Volume 31Page Issue 2 December 2016 - Kislev 5776 The Shaliach The Shaliach News and Views from the Young of Plainview

F ROM THE R ABBI’ S S TUDY Lighting Chanuka Candles When I’m Out for Dinner

R. said: “A lodger is obligated in ner Chanuka.” R. Zeira said: “At first, when I would visit the house of Rav, I would share the costs with the host. After I was married, I concluded that now I certainly don’t need [to light], as [she] is light- ing for me at my home…” (T. 23a)

INSIDE THIS ISSUE: From the above Talmudic discussion we learn two important Halachot about traveling on Chanuka. The first that a guest may participate in the lighting of his hosts. The second is that another may light for someone in his home. But what ’s Study 1 happens when I am out during the time to light candles and won’t return until late? Certainly if a family member is in the house, I can count on them to light at the Committee Directory 2 proper time. What if my house is empty? Would it be preferable for me to light with hosts or wait until I arrive home?

President’s Pen 3 The simple answer is that, based on the , Chanuka Candles are a require- ment for the house, and therefore I cannot light where I am eating. This is the po- MALI 5 sition of the R. Yaakov ben Asher who concludes (Tur 677) that a home is defined by where you sleep. So it would be better to light when you get home, even if it’s late. R. Moshe Issurles in his commentary on the Tur notes that some disagree and Life Cycle 7 hold that you should light at the right time where you are eating, even if you will Announcements be sleeping somewhere else.

Kiddush/Shul Calen- The argument seems to be based on definition of dwelling. Is our “home” for 9 dar Chanuka candles defined by where we eat or where we sleep.

Another ramification to this question would be students in a dorm or someone staying in a hotel. Should they light in the dining room where they eat or where they sleep. In Yeshiva, R. Aharon Lichtenstein zt”l poskened that we light in our dorm lobbies (we couldn’t light in our rooms for safety concerns). Nevertheless, R. Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (quoted in Mikraei Kodesh p. 100, n. 101) allowed stu- dents to light in either their dorm lobby or the cafeteria.

Ideally, one should light where one sleeps. However, if one will be arriving very late and there is opportunity to light where you are eating, you may do so. Remember, if you are eating before you light, you need to put some reminder in place to ensure that you will not forget. This can be fulfilled by asking a friend to remind you or even setting an alarm on your phone. The Shaliach Page 2 YOUNG ISRAEL OF PLAINVIEW 132 Southern Parkway Plainview, NY 11803 (516) 433-4811 Rabbi: Elie Weissman Rabbinic Intern: Motti Sturm Yoetzet Halacha: Avital Weissman Office Manager: Rivkah Itzhaky Youth Director: Daniel & Jessica Sultan

OFFICERS OF THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS GABAYIM President ...... Alan Z. Fromm Steve Albert ...... Gershon Allweiss First Vice President/Journal Dinner ...... Sam Kahn Jeff Eisman ...... David Kaufman Second Vice President/Fundraising ...... Joey Grover Joel Kessler ...... Eddie Simpser Treasurer/Finance ...... Ken Malc Alvin Smilow ...... Jonathan Stochel Financial Secretary/Membership ...... Larry Pollack SISTERHOOD BOARD Corresponding Secretary ...... Rachel Brandler President ...... Sarah Gross Recording Secretary ...... Tina Abraham Vice President—Dinner ...... Michelle Meir BOARD OF TRUSTEES Vice President-Programming ...... Atara Marzouk Chaitovsky ...... Ariane Eisman Vice President - Fundraising ...... Abby Bienenfeld & Eliah Barzideh David Gross ...... Marci Karoll Treasurer ...... Linda Hoberman Michelle Lowy...... Avi Ossip Recording Secretary ...... Perri Wallowitz Jordana Rothschild...... Alvin Smilow Communications Secretary ...... Wendy Ofer BOARD MEMBERS SISTERHOOD COMMITTEES Past Presidents ...... Eddie Simpser & Brian Berns Chessed/Social Action...... Tina Abraham Sisterhood -President ...... Sarah Gross Education ...... Miriam Rafailovich NCYI Delegate ...... Eddie Simpser Life Cycle ...... Deborah Plutzer BOARD COMMITTEES Includes the following subcommittees: Education ...... Avi Ossip & Rabbi Weissman Condolence Cards ...... Rochelle Verstaendig Eruv ...... Cary Kesssler Meals ...... Shelley Katz Gemilat Chesed ...... Bernie Reisner Sefarim ...... Liz Vilkas House...... Alvin Smilow Shiva Assistance ...... Linda Chusid Publicity/Marketing ...... TBD Membership ...... Shmuela Sternbach Ritual ...... Jonathan Stochel & Rabbi Weissman Includes the following subcommittees: Securtiy ...... Lev Neymotin Calendar ...... Shmuella Sternbach Shaliach ...... Meryl Fried New Years Cards ...... Liz Vilkas Welcome Wagon ...... Chavi Kersch Simcha Fund ...... Alex Stern & Rabbi Weisssman Mishloach Manot ...... Suri Gotowner Social Action ...... Jordana Rothchild Passover Wine ...... Atara Marzouk Special Gifts ...... Marty Taub Programs ...... Diane Youth ...... David Bienenfeld OTHER LEADERSHIP ROLES [email protected] .. Larry Pollack & Jonathan Stochel www.yiplainview.com Cemetery ...... Sheri Malc The Shul email – [email protected] Coupons ...... Alvin Smilow The Rabbi’s email – [email protected] Expansion ...... Gary Katz The President’s email – [email protected] Exterior Signboard/Yahrzeit ...... David Guterman The Shaliach—[email protected] Financial Oversight ...... Aaron Chaitovsky Hospitality...... Ariane Eisman House...... Alvin Smilow Mail addressed to the Rabbi, president, treasurer, or MALI is re- Kiddush ...... Abe Alper ceived and read within a reasonable amount of time. All other mail NCYI Delegate...... TBD should be mailed directly to the recipient to insure it is read in a timely New Family Initiative ...... Jeff Lichtman & Gary Katz fashion. For example, all Sisterhood mail must be mailed to the home address of the person in charge of the activity that you desire (Calendar, Political Action...... Larry Cohn & Anne Cohn Mishloach Manot, Wine, Siddurim & Chumashim, etc.). Information Seuda Shlishit ...... David Bienenfeld about where to direct your mail is usually included in the flyers. Webmaster ...... David Gross Thank you for your cooperation. Page 3 The Shaliach President's Pen

As the days grow shorter and winter approaches, we’re approaching one of the most family- and children- centered holidays of our calendar. We light candles and come together for food, games and songs, but Chanu- kah – while conjuring images of latkes, jelly donuts, dreidels, and the miracle of the oil – really commemo- rates the wondrous military victory of the Maccabees over the Greeks and the one small jug of oil that man- aged to keep the menorah lit for eight days. When we light the candles on Chanukah, one additional candle each night, we are, in effect, setting up a public display. Placing our menorah in a front window – or in a spot likely to be seen from the street – we are making a public statement: we announce our thanks that by the courage of the Maccabees, our Temple was not profaned. Thanks to the miracle of the oil which lasted for eight days, our unique identity was preserved. Public statements are important, but so, too, are private affirmations. Showing the world that we cherish our history and traditions is important; but so, too, is demonstrating this same fact to ourselves and to our fam- ilies. The real miracle of Chanukah is one of Jewish commitment. If the Maccabees, in their day, served as role models, then we, in our own day, must be role models as well. It is only in this way that we will keep the miracle of Chanukah alive. As we light each candle on our menorah, let us also ignite a spark within ourselves and our families as we seal our commitment to keeping the miracle alive. Wishing you a chag sameach! Alan

OPPORTUNITIES TO CELEBRATE YOUR SIMCHAS AND HONOR LOVED ONES !

Last year, 24 leaves were added to the Tree of Life in the lobby, celebrating bar and bat mitzvahs, weddings, the birth of children and grandchildren. Thank G-d, many of us have had simchas this past year, so why not take this time to donate a leaf ($72) and add to the growing Tree of Life !

Also, we have one major Special Gift still available – the Sandek’s Chair on the bimah – and we have lowered the donated price to $5,000. If you are interested in making this Special Gift in honor or in memory of a loved one, please see me. It is truly a wonderful opportunity.

Marty Taub, Chairman Special Gifts Committee The Shaliach Page 4

YOUNG ISRAEL OF PLAINVIEW

CEMETERY PLOTS AT WELLWOOD CEMETERY ARE STILL AVAILABLE TO PURCHASE THROUGH THE YOUNG ISRAEL OF PLAINVIEW. EXTENDED FAMILY MEMBERS ARE ENTITLED TO PURCHASE PLOTS AT THE YOUNG ISRAEL PRICE. WE ARE NOW OFFERING THE OPPORTUNITY TO EXTEND OUR OFFER TO YOUR FRIENDS OUTSIDE THE YIP COMMUNITY AT A SLIGHTLY HIGHER PRICE. CALL SHERRI MALC FOR DETAILS AT 933-2768. THANK YOU, SHERRI MALC, ALVIN SMILOW, BARRY ZWEIGBAUM THE CEMETERY COMMITTEE Page 5 The Shaliach

Hope in HaShem; strengthen and fortify your heart, and hope in HaShem. Chodesh Kislev Tov, with the hope that the lights of Chanukah will usher in brightness to our lives, which have recently witnessed such difficult times, especially for our fellow in Israel. Even during the darkest days, may we be able to recognize the good and the light that surrounds us and connects us to our brothers and sisters in hope.

Our Mikveh is an independent organization that depends upon the support of its community, and on behalf of our Board, we greatly appreciate those who responded to our Rosh Hasha- nah appeal. All funds go towards the costs of our everyday operations and facilities improve- ment. We also wish to acknowledge the generous support of our MALI 365 club members, who help to sustain our Mikveh every single day. As of this writing, we have 20 member families, but please remember that it’s only $1 a day, and it’s never too late to join.

We would like to thank the amazing women of our community who have been volunteering their efforts as attendants at our Mikveh, now that Tirtsa Gil, our wonderful main Shomeret is working part-time. We also express our sincere thanks to Avital Weissman for all of her help in reviewing our Mikveh policies and for offering training for all of our shomrot.

We are in the process of planning a concert for the first Motsei Shabbat in January to benefit our Mikveh. Please save the date, January 7th--more information will follow. Another Spa Night for ladies-only is also being planned for early spring—most probably on Saturday night, Feb. 4th. Be on the look-out for a Tzedakah Box Design template that will be e-mailed and will be an opportunity for artists young or old to create a whole new look that will be used on new boxes for the Mikveh. About 20 years ago, MALI tzedakah boxes were distrib- uted to families in our Plainview community. If it’s been a while since you've had yours emp- tied, please contact Ed Ehrlich.

We are always looking for help to plan and work on the committees for these various events, and we welcome your participation. Please contact us if you are able to volunteer.

Happy Chanukah to all, and thank you for your continued support,

Ruth Lorbert and Janet Akhavan MALI Co-Presidents The Shaliach Page 6 Page 7 The Shaliach LIFE CYCLE ANNOUNCEMENTS

Dena & Aaron Tolkin, and sister, Ellie on the birth Mazal Tov of Alexandra Rachel (Ayala Rina) Moshe & Barbara Cohen, and Sharon & Eddie Lust- Rochelle & Louis Sroka, David Sroka, and Elana bader, on the engagement of their children, Michele and Ben Berlin on the engagement of Sam and Amy and Jonathan Joyce & Irving Gomolin, and Anne & Eddie Fry- Elaine Gross on being recognized by Amit of Great- man, on the engagement of their children, Ariella er Long Island as an Outstanding Long Island Leader and Scott for her hard and continued work with Amit children Grandparents, Abe & Judy Alper, and parents, Chani Anne & Dr. Eddie Fryman, and Mimi Eng on the & Jonah Honeyman, on the birth of a girl wedding of their children, Craig and Melissa Grandmother, Norma Hill, Grandfather, Larry Hill, Diane & Howard Rabin, and Sharon & Yudi Polatoff and parents, Joshua & Liat Hill, welcome Aryeh on the wedding of their children, Ami and Ayelet Leib Cathie & Alex Stern, and Meryl & Eddie Arbisfeld Grandparents, Merryl & Steve Hurtes, and parents, on the wedding of their children, Jamie and Jonathan Dassie & Michael Hurtes on the birth of a girl Gayle & Arie Neumann on the Bar Mitzvah of their daughter, Dara Condolences Eliah & Farbod Barzideh, and siblings Shirel, Josh Friedman on the loss of his step father, Stanley Naveed, and Gabriella on the birth of a boy Jaffe Grandparents, Sharon & Steve Albert, parents, Ra- Harvey Kaplan on the loss of his mother, Shirley chel and Eli, and great grandparents, Suzanne & Kaplan Marvin Gurwitz, on the birth of Isabelle Sophia (Baila Hadassah) Rachel Lichtman on the loss of her father, Yehuda Klein Grandparents, Paula & Robert Grossman, and par- ents Michele & Chad, on the birth of a boy Rabbi Eric Levy on the loss of his mother, Ruth Levy Grandfather, Sheldon Schreiner, and parents Aviva and Rabbi Daniel Haymann, on the birth of twins Steve Krawitz on the loss of his father, Edwin Kra- (boy and girl) witz Grandparents, Rachel & Jeff Lichtman, and parents, May the Omnipresent console you among the Liana & Daniel Goldmintz, on the birth of a girl mourners of Zion and Jerusalem. Grandparents, Alvin & Judy Smilow, parents, Josh and Miriam Smilow, and brothers Eytan Yehuda, Welcome New Members Yedidya Ezra, and Levi Yitzchak, on the birth of a Elad and Inbal Elkayam and family girl Jason & Francie Goldberg Grandparents, Sara & Howie Grun, and parents, Deborah & Rabbi Yakov Grun, on the birth of a girl Golda Mayers Elizabeth & David Vilkas on the Bat Mitzvah of Vlad Matatov, Adina Tetenko, and Alaina & Nathan Leah Shoshana Kenny (Alan) Gerber, Chana Penini and Noa Grandparents, Sharon & Steve Nachman, parents, The Shaliach Page 8 Page 9 The Shaliach KIDDUSH / SHUL CALENDAR

JANUARY 2017 MARCH 2018 1/14/2017 BAER (ORI’S BAR MITZVAH) 3/17/2018 FLOUMANHAFT (ETHAN’S BAR MITZVAH)

MAY 2017 NOVEMBER 2018 5/20/2017 WEISSMAN (LEBA’S BAT MITZVAH) 11/10/2018 KAUFMAN (YISHAI’S BAR MITZVAH)

JUNE 2017 OCTOBER 2018 6/10/2017 MOSKOWITZ (AUFRUF) 10/1/2018 HELPRIN (YAHRZEIT) 6/10/2017 OSSIP (AUFRUF) FEBRUARY 2019 SEPTEMBER 2017 2/2/2019 GROVER (JOSHUA’S BAR MITZVAH)) 9/2/2017 LIEBERSTEIN (AVA’S BAT MITZVAH) 9/23/2017 BRANDLER (AVI’S BAR MITZVAH)

To reserve, remove or correct a date on the Shul calendar, please contact Office Manager, Rivkah Itzhaky by e-mail at “[email protected],” or at 516-433-4811 extension 100. No food may be brought into the Shul by anyone for any purpose or event without the knowledge and approval of Abe Alper. All kiddushes must be paid in full, one week in advance except for a bris or a baby naming. If you are making a meat kiddush, you must be available to receive deliveries of food and equipment. Speak to Abe Alper for details.

Seforim Dedication YIP Sisterhood is pleased to continue to offer you the opportunity to purchase and donate Siddurim, Chumashim, Tehillim and Megillos. Books can be purchased to memorialize or honor a friend or family member. At the same time, your donation allows the shul to continue to add brand new books to the shelves. The books are inscribed with a personalized message, and the family or friend is notified of your donation. Please note our newest book, for Tisha B’av. RCA Artscroll Siddur $36 Artscroll Stone Chumash $54 Artscroll Tehillim (Hardcover) $25 Artscroll Book of Megillos (Hardcover) $25 Judaica PressTisha B’Av Compendium - Tefillot & Kinot (Hardcover) $40 Questions or requests, please contact Liz Vilkas at 931-6848 or email at [email protected]

The Board of Trustees and a vote of the Membership, in keeping with current New Family Welcome Bag law governing minors and drinking, Please patronize the following sponsors of the New Family Welcome Bag. adopted the following Shul policy: Hunkis - 15% off coupon It is the policy of the Shul that there be Kosher Thyme Marketplace - Shabbos Special no consumption of alcohol by anyone Unique Judaica– special welcome gift under 21 years of age on synagogue If anyone has anything that they would like to add to the bag (a coupon, adver- premises or at synagogue events. tisement, give away, etc), please contact Your support in maintaining this poli- Melissa Weinick at [email protected] cy is appreciated. The Shaliach Page 10 Page 11 The Shaliach Advertising

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