I Think I Have Deathgrip.. Looking for Advice.. 23 Upvotes | 24 December, 2018 | by Joeboard
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I think I have deathgrip.. looking for advice.. 23 upvotes | 24 December, 2018 | by Joeboard Okay, im gonna be completely honest here and I am looking for some real solid advice.. I havnt had sex in a couple of years, about 3 years. Started seeing this girl, and had sex Saturday. I can get hard and stay hard for awhile, but I cannot bust. We fucked for a solid 40 minutes, and eventually gave up. I originally chalked it up to being nervous.. after she left, i had blue balls like a mofo and tried to jerk off, couldnt bust (but my dick was a little sore from fucking for so long). Sunday rolls around, i have to work and I have blue balls all day long. I figure I could forsure cum, hit her up she comes over and SAME SHIT. I stayed hard, she enjoys herself forsure but I can tell she feels some type of way about me not getting off. This time i was able to jerk off afterwards and cum finally, but thats when I came across this deathgrip shit online.. Ive been jerkin off for the last 3 years.. i use a lube, but a tight grip.. how could I fucking prefer my god damn hand over a beautiful girl? I need some real advice here guys. First time we used a condom, second time I went raw and not much of a difference. I wont see her again until next weekend, i plan on doing the nofap shit, but im reading horror stories of this taking months to cure. Has anyone been through this? What has helped you..? Edit: I also wanna mention this has NEVER happened to me before. Yes, its been awhile since ive last had sex, but ive always been able to get off (unless im drunk). Im definitely attracted to this girl too, its not her, its definitely me. Archived from theredarchive.com www.TheRedArchive.com Page 1 of 6 Comments MyRedditAccountSSV • 24 points • 24 December, 2018 05:12 PM Had that problem with an old LTR because I deathgripped before meeting her. Don’t touch your dick and it’ll eventually pass. That’s all there is to it. Although, it depends on how bad your deathgripping is to determine how long it takes. I can for example only cum from one position where she naturally tightens, however if I’m going raw with a naturally tight pussy I might cum from other positions. Joeboard[S] • 3 points • 24 December, 2018 05:27 PM Which position? Fuckin her from behind was probably the closest I got last night. So your saying you still have effects from the deathgrip to this day? teeekuuu • 7 points • 24 December, 2018 05:36 PM Take her from behind and pull her hair hard, always works for me when we’re doing round 3 or sth Joeboard[S] • 2 points • 24 December, 2018 05:45 PM That's basically what I was doing man.. this sucks.. teeekuuu • 3 points • 24 December, 2018 06:02 PM Keep your head up and follow the nofap advice, this too shall pass MyRedditAccountSSV • 7 points • 24 December, 2018 05:58 PM She lies on her stomach with legs together and I lie on top of her. Yep, that’s what I’m saying. Sex is awesome nonetheless and I get to decide when I want to cum. I can go for an hour session if I want to and I can also do a quickie in 30 seconds. Just lazy dog position. Joeboard[S] • 1 point • 24 December, 2018 06:18 PM That's the exact position I was talking about when fucking her from behind.. im not gonna touch my dick all week and we'll see what happens this weekend. itiswr1tten • 3 points • 24 December, 2018 06:51 PM Yeah I hate the nofap crusaders but this is literally the answer. Just be straight with the girl if you're funny enough to pull it off, "don't worry baby you're fine as hell...just been getting too busy with myself thinking about you." Dreams_of_Conquest • 1 point • 24 December, 2018 11:19 PM its gonna take more than a week my friend, mine was not as bad as yours and after 3 months of nofap I am only now getting to normal cirrusice • 15 points • 24 December, 2018 05:27 PM Do NoFap. Problem solved. jackandjill22 • 2 points • 25 December, 2018 02:33 AM www.TheRedArchive.com Page 2 of 6 Damn, didn't know this was a real thing. Joeboard[S] • 0 points • 24 December, 2018 05:35 PM Yeah, I mean thats the obvious answer.. Idk, its not like im some furious dry rubber, jerkin till my dick is bleeding. I use lube, im not really into super kinky porn that i NEED to see to get off.. i thought 100% i was gonna be a two pump chump. I can tell she is bummed out over this. Im pretty certain she is getting off.. I reassured her its not her, and told her its been awhile since I had sex last. I dont want her thinking im not attracted to her. throwawayDutch321 • 1 point • 24 December, 2018 06:50 PM Im pretty certain she is getting off.. You should be 100% sure. If you're getting her off and making her happy it really doesn't matter too much if you can't finish yourself occasionally. Talking from experience, it takes a while to fix. If I don't masturbate for 2-3 weeks and have sex I can usually come. For me it usually takes a while to find that perfect position and it's not the same every time. Sometimes it doesn't happen and I just assure her that it's not her fault. Yea it's frustrating but if I made her come from eating her out, intercourse or whatever it's not a big deal. PIGamer86 • 11 points • 24 December, 2018 05:36 PM Stop jacking off. Get out of your head and don’t overthink it. Don’t dwell on it. RPinthemaking • 7 points • 24 December, 2018 07:18 PM Lmfao I went through the same thing. First time I fucked a girl after having spent years jerking off my god, we must have done it for hours. She ended up getting upset because she figured I’d though she was ugly. I actually kind of liked it because I was able to get so much pleasure for hours but yeah, do no fap for a few months and watch your stamina crash. Joeboard[S] • 3 points • 24 December, 2018 07:22 PM I mean fucking for awhile is cool, its nice to see her enjoy herself.. but at the end of the day, i wanna get my nut off before my dick gets sore and numb. I just wonder what shes thinking about this. She must like the sex, because she came right over the next day. RPinthemaking • 2 points • 24 December, 2018 07:31 PM Who’s suggestion was it to go raw and did she suggest doing something new? If it was her than that means she blames herself for not being able to get you off. Keep it that way and enjoy the validation sex while working on nofap to be able to nut and when you do look her in the eye and say, “look you finally did something right.” PS. Be careful with going raw, babies and stds ya know. Joeboard[S] • 0 points • 24 December, 2018 07:38 PM Lmao.. im not gonna put it on her, ive already talked to her about it a bit and she seems understanding, and willing to keep trying. I could tell from the first night, after sex we cuddled for a bit and she was asking if there was something wrong, if i found her attractive. And the second night is when i told her listen its been a little since ive had sex and it might be just nerves. www.TheRedArchive.com Page 3 of 6 I guess this is better than not being able to get it up, idk. And we were fuckin with the condom, i was going soft and mentioned i hated condoms, she agreed so i took it off and continued. I know the risks, but she said she is clean and i was tested back when i was last having sex. RPinthemaking • 1 point • 24 December, 2018 07:48 PM Try looking up some positions that you’ve never tried before. New experiences always brought me excitement and with that faster and better climaxes. Yeah... don’t go by her word, go get tested. Peter_B_Long • 6 points • 24 December, 2018 08:41 PM Giving up masturbation is the only solution you will ever find. It's the only cure for death grip. If it takes 3 months it takes 3 months. Sorry, but you can't speed up the process. Going raw with this girl was a stupid mistake and don't ever do that again. There's a few other things you can try. You can try fucking with thinner condoms (although going raw is as "thin" as you can go, I doubt this will help you). Your immersion might be at fault here. You're so worried about being able to cum and you're probably insecure about the fact that you haven't fucked in years and all you want is to perfectly please this girl. Get over it. You should read "Sex God Method" to fix your immersion / psychological issues.