FULL HOUSE TO EMPTY NEST | MOURNING TO READJUSTMENT | WIDOWER TO REMARRYING
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Life does not come at us in a straight line. Variables of all kinds chal- mother speaks about the death of her stillborn child. Others will inspire lenge us to change directions and adjust on the fly! While the Word of God hope and perseverance. As we go through transitions in life, we must also does not change or fade away (Isaiah 40:8), circumstances against which remember that everyone around us is also dealing with things we may or we apply it do change. Thanks be to God that we have the standard of the may not be aware of. It is our hope that this issue helps keep Christians Word to guide us in a turbulent world. focused on Him. This is nothing new. Jeremiah decried Judah for making wrong right Leadership matters but so does “followship!” Adjustments through and right wrong (Jeremiah 5:30-31). Even though the Lord provided a great the maze of a lost and dying world are discipleship decisions (Luke 9:23). king to lead Judah out of the spiritual wilderness (2 Kings 23:25), Judah As Satan hurls his challenges to our stability and faith, let us more than followed Josiah only in pretense and not from the heart (Jeremiah 3:10-11). ever set ourselves on the Rock of Ages (1 Corinthians 3:11; Matthew 16:18). In this issue of Think magazine, we tackle transitions in life. You will Please Think on these things! s find some of the articles very compelling, for instance when a Christian
BRAD HARRUB DAN COTTRELL BILLY DAVIS KEITH PARKER STEVE HALE JACK WILKIE EDWIN JONES WILL HARRUB
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 4 Features Celebrate Each Season: A Story of Miscarriage 10 Jessica McVeigh Transition: Full House to Empty Nest 12 Tim Boyett Transition: Regular Home to Caregiving 19 Steve Hale Transition: Mourning to Readjustment 20 Ron Williams 10 Transition: Widower to Remarrying 22 Randy Pyle
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Columns 22 FROM THE EDITORS...... 4 FEEDBACK...... 6 SOUL FOOD / BILLY DAVIS...... 7 THOUGHTS FROM THE TRAIL / JOHNNY O. TRAIL...... 8 WELLSPRING / TERESA HAMPTON...... 24 BAILEY’S BLESSINGS / FITZ AND FONTELLA BAILEY...... 27 NEW SEASONED WITH SALT / BRANDON BROOKS...... 28 AS YOU ARE GOING / EDWIN JONES...... 29 CATALOG BEGINS ON PAGE 14 LEAVING THE 99 FOR ONE / BRAD HARRUB...... 31
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DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 6 Think: SOUL FOOD Billy R. Davis, Ph.D. USAF Ret.
IS YOUR ETERNAL DESTINATION TOO CLOSE TO CALL? HEAVEN
Here is a sobering, heart-stopping truth: God and the Devil are 2 Corinthians 4:18, that the unseen things are eternal. Yes, locked in immortal combatHELL for your eternal soul. Let that sink in for a some things must be believed in order to be seen! moment. Sometimes we move so fast that we fail to truly grasp the gravity 2. Because men love darkness more than light. Jesus pro- of this specific reality. So let’s examine this thought a bit more closely. vides real insight regarding the veracity of this statement. It is God, through His precious Son, Jesus Christ, has provided an indescrib- short, succinct, and soul stirring. He said that men loved darkness able haven of eternal rest, peace, and comfort for those who obey His more than the light because their deeds were evil, John 3:19. It holy Word. Yes, this prepared place is free from sin and unrighteousness doesn’t get any clearer than that. It is a sobering, tragic reality for prepared people (John 14: 1-6). And on the other hand, the devil has that many would prefer the easy way to damnation as opposed planted IEDs, sensual and sexual reflecting pools, and an “All you can to walking in the marvelous light of Christ. By the way, where eat” epicurean buffet designed to distract, deceive, and discourage you are you walking today? from seeking the “straight and narrow” path to God. While it should be 3. Because men think they have all the time in the world. obvious to all observers which path offers the greatest return on invest- The devil uses two of his most effective tools, procrastination ment—for far too many, it’s simply too close to call … The devil has and delay—to keep myriads of souls in his grasp. He markets gone ‘above and beyond’ to make sure that everyone on this spiritual waiting/stalling like the sinister pro that he is—and the results sojourn checks in at the “Palace of Sin,” with open, no-limit registration; are always spiritually devastating. In 2 Corinthians 6:2, Paul’s however, check-out is much, much, harder to do! As a matter of fact, clarion admonition to take full advantage of today as the Day many unsuspecting souls have stopped in for a quick visit—but never of Salvation, is contraposed to the “wait/delay/procrastination” checked out. Yes, this is a high stakes contest with eternal consequences. tactic of the devil. And again, the results of failing to obey the You would think that countless numbers of people would gladly Gospel—while there is still time—will be spiritually devastating. embrace the “strait and narrow” and look forward to an eternity with We must make every effort to make our calling and election sure. God Almighty but it appears that the fleeting pleasures of sin are more We must take whatever steps necessary to walk in the precious light of alluring. Why then is this competition for the eternal souls of men too Jesus and hold His hand through good times and bad. And when the roll close to call? I would submit three considerations: is called up yonder, let’s make sure that by God’s grace—we will be there! 1. Because the visible has superseded the invisible. John’s And by all means, we certainly don’t want this situation to resemble spiritual prohibition in 1 John 2:15-17 to steer clear of loving anything that would be too close to call! s the world and the things that are in the world has fallen on deaf Bon appétit! ears. The “I’ve got to see-it-to-believe-it” mentality has short-cir- cuited our ability to grasp/embrace the apostolic Truth taught in
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 7 Think: THOUGHTS FROM THE TRAIL Johnny O. Trail
WHAT LODGES WITHIN YOU A Christian must be careful about the thoughts that take root in one’s conscious mind. Thoughts can become actions and bad actions can become habits that result in our ruination. Our defilements come from within us. Matthew 15:11 says, “Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth a man; but that which cometh out of the mouth, this defileth a man.” Further- more, Solomon echoes these same sentiments when he says in Proverbs 4:23, “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Jeremiah shares an interesting sentiment when he talks about wick- edness lodging within those inhabiting Judah just before an impending Babylonian attack. He says in Jeremiah 4:14 “O Jerusalem, wash your heart from wickedness, That you may be saved. How long shall your evil thoughts lodge within you?” The Hebrew word translated “lodge” can also be trans- lated as “by implication to stay permanently; hence (in a bad sense) to be obstinate.” All people can be stubborn about various things. Sometimes we need to be stubborn about maintaining our morals in a world that is awash with carnality. Still, being stubborn about obeying God’s commandments can create problems in our lives. What “lodges” within you? This question might take to decidedly different directions. Hopefully, Christ is abiding in us. In John 15:4-7 “Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in Me. I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in Me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without Me ye can do nothing. If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned. If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you” (KJV). Just as a branch that is removed from a vine dies, so do those who abide not in Christ Jesus. Still, there are those who might have some sin “lodging” withing them. Paul provides us with a great definition of willful sin. In Romans 6:12-14 says, “Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God. For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace” (KJV). s
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We are a tax-deductible non-profit 501(c)3 dependent on your generosity. Donate online at www.focuspress.org/donate It was spring 2015. On what was supposed to be a pleasant vacation with family, I was being rushed to the emergency room. It was only after I arrived that I found out that I was pregnant, but I had miscarried. What was supposed to be a joyous moment of announcing the first grandchild on my husband’s side was instead a funeral party. I had never been pregnant before. Never felt the kicks of a little one in my womb. Never held a fresh born baby in my arms. I had never seen the first steps of my child. Heard the first word. Smelled the powder scent. How could I possibly know what to grieve? Known what I had lost? After spending the wee hours of the morning at the ER, we slipped in late to Sunday services. My husband excused himself during the Lord’s Supper. It was only then we realized what it would be like to give up a child, just as God Himself had done. After worship, we caught up with old friends. “When will you have kids?” they lightly ques- tioned. They had no idea. My face looked ghostly. “Only God knows,” I heard my voice respond in the distance. We muddled through the week. Randomly sobbing for no reason at all. Watching Inside Out on the big screen, a child’s film brought tears to my eyes. The weeks and months dragged on. Not quite sure knowing how to cope or what to even miss, we continued our normal daily routines. There was no visitation. No birthing announcement. No funeral. No closure. No words of comfort. Silent grief. Celebrate Each Season A STORY OF MISCARRIAGE
By Jessica McVeigh
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 10 The end of that year we found out we were child. With not quite anything to hold on to, I did have. I had taken them for granted. And so I pregnant again. We were elated … and shocked. went on a memorial hunt for a nice gardenia enjoyed my time with them even more. What do we have to look forward to? We had never bush. It still remains on our back patio to this My love for my three children whom I raised a child before. day. I researched sayings and quotes. And then, have never held in my arms is still there. Often, We would soon find out. The late night in a quiet moment of silence, alone, I painted when my boys are playing on the patio tricycling feeds. The first baby giggles. The first taste of food. burial stones on the tiniest rocks for all three of around, I look at the gardenia bush and wonder The first steps. The first words. The first fridge my lost children and placed the memorial stones what it would be like if we had five children trying artwork. The first “I love you, Mommy!” around the gardenia bush, which was arranged, to fit on our little patio. They will never be forgot- And with every first came a hint of grief with maybe, a little too hastily. Through the time the ten, Angel, Shiloh, and Shalom. But my days of the abundance of Joy. So that’s what I missed. stones have weathered, but my love and loss for grief and sadness over their loss are far and few We were blessed with two healthy children the children have not. This time the grief was between these days. And somehow the image of in 2016 and 2017. Two beautiful baby boys, who quick, like the pain of David after the loss of his all five children playing together in Heaven and are not much babies anymore. Full of energy and child. What reason should I plea to God when all knowing the truth that all five are living eternally excitement. Full of strength and courage and is already lost? even worlds apart continually brings me peace. wonder. Full of love and kindness, and strong Our hearts were more than heavy. They were I stopped questioning God and accepting the wills and rough housing. Full of bear hugs and like wet clay hanging by a thread. How can my reality that I had instead of hoping and wishing tickling. Full of cuddles and curiosity. Lord take something away from His own Child? for my dreams to come true. It was a weird feeling And then miscarriage struck again. Three times! These were not our plans. Surely to give up dreaming. Not all dreams, but knowing In 2019 we were expecting again. We were these weren’t His. that what I have is good enough. planning a growing family. So much planning, We searched for answers. There were none. But I guess, God didn’t think that was we had bought a new van and started rearrang- No answers to why this could physically be hap- enough. Because in the fall of 2020, we conceived ing our schedules and the house to prepare for a pening. Only the verse “The Lord is with the again. Our sixth child! I didn’t know how to feel. new little one. And then, much quicker than we brokenhearted” to give us comfort. Should I feel scared? Should I feel elated? Should I would have imagined, our hopes were shattered. Before our oldest born Elias, I had prayed start planning? Should I be planning for an infant Another emergency room visit later, and then for a leader. And oh did I get one! Elias notices or a funeral? My emotions were a roller coaster. an emergency operation, we had lost our fourth everyone before they notice him. Full of courage Now when we took a pregnancy test, I dreaded child. Death steals away your hopes and dreams. and charisma, he is always all on. it. I knew how likely it was that I could lose a You see, I’m not really fond of the term Before our second born Augustine Shepherd, child once again. And I hated that. I hated that “miscarriage.” It seems like a lessening of what I prayed for joy. And Shep’s first nickname was I dreaded it. I just wanted to feel excited. But I really happened. A child died. Death. Unless you Smiles. Always joking and full of laughter. The could not. have been there, “miscarriage” doesn’t seem so best friend you’ll ever find. It was scary. We rushed into the doctor’s bad. “At least you didn’t have time to really get But before the two back-to-back pregnan- office the first moment we could on that Monday. to love them.” “Well maybe you’ll have another cies in 2019, I had prayed for peace. How had The waiting. Such a long day. The paperwork and child.” “Well, you already have two beautiful my prayer been answered? Where was my peace? tests and finally the ultrasound that would tell the children, that’s enough.” There were multiple doctor’s visits, blood truth all came. But no child can replace another. draws, phone calls, bills, and more phone calls. And then we saw it. The precious little heart- It was at this point, at the death of our fourth Yet still no peace. Still no answer. So we waited beat of a tiny soul. “Hang in there little one!” I child, that I was finally able to grieve the loss of on the Lord. talked to the ultrasound screen. But I still wasn’t our first. Now that we had had two living chil- No grief is the same. It’s not the same for feeling excited. Still rather nervous as I wasn’t far dren, I was able to understand the gravity of the the same person for a different person lost. And along at all. So delicate is life. So precious. situation. Everything we had lost. The sweet baby it’s not the same two different survivors for the We were congratulated and dismissed to cuddles. The uniqueness of each human being. same person lost. the waiting room. My face was silent. A blank For the loss of our fourth child, unknowingly to And time has a funny way of dealing with stare. I asked my husband Nathan, “How can many of our friends, we were able to hold a small grief. Sometimes it makes it grow stronger. And I be excited when I’m still so scared?” And his ceremony. I took my energetic 2 and 3-year-olds sometimes it causes it to slowly dissipate until you answer reminded me of Matthew 6. Jesus reminds to the store to pick out burial flowers. Something wake up one morning and wonder when your old us not to worry. For tomorrow has enough worry no 2 or 3 year old should ever have to do for their friend grief disappeared. for itself. And with the realization that in that sibling. We buried our child. Closure. Eventually somewhere at the change of moment, that no matter what would happen in I quickly became pregnant again with my the year between 2019 and 2020, we wondered the future, that in that very moment … there fifth child. I was a nervous wreck. From the where our grief had gone. Instead of thinking was a heartbeat. And that was enough reason to beginning there was no hope. And that loss was and dreaming of a large family with many kids, rejoice! confirmed at the very first doctor’s visit. There I realized my hopes and my dreams had navi- There is a season for everything. And this is was another emergency room visit and another gated toward just me, and my husband, and my the season to rejoice. And so we celebrate. As of surgery. This began feeling all too familiar. This two living children all grown and aged. Images this writing, there is still a heartbeat. Still a reason time I did not want to be alone, so I hastily texted of me with teenagers only included the four of to rejoice. I don’t know how this pregnancy will a small group of my friends for support. Help! us. And somehow those images brought comfort end. I don’t know if at the end I will be holding A plea. And family and friends were gracious and not loneliness. I was thankful for the family a sweet child or another tombstone. But because to bring meals, watch our children, and fill in that I had. Not that I wasn’t thankful before, but of the hope of eternal life, an eternal soul from being me. somehow I had come to terms with that maybe the moment of conception, I have hope of life, A miscarriage is still a pregnancy and a only four was enough. I stopped wondering why whether it is here or eternal. And that is plenty of birth, just with a different outcome. God had allowed three miscarriages, and spent reason for me to celebrate. s But this time we were not able to bury our more time thanking God for the children that I
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 11 TRANSITION
One of the things that we understand will continue throughout our lifetimes is the changing of the seasons. Spring gives way to summer, then fall approaches, and the process moves to winter. This was a promise provided by God to Noah after the flood. “As long as the earth endures, seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, and day and night will not cease” (Genesis 8:22). So it is with our lives. What an appropriate similarity can be formed as our lives transition from one stage to another. Our purpose for this brief message is to explore the transition from having a full house to becoming one of an empty nest. FULL HOUSE TO By Tim Boyett There are blessings and responsibilities asso- and responsibilities we have made to our spouse. In doing so, there are at least two things that are ciated with a full house. “Children are a gift from accomplished. Our children see the love we have for God and that it takes precedent in our lives. the Lord; they are a reward from Him” (Psalm Providing for our family is of vital importance, but there is a God-prescribed way in which that should 127:3). “Honor your father and mother, which is be accomplished. “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things the first commandment with a promise” (Ephe- will be provided for you” (Matthew 6:33). Secondly, they can see the love and respect their parents sians 6:2). “Fathers, do not stir up anger in your have for each other. This love for God and for each other sets in place in the lives of our children a children, but bring them up in the training and foundation upon which a successful life can be built. instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). And However, the day arrives when the full nest is now empty and you find yourself sharing a home what are the results when these principles of God alone with the person with whom you chose to spend the rest of your lives. This should not be a time are put into effect in our families? “By wisdom a when you need to be re-introducing yourselves to each other and becoming acquainted all over again. house is built, and by understanding it is estab- That relationship should have never fallen by the wayside as a casualty to raising the young ones to lished; and by knowledge the rooms are filled a point where they can fly on their own. Does this mean that there will not be any emotional distress with all precious and pleasant riches” (Prov- at all? Of course not! We were created as emotional beings with bonds that tie us to each other; this erbs 24:3-4). is especially true within families. And the emotions are not just exhibited by the mothers, as some The best way to prepare for a time you would have us believe; fathers are well capable of feeling the pangs of an empty nest, also. Trust me, know is coming is prior to the onset of that I can attest to that in my own life! event. How does that translate to our topic of Even if we have prepared well to face the “empty nest” syndrome there may yet be some adjusting transitioning from a full house to an empty which must take place in our lives to assure that we handle it in the best way possible. How can we nest? First and foremost, as important as help ourselves with this transition? taking care of our children is and providing Maintain a support system for each other. This provides a wonderful opportunity to for them a pattern of righteousness to follow, exercise the concept of “two become one” as stated by God in the very beginning of time as the insti- we cannot forget or minimize the commitment tution of the home was established. There is strength in the union when each spouse contributes to the relationship in ways that honor God and encourage one another. Immerse yourselves in a deeper study of the Word of God. EMPTY NEST Stay in contact with the children who have left. One thing that the electronic age we are living in has provided is a myriad of ways to stay in touch. Cell phones, FaceTime, texts, instant messaging, emails … there is no lack of avenues to be social with our family. Respect boundaries, but be available and informed. Become a prayer warrior for your children. Ask God to protect them, guide them, and keep them focused for wise decisions in life. Not only will this help alleviate any anxiety they may be feeling, but it will also help you feel better as the peace of God will embrace you as you reach out to them. Find a way, or ways, to be active in serving others for the glory of God. Volunteer within the church or look into becoming a part of some beneficial community service. Working outside the confines of the church provides an excellent way to share the message of Christ with others who are exhibiting a heart that is obviously open to serving others. Remember this empty nest could actually leave you with a little more time and resources to engage in the prime directive that was given to us by Jesus. “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. Go. Therefore, and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age” (Matthew 28:18-20). Find ways in which you can fulfill the Great Commission. By the way, in the course of human events our children tend to find those with whom they fall in love, marry, and create their own homes. Along with those homes usually comes the wonderful bless- ing of grandchildren! So, hold on; the patter of little feet may once again be heard and experienced! s
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 12 LIVING FAITHFULLY IN A HASHTAG WORLD Brad Harrub, Ph.D.
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Being a Christian is not simply going into a church building 2-3 times per week and sitting on a pew. Being a Christian is a life you live in service to Him. But being a Christian is not always easy. These days Christianity is under attack and it’s getting harder and harder to raise up faithful children. In this book Dr. Harrub deals with many topics “outside the church building.” Heart of the Matter 2: A Second Helping is a book of letters Brad has written to his children to help them stay on the straight and narrow path. This book was purposefully designed to be used as a devotional book for families and small groups.
THOUSANDS ... NOT BILLIONS – $14 | Sale Price – $12
This non-technical book is the layman’s guide to the radioisotopes and the Age of the Earth (RATE) project.
Note: This material was not produced or published by the Christians at Focus Press and may not be representative of the New Testament church. We appreciated much of the material contained and are recommending it to you with this caveat. It has been written to equip the layperson to defend scientific six-day creation and refute dating techniques.
DINOSAURS FOR KIDS – $15 | Sale Price – $12
This book shares the unique world of dinosaurs and their true history like never before as you meet the most unusual creatures to ever walk the earth, stalk the seas, or soar across the sky! Discover how dinosaur bonebeds are made—and other kinds of fossils beyond just bones! Learn the truth behind museum exhibits and flawed evolutionary timelines! Kids will uncover the facts about dinosaur history from the creation to recent discoveries.
CRAZY LOVE: OVERWHELMED BY A RELENTLESS GOD By Francis Chan – $17
God is love. Crazy, relentless, all-powerful love. Have you ever wondered if we’re missing it? It’s crazy, if you think about it. The God of the universe—the Creator of nitrogen and pine needles, galaxies and E-minor—loves us with a radical, unconditional, self-sacrificing love. And what is our typical response? We go to church, sing songs, and try not to cuss. Whether you’ve verbalized it yet or not, we all know something’s wrong. (Not Produced by Focus Press)
I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH FAITH TO BE AN ATHEIST By Norman Geisler – $18
To some, the concept of having faith in a higher power or a set of religious beliefs is nonsensical. Indeed, many view religion in general, and Christianity in particular, as unfounded and unreasonable. Norman Geisler and Frank Turek argue, however, that Christianity is not only more reasonable than all other belief systems, but is indeed more rational than unbelief itself. With conviction and clear thinking, Geisler and Turek guide readers through some of the traditional, tested arguments for the existence of a creator God. (Not Produced by Focus Press)
OUR CREATED MOON – $16 (Ages 11-13)
For eons the moon has intrigued humanity. From its creation through the current issues of space exploration, the moon has been both a light in the night and a protective shield of earth placed perfectly by God, regulating our seasons and keeping our atmosphere purified. Billions of dollars have been spent to reach its surface and discover its secrets; open these pages and discover those secrets for yourself. (Not Produced by Focus Press)
IN THEIR OWN WORDS – $14 | Sale Price – $12.50
What do Zig Ziglar, Michael Behe, R. C. Sproul, Jr., Norma McCorrey, and Don Wildeman all have in common? They all possess a belief in God and you can read about it here in their own words. This special collection of interviews allows you to hear directly from these individuals and so many more.
ALEX TAKES A HIKE – $8 ALEX TAKES A BOAT RIDE – $8 ALEX PLAYS IN THE GARDEN – $8 ADVENTURES WITH ALEX COLORING BOOK – $5
Fully illustrated in full color. The Bible records, and scientific evidence makes the case, that dinosaurs and mankind coexisted. Join Alex the Stegosaurus and his friend Riley, a Triceratops, as they encounter life as it really was in the beginning. Our new Early Reader Series will not only help your child learn to read but also present an accurate portrait of well-known Bible accounts. SALE PRICES GOOD THROUGH JANUARY 15 GOD CREATED THE BIRDS OF THE WORLD – $6 (Ages 4-10)
The books in this series are designed to heighten children’s awareness of the truth of God’s creation. Combination coloring and sticker books, they also contain information that will help children understand the chronology of creation, and the reasons we are to care for what He has entrusted us with. The center of each book contains 32 full-color stickers that match the drawings. Children can place the sticker with the drawing, giving young artists a color guide. (Not Produced by Focus Press)
HOW MANY ANIMALS WERE ON THE ARK? – $16 (Ages 4-10)
How was it possible for Noah to bring aboard 2 million animals on the Ark, or were there perhaps less than 7,000? Helps answer one of the most difficult questions concerning the long voyage of the historical Ark! With the guidance of various authors and researchers, you will discover how Noah would have only needed a few thousand animals with him, and how he and his family could have cared for all life on the Ark over the course of the year’s voyage. (Not Produced by Focus Press) THE GREAT DINOSAUR MYSTERY – $12 | Sale Price – $10
A dinosaur book like you’ve never seen before! Not only is the “dinosaur mystery” solved, but you’ll be taught the true history of the earth and its inhabitants! Your thinking about this world will never be the same again! A wealth of information combined into one volume, this fascinating book is a perfect addition to your family library!
DINOSAURS BY DESIGN – $16 | Sale Price – $13
This book takes you into the exciting world of dinosaurs to find out what they were really like. Discover how fossils are formed, dug up, and assembled for museums. Travel with the dinosaurs as they board Noah’s ark and then enter the strange new world after the Flood.
UNCOVERING THE MYSTERY ZOO GUIDE OF THE WOOLLY MAMMOTH Sale Price – $14 MUSEUM GUIDE AQUARIUM GUIDE Sale Price – $15 each DVDs
CHANGED – $10 | Sale Price – $8 NEW!
Our culture recognizes biological sex as a fact. However, they contend that gender is “fluid” and can change. What does the Bible have to say about sex and gender? How is the transgender movement affecting Christian families today? Join Dr. Brad Harrub as he examines transgenderism from a Biblical and scientific perspective.
THE FLOOD – $25 | Sale Price – $20
A scientist examines the Global Flood. The Noahic Flood was responsible for the death of every land-dwelling creature that was not aboard the ark. That single event changed the topography of the Earth and also was a major chapter in the history of mankind. Join Dr. Brad Harrub as he reveals the truth about God’s punishment on sin. Lessons included in this Series: 1. Noah Faces a Global Catastrophe; 2. Global Flood: Fact or Fiction; 3. Ripples from the Flood: The Ice Age and Origin of Races.
REWIRED: HOW PORNOGRAPHY IS ALTERING YOUR BRAIN AND KILLING THE CHURCH – $15
Pornography has reached epidemic levels. It is affecting individuals, marriages, and even the church. Dr. Brad Harrub demonstrates the size of the problem and then discusses what it is actually doing to the brain. He provides help for those who may currently be struggling, and he offers strong suggestions to parents/grandparents of how to better protect (and prepare) their children/grandchildren. This DVD can be used in a Bible class setting, youth group, or for home Bible study.
INVASION: THE EFFECT OF WORLDLINESS WHEN BLIND ACCESS IS GIVEN – $5 | 25 or more and get half off
There is this sense in America that you can be a true Christian and have a deep burning for the world. Scripture says the exact opposite. Join Dr. Brad Harrub as he examines this epidemic of worldliness that has invaded many Christian homes. SALE PRICES GOOD THROUGH JANUARY 15 ARE YOU CONVICTED? – $5 | 25 or more and get half off
Many are convinced God is real. But are you convicted enough to actually do something about it? Are you really willing to pick up your hammer and do what God commands, or are you still offering up excuses? This eye-opening lesson is one you will not soon forget. Join Dr. Brad Harrub as he challenges modern Christians to pick up their hammer and be convicted for Him! CONVICTED SERIES – $75 | Sale Price – $65
This foundational series by Brad Harrub, Ph.D. includes 13 lessons with up-to-date information. This is a comprehensive video series on Christian evidences that provides the evidence for “why we believe what we believe.” It makes a great companion to Dr. Harrub’s book. Not only does this resource cover the foundational principles like the existence of God, inspiration of the Bible, the deity of Christ, the dinosaur dilemma, and creation vs. evolution, but this series also covers topics that have received very little attention in the past.
INTENTIONAL PARENTING – $10 | Sale Price – $8
Most people believe children do not come with an instruction book. However, as Dr. Brad Harrub points out in this new DVD, they most certainly do—the Bible. Parenting is one of the toughest jobs around if it is done correctly. But the rewards of good parenting can follow you into eternity. This useful DVD focuses on how to make sure your children do not become another statistic.
IN THE FOOTSTEPS OF DARWIN – $20 | Sale Price – $12
Brad Harrub, Ph.D. traveled to the Galapagos Islands to produce an informative DVD that uncovers the truth about the very place upon which Charles Darwin based his theory of evolution. Dr. Harrub serves as your personal guide and will help you distinguish between the facts and the myths about the origin of species.
WHY? – $3 | Sale Price – 50 or more $1.50 each
How can a loving God allow evil, pain, and suffering? Dr. Brad Harrub takes us on a quick but powerful journey of how much our God really does care. He explains why God allows evil, pain, and suffering, and then he reflects on a true case of evil, pain, and suffering—the death of Jesus Christ.
LOVE YOU MORE – $5 | 25 or more and get half off
Special Evangelism DVD. This is a DVD Christians can use to reach out to friends, neighbors, and coworkers. This non-threatening DVD focuses on love and is great for opening doors. WHERE DID WE COME FROM – $12
Where did we come from? It is a basic question that most science textbooks address first. The common answer is Big Bang cosmology, asserting that before the Big Bang there was nothing. But is this logical from a scientific perspective? Is there a better answer? In this powerful DVD Dr. Brad Harrub reveals the fallacy of the Big Bang theory and shares with students how true science fits beautifully with the creation model. Using modern textbook examples, Dr. Harrub dismantles the evolution and points out the complexity and design really observed in nature. ISLAM: BEHIND THE VEIL – $10 | Sale Price – $8
Oftentimes the sight of a burqa—the traditional cloak worn by Muslim women—causes individuals to pause and stare. This vision, and the world it represents, is so foreign to most Christians, that for many, it floods us with questions and maybe even fear. What really lies behind that veil? If those eyes could speak, what exactly would they say? In this DVD, Dr. Brad Harrub shares how Islam really started, who Mohammad really was, what the pillars of Islam are, how this religion treats women, and how to approach them with the Truth.
IN THE SHADOWS OF MOUNT ST. HELENS – $20 | Sale Price – $12
For many individuals, the field of geology remains a hurdle in harmonizing a young earth with scientific data. The May 18, 1980 eruption of Mount St. Helens changed all of that. Rather than basing geology around long-age “assumptions,” scientists discovered a living laboratory that provided some startling information. We invite you to enter the blast zone with Dr. Brad Harrub and his son Will as they discover the truth regarding geological processes and the age of the earth.
EXPOSED: THE TRUTH ABOUT MAN AND DINOSAURS – $20 | Sale Price – $18
These DVDs take viewers on a firsthand look at the real evidence! Join Dr. Brad Harrub and his son Reese on location at an archaeological dig site at Hillcreek Formation in Montana as they expose the truth! 2 DVDs SALE PRICES GOOD THROUGH JANUARY 15 ADDITIONAL DVD TITLES
BROKEN: A STUDY OF MEEKNESS – $5 | Sale Price – $4 PARENTHOOD UNPLANNED – $12 | Sale Price – $8 In this DVD, Dr. Brad Harrub shares what it means to be broken for God and What do Christians need to know regarding modern birth-control practices? allow His hand to rule your life. PLUGGING THE LEAK – $7 | Sale Price – $5 ONE NATION UNDER WHO? – $2 Sale Price – 50 or more $1.50 each Young people have been abandoning their faith in droves. We are all conscious Dr. Brad Harrub takes an intense look at where our nation is and how we got here. of the problem—but the time has come to do something about it.
TRUTH TRUMPS TOLERANCE – $20 | Sale Price – $15 REAL MEN – $10 | Sale Price – $8 Is the school system promoting something that is reducing the lifespan of Society doesn’t think much of fathers, and sadly that has been reflected in both our children? the media and real life. As a result the bar has been lowered for what it means to be a good dad. WHERE’S YOUR HEART? – $10 | Sale Price – $8 Are you ready to cast aside the worldly roles and expectations that society has placed CONSEQUENCES – $2.50 Sale Price – 50 or more $2.00 each on your family? Are you bold enough to look at things from a totally different—totally What are the consequences of a nation that abandons God and His precepts? Biblical—perspective? We want to get this message out to Christians and non-Christians.
THE VALUE OF HUMAN LIFE – $15 | Sale Price – $10 A CHRISTIAN WORLDVIEW – $10 | Sale Price – $8 As science rapidly pursues human cloning and stem cell research, what should What does it really mean to be a Christian?. a Christian’s response be to these ethical situations? FAITH FOR LIFE – $5 | Sale Price – $4 ONE FOOT IN THE GRAVE – $7 | Sale Price – $5 To win the culture war, parents need to be focused on helping their children Just because the world has forgotten about Hell, that does not change the reality of it. know how to become faithful servants of God.
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THE LOST GENERATION – $20
Most people are aware that a large number of young people leave the church as they grow older, but exactly how big of a problem are we dealing with? What can we do to bring them back, and how can we stem the tide with future generations? Jack Wilkie answers these questions in the 5-lesson “The Lost Generation” audio series, discussing the truth about how many young Christians are leaving, what is drawing them away from God, and what we can do about it. CONVICTED SERIES – $35 | Sale Price – $30
This foundational series by Brad Harrub, Ph.D. includes 13 lessons with up-to-date information. This is a comprehensive audio series on Christian evidences that provides the evidence for “why we believe what we believe.” It makes a great companion to Dr. Harrub’s book. Not only does this resource cover the foundational principles like the existence of God, inspiration of the Bible, the deity of Christ, the dinosaur dilemma, and creation vs. evolution, but this series also covers topics that have received very little attention in the past.
WHY BELIEVE? – $25 | Sale Price – $22
With this 8 CD collection, you’ll enjoy learning how science and Scripture are actually in harmony, not contradictory as media leads society to believe. You’ll listen to the truth about how God created us and the wonderful world in which we live! 1. Atheism’s Attack in America; 2. Proving the Existence of God; 3. Exploding Evidence from Mount St. Helens and The Age of the Earth; 4. The Dinosaur Dilemma; 5. Evolutionary Hoaxes; 6. Scientific Accuracy of the Bible; 7. Reasons We Are Losing Our Children; 8. Are You Convicted?
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SALE PRICES GOOD THROUGH JANUARY 15 TRANSITION
REGULAR HOME TO By Steve Hale Caregiving
Ours was an active, challenging home was glad to build the suite, but she needed to be group. Betty loved the “Dirty Santa” games at our without any outside drama. Bringing up three committed to come if I did. She told me that was Christmas Parties. Sweet sisters came and took her teenagers in the Lord was challenge enough for more than fair. So our family of five became a places. One night, she and the ladies had a Bunco us, so we thought. The duties of being a pulpit family of six. party. We were worried she couldn’t keep up. Not minister in a large and thriving church were also Betty lived her last 18 months with us in our only did she keep up, she won about every game. quite time consuming. Our plate, at least so we home. Wonderful brothers from our congregation Ladies were trying to team up with her. She told thought, was full. provided the labor for her suite, a 13 by 9 bedroom Cindy: “And you thought I couldn’t keep up.” We got a call that my mother-in-law was with an adjacent 8 by 8 bathroom. This allowed As Betty neared the end of her life, we could very sick and in fact had been placed in a nurs- her to have her own space and our three children tell that she was afraid to die. She asked to talk to ing home. Cindy had already made some trips to their own space. me about it. I asked her why she was afraid. She see her mother. This was getting more serious, It would not be truthful to say this move started talking about sins she had committed in and we decided to load our family of five up in was always convenient and welcomed. All of us the past and how she did not believe God could our mini-van and make the 750-mile trip to see had to make some sacrifices. Cindy and I could forgive her. It hurt me to think that she was stuck about her. not go somewhere at the drop of a hat, and there with the residue of the past rather than rejoicing Betty (my mother-in-law) was not happy in were times we would be out and had to go home in God’s love and forgiveness. the nursing home. They had diagnosed her with and see about Betty. Our girls bent their schedules Given her condition, I tried to keep it simple dementia, a diagnosis that Cindy and I disagreed to spend time with “Granny.” All of us had our but plain. I shared with her three Biblical facts: with. In fact, Betty, was sharp as a tack until the moments of resentment and pity parties. First, if she had been the only sinner in world day she died. We think that maybe some of the However, over time, a strange thing hap- ever, God would have sent Jesus to die just for her medication plus being disoriented in a strange pened. Betty grew spiritually. She had had a (John 3:16). “Whosoever” indicates being com- place caused this. hard life, but was so appreciative of our efforts. pletely comprehensive. God loves her that much! Anyway, Betty could not go home on her We all grew to love her and cherish her. In corn- Second, the Lord washed away her sins when own, so she had a choice I was commissioned to bread English, God was working on her and on she put Christ on in baptism (Revelation 1:5; Acts lay before her. She could go home with us until us. Love made the feeling of being burdened go 22:16). In Christ, she has a new beginning in the the officials were satisfied that she was cogent and away (Genesis 29:20). Lord (2 Corinthians 5:17; Acts 3:19). able to live on her own, or stay in the nursing One of my favorite memories was a trip we Third, as a Christian under a covenant rela- home. Without hesitation, she said she would go made with the Golden Agers to a breakfast place. tionship, the blood of Jesus keeps on cleansing her home with us. As we gathered around the church van for our from all unrighteousness so long as she is a loyal That first sojourn in our home lasted for trip, I put Betty in a wheelchair to load her up. I and conscientious Christian (1 John 1:7-10). In almost 11 months. She was allowed to go back told her to put her arm around my neck, and I Christ and being loyal in Christ, her sins are as to her apartment. That was short-lived, however, would lift her into the front seat. She said: “I can far from her as the east is from the west (Psalm as it became apparent, we had to make some per- do it myself!” I told her to go ahead. She climbed 103:12). manent arrangements for her. She came to our up from the wheelchair to the seat in the van like Betty smiled sweetly and looked much more home once again, and we sat down to discuss a little squirrel up a tree. Sitting triumphantly in relaxed. Not long afterward, I watched her draw options. I told her I was willing to build her a the front seat, she pointed her finger at me and her last breath. Her time with us turned out to mother-in-law suite which would be hers the rest said: “I told you I could do it.” The Golden Agers be such a blessing. In fact, I miss her. We all do! of her life, or she could go into assisted living broke out in applause behind me. When Betty came to live with us, we forgot where she lived, but the government would take The Plainview congregation was just won- that God was working! He turned a burden into all of her money but $25 a month. I told her I derful to her, and particularly our Golden Ager a blessing! s
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 19 TRANSITION “For even when we came into Macedo- nia, our bodies had no rest, but we were afflicted at every turn—fighting without and fear within. But God, who comforts the down-cast, comforted us by the coming MOURNING of Titus, and not only by his coming but TO also by you, as he told us of your longing, your mourning, your zeal for me, so that READJUSTMENT I rejoiced still more.” By Ron Williams 2 Corinthians 7:5-7 (ESV)
The apostle Paul wrote these words through What can families or individuals do when they are in their crucible of grief? What can we do the Holy Spirit as he waited for Titus’ return from to transition from mourning to that of readjustment and readaptation of our relationships of life? a visit to Corinth. Paul had written stern words I offer these suggestions: to the Corinthian church about their aberrant (1) Face the reality of grief when it comes into your family’s life. Do not pretend that grief has behaviors and had chastised them as a father not invaded your family’s harmony and well-being. would his children concerning their conduct. (2) Do not act like you can “wish it way” by persistent prayer; be willing to face it head on and When Titus returns, Paul is overjoyed to hear deal with it! of the response of the Corinthian church. Paul’s period of mourning had changed to rejoicing (3) Look for help from others; do not pretend to be brave as if you can do it all by yourself. Most when God sent Titus back to Paul with news of individuals and families need the strength and encouragement that comes from interact- the Corinthians’ receptivity to Paul’s writing con- ing with others. Seek out competent counselors, ministers, and other support personnel as cerning their need to change. At that time, Paul’s needed; read good books, find a support program within your community (or better within grief and mourning had moved to readjustment your church family) that will allow you to know that you are not alone in grieving. of rejoicing and gladness over the response of his (4) Do not isolate yourselves from others. There is a temptation in grief to withdraw and “close Corinthian church family. the ranks” when you are encountering the real pains that come from grief and loss situa- Like the apostle Paul, grief and mourning tions. If you can, fight the urge to get away from others and instead, choose to be present can occur for us when we suffer the loss or ces- for services of the church and let others see you in public situations. sation of something or someone significant to us (5) Allow others to express concern for you. Let them assist you in big and small ways to help in life. A person’s death, a separation or divorce, your days not be so lonely and consumed by grief and mourning. or the ending of a living relationship with that (6) One final suggestion: “feel what you feel” as you initially deal with the pains that come from something or someone, means that a change grief losses. As humans, we will encounter many emotions that we cannot expect and have in the relationship will have to be made. That never faced before. Remember, “Jesus wept” (John 11:35), and if our Lord cried inwardly change produces feelings, emotions, and actions at the death of a dear friend, we will also feel and grieve as well with the losses of our lives. that are unpleasant to confront. “Grief is like being in a deep dark pit with What can church leaders and others do to help families in grief and mourning? no way out,” the couple from a grief support class (1) Have a continual support program of care and concern for those who grieve within your wrote. In asking my class participants to write church programs. You will be surprised at the ones who might attend such a class as they down in their own words the meaning of grief, the benefit from being with others who grieve as well. couple added, “Grief is a feeling of being under a dark veil that you cannot lift. There is a feeling (2) Be practical in what you do for others. Send a continual stream of correspondence to those that there is something heavy across your heart who are grieving. A simple note of love and appreciation will be worth its weight in gold and a tight band that is around your head. Grief to those lonely folks. is total despair. Grief is a feeling of helplessness (3) Remember folks hurt weeks and months after some loss as they do during the first few days that seems unbearable.” of the loss (in fact, they hurt more as the shock wears off). Just because you expressed your The above-mentioned definition is a concern and love during the first few days of the loss, please do not forget them later when heart-felt meaning of what happens when grief they really need you! and mourning invades a person’s or family’s (4) Remember the rule: 97% quit visiting or spending time with the family within two weeks life. Grief, from the Latin word, gravis, means of the loss situation. Be part of the 3% and call, write, visit, or whatever to express your “heavy.” Indeed, if there has ever been an under- concern in later times. statement for a word, that has to be one! Grief (5) Continually ask, “What would I like someone to do for me if I were in this situation?” Tell is one of the most debilitating expressions of your grieving families, “We want to be of help and encouragement; what can we do for you emotion that a person or family can ever imag- today to help you?” Be quiet and let them respond in good time. You might be surprised ine. Grief is an all-encompassing emotion that by what they say to you. can cause families to feel like the problems of (6) Genuinely care for them. Show Christ’s love in all you do. Be an ambassador for good in all the world have suddenly been placed upon their that you do as we “rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep” (Romans backs and in their hearts! 12:15). Assist them as they readjust to their “new normal” of life. s
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 20 MUST CHRISTIANS OBEY THE LAW OF THE LAND? CONGREGATIONAL SECURITY WHEN MUST A CHRISTIAN RESIST GOVERNMENT? CURRENT ISSUES FROM A DISTINCTLY CHRISTIAN VIEW
CAN THE BIBLE BE A LEGAL GUIDE?
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WIDOWER TO REMARRYING By Randy Pyle
It had been a few weeks; I had not seen or heard from the brother who had lost his precious For the purpose of this article, no consid- wife of many years, so I decided to drop by and check on him. I presumed no one was home because eration is being given to other possible motives there were no lights on, and the television was not playing. I knocked on his door anyway since I for remarriage. Though many do exist, both had already driven over there. To my surprise, he opened the door and invited me in. It was a bit legitimate and dishonorable, we will only be awkward sitting there in the dark. I wondered just how bad off this man had become to be sitting thinking in terms of the legitimate desire for in the dark, all by himself. A few years later I visited another man whose wife of many years had companionship. passed. This time I was not surprised, nor did I think it strange that he was sitting in the dark, all by himself. What changed my point of view? In between those two visits, my own precious wife of 38 Let’s look at some barriers to fulfilling years had passed. I found that sitting in the dark, doing nothing, was normal. In fact, I described the this desire for companionship. days after my wife passed as a long dark night. The other two men and I had one important thing Though a person may be very lonely and in in common during that period of our lives. Those dark rooms in which we found ourselves sitting this state be very miserable, that does not mean described exactly the darkness we all felt inside. that he or she will automatically go out and find The darkness is actually loneliness. A common definition is “A state of solitude or being another person with whom to share their lives. alone.” Loneliness is not necessarily about being alone; it is a state of mind. Being alone and being Some feel it would be disloyal to the first spouse lonely are not the same thing. A person can feel very lonely and yet be in a huge assembly of people. to consider dating again. The marital bond to the As stated by Kendra Cherry in an article titled: “The Health Consequences of Loneliness” (verywell- spouse they lost is still so strong that the thought mind.com), Loneliness causes people to feel empty, alone, and unwanted … Loneliness, according of sharing one’s life with another is just impos- to many experts, is not necessarily about being alone. Instead, if you feel alone and isolated, then sible. Others have feelings of inferiority. Why that is how loneliness plays into your state of mind. would anyone want an old has-been like me? So, what does a grieving person do with these feelings of loneliness and loss? It The thought that physically and emotionally the depends on the state of mind of the person who is grieving the loss of a lifetime mate. For some, no best years have long come and gone keep some thought of remarriage can be entertained. For others, the deep state of loneliness is so great that they from being open to a second marriage. Another must start down the road to companionship as soon as possible. barrier is that most of us who have been married
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 22 TRANSITION
for so many years do not even know where to start looking. Finally, some are just afraid, and legit- imately so, of getting into a bad situation. There are some things worse than loneliness! What if he or she is set in his or her ways? It is very likely they are, as you also are very likely to be after doing things a certain way for so many years. Just because you and your former spouse liked a certain style, television program, entertainment, etc., there is no guarantee that someone else will have the same likes and dislikes. How willing are you to change things at this point in life? How will another marriage affect your family relationships? Often times kids will be involved, maybe even grandchildren. Will the new spouse get along with your kids? Will you get along with their kids? Will there be questions about the allotment of assets? Is there property to be consoli- dated? Will there be angst about family property and heirlooms? So, what is a person to do who has lost the love of his life and now finds themselves in the darkness of grief and lone- liness? The short-term answer is nothing. There are so many feelings and situational things to be sorted out. One cannot make the loneliness go away any more than a person can make grief go away just by deciding it is time. In fact, even after SHOULDN’T CHURCH a successful remarriage to a wonderful person, these feelings may return from time to time. If indeed you are the kind of person who thinks BE … MORE? you need companionship like you need air, then If you’ve ever driven home on a Sunday with that question on your mind, you are not alone. prayerfully open yourself up to the idea of God When we read about the church in the Bible there’s a beauty and an appeal to it that so often placing someone in your life. It is important that seems missing. In our busy, distracted, consumeristic world it seems as though becoming a you do not rush into anything, but there is no set self-sacrificial, tight-knit, Christlike family like the early Christians is a pipe dream. time as to how long it should take you to get over it. Do not allow others to dictate when you are In Church Reset: God’s Design for So Much More, Jack Wilkie traces the problem back to its ready to start the process of opening yourself up roots to show how we’ve deviated from God’s plan and how we can get back on track. How can to another person. Time does not heal all wounds, we stop operating as an organization and start living like a family? How do we stop creating but it does make them easier to bear. You may or church customers and start making dedicated disciples? How do we abandon man-made may not find another person to whom you would strategies and rediscover the power of God’s design? Church Reset casts an exciting vision for be willing to commit the rest of your life. If you what Christ’s church can be by pointing back to what it was meant to be from the very start. do, and you have chosen wisely, then marital happiness can again be yours. However, between now and then, live your life. Get busy doing things you love. Be $ active, be with people as much as possible even though at first it may not be something you 14 want to do. Seek a balance between caution and plus S&H contentment, between physical happiness and eternal happiness. I have now been remarried almost 6 years and I recommend it to any who Order online at www.focuspress.org or call 615-324-5870 would ask. s We are a tax-deductible non-profit 501(c)3 dependent on your generosity. Donate online at www.focuspress.org/donate
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 23 Think: WELLSPRING Teresa Hampton ? ? ? ? ? It is a question I hear often. Why? Why the hatred? Why the political except his throne. For seven years Joseph served faithfully as the governor unrest? Why such contempt, vicious words, and animosity toward others? of Egypt. One wonders why he did not try to contact his father to let him WWhy is God allowing this to transpire? Why are people unkind, downrighth know he was living yand well. Joseph was unaware of the lie his brothers rude? Why do they call good evil and call evil good? Why has He allowed told their father. Perhaps he was deeply saddened and disappointed that his an evil virus to halt the progress and unity in His beloved church? It seems father didn’t come to rescue him. He named his first son Manasseh, which like the world, the communities, the church, and our families are upside means “making forgetful.” “For God has made me? forget all my toil and down in a fierce battle with Satan. all my father’s house” (Genesis 41:51). I am reminded of Joseph, and though Scripture does not reveal it, During the most severe years of the famine, Joseph’s brothers came to I wonder if he ever asked, “Why?” His brothers threw him into a deep pit, Egypt to purchase grain. When the time was right, Joseph revealed himself and discussed how they might kill him (Genesis 37:24). They saw Midianite to them, “I am Joseph, does my father still live?” They were dismayed, “But traders approaching and devised a treacherous plan to get rid of him. He now, do not therefore be grieved or angry with yourselves because you sold may have listened as they negotiated a price they would take for selling him me here; for God sent me before you … to preserve a posterity for you in to the foreigners. The traders took him to Egypt and sold him to Potiphar, the earth, and to save your lives by great deliverance” (Genesis 45:3-8). the captain of Pharaoh’s guard (39:1-5). Did he ask, “Why?” There are many things that happen in our lives that cause us to ques- Even as a slave, God blessed the young man. Potiphar entrusted him tion, “Why?” Why is God allowing us to live through such turmoil, fear and with all authority in his household. But his favor came to a screeching halt sadness? During those moments we must trust God and be confident in our when Mrs. Potiphar falsely accused Joseph of rape. He was thrown into the belief that He is master of all things. We must take our concerns to Him jail that confined Pharaoh’s prisoners (Genesis 39:19-23). Do you think and gently lay them at His feet. The world may seem as if it is spinning out Joseph may have asked, “Why?” of control, but the Creator, our Redeemer is in control. His reasons are far Again, the Lord blessed Joseph and he prospered. In the course of beyond our comprehension. He can and will use everything to accomplish time, he was given authority over all the prisoners. One day the king’s His good will! s butler and baker were delivered to the prison. Both had troubling dreams, with no interpretation. Joseph listened and with God’s help explained the Today’s Verses: “So Joseph dwelt in Egypt, he and his father’s household. meaning of their dreams. The butler would be restored to his job, but the And Joseph lived one hundred and ten years. Joseph saw Ephraim’s children baker would be executed, and so it happened. Joseph asked the butler to to the third generation. The children of Machir, the son of Manasseh, were make mention of him to the Pharaoh, but for two years the butler forgot also brought up on Joseph’s knees. And Joseph said to his brethren, ‘I am about him. Do you think Joseph ever said, “Why is this happening to me?” dying; but God will surely visit you, and bring you out of this land to the When Pharaoh had two troubling dreams and no one could interpret land of which He swore to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob.’ Then Joseph them, the butler remembered Joseph. He told the king and Joseph was took an oath from the children of Israel, saying, ‘God will surely visit you, promptly summoned. By the power of God he explained the meaning of and you shall carry up my bones from here.’ So Joseph died, being one the dreams—there would be seven years of plenty followed by seven years hundred and ten years old; and they embalmed him, and he was put in a of severe famine. The mighty ruler put Joseph in authority over everything coffin in Egypt” (Genesis 50:22-26).
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In the Bailey household it seems like losing something is a daily dilemma, from car keys, to shoes, wallets to purses and not to mention the mate to a pair of socks. (The fashion trend in our family is just wearing mixed matched socks. That has become our new normal.) But the greatest and most precious thing we have lost as a family was our way. We lost our way to the Lord. When you have lost YOUR WAY
Some years ago, we were offered a job, a great business deal, and we took it. With this job came a lot of money, prestige, and power. We felt as if we had gone from rags to riches. This was an opportunity of a lifetime. We were young parents with small children and felt excited and thrilled at what we thought would be a tremendous gain to our lives. We even got a large sign on bonus. What a temptation for a young couple with three young children! Everything was glittering. We were able to purchase our dream home, complete with a swimming pool. We got the brand-new car we were craving and the frequent trips to the mall buying and buying all the latest and greatest items. As the saying goes, “we shopped until we dropped.” But in all that time we thought we were gaining, we were actually losing. We were losing our way to the Lord. We continued to go to church every Sunday and Wednesday and gave more in the offering basket than ever. We even started Bible studies in our home and all the while we were trying to save souls, we were in jeopardy of losing our own. Our attitudes and behaviors started changing in our marriage and these same attitudes were manifesting in our children. There were even changes in our extended family, who at the time benefitted from this so-called gain. We found ourselves discombobulated at all ends. We had started dancing with the devil and we learned that the devil will dance with you until the music stops. Thank God for His grace, mercy, deliverance, and for the Holy Spirit for putting us in remembrance of what we had been taught. The music stopped, Satan fled, and just like the prodigal son, one day we came to ourselves. We had lost our way and our focus on the Lord. Our minds had become set on the things of this world and the false feelings that it offered. We found out that all that glitters isn’t gold. How did we find our way back? We had to lose most of the material things, recognize Satan for what he was doing in our lives, then humble ourselves in the sight of the Lord, and let Him do the lifting (James 4:6). We had to lose in order to gain. When we chose to surrender to the Lord, everything else came back into place. Our spiritual life, our marital life, the attitudes of our children, and the attitudes of our families all fell back into place when we humbled ourselves and looked to the Lord. We now know that the Lord can and will provide for us, but always in His way and in His time. It is not about us; it is all about Him. The beauty of this journey back to the Lord is that we found out that the Lord never left us. He was right where we left Him, just waiting for our return. We thank the Lord for allowing us the time and space to find our way back to Him. There is nothing like the Lord’s grace, mercy, and forgiveness. This happened many years ago and we definitely don’t dwell on our past. We do, however, most definitely look back and learn from it. We are now wiser, happier and more thankful than ever to our good God. Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me” (John 14:6). s
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 27 Think: SEASONED WITH SALT Brandon Brooks
Is it still cool to wear shirts with your favorite band on the front? Do you remember a couple of decades ago, in school, the girls wore T-shirts HOW DO with their favorite band on them? It was mainly boy bands like NSYNC and New Kids on the Block but they were proud to support them. For the guys, it was more of the sports teams and such. I don’t recall YOU SHOW too many guys wearing shirts with bands on them unless it was the real classic rock groups and some of the long hair bands. Even in today’s world, we still see a lot of people with sports jerseys YOUR LOVE and such but we also see many people with political shirts. Just take a look around your town. If your town is like those in Middle Tennessee, we see many people with TRUMP 2020 shirts, hats, and even flags being flown FOR CHRIST? from their vehicles. You see people with BIDEN shirts as well and bumper stickers on the bumpers of their cars. You can tell that these people have a love and passion for the public figure or team that they are broadcasting on their shirts, cars, and other types of items. It is obvious that they want others to know exactly who they are in favor of. A lot of the time, these can be great conversation starters. Wearing a sports team logo on your hat can attract people who have the same interests as you and even many who do not. It sparks questions that they never would have asked if they would not have seen that logo. Each time I wear a University of Tennessee hat, I have people talk to me about the game that is coming up …. Yes, it is never a pleasant conversation to be in about your team that always loses. What if we let our love for Christ show on our vehicles? What if we wore shirts that expressed our love for Christ? What if we even threw a flag on our vehicle that tells everyone how awesome God is? People would be able to tell that we are followers of Christ and with some of the items we would be showing, they would potentially develop a conversation as well. I’m not saying go get a bumper sticker and throw it on your bumper (which by the way is not good on your paint!). There are many different ways that we can show our love for Christ. For exam- ple, while going out to eat, ask your waiter/waitress if they have anything that you can pray for them. You could also leave a card with your name on it with someone and tell them that you are praying for them. If you see someone in need, stop, and ask them if you can help. Pray with someone on the spot that needs prayers. You could even buy some- one’s lunch without them knowing and pass a note to them anonymously saying that God loves them. As 2020 ends, let’s challenge each other to show the love of Christ to all of those we come in contact with. Spread God’s love to all, all the time. 1 John 4:7-8: “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” s GOD IS GOOD!!
DECEMBER 2020 | THINK 28 Think: AS YOU ARE GOING Edwin Jones
ORGANIC OR INSTITUTIONAL? BOTH, BUT… “Organic” is one of the words we hear when the organization appro- time recognizing the institutional aspects of both Jesus as the King and priate for developing groups of people is discussed. When considering the shepherds having derived authority in local congregations, consider the working of the church, “organic” is frequently contrasted with either “cor- following. While Jesus and the disciples were found in synagogues and at porate” or “institutional.” the temple, more structured, institutional environments, the primary venue The corporate or institutional model has a hierarchal pyramid shape for giving glory to God was on the stage of everyday life before the watching where a chain of command is rigorously maintained. An organic model is world (Matthew 5:16; John 13:31-32; 14:12-14; 15:8; 17:1-4). much more “flat,” with the people in the group working more as a team Jesus’s appearances in the more structured synagogue and temple with flexibility to adapt to challenges they encounter. The principle this settings were most notable for being teaching vehicles (John 18:19-21), draws from is that those doing the work are often better able to understand but were nevertheless intended to be joined inseparably to a life of service the nature of problems that surface along the way (note Acts 6:1-4). (Acts 1:1). In other words, Jesus’s teachings in places of worship were never Let me state up front in this discussion, things must have some form intended to be merely an academic exercise of instruction (James 1:21-25). of structure, including some form of hierarchal structure. The body with- As an educator by academic training and more so by virtue of being out the structure of a skeleton would not work well at all! Additionally, a minister for over 50 years, I recognize the power of both the pulpit and everything corporate is not necessarily to be avoided. In the church, Jesus the classroom. Nevertheless, I’m also very well aware that apart from living is the supreme authority, the head of what might be seen in a modified as a disciple and working with the local body of Jesus, there can be no real pyramid. Elders also occupy a role of authority in service to Jesus, but even practical growth for either individuals or congregations. this is not to be confused with traditional human configurations (Matthew To illustrate, once in a ninth-grade science class I learned the parts of 20:24-28; John 13:1-15). an automobile. I dazzled my younger brother with this new-found knowl- With these observations, consider that the church is neither an edge. I would have made the better grade had we been tested on such factual engineering project nor an entity capable of thriving using the model of knowledge. The truth, however, was that my brother could take cars apart corporate America. and put them back together, a practical thing I couldn’t begin to do. So, The structure of the church is most significantly identified with a which one of us would you have preferred as your mechanic? body (Ephesians 4:16; 1 Corinthians 12:12-27). Even its building/edifice I have letters I can place at the end of my name, but the school of comparisons inject the caveats of “living stones” and “you are being built life is where my greatest lessons have been learned. Facts are absolutely together into a dwelling of God in the Spirit” (1 Peter 2:5; Ephesians 2:22). necessary, but academia separated from an “as you are going,” organic Jesus is the primary spiritual model for the church both as a living expression is of little practical value. example and as the head of the body. Of Him it is said, “The Word became If I’m in a Bible Bowl competition, I want to win every time, but life flesh and pitched His tent among us” (John 1:14), as well as “He is also the “as we are going” is where Kingdom battles are most practically fought. The head of the body, the church” (Colossians 1:18). This is most appropriate church that has Jesus as its head, is most fundamentally a body organically considering how an “as you are going” body must have both direction moving about in the world as well as working together as congregations in and the ability to circulate among people (Matthew 28:18-20; John 17:15). the common pursuit of that which “causes the growth of the body for the To further analyze the Bible’s organic emphasis, while at the same building up of itself in love” (Ephesians 4:16). s
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[This will be the last article for individuals who have walked away from Jesus and His church. While these letters are written to a generic audience of people who have left the church, most will be written with a particular person in mind … in hopes that they will think seriously about where they stand.]
Dear friend,
You know that I am an evidence guy. I was trained as a scientist and I to me. In fact, I was basically living for myself. Every decision and every like “proof.” I have shared with you archaeological discoveries that support action was centered around whether it made me happy. Had you asked me the Christian faith. We have discussed some of the intelligent design we back then if I were a good person, I would have said, “Absolutely!” After all, see in the universe and human body. I have openly admitted that there I had never killed or raped anyone. And I went to church with my family are some in the church who struggle with sin and do not act the way Jesus for 18 years, so in my mind I was pretty good. commanded. And finally, we have talked about how your worldview—sec- The reality was my life was full of sin. And sadly, my sin separated ular humanism—requires faith that there was a Big Bang and that God me from God. Imagine a 50-gallon barrel full of the most vile/nasty/toxic does not exist. fluid you can think of. Worse than human waste. That was my life when My final plea with you does not involve evidence. Instead, I want to you compared it to a holy God. Thankfully, Jesus plunged head-first into turn our discussion to the topic of love—a topic that you can’t measure that 50-gallon barrel and saved me from drowning in that filth. By going in the laboratory. to the cross He took all of my sins away and washed me white as snow. He I suspect there have been times you have wondered why I persisted endured the punishment that I deserved for my sins. Because of Him and with our dialogue. In fact, there may have been times you felt I was pes- His beautiful gift I can now stand before God on judgement day righteous tering you. I want to share with you in this final letter my motivation and redeemed. for continuing our talks. In a single word my motivation is love. While There has never been a bigger and more beautiful picture of love we may not agree on many things, I care about you and your soul. That than Jesus. Today, my goal is to demonstrate the love and compassion of single factor has been the driving force behind my desire to share all of Jesus. While I can’t wash your sins away, I can share with you the Man this information with you. who can. I can give you the same gift that was given to me. Right now you So why do I care about you and your soul? Frankly, I am very trou- are drowning in your own 50-gallon barrel of filth. Jesus is standing there bled about where your soul will spend eternity. There are nights I wake up waiting to dive in and save you. with my jaws sore from grinding my teeth worrying about your situation. I can’t force you. I can’t make you do it. All I can do is share His Probably the thing that stands out in the forefront of my mind is that I was incredible love and pray that it reaches your heart and causes you to want exactly where you are years ago. And it’s not a good place to be. to change. I hope you will remember that even on your worst day there is Bear with me as I share two things with you: my background and a gift Someone who loves you. s I received. I have not always been the “Christian scientist” you identify with today. My life was radically different in the years before I got married. I was in a fraternity in college, and drinking was not that big a deal back then. I I hope you will think on these things. had multiple girlfriends and lived a very worldly life. I had no problem with Until next time, I continue to pray for you, cussing or immoral movies. Honoring my parents was not very important Brad
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