The Ner Le'Elef Book of Quotations BOOK OF QUOTATIONS

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Ability (see Growth)...... 12 Abortion ...... 12 Absence...... 12 Abuse...... 12 Accuracy (see Error)...... 12 Acting (see also Heroes)...... 12 Action (see also Beginning)...... 12 Addiction ...... 13 Adjustment ...... 13 Admission ...... 13 Advertising...... 14 Adversity ...... 14 Advice...... 14 Affluence (see Materialism)...... 14 Afterlife...... 14 Age/ Aged/ Aging (see also Old Age)...... 15 Aggressiveness ...... 15 Ambition...... 15 American diplomat...... 17 Americans (see also America)...... 17 Ancestry...... 18 Anger (see also Forgiveness)...... 18 Answers ...... 18 Anticipation ...... 18 Anti-Semitism (see also Chosen People, Holocaust)...... 18 Anxiety...... 20 Apathy (see also Growth)...... 20 Appearances ...... 20 Appeasement...... 20 Applause...... 20 Appreciation ...... 20 Argument...... 21 Arrogance (see Humility, Pride)...... 21 Art ...... 21 Aspiration...... 22 Assimilation (see also Jewish Identity)...... 22 Association ...... 23 Atheism (see also Faith)...... 23 Attitude ...... 23 Authority ...... 24 Babies (see Family)...... 25 Balance...... 25 Beauty...... 25 Becoming (see Growth)...... 25 Beginning (see also Action)...... 25 Being (see Growth)...... 26 Belief (see also Faith)...... 26 2 Belligerency ...... 26 Bible (see Torah)...... 26 Bigotry...... 27 Birth ...... 27 Books...... 27 Boredom...... 27 Bores...... 27 Broad–Mindedness ...... 27 Brusqueness ...... 28 Builder ...... 28 Business...... 28 Candor ...... 29 Capitalism...... 29 Caricature...... 29 Career ...... 29 Cars...... 29 Cause ...... 30 Caution...... 30 Celebrity (see Fame)...... 30 Censorship...... 30 Certainty...... 30 Challenge (see Suffering)...... 30 Change...... 30 Character...... 31 Children (see also Family; Education)...... 32 Chosen People (see also Anti-Semitism; Jews/Jewry)...... 32 Circumstances ...... 32 Civilization ...... 32 Clarity...... 32 Coincidence ...... 32 Common Sense (see also Wisdom)...... 33 Communication ...... 33 Compassion (see Mercy)...... 33 Conformism ...... 33 Compensation ...... 33 Compulsion ...... 33 Condition ...... 34 Consent ...... 34 Contentment ...... 34 Convention...... 34 Conversion...... 34 Conviction...... 34 Coping...... 34 Courage (see also Growth; Perseverance)...... 34 Creativity/Originality (see also Sensitivity)...... 35 Credit ...... 35 Crime ...... 35 Criticism ...... 35 Curiosity ...... 36 Cynicism ...... 36 Death (see also Old Age)...... 37 3 Deception ...... 38 Deceit ...... 38 Deception...... 38 Delicacy (see Sensitivity)...... 38 Democracy ...... 38 Difference ...... 38 Difficulties...... 39 Discipline (see also Rights)...... 39 Discovery (see Sensitivity)...... 39 Discussion ...... 39 Disposition...... 40 Dogmatism...... 40 Doubt (see also Faith)...... 40 Dreams / Dreamers ...... 40 Dress ...... 41 Duty (see Rights)...... 41 Ecology ...... 42 Education (see also Wisdom)...... 42 Effort...... 44 Egocentricity (see Giving)...... 44 Elderly (see Old Age)...... 44 Emotion...... 44 Enemies ...... 44 Enthusiasm ...... 44 Environment ...... 44 Equality (see also Freedom, Rights)...... 44 Era ...... 45 Eretz Yisrael (see Israel)...... 45 Error (see also Truth)...... 45 Escape ...... 46 Ethical Personality (see also Sages)...... 46 Ethics (see also Morality)...... 47 Evil...... 47 Evil Inclination ...... 48 Evolution ...... 50 Excellence ...... 50 Excess ...... 50 Excuses ...... 50 Expectations (see also Growth)...... 50 Experience (see also Wisdom)...... 51 Experts ...... 52 Exploration ...... 52 Expression ...... 52 Extremism ...... 53 Fable (see Parable)...... 54 Failure (see also Success)...... 54 Faith (see also Atheism, Doubt; Faithfulness)...54 Faithfulness (see also Faith)...... 56 Falsehood (see Error, Truth)...... 57 Fame (see also Pride)...... 57 Family...... 57 4 ...... 58 Fanatic ...... 61 Fathers (see Family)...... 61 Fear ...... 61 Fiction ...... 61 Food ...... 62 Fools ...... 62 Foolishness ...... 62 Force ...... 63 Forgiveness (see also Anger)...... 63 Foresight ...... 63 Freedom (see also Equality, Freedom of Speech, Rights)...... 63 Freedom of Speech (see also Freedom)...... 65 Friendship ...... 66 Frustration ...... 68 Fun ...... 68 Future ...... 68 Generalizations ...... 70 Generosity (see Giving)...... 70 Genius ...... 70 Genocide ...... 70 Giving (see also Mercy)...... 70 Glory ...... 71 Goals (see also Growth)...... 72 G-d (see also Belief, Faith, Trust)...... 72 Good (see Ethics; Evil)...... 73 Good Person (see Ethical Personality)...... 73 Government ...... 73 Gratitude...... 73 Greatness (see also Ethical Personality)...... 74 Greed ...... 74 Growth (see also Apathy, Courage, Experience, Faith, Goals, Opportunity, Rights)...... 74 Guidance ...... 77 Guilt ...... 77 Habit (see also Rights)...... 78 Halacha (see Laws)...... 78 Happiness ...... 78 Haste ...... 80 Hate ...... 80 Health ...... 80 Hell ...... 80 Heroes...... 80 History...... 81 Hollywood ...... 82 Holocaust (see also Anti-Semitism))...... 82 Home ...... 83 Honesty ...... 83 Human (see Man)...... 84 Humanity ...... 84 Humility (see also Pride)...... 84 Humor ...... 85 5 ...... 85 Hypocrisy ...... 85 Idealism ...... 86 Identity ...... 86 Ignorance ...... 86 Imagination...... 87 Importance...... 87 Improvement (see Growth)...... 87 Inaction ...... 87 Inconsistency ...... 87 Independence ...... 87 Indifference (see Apathy)...... 88 Indiscretion ...... 88 Individualism ...... 88 Injury ...... 88 Innovation ...... 88 Insanity ...... 88 Insight ...... 88 Inspiration ...... 89 Insult...... 89 Integrity (see also Truth)...... 89 Intensity...... 89 Intermarriage (see Assimilation)...... 89 Introspection (see also Self-Insight)...... 89 Israel (see also Zionism)...... 89 Jerusalem ...... 92 Jewish Identity (see also Assimilation)...... 92 Jews/Jewry (see also Chosen People)...... 93 Journalism...... 94 Joy (see Happiness)...... 94 Judaism (see also Spirituality, Talmud)...... 94 Judgement...... 95 Juries ...... 95 Justice...... 95 Kindness (see also Giving)...... 96 Knowledge (see also Education, Experience, Sages, Silence, Understanding, Wisdom)...... 96 Language (see Speech )...... 97 Lashon Harah (see Insult)...... 97 Laws...... 97 Lawyers ...... 97 Leadership (see also Organization)...... 98 Level-Headedness...... 98 Liberals ...... 98 Liberty (see Freedom)...... 98 Life...... 98 Listening...... 101 Literature ...... 101 Living ...... 101 Logic...... 102 Loneliness ...... 102 Love (see also Marriage)...... 102 6 Loyalty ...... 104 Lying (see also Truth)...... 104 Madness ...... 105 Man ...... 105 Management (see Organization)...... 106 Manners...... 106 Marriage (see also Love)...... 106 Martyrdom ...... 108 Materialism (see also America)...... 108 Mathematics ...... 111 Maturity ...... 111 Meaning of Life (see also Purpose, Spirituality)111 Means and Ends (see also Growth)...... 112 Men...... 112 Mercy (see also Giving)...... 113 Mesorah (see Tradition)...... 113 Mid-Life Crisis ...... 113 Mind ...... 113 Minorities ...... 113 Miracles ...... 113 Misfortune (see Suffering)...... 114 Mistakes (see Error )...... 114 Moderation ...... 114 Modesty (see Humility, Pride)...... 114 Momentum ...... 114 Money (see also Materialism, Wealth)...... 114 Monogamy ...... 114 Mood ...... 114 Morality (see Ethics)...... 115 Mothering (see Family)...... 115 Motives ...... 115 Movies...... 115 Murder ...... 115 Music ...... 115 Mystery...... 115 ...... 115 Narrow-Mindedness ...... 116 Nature...... 116 Nazism...... 117 Newspapers ...... 117 Novelty ...... 118 Nuclear Age...... 118 Objectivity ...... 119 Old age (see also Age, Death; Sages)...... 119 Opinions ...... 119 Opportunity (see also Experience; Growth; Optimism)...... 120 Optimism (see also Growth, Opportunity)...... 120 Organization ...... 122 Originality ...... 123 Pain (see Suffering)...... 124 Parable/Fable ...... 124 7 Parents, Parenting (see Family)...... 124 Partnership ...... 124 Passion ...... 124 Patience ...... 124 Patriotism ...... 124 Peace (see also War)...... 124 People ...... 125 Permissiveness ...... 125 Perseverance (see also Courage)...... 125 Personality Development (see Growth)...... 126 Perspective ...... 126 Perversion ...... 126 Pessimism (see Optimism)...... 126 Philosophy/Philosophers ...... 126 Photography ...... 127 Piety ...... 127 Plagiarism ...... 127 Plan ...... 127 Pleasure ...... 127 Position ...... 128 Possession ...... 128 Potential (see also Growth)...... 128 Power ...... 128 Prayer ...... 128 Preaching ...... 129 Prejudice...... 129 Preoccupation ...... 129 Present...... 129 Pride (see also Fame, Humility)...... 129 Principle ...... 130 Problems ...... 130 Profundity ...... 130 Progress ...... 131 Proportion ...... 131 Providence ...... 131 Punctuality ...... 131 Punishment ...... 131 Purpose (see also Meaning Of Life)...... 131 Questions (see also Wisdom)...... 133 Quotations ...... 133 Rat Race ...... 134 Realism ...... 134 Reality ...... 134 Reappraisal ...... 134 Reason ...... 134 Rebellion ...... 134 Recklessness ...... 134 Reform Movement...... 134 Regrets ...... 135 Relevance ...... 135 Religion (see also Science)...... 135 8 Renewal (see Death, Sensitivity)...... 136 Repentance ...... 136 Repetition ...... 136 Reproach ...... 136 Reputation ...... 136 Resentment...... 137 Resignation ...... 137 Resolve (see Courage, Perseverance)...... 137 Respect...... 137 Responsibility (see also Rights)...... 137 Revenge ...... 137 Reward and Punishment ...... 138 Right ...... 138 Righteous Person (see Ethical Personality).....138 Righteousness (see also Virtue)...... 138 Rights (see also Equality, Freedom, Habit, Responsibility)...... 138 Risk (see also Experience)...... 139 Romance (see Love)...... 139 Rules (see laws)...... 140 Sacrifice...... 141 Sages (see also Ethical Personality, Knowledge, Old Age, Wisdom) ...... 141 Satisfaction ...... 141 Scandal ...... 141 Scholarship ...... 141 Science (see also Religion)...... 141 Secrets ...... 143 Sects ...... 143 Self ...... 143 Self-Actualization (see Growth)...... 143 Self-Assertion ...... 143 Self-Control ...... 144 Self-Development (see Growth)...... 144 Self-Fulfillment (see Growth)...... 144 Self-Image (see also Faith)...... 144 Self-Improvement ...... 144 Self-Insight (see also Introspection)...... 144 Self-Knowledge ...... 145 Self-Pity (see Suffering)...... 145 Self-Reproach ...... 145 Self-Sacrifice (see also Giving)...... 145 Selfishness (see also Giving, Self-Sacrifice)..147 Senses ...... 147 Sensitivity/Renewal/Surprise/Discovery (see also Creativity)...... 147 Sentimentality ...... 147 Shame (see also Pride)...... 147 Silence (see Also Speech, Wisdom)...... 148 Simplicity ...... 148 Sin ...... 149 Sincerity ...... 149 Skepticism...... 149 Sorrow ...... 149 9 Soul...... 149 Speech (see also Silence)...... 149 Spirituality (see also Meaning of Life, Religion, Soul)...... 150 Sport...... 150 Statistics ...... 150 Strength (see also growth)...... 151 Struggle ...... 151 Stubbornness...... 151 Success (see also Experience)...... 151 Suffering ...... 153 Surprise (see Sensitivity)...... 154 Taking (see Giving)...... 155 Talent ...... 155 Talmud ...... 155 Teaching...... 155 Technology ...... 155 Television ...... 155 Temptation...... 156 Thought...... 156 Time ...... 156 Tolerance ...... 156 Torah...... 157 Torture ...... 157 Tradition ...... 157 Travel ...... 158 Treatment ...... 158 Trust...... 158 Trust in G-d (see Faith)...... 158 Truth (see also Error, Honesty, Lying)...... 158 Tyranny ...... 161 Tzadik (see Sages; Ethical Personality)...... 161 Understanding ...... 162 Unhappiness ...... 162 Unpredictability ...... 162 Vacation...... 163 Value ...... 163 Values...... 163 Variety ...... 163 Vices ...... 163 Violence ...... 164 Virtue (see also Righteousness)...... 164 Vision (see Goals)...... 164 Voting ...... 164 War (see also Peace)...... 165 Wealth (see Materialism)...... 166 Weather ...... 166 Wine ...... 166 Wisdom (see also Education, Experience, Knowledge, Sages, Silence, Understanding)...... 166 Wishfulness...... 167 Women ...... 167 Work ...... 168 10 World...... 168 World To Come (see the Afterlife)...... 168 Writers ...... 168 Youth (see also Old Age)...... 169 Zionism (see also Israel)...... 170

11 A______

ABILITY (SEE GROWTH) being. I had to decide early on whether I was to be an actor or a personality." ABORTION Robert De Niro It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish. Mother Teresa ACTION (SEE ALSO Beginning)

Some things are easier done than said. ABSENCE Shraga Silverstein Absence diminishes minor passions and A Candle by Day inflames great ones, as the wind douses a candle and fans a fire. Doing more things faster is no substitute Francois, Duc de La Rochefoucauld for doing the right things. (1613-1680) Stephen R. Covey French writer, moralist Roger and Rebecca Merrill: First Things First You are not required to complete the task, yet you are not free to abstain from Hope in every sphere of life is a it. privilege that attaches to action. No Pirkei Avot 2:16 action, no hope. Peter Levi (b.1931) ABUSE British Professor of Poetry A fly, Sir, may sting a stately horse and make him wince; but one is but an The most decisive actions of our life – I insect, and the other is a horse still. mean those that are most likely to decide Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) the whole course of our future - are, more often than not, unconsidered. ACCURACY (SEE ERROR) André Gide (1869-1951) I can't hear what you are saying; your ACTING (SEE ALSO HEROES) actions are making too much noise. Mark Twain One of the things about acting is it allows you to live other people's lives What you are thunders so loud that I without having to pay the price. I've cannot hear what you say. never been one of those actors who has R.W. Emerson (1803-1882) touted myself as a fascinating human American essayist, poet, philosopher

12 Such a good friend that she will throw Unhappiness is best defined as the all her acquaintances into the water for difference between our talents and our the pleasure of fishing them out again. expectations. Charles, Count Talleyrand (1754-1838) Edward de Boro (b.1933) French statesman British writer of Madame de Stael

In order to act you must be somewhat insane. A reasonably sensible man is ADDICTION satisfied with thinking. George Clemenceau The chain smoker never sees himself as quoted in Clemenceau smoking a chain, only a cigarette. The Events of His Life As Told By Himself to Shraga Silverstein His Former Secretary, Jean Martet A Candle by Day

Action is eloquence. ADJUSTMENT Shakespeare Coriolanus After making every possible effort to get out of our rut and failing, we must call it If a thing is worth doing, it is worth home and remodel it. doing badly. Shraga Silverstein G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936) A Candle by Day

The hands that help are holier than the In order to keep our heads above water lips that pray. in life, we can do two things – lower the R. G. Ingersoll (1833-1899) water level or raise our heads. The latter American lawyer course is far more commendable. Activities provide their own motive Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day force. … What we think of as our pushing is often the pushing of the It is better to experience certain activity. difficulties than to expend the time and Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day effort required avoiding them. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day He who would do good to another must do it in Minute Particulars. General ADMISSION good is the plea of the scoundrel, Sometimes the only way to be above hypocrite and flatterer; for art and things is to admit that we are below science cannot exist but in minutely them. organized Particulars. Shraga Silverstein William Blake (1757-1827) A Candle by Day

13 Garden of Folly Sometimes we say, “You’re right” to avoid saying, “I’m Wrong.” ADVICE Shraga Silverstein Advice is what we ask for when we A Candle by Day already know the answer but wish we didn’t. Erica Jong ADVERTISING How to Save Your Own Life

ADVERSITY The difficult can be done immediately, We are not so disturbed that our advice the impossible takes a little longer. is not heeded as that we are not. Army Corp of Engineers Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day If you wait to do everything until you're sure it's right, you'll probably never do We should give people not our advice, much of anything. but theirs. Win Borden Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail. AFFLUENCE (SEE MATERIALISM) Abraham Maslow AFTERLIFE Conflict builds character. Crisis defines It is called the “hereafter” and not it. simply the “after” in that our “after” Steven V. Thulon depends on what we do here. Shraga Silverstein You can tell the ideals of a nation by its A Candle by Day advertisements. Norman Douglas I don’t want to express an opinion. You South Wind see, I have friends in both places. Mark Twain (1835-1910) We grew up founding our dreams on the on his belief in heaven or hell infinite promise of American advertising. All argument is against it; but all belief Zelda Fitzgerald is for it. Save Me the Waltz Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784)

Advertising may be described as the science of arresting human intelligence We are more worried about losing our long enough to get money from it. hair than our hereafter. Stephen Leacock Shraga Silverstein

14 A Candle by Day Robert Browning

AGE/ AGED/ AGING (SEE ALSO OLD You'll have time to rest when you're AGE) dead. Robert De Niro The older you get, the older you want to get. It is never to late to be what you might Keith Richards have been. At twenty years of age, the will reigns; George Eliot at thirty, the wit; and at forty, the judgment. Hitch your wagon to a star. Henry Grattan (1746-1820) Ralph Waldo Emerson Irish politician Only those who will risk going too far The old believe everything; the middle- can possibly find out how far one can aged suspect everything; the young go. know everything. T. S. Eliot Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) We are the music makers. We are the As long as we are young, we can tell dreamers of the dreams. ourselves that we are batter than others. Arthur O'Shaughnessy The terrible thing about becoming old is seeing that we are not even as good as You must do the thing you think you ourselves. cannot do. Shraga Silverstein Eleanor Roosevelt A Candle by Day If you haven't turned rebel by twenty AGGRESSIVENESS you've got no heart; if you haven't turned It takes no insight to riot. establishment by thirty you've got no Shraga Silverstein brains! A Candle by Day Kevin Spacey Swimming With Sharks

Only those who attempt the absurd achieve the impossible. AMBITION Unattributed Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars. It is a strange desire to seek power and Les Brown to lose liberty. Francis Bacon (1561-1626) Ah, but a man's reach should exceed his grasp. Or what's a heaven for?

15 AMERICA (SEE ALSO AMERICANS, America is so vast that almost MATERIALISM) everything said is likely to be true, and the opposite is probably equally true. An asylum for the sane would be empty James T. Farrel, introduction to H.L. in America. Mencken’s Prejudices: A Selection George Bernard Shaw In America everybody is of the opinion Americans adore me and will go on that he has no social superiors since all adoring me until I say something nice men are equal, but he does not admit that about them. he has no social inferiors. George Bernard Shaw Bertrand Russell Unpopular Essays America is an enormous frosted cupcake in the middle of millions of starving America a land of wonders, in which people. everything is in constant motion and Gloria Steinem every change seems an improvement...... No Natural boundary We expect to eat and stay thin, to be seems to be set to the efforts of man; and constantly on the move and ever more in his eyes what is not yet done is only neighborly...to revere G-d and to be G-d. what he has not yet attempted to do. Daniel J. Boorstin The Image Alexis De Tocqueville Democracy in America There is nothing the matter with Americans except their ideals. The real ‘Keep ancient lands, your storied American is all right; it is the ideal pomp!’ cries she American who is all wrong. With silent lips. ‘Give me your G.K. Chesterton tired, your poor, in New York Times Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, America is the only nation in history The wretched refuse of your which miraculously has gone directly teeming shore. from barbarism to denigration without Send these, the homeless, tempest- the usual interval of civilization. tossed, to me; George Clemenceau I lift my lamp beside the golden door.’ The thing that impresses me most about Emma Lazarus (1849-1887) America is the way parents obey their American poet children. ‘The New Colossus’ - sonnet written for Edward, Duke of Windsor inscription on the Statue of Liberty quoted in Look

16 America is a large, friendly dog in a very America is a nation with the soul of a small room. Every time it wags its tail it church. knocks over a chair. G.K. Chesterton A. J. Toynbee (1889-1975) "Ask not what your country can do for British historian you – ask what you can do for your country." – The youth of America is their oldest John Kennedy tradition. It has been going on now for three hundred years. [America will] "pay any price, bear any Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe, in order to assure America lives in the heart of every man the survival and the success of liberty." – everywhere who wishes to find a region where he will be free to work out his Kennedy in his Inaugural Address destiny as he chooses. Woodrow Wilson (1856-1924) AMERICAN DIPLOMAT AMERICANS (SEE ALSO America) The business of America is business. Calvin Coolidge (1872-1933) Americans are overreachers; American Republican politician, President overreaching is the most admirable of the many American excesses. In America you watch TV and think George F. Will that’s totally unreal, then you step Statecraft as Soulcraft (Simon & Schuster) outside and it’s just the same. Joan Armatrading (b.1947) For other nations, utopia is a blessed past British singer never to be recovered; for Americans it is just beyond the horizon. In Boston they ask, ‘How much does he Henry Kissinger (b. 1923) know?’ In New York, ‘How much is he worth?’ In Philadelphia, ‘Who were his People in America, of course, live in all parents?’ sorts of fashions, because they are Mark Twain (1835-1910) foreigners, or unlucky or depraved, or without ambition; people live like that, The people are unreal. The flowers are but Americans live in white detached unreal, they don’t smell. The fruit is houses with green shutters. Rigidly, unreal, it doesn’t taste of anything. The blindly, the dream takes precedence. whole place is a glaring, gaudy, Margaret Mead (1901-1978) nightmarish set, built upon the desert. American anthropologist Ethel Barrymore (1879-1959) American actress of Los Angeles "American Jews have no use for half- way measures. For them only

17 the Messiah is good enough. Consequently, any reasonably ‘Irate” is generally as expression if “I promising measure for the enhancement rate.” of Jewish life must be sold Shraga Silverstein to the community through wild A Candle by Day promises. Otherwise, no one will In most cases of righteous indignation listen." Jacob Neusner the indignation is carried beyond the point of righteousness. Since the earliest days of our frontier Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day irreverence has been one of the signs of our affection. It is curious that often, when we forget Dean Rusk (b.1909) our anger, we forget our motive for being angry. Shraga Silverstein NCESTRY A A Candle by Day I would rather make my name than inherit it. When we see red we see nothing at all. W. M. Thackeray (1811-1863) Shraga Silverstein English author A Candle by Day People will not look forward to posterity, ANSWERS who never look backward to their We must learn not only to answer the ancestors. questions, but also to question the Edmund Burke (1729-1797) Irish philosopher, statesman answers. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Snobs talk as if they had begotten their own ancestors. ANTICIPATION Herbert Agar (1897-1980) American author, journalist We look forward very eagerly to very many things, but very rarely do we look Those who place too much stock in the back fondly upon the things we had once stock they descend from descend . looked forward to so eagerly. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

ANTI-SEMITISM (SEE ALSO CHOSEN ANGER (SEE ALSO FORGIVENESS) Anger is a wind which blows out the PEOPLE, HOLOCAUST) lamp of the mind. Robert G. Ingersoll

18 The flag- bearers of superstitious The Jews are a frightened people. blindness Nineteen centuries of Christian love Baron d’Holbach have broken their nerves. Israel Zangwill (1864-1926) I prefer to see in our midst nations British author professing Islam and paganism than Jews … It is my endeavor to eradicate The world is divided into two groups of evil, not to multiply it." nations – those which want to expel the Peter I, Tzar of Russia in the 18C Jews and those which do not want to receive them. From the enemies of Christ, I desire Chaim Weizman (1874-1952) neither gain nor profit. Jewish statesman Czarina Catherine II of Russia, 18C

Wherever they burn books they will also, in the end, burn human beings. ANTI ZIONISM Heinrich Heine All of us, both Muslims and Christians, Some accuse me of being a Jew, others have the best of feelings toward the forgive me for being a Jew, still others Jews. they are our brothers in race and praise me for it. But all of them reflect we regard them as Syrians who were upon it. forced to leave the country at one time Laqueur - Borne, 19C but whose hearts always beat together J intellectual with ours. We are certain that our Jewish He called this the ‘magic Jewish circle’ brothers the world over will know how to help us so that our common interests A grossly delusional view of the world, may succeed and our common country based on infantile fears and hatreds, was will develop both materially and able to find expression in murder and morally. torture beyond all imagining. It is a coas- Abd-ul-Hamid Yahrawi, hisotry in collective psychopathology, president of the First Arab Congress, June 1913 and its deepest implications reach far The Arabs, especially the educated beyond anti-Semitism and the fate of the among us, look with deepest sympathy Jews. Norman Cohn (historian), on the Zionist movement. ...We will in Warrant for Genocide, on the causes of 20th C wish the Jews a hearty welcome anti-Semitism and its significance for the destiny home. ...We are working together for a of nations. reformed and revised Near East and our two movements complete one another. A nation of usurers Emanuel Kant, Philosopher The Jewish movement is nationalist and not imperialist. Indeed, I think that

19 neither can be a real success without the The best and most beautiful things in the other. world cannot be seen or even touched, Emir Faisal, they must be felt with the heart. March 1919, to Harvard law professor Felix Helen Keller Frankfurter: Taking joy in life is a woman’s best cosmetic ANXIETY Worry is interest paid on trouble before it falls due. W. R. Inge (1860-1954) APPEASEMENT Dean of St. Paul’s London Appeasers believe that if you keep on throwing steaks to a tiger, the tiger will APATHY (SEE ALSO GROWTH) turn vegetarian. Heywood Broun (1888-1939) Science may have found a cure for most American journalist, novelist evils; but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all--the apathy of human APPLAUSE beings. Do not trust to the cheering, for those Helen Keller very persons would shout as much if you My Religion and I were going to be hanged. Oliver Cromwell (1599-1658) The worst sin towards our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be APPRECIATION indifferent to them; that’s the essence of Along with learning to appreciate value, inhumanity. we must learn to value appreciation. Anderson, The Devil’s Disciple Shraga Silverstein George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) A Candle by Day

The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not What connoisseurs of this world we ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite would be if G-d had only placed it in a of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. frame. Let our minds then, frame the and the opposite of life is not death, it’s world. indifference. Shraga Silverstein Elie Wiesel A Candle by Day quoted in US News & World Report When eating fruit, think of the person APPEARANCES who planted the tree. Vietnamese proverb

20 ARGUMENT function, art must show the world as You raise your voice when you should changeable. And help to change it. reinforce your argument. Ernst Fischer Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) Vision is the art of seeing the invisible. You have not converted a man because Jonathan Swift you have silenced him. John, Lord Morley (1838-1923) What garlic is to food, insanity is to art. English writer, Liberal politician Unattributed

Just as we must not fall for a bad Art is the demonstration that the argument because of good arguing, we ordinary is extraordinary. must not overlook a good argument Amedee Ozenfant because the arguing is bad. Foundations of Modern Art Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day What they do for a living is not our concern. It's whether the project has Most arguments are instances of an good community outcomes. inability to make it clear that we are Newsweek July 5, 93 - Kerry Mumford essentially in agreement. of Australia's national arts-funding agency on the groups decision to help finance Shraga Silverstein a training video for prostitutes A Candle by Day Art is man added to nature. ARROGANCE (SEE HUMILITY, PRIDE) Francis Bacon (1561-1626)

ART Art is the imposing of a pattern on experience, and our aesthetic enjoyment Life beats down and crushes the soul and in recognition of the pattern. art reminds you that you have one. A.N. Whitehead (1861-1947) Stella Adler British philosopher

What was any art but a mould in which Art is I; Science is We. to imprison for a moment the shining Claude Bernard (1813-1878) elusive element which is life itself--life French physiologist hurrying past us and running away, too strong to stop, too sweet to lose. What garlic is to salad, insanity is to art. Willa Cather Augustus Saint-Gaudens (1848-1907) American Sculptor In a decaying society, art, if it is truthful, must also reflect decay. And unless it Art resides in the resolution of inner and wants to break faith with its social outer conflict. Belfast art lecturer 21 make, the painting is authentic. If To say that a work of art is good, but there’s a clash between the two, it is bad incomprehensible to the majority of art. men, is the same as saying of some kind Marc Chagall (1889-1985) of food that it is very good but that most people can’t eat it. ASPIRATION Leo Tolstoy (1828-1910) The greater our aims, the greater the obstacles to their achievement. One reassuring thing about modern art is Shraga Silverstein that things can’t be as bad as they are A Candle by Day painted. M. Walthall Jackson ASSIMILATION (SEE ALSO JEWISH IDENTITY) Without tradition, art is a flock of sheep without a shepherd. Without innovation, If Jewish parents neglect the Jewish it is a corpse. education of their children, one can Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965) safely assume that they do not care about Art does not reproduce the visible; their Jewish children. It remains for their rather, it makes visible. children to decide whether this absence Paul Klee (1879-1940) of tenderness was directed at them as children or as Jews Art is a lie that makes us realize the Ruth R. Wisse truth. The Jerusalem Report, Dec. 31, 92 Pablo Picasso (1881-1973) The impetus for intellectual and An artist must know how to convince religious reform...was not simply a others of the truth of his lies. desire to find amelioration from the Pablo Picasso (1881-1973) physical oppression of the ghetto. It was rather a desire for emancipation from the Art is a jealous mistress, and if a man essence of the Jewish condition. have a genius for painting, poetry, Charles Liebman music, architecture or philosophy, he The Religious Situation, 69 makes a bad husband and an ill provider. R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) In close to two decades since World War American essayist, poet, philosopher 11, we have witnessed the greatest single synagogue boom in the whole of Jewish When I am finishing a picture I hold history in the Diaspora. some G-d-made object up to it - a rock, a Jacob Neusner flower, the branch of a tree or my hand - American Judaism as a kind of final test. If the painting stands up beside a thing man cannot However one estimates the activity of Leopold Zunz and his activity, the 22 extraordinary Moses Hess, or later, that ASSOCIATION of the poets Bialik or Tchernichovsky, or Sometimes we assume that we want Simon Dubnow or Achad HaAm, or the things done in a certain way just because German neo-Kantian philosopher we happen to be doing them that way. Hermann Cohen, one is obliged to Shraga Silverstein recognize that for these thinkers A Candle by Day (regardless of how little they prayed, or how little observed...) the center of their When we buy something from the life was the Jewish people...The new “friendly Fuller brush man,” we feel Jewish intellectual, although he still friendly too. works against the sacral models of Shraga Silverstein scholar, sage and prophet, has turned A Candle by Day these models away from Judaism and ASSUMPTIONS into self-sustaining ideological postures. Assumptions are the termites of Jacob Neusner relationships. American Judaism Henry Winkler

Those who assimilated in 19C were ATHEISM (SEE ALSO FAITH) dying to become the monkeys of European civilization. Absolute atheism starts in an act of faith Rav Samuel Dovid? Luzatto in reverse gear and is a full-blown Laqueur, Zionism, p19 religious commitment. Jacques Maritain (1882-1973) Away from Asia. French philosopher Slogan used by R and assimilationists in 19C Germany Nobody talks so constantly about G-d as those who insist that there is no G-d. I am now hated by Christian and Jew Heywood Broun (1888-1939) alike; I very much regret my baptism, American journalist, novelist nothing but misfortune has occurred to me ever since. Heinrich Heine An atheist is a man who has no invisible to friend a few weeks after conversion, means of support. Laqueur John Buchan (1875-1940)

British author Sir Francis Bacon (1561-1626) English philosopher and statesman They that deny a God, destroy man’s nobility; for certainly man is kin to b ATTITUDE the beasts by his body; and, if he be An attitude should be a result of not kin to God, by his spirit, he is a thought not a prelude to it. base and ignoble creature. Shraga Silverstein 23 Albert Einstein AUTHORITY Unthinking respect for authority is the greatest enemy of truth. A Candle by Day

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain. Maya Angelou American poet and author

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BABIES (SEE FAMILY) intended as beauty, and is not merely an accident of atoms. BALANCE Shraga Silverstein No one is better balanced than he who A Candle by Day is stuck in the mud. Shraga Silverstein The problem with beauty is that it is A Candle by Day like being born rich and getting poorer. Our lives are as delicate as watch- Joan Collins springs and must be as carefully balanced. BECOMING (SEE GROWTH) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day BEGINNING (SEE ALSO ACTION)

Some are well balanced only in the To have begun is to have done half the sense that their character failings are task; dare to be wise. insulated by fortunate environmental Horace factors. Epistles Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step. BEAUTY Lao-Tzu There is no excellent beauty that hath not some strangeness in the proportion. We must sometimes permit ourselves Francis Bacon: to begin things badly, just so that we begin them. Those who spend too The sense of beauty is a tuning fork in much time preparing graceful the brain that hums when we stumble entrances often never get to make on something beautiful. them. David Gelernter Shraga Silverstein Machine Beauty (Basic Books) A Candle by Day

How much more beauty a believing The distance doesn’t matter; it is only man sees in the world, in his the first step that is difficult. realization that what he sees is Marie de Vichy-Chamrond (1697-1780)

25 beyond us, afterworlds? That’s good BEING (SEE GROWTH) for us. It gives us hope. Just as we’re wired for fear of heights, we are wired BELIEF (SEE ALSO Faith) to believe in G-d. Herbert Benson O L-rd, if there is a L-rd, save my Interviewed by John Koch soul, if I have a soul. in Boston Globe Magazine Joseph Ernest Renan (1823-1892) French writer, critic, scholar We cannot banish with a wave of the I am an agnostic; I do not pretend to hand the false beliefs that have grown know what many ignorant men are up with us. … Our beliefs have been sure of. built up patiently, bit by bit, until they Clarence Darrow (1857-1938) have become intermingled, as it were, American lawyer, writer with the fiber of our being. We cannot tear out our flesh to cast them away. If only G-d would give me some clear We only can pick them out, if they sign! Like making a large deposit in need picking out, as so many tiny my name at a Swiss bank. pieces of glass that have embedded Woody Allen (b.1935) themselves within it. Shraga Silverstein With most men, unbelief in one thing A Candle by Day springs from blind belief in another. G. C. Lichtenberg (1742-1799) BELLIGERENCY German physicist, writer Don’t fight it – and you may find that it was never fighting you in the first There are those who feel an imperative place but that you mistook the open need to believe, for whom the values hand of friendship for a fist. of a belief are proportionate, not to its Shraga Silverstein truth, but to its definiteness. Incapable A Candle by Day of either admitting the existence of contrary judgments or of suspending BEAUTY their own, they supply the place of The problem with beauty is that it is knowledge by turning other men’s like being born rich and getting conjectures into dogmas. poorer. C.E. M. Joad (1891-1953) Joan Collins British author, academic BIBLE (SEE TORAH) Isn’t it interesting that in every culture from which we have written history, We come with instructions – the Bible. there has always been belief in Shraga Silverstein something more - powers, energies A Candle by Day 26 BIGOTRY The world is full of wonders, riches, Bigotry tries to keep truth safe in its powers, puzzles. What it holds can hand with a grip that kills it. make us horrified, sorrowful, amazed, Rabindranath Tagore (1861-1941) Indian author, Philosopher confused, joyful. But nothing in it can make us bored. Boredom is the result BIRTH of some pinch in ourselves, not of "When we are born we cry that we are some lack in the world. Toni Flores come to this great stage of fools. Shakespeare Boredom is...a vital consideration for BOOKS the moralist, since at least half the sins A room without books is as a body of mankind are caused by the fear of without a soul. it. Sir John Lubbock, Lord Avebury (1834- Bertrand Russell 1913) (1872-1970) British banker, scientist, author BORES Some books are to be tasted, others to A bore is a man who, when you ask be swallowed, and some few to be him how he is, tells you. chewed and digested. Bert Leston Taylor (1866-1921) Francis Bacon (1561-1626) A bore is a man who spends so much Without books G-d is silent. time talking about himself that you Thomas Bartholin (1616-1680) can’t talk about yourself. Danish physician Melville D. Landon (1839-1910) American lecturer, wit BOREDOM Everyone is a bore to someone. That is If you are a bore, strive to be a rascal unimportant. The thing to avoid is also so that you may not discredit being a bore to oneself. virtue. Gerald Brenan George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) The man who lets himself be bored is even more contemptible than the bore. BROAD–MINDEDNESS Samuel Butler Most of our so-called “broad-minded” individuals seem to dwindle in depth Boredom is a vital problem for the as they gain in breadth. moralist, since at least half the sins of Shraga Silverstein mankind are caused by the fear of it. A Candle by Day Bertrand Russell 27 BRUSQUENESS BUSINESS Some, afraid that tact would be I’ve never seen a company that was interpreted as scheming, are absolutely able to satisfy its customers which did brusque, hoping that their brusqueness not also satisfy its employees. Your will be interpreted as honesty. employees will treat your customers Shraga Silverstein no better than you treat your A Candle by Day employees. Larry Bossidy, BUILDER CEO of AlliedSignal Inc. Even if I knew that tomorrow the In a speech world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. The propensity to truck, barter and exchange one thing for another...is Some people see things as they are common to all men, and to be found in and say why. no other race of animals. I dream things that never were and say Adam Smith (1723-1790) Scottish economist why not?" Robert F. Kennedy Originally by George Bernard Shaw Nothing is illegal if one hundred businessmen decide to do it. I haven't failed, I've found 10,000 Andrew Young (b. 1932) American politician ways that don't work. Thomas Edison You never expected justice from a Nothing can stop the man with the company, did you? They have neither right mental attitude from achieving a soul to lose, nor a body to kick. Sydney Smith (1771-1845) his goal; nothing on earth can help the English writer, clergyman man with the wrong mental attitude." Thomas Jefferson You can automate the production of cars but you cannot automate the production of customers. 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CANDOR restrained in the exercise of tyranny With all our looking into mirrors, we over the unfortunate. never look ourselves in the face. Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day CARICATURE Caricature is the tribute that CAPITALISM mediocrity pays to genius. In the usual (though certainly not in Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) every) public decision on economic policy, the choice is between courses CAREER that are almost equally good or equally You exist only in what you do. bad. It is the narrowest decisions that Federico Fellini are most ardently debated. If the world is lucky enough to enjoy peace, it may Assume any career moves you make even one day make the discovery, to won’t go smoothly. They won’t. But the horror of doctrinaire free- don’t look back. Andy Grove, chairman, Intel Corp. enterprises and doctrinaire planners alike, that what is called capitalism and what is called socialism are both CARS capable of working quite well. No other man-made device since the J.K. Galbraith (b. 1918) shields and lances of the ancient American economist knights fulfils a man’s ego like an automobile. It is a socialist idea that making profits Sir William (later Lord) Rootes (1894-1964) is a vice; I consider the real vice is British motor car manufacturer making losses. Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965) I think that cars today are almost the exact equivalent of the great Gothic Advocates of capitalism are very apt cathedrals; I mean the supreme to appeal to the sacred principles of creation of an era, conceived with liberty, which are embodied in one passion by unknown artists, and maxim: The fortunate must not be consumed in image if not in usage by

29 a whole population which appropriates The best lack all conviction, while the them as a purely magical object. worst Roland Barthes (1915-1980) Are full of passionate intensity. French Academic W.B. Yeats (1865-1939)

CAUSE CHALLENGE (SEE SUFFERING) We support all kinds of causes to absolve ourselves of upholding them. CHANGE Shraga Silverstein Change is not merely necessary to life. A Candle by Day It is life. Alvin Toffler CAUTION He that leaveth nothing to chance will I wanted to change the world. But I do few things ill, but he will do very have found that the only thing one can few things. be sure of changing is oneself. Sir George Savile, Lord Halifax (1633- Aldous Huxley (1894-1963) 1695) English statesman, author Mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right Being too careful is being too careless themselves by abolishing the forms to in a different direction. which they are accustomed. Shraga Silverstein Thomas Jefferson (1743-1826) A Candle by Day When our first parents were driven out CELEBRITY (SEE FAME) of Paradise, Adam is believed to have remarked to Eve: ‘My dear, we live in CENSORSHIP an age of transition’. Did you ever hear anyone say ‘That W.R. Inge (1860-1954) work had better be banned because I Dean of St. Paul’s London might read it and it might be very People don’t resist change as much as damaging to me’? the way they are changed. Joseph Henry Jackson (1894-1955) Anonymous American critic, travel-writer

CERTAINTY Sometimes our dissatisfaction with The fundamental cause of trouble in things causes us to contemplate a the world today is that the stupid are change, and sometimes our cocksure while the intelligent are full contemplating a change causes us to of doubt. Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) be dissatisfied with things. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day 30 The willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life -- is We can never take up from where we the source from which self respect left off because we never return there. springs. Shraga Silverstein Joan Didion A Candle by Day Slouching Towards Bethlehem (Farrar, Straus & Giroux) We imagine that times have changed, because we have, and that we have Talent develops in quiet. changed, because times have. Character in the torrent of the world. Shraga Silverstein Johann Wolfgang von Goethe A Candle by Day Torquato Tasso

Be the change that you want to see in Character is what a man is in the dark. the world. Dwight L. Moody Mohandas Gandhi quoted in William R. Moody’s D.L. Moody

Nothing is permanent but change. Everyone is a moon, and has a dark Heraclitus side, which he never shows to anybody. Every act of creation is first an act of Mark Twain, Following the Equator destruction. Pudd’nhead Wilson’s New Calendar Pablo Picasso The most wonderfully complex They always say time changes things, fictional character is much less but you actually have to change them complicated than the most boring yourself. actual person. Andy Warhol Elizabeth McCracken in Elle

CHARACTER People regard us as what we have Good manners are made up of petty been; we regard ourselves as what we sacrifices. would like to be – only G-d regards us R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) as what we are. American essayist, poet, philosopher Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Character is that which can do without success. Some fancy themselves to be Ralph Waldo Emerson solidifying their character when they Uncollected Lectures are actually freezing it. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

31 G-d's choice of Israel was not for the We must know when to make repairs sake of Israel but for the sake of in our characters and when alterations. mankind Shraga Silverstein R' Cardozo A Candle by Day Particularism ... is a conduit through CHILDREN (SEE ALSO FAMILY; which universalism and equality EDUCATION) flow .... Without it they would have remained as abstract concepts. Along with being fathers to our N.T. Lopes Cardozo children, we must be fathers to the child within us. Shraga Silverstein Jews are as racially diverse as there A Candle by Day are races. Yitzchak Coopersmith We strive to make our children independent because we have nothing CIRCUMSTANCES to offer them. But what is their Before we ask ourselves what we can independence if not chaos? What we do under the circumstances, we must must do is make them entirely ask ourselves whether we might not be dependent, dependent upon the able to change them. dictates of the good. And we must Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day make ourselves examples of that good to them so that dependence upon us is the greatest gift they know; so that in CIVILIZATION being dependent upon us, they are The perversion of “civilization” is its independent of evil. If we do this, our coming to be regarded as a substitute children will feel, not that they are for religion. dependent upon us, but that they Shraga Silverstein depend upon us. A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day CLARITY To see what is in front of one’s eyes CHOSEN PEOPLE (SEE ALSO ANTI- requires constant struggle. SEMITISM; JEWS/JEWRY) George Orwell

How odd of G-d to choose the Jews; COINCIDENCE it's not so odd the Jews chose G-d. As soon as we are ready to sink into life, it raps our knuckles. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day 32 For most men life is a search for the COMMON SENSE (SEE ALSO proper manila envelope in which to WISDOM) get themselves filed. Clifton Fadiman Le sens commun n'est pas si commun. [Common sense is not so common.] Start writing a new chapter, for if you Francois Marie Arouet Voltaire live by the book you'll never make history. COMMUNICATION Ben Sobel Communication – Ours is a society of much print and little imprint. Only dead fish go with the flow. Shraga Silverstein Unattributed A Candle by Day Real communication happens when Everything popular is wrong. people feel safe. Oscar Wilde Ken Blanchard Most people are other people. Their The Heart of a Leader (Honor Books) thoughts are someone else's opinions, There is no different way of saying the their lives a mimicry, their passions a same thing; a different way is a quotation. Oscar Wilde different thing. Shraga Silverstein The reward of conformity was that A Candle by Day everyone liked you except yourself. Rita Mae Brown COMPASSION (SEE MERCY) COMPENSATION CONFORMISM Sometimes, because we cannot be To be nobody but yourself in a world great, we belittle. that's doing its best to make you Shraga Silverstein somebody else, is to fight the hardest A Candle by Day battle you are ever going to fight. Never stop fighting.

E. E. Cummings COMPULSION He who joyfully marches to music in With what relish we go about so many rank and file has already earned my things, which we claim to have been contempt. He has been given a large forced into. brain by mistake, since for him the Shraga Silverstein spinal cord would suffice. A Candle by Day Albert Einstein

33 CONDITION CONVERSION We must resist the call to battle when we are in no condition for it. The way I see it, G-d has put Shraga Silverstein tremendous faith in me by delegating A Candle by Day the decision of my submission to the law. CONSENT Audrey J. Wohlgemuth Nobody can hurt me without my Attorney General for the State of New York permission. Mohandas Gandhi CONVICTION Be sure you put your feet in the right No man is good enough to govern place, then stand firm another man without that other's Abraham Lincoln consent. Abraham Lincoln If you believe in your heart that you are right, you must fight with all your No one can make you feel inferior might to do it your way. Only dead without your consent. fish swim with the fish all the time. Eleanor Roosevelt Linda Ellerbee

COPING Getting on is the opium of the middle CONTENTMENT classes. Contentment sometimes cheats us of Walter James (b.1912) happiness. British journalist Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day COURAGE (SEE ALSO GROWTH; PERSEVERANCE)

We should be content with a little – Courage is almost a contradiction in not with littleness. Shraga Silverstein terms. It means a strong desire to live A Candle by Day taking the form of a readiness to die. G.K. Chesterton (1874-1936)

CONVENTION Resolve must be the firmer, spirit the bolder, Courage the greater, as our There is nothing more conventional strength grows less. than the convention of Anonymous unconventionality. The Battle of Maldon R.H. Benson (1871-1914) British Novelist

34 A person under the firm persuasion We sometimes take less credit for our that he can command resources successes in order to feel less virtually has them. responsibility for our failures. Livy (59 bc – 17 ad) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day To dare is to lose one's footing momentarily. Not to dare is to lose CRIME oneself. And what if crime did pay? Soren Kierkegaard Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fearnot absence of fear. It is that which is stolen, not the Mark Twain, larceny, which is petty. Pudd'nhead Wilson Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

CRITICISM CREATIVITY/ORIGINALITY (SEE Criticism of others is often a devious ALSO SENSITIVITY) assertion of one’s own superiority. Any activity becomes creative when Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day the doer cares about doing it right, or better. When considering praise or criticism John Updike first consider the source. Picked-Up Pieces (Knopf) Jeff Daly

Few are those who see with their own For every action, there is an equal and eyes and feel with their own hearts. opposite criticism. Harrison's postulate Albert Einstein

To avoid criticism, do nothing, say CREDIT nothing, be nothing. We often give others credit for Elbert Hubbard knowing much more than they do so that we may repose all of our Man invented language to satisfy his confidence in them and not feel guilty deep need to complain. Lily Tomlin for not using our own heads to solve our own problems. I support the bigot's right to speak out, Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day as if I start limiting them, they may start limiting me. I also support my right to ignore them.

35 Laura Packer CURIOSITY Curiosity is one of the most permanent The trouble with most of us is that we and certain characteristics of a would rather be ruined by praise than vigorous intellect. saved by criticism. Samuel Johnson Norman Vincent Peale Wisdom begins in wonder. The power of accurate observation is Socrates commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it. CYNICISM George Bernard Shaw A cynic seeks only to expose falsehood; a truth-seeker, to eradicate If you judge people you have no time it. to love them. Shraga Silverstein Mother Theresa A Candle by Day

A cynic is a man who knows the price Cynicism is not realistic and tough. of everything but the value of nothing. It's unrealistic and kind of cowardly Oscar Wilde because it means you don't have to try. Peggy Noonan in Good Housekeeping

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DEATH (SEE ALSO OLD AGE) We should be reluctant to part with our lives only in the sense that the artist is Some things are hurrying into reluctant to part with his unfinished existence, and others are hurrying out masterpiece. of it; and of that which is coming into Shraga Silverstein existence part is already extinguished. A Candle by Day Marcus Aurelius Meditations Now comes the mystery. Henry Ward Beecher, Do not go gentle into that good night, dying words Old age should burn and rage at close of day; You can be a king or a street sweeper, Rage, rage, against the dying of the but everybody dances with the Grim light. Reaper. Dylan Thomas (1914-1953) Robert Alton Harris, executed in gas chamber April 21, 1992 On doit des egards aux vivants; on ne doit aux morts que la verite. Life is a great surprise. I don't see why To the living we owe respect, but to death should not be an even greater the dead we owe only the truth. one. Voltaire (1694-1778) Vladimir Nabokov

It is not death, but dying which is So little done, so much to do. terrible. Cecil Rhodes, dying words, 1902 Henry Fielding (1707-1754) To live is to dream and to die is to Everyone is good to a dying man – awaken. hoe good we would be to each other if Unattributed we fully realized that we were all The fear of death is worse than death dying. Robert Burton(1577-1640) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

37 DECEPTION Democracy is the recurrent suspicion As long as we know that we are that more than half of the people are fooling ourselves there is till hope for right more than half of the time. us. E.B. White (1899-1985) Shraga Silverstein American author, editor A Candle by Day I do not believe in the collective Sometimes we cannot help being wisdom of individual ignorance. “taken in,” but we must know enough Thomas Carlyle to come out. (1795-1881) Scottish writer Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day I think we must agree that the fools are Deception – We are blinded by in a terrible overwhelming majority, nothing so much as by our eyes. all the wide world over. Shraga Silverstein Henrik Ibsen (1828-1906) A Candle by Day Man’s capacity for justice makes DECEIT democracy possible, but man’s No man means all he says, and yet inclination to injustice makes very few say all they mean, for words democracy necessary. are slippery and thought is viscous. Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971) Henry B. Adams American theologian, historian

The only secrets are the secrets that There is a limit to the application of keep themselves. democratic methods. You can inquire George Bernard Shaw of all the passengers as to what type of car they like to ride in, but it is DECEPTION impossible to question them as to We confess our little faults to persuade whether to apply the brakes when the people that we have no large ones. train is at full speed and accident Francois de La Rochefoucauld threatens. Leon Trotsky (1879-1940) DELICACY (SEE SENSITIVITY) When great changes occur in history, when great principles are involved, as DEMOCRACY a rule the majority are wrong. Democracy is only an experiment in Eugene Debs (1855-1926) government, and it has the obvious American trade unionist, co-founder of the Socialist Party of the United States disadvantage of merely counting votes instead of weighing them. DIFFERENCE W. R. Inge (1860-1954) Dean of St. Paul’s London Nothing makes a difference until it is subtracted. 38 Shraga Silverstein What is difficulty? Only a word A Candle by Day indicating the degree of effort required to accomplish something! A mere DIFFICULTIES notice of the necessity for exertion; a scarecrow to children and fools and a There are two ways of meeting stimulus to real men. difficulties: you alter the difficulties or Samuel Warren you alter yourself meeting them. Phyllis Bottome Bumps are the things we climb on. Warren Wiersbe There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics It is a good rule to face difficulties at are right. the time they arise and not allow them Ralph Waldo Emerson to increase unacknowledged. Every cloud has its silver lining but it Troubles are often the tools by which is sometimes a little difficult to get it G-d fashions us for better things. to the mint. Henry Ward Beecher Don Marquis DISCIPLINE (SEE ALSO RIGHTS) All things are difficult before they are Discipline is the bridge between goals easy. and accomplishments. John Norley Unattributed

When difficulties are overcome they DISCOVERY (SEE SENSITIVITY) begin blessing. Proverb DISCUSSION When you have nothing to say, say If you can't go over, you must go nothing. under. Charles Caleb Colton Jewish Proverb If A equals success, then the formula We have inherited new difficulties is: A = X + Y + Z, X is work. Y is because we have inherited more play. Z is keep your mouth shut. privileges. Albert Einstein Abram Sacher He who speaks of what he knows not Difficulties strengthen the mind, as only works hard to portray his labor does the body. ignorance. Seneca Joseph Muchemi

39 Small minds discuss people, average The greater the artist, the greater the minds discuss events, great minds doubt; perfect confidence is granted to discuss ideas. the less talented as a consolation prize. Unattributed Robert Hughes in Time DISPOSITION Though we dwell in the general clime Doubt is often the beginning of of our particular disposition, there are wisdom. days when G-d breaks the pattern and M. Scott Peck sends us different moods with which The Road Less Traveled and Beyond we must learn to cope as with all (Simon & Schuster) changes in the weather. We must build The greater the artist, the greater the dikes against the rains and bastions doubt. Perfect confidence is granted to against the winds; and we must the less talented as a consolation prize. construct in ourselves that which will Robert Hughes extract the full benefit of the sun when is shines for us. The trouble with the world is that the Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt. Bertrand Russel DOGMATISM Dogmatism does not mean the absence DREAMS / DREAMERS of thought, but the end of thought. Dream as if you'll live forever; live as G.K. Chesterton (1874-1936) if you'll die tomorrow. James Dean DOUBT (SEE ALSO FAITH) Work like you don't need the money. The first step towards philosophy is Love like you've never been hurt. incredulity. Dance like nobody's watching. Denis Diderot (1713-1784) Satchel Paige French philosopher, encyclopediste Those who dream by day are There is a vulgar incredulity, which in cognizant of many things, which historical matters, as well as in those escape those who dream only by night. of religion, finds it easier to doubt than Edgar Allen Poe to examine. Sir Walter Scott (1771-1832) The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of the dream. When we are not sure, we are alive. Eleanor Roosevelt Graham Greene (b. 1904)

40 Some look at things that are, and ask why. I dream of things that never were When we can’t dream any longer we and ask why not? die. George Bernard Shaw Emma Goldman (1869-1940) American anarchist Those who hear not the music think the dancers mad. Dream and deed are not as different as Unattributed many think. All the deeds of men are dreams at first... We are all in the gutter, but some of us Theodor Herzl are looking at the stars. Postscripts, Altneuland Oscar Wilde DRESS Yes, I am a dreamer. For a dreamer is I hold that gentleman to be the best- one who can find his way by dressed whose dress no one observes. moonlight, and see the dawn before Anthony Trollope (1815-1882) the rest of the world. English novelist Oscar Wilde It is an interesting question how far men would retain their relative rank if How many of our daydreams would they were divested of their clothes. darken into nightmares, were there any H. D. Thoreau (1817-1862) danger of their becoming true. Logan Pearsall Smith (1865-1946) UTY SEE IGHTS American essayist D ( R )

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ECOLOGY We abuse land because we regard it as I have never let my schooling interfere a commodity belonging to us. with my education. When we see land as a Mark Twain (1835-1910) community to which we belong, we may begin to use it with love One looks back with appreciation to and respect. the brilliant teachers, but with Aldo Leopold (1886-1948) gratitude to those who touched our American forester human feelings. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the EDUCATION (SEE ALSO WISDOM) growing plant and for the soul of the A teacher affects eternity. child. Carl Jung (1875-1961) Henry B. Adams (1838-1918) American historian The first idea that the child must Educate men without religion and you acquire in order to be actively make them but clever devils. disciplined is that of the difference Duke of Wellington (1769-1852) between good and evil; and the task of the educator lies in seeing that the Education does not mean teaching child does not confound good with people to know what they do not immobility, and evil with activity. know; it means teaching them to Maria Montessori (1870-1952) behave as they do not behave. Italian educator John Ruskin (1819-1900) English critic When a man’s education is finished, he is finished. Education must have an end in view, E. A. Filene (1860-1937) for it is not an end in itself. American businessman, financier Sybil Marshall Life at a university with its intellectual Education is what remains when we and inconclusive discussions at the have forgotten all that we have been postgraduate level is on the whole a taught. bad training for the real world. Only George Savile, Lord Halifax (163-1695) English statesman, author 42 men of very strong character surmount The Mikado this handicap. Sir Paul Chambers (1904-1981) The man who has not anything to British industrialist boast of but his illustrious ancestors is like a potato,--the only good belonging The test and the use of man’s to him is under ground. education is that he finds pleasure in Thomas Overbury the exercise of his mind. Characters Jacques Barzun in Saturday Evening Post The great fault of our educational system is that it gives us no inkling of Ye can lead a man up to the university how much we are capable of knowing. but ye can’t make him think. Shraga Silverstein Finley Peter Dunne A Candle by Day Mr. Duckley’s Opinions The purpose of Compulsory Education The purpose of education is to replace is to deprive the common people of an empty mind with an open one. their common sense. Malcolm Forbes Gilbert Keith Chesterton attributed in Ann Lander’s column Education is the process of driving a Before Hitler killed six million Jews set of prejudices down your throat. he burnt six million books. Martin H. Fischer Moshe Dayan Genius without education is like silver Education is what survives when what in the mine. has been learned has been forgotten. Ben Franklin B.F. Skinner in New Scientist The brighter you are, the more you Education...has produced a vast have to learn. population able to read but unable to Don Herold distinguish what is worth reading. G.M. Trevelyan I never learned from a man who English Social History agreed with me. Robert A. Heinlein I can trace my ancestry back to a protoplasmal primordial atomic He who can, does. He who cannot, globule. Consequently, my family teaches. pride is something in-conceivable. I George Bernard Shaw can’t help it. I was born sneering. W.S. Gilbert I've never let my school interfere with my education. 43 Mark Twain ENTHUSIASM The man who doesn’t read good books In things pertaining to enthusiasm, no has no advantage over the man who man is sane who does not know how can’t read them. to be insane on proper occasions. Mark Twain(1835-1910) H.W. Beecher (1813-1887) American Writer American clergyman, editor, writer EFFORT You miss 100 percent of the shots you ENVIRONMENT never take. Wayne Gretzky We call ourselves “products of environment” forgetting that we are It's not the hours you put in your work also its producers. that counts, it's the work you put in the Shraga Silverstein, A Candle by Day hours. Sam Ewing EQUALITY (SEE ALSO FREEDOM, If you can't rise to the occasion, climb Rights) to it. Shraga Silverstein The social process requires the A Candle by Day standardization of man, and this standardization is called equality. According to the effort is the reward. Erich From (1900-1980) Pirkei Avot 5:23 American psychologist True education makes for inequality; EGOCENTRICITY (SEE Giving) the inequality of individuality, the inequality of success, the glorious inequality of talent, of genius. ELDERLY (SEE OLD AGE) Felix E. Scheling (1858-1945) American educator EMOTION Half our mistakes in life arise from We hold these truths to be self- feeling where we ought to think, and evident: that all men are created equal; thinking where we ought to feel. that they are endowed by their Creator J. Churton Collins (1848-1908) with certain unalienable rights; that English author, critic, scholar among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. ENEMIES Thomas Jefferson (1743-1826) Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them? The defect of equality is that we only Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865) desire it with our superiors. Henry Becque Querelles litteraires

44 It was a wise man who said that there Animal Farm is no greater inequality than the equal treatment of unequals. We hold these truths to be self- Felix Frankfurter evident: that all men are created equal judicial opinion 1949 and women are created equal. Elizabeth Cady Stanton We hold these truths to be self evident: “Declaration of Sentiments” that all men are created equal; that First Women’s Rights Convention, 1848 they are endowed by their creator with inherent and inalienable rights; that ERA among these are life, liberty, and the An era can be said to end when its pursuit of happiness. basic illusions are exhausted. Arthur Miller (b. 1915) Thomas Jefferson draft of the Declaration of Independence Jefferson’s early draft had the words ERETZ YISRAEL (SEE Israel) “with inherent and inalienable rights”. The Continental Congress ERROR (SEE ALSO Truth)

Your levelers wish to level down as far An error is the more dangerous in as themselves; but they cannot bear proportion to the degree of truth, leveling up to themselves. which it contains. Samuel Johnson Henri-Frederic Amiel as quoted in James Boswell’s Journal intime The Life of Samuel Johnson Truth lies within a little and certain I have a dream that four little black compass, but error is immense. children will one day live in a nation Henry St. John where they will not be judged by the Viscount Bolingbroke color of their skin, but by the content Reflections Upon Exile of their character, I have a dream today. Every great mistake has a halfway Martin Luther King, Jr. moment, a split second when it can be speech at the March on Washington, 1963 recalled and perhaps remedied. Pearl S. Buck All of us do not have equal talent, but What America Means to Me all of us should have an equal opportunity to develop our talents. You can create impression on yourself John F. Kennedy by being yourself by being right, he speech 1963 realizes, but for creating a good impression on others there’s nothing to All animals are equal, but some beat being totally and catastrophically animals are more equal than others. George Orwell wrong. 45 Michael Frayn bondage than that which has been Sweet Dreams escaped from. Shraga Silverstein It is one thing to show a man that he A Candle by Day is in an error, and another to put him in possession of truth. We cannot get away from it all; we John Locke are “it all.” An Essay Concerning Human Shraga Silverstein, A Candle by Day Understanding We seek to get away from it all when The man who makes no mistakes does it is only a part that is giving us not usually make anything. trouble. William Connor Magee Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which ETHICAL PERSONALITY (SEE is but saying, in other words, that he is ALSO Sages) wiser today than he was yesterday. Alexander Pope Thoughts on Various Subjects A good person in the worst sense of the word. Mistakes are, after all, the foundations Mark Twain of truth, and if a man does not know The only guide to a man is his what a thing is, it is at least an increase conscience; the only shield to his in knowledge if he knows what it is memory is the rectitude and sincerity not. of his actions. It is very imprudent to Carl Jung (1875-1961) walk through life without this shield, A man of genius makes no mistakes; because we are so often mocked by his errors are volitional and are the the failure of our hopes and the portals of discovery. upsetting of our calculations; but with James Joyce this shield, however the facts may play, we march always in the ranks of The study of error serves as a honor. stimulating introduction to the study If a man has greatness in him, it comes of truth. to light-not in one flamboyant hour, Walter Lippmann but in the ledger of his daily work. ESCAPE Beryl Markham West With the Night Escape literature, like most escape media, generally proves to be a greater Don’t say things. What you are stands over you the while, and thunders so

46 that I cannot hear what you say to the contrary. There is ....but one categorical Ralph Waldo Emerson imperative, namely, this: Act only on Letters and Social Aims that maxim whereby thou canst at the same time will that it should become a ETHICS (SEE ALSO MORALITY) universal law. Immanuel Kant The world is well supplied with rude Fundamental Principles of the Metaphysic people spouting high moral positions of Morals about human rights, but it is noticeably lacking in those who worry It is often easier to fight for principles about the human being waiting in line than to live up to them. Adlai E. Stevenson behind them at the automated-teller speech 1952 machine while they balance their checkbooks. If he does really think that there is no Owen Edwards distinction between virtue and vice, Town and Country why, Sir, when he leaves our houses The immorality of morality. let us count our spoons. Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) Henry Miller referring to the fact that some moral systems demand a course of rigid action that may be I find that when I dislike what I see on inappropriate to the given situation, as in the stage I can be vastly amusing, but legalism when I write about something I like I find that I am appallingly dull. I know only that that is what you feel Sir Max Beerbohm (1872-1956) good after and what is immoral is British author what you feel bad after. Ernest Hemmingway It is often said that second thoughts Death in the Afternoon are best. So they are in matters of judgement, but not in matters of An ethical person ought to do more conscience. than he’s required to do and less than Cardinal John Newman (1801-1890) he’s allowed to do. English churchman, theologian Michael Josephson quoted in Bill Moyer’s World of Ideas EVIL It was as though in those last minutes Morality is not really the doctrine of he (Eichmann) was summing up the how to make ourselves happy but of lessons that this long course in human how we are to be worthy of happiness. wickedness has taught us--the lesson Immanuel Kant Critique of Practical Reason of the fearsome, word-and-thought- defying banality of evil. 47 Hannah Arendt Shraga Silverstein Eichmann in Jerusalem A Candle by Day

Evil is unspectacular and always human In our struggle with the evil And shares our bed and eats at our inclination, there is no such thing as own table. losing a battle to win the war. The W.H. Auden battle is the war. Herman Melville Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do It is foolhardy to think of the evil nothing. inclination as something which Edmund Burke occasionally assails us. We are its very habitation! The belief in a supernatural source of Shraga Silverstein evil is not necessary; men alone are A Candle by Day quite capable of every wickedness. Joseph Conrad, Under Western Eyes Just as the evil inclination causes evil to seem attractive to us, it causes good The resolution to avoid an evil is to seem repulsive to us. seldom framed till the evil is so far Shraga Silverstein advanced as to make avoidance A Candle by Day impossible. Thomas Hardy, Far from the Madding Crowd Often the best answer to the to the evil inclination is not “No!” but “Maybe.” Between two evils, I always pick the Shraga Silverstein one I never tried before. A Candle by Day Mae West Klondike Annie One has reached a high point in his moral development when he comes to For evil to succeed it is sufficient that regard it as “immature” to submit to good men do nothing. the evil inclination. Unattributed Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day EVIL INCLINATION One of the devices of the evil At times, the evil inclination is so inclination is to turn our attention strong that it seems a sin not to satisfy away from the present by heightening it, and, of course, not wanting to sin, our anticipation of the future. we give it satisfaction. Shraga Silverstein

48 A Candle by Day We can increase our effectiveness One of the most potent weapons of the against the evil inclination by learning evil inclination in the last century has to recognize the new forms of its old been novelty. weapons, so that they do not appear to Shraga Silverstein us as new weapons for which we have A Candle by Day not as yet devised defenses. Shraga Silverstein The evil inclination is a rope that one A Candle by Day can either hang himself with or scale to G-d. We commit the sin and assume that all Shraga Silverstein our former good was insincere, A Candle by Day hypocritical. There is no greater homage we can pay to the evil The evil inclination occasionally inclination. allows us to be tempted and not to fall, Shraga Silverstein, A Candle by Day so that we may allow ourselves to be We must select the proper defense for tempted even further and fall even a particular onslaught with the evil deeper. inclination with the same care and Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day presence of mind that a painter exercises in selecting the precise color The first thing that a man must realize for a particular effect. in respect to the evil inclination, is that Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day he is at war and not the victim of a natural catastrophe. When we are not under attack by the Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day evil inclination, we must spend our time building up our defenses in There is no such thing as fighting a preparation for the next onslaught. losing battle with the evil inclination. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day In that battle, as long as one is fighting, he is winning. Why can’t the evil inclination see its Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day illogic? Logic, in the ideal, demands a view of the entire field. The evil inclination reduces its field to the size To best the evil inclination, the mind of its glance – and is perfectly logical must be quicker that the eye. in terms of what it sees! If the only Shraga Silverstein thing one sees is a peppermint bar, A Candle by Day then, naturally, a peppermint bar

49 becomes the world and there is nothing more logical than living for Excellence is in the details. Give peppermint! attention to the details and excellence Shraga Silverstein will come. A Candle by Day Perry Paxton

EVOLUTION The reasonable man adapts himself to The resurrection – revival of the the world; the unreasonable one fittest; the world to come – persists in trying to adapt the world to supernatural selection. himself. Therefore, all progress Shraga Silverstein depends on the unreasonable man. A Candle by Day George Bernard Shaw

EXCELLENCE Some of the worlds greatest feats were We are what we repeatedly do. accomplished by people not smart Excellence then is not an act but a enough to know they were impossible. habit. Unattributed Aristotle Use what talents you possess; The Great spirits have always found woods would be very silent if no birds violent opposition from mediocrities. sang there except those that sang best. The latter cannot understand it when a Henry Van Dyke man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and EXCESS courageously uses his intelligence. Less is more. Albert Einstein Robert Browning

The reward of a thing well done is EXCUSES having done it. Two wrongs don’t make a right, but Ralph Waldo Emerson they make a good excuse. Thomas Szasz (b. 1920) To be great is to be misunderstood.. American psychiatrist Ralph Waldo Emerson EXPECTATIONS (SEE ALSO Growth) Great work is done by people who are Treat a man as he is, and he will not afraid to be great. remain as he is. Treat a man as he Fernando Flores could be, and he will become what he should be. One can never consent to creep when Ralph Waldo Emerson one feels an impulse to soar. Helen Keller

50 The only man who behaved sensibly Grena Davis was my tailor; he took my quoted by Kevin Sessums in Vanity Fair measurement anew every time he saw me, while all the rest went on with Information is pretty thin stuff unless their old measurements and expected mixed with experience. Clarence Day them to fit me. The Crow's Nest George Bernard Shaw I don't divide the world into the weak Do not do unto others as you expect and the strong, or the successes and they should do unto you. Their tastes the failures, those who make it or may not be the same. those who don't. I divide the world George Bernard Shaw into learners and non-learners. Benjamin Barber Expecting the world to treat you fairly in When Smart People Fail because you are a good person is like Carol Hyatt and Linda Gottlieb expecting a bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian. Experience isn’t interesting till it Dennis Wholey begins to repeat itself--in fact, till it Some are so perfectly prepared for the does that it hardly is experience. expected that they are defeated by the Elizabeth Bowen unexpected. The Death of the Heart Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day To most men, experience is like the stern lights of a ship, which illumine EXPERIENCE (SEE ALSO WISDOM) only the track it has passed. Samuel Taylor Coleridge We learn from experience that men Table Talk never learn from experience. Bernard Shaw I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of One thing about experience is that experience. I know of no way of when you don't have very much you're judging the future but by the past. apt to get a lot. Patrick Henry Franklin P. Jones speech 1775 in Quote Magazine Experience is not what happens to a I couldn't wait for success...so I went man; it is what a man does with what ahead without it. happens to him. Jonathan Winters Aldous Huxley Texts and Pretexts If you risk nothing, then you risk everything. 51 Experience is never limited, and it is indeed the same as the experience we never complete; it is an immense wish to learn from. sensibility, and a kind of huge spider- Shraga Silverstein web of the finest silken threads A Candle by Day suspended in the chamber of consciousness, and catching every air- Many think they are learning from borne particle in its tissue. experience when they are actually Henry James surrendering to it. Partial Portraits Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lessons afterwards. We must experience from our Vernon Law learning. in This Week Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Experience does not ever err; it is only your judgment that errs in promising Experience is a good teacher, but her itself results which are not caused by fees are very high. your experiments. W. R. Inge (1860-1954) Leonardo Da Vinci Dean of St. Paul’s, London Notebooks We should be careful to get out of an EXPERTS experience only the wisdom that is in An expert is a man who has made all it--and stop there; lest we be like the the mistakes, which can be made in a cat that sits down on a hot stove lid. very narrow field. She will never sit down on a hot stove Niels Bohr (1885-1962) lid again--and that is well; but also she Danish physicist will never sit down on a cold one anymore. EXPLORATION Mark Twain We shall not cease from exploration, Following the Equator and the end of all our exploring will be “Pudd’nhead and Wilson’s New Calendar” to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time. Experience is the name everyone gives T.S. Eliot to their mistakes. Oscar Wilde EXPRESSION Lady Windermere’s Fan Beauty without expression is boring. In our desire to learn from experience, Ralph Waldo Emerson we must not be too hasty to assume that the situation confronting us is

52 Robert Kennedy (1925-1968) EXTREMISM We must take care that our reaction to What is objectionable, what is one extreme is not so violent as to dangerous about extremists is not that thrust us to the other. they are extreme, but that they are Shraga Silverstein intolerant. The evil is not what they A Candle by Day say about their cause, but what they say about their opponents.

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FABLE (SEE Parable) I have too much respect for the idea of God to make it responsible for such an FAILURE (SEE ALSO SUCCESS) absurd world. Georges Duhamel The happy people are failures because they are on such good terms with My religion consists of a humble themselves they don’t give a damn. admiration of the illimitable superior Agatha Christie spirit who reveals himself in the slight details we are able to perceive with FAITH (SEE ALSO ATHEISM, Doubt; our frail and feeble mind. Faithfulness) Albert Einstein Faith is not knowledge of what the mystery of the universe is, but the Faith is to believe what you do not yet conviction that there is a mystery, and see; the reward for this faith is to see that it is greater than us. what you believe. Rabbi David Wolpe St Augustine Making Loss Matter (Riverhead Books) The great act of faith is when a man To be an atheist requires an decides that he is not G-d. indefinitely greater measure of faith Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes than to receive all the great truths (1841-1935) which atheism would deny. Joseph Addison Chance is perhaps the pseudonym of G-d when he does not wish to sign his We must be willing to get rid of the work. life we've planned, so as to have the Anatole France (1844-1924) life that is waiting for us. French author Joseph Campbell Faith declares what the senses do not Nobody talks about God as those who see, but not the contrary of what they insist that there is no God. see. Heywood Broun Blaise Pascal (1623-1662)

54 Faith is often the boast of the man who is too lazy to investigate. Let us rid ourselves of the assumption, F. M. Knowles (b.1877) common among believers and American journalist, playwright practically universal among non- believers, that G--d must be For those who believe in G-d no simpleminded. We readily grant that a explanation is needed; for those who great writer such as Joyce or Proust is do not believe in G-d no explanation is infinitely subtle and resourceful in possible. fashioning a novel; but we assume that Father John Lafarge (b.1880) in fashioning human history G-d will on the cures at Lourdes be heavy-handed and obvious. To believe only possibilities is not Accordingly, some believers conclude Faith, but mere Philosophy. that they know exactly what G-d has Sir Thomas Browne (1603-1682) English physician, author in mind and, vested with high office, could provide him with some much The most extraordinary thing about needed help. Unbelievers conclude the 20th century was the failure of G-d that they know what G-d would do if to die. The collapse of mass religious he existed, and that since those things belief, especially among the educated are not being done, he does not exist. and prosperous, had been widely and Glenn Tinder The Atlantic confidently predicted. It did not take place. Somehow, G-d survived, Faith is to believe what you do not yet flourished even. see; the reward for this faith is to see Paul Johnson The Quest for G-d (Harper Collins) what you believe. Saint Augustine The only way to make a man You can do very little with faith, but trustworthy, is to trust him. Harry L. Stimson you can do nothing without it. in Harper's Magazine Samuel Butler Notebooks Sometimes when I'm faced with an We are so constituted that we believe atheist, I am tempted to invite him to the most incredible things; and, once the greatest gourmet dinner that one they are engraved upon the memory, could ever serve, and when we have woe to him who would endeavor to finished eating that gourmet dinner, to erase them! ask him if he believes that there's a Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe cook. The Sorrows of Young Werther Ronald Reagan Speaking My Mind Simon & Schuster

55 No amount of manifest Voltaire, Le Sottisier absurdity...could deter those who wanted to believe from believing. There are two ways to slide easily Bernard Levin through life: to believe everything or The Pendulum Years to doubt everything. Both ways save Convictions are more dangerous us from thinking. enemies of truth than lies. Alfred Korzybski Friedrich Nietzsche Manhood of Humanity Human, All-too-Human Institute of General Semantics

I am an atheist still, thank G-d. Strong faith is the kind which does not Luis Bunuel allow itself to be troubled by the one quoted by Ado Kyrou per cent of perverse doubt which in Luis Bunuel: An Introduction constantly lurks in us, attempting to squelch all noble efforts, all great There are no atheists in the foxholes. enterprises of body, mind and soul, William Thomas Cummings attempting to conquer, in effect, the sermon 1942 ninety-nine per cent of faith. Strong faith looks this unrealistic doubt in the No one is so thoroughly superstitious eye, shouts at it, “You lie!” and as the godless man. crushes it underfoot. Harriet Beecher Stowe Shraga Silverstein Uncle Tom’s Cabin A Candle by Day By night an atheist half believes a God. FAITHFULNESS (SEE ALSO FAITH) Edward Young Night Thoughts on Life, Death, and Wither thou goest, I will go; and Immortality where thou lodgest, I will lodge; thy people shall be my people, and thy Man is certainly crazy. He could not God my God: Where thou diest, and make a mite, and he makes gods by there will I be buried: the Lord do so the dozen. to me, and more also, if aught but Michel De Montaigne death part thee and me. Bible, Ruth 1:16

If the triangles made a god, they O heaven! were man would give him three sides. But constant, he were perfect. Baron De Montesquieu Shakespeare The Persian Letters The Two Gentlemen of Verona

If G-d did not exist, it would be An ounce of loyalty is worth a pound necessary to invent him. of cleverness. 56 Elbert Hubbard Fame usually comes to those who are The Note Book thinking about something else. FALSEHOOD (SEE ERROR, TRUTH) Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table FAME (SEE ALSO PRIDE) One be humble out of pride. A celebrity is a person who works Michel De Montaigne hard all his life to become well known, then wears dark glasses to The greatest pleasure I know is to do a avoid being recognized. good action by stealth, and to have it Fred Allen found out by accident. Treadmill to Oblivion Charles Lamb

Fame is like a river, that beareth up Eminent posts make great men greater things light and swollen, and drowns and little men less. things weighty and solid. Jean de la Bruyère (1645-1696) Francis Bacon FAMILY Fame always brings loneliness. By giving children the means to reach Success is as ice cold and lonely as the inside to pray, to start the search for north pole. solace when there seems nowhere to Vicki Baum turn, is like enclosing a favorite Grand Hotel blanket in their luggage. Jacquelyn Mitchard The celebrity is a person who is Parenting known for his well-knownness. Daniel J. Boorstin Biologically, adults produce children. The Image Spiritually, children produce adults. Most of us do not grow up until we I would much rather have men ask have helped children do so. Thus do why I have no statue, than why I have the generations form a braided cord. one. George F. Will Cato the Elder Washington Post quoted in Plutarch’s Parallel Lives Sooner or later we all quote our In the very books in which mothers. philosophers bid us scorn fame, they Bern Williams inscribe their names. Cicero No matter how old a mother is, she Pro Archia Poeta watches her middle-aged children for signs of improvement. Florida Scott Maxwell 57 The Measure of My Days (Knopf) children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it myself. The only way we can ever teach a Joyce Maynard child to say “I’m sorry” is for him to At Home in the World (Picador USA) hear it from our lips first. Kevin Leman Before I got married I had six theories Making Children Mind Without Losing about bringing up children; now I have Yours six children and no theories. John Wilmot It is not giving children more that Earl of Rochester (1647-1680) spoils them; it is giving them more to English poet avoid confrontation. John Gray Men are generally more careful of the Children Are From Heaven (HarperCollins) breed of their horses and dogs than of their children. Raising kids is part joy and part William Penn (1644-1718) guerrilla warfare. religious leader, founder of Pennsylvania Ed Asner Being a husband is a whole-time job. The most important work you and I That is why so many husbands fail. will ever do will be within the walls of They cannot give their entire attention our own homes. to it. Harold B. Lee Arnold Benett (1867-1931) British novelist

We owe some of our finest qualities to It should be noted that children’s our parents’ excesses. games are not merely games; one Shraga Silverstein should regard them as their most A Candle by Day serious activities. Michel de Montaigne (1553-1592) Your children make it impossible to French essayist, moralist regret your past. They’re its finest fruits. On the dance floor, as in life, you're Anna Quindlen only as good as your partner. Black and Blue (Random House) Robin Marantz Henig in USA Today

It’s not only children who grow. Babies are always more trouble than Parents do too. As much as we watch you thought-and more wonderful. to see what our children do with their Charles Osgood lives, they are watching us to see what CBS Morning News we do with ours. I can’t tell my

58 Babies help us to put the changing Winston Churchill, speech 1943 world into perspective too. Changing the world has to wait, when it's time to In the little world in which children change the baby. have their existence, whosoever brings Charles Osgood them up, there is nothing so finely CBS Morning News perceived and so finely felt as injustice. There is no way to be a perfect mother Charles Dickens and a million ways to be a good one. Great Expectations Jill Churchill Crime and Punishment Little children are still the symbol of the eternal marriage between love and A father is a man who expects his duty. children to be as good as he meant to George Eliot be. Romola Carolyn Coats Things Your Dad Always Told You Your children are not your children. But You Didn't Want to Hear (Nelson) They are the sons and daughters of Life’s If two people agree on everything, one longing for itself.... of them is unnecessary. You may house their bodies but not Billy Graham their souls. in the name of his wife, Ruth For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, Parenting is not an intellectual which you cannot visit, not even in endeavor. It does not emanate from the your head. If it did, the smartest people dreams. would be the best parents, and I have KGibran never noticed that. Good parenting is The Prophet rooted is a matter of how rooted you are in the steady soil of common We can’t form our children on our sense. The heart and the gut are what own concepts; we must take them and make a good parent, not the head. love them as G-d gives them to us. Children have never been very good at Johann Wolfgang von Goethe listening to their elders, but they have Hermann und Dorothea never failed to imitate them. James Baldwin Children need models more than they Nobody Knows My Name need critics. Joseph Joubert There is no finer investment for any Pensees community than putting milk into babies. 59 Childhood is not from birth to a “You moron!” at their TV sets, who’s certain age and clapping and saying, “Good answer! at a certain age Good answer!”? Your family, that’s The child is grown, and puts away who. childish Dennis Miller things. Ranting Again (Doubleday) Childhood is the kingdom where The family is the essential presence - nobody dies. the thing that never leaves you, even if Nobody matters, that is. you find you have to leave it. Edna St. Vincent Millay Bill Buford “Childhood is the Kingdom Where Nobody in The New Yorker Dies” Perhaps the greatest social service that How sharper than a serpent’s tooth it can be rendered by anybody to the is country and to mankind is to bring up To have a thankless child! a family. But here again, because there Shakespeare is nothing to sell, there is a very King Lear general disposition to regard a married woman’s work as no work at all, and No one knows the true worth of a man to take it as a matter of course that she but his family. The dreary man should not be paid for it. drowsing, drop-jawed, in the George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) commuter train, the office bore, the taciturn associate - may be the pivot of If you bungle raising your children, I a family’s life, welcomed with hugs, don’t think whatever else you do well told the day’s news, asked for advice. matters very much. No longer Mr. B., but Dad. No longer Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis (b.1929) a nonentity but a man possessed of skills and wisdom; courageous and The commonest fallacy among women capable, patient and kind. Respected is that simply having children makes and loved. one a mother – which is as absurd as Pam Brown believing that having a piano makes Quoted by Carmen Renee Berry one a musician. and Lynn Barrington Sydney J. Harris (b.1917) in Daddies and Daughters American journalist (Simon & Schuster) When I was a boy of fourteen, my Your family cuts you the most slack father was so ignorant I could hardly and gives you the most chances. stand to have the old man around. But When the quiz-show host says, “Name when I got to be twenty-one, I was something you find in a refrigerator,” astonished at how much he had and the rest of American is screaming, learned in seven years. 60 Mark Twain (1835-1910) Never fear shadows. They simply mean there's a light shining We do not like the idea that children somewhere nearby. are as wild outwardly as we are Ruth E. Renkel inwardly. Shraga Silverstein Fear is sharp-sighted, and can see A Candle by Day things underground, and much more in the skies. The thing that impresses me the most Miguel de Cervantes about America is the way parents obey Don Quixote de la Mancha their children. King Edward VIII of Britain Let me assert my firm belief that the (1894-1972) only thing we have to fear is fear itself. FANATIC Franklin D. Roosevelt, A fanatic is one who can’t change his speech 1933 mind and won’t change the subject. Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965) Those who love to be feared, fear to be loved. Some fear them, but they Fanaticism consists in redoubling your fear everyone. effort when you have forgotten your Jean Pierre Camus (1582-1652) aim. George Santayana (1863-1952) Imagination is the dream of the conscious mind. FATHERS (SEE Family) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day FEAR Cowardice, as distinguished from The only thing we have to fear is fear panic, is almost always simply a lack itself. of ability to suspend the functioning of Franklin D. Roosevelt the imagination. Ernest Hemingway (1899-1961) FICTION Fear is the darkroom where negatives If you write fiction you are, in a sense, are developed. corrupted. There’s a tremendous E.L. in the AA Grapevine corruptibility for the fiction writer We experience moments absolutely because you’re dealing mainly with free from worry. These brief respites sex and violence. These remain the are called panic. basic themes, they’re the basic themes Cullen Hightower of Shakespeare whether you like it or not. 61 Anthony Burgess (b.1917) What luck for the rulers that men do British Author not think. Adolf Hitler The novel, if it be anything, is contemporary history, an exact and If you believe everything you read, complete reproduction of social you better not read. surroundings of the age we live in. Japanese proverb George Moore (1852-1933) Irish Author It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open one's FOOD mouth and remove all doubt. One should eat to live, not live to eat. Abraham Lincoln Moliere (1622-1673) Fools rush in where angels fear to FOOLS tread. There are two kinds of fools: one says, Alexander Pope ‘This is old, therefore it is good’; the other says, ‘This is new, therefore it its Most people would rather die than better’. think; in fact, they do so. W. R. Inge (1860-1954) Bertrand Russell Dean of St. Paul’s, London Anyone who thinks they're important is usually just a pompous moron who FOOLISHNESS can't deal with his or her own pathetic The greatest of faults, I should say, is insignificance and the fact that what to be conscious of none. they do is meaningless and Carlyle inconsequential.. William Thomas He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool It ain't what you don't know that gets forever. you into trouble. It's what you know Chinese proverb for sure that just ain't so. Mark Twain Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm Wise men learn more from fools, than not sure about the former. fools from the wise. Albert Einstein Unattributed

The difference between genius and Against stupidity the very gods stupidity is that genius has its limits. themselves contend in vain. Albert Einstein Wilhelm Gottfried von Lessing

62 The good Lord set definite limits on neither party came prepared to be man’s wisdom, but set no limits on his forgiven. stupidity-and that’s just not fair! Charles Williams (1886-1945) Konrad Ademauer (1876-1967) British author German Statesman It is easier to forgive an enemy than to FORCE forgive a friend. The use of force alone is but William Blake temporary. It may subdue for a moment; but does not remove the What is tolerance? it is the necessity of subduing again: and a consequence of humanity. We are all nation is not governed, which is formed of frailty and error; let us perpetually to be conquered. pardon reciprocally each other's folly Edmund Burke (1729-1797) that is the first law of nature. Irish philosopher, statesman Voltaire

FORGIVENESS (SEE ALSO ANGER) FORESIGHT Anger makes you smaller, while One must learn to look ahead without forgiveness forces you to grow beyond worrying ahead. what you were. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Cherie Carter-Scott If Love Is a Game, These Are the Rules (Broadway Books) FREEDOM (SEE ALSO Equality, FREEDOM OF SPEECH, Rights) When we forgive, we free ourselves from the bitter ties that bind us to the Freedom to be your best means one who hurt us. nothing unless you’re willing to do Claire Frazier-Yzaguirre your best. in A Man Named Dave, by Dave Pelzer Colin Powell (Dutton) in Priorities

‘I can forgive, but I cannot forget’, is Nothing is more liberating than to only another way of saying, I cannot fight for a cause larger than yourself, forgive’. something that encompasses you but is H.W. Beecher (1813-1887) not defined by your existence alone. American clergyman, editor, writer Dave Weinbaum

Many promising reconciliations have Liberty lies in the hearts of men and broken down because, while both women; when it dies there, no parties came prepared to forgive, constitution, no law...no court can save it.... 63 Learned Hand, speech 1944 expression--everywhere in the world. The second is freedom of every person Is life so dear, or peace so sweet, as to to worship G-d in his own way-- be purchased at the price of chains and everywhere in the world. The third is slavery? Forbid it, Almighty G-d!--I freedom from want...everywhere in know not what course others may the world. The fourth is freedom from take; but as for me, give me liberty, or fear.....anywhere in the world. give me death! Franklin D. Roosevelt Patrick Henry, speech 1775 speech 1941

There can be no real freedom without Man is born free, and everywhere he is the freedom to fail. in chains. Eric Hoffer Jean-Jacques Rousseau The Ordeal of Change The Social Contract

Let every nation know, whether it Man is condemned to be free. wishes us well or ill, that we should Jean-Paul Sartre pay any price, bear any burden, meet Existentialism and Humanism any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe to assure the survival Liberty means responsibility. That is and the success of liberty. why most men dread it. John F. Kennedy George Bernard Shaw speech inaugural address, 1961 Man and Superman The Revolutionist’s Handbook None can love freedom heartily, but good men; the rest love not freedom. Many politicians lay it down as a self- John Milton evident proposition that no people The Tenure of Kings and Magistrates ought to be free until they are fit to use their freedom. The maxim is worthy of Liberty is the right to do whatever the the fool in the old story who resolved laws permit. not to go into the water until he had Baron De Montesquieu learned to swim. De l’esprit des lois Lord Macaulay (1800-1859) English historian O liberty! O liberty! What crimes are committed in thy name! Our youth want freedom to be slaves Madame Jeanne-Marie Roland of their impulses. attributed, quoted in Alphonse de Shraga Silverstein Lamartine’s Histoire des Girondins A Candle by Day

We look forward to a world founded Posterity: you will never know how upon four essential human freedoms. much it has cost my generation to The first is freedom of speech and 64 preserve your freedom. I hope you change the world, indeed it is the only will make good use of it. thing that ever has. John Quincy Adams Margaret Mead

Any existence deprived of freedom is He that would make his own liberty a kind of death. secure must guard even his enemy General Michel Aoun from oppression; for if he violates this duty he establishes a precedent that What a curious phenomenon it is that will reach to himself. you can get men to die for the liberty Thomas Paine of the world who will not make the little sacrifice that is needed to free When even one American who has themselves from their own individual done nothing wrong is forced by fear bondage. to shut his mind and close his mouth, Bruce Barton then all Americans are in peril. Harry S. Truman Those that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety You know that being an American is deserve neither liberty nor safety. more than a matter of where your Ben Franklin parents came from. It is a belief that all men are created free and equal and The love of liberty is the love of that everyone deserves an even break. others; the love of power is the love of Harry S. Truman ourselves. William Hazlitt The greatest pleasure in life is doing what others say you cannot do. I do not agree with what you have to Unattributed say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it. Eternal vigilance is the price of Patrick Henry freedom. Raymonde Uy Give me liberty or give me death. Patrick Henry I would rather die standing than live on my knees! Give me your tired, your poor, your Emiliano Zapata huddled masses yearning to breathe free. FREEDOM OF SPEECH (SEE ALSO Emma Lazarus, Freedom) engraved on the Statue of Liberty The most stringent protection of free Never doubt that a small group of speech would not protest a man falsely thoughtful committed citizens can 65 shouting fire in a theater and causing a panic. Nothing is more dangerous than a Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. friend without discretion; even a judicial decision prudent enemy is preferable. Jean de la Fontaine (1621-1695) If all mankind were minus one, were French poet, fabulist of one opinion, and only one person were of contrary opinion, mankind Lots of people want to ride with you in would be no more justified in the limo, but what you want is silencing that one person, than he, if someone who will take the bus with he had the power, would be justified in you when the limo breaks down. silencing mankind. Ophrah Winfrey John Stuart Mill The only way to make sure people you Friendship is like a bank account. You agree with can speak is to support the can't continue to draw on it without rights of people you don’t agree with. making deposits. Eleanor Holmes Norton Bits & Pieces quoted in New York Post Always tell your problems to people I defeat what you write, but I would who don't like you. They're the only give my life to make it possible for ones who want to hear them. you to continue to write. Sam Ewing Voltaire, letter 1770 Forsake not an old friend: for the new Freedom of Speech does not give a is not comparable to him: a new friend person the right to shout ‘Fire!’ in a is as new wine: when it is old, thou crowded theatre. shalt drink it with pleasure. Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes (1841-1935) Bible, Ecclesiastics 9:10 American jurist When the sun shines on you, you see People hardly ever make use of the your friends, friend’s are the freedom they have, for example, thermometers by which one may judge freedom of thought; instead they the temperature of our fortunes. demand freedom of speech as a Marguerite Blessington compensation. Commonplace Book Sören Kierkegaard (1813-1855) Danish philosopher There is no man so friendless but what he can find a friend sincere enough to FRIENDSHIP tell him disagreeable truths. Without friends, you’re like a book Edward Bulwer-Lytton What Will He Do With It? that nobody bothers to pick up. Quoted in Psychology of Women Quarterly 66 A friend is, as it were, a second self. Cicero The holy passion of friendship is of so De Amicitia sweet and steady and loyal and In prosperity our friends know us; in enduring a nature that it will last adversity we know our friends. through a whole lifetime, if not asked Churton Collins to lend money. Aphorisms Mark Twain Pudd’nhead Wilson Have no friends not equal to yourself. “Pudd’nhead Wilson’s calendar Confucius Analects Think where man’s glory most begins and end G-d gives us relatives; thank G-d, we And say my glory was I had such can choose our friends. friends. Addison Mizner W.B. Yeats The Cyni’s Calendar “The Municipal Gallery Re-visited

A friend may well be reckoned the What is a friend? A single soul masterpiece of nature. dwelling in two bodies. Ralph Waldo Emerson Aristotle (384-322 BC) Essays, “Friendship” The danger in being closely knit is The only reward of virtue is virtue; the becoming miserably entangled. only way to have a friend is to be one. Shraga Silverstein Ralph Waldo Emerson A Candle by Day Essays, “Friendship” We must not become enemies with A true friend is the greatest of all ourselves in order to make friends blessings, and the one that we take the with others. least care of all to acquire. Shraga Silverstein La Rochefoucauld A Candle by Day Maxims One can do without people but one has Each friend represents a world in us, a need of a friend. world possibly not born until they Chinese Proverb arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born. The only way to have friends is to be Anais Nin one. The Diary of Anais Nin Ralph Waldo Emerson

True friendship is never serene. Each friend represents a world in us; a Marie De Sevigne world possibly not born until they letter 1671 67 arrive, and it is only in meeting them that a new world is born. FUTURE Anais Nin I never think of the future. It comes soon enough. Friends are those people who know Albert Einstein the words to the song in your heart and sing them back to you when you have The best thing about the future is that forgotten the words. it comes one day at a time. Unattributed Abraham Lincoln

A true friend stabs you in the front. I have realized that the past and future Oscar Wilde are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all FRUSTRATION there is. One of our most costly errors is Alan Watts regarding frustration as an indication of the unreality of our aspirations I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have rather than as a stage to be expected in seen yesterday and I love today! the progress towards our goal. William Allen White Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very We must live with frustration without clean. It’s perfect when it arrives and it becoming frustrated with life. puts itself in our hands. It hopes we’ve Shraga Silverstein learned something from yesterday. A Candle by Day John Wayne (1907-1979)

We must not confuse frustration with We should all be concerned with the failure. future because we will have to spend Shraga Silverstein the rest of our lives there. A Candle by Day C. F. Kettering (1876-1958) American engineer, industrialist FUN There is so much “fun” to be had Future. That period of time in which nowadays that we close our eyes to our affairs prosper, our friends are true thought to render ourselves capable of and our happiness is assured. attaining it. Ambrose Bierce (1842-1914) Shraga Silverstein American author A Candle by Day In worrying about what the future will bring, we lose what the present is bringing. 68 Shraga Silverstein Sometimes we credit ourselves with A Candle by Day having foreseen the future, when the truth is that we have manufactured it. Let us think less of what the future Shraga Silverstein will bring us and more of what we will A Candle by Day bring the future. Shraga Silverstein Map out your future, but do it in A Candle by Day pencil.

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GENERALIZATIONS George Herbert (1593-1633) All generalizations are dangerous, English clergyman, poet even this one. Alexandre Dumas (1824-1895) True kindness presupposes the faculty of imagining as one’s own the GENEROSITY (SEE GIVING) suffering and joy of others. André Gide (1869-1951)

GENIUS I am of the opinion that my life Mediocrity knows nothing higher than belongs to the whole community and itself, but talent instantly recognizes as long as I live it is my privilege to do genius. for it whatever I can. I want to be Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (1859-1930) thoroughly used up when I die. The measure of a master is his success George Bernard Shaw in bringing all men round to his Do not do unto others as you would opinion twenty years later. that they should do unto you. Their R.W. Emerson (1803-1882) American essayist, poet, philosopher tastes may not be the same. George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) The work of a genius is not always a A man who sees another man on the work of genius. Shraga Silverstein street corner with only a stump for an A Candle by Day arm will be so shocked the first time he’ll give him sixpence. But the There are far more intellectual than second time it’ll only be a three penny spiritual geniuses. bit. And if he sees him a third time, Shraga Silverstein he’ll have him cold-bloodedly handed A Candle by Day over to the police. The Threepenny Opera GENOCIDE Bertroit Brecht (1898-1956) A single death is a tragedy, a million trans. Desmond I. Vesey and Eric Bentley deaths is a statistic. We do not quite forgive a giver. The Josef Stalin (1879-1953) hand that feeds us is in some danger of being bitten. GIVING (SEE ALSO MERCY) R.W. Emerson (1803-1882) Love your neighbor, yet pull not Down your hedge. 70 Those who bring sunshine into the We do not love people so much for the lives of others cannot keep it from good they have done us, as for the themselves. good we have done them. Sir James Barrie Leo Tolstoy (1828-1910)

The more sympathy you give, the less He who wishes to secure the good of you need. others has already secured his own. Malcolm Forbes Confucius (551-478BC) in Forbes If I give you my idea and you give me If you haven't any charity in your yours, then we each have two ideas, heart, you have the worst kind of heart and together we have four. trouble. Gerard I. Nierenberg Bob Hope He that defers his charity until he is Simple human solidarity was the dead is, if a man weighs it rightly, shtetl's source of strength...A ghost of rather liberal of another man’s goods the shtetl lingers on in the modern than his own. living institutions of Israel. Francis Bacon (1561-1626) Amos Elon The Israelis We must be aware of the dangers, which lie in our most generous wishes. If nature has made you a giver, your Some paradox of our nature leads us, hands are born open, and so it is in when once we have made our fellow your heart. And though there maybe men the objects of our enlightened times when your hands are empty, interest, to go on to make them the your heart is always full, and you can objects of our pity, then of our give things out of that. wisdom, ultimately of our coercion. Frances Hodgson Burnett Lionel Trilling (1905-1975) A Little Princess (Lippincott) American critic

Nothing costs so much as what is That’s what I consider true generosity. given us. You give your all, and yet you always Thomas Fuller feel as if it cost you nothing. Gnomologia Simone de Beauvoir (1908-1986) French Author Liberality consists less in giving a GLORY great deal than in gifts well timed. One who does great deeds out of a La Bruyere desire for glory is acting from impure Les Caracteres motives, but one who seeks glory as an incentive to the doing of good deeds is being nobly motivated.

71 Shraga Silverstein It is possible to worship God while A Candle by Day driving along the highway or sitting in a baseball park. But if we raise the GOALS (SEE ALSO Growth) question of statistical probability, the worship of God is scarcely as frequent You must have long range goals to in those places as in houses built in his keep you from being frustrated by honor. There is the story of the father short range failures. who said, “Come on, we can sing Charles C. Noble hymns on the beach,” to which the little girl replied, “But we won’t, will Where there is no vision, the people we?” perish. George Hedley Bible, Proverbs The Superstitions of the Irreligious (Macmillan) Hitch your wagon to a star. Ralph Waldo Emerson Society and Solitude God is a circle whose center is everywhere and its circumference Slight not what’s near through aiming nowhere. at what’s far. Empedocles Euripides, Rhesus What really interests me is whether One does not discover new lands God had any choice in the creation of without consenting to lose sight of the the world. shore for a very long time. Albert Einstein Andre Gide (1869-1951) G-d – our invisible means of support. A goal is more than an end to strive Shraga Silverstein for; it is a strong arm which leads one A Candle by Day along, where otherwise he would founder or falter. I call to G-d Shraga Silverstein In the midst of those who don’t; A Candle by Day They think it odd, That I won’t In advancing towards our goal we Come to my senses must not be blind to the riches along And cease from idle prayer, the way. From words that melt to air, Shraga Silverstein And leave no echo A Candle by Day To show that they were there. They think it odd; G-D (SEE ALSO BELIEF, Faith, Trust) Not G-d.

72 Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day GOOD PERSON (SEE Ethical Men should turn to G-d as leaves to Personality) the sun. Shraga Silverstein OVERNMENT A Candle by Day G Every society gets the kind of criminal Our being casual would be fine if G-d it deserves. What is equally true is that had become casual too – He has not. every community gets the kind of law Shraga Silverstein enforcement it insists on. A Candle by Day Robert Kennedy (1925-1968)

Yes, we are all G-d’s children but let When great questions end, little parties us not be too hasty to say, “Father will begin. understand.” Walter Bagehot (1826-1877) English economist, critic Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day GRATITUDE Did you ever say "Thank you" to G-d? GOOD (SEE Ethics; Evil) I don't mean "Great is the grandeur of Your glory,'' Some are so far removed from Or "Blessed be the Keeper of this goodness that they cannot conceive of clod,'' others as being sincerely good. But simply "Thank you,'' with no Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day added story, If you haven't, then re-appraise your We are sometimes kept from doing attitude, good by a too lofty impression of For though you've paid Him praise, goodness. You owe Him gratitude. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

We must learn to be connoisseurs of We are alive to be thankful. the good, to stop and exclaim, “Ah, Shraga Silverstein what an exquisitely beautiful deed!” A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house We must not wait for the good in us to into a home, a stranger into a friend. be brought out; we must carry it out. Melody Beattie Reader's Digest Shraga Silverstein

73 It's a sign of mediocrity when you demonstrate gratitude with GREED moderation. There is enough for the needy but not Roberto Benigni for the greedy. M. K. Gandhi (1869-1948) GREATNESS (SEE ALSO Ethical Personality) GROWTH (SEE ALSO APATHY, COURAGE, Experience, Faith, Goals, Great spirits have always encountered Opportunity, Rights) violent opposition from mediocre minds. Albert Einstein You can’t help someone get up a hill without getting closer to the top A man should be respected more for yourself. what he has made of himself than for Gen. H. Norman Schwartzkopf what he is. Shraga Silverstein We must take things as they come, but A Candle by Day that does not mean that we must leave them that way. Some people are more talented than Shraga Silverstein others. some are more educationally A Candle by Day privileged than others. But we all have the capacity to be great. To be is to be perceived. Greatness comes with recognizing that Bishop Berkeley your potential is limited only by how you choose, how you use your To be; what does it mean to be? We freedom, how resolute you are-in have no right to ask such a question. short, by your attitude. And we are all Neils Bohr free to choose our attitude. Peter Koestenbaum The prelude to leaps and bounds is step by step In G-d’s world, everything is great Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day enough to think about; but we are not great enough to think about Most people have a desire to look at everything. the exception instead of the desire to Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day become exceptional. John C. Maxwell Developing the Leader Within You (Nelson) Our aim is not to be superhuman, but super humans. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day 74 There will come the time when you Jonas Salk believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning. The past should be a springboard, not Louis L'Amour a hammock. Lonely on the Mountain Ivern Ball

Goals: We all live under the same sky, Ability will never catch up with the but we don't have the same horizon. demand for it. Konrad Adenauer Malcolm S. Forbes in Forbes It takes as much courage to have tried and failed as it does to have tried and The glory of great men should always succeeded. be measured by the means they have Ann Morrow Lindbergh used to acquire it. La Rochefucauld Opportunity: Opportunity's favorite disguise is trouble. I have had more trouble with myself Frank Tiger than with any other man I have ever in Graham, Texas, Rotary Scandal Sheet met! Dwight L Moody Expect people to be better than they are; it helps them to become better. Anyone can make a mistake. A fool But don't be disappointed when they insists on repeating it. are not; it helps them to keep trying. Merry Brown There's is nothing that is wrong with in National Enquirer America that can't be fixed with what is right with America. We judge ourselves by what we feel Pres. Bill Clinton capable of doing, while others judge acceptance speech, 1993 us by what we have already done Henry Wordsworth Longfellow Imprisoned in every fat man, a thin one is wildly signaling to be let out. Apathy is the glove into which evil Cyril Connolly (1903-1974) slips its hand. British critic Bodie Thoene Munich Signature Most of us will never do great things, but we can do small things in a great If opportunity doesn't knock, build a way. door. Bits and Pieces Milton Berle Dream and deed are not as different as The reward for work well done is the many think. All the deeds of men are opportunity to do more. dreams at first... 75 Theodore Herzl Lincoln Postscripts, Altneuland You can send a message around the In the long run the pessimist may be world in one fifth of a second, yet it proved right, but the optimist has a may take years for it to get from the better time on the trip. outside of a man's head to the inside. Daniel L. Reardon Charles F Kettering Quote magazine Too often, our minds are locked on We are born into a vast room whose one track. We are looking for red-so walls consist of a thousand doors of we overlook blue. Many Nobel prizes possibility. Each door is flung open to have been washed down the drain the world outside, and the room is because someone did not expect the filled with light and noise. We close unexpected. some of the doors deliberately, John D. Turner sometimes with fear, sometimes with Textile Chemist and Colorist calm certainty. Others seem to close by themselves, some so quietly that A Chinese general put it this way: ‘If we do not even notice. the world is to be brought to order, my Terry Teachopout nation must first be changed. If my City Limits nation is to be changed, my hometown must be made over. If my hometown is ...Dr. Albert Schweitzer did, Rachel to be reordered, my family must first Carson did, Mother Teresa did and be set right. If my family is to be Tom Dooley did. History is replete regenerated, I myself must first be.’ with heroic people who realized they Purnell Bailey could make a difference, and did- despite the conventional wisdom of Courage is not the absence of fear but the day. the ability to carry on with dignity in Theodore Hesburgh - with Jerry Reedy spite of it. G-d Country, Notre Dame Scott Torow The Burden of Proof To err is human to admit it is superhuman. There are no speed limits on the road Doug Larson to excellence. United Feature Syndicate David W Johnson

To be is to be someone in particular. Every day, in every way, I am getting Santanyana better and better. Emile Coue I do the very best I know how...and I widely promoted formula for mean to do so until the end. self-healing by autosuggestion

76 Hamlet There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of Our remedies oft in ourselves do lie, improving, and that’s your own self. Which ascribe to heaven. Aldous Huxley Shakespeare Time Must Have a Stop All’s Well That Ends Well

At thirty man suspects himself a fool; People often say that this or that Knows it at forty, and reforms his person has not yet found himself. But plan; the self is not something one finds, it At fifty chides his infamous delay, is something one creates. Pushes his prudent purpose to resolve; Thomas Szasz In all the magnanimity of thought The Second Sin Resolves; and re-resolves; then dies the same. I celebrate myself, and sing myself, Edward Young And what I assume you shall assume, Night Thoughts on Life, Death and For every atom belonging to me as Immortality good belongs to you. Walt Whitman Resolve to be thyself; and know that Leaves of Grass he, Who finds himself, loses his misery! GUIDANCE Matthew Arnold It is not enough to be shown the right Self-Dependence path; we must be taught how to walk upon it. A man never speaks of himself Shraga Silverstein without losing something. What he A Candle by Day says in his disfavor is always believed, but when he commends himself, he GUILT arouses mistrust. True guilt is guilt at the obligation one Michel De Montaigne owes to oneself to be oneself. R. D. Laing (b.1927) British psychiatrist This above all: to thine self be true, And it must follow, as the night the A man must train his conscience to a day, sin-pain response. Thou canst not then be false to any Shraga Silverstein man. A Candle by Day Shakespeare

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HABIT (SEE ALSO RIGHTS) HALACHA (SEE Laws)

Habit with him was all the test of HAPPINESS truth; We have no more right to consume It must be right: I’ve done it from my happiness without producing it than to youth. consume wealth without producing it. To fall into a habit is to begin to cease Morell, Candida to be. George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Miguel De Unamuno The Tragic Sense of Life One filled with joy preaches without preaching. The chains of habit are too weak to be Mother Teresa felt until they are too strong to be broken. The search for happiness is one of the Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) chief sources of unhappiness. Eric Hoffer Some think they are preserving The Passionate State of Mind tradition when they are only perpetuating a habit. Happiness is like coke--something you Shraga Silverstein get as a by-product in the process of A Candle by Day something else. Aldous Huxley Habit – The contemptible, gazed at too Point Counter Point long, becomes temptible. Shraga Silverstein Happiness is an imaginary condition, A Candle by Day formerly often attributed by the living to the dead, now usually attributed by The greatest difficulty in the breaking adults to children, and by children to of habits lies in their having come to adults. seem the natural way of reacting, so Thomas Szasz that even though we tell ourselves that The Second Sin we should break the habit, we do not essentially believe that we should. So of cheerfulness, or a good temper-- Shraga Silverstein the more it is spent, the more of it A Candle by Day remains. Ralph Waldo Emerson The Conduct of Life 78 Happiness is an attainable human The plainest sign of wisdom is a condition; bliss is reserved for the continual cheerfulness; her state is like dead. that of things in the regions above the Shraga Silverstein moon, always clear and serene. A Candle by Day Michel De Montaigne Happiness, in this world, is a means; There is no stronger craving in the in the next world it is the end. world than that of the rich for titles, Shraga Silverstein except that of the titled for riches. A Candle by Day Hesketh Pearson (1887-1964) British biographer The truly happy man is the one who has everything money can’t buy. You cannot always have happiness, Shraga Silverstein but you can always give happiness. A Candle by Day Author Unknown If you ever find happiness by hunting Ask yourself whether you are happy, for it, you will find it as the old and you cease to be so. woman did her lost spectacles - on her John Stuart Mill (1806-1873) own nose all the time. Josh Billings Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value from joy you must have You will never be happy if you somebody to divide it with. continue to search for what happiness Mark Twain (1835-1910) consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life. One is never as unhappy as one thinks, Albert Camus nor as happy as one had hoped to be. Francois, Duc de La Rochefoucauld (1613- He who has so little knowledge of 1680) French writer, moralist human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition will waste his life away in We all want to be happy, and we’re all fruitless efforts. going to die… You might say those are Samuel Johnson the only two unchallengeably true If we'd stop trying to be happy we facts that apply to every human being could have a pretty good time. on this planet. Edith Wharton William Boyd (b. 1952) British novelist

It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness. 79 Charles Haddon Spurgeon HEROES Victorian clergyman (1834-1892) Acting is the expression of a neurotic impulse. It’s a bum’s life. Quitting HASTE acting, that’s the sign of maturity. A nation rushing hastily to and fro, Marlon Brando (b. 1924) busily employed in idleness. Phaedrus (1st century AD) You spend all your life trying to do Roman fabulist something they put people in asylums for. What is the use of running when you Jane Fonda (b.1937) are on the wrong road? Proverb You can pick out actors by the glazed look that comes into their eyes when HATE the conversation wanders away from Always remember others may hate themselves. you but those who hate you don’t win Michael Wilding (1912-1979) unless you hate them. And then you British Actor. destroy yourself. Richard Nixon (b.1913) We need heroes, people who can inspire us, help shape us morally, spur I will permit no man to narrow and us on to purposeful action--and from degrade my soul by making me hate time to time we are called on to be him. those heroes, leaders for others, either Booker T. Washington in a small, day-to-day way, or on the world's larger stage. Robert Coles HEALTH in Lives of Moral Leadership G-d heals, and the doctor takes the fee. Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790) A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes HELL longer. Hell is oneself; Hell is alone, the other R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) figures in it merely projections. There American essayist, poet, philosopher is nothing to escape from and nothing to escape to. One is always alone. George Eliot (1819-1880) There is no more heroic pugilist than a soul battered by evil, blinking through its bleeding wounds, seeking an opening to strike a blow for the good. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

80 What experience and history teach is this--that people and government HISTORY never have learned anything from history, or acted on principles deduced 'History is moving and it will tend from it. toward hope, or tend toward tragedy." G.W.F. Hegel US President George W. Bush Philosophy of History

Man is history-making creature who A historian is a prophet in reverse. can neither repeat his past nor leave it Friedrich von Schlegel behind. in Athenaeum W.H. Auden The Dyer’s Hand Every time history repeats itself the price goes up. It has been said that though G-d Anonymous cannot alter the past, historians can; it History is Philosophy teaching by is perhaps because they can be useful examples. to Him in this respect that He tolerates Henry St. John (Viscount Bolingbroke) their existence. (1678-1751) Samuel Butler English politician, intriguer Erewhorn Revisited History is a horse that gallops past the The principal office of history I take to window, and you have to decide be this: to prevent virtuous actions whether to jump or not. from being forgotten, and that evil Shimon Peres Israel’s Foreign Minister words and deeds should fear an infamous reputation with posterity. To be ignorant of what occurred Tacitus (c.55-c.120) before you were born is to always Roman historian remain a child. For what is the worth Those who cannot remember the past of human life, unless it is woven into are condemned to repeat it. the life of our ancestors by the records George Santayana (1863-1952) of history? American philosopher, poet Cicero Orator History will be kind to me for I intend to write it. There is nothing to be learned from Winston Churchill history anymore. We’re in science fiction now. Science and technology revolutionize Allen Ginsberg our lives, but memory, tradition and quoted in Christopher Butler, After the Wake myth frame our response. Expelled

81 from individual consciousness by the diary of Adolf Eichmann rush of change, history finds its revenge by stamping the collective It is a blessing to governments, that unconsciousness with habits, values, human beings do not think for expectations, dreams. The dialectic themselves. between past and future will continue Adolf Hitler to form our lives. Arthur M. Schlesinger, Jr. 'No culture has had such a decisive impact on the Jews as the German', Hegel was right when he said that we Nachum Goldman in pamphlet, 1916, learn from history that man can never in which he maintained that in many learn anything from history. ways the Zionists were much closer in George Bernard Shaw national spirit than the assimilationists, who had received History is a nightmare from which I their influence from the liberal am trying to awake. thinkers of Britain and France. ‘The Stephen Dedalus young national Jewish movement, on Ulysses the other hand, had made the national

idea the central concept of its HOLLYWOOD philosophy: Fichte, Hegel, Legarde Hollywood’s a place where they’ll pay and the other leading spirits of the you a thousand dollars for a kiss, and German national idea-they were also fifty cents for your soul. our teachers. It was no accident that Marilyn Monroe (1926-1962) Theodor Herzl, the genius who In a mere half-century, films have founded modern political Zionism, gone from silent to unspeakable. came from German culture to the Doug Larson Jewish national idea.' Laqueur With Hollywood, any similarity between "reel" and "real" is purely To the injustice committed in our coincidental. name we must not add the injustice of Shraga Silverstein forgetting. A Candle by Day Hannah Vogt I know of no crime in the history of mankind more horrible in its details HOLOCAUST (SEE ALSO Anti- Semitism)) than the treatment of the Jews. Major Walsh address at the Nuremberg Trials It was the biggest and most enormous dance of death of all times. Quote from the newly released 82 The holocaust was certainly a human HOME tragedy. But it was not only a human A man’s home may seem to be his tragedy. It was also a Christian castle on the outside; inside, it is more tragedy, a tragedy for Western often his nursery. civilization, and a tragedy for all Clare Boothe Luce (b.1903) humankind. The killing was done by American diplomat, writer people to other people, while still other people stood by. The Home is the place where, when you perpetrators, where they were not have to go there, actually Christians arose from a They have to take you in. Christian culture. The bystanders most Robert Frost (1875-1963) capable of helping were Christians. David S. Wyman The Abandonment of the Jews. HONESTY Wyman describes himself as ‘a Christian, Honesty is the best police. a Protestant of Yankee and Swedish Shraga Silverstein descent.’ A Candle by Day

The solidarity of modern civilization It is an error to associate honesty with is jeopardized by the persecuting simplicity. It is far simpler to be a policy of Germany. thief than an honest man. Herbert Dunelm Shraga Silverstein Bishop of Durham, 1936 A Candle by Day

The Yellow Spot: The Extermination Tell people the truth because they of the Jew in Germany- know the truth anyway. Title of book published in London, 1936. Jack Welch

Don't give Hitler a posthumous Being truthful, when you know it will victory. cost you, is the true test of honesty. Emile Fackenheim Dave Weinbaum phil. Heb University Truth never damages a cause that is There is not the slightest liklihood that just. the Nazis’ plan will ever be carried out Mohandas Gandhi to the slightest extent Louis marshal An excuse is worse and more terrible (leader of the American Jewish Committee), 1924 than a lie, for an excuse is a lie guarded. Pope John Paul II

83 The truth is an ambition, which is A modest man is usually admired--if beyond us. people ever hear of him. Peter Ustinov Edgar Watson Howe Ventures in Common Sense

HUMAN (SEE MAN) When anyone remains modest, not after praise but after blame, then his HUMANITY modesty is real. Many love humanity without loving Jean Paul Richter men. Hesperus Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day With people of only moderate ability modesty is mere honesty; but with HUMILITY (SEE ALSO Pride) those who possess great talent it is hypocrisy. It is always the secure who are Arthur Schopenhauer Parerga and Paralipomena humble. G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936) Shame is Pride’s cloak. William Blake The meek shall inherit the earth. The Marriage of Heaven and Hell Psalms 37:11

Plenty of people want to be pious, but Whilst shame keeps its watch, virtue is no one yearns to be humble. not wholly extinguished in the heart. Edmund Burke La Rochefoucaulde Rejections of the Revolution in France Maxims

Humility is a virtue all preach, none We are ashamed of everything that is practice, and yet everybody is real about us: ashamed of ourselves, of contented to hear. The master thinks it our relatives, of our incomes, of our good doctrine for his servant, the laity accents, of our opinions, of our for the clergy, and the clergy for the experience, just as we are ashamed of laity. our naked skins. George Bernard Shaw John Selden Man and Superman Table Talk

Modesty is the only sure bait when The more things a man is ashamed of, you angle for praise. the more respectable he is. George Bernard Shaw Lord Chesterfield Man and Superman Letters to His Son

84 I never wonder to see men wicked, but I often wonder to see them not Humor is emotional chaos ashamed. remembered in tranquillity. Jonathan Swift James Thurber Thoughts on Various Subjects in New York Post Man is the only animal that blushes. Or need to. The secret source of Humor itself is Mark Twain not joy but sorrow. There is no humor Following the Equator, in heaven. “Pudd’nhead Wilson’s New Calendar.” Mark Twain Following the Equator It is harder to be a good winner than a “Pudd’nhead Wilson’s New Calendar” good loser. Shraga Silverstein Only man has dignity; only man, A Candle by Day therefore, can be funny. Father Ronald Knox (1888-1957) British clergyman, writer HUMOR Wit ought to be a glorious treat, like caviar. Never spread it about like Laughter is the shortest distance marmalade. between two people. Victor Borge Noel Coward

Humor is an affirmation of dignity, a Comedy is simply a funny way of declaration of man’s superiority to all being serious. Peter Ustinov that befalls him. English actor and Author Romain Gary Promise at Dawn HYPOCRISY Wit consists in seeing the resemblance Some forsake whatever good may be between things, which differ, and the in them through a desire not to be difference between things, which are hypocrites. alike. Shraga Silverstein Madame De Stael, De l’Allemagne A Candle by Day

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IDEALISM An idealist is a man who looks at a We must lose our romanticism without rose, and thinks, because it smells losing our idealism. sweet, it will make better soup than a Shraga Silverstein cabbage. A Candle by Day H. L. Mencken (1880-1956) American journalist IDENTITY

It is terrible to witness a loss of If we decide too positively what we idealism in others, to see the soul, as it are, we will not be able to take were, departing, and the body left an advantage of what, at different times, empty husk. we happen to be. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

Let us not assume, just because we We all have it in us. What we are is have been cockeyed idealists, that it is what we manage to get out of us. cockeyed to be an idealist. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day We must remember what we are, so Ideal – Many ideals deteriorate into that we can be ourselves even when idols. we are not ourselves. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

We lose most of our ideals not because IGNORANCE we find them to be mistaken, but Ignorance is not innocence, but sin. because we find if difficult to abide by Robert Browning (1812-1889) them. Shraga Silverstein How can people walk around A Candle by Day unembarrassed with nothing on their minds? 86 Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day IMPORTANCE We often make the mistake of Ignorance is bliss only to the ignorant. regarding as most important that Shraga Silverstein which is most pressing. A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Ignorance is subject to a vicious cycle in which one shies away from learning IMPROVEMENT (SEE GROWTH) for fear of revealing his ignorance and so confirms himself in his ignorance INACTION even m more. Shraga Silverstein Upon the plains of hesitation bleach A Candle by Day the bones of countless millions, who when on the dawn of victory paused to There are two types of sheltered rest, and there resting died. existences, one good, the other, bad. John Dretschmer The first is being sheltered from the rain; the second, from a knowledge of All mankind is divided into three the rain’s existence. classes: those that are immovable, Shraga Silverstein those that are movable, A Candle by Day and those that move. Benjamin Franklin

IMAGINATION INCONSISTENCY Imagination allows us to escape the Do I contradict myself? Very well then predictable. It enables us to reply to I contradict myself, (I am large, I the common wisdom that we cannot contain multitudes). soar by saying, “Just watch!” Walt Whitman (1819-1892) Bill Bradley Values of the Game (Artisan) People who honestly mean to be true I am enough of an artist to draw freely really contradict themselves much upon my imagination. Imagination is more rarely than those who try to be more important than knowledge. 'consistent'’ Dr. Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809-1894) Knowledge is limited. Imagination American writer, physician encircles the world. Albert Einstein INDEPENDENCE Reason is the natural order of truth; Too many who have no minds have but imagination is the organ of minds of their own. Shraga Silverstein meaning. A Candle by Day C. S. Lewis 87 The Devil's Dictionary

INDIFFERENCE (SEE APATHY) He who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man.

Dr. Johnson

INDISCRETION Show me a sane man and I will cure We censure one for being indiscreet, him for you. but not for having something to be Carl Gustav Jung indiscreet about. Shraga Silverstein The only people for me are the mad A Candle by Day ones, the ones who are mad to talk, mad to live, mad to be saved, desirous INDIVIDUALISM of everything at the same time, the Be yourself -- only if you are ones who never yawn or say a something. commonplace thing, but burn, burn, Shraga Silverstein burn like fabulous yellow roman A Candle by Day candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the To be an individualist does not mean blue centerlight pop and everybody not to do what everyone else is doing, goes,`Awww.' but not to do things because everyone Jack Keroac else is doing them. Shraga Silverstein In a mad world, only the mad are sane. A Candle by Day Akira Kurosawa

INJURY There was never a genius without a Time must not heal (in our eyes) the tincture of madness. wounds we have inflicted on -others. Aristotle Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Sanity is a cozy lie. Susan Sontag INNOVATION A ‘new thinker’, when studied closely INSIGHT is merely a man who does not know What often passes for "insight" is what other people have thought. sometimes no more than heightened F.M. Colby (1865-1925) observation. Shraga Silverstein INSANITY A Candle by Day Mad, adj.: Affected with a high degree of intellectual independence. Ambrose Bierce, 88 INSPIRATION Some consciously shun inspirational If you have integrity, nothing else experiences in order not to burden matters. If you don’t have integrity, their mediocrity. nothing else matters. Shraga Silverstein Alan Simpson, former Senator A Candle by Day In the end, integrity is all you’ve got. The prologue to inspiration is Jack Welch aspiration. Shraga Silverstein Excellence and competitiveness are A Candle by Day totally compatible with honesty and integrity. The A student, the four- We often make the mistake of minute miler, the high jump record regarding the spark [of inspiration] as holder-all strong winners-can achieve a constant-burning flame, and instead those results without resorting to of catching the spark and fanning it cheating. People who cheat are simply into a flame within ourselves, we weak. choose to sit in its glow. Jack Welch Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Never compromise yourself it is all you got. INSULT Janis Jopplin An injury is much sooner forgotten than an insult. INTENSITY Lord Chesterfield We mistake intensity for Letters to His Son meaningfulness. Shraga Silverstein It is not he who reviles or strikes you A Candle by Day who insults you, but your opinion that these things are insulting. INTERMARRIAGE (SEE Assimilation) Epictetus Encheiridion INTROSPECTION (SEE ALSO SELF- INSIGHT) A stiff apology is a second insult. G.K. Chesterton (1874-1936) We spend our lives with less deliberation than we do our money. INTEGRITY (SEE ALSO TRUTH) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are ISRAEL (SEE ALSO Zionism) not. Andre Gide 89 Through a historical catastrophe-the full of energy. It's a truly free country destruction of Jerusalem by the with a thriving democracy. It's Emperor of Rome... - I was born in genuinely egalitarian. What it one of the cities of the Diaspora, but I managed to accomplish in two always deemed myself as one who generations in terms of social mobility was really born in Jerusalem. is amazing. In this respect it's like the S.Y. Agnon United States and unlike Europe - which makes sense when you think (American Jews) sense that while about it, since what America and Israel Palestine is a necessity for the bodies have in common is that they were both of other Jews, it is an indispensability founded on the rejection of Europe. for their own souls. Dr. Maoz Azaryah, Steinberg Haifa University A Partisan Guide to the Jewish Problem Israel has … solidarity without The new law requires of Jewish man consensus. But a lack of consensus is one great commandment: support crucial for healthy debate, for the Israel. vitality of a society. Jacob Neusner Dr. Maoz Azaryahu, American Judaism Haifa University

Philip Roth's statement of some years Anti-Semitism continues to grow-and ago -- that in the West everything goes so do I. and nothing matters, while in the East Theodor Herzl nothing goes and everything matters -- invites a variation when it comes to Israel is "the greatest achievement of Israel. There, everything goes and the 20th century. … Two crucial everything matters. events happened five days apart in Richard Bernstein 1917. The first - on November 2 - was The whole driving force behind the announcement of the Balfour Zionism [was] that Jews would no Declaration. Five days later, there was longer be victims. …. [Yet,[, we've a revolution in Russia. … At the end shifted back to victimhood after of the century, the Soviet Union fell. achieving heroism. The State of Israel is still alive and Dr. Maoz Azaryahu, kicking. Haifa University Dr. Maoz Azaryahu, Haifa University Israel is a country where in three phone calls, you can reach the prime The Israeli experience oscillates minister. It's accessible, familial, between mourning and getting on with vibrant, with a lot of Jewish tradition, life - between heroic sacrifice that is a lot of noise, a lot of arguing. And it's symbolized by military cemeteries, 90 and normal life, symbolized by the Rabbi Adin Steinsaltz "first Hebrew beach" of the "first Hebrew city." In Israel, in order to be a realist you Dr. Maoz Azaryahu must believe in miracles. Haifa University David Ben Gurion (1886-1973) There was the boot; but there was also Israeli statesman the longing.

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JEALOUSY It is not to succeed; one’s friends must Jerusalem is a city where memory is fail. relentlessly...evoked every day by the LaRochefoucald contesting sides. (French aphorist) Amos Elon Jerusalem A man is granted three wishes, on condition that his friend gets twice as In the Hebrew name Yerushalayim, the much. He wishes for a beautiful horse, suffix ayim implies a duality...an receives it, and sees that his friend gets implied parity between the heavenly two horses, The same occurs with his and the earthly, peace and war, wish for a palace. Finally, frustrated goodliness and sin. The parity even and angry, he wishes to be blind in one extended to her dramatic eye. landscape....The harsh stony Aesop’s Fables. mountains of arid desert that fall away on one side of her contrast sharply with the cultivated hills of wine, fig, JERUSALEM milk and honey on the other. Yerushalayim symbolizes the sublime Amos Elon truth that the potential for holiness and Jerusalem purity are inseparably woven into the JEWISH IDENTITY (SEE ALSO fabric of ordinary, human existence... Assimilation) Rabbi Mendelson trans. Lawrence Kelemen, Jewish Observer Someone shocked me by pointing out June '92 to me that all my books-my autobiography and my three novels- Jerusalem is a neocracy, the only city seem to have the same theme. Each is where the vote is given to the about a man who is coming to terms dead...For Jews, she has always been with himself, who is looking back at the Capital of Memory. who he was, and who he is and Amos Elon Jerusalem 92 wondering who he will become. And generations, it may come to life in the each man is a Jew. fourth. When I read it now, I see it Jacob Neusner plainly. I see that no matter how far I American Judaism ran away from my Jewishness, it was always there. Sometimes it was I am a Jew because the faith of Israel behind me, or to the side, or in front of demands no abdication of my mind. I me, but it was always there. …. am a Jew because the faith of Israel Kirk Douglas demands every sacrifice of my soul. I Climbing the Mountain – My search for am a Jew, because in all places where Meaning there are tears and suffering the Jew (Simon & Schuster 1997) weeps. I am a Jew because in every age when the cry of despair is heard I am as remote from Judaism as from the Jew hopes. Christianity. What binds me to Edmond Fleg Judaism is a feeling of duty, a feeling Trans. Louise Wise of reverence. I am tied to this religious party in the same way as I am bound Since the emancipation began, Jews to my mother, my family, my have never been able to arrive at a new fatherland. Such feelings should not be theological equilibrium. ... German dissected with an anatomical knife; philosophical idealism, Zionist one should not trace the deeper nationalism, Reconstructionist underlying motives, it does not help us naturalism, Buberian existentialism-all to become better men. spoke to a world which disappeared Abraham Moritz Stern virtually the moment those doctrines mathematician and one of the first Jewish were elaborated. How can you adjust professors in Germany in 19C to Gabriel your Judaism to a culture that will not Riesser.) stand still. Eugene B. Borowitz I am first a Jew and an Israeli only The Condition of Jewish Belief, pg. 31 second. Moshe Dayan JEWS/JEWRY (SEE ALSO Chosen People) Thus, the insistence on Jews remaining Jews, which may take the The Jews have little sense of a Hell religiously indifferent forms of liking waiting under their feet. Their hell is Yiddish jokes, supporting Israel, more a personal dissatisfaction born of raising money for North African Jews, mediocrity...It's origins lie in an innate and preferring certain kinds of food, Judaic awareness of Amsagolah and has a potentially religious its demands upon the conscience. meaning...Dead in one, two or three Ben Gurion Recollections 93 JOURNALISM ...and I know that even the terrible Doctors bury their mistakes. Lawyers price our enemies paid touched the hang them. But journalists put theirs hearts of many of our men. on the front page. Yitzchak Rabin Anonymous Chief of Staff, 6 Day War It was long ago in my life as a simple Yes, I am a Jew, and when the reporter that I decided that facts must ancestors of the right and honorable never get in the way of truth. gentlemen were brutal savages in an James Cameron (1911-1985) unknown island, mine were priests in British journalist the temple of Solomon. Benjamin D'Israeli JOY (SEE Happiness) responding to an opponent in Parliament A similar statement is attributed to U.S. Senator Judah P. Benjamin, in reply to JUDAISM (SEE ALSO SPIRITUALITY, another senator: Talmud) The gentleman will please remember I am extremely resentful of the Jewish that when his half-civilized ancestors teachers of my childhood, who put were hunting wild boar in the forests such an emphasis of the form and of Silesia, mine were the princes of the fundamentalism of the religion, but earth. not on the spirituality. Kirk Douglas Every great man now has his disciples, Climbing the Mountain, pg. 173 and it is always Judas who writes the biography. I wish I had discovered the beauty of Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) religion earlier in my life. I feel sad for the time I have lost, and when I Pessimism is a luxury that a Jew can think about that I feel extremely never allow himself. Golda Meir (1898-1978) resentful of the Jewish teachers of my childhood who put such an emphasis The pursuit of knowledge for its own on the form and fundamentalism of the sake, an almost fanatical love of religion, but not on the spirituality. justice and the desire for personal Kirk Douglas independence – these are the features Climbing the Mountain, pg. 173 of the Jewish tradition which make me A religion of mere faith is a religion of thank my stars that I belong to it. Albert Einstein (1879-1955) the soul; a religion which is way of life is a religion of the whole man. Eliezer Berkovits The Condition of Jewish Belief, pg. 26

94 JUDGEMENT To make judgements on things that are The public do not know enough to be great and high, a soul of the same experts, yet know enough to decide stature is needed, otherwise we ascribe between them. to them the vices which belong to us. Samuel Butler (1835-1902) English author Michel de Montaigne (1553-1592) French essayist, moralist JUSTICE To make a sound judgment in human Even those who apparently possess no relations, it is not enough to have the sense of justice seem to be acutely facts of the situation; one must also sensitive to the injustices committed have the fancies. against them. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

Do not judge people by a messy car! Injustice is relatively easy to bear: Some things just have to give. what stings is justice. Nancy Swan Drew H. L. Mencken (1880-1956) Love Pearls American journalist JURIES A jury consists of twelve persons Justice must tame, whom mercy chosen to decide who has the better cannot win. Sir George Savile, Lord Halifax (1633- lawyer. 1695) Robert Frost (1875-1963) English statesman, author American poet In a world characterized by Our civilization has decided…that intellectual laziness, "justice" equals determining the guilt or innocence of "symmetry." Not right and wrong. But men is a thing too important to be it's convenient. It means you don't trusted to trained men… When it have to give too much thought to wants a library catalogued, or the solar who's right and who's wrong. - system discovered, or any trifle of that -Dr. Maoz Azaryahu, kind, it uses up its specialists. Haifa University G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936)

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KINDNESS (SEE ALSO GIVING) Sandra Carey

Real knowledge is to know the extent It is unfortunate that we speak of of one's ignorance. “going out of our way” to help Confucius someone. Shraga Silverstein Our knowledge often gets in the way A Candle by Day of our understanding. Shraga Silverstein The cheering of spirits that our A Candle by Day conversation brings to the sick results not so much from his forgetting his Truth is eternal, knowledge is sickness as from his experiencing changeable. It is disastrous to confuse something else in the world besides it. them. Shraga Silverstein Madeleine L'Engle A Candle by Day An Acceptable Time (Farrar Strau and Giroux)

We should be good – for nothing. His knowledge of books had in some Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day degree diminished his knowledge of the world. You can't assume that kindness is an William Shenstone (1714-1763) inherited trait. It is learned behavior. English poet Katie Couric A learned fool is one who has read KNOWLEDGE (SEE ALSO everything, and simply remembered it. Josh Billings (1818-1885) EDUCATION, EXPERIENCE, Sages, Silence, Understanding, Wisdom) American humorist

Never mistake knowledge for wisdom. Some people will never learn One helps you make a living; the other anything; for this reason, because they helps you make a life. understand everything too soon. Alexander Pope (1688-1744)

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LANGUAGE (SEE SPEECH ) If you have ten thousand regulations LASHON HARAH (SEE INSULT) you destroy all respect for the law. Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965)

LAWS One of the greatest delusions in the Law is not suggestion, it is force. world is the hope that the evils of this George Washington world can be cured by legislation. Thomas B. Reed (1829-1902) The greatest happiness of the greatest American lawyer, politician number is the foundation of morals and legislation. The law often allows what honor Jeremy Bentham (1748-1832) forbids. English philosopher, political theorist, jurist William Saurin (1757-1839) Irish politician ... [Recognizing] the human capacity for evil, or just for plain screwing up; First we must teach the sense of duty, that is why rules are important. ... then the laws. Having rules that are respected make it Shraga Silverstein harder for people to break them. This A Candle by Day is a more subtle, but in the long run a more trustworthy form of compassion We can go straight only by following that ... softness of heart. the Ruler. David Horwitz Shraga Silverstein Radical Son: A Generational Odyssey A Candle by Day

I’ve been told that since the beginning LAWYERS of civilization, millions and millions I once heard you say that it took you of laws have not improved on the Ten twenty years to recover from your Commandments one bit. legal training – from the habit of mind Ronald Reagan (b.1911) that is bent on making out a case rather than on seeing the large facts of I know no method to secure the repeal a situation in their proportion. of bad or obnoxious laws so effective W.H. Page (1855-1918) as their stringent execution. American diplomat, publisher to Woodrow Ulysses S. Grant (1822-1885) Wilson 97 patriotic that the radical Left takes the opposite approach. - - LEADERSHIP (SEE ALSO Dr. Maoz Azaryahu, ORGANIZATION) Haifa University

We hang the petty thieves and appoint the great ones to public office. LEVEL-HEADEDNESS Aesop We should certainly be level-headed-- but with the heights, not the depths. When I was a boy I was told that Shraga Silverstein anybody could become President; I'm A Candle by Day beginning to believe it. Clarence Darrow LIBERALS LEFT They act as if they supposed that to be very sanguine about the general The Left is about … preaching morals improvement of mankind is a virtue rather than having them. – that relieved them from taking trouble Dr. Maoz Azaryahu, about any improvement in particular. Haifa University John, Lord Morley (1838-1923) British writer, Liberal politician Radical leftists are basically adolescents who never matured. – We who are liberal and progressive Dr. Maoz Azaryahu, Haifa University know that the poor are our equals in every sense except that of being equal Alienation is a built-in part of the Left. to us. And what they're alienated from is Lionel Trilling (1905-1975) common sense. Why does every American critic peddler in the market understand more than many intellectuals? You could say I sit on a man’s back, choking him and that it's because the Left is evil. This making him carry me, and yet assure isn't true. You could say that it's myself and others that I am very sorry because the Left is stupid. Also not for him and wish to ease his lot by all true. The problem is not with the possible means – except by getting off "sense" - it's with the "common." It's his back. Leo Tolstoy (1828-1910) the classic attempt on the part of the avant-garde or Bohemians (i.e. of a LIBERTY (SEE Freedom) self-appointed elite) to distinguish themselves. In other words, if the bulk LIFE of the people were on the Left, these Live your life in the manner that you leftists would be on the Right. It's would like your kids to live theirs. precisely because "the masses" are Michael Levine 98 Lessons at the Halfway Point (Celestial Life is made up of marble and mud. Arts) Nathaniel Hawthorne Life is now in session. Are you The House of Seven Gables present? B. Copeland As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to Life is like a ten-speed bicycle. Most kindle a light in the darkness of mere of us have gears we never use. being. Charles M. Schulz Carl Jung Memories, Dreams, Reflections Most people believe they see the world as it is. However, we really see Life can only be understood the world as we are. backwards; but it must be lived Anonymous forwards. Soren Kierkegaard If it were possible to talk to the Life unborn, one could never explain to them how it feels to be alive, for life is We are always beginning to live, but washed in the speechless real. are never living. Jacques Barzun Marcus Manilius The House of Intellect Astronomica

Is life worth living? This is a question Life is a foreign language: all men for an embryo, not for a man. mispronounce it. Samuel Butler Christopher Morley Note-Books Thunder on the Left

Life is the art of drawing sufficient There are no classes in life for conclusions from insufficient beginners; right away you are always premises. asked to deal with what is most Samuel Butler difficult. Note-Books Rainer Maria Rilke The Notebooks of Malte Laurids Brigge Life is an incurable disease. Abraham Cowley There is no cure for birth and death To Dr. Scarborough save to enjoy the interval. Birth, and copulation, and death. George Santayana Soliloquies in England That’s all the facts when you come to brasstacks. Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor T.S. Eliot Sweeney Agonistes player

99 That struts and frets his hour upon the We must take care not to convert the stage "ugly facts of life" into the "facts of And then he is heard no more: it is a ugly life. tale Shraga Silverstein Told by an idiot, full of sound and A Candle by Day'' fury, Signifying nothing. When one can no longer change his Shakespeare way of life, he stops regarding it as a Macbeth "way" of life and comes to regard it as life itself. Life is (like a) stage; Shraga Silverstein And all the men and women merely A Candle by Day players; They have their exits and their Life is a tragedy for those who feel; entrances; and a comedy for those who think. Chinese Proverb And one man in his time plays many parts, How we spend our days is, of course, His acts being seven ages. how we spend our lives. Shakespeare Annie Dillard As You Like It

I spent the afternoon musing on Life. Life is the art of drawing without an If you come to think of it, what a eraser. John Gardner queer thing Life is! So unlike anything else, don’t you know, if you Life is pain, highness. Anyone who see what I mean. tells you differently is selling P.G. Wodehouse My Man Jeeves something. William Goldman, The Princess Bride May you live all the days of your life. Jonathan Swift (1667-1745) Get busy living, or get busy dying. We are always getting ready to live, Stephen King, The Shawshank Redemption but never living. R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) American essayist, poet, philosopher He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how. Live and help live. Friedrich Nietzsche Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day I love living. I have some problems with my life, but living is the best thing they’ve come up with so far.

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LISTENING "The pen is mightier than the sword," As I get older, I’ve learned to listen to and it is, therefore, even more people rather than accuse them of important to know when to sheathe the things. first than the second. Po Bronson Shraga Silverstein quoted in Publishers Weekly A Candle by Day

Don’t confuse being “soft” with seeing Modern literature spurns moralizing in the other guy’s point of view. favor of demoralizing. George Bush Shraga Silverstein All the Best, George Bush (Scribner) A Candle by Day

Listening is as important as talking. If The great danger in modern literature you're a good listener, people often is that it would have us accept as a compliment you for being a good description of reality, what is actually conversationalist. an interpretation of it. Gov. Jesse Ventura Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Seek first to understand and then to be understood. Most people do not listen A truly great library contains with the intent to understand: they something in it to offend everyone. listen with the intent to reply. They’re Jo Godwin filtering everything through their own paradigms, reading their LIVING autobiography into other people’s Many live life in the same way that lives. they watch a movie. They may be Stephen R. Covey deeply moved by the film, even The Seven Habits of Highly effective People moved to the point of tears; but ten (Simon & Schuster) minutes out of the theater and it is as if they had never been there at all. They LITERATURE remain unchanged. They had cried at A classic is something that everybody an onion. They live in the same wants to have read and nobody wants manner. Certain experiences affect to read. them deeply, but almost as soon as the Mark Twain (1835-1910) experience has passed, it is as if it had never occurred. All that is literature seeks to Shraga Silverstein communicate power: all that is not A Candle by Day literature, to communicate knowledge. Thomas de Quincey (1785-1859) 101 We teach everything but how to live. We have even forgotten that it is a Courtship is exciting and romantic subject. because it thrives on the edge of Shraga Silverstein disaster. It co-exists with the threat A Candle by Day that, at any moment, it could all fall apart and be lost forever. To expect a LOGIC lifelong commitment of marriage to One cannot be perfectly logical unless evoke the excitement and adventure he is perfectly good or perfectly evil. created by the fragility of courtship - Shraga Silverstein well, as they say in Texas, that dog A Candle by Day just won't hunt.

Karen Scalf Linamen There is nothing more illogical than Pillow Talk, The Intimate Marriage >From cold logic. A to Z Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day It is impossible to love and to be wise. Francis Bacon LONELINESS Loneliness is to endure the presence of one who does not understand. If we judge of love by its usual effects, Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915) it resembles hatred more than friendship. Most men are not aware of the very La Rochefoucauld significant distinction as to whether Maxims their loneliness is caused by the world's having left them behind or It is with true love as it is with ghosts; their having left the world behind. everyone talks of it, but few have seen Shraga Silverstein it. A Candle by Day La Rouchefoucauld Maxims LOVE (SEE ALSO Marriage) Love is a kind of warfare. To fall in love is to create a religion Ovid, Ars Amatoria that has a fallible god. Life has taught us that love does not Jorge Luis Borges consist in gazing in each other but looking outward together in the same Whoever said love is blind is dead direction. wrong. Love is the only thing that lets Antoine De Saint-Exupery us see each other with the remotest Wind, Sand, and Stars accuracy. Martha Beck All’s fair in love and war. Expecting Adam 102 Francis Edward Smedley In this world of extremes, we can only Frank Fairleigh love too little. Rich Cannarella Love is the child of illusion and the parent of disillusion. Why love if losing hurts so much ... I Miguel De Unamuno have no answers anymore ... only the The Tragic Sense of Life life I have lived. ... The pain now is part of the happiness [then]. Every theory of love, from Plato Anthony Hopkins, down, teaches that each individual Shadowlands loves in the other sex what he lacks in himself. We come to love not by finding a G. Stanley Hall (1844-1924) American psychologist, philosopher, perfect person but by learning to see educator an imperfect person perfectly. Sam Keen, It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but To Love and Be Loved to love foolishly is better than not to To love for the sake of being loved is be able to love at all. W.M. Thackeray (1811-1863) human, but to love for the sake of English author loving is angelic. Alphonse de Lemartine Love is not blind; that is the last thing it is. Love is bound; and the more it is To fear love is to fear life, and those bound the less it is blind. who fear life are already three parts G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936) dead. Bertrand Russell Many people when they fall in love look for a little haven of refuge from The course of true love never did run the world, where they can be sure of smooth. being admired when they are not William Shakespeare admirable and praised when they are not praiseworthy. Love is but the discovery of ourselves Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) in others, and the delight in the recognition. For all my education, Alexander Smith accomplishments, and so-called Intense love does not measure, it just 'wisdom' ... I can't fathom my own gives. heart. Mother Teresa Michael Caine, Hannah and Her Sisters Goodness is the only investment that never fails. 103 Henry David Thoreau The great mass of people…will more easily fall victim to a big lie than to a No, the opposite of love is small one. indifference. Adolf Hitler (1889-1945) Unattributed The most dangerous of all falsehoods LOYALTY is a slightly distorted truth. To be sure, the dog is loyal. But why, G. C. Lichtenberg (1742-1799) on that account, should we take him as German physicist, writer an example? He is loyal to men, not to other dogs. Ironically, the purpose of most of our Karl Kraus (1874-1936) lying is to preserve the good opinion Austrian poet, journalist of men. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day LYING (SEE ALSO TRUTH)

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MADNESS Schizophrenic behavior is a special Every animal leaves traces of what he strategy that a person invents in order was; man alone leaves traces of what to live in an unlivable situation. he created. R. D. Laing (b.1972) Jacob Bronowski The Ascent of Man You're only given a little spark of madness. You mustn't lose it. What a wee little part of a person's life Robin Williams are his acts and his words! His real life is led in his head, and is known to MAN none but himself. All day long, the If we may believe our logicians, man mill of his brain is grinding, and his is distinguished from all other thoughts, not those other things, are creatures by the faculty of laughter. his history. These are his life, and they Joseph Addison (1672-1719) are not written, and cannot be written. Every day would make a whole book Perhaps man is the only being that can of 80 000 words-365 books a year. properly be called idle. Biographies are but the clothes and Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) buttons of the man-the biography of the man himself cannot be written. A person who is going to commit an Mark Twain inhuman act invariably excuses himself saying, ‘I’m only human, after To be truly human, we must seek that all’. which is more than human. Sydney J. Harris (b.1917) Jacob Agus American journalist in The Condition of Jewish Belief

Man is the only animal that laughs and When the human personality is weeps; for he is the only animal that is dissected into dehumanized fragments struck with the difference between for the purpose of analysis, it becomes what things are and what they might ever more difficult to regain the have been. feeling of the mystery of man as "the William Hazlitt (1778-1830) image of God." English essayist Jacob Argus 105 in The Condition of Jewish Belief, pg. 17 the living and she would make the living worthwhile.” No animal admires another animal. Reader’s Digest; Feb. 1986 Blaise Pascal (1623-1662) The experts used to be saying -- and I If a man could appreciate the grandeur was one of them -- that women do in one atom of his body he would be better single than they do being ashamed not to be great. married. Now the research is coming Shraga Silverstein in, and it says "Whoops, we were A Candle by Day wrong." Married women do better on nearly everything you can measure: Our bodies are earth stations enabling children's well-being, sexual our souls to survive on earth until they satisfaction, financial well-being. And return to the world of spirit whence men do much better married than they came. Shraga Silverstein single -- in the same job married men A Candle by Day tend to earn more than single men. Diane Sollee Quoted by Pam Belluck in New York Times MANAGEMENT (SEE Organization) One advantage of marriage is that, MANNERS when you fall out of love with him or he falls out of love with you, it keeps Manners are just a formal expression you together until you fall in again. of how you treat people. Judith Viorst in Redbook Molly Ivins Since the early 1950's the divorce rate MARRIAGE (SEE ALSO Love) in the U.S.A. has increased significantly. Interestingly, it was in A man called the Social Security the early 50's that television invaded office where I work and requested an the home and began dominating estimate of his benefits upon family life, especially in the evening. retirement. After I gave him the In an average American family, TV is information, he inquired about his on seven hours a day, 49 hours a week. wife’s benefits. I asked if she had ever One study suggests that the typical worked. “She has worked all her life American couple engages in less than making me happy.” That was nice, I one hour of meaningful, one-to-one commented, but had she ever worked conversation per week. Each of these under Social Security? two people, however, is likely top “No” he said. “We made an agreement spend more than twenty hours a week when we got married. I would make staring at a TV. People talk about watching a TV "together", but the two

106 things - watching television and togetherness-are mutually exclusive. Marriage is popular because it You can't watch television and truly combines the maximum of temptation communicate or be intimate at the with the maximum of opportunity. same time. It's one or the other. Ask George Bernard Shaw yourselves, what's more important. Man and Superman Because I Said So “The Revolutionist’s Handbook” Andrews and McMeel When two people are under the Sometimes it was worth all the influence of the most violent, most disadvantages of marriage just to have insane, most delusive, and most that: one friend in an indifferent world. transient of passions, they are required Erica Jong to swear that they will remain in that Fear of Flying excited, abnormal and exhausting continuously until death do them part. There are few women so perfect that George Bernard Shaw their husbands do not regret having Getting Married married them at least once a day. La Bruyere Marriage is the only adventure open to Les Caracteres the timid. Voltaire So they were married--to be the more Pensees d’un Philosophe together-- And found they were never again so Men marry because they are tired; much together, women because they are curious. Both Divided by the morning tea, are disappointed. By the evening paper, Oscar Wilde By the children and tradesmen’s bills. A Woman of No Importance Louis MacNeice “Les Sylphides” Marriage is a bribe to make a housekeeper think she’s a householder. Marriage can be compared to a cage: Thornton Wilder the birds outside despair to get in and The Merchant of Yonkers those within despair to get out. Michel de Montaigne A man is in general better pleased when he has a good dinner upon his table, than when his wife talks Greek. It doesn’t much signify whom one Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) marries, for one is sure to find next morning it is someone else. A man likes his wife to be just clever Samuel Rogers enough to comprehend his cleverness, Table Talk and just stupid enough to admire it.

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A wise woman will always let her Man is ready to die for an idea, husband have her way. provided that idea is not quite clear to R. B. Sheridan (1751-1816) him. Paul Eldridge (b.1888) It is not marriage that fails; it is the American writer people that fail. All that marriage does is to show people up. The tyrant dies and his rule is over; the H. E. Fosdick (1878-1969) martyr dies and his rule begins. Sören Kierkegaard (1813-1855) Keep your eyes wide open before Danish philosopher marriage, and half-shut afterwards. Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790) MATERIALISM (SEE ALSO AMERICA) Many a man in love with a dimple makes the mistake of marrying the The world is progressing and whole girl. resources are becoming more Stephen Leacock (1869-1944) Canadian humorist and economist abundant. I’d rather go into a grocery store today than to a king’s banquet a The value of marriage is not that hundred years ago. adults produce children, but that Bill Gates Forbes ASAP children produce adults. Peter de Vries (b. 1910) American writer The problem with borrowing money is that as soon as one has, one inevitably To be happy with a man you must begins to think of it as one's own. One understand him a lot and love him a becomes used to it, treats it like little. To be happy with a woman you family, and may even come to resent must love her a lot and not try to or lose sight of the fact that it must all understand her at all. someday leave to visit someone else. Helen Rowland (1875-1950) Andrew Tobias American journalist in Money Angles Our problem is not only that industrial MARTYRDOM societies have failed to keep all of A thing is not necessarily true because their promises, but that they have a man dies for it. Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) succeeded in some ways beyond all expectations. Abundance was once a If a man hasn’t discovered something distant dream, to be postponed to a that he will die for, he isn’t fit to live. hereafter of milk and honey; today,

108 most Americans are affluent. Aphra Universal mass education was once a Behn utopian goal... The Rover Kenneth Keniston How the New Generation Got That Way in I’m tired of love, I’m tired of Rhyme, Philosophy for a New generation (Bierman But Money gives me pleasure all the and Gould) time. Hilaire Belloc “Fatigued” The trick to happy living these days is to quit trying to keep up. There is Those who have some means think simply too much to try and keep up that the most important thing in the with, and people who try end up world is love. The poor know that it is prostrate in dark closets, weeping money. because they still haven't installed Gerald Brenan Windows '95 or can't distinguish Thoughts in a Dry Season Sharon Stone from Julia Whatzername ... What makes all doctrines plain and It's a glorious time to be an clear? American but the glories come at you About two hundred pounds a year. so relentlessly, so multitudinously, that And that which was prov’d true they will finish you off unless you before. ration the intake. Nikita Kruschev, Prove false again? Two hundred poor dolt, once said the Soviet Union more. Samuel Butler would bury us. He didn't know that, Hudibras left alone, we would bury ourselves under our own riches. It has been said that the love of money Russel Baker is the root of all evil. The want of New York Times money is so quite as truly. Samuel Butler A feast is made for laughter, and wine Erewhon maketh merry: but money answereth all things. Annual income twenty pounds, annual Bible, Ecclesiastics 10:19 expenditure nineteen nineteen and six, result happiness. Annual income Money is like muck, not good except twenty pounds, annual expenditure it be spread. twenty pounds ought and six, result Francis Bacon misery.

Charles Dickens David Copperfield Money speaks sense in a language all nations understand.

109 Money is a singular thing. It ranks Riches are a good handmaid, but the with love as man’s greatest source of worst mistress. joy. And with death as his greatest Francis Bacon source of anxiety. De Dignitate et Augmentis Scienttiarum John Kenneth Galbraith The Age of Uncertainty Wealth maketh many friends. Bible, Proverbs 19;4 The Almighty Dollar, that great object of universal devotion throughout our The rich are more envied by those land. who have a little, than by those who Washington Irving have nothing. “The Creole Village” Charles Caleb Colton Lacon Money couldn’t buy friends but you In every well governed state, wealth is got a better class of enemy. a sacred thing; in democracies it is the Spike Milligan Puckoon only sacred thing. Anatole France I finally know what distinguishes man Penguin Island from the other beasts: financial If your Riches are yours, why don’t worries. you take them with you t’other World? Jules Renard Benjamin Franklin The Journal of Jules Renard Poor Richard’s Almanac ed. Louise Bogan and Elizabeth Roget

There are few sorrows, however He is not fit for riches who is afraid to poignant, in which a good income is of use them. no avail. Thomas Fuller Gnomologia Logan Pearsall Smith Afterthoughts Wealth is not without its There was a time when a fool and his disadvantages, and the case to the money were soon parted, but now it contrary, although it has often been happens to everybody. made, has never proved widely Adlai E. Stevenson persuasive. quoted in Bill Adler’s The Stevenson Wit John Kenneth Gilbraith The Affluent Society Every man knows G-D is on his side. The rich and powerful know He is. It is better to live rich than to die rich. Samuel Johnson Jean Anouilh as quoted in James Boswell’s The Lark The Life of Samuel Johnson

110 Men do not desire merely to be rich, MATHEMATICS but to be richer than other men. As far as the laws of mathematics John Stuart Mill refer to reality, they are not certain, Essay on Social Freedom and as far as they are certain, they do not refer to reality. A great fortune is a great slavery. Albert Einstein (1879-1955) Seneca, Ad Polybium de Consolatione Mathematics possesses not only truth, To suppose, as we all suppose, that we but supreme beauty – a beauty cold could be rich and not behave as the and austere, like that of sculpture. rich behave, is like supposing that we Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) could drink all day and keep absolutely sober. MATURITY Logan Pearsall Smith Temptation rushes in to fill the Afterthoughts vacuum of meaninglessness. We must fight temptation with meaning. If all the rich men in the world divided Shraga Silverstein up their money amongst themselves, A Candle by Day there wouldn’t be enough to go around. The touchstone of moral growth is a Christina Stead progressive displacement of reaction House of all Nations by action. Shraga Silverstein The man is the richest whose pleasures A Candle by Day are the cheapest. Henry David Thoreau We have matured when we are able to Journal distinguish our limitations from our shortcomings. Thieves respect property. They merely Shraga Silverstein wish the property to become their A Candle by Day property that they may more perfectly respect it. MEANING OF LIFE (SEE ALSO G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936) PURPOSE, SPIRITUALITY) G-d tests us I pleasant surroundings. We become infatuated with the If we have our own ‘why’ of life, we surroundings and forget about the test. can bear almost any `how'. Friedrich Nietzsche Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Although we talk so much about coincidence we do not really believe in it. In our heart of hearts we think better of the universe, we are secretly 111 convinced that it is not such a The paragon of animals! And yet, to slipshod, haphazard affair, that me, what is this quintessence of dust? everything in it has meaning. Man delights not me--no, nor women J.B. Priestley (1894-1984) either. Shakespeare, Hamlet MEANS AND ENDS (SEE ALSO Growth) Men were deceivers ever, One foot in the sea and one on shore, It’s not important to reach the top of To one thing constant never. the mountain. What is important is the Shakespeare climb. … The journey is far more Much Ado About Nothing important than the destination, because it is of our making. What It’s not the men in my life that counts is how we behave as we are counts--it’s the life in my men. climbing. Mae West Kirk Douglas in the film I’m No Angel Climbing the Mountain, pg. 250 In the new code of laws, which I suppose it will be necessary for you to MEN make, I desire you would remember Men build bridges and throw railroads the ladies and be more generous and across deserts, and yet they contend favorable to them than your ancestors. successfully that job of sewing on a Do not put such unlimited power into button is beyond them. Accordingly, the hands of the husbands. they don’t have to sew buttons. Remember, all men would be tyrants if Heywood Broun they could. Seeing Things at Night Abigail Adams letter to John Adams, 1776 The male stereotype makes masculinity not just a fact of biology I should like to know what is the but something that must be proved and proper function of women, if it is not reproved, a continual quest for ever- to make reasons for husbands to stay receding Holy Grail. at home, and still stronger reasons for Marc Feigen Fasteau bachelors go out. The Male Machine George Eliot The Mill on the Floss What a piece of work is a man! How noble in reason! how infinite in The same passions in man and woman faculty! In form and moving how nonetheless differ in tempo; hence express and admirable! I action how man and woman do not cease like an angel! In apprehension how misunderstanding one another. like a god. The beauty of the world! Friedrich Nietzsche 112 Beyond Good and Evil higher function of the mind is made the slave of a lower function . There are no perfect men in this world, Shraga Silverstein only perfect intentions. A Candle by Day Pen Densham, Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves Peace of mind should be regarded as the freeing of the mind from the MERCY (SEE ALSO Giving) demands of the body, not (as is most often the case) as the freeing of the We hand folks over to G-d’s mercy, body from the demands of the mind. and show none ourselves. Shraga Silverstein George Elliot A Candle by Day Adam Bede The mind must be mined. The quality of mercy is not strain’d, Shraga Silverstein It droppeth as the gentle rain from A Candle by Day heaven The ostrich, realizing that it is all in Upon the place beneath: it is twice the mind, buries it. bless’d; Shraga Silverstein It blesseth him that gives and him that A Candle by Day takes. Shakespeare, The Merchant of Venice There is nothing wrong with a one- track mind, if the track leads in the Nothing emboldens sin so much as right direction. mercy. Shraga Silverstein Shakespeare, Timon of Athens A Candle by Day

MESORAH (SEE Tradition) MINORITIES All history is a record of the power of MID-LIFE CRISIS minorities, and of minorities of one. Many peoples' tombstones should read R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) 'Died at 30, buried at 60.' American essayist, poet, philosopher Nicholas Murray Butler It is always the minorities that hold the MIND key to progress. Man's mind--"the great indoors. R. B. Fosdick (1883-1969) Shraga Silverstein American administrator, author A Candle by Day'' MIRACLES Not only is the mind often made the Some things have to be believed to be slave of the body, but very often a seen. Ralph Hodgeson

113 The Skylark and Other Poems MONEY (SEE ALSO Materialism, Wealth) One who really believes in miracles does not need them. In this world, shipmates, sin that pays Shraga Silverstein its way can travel freely, and without A Candle by Day passport; whereas Virtue, if a pauper, is stopped at all frontiers. MISFORTUNE (SEE SUFFERING) Herman Melville, Moby-Dick MISTAKES (SEE ERROR ) Money never made a man happy yet, MODERATION nor will it. There is nothing in its Moderation is a virtue only in those nature to produce happiness. The more who are thought to have an alternative. a man has, the more he wants. Instead Henry Kissinger (b.1923) of its filling a vacuum, it makes one. Ben Franklin Tell a man whose house is on fire to give a moderate alarm; tell him to Money doesn’t talk, it swears. Bob Dylan moderately rescue his wife from the hands of the ravisher; tell the mother MONOGAMY to gradually extricate her babe from The easiest kind of relationship is with the fire into which it has fallen; but ten thousand people, the hardest is urge me not to use moderation in a with one. case like the present. Joan Baez W.L. Garrison (1805-1879) I don't think it's the nature of any man American abolitionist launching his newspaper to be monogamous. Men are propelled by genetically ordained impulses over The Liberator in his campaign against which they have no control to slavery distribute their seed. Marlon Brando Some carry moderation to extremes. Shraga Silverstein Bigamy is having one wife too many. A Candle by Day Monogamy is the same. Oscar Wilde MODESTY (SEE HUMILITY, Pride)

MOOD MOMENTUM Mood-The Ten Commandments aren’t

prefaced with “If you’re in the mood.” Laura Schlesinger

114 One of man's most terrible pitfalls is to MURDER interpret another's intentions through Kill a man, and you are a murderer. his own moods. Kill millions of men, and you are a Shraga Silverstein conqueror. Kill everyone, and you are A Candle by Day a god. Jean Rostand MORALITY (SEE Ethics)

MUSIC MOTHERING (SEE Family) What passions cannot music raise or quell? MOTIVES John Dryden The motive for a deed usually changes during its performance: at least, after Music expresses that which cannot be the deed has been done, it seems quite said and on which it is impossible to different. be silent. Friedrich Hebbel (1813-1863) Victor Hugo German dramatist Music is a moral law. It gives soul to The heart has its reasons which reason the universe, wings to the mind, flight does not know. to the imagination, and charm and Blaise Pascal (1623-1662) gaiety to life and to everything.

Our motives are far more successfully hidden from ourselves than they are Plato from others. Shraga Silverstein Words are the pen of the heart, but A Candle by Day music is the pen of the soul. Rav Shneur Zalman We sometimes try to second-guess those who have not even made a first MYSTERY guess. The fairest thing we can experience is Shraga Silverstein the mysterious. It is the fundamental A Candle by Day emotion which stands at the cradle of true art and true science. He who MOVIES knows it not and can no longer The appeal of cinema lies in the fear wonder, no longer feel amazement, is of death. as good as dead, a snuffed-out candle. Jim Morrison Albert Einstein

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NARROW-MINDEDNESS NATURE If we have not heard of something, we G-d holds us responsible not for our say that it is ''unheard of.” natures, but for our second natures. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

116 Insulated from the natural world, few denouncing someone or something of us nowadays stand silent beneath a else. starry sky that remains unblemished H. L. Mencken (1880-1956) by artificial light. Yet the eternal American journalist nightly show is one of nature's most subtle and moving experiences. It is a They are so filthy and bestial that no spectacle that arrives slowly, changes honest man would admit one into his gradually and then slips imperceptibly house for a water-closet doormat. away, night after night, year after year, Charles Dickens (1812-1870) in utter silence. it is an experience our We welcome almost any break in the ancestors knew well, and it provoked monotony of things, and a man has in them, as it should in us, deep only to murder a series of wives in a questions of meaning, of origins and new way to become known to millions destiny. of people who have never heard of David Malin Reader's Digest Homer. Robert Lynd (1879-1949) Anglo-Irish essayist, journalist NAZISM Struggle is the father of all things...It The freedom of the press works in is not by the principles of humanity such a way that there is not much that man lives or is able to preserve freedom from it. himself above the animal world, but Princess Grace of Monaco (1928-1982) solely by means of the most brutal struggle. The men with the muck-rake are often Adolf Hitler (1889-1945) indispensable to the well-being of society, but only if they know when to I reject Christianity because it is stop raking the muck. Jewish, because it is international and Theodore Roosevelt (1858-1919) because, in cowardly fashion, it preaches Peace on Earth. The most important service rendered Field-Marshal Erich Ludendorff by the press and the magazines is that German chief-of-staff (1865-1937) of educating people to approach printed matter with distrust. Samuel Butler (1835-1902) NEWSPAPERS English author All successful newspapers are ceaselessly querulous and bellicose. There is much to be said in favor of they never defend anyone or anything modern journalism. By giving us the if they can help it; if the job is forced opinions of the uneducated it keeps us upon them, they tackle it by in touch with the ignorance of the community. By carefully chronicling 117 the current events of contemporary life Shraga Silverstein it shows us of what very little A Candle by Day importance such events really are. By invariably discussing the unnecessary NUCLEAR AGE it makes us understand what things are The release of atomic energy has requisite for culture, and what are not. changed everything except our way of Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) thinking and thus we are being driven unarmed towards a catastrophe. NOVELTY Albert Einstein (1879-1955) We must not be enticed from the true to the new.

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OBJECTIVITY The greatest problem about old age is We can be very objective when we are the fear that it may go on too long. not the object. A.J.P. Taylor Shraga Silverstein quoted in The Observer A Candle by Day Old age is the most unexpected of all things that happen to a man. Leon Trotsky LD AGE SEE ALSO GE Death; O ( A , Diary in Exile Sages) Growing old is more like a bad habit Last year they prevented me from which a busy man has no time to form. climbing Mount Sinai, but now I am Andre Maurois (1885-1967) eighty, the same age as Moses, and I will climb that mountain. OPINIONS Kirk Douglas If in the last few years you haven't Climbing the Mountain, pg. 250 discarded a major opinion or acquired a new one, check your pulse. You may It is old age, rather than death, that is be dead. to be contrasted with life. Old age is Gelett Burgess life’s parody, whereas death transforms life into a destiny. The fewer the facts, the stronger the Simone De Beauvoir, opinion. The Coming of Age Arnold H. Glasow

Youth is a blunder; manhood a A great many people think they are struggle; old age a regret. thinking when they are merely Benjamin Disraeli Coningsby rearranging their prejudices. William James At fifty everyone has the face he deserves. All things are subject to interpretation George Orwell whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth.

119 Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don’t We don't see things as they are, we see recognize them. them as we are. Ann Landers Anais Nin attributed

Prejudice is a great time saver. You There is a tide is the affairs of men, can form opinions without having to Which, taken at the flood, leads on to get the facts. fortune; E. B. White Omitted, all the voyage of their life Is bound in shallows and in miseries. OPPORTUNITY (SEE ALSO Shakespeare Experience; Growth; Optimism) Julius Caesar

.... this time, like all times, is a very A dead end is just a good place to turn good one, if we know what to do with around. it. Naomi Judd Ralph Waldo Emerson Singer

How silent the woods would be if only Opportunities are seldom labeled. the best birds sang. John A. Shedd Anonymous Salt from My Attic

A wise man will make more OPTIMISM (SEE ALSO Growth, opportunities than he finds. Opportunity) Francis Bacon Pessimism, when you get used to it, is just as agreeable as optimism. The right man is the one who seizes Arnold Bennet the moment. Things that Have Interested Me Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Faust Too many people overvalue what they Opportunities flit by while we sit are not and undervalue what they are. Malcolm S. Forbes regretting the chances we have lost, and the happiness that comes to us No winter lasts forever; no spring heed not, because of the happiness that skips its turn. is gone. Hal Borland Jerome K. Jerome The Idle Thoughts of an Idle Fellow The definition of the golden age of anything is when you were there. Justice Anthony M. Kennedy

120 No pessimist ever discovered the The optimist proclaims that we live in secrets of the stars or sailed to an the best of all possible worlds; and the uncharted land or opened a new pessimist fears this is true. heaven to the human spirit. James Branch Cabell Helen Keller The Silver Stallion

You're never a loser until you quit I came to the conclusion that the trying. optimist thought everything good Mike Dikta except the pessimist, and that the pessimist thought everything bad, When you say a situation or a person except himself. is hopeless, you are slamming the door G.K. Chesterton in G-d's face. Orthodoxy Charles L. Allen Two men look through the same bars: To be upset over what you don't have One sees the mud, and one the stars. is to waste what you do have. Frederick Langbridge Ken S. Keyes Jr. A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts Handbook of Higher Consciousness If we see the light at the end of the Expect people to be better than they tunnel, are; it helps them to become better. It’s the light of the oncoming train. But don't be disappointed when they Robert Lowell are not; it helps them to keep trying. “Since 1939” Merry Brown in National Enquirer Rosiness is not a worse windowpane than gloomy gray when viewing the If opportunity doesn't knock, build a world. door. Grace Paley Milton Berle Enormous Challenges at the Last Minute

Dream and deed are not as different as I am an optimist, unrepentant and many think. All the deeds of men are militant. After all, in order not to be a dreams at first... fool an optimist must know how sad a Theodor Herzl place the world can be. It is only the Postscripts, Altneuland pessimist who finds this out anew every day. In the long run the pessimist may be Peter Ustinov proved right, but the optimist has a Dear Me better time on the trip. Daniel L. Reardon All is for the best in the best of Quote magazine possible worlds.

121 Voltaire work with. But it is almost impossible Candidate to fool the people who work under you. ORGANIZATION Harry B Thayer-AT&T archives A committee can make a decision that is dumber than any of its members. You must get involved to have an David B. Coblitz impact. No one is impressed with the won-lost record of the referee. One person with a belief is a social John H. Holcomb power equal 99 who have only The Militant Moderate, Rafter interests. John Stuart Mill One of the fine arts of management is to communicate (a) sense of urgency Dreams and dedication are a powerful to the people who work for you... combination. Management by objectives works if William Longgood you first think through your Voices From the Earth objectives. Ninety percent of the time you haven't. The key is not to prioritize your Peter F Drucker schedule but to schedule your priorities. It is always a great mistake to Stephen R. Covey command when you are not sure you Roger and Rebecca Merrill: First Things First will be obeyed. Honoré, Comte de Mirabeau (1749-1791) French statesman The better a man is the more mistakes he will make, for the more new things Only he can command who has the he will try. I would never promote into courage and initiative to disobey. a top level job a man who was not William McDougall (1871-1938) making mistakes...otherwise he is sure British psychologist to be mediocre. Peter Drucker Lots of folks confuse bad management Management Consultant with destiny. Kin (F. McKinney) Hubbard When a man assumes a public trust, he should consider himself as public There is something rarer than ability. property. It is the ability to recognize ability. Thomas Jefferson Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915) It is easy to fool yourself. It is possible A conference is a gathering of to fool the people you work for. It is important people who singly can do more difficult to fool the people you

122 nothing, but together can decide that A place for everything, everything in nothing can be done. its place. Fred Allen (1894-1957) Benjamin Franklin

No grand idea was ever born in a conference, but a lot of foolish ideas have died there. ORIGINALITY F. Scott Fitzgerald (1896-1940) Originality consists in thinking for yourself, and not in thinking unlike Don't agonize, organize. other people. Florynce Kennedy J. Fitzjames Stephen (1829-1894) English jurist, writer

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PAIN (SEE SUFFERING) Comte de Buffon In the struggle between the stone and PARABLE/FABLE the water, in time, the water wins. Fable is more historical than fact, Chinese proverb because fact tells us about one man and fable tells us about a million men. If you are patient in one moment of G.K. Chesterton anger, you will avoid one hundred

days of sorrow. ARENTS ARENTING SEE P , P ( Chinese proverb Family)

PARTNERSHIP The reputation of a thousand years When two men in a business always may be determined by the conduct of agree one of them is unnecessary. one hour. Japanese proverb William Wrigley Jr. (1861-1932) American businessman PATRIOTISM PASSION My fellow Americans, ask not what Wheresoever you go, go with all your your country can do for you – ask heart. what you can do for your country. Confucius John F. Kennedy (1917-1963) Patriotism is your conviction that this Saints have no moderation, nor do country is superior to all others poets, just exuberance. Anne Sexton because you were born in it. George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) If passion drives you, let reason hold the reigns. Unattributed PEACE (SEE ALSO WAr)

PATIENCE Let him who desires peace prepare for Genius is nothing but a great aptitude war. for patience. Vegetius (4th century AD) Roman military strategist Georges Louis Leclerc, 124 PERSEVERANCE (SEE ALSO In peace the sons bury their fathers, Courage) but in war the fathers bury their sons. Croesus (d. c. 560 BC) Morale is when your hands and feet Lydian king keep on working when your head says it can’t be done. PEOPLE Admiral Ben Moreell (1892-1978) It was either Voltaire or Charlie Sheen American naval commander, businessman who said, 'We are born alone. We live alone. We die alone. And anything in Where I am, I don’t know, I’ll never between that can give us the illusion know, in the silence you don’t know, that we're not, we cling to.' you must go on, I can’t go on, I’ll go Gabriel Byrne on. Samuel Beckett Despite everything, I believe that The Unnamable people are really good at heart. If the 20th century taught us anything, Anne Frank it is to be cautious about the word impossible. ...society honors its living conformists Charles Platt and its dead troublemakers. in Wired Mignon McLaughlin I have nothing to offer but blood, toil, You can't say civilization don't tears and sweat. advance ... in every war they kill you Winston Churchill in a new way. speech (1940) Will Rogers ....we shall not flag or fail. We shall PERMISSIVENESS go on to the end. We shall fight in Some fatally reason that since France, we shall fight on the seas and everything passes, "everything goes. oceans, we shall fight with growing Shraga Silverstein confidence and growing strength in A Candle by Day" the air, we shall defend our Island, whatever the cost may be. We shall We permit ourselves to do many fight on the beaches, we shall fight on things, which our conscience would the landing grounds, we shall fight in otherwise not permit us to do, by the the fields and in the streets, we shall simple expedient of not taking fight in the hills; we shall never ourselves seriously. surrender. Shraga Silverstein Winston Churchill A Candle by Day speech (1940)

125 To persevere, trusting in what hope he PERSPECTIVE has, is courage in a man. It does not all depend on how you look Euripides at it-- you do. Heracles Shraga Silverstein If at first you don’t succeed, A Candle by Day Try, try again. William Edward Hickson Some lose sight of the matter in going “Try and Try Again” to the root of it. Shraga Silverstein ‘Tis known by the name of A Candle by Day perseverance in a good cause,--and of obstinacy in a bad one. PERVERSION Laurence Sterne, Tristram Shandy Commit the oldest sins the newest We must learn not to bear that which kind of ways. need not be borne. King Henry, King Henry IV part 2 William Shakespeare (1564-1616) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day The great perversion of our society is I have not failed. I've just found that we have made ends of what 10,000 ways that won't work. should be means of coming closer to Thomas Alva Edison G-d. Shraga Silverstein Many of life's failures are people who A Candle by Day did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. PESSIMISM (SEE Optimism) Thomas Alva Edison PHILOSOPHY/PHILOSOPHERS It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I The philosophers have only stay with problems longer. interpreted the world. The point, Albert Einstein however, is to change it. Karl Marx (1818-1924) I think and think for months and years. Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is Socrates to Crito, ‘Do you then be false. The hundredth time I am right. reasonable, and do not mind whether Albert Einstein the teachers of philosophy are good or bad, but think only of philosophy PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT itself.’ (SEE Growth) Wonder is the foundation, inquiry the progress, ignorance the end. Michel De Montaigne 126 A Candle by Day To teach how to live without certainty, and yet without being paralyzed by PHOTOGRAPHY hesitation, is perhaps the chief thing While there is perhaps a province in that philosophy, in our age, can still do which the photograph can tell us for those who study it. nothing more than what we see with Bertrand Russel our own eyes, there is another in A History of Western Philosophy which it proves to us how little our eyes permit us to see. The safest general characterization of Dorothea Lange (1895-1965) the European philosophical tradition is American photographer that it consists of a series of footnotes to Plato. PIETY Alfred North Whitehead Process and Reality A wicked fellow is the most pious Philosophy begins in wonder. And, at when he takes to it. He’ll beat you all the end, when philosophical thought in piety. has done its best, the wonder remains. Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) Alfred North Whitehead Modes of Thought PLAGIARISM If you steal from one author it's For there was never yet philosopher plagiarism; if you steal from many it's That could endure the toothache research. patiently. Wilson Mizner Leonato Much Ado About Nothing William Shakespeare (1564-1616) PLAN It takes more wisdom to know when to It’s easy to answer the ultimate break plans than it does to make them. questions - it saves you bothering with Shraga Silverstein the immediate ones. A Candle by Day George, Epitaph for George Dillon John Osborne (b.1929) PLEASURE British playwright G-d is all for our living off the fat of the land--just not the forbidden fat. Unintelligible answers to insoluble Shraga Silverstein problems. A Candle by Day Henry B. Adams (1838-1918) American historian That is precisely the trouble with sheer pleasure--its sheerness. A true philosopher is not lost in the Shraga Silverstein clouds--as rain is not. A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein 127 We are all pleasure-seekers. We differ I will prepare, and some day my only in the type of pleasure we seek. chance will come. Shraga Silverstein Abraham Lincoln A Candle by Day The magic is inside you. There ain't The most amazing thing about the no crystal ball. pleasure-seekers is how they can be Dolly Parton in People content with so little. Shraga Silverstein POWER A Candle by Day You cannot have power for good without having power for evil too. POSITION Even mother’s milk nourishes There is nothing more precarious than murderers as well as heroes. "sitting on top of the world”. Cusins, Major Barbara Shraga Silverstein George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) A Candle by Day PRAYER POSSESSION He didn’t actually accuse G-d of The really meaningful life is that inefficiency, but when he prayed his whose meaning is in no way affected tone was loud and angry, like that of a by the absence or presence of dissatisfied guest in a carelessly possessions. managed hotel. Shraga Silverstein Clarence Day (1874-1935) A Candle by Day American author

POTENTIAL (SEE ALSO Growth) I have lived to thank G-d that all my prayers have not been answered. One of man's greatest tragedies is Jean Ingelow (1820-1897) mistaking the seed within him for the English poet flower. Shraga Silverstein I throw myself down in my chamber, A Candle by Day and I call in, and invite G-d, and his Angels thither, and when they are God put me on this earth to there, I neglect G-d and his Angels, for accomplish a certain number of things. the noise of a fly, for the rattling of a Right now I am so far behind that I coach, for the whining of a door. will never die. John Donne (c. 1571-1631) Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes

128 Pray. To ask the laws of the universe PRESENT to be annulled on behalf of a single Doing the best at this moment puts petitioner confessedly unworthy. you in the best place for the next Ambrose Bierce (1842-1914) moment. American author Oprah Winfrey Whatever a man prays for, he prays for a miracle. Every prayer reduces itself We must live in the present but not for to his: ‘Great G-d, grant that twice two it. be not four. Shraga Silverstein Ivan Turgenev (1818-1883) A Candle by Day

PREACHING PRIDE (SEE ALSO Fame, Humility) The British churchgoer prefers a severe preacher because he thinks a I can live two months on a good few home truths will do his neighbors compliment. no harm. Mark Twain (1835-1910) George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) A self-made man; who worships his Before we preach our values, we must creator. make sure that we are not preaching John Bright (1811-1889) our selves. English Radical politician of Benjamin Shraga Silverstein Disraeli A Candle by Day Pride is tasteless, colorless and PREJUDICE sizeless. Yet it is the hardest thing to Prejudice is a burden that confuses the swallow. past, threatens the future and renders August B. Black the present inaccessible. Maya Angelou Walt Disney on celebrity: It feels good All G-d’s Children Need Traveling Shoes when it helps to get a good seat at the (Random House) baseball game. But it never helped me make a good film or a good shot in the PREOCCUPATION polo game, or command the obedience Sometimes, taking one's mind off a of my daughter. It doesn't even seem problem is the solution to it, in that the to keep the fleas off our dogs-and if problem in the first place was being a celebrity won't give me an essentially the keeping of one's mind advantage over a couple of fleas, then on it. I guess there can't be much in being a Shraga Silverstein celebrity after all. A Candle by Day Christopher Finch The Art of Walt Disney

129 Nothing is so commonplace as to wish On matters of style, swim with the to be remarkable. current, on matters of principle, stand Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. like a rock. The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table Thomas Jefferson

We are so vain that we even care for PROBLEMS the opinion of those we don’t care for. It is more difficult to define a problem Marie von Ebner-Eschen-Bach than to solve it. Aphorisms Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day I cannot and will not cut my conscience to fit this year’s fashions. Lillian Hellman (1907-1984) Most of our "problems" are really American playwright nothing more than undealt with in letter to Chairman of the House discomforts. The moment we get up Committee on un-American Activities the resolve to look them in the face A guiding principle of pride is "No and do something about them, they sooner done than said. vanish. Our real problems are the ones Shraga Silverstein we are afraid to look in the face. A Candle by Day" Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

The proud man cannot think well The significant problems we face because he is always conscious of the cannot be solved at the same level of fact that he is thinking. thinking we were at when we created Shraga Silverstein them. A Candle by Day Albert Einstein

We swell with pride as with any other The way we see the problem is the infection. problem. Shraga Silverstein Stephen R. Covey A Candle by Day We must not permit "the problems of PRINCIPLE life" to be converted in our minds to ''a One of our most fatal errors is life of problems. assuming that our principles will Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day" insure their own observance. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day PROFUNDITY As profound as our thoughts may be, they will never be so profound as our fingernails. 130 Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day PUNISHMENT It says much about the American PROGRESS psyche that it considers solitary When all is said and done, a lot more confinement one of the most terrible is said than done. forms of punishment. Unattributed Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day If we were to go back in time 100 years and ask a farmer what he'd like if he could have anything, he'd PURPOSE (SEE ALSO Meaning Of Life) probably tell us he wanted a horse that was twice as strong and ate half as Everyone has a different purpose in many oats. He would not tell us he the world, and everyone's world wanted a tractor. differs in accordance with his purpose. Philip J. Quigley Shraga Silverstein former COE of Pacific Telesis A Candle by Day PROPORTION Competence is a narrow ideal. We must not misinterpret our Competence makes the trains run on discomforts into dilemmas. time but doesn’t know where they’re Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day going. George Bush speech 1988 PROVIDENCE The finger may pull the trigger, but G- “Would you tell me, please, which d pulls the finger. way I ought to go from here?” That Shraga Silverstein depends a good deal on where you A Candle by Day want to get to,” said the Cheshire Cat. “I don’t much care where--” said PUNCTUALITY Alice. “Then it doesn’t matter which The trouble with being punctual is that way you go,” said the cat. nobody's there to appreciate it. Lewis Carroll Franklin P. Jones Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland

The early bird may get the worm, but The last temptation is the greatest the second mouse gets the cheese. treason: Unattributed To do the right deed for the wrong reason. Punctuality is the virtue of the bored. T.S. Eliot, Murder in the Cathedral Evelyn Waugh

131 In the name of noble purposes men he finds what he seeks it will not be have committed unspeakable acts of worth that pebble on the path. cruelty against one another. Krishnamurti J. William Fulbright, speech 1963 The Only Revolution: California

I find the greatest thing in this world is The trouble with our age is that it is all not so much where we stand, as in signpost and no destination. what direction we are moving. Louis Kronenberger Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. Company Manners The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table Because it’s there. Millions long for immortality who George Mallory don't know what to do with quoted in New York Times themselves on a rainy Sunday answering the question of afternoon. why he wanted to climb Mount Everest Susan Ertz (Anger in the Sky) The great and glorious masterpiece of man is to know how to live life in Constantly to seek the purpose of life purpose. is one of the odd escapes of man. If Michel De Montaigne

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QUESTIONS (SEE ALSO WISDOm) I hate quotations, tell me what you One of our greatest errors is to regard know. something as "questionable" merely Ralph Emerson because it has been called into question. The wisdom of the wise and the Shraga Silverstein experience of the ages is preserved A Candle by Day into perpetuity by a nation's proverbs, fables, folk sayings and quotations. If a man will begin with certainties, he William Feather shall end in doubts, but if he will be content to begin with doubts, he shall A quotation in a speech, article or end in certainties. book is like a rifle in the hands of an Francis Bacon (1561-1626) infantryman. It speaks with authority. Brendan Francis QUOTATIONS It is a good thing for the uneducated Quotes are nothing but inspiration for man to read books of quotations. the uninspired. Winston Churchill Richard Kemph

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RAT RACE The trouble with the rat race is that, REAPPRAISAL even if you win, you're still a rat. We assume from childhood that Lily Tomlin certain fields of study are closed to us, and it never occurs to us in adulthood REALISM to see whether they might not have It is folly to expect men to do all that opened up for us in the interim. they may reasonable be expected to Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day do. Richard Whately (1787-1863) EASON Archbishop of Dublin R That we have "good reasons to" does Reality is something you rise above. not necessarily mean that we have Liza Minelli (b. 1946) "good reason to. Shraga Silverstein You may be sure that when a man A Candle by Day” begins to call himself a ‘realist’, he is preparing to do something he is REBELLION secretly ashamed of doing. I hold it that a little rebellion, now and Sydney J. Harris (b. 1917) then, is a good thing, and as necessary American journalist in the political world as storms in the physical. REALITY Thomas Jefferson (1743-1826) This is too much reality for a Friday. As Good As It Gets RECKLESSNESS We can run carelessly to the precipice, Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a after we have put something before us very persistent one. to prevent ourselves from seeing it. Albert Einstein Blaise Pascal (1623-1662)

Reality is just a crutch for people who REFORM MOVEMENT can't handle drugs. Many Reform members belong to our Unattributed Synagogues because we offer the most

134 palatable, the most aesthetic and the easiest way to be a Jew. In other It is not the reformer's function to words, I suspect the most influential inform people of the truth-- in most factor in building American Reform cases they already know it. It is his Jewry has not been theology but task, rather, as the name implies, to re- sociology. form them, to change them in such a Rabbi Richard Hirsch, way that they will accept and be executive-director for the guided by the truth that they know. World Union for Progressive Judaism Shraga Silverstein the Reform movement in Israel. A Candle by Day (Rabbi Hirsch claims that this is not the case in Israel.) REGRETS Twenty years from now you will be The Reform movement in Israel and more disappointed by the things that Europe reject patrilineal descent. you didn't do than by the ones you did Explaining why, the Israeli Reform do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail movement stated: away from the safe harbor. Catch the If we affirm that we are an trade winds in your sails. Explore. integral part of the Jewish nation, we Dream. Discover. cannot limit our horizons to the Mark Twain Reform Movement of North America alone. The adoption of a CCAR RELEVANCE resolution has ramifications for the Even more important than applying whole Jewish people. Whether we so ourselves to our studies is applying intend or not, the term Jewish status is our studies to ourselves. inseparable from the term legal status Shraga Silverstein and goes beyond private commitment. A Candle by Day … This is a price we should be willing to pay for the privilege of RELIGION (SEE ALSO Science) belonging to the Jewish people and for maintaining unity wherever possible Since religion is the meeting place of both within the Reform family and three wholes-the whole of personality, within Klal Yisrael. the whole of existence, the totality of Moses Cyrus Weiler, values-it is effected by every “Statement of MARAM” disintegrating movement. When the Central Conference of American Rabbis Yearbook 93 (1983), pg. 146-8 human personality is dissected into dehumanized fragments for the Reform came to change Judaism. purpose of analysis, it becomes ever Mussar comes to change Jews. more difficult to regain the feeling of Rabbi Yisrael Lipkin of Salant the mystery of man as "the image of God." 135 Jacob Argus We have just enough religion to make in The Condition of Jewish Belief, pg. 17) us hate, but not enough to make us love one another. Irreligion. The principal one of the Jonathan Swift (1667-1745) great faiths of the world. Ambrose Bierce (1842-1914) We measure all religions by their American author civilizing power. Ralph Waldo Emerson Man is a being born to believe. And if American Philosopher & author (1803- no Church comes forward with its 1882) title-deeds of truth… to guide him, he will find altars and idols in his own RENEWAL (SEE DEATH, Sensitivity) heart and his own imagination. Benjamin Disraeli (1804-1881) REPENTANCE The most difficult part of repentance is Men despise religion; they hate it, and admission. fear it is true. Shraga Silverstein Blaise Pascal (1623-1662) A Candle by Day

Men never do evil so completely and You cannot repent too soon, because cheerfully as when they do it from you do not know how soon it may be religious conviction. too late. Blaise Pascal (1623-1662) Thomas Fuller (1608-1661) English cleric Men will wrangle for religion; write for it, fight for it; die for it; anything REPETITION but live for it. A farmer never says, ''I've been all C. C. Colton (1780-1832) over that ground before," but he works English author, clergyman it every year, and every year reaps a new harvest. Nobody can deny but religion is a Shraga Silverstein comfort to the distressed, a cordial to A Candle by Day the sick, and sometimes a restraint on the wicked; therefore, whoever would REPROACH laugh or argue it out of the world, They have a right to censure that have without giving some equivalent for it, a heart to help. ought to be treated as a common William Penn (1644-1718) enemy. religious leader, founder of Pennsylvania Lady Mary Wortley Montagu (1689-1762) English society figure, letter writer REPUTATION The great difficulty is first to win a reputation; the next to keep it while 136 you live; and the next to preserve it after you die. Benjamin Haydon (1786-1846) RESPONSIBILITY (SEE ALSO British artist RIGHTS)

Character is much easier kept than To gain one’s way is no escape from recovered. the responsibility for an inferior Thomas Paine (1737-1809) solution. pamphleteer, revolutionary Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965)

What people say behind your back is We are not just our behavior, we are your standing in the community. the person managing our behavior. Ed (E.W.) Howe (1853-1937) Goals begin behaviors, consequences American journalist, novelist maintain behaviors. The One Minute Manager (Blanchard and RESENTMENT Johnson – Berkley Books, N.Y.) Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. When you build bridges you can keep Malachy McCourt, quoted by crossing them. Alex Witchel in New York Times Rick Pitino Lead to Succeed (Broadway Books) RESIGNATION What cannot be cured must be REVENGE endured. Revenge is often like biting a dog Francois Rabelais (1494-1553) because the dog bit you. Austin O’Malley (1858-1932) American oculist, author RESOLVE (SEE COURAGE, PERSEVERANCE) Revenge often backfires in being regarded by its victim as retroactive RESPECT justification for the wrong, which The more things a man is ashamed of, prompted the revenge. the more respectable he is. Shraga Silverstein Tanner, Man and Superman A Candle by Day George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) We sometimes take revenge through a Many would be far more willing to profusion of goodness. concede a point if we granted them Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day beforehand the respect they strive for by maintaining it. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day 137 REWARD AND PUNISHMENT Francois, Duc de La Rochefoucauld (1613- In nature there are neither rewards nor 1680) French writer, moralist punishments – there are consequences. R. G. Ingersoll (1833-1899) American lawyer What a man believes may be ascertained, not from his creed, but from the assumptions on which he RIGHT habitually acts. It is easier to do what is right than to George Bernard Shaw (1856-1956) right what is done. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day RIGHTS (SEE ALSO Equality, Freedom, Habit, Responsibility)

RIGHTEOUS PERSON (SEE Ethical If anyone thinks he has no Personality) responsibilities, it is because he has not sought them out. RIGHTEOUSNESS (SEE ALSO Mary Lyon (VIRTUE The same fence that shuts others out Courage is a quality so necessary for shuts you in. maintaining virtue that it is always Bill Copeland respected, even when it is associated with vice. Motivation is what gets you started. Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) Habit is what keeps you going. Jim Ryun Crimes of which a people is ashamed quoted by Tima Smith in Woman's World constitute its real history. The same is true of man. A paradise that you cannot leave is Jean Genet (1910-1986) hell. Armando Fuentes Agurre in El Diario Fortunately for themselves and the world, nearly all men are cowards and The price of greatness is dare not act on what they believe. responsibility. Nearly all our disasters come of a few Winston Churchill fools having the ‘courage of their convictions’. Judaism would say, ‘The price of Coventry Patmore (1823-1896) responsibility is greatness’. English poet Freedom is the right to choose the Perfect courage is to do without habits which bind you. witnesses what one would be capable Renate Rubinstein of doing with the world looking on. Liefst Verliefd

138 I am the inferior of any man whose To have a right to do a thing is not at rights I trample under foot. all the same as to be right in doing it. Robert G. Ingersoll G.K. Chesteron “Liberty”

In recognizing the humanity of our Most people, no doubt, when they fellow beings, we pay ourselves the espouse human rights, make their own highest tribute. mental reservations about the proper Thurgood Marshall application of the word human. Supreme Court Judge Suzanne La Follette Concerning Women Don't fool yourself that you are going to have it all. You are not. As a man is said to have a right to his Psychologically, having it all is not property, he may be equally said to even a valid concept. The marvelous have a property to his rights. thing about human beings is that we James Madison are perpetually reaching for the stars. in National Gazette The more we have, the more we want. And for this reason, we never have it As if it harm’d me, giving others the all. same chances and rights as myself-as The Successful Woman if it were not indispensable to my own rights that others possess the same. To be a man is, precisely, to be Walt Whitman “Thought” responsible. Antoine De Saint-Exupery Wind, Sand and Stars RISK (SEE ALSO Experience)

The buck stops here. You miss 100% of the shots you never Harry S. Truman take. motto on his desk when president Wayne Gretzky

A right is not what someone gives ROMANCE (SEE Love) you; it’s what no one can take from you. Ramsey Clark in New York Times

“Freedom from fear” could be said to sum up the whole philosophy of human rights. Dag Hammar-Skjold speech 1956

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SACRIFICE Stuart E. Rosenberg Some are willing to make only the The Search for Jewish Identity in America supreme sacrifice. Shraga Silverstein Consistency is contrary to nature, A Candle by Day contrary to life. The only completely consistent people are the dead. Some sacrifice their lives because Aldous Huxley (1894-1963) they lack the courage to sacrifice their pride. SATISFACTION Shraga Silverstein As long as I have want, I have a A Candle by Day reason for living. Satisfaction is death. SAGES (SEE ALSO Ethical Gregory, Overruled Personality, Knowledge, Old Age, George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Wisdom) SCANDAL The scribes and the prophets of In scandal as in robbery, the receiver Jerusalem refused to accept the is always thought as bad as the thief. world as it was. They invented the Lord Chesterfield (1694-1773) literature of political dissent and, English statesman and man of letters with it, the literature of hope. Amos Elon SCHOLARSHIP Jerusalem Disinterested intellectual curiosity is Never before in Jewish history has the life blood of real civilization. the laity expected the rabbi to act as G. M. Trevelyan (1876-1962) British historian pastor and counselor, nor considered it necessary for the rabbi to be a We never stop investigating. We are `preacher'. Fundamentals of religion never satisfied that we know enough were left to the elementary teachers to get by. Every question we answer of Jewish schools...The ancient leads on to another question. This rabbis were the lay teachers and has become the greatest survival guides of the total Jewish trick of our species. community. The modern American Desmond Morris (b.1928) rabbi has become but a staff member, British anthropologist albeit `chief of staff' of a private Jewish membership club, the SCIENCE (SEE ALSO Religion) synagogue of the twentieth century...He is identified with only We are driven by the insatiable part of a community, the religious curiosity of the scientist, and our part. 141 work is a delightful game. I am frequently astonished that it so often I want to know how G-d created the results in correct predictions of world. I am not interested in this or experimental results. that phenomenon, in the spectrum of Murray Gell-Mann this or that element. I want to know His thoughts; the rest are details. When I talk to audiences about the A. Einstein in A. Zee p. 8 size and age of the cosmos, people often say, “It makes me feel so Science without religion is lame, insignificant." I answer, “The bigger religion without science is blind. and more impersonal the universe is, Albert Einstein Out of My Later Years the more meaningful you are, because this vast, impersonal place In teaching man, experimental needs something to fill it up.” We’ve science results in lessening his pride abandoned the old belief that more and more by providing him humanity is at the physical center of every day that primary causes, like the universe but must come back to the objective reality of things, will be believing we are at the center of hidden from him forever and that he meaning. can only know relations. Alan Dressler, astronomer Claude Bernard Quoted by Gregg Easterbrook Introduction a la medecine experimentale in Beside Still Waters: Searching for Meaning in an Age of Doubt (William Morrow) The First Clarke Law states, “If an elderly but distinguished scientist Two years ago I would have called says that something is possible he is this baloney. almost certainly right, but if he says Molecular biologist Rual Cano that it is impossible he is very on news that paleontologists in Montana probably wrong.” are working to analyze DNA from blood Arthur C. Clarke cells found in a tyrannosaur fossil, quoted in New Yorker Newsweek July 12, 93) Science tells us what we can know, Modern cosmology - scientific but what we can know is little, and if theories about the beginning of the we forget how much we cannot know universe. we become insensitive to many things of very great importance. The Scientist is as interested in the Bertrand Russell leg of the flea as the creative throes A History of Western Philosophy of a genius... Science tells us how to heal and how to kill; it reduces the In some sort of crude sense which no death rate in retail, and then kills us vulgarity, no humor, no wholesale in war. overstatement can quite extinguish, Will Durant the physicists have known sin; and The Story of Philosophy

142 this is a knowledge which they thing of the possible consequences of cannot lose. its use. J. Robert Oppenheimer J. B. Priestley (1894-1984) lecture 1947 SECRETS Scientific discovery and scientific There are some occasions when a knowledge have been achieved only man must tell half his secret, in order by those who have gone in pursuit of to conceal the rest. it without any practical purpose Lord Chesterfield (1694-1773) whatsoever in view. English statesman and man of letters Max Planck Where Is Science Going SECTS All sects seem to me to be right in what they assert, and wrong in what All science is dominated by the idea they deny. of approximation. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832) Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) Every sect is a moral check on its I seem to have been only a boy neighbor. Competition is as playing on the seashore, and wholesome in religion as in diverting myself in now and then commerce. finding a smoother pebble or a Walter Savage Landor (1775-1864) prettier shell than ordinary, whilst the English author great ocean of truth lay all undiscovered before me. SELF Sir Isaac Newton (1642-1727) Man who man would be, The great tragedy of science – the Must rule the empire of himself. slaying of a beautiful theory by an P. B. Shelley (1792-1822) ugly fact. The magic is inside you. There ain’t T.H. Huxley (1825-1895) English biologist no crystal ball. Dolly Parton in People The progress of science is strewn, SELF-ACTUALIZATION (SEE like an ancient desert trail, with the Growth) bleached skeleton of discarded theories, which once seem to possess SELF-ASSERTION eternal life. We are sometimes frightened into Arthur Koestler (1905-1983) self-assertion. British author Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day We are much beholden to Machiavel and then it ought to be done. That if something has been invented, then we must use it. We don’t stop to 143 SELF-CONTROL To be G-d's servant, one must be his There is no me. I do not exist. There own master. used to be a me but I had it surgically Shraga Silverstein removed. A Candle by Day Peter Sellers

A man's job is not to be in complete Life isn't about finding yourself. Life control of all situations, but to be in is about creating yourself. complete control of himself in all George Bernard Shaw situations. Shraga Silverstein The unexamined life is not worth A Candle by Day living. Socrates SELF-DEVELOPMENT (SEE Growth) SELF-FULFILLMENT (SEE Growth)

SELF-IMAGE (SEE ALSO Faith)

SELF-EXAMINATION The only way you can truly control We continue to shape our personality how you’re seen is by being honest all our life. If we knew ourselves all the time. perfectly, we should die. Tom Hanks Albert Camus quoted in Interview Magazine

What lies behind us and what lies The ablest man I ever met is the man before us are tiny matters compared you think you are. to what lies within us. Franklin D. Roosevelt. (1882-1945) Ralph Emerson SELF-IMPROVEMENT No one who, like me, conjures up the If we spent less time trying to make most evil of those half-tamed this world a better place to live in, demons that inhabit the human beast, and more time trying to make and seeks to wrestle with them, can ourselves better persons to live with, expect to come through the struggle the world would be a better place to unscathed. live in. Sigmund Freud Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Some people hear their own inner voices with great clearness. And they SELF-INSIGHT (SEE ALSO live by what they hear. Such people INTROSPECTION) become crazy ... or they become legend. We know, more or less, what to Jim Harrison, prescribe for ourselves, but we have Legend of the Falls a pitiful knowledge of doses.

144 Shraga Silverstein it engenders over their having lain A Candle by Day waste for so long. Shraga Silverstein SELF-KNOWLEDGE A Candle by Day

- The future is not something that we Many of our difficulties arise from enter, it's something we create. our acting on the basis, not of what - To create a vision, people have to we are, but of what we were. get beyond their current Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day inhibitions, they have to dream. - To clarify your goals, ask: What are Some assume that they want to go the 3 things I value most in life? somewhere simply because they are Who are the 3 happiest people I being pulled there. know? Who do I like and respect the Shraga Silverstein most A Candle by Day - who are my heroes and why? - There are no short cuts to any place The greatest barrier to self-discovery worth going. is our desire to discover ourselves - Act like you expect to get into the different from what we are. end zone. Shraga Silverstein Joe Paterno A Candle by Day

SELF-PITY (SEE Suffering) He knows the universe and does not know himself. SELF-REPROACH Jean de la Fontaine (1921-1695) There is luxury in self-reproach. French poet, fabulist When we blame ourselves we feel no In other living creatures the one else has a right to blame us. ignorance of themselves is nature, Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) but in men it is a vice. ELF ACRIFICE SEE ALSO Boethius (480-525) S -S ( Roman philosopher Giving) Too long a sacrifice Can make a We must be sensitive to how we have stone of the heart. felt, how we feel, and how we will W. B. Yeats (1865-1939) feel. Shraga Silverstein If I am not for myself, who is for A Candle by Day me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? If not now, when? Many are averse to the revelation of Hillel unsuspected resources within in the Talmud themselves because of the discomfort

145 There is no such thing as an isolated man or woman; we are each of us Self-interest speaks all sorts of made up of a cluster of tongues, and plays all sorts of roles, appurtenances. What do you call even that of disinterestedness. one’s self? Where does it begin? La Rochefoucauld Where does it end? It overflows into Maxims everything that belongs to us--and then it flows back again. Even wisdom has to yield to self- Henry James interest. The Portrait of a Lady Pindar, Pythian Odes

Self-sacrifice is the real miracle out It is not the benevolence of the of which all the reported miracles butcher, the brewer, or the baker that grew. we expect our dinner, but from their Ralph Waldo Emerson regard to their own interest. Society and Solitude Adam Smith The Wealth of Nations How much easier is self-sacrifice than self-realization! “That is well said’, replied Candide, Eric Hoffer “but we must cultivate our garden.” in New York Times Magazine Voltaire, Candide

Self-sacrifice helps us to sacrifice The arch-flatterer, with whom all the other people without blushing. petty flatterers have intelligence, is a George Bernard Shaw man’s self. Man and Superman Francis Bacon “The Revolutionist’s Handbook’ The ideal is in thyself, the Self -interest is but the survival of impediment too is in thyself. the animal in us. Humanity only Thomas Carlyle begins for man with self-surrender. Sartor Resartus Henri-Frederic Amiel Journal intime One may understand the cosmos, but never the ego; the self is more distant Men are not against you; they are than any star. merely for themselves. G.K. Chesterton Orthodoxy Gene Fowler Skyline We are all serving a life-sentence in The least pain in our little finger the dungeon of self. gives us more concern and Cyril Connolly The Unquiet Grave uneasiness than the destruction of millions of our fellow beings. As accidental as my life may be, or William Hazlitt “American Literature--Dr. Channing” as random humor is, which governs

146 it, I know nothing, after all, so real or SENSITIVITY/RENEWAL/SURPRI substantial as myself. SE/DISCOVERY (SEE ALSO Anthony Ashley Cooper CREATIVITY) Earl of Shaftesbury, Characteristics The only real voyage of discovery Everybody has his own theater, in consists not in seeking new which he is manager, actor, prompter, landscapes but in having new eyes. playwright, sceneshifter, boxkeeper, Marcel Proust doorkeeper, all in one, and audience into the bargain. Where will I be 5 years from now? Julius C. Hare and Augustus W. Hare Delight in not knowing. That's one of Guesses at Truth the greatest things about life-its No man would, I think, exchange his wonderful surprises. Marlo Thomas existence with any other man, however fortunate. We had as life If you stand up and are counted, you not be, as not be ourselves. may get yourself knocked down. But William Hazlitt remember this: A man flattened by an Table Talk opponent can get up again. A man flattened by conformity stays down SELFISHNESS (see ALSO Giving, Self-Sacrifice) for good. Thomas J. Watson For beings who have it in us to afford speech so much joy to others, how miserly We must learn to hit the nail on the we are! head without breaking it. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

Selfishness is not living as one SENTIMENTALITY wishes to live, it is asking others to A sentimentalist is simply one who live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) desires to have the luxury of an emotion without paying for it. Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) SENSES The evidence of our senses may be SHAME (SEE ALSO Pride) false, but not acting in accordance with them is a risky proposition. We Man is the only animal that blushes. must strive rather to educate our Or needs to. senses to transmit as faithful a Mark Twain (1835-1910) picture of reality as possible. Shraga Silverstein Don’t be ashamed to say what your A Candle by Day are not ashamed to think. Michel de Montaigne (1553-1592) French essayist, moralist 147 The deepest feeling always shows One of the misfortunes of our time is itself in silence; not in silence, but that in getting rid of false shame we restraint. have killed off so much real shame Marianne Moore as well. “Silence” Louis Kronenberger I often regret that I have spoken; never that I have been silent. SILENCE (SEE ALSO Speech, Publius Syrus Wisdom) Maxims

The right word may be effective, but The world would be happier if men no word was ever as effective as the had the same capacity to be silent rightly timed pause. than they have to speak. Mark Twain Benedict De Spinoza Ethics No one has a finer command of language that the person who keeps Silence may be as variously shaded his mouth shut. as speech. Sam Rayburn Edith Wharton The Reef

When something important is going What can be said at all can be said on, silence is a lie. clearly; and whereof one cannot A.M. Rosenthal in New York Times speak thereof one must be silent. Ludwig Wittgenstein Tractatus Logico-Philosophicus There is no such thing as an empty space or an empty time. There is That man’s silence is wonderful to always something to see, something listen to. to hear. In fact, try as we may to Thomas Hardy (1840-1928) make a silence, we cannot. John Cage We will have to repent in this Silence generation not merely for the vitriolic words of the bad people, but Speech is of Time, for the appalling silence of the good Silence is of Eternity. people. Thomas Carlyle Martin Luther King Sartor Resartus

Blessed is the man who, having SIMPLICITY nothing to say, abstains from giving Simplicity of character is the most wordy evidence of the fact. natural result of profound thought. George Eliot Chinese Proverb Impressions of Theophrasius Such Everything deep is also simple and can be reproduced simply as long as 148 its reference to the whole truth is Swedish Proverb maintained. But what matters is not what is witty but what is true. SOUL Albert Schweitzer, Have you ever burst into tears for no The Light Within Us apparent reason, finding yourself in deep sadness? That is the soft voice Brevity is the soul of wit. of your soul, crying out for attention, William Shakespeare, asking to be nourished with at least Hamlet II, ii much care as you nourish your body. Rabbi Mencahem Mendel Schneerson SIN Toward a Meaningful Life Everything that used to be a sin is now a disease. SPEECH (SEE ALSO SILENCE) Bill Maher One kind word can warm three SINCERITY winter months. Most remarks that are worth making Japanese proverb are commonplace remarks. The thing that makes them worth saying is that Some things come to mouth before we really mean them. they come to mind. Shraga Silverstein Robert Lynd (1879-1949) A Candle by Day Anglo-Irish essayist, journalist No man would listen to you talk if he SKEPTICISM didn’t know that it was his turn next. We must know how to be skeptical Ed (E.W.) Howe (1853-1937) without becoming skeptics. American journalist, novelist Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Speak kind words and you will hear kind echoes. Skepticism is the chastity of the Bahn intellect not to be surrendered too easily to the first comer. Words, like eyeglasses, blur Santanyana everything that they do not make clearer. SORROW Joseph Joubert (1754-1824) I have sometimes been wildly, French essayist and moralist despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all If thought corrupts language, I still know quite certainly that just to language can also corrupt thought. be alive is a grand thing. George Orwell (1903-1950) Agatha Christie Modern man…is educated to understand foreign languages and Shared joy is double joy. Shared misunderstand foreigners. sorrow is half sorrow. 149 G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936) biggest mystery-the mystery of the soul. …. Where does this inner voice One of the difficulties in the come from? What is the source of language is that all our words from our yearnings to reach beyond loose using have lost their edge. ourselves? Ernest Hemingway (1899-1961) Kirk Douglas Climbing the Mountain, pg. 246 Half the world is composed of people who have something to say and It took me so long to figure out that I can’t, and the other half who have need not go very far … The journey nothing to say and keep on saying it. is a journey into our souls. The Robert Frost (1874-1963) destination had been predetermined American poet for each one of us. The destination is death. G-d will decide when we have Language most shews a man: Speak, arrived. That part is out of our hands. that I may see thee. Ben Jonson (1573-1637) But we have the free will, the choice, of how we travel, just how we will Speak clearly, if you speak at all; climb that mountain of life. Carve every word before you let it Kirk Douglas fall. Climbing the Mountain, pg. 247 Dr. Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809-1894) American writer, physician Why do you hasten to remove anything, which hurts your eye, The stroke of the whip maketh marks while if something affects your soul in the flesh: but the stroke of the you postpone the cure until next tongue breaketh the bones. Many year? have fallen by the edge of the sword: Horace (65-8 BC) but not so many as have fallen by the tongue. Apocrypha, Ecclesiastics SPORT When a man wantonly destroys one The Torah of your mouth is better to of the works of man we call him a me than thousands of gold and silver vandal. When he destroys one of the (coins). works of G-d we call him a Psalms 9:72 sportsman. Joseph Wood Krutch (1893-1970) SPIRITUALITY (SEE ALSO MEANING American essayist OF LIFE, RELIGION, SOUL) STATISTICS The world is still full of wonders to He uses statistics as a drunken man me. The adults around me seem to uses lampposts – for support rather know all about it, so how come I than illumination. don’t? But maybe they’re just faking. Andrew Lang (1844-1912) I’m sure they don’t understand the Scottish author

150 J.M. Barrie (1860-1937) British playwright STRENGTH (SEE ALSO growth)

The virtue of all achievement is ‘Tis not in mortals to command victory over oneself. Those who success, know this can never know defeat. But we’ll do more, Sempronius; A.J. Cronin we’ll deserve it. Joseph Addison, Calo It is not enough to realize that we are in the hands of G-d. We must realize The toughest thing about success is further that He is the G-d of hands. that you’ve got to keep on being a Shraga Silverstein success. A Candle by Day Irving Berlin Theater Arts

STRUGGLE All men are ruined, are ruined on the The path of least resistance is straight side of their natural propensities. down. Edmund Burke Shraga Silverstein Letters on a Regicide Peace A Candle by Day Success is counted sweetest STUBBORNNESS By those who ne’er succeed. Like all weak men he laid an Emily Dickinson exaggerated stress on not changing Success is counted sweetest one’s mind. W. Somerset Maugham (1874-1966) Nothing succeeds like success. Alexandre Dumas Stubbornness properly nurtured can Pere, Ange Pitou lead to an uncompromising insistence upon the truth. Success is relative; Shraga Silverstein It is what we make of the mess we A Candle by Day have made of things. T.S. Eliot SUCCESS (SEE ALSO Experience) Family Reunion

When I was 15, I had lucky Along with success comes a underwear. When that failed, I had a reputation for wisdom. lucky hairdo, then a lucky race Euripides number, even lucky race days. After Hippolytus 15 years, I’ve found the secret to Half the failures in life arise from success is simple. It’s hard work. Margaret Groos, marathon runner pulling in one’s horse as he is Runner’s World leaping. Julius C. Hare and Augustus Hare Failure – We are all of us failures – at Guesses at Truth least, the best of us are. 151 There’s dignity in suffering-- To achieve great things we must live Nobility in pain-- as though we were never going to But failure is a salted wound die. That burns and burns again. Marquis De Vauvenargues Margery Eldredge Howell, Wormwood Reflections and Maxims

A failure is a man who has Success is getting what you want. blundered, but is not able to cash in Happiness is wanting what you get. the experience. Dale Carnegie Elbert Hubbard Roycroft Dictionary and Book of Epigrams Man who say it cannot be done should not interrupt man doing it. There is the greatest practical benefit Chinese Proverb in making a few failures early in life. Thomas Henry Huxley Success is going from failure to Critiques and Addresses failure without a loss of enthusiasm. Winston Churchill There are only two ways of getting on in the world--either by one’s own Success is the sum of small efforts industry, or by the stupidity of others. repeated day in and day out. La Bruyere Robert Collier Les Caracteres Try not to become a man of success I have always observed that to but rather try to become a man of succeed in the world one should value. seem a fool, but be wise. Albert Einstein Baron De Mortesquieu Pensees diverse The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary. The success of most things depends Vince Lombardi upon knowing how long it will take to succeed. Success is determined by those Baron De Mortesquieu whom prove the impossible, possible. Success has always been the worst of James W. Pence liars. Friedrich Nietzsche Beyond Good and Evil All you need is ignorance and confidence and the success is sure. I cannot give you the formula for Mark Twain success, but I can give you the If the dogs are barking at your heels, formula for failure--which is: Try to you know you're leading the pack. please everybody. Unattributed Herbert Bayard Swope

152 There is no elevator to success. You have to take the stairs. Should you shield the canyons from Unattributed the windstorms, you would never see the beauty of their carvings. I have learned that success is to be Elizabeth Kubler-Ross measured not so much by the The Wheel of Life, Scribner position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles, which he has You'll never find a better sparring overcome while trying to succeed. partner than adversity. Booker T. Washington Walt Schmidt in LA Park Labrea News

SUFFERING Reflect upon your present blessings- Although the world is full of of which every man has many-not on suffering, it is also full of the your past misfortunes, of which all overcoming of it. men have some. Helen Keller Charles Dickens

Pain is G-d’s megaphone to wake up When we indulge in self-pity, we rob the world. the poor and the suffering of that C.S. Lewis which is theirs by right and waste it on ourselves, to whom it does more The only whole heart is a broken harm than good. one. Morris Mandel The Jewish Press The Kotzker Rebbe To great evils we submit; we resent The greatest university is adversity. little provocations. Shraga Silverstein William Hazlitt A Candle by Day Literary Remains

I am no longer afraid of becoming Mishaps are like knives that either lost, because the journey back always serve us or cut us, as we grasp them reveals something new, and that is by the blade or the handle. ultimately good for the artist. James Russell Lowell Billy Joel Fireside Traveis

There are many precious thoughts to We all have strength enough to bear be had by him who can think in the the misfortunes of others. midst of his pain. La Rochefoucauld Shraga Silverstein Maxims A Candle by Day An adventure is only an Life does not have to be perfect to be inconvenience rightly considered. wonderful. An inconvenience is only an Annette Funicello adventure wrongly considered. 153 G.K. Chesterton All Things Considered We should recognize the goodness of Man needs difficulties; they are G-d not only in what He does for us, necessary for health. but also in what he does to us. Carl Jung (1875-1961) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day For we are born in other’s pain, And perish in our own. Our distress over our emotional Francis Thompson (1859-1907) discomfort is greater and infinitely English poet more dangerous than that discomfort itself. Illness is the doctor to whom we pay Shraga Silverstein most heed; to kindness, to A Candle by Day knowledge, we make promise only; pain we obey. We must be wary of associating Marcel Proust (1871-1922) discomfort with failure or comfort with success. When written in Chinese the word Shraga Silverstein crisis is composed of two characters. A Candle by Day One represents danger and the other represents opportunity. SURPRISE (SEE Sensitivity) John F. Kennedy (1917-1963)

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TAKING (SEE GIVING) TECHNOLOGY TALENT Ever since our love for machines Everyone has talent at twenty-five. replaced the love we used to have for The difficulty is to have it at fifty. our fellow men, catastrophes proceed Edgar Degas (1834-1917) to increase. French painter, sculptor Man Ray (1890-1976) French photographer There’s no shortage of talent. There’s only a shortage of talent that can One machine can do the work of fifty recognize talent. ordinary men. No machine can do Jerry Wald (1911-1962) the work of one extraordinary man. American writer-producer Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915)

TALMUD The drive toward complex technical Hebrew, and with it knowledge of its achievement offers a clue to why the greatest written works, Torah and US is good at space gadgetry and bad Talmud, are the matrix in which at slum problems. Jewishness is embedded. H. K. Galbraith (b. 1908) Ben Gurion-Recollections American economist

TEACHING It is appallingly obvious that our The teacher should be a stabilizing technology exceeds our humanity. force without being a paralyzing one. Albert Einstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day TELEVISION We learn more from how than from Television is the first truly what we are taught. democratic culture, the first culture Shraga Silverstein available to everybody and entirely A Candle by Day governed by what the people want. The most terrifying thing is what Whoever teaches his friend one people do want. Biblical verse, one law, or one Clive Barnes saying, it is as if he gave him life. Tanna Devei Eliyahu Rabbah

155 What bothers me about TV is that it Wonder is what sets us apart from tends to take our minds off our other life forms. No other species minds. wonders about the meaning of Robert Orban existence or the complexity of the universe or themselves. If a man watches three football Herbert W. Boyer games in a row, he should be co-founder of Genetech, Inc. declared legally dead. Erma Bombeck TIME Television is an invention that As if you could kill time without permits you to be entertained in your injuring eternity. living room by people you wouldn’t H. D. Thoreau (1817-1862) have in your home. I recommend you to take care of the David Frost (b. 1939) minutes: for hours will take care of Television is the first truly themselves. democratic culture – the first culture Lord Chesterfield (1694-1773) English statesman and man of letters available to everybody and entirely governed by what the people want. A schedule defends from chaos and The most terrifying thing is what the whim. It is a net for catching days. It people do want. is a scaffolding on which a worker Clive Barnes (b. 1927) British drama critic can stand and labor with both hands at sections of time. Anne Dillard TEMPTATION We sometimes confuse the feeling of They say that time is the fire in temptation with that of giving into which we burn. temptation. The danger here is that Malcolm McDowell, sometimes, feeling that we have Star Trek Generations allowed ourselves to fall, we despair of ourselves and allow ourselves to Dost thou love life? Then do not fall further. squander time; for that's the stuff life Shraga Silverstein is made of. A Candle by Day Ben Franklin

THOUGHT TOLERANCE The best "material for thought'' is To tolerate everything is to respect what we are doing, but the time when nothing. we are doing things is, unfortunately, Shraga Silverstein the worst time for thinking. A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Never underestimate the capacity of another human being to have exactly the same shortcomings you have. 156 Leigh Steinberg Carl Jung (1875-1961) in America West TRADITION If it was necessary to tolerate in other People who grow up without a sense people everything one permits in of how yesterday has effected today oneself, life would be unbearable. are unlikely to have a strong sense of Georges Courteline how today affects tomorrow. It is only when we become conscious of By being civilized we mean that the flow of time that the there is a certain list of things about consequences of action.... become a which we permit a man to have an consideration. It is only when we opinion different from ours. Usually have perspective on our lives that they are things, which we have motives besides immediate ceased to care about: for instance, the gratification can come into play. worship of G-d. Lynn V Cheney Aubrey Menen (b. 1912) in The Importance of ???? British novelist, essayist Culture is the bed-rock, the final TORAH wall, against which one leans one’s The Torah scholar, to the extent that back in a g-d-forsaken chaos. he feels himself out of touch with John Cowper Powys (1872-1963) reality is not a true Torah scholar. British author, poet Torah is the reality. Shraga Silverstein What is conservatism? Is it not A Candle by Day adherence to the old and tried, against the new and untried? Were it not for the pious, black- Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865) hatted, bearded Jews with their long payes, who never gave up on the Tradition means giving votes to the Torah no matter what the world was most obscure of all classes, our doing, I might not have a Torah to ancestors. It is the democracy of the study today. dead. Tradition refuses to submit to Kirk Douglas that arrogant oligarchy who merely Climbing the Mountain (pg. 139) happen to be walking around. Gilbert Keith Chesterton Jesus studied the Torah; Mohammed studied the Torah, But I had ever We don't want tradition. We want to studied the Torah. It was about time. live in the present and the only Kirk Douglas history that is worth a tinker's damn Climbing the Mountain (pg. 136) is the history we make today.

Henry Ford TORTURE The healthy man does not torture others – generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers. 157 TRAVEL TRUTH (SEE ALSO ERROR, Travel is glamorous only in HONESTY, LYING) retrospect. Paul Theroux (b. 1941) Lies are the religion of slaves and bosses. Truth is the god of the free When one realizes that his life is man. worthless he either commits suicide Maxim Gorky or travels. Edward Dahlberg (b. 1900) Acquiring truth may necessitate American novelist, poet, critic giving up friends, and since man needs friends, the truth must become TREATMENT his friend. Often it is said that the patient did Shraga Silverstein not respond to the treatment, when in A Candle by Day reality the treatment did not correspond to the patient. Ah, if there were only such a thing as Shraga Silverstein a truth ache to warn us of truth A Candle by Day decay. Shraga Silverstein TRUST A Candle by Day It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes Sometimes we do not accept the truth cheated than not to trust. precisely because it is so obvious. Samuel Johnson, The Rambler Our reasoning is that something so obvious could not fail to have been It is more shameful to mistrust one’s recognized and accepted by all of friends than to be deceived by them. humanity, and that, therefore, we La Rochefoucauld must be making some mistake in our Maxims appraisal of it. And our reasoning is wrong. In long experience is find that a man Shraga Silverstein who trusts nobody is apt to be the A Candle by Day kind of man nobody trusts. Harold Macmillan Integrity is telling myself the truth. quoted in New York Herald Tribune And honesty is telling the truth to other people. As contagion Spencer Johnson of sickness makes sickness, “Yes” or “No” (Harper Collins) contagion of trust can make trust. Marianne Moore Facts are stubborn things. “In Distrust of Merits” Alain Rene' Lesage

TRUST IN G-D (SEE Faith) Oh, the difference between nearly right and exactly right Horace J Brown

158 quoted by H Jackson Brown, Jr. Beats all the lies you can invent. in a Father's Book of Wisdom William Blake Auguries of Innocence The best tranquilizer is a clear conscience Truth exists, only falsehood has to be Live and Learn and Pass It On invented. H. Jackson Brown, Jr. Georges Braque Pensees sur l’art Some people so treasure the truth that they use it with great economy. ‘T is strange,--but true; for Truth is R.H. Golenor always Strange-- Should we be rewriting history just Stranger than fiction: if it could be to make people feel good? That's not told, history; that's psychiatry. How much would novels gain by the Ed Koch exchange! NY Post on multi-culturalism Lord Byron, Don Juan

A lie has speed, but truth has When you have eliminated the endurance. impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the We are all pilgrims on the same truth. journey-but some pilgrims have Arthur Conan Doyle better road maps. The Sign Four Nelson DeMille The Talbot Odyssey It is the customary fate of new truths to begin as heresies and to end as Truth is eternal, knowledge is superstitions. changeable. It is disastrous to Thomas Henry Huxley confuse them. The Coming of Age of The Origin of Madeleine L'Engle Species An Acceptable Time (Farrar Strau and Giroux) There are no new truths, but only truths that have not been recognized The truth is often a terrible weapon by those who have perceived them aggression. It is possible to lie, and without noticing. A truth is even to murder, for the truth. Alfred Adler something that everyone can be Problems of Neurosis shown to know and to have known, as people say, all along. As scarce as truth is, the supply has Marty McCarthy always been in excess of demand. On the Contrary Josh Billings Affurisms from Josh Billings: His Sayings It takes two to speak the truth--one to speak, and another to hear. A truth that’s told with bad intent Henry David Thoreau

159 A Week on the Concord and Merrimack Crossroad Rivers The great enemy of the truth is very I never give them hell. I just tell the often not the lie – deliberate, truth, and they think it is hell. contrived and dishonest – but the Harry S. Truman myth – the persistent, persuasive and quoted in Look unrealistic. John F. Kennedy (1917-1963) There are truths, which are not for all men, nor for all times. G-d offers to every mind its choice Voltaire, 1761 between truth and repose. Take which you please; you can never There is nothing so powerful as truth, have both. --and often nothing so strange. R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) Daniel Webster, 1830 American essayist, poet, philosopher There are no whole truths; all truths I tell the truth, not as much as I are half-truths. It is trying to treat would but as much as I dare – and I them as whole truths that plays the dare more and more as I grow older. devil. Michel de Montaigne (1553-1592) Alfred North Whitehead French essayist, moralist Dialogues

We grew up founding our dreams on It is hard to believe that a man is the infinite promise of American telling the truth when you know that advertising. you would lie if you were in his Zelda Fitzgerald (1900-1948) place. wife of F. Scott Fitzgerald H. L. Mencken (1880-1956) American journalist Advertising is the greatest art form of It is the calling of great men, not so the twentieth century. much to preach new truths, as to Marshall McLuhan (1911-1981) rescue from oblivion those old truths, Canadian social scientist which it is our wisdom to remember and our weakness to forget. In this world nothing is certain but Sydney Smith (1771-1845) death and taxes. English clergyman, writer Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790) Let us begin by committing The only certainty is that nothing is ourselves to the truth – to see it like certain. it is, and tell it like it is – to find the Piny the Elder (c. 23-79) truth, to speak the truth, and to live Roman scholar the truth. Richard Nixon (b.1913) Truth has to fall on fertile soil. accepting Presidential nomination, 1968 Paula D’Arcy Gift of the Red Bird

160 Men occasionally stumble over the Truth is so important that it needs to truth, but most of them pick be surrounded by a bodyguard of themselves up and hurry off as if lies. nothing had happened. George Shultz (b.1920) Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965) American Republican politician, Secretary of State Some of his decisions were accurate. on the disinformation campaign against A stopped watch is right twice a day. Libya, 1986 Anonymous TYRANNY Telling the truth to people who It is far easier to act under conditions misunderstand you is generally of tyranny than to think. promoting falsehood. Hannah Arendt (1906-1975) Anthony Hope Hawkins (1863-1933) American political philosopher British author TZADIK (SEE Sages; Ethical Personality)

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UNDERSTANDING Llelyveld If one does not understand a person, one tends to regard him as a fool. I have striven not to laugh at human Carl Jung (1875-1961) actins, not to weep at them, nor to hate them, but to understand them. If we would gain understanding, we Baruch Spinoza (1632-1677) must place a stethoscope to the heart Dutch Philosopher of humanity and listen carefully. UNHAPPINESS Shraga Silverstein Man’s unhappiness, as I construe, A Candle by Day comes of his greatness; it is because there is an Infinite in him, which It is not enough to put ourselves in with all his cunning he cannot quite another's place. We must, in addition, bury under the finite. exchange our mind for his. Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881) Shraga Silverstein Scottish writer A Candle by Day UNPREDICTABILITY Sweat the small stuff. You look Unpredictability, too can become through the words to the facts. You monotonous. look through the words as you'd look Eric Hoffer (1902-1983) through a pane of glass. American philosopher

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VACATION VARIETY There are certain problems, which In business or in life, don't follow the we admit to ourselves only when we wagon tracks too closely. are in generally easy and pleasant H. Jackson Brown, Jr. circumstances, so that these problems, being admitted, do not Anyone who has never made a combine with other difficulties to mistake has never tried anything overpower us. This is not the least new. consideration behind the advisability Albert Einstein of vacations. Shraga Silverstein The most beautiful thing we can A Candle by Day experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and all science. VALUE He to whom this emotion is a Nothing is worth doing unless the stranger, who can no longer pause to consequences may be serious. wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as Hypatia, Misalliance good as dead: his eyes are closed. George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Albert Einstein

Nowadays people know the price of A mind that is stretched by a new everything and the value of nothing. experience can never go back to its Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) old dimensions. Oliver Wendell Holmes Let us not deem things "worthless" simply because they are worth less. VICES Shraga Silverstein Every form of addiction is bad, no A Candle by Day matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism. VALUES Carl Gustav Jung Most men would rather be failures in terms of their values than admit that One should judge a man mainly from their values are wrong. his depravities. Virtues can be faked. Shraga Silverstein Depravities are real. Candle by Day Klaus Kinski

163 Argue for your limitations and Virtue shuns ease as a companion. It they're yours. demands a rough and thorny path. Jonathan Livingston Seagull Michel de Montaigne (1553-1592) French essayist, moralist VIOLENCE In some cases non-violence requires VISION (SEE GOALS) more militancy than violence. Cesar Chavez VOTING A citizen of America will cross the The man who strikes first admits that ocean to fight for democracy, but his ideas have given out. won't cross the street to vote in a Chinese Proverb national election. Bill Vaughan

VIRTUE (SEE ALSO Righteousness) The biggest lie people like me tell people like you is that if you vote for Wisdom is knowing what to do next; me, I’m going to solve all your virtue is doing it. problems…The truth is, the future is David Starr Jordan in your hands, not mine. American naturalist Howard Dean

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WAR (SEE ALSO PEACE) For a war to be just three things are necessary – public authority, just War is a national evil inclination. cause, right motive. Shraga Silverstein Saint Thomas Aquinas (1225-1274) A Candle by Day In a war of ideas it is people who get Every gun that is fired, every killed. warship launched, every rocket fired, Slanislaus J. Lec (b. 1909) signifies, in the final sense, a theft Polish poet from those who hunger and are not fed, those who are cold and are not The belief in the possibility of a short clothed. The world in arms is not decisive war appears to be one of the spending money alone. It is most ancient and dangerous of spending the sweat of its labourers, human illusions. the genius of its scientists, the hopes Robert Lynd (1879-1949) Anglo-Irish essayist, journalist of its children. Dwight Eisenhower (1890-1969) There never was a good war or a bad War is nothing more than the peace. continuation or politics by other Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790) means. War is elevating because the Karl von Clausewitz (1780-1831) Prussian soldier, strategist individual disappears before the great conception of the state. As long as war is regarded as Heinrich von Treitschke (1834-1896) German historian wicked, it will always have its fascination. When it is looked upon What a country calls its vital as vulgar, it will cease to he popular. economic interests are not the things, Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) which enable its citizens to live, but the things, which enable it to make Child of G-d, therefore children of war. Petrol is more likely than wheat G-d, therefore brothers. All wars are to be a cause of international civil wars. Eric Gill (1882-1940) conflict. British sculptor Simone Weil (1909-1943) French philosopher, mystic

165 The essence of war is violence. Wisdom too often never comes, and Moderation in war is imbecility. so one ought not to reject it merely John Arbuthnot Fisher because it comes late. Felix Frankfurter The object of war is not to die for your country but to make the other He who never doubts doesn't know bastard die for his. anything. General George Patton Spanish proverb

All wars are popular for the first Thinking is the hardest work there is, thirty days which is probably the reason why so Arthur Schlesinger Jr. few engage in it. American historian and political advisor Henry Ford, Bits and Pieces

WEALTH (SEE Materialism) Every man is a fool for at least five minutes a day; wisdom consists of WEATHER not exceeding that limit. There is really no such thing as bad Elbert Hubbard weather, only different kinds of good In much wisdom is much grief: and weather. John Ruskin (1819-1900) he that increaseth knowledge English critic increaseth sorrow. Bible, Ecclesiastics

WINE Knowledge and wisdom, far from Wine gives a man nothing… It only being one, puts in motion what had been locked Have ofttimes no connection. up in frost. Knowledge dwells Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) In heads replete with thoughts of other men; WISDOM (SEE ALSO EDUCATION, Wisdom in minds attentive to their EXPERIENCE, KNOWLEDGE, Sages, Silence, UNDERSTANDING) own. William Cowper The Task Ironically, it is often those whose intelligence is not very great and who Common sense is the best distributed must, therefore, consciously shape thing in the world, for everyone and direct it, who emerge wise. thinks he is so well-endowed with it Shraga Silverstein that even those who are hardest to A Candle by Day satisfy in all other matters are not in the habit of desiring more of it than Knowledge shrinks as wisdom they already have. grows: for details are swallowed up Renee Descartes in principles. Discourse on Method Alfred North Whitehead

166 The art of being wise is the art of Israeli politician knowing what to overlook. William James, Learn from the mistakes of others; The Principles of Psychology you can never live long enough to make them all yourself. It’s bad taste to be wise all the time, John Luther like being at a perpetual funeral. D.H. Lawrence There is only one thing more painful “Peace and War” than learning from experience and that is not learning from experience. Be wisely worldly, but not worldly Archibald McLeish wise. The key to wisdom is knowing all Francis Quarles the right questions. Emblems John A. Simone Jr.

Even a fool, when he holdeth his The important thing is to not stop peace, is counted wise. questioning. Bible, Proverbs 17:28 Albert Einstein You are smart when you know the Nine-tenths of wisdom is being wise answer; You are wise when you don’t in time. Theodore Roosevelt speech 1917 - We have enough people who tell it like it is - now we could use a few A man is wise with the wisdom of his who tell it like it can be. time only, and ignorant with its ignorance. - I shall make electricity so cheap Henry David Thoreau that only the rich can afford to buy Journal candles. Common sense is not so common. Thomas Edison Voltaire Philosophical Dictionary WISHFULNESS Wisdom is ofttimes nearer when we There is not only wishful thinking, stoop than when we soar. but even wishful seeing. William Wordsworth Shraga Silverstein The Excursions A Candle by Day

Every person is a fool in somebody’s WOMEN opinion. A lady is a woman who makes a man Spanish Proverb behave like a gentleman. History teaches us that men and Russsell Lynes (b. 1910) American editor, critic nations behave wisely once they have exhausted all other alternatives. Abba Eban (b.1915)

167 A woman is like a teabag – only in The most incomprehensible thing hot water do you realize how strong about the world is that it is she is. comprehensible. Nancy Reagan (b.1923) Albert Einstein

The greatest question that has never How wonderful it is that nobody been answered, and which I have not need wait a single moment before yet been able to answer despite my starting to improve the world. thirty years of research into the Anne Frank feminine soul, is: What does a woman want? Sigmund Freud (1856-1939) WORLD TO COME (SEE THE AFTERLIFE)

WORK WRITERS Anyone can do any amount of work, An original writer is not one who provided it isn’t the work he is imitates no one, but whom no one supposed to be doing at that moment. can imitate. Robert Benchley (1889-1945) Francois-René de Chateaubriand (1768- American humorous writer 1848) French writer By working faithfully eight hours a day, you may eventually get to be a For the sake of a few fine boss and work twelve hours a day. imaginative or domestic passages, Robert Frost (1874-1963) are we to be bullied into a certain American poet philosophy engendered in the whims of an egotist. Nothing is really work unless you John Keats (1705-1821) would rather be doing something else. How vain it is to sit down to write J. M. Barrie (1860-1937) when you have not stood up to live. H. D. Thoreau (1817-1862) WORLD The world is a beautiful book, but of What I like in a good author is not little use to him who cannot read it. what he says, but what he whispers. Carlo Goldoni (1707-1793) Logan Pearsall Smith (1865-1946) Italian dramatist American essayist

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YOUTH (SEE ALSO OLD AGE)

It is not so much that youth is strong Whoever isn't a socialist before the as that it does not realize when it is age of 20 has no heart; whoever is a weak. socialist after the age of 20 has no Shraga Silverstein brain. A Candle by Day Winston Churchill

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ZIONISM (SEE ALSO ISRAEL) vacations among heroes,... Those in the land identify with normal peoples. To be a Zionist it is not necessary to Those abroad see in the land what it be mad, but it helps. means to be extraordinary. Chaim Weizmann Jacob Neusner American Judaism As Arthur Hertzberg trenchantly argues in the Zionist idea, Zionism No culture has had such a decisive actually represented not merely a impact on the Jews as the German,' secular and political ideology, but the Nachum Goldman in pamphlet, 1916, transvaluation of Jewish values... in which he maintained that in many Herein lies the ambiguity of Zionism. ways the Zionists were much closer in It was supposedly a secular national spirit than the movement, yet in reinterpreting the assimilationists, who had received heir classic mythic structures of Judaism, it influence from the liberal thinkers of compromised its secularity and Britain and France. `The young exposed its fundamental unity with the national Jewish movement, on the classic mythic being of Judaism. other hand, had made the national idea Jacob Neusner the central concept of its philosophy: Zionism and The Jewish Problem, Fichte, Hegel, Legarde and the other Midstream, Nov. 1969 leading spirits of the German national idea-they were also our teachers. It (American Jewry) were moved was no accident that Theodor Herzl, because of the capacity of Zionism to the genius who founded modern resurrect the single most powerful political Zionism, came from German force in the history of Judaism, culture to the Jewish national idea.' Messianism. Laqueur Jacob Neusner Zionism and the Jewish Problem, Midstream, Nov. 69 The whole driving force behind American Jews live off the capital of Zionism [was] that Jews would no Israeli culture...(They) look forward to longer be victims. …. [Yet,[, we've ever more romantic adventures...rather shifted back to victimhood after than the colorful times of peace. achieving heroism. Dr. Maoz Azaryahu, American Jews want to take their Haifa University Israel is a country where in three phone calls, you can reach the prime minister. It's accessible, familial, vibrant, with a lot of Jewish tradition, a lot of noise, a lot of arguing. And it's full of energy. It's a truly free country with a thriving democracy. It's genuinely egalitarian. What it managed to accomplish in two generations in terms of social mobility is amazing. In this respect it's like the United States and unlike Europe - which makes sense when you think about it, since what America and Israel have in common is that they were both founded on the rejection of Europe. Dr. Maoz Azaryahu, Haifa University

Israel has … solidarity without consensus. But a lack of consensus is crucial for healthy debate, for the vitality of a society. – Dr. Maoz Azaryahu, Haifa University