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As candidates were called, In a hypothetical race pitting the president most chose their own envelope or had a rep- against Biden, Sanders or O’Rourke, Trump resentative select for them. Moore is the only has 47 percent of the vote in Texas including candidate whose spouse, Patti Fink, selected 41 percent of independents. Biden gets 46 with her. percent of independents and O’Rourke and Adam Medrano, running for a fourth term Sanders each polled 48 percent of indepen- in District 2, chose position 1. He has two op- dents. ponents. Omar Narvaez, running for a second Among Texas voters, 47 percent have a term in Place 6, chose position 2. In 2017, favorable opinion of Trump, while 49 percent Narvaez defeated Monica Alonzo. Alonzo, is have an unfavorable opinion of him. now challenging Narvaez. In the senate race, O’Rourke and Cornyn To win, a candidate must receive 50 per- are tied in the poll at 46-46 percent. 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03.01.19 █ dallasvoice 7 Living the sustainable life

Fort Worth couple opens That work ethic came in handy when, city’s first zero-waste salon at age 16, he left home and struck out on his own after coming out as gay. “My TAMMYE NASH | Managing Editor mother was a very devout Christian, and [email protected] she really struggled with it all when I came out,” Benjamin said. “So I moved educe. Reuse. Re- out when I was 16, and I’ve been on my cycle. own ever since.” That’s more Benjamin and Justin first met and be- than just a catchy came friends as teenagers through AOL slogan for Fort chat rooms. They had a lot in common. Worth’s Novak Justin said he, too, grew up in a religious Hair Studios. It’s family, and when he came out at age 13, a way of life — for his father kicked him out of the house. the salon, and for its founders, Benjamin He said his parents then divorced, and and Justin Hudgins. he lived with his mother, who “has al- Novak Hair Studios, located on West ways been loving and supportive.” Lancaster Street, is the DFW Metroplex’s When his parents reconciled and re- only “fully sustainable” salon, and Fort married, Justin said, his father sent him Worth’s first “zero-waste” salon, accord- to conversion therapy and tried to “pray ing to the couple. But they hope that the the gay away.” Finally, he said, his moth- Fort Worth location is just the first of er threatened to leave his father again many Novak salons to come. if his father didn’t accept him, and that Living and working “green” is a fam- was the first step in what he describes as ily tradition for Benjamin Hudgins. his father’s “180-degree turn-around. In His grandfather, Novak Bullard, was a fact, he partnered with us” when Justin beekeeper in Oklahoma and one of the and Benjamin decided to open Novak. Benjamin, left, and Justin Hudgins designed and built Fort Worth’s first zero-waste hair salon, first to begin talking about the dangers They lost touch for a while, but then Novak Hair Studios. (Photo courtesy of Noval Hair Studios). of pesticides, their devastating effect on one day, Benjamin said he decided to the bee population and the vital link be- sign on to AOL again, “just to see if I and not for the better. tween bees and human life. could still remember my passwords.” As Novak Hair Studios is located at 250 W. But he was also working all the time, One of the first sights to greet visi- luck would have it, Justin — who had Lancaster St. near downtown Fort Worth. and his friendships began to suffer, as tors as they walk in and head to the re- moved from his hometown of Mansfield Reach them by phone at 817-592-4247 or did his relationship with Justin. And he [email protected] ceptionist’s desk are displays on facing to Florida to help his parents open a con- by email at . Cli- saw the same thing happening to oth- ents looking for a new hair stylist can call walls highlighting Bullard’s work and struction business there — happened to the salon, and receptionists there will help er stylists working to stay at the top of explaining his story — and how his pre- be online at the same time. match them with a stylist. The salon also their game and be successful. Benjamin dictions about the dangers of pesticides They renewed their friendship, and has an app, available in the Apple App believed he could create a system that are coming true. that friendship evolved into more. Jus- Store and on Google Play, that clients can would let him have a better work/life It was his grandfather’s work, Benja- tin and his family returned to Mansfield, use to find a stylist and set appointments. balance, and he wanted to be able to Novak Hair Studios also offers other min said, that first put him on the path and he and Benjamin became a couple salon services as well. share that with other stylists, too. toward a greener life — at work and at when Benjamin was 19 and Justin was That drive, coupled with his passion home. Novak Hair Studios — Novak is 22, and have been a couple for 14 years hair each year, and then traveled the for sustainability in his work and his per- also Benjamin’s middle name — is the now. country teaching those trends and the sonal life, “gave me my ‘why,’” he said. result. Justin has “always been drawn to cus- techniques necessary to create them to “I told Justin I wanted to build a com- Benjamin is the youngest of six chil- tomer service,” and has spent his adult other hair stylists. pletely sustainable salon. And he said, dren, raised in Allen by a single mother, life working in construction with his In that job, Benjamin said, he got the ‘Let’s do it.’” an “educated woman” who struggled to family and in restaurant management, chance to do and see “some really cool Justin and Benjamin worked together provide for her children. He said he in- Benjamin said of his husband. Benjamin stuff.” But it also gave him a chance to to design the salon, creating a mixture of herited his mother’s “strong work ethic” made a name for himself as an “inter- see “a lot of the same problems, over and modern and industrial elements, with a along with his grandfather’s passion for national platform artist,” which means over,” at salons all across the country, bit of Mid-Century Modern thrown in conservation. “I worked all my life, since he worked for a corporation as part of and the way that the “corporate culture for good measure. Justin was still work- they would allow me to work,” he said. a team that designed the new trends in was changing the salon experience” — LIVING, Page 10

8 dallasvoice.com █ 03.01.19 UMC upholds ban on LGBTQ inclusion

NICK TOTIN | Contributing Writer ebrating same-sex marriages and the [email protected] inclusion of openly-LGBTQ people in ministry. This plan was supported by a he United Methodist majority of bishops. Church has voted to A DFW area UMC pastor said this continue its prohi- week he believes the work for inclusion bition on LGBTQ will continue in the Dallas area. weddings and min- “Most of the Methodist leaders I know isters during a spe- are in shock,” said the Rev. Eric Folkerth, cial meeting of the head pastor at The Woods UMC in Grand general conference Prairie, formerly pastor of Northaven in St. Louis, Mo., this week. The dele- UMC in Dallas. “They believed there gation of more than 800 clergy and laity was a legitimate chance for a positive from multiple countries voted 438 to 384 change at this general conference and in- to approve the Traditional Plan. The TP stead the [Traditional Plan] was passed.” faced hours of delay as opponents of the The Traditional Plan still faces an up- plan made moves to stall the voting pro- hill battle to become church law, as many cess or make the proposal unable to be believe it is not in line with the church’s voted on. constitution. Protesters objecting to the adoption of the Traditional Plan protest outside the United Method- Another plan that aimed to be in- “It should be said that it is almost cer- ist Church’s 2019 Special Session of the General Conference in St. Louis, Mo., on Feb. 26. (Sid clusive of the LGBTQ community was tainly to be struck down by the Judicial Hastings/Associated Press) defeated on multiple accounts during Council,” Folkerth said. “But we cannot ing to me.” of the Traditional Plan. The delegates ap- general conference proceedings. The look past the fact that roughly 55 percent The Rev. Timothy Bruster from Central proved the motion by a vote of 405-395. One Church Plan would have allowed of delegates voted in favor of [it], and Texas made a motion to request the Judi- The Judicial Council is scheduled to churches to decide individually on cel- that is incredibly shocking and depress- cial Council review the constitutionality BAN, Page 11

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03.01.19 █ dallasvoice 9 LIVING, From Page 8 ing for his father’s construction compa- available to wash clients’ hair, a small to be recycled. All of the salon’s paper of eco-friendly products that will be as ny at the time and was project manager cubbyhole with studio lighting for be- products are made from recycled materi- green as their salon. “Right now, we for the salon build. fore-and-after photos of clients hair als, and even the hair clippings — which are working on packaging,” Justin said. Now Justin works full time at the sa- that stylists can use in promoting their in other salons are swept up and thrown Normal packaging for hair care products lon, handling the customer service/busi- work. And there is a loft lounge where in the trash — are reused, Benjamin said. can’t be recycled because of the chemi- ness side of things. Benjamin spends a clients undergoing some styling process “The hair is used to clean up oil spills in cals in the products they contain. “But couple of days a week “behind the chair” can wait in comfort and relative privacy, water,” he explained. imagine having an aluminum shampoo (working as a hair stylist). But he spends giving the stylists a chance to take care The couple used special fixtures on ev- bottle that, when it’s empty, you just the majority of his time handling the cre- of other clients in the meantime. ery sink and faucet that allow the salon bring to the salon and get refilled.” ative side of the salon, helping the stylists The space is open to the ceiling, where to use 65 percent less water than a “nor- As the original Novak Hair Studios who lease space there expand their own the ductwork and beams add a touch of mal” salon. And they installed a special nears its one-year anniversary, Benjamin knowledge and skill sets and continuing industrial style, and special touches — AC system that has 24 separate zones and Justin are already looking ahead the evolve the salon’s culture. like the “cloud” of Edison bulbs over the that can be individually controlled for toward their goal of expanding. “This Today, Novak Hair Studios — which reception area and original acrylic pour significantly higher energy efficiency. salon is our baby,” Justin said. “But we marks its one-year anniversary on March artwork by Benjamin and Justin them- The VRF air system — widely used in don’t want just one baby. We want to 23 — offers 41 studio spaces for “lux- selves on the walls — give Novak Hair Europe where energy use standards are have several babies.” ury solo artists” to lease, and 10 open Studios the high-end salon look and feel much more strict — also helps filter out Benjamin said he and his husband stations. The salon has a central recep- the couple aimed for in their efforts to the chemicals used in the salon, making hope to open a Novak Hair Studios “in tionist desk where salon-employed cus- provide clients with the “ultimate salon the environment much more pleasant Dallas, in Southlake, around the state tomer service specialists answer phones, experience.” (without the usual “salon smell”) and and beyond. There’s no limit. We’re help schedule appointments and greet But it’s the design behind the design much safer for the stylists themselves. looking to build a lifestyle brand, with visitors. Individual stylist-lease spaces, that really sets Novak apart — things Every aspect of the salon, the couple sustainability as a company culture. each with its own glass door, line four like the seven recycling stations located said, is built around the sustainability “We want to help create sustainable long halls. throughout the salon, including a cen- mantra of “Reduce, Reuse, Recycle,” communities,” he continued. “We as There is a centrally-located sham- trally-located one where the chemicals and they are working to expand their business owners have to stand up and poo station, where salon employees are are cleaned from the empty containers reach by developing their own brand make a difference.” █

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10 dallasvoice.com █ 03.01.19 churches in North Texas have made in the church he grew up in, and if my plans to separate from the denomina- younger son wanted to marry a man, I BAN, From Page 9 tion. He noted that it will take time for would have to look my younger son in meet in April in Evanston, Ill. Should the full implication of the Traditional the eye and say ‘I’m sorry but I raised the council find the Traditional Plan to Plan to be seen and that “what it all will you in a church where your brother can be unconstitutional, none of its changes mean for the North Texas Conference is get married, but you can’t’” Robinson will be implemented in the denomina- a story still to be written.” said. tion’s Book of Discipline. The current pastor of Northaven Robinson added that he is uncertain Following the vote on the Traditional UMC in Preston Hollow vowed to con- what his personal decision will be about Plan, the delegates voted on legislation tinue to defy the Book of Discipline and his church affiliation because of the vote to allow churches to disaffiliate from the hold same-sex wedding ceremonies in to approve the Traditional Plan. “It’s im- UMC and retain their property. That pe- the church despite any consequences. In portant to let queer people lead on this tition passed. a statement to the church membership, issue,” he said. “In the end I may leave According to UMNews, Council of which a member sent to Dallas Voice, the [the denomination] because of my kids, Bishops President Kenneth H. Carter Rev. Marti Soper said: “Northaven will but I will honor the LGBTQ people in said that bishops will have a heavy task continue to abide by the Marriage Pro- my church if they are in favor of just of outreach ahead. “We are going to do posal adopted on June 26, 2016 in which waiting it out.” a lot of outreach to progressives to say, our congregation voted overwhelming- However, for Robinson, if Northaven ‘We see you,’” Carter said. ly in favor of permitting all weddings at seeks to break with the Traditional Plan Bishop Michael McKee of the North Northaven.” and face the consequences, he would Texas Conference released a state- Andrew Robinson, a Northaven consider staying. ment following the conference: “To the member, said he was hopeful the Gener- “If we’re going to go back to doing LGBTQ persons in our churches and al Conference would support and pass weddings and participate in the church communities, I want to say that no leg- the One Church Plan. Robinson identi- equivalent of civil disobedience,” Rob- islation will change my conviction that fies as a straight, cisgender man and an inson said, he would support his church you are beloved children of God and LGBTQ ally. family and the LGBTQ community it that you can count on the churches of “I have two young boys,” he said. “I supports. North Texas to continue to be welcom- would be doing a disservice to them if I The general conference will meet ing and safe spaces for you.” raised them in the Methodist church and again in 2020 and has the opportunity to McKee did not explicitly say wheth- they grew up and my older son wanted take up new legislative petitions on this

er or not the conference or individual to marry a woman, he could get married issue. █

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03.01.19 █ dallasvoice 11 Not your grandma’s square dance

Pegasus Squares hosting Scoot Back to Big D event this weekend

DAVID TAFFET | Senior Staff Writer [email protected]

quare dance, explained Pegasus Squares’ former president Alan Jo- sephson, is “not a set dance.” It is, instead a set of calls, from the “caller,” telling the dancers what to do next. The caller calls steps from a list of known moves, and dancers follow his or her instructions to create an intricate pat- tern of moves and steps. Pegasus Squares dance at Grace United To participate in the lowest level of Methodist Church. (David Taffet/Dallas Voice) square dance, a dancer needs to know about 70 calls, Josephson said. The high- tion, Josephson explained, and dance est level has thousands of calls. To prepare either the “boy part” or the “girl part,” new dancers, Pegasus Squares will launch as square dancers call it. Josephson said 10 weeks of lessons later this spring. many LGBT square dancers are bi-danc- This weekend, Pegasus Squares is ual — dancing either part. But, he said, hosting Scoot Back to Big D, a fly-in, as it really doesn’t make much difference in members call it, or weekend event that dance steps. the group hosts every other year in ro- “Of 80 calls, four would be done dif- tation with the Lone Star Lambdas, Aus- ferently as a boy’s part or a girl’s part,” tin’s LGBT square dance club. he noted. friends and good exercise. not just country. [It’s] current music [by] Pegasus has been around since 2013, Another difference between LGBT Caller Darren Gallina came to Dallas current performers.” created after LGBT square dancing had and traditional square dance is that in a week before the fly-in with his hus- And, he added, the tempo is a little been absent in Dallas for about 10 years. straight clubs, square dancing is a cou- band to visit his in-laws. While he was in quicker than traditional square dance. Josephson, who helped form the cur- ples’ activity. The gay clubs grew up as town, Gallina called the regular Pegasus Full price registration Scott Back to rent group, was also a member of Big D singles events. square dance on Feb. 24 at Grace United Big D includes barbecue dinner on Sat- Longhorns, which danced from 1995 un- And because gender doesn’t matter, Methodist Church in East Dallas. urday night from Big Al’s and a souve- til 2003. Josephson added, transgender dancers Gallina, who lives in California, has nir T-shirt. A single session rate and an The current group is a member of are especially welcome and have become been calling for 40 years and has made all-day Saturday rate are also available. the International Association of Square a growing part of LGBT square dancing his living calling for the last three years. Sessions are about three hours. Dance Clubs, which has about 60 mem- clubs. He noted one major difference between And just how good are the Pegasus ber clubs around the country. In addition Josephson said gay square dances traditional and LGBT square dancing: Squares? Local member David Mof- to Dallas and Austin, San Antonio has an sometimes have a dose of Rocky Hor- “Ours is more high energy,” Gallina said. fat is the reigning Honky Tonk Queen, active LGBT square dance group. ror in them. For instance, when the call- “Gay clubs tend to be younger.” crowned at the 2018 national conven-

The main difference between LGBT er calls, “Spin the top,” the dancers re- Gallina will be calling at Scoot Back to tion. █ and straight square dance is the position. spond, “No tops here,” as the person in Big D. Scoot Back to Big D, March 1-3 at Sons A square is made up of four couples. In the “girl” position spins the dancer in the The other two callers at the Dal- of Hermann Hall, 3414 Elm St. $130 for traditional square dance, the man begins “boy” position. las weekend are Bronc Wise and Dale weekend, $20 for three-hour session, $50 for on the left and the woman on the right. And there are stylings to some of the Hodge. Wise is from the Rio Grande all day Saturday. For information, see Scoot- That formal configuration helps ensure calls that have added flourishes that Valley but used to call for a gay club in BackToBigD.com. no man would touch or dance with an- have become standard throughout the Denver. Hodge calls for an LGBT club in Pegasus Squares dances at 2 p.m. on the other man. LGBT clubs. Baltimore. Both are straight. second and fourth Sundays every month at In LGBT square dancing, it doesn’t re- Josephson said he’s been square danc- LGBT square dancing, Gallina said, Grace United Methodist Church, 4105 Ju- ally matter which part a dancer takes. ing for years because it’s a great social ain’t your grandma’s square dance: “The nius St. For upcoming classes and regular Some people have a preferred posi- activity, a wonderful way to make new music is contemporary,” he said. “And club activities, visit PegasusSquares.com.

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A gay son at his straight works for a he wished I had never been born. That conciliator over the breakdown in mine major airline created distance in our relationship that and my father’s relationship, hoping she father’s passing carrier, and lasted throughout the rest of his life. could help bring us together at his end. I can fly free But three hours after my brother I didn’t share that need. In my head, n Sunday, Jan. 13, anywhere in called, I was on a plane headed to Con- my presence was more about gratitude 2019, at around the domes- necticut, not certain what would unfold that he had given me life, even if my life 1:20 p.m, Lynell tic U.S. and during the trip and how I would process has been hell, and showing respect for Spiller, the man overseas. The it from a visceral standpoint. There were that. responsible for real issue was just a multitude of different tangibles Nothing more, co-creating me, whether I had and intangibles to consider. nothing less. made his tran- the will to I didn’t know what I might be fac- When we sition into infin- confront the ing, and that’s a position I hate being arrived at the ity. His passing past, our per- in. I want to be in control of all situa- rehabilitation wasn’t unexpected, because near the end sonal history, and make the trip despite tions, a result of being a childhood vic- facility, Torrie he had simply given up; he had a mas- what my heart was telling me. tim of molestation and sexual assault. initiated the re- sive stroke the day after Thanksgiving 2018, and he wanted to go. Unlike others who share the news with others of a parent’s passing on social media, often with glowing remem- brances and profound sorrow, I chose to remain silent until I had time to process what his death meant to me, and what my response would be. I did inform a small number of people, but for the most part I kept the information private until now. Despite being given his first name as my middle name at birth, we were not close. In fact, when he died, I had not seen him physically in three decades, and I had not spoken to him in more than 15 years. I had no real emotional attachment to or fond memories of him. So when my family was faced with his imminent death, I had some decisions to make — decisions I have thought about occasionally over the years. Primarily, I had to decide whether I would even make the trip to Con- necticut where he lived to see him for the last time or to attend his funeral, as I knew would be expected to do. As harsh as it may sound — and despite him being a responsible parent and providing for my needs from birth until the time I left home for college at age 17 — from an emotional standpoint he felt more like a sperm donor to me than anything else, if I am to be honest. From the moment he realized his son My husband arranged for my young- union by asking him if he knew who So when I received a call from my broth- was not like other boys, my father had est Spiller cousin — Torrie, who lives she was. He did and joyfully asked her er a week before Lynell’s transition, let- a problem with my sexual orientation. in Kentucky — to join me on the trip. about her daughter, Gabby, his great- ting me know Lynell may be on his way I vividly remember walking in on him She was more than happy to do so be- niece that he adored. Torrie then told out of here, I literally had to make what talking to someone on our wall phone cause my father was her favorite uncle. him someone else was there with her, seemed like a split-second decision about (he didn’t know I was in the bathroom But there was more to it: She wanted someone that had traveled really far to whether I would attempt to see him. behind him) and hearing him tell the a chance to say her final goodbye, but be with him, someone who was a male. Finances weren’t an issue; my husband person on the other end of the line that she also wanted to be there to serve as He was puzzled. He asked if it was my

14 dallasvoice.com █ 03.01.19 brother, and when she said no, he asked battle of wills — the old lion versus the “Lynell, stop acting a damn fool and let who served in the Korean War and if it were each of my brother’s two sons. not-so-much-younger lion. them help you!” He balled up his good spoke fluent Korean, who left military Torrie laughed and told him no. They Once when his nurses were trying to fist and retorted, “I will bop them and service and worked in an auto facto- lived nearby and so would not have change him out of his jeans into more anyone else, including you!” I looked at ry in Flint, Mich., eventually becom- had to travel far to be there. Confused, comfortable sweat pants, he was yelling him, steely-eyed, and said, “Old Man, ing a national UAW union officer and he again named my brother and his two and cursing up a storm about how they you ain’t bopping no damn body! Hell, credit union board member — gave sons, and again she told him no. were hurting him. I stepped in and very you can’t even get up from the bed.” He me what he could, which was a lot. This visitor, Torrie told him, firmly told him to calm down and let them glanced at me and said, “Well, if I could, Despite the lack of any emotional con- had come up from Dallas, Texas. to do their job. He wouldn’t relent, so I I would bop you all.” nection to him, I watched him in his side At that point, I interjected: “Lynell, you grew very impatient and said in a loud In that moment, I realized I inherited a businesses — carpentry and plumbing have TWO sons, and I part of his temper and bravado. — and now I am a DIY aficionado that am your oldest son. It’s Hmmmm. almost lives at Home Depot. He taught What I said next surprised him — I even me the importance of tipping people in surprised myself — but I couldn’t contain service-related careers, telling me if you it any longer: “Lynell, I don’t give a damn can’t afford to tip, you don’t get the ser- how bad you think you are, how much vice. He taught me how to hold down you cuss, or who you think you can bop. a household when unexpected events I cuss MUCH better than you ever could, occur and still come out on top. He and and I have always been STRONGER than Mother both stressed education, and you. So again, let these people help you, they have three college-educated chil- and stop causing all this damn trouble!” dren. He grew silent then, and with Tor- He tried to impart to me the im- rie on one side of the bed keeping him portance of saving your money, but calm, the nurses and I were able to that is still a work in progress (LOL)! change his shitty diaper successfully. The only thing he didn’t give me was the Then I washed my hands because some love I craved from my father. But as fate had gotten some of his waste on them. or the Universe would have it, my hus- The parent had become the child, and band’s late father, Melvin W. Craft (and the child had become the parent. his late mother Lucille) accepted me im- I can’t fully put into words how hum- mediately as a third son, and I got the bling that was for me. I also realized in parenting I needed as an adult. that moment that he and I were more I also received parenting from alike than different, and that had I been some of my friends’ parents (Hender- born heterosexual, we probably would sons, Thompsons, Abrahams, Holy- have had a great father-son relationship. fields, Colemans), so I have no regrets. During our last visit the following For members of the LGBTQ community Buster.” morning, before I left for the airport to who have experienced what I just went He replied, “Who?” voice, “Lynell, STOP IT! Give me your return home to my own life, I looked at through or will experience it in the fu- I calmly answered, “It’s Buster.” legs and let me make them more comfort- him with that same degree of gratitude ture, I want to leave you with this: Re- Using the side of his body not affected by able so we can get these damn pants on! for his role in bringing me here that I had gardless of your family dynamics, family the stroke, he leaned forward and looked He allowed me to straighten his legs out felt before, but also more compassion — situations that center around your sex- at me with the little vision remaining in and calmed down noticeably. “Lynell, more than I had realized I possessed — ual orientation, or challenging steps on his left eye (he lost sight in his right eye doesn’t that feel better now?” I asked, for what he was going through. your individual journey, know that you in a car accident when I was growing and he nodded. He was a great father to my siblings, are supposed to be HERE. You are not up). He stared at me, and he kept star- I noticed his stroke-affected side a loving sibling to his own brothers and a mistake, no matter what anyone says. ing, saying nothing. looked really uncomfortable and mo- sisters, and a favorite uncle to many of Live your life and live it OUT LOUD. Then he leaned back in his hospi- tioned for Torrie to pass me two pil- my cousins. But he was not the best fa- Your life is yours, and this is not a dress tal bed and said, “I don’t know you.” lows. I told him I was going to prop him ther to me or the best husband to my rehearsal! Do not waste time trying to My cousin gasped a little, but I busted up in the bed with the pillows. When mother (they filed for divorce a month love and please people that may not be out laughing. Why? Because I didn’t I was finished, I asked him, “Doesn’t after I arrived in Texas for college). able to return those affections. It doesn’t know if he were being mean or trying to that feel better?” Again, he nodded. But he was an EXCELLENT provider, mean you love them any less because be sarcastic, or if it were a combination The next visit, he was still giving the as was my mother. And as I reflect more they are your kin, but don’t lose your life of both. Either way, it was funny as hell nursing staff hell, particularly when intimately on his life and the lessons he behind it. to me. they were trying to change his diaper. passed down to me — not related to the I lost a lot of years doing just that and, I moved closer to the hospital bed and Despite how emaciated he was from the sexual orientation issue — I have to ac- at points, languishing over the failed re- with a resolve that he could not deny, waist down, it was then I realized that knowledge that as a black man in that lationship between my father and me. even as he was approaching death, I said, we had the same body type, right down time period, he did the very best with And in the end, that wasn’t fair to me.

“You may not want to acknowledge me, to shared age spots.\ what he had. I matter. And so do you. █ but I will ALWAYS be your oldest son.” Hmmmm. This boy from Port Gibson, Miss. Buster Spiller is a happily married, long- What would transpire during that vis- As he cursed and yelled, I lost my pa- — who became the man of the family time activist and award-winning playwright it and two others before he passed was a tience again and told him forcefully, when his father left my grandmother, from Dallas.

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Terri Schlichenmeyer, Leslie McMurray, Mathew Shaw, of physical suffering or mental anguish. ities of death And now, that role of the night watch- Brandi Amara Skyy, Mark Stokes, Jef Tingley, Casey Williams Photographers: Kat Haygood, Chuck Marcelo, Cassie Quinn In either case, death is permanent. in recent man is beginning again. This time The old adage that deaths comes in years. My though, it brings mostly pleasant mem- advertising threes resonates with me. I have wit- last surviving ories of those long-ago times. But it also Chad Mantooth Advertising Director █ 131 nessed the death people I consider uncle passed reminds me that the sunset has begun. Nicholas Gonzalez Advertising Account Rep. █ 115 Stephen Mobley MarketPlace Sales █ 123 friends. And I have participated in the about five There are lessons I learned from the National Advertising Representative decline and eventual demises of my par- years ago. My past that will serve as important guide- Rivendell Media Inc. 908-232-2021 ents, all of their generation and genera- friends and lines for how I process death as I age. I tions before. remaining relatives are in pretty good think that all of those friends, acquain- art But for me, the final category is the health. My husband, Will, is indestruc- tances and soulmates that were taken Kevin Thomas Art Director █ 119 Shawn Weston Graphic Designer █ 132 most difficult to process: the death of tible and will find company with the from me so young have left me stronger. our intimate partners or spouses and cockroaches after the eventual nuclear I’m not so afraid. I am not enraged. I do multimedia our children. I put these in the same cat- holocaust. not feel like I have to carry such a burden. Stephen Mobley Social Media Manager █ 123 Brian Kennedy Video Producer egory, because although the nature and I have almost felt insulated. I have forgiven myself. I have moved on. Israel Luna Video Producer/DVtv host the intensity of those relationships dif- Then last week I heard that a woman I did not do a great job of processing Brad Pritchett DVtv Host fer, the loss is quite the same. Both take from my high school graduating class death back then. I knew a lot of good Brandi Amara Skyy DVtv Host from you the very meaning of your own had died. Her passing was sad but not people in those days who became ill circulation reality. Who you are and who they were so unexpected. She died before her time, and met death early. Some of them I sat Linda Depriter Circulation Director █ 120 wound together intricately, and when but the progression has begun. Her with as their deaths approached. I vis- founders you are left behind, you have to find death felt familiar to me. ited a few but sometimes just abruptly Robert Moore █ Don Ritz new life because the life you shared with I moved to Dallas from San Francisco stopped visiting. I stopped calling, too. affiliations/memberships them evaporated the exact moment they at the onset of the AIDS epidemic, and And I became numb. I cared when Associated Press - Associate Member took their final breath. my partner at that time became sick very they died, but I did not register the loss. National Gay and Lesbian Journalists Association I am well versed in the nuances of soon after we moved here. When he died, I shut down the way very old people do Certified LGBT Business Enterprise death. AIDS gave me that knowledge. I found myself isolated. I had been entire- when they lose their entire generation. Founding Member - North Texas GLBT Chamber Founding Member - National LGBT Media Association So many people of all ages and orienta- ly involved in caring for him and had no These days, I’m involved with an or- tions learned the harsh lessons that the friends other than my co-workers. ganization called Educare that was cre- ravages of AIDS-related death handed I both amused and tortured myself by ated to address that exact situation. It’s out in those dark days. People around picking up a copy of the San Francisco called Compassion Fatigue, and it is the the world were fast-forwarded to an en- gay newspaper each week, reading the way we cope. counter with the ultimate ending. obituaries of those who had died that LEARNNG, Next Page

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There are methods to relieve the ef- Each time, I plan to be present. I plan fects of Compassion Fatigue; methods I to let each loss wash over me. I plan to could have used in the past and that I be devastated. I plan to recover. That is will use in the present as I move into this the price for our humanity. I want to ex- next chapter. perience each tender moment. █ Call for ter, you know I post a lot of material that an option for me. is political in nature. I often bring up Keep in mind, this has nothing to do political issues in conversations. Some- with the debate over whether a particu- times the response I get is that someone lar position is right or wrong; this is di- doesn’t want politics to “get in the way,” rected at those among us who decide to NOMINATIONS or they don’t want to “make people un- disengage completely from discourse. comfortable with political opinions.” As an over-60-years-old transgender I wish folks would understand how woman, my very existence is shaped by much privilege is involved in those political decisions. Being white and rea- statements. sonably well-off, I’m aware of my priv- If you think that a space or a relation- ilege, but still I have to fight for others ship can be non-political, it illustrates who aren’t as fortunate as I am. My life both your privilege and your benefit is now intertwined with the political, from the status quo. It highlights the whether I like it or not. privilege you have of being able to move Telling any person from any marginal- through life without being constantly re- ized group that you want to be “non-po- minded of the uncomfortable reality that litical” is hurtful. It’s like you are either your existence is political. denying that our struggle matters or you Look, I get it! I spent a good chunk are denying that our struggle even ex- of my life sitting lazily at the top of the ists. It tells me that you like things just privilege ladder, enjoying my trypto- the way they are, and, in your view, we phan buzz. should just accept it. Think about it: Can you walk down the I heard the term “majority rules” a lot street holding hands with your spouse as a kid. The inherent unfairness of that without risking harassment or assault? statement speaks to this privilege. So, if Can you be fired from your job or be the majority of people are in favor of op- denied housing because of who you are pressing a minority for their gain, that’s married to? Can a doctor legally refuse OK with you? you medical care? Can you vote in any It most certainly isn’t OK with me. election without a second thought be- That’s why being an American isn’t easy. cause your identification accurately re- Keeping things as they are isn’t being flects who you are? Can you use a public non-political. It is very political. Down restroom with your only concern being on the border, children are being sepa- how disgusting the facilities might be rated from their parents. In Mississippi, and not whether you will be assaulted? they just proposed a law that will allow If you answered yes, then congratula- teachers to harass transgender students tions. You probably don’t see the need in school. The gay and trans panic de- for changes in basic human rights be- fense is still used successfully in murder cause the Constitution singled you out cases. The Department of Education re- as one of the chosen ones. You don’t fuses to even process a discrimination need politics in your life. complaint from a transgender student. But what you need to understand is Are you OK with that? If so, that’s a this is not a zero-sum game! Giving me very political stance to take. Tacit ap- employment protection does not jeopar- proval is still approval. dize your employment. Keeping me safe If you are someone who thinks LGBTQ in the bathroom does not make you un- discrimination ended with Obergefell v. Tell us who you think should be the safe. Allowing me to see a doctor with- Hodges, the U.S. Supreme Court’s mar- 2019 Dallas Pride Parade Grand Marshal? out discrimination does not affect your riage equality ruling, then this message Nominations are now being accepted online. doctor/patient relationship. is for you. And if it makes you uncom- If you have a community leader you would like to nominate, I just can’t wrap my head around some- fortable, good. █ go to dallaspride.org/grand-marshal-nomination to complete a nomination form. one arguing against someone else’s equal- Leslie McMurray, a transgender woman, Nominations are accepted through Friday, March 22, 2019. ity in America! What has happened here? is a former radio DJ who lives and works in Voting is from Friday, March 29, 2019 to Friday, April 19, 2019. The simple truth is, putting politics Dallas. Read more of her blogs at lesliemi- Dallas PRIDE Weekend June 1 & 2, 2019 @ Fair Park aside and living a non-political life isn’t chelle44.wordpress.com. Don’t delay… make your nomination today! DallasPRIDE.org

03.01.19 █ dallasvoice 17 LIFE+STYLE Area real estate agents weigh in on how to generate curb appeal defining homes

hen it comes to real estate, professional W insight and advice are priceless in maximizing your home’s visibility … and asking price. So to save you the trouble The of asking everything, we posed the following question to four area Realtors: How do you describe the importance of curb appeal, and what are ways to Question increase it? Here’s what they said.

Curb appeal is the first impression a potential buyer has when they meet the agent at the property to view it, so it is extremely important. Additionally, many people are looking at homes on the internet well before they enlist the services of an agent, and in many cases, they are driving to the home to look at the exterior to get a feel of the neighborhood. As an agent, there are cases when I have driven up to a home with a client, and they tell me they do not even need to go inside the house, because they don’t like the look of the exterior. So how do sellers prepare their home so that this doesn’t happen? First, the home’s paint and condition should be evaluated and any issues resolved. Wood rot and caulking or brick mortar issues should be repaired. If the paint is old and faded, then it may need a new coat of exterior paint. Exterior covered porches or patio areas should be cleaned of dust, wasp nests, spider webs, etc. Landscaping plays a big role in curb appeal. Trees and shrubs should be trimmed and manicured. Flowerbeds should be weeded and mulch replen- ished where needed. Pops of color with flowers adds an inviting feature to any landscape. Even if you don’t plant any flowers, buy a couple of inexpensive pots and put some colorful flowers in them. — Tony Nuncio, Dallas City Center Realtors

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18 dallasvoice.com █ 03.01.19 L+S defining homes Finish line Tips to prepping your home for sale

f you plan to sell your home soon… well, plan for the same reason. The fresher the area is an important word in smells and looks, the happier potential I buyers will be. that process. You can’t just slap a for-sale sign down Step 4: Sharpen the look of any room and expect buyers to line up. Here are you can. Taking $20 or $30 to update some tips, culled with the assistance of a room’s look is well worth it when it GayRealEstate.com, for making sure comes to making your home look and your home is ready to get noticed, both feel more inviting. Add a fresh coat of inside and out. neutral colored paint, and make sure the flooring of the room is as clean and Step 1: Spruce up the outside for nice-looking as you can make it. Get the curb appeal. Since spring is upon us, carpets steam-cleaned if that hasn’t been make sure to trim bushes, rake the done recently, or have your wood floors leaves and make sure that the land- polished. Those simple changes can scaping is not cluttered or covering give your room a welcoming feel that walkways. Wipe down the mailbox and invites potential buyers in. make sure your front porch light works Step 5: Make simple repairs that to make your entryway more inviting. stand out. You may have gotten used Maybe even add a garden gnome. (We to not opening a window in that back asked several area Realtors for their spe- room because there is a hole in the cifics on curb appeal; see story Page 18.) screen, but a potential buyer doesn’t Step 2: Shine glass surfaces. Take know that. It takes a few minutes and the time to wash all of your windows, very little money to replace a screen. polish all of your mirrors and dust off Check all windows for these types of any reflective surface. If something as problems, and fix any you find. simple as mirrors and dusting is not The same goes with other areas of kept up with, what about the bigger your home. If you are so used to the im- parts of the house? perfections of your home that you don’t Step 3: Dust! One category of items in notice them, ask a close friend or family the home that often gets overlooked are member to look at your home objective- those that we never move. Vacuum your ly and point out any issues it may have. stationary drapes — or better yet, take Make a list of the things they point out, them to the dry cleaners. Spritz them and fix the things you have the ability (and your furniture) with Febreze to get to fix. This way, it shows that you gave them fresh smelling. Vacuum off any of your home a lot of TLC while living your furniture that will be there during there, which boosts buyer confidence in the open house or walk-through as well, your home. █

03.01.19 █ dallasvoice 19 L+S defining homes Picture Perfect

Go pro or DIY photography for your house on the market?

RICH LOPEZ | Contributing Writer pair of eyes — preferably an agent. [email protected] Drones hese days, everyone These cameras have almost revolu- is a photographer... tionized how houses can be viewed. T or perhaps “faux- From the sky to a smooth tour of the tographer.” Whether it’s a interior, drones give a tour from the high-end camera bundle comfort of your desktop or tablet. How- purchased for a bargain on Black Friday ever they may not always be the best or the iPhone X’s incredibly powerful choice … or necessary even. lens, the majority of folks are likely While drones can showcase a big ready to point and shoot. But what does house and lawn magnificently, it’s a bit that mean for your house when putting much for smaller spaces like condos it on the market? or apartments. Also, if your house is “Photos are the most important part obstructed by trees or dwarfed by larger of your marketing to drive a buyer to buildings, that money shot won’t make the home,” Realtor Mohammed Nour change. Jaber says. A professional is perhaps the ideal Now, figure out what your options are. option for this unless you can drive that camera like a Rolls Royce. Anything less DIY will show. Girl, you’re great at selfies in the club Professional or #FlexFriday after your gym pump has kicked in, but can your smartphone Unless you are a photographer, it is capture your house in its full glory? hardly a secret that a professional is the Baseline: Yes, but there are things to best option. While it can be done by you consider. What looks like a good shot or your friend with a great camera, a ready for Zillow could be missing out to pro will know all the tricks to showing the trained eye. Lighting, space, reflec- off your house in the best possible way. tions (this isn’t your Grindr profile) and But the easiest part about this is that tidiness need to show off your space at you can hire an agent who will handle maximum appeal. this for you. So not only is it one less No matter which latest version of your thing to deal with, also taken care of by phone you have, accessories can make someone who wants your home sold as your shots more desirable. A wide-angle well. The better the photos, the quicker lens for your phone will give a more the home will sell. realistic and precise view. Don’t trust “They have the know-how and the your hands for a proper still photo. With equipment to showcase the rooms your lens, consider a tripod or mount to better than a normal camera or iPhone set the camera for a proper shot. would do.” Jaber says. “A professional Your DSLR is your best bet if doing can ensure that the photos will evoke it DIY. Presets can take the shots you something in the buyer while capturing need, without much hassle, but before the best the home can be.” posting anything, run them by another █ PERFECT Page 24

20 dallasvoice.com █ 03.01.19 █ QUESTION From Page 18

and -selling process as a courtship. The your home’s curb appeal. Make sure curb appeal of the home is essentially the landscape is manicured and clean. Picture Perfect the outfit you would wear on a first Touch up the paint on the door. Consid- date. You really want to communicate er a welcome mat. Also make sure the who you are as a person to your poten- home itself is clean, like the windows. tial mate. Clean windows are like ice and look You want to do the same thing when much better from the outside. And you list your home for sale. A typical make sure that it is well-lit. buyer decides whether or not they want Try to get away from doing anything to buy a home in the first five to ten sec- that is too extreme with colors. Any- onds. I’ve had buyers decide they didn’t time you list a home, the more neutral even want to get out of the car as soon the better so that you can create that as we pulled up the driveway. So it is emotion for a buyer of whether they like important to comb through every detail. it or not. Painting the front door a bright and Some mistakes people make when cheery color, planting colorful flowers they think they are improving curb in the front and adding splashes of color appeal is spending too much on land- with well placed potted plants is a very scaping or painting the door a different cost-effective way to catch a buyer’s eye. color. That money should go to maybe It’s equally important that the home finishing the trim or cleaning. presents itself as clean and well kept. — Mohammed Nour Jaber, Wash the windows, brush the cobwebs The Summit Group at Compass Taylor Walcik out from eaves and make sure the yard is manicured. You only get one shot at a Many homebuyers will make a snap Remove clutter or debris, make sure missing or damaged windows, screens, first impression. decision when driving up, about the lawn and landscaping are tidy and neat, fencing, sidewalks or driveways. A fresh — Taylor Walcik, neighborhood, the home and the quality and when possible, plant some seasonal coat paint (inside or out) is always well

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03.01.19 █ dallasvoice 21 L+S screen Like a fine wine Legendary actor Kyle MacLachlan on his new gay dad role, reaching LGBTQ youth and his bear-loved rosé

n Giant Little Ones — which opens Dallas Voice: You’ve played dads before. in Dallas on March 15 — actor Kyle But what about Ray spoke to you I MacLachlan plays a gay divorced differently? Kyle MacLachlan: He had dad named Ray Winter parenting a dis- a journey in this as well, which I liked. It tant teenage son, Franky (Josh Wiggins), was really about the connection with his who’s grappling with his own sexual son, and at that age it’s very difficult and identity. Throughout his storied career, made even more challenging by the fact that the parents are separated. Under the the 60-year-old actor’s range knows no circumstances, Franky just doesn’t know bounds, inhabiting diversified worlds what to think or what to say, and I like that and traversing genre, from comedy to [Ray] really hung in there. I think in the drama, from soapy to supernatural. original draft he was maybe a little more He’s played an alien (The Hidden), an demanding, and so we kind of softened unlikely revolutionary (Dune), Fred that a little bit. There are still those issues, Flintstone’s boss, Riley’s dad (Inside but it was really important to me to feel Out), a coffee-obsessed FBI agent (Twin like Ray was there, and he wasn’t gonna Peaks) and a small-town kid into kink go anywhere and to remain as non-judg- (Blue Velvet). mental as possible. But his queer appeal runs especial- His presence is always felt, but he’s able ly deep. In his three decades in TV, to give his kid space at the same time. film and theater, MacLachlan has also I appreciated that he tells his son to played a city official based on first focus on who you’re drawn to and not what to call it, essentially letting him big-city openly gay Mayor Sam Adams know that sexuality is a spectrum. How (Portlandia), the guy who fucks Nomi did that resonate with you? That was a Malone in a swimming pool (Showgirls), really nice piece of writing on Keith’s part, Bree Van de Kamp’s husband (Desperate I thought — again, trying not to judge. Housewives), a sexually dysfunctional Especially at that age, I remember for mama’s boy (Sex and the City) and — be- myself just kind of trying to find where you cause why the hell not — Cary Grant’s fit in, what you’re good at, what you’re not ghost (Touch of Pink). Now starring in good at, who’s your group. There’s lots writer-director Keith Behrman’s Giant and lots of questions and insecurities that Little Ones as Helpful Gay Dad is a are masked by a false sense of identity or warm hug of a role he deeply feels is control or “I don’t want to hear what you say, I’ve got it figured out myself.” The important. One that, as a parent himself, idea of just being present, it’s the way I even hits close to home. approach the relationship with my son, Here, the actor talks about raising the not judging. I’m not going at it trying his son, Callum, much like Ray Winter to make him into something he doesn’t does, gay fans who slip into his DMs want to be. and bears who love his rosé. █ You were the stepfather of a gay son, — Chris Azzopardi Andrew Van de Kamp, on Desperate

22 dallasvoice.com █ 03.01.19 Housewives. Who does the better job was sort of hard and cutting-edge and ex- parenting a queer kid: Orson Hodge or posé and I think it kind of got away from Ray Winter? [Laughs] Orson, bless his him a little bit and became something else heart. You know, he had good intentions, that was unexpected. But at the same and there was an understanding there at time, we’ve all embraced it and said, “This attempting to connect. I don’t think Orson is where it went,” and I gotta say, the film was ever comfortable in that role. I think was probably gonna have a much longer Ray is more conscious and he’s a champi- life because of how it ended up than if it on, in some ways, for anyone who’s being hadn’t. If it was a film that we intended to judged. In this particular case, it’s “hang make, it would’ve been great and fine and on a second.” He’s sort of about turning OK, but now, it will live on forever. the page: “Let’s look at this and what’s Particularly at gay bars. At least there! really happening here.” I liked that. And And midnight showings! he does it with an inner strength and a For 2004’s rom-com, what was special firmness, but it’s not without a wry sense about portraying the ghost of Cary of humor, and that I liked about him, too. Grant who gives advice to a gay Mus- When were your eyes first opened to hav- lim man? It was really fun. First of all, just ing an LGBTQ following? I think it was the research alone was great. Getting to probably with Blue Velvet. Thematically, watch all the films, reading up about him, it expected so much of the audience and who he was as a person and the business it told a story that was so unusual and so side of things in Hollywood and how he true. That sort of started it, but I think with really, really created this persona, which I the advent of social media, suddenly it’s think he tried to get away from but it was really obvious and present. And it’s great. what he was known for. So I loved the How has it become obvious through research of it. social media? Just through comments, And the director, Ian [Iqbal Rashid], whose and it’s fun to read and great to feel the story this actually was, was so lovely and I support. And then because so much of see him occasionally when I’m in London. it is built around David Lynch, there’s a He’s just a terrific person and a very, very real shorthand just in terms of terminolo- talented director, and I was flattered. He gy and phrases, and because of David’s had actually seen me on the stage doing visuals and his images and his dialogue, a new play with Woody Harrelson and I of course. don’t quite know how he got there from I have a friend who says Blue Velvet was that performance [laughs], but he thought responsible for his sexual awaken- I’d be perfect. So that’s a pretty big ing. Is that what gay fans tell you on mantle to try to take on, and so we sort of Twitter? [Laughs] Maybe not quite so softened that a little bit and said he’s more personal! But you know, that’s film. Film the spirit of Cary Grant — he’s not exactly is all about experiencing something and Cary Grant. But I enjoyed stepping in having your eyes opened, and I think those shoes and trying out that language that film in particular was about that; the and that kind of attitude and that whole exploration of it and the themes of it were thing. And it’s got a beautiful message, so interesting, and they hadn’t really been and just the ending when he has to let go, dealt with that much. it’s very touching, I think. What kind of attention did Showgirls get In 2018, you were honored with a Dorian you from the LGBTQ community? I acting award by GALECA, the Soci- don’t think it found its camp niche until a ety of LGBTQ Entertainment Critics, little bit later. It had to go through the “Oh for Twin Peaks: The Return, and in my god, this is perhaps one of the worst 2009, Desperate Housewives received films ever made” reaction … and then outstanding comedy series award from people sort of said, “I think it was, in a GLAAD. Is there something special way, a guilty pleasure.” Then that began or distinct about having your work to grow, and there’s a true hardcore acknowledged by LGBTQ audiences following of it and that’s really fun. I’ve and organizations? Yeah, those stories never said, “Oh yeah, in fact, actually, — if they can speak to a community and that was the intention,” or, “Oh yeah, it’s there’s a resonance there — that’s the a great film” — it’s not a great film. But goal of this. They should be universal, but it succeeds at a level that I think is still I think that if there’s a relationship that can entertaining and fun. And why not? That’s be created then we’re doing a good job; our business. something that’s worthwhile that creates I was at a gay bar once and they were an emotional response and a connection, showing Showgirls on all the TVs. When that’s really what you want. I mean, that’s you shot that film, did you expect for what I want. it to live on as camp like it has? I think Your role as the mayor of Portland in we all entered into the film — certainly I Portlandia: Do you think that charac- did — looking at the creative side of it. So ter would make a good mayor of Twin you had really talented people — [director] Peaks or Wisteria Lane? [Laughs] He Paul Verhoeven, obviously — and I think wasn’t a really good mayor, but he was his intention was to do something that █ FINE WINE Next Page

03.01.19 █ dallasvoice 23 █ PERFECT From Page 20 █ FINE WINE From Previous Page He adds that the photographer incredibly enthusiastic! I think that was would also shoot in a way that takes the fun of it: He always got things a little out distractions so that buyers can see bit wrong but they kind of ultimately end- themselves in the house. So maybe ed up OK, with the help of Fred [Armisen] take down the Pride flag and personal and Carrie [Brownstein], certainly. But, photos for a more commonplace look. oh god, at least it would be a lot of fun to have him as a mayor of any community, Gasp! Right? But it’s only for the shoot. I think. Why haven’t we seen you in more openly Instagram gay roles? It’s a good question! You know, the work just kind of comes, and This could be the bonding experience it’s one of those things where once it sort you and your agent need. After learn- of filters through a little bit of whatever it ing if your agent will handle hiring a does in Hollywood it finds its way into my photographer, find out if he or she has inbox and you take a look at it. an IG account to post the photos. Then or wants to be. In fact, he attends a and people love it and now it’s not just Have there been gay roles you’ve turned you do the same. Or if you DIY-ing, school in New York and it’s all about that. for summer anymore, it’s not just for the down? It’s always about the quality hit up your own account — or maybe It’s all about the acceptance of every- Hamptons anymore. It can be year-round of the material, so if it there was, it just start a separate one — to highlight your one, and it’s a wonderful thing to watch and, yeah, it’s been really fun. And yeah, wasn’t worth telling. because that wasn’t my experience very supportive. house for sale. Hashtag it for days and But then you read something like Giant you’ll have a free marketing tool that’s growing up. Public schools, small town, In a queer context “bear” means a hairy, Little Ones… … And you know that it is outside of Zillow or Trulia or other usu- very conservative. Not unlike the situation chubby gay man, so it can’t hurt that a beautiful story. I had the reaction that of Franky, there was a lot of “however “Pursued by Bear” is the name of your al outlets. Plus, you can whip that out everyone had: This is a story that needed tough you are” and “whatever sports you brand. You know, I was really going after anytime in case it comes up in conver- to be told, and for any kids out there who play,” those are your identifiers. It’s nice the Shakespeare play, obviously, but sation or you hear someone’s looking. are having this kind of “I don’t know, I that he’s having a completely different yeah, not unaware and I thought, that’s And, you can see who’s following and don’t know” and they don’t have any- experience. kind of funny. There’ve been occasions liking for you and/or your agent to where to turn, it’s like, well, we’re not the In your spare time, you are a winemaker. where I’ve met a few guys — bears, you answer, but we’re at least an experience reach out and determine interest. The Are gay men some of your most loyal know — and they’ve said, “Oh yeah, I’ve to say, “You’re not alone.” drawback: it’s going to break up that rosé buyers? [Laughs] I should hope got this in my cellar.” And it cracks me up! stream of selfies if you keep it on your And a reminder to your own son that his so, for god’s sake! Rosé is one of those I’m like, “Fantastic, I’m glad you like it.” regular account. It’ll be OK, though. █ dad is OK with whomever he becomes crazy things: It just keeps expanding It’s good wine and it should be enjoyed!

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An act of kindness between a naïve girl (Chloe Grace Moretz) and a lonely older woman (Isabelle Huppert) leads to a twisted and dangerous obsession in ‘Greta.’

ARNOLD WAYNE JONES | Executive Editor Fear to Sleeping with the Enemy and on [email protected] — Greta deserves a place alongside its three closest sisters: Misery, Single rances (Chloe Grace Moretz) White Female and The Hand That Rocks has recently lost her mother and the Cradle, each of which put villainous F feels estranged from her father yet pathetic women at the crux of their (he has “moved on” too quickly, she fulcrums, applying pressure and ten- feels). So when Frances discovers a sion relentlessly until something snaps stylish handbag on a subway train, she … either the characters or the audience. jumps on the chance to treat its return From a purely visceral level, it’s the like an adventure. She tracks down the audience that succumbs first here. owner, a French sexagenarian named It probably should not have worked Greta (Isabelle Huppert), who lives out that way. The director and co-writ- widowed in her spacious but empty er, Neil Jordan, has a good hand at Brooklyn townhome. Greta invites turning the screws with weird twists Frances in for coffee, they chat, and (his most famous, of course, is The Cry- they seem to feed a mutual need for ing Game), but his output is erratic and each other: One serving as surrogate eclectic, from supernatural (The Compa- mother, the other as chummy compan- ny of Wolves, Interview with the Vam- ion. “Everybody needs a friend,” Greta pire) to horror/thriller (The Brave One, says at one point. Byzantium) to quirky gender-bending But things get creepy quickly. Greta comedies (Breakfast on Pluto). It’s dif- seems clingy; her motives opaque. ficult to parse sometimes which way When Frances attempts to cut off their he’s headed here; there are moments of friendship, she finds breaking up really (seemingly unintended) humor, tropes is hard to do. of stalker films that border on the phys- In the pantheon of crazy stalker films — from Unlawful Entry to Cape █ TWISTED Next Page

03.01.19 █ dallasvoice 25 █ TWISTED From Previous Page ically impossible a la Michael Myers, and Jordan lend Greta a pedigree, but of the urban woman of a certain age, of and Chaquita (Margarita Irun) are also then psychosexual drama and — at one its selling point is the cheap fun of forging friendship with people out- women in their 60s, though unlike Gre- key moment more than halfway in — freak-out scares, and the tease that side your social circle, with trying to ta, they are not alone — they have each unapologetic gore. In fact, if you think “this could happen to me.” put yourself in the context of a broad- other, and have for 30 years. Though too much about Greta, the plot holes Which could, possibly, give Greta er community and the dangers that from wealthy families in Asuncion, begin to look like potholes — deep, some staying power. In the same way entails. So don’t expect me to be nice Paraguay, they have fallen on hard dangerous, impossible to ignore. SWF triggered discussion of roommate to old ladies for a while. I mean, it just times financially, and have resorted to So best not to do that if you want to hell and Cradle made every young makes sense to be safe. selling off belongings — furniture, art, maintain your sanity. Forget the chop- mother question their choice of nanny, Now playing at Landmark’s Magnolia. silver — in order to get by. But Chaqui- py transitions, the almost too-efficient Greta makes the act of being kind to ta has gone a step further, defrauding scene cutting that denies the characters a lonely older lady seem as risky as The relationships at the center of her bank and is sentenced to a jail term. (or the viewer) any knowledge momen- having unprotected sex in Haiti. I can The Heiresses are less frightening but Chela struggles to get by without her tum. The presence of Huppert, Moretz imagine think pieces on the loneliness no more functional. Chela (Ana Brun) partner or an income, when an opportunity falls into her lap: Driving older ladies in the neighborhood around (even though Chela doesn’t have a li- cense and hasn’t been behind the wheel in decades). Soon her impromptu Uber introduces her to a new client, the much younger Angy (Ana Ivanova), whose presence introduces a wrinkle into this staid life. If you can’t tell from that description whether The Heiresses is a comedy, or a drama, or a romance, or a thriller… well, join the club. Writer-director Marcelo Martinessi certainly has a fresh and specific take on getting older — from a female (and lesbian, at that) perspective, focusing on love old and new, with the stressors of money and pride and imprisonment and newfound independence converging. You can respect that point of view and creativ- ity without buying its execution. The film is exceedingly slow and loping for stretches, and not for any discernible reasons. Chad Crager, FNP | Steven M. Pounders, MD | Chad Nyland, DO If Greta jump-cuts too much to cleave D. Trew Deckard, PA-C, MHS | Cameron Wyatt, FNP to the clichés and traditions of a genre picture, The Heiresses doesn’t seem to know what it wants to be, or how best We are expanding in both our space and staff! to tell its story. Neither Brun nor Ivano- va are experienced actresses, and while A medical practice with more than 30 years experience they have an ease and naturalism on in the heart of our community camera, neither knows how to com- mand a scene, or pull out subtext from the unspoken. The film does, however, have a Primary Care | HIV Specialists strong sense for place and culture. You can tell a lot from the ways in Gender Affirmation | Cosmetic Procedures which Chela’s elderly neighbors gossip and how Chela and Chiquita worry Concierge Medicine offered by about others’ opinion about the social MEDICAL PRACTICE OF structures, as well as the ways in which Steven M. Pounders, MD even the cash-strapped Chela treats Dr. Steven M. Pounders her servant that appearances mean a lot here. In that ways, it fits perfectly in

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Women’s Chorus of Dallas celebrated Women’s History Month with concert

The Women’s Chorus of Dallas isn’t merely comprised of women, it celebrates them. And for the fifth year, TWCD commemorates Women’s History Month with a special concert, this time featuring all-women composers, including three world premiere arrangements and a piece co-commissioned with Flower Mound High School.

DEETS: Moody Performance Hall, 2520 Flora St. 7:30 p.m. TWCD.org.

Friday 03.08 Friday 03.01 — Del Shores spills the tea in his world premiere Sunday 03.09 one-man show

Puccini’s ‘Manon Lescaut’ Everyone knows that if you stir the kicks off 2019 for the Dallas shit, you’re gonna spill the tea… Opera which is no doubt what Del Shores had in mind when he came up with Since its publication as a novel nearly the title for his latest one-man show, three centuries ago, Manon Lescaut has Del Shores: The Sh*t Stirrer. The been one of the raciest stories of a party Sordid Lives creator brings back his girl who lives life excessively … and not dishy, profane, hilarious anecdotes too wisely. It has been adapted into a to the Rose Room for this world ballet as well as three operas. And while premiere. “I have been having a love Massenet’s opera is the most famous, it affair with Dallas for years,” the native is Puccini’s — one of the master’s earliest Texan says of his home-away-from- works — that the Dallas Opera will treat home, so it figures he’d debut the audiences to this week. Kristin Lewis, performance here. And, he promises, pictured, stars as the doomed woman in “this one probably has something to a production updated to the 20th century. offend everyone.”

DEETS: Winspear Opera House, DEETS: The Rose Room inside S4, 2403 Flora St. DallasOpera.org. 3911 Cedar Springs Road. 8 p.m. DelShores.com/dates.

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ARTSWEEK FRIDAY 03.01 THEATER COMMUNITY Anastasia. The story of the woman who Panoptikon. The weekly retro disco dance may be the missing Romanoff, originally party, presented by Lord Byron. Red Light, an animated musical, takes to the stage. 2911 Main St. Doors 9 p.m. Presented by Dallas Summer Musicals. Final weekend. Fair ark Music Hall, 909 First Ave. DallasSummerMusicals.org. MONDAY 03.04 CABARET Are You Now, Or Have You Ever Been... Mama’s Party. Weekly cabaret night with Carlyle Brown wrote this drama, about when special guest performances. Uptown Theatre, queer poet Langston Hughes was compelled to 120 E. Main St., Grand Prairie. 7:35 p.m. $10. testify before the House Un-American Activities Committee. Presented by Stage West, 821 W. Vickery Blvd., Fort Worth. TUESDAY 03.05 Through March 10. StageWest.org. FILM My Man Godfrey. An early screwball An Iliad. Undermain celebrates 35 years with a revival of its 2012 production of the myth, comedy about a domestic servant who adapted by Lisa Peterson and Denis O’Hare. deeply affects the lives of the wealthy Final weekend. Undermain Theatre, socialites he serves. Screens as part of the 3200 Main St. Undermain.org. Tuesday Big Movie New Classic Series, which now includes a matinee. Landmark’s Magnolia Guadalupe in the Guest Room. A man bonds Theatre in the West Village, with his Spanish-speaking mother-in-law over 3699 McKinney Ave. telenovelas in this comedy. Presented by Screens at 2 p.m. and 7:30 p.m. WaterTower Theatre. Addison Theatre Centre, 15650 Addison Road. Through March 17. WaterTowerTheatre.org. WEDNESDAY 03.06 You Got Older. The second show of Kitchen THEATER Dog Theater’s 2018–19 season, this is a The Wolves. A finalist for the Pulitzer Prize, bawdy dark comedy by Clare Barron makes this play deals with the cutthroat world of its regional premiere. Trinity River Arts Center, girl’s high school soccer. Studo at the Wyly 2600 N. Stemmons Freeway. Theatre, 2400 Flora St. March 6–April 14. Through March 10. KitchenDogTheater.org. DallasTheaterCenter.org.

DANCE THURSDAY 03.07 Kyle Abraham: Abraham.In.Motion. TITAS CABARET presents the work of this troupe that combines Glitterbomb Denton. Weekly queer variety classic and hip-hop. Moody Performance Hall, show with a new lineup every Thursday, now at 2520 Flora St. 8 p.m. ATTPAC.org. a new locale and new time. Andy’s Bar, 122 N. Locust St., Denton. 8 p.m. CIRCUS Cirque du Soleil: Amaluna. The latest from CONCERTS the French Canadian troupe of acrobatics, The Women’s Chorus of Dallas. Concert music and clowning, this time with a featuring the music of only female composers. substantially female cast. Final weekend. Moody Performance Hall, 2520 Flora St. Lone Star Park, 1000 Lone Star Parkway, 7:30 p.m. TWCD.org. Grand Prairie. From $45. CirqueDuSoleil.com/Amaluna. this week’s solution FINE ART Berthe Morisot: Woman Impressionist. One of the most acclaimed of the Impressionists in her lifetime, Morisot fell into obscurity in the 20th century but has been rediscovered for her talent in this comprehensive exhibition. Dallas Museum of Art 1717 Harwood St. Through May 5. DMA.org. Fortuny: Friends and Followers. Examination of the influence of the 19th century Spanish painter. Meadows Museum, 5900 Bishop Blvd. on the SMU campus. Through June 3. MeadowsMuseumDallas.org. Ida O’Keeffe: Escaping Georgia’s Shadow. The work of the “forgotten” sister of Georgia O’Keeffe, a promising artist in her own right, gets an exhibition. Dallas Museum of Art 1717 Harwood St. Through Sunday. DMA.org. █ browse █ submit

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30 dallasvoice.com █ 03.01.19 L+S scoop Cassie Nova Cassie gets older

As I sit down to write this, I am days away following week, he deleted/blocked her on from my 47th birthday. Fuuuuuccccckk! So Facebook. When Cheyenne asked me about far getting older is great! Every day, a new it, I asked her if they had a fight; she said hair someplace I didn’t need one, and less no. I asked her how the conversation went; hair where I do. If my wrinkles are caused she states it was normal — they laughed, by laugh lines, then I must find everything were silly, and there was a little flirting. I fucking hilarious. I hurt my back the other asked if it was done in front of his girlfriend. day from standing — not standing up fast, She said she does not know, she doubts it. just standing. Every day a new small pain or I told Cheyenne that it sounds like he still ache pops up for no reason. No big deal; I has feelings for her, and girlfriend found have a great relationship with Lady Advil. out about her and is threatened by her and On the flip side, I am happy. Happy to be demanded that he delete/block her. getting older. Happy with where I am in my Cheyenne finally “talked” to him via career. Happy in my relationship with my another source and just point blank asked husband and with my friends. I am happy him “Dude! WFT! Did you really delete/block with my life in general. Of course, there are me on FB,” to which he replied yeah. She always things I will strive for, but I think it is asked why, and he states that whenever important to recognize when you are happy they talk, no matter how long it’s been, he and enjoy it. Life is crazy, and we don’t ends up catching feelings and doesn’t think know what changes tomorrow will bring, so it’s fair to this relationship he’s in now. She as of this very moment, I am happy. Happy asked if he was willing to throw away all birthday to me. these years of friendship in the process; she Did I just jinx myself by admitting to being says he never gave a solid answer. So my happy? Probably. The Eeyore in me thinks question to you is: Do you throw away an I have just lit a fuse and put a timer on my amazing, long-time friendship while you are happiness, but the Tigger in me says fuck dating someone? Or what? Signed, SCF it — be a happy idiot for as long as you can. Dear SCF, Gurl, trust me. That girlfriend And now, I will happily help out some of you. found out about Cheyenne, and she is Dear Cassie, I have a question for you. not having it. I guarantee you that his new We are a military service family and have girlfriend is being a petty, petty princess. lived all over, so my daughter Cheyenne It is awful that he is so willing to end what It sounds like he needs to give his new somewhere doing price comparisons on has a BFF from high school in Germany sounds like a great friendship for his new relationship a chance but is secretly hoping tampons. The poor old lady at the check-out — a guy that graduated a few years before piece, but if you look at it from the new that if it doesn’t work out he can crawl back line seemed very confused. Good times. she did, then joined the Air Force and is girlfriend’s point of view, she is threatened to his best friend/ love of his life. If and Once I was hired to do a mystery dinner still stationed overseas. Throughout that by their history and by the obvious when that happens, what will Cheyenne do? theater very last minute (their usual drag time, he has expressed love and interest in connection they share. If I found out my Ignore and block him back? Or will we get queen got sick, so I filled in). At the end of Cheyenne — in her senior year when we boyfriend was still hung up on his ex, even if the rom-com ending everyone is wanting? the dinner I stood up and said, “Don’t you returned to Texas, he would send her these they were just friends — BTW, that boy is in Please keep us posted, and tell your recognize me, Stepfather? It is I… your son massive bouquets of flowers and other gifts, love with Cheyenne — I would want him to daughter good luck. Love, Cassie James!” as I ripped off my wig to the sounds and whenever she was studying, he would unfriend/block/delete her, too. Dear Cassie, What is the weirdest thing of gasps and laughs. The only person not order her a study pizza from overseas and If you look at it from his point of view, he you have ever done while in drag? Thanks, laughing was this old guy that had been have it delivered to our house. He also obviously has very strong feelings for your Inona Mouse hitting on me and kept putting his hand on remembered she does not like cheese on daughter. That boy is in love with her, and Dearest Inona, Once, a very long time my knee. He had no clue I was a dude. He her pizza. Because of time constraints, it seems that for whatever reason, distance ago, I went to a friend’s house party in drag. might have been a little blind and senile, but distance and beginning her own career, or whatever, he stayed in the friend zone. It was far north of Dallas in some small he ended up being a good sport about it. A he has been in other relationships but has At some point he has to move on. It sucks town, and we stopped at the grocery store little freaked out but a good sport. always maintained their friendship. that a friendship has to end for him to be so I could shop for tampons. I didn’t need Remember to always love more, bitch Recently, he and his girlfriend visited the able to move on, but that looks like what them — hell, it wasn’t even my time of the less and be fabulous. XOXO! Cassie Nova. States. He and my daughter had a brief is happening. And I’m not sure if you know month! — but we thought it would be funny. Contact her at AskCassieNova@gmail. conversation while he was here, then the this, but men can be stupid. I have pictures of me in that Piggly Wiggly com. Now offering Truly FREEZE away your fat. Trusted FDA - cleared to treat the flanks (love handles), abdomen, double chin and more. 25% OFF Dental Care with the purchase of 2 or more cycles! Cosmetic and General Dentistry Offer expires April 5, 2019 Not to be combined with other specials or promotions. Call Today! 214-521-5277 BEFORE AFTER @ 2928 Oak Lawn Ave. 3300 Douglas Ave. Ste. A ( Hall St.) 214.855.0789 Actual Advanced Skin Fitness Patient advancedskinfitness.com

03.01.19 █ dallasvoice 31 LIFE+STYLE scene ‘The 3,’ by Hellarose Entertainment

• 1851 Club: Tara’s Birthday Show features Nia Courtland and Ronnie Mikyles • Marty’s Live: Trashed Out Tuesdays with Jenni P and guests at 10 p.m. on Tuesday. on Saturday. • Round-Up Saloon: The Showdown at 8 p.m. on Tuesday. RuPaul’s Drag Race • 515 Bar: Tap TV Trivia for Cash at 8 p.m. on Thursday. watch party at 7:30 p.m. on Thursday. Lip Sync Battle at 11 p.m. on Thursday. • Alexandre’s: Girls Night Out with Peggy Honea on Friday. • S4: Mardi Gras on Saturday. Wayne Smith on Sunday. K-Marie on Tuesday. Vero Voz on Wednesday. • Sue Ellen’s: Mardi Gras on Saturday. • Club Changes: Imperial Court Candidate Show at 7 p.m. on Saturday. • The Rose Room: Mardi Gras with special guests Ada Vox and Lardi B on Saturday. • Club Reflection: Imperial Court Candidate Meet-and-Greet at 7 p.m. on Friday. Icon with Tasha Kohl, Kandy Cayne, Kennedy Davenport, Liquor Mini and Cassie Nova • Dallas Eagle: United Court presents All About the 80s from 7-10 p.m. on Friday on Sunday. Doors open at 6 p.m. Show begins at 7 p.m. Tickets at Icon7.bpt.me. and Angels vs. Demons from 7-10 p.m. on Saturday. Dallas Bears Pre-TBRU Dance • TMC: The Mining Company: Mardi Gras on Saturday. begins at 10 p.m. on Saturday. Dallas Diablos Cookout from 5-9 p.m. on Sunday. • Urban Cowboy: Music by T Diamond on Saturday. • Deja Vu: Mardi Gras on Sunday. Free admission before midnight. • Woody’s Sports & Video Bar: Mardi Gras Party with beads, mayhem and merriment • JR.’s Bar & Grill: Mardi Gras on Saturday. from 8 p.m.-2 • Liquid Zoo: RuPaul’s Drag Race Watch Party at 7:30 p.m. on Thursday. Scene Photographers: Kat Haygood and Chad Mantooth

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