A submissive’s Initiative BDSM Checklist

Use this checklist to either gauge your own interests or sit down and go over it with your partner and discuss each topic together.

For each activity, there are three answers.

The first answer should be, if you’ve ever tried that activity before

• Yes = I have participated in this activity before • No = I have not participated in this activity before

The second answer should be your interest in engaging in that activity on a scale of 0 – 5.

• 0 = I have no interest/don’t like this. • 1 = Not very interesting/don’t really enjoy this too much. • 2 = This is alright. • 3 = This is nice/fun/interesting • 4 = I really enjoy/think I’ll enjoy this activity • 5 = I LOVE THIS/CAN’T WAIT TO TRY THIS

The third Answer would be to write any explanations or more information after your answers. Remember, the more information you have the safer/hotter/more fun things will be.

Examples:

Flogging: Yes/5 - I especially love to be flogged on my back!!!

Tickling: Yes/5 - My feet are my most ticklish place but I didn’t tell you that!

SEX: Boxing / Closeting:

Anal Sex: Caging:

Armpit Sex: Cock Bondage:

Ass Cheek Sex: Cuffs Leather:

Butt Plugs: Cuffs Metal:

Dildo – Anal: Duct Tape:

Dildo – Oral: Full Head Hoods:

Genital Intercourse: Gags – ball type:

Hand Job: Gags – bits:

Including others: Gags – cloth:

Licking: Gags – inflatable:

Massage: Gags – phallic:

Oral Sex: Gags – tap:

Strap On: Gas Masks:

Swinging: Gates of Hell:

Teasing: Harnessing – leather:

Vibrators: Harnessing – rope:

BONDAGE: Headphone/Earplugs:

Blindfolds: Masks:

Body Bags: Padlocks:

Bondage – full body: Plastic Wrap:

Bondage – Intricate Rope: Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs:

Bondage – Mental: Restraint Duration: 3+ hrs:

Restraint Duration: multiple days: S&M:

Restraint Duration: overnight/full day: Abrasion:

Restraint in public – under clothes: Anal Dilation:

Restraints – Ankle: Anal Fisting:

Restraints – Arm leg sleeves: Asphyxiation:

Restraints – Hand Cuffs: Bastinado:

Restraints – Leather: Beating – hard:

Restraints – Metal: Beating – soft:

Restraints – Rope: Belt/Strap:

Restraints – Thumb Cuffs: Biting:

Restraints – Wrist: :

Restraints – Wrist to ankle/neck/waist: Choking:

Silk Scarves: Clothespins:

Sleepsacks: Cock and Ball Torture:

Slings/Swings: Cupping/Suction:

Spreader bars: Electricity – Tens Unit:

Stethescope: Electricity – Violet Wand:

Stocks: Face Slapping:

St. Andrews Cross: Fireplay:

Straight Jackets: Flogging:

Suspension: Hair pulling:

Suspension – Horizontal: Hairbrushes:

Suspension – Inverted: Hot Oils:

Ice Cubes: Whipping – Taws:

Nipple Clamps: FETISH:

Nipple Torture: Abandonment:

Nipple Weights: Acrophilia:

Paddling: :

Pinching: :

Punching: Barosmia:

Riding Crops: Being Recorded:

Scratching: Body Worship:

Spanking – on all fours: Boot Worship:

Spanking – over knee: Castration Fantasy:

Spanking hard: Catheterization:

Spanking soft: Cock Rings:

Strapping – Full Body: Corsets:

Urethral Sounds: Cross-Dressing:

Whipping – buggywhip: Diapers:

Whipping – bullwhip: Douching:

Whipping – Cat: Enemas:

Whipping – genitals: Erotic Dancing:

Whipping – knotted : :

Whipping – Quirt: Fear:

Whipping – Signal Whip: Feathers/Fur:

Whipping – switch: Foot Worship:

High Heel Worship: Tickling:

Humiliation: Uniforms:

Latex: :

Leather: Wearing Fluids:

Lingerie: Wrestling:

Medical Instruments: POWER PLAY:

Oral/Anal Play: Begging:

Pain: Behavior Restrictive Rules:

Posing for Erotic Photos: Butt Plugs – public:

Public Exposure: Chastity Belts:

PVC: Clothing choice:

Recording Scenes: Cock Worship:

Rituals: Collar and Leash:

Shaving: Collars:

Skinny-Dipping: Competition:

Sensory Deprivation Crawling:

Spandex: Eye Contact Restriction:

Speculums (anal): Following Orders:

Spitting: Food Choice/Directed Eating:

Supplying victims: Forced Dressing:

Swallowing Semen: Forced Exercise:

Taking Erotic Photos: Forced Homosexuality:

Tasting Yourself: Forced Masturbation:

Forced Nudity: Sleep Deprivation:

Forced Servitude: Speech Restrictions:

Given Away: Standing in Corner:

Hot or Sensual Waxing: Struggling:

Housework: Symbolic Jewelry:

Humiliation – Private: Weight Gain/Loss:

Humiliation – Verbal: ROLE PLAY:

Kneeling: Fantasy Gang Rape:

Lecturing: Fantasy Rape:

Manicures: Initiation Rites:

Name Change: Interrogations:

Orgasm Control: Kidnapping:

Orgasm Denial: Medical Scenes:

Personality Modification: Physical Examinations:

Pussy Worship: Prison Scenes:

Serving Orally: Punishment Scene:

Sexual Deprivation: Schoolroom Scenes:

Serving as Art:

Serving as Ashtray:

Serving as Furniture:

Serving as Maid:

Strap on Dildos:

Important Questions:

Do you have any mental health issues that would impair or hinder a scene?

Do you have any physical health issues that would impair or hinder a scene?

Do you have any fears or limitations that would impair or hinder a scene?