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Find your free-range family moments o matter how many camps, vacations or days you’ve planned to avoid those two dreaded words (“I’m bored”), summer always Nbrings a sense of freedom. That’s partly why we chose this time of year to tackle the challenge — and invite you, readers, to do the same — Dr. Roger Lucas, DDS of free-range parenting (“Free-range challenge,” p. 10). As I attempted Board Certified Pediatric Dentist 2014 for one month to loosen the leash on my two daughters (you can judge for Golden Teddy Dr. Diane Tung, DDS yourself whether I passed or failed), I was reminded again that parenting, Awards Board Certified Pediatric Dentist while such a universal experience, is also defined by very personal choices. I received an even more important reminder, though, this past Father’s Day. My husband and I had been joking recently that “we never do anything anymore.” Before we became parents and then when our kids were Mention this ad to receive a FREE electric toothbrush at your exam! small, it seemed like we spent every weekend on a hike, a ferry adventure or an exploration of a new part of the region. As our kids grew, so did commitments and responsibilities. Soccer games, swimming lessons, school 18833 28th Ave, Suite B, Lynnwood and work projects, and tasks at home often get in the way of one of the most important ingredients of family life:―unscripted fun. On Father’s Day we pushed ourselves out the door, dog and swimsuits 0515_lynnwood_kids_dentist_1-4.indd 1 4/20/15 8:04 AMin tow, on a multi-stop excursion that led us, at last, to discover Iverson Spit Preserve on Camano Island. As the sun warmed the shallow shore, we splashed, built driftwood forts and whiled away the afternoon. Forget free- range parenting, I thought to myself. Let’s go for free-range familying! My husband and I just marked our 13-year anniversary (according to Jewish tradition you could say we celebrated our relationship’s Bar Mitzvah — we’ve finally become adults!). On our anniversary, our daughters, 8 and 10, played a very special violin concert for us that included “Pachelbel’s Canon,” the song we walked down the aisle to at our wedding. What a gift. What a Life is full of fi rsts. lucky wife and mother I am. Take your fi rst step in saving My husband and l feel both our relationship and ourselves maturing. Time goes so fast. And yet we need to stop and remind ourselves to make for college today. space for that unscripted time, to put down the phones (see “Free-range With GET, enjoy tax-free growth that’s guaranteed to screens,” p. 29) and look away from our crazy schedules and just be together keep up with tuition. When it’s time for school, use it as families. I might not be the most chill-out, free-range mom, but I am anywhere in the country. 120 percent in favor of renewed free-range familying! We’d love to see your LEARN MORE: get.wa.gov • 800.955.2318 happy family adventures, too. This summer, Tweet us your pictures of family fun around Puget Sound, or post them on our Facebook page, using #SoundFamilyFun. However

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free-range challenge What happens when three protective parents hoping to build their kids’ independence loosen the leash a little? This summer, three families from different neighborhoods with kids of different ages found out. BY NATALIE SINGER-VELUSH he challenge didn’t seem so complicated, and the timing difficulties of extreme economic hardship, we wanted to — the start of a long summer full of wide-open days understand: How do we know how much freedom is right, and endless sun — was perfect. All I had to do was, for and when? Are we helping our kids, or hindering? What one month, let my kids loose. A little. As the editor of a would happen if we loosened up? leading parenting magazine, I figured I should be able to The debate over free-range parenting in the U.S. is in stark Tset an example for us hovering, paranoid American parents contrast to tales of laissez-faire European parenting, and to everywhere: Take a chill pill. Ease up on the leash. Re-lax. the stories we all carry from our own childhoods (how did Engage in the modern-parenting equivalent of smoking a we ever survive the hours outside until dinnertime, the solo bit of weed: Let my kids go free-range. bike rides, the experimental forest bonfires?). ParentMap’s team of editors and writers (most of us Three of us decided to take on the challenge first, in parents ourselves, of kids ranging in age from diapers to order to spark what we hope will be a fruitful conversation college and beyond) came up with the challenge idea after about the balance between independence and safety, reading months of increasingly divisive headlines about about building community and combating isolation — a “free-range parenting.” We had seen the stories of parents conversation about the worries and aspirations at the core criticized, even arrested, for allowing their children to play of our parenting — and to eventually issue a free-range at the park alone or walk to the school bus stop without challenge to other families (see Facebook.com/parentmap an adult. Aside from the occasional egregious examples for details). of neglect or poor judgment, and the choice-limiting Here’s what happened.

10 • July 2015 • parentmap.com a worrier mom is always anxious FAMILY: Mom, dad, two daughters ages 8 and 10.

NEIGHBORHOOD: A North Seattle suburb on a quiet-ish street with school, parks and busy streets nearby.

GOALS: Let kids walk to school alone, let kids play at park alone, let kids cook meals alone, let kids stay home alone for short stretches, let kids ride bikes around block alone.

All I had to do was give my two daughters, 8 and themselves, but mostly under supervision. turned, surprised to see 10 (and sheltered, according to many standards), The month of the challenge, I tried to pull back “I trust my me, and said, “I’m happy to more freedom than they were used to; to stop and allow some of the things my husband seems kids, but help you with that chain.” being so paranoid and infuse my children with a more comfortable with. Progress was slow, but it “That’s OK,” I answered. new sense of self-determination and initiative. happened. The girls rode around the block alone I don’t “We’re close to home.” Easier said than done, this worrier mom on their bikes (full confession: on his watch, not trust He could have been a discovered. mine). My husband also allowed them to walk the helpful neighbor ready First, some background. I grew up on the East couple of blocks to school mostly by themselves every to fix her chain. There’s Coast in a big city. Until age 11, I lived in a quiet while spotting them from the corner (I couldn’t stranger.” probably a 99 percent suburb, where I started walking to school by bring myself to do it). chance he was a kind myself, a few blocks away, in kindergarten (there They made several meals using the stove and passerby. were crossing guards). When I was 8, I took off oven completely on their own — something I now But there are three known sex offenders within a on my bike with my friends, unsupervised — but fully trust them with. half-mile radius of us, and 12 within a mile. my mom never let me outside after dinner, even I intended to try dropping them off at the Green I trust my kids, but I don’t trust every stranger. in the summer when all the other kids were out Lake playground and heading into the nearby And we’re in a city, not a 3-acre homestead. and about. In the sixth grade, I moved closer to Starbucks to spend a little time by myself. The plan This incident happened near the end of our downtown, and with my friends, I learned to take sounded great ahead of time, but I’ll be honest: I “free-range challenge.” If anything, it clouded any the metro and public buses all around the city. At chickened out. certainty I might have begun to feel about how 12, I babysat my 7- and 2-year-old brothers, plus I But later in the month, while visiting a friend much freedom to give my daughters. There are, babysat other people’s young kids on the weekend in the neighborhood one afternoon, my daughters for our family, no easy answers. I will continue to (what were those crazy parents thinking?). Still, I walked three blocks with their friend to the corner let my kids ride ahead on their bikes. I will leave had been sheltered compared to my husband, who store, bought their own treats, and walked home. I them at the park for a few minutes while I cruise grew up on a ranch in rural northern Arizona with even felt sort of OK about it afterward. Success! the block. But I’m not ready to let them travel the his hippie parents and eight siblings. Those kids Ultimately, I realized this: I’m mostly scared about neighborhood alone for any longer distance or were so free-range, they were practically laying people doing bad things to my kids, rather than leave them to play in public for a longer stretch. eggs. By age 5, my husband was walking 2 miles mistrusting my kids’ abilities to make smart choices. I’m not sure any of us can say whether we across the open desert to his bus stop; by age 7, he My fear presented itself one evening when I “succeeded,” but I can say that after a month of spent entire summer days on his bike exploring, took the kids on a neighborhood walk after dinner. testing the free-range waters, I learned something, miles from away from home; at 13, he woke up at I had begun to let them ride their bikes ahead, busted some self-created myths, confirmed 4 a.m. to cook oatmeal for the whole family before around the corner and up a block or two or three some fears and maybe edged a little closer to my leaving for a two-hour commute to school. while I dawdled with our dogs. On this night, the husband on the partner-parenting agreement scale. All of this freedom created fun for my kids’ kids rode ahead and out of my sight. As I rounded (Or maybe he edged closer to me: The bike story dad, built skills and responsibility — and also led the corner, I saw my 10-year-old stopped far up freaked him out, too.) to occasional danger. “I don’t know how we didn’t the block, examining her bike chain, which had It also became clear that as parents, we all bring get killed out there,” he says, not to put too fine a come loose. At the same moment I spotted ahead so many different experiences, strengths and point on it. of me, near her, a young man in his 20s with a dog, vulnerabilities to our child rearing. You can probably guess we have slightly different smiling from across the street at my daughter. He “Free-range,” it turns out, means different things parenting philosophies. looked like he was about to approach her. I hurried to each of us. I tend to hover. I do let my kids do things for up and asked loudly, “What’s wrong?” The man — Natalie Singer-Velush >>

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free-range challenge continued from page 11 single mom in the city focuses on safety BY JAZMIN WILLIAMS FAMILY: Mom and one daughter, age 5. NEIGHBORHOOD: A diverse, Seattle Central District neighborhood near a community building, a field, and well-used bike path, with schools, parks and high-traffic streets nearby.

GOALS: Build community with neighbors and other single mothers, gain a better understanding of how “hover parenting” is impacting my child’s life, establish practices to help increase opportunities for my daughter’s independence and development.

For one month, I tried to parent My daughter and I live in a very outside of my box. I explored active neighborhood in the Central what society is calling “free-range” District. The field and bike path parenting. Not only did I explore it, near our home are very well-used, I ended up evaluating myself as a but within this active neighborhood parent and what has led me to the is a lack of community. My choices I make for my daughter. neighborhood is not the same now as I had to spend the first few years it was when I was a child. My parents of my daughter’s life in survival were friends with our neighbors. The 0715_hibulb_1-4.indd 1 6/9/15 2:18 PMmode. Now that my daughter and I adults in the neighborhood watched LOOK MA, have exited that lifestyle, I find that out for the other parents’ children. I still hold onto the mind set that I There was not a single thing that they NO was in during that time. It’s hard to did not inform each other about. live and parent while being overly Sadly, those types of neighborhood aware of the dangers that are out relationships are gone. HANDS! there in the world. My mind goes I believe some of the changes our to the worst-case scenario when it community has undergone have left comes to my decision to take the residents feeling underserved and free-range approach to parenting my thrust into a state of survival, which At Capital Medical Center, we want to help your family have daughter. leaves us all disconnected. No one a safe and carefree summer. That’s why our specially trained Taking on this challenge, I has the time to get to know each emergency physicians and trauma-certified wondered how much of what I other when they have to continually nurses stand ready to handle even the most needed to teach her about safety worry about their income and she would actually absorb. With her employment, discrimination and serious medical situations — the moment being just 5, I hoped she would learn gentrification. People are not able to you need us — right here, close to home. basic safety procedures. I taught her feel attached to a community when Team with us for a healthy summer. Go to our phone number, how to access the the neighborhood is trying to force capitalmedical.com/summersafety for a free emergency call list on my cell phone them out of it. And I cannot feel and the name of our apartment comfortable letting my daughter Parent’s Guide to Summer Safety. building. I also taught her my full roam around a community where name and how to physically describe everyone is a stranger. For summer safety tips, visit me, in case she needs assistance to Finding it challenging to connect our website at capitalmedical.com. locate me in a crowd. I thought that it with other people in my community, 3900 Capital Mall Dr. SW, Olympia • 360-754-5858 • 888-677-9757 • capitalmedical.com would ease my mind if she knew how I tried to connect with other parents to handle herself during a situation. I at my daughter’s school. Taking wanted her to be prepared. advantage of free tickets to the Capital Medical Center is partly owned by some of the physicians who serve our patients. ©2015 BCI

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parentmap.com • July 2015 • 13 feature free-range challenge continued from page 13 anxious mom in the suburbs BY TIFFANY DOERR GUERZON FAMILY: Mom, dad, two daughters ages 11 and 15, and a son, 8. NEIGHBORHOOD: A working-class neighborhood within a south King County suburb rated no. 6 in WA to raise a family. GOALS: Allowing my 11-year-old to walk to the store with a friend. Teaching my daughter to administer her own epinephrine, and to independently choose safe foods for her peanut allergy.

Free-range parenting. As with many people feel that here in the U.S., we an EpiPen should the “Could I peanut could cause parenting theories, the pendulum are living one of the safest existences need arise. But when really let anaphylactic shock. of public opinion swings from one in history. I called the middle The very thought gives extreme to the other. I’m all for So why do visions of masked school to discuss Lucy’s her go out me chills. fostering my kids’ independence, men throwing my child into a car future health plan, the and eat My first two but where does freedom end and and speeding away still run through nurse recommended challenges merged unnecessary risk begin? my mind like a bad movie? Because that she carry her own something when my daughter My middle child, Lucy, is despite the reassuring statistics, Epi and know how to without had a friend over and currently pushing the boundaries hearing every abduction reported use it. Lucy’s allergist an adult they wanted to visit the of my parental comfort zone. Her on the 24-hour news cycle can strike agreed. We made an convenience store. Lucy friends often walk to a nearby fear into the hardiest of parents. appointment, and the present? ” walked with her friend convenience store to buy candy. Lucy But Lucy is almost 12. That short nurse trained her in and carried her Epi in a wants to join them, but I worry. It’s trip to the store makes me nervous, using the lifesaving backpack. She was also not the traffic — the intersection yet she’s probably old enough. As my epinephrine. I even had her inject an allowed to buy “safe” candy and eat is protected by a stoplight and first challenge, I decided to let her orange with an expired EpiPen to get it before she got home. I fretted until crosswalk. It’s the strangers. go. After all, she starts middle school the feel of the spring-loaded needle. she returned, bursting through the I know that stranger/child next fall, which leads to a related Lucy has been well-educated and door, grinning from ear to ear, lips abductions are rare. According challenge. prepared. She’s responsible about her stained blue from candy. Her pride in to the Polly Klaas Foundation, Lucy has a life-threatening peanut allergy and reads labels to choose doing something on her own almost the stereotypical stranger/child allergy. At her elementary school, “safe” foods. But could I really let her erased my fears. kidnapping makes up less than 1 every staff member, teacher and bus go out and eat something without My third challenge was percent of reported cases. Many driver is trained to treat her with an adult present? Even a trace of completely unexpected. My older

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5 6 7 COURTESY CENTER FOR WOODEN BOATS Jetty Island Opens! This two-mile-long, Funny Folktales from Around the Adventure Playground. Get busy building May the Fourth Be With You man-made island by Everett is a kid’s World. Storyteller Chris Fascione spins with tools in the woods; closed-toe shoes re- In addition to parades and fi reworks, our summer paradise of sand and water; you’ll comic and adventurous tales of unlikely quired. Tuesday, Thursday, Sunday, 1–4 p.m. calendar is packed with Fourth happs also fi nd programs from puppet shows to heroes. 10: 30 a.m. Black Diamond Branch, through Aug. 27. Admission by donation. such as slug racing in Issaquah; pie-eat- nature walks. Take the FREE foot ferry over 4 p.m. Bellevue Branch. FREE. Ages 5 and Ages 4 and up; under age 12 with caregiver. ing in Kent; dog-jogging in Bellevue; a (suggested donation $1–$2) daily through up. King County Library System. kcls.org Deane’s Children’s Park, Mercer Island. bike parade in Leavenworth and BMX Sept. 7. Marine Park, Everett. ci.everett.wa.us Cornerstone Café Open Play. Drop-in mercergov.org ONGOING EVENT Oxbow Family Farm Day. Hike the trails play and other family programs. Monday– Kirkland Summer Kids’ Concerts. Take the stunts in Tacoma. parentmap.com/fourth and poke around the kids’ farm, children’s Wednesday, 9:30 a.m.–1:30 p.m.; Thursday– tots to sing and dance with Cowboy Buck & garden and Living Playground. 10 a.m.–2 Friday 1–5 p.m. FREE; donations appreciated. Elizabeth. Tuesdays, 10–11 a.m. through Aug. 18. p.m. FREE. All ages. Oxbow Organic Farm Ages 5 and under with caregiver. Cornerstone FREE. Juanita Beach Park, Kirkland. kirklandsum- and Education Center, Carnation. oxbow.org Café, Seattle. facebook.com/FOCSCornerstoneCafe merconcerts.weebly.com ONGOING EVENT

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Dragon Fest. Pan-Asian street fair with lion Music Under the Stars. Expose kids to Grease. Share the fun of a senior year at dances, taiko drumming, martial arts and classical music where they don’t need to sit Rydell High with the next generation of fans $2 food walk. Saturday–Sunday, July 11–12. still; live student performance followed by as summer lovin’ cruises through town. July FREE. Chinatown/International District, a concert broadcast from Benaroya Hall. 9–Aug. 2. $29 and up. Ages 4 and up. The Seattle. cidbia.org Mondays, July 6–27, 7:15 p.m. FREE. 5th Avenue Theatre, Seattle. 5thavenue.org Seattle Outdoor Theater Festival. Columbia Park, Seattle. Lunchtime Entertainment Series. Greenstage, Theater Schmeater and other Grossology: The (Impolite) Science of Groove to the music of Arturo Rodriguez companies present 14 FREE shows in one the Human Body. A whole museum exhibit and the Rhythm Ambassadors and do a weekend. Saturday–Sunday, July 11–12. devoted to bodily functions? It’s a kid’s dream. hands-on activity. Tuesdays, July 7–Aug. Volunteer Park, Seattle. greenstage.org/sotf Daily through Jan. 3. Included with admission. 11, noon–1 p.m. FREE. Hamlin Park or JOAN MARCUS All ages. Pacifi c Science Center, Seattle. Richmond Beach Saltwater Park, Shoreline. ‘Wicked’ plays the Paramount pacifi csciencecenter.org ONGOING EVENT shorelinewa.gov ONGOING EVENT The deliciously inventive prequel to The Wizard of Oz follows two girls grow- ing up in Oz and how their friendship and 19 20 21 individual qualities shape the witches Bite of Seattle. Try tastes from dozens of Se- Kids Bowl Free. Find your local participat- Toddler Art Drop-in. Dress for mess and dig they become. July 8–Aug. 2. $50 and up. attle-area restaurants and food-product com- ing bowling center, register your kiddos into paints, crafts, gluing, sculpting and more. Ages 8 and up. The Paramount Theatre, panies; enjoy live entertainment on fi ve stages; and they bowl for free all summer long. Tuesdays, 10–11 a.m. $10. Ages 2–4 with care- Seattle. stgpresents.org and don’t forget to splash in the fountain and Times and rules vary by center. Locations in giver. Kirkland Arts Center. kirklandartscenter. check out the new playground. Friday–Sunday, Seattle, Tacoma, Burien, Everett and more. org ONGOING EVENT July 17–19. Seattle Center. Free admission; pay kidsbowlfree.com Raiders of the Lost Ark. Share this 1981 for what you eat. biteofseattle.com Disguise: Masks and Global African Art. classic with the next generation, part of the Kla Ha Ya Days. Carnival, bed races, ice cream-, Exhibit explores the nature and history of Movies @ Marymoor series. Wednesdays, July pie- and watermelon-eating contests, skydiving disguise, whether a costume or facial expres- 8–Aug. 26, 7 p.m. entertainment, fi lms shown demos and lots more. Wednesday–Sunday, sion, in contemporary art. Daily except Tues- at dusk. FREE; $5 for 7 p.m. early seating. Ma- July 15–19. FREE; some activities have fee. day through Sept. 7. Included with admission. rymoor Park, Redmond. moviesatmarymoor. Various venues, Snohomish. klahayadays.com Seattle Art Museum. seattleartmuseum.org com ONGOING EVENT

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Renton River Days. Cheer for the duckies MiniMondays. Kids get their hands on stuff Concerts in the Park. Live entertainment ‘Having It All’ at the Majestic Bay in the Rubber Ducky Derby (Sunday), watch with interactive pop-up exhibits around the Tuesdays at noon and Thursday evenings; At this ParentMap screening of the the parade (Saturday, 10 a.m.), get wild in museum. Mondays, 10 a.m.–1 p.m. through Tweenland plays today. Tuesdays, July 14– infl atables and more. Friday–Sunday, July Aug. 31. Included with admission. Ages 3–5 Aug. 18, noon–1 p.m. and Thursdays, July acclaimed local documentary, you’ll 24–26. FREE; fee for some activities. Liberty with caregiver. Museum of History & Indus- 9–Aug. 20, 6:30–8 p.m. FREE. Pioneer Park, laugh, cry and recognize yourself in the Park and other venues, Renton. try, Seattle. mohai.org ONGOING EVENT Puyallup. cityofpuyallup.org stories of three families embarking on rentonriverdays.org Zip Wild Adventure Courses. Climb, jump, Mindreading, Hypnotism and Illusion! starting a family. Q&A with fi lmmaker Ethnic Fest. Celebrate the cultures that swing, balance and zip on exciting challenge Teens practice special powers, then make a Vlada Knowlton and fi lm subjects to fol- make up the Pierce County community. courses. Daily through Sept. 7; reservations video of their new skills. 2–4 p.m. FREE; pre- low. Wednesday, July 29, 7 p.m. Majestic Saturday–Sunday, July 25–26. FREE. Wright required. $20–$60 plus park admission. register. Ages 13–18. Seattle Public Library, Park, Tacoma. metroparkstacoma.org/ Ages 5 and up. Northwest Trek Wildlife Park, Northgate Branch. spl.org Bay Theatre, Seattle. parentmap.com/ ethnicfest Eatonville. nwtrek.org havingitall

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A Seattle Children’s Publication | Summer 2015

Water Rescues: Stay Safe While Preventing a Drowning

Drowning is a leading cause of death among such as a life jacket, life ring, inner tube or children and teens in Washington State. inflatable toy. Empty, closed containers can Adding to these tragedies is when well- also work for flotation: a cooler with a tight meaning witnesses try to save a victim and lid, a capped water jug or even a fishing tackle instead drown themselves. Untrained people box. If a boat or any type of small craft is — even strong swimmers — should never nearby, row or paddle to the victim — and swim out into open water or wade into a bring along potential rescue items. If motor swift river to try to save someone. These boats or jet skis are available, cut the engine rescues should be attempted only by certified as you approach, being careful not to swamp lifeguards or emergency workers with special the victim with your wake or hit them with training and equipment. the propeller. So how can you take action to prevent a When children drown, they are often drowning without risking your own life? within 10 feet of safety: this may be the First, yell loudly for help and have someone beach’s shore or a dock, or a pool’s shallow call 9-1-1. Then you can reach, throw and row. end or its edge. In these cases alert adults can If the victim is close by, reach out to them paddle, a water ski, a fishing pole, a branch, make a quick rescue without putting while you hold on to something or someone or even a long beach towel. If you can’t reach themselves in any danger. Always keep sharp stable. Extend your reach with an oar or the person, throw them something that floats eyes on kids in and near the water. Swim where a lifeguard is on duty, but remain vigilant yourself; a lifeguard can’t always keep track of every child in the swim area. Drowning prevention starts at home. Seattle Children’s South Clinic in Seattle Children’s South will offer urgent Adults themselves should know how to swim, Federal Way Opens Summer 2015 care and more than 15 pediatric specialty and how to do CPR. Enroll your child in Seattle Children’s South Clinic will serve services. Services will be provided by the swim lessons at an early age. Model safe water families in south King and Pierce counties. same doctors and nurses who take care of habits: whenever you’re in a boat, be sure children at our hospital in Seattle. Our everyone wears a properly fitting life jacket, current Federal Way clinic will close August and have kids also wear them when in or near 12. Seattle Children’s South will open water. And of course, supervise your child August 18 in Federal Way. closely at all times.

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Tummy Time Is Important for Infants

Infants should always be put on their backs on one side or the back of the head. Tummy to sleep, both at night and for naps. But time can start from birth, when you put your when they are awake, it’s important they baby on your chest. Soon you can get down spend some supervised time on their on the floor with them and encourage them tummies. Tummy time helps develop neck to lift their head and upper body, and reach strength and overall strength, and it helps for toys. babies prepare to crawl. It also prevents positional plagiocephaly or ‘flat head TO LEARN MORE: syndrome,’ which is when a flat spot develops Visit www.seattlechildrens.org/pdf/ce1704.pdf.

Window Falls Can Be Prevented

Every year, children are injured and even killed open a window more than 4 inches, install a when they fall out of windows. Children under window guard that can be easily removed by 7 are at greatest risk. These tragedies can be an adult in an emergency. Make it a house rule prevented with safety devices and careful to play at least two feet from windows, and habits. Keep in mind that window screens are keep furniture and other things that can be not safety devices. They are designed only to used for climbing away from windows. If you keep bugs out, not to keep kids in. When visit a place where windows or balcony doors screened windows are open, kids may lean or are not child-proofed, close and lock them push against the screen — popping it out of during your visit, and watch your child the window frame and tumbling out after it. carefully. On windows that pose a fall risk, install child safety window stops that prevent windows TO LEARN MORE: from opening more than 4 inches. If you must Visit www.stopat4.com.

Your Teen’s Transition to Managing Their Own Healthcare

Our job as parents is to help example, starting when your Once teens start driving and have their own our kids become capable, child is 12 or so, you may be busy schedules, they can make their own confident and independent — asked to step out of the room medical appointments. How can parents stay so they can someday make their during the exam and medical informed of important medical information own way in the world. One big interview, and then step back in while respecting their teen’s privacy? It can be step toward adulthood comes in for the end of the appointment. tricky. Again, your child’s doctor will have their teens, when they begin to This builds your child’s some ideas. If your teen has any chronic health take more responsibility for confidence and sense of conditions or disabilities, the transition will their own healthcare. At age 18, responsibility. Parents can help require more planning and teamwork; at 18 teens gain legal control over these by ensuring their teen carries a they may wish to sign an agreement giving you decisions, so it’s important that health insurance card, knows legal authority over their medical decisions. everyone begins preparing for the names and doses of the Eventually, your child’s doctor will help this transition ahead of time. medicines they take, and your teen transfer to adult care, typically Your child’s doctor can be a understands their own health around the end of high school. great help. Many have formal history — including plans to help their patients learn immunizations, allergies and TO LEARN MORE: to manage their healthcare. For chronic conditions. Visit www.seattlechildrens.org/goodgrowing. 0715_GG_FINAL_0715_GG_FINAL 6/21/15 3:17 PM Page 3

Kid Bits

Traveling? Don’t Forget the . . . Lactose Intolerance Model Safe Habits When Walking Traveling this summer? Be sure to take the We hear so much about lactose intolerance. More than ever before, kids who are gear and supplies you’ll need to keep everyone What is it? Some kids and adults have walking while using their smart phones safe. Plan ahead, and start a list well before problems digesting lactose, a natural sugar in and other devices are being injured by your travel date. If you’ll be flying and renting milk and milk products. Eating or drinking vehicles. Starting when your child is very a car or driving with others, bring your child’s these products can cause stomach cramps, young, talk about walking safety. Model car seat. Mentally walk through the activities gas and diarrhea — usually within 30 minutes safe habits yourself, especially when you may do and the gear they’ll require, like to 2 hours. Sometimes the symptoms are so crossing the street or walking through a life jackets and bike helmets. Bring a sunhat, severe a person can’t tolerate any lactose at parking lot. Let your child see you remove sunglasses and sunscreen for everyone. In all. For others, symptoms are mild enough your music ear buds, put your phone away addition to a first-aid kit, pack the medicines that they can limit the amount of dairy they and look both ways before stepping into you might need — both prescription and consume. For most people it’s a lifelong the crosswalk. Calls, texts and emails can over-the-counter. If you’re visiting problem that can be managed with diet wait for later. Tell older children this is grandparents, you might want to bring along changes. But sometimes it’s a temporary how you expect them to cross safely. And doorknob covers and safety latches. Planning problem, caused by antibiotics or infections. of course, don’t handle your phone when ahead saves time and money, and helps keep If you suspect your child may be lactose driving. Our kids watch us closely, and your family happy and safe. intolerant, see your doctor. they do as we do!

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Explore tidal front, Tacoma. freedomfair.com FEE: Free WHERE: Seattle Children’s admin. building, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. explore nature on short hikes that are per- paint a kite to be included in the park’s life on low-tide days with help from volunteer Seattle Civic Band. Mark our country’s WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, 6901 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle WHERE: Overlake Medical Center fect for tots. 10–11 a.m. $2. Ages 2–5 with third annual art-kite installation. Thursdays, beach naturalists. 10:45 a.m.–2:15 p.m. FREE. birthday with patriotic tunes. Saturday–Sun- 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle 1035 116th Ave NE, Bellevue caregiver. Seward Park Audubon Center, noon–2 p.m. through July 30. FREE. All ages. Dash Point State Park, Federal Way and other day, 2 p.m. through Aug. 30. FREE. Hiram M. Chittenden Locks, Seattle. nws.usace.army.mil CALL: 206-987-8080 WHEN: Saturday, Aug. 8, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Seattle. sewardpark.audubon.org Freeway Park, Seattle. seattle.gov/parks/ locations. 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One-day party teleconferencing outreach program in various 900 Pacific Ave., Everett FEE: $70 per parent/daughter pair; up at this historic site for pioneer-themed the summer at Olympic Sculpture Park, fea- lovely hidden garden for exploration and with triathlon, safety fair, live performanc- locations throughout Washington and Alaska. View more dates online $50 per extra daughter stories and crafts. Wednesdays, July 1–Aug. turing live entertainment, all-ages art-making a craft project. Fridays, 10 a.m.–1 p.m. es, KidZone fun, car show, outdoor movie FEE: $40 per person CALL: 206-789-2306 26, 1–2 p.m. By donation. Ages 3–8 with and tasty food-truck fare. Thursdays, 6–8 p.m. through Sept. 2. $7/family. Ages 2–6 with and more. 10 a.m.–11:30 p.m. FREE; some Autism 200 Series caregiver. Kruckeberg Botanic Garden, activities have fee. Fort Steilacoom Park, CALL: 206-987-9878 for all locations families. Job Carr Cabin Museum, Tacoma. through Aug. 15. FREE; food for purchase. Se- Two-part series for parents, guardians and daughters jobcarrmuseum.org attle. seattleartmuseum.org ONGOING EVENT Shoreline. kruckeberg.org ONGOING EVENT Lakewood. cityofl akewood.us FEE: Free For youth, ages 11 to 14. Topics for responsible ages 10 to 12. Focuses on the physical changes of Wicked. This Broadway smash prequel The Magical Adventures of Super Reader. Derby Days. Carnival, fun run, pancake Obliteride Kids’ Ride. Kids pedal a pint- WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, babysitting include basic child development, infant puberty and menstruation, what girls need to know to The Wizard of Oz tells the musical story Magician Jeff Evans’ show highlights some breakfast, live entertainment, bike race and sized course for cancer research and for 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle care and safety, handling emergencies, age- about boys, social issues and sexuality. The sessions of two girls who grow up to become very exciting super powers enhanced by reading. parades make for nonstop fun. Friday– fun; afterward party at the Mercer Island CALL: 206-987-8080 appropriate toys, business hints and parent use lectures, videos, group activities and humor to diff erent witches. July 8–Aug. 2. $50 and 11 a.m. Fern Hill Branch, 3 p.m. Swasey Saturday, July 10–11. FREE; some activities Summer Celebration. 9 a.m. $25. Ages 3–13. For parents and caregivers of children with autism expectations. emphasize family values and communication. up. Ages 8 and up. The Paramount Theatre, Branch. FREE. All ages. Tacoma Public Library. have fee. Redmond City Hall. Mercerdale Park, Mercer Island. who wish to better understand this disorder. These Seattle. stgpresents.com tacomalibrary.org redmondderbydays.com obliteride.org classes are also available through Children’s video CPR and First Aid for Babysitters EVENTS and teleconferencing outreach program in various Bike Helmet Fitting and Giveaway 15 16 17 18 locations throughout Washington, Alaska, Oregon WHEN: Sunday, July 19, 9 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. and Montana. FEE: $60 per person WHEN: Saturday, Aug. 15, 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Pierce College Science Dome Show. JamFest. Wander the streets of Chinatown-In- Day Out with Thomas. If your little train Capital Lake Fair. Battle of the bands, WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus (view more dates online) Duck out of the sun to examine the night ternational District for art, music, cabaret and fan wants to meet the “real” Thomas, this carnival, parade (Saturday 5 p.m.) and fi re- Autism 207: Transition to Adulthood — Financial 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle WHERE: Covington Kohl’s sky inside the South Sound’s planetarium. snacks. July 16, Aug. 20, 5:30–9:30 p.m. $6–$8; is your chance; get tickets early. Friday– works fi nale (Sunday 10 p.m.). Wednesday– Planning CALL: 206-987-9878 17002 SE 270th Pl., Covington Wednesdays, 1 and 2:15 p.m. through Aug. ages 11 and under free. All ages. Wing Luke Sunday, July 10–19. $23–$25; ages 1 and Sunday, July 15–19. FREE; some activities WHEN: Thursday, July 16, 7 to 8:30 p.m. For youth, ages 11 to 15. Topics include pediatric CALL: 206-987-1569 12. $3–$6. All ages. Pierce College, Lake- Museum, Seattle. wingluke.org/jamfest under free. Northwest Railway Museum, have fee. Various venues, Olympia. wood. wp.pierce.ctc.edu Partake in summer fair Snoqualmie. trainmuseum.org lakefair.org CPR, treatment for choking, and first-aid skills. King County Fair. Autism 208: Transition to Adulthood — Lifelong Come get your child properly fit for a new bike Celebrate Woodinville Concert Series. fun like pig races, mutton-busting, petting zoo, You’re a Good Man, Charlie Brown. Sandblast Festival. Watch sand sculpture Students receive 2-year American Heart Learning: Enhancing Quality of Life Through helmet. Kids must be 1 to 18 and present to Enjoy a family picnic accompanied by live zip lines and carnival rides (additional fee). Theater camp actors present the antics of artist Kali Bradford create a temporary Community Engagement Association completion card. receive a free helmet. First come, first served. music. Wednesdays, July 15–Aug. 5, 6:30–8 Thursday–Sunday, July 16–19. $5–$7; ages 4 the Peanuts gang singing ‘Suppertime’ and masterpiece amid the usual arts-and-crafts WHEN: Thursday, Aug. 20, 7 to 8:30 p.m. No appointments needed. Learn more at p.m. FREE. Wilmot Gateway Park, Wood- and under free; kids free Thursday with paid other favorite songs. Friday–Sunday, July and live-music fair fun. Saturday–Sunday, For Boys Only: The Joys and www.MakeSureTheHelmetFits.org. inville. celebratewoodinville.com ONGOING adult entry and Sunday with KCLS library card. 17–19. $8. All ages. Auburn Avenue Theater, July 18–19. FREE. McCormick Park, Duvall. Autism 209: Toilet Training for Individuals with Challenges of Growing Up 2 EVENT Enumclaw Expo Center. cityofenumclaw.net Auburn. auburnwa.gov duvallarts.org Autism and Developmental Disabilities locations Free Car Seat Check WHEN: Thursday, Sept. 17, 7 to 8:30 p.m. WHEN: Wednesdays, July 22 & 29, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. WHEN: Saturday, Aug. 22, 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. 22 23 24 25 Overlake Medical Center WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, Babysafe Children’s Concert Series. Eric Herman Firefi ghter Story Time. Learn about fi re Hello Kitty Supercute Friendship Seafair Torchlight Run and Parade. The 1035 116th Ave. NE, Bellevue 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle WHEN: Saturday, July 18, 9:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. CALL: 206-987-5999 and Puppy Dog Dave have kids laughing safety and rub shoulders with some real Festival. Kitty fans gather for live stage big daddy of Seafair parades with Mariner FEE: $52 per family WHEN: Tuesdays, Aug. 18 & 25, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. and dancing during this entertainment se- fi refi ghters; check website for additional show, dancing, interactive activities, photo Grand Marshals Felix Hernandez and Rob- Come learn how to safely secure your child in the ries. Wednesdays, July 22–Aug. 19, noon–1 times and locations. 10:30–11 a.m. FREE. ops and more. Friday–Sunday, July 24–26. inson Cano, preceded by a run (6:30 p.m.). WHERE: Seattle Children’s admin. building, WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, car. Child passenger safety experts will check your p.m. FREE; food bank donations requested. Ages 2–5 with caregiver. Central Library, $20–$30. All ages. ShoWare Center, Kent. 7:30 p.m. FREE; fee for run. Along 4th Ave., 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle 6901 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle child in a car seat, booster seat or the seat belt Library Park, Mill Creek. cityofmillcreek.com Seattle. spl.org showarecenter.com Seattle. seafair.com CALL: 206-789-2306 View more dates online and answer any questions you may have. First Greenwood Seafair Parade. Folks from Shakespeare’s Comedy or Tragedy? The- Marymoor Grand Prix. Billed as the fast- Seattle Dragon Boat Festival. Sounds For new and expectant parents and infant FEE: $70 per parent/son pair; $50 per extra son come, first served. No appointments needed. near and far turn up for this evening Seafair ater students present scenes from Shake- est show on two wheels, this is the most ex- from the World Beat Stage accompany the parade. 6–8:30 p.m. FREE. Along N. 85th St., speare with opportunities for audience citing kind of bike race to watch; plus kiddie exciting races; kids’ activities, too. 9 a.m.– caregivers. Topics include infant development, CALL: 206-789-2306 baby safety, injury prevention and treatment. Seattle Children’s South Clinic Seattle. phinneycenter.org/parade participation. 4:30–5 p.m. $3 suggested kilo. 7 p.m. Friday and Saturday, July 24–25. 5 p.m. FREE. Lake Union Park, Seattle. Two-part series for parents, guardians and sons Infant CPR is demonstrated and practiced. donation. All ages. Seymour Botanical Con- $5; ages 15 and under free. Marymoor Velo- seattledragonboatfestival.net ages 10 to 12. Focuses on what each can expect as Community Open House servatory, Tacoma. metroparkstacoma.org drome, Redmond. velodrome.org Heartsaver First Aid, CPR and AED boys begin adolescence. Class covers body WHEN: Saturday, Sept. 12, 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. changes during puberty, popular myths about WHERE: Seattle Children’s South Clinic, 29 30 31 WHEN: Sunday, July 26, 8 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. growing up, behavior and attitude changes, girls, 34920 Enchanted Parkway South, Federal Way Gage Academy FEE: $60 and how to communicate about the experience of CALL: 206-987-1569 Hooked on History. Discover the roaring Everett Children’s Concerts. Save your Seafair Weekend. The pinnacle of Seafair free Teen Art WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus adolescence. 20s and the Jazz Age with games and activi- Thursdays for this rockin’ family music events featuring hydro races, the Blue Studio, at BAM, on This free, “hands-on” event for families with 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle ties, then head to Les Gove Park for summer series with faves such as today’s act, Play Angels, wakeboarding competition and Thursday evenings children features lots of fun activities, live music CALL: 206-987-9879 concerts. Wednesdays, July 1–29, 10:30–11:30 Date. Thursdays, July 9–Aug. 20, 10–11 a.m. more. Friday–Sunday, July 31–Aug. 2. FREE and a tour of the new clinic. Bring a doll or a teddy a.m. FREE. Ages 3–12 with families. White FREE. Thornton Sullivan Park, Everett. (or buy tickets for reserved seating). Lake For parents and caregivers. Topics include how to bear for a “check-up,” learn about water safety River Valley Museum, Auburn. wrvmuseum.org everettwa.gov ONGOING EVENT Washington, Seattle. seafair.com treat bleeding, sprains, broken bones, shock and and healthy eating, try an obstacle course and get Sounds of Summer Concert Series. No Gage Teen Art Studio at BAM. All teens Sunset Cinema. Music, games, food ven- other first-aid emergencies. Also includes infant, the kids fitted for a free bike helmet (while sitting still with the high-energy tunes of Hit welcome to explore creative expression dors and sitting under the stars for a movie; child and adult CPR and AED use. supplies last and wearers must be present.) Explosion on tap, plus free kids’ activities. and artistic techniques. Thursdays, 4–7 tonight’s feature is Dophin Tale 2. Check Wednesdays, July 8–Aug. 19, 6:30–8:30 p.m. p.m. through Aug. 27. FREE; preregistration website for additional sites and dates. Film FREE. University Village, Seattle. uvillage.com recommended. Ages 13–18. Bellevue Arts show at dusk. FREE. Kandle Park, Tacoma. ONGOING EVENT Museum. bellevuearts.org ONGOING EVENT metroparkstacoma.org ONGOING EVENT COURTESY GAGE ACADEMY

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0715_PM_Calendar Spread.indd 31 6/23/15 7:27 AM TUESDAY WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY SATURDAY 1 2 3 4 Summer Movie Express. Regal theaters Explore the Shore at Owen Beach. Stroll Lake Union Wooden Boat Festival. Free Seahurst Saturday. Family nature walk. 10 show family movies for summer — at a very the beach with a naturalist to search for boat rides, music, pond boat sailing and toy a.m. $2–$4; ages 4 and under free; preregister. cool price. Tuesday–Wednesday, 10 a.m. limpets, hermit crabs and other sea life at boat building, all in celebration of Seattle’s Seahurst Park, Burien. envsciencecenter.org through Aug. 19. $1. Multiple locations. low tide. 11 a.m.–1 p.m. FREE. Ages 5 and maritime history. Friday–Sunday, July 3–5. Tacoma Freedom Fair. Kiddie fun plus air regmovies.com ONGOING EVENT up. Owen Beach at Point Defi ance Park, FREE; fee for select activities. Center for show, car show, bike show, and fi reworks. Toddler Tales & Trails. Kids and caregiv- Tacoma. pdza.org Wooden Boats, Seattle. cwb.org FREE. 10 a.m.–10:30 p.m. Ruston Way Water- ers enjoy story time and then head out to Community Kite Painting. Stop by to Beach Naturalist Program. Explore tidal front, Tacoma. freedomfair.com explore nature on short hikes that are per- paint a kite to be included in the park’s life on low-tide days with help from volunteer Seattle Civic Band. Mark our country’s fect for tots. 10–11 a.m. $2. Ages 2–5 with third annual art-kite installation. Thursdays, beach naturalists. 10:45 a.m.–2:15 p.m. FREE. birthday with patriotic tunes. Saturday–Sun- caregiver. Seward Park Audubon Center, noon–2 p.m. through July 30. FREE. All ages. Dash Point State Park, Federal Way and other day, 2 p.m. through Aug. 30. FREE. Hiram M. Seattle. sewardpark.audubon.org Freeway Park, Seattle. seattle.gov/parks/ locations. Check website for more dates and lo- Chittenden Locks, Seattle. nws.usace.army.mil downtown ONGOING EVENT cations. seattleaquarium.org ONGOING EVENT ONGOING EVENT

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Summer Story Time at the Cabin. Meet Summer at SAM. First Thursday evening of Kruckeberg Garden Tots. Stop by this Lakewood SummerFEST. One-day party up at this historic site for pioneer-themed the summer at Olympic Sculpture Park, fea- lovely hidden garden for exploration and with triathlon, safety fair, live performanc- stories and crafts. Wednesdays, July 1–Aug. turing live entertainment, all-ages art-making a craft project. Fridays, 10 a.m.–1 p.m. es, KidZone fun, car show, outdoor movie 26, 1–2 p.m. By donation. Ages 3–8 with and tasty food-truck fare. Thursdays, 6–8 p.m. through Sept. 2. $7/family. Ages 2–6 with and more. 10 a.m.–11:30 p.m. FREE; some families. Job Carr Cabin Museum, Tacoma. through Aug. 15. FREE; food for purchase. Se- caregiver. Kruckeberg Botanic Garden, activities have fee. Fort Steilacoom Park, jobcarrmuseum.org attle. seattleartmuseum.org ONGOING EVENT Shoreline. kruckeberg.org ONGOING EVENT Lakewood. cityofl akewood.us Wicked. This Broadway smash prequel The Magical Adventures of Super Reader. Derby Days. Carnival, fun run, pancake Obliteride Kids’ Ride. Kids pedal a pint- to The Wizard of Oz tells the musical story Magician Jeff Evans’ show highlights some breakfast, live entertainment, bike race and sized course for cancer research and for of two girls who grow up to become very exciting super powers enhanced by reading. parades make for nonstop fun. Friday– fun; afterward party at the Mercer Island diff erent witches. July 8–Aug. 2. $50 and 11 a.m. Fern Hill Branch, 3 p.m. Swasey Saturday, July 10–11. FREE; some activities Summer Celebration. 9 a.m. $25. Ages 3–13. up. Ages 8 and up. The Paramount Theatre, Branch. FREE. All ages. Tacoma Public Library. have fee. Redmond City Hall. Mercerdale Park, Mercer Island. Seattle. stgpresents.com tacomalibrary.org redmondderbydays.com obliteride.org

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Pierce College Science Dome Show. JamFest. Wander the streets of Chinatown-In- Day Out with Thomas. If your little train Capital Lake Fair. Battle of the bands, Duck out of the sun to examine the night ternational District for art, music, cabaret and fan wants to meet the “real” Thomas, this carnival, parade (Saturday 5 p.m.) and fi re- sky inside the South Sound’s planetarium. snacks. July 16, Aug. 20, 5:30–9:30 p.m. $6–$8; is your chance; get tickets early. Friday– works fi nale (Sunday 10 p.m.). Wednesday– Wednesdays, 1 and 2:15 p.m. through Aug. ages 11 and under free. All ages. Wing Luke Sunday, July 10–19. $23–$25; ages 1 and Sunday, July 15–19. FREE; some activities 12. $3–$6. All ages. Pierce College, Lake- Museum, Seattle. wingluke.org/jamfest under free. Northwest Railway Museum, have fee. Various venues, Olympia. wood. wp.pierce.ctc.edu King County Fair. Partake in summer fair Snoqualmie. trainmuseum.org lakefair.org Celebrate Woodinville Concert Series. fun like pig races, mutton-busting, petting zoo, You’re a Good Man, Charlie Brown. Sandblast Festival. Watch sand sculpture Enjoy a family picnic accompanied by live zip lines and carnival rides (additional fee). Theater camp actors present the antics of artist Kali Bradford create a temporary music. Wednesdays, July 15–Aug. 5, 6:30–8 Thursday–Sunday, July 16–19. $5–$7; ages 4 the Peanuts gang singing ‘Suppertime’ and masterpiece amid the usual arts-and-crafts p.m. FREE. Wilmot Gateway Park, Wood- and under free; kids free Thursday with paid other favorite songs. Friday–Sunday, July and live-music fair fun. Saturday–Sunday, inville. celebratewoodinville.com ONGOING adult entry and Sunday with KCLS library card. 17–19. $8. All ages. Auburn Avenue Theater, July 18–19. FREE. McCormick Park, Duvall. EVENT Enumclaw Expo Center. cityofenumclaw.net Auburn. auburnwa.gov duvallarts.org

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Children’s Concert Series. Eric Herman Firefi ghter Story Time. Learn about fi re Hello Kitty Supercute Friendship Seafair Torchlight Run and Parade. The and Puppy Dog Dave have kids laughing safety and rub shoulders with some real Festival. Kitty fans gather for live stage big daddy of Seafair parades with Mariner and dancing during this entertainment se- fi refi ghters; check website for additional show, dancing, interactive activities, photo Grand Marshals Felix Hernandez and Rob- ries. Wednesdays, July 22–Aug. 19, noon–1 times and locations. 10:30–11 a.m. FREE. ops and more. Friday–Sunday, July 24–26. inson Cano, preceded by a run (6:30 p.m.). p.m. FREE; food bank donations requested. Ages 2–5 with caregiver. Central Library, $20–$30. All ages. ShoWare Center, Kent. 7:30 p.m. FREE; fee for run. Along 4th Ave., Library Park, Mill Creek. cityofmillcreek.com Seattle. spl.org showarecenter.com Seattle. seafair.com Greenwood Seafair Parade. Folks from Shakespeare’s Comedy or Tragedy? The- Marymoor Grand Prix. Billed as the fast- Seattle Dragon Boat Festival. Sounds near and far turn up for this evening Seafair ater students present scenes from Shake- est show on two wheels, this is the most ex- from the World Beat Stage accompany the parade. 6–8:30 p.m. FREE. Along N. 85th St., speare with opportunities for audience citing kind of bike race to watch; plus kiddie exciting races; kids’ activities, too. 9 a.m.– Seattle. phinneycenter.org/parade participation. 4:30–5 p.m. $3 suggested kilo. 7 p.m. Friday and Saturday, July 24–25. 5 p.m. FREE. Lake Union Park, Seattle. donation. All ages. Seymour Botanical Con- $5; ages 15 and under free. Marymoor Velo- seattledragonboatfestival.net servatory, Tacoma. metroparkstacoma.org drome, Redmond. velodrome.org

29 30 31 Gage Academy Hooked on History. Discover the roaring Everett Children’s Concerts. Save your Seafair Weekend. The pinnacle of Seafair free Teen Art 20s and the Jazz Age with games and activi- Thursdays for this rockin’ family music events featuring hydro races, the Blue Studio, at BAM, on ties, then head to Les Gove Park for summer series with faves such as today’s act, Play Angels, wakeboarding competition and Thursday evenings concerts. Wednesdays, July 1–29, 10:30–11:30 Date. Thursdays, July 9–Aug. 20, 10–11 a.m. more. Friday–Sunday, July 31–Aug. 2. FREE a.m. FREE. Ages 3–12 with families. White FREE. Thornton Sullivan Park, Everett. (or buy tickets for reserved seating). Lake River Valley Museum, Auburn. wrvmuseum.org everettwa.gov ONGOING EVENT Washington, Seattle. seafair.com Sounds of Summer Concert Series. No Gage Teen Art Studio at BAM. All teens Sunset Cinema. Music, games, food ven- sitting still with the high-energy tunes of Hit welcome to explore creative expression dors and sitting under the stars for a movie; Explosion on tap, plus free kids’ activities. and artistic techniques. Thursdays, 4–7 tonight’s feature is Dophin Tale 2. Check Wednesdays, July 8–Aug. 19, 6:30–8:30 p.m. p.m. through Aug. 27. FREE; preregistration website for additional sites and dates. Film FREE. University Village, Seattle. uvillage.com recommended. Ages 13–18. Bellevue Arts show at dusk. FREE. Kandle Park, Tacoma. ONGOING EVENT Museum. bellevuearts.org ONGOING EVENT metroparkstacoma.org ONGOING EVENT COURTESY GAGE ACADEMY

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AROUNDPlaying PUGET pioneer SOUND Pan for gold, make cheese, milk cows, and more frontier fun BY LAUREN BRADEN

or kids, stories of life on the Western frontier chicken eggs, planting seeds and shucking corn. His conjure daydreams of wild, free adventures bathroom was an outhouse, and heat came only from — covered wagons rolling through a herd of the potbelly stove. It was the 1950s, but his stories buffalo, finding dinner by bow and arrow, and sound more like he grew up a century earlier. I watch churning real butter beside a campfire. The my 6-year old son listen intently to his grandpa’s pioneers sold most of what they owned, said homesteading tales and am inspired to bring such good-bye to family members forever and walked adventures to life for him, if only for a weekend. for months through the great unknown. Kids grew up These pioneer-era-inspired day trips around Puget Fquickly. In the frontier territories, even the youngest Sound are fun, educational and offer curious kids the were given chores and real responsibility that aided the chance get hands-on lessons in living simply off the family’s survival. You might say pioneer kids were the land the way natives and homesteaders once did. And original free-range children. with renewed interest in urban homesteading these My own father grew up in a rustic farmhouse in days, you may even find a chance to put some of these rural Ohio. As soon as he could walk, he was gathering skills to use on your own settled plot in the city.

22 • July 2015 • parentmap.com Playing prospector FLICKR CREATIVE COMMONS / LYNDI & JASON Cascadia was a land of plenty in the late 1800s, and drew settlers in search of fertile land to farm, furry animals to track, seas to sail, mineral deposits to mine and old-growth trees, as far as the eye could see, to harvest. Here are some fun ways to revisit those days. KLONDIKE GOLD RUSH NATIONAL Families can pan for gold HISTORICAL PARK: When news of gold in in streams around Index the Yukon spread across the continent in 1897, some 100,000 prospectors streamed into the DIY GOLD PANNING IN SNOHOMISH pan for gold in permitted months (this varies region with hopes of striking it rich, and Seattle COUNTY: The roots of mining and panning by stream, but is usually in July–August). The was the gateway for that migration. This free, for glittering gold go all the way back to the Washington Department of Fish and Wildlife interactive museum in Seattle’s Pioneer Square 1870s, when settlers began mining along a creek publishes the free booklet Gold and Fish to provide neighborhood tells that story through historical north of Index. Gold in the sand and gravel of tips, recommended streams and guidelines for artifacts and two floors of interactive exhibits. streambeds can still be recovered by panning. recreational gold panners. You must carry it with Enjoy gold-panning demos daily in summer, 10 Simple gold-panning kits are inexpensive to you. Download it at wdfw.wa.gov/licensing/mining. a.m. and 3 p.m. No entrance fee. Open daily in purchase at sporting-goods stores and on Amazon. (Note: Gold panning is primarily for fun and is summer, 9 a.m.–5 p.m. 206-220-4240, nps.gov/klse To protect fish habitat, follow guidelines and only unlikely to fill your kids’ piggy banks!) >>

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continued from page 21 Pioneer arts And crafts Before machines made quilts, baskets and candles, such everyday items were Thursday Aug 6 & 13 7 pm handcrafted at home and often considered works of art, if not labors of love. Traditional crafts are making a comeback, and today’s kids will cherish the Friday Aug 7 & 14 7 pm knowledge of how to create useful, beautiful items with their hands, just like yesterday’s kids did on the frontier. Here are some places to get “back to Saturday Aug 8 & 15 2 & 7 pm basics” with crafts. PIONEER FARM MUSEUM HIBULB CULTURAL CENTER Sunday Aug 9 & 16 2 & 7 pm AND OHOP INDIAN VILLAGE: AND NATURAL HISTORY Performances at the Bellevue Youth Theatre-Crossroads Near Mount Rainier (and Northwest PRESERVE: The 4-year-old Native 16051 NE 10th Street, Bellevue Trek), this unique spot allows American museum in Tulalip offers $5 reserved seats families to see real homestead cabins a multisensory experience. Before from the 1880s and experience you see a single exhibit, you’ll notice For show information or tickets, daily chores of settler families. Try the beautiful craftsmanship of this call Sheila Framke at the Bellevue Youth Theatre Box Office, 425-452-7155. churning cream into butter, grinding museum and cedar longhouse. grains and carding wool. Climb into Wander interactive exhibits that tell a covered wagon, and then visit the the history of the Tulalip people through art such as story poles blacksmith shop to heat a horseshoe. and intricate wood carvings. Learn A tour of the Indian village offers how certain fishing, cooking and immersion in the everyday life of weaving techniques are unique to the Coast Salish peoples. Kids can Tulalip culture. Come here on a 0715_bell_youth_theater_NEW_1-4.indd 1 6/19/15 12:10 AMtry loom weaving, braiding leather, Saturday afternoon at 2 p.m. for and archery with a bow and arrow. the youth crafting workshop and They can even help chip out a canoe. make a traditional dream catcher, Tours of the museum and the village small basket or beaded jewelry item. (separate tours) are $8–$9 per person Open Tuesday–Friday, 10 a.m.–5 and last 90 minutes, with a discount p.m.; Saturday–Sunday, noon–5 p.m. if you do both in the same day. Open Admission for adults is $10; kids 5 and daily in summer, 11 a.m.–4 p.m. 360- older $6; kids younger than 5 free. 360- 832-6300, pioneerfarmmuseum.org 716-2635, hibulbculturalcenter.org

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24 • July 2015 • parentmap.com Chore thing: Kelsey Creek Farm

FARMERJAYNE.COM kids learn homesteading skills Homesteading on the range In the pioneer era, a family’s daily needs came directly from their land claim: logs or sod to build their home; veggies, berries and wheat from their fields; and meat, eggs and milk from their animals for food; plus, wool for their sweaters. Your kids can get a taste of farm life at these spots. FARM CHORES AT KELSEY bonnet from the selection of kids’ CREEK FARM: This picturesque pioneer garb. Hands-on activities working farm in the middle of include packing a small covered bustling Bellevue boasts a unique wagon with miniature gear and opportunity for children ages 2 and “cooking” a campfire meal with play older to experience farm life in the pots and pans. Each month there is most hands-on way possible — by a “Craft Saturday” with a featured doing. In summer months, take the activity, such as Popsicle-stick cabins “Kids on the Farm” tour and learn or small patchwork quilts (upcoming all about the care and feeding of the dates are July 25, Aug. 22, and Sept. goats, sheep, ponies and 19). Open Wednesday–Saturday, rabbits, then move noon-4 p.m. Admission Registration for Bellevue Parks & Community inside for a lesson Find a is free. 253-627-5405, on wool carding Services’ Summer Day Camps is now underway! covered-wagon jobcarrmuseum.org (children create load of pioneer fuzzy sheep to CHEESE-MAKING crafts at Don’t miss out on a summer packed with fun, take home). Call TOUR AT adventure, variety, and value. to schedule your pinterest.com MYSTERY BAY tour, which is $85 /parentmap FARM: These award- and covers as many winning artisan cheese Visit http://goo.gl/jyzSyy to find your fun as 15 participants. makers on Marrowstone this summer. Four more tailored kids’ Island, near Port Townsend, classes meet in fall, winter and spring offer hands-on cheese-making and months, and feature opportunities milking tours for all ages at their More Value for kids to participate in barn chores, small-scale, sustainable operation. animal feeding, baking and gardening. You’ll see how sustainable cheese More Variety 425-452-7688, farmerjayne.com is crafted, start to finish, from JOB CARR CABIN HOUSE: rotational grazing and humane More Fun Step into this log replica of Tacoma’s animal husbandry to the actual first nonnative residence and step artisan cheese making (and tasting!). back in time. Even the docents are in The tours start at $10 per person 425-452-6885 pioneer character! Your kids can join with kids 10 and younger free. 360- them by donning a calico dress and 385-3309, mysterybayfarm.com n

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Take the plunge 0–8 When, where and how to start swim lessons By Deanna Duff

ssaquah resident Tiffany Nance grew up Consult with a pediatrician for further advice. in San Diego, where the ocean was always “Water is a great place to bond with your child Inearby. She wanted her daughter, Jillian, and learn to read their cues and communication to love and respect the water, which is why she skills,” says Vera Garibaldi, founder of the Puget enrolled in a parent-child swim class when Jillian Sound area’s Waterbabies Aquatic Program. was 6 months old. A 2012 study by Australia’s Griffith Institute for Children as young “I was one of those kids in the 1980s who was Educational Research studied 7,000 U.S., Australian as 1 can benefit from thrown in the water to fend for herself,” Nance and New Zealand children who were swimmers says. “I didn’t want to use that technique for my at an early age. Results indicated that they reached swimming lessons daughter. I like the idea of being in the water with oral and visual-motor skill milestones faster. her, learning together and teaching her to enjoy it.” Redmond resident Dinky Aartsen enrolled her and hanging around lakes,” Garibaldi says. Research indicates there are advantages to children, now 4 and 2 and a half, in water lessons Waterbabies also offers beginner to advanced beginning formal swimming lessons at an early as infants. It was eye-opening to get to know them classes for children up to 10. The YMCA of Greater age. In 2010, the American Academy of Pediatrics in a different context. Seattle offers “Polliwogs” classes for 6-year-old (AAP) updated its previous recommendations “Especially having two children, it’s an beginners, and Seattle Parks and Recreation also to advise that children as young as 1 can benefit opportunity to have one-on-one time,” Aartsen offers a variety of youth lessons. from swimming lessons, depending on individual says. “My daughter is like a mermaid, and it’s a maturity and ability. It was a significant change in very freeing experience for her. My son is more Questions to consider AAP’s longtime recommendation that children cautious.” There are many types of programs, from one-on-one commence lessons at age 4. Focusing on fun is exactly what experts advise. instruction to group lessons. Regardless of a child’s More research is needed to further define the “The big thing with the little ones is not to expect age or skill level, what should parents consider when benefits, but a 2009 study by the Eunice Kennedy too much,” Bretana says. Meet the child where they selecting a location, instructor or type of class? Shriver National Institute of Child Health and are. You want them to enjoy the water and create a “It’s so important to click with your teacher,” Human Development indicated that formal swim lifelong opportunity to be fit and active.” Aartsen says, who was previously a Waterbabies instruction reduced the risk of drowning by 88 instructor. “It’s OK to shop around to find a percent in 1- to 4-year-olds. Safety skills location and person who accommodates your “It’s a multilayered benefit,” says Jan Bretana, Especially in the Northwest, where water is needs. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.” director of the aquatics program at the YMCA of everywhere, it’s never too early to learn safety skills. Bretana advises parents to attend classes and Greater Seattle. “First, it’s a time for children to “It is important for everyone to know how to observe. For children, how much class time is acclimate and enjoy the water. We later build on swim. No matter what age you are, you are never spent actually receiving instruction versus hanging that with swimming skills. It’s also a chance to too old to learn!” Garibaldi says. out? Are families offered the opportunity to build relationships and bond with their parents At Waterbabies, safe entry is a focus from the provide feedback? Ask if it’s possible to talk with or caregivers. And, of course, at every age, it’s an start: waiting to have parental permission to enter prior participants. opportunity to teach safety.” the water, and how to return to the wall and hang on. Programs should also include safety techniques “Also, make sure the pool has a lifeguard on Baby bonding, family fun while on land such as checking for lifeguards and duty. If the instructor is teaching swimming, they Many institutions offer parent-infant water classes knowing the dangers of cold water. can’t wear two hats at once. A lifeguard provides before swimming skills can even be learned. The Nance testifies to the benefits from firsthand overall safety surveillance,” she says. YMCA’s medical advisory board recommends 6 experience. When daughter Jillian was 2 years old, Of course, parents should inquire about months old as the youngest age for these programs. she lost her balance and fell off a dock. Thanks to teachers’ certifications and continuing education. According to Bretana, this is based on when her lessons, the toddler immediately knew to grab The U.S. Swim School Association offers teaching infants typically have enough head control to avoid the wall. courses, and many organizations require extensive, accidentally inhaling water, and their ears are Water and swim instruction remains equally in-house training. Make sure instructors have developed enough to lessen the risk of infections. important even when children start at older ages. basic first-aid and CPR training. YMCA infant classes include songs and games, “For school-aged children, it is important to Consider a pool’s water temperature. Especially blowing bubbles, leg movements and water learn safety skills in and around the water. This for younger children, a pool that’s too cold hinders familiarization. Parent participation is required. is a time when kids are attending pool parties their learning.

26 • July 2015 • parentmap.com “If it’s too cold, you start seeing through years of research that it kids getting wiggly and unable to helps build muscle strength so they stay still, even becoming upset. can better practice and embrace the It’s a sign they’re uncomfortable,” skills. However, we don’t want to see Bretana says. “In my opinion, the kids wearing flotation for the entire ideal temperature for small children lesson. That’s bad.” is 86–88 degrees. The very bottom Most important, make swim would be 84 degrees.” lessons fun. Not every child will Debate continues regarding develop into an Olympic swimmer, but parents should encourage basic whether flotation devices are helpful. skills. Maybe swimming will develop Like many professionals, Bretana into loving other activities, such as viewed them as a crutch and, for a snorkeling or boating. n long time, advised against it. “I’ve totally thrown that out the Deanna Duff is a Seattle-based window and embraced flotation, but freelance writer who contributes to it needs to be the right kind, such as a variety of regional and national float belts,” she says. “We’ve learned publications. ENROLL BY JUNE 30TH & RECEIVE 10% OFF YOUR FIRSTST MONTH OF TUITION

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