Bully Behaviors and Prevention for Parents: Presenter: Rod Pruitt, MA Web Resource for Bullying • Federal Government Resource for Bullying- www.bullyinginfo.org • State Initiative for Bullying Prevention- www.esc14.net/default.aspx?name=bullying or http://tinyurl.com/Reg14bully • Texas School Safety Center- http://www.txssc.txstate.edu/K12/downloads-videos Bullying by the numbers • Each day 160,000 students miss school for fear of being bullied. • Research shows that bullying can be a sign of other serious antisocial or violent behavior. Children and youth who frequently bully their peers are more likely than others to get into frequent fights, be injured in a fight, vandalize or steal property, drink alcohol, smoke, be truant from school, drop out of school, and carry a weapon (Nansel et al., 2003; Olweus, 1993). • Bullying creates a climate of fear and disrespect in schools and has a negative impact on student learning (NEA1, 2003). References • 25 percent of teachers see nothing wrong with bullying or putdowns and consequently intervene in only 4 percent of bullying incidents (Cohn & Canter, 2002). What Is Bullying? • A behavior that is: – Written or Verbal expression – Expression through Electronic means – Or Physical conduct • That occurred: – On school property – At a school sponsored or school related activity – Or in a vehicle operated by the district • That Either/Or: – Has the effect of will have the effect of Physically harming a student – Damages a student’s property – Or places the student in reasonable fear of harm to the student’s person or of damage to the student’s property; • Or the conduct is sufficiently severe, persistent and pervasive that it creates and educational environment that is: – Intimidating – Threatening – Or Abusive • This Behavior: – Exploits an Imbalance of power between the student perpetrator and the student victim through: – Written or Verbal expression or Physical conduct • This Either or: – Interferes with the student education – Or Substantially Disrupts the operation of a school Bullying Behavior Chart Bullying behaviors can be described under four headings: Physical Social Emotional Cyber • Bullying Behavior: Verbal or Nonverbal and Range From Less to More Severe • From teasing to extortion to death threats. • From dirty looks to ostracizing No-Bullying Program Parent Pamphlet Bully Reports by the Numbers 67% Told a Friend 22% Told a parent or family member 20% Told no one 11% Told a teacher Presentation by Schwartz and Eichelbaum- Harassment: Bullying, Cyber-bullying and Sexting e-Bully • Pass word protection • Social Networking Disclosure • Proper online conduct If you are being hurt online • Parent- Always report to a parent • Principal- Report it to a principal if it happens on school ground, during school time, on school equipment, or disrupts the learning environment • Police- Report to police if the person has stated they will physically harm you or encourages you to harm yourself. Warning Signs of Being Cyber Bullied • unexpectedly stops using the computer • appears nervous or jumpy when an Instant Message, text message, or email appears • appears uneasy about going to school or outside in general • appears to be angry, depressed, or frustrated after using the computer • avoids discussions about what they are doing on the computer • becomes abnormally withdrawn from usual friends and family members Rod Pruitt, MA- [email protected] SECTION 1. Chapter 33, Penal Code, is amended by adding Section 33.07 to read as follows: Sec. 33.07. ONLINE HARASSMENT. (a) A person commits an offense if the person uses the name or persona of another person to create a web page on or to post one or more messages on a commercial social networking site : (1) without obtaining the other person’s consent; and (2) with the intent to harm, defraud, intimidate, or threaten any person. (b) A person commits an offense if the person sends an electronic mail, instant message, text message, or similar communication that references a name, domain address, phone number, or other item of identifying information belonging to any person: (1) without obtaining the other person’s consent; (2) with the intent to cause a recipient of the communication to reasonably believe that the other person authorized or transmitted the communication; and (3) with the intent to harm or defraud any person. (c) An offense under Subsection (a) is a felony of the third degree. An offense under Subsection (b) is a Class A misdemeanor, except that the offense is a felony of the third degree if the actor commits the offense with the intent to solicit a response by emergency personnel. (d) If conduct that constitutes an offense under this section also constitutes an offense under any other law, the actor may be prosecuted under this section, the other law, or both. SECTION 2. This Act takes effect September 1, 2009. Internet Texting Bullies Convicted Rod Pruitt, MA- Region 14 ESC Protected Work Internet Texting Bullies Convicted Rod Pruitt, MA- Region 14 ESC Protected Work Internet Facebook Bullies Convicted Road Rules Keeping Your Personal Information Private Never give the following information online: Full Name Address (even the city you live in) Phone number (even cell phones) Name of school Friends’ names Age Photos Credit Card number or information. Road Rules Keeping Your Personal Information Private • “Go Stratford Spartans!!” • “We are going to beat Snyder in the game on Friday!” • “Jenny is going to be the best cheerleader Cooper HS ever had! Tryouts are in the gym Friday at 4:00. She is going to be awesome!” Road Rules Keeping Your Personal Information Private • Would you put your information on a billboard? Road Rules Never Meet Face-to Face With Someone You “Meet” Online. • People are not always who they say they are. • Many predators use social networking, games, and chat sites as a catalog to choose their next victim. • 1 in 8 females on the internet are really males. Road Rules Most Internet Predators follow the same process. Meet in a CHAT ROOM, Social Networking site, Game site Ask to talk in a PRIVATE ROOM, BUDDY LIST, IM, or text messaging. Talk nightly, conversation goes from general to personal Become mentor/counselor/confidant/friend E-MAIL is exchanged Photos are exchanged Letters and gifts are sent Plans are made to meet with the Predator (sometimes they help with money or travel plans) They meet Predator does what they will with the victim What puts a target in the greatest risk is engaging in sexually provocative conversations or sending or posting explicit photos or videos to people that they don't know. Road Rules Never respond to messages that are mean, inappropriate, or make you feel uncomfortable. If someone is angry, hostile, rude, or makes you feel uncomfortable, don’t respond and report it to a parent, principal, or policeman. Hit Shift + Print Screen to copy the desk top and then paste it to a word document. Hit the power and home button on an iPhone to screen capture. Hit Power and Volume down or Power and Home button on most Android phone to screen capture. Now you have evidence of the threat. If it continues report them to: www.cybertipline.com or call 1-800-843-5678. Road Rules Never respond to messages that are mean, inappropriate, or make you feel uncomfortable. • Tell or text the person to “Stop”. Any calls or texts after that would be considered harassment if reported to the phone company or law enforcement. • Screen capture and save all texts, calls, or comments and report them to the service provider. • To record a phone call record yourself saying, “This call is being recorded” and state the date and time. Road Rules Never respond to messages that are mean, inappropriate, or make you feel uncomfortable. • *67 calls can be traced by the phone company and law enforcement. The phone number will show up on a detailed or enhanced phone bill. • *57 will have the phone company trace the last call and send the results to law enforcement. Nothing is done with this information until you call AT&T at 800-288-2020. • *72 Forwards you calls to another phone. Many calls to a long distance phone number will show up on that callers phone bill and may even show on that callers caller id system. • *77 Anonymous call rejection- rejects all calls that block caller ID. To disable the service, dial "*87." Road Rules Never respond to messages that are mean, inappropriate, or make you feel uncomfortable. • *67 calls can be traced by the phone company and law enforcement. • iPhone Android Cell Phone and Texting • Set a contract with your child before you get a cell phone. • Check with the cell phone provider on parental controls. • Don’t let your child sleep with a cell phone in their room. Have them turn it in to charge at a set time each night. • Look at content. If there is no content then you could have a problem. • If your child loans their phone to a friend then everything their friend said will be blamed on your child. Rod Pruitt, MA- [email protected] Cyber Bully- Preteen Media Use • It’s not uncommon seen a gaggle around a phone or tablet watching YouTube, Vine, and other video content. Interactive games that allow you to post high scores are popular. Texting and photos are most likely why your preteen wants a phone. This will lead to social networking sooner. Developmentally • They don’t always connect that “anonymous behavior” is hurtful, harmful and illegal. • The tech ability is often better than their judgment. • Social pressure is strong but they do know right from wrong and what they would not want done to them. Cyber Bully- Preteen Tech Tips • Monitor technology use.