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Halifax Pride: Volunteer All Call! very year the Halifax Pride smooth flow and timely arrival at the is also looking for volunteers to as- Week festival needs volun- Garrison Grounds. sisting with the sale of tickets and Eteers. This year is no dif- Roughly six volunteers are re- merchandise. ferent. As the community festival quired for the Community Fair on Besides feeling good about being continues to grow, the backbone Saturday, July 24 from 9:00 a.m. – 6:00 part of a great celebration there are to its success depends on attract- p.m. They will assist the Community additional benefits to volunteering ing and keeping good volunteers. Fair Coordinator with the set-up, your time… for a minimum of two Here’s an overview of this year’s management and placement of all hours of volunteer work you’ll get a requirements: vendors. The Main Stage Coordinator snazzy Pride t-shirt, you’ll have fun A minimum of five people are will also need about six volunteers to with your friends (who happen to needed to sell t-shirts and other mer- assist with the transportation of all volunteer along with you) and make chandise at various venues through- talent and ensuring the performers new friends along the way. out the week. are ready to go on stage at least five Halifax Pride will host a volunteer The Pride parade will need people minutes prior to their time slot. training session at Empire Park Lane at the marshalling yard prior to the Volunteer coordinator Kathy on Spring Garden Road on July 10, parade to assist with the decorating Walsh says that the grounds setup tentatively scheduled to run from of the floats as well as carrying the team “…is the most important and 11:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m. For more in- New And Improved two Pride flags (Halifax’s requires glamourous of all, because people formation and to get your questions 16 people and Ottawa’s requires 40 wouldn’t have a great time at the fes- answered contact Kathy at Halifax. www.halifaxpride.com people). Twenty parade marshals tival without them!” This team marks [email protected]. are needed to walk the route during off the marshalling yard into slots Check out the Halifax Pride pull- the parade to ensure a safe distance designated for parade entrants and are out in this issue for more information between the entrants themselves, also are in charge of the set-up and about Pride week or go to the new and that the spectators are a safe tear-down of the tables and chairs for website www.halifaxpride.com for distance from the entrants. The walk- the Garrison Grounds beer tent. At regular updates on events and activi- More Halifax Pride Inside! ing marshals also contribute greatly the end, they are also responsible for ties. For general inquiries e-mail Liz to clearing any bottle-necked areas the clean up of the Grounds. McQuaid or Ed Savage at chairs@ • See Center Pull-Out Section along the parade route to ensure a The Queer Acts Theatre festival halifaxpride.com. • Halifax Pride OutBid Photos on P. 15

Moncton Colour Parties Turn Into Pride by Paul H LeBlanc, Chairperson/ Président The Greater Moncton Pride 2010 iver of Pride's monthly Col- week is from August 15-22, culminat- our party season draws to a ing with our parade and celebration Rclose with the Purple Party on August 22. It's never too early to on July 3 at Triangles. The wall register to volunteer or participate of hearts at Triangles is indicative in the parade and if you are from of another successful fundrais- out of town we encourage you to ing project and of our communi- book accommodations early at the ty's support. A pre-pride Rainbow Crown Plaza Hotel, for a special pride Party is scheduled for August 7. rate online. Check the hotel’s web-

Chairperson Paul LeBlanc congratulates best blue outfit winners Jessica Marshall and Emily Jones.

site at resweb.passkey.com/ of the rainbow flag and the presenta- drive of businesses along the parade Resweb.do?mode=welcome_ tion of a flag to be proudly flown at route in an attempt to bring about a ei_new&eventID=2549382. each city/town hall in August. The more visual and financial support for In June a Pride public campaign will continue with a press pride week. awareness campaign to reach conference slated for early July to For more information please out and deliver our message unveil our 2010 calendar of events check our website at www.fierte- to the general public and gain as well as a door to door sponsorship monctonpride.ca. support of more Allies began with televised public presenta- tions to the Moncton, River- view and Dieppe municipal Regular Columns council meetings. The presen- tations included our apprecia- Chef’s Corner 10 • Groups & Services 20 • ISCANS News tion of their ongoing support 9 • I Am What I Amherst 9 • Kibitz and Bitch 6 • Lesbian over the past eleven years, an Diaries 16 • The Last Word 22 • Northern AIDS Society 9 • Lawrence Forbes, Interim Executive Director, Downtown Moncton Centre overview of upcoming pride You Tell Us 22 Ville Inc. presents sponorship cheque to River of Pride-Riviere de Fierte Inc, events, ending with a brief history August Deadline: Friday, July 2 (first Friday of the month!) Chairperson Paul LeBlanc CUPE_Wayves_ad copy.pdf 4/22/10 11:27:48 AM

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March In AA / Al-Anon also available nearby. Come explore In July, 2005 Jim added a second the Eastern Shore! career to his accomplishments, be- Yarmouth Weekend Spry Bay Campground and Cabins coming an ordained minister in the The 22nd Courage Round Up, spon- has a well stocked convenience store Universal Life Church. A year later sored by gay men and lesbians in which carries everything from soup Jim invited representatives from lo- Alcoholic Anonymous will be held to nuts, lottery, cigarettes, numer- cal churches to help with the annual August 7 – 9, 2010 at the Universalist ous delicious ice cream flavours and Pride church service. Clergy from Unitarian Church, 5500 Inglis St. The various little trinkets visitors may be the Anglican, United and Presbyte- weekend includes fellowship, speaker looking for. We also have a 25 seat rian churches attended; the Catholic meetings and discussions of recov- Café/Resto with a full menu of hand Church declined. We believe that that ery topics in a relaxed and peaceful cut and homemade goodies; come try was a first in Canada. A month after setting. “Sobriety in Community” is our fish & chips and our “to die for” that, in August, 2005 Jim hosted the South West Nova Pride in Yarmouth this year’s theme. Courage is a small desserts; we also serve old fashioned province’s first same-sex marriage at is planning to march as a group in the intimate Round Up and is the only milk shakes. Rainbow Lodge. Yarmouth Seafest Parade on July 17. GLBT AA Round Up in Atlantic Get some more information at In June, 2006 Jim was appointed We invite other GLBT groups and all Canada, and is the only one of its www.sprybaycampground.ca; book the first Marriage Commissioner of gay individuals or friends and families kind east of Montreal. E-mail - Cour- and stay for a weekend and receive a Prince Edward Island. That same that support us to join us in showing [email protected], or phone John “buy 1 get 1 free” breakfast coupon day he performed the first same-sex Southwest Nova Scotia that we are as at (902) 425-8383, Web Site: www. (subject to restrictions). This offer marriage after the same-sex marriage much of a part of our community as halifaxgayaaroundup.org. is not valid in conjunction with any bill was passed by the provincial every one else. Our plan is to march other discounts. legislature. with our South West Nova Pride Jim has had many interviews with banner with some of us may dress Youth Pride by Empire Theatres to the Halifax magazines, a 15-minute segment on in costume and carry placards in sup- Are you 25 or younger? The Youth Culbert Leads PEI Pride 2010 Festival. Toronto’s Careers TV… all for the port. If you have items in rainbow Project will host a number of events Please share this among your con- Pride Parade betterment of travelling gays and les- colours, that would be great. for youth during Pride Week 2010. tacts in our community and we look Jim Culbert will be the Pride Parade bians. Jim continues to be an outspo- If you are interested in joining For this year’s Pride Week, we will forward to your support. Marshall for Prince Edward Island’s ken advocate of promoting not only us or would like more information host a Youth Project Open House for all members of the community, Pride 2010. gay rights but also equal rights for all. please contact us by e-mail at info@ A bit of history. In May, 1988 swnovapride.com, or call Dianne a coffee night and talent show for youth, and a youth float building and Jim moved from Ontario to Prince at (902) 749-0977 or Jack at (902) Edward Island. The only visible gay Pride Movie 645-2914. arts and crafts day. As usual our Youth Project float will appear in the Pride thing in the province seemed to be Series parade and all youth are welcome to the lesbian toll-free number in the Halifax Pride will host a movie se- Facilitators join us on our float. This year’s float Guardian newspaper. Since then Jim ries leading up to Pride Week (July Needed For Youth theme is “Broadway.”Contact us at has worked tirelessly to bring gay is- 18 – 25) in conjunction with Empire (902) GAY-5GAY or check out our sues to the forefront. Theatres Park Lane’s Fan Favourite Outreach website at www.youthproject.ns.ca A month after his move, Jim program. The Valley Youth Project is currently for details and the most up-to-date opened Blair Hall, the Island’s first Fan Favourites at Park Lane of- looking for dynamic adult facilitators information. gay-owned and operated, out-of-the- fers movie buffs late-night weekend for the 2010-2011 school year. closet bed and breakfast. Two years programming of classic movie selec- We are currently seeking folks later, in October, 1990 Jim started the tions. Offerings over the past months who are LGBTQQI or ally identified, Anglican Integrity annual GLBT Thanksgiving pot luck have included a tribute to Stanley people who are organized, energetic, in NS & PEI supper, which continues to this day. Kubrick, classic sci-fi and horror willing to connect with young people Integrity is re-organizing in NS and In 1996 Jim invited gay-owned flicks, well-known action films and and able to give a little time. If this PEI. If you wish to be involved and operated B&B’s from Nova Sco- even a musical series. opportunity interests you, please contact [email protected] or tia and New Brunswick to a Thanks- The Halifax Pride series will run contact Tracy or Jamie at valleyy- phone (902) 425-8383. Integrity is an giving weekend get-together. From over three weekends with screenings [email protected] for more organization of GLBT Anglicans and this, Atlantic Rainbow Connections Friday and Saturday nights at 11:30 information. their friends, to encourage Christian was formed, an informal way to let p.m. at Empire Park Lane. The line- gay men and lesbians in their spiritual travellers heading to the Maritimes up includes three films well-known Halifax Dyke and life; to support the Church in its com- know that such gay B&B’s existed. to the LGBTQ community: mitment to seek and serve Christ in In 1997 Jim was Canada’s top “A Single Man” (2009) on June Trans March all people; and to reach out to the fundraiser for that year’s AIDS Walk. 25 and 26 “Transamerica” (2005) on On Friday, July 23 (i.e. Friday during GLBT community in Christian love Next year, Jim raised approximately July 9 and 10 “The Adventures of Pride week) from 6:30 to 8:00pm, and service. For more information, $15,000.00, money which stayed in Priscilla: Queen of the Desert” (1994) Halifax will host the first Halifax see www.integritycanada.org. the province for use by AIDS P.E.I. on July 16 and 17 Dyke and Trans March. The march In 1998 Jim sold Blair Hall and Admission per screening is $6.99 route will start at Victoria Park and renovated the now-closed general or you can purchase a ticket/pop- end on Gottingen Street. Spry Bay store to open Rainbow Lodge (www. corn/drink combo for $9.99. Tickets The Halifax Dyke and Trans Campground gaypei.com), a colourful fixture on are available at www.empiretheatres. March is a political demonstration The new campground in Spry Bay, on Vernon Bridge’s rustic rural land- com or anytime at the box office. Net where we take to the streets to Nova Scotia’s Eastern Shore, consists scape. box office proceeds will be donated promote visibility and create space of 41 sites ranging from tent site to In April, 2004, with gay busi- for queer women and trans people, 50A power for the largest of RV’s; ness owners from all three Maritime protest the oppression of members two camper’s cabins for those who province, Jim founded the Atlantic of our diverse communities, and wish to camp in a more comfort- Rainbow Business Association (www. celebrate our strength. The march able setting, modern hot showers arba.ca), a non-profit gay business or- is open to all women, whether they and flush toilets. The above ground ganization. During that year’s Federal identify as dykes, lesbians, gay, bi- pool surrounded by a large deck election, Jim hosted television report- sexual, trans, queer, questioning, allows you to enjoy and relax while ers at Rainbow Lodge and expressed asexual, or something else, and to keeping an eye on the kids. Taylor on-camera his views on the “new” all transsexual, transgender, intersex, Head Provincial Park, only minutes Conservative government’s policies and two-spirited people. Allies are away; offers many hiking trails and with regards to gay issues. encouraged to show their support beaches. Sea kayaking, boat tours are by watching and cheering from the sidelines. At the time of writing this, logis- Buy a house, get a tics are still being finalized by a core fridge magnet (and group of enthusiastic and excited outstanding service). organizers. Please join the Facebook group “Halifax Dyke March 2010” for the further information as it be- comes available. Rosie Porter Realtor Fredericton Pride News on cell 209-7073 Page 18 www.rosiep.ca 6 July 2010 Wayves Introducing SexLifeCanada.ca By Domina Doll SexLifeCanada.ca believes sex is a Domina Doll is the new Halifax very important aspect of all our lives Hi Tommo, editor of SexLifeCanada.ca, a new and specialists are needed covering I think I already mentioned to you that I am doing Not all my meetings have been so fortunate but online journal promoting sex-positive the “sexuality beat,” both locally and an informal study of online dating. I have profiles on why bore you with the story of the man who was so culture across Canada. The team is nationally. A group of sex-positive several sites, from the strictly-looking-for-sex-now different from his profile picture I thought the garden excited to be pioneering this unique writers decided to create the medium kinds—where face pics are a rarity—to the more gnome from Travelocity had shown up at my door. Or blend of journalism, social-network- for it to happen. “grown up” dating sites where certain words, even in the guys who just want to add to their collection of dick ing and community-building, and If you would like to contribute private messages are censored, so messages read “I’d pictures. Usually they don’t even have a pic of any kind encourage Atlantic Canadians to get to SexLifeCanada.ca or if you would love to **** your ****,” and people talk about their but feel quite entitled to ask for a pic of my... well, you involved in this effort, to make our like Anglican Integrity in NS & PEI dogs as their affectionate life companions rather than get the picture (they do not!). Or, the guys who only country a leading light in healthy, Integrity is re-organizing in NS and as role models for sexual positions. want to show you their dick photos. As you and I both creative sexual expression. PEI. If you wish to be involved Anyway, my study has led to some very interesting know, Tom, not all penises are uniformly beautiful. And The journal has two key aims: to contact [email protected] or exchanges of ideas and the odd—some of them decid- just as you can’t judge a book by its cover, nor can you develop sex journalism in Canada, phone (902) 425-8383. Integrity is edly odd—encounter. I’ve discovered there are some anticipate the quality of a man’s willy by the size of and to build a sex-positive com- an organization of GLBT Angli- lovely people out there in the world, which is gratifying, his belt buckle. The age-old debate about “show-ers” munity. cans and their friends, to encourage but I’ve also met up with quite a number of repressed, versus “grow-ers.” I have had first hand experience of Most mainstream media organi- Christian gay men and lesbians in closeted, unhappy types too. I’ve had messages from both kinds and I have to say, I love ’em both! zations have specialists covering all their spiritual life; to support the men whose profiles clearly state that they are a man The other night I had a weird time travel kind of the niche areas of modern life, from Church in its commitment to seek looking for a woman, and when I ask whether there experience where I felt like I was back in high school. education to wine; from gardening and serve Christ in all people; and to has been some misunderstanding, the reply is generally Well, it would have had to have been a very gay high to physical fitness. Yet, strangely, reach out to the GLBT community along the lines of “well, I have to explore my bi side school but you get the idea. I arrived at a small house not a single major media outlet has in Christian love and service. “ For too,” or “I’m hoping to meet a man who can bring me party to discover that I was the only guest and the party a specialist on the sexuality beat. more information, please visit www. into my gayness.” I’m no missionary nor am I a tour was to be a threesome. I have not the least objection Granted, there are sexual-advice sexlifecanada.ca/how-to, or contact guide for the world of gay but, more often than not, to a ménage à trois—I’m no prude as I think we’ve columnists and a few freelancers that Domina at domina@fatalefemmes. I can’t help wanting to listen and give some attention established—but when both of the other participants cover sexual issues, but there is no com, with your news and events, or to their emotional plight. One man chatted with me are roaring drunk, the appeal is much diminished. Then sexuality-related equivalent to a “food if you would like to be a contributing for over an hour on messenger and the next day sent a I got thrown into the role of therapist/talk show host/ reporter” or “business reporter.” writer for the Halifax journal. message saying thanks and that after our conversation referee. Most of the disjointed conversation between he decided to come out to his friends and family and the two of them consisted of recriminations about he had never felt so free. some never-named but hurtful incident from weeks Most of the bi guys, however, are not looking for before. Trans Rights Bill any change to their lifestyle at all, including one man “I can’t believe that you would do that to me after who showed up at my door—alright yes I did give him everything we’ve been through. I was surprised and goes to Parliament my address—and who clearly thought that a handshake really hurt you know. Oh my God, we should go get was sufficient foreplay. I wish I could say that I’m the burgers. No, wait, we’re drunk and we have no money. OTTAWA— An historic Private bill will make the full human rights sort of morally upright man who would say, I’m not Anyway, I forgive you.” Member’s Bill to extend full human of trans Canadians explicit in law.” that kind of man, I need to have some human con- “I don’t know what you’re talking about. What did rights protection to transsexual and “Trans people are members of nection, some conversation about life and culture and I do?” transgender Canadians was debated our families, our co-workers, and whether you are a Liza or a Barbra fan, so stop undoing “You know perfectly well, what I mean.” for the first time today in the House our neighbours; their ability to lead your pants! I’d like to say that, Tom, but somehow the “How many times do I have to tell you: Nothing of Commons. happy, health, secure and productive proverb about the bird in the hand came to mind. I happened! Is there any salad left in the fridge.” Introduced by New Democrat lives is crucial to our success as a used the other hand to close the apartment door. Is it wrong of me, Tom, that I found this display of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender society,” said Siksay. The other happy discovery is the number of intermittent pain and anger entertaining? Both men, and Transsexual Issues Critic Bill Sik- “In 2000 the La Forest Report younger men (20’s and 30’s) who have an apprecia- separately, gave me their phone numbers by the way, say, the bill would add gender identity unanimously recommended explicit tion for a man of my mature years. Sometimes this which I haven’t yet thrown away. and gender expression as prohibited protection for trans people in the appreciation is just “lip service” but often there is Love ya! grounds of discrimination in the Canadian Human Rights Act. Yet 10 a nice physical, sexual, humourous albeit temporary Canadian Human Rights Act. The years later the Federal Government union. Mostly this comes under the heading of NSA bill also amends the hate crimes and has failed to adopt legislation to (no strings attached) but within those parameters there sentencing provisions of the Criminal include ‘gender identity and gender can be a real, human connection. Code to protect trans people. expression’,” said Susan Gapka, Chair “This is a long overdue debate. of the Trans Health Lobby Group. Trans Canadians face well-document- “As trans people we are seeking the ed and almost daily discrimination in same enumerated protections that the workplace, in housing, in health other disadvantaged groups already care and in the provision of services have achieved. Now is the Time to other Canadians take for granted. Deliver on Trans Human Rights!” And violence against trans people is a Siksay’s Bill was seconded by 12 significant issue,” noted Siksay. “This other Member of Parliament.

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Interview with Ryan MacGrath, by Now if you happen to find your- Raymond Taavel, photos by Anita self in a canoe, in the middle of a lake Martinez on some warm night this summer This July 31, Ryan MacGrath will staring into a beautiful star-lit sky be launch his album, “Cooper Hatch sure to have Ryan’s album on your Paris,” at the Carlton, 1685Argyle iPod or MP3 player for some home- Street, Halifax at 9:00 p.m. The ten- grown inspiration. track disc contains material penned If you want to keep up-to-date 1989 - Halifax Pride: “They Marched for Your Rights” by Ryan. with Ryan’s goings-on, be they tours Over the last while Ryan and his or upcoming performances, check band have been performing a lot of out his Facebook page or his website, house concerts which lends itself www.ryanmacgrath.com. nicely to the intimacy of many of his songs and music. For anyone who’s watched him perform, Ryan’s vocal range is reminiscent of the classic crooners. I’m reminded of Roy Orbi- son, for instance, but it’s evident he’s been inspired by many musicians and several genres. Ryan emotes a unique voice and refreshing musical style. As for subject matter—his music is a delight in contrasts—exploring light and dark, love and loneliness, fantasy and reality. Ryan doesn’t shy away from using engaging and self effacing playful humour both in performance and subject. When I asked Ryan about the title of the album, he explained that while living in Dartmouth with a friend he was “randomly inspired” by the mailbox labels of the tenants in his building. Simple as that. While in Dartmouth he also used that time spend much time walking and drawing inspiration for many of the songs on the disc. Ryan doesn’t have a favourite song on the album— he likes them all, and for many different reasons—but I did manage to tease a title out of him that has special resonance, “God Forbid,” which he says is a song about self realization, grappling with reality and family life. Ryan’s been very enthusiastic about collaborating with Atlantic Canadian musical talent with the likes of Laura Smith, Erin Costello and Gypsophilia. His manager and right-hand woman on this project has been Argyle Fine Arts owner/ manager Adriana Afford. And he’s utilized local design talent in the guise of graphics designer Nick Brunt, photographer Brent McCombs and wardrobe designer Louanna Murphy. Ryan is currently on an Eastern Canada tour covering Quebec, On- tario and Atlantic Canadian venues which is bound to encourage a widening fan base. Ryan indicated he recently had the good fortune of selling one of his paintings to Chantal Kreviazuk: his manager happened to give her a demo of his work, and Kreviazuk loved his sound, saying the next time she was in Halifax she would promise to do an impromptu performance together. Something to look forward to! Wayves July 2010 9 I Am What I Amherst Cumberland Pride, Brent Hawkes & PFLAG by Gerard Veldhoven ted to organizing positive educational berland Pride Society and PFLAG he also has the Order of Canada, as Many places are celebrating Pride programs and bringing those to the met with Rev. Dr. Brent Hawkes does Eldon Hay. These honours are Week this month and by now all plans attention of other community groups at the Sackville United Church in given in recognition of the work in are in place. Amherst is no exception. and into the Amherst schools. This New Brunswick. Brent is the senior equal rights for our community. In my Please visit our website for all the is necessary so that eventually our minister of the Metropolitan Com- 70 years of life I never imagined this exciting details at cumberland-pride. children will grow into adults having munity Church in Toronto. He spoke possible. In that sense it is a wonder- sytes.net for activities and locations. a better understanding of diversity. of his life experiences and pointed ful tribute to the queer community. Amherst Town will host the Pride Sue Reid, Society Chair has indicated to the fact work remains to be ac- This July I will travel to Toronto to flag-raising ceremony on at noon on a strong bond will be formed with the complished. About twenty people visit with my sons and granddaugh- July 12. This remains the single most citizens of Cumberland County and showed up for this get-together ters. At the same time I have been important activity of Pride Week as it the Town of Amherst. and dinner. It was an unforgettable invited to speak at a meeting of the draws friends from all over the town Summer also is a time when we experience. Brent was in Sackville to LGBTQ Seniors Group. It will also and county. This is very important as travel to attend Pride celebrations receive an honourary doctorate from be the first time my son Chris will the two of us. It will be an unforget- it emphasizes the fact that inclusion elsewhere. I urge you to join other Mount Allison University. I was at the join me on a discussion panel about table experience. is celebrated. However, we always towns and cities in the Maritimes Chancellor’s Dinner with Eldon Hay family, queer politics and our work in This is all from Amherst for this emphasize that much work remains to for their events. Take a look at their and his wife Anne and witnessed the activism. Chris is the Queer Parent- month. Continue checking out Way- be done and even as we are thankful websites and see what event you attention he received that evening. It ing Program Coordinator at the 519 ves for further news from Cumber- for all we have accomplished, equal would like to attend. It is important was overwhelming for me personally Community Centre in Toronto. Just land and this border town. treatment is not yet ours to enjoy. to support others in their efforts to as it was ample proof of how times Equal rights do not automatically make Pride a week to remember. have changed when a gay man can translate into equal treatment. The On May 15 members of the Cum- receive such an honour. Of course, Cumberland Pride Society is commit- ISCANS Update Northern AIDS Connection Society News Penny Drive for ACNS Condom Co-op, Summer Student, The Walk Emergency Relief By Tom Harrison dom Co-op as a response to requests more information call the office at By Ryan Stevens Facebook. The Scotiabank AIDS Walk for Life from community partners and the (902) 895-0931 or go to www.aids- Got a pile of pennies lying around? M a y is just around the corner and we are general public about accessible free walkforlife.ca to read about Walk sites Well, the Imperial Sovereign Court and June forming teams to enter the Walk. condoms. (This is a great opportunity and online pledging (click on Find Of Atlantic Nova Society (ISCANS) have been There are four Walks in the northern to use your 50% back!) Your Walk). is in the midst of a Penny Drive with successful Region of Nova Scotia: Elmsdale on NACS has also secured funding to Our Youth PhotoVoice Project, proceeds going to Nova Scotia chari- m o n t h s September 18; and Truro, Amherst, hire a summer student in the position made possible through the NS De- ties in need. This year the Emperor f o r I S - New Glasgow all on September 19. of Walk Coordinator for eight weeks partment of Justice’s Lighthouses and Empress, Nate N! Bent and C. C A N S , We need to work hard to form teams to promote the walks and to oversee Grant. NACS will take a highly Leah Cruise, have selected the AIDS with our Golden Oldies show at together and motivate the commu- the building of teams. NACS would creative and innovative holistic ap- Coalition Of Nova Scotia Emergency Menz Bar and our Disco Fever show nity. As an incentive NACS gives like to thank Service Canada for proach towards involving youth in Relief Fund, the Antigonish Women’s at Reflections Cabaret, and we still 50% of funds raised by each team to approving funding for this position peer-to-peer learning and journey of Resource Center, Manna For Health have much more in store for the put towards an HIV-related program again this year. self-discovery. This will culminate in and The Youth Project as our chari- summer. Check our website and Face- your organization would like to take Please come out and support the a photography project where youth ties. To donate your pennies or any book page for details about upcoming on. But all teams must raise $100.00 Walk this year and be part of the participants will be provided with loose change you can contact any fundraisers, including shows, barbe- to qualify for 50% back. solution. Hot dogs and beverages cameras to conduct individual Pho- of our Members of Parliament. A cues and car washes. We will also be This year NACS has started a Con- will be provided at all Walk sites. For toVoice projects of their conflict with list is posted on our website at www. represented at community events the law, personal experiences with imperialcourtns.com. You can also such as Halifax Pride. We thank you risk behaviors and what they have bring pennies or loose change to any for your continued support of our ef- learned during the project to make of our fundraisers, which will also forts to help better the lives of those more informed and healthier choices. be advertised on our website and on in need through charitable deeds. The philosophy behind NACS’s applying for this funding and be- coming involved with the project is Celebrate about engaging youth in an innova- Gaze Magazine Update tive approach to connect and educate The premiere issue out the region this sum- before conflict escalates or youth find of Gaze Magazine, mer,” reports Pridewith themselves in situations that lead Atlantic Canada’s the 35-year- to unhealthy choices and high risk new GLBT glossy, old Shelburne situations. will hit the streets County na- July 12, says pub- tive. lisher/editor John W i l l i a m s Williams. says the free “We’ve sched- print publica- Saturday, July 24th uled the maga- tion will also be zine’s release to made available 12th Annual Pride Day Sale just slightly pre- in its entirety on 20% off all toys and rainbow gear date the kick-off the magazine’s Free vibe for our first 25 customers*! to Halifax Pride website, www. (July 18) in an at- gazemagazine. 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For more info: www.venusenvy.ca weddings memorials child dedications other rites of passage 10 July 2010 Wayves Chef’s Corner Cake Fit for a Queen! In honour of the upcoming visit by Her Majesty The Queen, I offer “Queen Elizabeth Cake” Its Ingredients origin is myriad, but the most recent and my fa- Cake: 1 cup white sugar 1 tsp baking powder Topping vourite is that of Elizabeth, the late Queen Moth- 1 cup boiling water 1 egg1 tsp vanilla extract 1/2 tsp salt 1 cup flaked sweet coconut er. As the story goes, this recipe was named by 1 cup pitted dates (chopped) 1 1/2 cups flour 1/2 cup walnuts (chopped) 2/3 cup brown sugar Wallis Simpson, American divorcée and mistress 1/4 cup butter (soft) 1 tsp baking soda 6 Tbsp butter to the current Queen’s late uncle, the ill-fated King 1/4 cup heavy cream Edward VIII. Once scandal broke that the head of the Church in England planned to marry a twice- Method divorced woman—and an American at that—the 1. Pour boiling water over dates and let stand until cool, then purée. 2. Mix the dry ingredients together, set aside. King was forced to abdicate. His brother, then 3. Cream the butter and sugar in a stand mixer until smooth, add the egg and vanilla 4. Add 1 part dry mix, then Duke of York and his wife, Elizabeth, became 1 part dates, 1 part dry, in three stages. 5. Pour batter into a 10” greased cake pan and bake at 350°F for 30-40 Chef Darren is Chef/Co- King and Queen, while Edward and his tart were min until tooth pick comes out of centre clean. 6. Cool on wire rack until room temperature then turn out onto owner of Chives Canadian exiled to continental Europe. Wallis held a deep serving plate. 7. Mix coconut, brown sugar, butter and cream in a sauce pan and cook over med heat until thick Bistro, Halifax disdain for the now Queen sitting on what she and creamy, then crown the cake with the mixture, let stand until room temperature. saw as her throne. While living in France Wallis and Eddie hired an old British woman as their cook. One day she made the Windsors a cake for tea and the Duke loved its simplicity, stating how it re- Serving suggestion minded him of rural England. The Duchess piped up “I name thee, Queen This cake is great served with traditional English custard sauce, or Devon cream and a nice cup of tea. Elizabeth Cake, rural and simple as she!” Wayves July 2010 11

www.halifaxpride.com 12 July 2010 Wayves PERFORMING AT THE PRIDE FESTIVAL AND CONCERT

welcome sugarbeach

This lesbian Aussie/Canadian duo pack dance floors with their bienvenue FEATURED EVENTS “electroni-lesbi-pop”. Sugarbeach are energetic, powerful, moving, and married… to each other. Determined to positively impact the lives of GLBT people, they write “in your face” dykes vs divas friday night pride.com. Register early to ensure your place in the lyrics covering gay love to gay rights. Their CD “I Just Love parade, as the number of entrants this year has been Girls” stayed at #1 on the GLBT Top 40 OutVoice chart for o celebrate its 22nd anniversary, Halifax Pride our souligner son 22ième anniversaire, Pride Back by popular demand, the 7th Annual Dykes vs Divas Softball Game dance Party on limited. This year’s Parade starts at 1:00pm sharp. 3 months in 2008 and their Gay Pride anthem “Living Out is once again organizing an entire week of Halifax organise, cette année encore, toute will be held on the Canada Games Diamond. This year promises to T P Marshalling starts at 11:30am at Cornwallis and Up- Proud” snapped up by 11 cities around the world is on the fantastic events. Some of the many activities we une semaine d’événements festifs. De nombreuses be a back to basic game. The girls are looking to have fun. Come out garrison grounds per Water Street. See map for Parade Route. 2009 release of “Out & Proud” from Le Chapelle Records in have coming up include a dance and concerts activités sont prévues au cours de ces festivités, to see the catty attempt at baseball for the amusement of one and Just imagine the gays are loose and partying on the Montreal. on the Garrison Grounds, a giant family picnic, a dont des pièces de théâtre, des concerts, du sport, all. With their purses in hand and heels in tow, can the Divas hold off Garrison Grounds. Friday evening, July 23rd at 9pm theatre festival, the Dykes vs. Divas Softball game, une croisière, une journée spéciale au Garrison the Dykes while teaching them a touch of style and pizzazz? Will we for only $5.00 each, lets show everyone that Kid community fair a boat cruise, the flag raising, and of course, our Grounds, sans oublier la grande parade de clôture. see some new hairdos? Not to be missed, with laughter and fun for Rock is not the only party in town. Under the big top This year’s Community Fair is sponsored by TD Bank. annual pride parade. From the beginning, Pride Depuis ses débuts, la Pride s’est donnée comme everyone, this is a true family affair. Come early to get a seat. There will will be The BOUNCE 101.3FM playing the beat of The Community Fair is kid-friendly and features free has dedicated itself to the promotion of ideas and mandat de promouvoir des activités et des idéaux be standing room only. Produced by Halifax Pride and the East Coast Halifax for all to dance and party to. With Propeller inflatables for all ages, as well as a low cost photo events that support diversity and openness. Last de diversité et d’ouverture. L’année dernière, le Softball Association. beer and good tunes, this is sure to be the party of booth to capture your Halifax Pride 2010 memories year over 75,000 people attended Pride festival a accueilli plus de 75 000 participants, ce qui the year for the LGBTQ community. Produced by with a takeaway keepsake. Our Community Fair is festivities, showing that they too believe in our ne fait que confirmer le succès et la portée de cet Halifax Pride, The Bounce101.3, and Propeller Beer. also an opportunity for community members and message of equality and inclusion for all. Still événement d’envergure. De plus, la Pride ne cesse Halifax Pride Sponsors to showcase their organiza- growing and always looking to the future, we are d’élargir ses horizons et est fière de rassembler menZ bar tion or business. Please complete our registration proud to give this city’s gay, lesbian, bisexual, les communautés gays, lesbiennes, bisexuelles, form to reserve a table. Space is limited. transgender, queer, and supporting communities transsexuelles, queer, berdaches, ainsi que les dance Party a variety of ways to celebrate. nombreux supporteurs de la cause. Friday July 10, 2010. $5 Cover A benefit for Halifax Pride. Pride festival If you’ve never attended a Halifax Pride event, Si vous n’avez encore jamais participé à la Pride et and concert nothing could be simpler. Visit our website at que vous aimeriez célébrer avec nous cette année, menZ bar This is Halifax Pride’s 22nd Annual Post Parade Con- Halifaxpride.com and see what events interest you il n’y a rien de plus simple! Visitez notre site Web Pride brunch cert. This year we have secured an up and coming from our full program line-up. Whether you come halifaxpride.com et choisissez ce qui vous intéresse Sunday July 12, 2010 12:00-2:00pm artist from St. Louis, Missouri. Summer Osborne has alone or with a friend, you’ll have a marvelous time: parmi les nombreuses activités au programme. A benefit for Halifax Pride. opened for Indigo Girls, played St. Louis Pride and the freedom to be who you are and to meet other Que vous veniez seul ou accompagné, vous y has just released her 5th CD and is in the top picks proud supportive people are founding principles of ferez de merveilleuses découvertes; l’ouverture to perform at Lilith Fair. Summer opens for Marlee summer Pride. And if you want to get even more involved, d’esprit et les nouvelles rencontres reposent sur Parade Walchuk & Tully Callender a Vancouver duo that you can do that too. Sign up to volunteer, or why les principes fondateurs de la Pride. Et si vous Join us as we host the 23rd annual Pride Parade goes by the name Sugarbeach. This lesbian Aussie/ osborne not organize a group of friends, co-workers, or voulez vous impliquer davantage, pourquoi ne pas through the heart of the city. Halifax has the fourth Canadian duo pack dance floors with their “elec- association members to walk in the parade? It’s a organiser un groupe pour la parade de clôture Proclamation largest Pride parade in Canada. Halifax is renowned troni-lesbi-pop”. Sugarbeach has played Vancouver great way to encourage participation and inclusion avec vos collègues ou toute autre association dont for its family-friendly community-strong parade. This Pride 2009, 2010 Winter Olympic Pride House, and and flag raising Summer Osborne originally comes to us from the small town within your community. So whether you’re new to vous faites partie? C’est un moyen génial pour year’s parade will be no different. If your organiza- the New York City Pride Rally. This year’s closing Help kick off Halifax Pride’s week of activities at Grand Parade Square of Vandalia, Illinois, and has been singing and writing since the Halifax Pride Festival, or marking your 22nd encourager le partage et l’inclusion au sein de la tion would like to join us, please complete the act has yet to be finalized... please check back for starting with the recognition of contributions made by Nova Scotia’s she was able to form complete sentences. According to year attending the event, we hope you enjoy this communauté! Pour plus de détails, rendez-vous sur parade registration on our website, www.halifax- updates. celebration of diversity and community spirit. notre site Web: www.halifaxpride.com. LGBT citizens. A reception at City Hall will follow the flag raising, her modest upbringing in a small farm community, Summer hosted by his worship Peter J. Kelly. Monday July 15th, 5:00pm. hails from unpretentious beginnings. You can hear her lyrics, personalize them, and own them as part of the soundtrack to songwriter’s circle their life. She takes each moment, and the lessons learned therein, offering them in the form of acoustic folk, piano pop, A Halifax Pride benefit at The Company House. Artists to be blue eyed soul, and rock music. announced. Wednesday, July 21, 2010, 7:00pm, $5

Summer has blanketed the St. Louis Gay and Lesbian scene Pride boat cruise in Missouri, but has been playing at Pride Fests and venues all on the tall shiP silva over the Midwest. Songs From A Rolling Black Chair, Summer’s Join Pride Halifax in their 4th annual boat cruise through the Halifax debut album, deals with the drama of coming out. She has Harbour. This year Halifax Pride is hosting a pre-sail meet and greet shared the stage with Goddess and She, Tiffany, and The at Reflections Cabaret with free food provided by George and Lito’s. Indigo Girls. Music provided by 101.3 the Bounce. Last year this was a sold out event so be sure to purchase your tickets early so you don’t miss out! Whether her audience is small and intimate or large and out Contact Tall Ship Silva to purchase tickets. $20 of control, whether she is solo with her guitar and piano or backed by the band, as long as she has a microphone to carry her words, she always delivers. If you have a chance to see her live -- it will prove to be a gift to be remembered.

Wayves July 2010 13 PERFORMING AT THE PRIDE FESTIVAL AND CONCERT

welcome sugarbeach

14 July 2010 Wayves

If you haven’t already heard, Halifax Pride’s QUEER ACTS Opening the festival at Menz Bar on Monday, July 19th Theatre Festival is your source for shows by and for the is DaPride Café by DaPoPo Theatre. Founded in 2004, LGBT community. The festival starts Monday at Menz DaPoPo creates live, intimate, socially engaged, low Bar with an eclectic performance by the multitalented budget theatre. They began presenting their CAFÉ members of DaPoPo Theatre. From there, the festival DAPOPO event in 2007, and have been offering up moves down Gottingen Street to the Bus Stop Theatre Theatre Menus with individually priced performances ever where you can see three other shows running Tuesday to since. While patrons eat and drink, the theatre-baristas Friday night. Between performances, while you wait a few serve songs, sonnets, monologues, rants, lectures, bed- minutes for the next show to begin, grab a drink at the times stories, stripteases, happenings, improv, ensemble Bus Stop’s bar, chat with your fellow audience members, numbers, and pretty much anything else we can think and be prepared for a few surprises. Take part in an event of. They’ve brought Café to Menz Bar, the Good Food that brings passionate artists, theatre enthusiasts, and Emporium, the QUEER ACTS Comedy Night, OUTBid!, festival newcomers together in the sharing of a diverse and the MayWorks Festival. With a spicy menu of queer, Photo by Ashley Marie Pike mix of comedy, drama, and music. local, and political material, DaPoPo is eager to serve and entertain. Seating is limited so be there early. be Logan and I by the Doppler Effect, a new company This year’s QUEER ACTS line-up includes three local working to produce quality independent theatre in the productions and a one-man show from Vancouver. Each Starting Tuesday at the Bus Stop Theatre and running Maritimes. Logan and I is the story of two boys from show differs in theme, performance style, and tone, but all until Friday, we have three performances showing back very different worlds, bound to each other by shame. promise to offer a unique and memorable perspective on to back each night… with a brief pause between each Logan is enamoured with Dezzy’s toy collection; Dezzy, the queer experience. for a drink of course. The first show of the evening will in turn, is thrilled to have a protector from the schoolyard bullies. But when a copy of The Joy of Sex sparks a period of sexual discovery between them, Dezzy finds out that being best friends with Logan comes with its own dangers. Passionate, funny, and heart wrenching, Logan schedule and I is a dark look at the beast and beauty within.

DaPride Café Following Logan and I is nggrfg. NGGRFG. Imagine it By DaPoPo Theatre, Menz Bar, Doors open with vowels. Can you even imagine the words? Can you at 7:30pm, Show at 8:00pm, July 19, Limited say them? Imagine hearing them. Nigger. Fag. Drawing seating, No reservations. TICkETS $5 from a past filled with these words, writer-performer Berend McKenzie has crafted a revealing and often hilarious one-man tour-de-force about a queer black kid Logan and I negotiating the bewildering minefield of straight white By The Doppler Effect, The Bus Stop Theatre, Canada: from the schoolyard, to the perils of dating, to 7:00pm, July 20-23. TICkETS $15 OR $10 fOR the “glamour” of showbiz. Thought-provoking, funny, and STUDEnTS, SEnIORS, AnD UnDERwAgED heartwarming, you do not want to miss this critical and audience favourite from Canada’s west coast. nggrfg Produced by Small Brown Package Prod. Ending the evening with flare will be The (sad) Ballad Written and performed by Berend McKenzie, of Oliver Hugh & Company, starring Steven Bourque The Bus Stop Theatre, 8:30pm, July 20-23. and notable Halifax drag-king Steph McNair as her well- TICkETS $15 OR $10 fOR STUDEnTS, SEnIORS, known Oliver Hugh character. The story of obsession and AnD UnDERwAgED love in a world of drag-kings and gay-boys fluctuates between fantasy and reality, exploring the key facets of The (sad) Ballad of drag performance and theatricality. It’s a drag-inspired Oliver Hugh & Company show that draws upon the artists’ backgrounds in circus, burlesque, performance, visual art, and theatre. Put Written and performed by Steph McNair another way, it’s going to be a wild time you don’t want and Steven Bourque, The Bus Stop Theatre, to miss. 10:00pm, July 20-23. TICkETS $15 OR $10 fOR STUDEnTS, SEnIORS, AnD UnDERwAgED TICkETS AvAILABLE AT THE DOOR. Reservations at [email protected] or (902) 403-6798. halifaxpride.com. Wayves July 2010 15 16 July 2010 Wayves Lesbian Soap Box Diaries Lipstick Lesbian By L. Connors girlfriend of mine tell me once that I who can pick me up with one arm extend the same luxury to each other? perhaps it is you that are too straight For T2 Never stop fighting for what you was a lesbian strictly for shock value! as she penetrates me with the other. My point is there’s enough dis- acting. If this article infuriates you, believe in. I’ll always be there to catch you I like pussy just as much as any other However, I’ve seen her outside of crimination against us queers. And it’s meant to. Open your mouth and if you fall. dyke, probably more. I assume that her clothes. I’ve touched her, tasted for god’s sake, please don’t try to speak-out. Or just put it on my cunt. As I enter my thirtieth year, I am those of you who have piercings, her, and fucked her. I assure you, she sell me your bullshit about how you through apologizing for who I am. tattoos or whatever else, wear them is all woman! prefer to be “label free.” In order to I am a bona-fide lipstick lesbian and as a form of self-expression. Why is As a lipstick lesbian, I represent live in a label free society, we would I don’t give a shit if that makes you that you assume that my make-up or only a small population of the gay all need to be accepted and respected I love being with a uncomfortable. Frankly, I’m getting stilettos are to please anyone other community. I can only assume that as individuals with equal rights. We a little tired of the “you’re too pretty than myself? You can be damn sure I am not the only individual who has aren’t there yet. In the meantime, if woman who can pick to have an opinion other than what that I don’t wear them to impress any felt that the sector they represent is we don’t proudly identify with any me up with one arm belt should I wear with these shoes” man… or woman. a “joke” to some other members minority group, how are we going to attitude. Honestly, I expected a little Just in case you’re wondering, of our community. Trans-people? abolish discrimination? as she penetrates more from a community that is pro- my girlfriend is built like a brick Drag queens? Hell, I’ve heard double As with anything else, the best women. shithouse. And no I’m not dating standards about gay men expressed way to initiate change is to start from me with the other. I’ve heard your comments as I her because I have some repressed by lesbians that have made me just ill. within. In my opinion, if you are un- pass by about how I’m too straight- desire to be with a man. Don’t get How can we expect society at large able to support any particular minor- looking or -acting. I’ve even had a me wrong, I love being with a woman to accept and respect us if we can’t ity group within our community, than

Moncton’s New Club So.Ho By Randall Perry are good and when cover is eventu- rectified by now—was with the Club So.Ho bills itself as “Moncton’s ally charged it should be worth the sound system and the choice of mu- newest GLBT, Alternative Lifestyle experience. sic. The amplification could use some Lounge and Dance Club.” The upstairs of the building is cleaning up and if the DJ were given I visited So.Ho in late May, a currently under renovation, slated a thousand dollar credit on an iTunes couple of weeks after it account for the latest and great- opened. Aptly managed by The club maintains the interior est, the place would really rock. Wayne Richard, the club The evening I was there he did maintains the interior layout layout and design from its well for what he had access to. and design from its previous Nice to see a second choice incarnation as an exotic en- previous incarnation as an exotic for Moncton’s GLBT bar scene. I tertainment establishment entertainment establishment foresee lots of great times ahead (the stripper pole remains in for patrons who like to check out the middle of the dance floor as an to host a quiet cocktail lounge and a multiple places during their evenings inviting place to swing off or swing guesthouse… think Muther’s above out. Check out the club’s page on out). The club is clean and attractive, Toronto’s late Toolbox and you get Facebook or visit the website at www. and even with its 110-person capacity, the picture. Plans are to have all clubsohomoncton.com. there appears to be lots of seating and finished for when Pride rolls around. Betty Boop holds court with Grandfather Clock in the comfortable seating area off space to move around. Drink prices My only issue—and it could be So.Ho’s main bar area. The club maintains the interoir of its predecessor and kicks the cozy nostalgia factor up a notch. Magazines for Everyone 429.5468 www.atlanticnews.ns.ca Wayves July 2010 17 A Mother’s View: Celebrating 20 Years of Pride by Valerie Windsor group of guys standing outside a and stay focussed on the positive when my daughter came out as a of Halifax Pride and I hope that Recently my daughter reminded me fence throwing eggs into the picnic messages and images. Police escorts lesbian when she was 18. Ah, like women will participate in large num- that we are celebrating 20 years of area. Police were lined up to separate were provided by the city in case there mother, like daughter! bers. It is a chance for women to feel going to Pride together. My first us and them. For safety reasons, was any trouble. We now enjoy Halifax Pride every the power of being in the company Gay Pride parade, which was more we immediately left. Unfortunately, We also had some amazing times year. We plan our summers around of other wonderful, amazing dykes. of a march than a parade, was in that memory stayed with both of us marching in the parades over the it and look forward to it with just as Pride is a great opportunity for us Ottawa the summer of 1990, when over the years but it does serve as a years. One year my daughter and much excitement and joy. I encour- to safely and publicly express our my daughter was eight. She happily reminder of how far we have come I helped carry a giant rainbow flag age everyone to come out and enjoy love for each other and ourselves. It tagged along with me for that first as a community and how things have to Parliament Hill. Other years, we the fun of celebrating Pride week is reaffirming and guaranteed to lift Pride and for many after. changed for the better in society. marched to the Supreme Court of and the parade on Saturday, July 24. your spirits. So, come out, come out, Our first Pride finished in a lovely We were often harassed by ex- Canada demanding our rights along There will be lots to see and do and wherever you are. park with everyone sitting around treme religious fundamentalists who with tens of thousands and eventu- it is a great time to catch up with old enjoying some entertainment and paraded up and down the sidelines ally hundreds of thousands of other friends and meet catching up with friends. It was small with huge placards telling us we were queer folks. It was exciting to be part new ones. This in comparison to today’s Prides but going to hell. The “evils” of AIDS of history and thrilling to be part of year there will it very exciting and joyful. However, and gay life were extolled and it was such a wonderful loving community. be a Dyke March the picnic was spoiled by a small hard to keep our tempers in check I should not have been so surprised planned as part

A Daughter’s View: Celebrating 20 Years of Pride by Connie Lavigne-Terry gay and their parents were straight. It to Toronto to Dallas. I have seen the When spring hits all I have on my was just a beautiful afternoon. progress that Pride and events like it Connie and her mom, Valerie mind is Pride and I get a bit nostalgic. That was 1990 and beliefs were have made in the GLBTQ commu- chapel and we’re gonna get married.” straight, celebrating. This is my 20th year celebrating Gay different. There we were, families and nity. Since moving to Halifax in 2003, I have marched behind the Safe Without Pride events, things we Pride. My first Pride event was in Ot- friends enjoying the sunny day when I have attended Pride here in our fair Harbour church banner and in other take for granted today would not be, tawa in 1990. I was eight. I remember a group of people started throwing city each year. I have volunteered to parades I have walked behind the for example same-sex marriage, being marching down the street, because eggs. My mother got us out of there. work booths, marched in the parade, float blaring the best music, dancing able to walk down a street holding my then it was a march and rally instead Throughout the years, I have seen and have spent the last couple of all the way to the end. wife’s hand, even just being able to of a giant party/parade. It was about lots of homophobic behaviour but years standing on the sidelines and Pride is important, it does have a say I am gay and not be judged. This making a statement and changing the it never brought down my enjoyment knowing that I have been a part of place. It’s a celebration of all the hard year as you walk, march, watch the way people thought and lived. of Pride. I continued to go to Pride history in the making. work those before us had to do that parade or attend any of the events, My mother came out shortly with my mom. I held a Pride flag at A few years ago, before it was has enabled us to be out and open take a minute to give thanks to those before that and she brought me with the stairs of the parliament buildings; legal to get married, my mom and and not afraid. Through my mom I that fought for our civil rights. I will her. I remember thinking “Wow! This we shouted and chanted and through- her partner, their friends, myself and learned that it was okay to believe in be thanking my mom for teaching me is amazing.” After the march, they out the years I watched my first rally my partner marched in the parade something and fight for what’s right. that it’s okay to be who you are and to held a picnic where I hung out with move into a party and parade. all dressed in a different color of This year I will be with my mom and be proud of it! Happy Pride! other children of gay parents. That I came out ten years ago at 18 and the pride flag singing, “Going to the my wife and our friends both gay and was something I hadn’t seen. Most of I still love Pride. I have been to Pride my friends had no idea my mom was parades and events from St. John’s

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For years, people have proudly such a consensus by the people of for carrying the flag during the years marched down Queen Street in Fredericton that people are just peo- without official Pride committees, but flamboyant attire, expressing love for ple—not “gay,” “straight” or “queer,” I’m sure it eases the strain on them— each other openly and without fear but just a beautiful collective of hu- and the community—to have a group of judgement—but never before in mans trying to make their way in the of people working independently to a parade, and never before in a safe world. Although not every citizen of network their projects and to create environment for all that encompasses the city intends to wave a rainbow new events and offerings for those a “Just Love” philosophy. This, our flag proudly this August 8, there has supportive of the Pride movement first official Pride parade, in and around Fredericton. and Fredericton Pride 2010 There has never been such a consensus Now, after two years of as a whole both proclaim sweat and glitter (and a few that as long as your love is by the people of Fredericton that tears), Fredericton invites its expressed in a consensual people are just people—not “gay,” neighboring cities and prov- and legal way, you are sup- inces to come celebrate how ported, deserve equal re- “straight” or “queer,” but just a far we’ve come, how much spect, and have the right to the world has changed, and celebrate! And Fredericton beautiful collective of humans trying the way a love-based project city hall agrees: both the can turn into a beautiful parade and the festival it to make their way in the world. weeklong event filled with takes place during were unanimously been more support for the Frederic- music, dancing, laughter and the approved at a council session this ton Pride “Just Love” movement this sharing of everything from stories June. past year-and-a-half than ever before. to eyeliner. The capital of New Brunswick is Just three years ago, Fredericton’s The weeklong festivities of Fre- now prepared to fully open its arms “Pride Week” consisted of a scattered dericton Pride 2010 begin August and accept the varying lifestyles that schedule of events at the city’s only 8 and will run for eight days. That’s exist within our community in such alternative lifestyle bar and its only right, friends—it took us all long a collective way. While homophobia openly gay-friendly campsite. Both enough to get here that we’re making a week last eight days. We’ll start Sunday, August 8 at 3:00 p.m. with a green-friendly parade on Frederic- ton’s beautiful walking-trail along the Saint John River, which will start at the “old hospital” on Woodstock Road, then cross the pedestrian bridge on Carleton Street and cul- Wayves-er Anita and a friend drove into Truro for the kickoff of Truro Pride Week. minate a festival of friendly faces in When they arrived at the dance everyone was in high spirits and having a great time. The Officers Square on Sunday, August queens put on quite a show, then door prizes and 50/50 were drawn. The dancing began 8, and end with one last Naked Art and everyone had a great time. The music was great, with lots of warm greetings from the Show for Pride 2010 on Sunday, locals for those who came from away. Photo by Anita Martinez. August 15. This year’s Pride Festival will have a little more of something for everyone. Events will include a had in Fredericton. Critical Mass saw what we were up Family Day Amazing Race, a Drag When we started this project in to and caught the wave. This year Show, a Fashion Show (featuring local September of last year, we didn’t we have had businesses, students, designers!), Pride Cirque de Fierté, know how many people would end satellite lifestyle-supportive groups, Pride Fredericton Idol, and lots of up wanting to be involved. Last “fringe” social groups, an art gallery, live music. A CD of local musicians year, Pride 2009 was supported by and even a church offer us support, all singing about love and Pride will be Critical Mass, with a rainbow bike of which we have happily accepted. available to take home, to ensure you ride, without the committee even The grass is getting more colourful never forget the best time you’ve ever requesting that the event be held. in Fredericton, and we would like to People Like Us: invite you to come help us colour our world a little brighter this summer. The Gossip of Colin Campbell Book your vacation, pack the car, and bring the kids: Fredericton’s Pride Curator: Jon Davies 2010 is going to be the coming-out Organised & Circulated by Oakville Galleries party of the decade!

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(506) 869-8191 at 215 Wentworth Street. education, workshops, free condoms. 667- ing the academic year we meet at about 7pm each Thursday night.) at Dalhousie ney Dr., Suite 3, Dartmouth, NS. B2Y2N2 email: [email protected] web: The UNBSJ Q-Collective: A social and sup- 7500 email: [email protected] web: www.pflagcanada.ca/moncton.html, meets cumberlandcounty.cfsh.info (9 - 5 drop-in University, check OUT our website or contact Integrity: Integrity is an organization of GLBT port organisation for UNBSJ students, staff us for details Anglicans and their friends, to encourage 3rd Monday (Occassionally on the 2nd and faculty. 506-648-5737 email: QCollect@ or appt) at 11 Elmwood Drive. Confidential, Christian gay men and lesbians in their Monday — please call) at 7:30-9:30pm, UNBSJ.ca web: www.unbsj.ca/clubs/qcollec- hassle-free. Free condoms. Frontrunners Halifax: Running/walking club. spiritual life; to support the Church in its University of Moncton, Adrien-J.-Cormier tive (The UNBSJ Q-Collective is interested The Cumberland Pride Society: for: gay, les- 422-7579 email: Bruce.Greenfield@dal. commitment to seek and serve Christ in all Bldg., Room 302 in hearing from other university LGBTQ or- bian, bisexual, transgender and transsexual ca web: www.frontrunners.org/clubs/index. people; and to reach out to the GLBT com- River of Pride-riviere de fierte INC. of Greater ganisations and would like to possibly meet individuals. 660-5004 email: cumberland- php?club=Halifax, meets every Saturday, munity in Christian love and service. 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Newsletter Odds & Sods bi- www.fiertemonctonpride.ca (See webpage Encourage Campaign” and “Champions Get Out, Halifax!: Recreation activities (team weekly) for schedule.) Against Homophobia”. have educational discussions around topics such as stereotypes/assumptions and activities, cycling, running, rowing - you Mr Atlantic Canada Leather Society: Dedi- Safe Spaces Moncton Region: Support name it) for metro & beyond!. web: www. Groups for GLBTQ Youth (14-25 years old). transsexuality, and raise awareness in the cated to developing gay leather communi- Woodstock surrounding community by participating getouthalifax.ca at Visit and get on the email 506-854-3049 list for more info. ties in the Atlantic region. email: waydo7@ Woodstock GLBT Youth Advocate and in functions such as the Highland Games hotmail.com UN sur DIX - l’Association des étudiant.e.s Family OutReach: Books, movies, advice, Parade and the Farmers’ Market. While our Girl-ish Productions: Girl-ish puts on hot Names Project (AIDS Memorial Quilt): GLB de l’Université de Moncton: Vise à édu- directions, contacts, and support etc. for group is youth-focused everyone is regard- and heavy bi-monthly-ish dance parties panels - helping create, and lending. 902- quer, à sensibiliser et à offrir des ressources the family. 328-4868 email: richardb@ less of age, and gender identity or sexual for queer-ish folks and their friends. email: 454-5158 email: [email protected]. dans la langue française. email: unsurdix@ nbnet.nb.ca orientation! Find our group on Facebook [email protected] web: www. ca web: www.quilt.ca (Call if interested in umoncton.ca web: www.umoncton.ca/un- “Rainbow Warriors - AAHA!”. email: an- girlish.ca volunteering or making a panel) at 3544 surdix/ (Visitez le site Web ou envoyez un Newfoundland & [email protected], meets Hal-Gal Mailing List: Low-traffic Yahoo group Acadia St. Halifax, NS B3K 3P2 courriel pour en apprendre davantage au every Monday (3:00-5:00pm) at The Antigo- providing events and information for queer sujet du travail que nous accomplissons. ) Lab (709) Narcotics Anonymous: a fellowship of re- nish Women’s Resource Centre, located in women in the Halifax area. email: hal-gal@ covering drug addicts who meet regularly to the Kirk Building at 219 Main Street, Suite yahoogroups.com web: groups.yahoo.com/ help each other stay clean. 1-800-205-8402 Petit-Rocher St. John’s 204 (above Tim Hortons). group/hal-gal/ (Join the list to keep in touch web: centralnovaarea.ca at Call the phone (Bathurst area) AIDS Committee of Newfoundland & Lab- X-Pride: social & support group at X. 867- or post your events.) number or visit the web page for meeting rador: HIV/AIDS education and support for 5007 web: www.stfx.ca/people/xpride Halifax Sexual Health Centre: Annonymous times and places. Gais.es Nor Gays Inc. (GNG): A bilingual volunteer association serving gay men, male/female/transgendered, all ages, New- HIV testing, open and inclusive sexual health Project E: Presentation for youth, on gender lesbians and bisexuals of northern New foundland and Labrador 579-8656 email: Bridgewater clinical services, education and workshops. [email protected] web: www.acnl.net 455-9656 web: www.HalifaxSexualHealth.ca expression, myth busters, proper terminol- Brunswick. email: [email protected] web: Sexual Health Centre for Lunenburg County: ogy and other facts. web: www.freewebs. www.gngnb.ca (Dances are held at GNG Gay Urban Youth Zone Project: designed Confidential info, education&support for eve- Imperial and Sovereign Court of Atlantic com/xprojecte/ at available via web page club every Saturday night. See www.gngnb. to increase HIV/AIDS, Hepatitis C, and STI ryone. Safer sex supplies, library, pamphlets, Nova Society: Fundraising. 902-449-7612 Wayves Magazine: Atlantic Canada’s ca for a list of upcoming events.) at 702 knowledge and awareness 579-8656 (ext. workshops. 527-2868 email: LunCo@NS- web: www.imperialcourtns.com, meets queer news and lifestyle magazine!. email: rue Principale, Petit-Rocher NB. Look for 28) web: www.acnl.net at Tommy Sexton SexualHealth.ca web: www.theSHaC.org 1st Sunday, and 2nd Sunday (Executive [email protected] web: wayves.ca rainbow flag and/or door with pink triangle Centre 47 Janeway Place Pleasantville, (Hours vary. Open by appointment or by Meetings Are Currently Held Every Second (Deadline: the first Friday of every month; at rear of parking lot. across from the old Janeway Hospital AIDS chance. Please call ahead. ) at 4 Hillcrest Sunday) at Meeting Locations Vary Editorial meeting: the Monday following that; Committee of Newfoundland and Labrador Street Unit 8, Bridgewater. (On the corner Koinonia Ecumenical Church: Meaning layout the Sunday following that. Email us to Sackville NB/ LBGT-MUN Resource Centre: LBGT-MUN is of Dufferin and Hillcrest Streets). Closed ‘community’. Call or email Pastor Elaine be put on our notification list!) Amherst NS an information/resource, service, and peer during summers. for more information. 876-8771 email: support centre staffed by trained volunteers!. South Shore Pride Social Club: for 19 & [email protected] (bi-weekly at New Brunswick Catalyst: Catalyst, Mount Allison’s Queer- 737-7619 email: [email protected] (Open older. 530-5986 email: info@southshore- 12:30pm) at Halifax Feast, Maritime Centre (506) Straight Alliance, provides support & in- Monday-Friday 9-4. Biweekly meetings for pride.ca web: www.southshorepride.ca, Manna For Health: A special needs referral formation for all Mt. A students, staff, and members and volunteers. ) at Smallwood/ meets 3rd Saturday (-- dances -- 9:00PM to food bank for those living with life threatening faculty through meetings, seminars, and University Center, UC-6022. Building located 1:00AM) at Call or email for location. illness. 429-7670 Fredericton social events. Everyone is welcome. email: on Prince Phillip Drive. Call us! Get involved! Mount Pride: GLBTQ group at Mount Saint AIDS New Brunswick / SIDA Nouveau- [email protected] web: www.mta.ca/clubs/ LBGTQ Youth Group: A monthly gathering catalyst/ (Catalyst meets approximately Halifax Vincent University. email: mountpride@ Brunswick: committed to facilitating com- for queer, allied, questioning, and any inter- yahoogroups.com, meets 1st Tuesday, and munity-based responses to the issues of every week from Sept-Dec and Jan-April. ested youth. We offer social events such as Affirm United: GLBT & Friends support, ac- For meeting info contact the president at tion and worshipping community within the 3rd Tuesday (bi-weekly on Tuesdays at 12 HIV/AIDS. Needle exchange located in bowling, movie nights, and coffee houses. noon) at The Diversity Center in Roseria on office at 65 Brunswick Street Fred. E3B [email protected] or the Students’ Adminis- Contact group coordinator Rob Sinnott at United Church. 461-4528 email: alstew@ trative Council at [email protected].) eastlink.ca campus, and online (see email) Possible 1G5. 459-7518 email: jennifer@aidsnb. the number listed, email, or visit the web events that are being planned for the winter com web: www.aidsnb.com (Office Hours: PFLAG: Support and education for GLBT- page for more info. 699-0509 email: lbgtq@ AIDS Coalition of Nova Scotia: non-profit, semester include sexuality awareness week, Monday to Friday, 8:30AM to 12:30PM and T2IQQ persons, friends & family. 506-536- nlsexualhealthcentre.org web: nlsexual- community-based AIDS organization, pro- movies nights, potlucks, guest speakers, and 1:30PM to 4:30PM) 4245 email: [email protected], meets 2nd healthcentre.org vincially mandated. (902)425-4882 email: many more. There are always spontaneous Fredericton Lesbians and Gays: Email Monday (7:30 to 9:30pm No meeting in July PFLAG Canada: Information or referral to [email protected] web: www.acns.ns.ca meals and events that are always fun. This listserv of events/news in the Fredericton for and August.) at Meeting location alternates one of our parents. web: www.pflag.ca (For group is open to anyone who would like monthly between Sackville: United Church Alcoholics Anonymous: Live & Let Live AA gblt men and women. email: [email protected] support or information on chapter meetings Group for GLBT community. (902) 425- to join. Parlours, 112 Main Street, and Amherst: regarding PFLAG Canada contact Gemma Integrity: Supports and encourages Gays Maggie’s Place, 12 LaPlanche Street 8383/422-4972 email: courage449@yahoo. Nova Scotia Rainbow Action Project: foster- and Lesbians in their spiritual lives. email: Schlamp-Hickey, Atlantic Director at gem- com, meets every Monday (at 8pm) at St ing change through networking, education, [email protected] web: www.fa- [email protected] or Diana Deacon, St. Matthews United Church, 1479 Barrington outreach & community education. 902-444- cebook.com/group.php?gid=46207976587, Saint John John’s chapter contact at [email protected]) St, Halifax (Use side door near Maritime 7887 email: [email protected] web: www. meets 3rd Sunday (4:00pm) at Unitarian Affirming United Church - Centenary - Queen St. John’s Pride: St. John’s Official Pride Centre at bottom of stairs) nsrap.ca at TBA Fellowship of Fredericton at 874 York Street Square United Church: invites you to wor- Organization. web: www.facebook.com/ Anonymous HIV/AIDS Testing: 455-9656 Outlaw: GLBTQ & Allies Law Students As- group.php?gid=2497860774 PFLAG: Support & education on issues of ship!. 506-634-8288 email: cqsunited@ Bedford United Church: An Affirming Min- sociation at Dalhousie Law School. email: sexual orientation & gender identity. (506) nb.aibn.com web: www.cqsunited.ca, meets istry of the United Church of Canada - ALL [email protected] web: www.facebook. 455-7190 email: [email protected] every Sunday (10:30am) at 215 Wentworth Nova Scotia (902) welcome. 835-8497 email: bedfordunited@ com/group.php?gid=2416842853 (Meetings web: www.geocities.com/Pflagfredericton/, St, Saint John, NB Hepatitis Outreach Society: Since 1999 eastlink.ca web: www.bedfordunited.com, vary. Please email for further information meets 4th Tuesday (7-9 pm (except Decem- AIDS Saint John: To improve the quality the Hepatitis Outreach Society has been meets every Sunday (9 am service - Casual or check out our Facebook group.) at Dal- ber: 2nd Tuesday)) at Unitarian Fellowship of life for those infected & affected by HIV/ providing support, education and prevention and contemporary - with free coffee and muf- houisie Law School. 6061 University Avenue. of Fredericton 874 York St. Fredericton NB AIDS, and to reduce the spread of HIV information for those infected and affected fins before church to take into this service. Halifax, Nova Scotia. Wayves July 2010 21

PFLAG: Support & education on issues Lunenburg of sexual orientation & gender identity. Truro 431-8500 email: halifaxns@pflagcanada. Second Story Women’s Centre: We offer a meeting space for women, support counsel- Colchester Sexual Assault Centre: Provides Meshallay Crystal ca, meets 1st Thursday (902-431-8500) at support and information to anyone (GBLTQ It is with great sadness that we an- Halifax Youth Project, 2281 Brunswick St ling, programs, and referrals. (902)640-3044 email: [email protected] web: www. included) affected by sexual assault and nounce the passing of HISH Imperial Play Group for Queer Families: 422-8780 secstory.com at Second Story Women’s abuse. 902-897-4366 email: trurosexualas- [email protected] (Mon-Fri 9:30-4:30) at Crown Princess II of Halifax, NS. Af- (3-5pm) at Board Room (Play Room) at Centre is located at 22 King Street, Post ter a brief illness, Meshallay Crystal, Needham Community Recreation Centre, Office Centre, Lunenburg. 80 Glenwood Drive 3372 Devonshire St (north end Halifax, near Northern AIDS Connection Society: HIV aka Bernie MacDonald, passed away intersection of Duffus & Novalea, bus routes prevention education initiative serving on June 9, 2010. 7 & 9) Bring a snack for your child(ren). We Middleton counties Colchester, Pictou, Cumberland & I had the pleasure of serving will be collecting money from each family PFLAG: Information and support for GLBT East Hants. 895-0931 email: nacs@eastlink. beside Meshallay as Imperial Crown to cover the cost of the room rental, likely community and their friends and families. ca web: northernaidsconnectionsociety.ca Prince II of Halifax, and also as an $2-4 per week. 902-825-0548 email: middletonns@pflag- (Our Board of Directors meet bi-monthly executive member of ISCANS while Pride Week: Producers of Atlantic Canada’s canada.ca web: www.pflagcanada.ca/mid- on the third Thursday of the month. Annual he was Premier of our Court. Bernie largest LGBTQ cultural festival. 431-1194 dleton.html (Check online for meeting times General Meeting held regularly in June. See email: [email protected] web: www. and locations- or phone 825-0548) webpage for contact numbers in your area was a very dear, treasured friend of halifaxpride.ca (July 19 - 26, 2009) of northern Nova Scotia.) at 33 Pleasant many years. Street, Truro, N.S. prideHealth: prideHealth is a program of New Glasgow There is so much to say about Capital Health and the IWK Health Centre. PFLAG: Support & education on issues Bernie. I will always remember his Pictou County Centre for Sexual Health: 695- of sexual orientation & gender identity. If you are a member of the pride community 3366 email: [email protected] wit, razor-sharp tongue, the kindness and need support with any kind of health 662.3774 and respect he showed for others, his care call Anita our Clinical Nursing Special- Pride of Pictou County: All GBLT in Pictou Rainbow Proud: Rainbow Proud sup- glowing personality, his great sense of ist, number below. She is available free County. web: www.PrideofPictouCounty.ca ports the LGBT** community of Truro and (see web page for meeting info) humor, and his performances—espe- of charge, offers complete confidentiality, surrounding areas. Our small group of cially Dolly and Cher. and can also give you support if you are volunteers work hard to put events together experiencing homo or transphobia. pride- New Minas / for everyones enjoyment. Any feedback So many more memories! Bernie Health- improving safe access to health Annapolis Valley will be considered and can be sent to our and I shared a birthday and celebrated care. 220.0643 email address. We hope you continue to together for many years. I will miss Valley Youth Project: Sexual Orientation. Quakers: Quakerism emphasizes that we all come celebrate our community together. him so much, as will all of Halifax. Gender Identity. Allies. Youth. email: val- email: [email protected] web: manifest the Divine. 429-2904 web: halifax. [email protected] (6-8:30 most My deepest, heartfelt condolences quaker.ca, meets every Sunday at Library rainbowproudnovascotia.ca (See webpage to his partner, Steven Crossman, and Wednesdays through May) at New Minas for schedule.) at Atlantic School of Theology, Franklyn St. Civic Center, 9209 Commercial St. Ages 25 both their families. Halifax has lost All very welcome. & under. Free bus tickets available. Free RESPECT: Students Making Healthy Deci- one of its shining stars. Sleep with Queer Play: A Queer performing arts group food. Fun activities. Join us on Facebook sions. 893-6300 email: [email protected] the angels, my friend. in Halifax NS. email: [email protected] at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Valley- at P.O. Box 550, Nova Scotia Agricultural College, Truro, N.S. B2N 5E3 Safe Harbour Metropolitan Community Youth-Project/22418494995 Church: A Christian Church with an affirming SAAFE (Supporting An Alternative Friendly ministry to the GBLT community. Everyone Sackville NB/ Environment): Social/support group at the is welcome!. 453-9249 email: safeharbour@ NS Agricultural College. 893-6300 email: Judith Davis Amherst NS [email protected] (Meetings as requested. eastlink.ca web: safeharbourmcc.com, Judith Lynne “Judy” Davis of meets every Sunday (11 am) at Veith House, PFLAG: Support and education for GLBT- Membership changes each academic year.) their care and support. 3115 Veith Street, Halifax T2IQQ persons, friends & family. 506-536- Tatamagouche, born on July 27, Interment took place in her family 1951, formerly of Westville, passed Spirituality For Lesbians: We seek to deepen 4245 email: sacknb-amns@pflagcanada. Wolfville lot at Auburn Cemetery, Westville. ca web: www.pflagcanada.ca/en/prov-list-e. away on Monday, June 14, 2010 in There is a wonderful biography our relationship with God, knowing that God Acadia Pride: Acadia Student Union’s LGB- loves us and calls us into life just as he has asp?RegionNo=6&ProvAbbr=NB, meets the Lillian Fraser Memorial Hospital, of Judy written by David Orton and 2nd monday (Phone or e-mail for meeting T2IQ group. 585-2165 email: acadiapride@ created us. Persons of every or no denomi- acadiau.ca web: euler.acadiau.ca/~apride/, Tatamagouche. is available on-line at home.ca.inter. nation are welcome. 459-2649, meets 2nd location and details.) at Sackville:112 Main Judith died of cancer and a broken Street or Amherst: 12 La Planche Street meets every Monday (9:00pm(during aca- net/~greenweb/Judy_Davis.pdf. Wednesday (7:30-9PM, phone for meeting demic year)) at Beverage Forum (old SUB) heart, the latter caused by witnessing This document outlines all her ac- locations) Sydney Acadia Women’s Centre: 585-2140 email: the continued destruction of the tivism and her driving concern and Team Halifax: All GLBT over 18, athletes [email protected] (Acadia SUB ecology of the planet through hu- care for others. I was honoured to and performance artists, as well as anyone AIDS Coalition of Cape Breton: Support, Second Level Balcony) man exploitation, economic greed willing to help out. 422-9510 web: www. be one of Judy’s friends. I was also advocacy, prevention/education for those and war. The loss of wildlife habitat overwhelmed what a horrible thing teamhalifax.com (No fixed schedule at this infected or affected by HIV/AIDS. Free con- Yarmouth time, look on website for further details.) doms!. (902) 567-1766 email: joannerolls@ and the cruel slaughter of innocent cancer can be and how it can so The Youth Project: Support, education and accb.ns.ca,[email protected] web: Southwest Nova Pride: Gays, lesbians and animals caused her the greatest quickly take a life. I am very glad that social activities for youth 25 and under www.accb.ns.ca (Free Anonmymous Test- those interested of any age are invited. We grief. The greatest joy came from David Orton has made available his across Nova Scotia. Weekly events, plus ing 1-902-567-1123 Check our Website for meet as a social gathering and support group the animals she shared her life with story about Judy. a youth food bank and STI testing on site. events and updates. ) at 150 Bentinck St, and we are not church affiliated. 645-2914 and from friends who shared her Judy touched many lives in Nova 429-5429 email: youthproject@youthproject. Sydney, N.S. B1P 6H1 email: [email protected], meets 2nd Friday (7:00pm) at Beacon United Church outrage and concern. A social activ- Scotia and we’ll miss her fiery pursuit ns.ca web: www.youthproject.ns.ca, meets Cape Breton University Sexual Diversity ist and environmentalist all her life, 1st Tuesday, and 3rd Tuesday (6-9pm ) on Beacon Street of justice. I will take with me into Centre: We provide a welcoming environ- Judith organized for social change. at 2281 Brunswick Street. 25 and under. ment for GLBTQ people and their Allies. community gatherings the reality Please refer to our website for details and 902-563-1481 email: [email protected] (M-F Prince Edward She was also an active unionist who check of “What would Judy do?” schedule of upcoming events. LGB Youth 9-4pm. Call or drop by for event listings, Ally Island (902) dreamed of equality for all regardless There are many stories and photos of Project Social Drop-in Nights. This is an Training, and Anti-Heterosexism/Homo- of age, class, abilities, race or sexual other people’s times with Judy, and I unstructured event. It’s a chance to hang AIDS PEI: AIDS PEI creates a supportive phobia Workshops!) at the Students’ Union environment for PHA’s to all residents of orientation. She would like to thank hope that people will share them. My out with old friends, make some new ones, Building, Cape Breton University. everyone who has been so kind to her and just talk about whatever, PEI. 902-566-2437 email: [email protected] partner and I will be collecting stories, Group Harrison Society: Dances, Socials web: www.aidspei.com at 144 Prince Street over the years. photos and videos to create an on-line Trans Family Nova Scotia: We are the Par- & Support Group for Cape Bretoners. Charlottetown, PE C1A 2R6 A special thanks to June Daley and celebration of her life. You can e-mail ents, Partners, Family, Friends & Allies of (902)371-8752 web: groupharrisonsociety- Trans-Identified Individuals. supporting one Gay PEI Mailing List: Electronic mailing list Caroline Leone and her sister Jean for us at [email protected]. dancespi.piczo.com, meets every Saturday for all GLBT, questioning and friendly, focus another. 902-431-8500 email: transfamily@ (of every month Admission $6.50 -$5.50 for eastlink.ca, meets 3rd Monday (6:30 to 8:30 is on PEI. email: gay-pei-owner@yahoog- members- Restricted 19 yrs and over) at 780 roups.com web: groups.yahoo.com/group/ pm) at The Youth Project (2281 Brunswick Upper Prince Street Horizon Achievement St., Halifax) gay-pei at All first posts are moderated to Centre (Kinsmen), Sydney stop spambots, otherwise, it’s an open list. Universalist Unitarian Church: an inclusive PFLAG: Support & education on issues of GLBT Youth group: Safe Space Drop-Ins. liberal religious community 429-5500 email: sexual orientation & gender identity. Karen [email protected] web: UUCH.ca , 367-3408 or toll free 1 877 380 5776 (E-mail 564-8728 email: sydneyns@pflagcanada. us for further details.) at 144 Prince St. meets every Sunday (10:30; see website for ca, meets last Sunday (of the month at special events) at 5500 Inglis St 7:30pm. No meetings for July and August.) PFLAG Canada - PEI: Providing support, at Family Place Resource Centre 106 education and advocacy for GLBT persons, Kentville Townsend Street, Sydney NS their families and friends in PEI. 902-887- 3620 email: [email protected] web: www. Red Door: Youth Health & Support Centre. Pride Cape Breton Society: Dances and So- pflagcanada.ca, meets 3rd Tuesday at Ferry Information and services for sexual health. cial Events. Monthly dances are Adults Only! Road Centre, 24 Ferry Road, Cornwall, PE Ages 13 - 30. 679-1411 web: thereddoor. Check website community events. (902) or Stratford City Hall check with Mary or Bill ca (Monday to Friday 2pm to 6pm) at 150 539-4627 email: [email protected] Kendrick on this months location by calling Park Street web: www.pridecapebreton.com (Dances 902-887-3620. on the last Saturday of every month. Check website for dance and special event dates!) Kingston at Southend Community Centre. Maps are Charlottetown Valley Gay Men’s Coffee House: socials for at our website. ARC -- Abegweit Rainbow Collective: gay men; gay & lesbian dances 19+. 825- Serving GLBT Islanders, their friends and 3197,363-2055 email: menembracingmen@ Tatamagouche families. 894-5776 email: [email protected] yahoo.ca web: faceitwithpride.tripod.com web: www.arcofpei.com, meets 1st Monday (Coffee every Thursday 7-9pm, Dances on Tatamagouche Centre: We are an affirm- (6:00pm at 375 University Ave Suite # 2 the first Saturday of the month, for the excep- ing centre, welcoming all gay, lesbian, and Charlottetown, PE) tion of in November. There is two dances transgendered people. 1.800.218.2220 held in October, On the First Saturday and email: [email protected] web: www. the Last Saturday of that Month and NO tatacentre.ca Dance in November.) at email or call for locations or special events or themes 22 July 2010 Wayves The Last Word Let Us Now Praise Blue-Collar Men! By Randall Perry weight kid, awkward, poor at sports. out I felt free to express my long-held good-heartedly, while showing me My name is Randall and I’m addicted Mine was a world of imagination (and pent-up) devotion for the collar his own large screwing and drilling to home renovation shows. HGTV and I leaned toward the artistic, to coloured blue. thingamajig. I also have a stud finder, is my dealer; blue collar studs are my the chagrin of my father who tried Truckers man-handling their rigs. which works very well when it comes drug. Mike Holmes. Jim Caruk. Carter unsuccessfully to pique my interest in Plumbers showing crack. Carpen- to locating good places to hang Oosterhouse. Brian Baeumler. John the chainsaw and the shotgun. ters pounding away with their big pictures on my walls; alas it’s not so Sillaots. Kennedy McRae. My birth- My world and the world of my hammers. Loggers sawing back and good at sniffing out elusive husband day is in July… you just read my wish father and his peers were light-years forth. Farmers plowing. Rubbered-up material in a crowded Home Depot. list. Any or all of them, thank you apart. Still, I romanticized these men, fishermen wielding their rods. Road A good number of people don’t very much. And their crews. Dressed long before I discovered myself and flaggers telling me to stop, then go, know a hammer from a hole in the Let us now praise and celebrate only in workboots and toolbelt. My others like me. In that small rural set- then stop, then go. Mechanics greas- ground; I’m not one of them—and blue-collar men, those rough-hewn, apartment, first thing in the morning. ting I thought I was the sole keeper ing things up. Whole construction I’m thankful for that—but I’m not muscled builders and maintainers I plan to take the day off. of such feelings and fantasies, all kept crews sweating and panting, backs about to tackle a home reno project, of our civilization, their up-front What, too much? So I’m a greedy under wraps lest someone find out arching and muscles straining under despite all the tips I’ve picked up masculinity an irresistible overflowing thing when it comes to filling my eyes my true nature to add fuel to the fire the weight of their loads. from watching HGTV and reading hardhat of seductive, raw sexuality. with guys. Nothing new. I work in a of teasing and tormenting I endured (Such a filthy mind! “Please sir, I Mike Holmes magazine. (Yes, he has Strength and vulnerability, together in former shopping mall under conver- every day, the proving ground of want some more,” I say.) a magazine! I can die a happy man!) one sweet-looking package. Consider sion to a business park. The renos are some cruel rite of adolescent passage. As for me, I have very little prow- Those jobs I’ll leave to the pros. me a buyer. ongoing and there’s always a hard-hat All this under-wraps, from-afar ess with the tools of the trades. I can or measuring tape or paint brush worship would serve me well in the navigate my way around a toolbox, around. It’s a good thing eye candy future. Later as I discovered the for the most part. I bragged to a has no calories; otherwise I’d weigh very adult world of bars and porn friend recently that I put my curtain a thousand pounds. and bathhouses I realized that the hardware back up all by myself after I hail from Toronto, but I grew up archetype of the hyper-masculine the building owner changed out the in a small village on the northwestern working man was one of the drivers windows… and then remembered tip of P.E.I., surrounded by farmers, of sexualized queer imagery. (Which said friend is a home improvement fishermen and men of various and is not to say it’s the only driver… it contractor and would view my lit- sundry trades. For me, the allure was was, at the time, the only one to which tle 3.6-volt electric screwdriver with of “the other”—I was a shy and over- I was quick to attune!) When I came amusement. “Pussy,” he’d chuckle Last month June’s question was, “What Atlantic Canada city is most LGBT- friendly?” The question garnered twelve responses, mostly with a single Letters city name: Moncton – 3 votes; Saint John – 2 votes; Halifax – 1 vote; Dartmouth – 1 vote; Corner Brook – 1 vote Why Come Out? Raymond Taavel and I have been a long way. Pension rights, marriage The four written responses were a bit more explanatory: My question this year for all my friends since about 1980. We went rights, the right to adopt children, “Well, we know it isn’t Truro!” GLBTIQ friends is this… “Why do to the same college in Toronto and equal rights under the law in every “Each city has a vibrant LGBT community as well as its own individual we have to ‘come out’?” we both came out around the same area of life it seems. We owe a lot to barriers to LGBT-friendliness that offset the vibrancy. Moncton may not I’m sure all of us have friends. time. Raymond and I have always kept the champions of human rights who be quite as vibrant as other cities but the barriers aren’t quite as big.” When you think about it, has any in touch over the years, even after he have fought hard battles on our be- “My vote would have gone to Moncton. However, after seeing the ig- one of your friends come out to moved east he has faithfully called me half over the years. But we can never norance that has been displayed by not just some people but in particular you? Have they said, “Hi (insert on my birthday every year—until this forget that there might be some igno- a certain business within the community due to the opening of a new bar, your name), I’m straight”? No, they year! So I called him to remind him rant thug in a pizza joint ready to lash my views have changed. I cannot believe the way people are treating each haven’t and we accept them for who to wish me a happy b-day! He was out in misdirected anger and hate. other within the community. And all because of a second bar opening they are and who they love. My dream quite embarrassed and very sweet, So let’s remember May 17th, and which people have been asking to have for a long time.” is to one day have the perfect world with a bit of sarcasm. We got into a not because it’s my birthday. Let’s “I don’t know what it is but from my experience it is Sydney, Cape where we do not have to come out discussion about what we had been remember my dear friend Rob and Breton. I have always gotten more harassment from the non-GLBT’s in to anyone, not friends, not family. In up to and he directed me to his latest all of the other innocent victims of Halifax than in most other places. So my vote is for Sydney. I know stuff my perfect world everyone would see Wayves article online. We then got ignorance and hate. Let’s remem- has happened there, but it’s my home and I will love it forever.” love as just that: LOVE. They would into a discussion about gay bashing. ber those who have fought for and not see the sex of the person you are We talked about his recent horrific helped entrench our rights. And let’s Next Month with, they would just see the person. incident. Then we talked about my remember to be vigilant and call out “Summer’s a great time to catch up on all those books you’ve been sav- Let us strive to make this world friend from New Brunswick who was hatred and bigotry when we encoun- ing. What authors are you planning to bring with you to the cottage or more accepting of everyone. Can killed in a gay bashing in 1990. Then ter it. Rights left undefended will not beach this summer? Mysteries? Romances? Thrillers? And are you reading we try to make this world better for we talked about the time I was bashed remain rights for long. The thug in traditional books or are you carting around an e-book reader?” future generations so no one has to in Toronto in 1984. the pizza joint is just waiting for a You tell us @ www.wayves.ca. come out as a gay person or a straight I never reported my incident. I chance to take our hard won rights person? Instead let’s all come out as could tell by the reaction of the police away from us. ourselves. officer in the emergency room of the Blaine Mitchell, Toronto Hello world. My name is Mary hospital I attended to get stitched up, and I’m me. there was no point. But a few years Mary MacDonald later when my friend Rob was killed in Sackville, NB., there seemed at May 17th least to be some response from the Re: Why I’ll Mark May 17 – May Issue. justice system. Minimal, but at least May 17th was special to me long something! And now many years later before it was the “International Day in Halifax, the police are taking it seri- Against Homophobia.” It was special ously and reacting appropriately and to me even before I knew I was gay. professionally in real time, and not September 3-5, 2010 It’s my birthday. waiting to be directed by the courts. www.looseends.ca/bluenosebonspiel I should start by confessing that Without a doubt we have come

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