epic conclusion to an undefeat- were delivered to the Mary Brennan ed season. The Friends team headed into Soup Kitchen in Hempstead, NY. the competition fired up in the first round against Great Neck North. Both teams This year Freshman projects: battled fiercely and the round ended with the freshman class divided into their a nail-biter on the last board, won by advisories and dove into a multitude junior Will Duke. The match came down of community service projects that to the final seconds, and with all the play- exposed them to issues like poverty, ers from both teams surrounding the last homelessness and advocacy, as well as remaining board, Duke pulled it out for how to help out at “home.” Friends with a checkmate. Here at FA, students organized Friends ultimately won the first round several areas of Lost and Found items, 27.5 to 17.5, with victories by freshman composted and weeded the FA Ed- Anthony Cortese, junior Ethan Nyein ible Garden and helped first grade Above, and Duke, a draw by junior Jahan Khan students prepare bags of art supplies sophomore Nate (Brookville) and two other losses. Hogg looks on for children hospitalized with cancer. Friends went on to sweep in the finals, as junior Jahan As part of their outreach, students Khan surveys scoring all possible 45 points and winning organized a December gift drive, the board. every game. In the end, the mentally ex- Left: The scores then wrapped gifts for low-income hausted chess-letes emerged with another from the final families, packed up unused French round. victory, adding on to their two-year streak. books and other textbooks for use in For FA Chess coach and World Lan- AMANDA FISK/ other underserved schools, as well friends academy guages and Culture dept. head Polly Duke, as schools in Haiti and wrote letters the win was a meaningful one. gave each other through those tense final of gratitude to overseas soldiers in “This third-straight championship seconds helped to buoy us toward a three- connection to Veteran’s Day. After and second-straight undefeated season peat championship performance,” learning how to write an effective was particularly sweet because it was not The Nassau County Interscholastic advocacy letter, students wrote to rep- particularly easy,” said Duke. “Those who Chess League was founded over 20 years resentatives expressing their concern watched the semi-finals match could ago. about New York State’s elimination of see a team that was far from invincible. Friends hosted the finals at home after funding for the Games for the Physi- We made mistakes, but we learned from finishing undefeated in their regular cally Challenged. them. And the unconditional support we season.

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jennifer newitt/friends academy Seniors Andrew Eng and Matthew Gambardella and junior Ariana Farahani display their winning “Met” protein model at the Protein Modeling Challenge held at Stony Brook University on March 7. Students take 1st in regional biology contest team of three Friends Acad- A emy Upper School students beat out 30 teams from other schools to win first place at the Protein Modeling Challenge competition held at Stony Brook University on March 7. Senior Andrew Eng, junior Ariana Farahani and senior Michael Gambardella represented FA’s first entry ever into this regional competition. Competitors were tested on their knowledge of proteins in general, and specifically the “Met” protein, which is a protein involved in turning cells cancerous. Teams were also evaluated on the quality of their “pre-build” of the protein model completed at school earlier in Feb- ruary, the actual competition build and an exam. To prepare for this competition, the FA team dug into cancer research. “First we had to learn about how cancer cells develop, the current drugs available to slow KRISTIN MINUTO/FRIENDS ACADEMY down cancer cell growth and what Early Childhood students continued their exploration of master paint- makes them become cancerous,” ers as they dove into the work of artist Jackson Pollock. The children said Farahani. learned all about his unique style of painting called “Action Painting.” The children used some of the very same tools that Jackson Pollock Ultimately, teamwork was a key used for his art, including wire whisks, egg beaters, and wooden sticks. and crucial factor in winning the Want to take a closer look? The masterpieces are now on display in the top honors. Withington “Art Gallery.”

The Meeting House | Winter/Spring 2012 12 Around the Quad World travelers Lower School students celebrate and share their knowledge of the world around us

amanda fisk/friends academy Fifth grader Faraz Khan demonstrates the art of origami; fourth graders perform traditional African dances with the FA African drumming group; second grader Sydney Cagner teaches Spanish teacher Fina Scibilia about the habitats, cultures and geography of South American countries.

By Natallia Porcelli Good, ‘93 poignant connection between what he study, so if a student begins in Playgroup he Lower School Goes Global was learning about regarding South and continues on until 5th grade, she program has brought out an ef- American culture and related it to a will have been exposed to each conti- T fusive energy among the Lower work by Kandinsky. nent and every country in our world by School teachers as it has empowered For the teachers, it is so exciting to the time she leaves the Lower School.” them to take a fresh look at the curricula see the children “taking ownership, What a seamless and exciting new way of and create an important collaboration becoming inspired and more learning about each between the specials and the core teach- interested in what they are continent year after ers alike. learning about.” The global year. The global committee consisted of interconnections students The program Kim Soscie (Chair and 5th grade Social are making without even culminated on March Studies coordinator), Lynn DeNatale realizing it clearly reflect the 28th as parents were (4th Grade), Fina Scibilia (Lower School school’s commitment to 21st able to visit each Spanish), Margaret Lindner (Lower century learning. classroom, sample School Art), Kate Madigan (Lower School It is not just through spe- ethnic food, play cul- Librarian), and Sara Alt (Lower School cific lessons, but also through tural games, and learn Music). “osmosis”: seeing a map about the customs every day and walking past and peoples of each Many of the members with whom I First grader Kallen Fenster plays the met could not contain their excitement exhibits in the lobby. Just to drums of the Caribbean on one of the region. In fifth grade, as they described the learning that has name a few of the projects the classroom’s four iPad stations. students educated fam- gone on as a result of this global thread. students worked on: creating ily and friends about From Early Childhood to fifth grade, Powerpoint presentations and travel Japanese etiquette, dressed in the saris each class studied the culture and people brochures; designing passports in Span- of India and demonstrated traditional of a different continent. ish; writing with pen pals, Skyping with Chinese games, like Nim. Fourth graders As a parent, it was a pleasure seeing some alums; working on community dazzled all with their sampling of such sincere, palpable enthusiasm among service projects; and making aboriginal- African dancing and in third grade, the teachers who are so invested in inspired art. students shared their knowledge of making this program possible. Many of Friends has sought to bring global Europe through a custom-made the committee members remarked that awareness into its curriculum and it Monopoly game. there is a cross-over effect between what is clear that this program has been an As our conversation concluded, the the students are learning about in their extraordinary success in helping to success and enthusiasm with which this core classes that transcends into their achieve that goal. As Soscie, the chair of program has been received will ensure specials. the committee, explained, “each grade that this type of global education is For example, one student made a is assigned to a particular continent to here to stay.

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AMANDA FISK/FRIENDS ACADEMY Director of Technology Ken Ambach plays guitar during a Music Therapy session. The universal language of music ... and rock ‘n’ roll! usic Therapy is an after- Mschool Community Service activity, which serves mentally dis- abled residents from a home spon- sored by St. Christopher-Ottilie of Glen Cove. Most Thursday after- noons, Raymond, Seth, Rob, and sometimes John come to campus to sing and play rock ‘n’ roll music with FA students, faculty, and staff. The group is led by Upper School students, sophomore Kabir Chabra and junior Kira Sanchez, and supervised by Ken Ambach, FA’s Director of Technology, and John Scardina, FA’s Quaker in Residence. They are frequently joined by staff members Adam Weber and Angelo Caval- lone, music teacher James Liverani, other Upper School students with an afternoon free, and the occasional dancer from FA’s Infant & Toddler Program. “What I love most about Music Therapy is that not only are you able to contribute to your community, you get to do it while you do what you love!” explains Kabir.

AMANDA FISK/FRIENDS ACADEMY

This winter’s fifth grade Invention Convention challenged students to create gadgets of simple machines and investigate how they allow us to do work using less effort. Students studied famous inventors, inventions that have succeeded and failed and evaluated the impact certain inventions have had on society. All inventions needed to include at least one simple machine. At top, Chase Diliberto demonstrates his Snow Ball Catapault, which employed Quaker-in-Residence John Scardina and a lever and wheel and axle. Middle, Matthew Storch explains his Guinea Pig sophomore Kabir Chabra Feeder and his series of pulleys. Bottom, Margaux Blau used a pulley to create a device to lower a turkey into a deep fryer.

The Meeting House | Winter/Spring 2012 14 The Arts

The Winter Musical: Guys & Dolls

amanda fisk/friends academy Senior Liam Collier as Nathan Detroit, leads the pack of gangsters on the streets of New York City. meet me at the corner (... of Broadway and Friends Academy...)

By Andrea Miller Director of Communications rom the big band horn blasts of “Runyonland’s” opening notes to Fthe catchy melody of “Fugue for Tinhorns” (“I got the horse right here .. his name is Paul Revere...”), to the high-kicking, twirling first full-cast ensemble, it was clear that this version of Damon Runyon’s “Guys and Dolls” was going to be quality – Broadway quality. It’s New York City, circa 1920s – a time filled with gangsters, hustling, gamblers and, oh yes, dolls. In this case, two dolls: Top, senior Courtney Naughton, who plays Adelaide, showgirl Adelaide (senior Courtney Nathan Detroit’s girlfriend, Naughton) and Mission Volunteer Sergeant is surrounded by her entourage Sarah Brown (junior Kira Sanchez). of Hot Box Girls. The professional sets – from a bustling Right, senior Devin Gerzof as NYC street corner, to the night club where gangster Sky Masterson, tries the Hot Box Girls and Adelaide perform to woo Mission Volunteer Sarah Brown, junior Kira Sanchez. nightly, to the tropical courtyard of

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Havana, Cuba – bring to life this story of Winter Concerts 2011 love, money and a bet. Show stealers: All the top gamblers are in town and it’s Top, sophomores Sam Upper School Riese and Cissy Shi up to Nathan Detroit (senior Liam Collier) perform an elegant to find a suitable place to throw down dance duet. dice and set up the next round of “The Oldest Established Permanent Floating Crap Game in New York.” Just $1,000 stands between Detroit and the venue. A gap that he bridges by offer- ing a one-of-a-kind bet to fellow gambler Sky Masterson (senior Devin Gerzof) – convince Sarah Middle School Brown, local Sergeant of the Volunteer Mission, to accompany him to Havana. The elevated 11-piece big band, conducted by FA Music teacher James Liverani, which hovered above the stage, follows the love stories of Detroit and Adelaide/Masterson and Sarah through saucy nightclub numbers, willowy ballads, Cuban tangos and a toe-tapping Lower School performance by gangster Nicely Nicely Johnson’s (senior Alan Gabay) in “Sit Down, You’re Rocking the Boat.” The choreography of FA Middle: Juniors Dance teacher Kimo Sibbett and Corey Sydney Menzin, Kira Sanchez and Olivia Pierno ’02, coupled with period costumes Youngwall as the designed by Middle School science teacher Mission Volunteers. Selina Collier and Arts Assistant Pia Bottom: Senior Alan Fleischmann add the finishing touches to Gabay as Nicely, Nicely, brings the cast this star-studded production. to its knees with his In the end girl gets boy, boy gets girl, rendition of “Don’t the local Save a Soul Mission (in danger of Rock the Boat.” The Upper School strings section of the Upper School Orchestra performs a selection. The Middle School chorus performs holiday songs for family and friends. Kindergart- being closed) is saved – after being used to ners sing the upbeat and amusing version of “Australian Jingle Bells,” in honor of the host the infamous crap game – and every- new Lower School Goes Global all-school theme this year. one eludes Police Lieutenant Brannigan (FA Athletic Director David Gatoux).

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Friends in the 40s and 50s... The closest thing to home Margaret Whitney Shiels, ’52 collected stories of life at Friends Academy from alumni, who attended Friends in the 30s, 40s and 50s. What follows is a collection of priceless memories. As Ward Burian ’54 states in his contribution, “There was a fire there that sparked many of us, and I have often wondered if it was lighted by the dedicated faculty, an unusual number of gifted students or perhaps the post-war environment. In fact, it was probably all of these things together with the sense of kindness and civility fostered by the Quaker spirit.”

Edited by Margaret Whitney Shiels, ‘52

he first letters I received from Friends Academy Alumni from the 30s, 40s and 50s were boarding students. I remember hearing moreT than once from my boarding classmates of 1952, “We were family.” I was a day student and realized early on that the “boarders” and day students enjoyed totally different cultures. During reunions it became very apparent as we toured what used to be dormitories the close relationships that the boarding students shared with each other.

Walt Wilson ’34, Day Student “The school week, Monday through Friday, commenced with the entire student and faculty body meeting in the main building at 9 a.m. The headmaster presided starting with prayers, The Friends Academy entrance board sign in January 1947. a hymn, school announcements, short current events and closing with singing an operatic selection. The Lower School students were dismissed to

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Friends in the 40s and 50s: The Closest Thing to Home their classrooms and Upper School students and finished dental school. My brothers, remained in the study hall where they kept sadly all gone now, loved Friends Academy, their books, etc., meeting subsequently in as did I. A few years ago my brother David separate rooms on the various topics they asked if we could visit the school together. were studying. Even then it was pretty We were surprised that the little old place crowded and expansion plans were made we knew and loved had the ivy covered soon thereafter. The classes were conducted walls but had grown considerably, and with a certain decorum and were reason- worse, had no boarders! The old boarding ably courteous and quiet. Although not school had been such a family home to overly strict, we were aware that little non- FA Baseball team: Unidentified boy, Michael Craig us all. sense would be tolerated. I think the class ’50, Roger Young ’50, unidentified boy, Marc Lust ’49, How we ended up in going to Friends: In sizes varied, but 10 to 15 comes to mind. It Henry Fernandez ’48, unidentified boy in dark jacket, 1929, my mother was a widow with four seems to me that the strongest part of our unidentified boy,A rvid Strom ’48, Edwin Esval ’49, small boys in Venezuela. In those days, unidentified boy. education imparted at FA was the strong women of “good families” did not work, impression that music and literature made while he dropped a pellet of pure sodium but she had five mouths to feed and had to on our lives – at least it did to me. I can re- into a beaker of water to earn a living. She moved member selections from books and songs as see if it might create a to New York in 1936. well as characters in history and literature violent action. I heard that FA was a village Working full time and – although as I must say, my memory is not he had been successful! with four boys she had to as acute as it used to be. One night as I was in every sense put us in boarding school. My dad was the chauffeur for J.P. Mor- sitting on the outside of Hilary Clinton’s In 1936 she advertised for gan’s granddaughter’s family. I grew up on window sill on the second “It takes a village.” a summer camp to send the Pennoyer estate and I played the usual floor, we had a night the older ones to. That sports – baseball and football on Long visitor...a barred owl. being the Depression era, Island. Not sure how the family picked Mr. Stubbs stood out as a number of summer camps responded. Friends, but I was able to walk to school. I our math teacher. The English teacher, a Directors came calling. The one mom liked remember Miss Goodwin (1st grade) and quiet man, had just returned from military best was a Mr. Sherman, who was a teacher Mr. Birney. I don’t specifically recall the service. I believe his name was Mr. Grenner. at a small L.I. boarding school during the Quaker Spirit in daily life but it was a The “Mikado” directed by energetic Mrs. school year. I am still convinced that my wonderful experience and an outstanding Milyko had several memorable partici- dad, looking down on his little family, had education.” pants, including her daughter, Florence Mi- something to do with Mr. Sherman’s visit. lyko. I must mention my second roommate, I fondly recall mealtimes in the Dining Fred Laing ’46, Boarding Student Dr. Gonzalo Ignatius Pardo, a great friend Hall. We were assigned on a rotating basis enry Palau and I set up an evening with a huge sense of humor.” to tables of 8-10 people, overseen by an “Hsandwich operation from our sec- Fred grew up in Amityville, served in the in-house “master.” The tables were always ond floor dorm room which we called “The military in Korea and was a biology teacher. covered with crisp white linen table cloths, Passionate Pickle.” Ira Vail had a Model T Fred is also the FIRST person EVER to complete with crisp white napkins. Seating Ford and he gave some of recognize that my e-mail address is from Walt included the master’s wife and children, us a ride in it, showing us Whitman’s Indian word for Long Island, Continued on page 18 how complicated the gears Paumanok. were in order to drive it. I am sorry to say that we have Dr. Gonzalo (Gonzy) Pardo ’47, lost Ira. Boarding Student “Sleepless” was the night am the fourth of four brothers to security person, one of whose duties was “Iattend Friends; Ricardo, David, Oscar that of reducing student raids into the and me. I attended from kitchen at night. Mr. Nomer was the head- 1943-47. My wife of 59 master. years and I live in Shoreham, Mrs. Kennedy, our faithful chemistry NY, which puts us on eastern teacher, had a son with a lively sense of mis- Paumanok. We settled here A corner of a boy’s dormitory room, 1947-48. chief. He was alleged to have everyone duck after my service in the army

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Continued from page 17 Dan Hornbostel ’52, Boarding Student if any. A student was assigned on a rotat- ive years ago, Dan Hornbostel, now ing basis to “wait” the table. If anything Fdeceased, sent me his memories of being a whispered “family” in my mind, it was boarding student at FA. mealtime memories. “I’ll start with Mr. Springsteed. He So often, mixing pre-pubescent genders supervised wood shop. He allowed me to can be a potential for inappropriate social design and build a cross bow…a real one! behavior. At F.A., however, trust for the It worked. He could have squelched it. He student body was given. Students were helped us build a coffin for our Halloween treated as responsible adults and responded party. Skeeter Dill, my room- in kind. What, I wondered, made discipline Christmas Party in the common room, 1948 (left to mate, and Barry Downes a non-issue at F.A.? After all, kids are kids. right): Margaret Hiatt ’51, Father Christmas, probably and I carried it around to It came to me: F.A. was a “Village,” in every Mr. Wesley Callender (teacher of history & physical the girl’s gym floor. On cue, sense of Hilary Clinton’s “It Takes a Vil- education); front row: unidentified lady with hat, I’d sit up from within. We lage”: Across-the-board mutual respect of Barbara Van Vranken ’51, Marc Lust ’49; back row: Gay Brinckerhoff ’49, Louise Hallock ’49, unidentified won the prize. Mr. Spring- the inhabitants for one another, a sensible boy, Laurie Buhrer ’51, Miss Jean Brymesser (teacher steed taught me drafting communal standard for social behavior of music), not identified, Margot Berdanier, Harry and perspective. Years later these skills unobtrusively reinforced during daily Dill. became a real plus. Above the shop was the communal interactions. Perhaps, foremost, was did a great job. music room and Miss Brymesser who was the mutual caring that converts a gaggle My favorite memory is waking up early to become Mrs. Stubbs. The time we spent of individuals into a vibrant, functioning, on the last day of class before the Christmas listening to classical music was a no-stress community. Perhaps this is FA’s greatest Holiday to hear seniors (boys and girls) pa- experience – the drama and excitement of gift!” rading through the dorms singing Christ- Brahms and Beethoven. The Russians have mas carols. When I got to do that, I felt like been an escaping relaxing technique for Bob Burian ’52, Boarding Student I was really participating in preserving a me ever since. Let me pay respects to Mr. always liked the square dances held at long-held FA tradition. and Mrs. Wilt. Mrs. Wilt always presented “Ithe beginning of each school year. It For most of my time at Friends, the an- us with a summer reading list. I must was a great way to introduce new students nual Faculty-Varsity field hockey match attribute my library of dusty books to her into the social fabric of FA. You kept meet- was observational entertainment for me. I enormous diverse knowledge of so many ing new people by switching can remember the girls singing, ‘Faculty, classics. Mr. Wilt, a somewhat intimidat- partners. You didn’t even the Varsity is after you today. Our advice ing teacher, led me through Augustus and have to know how to dance. is to get on your knees and pray.’ And then Julius Caesar. I must pay tribute to Mr. Wilt The “caller” gave everyone there was ‘Sleepless’ the night watchman in for his treatment of me after our senior instructions. Also the Hal- the goal. He made an amazing stop of the Latin finals. If one knows a few key words, loween Tunnel under the ball just before it entered the goal. Only in the translation is pretty much constructed, old gym. Never too scary but my last year did we guys accept the girls’ given a few verbs. I got one key word wrong. only the brave dared enter. I never knew challenge to actually play this game. It cer- I thought I had nailed the exam. He invited who decorated the tunnel but whoever it tainly gave me a new perspective. Ouch!” me over to his home a few days later and

Friends in Flames

Putting out the fire in the sheds at FriendsA cademy.

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Friends in the 40s and 50s: The Closest Thing to Home asked me what my ambitions were. I told Bob Wilkinson ‘52, him I planned to be an engineer. Boarding Student When I received my grades, I saw that I y funniest study hall memory is had passed Latin. I learned later I should “Mthe day an English exam was be- have failed that exam. Maybe Mr. Wilt ing given to several forms in the study hall. had figured that something else was more Mrs. Wilt was in charge. She gave instruc- important. And last I pay tribute to our tions and asked if there were headmaster, Mr. Hiatt. He honored me at a any questions. Hands went football awards banquet in our senior year. up. Mrs. Wilt answered one After receiving a concussion early in the or two, then she noticed a football season, Dr. Galbraith, school physi- boy named Duncan Sterling cian and parent, said, “No more football for waving his hand. She walked you.” Mr. Roper, the coach had had a super down the aisle and really season. I stood in the hallway during the slapped him hard. The complete room dinner and Mr. Hiatt saw me peeking out. gasped, then went quiet, wondering what He said that I had put in many years play- was going on. It turned out that the boy had ing for FA. Parents stood and applauded. cribbed answers on the palm of his hand. It was the greatest award of my life. Every Sixty years ago, and I can still see the look time I watch “A Christmas Carol” on TV, I on both of their faces. After that there were think of Mr. Houghton reading it to us in no more questions.” the dorm. It was a wonderful prep for the Commencement, June 1947 (left to right): Marjorie Peterson ’47, Louise Ancrum ’47 hidden behind Janet coming season. Bless him! Bless them all! as Forster ’47, Carol Hagen ’47, Horton Kennedy ’47 Wendy Buehr Murphy ‘52, Tiny Tim would say.” (with glasses), Gonzalo Pardo ’47 (hidden behind Boarding Student Carol Hagen). have a welter of FA recollections Heather MacDonald Poetzsch ’52, Fritz Schreiber ’52, Day Student “Ithanks to being a boarder from 1949 Day Student his story does not qualify for the to 1951 (Fifth Form). These have so many memories but do “Thigher academic category, but I viv- were happy years. I loved “Iremember how mortified I was when idly remember an incident that happened being away from home, Billy Willis put a rose in my inkwell in the in 7th period study hall. All of a sudden making good friends and 6th grade. I don’t remember who it was there was a tremendous commotion in the finding the school wonder- that landed a small airplane back of the study hall when fully peculiar in its ways. on the tennis courts when we one student (Karl Kamphau- Seating at meals put me were in high school. I always sen) leaped out of his study at the Wilts’ table and I remember being loved it when my parents desk knocking it over and scolded for passing dishes across the table went away and my sister and shortly thereafter there was instead of around the table. Carolee Curtis I boarded for a couple of a loud bang where the desk was my first roommate and we had a love/ weeks a year. Just going into had been. Karl had ignited Continued on page 20 the dorm rooms was fun. Guess I wanted to a firecracker which he was going to throw be a boarder at heart. I vividly remember out the window, but instead it dropped in in third grade when my desk and I were his lap and subsequently on the floor where put out into the hall as punishment (when it exploded. The study hall monitor, Mr. I stood up when we were told to sit down) Stockton, who was of the small intellectual – most embarrassing because I was in full sort, stood up behind the lectern, looked view of parents, teachers, and students at Karl through his glasses with sorrowful passing by. Connie Miller will certainly eyes and said, “Karl, why did you do this to remember when she and I had our desks me?” Karl was then invited to report to the placed on either side of Mrs. Wilt in Eng- headmaster, Mr. Hiatt, who was downstairs lish class because we had committed some standing in front of his office door. His crime. (I don’t remember what we did.)” greeting statement was, “I wondered how Frieda Carroll ’50 sits on the shoulder of Marc Lust long it would take before someone ap- ’49 with Gay Brinckerhoff ’49 seen through Frieda’s peared down here.” right arm.

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Continued from page 19 much fun. We were surprised when she was $2.50 and lunch $1.25. I was very announced that she was leaving to get sad to leave Friends, but my parents now married. We threw her some kind of party had a nice house in CT, where there were on our floor. My last year I lived up on the good public schools. Just before the end of third floor with Terry Larson. Ours was a my 5th Form year, I was one of those who huge room with one window that looked dared to chance everything and sneak out out on the back courtyard and the boys’ late at night to the estate next to campus dorm. Our closet was large enough to live after Sleepless had made his rounds. About in. I never missed a boxing match on the ra- 6-8 kids showed up to swim in the pool. We dio when Joe Lewis was fighting. I’d set up all snuck back, hoping to enter via the door my radio in the closet feeling wonderfully at the base of the tower, which had been wicked. I have to say how much it meant to left ajar. But Sleepless was waiting for us me to enjoy the hospitality of Terry Larson and caught two girls. I somehow managed Carl Kamphausen ’49, football center, and Marc Lust and her family in Douglaston. The living to elude him. Two days later I was nursing ’49, quarterback in 1948 room was lined with a fabulous collection a terrible cold and at the dining table the of Civil War books. The Larsons hailed teacher said simply while looking straight hate relationship because we came from from Alabama. Terry and her mother at me, ‘Confucius say that girl who swims such different worlds. I was the scholarship played dual pianos. The house was very old late at night catch bad cold.’ Nothing more child of two artists with deep roots in rural and had been a stop on the Underground was said, but I knew I had been outed.” Westchester as well as Manhattan, and she Railroad moving escaped slaves north. I was the only child of a certainly loved my messy Theresa Larson Scheetz ’52, widowed business woman artistic family with their Boarding Student from Great Neck. In junior year, those many divorces and trau- he project of compiling memories The old girls’ gym was of us who sat in the mas, but the Larsons rep- “Tof the 40s and 50s is wonderful. terrible. It was like playing resented a world of orderly Those were such great years and the tales sports in the bottom of back row of Mr. relationships and stability are bound to be hysterical an old swimming pool. Stubbs’ geometry without shouting and as well as historical! Lots of I learned to work the class were dubbed worries. Who couldn’t funny times like setting the school’s switchboard and the “Goldbrick envy that? Down the hall alarms clocks off in night began working in the Society,’ but I don’t was very sophisticated Jill study hall, which Mr. Cal- kitchen and waiting tables believe we had a Hindle who had grown up lender was proctoring – it in 4th Form. One of my in Greenwich Village and nearly drove the poor man jobs was to feed old lettuce secret handshake.” knew everything about mad and was done more than once. In to the science lab rats and the world of artists and junior year those of us who sat in the back mice. Social Studies teach- film personalities. Her row of Mr. Stubbs’ geometry class were er, Mr. Callender, also supervised study father was the well known photographer, dubbed the “Goldbrick Society,” much hall. One night someone tied a string to his Len Lyon. clever ribbing by Mr. Stubbs, but I don’t chair and the flag pole. When he pulled out Bill Hicks was my first date, ever. Our believe we had a secret handshake. The his chair to sit, the flag fell down. wonderful French teacher, Mrs. Gordon, all-time escape occurred one spring night In the dorm, the boys used a blow torch whose class I sat in for three years fas- when several beds were stuffed and a small on the doorknob when Mr. Callender was cinated me with her accent which was contingent snuck out of the dorms over to coming to catch them out of bed after pure Missouri. She also had remarkable the next-door estate, Cherrywood.” lights out. He had a habit of very slowly legs – sturdy and straight as furniture. I closing his hand around the knob. The remember listening to the radio in the boys made a ruckus to draw him out. Not Common Room when General McArthur sure how it turned out. There was great delivered his “Old Soldiers Never Die” excitement when a much requested washer speech. I remember those class trips to the and dryer arrived in the girls’ dorm. I think NYC Theater and seeing Bob Wilkinson it only worked half of the time. with his hair dyed orange in “Life with Miss Ruff was our dorm monitor and Father” and also “Darkness at Noon.” At math teacher. She was very strict and not Champlain Restaurant, a 3-course dinner Mr. Albert Bird in 1947 and James Hursh ’49

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Hill in Farci so she would know where he was. Everything was rationed. To this day, if I take more than one paper towel in a rest room, I feel a pang of guilt. There was no butter either at home or at school. Coupons were needed for certain goods. The papers were full of the local butcher being arrested for black market meat. Having raised three children and driving what seemed like a Hanging out in Study Hall for Saturday Movies, 1947. million miles in car pools, I look back and Front row: John Ball ’48, John Hull Jr. ’48 realize that my mother never drove in a (smiling), Addison Yeaman Jr. ’49 (with glasses). car pool. I rode the bus until I graduated. Second row: Jane Hindle ’48, Philip Martell Jr. ’49 (partially hidden behind Yeaman), John Hanford ’49 There was no whining. You accepted it. (seated on desk), Nancy Patty ’51 (seated at rear One admonition I heard over and over at left), Joan Starbuck ’49 at rear standing on left), school was: “Everything you do reflects on Anita Kappner ’49 (at rear standing, but blurred). yourself, your family, your school and your them in the Lower School Press. It was a community.” I taught that to my children mimeographed literary newspaper for all and grandchildren. There was a caring, grades. (I found a copy of it in a box not loving, but disciplined environment at long ago.) Every day after lunch, we took a Friends. I did not see prejudice while in the nap. In the basement there was a little nook school day. It was a tolerant atmosphere. where there were individual cubby holes We had children of every faith and from Joan Watson ’51 and John John Johnston ’50 where we each kept a blanket. Cots were set other countries. In the Upper School, my up in the big basement room and we rested. boyfriend was Catholic and my best friend Margaret Whitney Shiels ’52, Miss Rohm taught “Physical Expression” from 3rd grade, until she died in 2008, was Day Student or some such thing that Jewish. Going to Meeting came to Friends in 1941 as a 2nd grader was Dalcroze. We had once a week did not offend in the Lower School, which was then, I special shoes to dance in I anyone. How can you be believe, where the Middle School is now. I think everyone her classes. I remember offended by meditating si- My memories are influenced by World felt safe and valued she had us listen to music lently? So much teaching War II. My father was a at Friends. The fact like Peter and the Wolf, was through experiential pilot flying “The Hump” that for over 200 and then we would pre- learning. When we studied in China, Burma and India. tend we were the cat or the the Middle Ages, we went years the Quakers The only communication wolf. Since we were near to NYC to the museum. had believed in equal was through V Mail. Many NYC, there were constant When we studied Egypt, times the censor had black education and respect air raid drills both at we not only went to the marks on these tissue thin for girls and women school and in our home museum but we made letters. Since my grandmother had lived in was taken for granted neighborhoods during the paper in the classroom and India as a child, my father sent her a letter until I entered the War. I learned later that ink like the Egyptians. The where he recited Jack and Jill went up the German submarines had Lower School head mis- “real world.” actually landed on the tress was Mrs. Peggy Giles. beaches of Long Island. She was a disciplinarian, I know that there were but always fair. Her daughter, Deirdre was patrols on every beach, so I don’t know how a playmate of mine in Locust Valley, where that happened. I lived with my Grandmother White until I think everyone felt safe and valued at I was 10 and we moved to Oyster Bay. Our Friends. The fact that for over 200 years the 3rd grade teacher, Mrs. Houghton, was Quakers had believed in equal education the wife of Victor Houghton who became and respect for girls and women was taken headmaster much later. She saw in me a shy for granted until I entered the “real world” child who liked to read and to write. She Three Lower Schoolers pose for the camera. encouraged my little poems and entered Continued on page 22

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he said, “This is no longer a holy book. From now on this is the history of a people.” So many times we wish we could say thank you to someone who had influenced our lives in a positive way. Some years ago I read in The Meeting House where someone in another class had located him and had printed his address. At last, I had a second chance. I wrote to Mr. Nicholson to tell him how he had enhanced my life and was Field Day 1947, left to right: Harry Dill ’52, Mr. H. so happy to receive a reply. I learned that Rogers Muse (boys’ physical education instructor), Friends had been his first teaching job. unidentified boy, runner at left unidentified, Colin MacLachlan ’47 (runner at right), Daniel Hornbostel He was still teaching religion even in the ’52 (spectator), unidentfied boy at right. retirement home. Friends Academy encouraged me to be Continued from page 21 Dance in March 1948: Suzanne Ray ’49 and Theodore the person I was to become. At school we Mauss ’50. and found that not everyone felt that heard, “Give service, give service.” I have way. At Friends, girls always took part in always given service to my community, Those boarders included my classmates competitive sports. No wonder my grand- my schools, colleges and my children’s Bob Stearns, Ward Burian, Jamie Reid, mother Whitney said to my husband to involvements like serving on the boards of Gene Depolo, plus Dick Henderson, Al be, “My, but you are a brave man.” When Boy Scouts, Camp Fire, YMCA and being Garib, Herb Cares and Bruce Whitely. I went to college in Virginia, I found girls President of the PTA. I am class secretary Many times, my driver and usual com- who had never played a sport; had never for both my college and my FA class. Here panion, Tiny Dickerson, and I would take written a research paper and had not taken in retirement in Kaufman, a town of 6,400, orders for pizza deliveries after hours and SATs or Achievement tests. When I moved an hour southeast of Dallas, I started a bring them back to the parking lot at the to Texas, I found that girls were taking Book and Author Luncheon to benefit the back of the boys’ dorm. The boys had a Home Economics and macramé instead of library. We just had our 11th and have sold lookout watching for our arrival and the math and science; I was horrified. Two of as many as 200 tickets to people as far west ordering parties would drop a rope with my children went to Trinity Valley School. as Fort Worth, Dallas and all around east belts or whatever to attach to the pizza box It was so similar to Friends, boasting a clas- Texas. so that it would remain horizontal while sical education. I served on its Board Thank you Friends Academy! going up. Money for the pizzas would then of Trustees. be lowered to us. Mssrs. Stubbs and Payne At Friends we learned that it is a big Donn Andre ‘54, Faculty Student both had rooms on that side of the dorm world out there. There are many cultures hen I noted that you were but never let on that they knew of our and traditions. In Lower School we learned “Wcompiling memories of Friends escapades. (I think Mr. Payne had a slice the music of other countries from the from the 40s and 50s, the first was of our now and then.)” Mexican Hat Dance to French Christmas beloved pizza joint, Stango’s, carols. which I believe is still Ward Burian ’54, Boarding Student My favorite teacher was Mrs. Olive Wilt, operating. Mine was of the will always remember Friends my English teacher in 7th and 8th grade boarding student’s era but I “IAcademy with the same kind of fond and again in 11th and 12th. I adored her. had the “enviable” position memories that one has of their family and She influenced my decision to major in of being a faculty child and the home where they grew English in college. She encouraged my living on campus, but with up. Indeed, as a boarding writing and encouraged me in all things. my parents instead of in a dorm. So, I had student from 1949-1954, How grateful I am to her. We corresponded a lot of freedoms – like going out at night Friends was my home and until she died in a Quaker retirement in my car or with someone who had one the faculty was my extended home in PA. Mr. John Nicholson taught and could drive at night, or having a steady family. Whenever I think religion. He arrived after being a conscien- girlfriend nearby. One of our favorite back to those years, I am tious objector during the War. His was the things to do was to go to Stango’s in the engulfed with nostalgia partly because of best religion course I ever took. On the first evening after football games. The boarders how time miraculously enhances good day of class, in which we all had our Bibles, were very jealous of our hours and wheels. experiences but mostly because I was

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defeated football team of 1951 or the undefeated basketball team of 1954? Or the Halloween gauntlet in the musty tunnel, sledding at night on the front lawn down to Duck Pond Road. The pranks in study hall, the Christmas Carol Concert and the seniors singing carols through the dorms at 6 a.m. The Common Room, the sneaks to Glen Cove for pizza or to Bayville Beach on warm weekends in May and June. The water fights in the boys’ dorm, the cheer- Mr. and Mrs. Merrill Hiatt, headmaster 1947 leaders, the Candy Store in the rec room, waiting on tables in the dining room, that of one passing away I feel as though I have had table cloths and was decorated with lost a part of my family. Jim Stockton’s sports murals. The 1940s and 1950s were truly the Of course, there was ‘mystery meat,’ Golden Years. It was a very small school which appeared like clockwork for (35 in a class), with limited facilities and Wednesday night dinner. The wakeup bell yet it excelled in academics, sports, and ex- at 7:15 a.m., the girls sunbathing on the tracurricular activities. When I compared roof, the proms and victory dances. Oliver secondary schools with my Dartmouth Arvid Strom ’48 in football uniform in 1948. Jones, the best teacher I classmates, I always came ever had and George and away knowing how lucky truly happy there and able to realize my Jean Stubbs, Headmaster In the words I was to have been at abilities. I know that this is not a fantasy Merrill Hiatt and his fam- Friends. Although it was because my brother, Bob ’52, and I share of our Alma Mater, ily (especially Jean), Victor not easy to transition the same feelings and we are fortunate to “We will ever prove Houghton and family, the from a small coed school have lived there during the Golden Years most loyal to thy Andre family, Henry and to a large men’s college of our dear old FA. It is hard to believe that Olive Wilt, Ed Paine, Lou memory.” I was academically pre- the 125th anniversary is at hand and that Roper, Rod Pellett, John pared. I know it is quite 50 years have passed since we celebrated and Bertha May Nicholson different now as it was the 75th with pageants, parades, costumes and Henry Greene who ate an earthworm when my daughter Jennifer graduated in and games. Just the thought of this ages me to raise $1 for the French Committee. The 1983. In many ways, it is probably a better a bit even though I still think of myself faculty lived in “genteel poverty,” but were school with so many excellent facilities. as young. The years at FA were magical all devoted to our fulfillment. We owe When I started the Alumni Association for me. Whether it was earning 12 varsity them our gratitude and every time I hear in 1964, there was no endowment and the letters, singing in the glee club, or head- school faced a very uncertain future. Our ing student council. There was a fire there first Annual Giving raised but a few thou- that sparked many of us, and I have often sand dollars. There was no Meeting House wondered if it was lighted by the dedi- magazine, and we had no class secretaries. cated faculty, an unusual number of gifted What an evolution! Yet, when we think students or perhaps the post war environ- back to that Golden Era and the Age of ment. In fact, it was probably all of these Innocence we shared, I am grateful. In the things together with the sense of kindness words of our Alma Mater, “We will ever and civility fostered by the Quaker spirit. prove most loyal to thy memory.” Although only a handful of the faculty or student body was Quaker, I can’t help but Friends Academy is grateful for the generous believe that the simplicity and fundamen- donation of over 150 captioned archival and tal goodness of that faith was always pres- Eight-person pyramid, bottom row, left to right: mostly unpublished photos that we received ent and exerted an influence on our daily Frieda Carroll ’50, Anita Kappner ’49, John Hanford from a donor, who wishes to remain anony- lives even though we were not aware of it. ’49, unidentified girl; middle row, left to right: Gay Brinckerhoff ’49, Suzanne Didier ’50, Sally Moffet ’50; mous. A selection of the collection was used for As for memories, who can forget the un- top: James Stockton ’50. the cover montage and within this compilation.

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academy MIKE DAMM, AL QUACKENBUSH, DAVID GATOUX/friends

This was a season of firsts, from the ice to the track and everywhere in between. Personal bests and school records broken; plus, building for the future. Take a look back at the 2012 Winter Sports season.

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FA 2012 Winter Sports Varsity Girls Track conference champ individual awards ALL-COUNTY – Shekinah Pettway (All class), Candace Taylor (Class b and all class), Lydia Graham (class b), Kelsey Margey (class b, all class), Sunny Lostritto (class b), Molly Sullivan (class b), kaTrina Garry (class b) ALL-CONFERENCE – Shekinah Pettway, Candace Taylor, Lydia Graham, Katherine Hom, Kelsey Margey, Sunny Lostritto, Molly Sullivan, kaTrina Garry, Rob Adams school awards 4 x 200m Relay – Shekinah Pettway, Candace Taylor, Lydia Graham, Katherine Hom 4 x 400m Relay – Candace Taylor, Lydia Graham, Molly Sullivan, Kelsey Margey 4 x 800m Relay – Kelsey Margey, Molly Sullivan, Sunny Lostritto, KATrina Garry 600m, 800m, 1000m, 1500m – Kelsey The Girls Winter Track team captured the Conference VI Championship title. Margey

Varsity Track & Field: Season of Records and Medals state qualifiers or the Varsity Track and Field team, this winter season was one 1500m – Kelsey Margey filled with great accomplishments. The athletes’ evident determi- Section VIII Distance Medley – Candace Taylor nation and unparalleled enthusiasm from the first day of practice 55m – Shekinah Pettway set the stage for this amazing season, filled with countless person- Fal records, school records, and medals. Although the team performed well throughout the first few meets, the season truly took off at the Hispanic 2012 ROSTER: Robert Adams, Christos Aniftos, Games, one of the largest meets of the area at which over 250 schools from Catherine Bechand, Michael Bernardini, Patrick Crowley, Ian D’Silva, Katrina Garry, Charlotte the northeast compete. During this meet several Friends Gelfand, Simran Ghool, Lydia Graham, Harmony athletes medaled both in individual events and relays. The Grodsky, Anthony Guevara, Ian Hom, Katherine athletes continued to work hard for the following few meets Hom, Zachary Kriesberg, Jordan Leeds, Domenica Lostritto, Glenn Lostritto, Bolade Majekodunmi II, and arrived at the Conference Championship Meet prepared Kelsey Margey, Sahil Massand, Carolina Mocorrea, to compete. Nicholas Moretto, John O’Brien, Joseph Paniccia, Coach Franklin Although injury unfortunately left the boy’s team with Steven Petrocelli, Shekinah Pettway, Casey Rosen, Thompson was only a few healthy competitors, the team placed 7th in the Evan Sayre, Jake Silverman, Maureen Sullivan, selected as Candace Taylor, Chretien Teitelbaum, Aidan Conference 6 conference. The girl’s team, however, arrived ready to run and Vascotto and Jonathan Weinberg. Coach of the captured the Conference VI Championship title. Two weeks Year. later, the girl’s team placed 4th overall in the County Cham- pionship Meet. The strong performances at this meet qualified the team for the state qualifier, for which three FA runners placed. “We are so excited as a team about this achievement,” said Assistant Coach Lauren Carballo. “But what is really great is that we have such an extremely young team,” she added. “This is a team with a lot of heart and spirit.” The Meeting House | Winter/Spring 2012 26 Sports: Go FA!

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Lindsay O’Sullivan goes for a basket between two defenders.

AL QUACKENBUSH/ friends academy

Senior Gabrielle Rechler gets the crowd going. Varsity Girls Cheerleading: An Excited Crowd at Season’s End he 2011-2012 Varsity Cheerlead- Ting season was exciting, rewarding, and challenging all at the same. The team started off low in numbers but by season’s end, became mighty in size. This season the team featured nine girls on the squad. Although the squad started slowly in their first game, they improved in leaps and bounds by the last game, especially as far as leading the crowd and creating a spirited atmosphere, where everyone had smiles on their faces and enjoyed the games. “Great appreciation is owed to the captains, who were responsible for inform- ing the rest of the team about schedule 1st County Championship since 2007 updates and making sure everyone was on the same page,” said Coach Jessica Spina. Varsity Girls Basketball: Southhold High School in the Long Island According to Coach Spina, the remain- Youthful Team Retires Championship. ing seniors were also a great help in Just One Senior 2012 ROSTER: Jessica Babicz, Jeanne Budd, Julia setting a positive example for the younger Ciardullo, Jalisa Clark, Kayla Guerin, Kasey Katz, Kristina Kim, Rose Mangiarotti, Taylor McGowan, members of the team. Through injuries, he 2011-2012 Girls Varsity Basket- ball season finished strong after a Madeline O’Brien, Lindsay O’Sullivan, Danielle which brought their numbers down to 7 T Ramsay, Catherine Sullivan and Marissa Tidona. by season’s end, the younger members of season of drastic improvement. With many the team really shone as well. “Challeng- new faces as well as a new coaching staff, ing, but rewarding,” recalled Coach Spina. expectations were high as the girls moved individual awards “Seeing our performance at the end of the towards the Long Island Championship. “The team understands that we play for the season I know the girls were very proud of ALL-CONFERENCE – Lindsay name on the front of the jersey, not the one themselves and I feel that is very Reward- o’sullivan (game mvp in the ing as their coach.” on the back,” said Coach Ryan Schneider. county championship) Led by the uncanny leadership of lone ALL-CLASS – kristina kim, rose 2012 ROSTER: Kathryn Bauer, Sarah Chartash, senior Jalisa Clark, Friends beat rival East Grace Covelli, Paulina Gordon, Nicole Katz, mangiarotti Michelle Quick, Taylor Quinland, Gabrielle Rechler Rockaway for the County Championship and Cori Rooney. at CW Post. The team ultimately lost to

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FA 2012 Winter Sports Varsity Boys Basketball: Public School Champions he Boys Varsity Basketball Team con- Tcluded its season with a tough loss to East Rockaway High School in the county finals. The team finished with an overall 13-5 record. A successful regular season was concluded with three straight wins, two of which avenged earlier defeats. The strong finish enabled the Quakers to ac- complish what only three previous teams have done at Friends; that is win a Public School Conference Championship. FA’s 11-3 conference record was good enough to share the conference title with Malverne. Bennett Felder was named to the All-Conference Team and both Kellan Sehring and Marc Godlis were named All-County. “This is a very young team that learned many things as the season progressed,” said Coach Steve Hefele. “The commitment to team goals and the sacrifices that we make for each other are The Boys Varsity Basketball team finished with a strong 13-5 overall record and 11-3 conference record. extremely important as are all the little things that go into making us a complete butions from our younger players from Kucich, Matthew Kuczmarski, Tyrone Perkins, player and team. We will miss all our se- both the varsity and a very strong JV team Jonathan Ramsay, Eli Rousso, William Sands, for next season,” said Coach Hefele. Kellan Sehring, Tyler Sehring, David Sher, Dwayne niors next season and thank them for their Taylor, Jonathan Nierenberg. Managers: Rebecca hard work, dedication, and leadership. We 2012 ROSTER: Andrew Bauer, Drew Chartash, Broxmeyer, Sierra Linder, Alix Liss, Alana Stein and are already looking forward to the contri- Bennett Felder, John Forlines, Marc Godlis, Alek Nina Vascotto.

JV Boys Basketball: Growth and Maturity Helps Lead to 14-4 Record he JV Boys basketball season this year ourselves in defense,” said Coach Matt Tcan be summed up into three words, Simeone. “Working hard on the boards “character and hard work.” This season and the defensive side of the ball won us a the boys finished with a 14-4 record, lot of games this season,” he added. which was one more win than last season. According to Coach Matt Simeone, The team finished with a league record of every night a different player made a big 12-2. Much of their success this year had play and contributed to the team, both in to do with the growth of their players from victory and defeat. “I am very proud of last year and how they matured on the all the hard work the boys put into this court. The addition of incoming athletes season. We had a lot of fun and I wish added their own character to the team. the boys the best in their spring seasons,” With the combination of the two, it all finished Coach Simeone. blended into one great team. 2012 ROSTER: Nicholas Chapman, Jordan From the first day of the season the team Christian, Julian Christian, Matthew Feinstein, was instilled with the passion to work Thomas Frey, Cyrus Holder, Joseph Moodhe, Griffin MIKE DAMM/friends academy Nesfield, Jonathan Nierenberg, Gregory Petrossian, Freshman Thomas Frey drives to the basket against a hard. They were told that hard work will Brandon Rosenbaum, Jordan Schuss. Managers: defender. get them a long way. “As a team we prided Jamisen Beechler-Ernst and Natasha Makowsky.

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DAVID GATOUX/friends academy Friends Academy defenders race after the offense at a recent game.

MIKE DAMM/friends academy JV Ice Hockey: A Great Start After a 21-Year Layoff Freshman Danielle Kahn A hockey is back! After a 21-year JV Girls Basketball: Flayoff, FA skated its first hockey team this winter. Under our unique set of Despite Injuries, circumstances, the team enjoyed a success- Team Stays Positive ful season. Understandably, the team had he Junior Varsity Girls’ Basketball its ups and downs, but both Coach Sven Tteam played a season full of Pamuk and Coach Craig Pinto are excited challenges. They started off looking strong for the future of the program. According by defeating Oyster Bay and Great Neck to Coach Pamuk, the team had a nice blend

North, but then faced a more challenging of youth and experience and will return all DAVID GATOUX/friends academy schedule to prepare the girls to transition players next year – except our “glue guy,” Freshman Jack Statfeld preparing for a game. into a higher level of playing. In senior Zack Westerman. mid-season, players were moved around to “We are excited for the future of the ship skills this season,” said Coach Pamuk. compensate for injuries. The girls program because this group of players The team had a 2-6 record on the cam- continued to be very positive and accepted showed heart and effort in games and in paign, earning their first victory against the responsibility of playing different practice,” said Coach Pamuk. “Our team Birch Wathen Lennox by a count of 6-2 at positions well. was hit by injuries and illness, posing an Iceworks. The 2011-2012 team showed great im- extra challenge to an already thin roster. “Coach Pinto and I experienced a special provement in their individual skills, team However, our guys persevered, and when, in year in building a program from the offense, and team defense. They finished most games we were skating a team with 9 ground up,” said Coach Pamuk. “We are the season with 4 wins and 12 losses, but or 10 skaters, heart and effort can be want- extremely fortunate to have such a great proved to be a very competitive team with ing,” Coach Pamuk added. group of kids who buy into the vision of a most of their games being very close. “I But not with this group. They battled, sustainable and successful hockey program am truly grateful to have worked with played hard, and refused to be out-com- at Friends. We look forward to next year!” such a wonderful and humorous group of peted by the opposition. “These are the 2012 ROSTER: Jason Baskind, Struan Coleman, ladies,” said Coach Cheryl Feldman. types of student-athletes a program needs Emilio Cuesta, Eric Friedlander, Perry Gordon, Harrison Graham, Adam Hartog, Timothy Ingrassia, 2012 ROSTER: Javana Clark, Riley Denihan, Kayla to grow – and we have them in abundance Connor Lavin, Joseph Macy, Jack Piuggi, Guerin, Jacqueline Korren, Rebecca Melman, Sarah here. No one embodies these qualities Jack Statfeld, Jack Viener, John Westermann, O’Kane, Katherine Pappas, Elana Pinto, Danielle more than our Captain, Joe Macy, and we Christopher White. Managers: Meghan Johansen Kahn and Danielle Ramsay. would like to recognize him for his leader- and Emily LeoGrande.

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JV Ice Hockey: A Year of Firsts

Celebrating the program’s first win in over 20 years. The team returned to the ice after a 21-year hiatus.

hen the new Friends Academy Upper School remained committed to furthering the process of building a ice hockey team took to the ice on January successful and sustainable hockey program here at Friends 25th in Syosset against Birch Wathen Lenox Academy. “Friends Academy can be proud of the character and School, they not only determination by which these student-ath- madeW the ice their own – they made his- letes represented our school in competition,” tory – winning their first game in 21 years. said Coach Pamuk in summing up the season. Friends skated an Upper School hockey Team managers included Meghan Johansen team for the first time this season since and Emily LeoGrande. 1991. An active Middle School program, Led by Junior Captain Joe Macy, the team reinstituted in 2008, served as a successful will return all but one player (Zack Wester- feeder program for this year’s team. mann) for next year’s season. Although the team finished the season Friends Academy ice hockey came full at 2-6, the team enjoyed many successes circle this season as freshman Jack Statfeld, and, according to Coach Sven Pamuk, has son of Brian Statfeld ’84, played defense on a solid foundation in place for upcoming The final score of the game against Birch this year’s team. Brian was a member of the seasons. Wathen Lenox School. 1984 team that won the Nassau County High “Our hockey team had a nice blend of School Hockey League Championship. youth and experience with varying degrees of skill, but played This tradition and legacy has only increased the enthusi- with high levels of effort and desire,” said Pamuk. asm for the future. “The program is being built to emulate the These qualities were essential for this year’s team; as the FA championship caliber teams of past Friends’ teams,” said Coach hockey team had only 14 players, requiring each member of the Pamuk. team to play heavy minutes on the ice. “We are fortunate to have a collection of passionate and com- The team faced further challenges of injury and illness, but mitted student-athletes who share the same vision,” he added.

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Former Faculty Notes Faculty Professional Development Liza Talusan-Vega and Jorge Vega are living in the Boston area with their three children, Joli (age 8), Upper School World Languages and Lower School third grade teacher Kara Jada (age 5) and Evan (age 2). Liza is the Director of Intercultural Affairs at Stonehill College and recently Cultures teacher Angie Martin has been Lewis ’86, helped spearhead and bring the started her doctoral program in education. She is also selected by SPARC, a two-year program new Lucy Caulkin’s Writer’s Workshop to singing again, and has joined the Boston-based band run by Friends Council. The SPARC “The Heartsleeves!” Jorge is the Director of Technol- Lower School classes. In ogy at the Sage School and is still busy with his comic program is based on the principles of addition to the current book writing. Liza sees Randall Phyall ‘04 because teacher formation from Parker Palmer’s 6+1 Traits of Writing they work in the same office, and she recently caught “Courage to Teach” work. a visit from Kathy Dineen and her son Kyle. Joli is program, Kara and Lower doing well and continues to be cancer-free, and she Teachers from Friends schools School Learning Specialist was recently adopted by the Tufts University Women’s are selected to take part in this Kim Gore attended the August Writers Soccer Team as an honorary teammate through an learning community, using organization called TeamIMPACT. Jada loves hip Institute at Teachers College Columbia hop and acting (she takes after Jorge!), and Evan loves collaborative inquiry and University and put together a framework terrorizing his big sisters. Thanks to the impact of reflective tools for self-directed profession- and curriculum modules for each grade Breakthrough Collaborative, Liza is focusing her al development. Together, over a two-year doctoral studies on making educational change for from Kindergarten through fifth grade. students at risk and has been working closely with a cycle, the group engages in restorative and After reviewing all of the units of study for non-profit called “Coaching for Change, Inc.” which inspiring explorations of the art and Primary, K-2 and Grades 3-5, they created seeks to create microenterprises for young people through athletics. calling of teaching in Friends school user-friendly handbooks for each class- communities, renewing the energy and room teacher. This curriculum allowed spirit of our work. SPARC is in its fifth teachers to present a more formalized cycle and 70 Friends school educators have program that will help create a participated in the program. According to community of writers. the program’s website, “sending schools report experiencing a ‘spiritual boost’ as Quaker-in-Residence John Scardina SPARC members return to share reflec- led a workshop entitled “Creating a tive tools with the faculty, emerging as Spiritual Autobiography” for the NYSAIS confident spiritual leaders in accreditation Religious Diversity Confer- processes, sharing clearness protocols as a ence in New York City on tool to connect with teenagers, co-leading Thursday, April 5. In it, John a school’s Quaker self-study process, and presented eight guide more. questions that would enable students to explore their own faith Upper School English teacher Gary traditions and share the diversity of their Schmidt was accepted as a presenter for spiritual journeys. a workshop at the NYSAIS (New York Middle School History teacher Phil State Association of Indepen- dent Schools) Teaching with Cicciari was accepted as a presenter for a Technology Conference. Gary workshop at the NYSAIS Teaching with shared the results of a pilot Technology Conference. On Matt and Melinda Bradley’s children Ellie (5th), James program he implemented at Feb. 22nd Phil and Middle (2nd) and William (PK) attend West Chester Friends Friends that not only taught Journalism School Principal Steve School. students the nuts and bolts of news Rubenacker delivered a pre- News from former Middle School teachers Matt reporting, but shifted their thinking from sentation about the 6th grade Bradley and Melinda Wenner Bradley: “Melinda is iPad pilot program to participating teach- working at her alma mater, Westtown School, serv- being consumers of news to producers ing as the sixth grade dean and teaching history and and curators of news. Each student was ers and administrators. Some had iPad Quakerism. She is also very active with religious edu- assigned to one or two beats to follow programs in their school and others were cation in Philadelphia Yearly Meeting. I am enjoying getting started with the process. A spirited my eleventh year as Head of School at West Chester throughout the semester, and students Friends School. All three of our children are at my used Twitter feeds and iPad technology to discussion and Q&A were the highlights of school: Ellie in 5th grade, James in 2nd, and William follow current events and create the workshop, as well as an overview of the in PK. I am having fun getting back into coaching, logistics involved and an explanation of which I haven’t done since leaving FA, now that James compelling, interactive news stories. is playing basketball at the Y. Ellie will graduate from apps that were used in teaching at Friends WCFS in June. While I will miss having her in my and classroom examples. school, I am excited that she gets to go to Westtown * Friends Academy helped support their academic studies. where she will have (I think many FA middle school alums will agree) a great history teacher – her mom!”

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e are grateful to all who choose to Wsupport the uniqueness of a Quaker education and the mission of Gideon Frost by making Friends Academy a charitable priority. Your generosity helps to create a community that is committed to building strong minds and kind hearts throughout our entire student body.

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presidentPeter Stein ’79 Dear Fellow Alumni, magazines arrive. When you get a chance, contact your A beautiful, early spring has made the campus come reps to thank them for their commitment to our school alive and sent a blast of spring fever and senioritis and fill them in on any news in your life. Your class rep through FA. I’m sure we all have our own special memo- also works with Kathy Fox in the alumni office to plan ries of springtime at Friends, whether it was class on the reunion events when your class is celebrating a special quad, sitting in Highland Park, spring athletic practices, reunion year. counting down the days till graduation, or spending a few One highlight of spring is the annual New York City last cherished moments with a classmate. Reunion, which will take place on Monday, June For me, spring has always been an exciting 4th at the Princeton/Columbia Club from time as I watch Mother Nature come alive 6-8 p.m. I encourage you to attend this wonder- after a (sometimes!) long, dormant winter. ful gathering and join over two hundred other If you have a chance, stop by campus and FA alumni for a fun evening of friendship and witness this springtime animation. networking. This year we will be honoring In a way, the Friends Academy Alumni Margaret Lindner, FA’s beloved art teacher, who Association Board (FAAAB) has mimicked is retiring after 28 years at Friends. springtime this year. We have added five Spring is also the time when we welcome a dedicated alumni to our board. Our new new group of alumni to our association, the members, Jenna McCann ’06, Courtney Class of 2012, our graduating seniors! This is Devon Taylor ’01, Tom Pascarella ’95, Liz Peter Stein ’79, done at Fourth Day Honors in June. This is also Winchester ’91 and Colleen Moran’91, have Friends Academy the time when we honor one of our own as the energy, excitement and talents that have Alumni recipient of the Distinguished Alumni Award. enhanced our Alumni Board and promise to Association Lastly, it is never too early to circle October add new dimensions to our continuing mis- President 20th on your calendars; that’s Fall Fair and sion of connecting with alumni of all ages. Homecoming. Classes ending in 2 and 7 will be They have accepted their new roles with en- celebrating special reunions. Class reps will be thusiasm, and I look forward to great things from them. contacting you soon to make arrangements for this spe- Please join me in welcoming this outstanding group of cial weekend. The Class of 1962 will be celebrating their alumni volunteers to our ranks. 50th Reunion that weekend, beginning with a luncheon Other key volunteers in our success as an alumni at the Marion Jackson House on Friday, October 19th. community are our class reps. It is with their help that Hope to see you all on June 4th in NYC, and in the we all connect not only with our alma mater but with meantime, enjoy the spring! each other as well. These dedicated alums are responsible for gathering class news and composing class notes...the first section ofThe Meeting House we all turn to when our

Help us help you and your fellow alums stay connected Send us your news and address Connect by website: Are you on Facebook? 1 and e-mail updates: 2 3 FA's password-protected Alumni Become a member of the Friends Alumni Office Community: www.fa.org/alumni Academy group. Head to www. Friends Academy Click on ALUMNI DIRECTORY facebook.com/FAalumni for more 270 Duck Pond Road to search for classmates by last photos, updates and links to other Locust Valley, NY 11560 name, maiden name, class year classes. [email protected]; 516-465-1796 and profession. *If you do not know your username and password, e-mail Kathy Fox in the Alumni Office: [email protected].

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Friends Academy Alumni Association Alumni are the living legacy of Friends Academy. Reconnect at FA's Largest Community Event Special Reunion Celebrations for Classes Ending in 2 and 7

Class of 1962 Fall Fair & Homecoming October 19-21, 2012

Friday: 50th Reunion Luncheon for the Class of 1962

Friday night: Potential class gatherings

Saturday: Fall Fair followed by the Homecoming Reception on campus for all alumni.

Saturday night: Reunion Dinners off campus for classes ending in 2 and 7.

Sunday: Meeting for Worship in Matinecock Meeting House

25th Reunion!

50th Reunion! Class of 1987

Volunteers in classes planning special reunions will reach out to classmates soon. More information is on the alumni pages of the FA website: www.fa.org/alumni. Contact Kathy Fox in the Alumni Office with questions: [email protected] or 516-465-1796.

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Diane Loviglio ’01

Diane Loviglio ’01 Clean energy created Wattbot, an automated advocate and recommendation engine that provides the consumer with innovative energy recommendations to save money startup founder on energy bills.

By Hayley Kucich ’03 When asked if I would be interested in interviewing FA alum Diane Loviglio ’01, a slew of high school memories flooded me, especially the time we spent on stage together during my freshman year, Diane’s senior year, for Cole Porter’s “Anything Goes.” I thought to myself, “Diane Lovi- glio, the always smiling senior; always laughing and enjoying life. And involved with everything at FA – I mean a little bit of everything!” And this thought was, and continues to be shared by every-

one who has had the Courtesy of DIANE LOVIGLIO Diane Loviglio opportunity to from the 2001 befriend Diane. Lamp yearbook. A successful hile at Friends, Diane grown up in a small town, where “ev- entrepreneur, Diane Loviglio ’01 was involved eryone knows your business, I wanted a has her roots in Glen Cove, where in a little bit of everything real change from that. I wanted to live in she grew up only a few minutes that the school had to of- a city, but be far away from home.” So, away from Friends Academy. She Wfer, including the school band, the theater Diane attended Carnegie Mellon, a school spent her school years through department’s musical productions, and the where she never thought she would be ac- twelfth grade at Friends Acad- choir, where Diane also formed a new stu- cepted, but learned a lesson to never accept emy and though she thought at dent acapella group. “I volunteered all the NEVER as an answer. the time that she would rather be time, with Summerbridge and Habitat for “I was told I couldn’t get in, so stubborn a “normal” kid and attend public Humanity on the weekends and with the me applied to prove a point and when I got school, she notes that “Of course Glen Cove Day Care Center on weekdays.” accepted, I thought, well it’s the furthest in retrospect, I’m glad I stayed at Diane was the head of the WATCH school I applied to and it has an archi- Friends.” Committee (We Are The Community tecture program – let’s do it!” Diane got Helpers), and she began the Appalachian accepted into the BHA program (only 30 Service Project in the Upper School. At students were accepted into this program the time, Diane was studying to become that year), which allows its students to an architect so she took several art classes, not only take architecture classes, but also including AP Art. attend classes in the Humanities Depart- After graduating from Friends Acad- ment, providing students with a Bachelor’s emy, Diane moved to Pittsburgh because Degree in Humanities and Arts. she was looking for a change. Having “From the get go, I knew I’d be studying

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Diane Loviglio ’01: Clean Energy Advocate and Innovative Startup Founder in an interdisciplinary program and that to launch, as well as being a startup mentor was so much more exciting than being in for two incubators, 500 Startups and Web- architecture studios year after year. So, FWD. Diane is also a master teacher on when I finally did start taking classes at skillshare.com, where she teaches classes Carnegie Mellon, I signed up for an Intro about product design and research. to Anthropology class and loved it. So I In addition, Diane has also developed declared that as my Humanities Concen- and implemented an annual conference tration.” called FailCon, which is a one-day confer- ike Diane’s time spent at FA, her ence for technology entrepreneurs, inves- time at Carnegie Mellon was simi- tors, developers, and designers to study Llarly filled with becoming involved their own and others’ failures to prepare with a little bit of everything. “I organized them for success. the Habitat for Humanity trips during When Diane finds a minute to breathe Spring Break, I was an RA and a CA (com- The “Living Roof” of Carnegie Mellon’s and to pick up a telephone (which from Hamerschlag Hall in 2008. munity advisor in charge of the RAs). I writing this seems almost impossible to studied abroad in India, South Africa, and Interested in green living, fathom!), Diane likes to stay in touch Brazil to learn about urban development Diane helped to create with her fellow FA classmates, especially in third world countries. I was one of the with Michelle Javian, Carole Ingrassia first people to live in the Co-Op at Carn- Carnegie Mellon’s first Bates, and Tanya Bajaj. Diane also hired egie Mellon. I became a Fifth Year Scholar and largest green roof, her former classmate, Dan Tran, to create and started a peer-to-peer environmental which subsequently was animated shorts for her startup a few program called Eco-Reps.” Eco-Reps is a years ago. program that trains students to act as RAs written up in National iane has formed lifelong friend- for the environment. Each dorm had one Geographic. The top of the ships from her time at Friends eco-rep and they organized environmental Academy and realizes that these programming for their dorms each month. green roof included grass- D relationships are valuable throughout all Interested in green living, Diane created es, perennials, logs and a phases of life. Not only does Diane value Carnegie Mellon’s first and largest green small rock-bed pond. the friendships that she formed at FA, but roof, which subsequently was written up she recognizes that Friends Academy has in National Geographic for the green roof provided her with so many opportunities bus shelter pilot project that she helped de- When I arrived I was surprised at how in which she could grow and evolve as velop in San Francisco (for more informa- non-green it was, but I’d already moved so an individual, and most significantly as a tion on this article, please visit http://ngm. I decided to make the best of it! Little did I leader. nationalgeographic.com/2009/05/green- know it had a huge startup community, so roofs/cook-photograph. (Scroll through until I co-founded a startup called Wattbot.” Through these opportunities to lead, you find a photo of the bus shelter, which you attbot is an automated rec- Diane garnered the confidence to do great can then click.) ommendation engine that things, better things, and “to imagine and Through Diane’s fifth year of her schol- Wprovides the consumer with convince others that these things are worth ar program at Carnegie Mellon, Diane energy recommendations to save money spending time and money on.” knew that she would be officially finished on energy bills. Diane worked for Wattbot A dream has to start somewhere, and with formal education because she wanted for four years, raising angel money and in more cases than not, I have observed to dive right into the work force and learn garnering support, but it eventually closed through my ample interviewing of alums, through experience. down and Diane moved on to become a and most recently with Diane, that most of She moved to San Francisco because, “I freelance researcher for startups. us have our dreams planted in the roots of heard it was the greenest city in the United Currently, Diane is a User Researcher at FA, and on that note… what more is there States and I’d never lived that far west. Mozilla working on projects that have yet to say? “Seniors in 10 years...” From the 2001 Lamp Yearbook Diane Loviglio: “Will single-handedly build an entire village.”

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Mats Lemberger ’02

Boundless energy Mats Lemberger ’02 currently for service, music lives in rural West Virgina, where he is and medicine involved in improving By Kathy Fox healthcare and Alumni Affairs Coordinator nutrition. n 1997 when Mats Lemberger ’02 entered Friends Academy as an eighth grader, he hit the ground running, and he hasn’t stopped since. One day in Up- perI School Meeting for Worship Mats spoke about running. Upper School Administrative Assistant Cathy Philipakos who shares Mats’ passion for running remembers his words. “He said one day while running, he realized that he needed to look up at what was around him and not just run. He said he realized that we should do the same in everyday life – look around and see what is really going on. I never forgot that statement,” said Cathy, “and still think of it often when I run; it always brings a smile to my face.” Whether it’s running, cycling, singing, or building, Mats is always on the go. Along with this boundless energy, Mats also pos- sesses a positive attitude and a dedication to service. This dedication to service began at Friends Academy. As Mats explains, “I count myself as very fortunate to have attended a secondary school Courtesy of MATS LEMBERGER that makes it a point to instill the value of ment towards putting faith into action.” community service at a young age. In particu- After graduating from Friends, Mats lar, I recall Mr. Lape’s love of old-time fiddle continued on this same path. Combin- music and his involvement with an Appala- ing his love for music with his commit- chian service project. I learned from teachers ment to service, Mats was the brainchild like Mr. Lape that the things we love most in of Dartmouth College’s Festival of life can be the basis for connecting with other Humanity, a community-building people and adding goodness to people’s lives. event with great music and family fun If that was an innate feeling within me, that held on the Dartmouth Green, which our greatest joys can inspire us to serve others raised money for Dartmouth’s Habitat Mats Lemberger in response to human need, then my service for Humanity. “One of my friends from the 2002 Lamp experiences at Friends only served to kindle challenged me to come up with a way yearbook. and nurture that world view.” to bring together service and perfor- Herb Lape recalls, “Mats was always mance in a meaningful way,” said Mats. thoughtful and committed to issues of social “Our purpose was to try to bring together the justice for the weak and took action through community through its performers, artists his leadership and active involvement in our and cultural groups in one event celebrating a service program. He embodies our commit- collective concern for service.”

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Mats Lemberger ’02: Boundless Energy for Service, Music & Medicine

The event was a huge success. Mats of a book about musicians keeping alive healthy food is definitely a critical issue, explains, “After biking across America my traditions of American music. particularly in the more rural areas of the first-year summer (for Habitat for Human- As I flipped the pages, rather unexpect- state. The same is true all over America ity), I came back as a sophomore wanting edly, a lady came up to me and, seeing my though. There is a growing sort of interest to help our Habitat chapter raise the funds interest in the book, proceeded to tell me at the grassroots level in people living and support necessary to build a house. all about the foundation that published more active lives and choosing to eat fresh I get excited by ideas and it occurred to it – Music Maker Relief Foundation. She foods with more nutritional value. I’ve me that we could really create a unique suggested that I call them been getting involved sort of event that would not only support up to see if they could use with Huntington’s service at Dartmouth but would also be a an intern. Well I did, and Kitchen, a great resource community-building event between the I was able to spend my for the community that college and surrounding communities, junior fall interning with addresses some of these while giving all kinds of student groups Music Maker. issues.” the opportunity to take ownership of a It was a life-altering wrote a se- shared event. After a lot of hard work, the experience in many ways. nior honors Festival surpassed our expectations going But truly, it was because “Ithesis on the on for three years, attracting thousands of of this experience that I ethical significance of people during that time and raising over first went to McDowell facial imagery in Stephen $15,000 for student community service County, West Virginia. Crane’s writing. I first organizations.” Although my original read Stephen Crane’s The ats’ love of music began at an reason for going there was Red Badge of Courage in early age and has remained a to record music, I sub- Mr. Herscher’s 11th grade Mbig part of who he is. “I was ten sequently developed an “Call medicine a American Studies class. years old when I first picked up a guitar. interest in rural healthcare vocation and music Something about his I busted a string the first time and put it and in the quality of life an avocation... I feel writing captivated me im- away for two years. Then for my twelfth for people in places such as mediately. I saw an ethical birthday my mom gave me a book of cow- McDowell County. more and more that undercurrent in Crane’s boy chords. I put a new string on the guitar ife is very hard I was put here both collected works that and never looked back. I nearly drove for a lot of people to reduce human suggested a worldview in my parents crazy playing it as much as I Lthere. But every- suffering and to which, confronted with did. When I got to Friends, I eventually where I have lived in West share music with the universe’s indifference joined the jazz band. What a great learning Virginia, there has been a people.” to human suffering, man experience. I got to play with some great very strong sense of com- himself becomes endowed musicians and learned a lot about perfor- munity, particularly in with a sacred privilege to mance. I also sang in a theater production the poorest areas. Having care for others in need.” of Anything Goes and helped produce our grown up in suburban Long Island, I was “When I took an EMT class several years Junior Musical, which featured original stunned to visit southern West Virginia for later, it just clicked for me,” said Mats. choreography and live musical perfor- the first time. I had never seen such rugged “Medicine appeared to be the way that I mance. Participating in OriginalWorks countryside. Seeing the ruins of days when could live the ideals that came to matter was also a highlight for me. All such the coal mining industry put hundreds of so much to me. Yet the pull to compose wonderful experiences that definitely fed thousands of people to work in the hills and share music is also very strong in me. my hunger for music.” was like witnessing another world than the I honestly feel a sort of calling to do both A native Long Islander, Mats cur- one I knew growing up. of these things with my life. Call medicine rently calls West Virginia his home. Mats In spite of social and economic struggles a vocation and music an avocation. Time explains, “Over Christmas break of my that continue to trouble communities in will tell how well this will work out, but sophomore year, my mom and I took a this area, some of the best people I have I feel more and more that I was put here road trip together. We drove the whole been privileged to know have made their both to reduce human suffering and to East Coast, from New York to Florida and homes here and have truly had an impact share music with people,” said Mats. back. Along the way we stopped in Macon, on my life. Huntington, WV, where I “In all, I’m happy, and I credit Friends Georgia at the Georgia Music Hall of now live and study recently received the with giving me a solid foundation for find- Fame. In the gift shop, I noticed a beautiful undesirable recognition of being named ing the things that give me purpose in life black and white photo gracing the cover America’s unhealthiest city. Access to and the wherewithal to achieve them.”

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Making 1934 to Friends A "I want my Walter J. Wilson 548 N. Main St. Apt. 314 positive experience a Bequest Ashland, OR 97520 (541) 488-2389 at Friends Academy cademy [email protected] Walt Wilson, 95 years young, is enjoying life to be shared by others." in his retirement home in Ashland, Oregon. He encourages his fellow alums to drop him an e-mail to reconnect. Look for more about ric Koster '65 recently sat down to draft his will. Once his loved-ones Walt in Friends in the 40s and 50s: The Ewere taken care of, he wanted to recognize what helped make him the Closest Thing to Home, starting on page 16. person he is today and to give back. 1940 "My years at Friends were instru- mental in making me the person I Florence Milyko Skinner am today," Eric said. At Friends he 4202 Avalon Drive East was "motivated by gifted and caring New Canaan, CT 06840 203-966-9475 teachers who lit a spark." He is leaving [email protected] a bequest to Friends in recognition of the lasting impact they made on him. Joanne Tuthill Munhofen has just moved He has also made this gift to honor his from her home in Brookhaven, NY, a parents, who strongly believed in the house, which her dear husband built from Eric Koster '65 is a husband, father of three and a scratch – and a very beautiful home it is – to value of Friends Academy's Mission partner in a successful law firm. He enjoys sailing Williamsburg,VA. If you wish to contact and who sacrificed so that he could and has recently taken up motorcycle riding. her, here’s her new address: Mrs. Blair obtain its benefits. Munhofen, 3800 Treyburn Drive, Apt. B Eric wanted to help others get the kind of character-building education he was 122, Williamsburg, VA 23185 and phone: fortunate to get at Friends. He decided to make a bequest toward need-based 757-206-1687. Florence Milyko Skinner reports that, “As for myself, I remain an financial aid – to benefit future generations of students. "I have confidence that active musician, still singing and teaching Friends is true to its Mission, and I want my positive experience there to be singing, despite the fact that I will be 90 this shared by others," he said. coming November 21, and still enjoying every minute. I am an avid, active opera attendee (try to say that quickly, good Please join many others, who have diction, please!) and concert-goer as well, included Friends in their estate plans: travelling to NYC regularly from my home here in New Canaan, CT. I have been a You can make a gift that has a substantial, long-lasting impact. widow since 1999. I would so enjoy hearing You can leave a legacy and recognize the value Friends holds in your heart. from any of my classmates out there: address: 4202 Avalon Drive East, New You can make a difference in more students' lives with a bequest than Canaan, CT 06840 and phone: with a gift that comes from today's income or savings. 203-966-9475.” A bequest is a simple way to make the maximum positive impact 1942 without compromising your lifestyle or budget. Helen Craft Price For information on how to include Friends Academy in your estate plans, how to establish 173 Ocean Pines Terrace an endowment, or to discuss ways to match your interests with school needs, contact Director Jupiter, FL 33477 [email protected] of Development Jim Michalek at [email protected] or 516-393-4269.

Strong Minds. Kind Hearts.

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Naomi Johnson Dempsey 1945 1950 69 Webster Point Rd. Madison, CT 06443 Joy Mayes Brown Suzanne Didier De Vito 203-245-7617 2110 West Center Road 59 West 12th Street, 16A [email protected] P.O. Box 239 New York, NY 10011 Otis, MA 01253 (212) 627-7103 (413) 269-6398 [email protected] [email protected] 1951 Sheila Morrisey Potter 37 Lawnwood Avenue George H. Gifford, Jr. Longmeadow, MA 01106 12 Oak Ridge Road (413) 567-0988 Stony Brook, NY 11790-2011 [email protected] (631) 751-7489 1952 1946 Sondi Conklin Wright recently celebrated her 74th Margaret Whitney Shiels birthday. Evelyn Broglio Diefendorf 5427 FM 2515 Harold (Sandy) Abramson, Jr. is still an avid 355 Lake Forest Drive, SW Kaufman, TX 75142 skier, at an age where some of us have Pinehurst, NC 28374 (972) 962-8124 stopped for fear of making younger skiers (910) 295-6292 [email protected] look bad, but comments that most of the [email protected] In this issue we look to the past as we snow at Okemo (VT) is man-made this year reminisce about FA. You can read Margaret and not as much fun as usual. Doris Atwater Turn to page 16 to read about Fred Laing who Whitney Shiels’ article, Friends in the 40s and Bouwensch is very happy in her senior living reminisces about the past in Friends in the 50s: The Closest Thing to Home starting complex, Traditions of Wayland. She wanted 40s and 50s: The Closest Thing to Home, on page 16 with contributions from Dan to share with everyone her fond remembrance edited by Margaret Whitney Shiels ’52. Hornbostel, Bob Burian, Bob Wilkinson, Fritz of Mr. Nichol’s class on religion, triggered by Schreiber, Heather MacDonald Poetzsch, Wendy a lecture she recently attended on C.S. Lewis 1947 Buehr Murphy, Theresa Larson Scheetz ‘52, and and his book Mere Christianity, which she Margaret. hadn’t read since Friends. Sondi Conklin Wright Read about Gonzo Pardo on page 16 in recently celebrated her 74th birthday, and has Friends in the 40s and 50s: The Closest a great photo to prove it. Mary Foster Everett Thing to Home, edited by Margaret Whitney 1953 a few years ago moved around the corner Shiels ’52. Timmie Buck Wiant in W. Hartford, CT to a senior complex 6369 Pershing Avenue because from there she can continue to do If anyone from the Class of 1947 would like St. Louis, MO 63130 all the things she has been enjoying. Mary, to be the class representative, please contact (314) 726-2564 her children and grandchildren are all well us at [email protected]. We would love to hear [email protected] and life is interesting. She works with the from you! League of Women Voters (younger people 1954 don’t seem to join it these days) and on the Board of the Community Renewal Team, 1948 Turn to page 16 to read about Donn Andre and which is involved in many civic pursuits Ward Burian who reminisce about the past including shelters, head start programs, Marian Schwartz Feniger in Friends in the 40s and 50s: The Closest etc. Just for fun, Mary goes to London 16 West 77th St., Apt. 9E Thing to Home edited by Margaret Whitney periodically to “putter around.” Art Geoffrion New York, NY 10024 Shiels ’52. had the pleasure, during an early February (212) 362-8968 trip to Salt Lake City, of visiting his godson [email protected] If anyone from the Class of 1954 would like Peter Louis Kling, Jr., his wife Amy, and their to be the class representative, please contact son Peter Louis (Trip) Klinge III. Peter (who th us at [email protected]. We would love to hear came to our 50 reunion and is now a fully 1949 from you! independent marketing consultant) and Amy are doing well, and Trip is adorable, bursting If anyone from the Class of 1949 would like with personality, very well mannered, and to be the class representative, please contact 1955 very creative at making things with common us at [email protected]. We would love to hear Arthur M. Geoffrion household materials. Woody Glenn had open from you! 322-24th St. heart surgery last fall followed by a stroke, Santa Monica, CA 90402 but he is on the mend now. He has retired (310) 394-0185 from Brookhaven National Laboratory after [email protected] 51 years, although he still does some pro

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bono work. His oldest son is a shipwright, TV crews and organizing workshops in his daughter a nurse at Huntington Hospital, 1957 public health reporting for more than 600 and his younger son a lawyer in Cos Cob, journalists around the world. Our focus was CT. He plans to return to sailing this spring, Roger O. Sanders on preventing pandemics.” She also has with the advantage of an inside track on 324 Fishing Ln. been active in the Aspen Institutes’ writers getting his boats repaired and on solving Deland, FL 32720 group. Caroline lives in Alexandria, Va. and any health or legal problems that might (386) 736-0815 her phone number is (703) 671-1180. She ensue from his daring adventures. Keville [email protected] would love to hear from old friends. Elizabeth Larson has sold Larson and McGowin, but Lowell is living in Monteverde, Costa Rica continues as Chairman of the Board. A and working with the Episcopal Church daughter, who works for the company, also 1958 there. Her e-mail is [email protected]. lives in Mobile, and Keville expects to I had lunch with Carol Gordon Rutherford in take her 7- and 10-year-old children skiing If anyone from the Class of 1958 would like December here in Boston. I hadn’t seen her this winter. Keville’s son lives in Austin, to be the class representative, please contact in over 40 years. She has traveled extensively TX and is in the computer field. Keville is us at [email protected]. We would love to hear over the years, especially to Italy and India. involved in two national organizations: the from you! She is also a collector and expert in Asiatic Forest History Society and the Coalition Art. I got to see part of her collection of of Prescribed Fire Councils, which is a “Gods” and one of her Gods is on loan to the federal, state and private organization on 1959 Museum of Fine Arts in Boston where she the responsible use of fire for public safety, has had a strong affiliation for years. Nancy resource management, and environmental Charles Jameson Moran is living in Craftsbury Common, Vt., protection. Sarah Leonori Pusey sent a playful 13464 Brightview Way which is where she and Sandi Ray Holland note last fall on 10 things she did during a Gainesville, VA 20155-5535 and I went to camp in the summers. Nancy recent 10-day period. Among them were: (703) 743-1619 has spent most of her career as a journalist occupying Santa Rosa for a while, walking [email protected] and photographer. She started out as a police briskly many miles in her “barefoot” shoes reporter for The Washington Post (Carl – inspired by the book Born to Run – and Bernstein took her job when she left!). She enjoying every non-cushioned moment on the 1960 then became a metropolitan reporter for trails, writing her senator about her continued The New York Times. She and her husband concerns re surveillance and her congressman Dona Fagan Arnow moved quite a few times to various places about the type of communication necessary 14901 Talking Rock Court – Saigon/Cambodia/Laos, Northern Ireland for her to continue being an informed North Potomac, MD 20878 – documenting the history in those places constituent and supporter, and continuing (301) 294-0823 for two years. She also has lived in Beirut, her long-standing volunteer commitment [email protected] Paris and London. Nancy then moved back to The Museum of the American Indian in to New York City in the 80s to start doing Novato on a Miwok site. Classmates can commercial work, but kept on traveling read Sarah’s note in full on the class website. 1961 abroad. It has been wonderful connecting Michael Volow and his wife Rebecca have with her too and you can see what she does survived a long kitchen renovation (to be Park Benjamin, III on her web site www.nancymoranphoto. finished any day now). Their daughter and P. O. Box 368 com. Chip Malcolm is still in Middlebury, Vt. son-in-law have moved from Buffalo, NY to Oyster Bay, NY 11771 and I hear from him faithfully every year at Youngstown, OH which makes for a slightly (516) 922-9537 Christmas. Chip is an OB/GYN and from shorter drive to visit their two grandsons [email protected] the Xmas picture, I can attest that he has a (coming up on six months and three years beautiful wife and family. He and Robbie old). Vorisek still have their horses (I assume in 1962 Lexington, Kentucky) and race them, but I need more information about both of them 1956 Randi Reeve Filoon (the boys, not the horses or maybe both?)! P.O. Box 5495 Congratulations to Andrew Merton whose Anne Wauchope Smith Ketchum, ID 83340 first book of poetry has been published. 297 London Drive (208) 788-1734 Take a look at page 44 for information Beaconsfield [email protected] on it. The book is titled Evidence That Quebec H9W 5Z1 We Are Descended from Chairs. Andy Canada I had such a nice e-mail from Caroline also reports, “I’m still Chair of the UNH (514) 695-1951 Meirs. She filled me in on her career, which English Department.....Life is good.” It [email protected] has been so interesting. She was a public also sounds like his whole family is thriving diplomacy officer in the Foreign Service getting graduate degrees – and a marriage and worked a lot with the media. She left is coming up. Fred and I have been in travel the State Department two years ago “after mode, traveling to Italy last Fall and sailing completing numerous projects such as co- with Sandi Ray Holland off the west coast of producing documentaries with international Italy on Alfie Sanford’s 50’ yawl. I got some

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good advice from Maria Olivieri Quinn as to where to eat in Florence and the names of some wonderful out of the way churches. Maria has an apartment in Florence where she spends part of the year. We also got to travel to New Zealand as our niece got married in Wellington, which is in the North Island. We built a wonderful trip around it and spent three weeks taking in that beautiful country. We now have 6 grandchildren which is just so much fun! Now, I need your help! Our 50th reunion is this coming fall and is October 19th-21st. Here is what is in place – the reunion begins with a luncheon at the Head of School’s house on Friday, October 19th at noon and ends with Meeting for Worship on Sunday, October 21st at 10:00 a.m. The class will be planning events in between, but do reserve some time for hanging out in the Alumni Tent at the Fall Fair (and I assume a good Football Game!) on Saturday, October 20th. The tent is open from 10:00 a.m. until 4:00 p.m. and followed by an All Alumni Reception from 4:30-6:30. Paula Howe ‘63, Melissa Fox ‘62, Diane Olding Stanley ‘63 and Hannah Vaughan We do need to figure out where to have our class dinner so your input is welcome! Does anyone live nearby that could handle the 1965 group? Or we could do it at a local club or a restaurant like Stango’s in Glen Cove???? Robert D. Tilden Please let me know if you would be willing 3640 County Road 16 to help out. I need some men too! It has Montour Falls, NY 14865 been a very long time since we have all been (607) 535-2217 together. Please contact me at Filoons@ [email protected] yahoo.com. I would love to hear from you or better yet, see you next October! 1966 1963 Helen Lotowycz Rising 98 South Bay Avenue Barbara Shoen Brundige Brightwaters, NY 11718 367 Split Rock Rd. (631) 666-0135 RFK pays a visit to the class of 1967. Syosset, NY 11791 [email protected] (516) 922-3944 [email protected] 1967 1968 Paula E. Howe Lesley L. Graham 4914 Eigel Street Diana Dickson-Witmer 615 NW Murphy Blvd. Houston, TX 77007-3326 24 Brendle Lane Joplin, MI 64801 (713) 863-7541 Greenville, DE 19807 (417) 781-1858 [email protected] (302) 656-1190 [email protected] [email protected] Once again it’s challenging creating some 1964 Scott W. Tilden exciting news about our class and hard since 506 Hogan Court we graduated 43 years ago but here goes for Suzanne Notides Melzig Doylestown, PA 18901-5900 the friendly class of 1968: Sally Rising Dean 104 E. Hillcrest Ave. (215) 491-9319 shares, “Steve and I are happily living in Richmond, VA 23226 [email protected] VT, retired now (for 6 yrs) with an annual (804) 358-7626 3-month respite in the FL keys for a tropical [email protected] Save the date! Oct 20, 2012 is Fall Fair and winter respite. BUT we always come back in Homecoming, and the class of 1967’s 45th time for town meeting (first week in March) Reunion! Look for details soon. and to tap in our maples for the sugaring

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season. We do 200 taps with buckets, hand practice. He is particularly proud of recently was truly thought-provoking and inspiring. hauling and a small evaporator, but it is work receiving his first breast cancer grant. Cancer The story of her accident will also be airing enough for the two of us plus a fun season prevention is a new line of research for him. on the BIO channel series Twisted Fate; her for our family and friends. Everybody new All in all, it has been a period of intellectual segment is Nothing’s Perfect. Mary Baird cel- to the experience is always amazed at how and social growth for Sheri and Cliff and ebrated 25 years of marriage to Dave Nelson, maple syrup is made AND how much work they are looking forward to the next 38 years who turned 65 to complement her turning 60 it takes. Pretty much everybody confuses sap of marriage. Greg Tarone stays in touch, is to which she aptly remarked, “I remember and syrup, but we make a wonderful B&B doing well, and says hi to all!! As for me, when that sounded so old.” Rankin, their time of it! I am happy to report that we are my news remains the same living in Joplin, dog, turned 100 (in people years) so lots up to 4 grandchildren and can’t get enough MO. I started my 7th year working for the of milestones to celebrate in Atlanta where of their time. As an aside, I am Facebook corporate office at Management Recruiters Mary and Dave have made their home for friends with Bob Piro. He and his wife are big International. I am now The SW Regional the past 20 years. Dave’s retired, but Mary equestrians (who would have thought?). I see Trainer which continues to give me the continues to provide consulting and market- many pictures of Bob jumping his favorite opportunity to do some travel and web-ex ing research to the financial services industry. horse through amazing courses in horsing training that we call Cyber Coaching. I stay Elizabeth “Liz” Leslie Traver is no longer breed- events. They also live in VT but more south in touch with Kal and Judy Wynot – such ing American Bobtail cats although she does of me...near Dartmouth College. I live near fond memories for me teaching with Kal and still show them occasionally and last year UVM, Burlington area. We haven’t met a fabulous, lasting friendship. Stay in touch one of her show cats earned the Supreme yet....after all these years! Kathy Attridge Anas and help me out for the next addition and Grand Champion Award. He was also the shares: From Indianapolis, I thank all of you hopefully we can have a great 45th reunion in first American Bobtail in history to earn a who visited Indianapolis for the Super Bowl 2013. Be well – Lesley Lifetime Achievement Award. Although she and enjoyed the hospitality of its citizens stopped breeding, Liz is still all about her and the convenience the city offers for many 1969 feline friends and has a full house with 10 venues. Karin Nelson: “Sorry, Lesley, I don’t foster cats. Plus, she’s back into selling real have a single interesting thing to report, other Jane Forelle Casey estate, focusing on finding undervalued prop- than the fact that my broken foot is finally 1190 Pequot Ave., P.O. Box 469 erties suitable for investors to rehab and sell healed. :) Happy Spring!” Susan Abrams Butler Southport, CT 06890 or retain as investment properties. Melanie shares, “Hi Leslie. Just read The Meeting (203) 292-3644 Ross writes that she and Buddy are living with House news on our classmates. It was good [email protected] their 9-year-old son, Troy, on the pond in to catch up so I thought I’d fill you in on Roslyn Village near Rallye Motors-Mercedes, mine. Jay and I still have our own Structural It appears that most of us survived turning 60 where Buddy works. Bob and I will mark Engineering business (27 years) in NYC. and, as Priscilla McNeary Cotton noted on our 20 years in Southport, CT this spring and not Our business continues to grow, so there Facebook page, one can be slightly consoled much has changed for us. I’m still oversee- is no retiring in the foreseeable future. Our by the fact that everyone in this group is also ing Tax & Treasury activities at Blyth and daughter Meagan (25) is in her third year of dealing with the same problem. “Checking getting ready for the upcoming rowing sea- her Ph.D at the Univ. of Glasgow, Scotland. out the posts here brings me right back to son. I was actually happy to move into the Her subject is Gender History and she is being a preteen – feels good!” Judith Fox next age class and highly recommend finding hoping to get a job as a college professor. Javelly perhaps put it best, “How can we be a sport that rewards age with time handicaps! Our son Jared (21) is in his final year of this age?” Judith and Bernard are still liv- Bob’s still at RBC Wealth Management (he college studying Paleontology and will be ing in Coconut Grove and loving it. Both of plans never to retire!) and Taylor, who I can’t going to Montana (again) this summer for their children are living in Washington, D.C. believe turns 18 in a few weeks is heading off a dig. He is planning on doing his Ph.D in so they get to the nation’s Capitol regularly. to Eton College for Spring Break where he’ll this area. He’s also the lead singer of a band Nicole was married 2 years ago to a fellow participate in an academic exchange program. call “Big Gunz” and they seem to have a medical student and Alexander is in his sec- Then, back to St. Paul’s to await the outcome following. My Dad passed away a few years ond year at Georgetown Law School. He’ll of the Great College Admissions Derby and ago, but Mother is still living on her own be working in NYC this summer so Judith figure out how to spend the summer. A pend- in Manhattan. Glad all is well with you and and Bernard hope to get to the Big Apple as ing policy internship with Mitt won’t be very hope you have a good 2012.” Jim Evans: Jim well. Melissa “Misty” Moody has moved back helpful if he doesn’t get the nomination; so, let me know that he has nothing new to report to Texas and loves being out in the country, he’s considering crossing the aisle (again) and hopes to have more to report next time. near her grown children and grandchildren and going back to work for Senator Kerry in Cliff Dacso shares that he and Sheri Dacso are and around her horses. She is writing books DC. Stay tuned and send news. new grandparents of Maya Elena Dacso, born and sharing Self-Healing whenever the in October to their son Matthew and his wife speaking opportunities present themselves in Premal Patel. Matthew and Premal are on the the hope that it inspires courage in others to 1970 medical faculty at the University of Texas, face the healing journey. She also hopes to 45 minutes away from Houston. Another offer workshops and retreats in the not-too- Eli Abbe daughter, Mara, is a dermatology resident distant future. Bob and I had the opportu- 299 Ely Place at the same place so, minus Rebecca in San nity to see the HAPPY movie, Roko Belic’s Palo Alto, CA 94306 Francisco, the family gets together all the documentary that chronicles his global search (415) 856-3498 time. Cliff is juggling directing a research to understand what makes people happy. [email protected] program with teaching and a clinical Misty’s story was featured in the film which

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(Top) Front row: Tina Rose Erardi, Drew Diaz, Daphne Riker Hagan. Back row: Arthur “Chip” Behal, Tilde Mariani Giacchè, Kevin Hagan ’73, Vicki Chesler Kovner. (Bottom) Chip Behal with wife Joanne.

The class of 1972 will be celebrating their 40th Reunion at Fall Fair and Homecoming, October 20, 2012. 1976 1973 Nancy Toher Hawkins 1971 123 Duck Pond Road Laura Wicker Hackett Glen Cove, NY 11542 Robin D. Campbell 2420 Chatham Court (516) 671-8977 66 Vista Dr. State College, PA 16803 [email protected] Saratoga Springs, NY 12866 (814) 238-7661 (518) 886-8874 [email protected] [email protected] 1977 Bill Dudjoc sends the following message Craig Kronman of thanks, “Since 2006, many of you have Chuck Cooperstein 37 Meadow View Rd. supported my efforts to help fight blood 1332 Coral Drive Orinda, CA 94563 cancers…This year FA friends account for Coppell, TX 75019 (925) 258-9442 almost 25% of the donations to date. I can (972) 393-2160 [email protected] see the Quaker ethic is alive and well.” [email protected]

Save the date! Oct. 20, 2012 is Fall Fair and 1972 1974 Homecoming, and the class of 1977’s 35th Karen Spero Albers Evette Beckett-Tuggle Reunion! Look for details soon. 2513 Harris Avenue 2 Dana’s Island Way Richland, WA 99354-1637 Glen Cove, NY 11542 (509) 375-5356 (516) 840-5236 [email protected] [email protected]

Save the date! Oct. 20, 2012 is Fall Fair and Homecoming, and the class of 1972’s 40th 1975 Reunion! Look for details soon. Tilde Mariani Giacchè Salita Falconara, 11 19032 San Terenzo di Lerici The class of 1977 will be celebrating its 35th Reunion La Spezia, Italy at Fall Fair and Homecoming on October 20, 2012. 339-260-1874 [email protected]

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1978 author’s Thomas Hawkins corner 123 Duck Pond Road Glen Cove, NY 11542 ake a look at some grief, he mixes a playful surrealism (516) 671-8977 of the most recent books with the knack of capturing both the [email protected] T and writings by Friends hilarious and the deadly, and pulls off the visual psychologist’s trick of making 1979 Academy alumni: the familiar strange and puzzling. All of this is delivered in that most serious of Pamela Picoli Evidence that Andrew Merton’s ’62: all modes, a graceful sense of humour. 9 Johnston Street We Are Descended from Chairs. This is one of those collections you will Locust Valley, NY 11560 Veteran journalist and essayist, Andrew’s (516) 676-0214 often re-read.” first book of poetry was recently pub- [email protected] Jennifer Briggs Stanley’s ’88: lished by Accents Publishing Buried in A Book: A Novel Idea and is a great read – 66 poems Mystery. Jennifer’s latest novel 1980 riffing on, among other things, (her sixteenth!) was published love, death, the afterlife, Michael Salzhauer February, 2012 by Berkley tequila, platypuses, mud, mus- 860 Park Avenue Prime Crime and written taches, Heisenberg’s Uncer- New York, NY 10075 under her pen name of Lucy tainty Principle, bipolarity, (212) 744-7974 Arlington. Another one of [email protected] and chickens. Plus, there’s a cameo ap- Jennifer’s books, The Last Word: A Books pearance by the late Burt Lancaster, and by the Bay Mystery is partially a wonderful foreword by Charles 1981 dedicated to former FA faculty Simic, former poet laureate of the Frank Brogan and Roger Betsy Jordan Gahagan U.S. For more on the book, plus a PO Box 12 sample poem, go to: Erickson! Both novels are 142 Skunks Misery Road http://www.accents-publishing.com/ traditional mysteries set in Locust Valley, NY 11560 evidence.html. North Carolina. They both (516) 759-6697 Poet Rory Brennan states,“Andrew have literary themes and are [email protected] available in most bookstores and online. Merton’s poems have many qualities that Robert Blechman are both pleasurable and startling. He 42 South Knoll Road demonstrates the simplicity that is only If you've written or published a book, Mill Valley, CA 94941 gained by hard application, he brings a please consider donating a copy to the (415) 810-8889 wry approach that flips the reader from Friends Academy Kumar Wang Library. [email protected] an ambience of ironic nostalgia into the Contact Library director Judy James at abyss of historical violence and personal 516-393-4279 or [email protected]. 1982 Leslie Oren & Michael Poloukhine to remember her would make contributions He is the owner of ReSquare Architecture 930 Embury St. to the Museum of Modern Art, so to honor & Construction and business is growing. Pacific Palisades, CA 90272 Ruth’s life classmates donated to MoMA in Leslie Oren continues running her boutique [email protected] the class’ name. May she rest in peace. public relations firm, Babygrande PR, which [email protected] On a happier note, we’re happy to report specializes in television. Michael’s three kids that having reconnected at our 25th reunion are doing very well (they lived in LA with Though many of us are doing well, the class in 2007, and now married and living in us for several years, but are now back in of 1982 was sad to learn of the passing of our LA, we decided to pay back the FA karma Connecticut), with Chloe, 19, a sophomore classmate Ruth Mazzoni, who died in January by becoming the new class reps for the in college, Nick, 17, heading off to college in 2012 after battling breast cancer. Most of Class of 1982! We have been having a blast the fall, and Nina, 15, taking over the world us remember her as very sweet, very petite, communicating with so many classmates as a high school freshman. We miss them, and very hard working. Ruth was a well- via our “Friends Academy Class of 1982” but are also enjoying being empty nesters! respected credit analyst at Standard Bank Facebook group, and via email and phone The good news is that we’re now traveling Group in New York, and was married to Dr. with so many friends. After two and a more frequently to the East Coast, so hope Peter Bach of New York’s Memorial Sloan- half years, Michael Poloukhine is adjusting to see many of our classmates soon! Nancy Kettering Cancer Center. According to her to life in Los Angeles, enjoying wind Stein Woolf writes that she, her husband husband, Ruth hoped that people who wanted surfing and surfing when time permits. Dave, their 10th-grade twin daughters and

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7th-grade son are doing well and living in Chappaqua, NY. Nancy, who went back to school and earned a master’s degree in elementary education, is teaching part-time at an independent non-profit film center in Pleasantville, working with 3rd graders and teaching a visual literacy class. With Dave retired after 25 years on Wall Street, the family has been able to do extensive traveling during the summers, including past trips to Africa and China, and a trip planned to Israel in April. Nancy also writes that our classmate Andy Stein is doing well, too. Married with four kids, and living in Sudbury, MA, Andy is a hand surgeon working at Boston University. Keith Gurland tells us that after graduation, he went home and had dinner with some relatives. Beyond that, Keith checks in as a self-described hard working musician (keep him in mind for The class of 1982 will be celebrating its 30th Reunion at Fall Fair and Homecoming on October 20, 2012. that bar mitzvah, Nancy) living in Dutchess County, where he grows seven varieties of Margo, are both in middle school (oh, what nearly 10 years. He’s alive and well, living garlic. Joanne Maisano writes that she is living a cute age), yet Gordon is still as smitten in East Setauket with his wife Marcy, and in Virginia, working with a photographer with them as ever. I spend my time either their daughters Allison (17) and Victoria and racehorse breeder, and excited for our at the stove or the computer. I’m still video (13). Rich (Ricky) Thatcher writes that he 30-year reunion. Reconnecting through blogging about food occasionally (http:// still connects with some of our classmates Facebook has been fantastic, and “meeting” sogood.tv) but I’m getting back to recipe through Facebook, keeping them amused (for the first time) individuals we spent four and food writing for magazines, so perhaps with his adventures, antics and various years with in high school. Had a good time a cookbook is in my future after all. It’s all travels. Rich, who was working in banking, speaking with Leslie the other day. It feels good. I’ve been loving the class of 1982 is married and living on Long Island, while just like yesterday (couldn’t agree more, page on Facebook, and also the occasional following pursuits of historical restoration Joanne). From John Corcoran: Greetings political FB discussion with a certain class in Lloyd Harbor. After the bank collapsed all. I haven’t sent an update in a while but rep who shall remain nameless... big props in late ‘07 (one month after the FA 25th as I’ve just changed jobs for the first time to his wife, though. Hi Leslie! Susan Peirez reunion) Rich started a whole new career in 20 years, I thought it was time. First, on and I are conspiring to plan a 30th (!!??!!) in the beer industry (forgive the editorial the family front, I am married and living in reunion, hope to see you there. Be well. indulgence, but Leslie adds this seems a New Canaan, CT with our 2 boys, ages 5 and Susan Peirez writes: I am currently working fitting response to the economic collapse of 6. In 2011, we were happy to welcome my as Director of Special Projects at the 2007/8). When he’s not handling some sort brother Andy Corcoran ’88 back to the States New York State Council on the Arts, an of beer business matter, Rich leads the Long when he moved back from a three-and-a-half amazing opportunity to stay connected to Island Beer & Malt, a non-profit organization year stint in Switzerland. I have recently left personal passions: theater, dance, music, that he co-founded in 2007. Their good UBS in Stamford and as of March 19, will literature, museums, film and visual arts. works can be seen in all of LI’s beer festivals be at Banco Itau (the largest private financial One of my responsibilities is producing the and their presence is known throughout the group in Brazil) in midtown, making me a Governor’s Arts Awards 2013, which is like local beer industry. Rich is looking forward commuter to NYC for the first time since our state’s Oscars. My sister Leslie Peirez ‘88 to possibly opening a brewery & restaurant my summer jobs in school. I will be doing and I have just formed our own company, in the next two years. (Keep us posted on basically the same thing I did before (helping Foxhole Productions, working to develop that, Rich!) Louis Fortunoff is living in Old companies and countries raise money in the our own film and TV projects. And I am Westbury with his wife, Jennie, and two international capital markets) but with more excited to be working as a consultant on a children. We also caught up with Doug Uhl, of a focus on Latin America than when I was fascinating collection of group panorama who left FA after 8th grade. Doug lives in at UBS. Maybe if some of you are riding photographs called The Big Picture written Connecticut, where he works in software the rails I will run into you. See you in the by Joshua Sapan, President and CEO development. He’s been married since 1990 fall for the 30th! Robbin Mitchell is living in of AMC Networks, with a foreword by and has a son in 9th grade and a daughter in New York City with her husband, Jeff, and acclaimed photographic critic and essayist, 3rd grade. Looking forward, we are pleased their two children, Jack (9) and Ava (4). Luc Sante. Princeton Architectural Press to announce that Susan Peirez and Heather After many years working at Ralph Lauren, will publish the book this fall. Thank you Johnston have graciously volunteered to Robbin is now chief operating officer at Club Leslie and Michael for launching our class organize our 30th reunion. Stay tuned for Monaco, a division of Ralph Lauren, and Jeff Facebook page and connecting all of us. more news from them! Hope the rest of you is working at Goldman Sachs. For Heather See you all at our, gulp, 30th! Gary LaRocco are all well! Please keep those life updates Johnston, life is pretty good in Brooklyn, NY. survived the debacle that was the Lehman coming! Heather writes: My two daughters, Erika and Brothers bankruptcy, after working there for - Leslie Oren and Michael Poloukhine

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Caroline Kaplan Beth Anne Melkmann Barry D. Joseph 21 Drake Lane 162 East 80th Street, Apt. 3B 67-66 108th street, D66 White Plains, NY 10607 New York, NY 10075 Forest Hills, NY 10010 (914) 347-1562 (212) 988-1753 (718) 222-3563 [email protected] [email protected] [email protected]

Laura Dilimetin Emily Beiles Kaufman 66 Eakins Road 1985 7 Beechwood Drive Manhasset, NY 11030 Saddle River, NJ 07458 [email protected] Laura Match Schaffer (201) 785-0907 16 Miles Avenue [email protected] Hi everyone! Despite my e-mail imploring Providence, RI 02906 you to send news, I only heard from one [email protected] Save the date! Oct. 20, 2012 is Fall Fair and person. Thank you, Steve Harper! Steve Homecoming, and the class of 1985’s 35th says, “I’m living in sunny Los Angeles (since I spoke to Wendy Messing Grauer, who said that Reunion! Look for details soon. 2010) where I’ve been acting and pursuing she, her husband Gregg, and family recently TV writing work. Last year I was thrilled to moved down to Winter Park, Florida. Wendy be in the CBS Writers Mentoring Program is enjoying the warmth and sunshine, as well 1988 – a networking and training program for as the tennis. Their oldest child, Jordan, is a aspiring TV writers of color. In November freshman at University of Michigan. Eileen Mc Glinchey Hume I shot a commercial for Alltel (a cell phone 353 Hickory Avenue company) and the same day I landed a Garwood, NJ 07027 writing job on the USA Network show 1986 (908) 789-3396 Covert Affairs. It’s so much fun. I work with [email protected] great people and it’s exactly what I’ve been Kara Vassel Lewis aiming for. I’m writing an episode, now 147 Saint Andrews Lane scheduled to be the sixth installment of our Glen Cove, NY 11542-2233 1989 new season (which will start airing in July). 516 801 1048 There’s other info on me on my website(s): [email protected] Adam Fruitbine harpercreates.com and yourcreativelife.com. 375 Faletti Circle As I mentioned in my e-mail, this will be Chuck Ritter River Vale, NJ 07675 my last edition of the Class Notes. You can 79 The Promenade (201) 391-3040 expect the next e-mail to come from Laura Glen Head, NY 11545-1739 [email protected] Dilimetin. It was fun hearing from all of you 516-676-8271 over the years. I’d like to thank Laura for [email protected] taking the job on. Good luck, Laura!

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JoAn Monaco 315 East 72nd St., Apt. 18-L New York, NY 10021 alums (646) 438-9264 in the arts [email protected]

Greetings Class of 1989! The focus of this column was to ask everyone for some memorable moments from our years at Friends Academy. I think there are too many great ones to choose from for our classmates! Kathryn Maris submitted her favorite FA memory which is printed as a breakout to this column…it’s an enjoyable read! Vik Iyengar writes that his memorable moments involve his friendship with Adam Ross, whom we dearly miss. “Whether the arena was academics or handball, we were competitive, yet we always had an unparalleled sense of sportsmanship and (From left) Stephen Kunken ’89, Margaret Colin, John Lithgow and Boyd Gaines star in The Colum- positive energy that brought out the best nist, now on Broadway. in each other. I miss that spirit of rivalry and camaraderie that ultimately helped make Tony Award nominee (Enron), Sebastian Arcelus ’95 starred me the person I am today.” On another note, Stephen Kunken ’89, was recently on Broadway as Buddy in Elf – The I received a theatre update email from one of cast as David Halberstam, the award Musical which ran last holiday those theatre-goer websites and this e-mail winning journalist, in The Columnist season, ending its run in January of centered on Stephen Kunken, which was a on Broadway. Stephen was cast along 2011. Sebastian’s visit to the North wonderful read. Stephen was recently cast with John Lithgow, Margaret Colin, Pole was just one stop in an as David Halberstam, the award winning Boyd Gaines and Grace Gummer. illustrious line-up of journalist, in The Columnist on Broadway. Broadway hits such as Stephen was cast with John Lithgow, The Columnist opened at MTC’s Margaret Colin, Boyd Gaines and Grace Samuel J. Friedman Theatre on W. Jersey Boys, Wicked, Good Gummer from “Smash.” The Columnist is 47th Street on April 25, 2012 and Vibrations and Rent. anticipated to open at the Friedman Theatre is the creation of Tony and Pulit- Will Roland ‘07 recently on April 25, 2012 and is the creation of zer Award winner David Auburn. performed in a semi-staged reading Tony and Pulitzer Award winner David According to MTC, “Columnists Auburn. It is slated to be one of the hottest at the IRT Theater on Christopher are kings in midcentury America Street. The play, Another Kind of performances on Broadway and is a must and Joseph Alsop (Tony and Emmy see! Michele Pauporte and her son Tiger live Love, by Crystal Skillman is a darkly Award winner John Lithgow) wears on the Upper East Side. He is an adorable comic tale of three musical sisters 2-1/2-year old, and Michele is enjoying the crown. Joe is beloved, feared and coming together to do a recording being a NYC mom. They are up for playdates courted in equal measure by the of one of their mother’s old hits, and anytime!! Gail Havekotte Vlacich is busy as Washington political world at whose about one of their daughters trying usual with her career and her travels. She center he sits. But as the ‘60s dawn to figure out how she can avoid the recently returned from a great vacation in and America undergoes dizzying mistakes her mom and aunts have the Grand Caymans where she spends much change, the intense political drama of her free time. Her son Taylor keeps her made as she makes her way through Joe is embroiled in becomes deeply life and love. busy and he is adorable as ever! While in personal as well.” the Grand Caymans, Gail spends much of her time doing photography, a passion that has turned her professional. Her prints have started to sell very quickly and her website promoting awareness, we seek to empower I find it impossible to choose a single favorite will go live in the very near future where we other people and institutions to support these memory from 11 years at Friends, but today can check out her work. Stay tuned. I also vital humanitarian efforts. Conveying the I am thinking about science: Mr. Abbene’s received a recent invitation in the mail for a achievement and promise inherent in these chemistry class. Though I was deficient at fundraiser for a new nonprofit organization efforts, we hope to inspire a community math and science, I sort of ‘got’ chemistry: named “Social Promise” that was started by dedicated to a spirit of altruism.” Keeping I could go to the blackboard – the old- Sharon McGee Crary and her sister-in-law Sarah this column short and sweet to save room for fashioned ones with chalk – and map out a McGee. Social Promise supports “critical the other class notes for a change…be sure to molecular structure without thinking about health and educational resources serving check out Kathryn Maris’ memory from FA in it much. I was particularly excited by the impoverished Ugandan communities. By this mag. Until next time, JoAn. assignment to describe the physical process of thunder and lightning. I was late handing

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it in – I always handed papers in late – and When I sat on the bench Neutrino and other books about aspects of told Mr. Abbene, by way of explanation, I used to like Physics. The poem was inspired by two “My life is in shambles!” He smiled wryly, looking at questions in Professor Close’s writings: What a generous response to a privileged 15-year- a pagoda I made was God doing the night before Creation? old describing her life as “in shambles,” and from the finest wood and Did the universe form itself out of the was gracious enough to accept my essay late from the first tree future? and even give it a good grade. The following that would make no sound year I took Physics, which by contrast, I when it hit the earth 1990 found impenetrable. I’m ashamed to admit in an earless time. I read Sylvia Plath’s The Bell Jar under the If anyone from the Class of 1990 would like desk while Doc Richardson talked about the And then one day to be the class representative, please contact velocity of rocks being dropped off cliffs. I was disturbed us at [email protected]. We would love to hear Deservedly I got a poor grade, wrecking by a sound from you! my father’s plans for me in the medical that was a word establishment. like “I” or “sky” 1991 Fast forward 20 years. I received a (it wasn’t clear) commission to write a poem in collaboration and I looked to find Michael Fox with a world-renowned – wait for it – particle there was a man 1209 N. Citrus Avenue physicist. After shuddering at the irony, I got in my pagoda! Hollywood, CA 90038 down to business, revisiting a subject that (646) 373-7535 had once filled me with dread. When I went I could only conclude [email protected] to Paddington Station to greet my Oxford his word was “why”: physicist, Mr. Abbene and Doc Richardson he repeated himself Colleen Doyle Moran were with me on the platform. They don’t and had no legs 10 Arbor Way know they were there, but they accompanied and probably was Morristown, NJ 07960 us to the Hilton where we drank soup and sorry for himself, (973) 656-1513 talked for three hours about mass on the but it was hard to hear [email protected] quantum scale, the God particle, and the and harder to see possibility of time travel. They didn’t say, from my preferred distance. 1992 “You should have paid more attention in our classes,” but rather, “It isn’t too late: we gave I saw him better Clayton Siegert you the tools and you can do this.” with binoculars, 100 I Street Weeks later, when I was writing the but had forgotten his name S. Boston, MA 02127 poem, it was my English teachers who and the era of his suffering (617) 821-2867 gathered round my desk, reminding me of and where he was from— [email protected] more graceful ways to phrase things and the then or now— importance of meeting a deadline. though it’s all the same, That poem was a team effort. Go Friends. and they all say “why”— – Kathryn Maris ‘89 it’s the Question of the Day.

Why I know I could have banished him Before I was God but I let him stay as you know Him to be for he gave me ideas I liked to sit and though I didn’t on my quark bench sleep as well, and stretch my legs, my dreams were more vivid, The class of 1992 will be celebrating its 20th Reunion at Fall Fair and Homecoming on October 20, 2012. take in the void, I switched on the light, have a snooze and my sketches became great. Michelle Smith Harlan reports, “In October, then wake and sketch – By Kathryn Maris ‘89 our son Zachary became a big brother to plans for the future. Samantha Michelle. I’m back at work (I’m This poem first appeared in Dark Matter: a Director in Risk Management at Credit There was no time Poems of Space (ed. Maurice Riordan and Agricole CIB) and enjoying motherhood. My and then there was— Jocelyn Bell Burnell, 2008), an anthology of husband was recently promoted to Lieutenant too much time— poems on cosmological subjects by historical Colonel in the US Army Reserves and he and as I have eyes and contemporary poets, commissioned serves in New Jersey. After nearly 10 years on the back of my head and published by the Calouste Gulbenkian of projects, we finished renovations on our I saw it all: Foundation in the United Kingdom. ‘Why’ home in New Jersey just in time for Sammy’s the beginning, the end, was written in collaboration with particle arrival and I will never buy a fixer upper and all the carnage physicist and writer Frank Close, author again. Looking forward to our 20th reunion in between. of Antimatter, The Void, Lucifer’s Legacy, this year.” And speaking of the 20th reunion:

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tracking down software bootleggers who are selling their wares online, and convincing them to stop. He’s been doing MMA training to help with the “convincing.” Just kidding! But step away from that Bapple Backintosh software you were trying to sell. Jon and his wife have twin boys, and they often get together with Paul Samala and his wife Alix – both architects in DC – and their little girl Nina. Dave Gilbert and his wife Janet were on the West Coast this spring to visit their niece and nephew, Alison Gilbert’s ’95 twins Noah and Ruby. They then headed up to San Francisco for the Game Developer Conference, where Dave gave a talk on Indie Game Voiceover techniques and promoted their new game, Resonance. This year Dave’s gaming company Wadjet is branching out into new territory, solely publishing other folks’ games. Look for Resonance to debut The class of 1992 will be celebrating its 20th Reunion at Fall Fair and Homecoming on October 20, 2012. in May 2012. Speaking of the West Coast, we got to catch up with Adam Reuben, his Save the date! Oct. 20, 2012 is Fall Fair and LI. Kristin Kelly Pieper and Damian Pieper wife Ally, and their adorable little boy Isaac Homecoming, and the class of 1992’s 20th welcomed baby Jack in May 2011 – twins out in LA this spring. And we frequently see Reunion! Look for details soon. Liam and Conner are busy showing their Alvin Haruthunian and Dan Herscher, who are baby bro the ropes. Another FA couple, teaching our little girl how to surf and play 1993 Danielle Lia Van Riper and Philip Van Riper, had poker. their first child, a baby boy named Sloan Natalia Porcelli Good in early June 2011. And just a few weeks 1995 2 Tondan Lane later my husband and I welcomed a baby Lattingtown, NY 11560 girl, Reilly. Congrats everyone! Several of Thomas A. Pascarella [email protected] our classmates have recently moved from 156 Lewis Avenue the NY metro back to the Island, including Westbury, NY 11590 Danielle Valenti Smith Alana Teutonico and Jay Lynn. Future FA [email protected] 420 East 72nd Street parents? I see Fall Fair photo buttons in your Apt. 6J future…Amanda Scholl Boudry has moved New York, NY 10021 to Ithaca, NY, where her husband Wally (646) 334-3888 Boudry is now an assistant professor of [email protected] finance at Cornell. Their little girl Cricket is in Pre-K and looking forward to her first Exciting news from Serenety Hanley ‘93: “I trip to Disneyland this spring. Mike Harwin, was just named an Innovator by Campaigns meanwhile, has moved to warmer climes, and Elections magazine. I’m honored to be relocating to Tallahassee, FL to become an included in this list of great minds who are AUSA. He’s putting bad guys in jail as a always thinking of the best ways to include federal prosecutor in the Panhandle, doing more people in the political process.” Read both criminal and civil cases. He and his wife Laura Dello-Iacono welcomes Lucas Scott to the world! more about Serenety and her company Laura have two boys, Jonah and Eli, who at http://grassrootstargeting.com. will soon have adorable southern accents Kelly Reid Walsh and learn to fry up excellent hush puppies. 96 Grove Street At the other end of the globe, Adam Ronzoni Wellesley, MA 02482 1994 is still living in the Chinese province of (781) 237-2893 Heather Upton Guangdong, where he moved in 2011 to [email protected] 269 Ohio St. work with the communities around the Pearl Pasadena, CA 91106 River Delta to address the issue of unsafe Hi Classmates! Kelly Reid Walsh reports (626) 507-8524 drinking water. Adam writes: “The work that she and husband, Mike, are doing well. [email protected] here is challenging but fulfilling. I’ve made Kelly has been continuing the community some great friends and have come to enjoy service we grew up with at Friends by We kick off the latest round of class news local delicacies like salted grasshopper supporting two great organizations: “Cradles with some exciting announcements: Adam and spicy dung beetle.” In other news, Jon to Crayons” that collects items for the Bernstein was married to Jessica Manis in Berroya is now running the Business Software impoverished and homeless. Kelly has September 2011 at Raphael Vineyards on Alliance’s Internet anti-piracy program, become part of the “Champion Corps,” and

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supports these organizations personally, as well as professionally by bringing groups of her students from the Dana Hall School to volunteer each week. Way to go Kelly! Laura Dello-Iacono Pellicone shared the adorable picture of the newest member of their family, Lucas Scott. Lucas Scott was born on October 21st, 2011 and joins big brother, Liam John, and big sister, Avery Reese. Congratulations Laura and family! Dan Fisher and his wife Ashley live in McLean, Virginia, just outside of Washington. Dan is an M&A partner at Akin Gump and also dabbles in politics, and Ashley, a recovering lawyer, stays home with their two boys Cabot (born 2008) and Winston (born 2010). – Tom

1996 The class of 1997 will be celebrating its 15th Reunion at Fall Fair and Homecoming on October 20, 2012. Luke Cass Jordan S. Tarry 350 Chardon Ave. 1997 333 E. 5th St., Apt. C3 Suite 1202 New York, NY 10003 San Juan, PR 00918 Devon Broderick Carroll (516) 526-1689 [email protected] 28 Bedford St., Apt. 23 [email protected] New York, NY 10014-4471 Famous FA alumnus Voltaire once wrote that (917) 531-7579 1999 «in the case of news, we should always wait [email protected] for the sacrament of confirmation.» With John F. Reid that, I am proud to confirm that our class has Devon A. George 15 Wood Valley Road lots of good news to report for this edition 163 West 18th Street, Apt. 9B Chatham, MA 02633 of The Meeting House. Brett Jacobson and New York, NY 10011 [email protected] his wife, Laurie, welcomed into the world (516) 457-8082 a baby boy named Ryan Hunter on January [email protected] Jennifer Ryan Woods 8, 2012. Brett says that Grandpa Jake and 2 Meadow Spring Lane Uncle Todd ‘93, are enjoying playing with Neda Talebian Funk has given her son a new Glen Cove, NY 11540 the latest addition to the Jacobson clan. No baby brother. Congrats to both Tyler and (516) 398-0888 word yet if he has the goalie skills of his dad, Cooper Funk! Liz Emmanuel Mauro is living in [email protected] but Ryan’s skills as a keeper appear to be Brooklyn, NY and working at Relocation. promising. Brett is working hard as a Private com. James Kenler welcomes his daughter Rob Morse is currently living in Madison, Client Advisor at JP Morgan and he and his into the world. Zachary Boisi has joined the NJ and is working as a financial advisor wife, Laurie, are enjoying their new life as board of D.C. area charity Nourish Now, with Merrill Lynch. Rob says I am “married parents in Plainview. Mike D’Addario is the helping to feed the hungry. Matthew Bonanno to my wonderful wife Lauren. She is a happy father of Juliette and Noelle, both 3, is happy to be planning a return to the U.S. preschool teacher at The Willow School and in Locust Valley. He is running his family’s after a work stretch in London. Devon George budding pilates’ instructor. We purchased string production plant and plays golf and just enjoyed a delayed honeymoon with his our home two years ago. I shifted careers tennis regularly. In his answer to the FA lovely wife Amanda. Save the date! Oct. last year, leaving UBS Investment Bank and Alumni questionnaire, he cites Ms. Clark as 20, 2012 is Fall Fair and Homecoming, and returning to Private WM at Merrill Lynch. his favorite teacher while at Friends! Brian the class of 1997’s 15th Reunion! Look for I’m in the process of building my own Shields works as a computer engineer in details soon. wealth management practice and enjoying West Virginia. He and his wife, Jessie, are the life without a commute. We have a bunny proud parents of Garret, Emma, Griffin, and 1998 (Jackson) and 2 cats (Gypsy, Firefly). We are Charlotte. Brian remains a soccer enthusiast. hoping for one without fur in the near future.” As for me, I am keeping very busy here in Justin J. Boults Rob’s current hobbies include playing squash San Juan and enjoying my life in public 222 Gates Ave., Apt. #2 and cooking. Bradley Gambling is service with my new bride. Melissa and I Brooklyn, NY 11238 currently living in Charlottesville, VA where look forward to celebrating our one year [email protected] he is a student at Darden Graduate School of wedding anniversary on June 3. Friends Business. He will be graduating in May. Dara Daryl Holzman, Sameer Sayeed, Dan Lee, and Justin P. Meli Broxmeyer Gruenberg and her husband Jon PJ DeCurtis are all doing great. I continue to 1500 Chicago Ave., Apt. 620 moved to Scarsdale, NY in August. They look forward to hearing from you all in the Evanston, IL 60201 have a daughter Cornelia, 2, and welcomed a coming year. Keep the good news coming. (713) 553-4108 son Jake Logan in September. Peter Kolodner –Luke [email protected] and his wife Vanessa welcomed a son, Elliot

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James Kolodner on September 3. Peter says, “Vanessa and I have been having a blast with him out here in San Francisco.” 2000

Paul P. Corrigan 1 The Preserve Woodbury, NY 11797 (516) 448-2228 [email protected] The class of 2007 will be celebrating its 5-Year Reunion on Saturday, June 2, 2012 at the Marion Jackson House.

Meredith A. MacKinnon Jonathan Harley Koenig 46 Duck Pond Road 2002 31 Yukon Drive Glen Cove, NY 11542 Woodbury, NY 11797 (516) 759-2063 Lauren Marie Bebry [email protected] [email protected] 2757 Heathfield Road Bloomfield, MI 48301 2005 (631) 875-5725 2001 [email protected] Robert Harrison Aaron 27 Shorewood Drive Christopher Scott Harvey Michael Jason Weiss Sands Point, NY 11050 16 Stiles Drive 40 Cow Neck Road (516) 524-4261 Melville, NY 11747 Sands Point, NY 11050 [email protected] (516) 425-1096 (516) 883-1572 [email protected] Helen Simpson Hatch [email protected] 137 Linden Farms Road Locust Valley, NY 11560 Hadley Devon Mongell Wonder what Mats Lemberger has been doing 245 E. 63rd Street (516) 609-3239 since graduating from FA in ‘02? Read about [email protected] Apt. 517 his continued involvement in community New York, NY 10065 service and his life in West Virginia on page (516) 759-1377 36. Also, save the date! Oct. 20, 2012 is 2006 [email protected] Fall Fair and Homecoming, and the class of 2002’s 10th Reunion! Look for details soon. Brian T. Alessi In the 2001 Lamp, Diane Loviglio wrote that 50 Shore Drive she will “single-handedly build an entire Plandome, NY 11030 village.” Find out her clean energy initiatives 2003 (516) 365-3983 on page 34. Katherine Elizabeth Donoghue [email protected] 88 Leonard St., Apt. 1511 New York, NY 10013 (516) 238 -4550 2007 [email protected] Rebecca Pacchiano Tara Kristin Hanna 93 Tenth Street 245 Locust Street Hicksville, NY 11801 W. Hempstead, NY 11552 516-932-0002 (516) 316-8220 [email protected] [email protected] Christine Farrell Andrew Joseph Rivara 1971 Cedar Swamp Road 249 Cleft Road Glen Head, NY 11545 Mill Neck, NY 11765 (516) 606-1300 (516) 624-8380 [email protected] [email protected] Caitlin Koufakis 239 Cleft Road 2004 Mill Neck, NY 11765 The class of 2002 will be celebrating its 10th Reunion (516) 627-5222 at Fall Fair and Homecoming on October 20, 2012. Angela Teresa Batista [email protected] 2 Greenway Muttontown, NY 11771 We hope to see the entire Class of 2007 (516) 857-6572 gather together for an informal cocktail [email protected] reception at the Jackson House on Saturday,

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June 2, 2012 from 6 - 8 p.m. to celebrate your Five-Year Reunion! For more information, please contact us at the alumni office. Learning from Loss Natalie Harrington ’05 hushed Upper School body sat riveted in their seats as they listened to Nata- 2008 Alie Harrington ’05 as she carried them through her journey from Friends to Laura Berke Brown University to teaching in a failing 310 3rd Avenue, Apt. 1906A South Bronx high school. New York, NY 10010 A gifted and competitive field hockey (516) 680-4437 player, Natalie was recruited by Brown. [email protected] Stymied by illness, coaching decisions and her inability to handle losing, Natalie Alexandria Phillips watched her college sports career deterio- 68 Flower Hill Rd. rate. A decision to explore musical theater Huntington, NY 11743 in the off-season gave Natalie “new per- (631) 421-3332 [email protected] spective about winning and losing,” and ultimately gave her the resiliency she’d Dylan Pancer, Cornell University, is finishing been looking for – what would be crucial up his tenure as CEO of the Kairos Society, to “working hard to close the achieve- an International network for collegiate ment gap one student at a time” at a South entrepreneurs of which Ben Gottesman, U Bronx high school. Miami, was a Vice President. He is learning Natalie currently teaches 10th and 12th Spanish in preparation to head to Chile grade English and has discovered a new next year after graduation in May to work world. “My school is only forty minutes with the Ministry of Finance as director of strategy and business development for away from here and yet it might as well their early stage investment fund “Startup be on another planet,” she told Uppper Chile.” Laura Berke is looking forward to School students. graduating from New York University as a “When I first arrived in the classroom Music Business major with a minor in Child in September of 2009, there were days and Adolescent Mental Health Studies. Over when I felt so tired and so helpless, there Above, Natalie Harrington ’05 talks to Upper the course of college, she has worked for was no way that I could give these kids School students about how athletics shaped American Idol, Sony Music Entertainment, what they needed. There were too many her life. Below, Natalie’s mother, Carol, FA His- and is currently interning at Fuse TV. Laura obstacles,” she said. But, recognizing that tory teachers Marshall Lindner and Herb Lape is excited to collaborate with Ally Phillips and David Harrington. to plan our Class of 2008 reunion next year! “life is not about outcomes, it is about Andrew Burke is looking forward to a summer experiences,” Natalie has been able to refocus her energy on what she can control. internship in New York City for Barclays “I may not be able to be with these kids when they are out on the streets or at Capital taking part in their Market Sales home, but while they are in my classroom I can make them feel loved, appreci- and Trading Summer Analyst Program. Last ated, challenged, and successful.” year, he transferred to Fairfield University, Read Natalie’s entire speech at www.fa.org/alumni joining their class of 2013 as an Economics  major and Communications minor. After she graduates from Villanova University semester and helping the senior class raise this May, Shant Keskinyan plans on taking with a major in Accounting and Finance money for the Alumni fund. She is looking a gap year before starting medical school and a minor in Real Estate, Mille Satin will forward to helping plan the FA Class of after majoring in Public Health and Natural be working for Pricewaterhouse Cooper as 2008 Five-Year reunion! With a major in Sciences and Pre-Med. He is president of an auditor in public accounting. Lizzy Handy Commerce, concentrating in Finance and Pi Kappa Alpha, Iota Tau Chapter, and was is currently a senior at UMBC majoring Marketing, Katie Scialabba plans to work for inducted into Omicron Delta Kappa in the in Business Technology with a minor in Espalier Global Management in Investor spring of 2010. Administration and Anthropology. She is Relations after graduating from UVA. currently co-designing a software system Espalier Global Management was started by that will be compatible for school research her roommate/best friend and will officially 2009 purposes. Ally Phillips is getting ready to launch in May 2013. Elizabeth Sharpe-Levine is graduate from William and Mary with a reading 100 plays in 120 days this semester! Nell C. Kucich degree in Psychology and Government. She She is majoring in drama and English at Tufts 316 Manhasset Woods Road has enjoyed all of the great times she’s shared University, and plans to read and write about Manhasset, NY 11030 with her sisters at Delta Delta Delta. Until plays and may become a teacher. When he (516) 965-0635 graduation, Ally’s enjoying the rest of the graduates from John Hopkins University [email protected]

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John E. Mascari Dartmouth College 3153 Hinman Hanover, NH 03755 alumniin A61 sports [email protected] SPORTS watches Amanda Sokolow ’95 inducted into Miami University W. Islip’sKelly piling up (Ohio) Hall ofL FameCAN for field hockey.l;’ fin- EA edals eighth-place D And an E em has N lug misfortune. Cup O 2010 year’s Junior World ish in December’s world in the STEPHEN HAYNES 12th in the BY y.com Kelly ranked exciting to see stephen.haynes@newsda circuit. “It’s very elly ice Under-20 MeredithK an, inclined do well,” his mother, time —sledding down break- him my breath every Luge and twists at “but Idohold with curves comes said, rack.” course —surely goes down at of 95 mph speeds while supine he reach speeds Alexa Gordon neck Thesleds can that there As reported in NewsdayE on March 10, 2012 by Stephen risks. Kelly well aware G with its Aidan family is N to last winter: and his A Let’s go back vertebra, accidents. 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Luge Association to me,” in theU awhole lot to focus on ...“They mean athletes. allows him 2011 als proud of myself.” The setting 1-6 p.m. class I’m the Kelly said. “ at Olympic skills, and aid, competition honing his ating, Kellys For me, it was overwhelming and humbling to see my name two-day 1, The began on March is accommod being Utah,which of schedule “it’s tough Park in combined times he admits, om cries decided by the Kelly, though me andmym was ,315-meter course. away from ho he said, his t on a1 be- But, S four races 0.379 I’m leaving.” E finished every time B tookthird overall, the 2018 Olympics. amongE some of those.” At Friends, Amanda, a midfielder, who nderson. are set on H ,TyA eyes it. t Holly Constants winner race all worth hind the Icebreaker to him, it’s that, he won the And, Before around the previous 52 Ayers Road on Dec. 12, turning dominatedW theO Rfield.St She was selected for all-state for three nducted into AND ASEBALL LI’sSokolowi DEALS IN NY B Locust Valley, NY 11560 of Fame years, and won gold on thenewsday.com junior Olympic team. Amanda Hall rank Ohio her 138 points of honors, and Miami ence history. third in program the cir- STEPHEN HAYNES ,Sokolow owned [email protected] BY Before that school fields. also reached great heights in lacrosse as an All-American [email protected] ong Island high all- cleonL athree-time in the NEWSDAY, luminaries idfielder was the jun- RIES at the list of of Them won gold on tV SE Alook (Ohio) Hall selection and and 23 8-pARt of Miami state Her 47 goals GINAL University some impressive lympic team. in field AN ORI quickly reveals iorO totals player. After graduating10pM Fame Bo Schem- —eye-popping acounty GHt At Weeb Ewbank, Amanda assists Quakers to S tONI names: ... —led the to IERE SUNDAY, Wally Szczerbiak hockey was in addition pREM bechler, nalin1994. (That player.) Gabrielle McPhaul-Guerrier olow. too. fi lacrosse Sok her reaction, being an All-American to read the Yeah, thatwas and la- innate ability from Miami University, field hockey “She had an coached aformer Gow, who MARCH Sokolow, Friends Academy, d,”said Jacquie Acad- superstar at Hall of fiel sports at Friends crosse her college’s kolowinboth talented 188 Leaf Avenue nducted into So the far the most wasi “She’s by years]. To month. an emy. [in 36 11, Famelast people, I’ve coached that Amanda attended Hosftra eamazing reach athlete 2012 “There are som of Fame,” our athletes in thatHall have oneofy ustrious group, “For me, Central Islip, NY 11722 ill a1999 graduate. level is adream.” an MBA in said Sokolow, humbling to went on to earn and Sokolow from Hofstra LISTINGS VISIT MSG.COM wasoverwhelming those.” nd finance FOR CHANNEL it some of managementa with her where she got her MBA. emyname among starredfor in Garden City se ley native and now lives 14-month- The Locust Val team and eMancuso, and [email protected] field hockey husband, Mik eRedHawks freshman th including: old son, Ryan. piled up accolades, and confer- year in 1995, all-region of the Harrison Hefele From March 10, 2012 Newsday ’09, a junior at Cortland, led five double-figure scorers with 19 points as Cortland clinched a top-three SUNYAC regular-season finish with an 85-67 win over visiting Brockport. Harrison matched his career high (19 points) and set new career bests with 12 rebounds, 7 assists and 4 steals.

Bryan Judge ’11, a freshman at Stony Brook has had an up and coming season. So far he’s tallied Harrison Hefele ’09 is a junior three ground balls vs. Yale (4/16) ... one at Cortland University, where he ground ball at UMBC (4/14) ... one has set new career bests. ground ball and one caused turnover at Binghamton (4/7) ... tallied a ground ball vs. Vermont (3/31) ...had two ground balls at Bryant (3/24) and at Siena (3/20) ... added two caused turnovers against Bulldogs ... recorded a ground ball and a caused turnover vs. Towson (3/17) ... had three ground balls and a caused turnover vs. St. John’s (3/13) ... totaled two ground balls and a caused turnover at Delaware (3/10) ... recorded two ground balls and two caused turnovers vs. Marist (3/3) ... career-high three ground balls and three caused turnovers at Virginia (2/25) ... two ground balls and a caused

member of the Sarabande Dance Ensemble She plays a politically active 9-year-old Mackenzie Norris, currently at Tulane University, as well as the Spirit of Color dance team. with two gay dads and a lisp....and she’s performs in “The 25th Annual Putnam County Evan Landau (Dartmouth College) reports: a boss (have a laugh via pictures http:// Spelling Bee.” I got a job making comics for the Dartmouth www.stageclick.com/show/gallery/38296. and at my last party I made a profit of aspx). News from Gabrielle McPhaul-Guerrier News from Meredith Wagner (Tufts $60, a bottle of tequila, and a sweet pair (Williams College): I’m a DJ on WCFM University): I am an active member of of sunglasses. Mackenzie Norris (Tulane Williamstown (91.9), my college’s radio Engineers without Borders and expect to be University) writes: I have been cast as station. You can join me Saturdays at noon to going to El Salvador to implement a spring Logainne Schwarzandgrubenierre in “The hear some pretty sweet tunes over the air or box as a water catchment system. I’m also a 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” streaming online.

The Meeting House | Winter/Spring 2012 54 In Memoriam

Ruth Cottterill Richards ‘35: Incredible collection of experiences We By Kathy Fox the world – when John F. Kennedy was Alumni Affairs Coordinator shot, they were in Izmir, Turkey, on the Remember... Ionian Sea. uth Cotterill Richards ’35 was born Then, thirty years after graduating Ruth Cotterill Richards ’35 Ron May 19, 1918 and passed away on from Friends, Ruth and Ben settled down July 31, 2011 at the in Washington, D.C. Lois Gifford Moore ‘48 age of 95. Profoundly affected Jeri Vlasak Stolowicz ’63 She was the kind of by the Vietnam War woman who reminds and the murders of Dr. Ruth Mazzoni ’82 us all that with Martin Luther King, Jr. age comes wisdom, and Robert Kennedy, beauty of spirit, and Ruth became a member an incredible collec- of the Society of Friends tion of experiences. and later became Clerk Intelligent and kind of the Meeting. hearted, with a keen Soon after, she ac- sense of humor, Ruth cepted the offer of the 3 made lifelong friends staff job of Assistant wherever she lived. Secretary of the Friends In 1931 she moved Meeting of Washington, with her family from D.C., working there full Atlanta, Georgia to time for 14 years. New York City. A After a long and boarding student exciting career, Ruth 1 at Friends, Ruth retired in 1983 – “before was gifted both anyone hinted that a academically and younger person might on the sports field. be better in my job,” she She was captain of wrote in her Meeting the basketball team, House profile. “I am sure 2 4 manager of the tennis I never would have had team, center forward the great pleasure of 1. Jeri Vlasak in field hockey, and those times if I had not Stolowicz ’63 graduated high school previously gone to the 2. Lois Gifford in three years. Friends School in Locust Moore ‘48 From her days Valley.” as a Depression-era Seeing her profile in 3. Ruth Mazzoni ’82 schoolgirl to her The Meeting House less participation in the than a year before her 4. Ruth Cotterill heady days of 1960s death, brought Ruth Richards ’35 and ’70s Washington tears of joy. “I am aston- politics, Ruth recalled ished and overwhelmed her experiences at to find myself singled Friends and beyond out, and you could say with clarity and wit even ‘featured’ in your in the winter 2010- beautiful magazine. See- 2011 issue of The Top, Ruth Cotterill Richards ’35 at 15. ing my own writing gave Meeting House. Middle, the Class of 1935 group picture. me cold chills and a few In 1940, Ruth mar- Ruth is in the second row, third from tears when I first saw it… ried Ben Richards. left. Bottom, Ruth celebrating a recent The whole project gave Obituary notices Within a year of their birthday. me tremendous pleasure Please send announcements and memories marriage, Ben had and your kindness to me quit his job on Wall Street and joined to Kathy Fox at [email protected] or call will help me through the rest of my life.” (516) 465-1765. Feel free to include a photo the US Army, where he stayed for the Ruth is survived by her two daughters, with your message. remainder of his career. Ruth followed Anne and Stella, four grandchildren, and her husband’s military postings around four great-grandchildren.

The Meeting House | Winter/Spring 2012 Friends Academy Alumni Association Alumni are the living legacy of Friends Academy. Alumni Upcoming Events>>

Alumni gather at annual New York City alumni gathering at the Princeton/Columbia Club last June. Five-Year Reunion for the Class 0f 2007 Saturday, June 2, 2012 from 6 – 8 p.m. Join classmates and faculty for an informal reception at the Jackson House New York City Reunion Monday, June 4, 2012 from 6 - 8 p.m. Princeton/Columbia Club 15 West 43rd St., NYC 10036 Honoring Retiring Lower School Art Teacher Margaret Lindner

All FA alums, faculty and staff are welcome! Continue to check www.fa.org and your FA Alumni portal for more details. 2012 Fall Fair & Homecoming Saturday, October 20 10 a.m – 4 p.m. More information is on the alumni pages of the Friends Academy website: www.fa.org/alumni  Non-Profit Friends Academy U.S. Postage 270 Duck Pond Road, Locust Valley, NY 11560 PAID 516.676.0393 | www.fa.org Hicksville, NY Founded 1876 Permit No. 438

Find us ... Save and join us online The Date! Our website www.fa.org Visit our official school site May 3 to see regular slideshows Upper School Concert, of school and updates on 7:30 PM (Theater) campus life. May 9-10 Facebook FA Plant Sale, www.facebook.com/ 8 AM - 4 PM FAalumni (and) (Dolan Center) FriendsAcademyNY Become a member of our May 10 Alumni and school Facebook Lower School Concert pages and get connected to over & Art Show, 6:30 PM 1,000 “Friends!” (Gallery & Theater) Twitter May 24 www.twitter.com/ Middle School Concert, friendsacademy 7 PM (Theater) Sign up and follow instant updates about athletic wins, art June 6 and theater openings, news Fourth Day Honors, coverage, and more. 11 AM (Theater) Linked In www.linkedin.com June 9 Register and join the Friends Commencement, Lower School students gather togther in the Meeting House for Meeting for Academy Alumni group to 10 AM Worship during the 2012 Peace Week celebration. network with fellow alums.