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Valentine's Day We knowyou know. The Internet has been bombarding your email inbox with reminders to reserve a table for dinner with that special someone. If you're in a relationship, enjoy the day. If you're not, have a great time hanging out with positive people. No need for negativity—even if it is a Hallmark holiday.
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UBC Thunderbirds vs. UVic Vikes basketball: 6 p.m. and 8 p.m. @ War Memorial Gym Go cheer on your UBC T-Birds as they compete against Vic toria this Friday. Tickets$2 for students or free with a Blue Crew pass. =HOTO COURTED JASON ROBINSOK Jason Robinson founded Sustainability Television in 2007 HEALTH » ffijffi TheVagina Monologues: 7 p.m. @ Frederic Wood TV for a greener world Tennis 1.0 Beginners Clinic: Theatre 9:30-11:30 a.m. @ UBC Ten The annual production ofthe Arno Rosenfeld rather than participate in The new partnership between nis Centre award-winning play is back on Features Editor a more traditional type of the Faculty of Land and Food You know that it's a slow time campus. Come witness the show Jason Robinson wants to show environmental activism. Systems and Robinson's for-profit of year when we publish tennis, based upon 200+ interviews what people are doing to help Robinson said Sustainability organization will include various so here you go. If you're looking conducted by playwright Eve En- the environment — and he has Television content has been types of content, Robinson said. for an (expensive) way to spend sler. Tickets $16, available online been working with UBC to picked up by television chan "There may be students from your break, pick up the classic and at the Outpost. do so. nels, but most ofthe content LFS who want to share what racquet sport! Tickets$207.90. "We're just not hear goes onto Sustainability Tele they're doing," he said. "The ing about all the amaz vision's website. faculty itself — I know they're ing stuff that's going on," One piece of content that doing different research initia said Robinson, founder of helped establish the strong tives that are very innovative Sustainability Television. relationship between Sustaina and would be really good for Reading Week Founded in 2007, the Rich bility Television and UBC was people to know about." The Ubyssey is going on vaca mond-based Sustainability a 2009 documentary about the Growing up, Robinson tion, too. Expect our award-win Television produces content fight to save the UBC Farm. actually watched very little ning web and print content highlighting environmental The video highlighted student television, he said. beginning again on Sunday, activism and innovation from activists at UBC who wanted to "I wasn't allowed to watch Feb. 25. Ifyou need some news around the world. But it has stop planned development from television for eight hours a sustenance, we recommend also established strong ties being built on the farm. day," Robinson explained. "I taking a look back through the with UBC, including a recent Robinson said the documen was given half an hour in the ages of The Ubyssey, courtesy of deal with the Faculty of Land tary was an example of what evening to watch television if I the UBC Library archives. and Food Systems to produce his organization tries to do, wanted to do it." content on the environment and that the attention on the But the television he did Got an event you'd like to see on this page? Send your event al impact of food around UBC Farm has led the Univer watch as a child has shaped the the world. sity of Victoria and Kwantlen work he is doing today. and your best pitch to [email protected]. A Richmond native, Robin University to begin explor "I usually [watched] PBS son said he worked in finance ing the creation of their own or David Suzuki's The Nature research farms. Personal Training and Boxing Lessons prior to starting Sustainability of Things or Wild Kingdom or Professional and affordable Television. He said he spent Sustainability Television has something that was valuable; I (Western and Chinese) seven years planning the or also made other documentar think there's far too much junk editing for students. 16 years experience. Built myself from 53 kg. to 70 kg. ganization before its launch. ies focused on UBC, including on TV," Robinson said. competed in kick-boxing in Canada and Hong "I didn't see anything a recent one entitled Eating And with the help of Kong. No contact needed. innovative enough," Robin Carbon Smart that focuses on like-minded folks at UBC, Call Doug Setter, BScat: 778-837-3528 son said of why he decided how food production affects Robinson is well on his way to to start a media organization the earth. changing that. tJ
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Will McDonald News Editor The conflict between UBC and its Faculty Association will be resolved by a third party, but not until this summer. UBC and the Faculty Associ ation met for bargaining sessions this October and December, but the negotiations stalled over wage increases. Both parties agreed to five days of mediation and arbitration, starting on Feb. 4, to finally settle the dispute. But the arbitrator called in sick, and the talks have been rescheduled to June. Nancy Langton, president of n case the cover wasn't enough of a hint, this is The Ubyssey's Iannual sex supplement and we hope you won't be able to take your hands off it. In addition to the standard romantic (see: cats going on dates, pg. 12) and sexual (see: sex shop reviews, pg. 8) fare, we've tried to peel back Hallmark-coated Valentine's Day illusions of romance and bliss. On pg. 8, you'll find a handful of UBC students' bad — and down right strange— Valentine's Day experiences. On the next page, we dissect why you really shouldn't spend today stalking your ex on so cial media, and explore the elusive question of just what exactly friends with benefits are supposed to do on a day that can create a false dichot omy between romantic couples and lonely singles. We hope you enjoy what we have to offer and that you spend this day : in a way that makes you happy! —Features editor Arno Rosenfeld Yes. It's as intense as you expect. Tough projects. Tight deadlines. It can be scary. But the growth is Real challenges. incredible. Because you have the support of your peers, the guidance of a mentor and the wisdom of partners to Unreal rewards. see you through. All of whom never forget they started out just like you. Visit ey.com/CA/Possibilities. See More | Possibilities =U ERNST &YOUNG Quality In Everything We Do THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 14, 2013 THE SEX SUPPLEMENT Friends with benefits on the day of love Erik Coates Contributor Society tells us a lot about what we should be doing on Valentine's Day. Couples should be togeth er, revelling in their mutual love. Single folk should be question ing their self-worth, feeling extra-lonely and bingeing on ice cream. But there is a third group that Hallmark seems to have overlooked. These are the outcasts that don't fit in with the cute couples or the sullen singles. They are the friends with benefits. For those still in the dark about this 21st-century innovation, friends with benefits are essen tially friends by day and lovers by night. Accordingto recent Hollywood flicks like Friends with Benefits and No Strings Attached, this kind of relationship is struck up between emotionally unavailable (but horny) people who eventually realize that they are unfulfilled in life and should embrace a "real" relationship with each other. But what about people who just know what's up and want to enjoy life while they're young? What if a relationship truly works best as an occasional roll in the hay and nothing more? And what in the world are these poonmates supposed to do on Valentine's Day? Are they supposed to go out for dinner like people in a commit ted relationship? Stay home and drunkenly text their exes like proper single people? Study for midterms at the library before getting down with their "friend" Emily Burton-Brown who — their ex is doing. Contributor However, the study suggests, Facebook stalking happens year- while remaining Facebook friends round, but Valentine's Day is ripe for may help reduce sexual desire for an especially high number of forlorn an ex, explicitly monitoring (read: lovers poring over their exes' status Facebook stalking) their activi updates. ties through social media hurts Tara Marshall, a psychology emotional recovery and personal professor at Brunei University in growth. Additionally, Facebook London, England, has researched creeping is associated with "obses the relationship between Facebook sive relational intrusion," a term surveillance of ex-partners, sus used to indicate the unwanted tained negative feelings towards an pursuit of an intimate relationship, ex and personal growth post-break particularly with a former romantic up. She recently published her partner. findings on what she calls "interper Now, to be honest, it's not surpris sonal electronic surveillance" inthe ing that constantly checking up on journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior, exes isn't good for mental health. and Social Networking. But I'll be the first to admit to keep Marshall's findings may prove ing tabs on the Toms, Dicks and surprising to those who assume Harrys ofthe past. blocking or de-friending an ex in the Justifications for Facebook event of a messy break-up will facil stalking run the gamut, from solici itate the healing process. Instead, tous ("I just want to make sure he's Marshall's study found that exes doing okay — he really deserves to who remained Facebook friends be happy") to vengeful ("I want to "were lower in negative feelings, make sure the effing SOB is so full sexual desire and longing for the of regret he can't get out of bed in former partner than people who the morning"). were not Facebook friends." Any fans ofthe HBO series Marshall suggests this may be the Girls will remember the episode in result of decreased emotional sen which a depressed and newly single In days gone by, I ended a fairly certain girl's history because I was hold for someone who should be sitivity due to continuous exposure Marnie clicks through her ex-boy tumultuous relationship with convinced he had begun dating her, part of your past. And now that it's to "banal status updates, comments friend's Facebook photos with dis someone and unfriended them on and accidentally "liked" one of her been scientifically proven, you can and photos." Constant check-ins at gust. The truth of this scene is what Facebook, thinking it was for the status updates — from several years use hard evidence to kick the habit. the gym or embarrassingly public makes it both hilarious and incred best. About a month later, I was back ago. Naturally, she told him about it So go tweet the lyrics of an em political rants definitely help erode ibly devastating; you do not want to in full ex-girlfriend psycho mode, and he confronted me. powered music artist of your choice any "residual attraction." Plus, the be that girl, but you know you have checking his wall for public posts Moral ofthe story? By stayingtoo (Toni Braxton's "He Wasn't Man dumped party avoids the emotional been and probably will be again at and incriminating photos. I lost invested in your old beau's status Enough" is my personal favourite) black hole of wondering what— or some point in your life. track of time scrolling through a updates, you're putting your life on and move on with your life. 13 Sports + Rec )R C.J. PENTLAND TRAVEL» Road trippin in the Western U.S. What you need to know to survive and make the most of your U.S. adventure Justin Fleming and experience what the West and some buddies, a road trip Senior Lifestyle Writer Coast has to offer? Why not just to the United States can be the With reading break on the hori hop in a car and drive? perfect opportunity to unwind zon, visions of relaxation and It's not a complicated notion. before the home stretch of vacation are on students' minds. There doesn't have to be a set the semester. Places to go But instead of just staying holed destination, it doesn't cost a lot Here are some essential tips up in the rainy Lower Mainland of money and it doesn't require on how to be prepared and make for the week, why not get out of a ton of planning. As long as the most of your road trip south 1. Leavenworth, Washington: save yourself the the province, soak up some rays you have a car, a few necessities ofthe 49th parallel. tU airfare and get a taste of Germany outside Seattle at this Bavarian village inthe Cascade Mountains. wsim 2. Cannon Beach, Oregon: Nine miles of beautiful beaches, bluffs and cliffs. Hike the trails down to the beach and impressive rock formations at Ecola State Park. Keep your eyes peeled for the resident elk herd. LEGEND 3. Eugene, Oregon: Referred to as "Emerald City," Eugene SCENICVIEWS is the second-largest city in the state and home to the University of Oregon. Forget Victoria — "university town" takes on a whole new meaning here. But there's stuff here for non-partiers too. The jAjf HIKING city's slogan is "A great city for the arts and outdoors." SURFING 4. Reno, Nevada: Not ready for Las Vegas? Get your feet wet with some cotton-tops in Reno, "the biggest little city in the PARTY PLACE world." W m m GOOD FOOD 5. Point Reyes Station, California: The perfect place to stop, grab a bite and sample the local flavour. The Point Reyes National Seashore also offers great hiking. BIRDWATCHING w 6. Big Sur, California: Tap into your inner bohemian in these verdant hills above the coast. M 7. CayUCOS, California: Great surfing and unreal eats at a price that won't break the bank. 8. Joshua Tree, Southeast California: Hiking, camping, climbing and general soul-searching are all possible in this 790,636-acre park, which encompasses both the Mohave and the Colorado Deserts. To top it off, there are also surreal geologic al formations and cacti gardens. 4> 9. Grand Canyon, Arizona: Just stating the obvious here. Classic road reads THE GRAPES OF WRATH BY JOHN STEINBECK CHINA BLUES BY Kl LONGFELLOW HELL'S ANGELS: THE STRANGE AND TERRIBLE SAGA BY HUNTER S. THOMPSON THE WHITE ALBUM BY JOAN DIDION BLOOD MERIDIAN BY CORMAC MCCARTHY CANARY ROW BY JOHN STEINBECK ON THE ROAD BY JACK KEROUAC THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 14, 2013 | SPORTS + REC Necessities for the road AMERICAN Duct tape: Make like Red Green and carry the tape that can Knife: One of humankind's oldest tools. You'd be stupid to leave home The grizzly bear is the fix anything. without one. official state animal of Cal ifornia, but no grizzly bears Vice grips: Use them for various tasks, or for stress relief if your car Camp stove or Coleman burner: If you're goingto be on the road for breaks down. more than a few days, you'll be grateful for the independence that one of these bad boys can afford you. Multi-headed screwdriver: This little tool is a big help. "General Sherman," a Cooler: A large, hard-shell cooler — ifyou have room — will ensure 3,500-year-old tree in the Tire pressure gauge: Note that some tires' air pressure differs from you've got enough space for a block of ice and plenty of food. Giant Forest of Sequoia Na what is recommended in the manual and will be printed on the wall of tional Park in Tulare Coun the tire, so check both. Power inverter: These plug into your car lighter and offer continuous ty, California, is the single 110/120V power and 5 V USB output that lets you charge and run most largest tree on Earth. Juniper cables: You don't want to be stranded in the middle gadgets. It's well worth the $25. of nowhere. Anyone 21 and over is Camera: Leave your expensive camera at home so it won't be lost or legally allowed to possess Rope: You never know what you may need it for. stolen; instead, pick up a couple disposables so you can save those mem one ounce of cannabis in ories worry-free. Washington, but smoking it Paper towels: Life in 150 square feet gets messy. in public is illegal. Map: In the event of electrical problems, a tangible map wins every time. Breathable, open-toed footwear: Maybe it's finally time for It is illegal in Oregon to those Crocs. Deck of cards: Make new friends with drinking games, or catch up on pump your own gas. You some "you time" with an introspective game of solitaire. must stay in your car and Spare set of keys: Affix it to the underside of your vehicle, tuck in some wait for a gas station attend L obscure cranny, disguise as hood ornament or entrust to your co-pilot. First aid kit: Patch yourself up in the event of minor injuries. ant to do it for you. If you're slumming it and showers aren't a luxury you can afford, grab a bar of soap and find the HOT nearest aquatic centre. The grocery store chain Trader Joe's houses a bevy of wholesome and affordable eats and is a TIPS great place to go shopping for food supplies. Highways to Highway 101: This scenic route winds down the entire coast of Oregon, from the Columbia River to the California border, passes through forest growths and offers stunning views ofthe Pacific Ocean. It's a lot slower to travel on, but it's worth it. c Pacific Coast Highway: While this highway runs close to the entire length of California, the stretch from Orange County up to Malibu is where the magic happens. Public Consultation - February 28 Route 66: Jump onto a section of Route 66 that runs from Thunderbird Park Transportation Study Los Angeles to Chicago and travel the road that took the refugees out ofthe Dust Bowl and the hippies to California. Diners and A new Fieldhouse, National Soccer Development Centre (NSDC) and additional motels abound. athletic fields are planned for Thunderbird Park. In preparation, UBC is conducting a Transportation Study of Thunderbird Park and the surrounding area to determine Avenue Of Giants: The 31-mile portion ofthe old U.S. the impact of the NSDC on access, circulation and parking on adjacent roads and Route 101 in Northern California is surrounded by 51,222 acres of redwood groves. It is said to be the most dramatic display of these neighbourhoods. The study area is bounded by and includes Wesbrook Mall, East stoic giants inthe whole 500-mile redwood belt. Mall, Thunderbird Boulevard & West 16th Avenue, and adjacent neighbourhoods. sday, February 28, 2013 4:00PM -7:00PM Thunderbird Arena, 6066 Thunderbird Boulevard (Main entrance on Wesbrook Mall) Interested in Science Outreach? The public is invited to come learn about the Thunderbird Park Driving Transportation Study and offer feedback. Transportation planners from UBC will be on hand to answer questions. albums Can't make the Open House? Not a problem, online consultation will be available from February 22 to March 6, 2013. nnection invites you to The Doobie Brothers: For more information or to participate online, Toulouse Street Science please visit: www.planning.ubc.ca Capture the essence of California in the '70s while For more information on this consultation process, contact: rocking down the high with Impact [email protected] way to "Rockin' Down the Workshop Highway." This notice contains important information which may affect you. Please ask someone to translate it for you Youth Lagoon: The Year of Hibernation February 27, 2013,1 . o| #*|-fe SSI n|sj 4= ?j-b gfiffi-gj5i7|-#cH ai^M^K UBC Scarfe building, Room 1004 9-£!w °I«H =L Si-i- ei^Sr-^ -HH-S £-2|6|-A|7| "HM^r. This atmospheric, lo-fi Facilitator: Niamh Kelly dream pop is perfect for a place of mind campus + community planning daydreaming while wind Susie Taylor at susietaylor® THE UNIVERSITY OF BRITISH COLUMBIA ing along the highway. or 1-877-474-4081 ext 240 | rww.letstalkscience.ca M)iLi Canada 8 I THE SEX SUPPLEMENT I THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 14, 2013 Silly, strange, scary: Valentine's Day gone awry Katelyn Verstraten had tried to drive away before we saw them, inadvertently went for Thai food with my Contributor Hollering said he believes romantic ges but their car had broken down. I still have friend and her boyfriend," said Michaela alentine's Day is here again: cue the tures should be spontaneous, not enforced by the toy at home." Rife, a first-year master's student. "Although spike in chocolate and condom sales an arbitrary day. maybe that was actually my best. I think that Vand let the horror stories begin. It "[I have] tales of romanticism," said CLAM SURPRISE tells you a lot about my life." seems like everyone has an unfortunate Hollering. "But part of why they're awesome Valentine's Day story, although not everyone is because they happened when I wanted "My high school boyfriend made me a sur TOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT is willing to share the gory details. We at The to and not because societal group pressure prise dinner at his parents'," Victoria resident Ubyssey have compiled a few UBC students' dictated it." Heather Quee recalled. "His dad came into "I went on a first date with someone who had choice V-Day memories, ranging from sweet the kitchen just before his parents were going been stalking me for months," said Emma K., to stalkerish. ENGINE ISSUES out and asked me if I liked clams. I said, 'Not who lives at UBC's Green College. "He baked really,' but it turned out the whole dinner me heart-shaped cookies. I didn't even real "I was 10 and we were 'dating,'" said first- was pasta with clam sauce.... Worst day ever. ize it was Valentine's Day. DOWN WITH HALLMARK year Ph.D. student Ashley Dudill. "The door It ended pretty much the next week." "After [the date], he began showing up in bell rang, and me and my dad went to answer. my apartment every day. He would get my "Celebrating Valentine's Day is like cele He had left a little stuffed animal on the front THIRD-WHEELING roommate to let him in, and I would come brating VD," second-year PhD. student Tim stoop — very sweet. Then my dad looked up home and he would be sitting on my bed Hollering said. "It turns into something and started laughing.... He and his parents "My weirdest Valentine's Day was when I waiting for me. We broke up." 13 Exploring Vancouver's active sex shop scene Madeline Rigg attempts to emphasize education know what you want and aren't Contributor when it comes to sex; the store's phi too nervous about going into adult losophy, he said, is that "the biggest stores. You'll have to squeeze past ottles of wine and boxes of and most powerful sex organ in the other customers, and you may find it chocolates for your boo are body is the brain." more difficult to take your time and Bpar for the Valentine's Day The store is quiet and the walls look at all the different products. course, so why not be creative this are covered with art, creating a very year? After Christmas, Valentine's unintimidating and gallery-like WOMYNS' WARE (896 Day is the busiest time ofthe year atmosphere. The sales staff greet COMMERCIAL DR.): * for adult boutiques, and for good customers as they come in, but reason — sex toys are fun! They're manage not to be pushy. There is This store is the farthest from an easy way to shake things up in a great selection of products, from UBC, located all the way out on bed, and if nothing else, they're simple vibrators to high-end brands Commerical Drive. That said, the good for a laugh. such as Lelo and We Vibe, but trek might be worth it: Womyns' Starting a conversation on sex the shop is large enough to avoid Ware has been voted "Best Sex Toy toys and exploring sex shops can be seeming cluttered or overwhelm Store" by the readers ofthe Geor a great way to discuss how you and ing. There is also a clearly marked gia Straight 16 years in a row. The your partner connect physically and section for guys, though it's not owners of Womyns' Ware believe what makes him or her feel good. By as extensive. It's easy to wander sexuality is closely tied to overall the same token, going into sex shops around, pick things up and play with happiness and health, and they've and finding things you're interested them, or even joke around if you've tried to create a space to celebrate in is a good way to explore your own brought someone with you. Ifyou and empower women and women's sexuality. have questions, staff members are sexuality. Ifyou do opt for some sex toy always ready to consult with you Out ofthe three stores in this exploration today, one ofthe great one-on-one. article, Womyns' Ware has the least -i things about Vancouver is that you variety and the highest prices. The don't need to head to a sketchy HONEY GIFTS (3448 focus is squarely on high-end plugs, store on Granville. There are lots CAMBIE ST.): vibes and dildos, without much in of fun, clean, boutique-style shops the way of books or novelty items. to choose from where you can Due to its location, Honey Gifts is However, one thing this store has find quality products in a classy definitely busier than The Art of that is missing in the other two is a environment. Loving. Honey Gifts also has a more large BDSM section, with paddles, upbeat boutique atmosphere. The cuffs, floggers and rope. Because THE ART OF LOVING (1819 shop is especially busy during the Womyns' Ware focuses on quality W.5THAVE): Valentine's Day rush, and since it's products, the BDSM section comes a small space, things can get a little across as sturdy and accessible rath The Art of Loving is a great start cramped. But despite its small size, er than scary or trashy. for people who have never been to Honey Gifts carries a surprisingly The store itself is quite large, with an adult store before and maybe a large amount of products; you can products spaced well and nicely bit nervous about the experience. find everything from novelty games displayed; it doesn't get crowded The front ofthe store houses a large to lingerie, toys and massage oils. the way the others do on busy days. bookshelf and couch, along with fli The prices at Honey Gifts are the Addingto the store's relaxed atmo ers advertising upcoming sex semi most reasonable ofthe three shops, sphere are the salespeople, who are nars and workshops. Store co-owner but given the crowded quarters, very friendly and happy to answer John Ince said The Art of Loving it's best to visit this shop when you any questions. '5H PUBLIC FORUM ON MARIJUANA PANELISTS Free community panel and dialogue DR. KERRY JANG - Vancouver City Councillor on BC's marijuana policy. Seeking NEIL BOYD - Professor of Criminology, SFU better approaches based on public MICHAEL VONN - Policy Director, BC Civil health and safety. Liberties BILLVANDERGRAAF - Retired police detective MODERATOR Sensible(vj0.ca Decriminalize Cannabis. DANA LARSEN - Sensible BC Director For a Safer Province. Thursday, Feb 28. 7-9pm. UBC Wood 2 (2194 Health Sciences Mall) THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 14, 2013 THE SEX SUPPLEMENT UBC lecturer speaks out against TEDx talk on the dangers of online porn Justin Flemming He goes on to say that healthcare Senior Lifestyle Writer professionals should be screening for porn addictions first, rather What better way to celebrate being than treating patients showing single on Valentine's Day than signs of mental disorders. buying a magnum of wine, some But Jason Winters, a sessional scented candles and a box of choc lecturer on human sexuality in the olates and locking yourself inthe department of psychology at UBC, bedroom with your trusty porn finds Wilson's claims troubling and machine for an all-night solo sex unethical. marathon? "There is no research show But anyone who has seen Gary ing that Internet pornography Wilson's TEDx talk "The Great" causes mental disorders — none," Porn Experiment" or his YouTube Winters wrote in his class blog. video series "Your Brain on Porn" "Psychological problems and men — or even simply wandered the tal disorders can lead to problemat halls ofthe subreddit r/NoFap — ic porn use as a means to cope and this may seem like a recipe for a self-medicate. libido-sapping descent into erectile "Wilson is simply presenting his dysfunction and mental illness. ideology as fact," wrote Winters, The stigmas around masturba "and in this case, it's dangerous." tion are many, and pornography is Wilson claims porn can cause obviously seen as a vehicle for mas desensitization through brain re turbation. Gary Wilson claims in wiring and can result in men being his videos that Internet pornogra unable to achieve and maintain phy is a far more potent force than erections with a partner. Anyone its predecessor, the pornographic who has ever been stricken with an magazine, and is having devastat unresponsive member in a time of ing effects on many areas of young need will tell you that this can be people's lives. a confusing, frustrating and emas In his TEDx talk, Wilson stated culating experience. But Winters that symptoms of a porn addic offers a few alternate explanations: tion mimic ADHD, social anxiety, • The more orgasms you're hav • A man whose main sexual part or not as intense. This can lead to only drives it underground, depression, performance anxiety, ing, or the longer you're stimulated ner is always or mostly himself is erectile dysfunction or delayed Winters said. OCD and a host of other mental before one, the longer it will take likely to feel anxiety when with a ejaculation. "The best thing that can happen disorders. you to fully sexually recharge. If real partner. Anxiety is a boner-kill. "They're extrapolating on poorly to porn is to make it mainstream," "Guys never realize they can you're masturbating to porn for • Some men will grip themselves done studies and kind of making said Winters. "Then we can criti overcome these symptoms simply an hour and your partner wants to in a certain way when they mastur shit up; it's driving me crazy," said cize it, evaluate it and it becomes by changing their behaviour," said have sex hours later, you are not bate. When they're with a real part Winters. more legitimate.... Far better than it Wilson. goingto respond as strongly. ner, the sensation can be different Attempting to eradicate porn hiding in the shadows." 13 ii Change Your Body, Member Testimonials "GOLD'S Gym is simply an amazing place! All of the trainers are incredibly inspiring, helpful & friendly! Since I've started coming to Change Your Life"! GOLD'S I feel that I've grown a great amount, both physically and mentally. 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ML i it_ fear * A, • PH„,„„„u,,,^,, lamenting persecution by those PERSPECTIVES who disagree with them, there is by Bryan Sandberg a very important situation that is not being addressed. Trinity Western University, a When Christianity, a belief private Christian institution in system whose core message hin NDIANAJOEULLUSTRATION/THE UBYSSEY Langley, B.C., would like to build ges on God's love for all people, a law school. Normally this would is accused far and wide of hating allegedly stolen from his bal of you to keep being silly. not be a controversial move. But approximately 10 per cent ofthe CASHING IN ON ENDING cony using a (possibly decom TWU requires all students to sign population, that is a very serious STIGMA missioned) UBC ladder. TIME TO TEST THE a code of conduct that precludes problem. That the Christian The student says his bikes TEACHERS "sexual intimacy that violates the church's response has been, at Any conversation about mental were stolen from a UBC sacredness of marriage between best, apathetic, and at worst, health invariably includes some residence balcony using a UBC is taking a step in the a man and a woman." This is not self-satisfied about this state of mention of "ending the stigma." UBC-branded ladder, so UBC right direction on midterm the first time the school's views affairs is even worse. The basic idea is that mental should be liable for their cost. teaching evaluations. on homosexuality have made When I first came out to my health issues are still misunder But UBC says the ladder in It makes sense to consider headlines. In 2001, TWU applied Christian minister parents, both stood by the general public, question was so old and unsafe the structure of a course half to the British Columbia College of of whom had strong Bible school and need to be brought into the that no university employ way through: professors get a Teachers for accreditation for a training and spoke regularly in mainstream pantheon of illness. ee could possibly have been chance to gather some direct new teacher's college. TheBCCT churches, I was told with com This is all well and good: using it, thus putting them in feedback and actually become declined the application, citing the plete sincerity that I could not be mental health issues tend the clear. aware of students' concerns. If student code of conduct. The case gay and Christian. to fly under the radar, and To the student, we have students are assessed partway made it all the way to the Supreme So while Jesus Christ's many people don't have the to ask: Why did you put your through the term with exams Court of Canada, which ultimately crucifixion, resurrection and tools to understand whether multi-thousand-dollar bikes on and papers, professors should ruled that TWU was entitled to its ascension could save somebody they're suffering from depres your open balcony, completely be evaluated at the same time. religious views. like Saul of Tarsus, my sexual sion, anxiety, bipolar disor unsecured? Yeah, maybe living However, the halfway point But according to Bryan Sand orientation alone was sufficient der or any other number of in a cozy and neighbourly place of a term is too late to make any berg, a columnist at the TWU grounds for my theologically mental maladies. like Acadia Park gave you a false major changes to the curricu campus paper, Mars' Hill, TWU educated Christian parents (who So yes, let's bring the sense of security. But anyone lum. It's unlikely that midterm students who hold such homo I love very dearly and have come issue out into the open and who's been at UBC for longer evaluations will drastically phobic views are in the minority. a long way over the years) to reduce stigma. But as these than a day knows how rampant alter courses, but at least they He argues that such views are not doubt my salvation. issues become part of every bike theft is in these parts. You give the professor something compatible with true Christian I'm not alone in having to deal day discussion, there's a new should aggressively secure to consider. faith and are disastrous for the with new difficulties after com danger: mental illness may your two-wheeled assets ifyou public perception ofthe church. ing out. A great number of gay become commercialized. expect any sympathy at all. TO VALENTINES DAY Christians have found them We saw this with Bell LOVERS: NO ONE CAN LANGLEY (CUP) - Christianity selves rejected by their families, Canada's recent "Let's Talk" Students: Get your TELL US WERE WRONG has a public relations nightmare kicked out of their churches or campaign, in which the telecom bike-securing act on its hands: everyone thinks stripped of their leadership pos giant donated five cents per together. UBC: get In the yearly debate over Valen Christians hate gay people. itions, all because of judgment text and social media share to tine's Day, it's easy to feel like Okay, so I'm exaggerating — against their sexual orientation. mental health programs. Some your ladder-vetting the cynics have won. The push not everybody thinks that. How This should not be. If Christ might dismiss the concern that act together, or to commercialize every holiday ever, it's closer to being true than truly came to save humanity, we major companies are getting in something. means that couples can feel some would like to admit. as his followers should be eager to volved as reactionary. After all, forced to buy $100 dinners and A 2007 book by Christian poll extend that same love and grace at the end ofthe day, it's money overpriced roses on Feb. 14, and RE: A bike theft from a third- sters David Kinnaman and Gabe to all, without regard to race, to a good cause. single people can feel entirely Lyons titled unchristian found gender or sexual orientation. floor balcony using a UBC ladder But we've seen what happens excluded. But ifyou try, you can that an astonishing 91 per cent Here at Trinity Western, we when marketers get ahold of find a bit more meaning in it. of 16- to 29-year-olds that don't know the Christian commun "awareness" campaigns. The On this Valentine's Day, take attend a church described the ity does not have to be hostile "Pink" campaign for breast some time out to celebrate love Christian church as being "anti- towards gay and lesbians. I am cancer, for example, has be And to UBC, we ask: What regardless of whether or not it's homosexual." only one of numerous gay and come a billion-dollar industry. the hell is going on with your romantic. This was also the number lesbian students who have had Same goes for prostate cancer ladders? As UBC Housing tells Wear red and be shameless one negative perception against very positive experiences being awareness. These illnesses are the story, the nefarious bike about it. Call your parents. the church the authors found, welcomed and loved by this amaz now rolled into tightly scripted thief must've hopped into a Celebrate the close friends in ranking even more highly than ing community. marketing campaigns, with pre- time machine to secure a ladder your life. (Palentine's Day par complaints that the church was However, it is important for coded messages about what it as old as the original Degrassi. ties are awesome.) Take your "judgmental" or "hypocritical." us to be aware that the level of is to be sick and what recovery Because there's no possible way self out on a date. Do something For those of us with strong ties to acceptance found here is not the looks like. any current university employ you love doing. Trinity Western University, this norm among Christian commun It would be a shame to see ees could've left such a dan The best way to reclaim this accusation is wearily familiar. In ities across North America. It is mental health campaigns fall gerous and outmoded piece of weird holiday is to just be pas the early 2000s, Trinity Western to the Christian church's detri victim to the same kind of crass equipment lying around. sionate about things. Whatever was forced to defend itself before ment that such discriminatory, commercialization. It's debat This argument is awfully you do, have as much fun with the Supreme Court of Canada prejudiced patterns continue un able whether Bell Canada's convenient. Something doesn't it as you can, because you're against accusations of anti-gay checked, causing them to be seen Let's Talk campaign amounts become impossible just because awesome and you want to. discrimination. These same as defining what Christians are to profiteering from illness. But it would be bad for UBC if it Doing things with conviction is accusations are now cropping up about. It is my hope that those the bottom line is that stories of were true, despite whatever probably the best way to cele in 2013. And while the Supreme who have experienced welcom those who struggle with mental staff would like to think. brate a day named after a guy Court of Canada did rule in fa ing Christian community, be it illness can't be told through a So, students: Get your sentenced to death for officiat vour of TWU in 2001 on the basis at Trinity Western or elsewhere, promoted hashtag. bike-securing act together. ing illegal weddings. of freedom of religion, it is un seek to carry the same accepting UBC: Get your ladder-vetting Regardless of whether or not fortunate that the religion we are embrace beyond this campus. LADDER SILLINESS act together, or something. you have a romantic partner or free to have is being reduced in In doing so, may we as a com Then we won't have any simi just a bunch of awesome friends the public's minds to statements munity take even small steps about gay people. There's some top-flight silliness larly silly shenanigans to report and family, try to love really towards correcting what is one brewing in the tale of an Acadia on in the future. Wait — never hard today and you won't regret Inthe midst ofthe main ofthe modern day Christian Park student whose bikes were mind. I guess we should ask all it. a stream church fielding phone church's most grievous wrongs. calls about discrimination and 12 I FEATURES I THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 14,2013 Go out for a night, justyou two. Find _j Sit in the UBC Rose Garden or take a walk If you're going to be spending a mir bit of time By now you should know "what similar interests you vu have. You could go to War Memorial Gym and cheer somewhere off campus, or keep it simple and s-—v. together you might as "well get it out ofthe "way 6 through the Nitobe Memorial Garden and just on your favourite team, walk through the Botanical visit the Point Grill or the Village. Either "way S ' U3^ chat. It's easy, stress-free, cost-free, and a good way "with a simple lunch date. End the date "with a Gardens or go see the latest horror movie. But whatever it's time to get romantic. Maybe end the night _) to get to know each other without going too fast Blue Chip cookie. Extra points ifyou split it. it is, make sure both of you are excited about it. >- o witliamoonlJtw^lk. h- 2 KS\ E o e DO i z> s ^*—' 3 oo LU tr O^ c Lu > < u_ 1- F <^> iu £^ 3 LL- o >- UJ J 00 1= 5 F B Have an off-campus adventure! Maybe take a day trip to Stanely Park Clearly you two get along, so dedicate an entire day to one another and find something you both like to do. It could be visiting the aquarium, or biking around the edges, or even just taking m the gorgeous scenery. 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