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The Girl, The Guru, And The Way Back Home any Israelis travel to India after they were in Israel. Liora readily agreed, outside waiting to see him. He was speech- they complete their military ser- fully confi dent that nothing could sever her less to fi nd his sister Liora greeting him with Mvice. In the army, these young men from her new source of inspiration. a wide smile. name, address, and other personal details and women have to undergo intense train- After a considerable delay, an Arachim “What are you doing here?” he asked in- were all there, and it would be a simple mat- ing and abide by strict codes of discipline. staffer mounted the podium and announced credulously. “I want to enroll in a school for ter to fi nd him by contacting the police or India provides a mellow antithesis to such that the lecturer was sick and unable to at- ba’alos teshuvah,” she replied. local embassy of his country. Why did the a regimen and beckons to travelers in many tend. However, in order not to leave the “You?” asked Ayal. “What happened? guru just take it for himself? Wasn’t that like ways. Liora and her brother Ayal were two audience entirely empty-handed, he read What made you change your mind about stealing? such tourists who took off for India. They to them a short summary of the Jewish law your ‘wonderful’ cult and its guru?” “When I suggested to the guru that per- traveled together from one tourist attrac- concerning lost property. He explained that Liora told him the full story: “One day, haps we should try to fi nd the owner, he tion to the next, then split up to follow sep- the Torah requires someone who fi nds a lost soon after I returned to India, the guru embarked on a long lecture about the unity arate trails. Ayal stumbled upon Arachim’s of the universe, the brotherhood of all men, Bayit HaYehudi hostel in India where he en- and the dynamics by which the energy of joyed the hospitality and listened to some Ayal was devastated. the cosmos had transferred resources from fascinating lectures. Drawn to the extensive How would he ever pry his sister away from the cult now? the former owner of the wallet to himself. library, he discovered new concepts that He explained that the two of them were ac- changed his life completely. He eventually tually one soul, divided between two bod- opted for a life of Torah and mitzvos. object to assume responsibility for it and to asked me to accompany him somewhere. ies, and the wallet had been lost so that the In contrast to Ayal, Liora wandered make a reasonable effort to locate the own- As we were walking along the alleyways of money would reach its rightful destination. around India until she reached the city er. He also described how a fi nder must as- Varanasi, the guru bent down and picked up “I then recalled the Arachim speaker and of Varanasi, where she came across a cult certain that the claimant is truly the owner a fat wallet that someone had obviously just his presentation of the Torah laws that ap- headed by a charismatic guru. He spoke by asking for identifying marks or character- dropped. He opened it and found it full of ply in such a case. The sharp contrast be- eloquently of the brotherhood of all man- istics to prove that the item really belongs bills and documents. With a smile of satis- tween philosophy perverted by greed and kind, the spirit of the cosmos, and effi cient to him. Liora sat there and yawned, totally faction, he tucked it into his pocket. loyalty to the truth brought me back to my exploitation of the earth’s resources. His unimpressed. The lecture had practically “I was speechless. Some tourist had just senses. I immediately made up my mind to captivating words entranced Liora, and she put her to sleep. Ayal was devastated. How lost a considerable sum of money, a driver’s choose the Torah way of life and booked a immediately joined the cult. would he ever pry his sister away from the license, and other valuable documents. His ticket back home.” When Ayal learned of his sister’s new af- cult now? After the lecture, they trudged out fi liation, he tried to extricate her from the of the hall and headed for home. Rabbi Dovid Hoffman is the author of the popular “Torah Tavlin” book series, fi lled cult, but her attraction to her new mentors The next day, Liora fl ew back to her cult with stories, wit and hundreds of divrei Torah, including the brand new “Torah Tavlin was too strong. He begged and pleaded to in India and Ayal enrolled in a yeshivah for Yamim Noraim” in stores everywhere. You’ll love this popular series. Also look for his book, no avail. 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23 Shevat 5778 • Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 7 This IIss LLoitoit Simcha Loiterman Norman Doors “If we keep doing what we are doing, to do the opposite of what you actually we’re going to keep getting what we’ve need to do. For example, a handle jutting been getting.” out of a door would suggest that you – Stephen Covey needed to pull instead of push. If a door has a sign on it telling you what to do, it CONTINUED FROM P. 1 eludes us because obstacles stand in the way. Being taught that hard work pays get in, so once in a while this momen- Be careful not to be that person rattling that proverbial door, off, we start working harder, we may tary, awkward scene plays out as people stuck outside, when all that’s needed is push rather than pull even get relentless, work late, sacrifi ce, pull and jostle with the door until they double our efforts, but the results still realize that they just need to push in- aren’t there. stead. They have fallen victim to “Nor- is most likely a Norman Door. Seeing people standing outside, shim- We apply ourselves in many areas: man Doors.” “Why does it [a door] need an instruc- mying that door, gave me a mini-epiph- marriage, weight loss, dating, sports, Norman Doors (named affectionately tion manual?... Why not make it obvious?” any. child-rearing, learning Torah, and doing for the design genius Don Norman) are – Don Norman, a man with uncom- Sometimes, we have goals and we mitzvos. Sometimes, no matter how hard poorly designed doors that confuse you mon common sense. work hard to reach them, but success we push, the fruits don’t come. We hit a wall and are not sure what to do next, so we go right along doing it more. All that well-intentioned effort can snowball and ferment into confl ict. One of many examples: An overpro- tective parent or spouse can smother the one they love so much that they stifl e nearly everything the relationship had going for it. The closer they pull, the more the other side wants to break free. The only thing some people know how to do at some point is to dig in and power through: Yell louder to win ar- guments, give harsher punishments to stubborn children, ride employees hard- er, pull that door so hard it nearly comes off its hinges. It tires you out and people get tired of you. When we encounter a barrier in serv- ing Hashem, we try the same things. Mitzvos – like the many we fi nd in Parshas Mishpatim – are certainly not Norman Doors but they can seem coun- terintuitive, or foreign, to us. We misread them because the world is upside down and so are we, right along with it. The Nesivos Shalom teaches that doing mitz- vos and serving Hashem brings order, completeness, and truth to the world, the world is harmonious when we’re in harmony with Hashem. Until we under- stand that, we’re stuck, upside down, and fumbling in the dark. When it comes to solving our prob- lems, the solution starts with us (It’s al- ways easier to change yourself). Instead of working against ourselves, what if we considered something that would get us to stop spinning our wheels and perhaps still get results? Step back; fi nd a differ- ent angle. What if we were to evaluate how we’re working, not how hard we tried? Sometimes it’s just a simple adjust- ment: Listen instead of talk, give instead of take, be stern instead of soft, and the other way around. Try to do naaseh more than nishma. Be careful not to be that person rat- tling that proverbial door, stuck outside,

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Simcha Loiterman is a resident of Kew Gardens Hills. He is available for speaking engagements and presentations or a cup of coffee and a good talk. He would love to hear from you at [email protected]. He feels very strongly that you can learn from everyone because we all have stories to tell, lessons to teach, and can kindle a spark of goodness inside. He is currently pursuing a doctorate in “Life.” Visit his blog at thisisloit. wordpress.com to learn more of his ideas and opinions about our beautiful world.

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Rabbi Dani Staum

Honing Inspiration am always amazed by airports. It’s in- feel unimpressed by anything less. Au con- is a day to contemplate the miracle of fruits, Tu BiSh’vat is celebrated after the reading credible that from every gate through- traire! It should fi ll him with a sense of won- and nature generally. The fact that we are of the parshiyos that detail the Exodus and Iout the terminals, planes depart for dif- der at the beauty of G-d’s creation, and bring able to partake of numerous fruits with var- all of its miracles. As the Ramban states, the ferent places all over the Earth. One gate off, him to feel love and appreciation for every ious textures, colors, and tastes during the open miracles help us appreciate the hid- and you can end up in Frankfurt instead of facet of His incredible creation. My experi- dead of winter is itself incredible. den miracles. Reading the Torah’s account Honolulu, Istanbul instead of Tel Aviv. ence at the Grand Canyon should lead me to Tu BiSh’vat is a celebration of the mira- of those miracles serves as an appropriate Airports are designed to be a microcosm introduction to Tu BiSh’vat. Then, we con- of its country. As soon as arrivals walk into tinue the progression, until we actually cel- the terminal, they are greeted with signs and Seeing the Grand Canyon, or any other incredible sight, should not ebrate those open miracles on Pesach. In sights that clearly display where they are. make its viewer feel unimpressed by anything less. Au contraire! that sense, it is a beautiful elevating circle Last week, my daughter Aviva and I had – from the miraculous to the natural, back the opportunity to visit our friends, Rabbi to the supernatural – all a combination of Menachem and Shifra Moskovitz, in their feel a greater appreciation for the mundane cle of nature. It is also 30 days before Purim, G-d’s Hand. home in Las Vegas, Nevada. As soon as we of nature, not the other way around. when we celebrate the uncanny miracles I should conclude by saying that when walked off the plane, we were greeted by I type these words in the waning mo- that were also cloaked in natural events. we arrived back in Newark Airport, I knew slot machines and the endemic bright lights. ments of Tu BiSh’vat. It is a minor holiday From there we set out for Pesach, the holi- we were home when I found my shoes stick- That was even before we encountered the when we do not recite Tachanun, we try to day of redemption, when G-d displayed His ing to the sticky and dirty fl oor. As I said, trademark “Welcome to Las Vegas” sign. eat some fruits, and we perhaps daven for power over nature and bent all its rules, to every airport wants to make you feel what We very much enjoyed the warmth and our esrog on Sukkos. On a practical level, it demonstrate His unmitigated love for us. its city is like. vibrancy of the burgeoning Jewish commu- nity. I had the opportunity to speak at the Mesivta of Las Vegas on Friday and in the Las Vegas Kollel on Shabbos morning. I not- ed in my speech that the only thing in Vegas that is defi nitely not a gamble is the warmth of the community. On Sunday morning, Aviva, Ahuva Mosko- vitz, and I visited the Hoover Dam, which is fairly close to Las Vegas. It’s quite an impos- ing and breathtaking structure, built in the 1930s. From there we headed to the Western Rim of the Grand Canyon. Standing before the Grand Canyon is a humbling experience. The sheer majesty of the incredible canyon is breathtaking. It is hard to fathom how gargantuan it is, and it is surely impossible to describe. It is so vast that it is quite noticeable from the window of a plane fl ying overhead. All of the beautiful panoramic scenery and beau- tiful views that I have seen during my life are dwarfed by the “opulent depth” of the Grand Canyon. The next day I saw a picture of beauti- ful scenery. My immediate reaction was to think that the picture was nothing in com- parison with the Grand Canyon! “If you think that’s anything, you should go to the Grand Canyon!” But the truth is that such an attitude is a mistaken perspective about that experience. There is a fundamental passage in the Peirush HaRamban at the end of Parshas Bo, in which he details important ideas about faith and service of Hashem. He writes there that “from the great and widespread mira- cles, man will come to admit and thank G-d for all of the hidden miracles, which is the foundation of the entire Torah, for no one has a portion in the Torah of Moshe Rabbe- inu until he believes that all of our happen- ings are miracles, and that there is no [un- controlled] nature…” Seeing the Grand Canyon, or any other incredible sight, should not make its viewer

Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW is the Rabbi of Kehillat New Hempstead, as well as a rebbe and guidance counselor at Heichal HaTorah in Teaneck, New Jersey, and Prin- cipal at Mesivta Ohr Naftoli of New Wind- sor, and a Division Head at Camp Dora Golding. He can be reached at: stamtorah@ gmail.com. Looking for “instant inspira- tion” on the parshah in under fi ve min- utes? Follow him on Torahanytime.com. Looking for “instant inspiration” on the par- shah in under fi ve minutes? Follow him on Torahanytime.com.

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By this juxtaposition we are mud calls the Jews “merciful people who are taught that it is not race nor descent but sim- “You shall not taunt or oppress a stranger, neighborhood. All must be treated equally, the descendants of merciful people.” ply the inner spiritual and moral worth of a for you were strangers in the land of Egypt.” but a special sensitivity should be displayed Jews have known throughout history per- person that give him the right of a man and (Shemot 22:20) towards the stranger who would feel inse- secution and prejudice, and this has made a citizen. If we are not to adopt these values, cure and uncomfortable in new surround- us more sensitive towards the oppressed we run the risk of descending to the horrors “Do not oppress a stranger; you know the ings. We must make strangers feel at ease, and the defenseless. We who have known of the Egyptian theory of slavery and the di- feelings of a stranger for you were strangers never reminding them of their origins or humiliation and suffering must always re- sastrous mishandling of human beings. in the land of Egypt.” making them feel uncomfortable in any fresh our memories of these tragedies and Sensitivity is one of the hallmarks of the (id. 23:9) way. treat the weak with the knowledge of how Jewish character, and it has been forged in ***** The Torah reveals here a profound in- much it hurts to be insulted. We who know the crucible of our painful experiences in mphasis is a sign of the relative im- sight into the psychology of Man. Despite how much help we needed must provide Exile. Here we refer to the “stranger” as a portance one gives a subject matter. all of our cultural and social norms, we tend the weak with his needs. These admonitions paradigm, and it includes all people who are EWhen a point is made over and over weak or out of place or insecure in any fash- again, it is evident that the writer wants ion or place. Therefore, if we are to act as to give the issue a prominent place in the Jews have known throughout history persecution and prejudice, Jews we must emphasize in all our actions hierarchy of things. Although all the com- this aspect of compassion, empathy with mandments have equal importance and we and this has made us more sensitive towards the oppressed and the weak, the newcomer, the vulnerable, by are obliged to honor each and every one of the defenseless refraining from any offense, slur, or slight, them, it is noteworthy that the Torah opts to and providing them with respect and any reiterate some more than others. One com- other need they may require. Sometimes, a mandment is repeated 36 times in the Torah. to deal with the weak, with the stranger, and are directed not only to the individual but smile to a newcomer or offering some form It is not Shabbat or kashrut or the prohibi- with the newcomer in manners that differ also to the State. The Jewish state is not to of help is all it takes. In the latest snow- tion against murder; it is the commandment from those we display towards our famil- practice any form of oppression against for- storms we witnessed many instances of to be sensitive to the stranger! Why is that? iar people. Anti-Semitism is a clear exam- eigners because they are aliens, such as im- good people acting helpfully toward others. This seemingly “light” mitzvah of loving ple of this dark corner in the heart of Man. posing heavier taxes or limiting their rights, In our synagogues and meeting places we the stranger, not oppressing him with words Although we declare with our mouths the and not to restrict in any form the exercise should do no less. We well know how much or deeds, is repeated because we are usually principle of equality, we do not always be- of any means of gaining their livelihood. It it hurts to be offended or ignored or taunt- prone to take advantage of the weak and the have in that manner. As in George Orwell’ should be noted here that these laws apply ed. We have been there and it is incumbent helpless, and the Torah knows that this is s famous quote, “All animals are equal but to converts to Judaism or any foreigner so on all of us to act towards others with the one commandment that we may have more some animals are more equal than others,” long as their aims are not inimical to the empathy and kindliness that we learned diffi culty in grasping. This law is specifi cally we too are likely to treat certain people, es- Jewish state. were so lacking when we were slaves in “the related to the convert who attaches himself pecially minorities we perceive as weak, as Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch notes the land of Egypt.” to the Jewish people, but in reality the same being less equal than others. This is an un- principle may apply to any stranger – even fortunate human trait and this is precisely Rabbi David Algaze is the founder and Rav of Havurat Yisrael, Forest Hills. He is a noted public a fellow Jew who is new to a community or what the Torah wants us to change. speaker and author and is the President of the international Committee for the Land of Israel.

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The Effect Of An Action tree, but because of my choice, I am con- There is a tremendous lesson for us in sidered the one who did the act. I was this concept. Every action that we per- “Holy people you shall be to Me: you belief system is that nothing happens by allowed to become his murderer. And as form affects others. If, in my business shall not eat fl esh of an animal that was chance. Hashem created, maintains, and such, I am responsible for his death. dealings, I act in a scrupulously honest torn in the fi eld; to the dog you shall orchestrates this world. In truth, man can So, too, if someone intended to help manner and another Jew sees this and throw it.” accomplish nothing in this world. Every Shimon and succeeded, we understand he then adopts that practice, I am given – Sh’mos 22:30 action and every outcome is determined that good was coming to Shimon be- credit for his increased honesty. That is ***** and controlled by Hashem. cause Hashem decided this long ago. That true even if he long ago forgot that I was he Torah tells us that if a sheep or If Reuven was predestined to live to be is what he deserved. Had that individual the source of his change. Even though I a goat is killed while grazing, it is 120, I can neither harm him nor help him. not been on the scene, that same good didn’t intend it and may not be aware of Tcalled a treifah and should be given Hashem will ensure that His decree is ful- would have come to Shimon through any it, through my actions he changed, so I to the dogs to eat. Rashi explains that this am considered responsible for that differ- is a reward for what the dogs did. When ence. Everything that he does because of the Jewish People left Mitzrayim, not a Our actions count beyond what we imagine – this impression is attributed to me. single dog barked. Since that was a kid- even if they aren’t on the highest level of perfection The ramifi cations of this concept are dush Hashem, for generations all t’reifos astounding. On the good side, as well as are to be fed to the dogs in repayment for on the bad, whatever we do affects our- what they did. fi lled – and there is nothing that I can do one of many vehicles that Hashem uses selves and others. If I act in a manner not to change it. Man is, in effect, powerless. to run this world. Nevertheless, since that befi tting a Jew and others see me, it will How Can a Dog Be Entitled to This leaves him in a circumstance of be- service came through the hands of an in- likely affect them. If they, in turn, adopt Reward? ing able to accomplish very little on this dividual, that person is credited with the certain bad behaviors, that will be credit- This Rashi is diffi cult to understand, as planet. The outcomes are already set. act. It is considered as if he did it. ed to me also. But on the fl ip side, if I en- we are dealing with animals. Animals are To allow for reward and punishment, gage in appropriate activities and become instinctual in their reactions. Granted, Hashem created a system whereby it is Through the Dogs, a Greater a model for what is good and proper, I they can be trained to act in a particular considered as if man determined the Kiddush Hashem Came About will be credited with the mitzvos of ev- manner, but they don’t have a conscious outcome. If I am the one acting on the The answer to Rashi seems to be that eryone I infl uenced, whether I intended “I” that can weigh the different options scene, the result is attributed to me. It is via the dogs there was a greater kiddush it or not. Our actions count beyond what and decide to act or not to act. They don’t credited to my account even though that Hashem. Everyone, both the Mitzrim we imagine – even if they aren’t on the have free will. In all of the physical Cre- outcome was inevitable – because Hash- and the Jews, saw a greater revelation of highest level of perfection. ation, only man was given that capacity. em had so planned it. So how can a dog receive reward for its In our case above, if Reuven received Born and bred in Kew Gardens Hills, R’ Ben Tzion Shafier joined the Choftez Chaim Ye- actions? a judgment on the previous Rosh HaSha- shiva after high school. Shortly thereafter he got married and moved with his new family to nah that his time was in fact up, then he Rochester, where he remained in for 12 years. R’ Shafi er then moved to Monsey, NY, where he Understanding Reward and will die this year, whether by my hands was a Rebbe in the new Chofetz Chaim branch there for three years. Upon the Rosh Yeshiva’s Punishment or through some other cause. However, request, he stopped teaching to devote his time to running Tiferes Bnei Torah. R” Shafi er, a One of the most basic tenets of our I might well be permitted to be his mur- happily married father of six children, currently resides in Monsey.

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Plane Full Of Plumbers Hasbro Introduces so in 2018, we decided it was time to give fans what they’ve been craving all along - a Diverted Due To Toilet Trouble Michigan Dog Approved New Version Monopoly game that actually encourages cheating,” the senior vice president of Has- For Unemployment Benefits Of Monopoly For Cheaters bro said. The game will be available for $19.99 for ages eight and up. Post-Super Bowl Commercial Congratulates Wrong Team

Norway-to-Germany fl ight had to turn around for a toilet issue - de- Aspite having 85 plumbers on board. asbro has announced a new ver- “Flight DY1156 from Oslo to Munich on n a mix-up at the Michigan unemploy- sion of Monopoly that rewards Saturday Jan. 27 returned to Oslo due to a ment offi ce, a dog was approved for un- Hcheating and features handcuffs technical fault with the toilet,” a represen- Iemployment benefi ts. for those caught in the act. tative for the airline said. “The aircraft was A man named Michael said he received a Monopoly: Cheaters Edition, which is repaired and continued with the fl ight later notice from the Michigan Unemployment set for release this fall, offers 15 cheat cards that day.” Insurance Agency in the mail that said “Mi- with fi ve placed in the middle of the board The situation was made more unusual chael Ryder” will receive $360 a week. that ask players to carry out nefarious tasks Michigan business ran a commer- by the plane’s passengers. But there is nobody named “Michael Ry- including removing hotels, moving anoth- cial directly following the Super “We would have liked to fi x the re- der” at Michael’s address. “Ryder,” however, er player’s token, and stealing extra money ABowl that congratulated the wrong strooms, but unfortunately it had to be is the name of his German Shepherd, and from the bank that is without an assigned team for winning. done from the outside and we did not take Michael is his fi rst name. So he assumed banker. The Subaru of Muskegon commercial, the opportunity to send a plumber [out] at the notice was for his dog. Rewards for carrying out the cheat cards which aired directly after the Philadelphia 10,000 meters,” a passenger, who happened “Not sure what he is going to do with successfully without getting caught in- Eagles pulled off a 41-33 win over the New to be the CEO of a plumbing company, said. the money, but it should be interesting,” clude extra cash or free properties while England Patriots on Sunday, featured a si- “There was a good atmosphere in the Michael said. “I knew he was clever, but he those caught will be sent to jail and poten- lent 30 seconds with a written message: plane, what with the irony about the bro- surprised me this time.” tially handcuffed to the board. “Congratulations Patriots!” ken toilets,” he said. Unfortunately for Ryder, he won’t get a In the new version, some properties The TV station said the business only Fellow passengers agreed it was a hu- chance to cash those checks after the UIA on the board cost less than in the original submitted one version of the ad and the morous situation. got word of the mix-up. version-- including Pennsylvania Avenue, station was to air the commercial regard- “So many plumbers on a plane and it “I know fi rst-hand it is rare for ‘man’s which is free for whoever lands on it fi rst. less of the game’s outcome. has to turn around because of toilet trou- best friend’ to contribute fi nancially to the “A recent study conducted by Hasbro “Regarding the advertisement that read ble - there’s good humor in that,” another household and that will continue in this in- revealed that nearly half of game players passenger noted. stance,” said a UIA spokesperson. attempt to cheat during Monopoly games, CONTINUED ON P. 15

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CONTINUED FROM P. 14 The homeowners, Nancy and Ludomir, said they were initially given a fi ne of $250 ‘Congratulations Patriots’: We’re told that is a day, but it was reduced in December to what Subaru of Muskegon wished to air,” $100 a day. the station tweeted. The fi nes were initially capped at 31 tery’s game for the Jan. 13 night drawing. days, but a magistrate ruled that the city “I’ve never had a dream like that before,” can continue imposing the daily fi nes until Realtor Offering he said. the mural, which the offi cials allege vio- Victor said he decided to buy four tick- lates city code, is removed. ‘$250 In Free Tacos’ ets for the drawing, which each won him a Offi cials said the painting is considered $100,000 top prize for a total of $400,000. a sign by the city and is earning business With Home Purchase In Texas He said he plans to invest his winnings. for the artist who painted the mural while Texas real estate agent is drawing causing a distraction for drivers. attention to her offered properties “Looking at the same thing at the same Awith signs bearing an unusual of- Couple Fined $100 A Day time, it makes for an unsafe situation - fer: “$250 in free tacos with the purchase another reason compliance needs to be of this home.” Over House’s Paint Job achieved,” a lawyer representing the city The realtor, named Nicole, said she fi rst She said the sign helped her sell a home. pair of Florida homeowners are in- said. started adding the extra message to the “The buyer is defi nitely going to get the curring fi nes of $100 per day after Nancy said the mural was painted for bottom of the signs bearing her informa- tacos,” Nicole said. “He’s planning a taco Arefusing to cover up their house’s their son, an adult with autism who the tion outside of homes for sale about four party at the end of February.” paint job: a mural of Van Gogh’s “Starry months ago. She said the promotion has been a big Night.” CONTINUED ON P. 16 Nicole said she sign drew a lot of extra hit on social media. attention to the fi rst home where she tried “People have really taken to the tacos,” it out. Nicole said. “We don’t plan on ending it “I’m the taco lady,” Nicole said. “Let’s be any time soon.” honest, everyone in Texas loves tacos. And so, it’s really been the ‘taco the town.’” Nicole said she is partnering with a lo- Man Wins $400,000 cal taco restaurant to arrange for the edible bonuses. Using Lottery Numbers “So, in Texas it’s illegal to offer anything above $50 in terms of a referral or a client From His Dream gift. So what we’ve done, is we’ve actual- Virginia Lottery winner said ly partnered with our sellers and they’ve the numbers that earned him a agreed to offer a $250 credit. So they can A$400,000 jackpot came from an un- take it in terms of closing costs, or if they usual source: a dream. really want the tacos, we can make sure The lucky man, Victor, said he dreamed they have tacos at closing as well,” Nicole of a series of numbers -- 3-10-17-26-32 -- and said. decided to use the digits to play the lot-

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couple hopes to move to the home with Van Driver Facing Fine For his caretakers. “There’s art on other homes, other build- Huge Stack Of Wooden Pallets ings in the city, in the residential district as well, so why are we being chastised for ours when we did what we were told we had to do to keep the wall that our son loves,” Nancy said. The couple said the fi nes have accumu- lated to more than $8,000. Ludomir said he and Nancy feel their constitutional rights are being violated. “Let me tell you, the fi rst amendment is precious. And I will fi ght for this until the end,” Ludomir said. The couple’s attorney said they don’t plan to pay any fi nes until they have ex- hausted their options in court. Indiana Couple Expecting $1,000 Lottery Prize

Wins $1M uthorities in Spain said they have identifi ed the driver of a white van Aseen traveling on a busy road with a high stack of wooden pallets balanced on its roof. A Spanish mayor posted a video to Face- book showing the van traveling down a road in the town with a stack of pallets that more than doubled the vehicle’s height. “I have instructed local police to re- port the driver for this recklessness which took place in our municipality,” the mayor wrote. “He’s endangered other road users. I couple in Indiana attempting to ask you all to be sensible at the wheel.” claim a $1,000 lottery prize were Police said they have identifi ed the driv- Astunned to fi nd a $1 million check er, who they said is known to sell used awaiting them at the lotto offi ce. wooden pallets to companies in the area. A woman was being interviewed about The driver is now facing a fi ne of up to her win at a lottery offi ce when her hus- $1,243. band noticed her check had twice as many zeroes as they were expecting. “That’s not $1,000,” he said. Thousands Of Birds Lottery offi cials then informed the cou- ple they were actually the recipients of a $1 Congregate million Powerball prize. “This is nuts. This is crazy,” the husband At Texas Intersection said. driver in Texas captured video of an The woman said she’s been playing Pow- unusual and somewhat eerie sight: erball twice a week for years and discov- Athousands of birds congregating at ered the winning ticket from Sept. 23 while a single intersection. clearing out a desk drawer. The video shows thousands of birds She told her husband they would have gathered on the signal lights, utility lines to drive to the lottery offi ce from their and several other surfaces at the intersec- home to claim the $1,000 prize but neither tion while more avians fl y above. noticed the actual value of the ticket. The fi lmer said the gathering is a bizarre Shocked by the surprisingly large wind- annual event. fall, the couple was unsure of how they “This is an intersection where every year planned to spend their winnings. around this time birds hang out by the “We’re not going to have to watch things thousands. It’s a mystery why,” the fi lmer quite as closely,” the woman said. wrote.

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Not Left, Not Right - Forward By Manny Behar ganizing the Common Sense Coalition, a grants from certain countries. increased legal immigration for those bi-partisan group of Senators committed With no agreement reached, Senate who wish to come will make America he Jewish community does not ex- to fi nding common ground on issues of Democrats blocked the passage of a con- stronger. ist in a vacuum. When the United concern. tinuing resolution to keep the govern- I also recognize the need for enhanced TStates government shuts down, The most recent issue to bring our ment open. border security and screening to keep costing the economy $1 billion a day and government to a grinding halt is DACA As the government shutdown began, out the few who are criminals, drug deal- leading to the loss of tens of thousands of (Deferred Action on Childhood Arrivals), the honorary co-chairs of No Labels, Sen- ers, and terrorists. It will also make the jobs, it impacts us. Beyond that, many of an Obama-era program that allows ille- ator Collins and Senator Manchin, swung system fairer by preventing people from the decisions that impact the Jewish com- gal immigrants who were brought here into action. They organized a bi-partisan jumping the line ahead of people who munity, from aid to Israel to supporting as children to remain and work in the group of senators who prevailed upon have followed the legal process and have our community institutions and protect- United States. These young people did the leaders of both parties to move away been waiting to immigrate for many ing our right to live according to the dic- not break the law themselves. The Unit- from the brink. The majority of Demo- years. tates of our conscience, are made by the ed States is the only home they have ever crats voted in favor of a continuing res- The proposed compromises will fall US government. That is why the recent known. They work, pay taxes, and fol- olution to end the shutdown and keep short of achieving those goals. I am par- shutdown of the US government and the low the law. On September 6, President the government open through Thursday, ticularly troubled by the proposal to limit prospect of another one next week are of Trump suspended the DACA program and February 8. Senate Majority Leader Mitch sponsorship to spouses and minor chil- grave concern to us as Jews and as Ameri- gave Congress six months to come up McConnell (R-Kentucky) agreed to allow a dren, which will mean leaving parents, cans. with a solution. vote on immigration legislation. adult children, and siblings behind. But The recent shutdown of the US gov- Two attempts at resolving the issue The agreement on re-opening the gov- given the current lineup in the White ernment is only the latest example of appeared to be on the brink of success ernment is an important step forward House and Congress, I realize that the how polarization and the insistence on but fell short. On September 13, Senate and a signifi cant accomplishment for the kind of immigration policy I and many ideological purity have made our gov- Minority Leader Chuck Schumer (D-NY) No Labels movement, but the crisis is far others envision is not achievable at the ernment so dysfunctional that it cannot and House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi from over. If an agreement on the status present time. The proposed compromise even complete the basic task of keeping (D-California) announced that they had of DACA benefi ciaries and border security would achieve two important goals, pro- the government open. reached a deal with President Trump un- is not reached shortly, we will be looking viding legal status for the DACA benefi - The good news is that there is a group ciaries and enhancing border security. of activists in Congress and among the Failure to reach a compromise would public at large that is working to change Resisting compromise and insisting on ideological purity bring us no closer to the kind of immi- that and has seen some signs of success. gration policies favored by either end of The No Labels movement consists may well be a way to appeal to the base and campaign the political spectrum. It would leave the of Republicans and Democrats who are contributors, but it is no way to run a government DACA benefi ciaries in legal limbo and committed to putting country above par- could result in a disastrous government ty. Their motto is “not left, not right, but shutdown. This should not be allowed to forward.” They believe in bringing people der which the protections of DACA would at another government shutdown. happen. from across the political spectrum to- be enshrined in law and Democrats and It is clear that the path forward is a As we look to the future, Republicans gether to reach common-sense solutions Republicans would agree on a package of bi-partisan agreement along the lines of need to understand that though they con- to the challenges facing us as a nation. enhanced border security measures that the one reached by Senator Durbin and trol the White House and both houses of In the House of Representatives, No would not include a wall along the Mex- Senator Graham. The deal would likely Congress, their margin of control is nar- Labels helped to organize the Problem ican border. A day later, President Trump include: row and the population of the country is Solvers Caucus, a bipartisan group of tweeted that no agreement had been • Legal status for DACA benefi ciaries almost equally divided. The way forward Members of Congress who are commit- reached and that any deal would have to • Enhanced border security is to work with the Democrats. ted to working together to fi x rather include the wall. • An end to “chain migration,” which Democrats need to understand that, than fi ght. Among the caucus’ achieve- At a January 8 televised meeting with allows immigrants to sponsor their rela- while Donald Trump may well be vulgar ments are a plan on health care that a bi-partisan group of senators on immi- tives and crass, his penchant for making outra- addresses some of the major shortcom- gration, President Trump indicated that • Extending protected status for im- geous statements was well known to the ings in the Affordable Health Care Act he would consider a path to citizenship migrants from Haiti and elsewhere who public before he was elected. Democrats by increasing subsidies to stabilize the for all illegal aliens and encouraged the are in the United States because of natu- can and should work to regain control of health insurance market and allowing senators to come up with legislation that ral disasters and violence in their home Congress in 2018 and the White House in the states to be more innovative. Sena- would provide for both legal status for countries 2020. But they cannot let their distaste tor Lamar Alexander (R-Tennessee) and DACA benefi ciaries and enhanced border A number of details would have to be for President Trump get in the way of Senator Patty Murray (D-Washington), security, which he would sign. Later that worked out, most notably the status of working with him and his Republican the Chairman and the Ranking Minority day, a bi-partisan group of senators, led by the family members of DACA benefi cia- colleagues to do the people’s business. Member of the Senate Health Commit- Senator Richard Durbin (D-Illinois) and ries. Any agreement reached will be far Resisting compromise and insisting on tee have introduced similar legislation Senator Lindsey Graham (R-South Caroli- from perfect. ideological purity may well be a way to in the Senate. na), agreed on such a package. It was at a Generous immigration policies made appeal to the base and campaign contrib- In the Senate, the Honorary Co- White House discussion of the proposal it possible for our parents and grandpar- utors, but it is no way to run a govern- chairs of No Labels, Senator Susan Col- that President Trump used a vulgar term ents to escape from pogroms, oppres- ment. lins (R-Maine) and Senator Joe Manchin that cannot be printed in this newspaper sion, and poverty to begin new lives in The founders of our country disagreed (D-West Virginia) were instrumental in or- to question why we get so many immi- America. They built the greatest Jewish bitterly about many things. But they real- community in the history of the diaspo- ized the need to compromise to create a ra. Their achievements in a wide range of government that would protect the needs Solution to this issue’s puzzles fi elds have helped to make America great. of each individual and the community as Members of other immigrant commu- a whole. Benjamin Franklin said that he nities have had similar experiences and supported the adoption of the Constitu- achievements. tion not because it was the best possible, Restrictive immigration policies and but because it was the best achievable, quotas that were in force from 1924 to given the time and circumstances. 1945 led to millions of Jews being trapped We need that same spirit today. That is in Eastern Europe during the Holocaust. why I have decided to become active in The vast majority of illegal aliens and the No Labels movement. We are not ask- the millions of would-be immigrants ing our elected offi cials to compromise around the world came or seek to come on principle. We are asking them to work here for the same reason our parents for principled compromise that achieves and grandparents did – to build better what we can now, and recognizes and ac- lives for themselves and their children. I commodates the legitimate concerns of believe that a path to citizenship for the those who disagree with us and saves the law-abiding immigrants already here and rest of the fi ght for another day.

Manny Behar, former Executive Director of the Queens Jewish Community Council and aide to public offi cials, is now a member of the New York Steering Committee for No Labels. To fi nd out what you can do to help, go to nolabels.org or contact Manny directly at [email protected].

22 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) • February 8, 2018 AAss I See It Cynthia Zalisky How Will I Explain The Democrats’ Poor Behavior At The SOTU To My Grandchildren? CONTINUED FROM P. 1 crats showed that they were in no mood to accept Trump’s call for bi-partisanship. His that ethic in my children and now in my speech had 150 rounds of applause, but not grandchildren. But after seeing the spec- from the Democrats. tacle of disrespect shown by the Congres- The Republican National Committee re- sional Democrats (my family’s political acted to the shenanigans during the State party) during last week’s State of the Un- of the Union Address by saying, “Democrats ion Address, where they sat on their hands are no longer just the party of resistance for practically the entire speech, I was ap- and obstruction; they are now also the palled. The State of the Union Address has party of sitting on their hands. No matter always been a family event in my home. the issue, Democrats chose to sit on their The pomp and protocol has always been hands tonight.” There were three notable fascinating and exciting; but this year was exceptions among Democrat senators: Joe different. From the moment that the Ser- Manchin of West Virginia, Joe Donnelly geant at Arms of the United States House of Indiana, and Heidi Heitkamp of North of Representatives announced, “Mr. Speak- Dakota – all from red states and all facing er, the President of the United States,” the tough re-election bids in November; they Democrats showed their true colors by re- stood and applauded multiple times. But fusing to stand as President Trump entered it goes to show that being a mentch is an the chamber. That was the height of chutz- important sign of leadership. pah! I lived through Richard Nixon and we I was particularly sickened by the Democrats’ ambivalence A very moving moment during the State never dreamed of doing that. of the Union Address was when the presi- The Democrats should take a lesson toward a 12-year-old boy who was recognized dent introduced police offi cer Ryan Holets, from Louisiana Representative Steve Scal- for gathering flags for veteran graves who adopted a baby from of a homeless ise, who put country before himself, whom mom addicted to heroin. The baby, whom President Trump honored and praised for the police offi cer’s family named Hope, his resolve for returning to work less than proper. Again, the do-nothing Congress just ocrats were on by their childish behavior suffered the excruciating process of de- four months after he took a bullet from a bellyaches and has provided no legal re- during the State of the Union Address. The toxing and the withdrawals because the gunman, who was a Bernie Sanders sup- course for the vulnerable “Dreamers” that Democrats scowled as President Trump birth mom was an addict and transferred porter and almost died. Sanders should they tout as being so precious to them. I touted soaring jobs numbers, and they sat the abuse to her child during pregnancy. have been the fi rst to jump from his seat fear the DACA recipients are being used as stone-faced when he honored veterans, Holets is a shining example of American when the president acknowledged him, pawns by the Democrats to discredit the and one of them even walked out during values and goodness. Even the Democrats but ol’ Bernie didn’t have enough class to president before the mid-term elections. the patriotic chant of “USA, USA.” Demo- have to extol this. do it for that brave man. That is simply be- Politics is politics, but putting kids’ lives in cause Scalise is a Republican! jeopardy is another thing. In his speech, President Trump was sig- President Trump described his offer as naling a willingness to make bipartisan a path to citizenship for 1.8 million DACA deals on the second-year agenda priorities recipients. He said, “My highest loyalty, like immigration as well as infrastructure. my greatest compassion, and my constant He said, “Tonight I call upon all of us to set concern is for America’s children, America’s aside our differences to seek out common struggling workers, and America’s forgot- ground to summon the unity we need to ten communities. Americans are dreamers, deliver for the people we were elected to too.” serve.” Gut gezogt (Well said), but it fell on The president called for bipartisan coop- deaf ears on the other side of the aisle. eration on infrastructure projects as well, Trump appealed for common ground which he stressed should be leveraged by in the immigration debate, while holding partnering with state and local govern- fi rm on his demands for border security. ments and private sector investors for proj- The president called for bi-partisanship – ects. As a businessman, Trump understands to put politics aside and “get the job done.” cost effectiveness. That was a pretty astounding declaration to The Democrat intransience was so glar- a “do nothing Congress” that has not pro- ing that even when Trump mentioned that posed any new legislation of its own and African American unemployment is down says no to everything the Trump adminis- to the lowest level in a long time, the mem- tration sends to them. bers of the Black Caucus declined to stand The president tried to open the im- or applaud. The same was true of the His- passe in Congress by saying, “Tonight I panic Caucus, who also received the posi- am extending an open hand to work with tive news of low unemployment rates. members of both parties – Democrats and I was particularly sickened by the Republicans – to serve our citizens of every Democrats’ ambivalence toward a 12-year- background, color, religion, and creed.” old boy who was recognized for gather- The president described his recent offer ing fl ags for veteran graves; they showed on immigration as a “fair compromise” for their same fahkrimten ponim (scowled both sides. The White House is pushing a expressions) for Preston Sharp, who put plan to broaden eligibility for the DACA fl ags on soldiers’ graves on Veterans Day. program, which gives a reprieve to illegal The president said, “Preston’s reverence immigrants brought to the US as children for those who have served our nation re- and which Trump is planning to end, ab- minds us why we honor our fl ag, why we sent a legislative solution in March in ex- put our hands on our hearts for the Pledge change for border wall funding, and the of Allegiance, and why we proudly stand end of chain migration and the visa lottery for the National Anthem.” My 12-year-old program. His objection to the current DACA grandchildren related to this kid. How do I dilemma, initiated by President Obama, is explain to them that some in the audience that it is unconstitutional. Trump wants did not? Congress to establish a law that makes it It was hard to tell which side the Dem-

Cynthia Zalisky is the Executive Director of the Queens Jewish Community. She can be contacted at [email protected]

23 Shevat 5778 • Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 23 FForor WWhathat It’s Worth Warren S. Hecht Nunes Memo: An Analysis n last week’s Queens Jewish Link there lower court) brief. puting the Nunes memo’s conclusions. election. were six letters to the editor, fi ve of The problem we will face even after the Even in the absence of access to the un- The memo does not mention about any Iwhich related to columns I had written. release of the Democratic committee mem- derlying documents, there are some con- court action taken against the FBI or others I have no problem with people writing to bers’ response is that we may be stuck with clusions in the memo that can be disputed. concerning the alleged misconduct during the paper to disagree with my positions. I dueling interpretations of underlying facts For example, contrary to the Nunes memo, or after the application was made. appreciate the feedback. I think it is impor- without the ability to see the facts. someone’s paying for information does not It is important to look at the statutes, tant to hear both sides of an issue. In the For example, was the Steele dossier so make the information incredible as a matter which I will summarize. To apply for a FISA words of former President George W. Bush, signifi cant that in its absence no surveil- of law. Payment only relates to the weight warrant it must be signed off by more and “Bring them on.” lance warrant would have been requested or of the evidence and not its admissibility. higher levels of individuals in the FBI and My lack of response to the letters is not given? Did the government mislead the FISA Some of the best evidence is paid for. the Department of Justice than a non-FISA due to agreement with their positions, but (United States Foreign Intelligence Surveil- For instance, insurance companies will hire warrant. Also, with a FISA application, the because I do not want to be bogged down lance) Court by omitting material facts in someone to watch and then videotape a per- government must prove probable cause and with a back-and-forth dialogue with four dif- that the information cannot be obtained by ferent people. I am moving forward with my normal investigative techniques. The target next article. The bottom line is that it is important not to be distracted by the noise must be an agent of a foreign power, with On Friday, February 2, the House Perma- coming out from the president and his allies the caveat that a person cannot be consid- nent Select Committee on Intelligence re- ered an agent of a foreign power if the claim leased the majority (Republican) memoran- that the person is an agent is based solely on dum (Nunes memo). the FISA application concerning the dossier son who claims they are disabled. The fact conduct protected by the First Amendment The reactions to the Nunes memo were and Steele, Fusion GPS, and the associate that the tape was paid for by the insurance (freedom of speech). as expected. The diehard Trumpians thought deputy attorney general’s wife? These an- company does not change the fact that the As it relates to the renewal of the FISA this was a bombshell that should derail all swers cannot be made without examining video shows that the person is engaging in warrant concerning Carter Page, which investigations. The president claimed that it the documents submitted to the court in conduct inconsistent with their claimed dis- is the issue in the Nunes memo, there are vindicated him. The majority believed that support of the application. ability. three specifi cally relevant statutes. either it was not credible, nor signifi cant, or The FBI implies there was more informa- The memo also refers to the Strzok/Lisa There is an obligation on the party that has no effect on the Mueller investigation. tion that was presented to the court than Page texts to show bias. They ignore other has obtained the FISA warrant to notify the At the time of my writing this article, the Nunes memo infers. The FBI stated that texts that indicated that Strzok wanted the court of any misstatements or omission of the minority memorandum had not yet “with regard to the House Intelligence Com- FBI to look at additional Clinton e-mails material fact, Rule 13, United States Foreign been released. Thus, there is only the Nunes mittee’s memorandum, the FBI was pro- right before the election. There is also a Surveillance Court Rules of Procedure. “The memo, a one-sided view, with no ability to vided a limited opportunity to review this dispute as to the meaning of the texts the FBI takes seriously its obligations to the determine whether the claims have a factu- memo the day before the committee voted memo refers to. Also, the memo claims that FISA Court and its compliance with proce- al basis. It is like a court deciding an appeal to release it. As expressed during our initial Strzok/Lisa Page had a meeting with Deputy dures overseen by career professionals in based on the appellant’s (person who lost in review, we have grave concerns about ma- Director McCabe, which has been denied, to the lower court) brief without looking at the terial omissions of fact that fundamentally discuss an insurance policy against Trump’s CONTINUED ON P. 27 underlying record of the court below or the impact the memo’s accuracy” (FBI State- respondent’s (the person who won in the ment January 31, 2018). Thus, the FBI is dis- Warren S. Hecht is a local attorney. He can be reached at [email protected]

24 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) • February 8, 2018 MMiddleiddle Of The Road Rabbi Yehuda L. Oppenheimer The Orthodox Union: Reaffi rming The Standards CONTINUED FROM P. 1 visitor walked into a shul and saw the OU lished OO congregations remained as rec- made it clear that the OO agenda was out symbol on the wall, they knew that there ognized members of the OU, and continu- of the bounds of Orthodoxy. in them. I write this week to celebrate was no question but that the shul is Or- ing to proclaim themselves as normative But for some, this was not enough. this great moment – but fi rst, a bit of thodox. Period. By its membership in the Orthodox congregations. Mounting pres- Some statements coming out of the left background. OU, a shul was saying that they adhered sure was brought to bear on the RCA and included: “The OU should stick to tuna From my earliest youth, the OU has to standards and bylaws of the OU, and on the OU to defi ne their standards, and fi sh”; “The OU will only divide the com- been a major part of my life. Long before followed the recommendations of the to decide whether or not OO innovations munity if it starts to strip some of its most had heard of virtually any other rabbinic leadership of the OU in regard could be accepted within the “big tent,” member shuls that have female clergy of kashrus organization, we were trained: “If to various issues of the day. In Portland or whether, by their actions, they had de- OU affi liation”; “Just as a Zionist would you want to know that a product was ko- there is a shul that once was a member fi ned themselves out of Orthodoxy. not ask the Satmar Rav for a p’sak re- sher, look for the OU symbol.” I assumed of the OU, but refused to install a proper Much of the pressure was brought not garding Zionism, the Modern Orthodox that the OU was a kashrus organization, m’chitzah and had various other devia- only by rabbis and members of those con- community should not look to [YU ro- and that was the extent of it. I did not tions from normative Orthodox practice. gregations, but also by their many friends shei yeshivah] for opinions on the role of know how wrong I was. When that shul left the OU and our shul and supporters in the Modern Orthodox women in our communities,” and even As a young adult, I encountered the remained, people knew which shul was world, who had been convinced that the more intemperate comments. More con- OU in a whole new light, when I had the the Orthodox one, and which was only innovations sought by OO were relatively gregations announced that they were good fortune of becoming an NCSY ad- “Traditional.” We were able to set certain harmless and not worth causing a rupture considering hiring female clergy, and viser on an Israel program. The care and policies and avoid arguments over them, amongst Jews. No one, after all, wants those congregations that already had concern for all of klal Yisrael, the innova- by stating that we were acting as an OU dissent or machlokes, and personal rela- done so made it clear that they had no tive, spirited, and deeply spiritual way in intention of complying with OU policy. which they demonstrated the importance The statement of last year more and more of outreach and how to do it effectively, This was a difficult decision for the OU, given the great pressures seemed unserious – the OU was allowing was a major infl uence on my life and that that were put on them to not issue this policy, member congregations to ignore its stat- of thousands of others. Around the same ed policy, implicitly saying that the policy time, I witnessed the opening of the OU and they are to be applauded for it and supported would not be enforced. Israel Center in Jerusalem, and found a As a result, more pressure built, both second home there attending many pro- pro and con, for the OU leadership to draw grams and basking in the inviting and member shul where certain things were tionships especially make things diffi cult. a line in the sand, and to decide whether uplifting environment. But I later found acceptable, and others were not. I saw this personally at the Young Israel it would or would not act to defend the that I still had little clue of what the OU Over the past few years, however, I of Forest Hills: The very week that an ar- sterling reputation that it had built up in really represented. have had begun to have my doubts. ticle I wrote decrying OO was published over 100 years of representing the fi nest When I became a rabbi in Portland, Or- I have written several times in the past in this paper, a leading member thought of what Orthodox Torah Judaism stood egon, I began to more fully appreciate the about the plague caused by the so-called it appropriate to publicly send his best for. Baruch Hashem, after much diffi cult raison d’être of the OU – what it meant to “Open Orthodox” (OO) movement, which wishes to Rabbi Weiss from the pulpit deliberation and thought, the OU issued a be a Union of Orthodox Jewish Congrega- has sought to introduce many negative in response. This dilemma has been the statement this week clearly stating that it tions of America, a large national frame- changes in ignoring our mesorah and in- source of much angst and concern for the will not allow any member congregations work that provided support and help for troducing many radical innovations into OU leadership, as they sought to balance to hire woman clergy, while at the same synagogues and shuls, with resources the synagogues. These changes included the values of emes and shalom (truth and time encouraging learning and positive and assistance to help a broad range of hiring female rabbis (whether calling peace). roles for women. As to the four congre- shuls – a big tent – accomplish their ob- them Maharat, Rabbah, or Rabanit), hav- One year ago, after many months of gations that now employ female clergy, a jective of bringing the light of Torah to ing “partnership minyanim,” lowering consultation and deliberation, the Ortho- sunset clause was provided to allow for a communities large and small. I realized standards for conversions, announcing dox Union published a simultaneous offi - three-year time limit to allow those con- that kashrus, NCSY, Yachad, the wonder- mazal tovs for same-gender marriages of cial statement and halachic ruling against gregations to come into compliance with ful magazine Jewish Action, and so many members, publicly attacking the Chief hiring women clergy, by whatever name OU policy. This was a diffi cult decision other “departments” of the OU were real- Rabbinate, engaging in extreme leftist they might be called, while at the same for the OU, given the great pressures that ly just parts of helping further that one anti-Israel advocacy, and publicly deni- time calling for increased involvement of were put on them to not issue this policy, overarching objective. I gratefully attend- grating many positions taken by g’dolei women in whatever leadership and Torah and they are to be applauded for it and ed special “Mikdash M’at” conferences Torah, including the roshei yeshivah of teaching roles that were within halachic supported. tailored to help small communities, and Yeshiva University and poskim of the parameters. There was hope in many We hope for a future in which these benefi tted greatly from the wise counsel Orthodox Union. In general, they fl out quarters that this would put the issue to types of issues will no longer pull apart of many great OU leaders in making my established rabbinic authority, produc- rest, and that the more “liberal” wings of members of the Torah community, and rabbanus and our shul more effective. In ing their “own poskim” and teachers who Modern Orthodoxy would recognize that we can focus on all of the laudable goals particular, I remember a talk given at a feel themselves qualifi ed to make chang- these statements, signed by a blue ribbon that the OU has pursued for these many conference by Rav Nota Greenblatt shli- es against the stated positions of all rec- panel of rabbanim and lay leadership, years. ta, who explained that he had to be there ognized Torah authorities. There is no because “If the OU asks you to come, it need for me to discuss this unfortunate Rabbi Yehuda L. Oppenheimer is a rabbi, attorney, and writer living presently in Forest is the Torah world itself that is inviting phenomenon at length; readers of this Hills, and hoping to go on aliyah. He has served as rabbi in several congregations, and helps you.” column and newspaper are well aware individuals with wills, trusts, and mediation. I became intimately involved in ko- of the problem. sher supervision, visiting many factories And therein lies the rub. Unfortunately, on behalf of several organizations, and several of the leading OO congregations, saw that no matter whether the prod- fi rst and foremost the Hebrew Institute uct carried a Kaf K, Star K, Heart K, or of Riverdale – whose rabbi emeritus, Avi many other symbols, it could do so only Weiss, is OO’s founder – are longstanding because a very large percentage of the members in good standing of the Ortho- ingredients were supervised by the OU dox Union. – which is larger than all of them com- As a two-term member of the Execu- bined. Later, at the Young Israel of Forest tive Committee of the RCA (Rabbinical Hills, I also was the benefi ciary of OU Council of America), which has many un- help on many occasions. In particular, I offi cial ties to the OU, I have participat- was proud to be part of the OU mission ed in countless diffi cult discussions over to Washington and Israel during the 2014 the past decade regarding the problem of Gaza War, where I witnessed how much how to deal with colleagues who support the OU does to stand up for Israel’s rights OO ideology. There were discussions of and provide support for her soldiers and whether to expel certain members who citizens. had publicly taken positions against But most of all, the OU has been im- those held by the RCA; most of the more portant as a standard-bearer. Much like vocal ones thankfully left on their own the trusted symbol on food items, it was accord. But the festering problem that a standard on the wall of a shul. When a persisted was that several well-estab-

23 Shevat 5778 • Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 25 BBluelue AAndnd White Shmuel Sackett The Five Words I Hate CONTINUED FROM P. 1 wants to “stack the deck” and have the au- Word #1: Palestinian Arabs, the world talks about Palestinians. dience agree with him. He doesn’t want to I can write a 20-page essay on this sub- Think about it for a second: How many be said? Does one say it – and suffer the appear like a salesman but, somehow, he ject alone, but permit me to explain this people would care about Arabs wandering consequences – or avoid it and be every- needs to fi gure out a way to slip his opin- in just a few sentences. Palestinians don’t around Israel? There are 22 Arab countries, one’s buddy? ions and ideology inside the facts he is exist. They are neither a nation nor a peo- so the world would simply tell them to go I have always found that truth is the stating. How does he do that without get- ple, but by using this word – which the to one of them; but no, they are not “Ar- best policy. People can argue with an opin- ting caught? Simple! By using the follow- world has accepted – the concept becomes abs” – they are “Palestinians” and they can- ion, but it is futile and quite silly to argue ing trick, he plays his listeners for fools. real. Everyone feels bad for this “nation” not go to Kuwait or Lebanon – they need with facts. My game plan has always been We all know that magicians are experts without a land and this “people” without to go home… to Palestine. They are a poor, to not worry about controversy, as long as at sleight of hand, but did you ever no- a home. Students across American cam- unfortunate nation subjugated by Israeli I am stating facts. Yes, some facts are hard tice how many public speakers and jour- puses protest for them and the world feels oppressors who stole their homeland. By to swallow, but that’s not my problem. A nalists are experts at, what I call, “sleight guilty – after all, who doesn’t feel bad using this word, an entire article or speech speaker/writer has to “tell it like it is” and of mouth”? The trick is in the very words for homeless, displaced refugees? Why takes on a different meaning. Therefore, the listening/reading audience will either being used! Here are fi ve words that are doesn’t big, bad Israel just let them go don’t fall into this trap and don’t ever – accept it or not. magically used to change the thinking of home?! Do you see the “sleight of mouth” and I mean ever use this fake and cunning And now for the challenge: A speaker millions of people. being used here? Instead of talking about word.

Palestinians don’t exist. They are neither a nation nor a people, but by using this word – which the world has accepted – the concept becomes real

Word #2: Terrorist Every time a Jew is stabbed in Israel, the media reports that it was done by a “ter- rorist.” When a car is rammed into IDF sol- diers, it was done by a “terrorist.” The rea- son this word is used is because of… sleight of mouth. The media doesn’t want you to look at Arabs and think that they can kill at any moment, so… poof! – the magical-me- dia-man has just turned that 17-year-old Arab into a dreaded terrorist. In my mind, a “terrorist” is one who has been trained for years in military maneuvers. A soldier from Hezbollah is a terrorist, while a 25-year-old Arab woman who stabs a soldier with a kitchen knife is not. A trained fi ghter from al-Qaeda is a terrorist, but his 19-year-old cousin who drove his car into innocent Jews crossing the street in Jerusalem is not. He is an Arab. Period. Word #3: Disengage I have to admit that the creator of this word deserves some sort of prize. How do you make the expulsion of 10,000 Jews from Gush Katif seem okay? After all, they were literally thrown out of their homes! Many years later we see that scene being repeated in Amona, Migron, and Ofra, with men, women, and children being forcibly dragged away while their homes are turned into piles of rubble. How can one justify that? Simple! The “David Cop- perfi eld Word Magician” tells you that these Jews were not expelled (bad word) or kicked out (also bad word) – they were merely “disengaged.” Say what? Yes, the 10,000 people were part of the Disengage-

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Shmuel Sackett is a 100% product of Queens. He was born in Middle Village and moved to KGH shortly before his bar-mitz- vah. He graduated from YCQ (1975) and YHSQ (1979). He was Havurat Yisrael’s fi rst Youth Director (4 years) and started the fi rst 2 NCSY chapters in Queens. Shmuel made aliyah in 1990 and co-founded Manhigut Yehudit, together with Moshe Feiglin. His website is www.JewishIsrael.org Sackett is married with 6 children and 4 grandchil- dren. He lives in Herziliya Pituach.

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By Sergey Kadinsky isting arrangements in the employment of female clergy. This determination is he Union of Orthodox Jewish Con- not – and should not be viewed – as an gregations of America (the Ortho- endorsement of such arrangements.” Tdox Union, or OU), which runs the Instead of expulsion or acceptance, world’s largest kosher certifi cation agen- the OU will continue the conversation cy, is also the umbrella body for hun- for another three years. “Our dialogue dreds of Orthodox synagogues generally with these congregations will continue, regarded as ideologically centrist. The and we will share with them the alterna- recent innovations in practice by some tive approaches we have identifi ed (and of these shuls have prompted the OU will, in the future, continue to identify) to evaluate its membership standards, to maximize the participation of wom- balancing the goal of inclusion within en within the ranks of synagogue pro- A womanwoman leadsleads a ppartnershipartnership mminyaninyan aatt a cconferenceonference iinn NNewew YYorkork ooff tthehe JJewishewish OOrthodoxrthodox the bounds of halachah. On the subject fessionals in a manner consistent with FFeministeminist Alliance,Alliance, DDecemberecember 22013.013. of women as leaders, the OU statement the responses of our Rabbinic Panel,” the ((MikeMike KKelly/JTA)elly/JTA) published last year recognizes them as statement read. where they deviated from standard Or- in some measure, on whether you con- educators, advocates, and counselors, It recognized the autonomy of each thodox practices. sider Open Orthodoxy as Orthodox. among other things – but not as rabbis. synagogue in deciding questions of I asked our Rabbinic Consultant for Until recently, the Orthodox com- That left four member synagogues that halachah and OU membership, noting his take on OU member shuls where the munities in Queens and on Long Island have women as clergy in an uncertain that unity should be kept in mind by all rabbis have taken socially liberal posi- did not have any serious challenges to relationship with the OU. Would they be sides involved in the conversation re- tions on matters such as same-gender the established practices of their syna- expelled for having a maharat, rabba, or garding female clergy. “Just as the OU is marriage and women’s ordination. “Do gogues. When local rabbis speak up in rabbanit? cognizant of the need to consider com- these shuls need the OU or does the OU one voice on conversions, marriages, These four member shuls are the He- munal unity in its decisions, those who need these shuls?” Offering the perspec- divorces, and lifestyles, it is sometimes brew Institute of Riverdale; Beth Sholom seek to depart from well established tive of a Jewish historian, I responded easy to forget that we live in a society Congregation in Potomac, Maryland; and consistently maintained communal that they do not. They have enough where anyone can self-identify as Ortho- B’nai David-Judea Congregation in Los norms should similarly embrace such members and money to create new or- dox. The non-Orthodox press publishes Angeles; and Ohev Sholom-The Nation- considerations. American Orthodox Jew- ganizations; they do not need the pro- stories of people who are “openly gay al Synagogue in Washington, DC. They and Orthodox,” or “woman Orthodox have been affi liated with the OU for de- rabbis,” and rabbis who conduct im- cades, have sizable memberships, and “Do these shuls need the OU proper conversions, issue contradictory include many infl uential individuals or does the OU need these shuls?” halachic rulings, and make inappropri- active in local and national Jewish caus- ate public appearances in the name of es. Likewise, their rabbis and maharats Orthodoxy. have résumés with admirable education, ry is a small community, and its unity grams, speakers, and representation of In one community where the Queens work experience, and communal initia- is its strength. Community institutions the OU to fl ourish. Jewish Link is distributed, a woman who tives. The synagogues that hired them can choose to test that unity, or we can Looking into the history books, the did not feel welcome in existing syna- recognize their talents and potential in all recognize that darchei shalom re- OU has been there before. In 1902, Sol- gogues on account of her orientation attracting new members, retaining exist- quires a deep commitment by us all, in omon Schechter, the newly-appointed gathered supporters and organized a ing congregants, and advancing the con- both thought and deed.” dean of the Jewish Theological Seminary new congregation of which she is pres- versation on the relationship between Last week in the Queens Jewish Link, of America, began liberalizing the learn- ident. This new k’hilah has a m’chitzah. halachah and the secular world. Rabbi Dov Fischer offered his critique of ing standards at this ostensibly Ortho- It does not need membership in the OU, Last week, the OU released its the OU in his article titled “The ‘Shul’ I dox institution. The schism between the the National Council of Young Israel, or long-awaited response to these four syn- Won’t Attend.” Rabbi Fischer is the mara OU and JTS widened over the years. OU Agudath Israel to thrive, as long as it has agogues, after meeting with their leaders d’asra of the Young Israel of Orange stood by its standards, while JTS became members, money, space, and a sefer To- to discuss the details of the roles as- County in California, a practicing attor- the fl agship school for a new Jewish de- rah. signed to their female clergy. “After con- ney, professor of law, and a Senior Rab- nomination. Unsurprisingly, some of to- In a society where we see such radi- siderable deliberation, during which we binic Fellow at the Coalition for Jewish day’s OU rabbis, including Rabbi Schon- cal “Orthodoxy” or “Torah observance,” heard the strongly held, yet competing, Values. In this latter organization, our feld, see Yeshivat Maharat and Yeshiva what is the standard? It is what is has views of numerous members of our com- Rabbinic Consultant Rabbi Yoel Schon- Chovevei Torah in the same light: seem- always been: an application of halachah munity, both rabbinic and lay, and after feld serves as the Vice President. In his ingly Orthodox in practice, but ideologi- that is consistent with case law built up full consultation with our Rabbinic Pan- article, Rabbi Fischer addressed the cally liberal, and on the path towards be- over the centuries, responding to the el – we will not take action with respect larger topic of Open Orthodox rabbis at coming a separate denomination, if they changing currents but never becoming to these congregations based on their ex- OU member shuls, providing examples haven’t already become that. It depends, consumed.

Nunes Memo: An Analysis

CONTINUED FROM P. 24 present, or facts relating to future activities of the target. Thus, the FISA Court had the the Department of Justice and the FBI. We right to consider information that it re- are committed to working with the appro- viewed when it granted the initial and any priate oversight entities to ensure the con- prior application for the FISA warrant as tinuing integrity of the FISA process” (FBI to Carter Page. This initial and other prior Statement issued January 31). information is not discussed in the Nunes In determining whether probable cause memo. exists, a judge may consider past activities The statutory requirements make the of the target, as well as facts and circum- Nunes memo’s claim of a signifi cant reli- stances relating to current or future activ- ance upon the Steele dossier to obtain an ities of the target. An order issued under extension of the FISA order problematic this section may approve an electronic The bottom line is that it is important surveillance for the period necessary to not to be distracted by the noise coming achieve its purpose, or for 90 days, which- out from the president and his allies. They ever is less. Extensions of the order may are afraid of what Robert Mueller will fi nd be granted on the same basis as an origi- and conclude. Let the investigation play nal order, which includes considering past, out and let the chips fall where they may.

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BP Melinda Katz’s State Of The Borough Address Highlights Recent Progress And Future Plans Overcrowded schools, infrastructure improvements, and restoration of New York State Pavilion were among the issues discussed

By Sergey Kadinsky sibility studies and secure funding include new stations on existing LIRR branches, fer- n every level of government, an annu- ry service to LaGuardia Airport, and protect- al “State of” speech is an opportunity ed bike lanes stretching across the borough. Oto highlight an agenda with exam- Then there’s one more item, visible to ples of what was done and the challenges millions of motorists and airplane passen- that lie ahead. On Friday, January 26, Queens gers, neglected by previous borough presi- Borough President Melinda Katz outlined dents but a personal mission for Katz: the her vision at her State of the Borough ad- New York State Pavilion. The arena and dress, which took place at the Frank Sinatra observation set built for the 1964 World’s School of the Arts in Astoria. “This past year Fair in Flushing Meadows–Corona Park has challenged every single person in this was abandoned in the 1970s, its condition nation to reevaluate what it truly means to having greatly deteriorated. Under Katz’s be an American and what that means to us leadership, a task force was convened, the as individuals,” said Katz. arena’s crown was repainted, and tours are After acknowledging her elected col- provided of its interior. “By 2030, the New leagues on the city and state level, Katz York State Pavilion is an illuminated, ful- welcomed the borough’s Community Board ly-restored structure, featuring an open-air members, who are appointed by her. “In performance space under the Tent of To- my fi rst term, we made a concerted effort morrow.” to move the Boards toward a healthier bal- By then, Katz will be 64, but she also ance between long-time experience, which PPhotohoto Credit:Credit: YYaakovaakov KKatzatz SStudiostudios recognized that she may not live to see all is why we shouldn’t have term limits for ough’s diverse communities, across faiths, Looking at the future, Katz made 2030 of the items on her wish list. She referred community boards, and fresh perspectives. civics, races, genders, and cultures,” said the benchmark year for a list of long-term to her sons as the benefi ciaries of a better Over 30 percent of all my appointments in Katz. “It will be called the Queens Complete goals. These include a complete elimination Queens in the years ahead. “When I put Car- the last four years are new. That’s 249 indi- Count Committee, and it will be charged of trailer classrooms, upgraded libraries ter and Hunter to bed every night in the very viduals who began serving, for the fi rst time with strategizing and maximizing participa- serving as “hi-tech anchors for the growing same bedroom that I grew up in, I’m con- ever, on a Community Board.” tion in the census count in 2020.” families of their communities,” and the new fi dent that we are building here something Although Community Boards are adviso- On the borough’s infrastructure, Katz 116th police precinct for neighborhoods on better, something brighter, stronger for the ry and their members are unpaid, they are touted expanded public library branches the borough’s eastern edge. Transportation future generations that we may never even regarded as the lowest and most local level that reopened in the past year in Queens- items on Katz’s wish list that must clear fea- get to meet.” of government, a voice of the community boro Hill, Elmhurst, and Kew Gardens Hills. before agencies and elected offi cials. As the Around the coastline of Queens, the subsi- borough’s diversity can be quantifi ed by eth- dized ferry service has exceeded ridership nicity and geography, having younger mem- expectations, with stops at Rockaway Park, bers also contributes towards making these Astoria, and Long Island City. Within Bor- panels more representative of the popula- ough Hall, the city’s Department of Veter- tion. ans Affairs opened a satellite offi ce so that Another place where representation mat- clients do not have to take the long trip to ters is the census, which determines the downtown Manhattan. number of Congress members for the state. Where there is still much work to do is “Another census undercount in New York education. Katz noted that in her fi rst term, is not an impossibility,” said Katz. “But we 77 trailer classrooms were removed across have so much at stake here in Queens: fed- Queens, but it still remains the borough eral resources for infrastructure, for health with the most overcrowded public schools. services and for our schools; representation “Most other boroughs are below capacity, by our local elected offi cials; and more.” In but we exceed capacity at 108 percent. Our the past two census counts, New York’s Con- schools haven’t kept up with the growth of gressional delegation was reduced in favor our families,” said Katz. “Queens receives of Florida and California, whose population the lowest amount of funding per pupil growth exceeded that of New York. than every other borough. So we have the “As such, I will convene a committee this most kids, but get the least amount to edu- year comprised of leadership from the bor- cate per kid.” UUndernder Katz’sKatz’s leadership,leadership, tthehe NNewew YYorkork SStatetate PPavilionavilion wwillill uundergondergo mmajorajor rrenovationsenovations UN Honors “March Of The Living” For 30 Years Of Holocaust Education

CONTINUED FROM P. 37 the torch of memory to future generations throughout the world, the lesson will nev- explained March of the Living Chairman er be learned, and our very humanity will Dr. Shmuel Rosenman. hang in the balance.” During her address, Phyllis Heideman, In addition to the spirited performances President of the March of the Living, urged of Ani Maamin and HaTikvah that opened all in attendance to dissuade others of the and closed the evening respectively, the notion that the Holocaust is just a distant event also featured the debut of the stir- historical event, and work to educate them ring original song “The Last Survivor,” sung that it is, in fact, a perpetual symbol of the in Hebrew, English, and Arabic by Israeli darkness within. “The study of the Holo- performers Amir Benayoun, Miri Mesika, caust and its lessons is the last hope of all and David D’Or. (Watch it at tinyurl.com/ mankind. If we do not succeed in passing TheLastSurvivor.)

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Meng Condemns President Of Poland’s Decision To Sign Controversial Holocaust Bill Decision comes after Meng sends letter to President Duda urging him not to sign

.S. Rep. Grace Meng (D-NY) Tuesday on for expressing the sentiment that Po- PPolisholish PresidentPresident AAndrzejndrzej DDudauda condemned Polish President An- land was involved in the Holocaust,” said Udrzej Duda’s decision to sign con- Rep. Meng. “For the Polish government to locaust in Poland. I strongly urge President against Jews in occupied Poland during troversial legislation that would criminal- ban specifi c phrases that it disagrees with Duda to reconsider his misguided decision World War II, on February 1. On Tuesday, ize references to Polish complicity in the is censorship. School teachers, Holocaust and do the right thing by abandoning this President Duda announced that he will Holocaust. Meng also sent a letter to Duda survivors, and other Polish citizens should hurtful legislation.” sign the legislation into law, against the urging him not to sign the legislation. not be censored or punished for sharing The Polish parliament passed the leg- strong concerns of Members of Congress “It is unspeakable that Poland is even their stories or trying to educate future islation, which criminalizes references and the governments of the United States contemplating sending its citizens to pris- generations about experiences of the Ho- to Polish complicity in Nazi war crimes and Israel. Multiple Generations Honored At Young Israel Of Jamaica Estates 39th Anniversary Dinner he Young Israel of Jamaica Estates ative frequency of multiple generations, three instances, the younger generation projects, Scholar in Residence and Lecture highlighted the multi-generational siblings, and other relatives living within was raised in Jamaica Estates, moving from series, Yachad Shabbatons, housing of the nature of their community at their the community. On Shabbos morning, it is the youth department to the teen and col- Queens JEP program for public school stu- Tth 39 Anniversary Dinner this past Motza’ei not uncommon to fi nd three generations legiate programs and ultimately following dents, and a myriad of Israel activism and Shabbos, February 3. of siblings and cousins sitting together in in the footsteps of their parents, serving on fundraising programs highlighted by the Well known throughout Queens and the shul. The generations also regularly partic- the board and taking on leadership roles in annual Memorial Day L’Chaim 5K Run for greater Jewish community for its friend- ipate together in the shul’s monthly family the shul and community. Israel. To date, YIJE has raised over a mil- ly, family atmosphere and highlighted by mitzvah mornings and Motza’ei Shabbos In each instance, a third generation of lion dollars for terrorist victims and their chesed, youth, and community program- Parent-(and Grandparent)-Child Learning children is now active in the unparalleled families, as well as medical and security ming for nearly 40 years, the Young Israel Program. and vibrant youth program that serves needs in Israel. of Jamaica Estates (YIJE) has served as an in- At this year’s dinner, YIJE highlighted the entire community, well beyond mem- These families share a love for their shul stitution well beyond the services of a typi- three such multigenerational families. bership and geographic boundaries, with as a community center in Jamaica Estates, cal synagogue. Led for more than a quarter Honorees included Ruthie & Phil Fyman Shabbos, holiday, and competitive sports Queens, and beyond. They have all demon- of a century by Rabbi Shlomo Hochberg with their children Dina (Fyman) and Jay programming. Each of these families con- strated, through action, what it takes to and his wife Karen, along with multiple Lehon, Jane & Martin Schulman with their tributes its time and resources to the shul’s successfully grow a community, and they generations of dedicated professional and children Beata and Eylan Schulman, and reputation as a model of chesed not only continue to transmit this ethic from one lay leaders, YIJE has served as the prima- Helen & Sandy Silverman with their chil- within its own neighborhood, but also for generation to the next. ry vibrant and active Jewish community dren Lauren and Daniel Silverman. Each is its demonstrated commitment to larger center of the Jamaica Estates, Holliswood, a shining example of the next generation Jewish and communal causes on a local, re- For more information about the Young Is- Fresh Meadows area. choosing to live and raise their family in gional, and global level. Community-wide rael of Jamaica Estates, visit yije.org or call One signifi cant aspect of YIJE is the rel- their hometown of Jamaica Estates. In all activities include family-oriented mitzvah 718-479-7500. Rabbi Eli Mansour Speaks On The Signifi cance of Tu BiSh’vat At Lander College By Susie Garber The name of Adnus represents judgment and strictness. There is a natural, predictable order to the world, which n Tuesday evening, January 30, Lander College for is being guided by Hashem. The root letters of the Hebrew Men/Beis Medrash L’Talmud and Chazaq sponsored word for “world,” olam, is ayin-lamed-mem, which means Oa community shiur at Lander. Rabbi Moshe Bam- concealed. When we shine the G-d of Adnus, it shows that berger, Mashgiach Ruchani of Beis Medrash L’Talmud in- G-d is managing the judgments of nature. Revelation of G-d troduced Rabbi Eli Mansour. is mercy; concealment of G-d is judgment. The purpose of Rabbi Mansour began by speaking about mitzvos involv- our service is to look at nature and realize that Hashem is ing trees. The laws of maaser and t’rumah depend on the hiding behind it. Teva (nature) and Elokim (G-d) have the year of the trees. In the Gemara, Tu BiSh’vat is referred to same g’matria. G-d created nature with predictability. Pre- as a minor holiday. There is no Tachanun recited and no dictability causes us sometimes not to see G-d. However, fasting is permitted on this day. M’kubalim have stated actually, when there is predictability, this is the biggest that Tu BiSh’vat is a propitious time to daven for zivugim. proof that there is a World Manager. He suggested that the possible reason for this is that a mar- He then described some of the miracles in nature. For riage, like a tree, is for the purpose of being fruitful. He also example, the way rain comes down in drops, which pre- noted that on Tu BiSh’vat, we pray that Hashem will grant vents an unlimited fl ow and fl ood, is a miracle. Rain com- us a good esrog for the coming Sukkos. Tu BiSh’vat is also a ing down in drops that don’t touch each other could not time to renew our commitment to making brachos. happen by itself. He pointed out that we recite brachos on Rabbi Mansour then shared that each holiday has its a tree when it starts budding in Nisan, even before it starts own avodah. On Sukkos, the avodah is to work on our at- bearing fruit. Trees allow us to breathe through photosyn- titude – to be joyful. On Pesach, our avodah is to free our- thesis. In a sense, every tree is a natural oxygen tank. selves from negative things. On Shavuos, our avodah is to Rabbi Mansour concluded by saying that when we rec- work on our commitment to Torah study. So, what is the ognize G-d in nature, this sweetens judgments. avodah of Tu BiSh’vat? Rabbi Mansour explained that the yud-kei-vav-kei name of Hashem is spelled one way and pronounced a different RRabbiabbi EliEli MMansouransour sspeakingpeaking way. This name always represents things outside of nature. aatt LanderLander CCollegeollege oonn TTuu BBiSh’vatiSh’vat

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By Sergey Kadinsky

he reenactment of the 1947 UN Parti- tion vote on Palestine that was host- Ted by Israel at the Queens Museum last November continues to divide the lead- ership of the museum. This past weekend, board trustee Kristian Nammack tendered his resignation in a short letter to his col- leagues. “This action is in opposition to the hu- man rights abuses of the Israeli occupation of Palestine and of the human rights abuses of Mike Pence and the entire Trump admin- istration as warned today in the annual re- port by Human Rights Watch.” Having been opposed to the Israeli-sponsored reenact- NNammack’sammack’s rresignationesignation ccomesomes ddaysays aafterfter ment, Nammack was further incensed that mmuseumuseum ddirectorirector LLauraaura RRaicovichaicovich ((seenseen hhereere the star speaker was Vice President Pence, iinn herher TTwitterwitter pprofilerofile ppicture)icture) aannouncednnounced sshehe who used religious references in express- wwasas ssteppingtepping ddownown ing his support for Israel and defended rec- ognition of Jerusalem as the Israeli capital. icovich was penned over the weekend by Nammack’s politically charged resigna- some 40 individuals associated with art tion follows that of museum director Lau- institutions across the country, with a few ra Raicovich, whose parting words did not from abroad. Their letter hinted at a sepa- IInsidenside thethe QueensQueens MMuseumuseum ((QueensQueens MMuseum)useum) mention the recent controversy. A fi nan- rate political controversy involving Queens cial services consultant and artist, Nam- Museum. Art News reported that the mu- to contend with that are so wrong in the Museum has a director or trustee been as mack promotes socially-inspired investing seum’s board had disagreed with her deci- world,” Raicovich said in an interview with politically divisive. The ex-offi cio trustees through his Intentional Endowments Net- sion to cancel regular programming at the The New York Times. “That’s where my fo- of this publicly-funded museum include the work. Among his better-known causes are museum on January 20, 2017, as part of a cus and energy needs to be.” Mayor, Council Speaker, Borough President, the grassroots Occupy Sandy and the AIDS nationwide artists’ strike against President Art is by nature a subject of controversy, Parks Commissioner, and Cultural Affairs advocacy organization Act-Up. Donald Trump’s inauguration. “There are so liked by some and disliked by others, but Commissioner Tom Finkelpearl, the latter A separate letter of support for Ra- many big things that art and culture have never before in the history of the Queens being a former director of the museum. Orthodox Union Strongly Opposes Poland’s Proposed Legislation To Criminalize References To Its Role In Holocaust Atrocities he Union of Orthodox Jewish have expressed alarm over the legisla- Congregations of America, the tion; a US Congressional taskforce on Tnation’s largest Orthodox Jewish combating anti-Semitism on Wednes- umbrella organization, strongly opposes day called on the Polish president to the Polish government’s proposed leg- veto it. islation that would make it a crime to Orthodox Union President Mark suggest that Poland or any Polish person (Moishe) Bane stated: “This is the wrong bears responsibility for atrocities com- way to go about educating future gen- mitted during the Holocaust. erations about Poland’s role in the Poland’s upper house of parliament Holocaust. Even though Nazi Germany passed the bill a few days ago by a 57- obviously bears primary responsibility 23 vote, with two abstentions; the lower for the Shoah, the proposed law grossly house approved it on Friday, a day be- minimizes the fact that Polish citizens fore the annual commemoration of In- did indeed commit heinous acts, on Pol- ternational Holocaust Remembrance ish soil, against the Jewish people and Day. It now awaits the signature of Pol- other victims during World War II.” ish President Andrzej Duda, who sup- Orthodox Union Executive Vice Presi- ports it. dent Allen I. Fagin stated: “Sadly, this leg- The law would impose sentences of islation comes across as little more than up to three years in prison for those an attempt to rewrite history. Not only who refer to the Nazi death camps set would such a law criminalize speaking up in Poland during World War II as about Polish involvement in the Holo- “Polish death camps” or otherwise as- caust – a provable matter of fact – it dis- sign blame to Poles for crimes against torts an important part of recent world millions of Jews and others in Poland history. We call on President Duda to during the Holocaust. take immediate action to veto this of- Both the US and Israeli governments fensive legislation.”

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itting among lawmakers, labor organ- izer Stuart Appelbaum could be mis- Staken for a colleague, having walked the legislative halls for years in support of legislation that improved workers’ lives. But he is also an activist who marches in demonstrations, and gathers signatures in unionization campaigns. He is also a diplomat in a way, building relationships between American labor or- ganizers and their counterparts in Israel, among other countries. He did not make much ado before going into a manifesto on the virtues of organized labor. “We have the greatest income inequality since the Great Depression. Fewer workers belong PPhotohoto Credit:Credit: IIzzyzzy PPeskowitzeskowitz to unions. It’s bad for our society,” said Ap- van of Catholic Charities of New York, they patronize those businesses. pelbaum at the Queens Jewish Community met with labor leaders, survivors, and fami- On the higher end of retail, in the past Council’s (QJCC) Legislative Breakfast on ly members of the dead to highlight unsafe two years RWDSU successfully unionized February 4 at the Young Israel of Kew Gar- working conditions that produced clothing employees at Zara and H&M, based on the dens Hills. “When workers come together worn by Americans, and the need for work- labor practices of these two companies’ Eu- collectively, they come together to improve ers to organize. Appelbaum described the ropean home countries. “Polls show that SStuarttuart AAppelbaumppelbaum wwasas tthehe gguestuest sspeakerpeaker their workplaces.” mission as an example of Jewish teachings a majority of workers wish to unionize if aatt thethe QQJCC’sJCC’s LLegislativeegislative BBreakfastreakfast Alongside his position as President of and Catholic social values put into practice. they have the freedom to do so.” oonn FebruaryFebruary 4 iinn KKewew GGardensardens HHillsills the Retail, Wholesale and Department On the local scene, Appelbaum spoke of In his role at the Jewish Labor Commit- Store Union (RWDSU), Appelbaum is also his union’s work in fi ghting for fi xed sched- tee, Appelbaum has been critical of Israel’s ticularly vulnerable to these reprehensible an Executive Vice President of the 1.3-mil- ules, which would enable members to at- leadership at times, but is also an import- schemes and have no means of protecting lion-member United Food and Commercial tend school and take care of their children ant voice of opposition to BDS, encourag- themselves,” said Meng. “The Postal Service Workers International Union, president of when they are not “on call.” Another cam- ing investment in Israel and cooperation must act at once to stop this unconscio- the Jewish Labor Committee, and a long- paign in which RWDSU has been active is between the labor movements of both nable crime. The agency must replace all time fi xture in Democratic Party institu- the movement to unionize car wash work- countries. In his speech to the QJCC, Comp- collection boxes in Queens with anti-theft tions, such as its past presidential conven- ers, who were being paid wages below the troller Dinapoli spoke of his effort against collection boxes to prevent continued mail tions and election campaigns. Focusing on minimum wage with the expectation that BDS by continuing to invest the state’s pen- fi shing in our borough.” In her letter to building connections between workers of the difference is made up in tips. Appel- sion fund in Israel, and visiting the country the Postal Service, Meng also noted delays all industries and places, he acknowledged baum said that the tips do not always cover to take a fi rsthand look at how the money in service that followed a snowstorm last New York State Comptroller Tom Dinap- the difference, must be split between work- is being spent. month, which surprised her constituents. oli at the breakfast. “We fl ew together to ers, and their supervisors. “When you pay In her address at the breakfast, Congress- “Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld brought this to our Bangladesh in 2013, where the Rana Plaza the tip, you do not know where it goes,” woman Grace Meng spoke of mailbox fi sh- attention. I am working together with Con- factory fl oor collapsed,” said Appelbaum. said Appelbaum. With Pesach cleaning ap- ing, a practice where thieves take signed gressman Greg Meeks and Congressman “He didn’t use government funding or cam- proaching, Appelbaum promised to share a checks from mailboxes using sticky tape Joe Crowley on this,” said Meng. “Postal de- paign funds to fl y; he used his personal list of unionized car washes in Queens so and then cash the checks. “Many of the vic- livery is one of the most basic functions of funds.” Along with Monsignor Kevin Sulli- that supportive Orthodox consumers will tims of mail fi shing are seniors who are par- postal service.”

The Five Words I Hate Norman Doors

CONTINUED FROM P. 26 Word #5: Eliminate CONTINUED FROM P. 8 showed how being more active in the Oh, how I hate this word! It’s actual- wrong areas leads to sacrifi cing the ment Plan – what’s wrong with that? ly a new one and I shudder every time when all that’s needed is push rather very things we want to achieve, and Most people I know actually buy this I read it. “The IDF eliminated three ter- than pull. Ease up; you may not fi gure they get harder to achieve because we nonsense and look at me in a weird way rorists last night in Jenin.” First of all, out a better plan, but you will at least didn’t design the right plan for success. when I educate them with the truth, please refer to what I wrote above; these have stopped holding yourself back. Once we know what success is, we can how this was no “disengagement” but animals were not terrorists. Second, The other aspect that we can’t ignore go about getting there effi ciently. Put an “expulsion.” Once again, the mouth is they were not “eliminated” – they were about the Norman Door is poor design. the big rocks in fi rst – get your priori- quicker than the ears as the fancy word killed, as they should have been! Does It’s the whole reason people are rattling ties right – and all the other rocks fall magician slips his opinions into the very anyone believe that the world will like and tugging at the door in the fi rst place. into place, too. words he uses. Israel better if the IDF doesn’t kill the We can be the cause of our own un- Parshas Mishpatim is not a set of bad guys but merely eliminates them? doing because of our poor planning. Norman Doors, but I think we some- Word #4: Territories By using this word, the masterful illu- We easily and unwittingly create times put them up in front of the mitz- By pulling this word out of his hat, the sionist does an incredible trick of chang- scenarios that are destined for failure. vos, making it harder to serve Hashem magician succeeds in making you think ing Goliath into David – or so he thinks. Our own poor life decisions hinder our than it has to be. that the 500,000 Jews living in Yehudah In reality, however, he makes Israel look ability to thrive and, like the Norman In VaEschanan – just before the Aseres and Shomron are like Indians running weak, which is what his real intention Door, end up inconveniencing others HaDibros are repeated – Moshe says, “I around tepees in a reservation. These was all along. as well. stood between you and Hashem at that people don’t live in cities or towns, like Some people have a knack for sim- time (at Har Sinai).” The Baal Shem Tov normal people. No, no, no. These wild I could give another 50 examples of plifying things. (Legendary salesman explains that standing between us and West Bankers and their fanatical families words that are designed to change your Ron Popeil is a great example. Malcolm Hashem is anochi; our shortcomings have squatted on land and live in the “ter- thinking. They are used to brainwash Gladwell said he wished Ron designed and selfi shness are the real barriers to ritories.” Therefore, when you hear the the listeners and, sadly, they work. You the VCR: It would have just three large, closeness to Hashem. nonsense of creating a Palestinian state need to be aware of this fact so that you colored buttons, and you could just Life was meant to be enjoyed. Once (for a nation that doesn’t exist) where see through the lies. “set and forget it.”) Other people have a you get around those doors (or see that some loonies currently live in territories, knack for complicating them. they never existed), a rich cup of coffee you have no problem coming to the con- These words are not “politically Stephen Covey demonstrates this awaits, along with a half dozen warm, clusion that these extremists should be correct” as they claim to be, so please: brilliantly with his famous “Big Rocks” fresh French Crullers and double-choc- thrown out (I mean, disengaged). See how Delete them from your vocabulary and presentation. olate doughnuts. How you get there is easy it is? don’t be fooled ever again! With some stones and a jar, he up to you.

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Emet Couples Event With Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafi er Draws Full House each other’s feelings and actions. If a cou- ple understands these concepts and inter- nalizes them, it will make it much easier for married couples to coexist in a harmo- nious manner. Emet is not just a group of rabbis who set up couples events and mother-daughter paint nights. They are an institution that turns lives around. They work with each individual personally to light their spark in Judaism on their own level and at their own pace. I have seen their work for al- most a decade. They have extreme patience By Avraham Yakubov transforming young adults who have no background in Judaism, turning them into n Motza’ei Shabbos, January 27, the upstanding Jewish souls. Many at the event long-awaited couples event with were couples who have passed through ORabbi Ben Tzion Shafi er took place, the gamut of Emet’s programs as individu- organized by the Emet Outreach organiza- als and are now proudly sitting with their tion. Because of some rough weather at spouses and reaping the fruits. the beginning of this month, the shiur was After the event I spoke with Rabbi postponed. Finally, with a packed crowd of Rutenberg and I told him about the con- almost 200 people, the event became a real- versation at the table at which I had been ity and, oh, was it real! Once everyone en- seated. Many were wondering about the tered Beit Gavriel’s main fl oor, there were secret to the success of Emet events. I ques- hardly any seats left in the room. With fi ve tioned Rabbi Rutenberg about this and his sushi men manning the open sushi bar, Su- reply was absolutely amazing. He said that shi Tokyo was able to roll up many differ- Emet has a wonderful vision. He said that ent tantalizing rolls and salads to add extra grams that Emet is involved in on a week- the Emet team tries to tackle every event excitement to the evening. As everyone pa- ly basis. The Emet Leaders Fellowship with the heart. When it comes from the tiently and respectfully came to the bar, it program, a ten-week, in-depth course that heart it ensures success. He mentioned was a pleasure to see many familiar faces teaches young Jewish men and ladies the how just this past week 17 young men were from all over the Queens area. I saw friends various aspects of Judaism, runs in fi ve-to- respect her husband exceedingly, treating handpicked to go to Arizona for a learning from Rego Park, Forest Hills, Jamaica Es- six locations per semester. Rabbi Rutenberg him like a king or a prince. Rabbi Shafi er and touring trip. Four rabbis accompanied tates, Fresh Meadows, Kew Gardens, Kew mentioned how Beit Gavriel has been so in- clearly explained these fundamental words these 17 young men, not to keep them on Gardens Hills, and other neighborhoods. I strumental, since the inception of Emet, in to the audience. If each one of us was to high security, but to give them individu- think that if it were not “yeshivah week” facilitating the various programs that they abide by these rules, there would not be alized attention so that each person feels with many still on vacation, we would have run off-campus. shalom bayis issues. Typically, however, in special. The same thing was done with a had to extend to the second fl oor and do Rabbi Shafi er, as always, was amazing a marriage, each spouse waits to see how group of 19 girls who went to Miami, Flori- a live video conference of the event. The and funny but exactly on target. Rabbi Sha- the other side is going to treat them and da, this month. event was impressively fi lled to capacity. fi er started the shiur with a fundamental the waiting game lasts for decades. Another This is what Emet is all about. It’s about Rabbi Akiva Rutenberg, CEO of Emet Rambam about husband and wife. A hus- important point mentioned by Rabbi Shafi - forming relationships that go far beyond Outreach, introduced the evening and the band is supposed to love his wife as he er is that men and women are intrinsically the shuls and the colleges. It’s about con- people involved in setting up the night’s loves himself and respect her more than different from each other. Because of this necting one Jewish soul at a time to its program. He mentioned the various pro- he respects himself. A wife is supposed to difference, it is very diffi cult to understand source, the Creator of all. Touro Graduate School Of Social Work To Award NEFESH International Scholarships News Announced by Dean Huberman at 21st Annual NEFESH International Conference

ouro’s Graduate School “Natural Collaborators” be professionals,” said GSSW stu- of Social Work (GSSW) is “Our relationship with NEF- dent Sarah Kaplan. “You can feel Tlaunching a new NEFESH ESH International grows each the passion for the fi eld of mental International scholarship for stu- year,” stated Miriam Turk, GSSW’s health here.” dents at the school. The news was outreach liaison and recruitment Binyamin Nussbaum, a mem- announced at the 21st annual NEF- director, Jewish community, who ber of the fi rst Touro social work ESH International Mental Health also serves as NEFESH executive male cohort class, delivered a post- Conference held recently in Haup- director. “NEFESH International er presentation on Religion and pauge, New York. provides further training and Mental Health. Nussbaum, who NEFESH International – a net- continuing education to many together with GSSW professor Dr. work and training association of of GSSW’s alumni and students. Steven Pirutinsky, presented on Orthodox social workers, mental Together Touro and NEFESH In- their study later in the evening, health professionals, rabbis, and ternational are natural collabora- explored the relationship between educators – brought together hun- tors in developing social workers religiosity and mental well-being. dreds of practitioners from around for the Orthodox Jewish commu- “Touro has been amazing for the world for the conference, of nity.” me,” said Nussbaum, who is doing which the GSSW was a key spon- commodations sponsored by the pursue his career and embrace his The attending students ap- his internship with seniors at the sor. school. The new Touro social work religious faith. In speaking about plauded the efforts put forth at the Jewish Federation of Oceanside. Delivering a keynote during scholarship will enable students, his own journey to becoming a conference, where both students “It’s given us all so many opportu- the fi rst evening, GSSW Dean Dr. nominated by NEFESH members, leader in the social work fi eld, he and faculty presented. “It really so- nities. Touro wants us to succeed.” Steven Huberman told the crowd, to work as clinicians in agencies recounted his troubled upbring- lidifi ed why I came into this line Dean Huberman concluded, “Funding will never be a barrier serving the Jewish community. ing and the poverty he endured of work,” explained GSSW student “NEFESH and the Touro Gradu- for continuing your education at “One person can make a dif- as a child. He recently received Rivkah R. Drebin about the confer- ate School of Social Work have a Touro.” ference,” Huberman explained, the “Top Leadership Award” from ence. unique partnership at every level Sixteen GSSW students attend- adding that the help of benefac- the National Association of Social “It’s a great opportunity for to strengthen klal Yisrael – the Jew- ed, with membership fees and ac- tors and mentors enabled him to Workers-New York City Chapter. both professionals and soon-to- ish people.”

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Dassy Lichtman Speak On The Power Of Forgiveness At YIQV By Susie Garber with Elissa Epstein this feeling. Another perspective that Mrs. Licht- were killed. Amazingly, the grandfather She then gave some practical ideas of man gave was from the Sefer HaChinuch. was still able to greet this man cordially. He n Monday evening, January 29, Mrs. how to quell this desire for revenge. She We know that anything that happens to explained that he accepted some responsi- Dassy Lichtman delivered an eye- began with a story about Rav Elchonon us, good or diffi cult, was orchestrated by bility for the tragedy, as he had presented Oopening lecture on Torah perspec- Wasserman zt”l. Rav Wasserman was in Hashem and is for a reason. An example of his friend with an impossible choice. tives on revenge at the Young Israel of the United States, trying to raise money this is Yosef and his brothers. Even though Mrs. Lichtman then explained some- Queens Valley. The lecture was sponsored for Jews in Europe during the Holocaust. his brothers had thrown him into a pit thing taught by Dr. David Pelcovitz. In an by Chazaq. Using anecdotes, commentar- In one shul, he spoke very movingly and and sold him into slavery, Yosef told them argument, no one is ever 100% right or ies, and practical examples, Mrs. Lichtman implored the congregants to imagine how that he was not angry with them, because wrong. Each party bears some responsi- endeavored to help the audience learn to much even one dollar could do to help a what happened to him was orchestrated bility, and we each need to discern our re- conquer what can often be a very power- Jew in Europe right now. At that point, by Hashem. Another example of this idea sponsibility for the other person’s negative ful urge. the rav of the shul, who was worried that in Tanach is the incident when Shim’i ben behavior. She began by noting the mitzvah in people would donate large amounts to Rav Geira cursed David HaMelech. David pro- She shared several more ideas, such as Parshas K’doshim that states that we Wasserman’s cause and not give money tected him from being killed, saying that the formula from Orchos Tzadikim that the may not take revenge or bear a grudge. to the shul, got up and said that everyone the curse was not from him, but from Hash- best way to take revenge is to become ex- The example given is a case when one should give one dollar to Rav Elchonon’s em. While we control and are responsible ceptionally pious. The Ramban taught that asks his neighbor to borrow a hammer cause. This was a wealthy shul and people for our own choices, Hashem controls the it is appropriate for a person to let all mat- and the neighbor refuses. In this case, could afford to give generously, but be- results of these choices. ters of this world go, because this world is “revenge” is defi ned as either refusing to cause of what the rav said, they each gave She then told a well-known story of a temporary and fl eeting. lend him the same item when the neigh- only one dollar. Later, Rav Wasserman saw Holocaust survivor who, many years lat- While experiencing some pain is in- bor asks to borrow it, or saying “I will lend this rabbi on the street and he greeted him er, met a friend from his hometown. His evitable, bearing grudges and seeking re- it to you because I am not like you.” Even graciously. When asked how he could do granddaughter, who was with him, ques- venge are forms of self-induced suffering having that thought is forbidden. We are this after what the rabbi had done, Rav tioned why he had greeted his friend cor- that will only weigh us down and keep us required to erase all memory of a negative Wasserman replied that he learned from dially, but not as warmly as was his usual from being happy. There is also a concept experience we had with someone. the Chofetz Chaim that every mitzvah has way of greeting people. He explained that that a person who forgives someone who Mrs. Lichtman pointed out that we can- a person who is meant to perform it. If during the Holocaust, he had obtained vi- wronged them will have all his sins forgiv- not let someone else’s negative choice af- one knocks on a door and asks if Reuven is sas that would allow him and his family en by Hashem, who is so generous with fect our own moral decisions. It is import- there and is told no, then he is at the wrong to leave Europe and escape certain death. His forgiveness. We should try to emulate ant to “wipe the slate clean” every day and address. Similarly, if you ask someone to do He hid the visas and told this man, his best Hashem in this respect. not remember past hurts or disappoint- a mitzvah and he refuses, it simply means friend, where they were hidden. His friend, She concluded with a brachah to the ments. It is a natural urge to want to get you are at the wrong address, and the per- who had his own family, took the visas and audience that we should be able to over- back at a person who has hurt us, but we son there doesn’t merit to be a conduit to used them to save himself and his family, come this challenge and be successful in are commanded by Hashem to overcome do this mitzvah. while the grandfather’s wife and children this area.

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UN Honors “March Of The Living” For 30 Years Of Holocaust Education Stirring International Holocaust Remembrance Day ceremony launches March of the Living Photo Exhibit at UN Headquarters n Monday evening, January 29, the Permanent Mission Oof Israel to the United Na- tions hosted a special ceremony to commemorate International Holocaust Remembrance Day and honor the International March of the Living for 30 years of outstand- ing Holocaust education program- ming. The event also launched the March of the Living’s photo exhibit at the UN headquarters en- titled “Witness: Passing the Torch of Holocaust Memory to New Gen- erations,” which honors the expe- riences shared by the many Holo- A guestguest iiss mmesmerizedesmerized bbyy tthehe MMarcharch ooff tthehe LLiving’siving’s nnewew pphotohoto eexhibitxhibit ““Wit-Wit- IIsrael’ssrael’s AAmbassadormbassador ttoo tthehe UUnitednited NNationsations DDannyanny DDanonanon aaddressedddressed tthehe caust survivors and students who have participated in the March of nness:ess: PPassingassing tthehe TTorchorch ooff HHolocaustolocaust MMemoryemory ttoo NNewew GGenerations”enerations” aatt tthehe ccrowdrowd atat thethe UUN’sN’s IInternationalnternational HHolocaustolocaust RRemembranceemembrance DDayay eeventvent oonn the Living since its inception in UUN’sN’s InternationalInternational HHolocaustolocaust RRemembranceemembrance DDayay eeventvent oonn JJanuaryanuary 2299 JJanuaryanuary 29,29, wwhichhich hhonoredonored tthehe MMarcharch ooff tthehe LLivingiving fforor 3300 yyearsears ooff oout-ut- 1988. sstandingtanding HolocaustHolocaust eeducationducation pprogrammingrogramming The evening, which incor- survivors, and more than 30 UN bility to remember those who per- for several weeks, is comprised hibition refl ects the connections porated spoken presentations, ambassadors from around the ished and to preserve and protect of a collection of 70 photos that that have been forged with the video tributes, and musical per- world, including Poland and Ger- the truth,” said Israel’s Ambassa- depict both the travesties of the youth over numerous trips and formances by past participants many. dor to the United Nations Danny Holocaust and the impact of the emphasizes the legacy and mes- of the March of the Living, was “Over the past few days, we Danon during the event. “Every immersive Holocaust education sage of Elie Wiesel: ‘When you lis- attended by Israel’s Ambassador have witnessed dangerous at- day, and especially on this day, it experience on youth from around ten to a witness, you become a wit- to the United States Ron Dermer, tempts to distort the truth and is our moral duty to do all in our the world. ness.’ This is especially important Israel’s Ambassador to the United rewrite history. Here, in the Unit- power to ensure that history never “The transfer of the torch of Ho- today as waves of anti-Semitism Nations Danny Danon, March of ed Nations, the organ established repeats itself.” locaust memory and the heroism are rising in the world and neo-Na- the Living’s Chairman Dr. Shmuel precisely because of the greatest The March of the Living’s pho- of the survivors to our youth has zi groups are rearing their heads,” Rosenman, and President Phyllis tragedy mankind has ever known, to exhibit, which will remain on always been the primary mission Heidemann, tens of Holocaust we have an even greater responsi- display at the UN headquarters of the March of the Living. This ex- CONTINUED ON P. 29

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‘Impactful Coaching’ Assists Teaching Multiple Intelligences In The YTM Classroom

ne of the many goals that every edu- sist the rebbeim in integration of new edu- cator faces when planning and pre- cational methods into the YTM classroom. Oparing his or her lesson is the need Rabbi Hoff started this process with a to reach every child in the classroom. The presentation of new methodologies at the fi eld of education is always evolving, and Veterans Day professional development new methods of education continue to be program. He then had rebbeim experiment introduced. The Yeshiva administration with these methods with their fellow ed- has an extensive network of educational ucators. The presentation was so well re- consultants who update them on these ad- ceived that the rebbeim requested that Rab- vances in education. bi Hoff spend time observing them in their Rabbi Naphtali Hoff of Impactful Coach- own classroom. Rabbi Hoff observed many ing, a well-respected educator who has lessons and critiqued them to bring these worked with schools that run the gambit new methods to successful implementa- of Jewish education, has spent extensive tion. time during the past few months lecturing, The Yeshiva thanks the Parents Associ- running workshops, observing, and coach- ation for sponsoring this training and for ing many Yeshiva Tiferes Moshe rebbeim. their commitment to the success of every Rabbi Hoff was charged by Rabbi May to as- YTM talmid. YCQ Grade 6 Tu BiSh’vat Shuk

By Avital Shakarov They do the Shuk in honor of Tu BiSh’vat. and Ilana Masheyev Diana Borochov said, “I like the Shuk be- cause we get to interact with more people.” et’s clap and cheer: The Shuk is here. The girls taught the younger grades about On Tuesday and Wednesday, Janu- how Tu BiSh’vat is the birthday of the trees Lary 30 and 31, the Yeshiva of Central and that to celebrate we eat certain foods. Queens JHS grade 6 girls had their annual This way, the students can experience a Shuk. In Israel, the Shuk is an Israeli out- real Shuk. door market. The girls set up and decorated Aleeza Ashurov said, “You get to see a the Multi-Purpose Room to try to mimic smile on their faces.” Sharona Masheyev the Israeli Shuk by singing a song about and Nava Gazal, two grade 4 visitors to the what they are selling. They served many Shuk said, “We feel like we are a part of varieties of foods, like dried fruits, candy, Israel.” The students loved their visit and drinks, vegetables, fruits, and bakery items. hope to come back again next year.

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Bnos Malka: Why Did The Chicken Cross The Road?

he Bnos Malka Pre-K students were were taught why the rooster says cock-a- excited to begin the fi rst component doodle-do. The children loved petting the Tof their involvement in a unique rooster and enjoyed the feel of the soft chick-hatching program. A representative feathers. from Quiver Farms in Pennsylvania drove Our representative taught the students down early Wednesday morning to deliver about the various steps in the hatching the eggs and introduce the students to the process, and the students enjoyed pretend- process. ing to be baby chicks while acting out the The children learned through hands-on different stages. experience about the various differences The boys and girls learned that a hen is a between a rooster and a hen when they natural incubator and how the incubation met Luvey and Duvey. They explored the process works when the hen is not there. waddle, the crown, and the special hackle The children can’t wait to take care of feathers on the rooster. They practiced the the eggs each day and watch them hatch various sounds that chickens make, and into baby chicks! SKA Reunion In Israel

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t’s one of the most anticipated visits of graduate had her own personal meeting to the year! discuss her progress and explore her aspi- I SKA graduates now attending Isra- rations for the second half of the year. el seminaries happily greeted each other Since the founding of SKA over 25 years and Head of School Mrs. Helen Spirn and ago, many graduates have made aliyah. Of Limudei Kodesh teacher and Israel Advisor the 42 alumnae of the Class of 1997, ten Mrs. Paghit Ralbag at the annual reunion out of 11 who now live in Israel held a spe- held on Monday evening, January 8, at cial melaveh malkah in Ramot welcoming Michlala. Mrs. Spirn and Limudei Kodesh teacher Production clips and the student-pro- Mrs. Myrna Weinberger. It was an incred- duced video, sending warm wishes and ible evening catching up and reminiscing! divrei brachah from Stella K. Abraham Thanks go to Mrs. Dahlia Openden Stein- High School for Girls administrators, fac- hardt for hosting this wonderful gathering. ulty members, and staff, were shown to You can see from the photos how de- heartfelt applause. After the reunion, Mrs. lighted all the formers SKAers are – they Spirn and Mrs. Ralbag visited every semi- may be in Israel, but they are still a part of nary their students attended; each SKA the SKA family!

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he Girls of Morah Ben-Ari’s class warm mazal tov wishes from each girl in Yeshiva Har Torah participated in the class. Morah Ben-Ari attended the Tin a very meaningful chesed pro- bas mitzvah and was able to share with ject before winter vacation. Having all the students how much of an impact the now already celebrated their own bas girls had made. Mi k’amcha Yisrael goy mitzvahs, the girls in the class decided to echad ba’aretz! Who is like your people, help enhance the bas mitzvah of a spe- Hashem? They look out for others who cial young lady with special needs. They may not have the same opportunities in eshiva Sha’arei Zion would like the good that He gives them, and connect made a short video related to her name, a life! May the chesed and sensitivity of all to congratulate Rabbi Menachem to Hashem by praying from their siddurim. photo montage, a centerpiece for her bas the children of klal Yisrael bring us closer YKolodny, Morah Roza Tachalov, The students sang a collection of songs mitzvah, and a beautiful scrapbook with to the days of Mashiach. and both Pre-1A classes, as well as Morah under the musical guidance of our very Tova Friedman, Mrs. Tammy Meirov and own Morah Shifra! The children thanked the First Grade girls on their Siddur Par- their parents for their constant support, ties! Parents, family, and friends gathered love, and involvement in their learning. Rambam Yeshiva University Honors in the YSZ ballroom to celebrate this im- After the performance there were tasty portant milestone. The students looked so refreshments, including three beautiful cute in their costumes, performing beauti- Mazal Tov cakes, for all the guests and Four For Four fully at the Siddur Play, singing and danc- students who shared in the simchah. As ing with innocent joy. the students were handed their siddurim, Mrs. Raizel Nissim, Principal of Girls Di- their faces lit up with such joy. The sound vision, led the Chagigat Siddur of our First of their voices singing reached a point of Grade girls. Mrs. Nissim shared her inspi- purity and innocence inside every one rational words to the crowd, encouraging of us and penetrated into the heart of all to turn to Hashem with our words of the Heavens, no doubt. The performance t’fi lah. The talmidot truly showed such ex- concluded with the poignant scene of the citement towards their personal journeys children kissing their brand new siddurim in connecting to Hashem. lovingly and their proud parents embrac- At the boys’ performances, Rabbi ing and kissing them. Ephraim Ben Mordechai, Principal of Boys May our children continue to have ex- Division, spoke to both parents and stu- citement each and every time they open ut of a Senior Class of approximate- Sam Sicklick is the President of Ram- dents of the Pre-1A classes. He gave them their siddurim, and may our t’fi lot be ac- ly 40 students, all four students who bam’s Senior Council and was previously the chizuk by explaining to the talmidim how cepted on high, in merit of their pure Oapplied from Rambam Mesivta for Vice President of the Student Government. they can daven and thank Hashem for all prayers. the prestigious Yeshiva University Honors He has played on the Varsity basketball early admissions program were accepted. team since tenth grade and also played for Rambam, since its inception over 25 years the hockey, soccer, and softball teams. Sam ago, has been consistently sending students currently is on the Dean’s List and learns in to the YU Honors Program, and now Char- Rabbi Ziskind’s Double Beis Midrash pro- lie Grill, Yoni Grossman, Samuel Sicklick, gram, as well as the YU Bekius program. He and Akiva Schuck are part of this legacy. was a member of the Rambam Scholars pro- Charles (Charlie) Grill of Long Beach is gram, often directs tisches and Shabbatons currently an Honors Student at Rambam for the students outside of school, and is the Mesivta. His favorite subjects include Cal- head of apparel design and distribution for culus and Halachah. He is Head Coordina- the school. Sam plans to learn in Israel for tor of the Blood Drive and part of the En- the next year or two, and then will be learn- trepreneur Academy. He has been part of ing in Yeshiva University. many teams such as Flagfootball, Debate, Akiva Schuck is the Vice President of and Model UN. Charlie is currently the Senior Council, and through almost four President of the Bach Synagogue in Long years of high school has been on the Prin- Beach, New York, and has been a counselor cipal’s List. He is on the hockey team, the at Camp Kaylie and interned at Cedarview softball team, and the rally committee. He Capital, a New York City hedge fund, over is part of the Double Beis Midrash program the summer. Charlie plans on spending a and, last year, he was part of a committee to year in Israel after he graduates. visit the German Consulate to discuss the Rosh Chodesh is never complete with- school’s attempt to prevent the desecration out the kavanah and inspiring voice of Yoni of a Jewish gravesite. Next year, he plans to Grossman. Yoni is a Dean’s List student and study in Israel before attending YU. a stalwart member of Rambam’s Masmidim Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, Rosh Mesivta After School Learning Program. He is the of Rambam, feels that “Charlie, Yoni, Sam, Varsity Hockey’s star goalie and a member and Akiva are truly continuing in the tradi- of the school’s Fire Safety Squad, Varsity tion of Rambam in terms of Torah, midos, Softball team, and Arista National Honor and excellence. We are confi dent that they Society. Yoni also plans on learning in Isra- will continue to bring nachas to all of us in el after he graduates. the years ahead.”

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Ezra Academy To Celebrate Fifty Years n 1968, there was a public school strike his students’ families, as many see him as Chanukah mesibos, Simchas Beis HaShoe- in New York that led to the closing of a father/grandfather fi gure and send him ivah programs, Lag BaOmer outings, and Iall the public schools for a few months. their family pictures the same way they so much more, on their own time. Not to During that time, Rabbi Eliyahu Marcus would their biological father. The care and mention that the school itself organizes came up with an idea to open a Jewish day concern for each and every student, which three Shabbatons and a school-wide retreat school to cater to all the Jewish children goes well beyond the walls of the school every year. now out of school. He saw this as an op- and past the school bell, is a founding pil- A recent graduate, Yitzchak Aminov, portunity to introduce Jewish education lar of the school. This, too, was established said, “I came to Ezra because of my friends to those children who were deprived of it by Rabbi Freilich. Being able to connect to who were going there, but stayed because in the public school system. The idea was each student as an individual and cater to the staff made me feel wanted and the re- born, but the right person was needed to his or her needs was not just a nice idea lationship I developed with them was in- run the school, someone who would be but a prerequisite for the staff he hired. credible.” This feeling is not his alone but Fran Hirschman, the school’s principal, able to bring the Torah to the level of the And he led by example, oftentimes staying that of any Ezra student, past or present will be the honorees. All are encouraged to children and be able to relate to them, too. after school to schmooze with students, (and future). come celebrate the amazing work, dedica- This was a diffi cult feat in the Sixties be- play them in chess, or any other way that The school will be celebrating fi fty years tion, and selfl essness that these two amaz- fore the kiruv movement was an idea. The was necessary. This idea has spread into so of success on February 17 at Da Mikele Illa- ing individuals have given over to count- search didn’t take too long; Rabbi Eli Freil- much more: rebbeim and teachers hosting gio in Queens. Rabbi Eli Freilich and Mrs. less people in their time at Ezra Academy. ich was the perfect fi t. The doors opened with a handful of students and never looked back. Ezra Academy, as the school was then named, has been serving the Brooklyn, Queens, Great Neck, and Bronx commu- nities, and beyond. The goal then was to help educate Jewish children in their roots and traditions, and that same goal remains the focus of the yeshivah to this very day. There is no one demographic that makes up the student body. We have had students of American, Persian, Israeli, Russian, and Bukharian descent. Students come here for high school and remain with us for the rest of their lives. Being invited to alumni weddings, their children’s bar and bas mitzvah and other simchos is commonplace. Rabbi Freilich has a wall in his offi ce with pictures of

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YU’s 28th Annual Model UN Tackles Complexities Of International Diplomacy YUNMUN competition to welcome over 400 student delegates from 47 schools in three countries rom Sunday, February 11, to Tuesday, da, and cities across the US and coordinate ed to one of 15 committees dealing with world. Mrs. Nitsana Darshan-Leitner has February 13, over 400 student dele- the multi-tiered program. issues of international concern, including dedicated her life to utilizing international Fgates from 47 yeshivah high schools “By hosting YUNMUN year after year, the Commission on the Status of Wom- court systems to defend Israel and Jewish and community day schools in three coun- Yeshiva University reinforces our com- en, the Counter-Terrorism Committee, the interests against law faor suits, fi ght aca- tries will gather at the Crowne Plaza Hotel munal responsibility to shape the destiny International Criminal Court, the Mid- demic and economic boycotts, and chal- and Conference Center in Stamford, Con- of our society, a message that is not lost dle East Summit, and the United Nations lenge those who seek to delegitimize the necticutt, to participate in the 28th annual on the event’s participants,” said Rachel Human Rights Committee. To argue their Jewish State. Under her direction, Shurat Yeshiva University National Model United Shandalov, YU’s Associate Director of Un- points effectively, students have been con- HaDin works with Western intelligence Nations conference (YUNMUN). Simulat- dergraduate Admissions and one of the ducting extensive research to ensure that agencies, law enforcement branches, and ing the countries and committees from event’s organizers. “Additionally, the stu- their countries’ interests and policies will a network of volunteer lawyers across the the real United Nations, the student del- dents come away from YUNMUN with a be faithfully represented. globe to fi le legal actions on behalf of ter- egates will learn about the complexities of broad knowledge of world affairs, having The conference will also feature a key- ror victims. international diplomacy while discussing gained numerous life skills in an academic, note address by Israeli activist attorney The YUNMUN closing ceremonies will a wide range of issues, including gender intellectual, and social forum. In this way, Nitsana Darshan-Leitner, the founder of include the presentation of awards to the roles, human rights, and international law. YUNMUN is truly an experience like no Shurat HaDin – Israel Law Center, who best delegates and honorable mentions More than 75 YU undergraduate stu- other.” will educate the student delegates about on each UN committee as well as remarks dents will be on hand at the event to assist In preparation for the event, students the use of legal action to fi ght terrorism from Yeshiva University President Rabbi the high school groups from Brazil, Cana- have been assigned countries and appoint- and safeguard Jewish rights around the Dr. Ari Berman. Yeshiva University’s Annual Jewish Job Fair to Be Held On Tuesday, February 27 eshiva University’s annual Jewish Job Fair, one of the largest Jewish Ynetworking opportunities in the United States, expects hundreds of Jew- ish professionals and dozens of Jewish organizations to come together on Tues- day, February 27, on the University’s Wilf Campus in New York’s Washington Heights neighborhood. The Fair offers participants a unique opportunity to meet with a vari- ety of Jewish organizations, educational institutions, and advocacy groups to learn about the work the organizations do and opportunities for employment, as well as to interview for openings on the spot. The Fair is a collaborative effort be- tween Yeshiva University’s Center for the Jewish Future, the Azrieli Graduate School of Jewish Education and Administration, the Bernard Revel Graduate School of Jewish Studies, the Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary, and the Wurzweiler School of Social Work. The Azrieli Graduate School is also host- ing a pre-Fair event, the fi rst ever “Azrieli HUB: Reconnect, Connect, Recharge” con- ference. Billed as an “unconvention,” the HUB is a non-traditional conference that will convene Orthodox Jewish education professionals, Azrieli students, and alumni to consider and address the challenges and opportunities that students, schools, and families present. The two-day HUB conference will be held at the Crowne Plaza Hotel in Engle- wood, New Jersey, on February 26-27. On the second day, Monday, the HUB moves to the Wilf Campus in upper Manhattan for the fi nal segment of the program and the Jewish Job Fair, which begins at 6 p.m. Pre-registration to the Job Fair is now open for employers and job seekers. To book appointments and for instruction on how to prepare, please visit https://www.yu.edu/ jewishjobfair.

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n Motzaei Shabbat, January 6, tured a wide variety of presenters, includ- and Rockland Counties. Given its close over 70 people braved the be- ing Rabbi Natan Slifkin, Rabbi Dr. Ephraim proximity to schools in the Bronx and Olow freezing temperatures to Kanarfogel, Dr. Mordechai Kedar, and Sen- Westchester, no compromises need to be attend Fleetwood Synagogue’s 14th ator Joseph Lieberman. made regarding educational choices for Annual Charles Sidlow Memorial Lecture After the two shiurim, guests were in- children. The small community meets Program. The program was titled “Issues vited downstairs for a dairy dinner and the diverse needs of all its congregants in Contemporary Society through a a chance to learn more about this grow- and offers daily minyanim, an eruv that Jewish Lens,” and featured two wonderful ing community. Fleetwood Synagogue is forever expanding, and reasonable speakers: Ms. Shuli Taubes and Rabbi Jere- is a close-knit Orthodox shul located in costs of living (you can purchase a beau- my Wieder. Shuli Taubes serves as a faculty Mount Vernon, in lower Westchester tiful four-bedroom house with the stun- member at SAR High School in Riverdale, County between Riverdale and New Ro- ning and quaint Westchester look for less where she teaches Tanach, Jewish Identity, chelle. The shul and community has a than $450,000). Given these highlights, it and chairs the Jewish Philosophy depart- distinctly “own of town” feel to it (warm, is no wonder Fleetwood has a growing ment. She has also developed and teaches participatory, a place where everyone is membership base and is attracting the a curriculum for educating Modern Ortho- sponsored by Robert Sidlow, Richard Si- important,) yet is truly “in town.” From attention of orthodox families looking dox high school students in comparative dlow, and their families, and is dedicated the Fleetwood station (only two blocks to move to suburban Westchester—but religion. Rabbi Wieder is the Joseph and to the memory of their father, Charles Si- away from shul) one can ride the Metro remain close to it all. Gwendolyn Straus Professor of Talmud dlow a”h. The memories of their father’s North to Grand Central Terminal in only For further information on Fleet- at Yeshiva University, where he serves as intellectual curiosity, his passion for learn- twenty-fi ve minutes; in addition, Fleet- wood Synagogue and its neighborhood Rosh Yeshiva and Adjunct Professor of Bi- ing, and his love of Judaism have inspired wood sits at the intersection of four less than thirty minutes away from Kew ble. them to establish this program as a fi tting major highways, providing easy access to Gardens Hills, contact Rabbi Rosenfelt The Scholar-in-Residence Program is tribute to his life. Past events have fea- Manhattan, Queens, Long Island, Bergen, at [email protected].

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current symptoms and problems. These memories are encoded in all sorts of ways, Getting Past Your Past: some of which may be unnecessarily in- tense. Your reaction made sense for the un- Take Control Of Your Life With Self-Help Techniques From EMDR Therapy derstanding and resources you had at the time, and you are not to blame for how it af- BByy FrancineFrancine ShapiroShapiro fected you. Certain emotions or cognitions become attached to certain triggers due to This book will help you: but this part I need to work on.” the pivotal event, rational or not. You can However, certain events may overwhelm process them with new eyes and rationali- the brain and the body, such as a traumatic ty to attach a healthier cognition to it. You • Learn how unprocessed event or a triggering event, and the memo- can choose to look at touchstone memories ry remains unprocessed. An unprocessed with adult eyes and mind now. Beliefs and memories affect your memory may cause distress by triggering emotions that may have felt intense, com- behavior intense emotions, fl ashbacks, or beliefs. pletely true, or painful don’t always have to For example, you may have felt ashamed be. or unloved, which may have led you to Shapiro suggests a few things to help • Utilize EMDR techniques to have a core belief that you are unworthy yourself cope with and possibly change or unlovable. Furthermore, a recent mem- the effect of certain memories for yourself. heal certain way just because a person attaches a signifi cance to it due to a misunderstanding have heard about EMDR for a while now Take a recent event that is bothering you now. or misperception. For example, as a child, as a modality of therapy that is especially Notice what emotions or cognitions you have about it the individual may have interpreted their Ihelpful for trauma, but it always seemed parent as withholding a hug one day due like a mystery. This book, written by the cre- to getting a low grade, when really it may ator of EMDR, elucidates how it works and ory may become linked up with an earlier, Firstly, being able to soothe yourself when have happened because of something else. how you can use some of it on your own. foundational memory, creating a string of coming up against a painful emotion is Either way, an individual may (incorrectly) EMDR stands for eye movement desensiti- reactions that may or may not be rational paramount. Shapiro guides the reader to deduce a self-belief such as “I am incompe- zation and reprocessing, where stimulating or helpful anymore. You know a memory is attach a relaxed feeling to a visualization tent” that may follow them way into the certain eye movements and brain patterns unprocessed when it creates a sharp reac- so that you can bring up the visualization future despite other successes. This belief helps shift emotions and perspective. tion in you when you are remembering it, as needed. Additionally, the Butterfl y Hug would have them constantly questioning In a healthy scenario, memories are “pro- or alternatively, you spend energy avoiding technique is a way to nurture and ground themselves needlessly. By reprocessing cessed” in the brain, where an individual it because of the painful reaction it evokes yourself when facing diffi cult memories this memory, the individual may fi nd that can integrate and digest events into a func- in you. and cognitions. Butterfl y Hug: Put your their childhood perspective was incorrect tional narrative. You may have something Shapiro discusses how much of our be- arms around yourself with your hands on or skewed, and they can create a new, more frustrating or negative happen, but you can havior and reaction patterns stem from the opposite shoulder, and slowly tap your helpful self-belief. integrate it as “The other person was just in 10-20 touchstone memories, which are the shoulders alternately. Shapiro stresses that certain memories a bad mood,” or “I’m usually good at this, earliest remembered events that infl uence Take a recent event that is bothering you may be too painful or overwhelming to face now. Notice what emotions or cognitions without professional help. It is essential you have about it. Let your mind drift and that each person listen carefully to them- see what comes; another older memory selves to fi gure out what they can handle on Will We Strike More Oil Or Will Oil Strike Us? that evokes similar emotions or cognitions their own. in you may come up. You can keep going Reading this book guided me to notice CONTINUED FROM P. 19 being replaced. back in time until you reach the earliest the memories that often pop into my head, This doesn’t mean the world is about to memory that triggers that specifi c emotion the ones that cause a visceral reaction in me oil fl uctuates, sometimes sharply. In this run out of oil. Major oil-producing compa- or cognition. Looking at that memory, you every time. I never really thought of them sense, higher oil prices are not surprising. nies have emergency reserves; also, higher can notice what led you to certain beliefs or as important, but now it is obvious that But what about going forward? Will the prices will encourage additional explora- perspective about yourself and reexamine memories that are so present, and even still price continue to rise? tion, which may result in new discoveries. them for truthfulness and helpfulness. make me cringe or gasp, must be signifi cant. To answer this question, analysts, both And some important discoveries were For example, an individual may have I chose to pay some attention to the memo- armchair and professional, will certainly made in 2017. A 1.2-billion-barrel fi eld was experienced as a child many academic dif- ries and look at them with my current more mull this fact: Explorers in 2017 discov- discovered in Alaska, the largest discovery fi culties. They may have memories fi lled mature (hopefully!) perspective to see what ered the least amount of oil since at least in the U.S. in at least three decades. At with negative and shameful connotations reaction the person I am now would have. the 1940s, according to Rystad Energy, least two billion-barrel fi elds were found about their intellectual abilities because Turns out, I ended up laughing and thinking an oil and gas consulting fi rm. Less than in Mexico, and there were some others in they didn’t perform in the typical way in that my past memory was more funny than seven billion barrels were discovered, a Latin America. There was also a major fi nd school. Furthermore, they may have specifi c cringe-worthy. surprisingly low amount. And while some in Texas. memories where teachers or parents were I recommend this book for you to learn companies will announce discoveries Nevertheless, the number of major disappointed in them or rebuking them. what less-than-functional memories have they made in 2017 later this year, Rystad new fi elds being discovered have been This isn’t the parent/teacher’s fault either; been fueling you and create a new perspec- believes that this will increase the total declining steadily for years. It’s important sometimes a memory becomes encoded in a tive for yourself. amount of oil discovered by just 10 per- to keep in mind that a fi eld with a bil- cent – at most. lion barrels of oil is not as signifi cant as Eta Feuerman-Yaeger, LCSW, is a child and family play therapist with a private practice in Queens. And 2017 was no fl uke. New discover- it sounds – a billion barrels is enough to Check out her website at feuermanyaegertherapy.wordpress.com. ies have fallen every year since 2014. Per- supply the world with oil for just 10 days. haps more important is that explorers are Also, even if dramatic new energy-produc- consistently fi nding less oil in the fi elds ing technologies may be developed, oil they are discovering. According to Rystad, will remain the premier source of energy an average offshore discovery contained for many years. about 100 million barrels of oil and equiva- What all this means is that the world lent, down from the average of 150 million is not in danger of running out of oil any barrels in 2012. These developments have time soon. But if major new oil fi nds are prompted the head of the International not made, over the long term the world Energy Agency (IEA) to warn of a possible could be facing a serious supply shortage, world oil shortage as soon as 2020. and this could lead to much higher oil prices and much higher infl ation. If this Call Out The Reserves scenario materializes, the prices we’re The last time oil and gas companies paying for oil and gasoline now will seem added to their reserves by as much as they like child’s play compared to the prices we were producing was back in 2006. Then will see. the numbers began going down. In 2012, Sources: bloomberg.com; only 50 percent of the reserves companies info.drillinginfo.com; nasdaq.com; were using were being replaced. And last peakoil.com; telegraph.co.uk; year, just 11 percent of their reserves were 24/7wallst.com; zerohedge.com.

50 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) • February 8, 2018 HHookedooked On Healing Caroline Schumsky, LCSW, MS

Friends: The Relatives You Make For Yourself t’s been said: “A true friend is someone favorite movie when she is sitting right You most likely do each other tons of fa- who thinks that you are a good egg even next to you? Then again, sharing interests vors, but never keep track of whose turn it Ithough he knows that you are slightly is great, but how intimate are you truly? Is is. She is supportive of your life’s cracked.” We all know that there are lots of that friend brave enough to point out your efforts – and genuinely happy people who want to ride with us in the limo, possible blind spots or faults, and do you when you succeed. Trust me: If but who will take the bus with us when the even encourage her to? someone can help you laugh at dang limo breaks down? Aha. Trouble fi nd- Living in a G-d-belittling world is no yourself, you have struck gold. ing true friends? easy task. It is tempting to buckle under the Signs that you got it right: He’s Remember kindergarten, when you can weight of all the pain and negativity in this a great wingman. She knows how to lift Wizard, Magician. But I digress… just go over to your favorite kid and say: universe. Sometimes that means that your your mood. He has real listening skills and Above all, please be a good friend. There “Hey, wanna be friends?” Sure, we had cri- true friend has belief when your faith gets is not afraid to use them. You don’t need is no universal method of being loving and teria: You had to be the same size. Well, per- weak, or that she will have a bigger vision Facebook to know it’s their birthday or In- caring. Please make sure your friend is okay haps you’ve gotten a whole lot pickier about of yourself at times than you do. He will stagram to see who they celebrated with. the second you sense something may be whom you surround yourself with these never give up on you, even if you may have They actually told you. They use the magical wrong. Texting is admirable, but fi nd an days. Or maybe you prefer to have your gym given up on yourself. We all need someone words: “What can I do for you?” often. excuse to spend time with them. Be as in- buddy, your neighbor cohort, the likemind- to compassionately tell us the truth about Are you surely moved by beauty or vested as they are and do not desert them ed sidekick; and they are all different peo- ourselves. What we don’t need is superfi cial touched by displays of human kindness? in their darkest hour. Make sure they feel ple. sweet talk or fake, forged fl attery. Then chances are you get hurt easily, feel wanted, even if it means telling them of- Trust me: You are not alone in feeling So what are your criteria for a friend? exquisitely vulnerable, and get so confused ten that you have their back. Make time for alone. We get Kelly green with envy imag- Mutual values and world view? The same when people are thoughtless or take advan- them. No, you are not too busy for real. ining all those so-called soul mates we see fashion sense? An obsession with carbs? tage of you. You can feel wounded for years. You do not have to live it alone. Please who have a long, shared history, unending You know, the kind of friends who says: You may take things way too personally. Ev- fi nd someone to have the starring role in private jokes, and sworn secrets. But let’s “Give up carbs? Over my bread body.” Lol. erything is not a personal rejection. But if your life’s most precious moments. You’ll be real for a moment. How many people So, how do you know if you found a true you’ve been deeply hurt, it may simply feel know they’re your best friend when you can in your ever-growing contact list are even friend? Well, how often do you fi nd yourself safer to stop trying to make friends altogeth- only stay mad at them for a short period of well-wishers, let alone one with whom you saying: “Yeah, me, too” when you’re talking er. But please do not bow out. time because you have so much important share a deep, mutual trust? Lots, you say. to her? How honest are you with each oth- Many people don’t realize that friendship stuff to tell them. Umm. Okay, when was the last time you er? Will he tell you about the broccoli stuck is not just a “meet and greet.” It requires Or you can always tell them what I tell actually saw them or talked to them about in your teeth? Better yet, will he never let maintenance just like your car. Speaking mine: You don’t have to be crazy to be my anything personal or signifi cant? Or maybe you go down a disastrous path in life, but of which, y’all know the defi nition of a me- friend. I’ll train you. And don’t forget, sweet you’re this guy: “Oh, gosh, I lost all my con- will soften the blow when you need some chanic: someone who does precision guess- friends: There’s nothing better than a best tacts. Please message me your number so I gentle or not so gentle criticism? work based on unreliable data, provided by friend – except a best friend with choco- can continue to not call you.” Sheesh. Per- Do you feel comfortable raiding her those of questionable knowledge. See also: late. haps you’ve even outgrown a few of them or fridge? You know what they say: Friends they may have literally relocated. buy you food; best friends eat your food. Caroline is a licensed psychotherapist, crisis counselor, and writer with an offi ce in Queens. She But how much better does that meal Heh. Oh, and when your best friends say you works with individuals, couples, and families. Appointments are available throughout the week taste when your best friend munches with can have a bite of their food, you take the and weekends. She can be reached at 917-717-1775 or at [email protected] or at face- you? And how much more awesome is your biggest bite humanly possible. book.com/pages/Safe-Haven-Healing.

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Ahavah Rabah 1 Ingredients of a Powerful Bakashah ensure that he is a tzadik, and neither of we come closer to Hashem is through our Kavanah, love, fear, and simchah are the the two traits ensures that he is a baal mi- performance of mitzvos. Integrating the fi rst four of 17 components of performing dos tovos. Each requires separate effort and mitzvos into our day with kavanah, love, a mitzvah that the Sefer Chareidim lists. He tefi lah.) and simchah (many of which we are al- quotes Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai as saying The Avudraham then adds that the close ready performing but perhaps without ka- that a mitzvah performed without both of the brachah is about our love for Hashem vanah or heart) will signifi cantly increase fear and love is not a mitzvah at all. When and His love for us, and not about yichud the frequency with which we think about it comes to simchah (inner contentment he Avudraham writes that the Hashem, because talking about yichud Hashem throughout our day, will increase and happiness), he says we should be exces- brachah of Ahavah Rabah / Ahavas Hashem without love and a complete heart the quantity of mitzvos we perform, and sively happy that Hashem has sent us this TOlam includes a number of items: “lo yo’il klum (would not help at all, i.e., is will increase the quality of the precious great opportunity and gift to perform this • Hashem loves us more than any nation. completely ineffective).” gems we send up to Hashem. mitzvah. Some Rishonim say that simchah • He gave us the Torah. is actually an independent mitzvah as well. • We are to believe in yichud Hashem. These four components will weigh heav- • He is Adon HaKol. The only measure of one tzadik ily on the quality of our mitzvos. May we Perhaps we can add the following: versus another is how often one is aware of Hashem’s presence be zocheh to serve Hashem with kavanah, The brachah is loaded with bakashos for in his or her life and the quality of that awareness love, fear, and simchah throughout our day our own ruchniyus as well as davening for and throughout our lives. the ruchniyus of our children and others. As part of our new Mitzvah Series, daily This is one of the crucial places that the While there are slightly different read- The only measure of one tzadik versus recordings of less than two minutes each Chofetz Chaim advised davening for our ings between nusach Ashkenaz and nusach another is how often one is aware of Hash- day are available. Sign up by sending an children. S’farad, it is agreed that both statements em’s presence in his or her life and the email to [email protected] and put Tefi los for our children that they should are correct. Hashem has great love for us quality of that awareness (“Shivisi…”) [Sifsei the word “Subscribe” in the Subject line. In be lomdei Torah, tzadikim, and baalei midos (ahavah rabah) and His love for us is eter- Chaim – Midos 1, explaining one word add- addition, we now have a daily one-minute tovos should be constant and fl uent in our nal (ahavas olam). The debate is only which ed by the Vilna Gaon to a statement made recording on Tefi lah and we are starting mouths. One should always have kavanah statement is the grander statement. by the Rama – “zeh kol maalas tzadikim”]. Shemoneh Esrei now. in Ahavah Rabah that they should be lom- Our new limud will assist us in heightening To access Audio, Video, and Archives of dei Torah. [Ateres Z’keinim, quoted in Shul- Integrating Mitzvos into Our Daily Lives our awareness of Hashem throughout our previous Tefi lah segments, please visit www. chan Aruch Orach Chayim, siman 47] Our goal, simply stated, is to fulfi ll our day, both quantitatively and qualitatively. WeeklyTefi lahFocus.com. (As an aside, we should take note that purpose in this world, which is to come just because one is a lomeid Torah does not closer to Hashem. One of the primary ways You can direct any questions or comments to Eliezer Szrolovits at 917-551-0150.

23 Shevat 5778 • Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 51 52 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) • February 8, 2018 IInteriornterior DDesignesign For The 99% Zisi Naimark Here’s What You’re Missing In Ireland CONTINUED FROM P. 1 It is a castle. I can show you where it says.

Jews from wearing armor and a law banning Irishman from sporting facial hair. As of 2009, blasphemy against the Irish church is fi ned by 25,000 euros. Divorce was only legalized in 1995, and, oh boy, but it is a song and dance to get the deed undone.) It is therefore reasonable to imagine that Jewish leisure travel to Ireland may pause for a while. The historic inte- riors of classic Irish homes will likely go un-witnessed by our community. Therefore, as a public service, I will en- lighten y’all on exactly what you are missing:

Banisters are for sissies. And how is the inside? Oh, but this is… lovely! I’m cer- This is a castle, I tell you! tain that hot pink carpet is original. This may be more believable once you experience how the rest of the country lived. Behold the Irish home interi- or. The walls are made of a combination of mud, dung, hay, stones, and whitewash. You can do this look at home, but I’d honestly rather see it in your garage. Or nowhere.

The original green roof. Our public library may seem cool and contemporary, but the Irish were waaay ahead of the game. At a time when the rest of the world had discovered, y’know, roofs, the Irish were burrowing into the hills like the native fair- ies. These hill homes were cool in the summer and warm- ish in the winter (oh, heck, people literally froze to death), so what’s a little dampness and mildew here and there? If you despair at the state of your kitchen cabinets, I Oh, but surely they cannot all be so bad! I hear you cry. invite you to examine those of Clomantagh Castle in You are correct. The farmers’ hovels are worse, and the Freshford, County Kilkenny. You would pay €1034 for the English castles are better. You can, in fact, book a stay at privilege. Helen’s Tower for a mere £279 for two nights – or at least you could until last week. The listing claims the tower is enchanted but does not specify the nature of the enchant- ment – in a country where witchcraft is actively illegal and punishable by a year in prison. (Did I mention the law sit- uation?) Oh, and I can’t imagine why it says “adults only.” Probably the enchantment.

Did I mention this is a real live Irish castle?

Zisi Naimark holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts from The New York School of Interior Design and has been working for professional design fi rms since 2012. She lives in Kew Gardens Hills, where she is tolerated by her husband and sons. She can be reached at [email protected].

23 Shevat 5778 • Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 53 DDatingating Today Goldy Krantz

Why Should I Move?

t’s common to hear of someone who Dear Goldy: has moved to the “big city” where there It’s Chani, Chaya’s friend. I didn’t know Iare more frum Jews than in their home- you wrote a dating column. Wow! I was town in order to fi nd a shidduch. It’s under- talking to Chaya and she suggested either standable to do that if you live in the mid- calling you or writing to you. Call me chick- dle of nowhere or if your hometown has en, but I chose to write. a very small frum community. You want to As you know, I live “out of town.” I don’t maximize your chances of fi nding a spouse, live on a desolate farm with my family, but so you move. Besides having more of a se- in the shidduch world I may as well. I live lection in dating, moving to a busier metro- in the large frum community of Baltimore, politan area may bring professional career Maryland. Your sister lives here, so I don’t if you consider age a factor. I don’t, but dated “only a few local girls.” When I asked opportunities as well. Seems like a win- have to tell sell you on the community. I so many people do. Shadchanim are just him why, he said shadchanim told him that win situation, right? You can go out with know that you have spent many Shabba- as bad as the guys. They urge me to go to New York girls are more his “speed.” I have more and have a chance at (better) employ- sos, yamim tovim, and vacations here. May New York or to fl y to a different state to no idea what that means. Why are local ment opportunities. Some singles jump at I ask if you felt a passport was needed date someone. Fly to a different state? Yes. shadchanim suggesting that the men go the chance to relocate in order to live and when you made the drive across the Del- Whatever happened to the guy picking the elsewhere to date when there are so many work in a city with a large frum population. aware River? Did you have cell-phone and girl up for a date? I understand that we are great girls/women right here at home for Others aren’t as enthusiastic, but they do Wi-Fi reception throughout the drive and all living very busy lives, but why am I and them to date? so anyway. And then you have the person in Baltimore? Is it a very arduous journey? other girls in Baltimore and Silver Spring It annoys me and my single friends who emailed me. She is actually a friend of when we hear that money or other in- a friend. I’ve written about the topic of dat- centives are offered to men who date and ing someone who lives “out of town,” but I “Why won’t men take the three-to-four-hour drive on a weekend marry girls from their hometown. Don’t will let you hear it from a fi rsthand account to come on down and date me and the other single girls here?” give men incentives to date girls from their and hear how she feels about “all the good hometown! Don’t pay them if they marry men” being enticed to date girls from other a local girl. Why can’t you just encourage towns rather than looking in their own I wouldn’t think so because you keep com- constantly being asked to go meet the guy them to start local, and if nothing pans out, backyard, where they may fi nd some very ing back. instead of the other way around? I’m a law- then look national? Is this the reason why suitable and terrifi c women. After reading Why am I asking all of these ridiculous yer with responsibilities. I am not partner I have to move? Because anyone who may what she has to say, some readers may also questions? It’s because I don’t really have in a fi rm where I can take vacation anytime be a potential match for me is being direct- try to talk some sense into single men they an opportunity to date much. And when I choose. I save vacation days for yamim ed to go to New York? know and urge them to make the trip to I do date, I either have to drive to New tovim and a week in the summer and win- I can go on and on, but I’m sure you get another city for a chance at marriage. You York or meet the guy halfway between ter to relax. Do you know what it is to give my point. Any thoughts? never know, you may fi nd that rose waiting Baltimore and wherever he lives. I am 42. up weekends driving to another state, and Chani for you outside the city limits. I know I’m not prime dating material only spending Shabbos with relatives or friends in order to date, only to drive back late Sun- Thank you for your letter, Chani. Yes, of day night and roll out of bed at 6 a.m. on course I know who you are and emailing Monday morning? It’s hard! me is fi ne. For the past couple of years, shadchanim I agree with you that working a whole have been urging me to move to New York. week, traveling for Shabbos, only to go out They tell me that I have better chances of once or twice, and then rushing back home fi nding a shidduch if I move. They can’t for work can take a toll on a person. I know guarantee anything, but they come close a few friends living “out in the boondocks” to saying that if I uproot my entire life and who do it. I give you all much credit. move to a new city, I will fi nd my bashert. Yes, this is an issue that I have heard You know what? I would move to a larger about for a while. You actually hit on two frum community for the chance of fi nding good topics. The fi rst is being urged to my husband, IF I lived on a farm in Arkan- pick up your life and move it to a differ- sas. Baltimore has a huge frum population. ent city for shidduchim, the second is why I actually gave serious thought to moving men have to be paid or given some other to New York’s Upper West Side for a few incentive to date local girls in their home- months about a year ago. Through friends, town. I, myself, am a homebody. I enjoy I was able to fi nd roommates looking for being home. I’m not the type to go look- another “roomie” in a very decent building. ing for greener grass elsewhere. It sounds I even put out “feelers” for jobs. I found as though you are very satisfi ed with your that I would have to take a pay cut as well life (in Baltimore) except for the fact that as start at the (almost) bottom of the totem you are single and are having a hard time pole at new fi rms. I would have lost all that dating. Your career is on track; you live I have worked very hard to gain since I amongst family and friends and probably started working. Added to that, my parents, have a very active social life. You live in a siblings, cousins, and many friends live in community of thousands of frum Jews, so Baltimore. Yes, I know people in New York, I understand why you would balk at being and, yes, it would be exciting to “start over” told that moving may be the only solution in a new city; but I don’t live in the mid- for you. I have also read about the incen- dle of nowhere! So why won’t men – yes, I tives that you have spoken about. Many mean grown men – take the three-to-four- are worried that the women in smaller hour drive on a weekend to come on down towns (such as Baltimore or Silver Spring and date me and the other single girls here? or other cities) are being overlooked and Why are we being urged to move? And I will growing older while the men are the ones add that many men from Baltimore make driving up the Turnpike to date girls from the trip up the New Jersey Turnpike to date New York. I, too, would be annoyed that (and marry) girls from New York. Do they the local men are making the drive, but the even consider a girl from their hometown? New York men won’t (or will only meet you I don’t think so. I asked a family friend who halfway). It would frustrate me to know recently married a New York girl how many Baltimore girls he dated. He said that he CONTINUED ON P. 65

Goldy Krantz is an LMSW and a lifelong Queens resident, guest lecturer, and author of the shidduch dating book, The Best of My Worst and children’s book Where Has Zaidy Gone? She can be contacted at [email protected].

54 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) • February 8, 2018 23 Shevat 5778 • Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 55 56 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) • February 8, 2018 FFoodieoodie Adventures The Easiest Pesto Paste Ingredients Bracha Serle 10 cubes frozen garlic (or 10 cloves puréed) 5 cubes frozen basil 5 cubes frozen parsley 1 tablespoon hot water The Easiest Pesto You’ll Ever Make ¼ teaspoon fi nely ground pink Hima- layan salt Photos styled by Renee Muller an. You’ll fi nd home and organizing tips, par- ⅛ teaspoon freshly ground pepper Photos taken by Esti Waldman enting insights, activities, how-tos and DIYs, 2-3 tablespoons grapeseed oil and, of course, entertaining ideas, recipes, y super-easy pesto recipe was fea- and inspiring reads. It’s all the things that Instructions tured on the website BetweenCar- make life easier for the Jewish woman, with In a small bowl, combine frozen garlic, Then add in the salt, pepper, and grapeseed Mpools.com, a website geared for the just the right info she needs or the kosher basil, and parsley. If frozen, add the hot wa- oil, and whisk until well-combined and Jewish woman. BetweenCarpools.com was content she can enjoy during downtime. ter and allow to thaw for about 5-7 minutes. mixture has a paste-like consistency. born when fi ve women got together for I am so honored that my recipe was fea- brunch around a table. On the table there tured on the website - not just one of my was this cheeseboard and lots of notebooks recipes, but fi ve. I created an easy pesto and freshly sharpened pencils. recipe to be used in four different types of Spatchcock Pesto Chicken What did the ladies gather to talk about? chicken recipes. This week I will be sharing Ingredients They wanted a place where Jewish women the pesto and one of the chicken recipes. To 1 whole chicken like themselves could feel at home and fi nd see the other three fun recipes check out the 1 recipe pesto paste kosher content that’s relevant to their dai- website and look up “pesto chicken recipe,” ly lives. They discussed what they’d like to or Bracha Serle. Instructions have on the site, and grabbed those note- Pesto was never easier…and new chicken Preheat oven to 375ºF. books and pencils to write down their ideas. dinners was never easier too! Make this easy With chicken scissors or a sharp boning BetweenCarpools.com is the lifestyle site pesto using frozen cubes and you’ve got four knife, cut out the back bone of the chicken. and app that speaks to the busy Jewish wom- new chicken dinners too. Turn chicken over and lay fl at, skin-side up. With the palm of your hand, push down to break the breast bone so the chicken can One easy pesto + one chicken = lay completely fl at. Spatchcock pesto chicken Smother chicken with pesto paste. Place chicken skin-side up on a baking sheet and pgrade your simple roast chicken. Great fl avor bake for about 45 minutes, or until skin and ease makes this spatchcock chicken a win- is completely crispy and juices run clear when poked with a fork. Uning dinner. I grew up eating chicken on the bone that was cooked with the classic paprika, garlic, Bracha Serle works as a private chef specializing in healthy cooking such as gluten-free, dairy- and onion powder rub and baked in the broiler. My mother would serve it with a side of free, sugar-free, nut-free, and other dietary restrictions or allergies. She also does end-product mar- brown rice, some green vegetables, and/or sweet potatoes. I love the simplicity of rub- keting for kosher food companies and supermarkets, teaching consumers how to use new food bing a chicken with a quick rub and throwing it into the oven. No babysitter or patchke! products on a daily basis. Bracha gives clean-eating healthy cooking classes and demonstrations. This spatchcock chicken is the same in its simplicity and no-hassle beauty! The best You can check out her work on Instagram @shesthechef and can be reached via email at serle. part about it is that juicy, heavenly taste it gets from cooking the entire chicken together. [email protected].

23 Shevat 5778 • Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 57 58 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) • February 8, 2018 BBeautyeauty Briefs Risselle Naimark Minimizing Imperfections

veryone has some imperfections They can be toned down with a light- they’d like to minimize. Dark circles, er foundation in a shade about halfway Epuffi ness, freckles, and even minor between your skin tone and the darkest blemishes can easily be concealed with the freckles. Anything else may look masklike. right makeup techniques. The following Freckles can also be minimized when you tips will help solve some of your problems. punch up the blush with a more vibrant pop of color on the apple of the cheeks. Dark Circles Puffiness Under-eye pouches require a two-step application. Don’t use a lighter color be- cause you will only succeed in emphasiz- ing the puffi ness. Instead opt for a darker shade, which will minimize and conceal the problem. Next, apply the lighter shade inside the indentation surrounding the puffi ness to help perfect the look. Blemishes

These circles can be muted by using a cream concealer in a peachy/beige color. Stay away from very light colors as they will make your skin look ashy. Begin by applying color under the tear duct, where the discoloration is often concentrated. Then bring the color around to cover the rest of the undereye area, which needs ad- justment. If the circles are quite dark, draw attention away by using vivid or dramatic eye makeup on the upper lids. Lengthen- ing a short brow is also effective because it will draw attention upward and outward. Make sure the line is soft to avoid looking artifi cial.

Freckles Pimples appear less obvious when cov- ered with a cream concealer such as a he- al-and-conceal product, which is oil-free and slightly medicated. Next, apply founda- tion to your face and be sure to blend well over this concealer. To ensure that the area is not shiny, use loose powder to set the cream products and help it last throughout the day.

* * * With the right techniques and a bit of help from a pot, stick, or tube, you can in- stantly create a fl awless complexion. All it takes is a bit of practice.

Risselle Naimark is a Professional Freelance Makeup Artist and Skincare Consultant. She carries an extensive line of personalized skincare, cosmetics, and anti-aging products. Risselle is also available for weddings, Bar Mitzvahs, makeup lessons, and all of your beauty needs. She can be reached at 718 263-5517.

23 Shevat 5778 • Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 59 60 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) • February 8, 2018 Style Myths DDebunkedebunked Meira E. Schneider-Atik Dressing For The Informal Workplace Myth: If you work in informal situations, you can wear anything you want. Truth: You have to maintain some professional polish.

Start by putting together outfits appropriate for where you spend the majority of your work time

t used to be that more informal work- smart and professional. places outside the home were not as Start by putting together outfi ts appro- Icommon for us as they are now. But priate for where you spend the majority of more and more women are getting into your work time. If that time is spent on the sciences, technology, and engineering. And production fl oor or in a lab, then you can more and more women are getting into certainly dress more casually. Even a denim blue-collar careers that involve heavy lifting skirt will work if it’s fi tted and worn with a and dirty work. The problem, however, is fi tted top. Layered tops are good, but avoid that baggy, ratty old clothes are still a no-no, jackets in these situations. If you need struc- so what’s a woman to wear in an informal ture on top, go with button-down shirts. workplace? You need to be able to move freely. Yes, wear From me, you get the truth. color – you need that energy. Just make sure You might work outside the home in it fl atters you. Go with fabrics you can toss those non-traditional fi elds listed above into the washing machine; you need to feel and you do need to keep safe and clean. In free to get dirty as needed. those cases, you may have a work uniform Normally, I stress the importance of ac- that protects you. I won’t argue with that, cessories, especially that one piece of show- even if the uniform is unfl attering. Safety stopper jewelry, but here, those things will does come fi rst. But it’s likely that you’ll be just get in the way, so it’s best to keep things in work situations in which you don’t need simple. Small drop earrings are okay, but your uniform. And you need to look present- don’t go beyond that. Avoid necklaces and able and professional. oblong scarves; they’ll just get in the way. When you’re putting together work out- Flat shoes are likely best here. In fact, if fi ts, you need to consider how you spend you’re running around a lot, you may even your time and what situations there are. be able to wear sneakers. But try to keep This applies to all workplaces, but it’s espe- them clean and neat. Black is best because it cially important in cultures that are not for- doesn’t show dirt or wear and tear as much. mal because you have many more options. If you can’t get away with sneakers, just Let’s say that you work as an engineer for make sure you wear fl ats with ½ inch of lift a product company. You may spend some with plenty of cushioning and support. of your time working on the production Keep hair (your own or a sheitel) either fl oor. You may spend some time dealing short or pulled back. No fancy looks here – with clients. And you may spend time in you’ll just come off silly. If you wear a non- management work with higher-ups. These sheitel covering, keep it simple and avoid situations call for different looks. Or maybe tails; they’ll get in the way. Even if you love you work as a research scientist. Maybe you tails, always tuck them up and away if you’re spend most of your time in a lab, but you going to be doing any kind of dirty work. also have to spend time meeting with su- Not only do you want to keep them clean, pervisors. And you will have to give presen- you also don’t want them to catch anything tations every so often. Or maybe you work and get dangerous. Pre-tieds are okay if the as an auto mechanic. Most of your time is tails are long enough to wrap around and spent doing the dirty work on cars, and for tuck. Snoods are a no-no as always. Unless that you would have to wear some kind of you’re doing serious dirty work, it’s okay to uniform, but there will be times when you’ll be seen out of uniform and you need to look CONTINUED ON P. 65

Meira E. Schneider-Atik is a wardrobe organizer, personal shopper, jewelry designer, and fashion writer/blogger and speaker. She helps women look great while saving time, effort, and money, all within tznius guidelines, and she’ll add to that with custom-de- signed jewelry. Read more about her ideas on her blog- www.truetzniutistruebeauty.word- press.com. She also has a YouTube channel, “Look Your Best in Mitpachot,” where she does head-wrapping tutorials, and she is also available for private demonstrations. She can be reached at (718) 644-6135 or at [email protected].

23 Shevat 5778 • Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 61 RReal-Lifeeal-Life Reflections Sarah Newcomb From “Never Enough” To “I Am/Have Enough” he song “Never Enough” from The would get to a stage like this where I feel so Greatest Showman reverberates comfortable in my own skin – inside and Tthrough my mind. Some of the out – I’ve found my voice and use it, I am words are: “You set off a dream in me/ get- accepting of myself with self-love, practice ting loud enough/ can you hear it echo- self-care, and am confi dent. I have since ing?” I have been blessed to be inspired learned to embrace “today.” From Daring by others setting off dreams in me. I did Greatly: “If we want to experience love and have my own dreams, but I used to live in belonging we must believe we are worthy. a “maybe one day” mentality. I have since Believing we are enough gives us permis- learned to embrace today. I looked at a pho- sion to take off the mask. With a sense of to of myself from fi ve years ago when my enough comes an embrace of worthiness daughter got married. Not a pretty picture. and engagement.” I am grateful to have Inside and out, I did not look like a woman been unmasked. with serenity. That person no longer exists. A young anorexic in recovery told me This girl today has almost nothing in com- she used to feel she was never enough. mon with that one except what someone She said she used to believe she was never reminded me of today: the heart. The huge small enough, that she could never starve heart is still the same, even bigger, as it is enough. Now she knows she is more than now open wide. I used to be/feel trapped, enough! A friend’s daughter succumbed personally, now that I am available for a surrounded by beautiful silver, dishes, and some of it self-imposed, for more than half to anorexia two nights ago. The mother zivug sheini, what I look for is stability and fl owers. What could be better? Shabbos is of my life. Scary thought. Especially since watched it happen. Her daughter was per- the ability to love vulnerably. Not a label, certainly enough. The rabbi said in shul to- I have lived more than half of a life expec- manently lost to the illness. Absolutely status, profession, monetary worth, or ex- day that some of us – most defi nitely me tancy thus far. I never expected much of an- heartbreaking. I cried myself to sleep more ternal appearance. I have been blessed to – have a sensitivity to ruchnius and a depth ything from anybody else. I thought it was than once. There was a discussion on one meet some very fi ne and generous people. with regard to connecting. Because of that my job to take care of and please others. I of my Facebook groups the other night It was my own readiness that stood in the there may be an “uneasiness of the heart,” a never felt I was enough. I did not feel wor- about body size and dating. I reminded the way. I have truly appreciated all the love wanting of more, not with regard to things thy. Nowadays I chase my dreams. I fi nish group that we are more than our size or and kindness sent my way. As I prepare but with regard to spiritual connection. He what I start. Where I sometimes get stuck, number on a scale. I told them that when for wholehearted readiness I know that said that is a good thing because it drives us though less often lately, is with “starting.” my son dated prior to his happy marriage at the right time somebody who wants to to not settle for “enough” in that area and Once I do it, I keep doing it. I have enlisted he told me he did not care about size or be loved like they have never been loved to grow and come closer. support people to help me “get started” and appearance. In truth, what matters most is before will appear. I have no doubt it will Here’s what enough looks like to me: My am happier than ever. I never thought I a person’s character and content. For me, happen. Some people are like showmen. adult kids are satisfi ed in their lives. They I have seen this in both men and wom- ask my advice and follow it. My business en. Always looking for something else or partner in real estate says, “This is only the something better. This cannot be found beginning,” and I know he means it and I externally because what is missing is with- know he and I will stay the course. I have in themselves. Even they can get help and true friends and mentors who more than change if they desire to, like the hero in fi ll in the gaps of strained family relation- The Greatest Showman did. A client told ships. Rabbi Feiner gives my grandchildren me she loves the words from the song “The (and me) brachos and I feel there is abso- Greatest Show” from that movie, which is lutely nothing better than that. I am pro- my new favorite life-changing inspiration: ductive and enjoy the way I spend my day, “It’s everything you ever want/ it’s every- yet I don’t dare get complacent and be sure thing you ever need/ and it’s here right in to continue to strive. I feel content and front of you/ this is where you want to be.” take care of my health. I know I am loved We must create our own best show, which and I know I give love. I do not feel there is an authentic self and life. is anything missing in my life (except for Shabbos is a gift. I had the best Shabbos a zivug sheini). I am full of gratitude and this weekend. I shared it with a few lovely share my heart and world with others. In young ladies of different ages and stages the “Never Enough” song it says: “Towers of of life. It was a last-minute plan and I was gold are still too little/ these hands could grateful to have the fl exibility to embrace hold the world but it’ll never be enough/ the opportunity. I thought through which never be enough for me…” How sad, lady. divrei Torah to share in order to reach each Change your thoughts and maybe you will one of them. My daughter’s friend asked, be satisfi ed. As my friend and fellow writ- “How is your mother always so perky?” My er Ariel Dori wrote last week in his article friend said, “You are always so optimistic.” about Tu B’Shvat, he described the Bnei I don’t know about “always,” but in general Yisrael taking action and not only praying. it is naturally a part of me! Spending time He wrote about “clarity,” something I daven with loved ones, learning Torah, attend- for all the time, and how when the sea split ing an inspirational shul, enjoying special once they just walked into the sea, how foods, wines, and desserts, learning the everything came full circle, and suddenly laws of lashon hara with my chavrusa about “it all made sense – all of it – past, present, how we must never speak badly about oth- and future.” He gives us all a brachah that ers, saying Tehilim for those in need of a no matter what we are going through, that refuah, resting in a comfortable bed with at some point and perhaps suddenly, it will fresh, special linens and fur blankets, not make all the sense in the world because ev- having to respond to phone calls and social erything was, is, and will be okay. Amen to media, enjoying special clothing and being that.

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Estate planning is an important and ev- ful ex-spouse, plotting business partner, erlasting gift you can give your family. And unshakeable creditor, or plaintiff in a law- setting up a smooth inheritance isn’t as hard suit against your benefi ciary will have a as you might think. very hard time breaking down the wall – Suze Orman surrounding the property and assets you’ve left. Of course, no wall is impenetrable, but fter working diligently for decades this one can be made quite strong. to achieve your fi nancial goals, you The trustee has the power to go inside Aunderstandably want to preserve this wall, according to your explicit and your gains and leave an enduring legacy pre-determined wishes, and access the to the next generation. Although you may funds. But the “bad guys” are generally kept have a vision of how your intended recipi- at bay. ents are meant to utilize their inheritance, You can also ensure that whatever is for better or for worse, though, they have “left over” in the trust after a benefi ciary free will. Even while you’re alive and very dies goes where you want it to. You could much capable of directly communicating stipulate that what’s left should be passed with your children, favored charities, and to a grandchild, a sibling, or a preferred or- others, you might already be uncomfort- ganization. In this way you can develop a ably familiar with the limits of your infl u- series of discretionary lifetime trusts and ence. ensure your legacy for decades or longer. As you contemplate the future, it’s easy This also lets you maintain your standards to envision disagreeable scenarios. What and values by imposing them as conditions if your adult child burns through cash re- on the benefi ts. serves, or squanders the business you leave Leave an inheritance in a discretionary lifetime trust, You can also empower the trustee to behind by getting involved with a dubious rather than outright or staggered proactively help benefi ciaries. For instance, partner, or acts irresponsibly by taking if the trustee notices that your son (sadly) speculative risks? What if the non-profi t has become an alcoholic or inveterate gam- that you co-founded or any other business This “insider secret of the wealthy” we will be restricted. bler who cannot be trusted with an allow- interest you had is mismanaged and runs are about to discuss is strategic as well as For instance, if one of your children ance, she can be given the discretion to afoul of legal issues? tactical. But before we dive in, I want to wants to go to medical school, or wants deny or limit the fl ow of benefi ts to him Your carefully outlined plans for passing share what is the more common planning seed money to launch a business, then the and instead use trust funds on his behalf money onto the next generation can be de- option. In many estate plans, inheritances money is available. However, if your child (say, to directly pay rehabilitation, rent, or railed in many ways: are given to heirs staggered (such as one- (or other benefi ciary) veers off path or vio- other expenses). A widowed spouse remarries unwisely; third at age 25, one-third at age 30, and the lates the terms and conditions you incor- Of course, there are numerous other An unanticipated or unforeseen tax con- rest at age 35) or outright with no strings porate into the trust, then the assets are benefi ts to discretionary trusts, ranging sequence drains the estate; attached. This approach seems straightfor- not available. With proper planning and a from estate- and income-tax planning to A chronic illness or lengthy nursing ward and therefore sensible. But staggered good choice of trustee, the funds you set proactively passing along fi nancial values. home stay disrupts the plan; or outright distributions are less than ideal aside can last for your benefi ciaries over Although a long-utilized and popular An aggressive creditor, fraud, fi nancial because they leave your heirs’ inheritance the course of their lifetime and beyond. tool for the wealthy, this type of trust has mismanagement, or some other unfortu- vulnerable to interference from creditors, helped protect countless people across the nate act undoes your hard work and creates predators, and courts. How Does This Tool Shield An Inheritance? entire wealth spectrum, from the modest a complicated, expensive, dramatic mess So, what can and should be done in- First of all, the discretionary lifetime to the well-to-do. In many cases, it can help for your family. stead? trust cordons off the inheritance. A venge- your family too. In this month’s article we will explore Here’s one powerful answer: Leave an a solution to the problem of how to best inheritance in a discretionary lifetime Monet Binder, Esq., has her practice in Queens, dedicated to protecting families, their lega- pass along your fi nancial legacy, wheth- trust, rather than outright or staggered. cies, and values. All halachic documents are approved by the Bais Havaad Halacha Center in er modest or substantial, so that you can What is a discretionary trust? Lakewood, under the direction of Rabbi Dovid Grossman and the guidance of Harav Shmuel breathe easier and feel more comfortable Depending on how it’s implemented in Kaminetsky, shlita, as well as other leading halachic authorities. To learn more about how a with your options. your circumstances, this type of trust lets power of attorney can help you, you can send her an email at [email protected] or call The good news is that you’re not the you pass assets along to benefi ciaries now 718-514-7575. fi rst to deal with this anxiety. For centuries, or at your death. As the name implies, you people with assets have wrestled with how give the trustee discretion over how and The information in this article is intended solely for your information. It does not to protect and exert control over the next when the benefi ciaries may access trust constitute legal advice, and it should not be relied on without a discussion of your generation. As a result, they and their advi- assets. Certain uses of the money might specifi c situation with an attorney. sors have developed quite a toolbox. be deemed acceptable, whereas other uses

64 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) • February 8, 2018 Why Should I Move? Israel’s Ministry of Education prepares CONTINUED FROM P. 54 to say! It wasn’t them leaving the comfort- able environment I had worked at for over to embrace the families of the new that someone had to be bribed to date a decade. It wasn’t them leaving a job they me, because that is essentially what it is. enjoyed. And who’s to say that I would I hear the announcer’s voice now: “Want fi nd a job I liked as much with the same Ramat Givat Zeev neighborhood $10,000? Just stay home, date, and marry salary AND fi nd my husband. It was a tall a local girl and the money can be yours!” order they were asking of me. I would only The best I can offer is that those who reply, “Can you guarantee that I’ll fi nd a thought of such ideas only mean well and husband if I leave the agency?” Of course are trying to help. they couldn’t, and in the end I had the You are correct when you wrote, “They last laugh as my husband worked in the tell me that I have better chances of fi nd- agency! Don’t let any shadchan force you ing a shidduch if I move. They can’t guaran- to move or to change anything about your tee anything.” How many times did shad- life that you don’t feel comfortable doing. chanim tell me to leave the agency I work Yes, they may mean well, but it is your life at in order to fi nd my bashert elsewhere: and they don’t get to play around with it, “You won’t fi nd anyone there. Switch jobs! even if they have the best of intentions. Go to a different agency!” Easy for them Hatzlachah to you all!

Dressing For The Informal Workplace CONTINUED FROM P. 61 likely get away with fl at shoes, but presen- tations call for heels. Simple pumps and wear a basic face of makeup, but don’t go slingbacks are best. And don’t go too high further. with the heels; it’s uncomfortable and it For meetings and presentations, both doesn’t look right anyway. with clients and with supervisors, you If you’re wearing hair, keep it simple. n an effort to embrace the growing cellence the schools are putting great em- need just a touch more polish. Here is Wear it either down or pulled up in a po- community of Israel’s new Ramat phasis on hiring the best staff and most where you want to avoid denim unless it’s nytail or simple updo. Same with a sheitel. IGivat Zeev neighborhood, Israel’s experienced teachers. a fi tted dress. And jackets can work here. For non-sheitel coverings, keep them sim- Ministry of Education has confi rmed that The neighboring Givat Zeev council But don’t worry: you do not need a full- ple and coordinated with your outfi t. If they will be allocating 15 million shekels stated proudly that this is the shortest fl edged suit. It’s okay to wear a jacket or you like wearing your mitpachot with tails, (about $4 million dollars) to build two wait time any new neighborhood’s resi- other structured top with a skirt or dress. keep them to one side. No snoods or pre- new schools in Ramat Givat Zeev. dents can expect for the approval of plans Here is where you need those acces- tieds. You will need some makeup here, so Construction will begin in the next for these impressive public institutions. sories. One showstopper piece of jewelry just wear a basic face. three months and the schools are expect- It is expected that these high-quality edu- (no more) or a fun oblong scarf will add to No matter how casual your workplace ed to be fully operational to accommo- cational institutions will draw students your polish and get you noticed. You may is, if you dress with some professional pol- date students starting as soon as the 2019 from all over Jerusalem, and will be a be carrying a bag, so make sure it’s neat, ish at all times you’ll look and feel great. school year. With an emphasis on provid- point of pride for the Ramat Givat Zeev clean, and refi ned. For meetings you can And it will be easier to focus on your work. ing the highest standards in academic ex- community and its residents.

23 Shevat 5778 • Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 65 Side-Splitting Stand-Up The preserved forearm of a 16th century saint is on a tour across Canada. And get this... tickets are still available! - Conan O’Brien A manman in Massachusetts went to claim in Massachuset a $10,000$10,000 lotterylo prize and foundts out we nthatt to hecla misreadim the ttery prize and f tticketick and won $1 million.oun Later,d out thishat wife he said, et and won $1 m misread the illion. Later, hi ““DidDid youyou getget tthehe $10,000?” He was slike, wif e“Yes.” said, $10,000?” He was like, “Yes.” - JimmyJimmy FallonFallon

Isn’t the Super Bowl already patriotic enough? The game is between the Eagles and the Patriots. The only way it could be more American is if they forced the Redskins out of their stadium and played it there. - James Corden

Trump’s speech fell nine minutes short of breaking President Clinton’s record for the longest State of the Union. And when he heard that, Trump grabbed the mic and President Trump decided he wouldn’t spent 10 minutes reading the iTunes user be taking part in a decade-old tradition of agreement. sitting down to do an interview before the - Jimmy Fallon Super Bowl. Which is fi ne with me. I can’t stand those casual football fans who only Tickets to the State of the Union had to watch the Super Bowl for the presidential be reprinted after they originally said State interviews. of the “Uniom.” Even the guy who sent out - James Corden that false missile alert in Hawaii was like, “How do you mess that up?” Yesterday, a glitch kept sending iPhones - Jimmy Fallon the same CNN news alert repeatedly. But if I wanted to be annoyed by the same CNN A fl ight from Norway to Germany that news alert over and over, I’d just watch was carrying 84 plumbers to a work confer- CNN for fi ve minutes. ence had to turn back because, get this, the - Jimmy Fallon plane’s toilet wasn’t working. The only way this could be more ironic is if the plane had Police in Philadelphia have announced 84 plumbers and Alanis Morissette. they will not grease light poles ahead of the - James Corden Super Bowl because the grease did not de- ter people from climbing poles following Over on the Animal Planet, they’re hold- the NFC championship game. In fact, all it ing their 14th annual Puppy Bowl. This year did was made them impossible to arrest. it will feature Team Ruff vs. Team Fluff. - Seth Meyers And if you’re curious which team is better, please visit www.gamblersanonymous.org. United Airlines prevented a woman - Jimmy Fallon from boarding her fl ight because she tried to board with an emotional-support pet, President Trump yesterday praised Chi- which was her peacock. They were all set to cago Cubs co-owner Todd Ricketts’ appoint- let both of them on, but then they caught ment as the RNC’s new fi nance chairman, the peacock with over three and a half calling him a great addition. Yeah, great if ounces of shampoo. you want to win one election every 108 years. - James Corden - Seth Meyers I saw that on StubHub, there’s a Super The Super Bowl is this Sunday between Bowl ticket listed at over $66,000. And the the New England Patriots, and the Phila- person who buys it will get to the stadium delphia Eagles. The game will determine and say, “$10 for a beer? That’s crazy. Come whether Philadelphia is burned to the on, man.” ground by happy fans or sad fans. - Jimmy Fallon - Seth Meyers

66 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 6 (#248) • February 8, 2018 See solution in this issue By: Yoni Glatt, [email protected] Down “Children’s Literature” Difficulty Level: Manageable 1. Given a G, e.g. 31. Opposite of plus, at 2. Big name in Halva Bloomingdale’s 3. Clapton band with the album 34. Cultural values “Disraeli Gears” 35. Will, Biblically 4. “Amen!” 36. Book in the Bible (but not the 5. Adam Levine or David Lee Roth, Torah) e.g. 38. Capone and Michaels 6. Bring home (inedible) bacon 40. Mascot of Kellogg’s Honey 7. Kind of music or lightning Smacks 8. Young relative of Israelite 42. Pressings enslavers 43. Practice that often led to family 9. Certain orthodontic device problems in the Bible 10. Shemoneh ___ 49. Tommie of the Miracle Mets 11. “___be an honor” 51. Meshuganeh 12. What Stan Lee’s Daredevil can’t 53. First-stringers do 54. Israel has one to exist 13. Minyan men 56. California/Nevada lake 18. Perpetually 57. Iran deal participant 19. “Here ___ nothing!” 58. Anne Rice creatures, for short 24. Isaac Mizrahi is known for it 61. On the Mediterranean 26. Moon of Saturn with a Troy-like 63. NBA team owned by Joe Lacob, name on the scoreboard 27. City of a famous Gaon 64. Chabad org. 28. ___ of Expulsion (when the Jews 65. Eat the forbidden fruit, e.g. were thrown out of England) 66. Petrol 29. Some priestly garb 67. MLB rally killers

Across 1. Not tzniut, perhaps 33. Phrase at a less-traditional 52. Book about one the Torah says to 5. “See My ___” (“The Simpsons” Jewish wedding be especially nice to (with “The”) parody of “Be My Guest”) 34. Modern day award Koufax would 55. AKA yontif 9. Illegal job probably win 59. No-win situation 14. City in Israel that’s a piece of 37. One often seen swimming 60. Disney bird voiced by Gilbert land? around San Francisco Gottfried 15. Home to Honolulu 39. Sacha Baron Cohen does it very 62. Org. for Dershowitz 16. First name in cosmetics well live 63. Book about breakfast for one of 17. Book about Eden’s whereabouts? 41. Book about young Solomon? Noah’s sons? 20. Green of “Casino Royale” 44. Detractor 68. Gaunt guy 21. Rooftop rooster, e.g. 45. “There ___ there there” 69. Alternative to “Slicha b’vakasha” 22. Benet’s “___ to Walt Whitman” (Gertrude Stein) 70. Ceremonial splendor 23. One “in distress” 46. Gangsters’ guns 71. Microwaves, perhaps 25. Book about a macher? 47. Possible cry at an IFA match 72. “...and ye shall ___ no longer” 30. Birthright, e.g. 48. Granola bit (Exodus 9:28) 32. Hebron to Ein Gedi dir. 50. Fanning in Abrams’ “Super 8” 73. Dead and Red DIFFERENCES? 10 CAN YOU SPOT

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