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Campaign Sarfan Center UJCVP Trip Full Court Press News & Dates Israel July 2015 Page 7 Page 8 Page 9 News JewishNews of the Jewish VA Peninsula Community Community“A Lifetime of Caring” December 2014/5775 8th Annual Community Menorah Lighting Tues., December 16 at 6 PM et’s celebrate Hanukkah together at the 8th annual Community LHanukkah Celebration! The Hanukkah Extravaganza is at City Center, Oyster Point in Newport News across from the Market Stage Plaza. • Hear the Community Hebrew School Students sing! • Listen to live music by Bagels and Fraylox Klezmer Band! • Celebrate with Mayor Price & Community Rabbis. • Enjoy potato pancakes and jelly donuts to celebrate the miracle of Sponsored by the United Jewish Community of the VA Peninsula. All are the oil. welcome to this free community program. • Sing songs! Please let us know if you need transportation by calling the UJCVP office at • Enter to win raffle prizes. 757-930-1422 Menorah Lighting Schedule Preschool Hanukah De-Lights Thursday, December 18th at 5:30 PM • Wednesday, Dec. 17th at 6 PM - Temple Beth El Oh Hanukkah, Oh Chanukah….. It’s time to • Thursday, Dec. 18th at 6 PM - light the menorah and see our Sarfan Center Rodef Sholom Temple children perform in a once in a lifetime • Friday, Dec. 19th at 6:45 PM - show called Hannukah-De-Lights! Watch the Congregation Emet v’Or preschool children sing and glow! • Saturday, Dec. 2oth at 6:30 PM Adath Jeshurun Synagogue Parents, bring your menorahs and candles • Sunday, Dec. 21st at 5 PM - (we will have a few extra on hand) and we Temple Sinai will light candles and sing the prayers together. • Monday, Dec. 22nd at 6 PM National Council of Jewish Nosh (munch) on some latkes (potato pancakes) Women and donuts for the holiday. • Tuesday, Dec. 23rd at 6 PM Sarfan Center Preschool What a wonderful way to celebrate Hanukkah Families UJC Fund Donations Diamonstein Leroy M. Spigel Early Marc Minkoff Sports Scholarship Fund for Childhood Education Scholarship Fund Holocaust Studies Fund In memory of Lonnie Scoggin Karen Minkoff Speedy Recovery to Beverly In memory of Sally Sarah Cohen Diamonstein: Estelle Fineman Lori & Jeff Luckman Betty Levin Joy and Larry Spigel Philanthropic Fund In memory of Herman Spigel In honor of Jeff Luckman’s birthday Preschool Fund Joy and Larry Spigel Robin and Guy Levy In memory of Boyd Briskin In memory of Leonid Kotlyar Joy and Larry Spigel Bebe & Norman Petock Speedy Recovery to Barry Spigel Delegate David Yancey Joy and Larry Spigel UJC Endowment Mazur Education Fund Unrestricted Fund In honor of Leslie Needham for her work on the Artful Pursuits exhibit In honor of Linda Molin’s retirement Elaine Abrams Ettalea Kanter KAVIT JUDIE PHOTO: How to Give to the Jewish Family Service Hanukkah Gift Program In its twenty second year, Jewish Family Service reaches out to Hanukkah to local Jewish families with children and teens whose families are struggling with finances. Although Hanukkah may or may not be a time where gifts are exchanged in every family, we hope that your family will want to support this gift drive and reach out to those in need. Jewish Family Service expects to serve almost one hundred different local children and teens in 2014. How can you help? • Call Jewish Family Service at 757-459-4640 • Please have Hanukkah donations to Jewish Family • Shop with your family to purchase new and Service by December 4, 2014. practical gifts for children and teens in need • Checks need to be payable to Jewish Family Service • Please drop off your gifts unwrapped so that • and mailed to Jewish Family Service of Tidewater, parents can have the joy of wrapping themselves 260 Grayson Road, Virginia Beach VA 23462 • Consider buying extra items Attention: Maryann Kettyle • Gift cards (Visa, Target, Wal-Mart, Kmart, Music • Jewish Family Service assists local Jewish Families Stores, Movie Theaters, Grocery Cards) are greatly in need at all times of the year and will keep any appreciated. surplus donations throughout 2014-2015. • Send Jewish Family Service a tax deductable monetary donation and Jewish Family Service will do the shopping for you For more information, contact Maryann Kettyle at 757-459-4640 or [email protected] 2 Jewish Community News | December 2014 ExecutiveDirectorsMessage TOGETHER WE CAN DO GREAT THINGS STEVEN WENDELL n Thursday evening, November 13, Temple Sinai and the UJC co-sponsored a special event as part of Jewish Book Fair in our community. With the Ohelp of a special grant from the UJC Endowment, an exceptional author, dealing with a timely and critical subject, was our community’s guest speaker at the JCC. For those of you who missed this program, below is an excerpt from the NY Times Book Review from November 13, 2014. A limited number of signed copies of Mr. Dreazen’s books are still available at the Temple Sinai gift shop. Great things are happening in our Jewish community whether they be at the VERDEROSA CHRISTINA PHOTO: UJC, our area synagogues and congregations, or our organizations. Yochi Dreazen speaking at UJCVP We’d love to see you join us. Jewish Book Fair, Nov. 13, 2014. Sunday Book Review ‘The Invisible Front,’ by Yochi Dreazen By DAVID ROHDE NOV. 13, 2014 When Jeff Graham was killed in Iraq -Afghanistan suicides. To his credit, suffering from depression, anxiety and in 2004, the Kentucky State Legislature Dreazen takes the book a step further. sleeplessness. Called “shell shock” after passed a resolution hailing the young He uses one American military family’s World War I, “combat fatigue” after second lieutenant. Tens of thousands tragedy to expose a vast double standard World War II and “post-traumatic of fans applauded when his boyish — and spreading epidemic — in stress disorder” after Vietnam, the face was displayed on the scoreboard American society. condition has been remarkably at a University of Kentucky basketball consistent. Yet a deep-seated military game. Hundreds of mourners waved By 2012, more American soldiers were culture that views mental illness as a American flags as his hearse passed. killing themselves than were dying in weakness helped make America’s post- One sergeant even named his son after combat. But the problem goes beyond 9/11 military a psychic charnel house. the fallen hero. those in uniform. Suicide rates among American adults between 35 and 64 are Dreazen uses the story of Kevin When Jeff’s younger brother, Kevin, at record rates as well, notes Dreazen, Graham, the doomed R.O.T.C. cadet, committed suicide in 2003 while the managing editor of Foreign Policy to investigate depression in detail. enrolled in a University of Kentucky and a former military affairs writer From a young age, Kevin struggled R.O.T.C. program, his aunt opposed for The Wall Street Journal. He offers with the disease, which ran in his holding his funeral in a local church. a sophisticated examination of an act family, but strived to join the Army His memorial service was sparsely of ultimate despair that irreversibly like his father. Tall, bookish and attended. Members of the community wounds the living and remains hidden, outwardly successful, Kevin took suggested to Kevin’s parents, Mark stigmatized and largely misunderstood. Prozac but knew that disclosing his use and Carol, that their son had been “a of it would destroy his military career. weakling, a coward and even a sinner.” In alternating sections, Dreazen’s From boot camp on, Dreazen writes, book describes how war functions American soldiers are told mental “Strangers told them that Kevin’s as a psychological caldron and how illness is a character flaw: suicide had been a sin in the eyes of the American military serves as Continue reading the main story God,” Yochi Dreazen writes in his new a social science laboratory. To its book, “The Invisible Front,” “something credit, the military once served as a “Roughly 75 percent of the troops Carol, a deeply religious woman, often largely successful testing ground for surveyed . told pollsters that they worried about.” overcoming America’s racial divides. But wouldn’t seek help because they were its initial effort to address its warriors’ afraid it would make their colleagues Jeff, Kevin and their deaths are the psychological wounds was appalling. think less of them, harm their chances spine of this harrowing book, a for promotion, or bring their military courageous effort to examine the Surveying accounts of war from the careers to a premature end.” military’s abysmal initial response “Iliad” to Iraq, Dreazen details how to rising numbers of post-Iraq and soldiers have returned from combat Continued on page 4 December 2014 | Jewish Community News 3 Sunday Book Review ‘The Invisible Front,’ by Yochi Dreazen By DAVID ROHDE NOV. 13, 2014 continued Fearing he would be deemed “mentally ill and not fit for One military chaplain claimed that witches living in nearby military duty,” Kevin stopped taking Prozac in the late spring mountains had cursed Fort Carson soldiers. of 2003. Weeks later, he hanged himself from a ceiling fan in The Grahams battled against the military culture at Fort the off-campus apartment he shared with his younger sister, Carson and other bases, speaking publicly about their son’s Melanie, who discovered his body. suicide, but the struggle took its toll. At one point, so many people told Kevin’s mother her family was cursed that she Melanie and her parents, like other friends and relatives tried to find a priest to perform an exorcism. of suicide victims, entered a world that was “darker and emptier,” Dreazen writes. Shame and guilt consumed them. “The Invisible Front” has its shortcomings, with some slow- moving early passages.