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Owning and Training a Male Slave Ingrid Bellemare Owning and Training a Male Slave Ingrid Bellemare - 1 - www.male-slavery.com Owning and Training a Male Slave Ingrid Bellemare OWNING AND TRAINING A MALE SLAVE By Ingrid Bellemare Published by www.male-slavery.com January 2008. Copyright © 2008 by www.male-slavery.com, All Rights Reserved Worldwide. No part of this e-book may be copied or sold! - 2 - www.male-slavery.com Owning and Training a Male Slave Ingrid Bellemare Table of Contents THE AUTHOR .............................................................................................................. - 4 - INTRODUCTION.......................................................................................................... - 5 - CONSENT ..................................................................................................................... - 8 - QUESTIONNAIRE...................................................................................................... - 13 - DECISION TIME ........................................................................................................ - 17 - CONCERNING MARRIAGE ..................................................................................... - 21 - SAMPLE DECLARATION......................................................................................... - 24 - SLAVE APPEARANCE.............................................................................................. - 25 - CHASTITY .................................................................................................................. - 29 - PIERCING ................................................................................................................... - 35 - TRAINING................................................................................................................... - 37 - POSTURE & POSITIONS .......................................................................................... - 43 - ROUTINES .................................................................................................................. - 47 - DEMERIT MARKS..................................................................................................... - 51 - MEAL TIMES.............................................................................................................. - 53 - PUNISHMENT ............................................................................................................ - 56 - PERSONAL SLAVE DUTIES .................................................................................... - 60 - DOMESTIC DUTIES .................................................................................................. - 62 - SEX SLAVE DUTIES ................................................................................................. - 66 - BONDAGE .................................................................................................................. - 71 - BODY WORSHIP........................................................................................................ - 75 - PUBLIC BEHAVIOUR ............................................................................................... - 77 - HUMILIATION........................................................................................................... - 78 - TORTURE ................................................................................................................... - 83 - FURNITURE ............................................................................................................... - 90 - ORGASM & MILKING .............................................................................................. - 92 - SHARING the LIFESTYLE ........................................................................................ - 95 - SLAVE RULES ........................................................................................................... - 97 - FINAL THOUGHTS.................................................................................................... - 99 - USEFUL CONTACTS............................................................................................... - 102 - - 3 - www.male-slavery.com Owning and Training a Male Slave Ingrid Bellemare 1 THE AUTHOR Miss Bellemare is Swedish by birth but has lived in Holland for the past thirty years. In the 1980’s and early 1990’s she worked as a professional Dominatrix during which time she came into contact with literally thousands of submissive men. Bored eventually with the routine she opened a Women’s only Boutique in 1995 selling lingerie and SM equipment and at the same time took on Domination as a lifestyle. She acquired a personal live in slave who has served her 24/7/365 for the past ten years. Since then she has lived the full and varied life of a business woman with a submissive male kept largely at home to look after her needs. As an active member of a group of dominant women in the city and wider environment Miss Bellemare is well experienced in the control and training of submissive males. This book is written in response to the many requests from her friends and others who share her lifestyle. It is not a book for beginners or players but for serious people wishing to live the life. The book has been published by Miss Bellemare herself and is sold from her Boutique. The book is for dominant Females only. It is not for the eyes of males and Mistresses are advised not to let their slaves see any part of it. - 4 - www.male-slavery.com Owning and Training a Male Slave Ingrid Bellemare 2 INTRODUCTION As a naturally dominant woman and member of an active Society of Female Supremacists I have often been approached to produce a book on the subject of training male slaves. Research has shown that there are a number of published works on the subject and these form excellent introductions but have tended to concentrate too much on the search for a slave and satisfying the needs of both partners in a relationship which could only loosely be described as Mistress and slave. They focus, in my opinion, on agreed limits and practices and sensual domination rather than extending the slave’s servitude and moulding him into the slave required by the Mistress and owner. I have no interest in women who provide a service for submissive males on a casual albeit financial basis. Here the male is in control and sets the boundaries. Neither am I really interested in so called Domme/sub couples where ‘play’ sessions (Mistress and slave) are the order of the day. My concern here is to provide some guidance and ideas for the woman who is a true lifestyle Dominant wishing to own and be served by a real male slave. I want to move from the consensual Dominant/submissive role play situation to the far more satisfying lifestyle Mistress/slave situation in which he, having freely entered into the relationship has given up his right to be treated as a normal human being and has no choice (for whatever reason) but to submit permanently and continuously to his Mistress as a real slave. It is what I describe as contracted non consensual slavery. Having a slave is like having an automatic dishwasher: set it up and make it do the work. It is there to serve your needs. If something is not working right take corrective action until it's fixed. From sales in my boutique and from talking to others in the trade it is clear that Female domination of the male is on the increase. The demand for BDSM items and fetish outfits is at an all time high. Leather bras, panties, - 5 - www.male-slavery.com Owning and Training a Male Slave Ingrid Bellemare thongs and lots and lots of boots are literally flying off the shelves. Likewise bondage equipment like spreader bars, wrist and ankle cuffs, harnesses, collars, shackles, chains, stocks, bondage tables and whipping benches are selling faster than inventory can be maintained. When one looks and what is being sold it is clear that Female Domination is very much alive. Outfits and whips for women and CBT and chastity devices for men are leading the way in sales. I am fortunate to know several female friends who now live in this happy state of affairs of owning a real slave. A few have enslaved their husbands and trained them to a life of domestic and sexual servitude. Others have advertised for partners making it clear from the start the nature of the relationship required. Each of these scenarios can lead to a successful and fulfilling lifestyle but it has to be said that some women have confided to me that being married initially to their slave has, at times, introduced conflict in the relationship. A wife considering enslaving her husband should not be put off however but should be aware that conflicting feelings on her part and that of the slave may occur and she should be ready to deal with them. The main problem seems to be whether she should view him as a husband or a slave. It is difficult to do both at the same time. A husband is someone you love, care for and have concern for his feelings. A slave is someone you own who must serve and obey your every whim, accept your decisions and judgements in all things and whose opinions count for nothing. I have met a good number of couples who have this latter relationship and it is clearly very rewarding. I must admit that I have a very sadistic side to me. Not only do I wish to be served by a slave who is compelled to submit totally to my desires but I like to inflict pain and see him suffer though I would never cause permanent harm as I look after my property well. If people don't understand this behaviour
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