The Goodland Daily News / Thursday, November 14, 2002 5 kit and carlyle herman Lack of affection puts love in doubt DEAR ABBY: I have a some- feelings. — MISSING MARY IN what heart-wrenching dilemma. abigail COLORADO Last night, I told my fiance that I DEAR MISSING MARY: Per- loved him so much I would be dev- van buren haps it’s because they were taught astated if something happened to as boys that it’s unmanly to express him. He didn’t say anything. Then •dear abby emotion — which they have inter- I asked him if he felt the same way. preted to mean that expressing He said, “Well ... probably.” Abby, heartfelt emotion is a sign of weak- he is not affectionate and there fell to the Japanese, and we were ness. Fortunately, in these “liber- have been many times when I have routed to Australia. Eleven days ated” times, that philosophy is doubted his love for me. He treats after we landed, I met the most changing because we now know my son like his own, though. beautiful girl in the world. that expressing one’s feelings is We’ve discussed this, and he al- On our first date, I told her I was healthy for both men and women. ways tells me I overreact. What going to marry her. I did, 18 DEAR ABBY: My siblings and should I do? — FEELING HURT months later, while on a 10-day R- I need your advice. We know our IN RENO and-R leave from New Guinea. stepfather is cheating on our DEAR FEELING HURT: You After more than 57 years of mar- mother, but we don’t know what are looking for reassurance; he’s a riage and two children, my beloved to do. We love our stepdad and poor communicator. Clip this col- “Mary” died five days before would never have thought this umn and be sure he sees it. Read Christmas. Although we agreed could happen — but it’s become a on: that our ashes were to be scattered cold reality. DEAR ABBY: I enlisted shortly over the mountains, I found I could We cannot just sit and watch our for better or for worse by lynn johnston after Pearl Harbor. Thirty-six days not part with hers. mother be taken advantage of. It later, I was on my way to the Phil- While Mary was alive, she feels like we are betraying Mom ippines. En route, the Philippines would frequently say, “You don’t by not telling her what we know. know how much I love you.” I’d She reads your column faithfully reply, “Likewise.” I never said, “I and has often clipped it for us to daily horoscopes love you.” Now her ashes are on read. Abby, please help us. We’re my dresser, where I tell her sev- at a loss. — NEEDING ADVICE eral times a day how much I love ASAP IN KENTUCKY her, but it’s too late. Although I DEAR NEEDING ADVICE: wrote poetry to her, I could not You have been placed in a terrible bring myself to say the three words position. Tell your stepfather what I knew she wanted most to hear. you know, and give him a deadline Friday, Nov. 15, 2002 As my dearest was dying and we to break off the affair — or else arlo and janis by jimmy johnson thought she was comatose, I told YOU will tell your mother. And if Maintain your lofty ideals and her, “There aren’t enough words to he doesn’t do it, follow through. standards because they will become tell you how much I love you.” A the magnets that attract success for few hours later, she whispered, you in the year ahead. There is great Dear Abby is written by Abigail “Not enough words” and died. Van Buren, also known as Jeanne promise for success. The reason I’m writing is to urge SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Phillips, and was founded by her men to express their feelings while mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Deal with a matter today that you their loved ones are alive. I don’t may have been avoiding, because Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com know why, but many men are re- or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, even difficult issues can be con- luctant to express the depth of their cluded easily and to your satisfac- CA 90069. tion at this time. Get a jump on life born loser by art and chip sansom by understanding the influences celebrity cipher that’ll govern you in the year ahead. Send for your Astrograph predic- tions by mailing $2 and an SASE to Astrograph, c/o this newspaper, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092. Be sure to state your zodiac sign. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — One of your greatest assets today will be your ability to express your ideas with great clarity. This can be an advantage that will work effectively for you both commer- cially and socially. dilbert by scott adams CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — A financial opportunity that comes about today through the kind- ness of another will have long-last- ing, beneficial effects. You’ll make the most of it by letting it work for you. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Sprinkle the points you’re trying to make to associates today with a touch of theatrics and they’ll be more easily accepted and remem- bered. Curtain up. daily crossword PISCES (Feb. 20-March 20) — peanuts by charles m. schulz Although the way things unfold to- ACROSS 43 Tempo TEALS F IGHT day may appear a bit mysterious, the 1 Lions’ manes 45 Contented sighs MOSSES L I NEAR possibilities for acquiring something 6 Hoarded 47 Nonverbal OK ART I S T A L UMN I material you’ve been wanting may 10 Suffused 50 Contributors I TEMS BOER 12 Pool 52 Hard rains NERO GAS EVES fall right in your lap. 14 Damsel 54 Starchy food VEND DANE ARIES (March 21-April 19) — 15 Actress — 58 Rock clinger CUR LAGER NOT Lansbury 59 Sweltering Give a wide berth to your imagina- ORE STENO ESS tion today, but be sure to keep your 16 Huge 60 Not e’en once beings 61 Herd ASAP RYES visionary thinking realistic. 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Be humble about your accom- 14 15 plishment. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) — Coop- 16 17 18 eration and consideration will evoke reciprocal responses in all your deal- 19 20 21 22 ings with others today. By establish- ing the example, shared assignments 23 24 25 26 27 28 become relatively easy. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — 29 30 31 32 33 When inspiration strikes today, put 34 35 36 37 garfield by jim davis it to work for you, especially in ar- eas involving your work or career. 38 39 40 41 42 Your perceptions will enable you to pick up on things others overlook. 43 44 45 46 LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — It’s all the nice things you say and the 47 48 49 50 51 gracious way you handle yourself when out with others today that 52 53 54 55 56 57 makes you so popular among your peer group. Enjoy the attention, you 58 59 deserve it. ©2002, Newspaper Enterprise 60 61 Assn.