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Page 1 of 87 Marriage Can Be Forever— Preparation Counts! Walking a Path to a Spiritually-Based Marriage, A Workbook Quotations from Beginnings of Chapters and from “Quotations for Guidance” Only Susanne M. Alexander and Johanna Merritt Wu This compilation of excerpts, chapter headings, and compilation structure are from the book Marriage Can Be Forever—Preparation Counts!, a © 2007 publication of Marriage Transformation LLC. This compilation is provided as a courtesy from Marriage Transformation LLC; www.marriagetransformation.com; www.bahaimarriage.net; www.bahairelationships.com; [email protected]. Copyrights for individual quotations are the original authors or publishers. Some quotations come from unpublished sources—inquire if further information or documentation on sources is needed. Page 2 of 87 CHAPTER 1 Life Partners: Preparation and Marriage Quotations for Guidance 1) And when He [God] desired to manifest grace and beneficence to men, and to set the world in order, He revealed observances and created laws; among them He established the law of marriage, made it as a fortress for well-being and salvation, and enjoined it upon us in that which was sent down out of the heaven of sanctity in His Most Holy Book [The Kitáb-i-Aqdas]. He saith, great is His glory: “Enter into wedlock, O people, that ye may bring forth one who will make mention of Me amid My servants. This is My bidding unto you; hold fast to it as an assistance to yourselves.” (Bahá’u’lláh: Bahá’í Prayers (US 2002), p. 118) 2) Since the consent of both parties is required in the Book of God, and since, before maturity, their consent or lack of it cannot be ascertained, marriage is therefore conditional upon reaching the age of maturity [age 15], and is not permissible before that time. (The Kitáb-i-Aqdas, Questions and Answers, p. 134) 3) The essence of all that We have revealed for thee is Justice, is for man to free himself from idle fancy and imitation, discern with the eye of oneness His glorious handiwork, and look into all things with a searching eye. (Bahá’u’lláh, Tablets of Bahá’u’lláh, p. 156) 4) The news of your union, as soon as it reached me, imparted infinite joy and gratitude. Praise be to God, those two faithful birds have sought shelter in one nest. I beseech God that He may enable them to raise an honored family, for the importance of marriage lieth in the bringing up of a richly blessed family, so that with entire gladness they may, even as candles, illuminate the world. For the enlightenment of the world dependeth upon the existence of man. If man did not exist in this world, it would have been like a tree without fruit. My hope is that you both may become even as one tree, and may, through the outpourings of the cloud of loving-kindness, acquire freshness and charm, and may blossom and yield fruit, so that your line may eternally endure. (‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Selections from the Writings of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, p. 120) 5) Marriage, among the mass of the people, is a physical bond, and this union can only be temporary, since it is foredoomed to a physical separation at the close. Among the people of Bahá, however, marriage must be a union of the body and of the spirit as well, for here both husband and wife are aglow with the same wine, both are enamored of the same matchless Face, both live and move through the same spirit, both are illumined by the same glory. This connection between them is a spiritual one, hence it is a bond that will abide forever. Likewise do they enjoy strong and lasting ties in the physical world as well, for if the marriage is based both on the spirit and the body, that union is a true one, hence it will endure. If, however, the bond is physical and nothing more, it is sure to be only temporary, and must inexorably end in separation. When, therefore, the people of Bahá undertake to marry, the union must be a true relationship, a spiritual coming together as well as a physical one, so that throughout every phase of life, and in all the worlds of God, their union will endure; for this real oneness is a gleaming out of the love of God. (‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Selections from the Writings of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, p. 117) 6) The Bahá’í youth…should be advised, nay even encouraged, to contract marriage while still young and in full possession of their physical vigor. Economic factors, no doubt, are often a serious hindrance to early marriage, but in most cases are only an excuse, and as such should not be overstressed. (On behalf of Shoghi Effendi: The Compilation of Compilations, Vol. I, “A Chaste and Holy Life”, p. 56) 7) The Bahá’í Teachings do not only encourage marital life, considering it the natural and normal way of existence for every sane, healthy and socially-conscious and responsible person, but raise marriage to the This compilation of excerpts, chapter headings, and compilation structure are from the book Marriage Can Be Forever—Preparation Counts!, a © 2007 publication of Marriage Transformation LLC. This compilation is provided as a courtesy from Marriage Transformation LLC; www.marriagetransformation.com; www.bahaimarriage.net; www.bahairelationships.com; [email protected]. Copyrights for individual quotations are the original authors or publishers. Some quotations come from unpublished sources—inquire if further information or documentation on sources is needed. Page 3 of 87 status of a divine institution, its chief and sacred purpose being the perpetuation of the human race—which is the very flower of the entire creation—and its elevation to the true station destined for it by God. (On behalf of Shoghi Effendi, The Compilation of Compilations, Vol. II, “Preserving Bahá’í Marriages”, p. 446) 8) I wish to assure you, in particular, of his supplications for your guidance in connection with your proposed plan to unite in marriage with.... May the Beloved help you in forming the right decision, and spare you the anxiety and suffering which too hasty action in such matters inevitably produces. You should give this question, which is of such vital concern to your future, the full consideration it deserves, and examine all its aspects carefully and dispassionately. The final decision rests with you and... [the proposed partner]. (On behalf of Shoghi Effendi, The Compilation of Compilations, Vol. II, “Preserving Bahá’í Marriages”, p. 445) 9) Careful preparation for marriage is an essential first step in the preservation of Bahá’í marriage. (Universal House of Justice, Introduction to “Preserving Bahá’í Marriages” compilation, item #3) 10) The Spiritual Assembly should always be concerned that the believers in its community are being deepened in their understanding of the Bahá’í concept of marriage, especially the young people, so that the very thought of divorce will be abhorrent to them. (On behalf of the Universal House of Justice, Lights of Guidance, p. 390-391) This compilation of excerpts, chapter headings, and compilation structure are from the book Marriage Can Be Forever—Preparation Counts!, a © 2007 publication of Marriage Transformation LLC. This compilation is provided as a courtesy from Marriage Transformation LLC; www.marriagetransformation.com; www.bahaimarriage.net; www.bahairelationships.com; [email protected]. Copyrights for individual quotations are the original authors or publishers. Some quotations come from unpublished sources—inquire if further information or documentation on sources is needed. Page 4 of 87 CHAPTER 2 A Broad View: The Purposes of Life Quotations for Guidance 1) I bear witness, O my God, that Thou hast created me to know Thee and to worship Thee. I testify, at this moment, to my powerlessness and to Thy might, to my poverty and to Thy wealth. There is none other God but Thee, the Help in Peril, the Self-Subsisting. (Bahá’u’lláh: Bahá’í Prayers (US 2002), “Short Obligatory Prayer,” p. 4) 2) Having created the world and all that liveth and moveth therein, He, through the direct operation of His unconstrained and sovereign Will, chose to confer upon man the unique distinction and capacity to know Him and to love Him—a capacity that must needs be regarded as the generating impulse and the primary purpose underlying the whole of creation.... Upon the inmost reality of each and every created thing He hath shed the light of one of His names, and made it a recipient of the glory of one of His attributes. Upon the reality of man, however, He hath focused the radiance of all of His names and attributes, and made it a mirror of His own Self. Alone of all created things man hath been singled out for so great a favor, so enduring a bounty. (Bahá’u’lláh: Gleanings from the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh, p. 65) 3) Glory be to Thee, O God, for Thy manifestation of love to mankind! (Bahá’u’lláh: Bahá’í Prayers (UK), pp. 60-61) 4) All men have been created to carry forward an ever-advancing civilization. The Almighty beareth Me witness: To act like the beasts of the field is unworthy of man. Those virtues that befit his dignity are forbearance, mercy, compassion and loving-kindness towards all the peoples and kindreds of the earth. (Bahá’u’lláh: Gleanings from the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh, p. 215) 5) The betterment of the world can be accomplished through pure and goodly deeds, through commendable and seemly conduct. (Bahá’u’lláh, cited in The Advent of Divine Justice, pp. 24-25) 6) Compare the nations of the world to the members of a family.