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Shabbat Vayelech-Shuva - October 3 & 4 Deuteronomy 31:1 – 30 TEMPLE RODEF SHALOM BULLETIN Friday, October 3 Note 6:45 pm Bo’i Shabbat Service New Time! 7:00 pm Family Shabbat Service OCTOBER 2008 | TISHREI - CHESHVAN 5769 Saturday, October 4 9:00 am Torah Study followed by Informal Worship Wednesday, October 8 & Thursday, October 9 Kol Nidre, Yom Kippur begins at sundown. See page 4 of the bulletin for the schedule of Celebrate services. Shabbat Ha’azinu - October 10 & 11 Sukkot Deuteronomy 32:1 – 52 Friday, October 10 8:00 PM Shabbat Evening Service at TRS Saturday, October 11 9:00 AM Torah Study on Monday 10:30 AM Shabbat Morning Service B’not Mitzvah of Emma Davidson October 13! & Alisha Flaxman Monday, October 13 & Tuesday, October 14 Please note Date Change!!! Sukkot begins at sundown. See front cover for additional information. Erev Sukkot Celebration! Thursday, October 16 The fun begins at 5:00 p.m. 6:45 PM Service of Strength, with Sukkah Decorating and a Hot Dog Supper Comfort & Healing Chol Hamoeid Sukkot - October 17 & 18 $5.00 per person for Temple Members (Adults and Children) Deuteronomy 33:1-34:12 Register at: www.templerodefshalom.org Friday, October 17 6:30 pm Tot Shabbat If you miss the October 7 deadline, please feel free to bring your 8:00 pm Shabbat Evening Service own picnic dinner! Saturday, October 18 9:00 pm Torah Study Family Service and Sing A Long on the Temple Steps at 6:15 p.m. 10:30 pm Shabbat Morning Service Adult Service in the Sanctuary at 7:30 p.m. Chag Sameach! B’nai Mitzvah of Wolfe Glick & Talia Rosen 10:30 am Parallel Shabbat Morning Service EREV SIMCHAT TORAH – CONSECRATION SERVICE Monday, October 20 Join us for Worship and Celebration as we 7:00 pm Erev Simchat Torah Consecration Service Sing,Dance,Unroll and Re-roll the Torah! Tuesday, October 21 October 20, 7:00 p.m. 9:00 am Simchat Torah Service (with Yizkor) Shabbat Bereshit - October 24 & 25 Genesis 1:1 – 6:8 Friday, October 24 8:00 pm Shabbat Evening Service JoinJ TRS Founding Rabbi Laszlo Berkowits Saturday, October 25 ffor a Discussion of his Book 9:00 am Torah Study “The“ Boy Who Lost His Birthday” 10:30 am Shabbat Morning Service Bat Mitzvah of Wednesday,W October 15, 7:30 p.m. Clara "Kiki" Schumann Sunday,S November 9, 7:00 p.m. Shabbat Noach - October 31 & November 1 SeeS back cover for details Genesis 6:9 – 11:32 Friday, October 31 8:00 pm Shabbat Evening Service Self-Care for Care-Givers Saturday, November 1 6 Session Workshop begins November 5 9:00 am Torah Study Facilitated by Adina Shapiro, LCSW 9:00 am Tot Shabbat Activity

See page 6 for details. 10:30 am Shabbat Morning Service

Bar Mitzvah of Dean Berman

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3 From the Clergy October Worship Schedule 4 Adult Education FIRST SHABBAT OF THE MONTH FRIDAY 6:45 pm - BO’I SHABBAT - The “Welcome Shabbat” is a shorter, one hour adult 5 Membership oriented service with an emphasis on music. This is an adult alternative to the Family service. 6 Our Caring Community FRIDAY 7:00 pm - FAMILY SHABBAT EVENING WORSHIP in the Sanctuary. This warm and welcoming service includes prayer, music and a story. There is Israeli dancing at 7 Social Action the Oneg after the service. SATURDAY 9:00 am - TOT SHABBAT ACTIVITY - Join Libby Chisholm from our Nursery School 8 Fund for the Community in a special Shabbat activity just for preschoolers. There will be Shabbat singing too. There’s no RSVP required for this program. Just bring your preschoolers and be 9 Religious Education ready to enjoy some Shabbat fun. SATURDAY 10:30 am - SHABBAT MORNING WORSHIP in the Sanctuary. This service is led 10 Scrapbook by the TRS clergy and by young men and women who are becoming Bar or Bat Mitzvah. All are welcome. 12 Bridge to Israel SATURDAY 5:00 pm - SHABBAT AFTERNOON MINCHA WORSHIP in the Sanctuary. This service is led by the TRS clergy and by young men and women who are becoming Bar or 13 Cultural Bat Mitzvah. All are welcome. 14 Sisterhood SECOND SHABBAT OF THE MONTH FRIDAY 8:00 pm - SHABBAT EVENING WORSHIP in the Sanctuary. This service has a special 15 B’nai Mitzvah music focus. It may be Shabbat Rocks, a special Sermon-in-Song from one of the Cantors, a Composer in Residence weekend or another special service. 16 Nursery School SATURDAY 10:30 am - SHABBAT MORNING WORSHIP in the Sanctuary. This service is led by the TRS clergy and by young men and women who are becoming Bar or Bat 17 Youth Committee Mitzvah. All are welcome. THIRD SHABBAT OF THE MONTH 18 TRSTY FRIDAY 6:30 pm - TOT SHABBAT SERVICE - A 30 minute Shabbat Service just for preschoolers led by one of our clergy. Join us for Shabbat prayers, music and a 19 Donations story, followed by a potluck nut-free Oneg. FRIDAY 8:00 pm - SHABBAT EVENING WORSHIP in the Sanctuary. This warm and welcoming 21 New Members service includes prayer, music, and usually a presentation of sorts - a sermon or d’var Torah, speaker, and/or a Torah reading. 26 Calendar SATURDAY 10:30 am - SHABBAT MORNING WORSHIP in the Sanctuary. This service is led by the TRS clergy and by young men and women who are becoming Bar or Bat Mitzvah. All are welcome. SATURDAY 10:30 am - PARALLEL SHABBAT MORNING SERVICE is led by members of the congregation and includes a Torah reading, d’var Torah and other personalized shared thoughts. A pot-luck vegetarian luncheon follows the service and all are encouraged to celebrate Shabbat in an intimate and informal way. Shabbat activities supervised by parents are available for younger children, who are also welcome. Please contact Rabbi Jeff Saxe if you would like to have a part in the service. FOURTH SHABBAT OF THE MONTH FRIDAY 8:00 pm - SHABBAT EVENING WORSHIP in the Sanctuary. This warm and welcoming service includes prayer, music and usually a sermon or d’var Torah, speaker, and/or a Torah reading. SATURDAY 10:30 am - SHABBAT MORNING WORSHIP in the Sanctuary. This service is led by the TRS clergy and by young men and women who are becoming Bar or Bat Mitzvah. All are welcome. SERVICE OF STRENGTH, COMFORT, AND HEALING THIRD THURSDAY OF MONTH 6:45 pm - This intimate service is designed to provide respite and comfort to all those who need strength and support during bereavement, illness, stress, etc.

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RABBI’S CORNER But take utmost care and watch yourselves scrupulously, so that you do not forget the things that you saw with your own eyes and so that they do not fade from your mind as long as you live. And make them known to your children and your children’s children. ~ Deuteronomy 4:9

I am thrilled to inform you that my memoir, The Boy Who Lost His Birthday, is published. We will have a book signing and sales event at the Temple on Wednesday, October 15 at 7:30 pm and Sunday, November 9 at 7:00 pm.

It has taken years to reach this point, because I have put it aside several times. However, six years ago, I led a group from Rodef to Eastern Europe — Warsaw, Krakow-Auschwitz, Prague and Budapest. The silence in most of them was deafening. The discovery was not new, but the experience of it was shocking. Coming home, I decided to give voice to memory and share it with you as best as I can. It is my tribute to so many dear ones and a promise kept to tell what we saw and experienced.

I felt it also a duty to tell the truth once again.

So now I share it with you and your children — a story, a journey of loss, struggle and the triumph of the human spirit.

Let us go into the New Year with heads uplifted, with our backs straight and a hopeful mind.

Rabbi Laszlo Berkowits

www.templerodefshalom.org Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin | 3 | Adult Education Adult Education Committee Chair: Claire Reiss • 703/533-1137 • [email protected]

Save the Date for Adult Education Sunday October 19, 2008 at 11:45 a.m. The Role of Religion in the 2008 Presidential Campaign. Jacques Berlinerblau, Ph.D., Associate Professor of Jewish Civilization at Georgetown University, will be with us to discuss the role that religion is playing in the 2008 presidential campaign. Dr. Berlinerblau is well known in the Washington area for his blog, The God Vote, on the Washington Post website. He is Associate Professor and Director of the Program for Jewish Civilization at the Edmund A. Walsh School of Foreign Service at Georgetown University. He has published on a wide variety of issues ranging from the composition of the Hebrew Bible, to the sociology of heresy, to modern Jewish intellectuals, to African-American and Jewish-American relations. His articles on these and other subjects have appeared in Biblica, Journal for the Study of the Old Testament, Semeia, Biblical Interpretation, Journal of Northwest Semitic Languages, Hebrew Studies, Journal of the American Academy of Religion, and History of Religions. He is the author of several books, including Heresy in the University: The Black Athena Controversy and the Responsibility of American Intellectuals (Rutgers University Press), The Secular Bible: Why Nonbelievers Must take Religion Seriously (Cambridge University Press) and Thumpin’ It: The Use and Abuse of the Bible in Today’s Presidential Politics (Westminster John Knox). Dr. Berlinerblau holds a Ph.D. in Ancient Near Eastern Languages and Literatures from New York University and a Ph. D in Sociology from The New School for Social Research.

Sunday November 9, 2008 at 4:00 p.m. Praying with Lior Come see Ilana Trachtman’s fi lm Praying with Lior, a documentary Wednesday, October 8 about the spiritual life of a young Erev Yom Kippur/Kol Nidre man with Downs syndrome, and 5:45 pm Early Adult Service stay after the fi lm for a discussion. 5:45 pm Older Family Service Praying with Lior has won 5:45 pm Younger Family Service at numerous audience awards for George Mason High School best documentary at Jewish fi lm (7124 Leesburg Pike, Falls Church) festivals throughout the U.S. 8:30 pm Late Adult Service Yom 8:30 pm Teen Service

Thursday, October 9 Kippur Yom Kippur Day 8:30 am Early Adult Service 8:30 am Early Youth Service 11:30 am Late Adult Service 11:30 am Late Youth Service 2:00 pm Yom Kippur Discussion Hour 2:00 pm Music & Meditation Hour Please join us for a discussion of the issues of the presidential election from a Jewish perspective. 3:15 pm Tot Service The participants are three members of TRS: 4:00 pm Service of Forgiveness and Healing Matthew Brooks, Executive Director of the Republican Jewish Coalition (RJC) 5:30 pm Yizkor Service Matt Dorf, the Jewish outreach coordinator for the Democratic National Committee 6:00 pm N’ilah Service Moderated by Chuck Todd, NBC News Political Director

| 4 | Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin www.templerodefshalom.org TRS affi nity groups designed exclusively for TRS members so that you can get to Membership know one another in smaller groups with something in common! Membership Chair: Chaverim Fran Klein • 703/560-1404• [email protected] Chaverim is Temple Rodef Shalom’s warm and welcoming group of single parents and their children. For information about Chaverim, please Wine & Cheese Welcome contact Anita Thornton, Program Director, at Friday October 10th, 2008 703/332-2217, ext. 301 or 7:30 pm in the Library [email protected] for more information. New and not-so-new members are invited to join us on the second Friday of each month in the library for a little wine, a little cheese, Keshet and a lot of conversation. It’s a great way to start Shabbat! Keshet is Temple Rodef Shalom’s gay and lesbian affi nity group. To learn more about the group or any other opportunities, please contact 50's Renaissance 60's coordinators Michael Sebastiani at 703/465-8527 or [email protected], or Bruce Laird at703/732-7376 or [email protected] Renaissance provides social activities for TRS members with a focus on those who are in their 50’s and 60’s. Vatikim To learn more details about TRS Renaissance events, (A social group for our senior members ages 70+) please check the Renaissance email letter. To add your Stimulating activities including lunch gatherings, name to the Renaissance e-letter list please contact guest speakers, holiday meals, trips to the Nancy Limprecht or Rick Haines at [email protected] theatre and museums provide wonderful day or call 703/302-5256. time opportunities for our seniors. Transportation is provided for all of our Vatikim offsite events. Please contact Anita Thornton, Program Director at Dining Out Together 703/532-2217, ext. 301 or [email protected] for more info or Renaissance members meet at a local restaurant selected to be put on our mailing list. by a volunteer organizer. Join us this month for our fi rst DOT dinner of the new (Jewish) year. Check out the Renaissance e-letter for details. 30s and 40s Group Sukkot Party on Saturday, October Round Robin Shabbat 18, 2008 at 7:00 p.m.at the Renaissance members celebrate Shabbat together at a home of Donna Schwartz and member’s home, with everyone contributing an element Gregg Maisel. Guests are invited to bring an of the meal and all guests taking eventual turns as hosts appetizer or dessert and are welcome to bring a or cohosts at some point. The fi rst Round Robin Shabbat decoration to add to the sukkah. Sign up at: dinner of the new year will be held on November 7th. http://30s40ssukkot08.eventbrite.com/ Consult the Renaissance e-letter for details.

Book Group Rosh Chodesh The Renaissance group will meet in November to discuss Michael Chabon’s The Jewish Policemanʼs Union. Thursdays at 7:30 p.m. Consult the Renaissance e-lettere letter for details.details. Women of TRS are invited to celebrate Rosh Chodesh, the New Moon Festival, at a monthly gathering. Women of all ages get to know one another, sing, dance, study and create opportunities for our personal and spiritual growth with different activities each month. There is no charge for this event but reservations are very helpful for planning purposes. Dance Classes Please RSVP online for an upcoming Rosh Chodesh Festival by going to Upcoming Events on the TRS website: Due to the popularity of the ballroom dance classes that www.templerodefshalom.org. Renaissance offered at TRS in July and August, we hope to offer further courses that will meet on Sunday afternoons from 4-6 at TRS in November and early December. Watch October 30, 2008 March 26, 2009 July 23, 2009 the Renaissance and TRS e-letter for further details. December 18, 2008 April 23, 2009 August 20, 2009 January 22, 2009 May 21, 2009 February 26, 2009 June 25, 2009 Send us your suggestions and ideas for activities! www.templerodefshalom.org Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin | 5 | Self-Care for Our Caring Community Care-Givers 6 Session Workshop begins November 5 Caring Committee: Facilitated by Melissa Sporn • 703/893-3883 • [email protected] Adina Shapiro, LCSW Beth Newman • 703/532-2644 • [email protected] TRS Members are invited to participate in a six The purpose of the Caring Committee is How can I receive assistance session support workshop facilitated by to nurture the sense of belonging to and from the Caring Committee? Adina Shapiro, LCSW. This group will provide participation in a caring community by caretakers of elderly and seriously ill family The Caring Committee organizes the network members with support, the opportunity to providing g’milut chasadim—deeds of of members who support the clergy’s work by exchange resources, and relieve feelings of loving kindness—such as sending messages keeping in touch with congregants through isolation and stress in caring for loved ones. and tokens of support to, and coordinating visits or by phone, providing transportation The sessions will include a component on assistance for, members of the Temple who or emergency child care, sending notes or common reactions to being a caretaker and are going through milestone life events. This greeting cards, weeding a garden, offering being disabled; tips on how to deal with interpersonal confl ict and stress resulting from may include, but is certainly not limited to, a meal in times of illness or helping with disability; and stress management techniques. births, adoptions, deaths, and illness. The shopping or errands. There will be ample opportunity for group members to express feelings and increase sub-committees within Our Caring Community If you have a need, or know of someone and their coordinators are below. To learn more their support network. Group members will be who does, please contact Melissa Sporn, expected to participate in all six sessions. about our subcommittees, please visit our 703/893-3883, [email protected] or one of the This workshop is sponsored by the TRS Caring website at templerodefshalom.org. sub-committee coordinators listed above. The Committee. A registration fee of $18.00 per committee always strives to balance offering person will be donated to the TRS Caring assistance while respecting individuals’ need Committee. To register please log on to: • Bereavement http://selfcareforcaregivers.eventbrite.com for privacy. or call Anita Thornton, Program Director at Anita Thornton 703/532-2217 or 703/532-2217 ext. 301. The workshop will [email protected] How can I become part be limited to the fi rst twelve participants to register. of our Caring Community? Workshop sessions: • Breast Cancer Network An intricate aspect of our being Jewish is the Wednesdays 7:30-9:00 p.m. commandment to perform deeds of loving November 5 December 3 Anita Thornton 703/532-2217 or kindness. As such, every member of our November 12 December 10 [email protected] congregation is a part of the Caring Committee November 19 December 17 that assists our members who are dealing • Meals—Ronnie O’Connor with diffi cult transitions and crises which life MAZEL TOV TO 703/642-0289 or presents. The Caring Committee functions [email protected] • Rebecca Dezube & Scott Goldman through the efforts of many people. The on their recent marriage work of this committee is truly rewarding • Caroline Mayer on receiving Support for Widows and • —building friendships while helping others. the Everett C. Parker Ethics in Widowers—Next Step, Debbie Telecommunications award There is always the need for volunteers, and • Frank & Ina Eaton on the birth of Massey 703/532-0942 or opportunities to help include brief, one time [email protected] their twin granddaughters, Lucy & jobs as well as more involved roles. Whether Tessa Eaton, daughters of Seth & your schedule allows an hour or a day, you will Aly Eaton Visiting the Sick (Bikkur Cholim) • fi nd that helping others is one of your more • Deb Peeples on being recognized by the AFP/DC chapter as this Melissa Sporn 703/893-3883 or meaningful experiences as part of a Temple [email protected] year’s Outstanding Fundraising family. Contact a Sub-Committee coordinator to Professional match your time and interest with someone’s • P-FLAG—Valli Swerdlow need. CONDOLENCES TO 703/615-3834 or [email protected] • Florence Kittiver on the death of her Tell us about your acts of mother, Mildred Silkowitz g’milut chasadim. • Tanya Weiss on the death of her • Shalom Baby—Karin Dinesman mother, Lois Beshgetoor 703/790-0489 or We would like to feature individuals in our • The family and friends of Sam [email protected] community who have performed acts of loving Schulman on his death kindness. It needn’t be grand or ongoing. If • Pamela Sidel-Gruntfest on the death of her father, Stanley Sidel • Children of Holocaust Survivors you or someone you know has performed a kind deed for another please let us know. Your • Karen Wyle on the death of her Diane Naughton 703/620-0747 or grandmother, Frieda Buchalter [email protected] story may spur someone else to action. • Mark Zelinger on the death of his father, Hugo Zelinger | 6 | Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin www.templerodefshalom.org Social Action Social Action Chair: Jenn Rafael • 703/385-9393 • [email protected]

New Initiative To Make A Difference In Our Local Community Come join us on Tuesday, October 21, at 7:30 at the Temple, to hear about a new opportunity for our community to work towards positive change on the local level. Virginians for Organized Interfaith Community Engagement (VOICE) is a faith-based, grass-roots organization that has been in the process of formation for about a year under the auspices of the Industrial Areas Foundation (IAF, www.industrialareasfoundation.org). The goal is to work together to identify local concerns shared by those involved and take action on those concerns in a non-partisan manner. VOICE is the new organization being formed in Virginia, and our neighboring congregations Eitz Chaim and Beth El are participating in this project, along with many non-Jewish congregations in the area. Our efforts to get involved in a new level of grassroots social action are part of an initiative within the Reform movement. There is a new department of the URJ, called Just Congregations, which encourages and facilitates Reform congregations’ engagement in this type of work. The program on October 21 will be an introductory orientation for members of our community to learn about VOICE and how it works. Martin Trimble, the area’s IAF community organizer, will lead the orientation. We hope you can join us and look forward to subsequent discussion and input about how joining VOICE might work for TRS and whether you might like to become involved. If you are interested in attending the meeting or hearing more about this initiative, please RSVP to Rabbi Saxe by calling or emailing him at [email protected].

Yom Kippur donation drive: Can you help? What SHARE needs most “Is not this the fast I look for: to unlock the shackles of injustice, to undo the fetters of bondage, to let the oppressed go free, and to break every cruel chain? Is it not to Kitchen Items Macaroni & Cheese share your bread with the hungry, and bring the homeless poor into your house?” Spaghetti Sauce Isaiah 58:6–8 Jelly (the kind that kids like) Canned Fruit On Yom Kippur, we fast as part of the process of seeking repentance, but Fruit Juices there are people in our community who have no choice but to go hungry Dried Soups that day. To help those in need, we will collect non-perishable food, paper Ketchup Mayonnaise products, and toiletries on Yom Kippur. A truck will be parked in the Temple Mustard lot during Kol Nidre services October 8 and during the day on Yom Kippur, Relish October 9. Please leave your donations on the truck. The donations will go to Tuna the SHARE, Inc. food pantry in McLean, which serves low-income residents of Canned Meats Breakfast Cereals McLean, Great Falls, Falls Church, and the Tysons/Pimmit Hills area. You can Crackers learn more about this group’s important work at: Sugar http://www.shareofmclean.com/. Flour Rice We also need volunteers to help deliver the donations to SHARE. If you can Coffee Tea help, please contact Marc Cohen (who is organizing the drive for the 12th year running!) at 703-356-5834 or e-mail him at [email protected]. Cleaning Supplies Laundry Detergent Cleanser (like Ajax) Planning for Winter Mitzvah Day Liquid Cleaners (like 409) We need help planning one of our biggest vounteer events, Winter Mitzvah Dishwashing Detergent

Day. We want to hear your ideas, and we need people to volunteer to help Toiletries bring those ideas to life! If you helped last year, and have a suggestion for Toothpaste how things can go more smoothly, we want to hear from you especially! It’s Toothbrushes crucial this year that people step forward now to help organize the event, Bar Soap Shampoo which takes months to plan. E-mail Jenn at [email protected] to help Diapers us get started! Baby Wipes

www.templerodefshalom.org Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin | 7 | TRS Fund for the Planning of a Different Nature… Community Most of us make plans! We plan to accomplish certain chores. We plan for our families. We TRS Fund for the Community Chair: plan for future expenditures for education and Margery Sher • 202/463-0633 • [email protected] for simchas. We are especially good at making resolutions and plans for both the Jewish and secular new years. However, many put off Celebrate this planning for one of the most important and year’s grants inevitable of times…the end of our own lives.

The Fund for the Community is Temple Rodef Shalom’s grant-making By delaying the purchase of cemetery lots until body, making a difference in the local community by helping non-profi t our loved ones have to do that for us in a crisis organizations build capacity to meet critical needs. situation, we actually cause them to experience additional emotional and fi nancial stresses When you make a donation to the Fund for the Community, your contribution has a direct impact on people’s lives. In its fi rst four years, when they are least able to cope. We offer the the Fund has raised and donated more than $82,000 to help organizations following information so as to encourage you meet the needs of local residents in the areas of affordable housing, to do yourselves and your loved ones a favor education and training, health care and counseling, children and families, by thinking about and acting upon a unique hunger and our aging population. opportunity to take care of this task while, at the same time, helping the Temple. In September, Temple Rodef Shalom’s Fund for the Community made grants totaling $22,300 to six local community service organizations. Some 35 non-profi t groups submitted requests for funding this year; TRS has continued to be the fortunate recipient members of the Fund’s board dedicated hundreds of hours to choosing of grave sites at King David cemetery. Sites this year’s grantees. have been donated to the Temple by individuals The organizations chosen for the 2008-09 year are: who have relocated or, for various reasons, will  Reston Interfaith, $4300 to provide housing counseling services for no longer need sites purchased years ago. King at-risk immigrant families. David lets plot owners know about this donation  Arlington Partnership for Affordable Housing, $5000 for opportunity. construction to make offi ce space and conference area more effi cient. We, in turn, make these lots available at  Our Daily Bread, $5000 for the creation of an online referral form approximately half of their current market for the Holiday Program, which provides food for needy families during the fall and winter holiday season. value to TRS members. Over the past few years  Jeanne Schmidt Free Clinic, $3000 for the creation of a group we have helped many TRS families and we patient visit concept for stable chronically ill patients. are ready to help you. Funds from the sale of  Shelter House, $5000 for team building activities to unify a growing these lots benefi t the Temple. Donors not only staff. gain from a tax standpoint, but have expressed Representatives from each recipient organization will be introduced the view that they feel good that the lots will to the congregation at Shabbat services November 21. Please join us eventually be used for the Jewish community in celebrating their accomplishments, and the generosity of the TRS and will not remain idle. Congregants can take community. care of an important responsibility to their families and help the Temple at the same time. How you can help The Fund for the Community is supported by donations from congregants as well as donations from members of the community, both individuals and organizations. We need your help to continue the important work of If you are interested in this important kind of the Fund. To donate, send a check to: planning, please call Judy Seiff at home (703-534-7860), leave a message for Judy at Temple Rodef Shalom TRS (703 532-2217 ext 317) or Fund for the Community 2100 Westmoreland Street email [email protected] Falls Church, VA 22043

Or donate through PayPal by visiting http://www.templerodefshalom.org/trsfund/howtogive.htm.

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Director of Education Cantor Allen Leider • [email protected]

Crisis and Evolution in Jewish Education Imagine the 1920’s – a time in America when Jewish of. We work hard to bring quality and a personal aspect to our communities were strong and families lived their lives in a curriculum. Building community is a priority in our school. We Jewish context. Hebrew school was just that – a place for have family programming that brings parents and students boys to hone their Hebrew skills so that they wouldn’t be an together meaningfully as Jewish learners. Our new N’tivot embarrassment at their bar/bat mitzvah service. Family focus teen education program is already becoming a model for other was on enculturation, so they sent their children to public school, congregations and our teen involvement exceeds the norm. putting aside the rich Jewish educational experience that had We have a wide variety of adult programs and classes. And been at the core of the Eastern European yeshiva model. yet, there is still so much more that we need to do to be truly successful. Jump ahead to the 1950’s and 60’s. The next generation of American Jews was successfully acculturated. While current research can not yet tell us what the new model The religious school model was “modernized”, classrooms were or models of Jewish education should be, we have learned of built, and curricula were developed which included a broad some important elements that are needed for success. These study of Judaics in addition to Hebrew. If your experience was elements are sometimes called “priority outcomes” or “design like mine, the instruction was boring and had little relevance to principles.” Here is some of what we’ve learned: real life. (I’m being kind in my criticism.) Î An approach to Jewish education needs to be holistic. Let’s take another 30 year leap. We’ve learned about We need to look at our families as learners and our the value of experiential learning, informal education (camps, congregation as a community of learners, nursery through youth groups, retreats), and family and adult education. We’ve adult. made Jewish learning more engaging, but we’re still stuck with Î Jewish education needs to be fl exible. A model needs to the structure of an old model that is minimally successful. We’re offer multiple paths for engagement. Learners need to teaching too much stuff to our kids. There’s so much breadth in become active agents in fashioning their own learning. what we teach in religious school that we are unable to bring an Î Jewish learning needs to be personally meaningful. It experience of depth and meaning. Many religious schools are needs to take a “life centered” approach that addresses all called “bar mitzvah factories” by parents. It’s no wonder -that’s of our experiences and aspirations. the model our schools are based on. Î Jewish learning needs to take place in Jewish time - in the reality of Shabbat, holidays and life-cycle celebrations. Today, we’ve come to a crisis in Jewish education. Consider your most signifi cant Jewish experiences, and It was articulated this summer at the CAJE (Coalition for the you will fi nd that many of them take place on holidays in the Advancement of Jewish Education) conference of Jewish context of family or friends. educators. Our goals in Jewish education are not clear. Our Î Jewish learning needs to be based in relationship – a focus is pediatric. Our time is minimal. Our teachers are not social experience which shapes identity and builds professional. The environment becomes challenging after 4th community. We know that positive Jewish identity grade. We do not state clearly what it means to be an adult formation takes place in a constellation of experience Jew (or a child Jew for that matter). Youth group enrollment in (home, school, camp, youth group, Israel trips, etc.) the U.S. is declining. The teenage years, a time when Jewish Î Jewish learning needs to touch the heart and bring a sense identity formation is strongest, are when our kids are dropping of spiritual connection and relationship with God. out of Jewish education. In Reform Jewish education today, out of every 100 students who become bar/bat mitzvah, only 47 stay We stand at the edge of a new revolution in on through Confi rmation/10th grade and only 15 continue their Jewish education. There are islands of innovation – Jewish studies through grades 11 and12! congregations that are taking new and creative approaches to Jewish education. I’ll describe some of these models in a future Here are a couple more statistics: We’ve learned that article. We will be one of those congregations. a religious school which meets 3 days a week has moderately low infl uence on adult Jewish identity. A school that meets two Abraham Joshua Heschel, in “The Sabbath” writes, “The higher days a week has a low infl uence. A school that meets one day a goal of spiritual living is not to amass a wealth of information week has a negative infl uence. The Jewish population in the U.S. but to face sacred moments.” I look forward to helping facilitate is declining. We’ve lost .3 million Jews in the U.S. over the last 18 educational transformation at TRS and bringing the kind of years. What are we doing wrong? learning that helps us recognize the sacred in our daily lives.

Fortunately, we are well above the curve at TRS. Cantor Allen Leider, Director of Education We have a religious school in which there is much to be proud

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Our next committee meeting will be Thursday, October 16th at 7:30 pm. All are welcome. Please join us. IMPORTANT DATES TO REMEMBER

October Special Event: Yom Hazikaron Hebrew: The Sleeping Beauty in Jeans-Kissed to Life to Israel Memorial Day Work Hard in the Building of Israeli Society- presented by Tuesday, April 28, 2009 renowned Israeli linguist, Raphael Nir, Professor Emeritus of Communications and Education at the Hebrew University, Yom Ha’atzmaut Jerusalem and father of TRS member, Ori Nir. Sunday, October, Israel Independence Day 26 at 11:45 (co-sponsored with the Adult Education Committee). Wednesday, April 29, 2009 Be on the lookout for these programs Yom Yerushalayim in the coming months: Jerusalem Day Friday, May 22, 2009 The Transparent Kippa-Oren Harman’s and Yanay Ofran’s documentary journal into the heart of contemporary “Israeliness” explores religion, We’ll celebrate secularism and Israeli identity. This witty, provocative and thoroughly Yom Ha‘atzmaut on entertaining episode from a series aired on Israeli public television offers an Friday, May 2009 interesting perspective of modern Israel. at Family Shabbat. Dig Israel-Experiences of teacher/amateur archaeologist, Kate Sheeler, who has worked on many archaeological digs in Israel.

Excerpted from DATELINE WORLD JEWRY, September 2008 An Israeli water-tech start-up, Kinarot-Jordon Valley Technology Incubator, will be testing its water-savings technology for the city of Los Angeles.

Citramed, an Israeli fi rm reports it has developed a natural citrus extract from grapefruit that safely replaces the potentially harmful synthetic, paraben, used to extend the shelf life of most health and beauty products.

The shekel, recognized as one of the world’s strongest currencies by CLS Bank International, is now accepted as legal tender internationally according to Globes Business Service.

Israeli novelist, Aharon Appelfeld was awarded the prestigious Italian Grinzane Cavour 2008 literary prize for his work, “Badenheim,1939.” Amoz Oz was recognized with this award in 2004.

| 12 | Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin www.templerodefshalom.org Cultural Cultural Committee Co-Chairs: Jesse Aronson • 703/534-4718 • [email protected] Dennis Rabinovitz • 703/503-0392• [email protected]

2nd Friday Night of Every Month Has a Special Music Focus This year, we’re trying to place most of our special music events on the second Friday night of every month. Perhaps it is Shabbat Rocks, a special Sermon-in-Song by one of the cantors, our Composer- in-Residence weekend, or another special service with music as the focus. Check the cultural page or the calendar for what might happening each month. This month: A Sermon-in-Song by Cantor Tracey Scher! November: Shabbat Rocks!

TheT 2008-2009 Rodef Arts Cultural Series Gets Rehearsal Schedules UUnderway this Fall with a Wonderful KOLEINU: BBeit Café Concert… Monday, October 6: High Holy Day Rehearsals 7pm- Yizkor/Nilah; 8pm-Yom Kippur Tuesday, October 28: Rehearsal 7:30 pm

KOL MACHAR: Monday, October 6: 5:30-6:30 Sunday, October 19: 10:30-11:15

SHIR HARMONY: Sunday, October 26: 10:45-11:15

NEW K-2 CHOIR: Sunday, October 19: 10:45-11:15 – First Meeting! (Music Room)

SIMCHAT TORAH BAND: Sunday, Oct. 19: 6:15 – 8 pm Direct from Israel…. The Jerusalem Lyric Trio All Music Groups Schedules are linked to the TRS Music Website: Saturday Evening, Nov. 22 www.templerodefshalom.org/music.htm

www.templerodefshalom.org Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin | 13 | The First Lecture in the Sisterhood Lecture Series: Sisterhood October 19 Sisterhood Co-Presidents: 9:00 am-10:30 am Karen Simpson • 703/938-1439 • [email protected] The Jewish Federation of Greater Judy Burkitt • 703/538-5341 • [email protected] Washington has invited our Sisterhood to partner in a special lecture program entitled “Women Making a Difference.” MESSAGE FROM THE Regularly Scheduled Events: CO-PRESIDENTS The speaker will be Dr. Erica Brown, Book Club the Scholar-in-Residence for the Jewish Please call Harriet Beckman at Federation of Greater Washington and The Sisterhood year began with our 703/356-3586 for information its Managing Director for Education wonderful evening event on September 25. about the October book selection and Leadership.

We were happy to see so many new and and meeting place. old members and we want to thank our This program, aimed at community event co-chairs, Janine Bland and Joan based sisterhoods, promises to be Cultural Outing dynamic and educational. Watch for Kadonoff, as well as our Vice President October 24th. Old Town Alexandria. further notices about this event, an for Membership, Vicki Nelson, for all their We will meet at 10:00 am in the lobby Eventbrite link for signing up, and a hard work during the summer. follow-up invitation to a Women’s tea of the Torpedo Factory and have the and special guest lecture by a well opportunity to explore as many artists We will continue to hold many of our known author in February, 2009, at the studios as two hours allows. The group JCC of Northern Virginia Book Festival. activities during evening or weekend hours will then walk a few blocks to Gadsby’s in order to accommodate those who may Tavern for a personalized tour at 12:15 not have been able to join us in the past. pm, followed by lunch at their period The book club, knitting group, bridge club restaurant. Please contact either and museum tours are a wonderful way Emmy Lou Glassman [703/817-1408 to get to meet people and do something or [email protected]] Sisterhood Tableware you enjoy. Also, your help as a volunteer or Judith Diesenhaus [703/204-1817 available to rent: is always needed and appreciated. Please or [email protected]] for further call one of us if you would like to work on information and car pool planning. If you are having a Simcha celebration a Sisterhood committee. RSVP’s Required. in the Temple Social Hall, we encourage you to rent your tableware place settings Karen Simpson and Judy Burkitt, Mark your calendars for through Sisterhood. You can see a picture Sisterhood Co-presidents of the lovely dishes, glassware, and upcoming events: fl atware in the Gift Shop window. Contact Nov 7th National Gallery East Wing Su Hale [703/560-7712] or Vicki Nelson “Pompeii and the Roman Villa” and [703/255-1312] so that they can work Save the Dates: “George de Forest Brush: The Indian directly with your caterer. Sisterhood’s Paintings”; December 12th Tour of prices are well below those of other rental Judy’s Holiday Place the Kennedy Center The Children’s Chanukah Boutique companies, and your money will help the Temple and other worthy charities Only on Sundays Knitters Circle December 14th and 21st supported by Sisterhood. October 16th, 7:00 pm

Traditions Helpline SISTERHOOD TREASURES: Hours: Sundays 8:30 am until 1:30 pm Dear Traditions Helpline, October 2008 Tuesdays 5:30 pm until 7:30 pm Wednesdays 11:00 am until 12:30 pm and Last month I read about visiting the cemetery before the High Holidays. 4:15 pm until 6:30 pm This made me wonder about other customs and cemetery do’s and don’ts. Stop by the Shop to see all the beautiful neweww thingsthiings whichwhich have been arriving this Fall, including a neww supplysusupply of When I visit the cemetery I see stones on the grave markers, why is tambourines and small instruments. that? Also, can I visit the cemetery on Shabbat? Special appointments: Toni Sandler 703/734-9533;533;33; One Question leads to Another Susie Lerner 703/241-1055 and Eleanor Linde 703/821-375403/3 (see answer on page 17)

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EMMA DAVIDSON ALISHA FLAXMAN Emma, the daughter of Maria The daughter of Pamela Weiss & Brian Davidson, is an and Eric Flaxman, Alisha is an 8th grader at Williamsburg 8th grader at Longfellow Middle Middle School. At school, School. She has attended a she is involved in yearbook, Reform Jewish camp for seven student government and years. Alisha recently moved back cheerleading. She plays to Falls Church after spending soccer with the Northwest two years in Estonia. She has Lions, basketball with the Thunderbolts and also lived in Guadalajara, Mexico. Alisha enjoys participates in track at Williamsburg. Skiing is a volleyball and snowboarding. An animal advocate, favorite winter activity. This past summer, Emma Alisha volunteers with the SPCA. At her Bat Mitzvah worked as a counselor at Camp Rodef Shalom. luncheon, the centerpieces will be made of items She hopes to become an educator. needed by that organization.

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TALIA ROSEN WOLFE GLICK Talia is the daughter of Wolfe, the son of David and Marla & Doug Rosen. Heather Glick, is in the 7th grade She is a 7th grader at at Longfellow Middle School. He Williamsburg Middle participated in the All-County Chorus School. Her interests and is in the chorus at Longfellow. include cheerleading, He plays soccer in the Suburban fashion designing Friendship League and played soccer and running. Talia is at the 2008 Maccabi games. He in her 8th year of scouting and is currently enjoys tennis, swimming and playing video games. Wolfe a Cadette Girl Scout. She has organized a is collecting supplies and donations for the Fairfax County successful clothing drive for the Arlington Animal Shelter. Career aspirations are uncertain but will County foster care program. probably be something entrepreneurial.

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CLARA (KIKI) SCHUMANN DEAN BERMAN Kiki is the daughter of Beth & Larry Dean Berman is the Schumann. She is in the 7th grade at son of Rachel and Scott Kilmer Middle School. An active Girl Berman. He is a 7th grader Scout, Kiki has collected items and at the McLean School of made bags for women living in shelters, Maryland. Dean enjoys sung for the elderly in retirement playing team tennis, soccer, homes and supported local charities and basketball. His favorite through bake sales. At school, she vacations include skiing has tutored and worked with special needs students. Her and water sports. For his volunteer work, Dean hobbies include many types of arts and crafts. She also has been buying food for the homeless, and loves to read and play board games in her spare time. Kiki delivering it to Rodef Shalom, where he helps to would like a career in fashion design or, perhaps, a special pack the meals. He has also collected clothing education teacher specializing in art therapy. and household goods for donation to Goodwill.

www.templerodefshalom.org Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin | 15 | Nursery School Parent Committee Nursery School Parent Committee Co-Chairs Rachel Simon • 703/848-9474 • [email protected] Kelly Treibitz • 703/288-1558 • [email protected]

It’s as though we never had summer break! The teachers and students are off and running (literally) down the halls and on the playground. As everyone has settled in and adjusted to their classrooms, it feels like the school year continued throughout the summer months. The ease of transition to a new school year is a true testament to the outstanding leadership of our Director, Fran Pfeffer, the incredibly organized offi ce staff, Anja Chase and Jamie Korelitz and of course, to the wonderful, warm and enthusiastic teachers and assistants! We thank you all for your hard work and dedication to our children.

The Parent Committee is also in full gear. We kicked off the school year with a fantastic informational session from our new school psychologist, Dr. Deb Cohen, who spoke with parents about managing separation anxiety for our children. Her talk included points about why it is a healthy developmental step for young children to separate from their caregivers and she gave tips to help children and their families comfortably transition to pre-school life. The Parent Committee also hosted a wonderful family gathering at our 6th Annual Fall Playdate in the Park. This gave students and parents a time to reconnect, now that the hustle and bustle of back to school is behind us. We are looking forward to all of our upcoming fall programming. Please stay tuned to your E-Newsletters for dates and times of specifi c events.

L’Shana Tova, Rachel Simon and Kelly Treibitz, Co-Chairs TRSNS Parent Committee

TRSNS Parent Education Series: Please Join Us …… Kindergarten Readiness Panel SUPERMARKET PARTNERS! Thursday October 16th, 7pm Do you shop at Harris Teeter or Giant? Help raise money Will you and your child be ready for Kindergarten next Fall? for TRSNS by simply linking your shopper club card ID Come hear from the experts about what you can expect number to our school. By doing so, a percentage of your in a Kindergarten curriculum. In addition to our school gross sales/purchases between October and April will psychologist Dr. Deb Cohen, we have invited Kindergarten automatically be donated to our school. The stores also teachers from Arlington & Fairfax Counties, as well as allow you to split your bonus dollars among multiple Gesher Jewish Day School to participate on our panel. institutions. It only takes a minute and you can do it online or in the store. It’s easy, free and it helps our school. Nursery School Nuggets Giant Code: 05566 Thursday October 29th, 7pm Harris Teeter Code: 6867 Our very own TRSNS teachers will discuss social, emotional, academic, and physical growth during the preschool experience of TRSNS. This workshop will include 3 separate break-out sessions where parents will have an opportunity to meet with teachers of a 2, 3 or 4 year old class to ask questions and discuss issues.

| 16 | Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin www.templerodefshalom.org Traditions Helpline – from pg.14 Youth Dear One Question, Putting stones on the graves at the cemetery goes back to biblical times when graves were mounded with rocks to keep animals Committee away. Visitors, knowing that this type of disruption might occur, came to the cemetery with a bucket of stones to repair the grave. Youth Committee Co-Chairs Amy Beckman • 703/356-6707 • [email protected] A modern midrash says that stones were added to the mound Marla Rosen • 703/534-4946 • [email protected] to show we are never fi nished building the monument to the deceased. Today it is simply keeping a tradition, as in tending the grave. Of course it is also a way to show that a visitor has been there. As we approach the New Year, the Youth Committ ee is pleased to tell you of these exciting upcoming It is against Jewish custom to visit the cemetery on Shabbat. Shabbat is a day of “joy”; grave sites are regarded as sacred programs for our youth and their parents: ground and should only be visited in mourning and remembrance. Keeping this in mind, the two are mutually exclusive. Kol Nidre In case you missed the item in the High Holy Days Information Booklet, we are offering a new Kol Nidre service at 8:30 pm for 9th-12th graders. The service is tailored especially for high school aged teens. Our teens will participate in leading the Are you receiving the weekly Temple e-letter? prayers and interpretations, with leadership in song by Michael If you are not receiving the weekly Temple Smolen. e-letter, please contact the Temple offi ce to update your email address. You should also add THEVENT the following address to your safe senders list to Volunteers and host families will be needed to help with make sure that the e-letter does not wind up in TRS’s hosting of NFTY-MAR’s THEVENT, from March 20-22. your spam or junk email folder: THEVENT is an annual weekend of Judaism, social action [email protected] and color wars. It is a huge honor to host this event and close to 300 teens from North Carolina, eastern West Virginia, Virginia, Maryland, Washington DC, Delaware and far-eastern Tennessee will attend. Teens and parents are needed to help plan and organize this weekend, so if you’re interested, please email us to let us know. Our greatest need is for housing. If you have a spare bedroom or space on your living room fl oor for a few teens for two nights in March, please consider helping out and send us an e-mail if you’re interested.

TRS Youth Committee Parenting Series The TRS Youth Committee is sponsoring 3 Parenting Sessions this year: Middle School Challenges, October 28, 2008, February 10, 2009, Jewish Values and Parenting and May 5, 2009, Parenting the Older Teen. Mental health professionals from our congregation will share their experiences and educate us about teenagers through active discussions, role playing, handouts and skills training.  Mark your calendars for Tuesday, October 28, 6:30- 8:30 pm for “Challenges in the Middle School Years,” the fi rst in this year’s series of our popular parenting programs. Join other parents and mental health professionals from our congregation as we explore developmental tasks for the teen, the parents and the whole family. We will learn techniques to facilitate positive communication and fi nd win-win alternatives for confl ict. This is an opportunity to share, give and get support, and improve the dynamics of your parenting and your family.

Shana Tova, Amy Beckman and Marla Rosen [email protected] Youth Committee Co-Chairs [email protected]

www.templerodefshalom.org Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin | 17 | Youth Director: Brynne Rosenberg Phone: 703/532-2217 ext. 308 • Event Cell Phone: 571/366-0317 AIM: ilovetrsty • Email: [email protected]

TRSTY (for 9th through 12th graders)

Paid Up Progressive Dinner Forever Young Teen Shabbat Saturday, October 4 and Lounge Night FREE for paid members! Friday, October 17 It’s a TRSTY tradition! 6:30-10pm Join us for dinner with each course at a Get in touch with your inner child while different TRSTY member’s home. celebrating Shabbat with friends. http://progressivedinner08.eventbrite.com We’ll have dinner, services and a fun program all written and led by your TRSTY board! http://teenshabbatoct.eventbrite.com

9th through 12th Graders 9Savet the Date! Friday-Sunday October 31-November 2 NFTY Fall Kallah at Temple B’nai Shalom in Fairfax Station, VA Scholarships Available! Information will be emailed home. TRSTY 56 (for 5th and 6th graders)

Jr. TRSTY Corn Maze (for 7th and 8th graders) Sunday, October 19 from 2pm – 6:45pm TRSTY 56 is going to TRSTY in Training “the Maize” in Leesburg. Sunday, October 5 Join us for a fun afternoon Want a taste of what it’s like to be on TRSTY of getting lost in a giant board? Come help us plan Jr. TRSTY events for Corn Maze, using their “corn the year. We’ll focus specifi cally on planning the cannon”, playing on giant infl atables, seeing pig Holiday Party at Chesterbrook. races and so much more! Help! We will need a http://trstyintrainingoct08.eventbrite.com/ few parents to help chaperone. Please sign up via eventbrite if you can help. http://cornmaze08.eventbrite.com

Hibachi Dinner Saturday, October 18 Lil TRSTY Corner 6:15-9:00 (for 2nd through 4th graders) Hey! What’s Hibachi? Hibachi is an American term for a Japanese style of cooking where a Sunday, October 5 from 1:30-3:00 chef cooks right in front of the diners and does Get to know what Lil TRSTY is all about at our tricks with the food. It’s fun to watch and fun kickoff Pizza Party at TRS right after Sunday to eat! We’ll have a yummy dinner and then a School. We’ll play games and have a blast! Havdalah service. Contact Jesse Thornton with questions at http://jrtrstyhibachi.eventbrite.com [email protected]. http://liltrsty.eventbrite.com

| 18 | Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin www.templerodefshalom.org Donations This list includes new gifts received by August 31. Gifts received after that will appear in the November Bulletin. of Tanya & Jasmine A HOUSE OF GATHERING— Renaissance/Vatikim • Ilene Evanter Van Hoozer in memory Beit Knesset • Isidore Greenberg in memory of June of Ann Evanter and Joseph Evanter, Greenberg and Morris Greenberg Where It’s Needed Most my beloved parents • Stacy Twersky in honor of Bea and David Daniel’s “special anniversary” Jacknow Meditation and Tribute Fund for the Community • Chuck and Anita Thornton in memory Garden • Shelley & Andy Prince in memory of Tanya Weiss’ beloved mother, Lois of David Strassler • Laura Jacobs in memory of Lois Beshgetorr • John and Laurie Steiger Beshgetoor, mother of Tanya Weiss • Ronald and Nancy Bleeker in memory • Lucille Weener in memory of Max and grandmother of Jasmine Weiss. of Joseph Evanter Goldfeder on the occasion of his • Chuck and Anita Thornton in memory • Win and Jerry Greenwald in yahrzeit of Norma Kosarin, mother of Jonathan celebration of the B’not Mitzvah of • Thomas Crystal Kosarin Isadora Raizen and Zoe Raizen • Debbie Massey in memory of Norma • Marilyn Hahn in loving memory of my Kosarin, mother of Jonathan Kosarin beloved husband, Henry Hahn • The Mullen 3 in memory of Jonathan • Chuck and Anita Thornton in memory HOUSE OF LEARNING— Kosarin’s beloved mother, Norma of Mildred Silkowitz, mother of Beit Midrash Kosarin Florence Kittiver • John and Claudia Barnett in memory • Marilyn Hahn in memory of Norma Adult Education Fund of Rosalie Gerber Kosarin, mother of Jonathan Kosarin • Debbie Massey in honor of the 50th • Lucille Zinman in memory of Bernie • Marilyn Hahn in memory of Goldie anniversary of Bea & David Daniel Zinman on the occasion of his Levin, mother of Stan Levin • Angie Slonim in memory of Harry yahrzeit. Slonim, brother-in-law of Angie Slonim • David and Beatrice Daniel in memory • David and Beatrice Daniel in memory of Sol Fink, beloved father of Bea REPAIRING OUR WORLD— of Norma Kosarin Daniel Tikkun Olam • Ann Shapiro in memory of my beloved father, on his yahrzeit Ohel Yakov Community Housing Religious School Fund • Chuck and Anita Thornton in memory • Ronald and Nancy Bleeker in memory • Robert Shamaskin in memory of my of Joseph Evanter, father of Ilene Van of Pearl Vigoda late wife, Dorothy Shamaskin Hoozer. • Carrie Wolfe, Mark, Lee & Alice Greenwood in memory of Muriel • Marilyn Hahn in honor of the 50th Nursery School Fund Anniversary of Bea & David Daniel Wolfe, mother and grandmother, on • Adele and Justin Dingfelder in • Michael and Hope Slonim in memory her yahrzeit memory of Shing Y. Huang of Harry Slonim, uncle of Michael • Joan and Warren Neiman with Mazel Slonim and great uncle of Harry & Lily Social Action Fund Tov to Lisa Schonfeld Slonim, on his yahrzeit • Moe and Sharon Levy in memory of • Adele and Justin Dingfelder in Florence Kittiver’s mother, Mildred memory of Rosalie Sauber Sisterhood Silkowitz • Klausner Family wishing Bill Corr a • Joan and Warren Neiman with best Library Fund very Happy Birthday! wishes to Rachelle Bennett on her • James and Ronnie O’Connor in special birthday memory of Vivian and Joseph Sahl • Bob and Su Hale in honor of Bea Temple Tzedakah Fund • Les Baer and Marianne Such-Baer in & David Daniel’s 50th Wedding • Chuck and Anita Thornton in honor loving memory of Phyllis Baer Anniversary of Bea and David Daniel’s 50th • Tibor and Barbara Schonfeld in • Evan and Lisa Katzman in memory of Anniversary memory of Mildred Silkowitz, mother Esther Krutzel, Lisa’s grandmother • Marilyn Hahn in loving memory of my of Florence Kittiver • Joan and Warren Neiman in honor of beloved mother, Jeanne Shotz • Lorie Nierenberg in loving memory of the special anniversary of Bea and • Chuck and Anita Thornton in memory my father, David Nierenberg David Daniel of Lois Beshgetoor, mother and grandmother of Tanya Weiss • Marilyn Hahn in memory of Lois Beshgetoor, mother and grandmother www.templerodefshalom.org Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin | 19 | Donations • David Levin with thanks to Cantor CARING FOR EACH OTHER Shochet for the beautiful ceremony G’milut Hasadim of my beloved mother on the occasion you conducted for our wedding. of her yahrzeit • Sharon Katz Higgins in appreciation Caring Community • Julie & Steve Schiller in memory of of Cantor Michael Shochet for the • Mort Roney in appreciation of the Henry Malinger, father of Julie Schiller Shabbat & High Holy Days CD’s for support and prayers of our clergy Judische Gemeinde Chemnitz during my recent hospitalization. • Gayle and Jonathan Kosarin in honor WORLD JEWRY— of Carol and Joel Breitner’s caring, Clal Yisrael Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund • Barbara & Philip Schulman in memory thoughtfulness, love and support Israel Quest • Gayle and Jonathan Kosarin in honor of Samuel Schulman • Peter and Rose Silversmith in memory of Julie and Al Krachman’s caring, • Jonathan and Gayle Kosarin with of Sylvia Sherman, Rose’s mother, on thoughtfulness, love and support. thanks to Rabbi Saxe for a moving and her yahrzeit. • Beth Silver and Adam Gruen in meaningful shiva service for Norma memory of John Pelaez Kosarin. • Stuart and Mary Carol Trock in CLERGY FUNDS— • Beatrice Finkel in honor of Bea and David Daniel’s 50th Wedding memory of John Pelaez Senior Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund • David and Mercy Bloomgarden in Anniversary • William and Jamie Ohriner with memory of John Pelaez • Faye Rosenbaum and Michael thanks to Rabbi Schwartzman for • Bill and Liza Nelson in memory of Chaikind gratefully acknowledge your guiding Ethan Ohriner through the John Pelaez help with Sarah’s Bat Mitzvah. speech writing process of his Bar • Daniel & Deborah Gardner in memory • William and Jamie Ohriner with Mitzvah. of John Pelaez thanks for all your wonderful help • Faye Rosenbaum and Michael preparing Ethan Ohriner for his Bar Chaikind in appreciation of Rabbi Mitzvah. Kestenbaum Comfort Fund Schwartzman’s help in preparing • David and Beatrice Daniel in memory • Marge Kestenbaum in loving memory Sarah for her Bat Mitzvah. of Sophia Daniel, on the occasion of of my husband, Marty Kestenbaum • Arlene Vigoda-Bellars and Zöe her yahrzeit Bellars in appreciation of Rabbi Schwartzman’s uplifting service A HOUSE OF PRAYER— honoring the memory of our Cantor’s Discretionary Fund • David and Beatrice Daniel with deep Beit T’fi lah unforgettable mother/grandmother, Pearl Vigoda. appreciation to Cantor Tracey Scher General Ritual and Worship Fund for her beautiful blessing in honor of • Jonathan and Gayle Kosarin in honor our 50th wedding anniversary of Beth Silver and Adam Gruen for Senior Cantor’s Discretionary Fund sharing their home for a shiva minyan • The Ohriner Family with thanks to Judy Berkowits Memorial Fund and for their friendship and caring. Cantor Shochet for helping Ethan • Robert and Leah Rubenstein in Ohriner with the Bar Mitzvah process memory of Norma Kosarin Prayer Book Fund • Drew and Jane Mullen in honor of • Robert and Leah Rubenstein in loving Bea and David Daniel’s “Special • David and Beatrice Daniel in honor of memory of Rose Rubenstein Anniversary” Rachelle Bennett’s “special birthday” • Jonathan and Gayle Kosarin to thank • Mort and Myra Roney in loving Cantor Shochet for a moving and memory of Samuel Wendel, Myra’s meaningful shiva service for Norma father Kosarin. • Julie and Steve Schiller in memory • Faye Rosenbaum and Michael of Mira Malinger, mother of Julie Chaikind with thanks for assisting Schiller. Sarah with her Bat Mitzvah preparation. Spirituality Fund • Arlene Vigoda-Bellars and Zöe Bellars Happy Sukkot! • David and Beatrice Daniel in memory in appreciation of Cantor Shochet’s of Norma Kosarin, beloved mother of moving service honoring the Jonathan Kosarin memory of our unforgettable mother/ • David and Beatrice Daniel in memory grandmother, Pearl Vigoda. | 20 | Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin www.templerodefshalom.org Donations PROGRAMMING AND CULTURAL FUNDS— Tarbut Yehudiah Cultural Fund • Marcy and Michael Gessel in memory of Lewis Mermel on his yahrzeit

Youth Activities Fund • The Klausner Family in memory of Jacob Factor, father of Phyllis Scheinberg • The Klausner Family in memory of Edith Sanderson, mother of Doug Sanderson • The Klausner Family in memory of Stanley H. Bushkoff, father of Bob Bushkoff • The Klausner Family in memory of New Members Goldie Levin, mother of Stan Levin • The Klausner Family with a special Mazel Tov to Michael Sebastiani and Derek & Rena Cervoni Elliot Levine Patrick Scott 703/241-0544 703/438-7666 2227 N. Nottingham Street 9510 Atwood Road Music and Volunteer Choir Fund Arlington, VA 22205 Vienna, VA 22182 • Joseph and Elke Gordon in memory of Rachel Cervoni 2/22/2006 Elijah Levine 11/3/2006 Annabelle Gordon on the occasion of her yahrzeit Mitchell & Kristen Fenster Tena Nauheim 703/241-0219 703/560-6170 TRS ENDOWMENT FUNDS— 5226 26th Road N 2206 Journet Drive Dor L’Dor Arlington, VA 22207 Dunn Loring, VA 22027 Miscellaneous Endowment Fund Gideon Fenster 12/12/2002 • Happy Cohen in loving memory of my Isaac Fenster 4/8/2005 Ellen Rosen mother, Fannie Rosenbaum 703/528-2837 Marlene Hawe 845 North Greenbriar Street Simon Family Fund for Jewish Living 703/549-6834 Arlington, VA 22205 • Chuck and Anita Thornton in honor of 430 N. St. Asaph Street the birth of Joanna Beth Proper, new Alexandria, VA 22314 granddaughter of Sam and Susan Simon. • Eugene and Evelyn Fox in memory of Marcus Simon, Frieda Simon, and Harriet Simon

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1:30 pm Lil TRSTY Pizza Party 5:30 pm Kol Machar High Holy 7:30 pm Executive Committee (by reservation) Day Rehearsals Meeting 4:30 am TRSTY in Training 7:00 pm Koleinu High Holy 7:30 pm Membership Committee Day Rehearsals Meeting

12Columbus Day 13 14 No Religious School Classes Erev Sukkot No Religious School Classes Temple Offi ce Closed Sukkot- Temple Offi ce Closed 5:00 pm Pre Sukkot Congregational Hot Dog Supper and Sukkah Decorating

October 2008 October (by reservation) 7:30 pm Adult Service

19 20Simchat Torah- Temple 21 9:00 am Sisterhood Lecture Building closed 9:00 am Intermediate Biblical Erev Simchat Torah No Hebrew Classes; N’tivot Hebrew Classes Will Be Held 9:00 am Rodef Chochma 7:00 pm Simchat Torah and 9:00 am Simchat Torah 11:45 am Adult Education Consecration Service Service with 2:00 pm TRSTY 56 Corn Maze Breakfast 6:00 pm Youth Committee 6:00 pm Breast Cancer Meeting Support Network 6:15 pm Simchat Torah Band Dinner (OOB) Rehearsal 7:30 pm VOICE Orientation

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8:30 am Adult Education 6:30 pm Youth Committee Program Parenting Series 10:45 am Shir Harmony 7:30 pm Board Meeting Rehearsal 7:30 pm Koleinu Rehearsal

OOB=Out of Building

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9:30 am Sisterhood Board 6:00 pm Sixth Grade Family 9:00 am Torah Study Meeting Shabbat BBQ (by 9:30 am Tot Shabbat Activity reservation) 6:30 pm TRSTY Progressive 6:45 pm B’oi Shabbat Dinner (by reservation) 7:00 pm Family Shabbat Service

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Kol Nidre Yom Kippur 11:00 am Mother's Circle 9:00 am Torah Study Temple Offi ce Closes at Noon 7:30 pm Adult Nosh for New 10:30 am Shabbat Morning Friends Service 8:00 pm Erev Shabbat Worship

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9:30 am Sisterhood Book Club 6:45 pm Service of Strength, 6:30 pm TRSTY Teen Shabbat 9:00 am Teen Torah Study (OOB) Comfort and Healing and Lounge Night 9:00 am Torah Study 7:30 pm Rabbi Berkowits 7:30 pm Knitting Circle 6:30 pm Tot Shabbat 10:30 am Parallel Shabbat Book Discussion 7:30 pm Development 8:00 pm Erev Shabbat Worship Morning Service and Committee Meeting Potluck Lunch 10:30 am Shabbat Morning Service 6:30 pm JR TRSTY Hibachi (by reservation)

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No Hebrew Classes 8:00 pm Erev Shabbat Worship 9:00 am Torah Study 10:30 am Shabbat Morning 9:30 am Sisterhood Bridge Service Club

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7:30 pm Beginning Biblical 8:00 pm Erev Shabbat Worship Hebrew 11:00 am Mother's Circle

www.templerodefshalom.org Temple Rodef Shalom October 2008 Bulletin | 27 | Temple Rodef Shalom Senior Rabbi Amy M. Schwartzman Senior Cantor Michael A. Shochet Rabbi Jeffrey S. Saxe Cantor Tracey Scher Founding Rabbi Laszlo Berkowits

Offi cers President David Lawrence Vice President Mindy Facenda Vice President Barry Holt Vice President Andy Joskow Vice President Lynn Starr Treasurer Peter Elinsky Assistant Treasurer James Mendelsohn Secretary Susan Weinstock Assistant Secretary Ellice Halpern Barnes

Trustees Jonathan Kosarin, Marla Schnall, and Judith Seiff

Staff Executive Director Beth Silver Director of Education Cantor Allen Leider Program Director Anita Thornton Director of Membership Development Howard Stregack Nursery School Director Fran Pfeffer Camp Director Jay Rapoport Youth Director Brynne Rosenberg

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