Power & Control Wheel for men working to end gender based violence

Male Privilege TAKING SEXIST CREDIT FOR DIVISION OF WOMEN’S WORK LABOR Using quotes taught to us by “Leading” the anti-sexist men’s women, but not giving them credit. group while women reserve the When over-applauded, not room, take notes, bring food, crediting women leaders and etc. Expecting our first mentors. Claiming ideas job in the movement to as our own that are, in be at the top, rather DEMANDING fact, women’s ideas. than working our COMPETING INCLUSION way from the FOR FUNDING Criticizing women for being bottom. Writing grants that “unwelcoming.” Claiming men compete with women’s groups. are the “real” victims, and that Getting paid more than women there is a conspiracy to hide this. as speakers, consultants and staff POWER members. AND JUMPING UP FRONT CONTROL REINVENTING THE WHEEL Taking leadership and making public Starting “new” initiatives before statements before learning about the consulting with others. issues

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Created by Ben Atherton-Zeman www.voicesofmen.org Based on the Duluth Model Power and Control Wheel. Please only use these Wheels alongside the original Power and Control/Equality Wheels. Male Accountability Wheel

le Privilege MAcacountability WORKING EQUAL COLLABORATIVELY DIVISION OF Frequent contact with LABOR feminist women mentors/ Does the daily, unglamorous leaders – not just ones that work – follows through on agree with him. Holds commitments self and other men accountable. WELCOMING FINANCIALLY SUSPICION SUPPORTIVE Listens to and welcomes Gives money to women’s women’s suspicion – is an anti-violence groups - no “aspiring ally” competition for funding – pays women for their time EQUALITY OPEN TO LEARNING SUPPORTS WOMEN’S Takes classes and seeks guidance INITIATIVES before taking public leadership – Sometimes works behind the scenes continues to do so thereafter with no “glory”

THE SEEKING PERSONAL WOMEN’S R e IS POLITICAL GUIDANCE s p Examines own sexism, When over- e c racism, homophobia, use of applauded, credits tt violence and control women for leadership ng ni te Lis

Sexism Created by Ben Atherton-Zeman www.voicesofmen.org Based on the Duluth Model Equality Wheel. Please only use these Wheels alongside the original Power and Control/Equality Wheels.