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PTG 2017-04.Pub 1 Pretty T Girls April 2017 The Magazine for the most beautiful girls in the world A publication of Pretty T Girls Yahoo group 2 In This Issue PAGE Editorial by: Barbara Jean 3 Help-My Husband is a Crossdresser 5 TG Legal Rights by: Rhonda Lee 7 10Hairstyle Ideas That Will Knock 10 Years Off Your Age 9 7 Tricks To Make Your Foundation Look Perfect 12 15 Makeup Tricks Every Woman Should Know 13 Bluestocking Blue 17 The Adventures of Judy Sometimes 21 Módhnóirí 23 Tasi’s Musings 26 Humor 32 Angels In The Centerfold 33 Mellissa’s Tips 35 Diane Sikes 41 Tasi’s Fashion 44 Lucille Sorella 47 Activewear is Not the Answer to Dressing Comfortably 51 Transgender History Part 5 56 31 Days To An Organized Closet 65 From The Kitchen 74 6 Mistakes People Make When Using a Slow Cooker 78 Let’s Get Together 80 The Gossip Fence 84 Shop Till You Drop 94 Calendar 106 3 Money Talks An Editorial by: Barbara Jean We have all heard thesaying “moneytalks, b.s. walks”. Well yes moneydoes talk and we are the ones who decide how loud it will talk. I recall a time in Memphis where the black community when making a purchase at a store, restaurant, or other place of business they would use a two dollar bill with each purchase. This was to show the merchants how much of their business was coming from the black community. When then governor Mike Pence signed the religious freedom act in Indiana, businesses refused to relocate to Indiana and others refused to expand their business. In North Carolina their infamous HB2 has cost thestate, so far to date over a half billion dollars in lost business. But there was something else that happened in Indiana when they passed their religious freedom law. Manybusinesses were putting up signs orstickers saying that theywould not discriminate against those of us who are LGBT. Again when Mississippi passed their religious freedom act businesses were installing stickers saying they did not discriminate against the LGBT community. A couple of years ago in Oregon a bakery was sued for $135,000 for refusing to bake a wedding cake for a same sex couple. They cited their religious beliefs as the reason. It had forced the bakery to close. Discrimination, yes there needs to be a penaltyfor, but I wonder what does that do to the person who was found guilty of discrimination. There was animosity toward the LGBT community prior to the incident, but did this lawsuit eliminate the animosity. NO! Now you can bet theyand their friends have even more hate for our community. Now I am not saying that thereshould be no punishment for discrimination, there must be if discrimination is to come to an end. Certainlywhat is needed is something that will remove their animosity. Rather than a monitory punishment how about requiring that individual provide a large number of hours of community service to the LGBT community. Community service where they are working with our community, learning about us, learning that we really are no different than they are. 4 Another item that should be required is education. Education about the needs of LGBT people, education about how we as a community are beneficial to all of the community. Learning how their discrimination hurts people outside of the LGBT community. Learning about the commandments that Jesus himself gave, commandments like to “Love thy neighbor as thyself” and “Let he who is without sin throw that first stone”. As for things like those religious freedom restoration acts, encourage the businesses that refuse to discriminate to put up those stickers that say they won’t discriminate and for us and our allies to patronize ONLY those businesses. When those who do want to discriminate due to religious beliefs see their bottom line shrink and the bottom line of the business whoservices our community grows, that can be a most powerful tool to changing their beliefs. As for that two dollar bill, perhaps we of the LGBT communityshould dosomethingsimilar to show businesses how much of their business comes from our community. 5 Help! My Husband is a Crossdresser! 4 So you’ve discovered that your husband is a crossdresser. Maybe you stumbled across their hidden cache of clothing and makeup, or after years of bottling up a secret which they thought was shameful they couldn’t take it any longer and revealed it to you. Maybe you’re scared and confused about what this means about him, and what it means about your relationship. Maybe you’re concerned that having hidden something for so long, you don’t know who he is, or maybe you’re worried that if he’s been able to hide this from you, what else could he be hiding? It’s very easy to get carried away with these thoughts and let your imagination run wild with possibilities – but the only thing that will do is make things worse. The first thing you should do is stop and take a breath. More than likely, things aren’t as bad as you might think! Is he gay? Almost certainly not. The majority of crossdressers are straight. Crossdressing has no correlation with sexuality. It could be conceivable that he’s bisexual or bi-curious, but don’t forget that he mar- ried you for a reason. Why does he do it? What does he get out of it? This varies a lot. There are some people who do it for sexual gratification – maybe it’s just something he gets off on, and that’s the end of it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You might be ok with that, or you might not – but remember, it probably doesn’t affect how he feels about you! For other people, dressing up can be just a way of expressing some feminine aspect of their personality. Think of it as the male equivalent of being a tomboy. And then for others, they may internally feel like they should have been born with a female body. Does he want to be a woman? Possibly. This you can only find out by talking to each other. It’s certainly true that some people go from being a crossdresser to realising and accepting that they are transgender, but this is not a universal path. Just because you have discovered that your husband likes to wear women’s clothes does not mean he’s suddenly going to transition. Asking about the reasons as to why he does it will give you a much clearer idea. Who have I married? It’s worth bearing in mind that this is who they are, and who they have always been. Your husband has not changed – only your opinion of him might have altered given this new information. You might feel as though you’ve been tricked into marrying someone without knowing everything about them, and I can’t even imagine what that must feel like, which is why I always encourage people to try to accept this 6 part of their lives, and to share it with their partners. Why didn’t he tell me this? The reason he didn’t tell you is probably because he’s felt ashamed about it his whole life. For so many of us, we’re told that being men in our society means only doing manly things and conforming to the standard idea of what it means to be a man – certainly not acting in any way deemed feminine. Girly- men have been seen as jokes or a source of amusement. Confronted with a reality which would mock and ridicule you for being open about it, many men will hide or totally bury this part of them, causing depression and self-loathing. How far does he want to go? This is hard to say without asking him. It’s possible that maybe he wants to just do it indoors, or possibly go out while dressed. Some people are perfectly happy keeping it at home, and others feel like they need to be themselves not hidden away in a room somewhere. So what next? The best thing you can do is talk about it. Whether that’s with each-other, or with the help of a couples’ therapist, or a gender therapist if need be. If your husband doesn’t know that you’ve found out his secret, finding a way to sit him down and approach it gently would be advisable. To those of you who are into it, or don’t mind it – that’s awesome! For him, it’ll be great to have someone to talk to about it and share all sorts of things with, and for you, you might find that you suddenly have a lot more common interests! To those of you who find it disgusting – you may have a harder road ahead of you. It’s completely understandable if you feel this way, since this is not something you signed up for. But bear in mind that part of the reason why he’s been hiding it for so long is because he loves you, and doesn’t want to lose you, fearing how you might react. I will say this over and over again: This is not something we chose. If I could’ve just turned it off years and years ago, I would have, because due to the way society views people like us, it’s been a difficult journey full of shame and guilt. But having a partner who loves us and accepts us as we are… that can make your marriage even stronger.
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