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Consent By Jim Duvall Lorem Ipsum Dolor National Coalition for Sexual Freedom The advocacy organization for US ncsfreedom.org Disclaimer This is not legal advice. You should talk to an attorney or go to law school before relying on this advice for any actions you might take. This information is presented as a philosophical discussion about consent and styles of BDSM play. Why is consent important? A Place On the Continuum Start F Here Felony Responsibility It is NOT your responsibility to prevent your sexual assault. It IS your responsibility to not sexually assault people. Consent verb (used without object) to permit, approve, or agree; comply or yield (often followed by to or an inﬁnitive): He consented to the proposal. We asked her permission, and she consented. Consent Prior Consent Continuous Consent Consent after the fact Prior Consent Consenting before en event occurs. A Contract Is not enough by itself in BDSM Continuous Consent Consent should exist for the entire duration. Can be withdrawn at any time. U.S. Constitution 13th Amendment Informed Consent Knowledge and understanding of exactly what you are consenting to. This is often used as a legal term in medical consent. BDSM examples of informed consent? Post Consent Often the reason for our current Domestic Violence Laws. Implied Consent Consent inferred by a persons actions. Sometimes by their silence or lack of protest. Revocation of Consent NO!!!! Safewords Leaving the Relationship Revocation is always legal Ignoring revocation is always a crime!!! Collateral Consent Bystanders Other partners Families Seductions Seeking consent can be sexy Shows you care Exposing your own vulnerability is hot. Consensual Non-Consent Prior agreement to the illusion of non-consent D/s play Rape Play Master/Slave etc When Someone Asks “NO” is a complete sentence “No, thank you” is better If you mean “yes”, say yes clearly If you hear a “No” respect it When Consent Breaks How big a break? Repairing Consent/Trust Complete Apology Say you are sorry List the things you did to harm them Say you are sorry Show empathy for the harm Clarify the cause of your actions Ask for forgiveness Describe your lesson List your correction Say you are sorry Stalk Me [email protected] Fetlife JimDuvall Facebook Jim Duvall http://www.jimduvall.com.

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BOUND BY CONSENT: CONCEPTS OF CONSENT WITHIN THE LEATHER AND BONDAGE, DOMINATION, SADOMASOCHISM (BDSM) COMMUNITIES A Thesis by Anita Fulkerson Bachelor of General Studies, Wichita State University, 1993 Submitted to the Department of Liberal Studies and the faculty of the Graduate School of Wichita State University in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of Master of Arts December 2010 © Copyright 2010 by Anita Fulkerson All Rights Reserved Note that thesis work is protected by copyright, with all rights reserved. Only the author has the legal right to publish, produce, sell, or distribute this work. Author permission is needed for others to directly quote significant amounts of information in their own work or to summarize substantial amounts of information in their own work. Limited amounts of information cited, paraphrased, or summarized from the work may be used with proper citation of where to find the original work. BOUND BY CONSENT: CONCEPTS OF CONSENT WITHIN THE LEATHER AND BONDAGE, DOMINATION, SADOMASOCHISM (BDSM) COMMUNITIES The following faculty members have examined the final copy of this thesis for form and content, and recommend that it be accepted in partial fulfillment of the requirement for the degree of Master of Arts with a major in Liberal Studies _______________________________________ Ron Matson, Committee Chair _______________________________________ Linnea Glen-Maye, Committee Member _______________________________________ Jodie Hertzog, Committee Member _______________________________________ Patricia Phillips, Committee Member iii DEDICATION To my Ma'am, my parents, and my Leather Family iv When you build consent, you build the Community. v ACKNOWLEDGMENTS I would like to thank my adviser, Ron Matson, for his unwavering belief in this topic and in my ability to do it justice and his unending enthusiasm for the project.
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