Banaz: a Love Story
Banaz: A Love Story Banaz: A Love Story by Deeyah Khan The WVoice Vol. 2, No. 2 March 10, 2014 Print/Download The WVoice is an online publication advocating women's rights, published by Women's Voices Now. Volume 4 Volume 3 Volume 2 Volume 1 Video Issues About Contributors Submission Guidelines Subscribe Image by Alex Nabaum via The Wall Street Journal. I grew up in a community where honor is a form of social currency. It is a source of concern from the moment we are born. “Honor” can be the most sought-after, protected, and prized asset that defines the status and reputation of a family within their community. This burden weighs most heavily upon women’s behavior. This collective sense of honor and shame has for centuries confined our movement and freedom of choice, and restricted our autonomy. You cannot be who you are, nor express your needs, hopes, and opinions as an individual if they conflict with the greater good and reputation of the family, the community, the collective. If you grow up in a community defined by these patriarchal concepts of honor and social structures, these are the parameters by which you are expected to live. This is true for my own life and experiences. Autonomy is not acceptable, and can be punished by abuse, threats, intimidation, exclusion by the group, and violence, of which the most extreme manifestation is taking someone’s life— murdering someone in the name of “honor.” This is something that has interested me throughout my life because of my own experiences with meeting resistance and opposition to my forms of expression and life choices.
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