The Office of Family Ministry

SUMMER/FALL 2020 THE OFFICE OF FAMILY MINISTRY www.dioceseofjoliet.org/familyministry/ WE ARE SO BLESSED TO WELCOME OUR NEW FAMILY MINISTRY STAFF! Deacon Jim Krueger specializes in the areas of marriage and relationship enrichment and parenting. He also offers support and training for baptismal preparation ministry in our diocese. Jim serves as a deacon at St Alexander Parish in Villa Park, where his wife, Ann, is the Director of Faith Formation. Dcn. Jim and Ann have six daughters and four grandchildren (with one on the way). One of their daughters, Mary Therese, is a PBVM Sister. Jim has been a deacon since 1999. Over Office Of Family Ministry the years, Jim and Ann have been involved with Marriage Encounter, Cursillo, and St Joseph Covenant Keepers. They have 41 wonderful 815-838-5334 and eventful years of marriage and are very devoted to their family. E-mail: [email protected] After a 44-year career in telecommunications, Dcn. Jim is delighted to share his love and passion for marriage and family ministry. Jim loves fly fishing, cycling, and playing pool. Peter Newburn, Interim Director Dr. Valerie Maty, Associate Director Deacon Randy and Janet Waring provide leadership Dcn. Jim Krueger, Coordinator of Marriage & Family Ministry in the area of marriage preparation. They are excited Dcn. Randy & Janet Waring, to be working with marriage prep staff and volunteers Co-Coordinators of Marriage & Family Ministry and sponsor couples, providing support and resources. Rosita Rodriguez, Administrative Assistant Randy was ordained a deacon in 2018. Janet has just completed her Master’s in theology from Franciscan “A DAY OF FLOWERING A LA MARY’S University in Steubenville. She has a particular interest in St John GARDEN & THE DIVINE GARDENER” Paul II’s teaching on the Theology of the Body. AUGUST 1, 2020 Dcn. Randy and Janet have six children, three boys and three girls, A retreat day of spiritual care for widows and widowers and are expecting their first grandchild in October. Their youngest will be offered reflecting on the joys, is beginning college this fall. Randy and Jan have been involved in sorrows, glorious, and luminous preparing engaged couples for marriage for over 20 years. They are mysteries experienced in this garden currently active in various ministries at St Isaac Jogues Parish in of life. Several models to promote Hinsdale. self-care, healing, creativity, spiritual Randy loves to play golf, and for many years played clarinet and well-being and holistic health will be saxophone in community jazz bands. Janet plays piano. They are discussed. The day of “flowering” striving to make beautiful music together! will include the creation of a spiritual bouquet of spiritual practices to promote an abundant, UPGRADE YOUR blooming life. BAPTISM PREPARATION PROGRAM Although just about every parish in the diocese offers baptism This is an ONLINE EVENT sponsored by the Office of preparation, there is a considerable range among programs in Family Ministry and our Speaker for the day is Dr. Mary- terms of length, coverage, and approach. Nearly every parish can Beth Desmond. She is a Registered Nurse and Assistant add something to its baptismal prep program that would increase its Professor at Lewis University where she has recently impact. been appointed the Director of the MSN Program. She is a Board Certified Advanced Holistic Nurse, a Watson During this seminar, which takes place at the Blanchette Catholic Science Caritas Coach, and a Spiritual Director. Her Center on October 24, 2020 from 9:30 am to 11:30 am, Deacon specialty areas include: Christian Spirituality, caring Jim Krueger will offer the rationale for increased attention to baptism science, spiritual care and holistic health. The event preparation ministry, an overview of the most common baptism will be from 9:00AM – 2:00 PM and the registration fee programs, and a variety of ideas for enriching your current baptism is $25. Pre-registration is required by July 22, 2020. program. The $10 per person cost covers all refreshments and To register please call 815-838-5334 or register online: materials. Please pre-register by October 19 by calling 815-838- https://bit.ly/2UMz5v1 5334 or by registering Online at https://bit.ly/31Caeho. WEDDING ANNIVERSARY MASS RETROUVAILLE WEEKEND FOR TROUBLED The 42nd Annual Diocesan Wedding MARRIAGES Anniversary Mass will be LIVE-STREAMED Retrouvaille is a program designed to help couples ONLY from the Cathedral of St. Raymond on heal and renew their marriages. This weekend program Sunday, August 23 at 2 pm. Couples celebrating helps couples to put the pieces back together and rebuild anniversaries of 25 years, 50 years, and more loving relationships. Husbands and wives re-establish than 50 years, are welcome to view the Mass communication and gain new insights into themselves online and will receive an anniversary certificate in the mail. Bishop as individuals and as a couple. Richard E. Pates will celebrate the Mass and will lead all couples in Weekend Dates a special renewal of wedding promises. Please register as soon as Joliet: October 23 - 25, 2020 possible by calling the Office of Family Ministry at 815-838-5334 or NW Indiana: January 29 - 31, 2021 register online at https://bit.ly/3fBY3VN by August 14, 2020. For information, reservations or other dates and locations, call 815-246-2080 or go to www.HelpOurMarriage.com. DOING LESS… BECOMING MORE Terry Hershey authored a book titled, “The Power of Pause.” It PEER-LED SUPPORT GROUP extends an invitation to do less, and become more. It happens to be FACILITATOR TRAINING one of my favorite books as I have always been caught up with the On September 5, 2020 the Office for Family Ministry is sponsoring doing, being busy, under pressure, over-committing, and priorities facilitator training for church-sponsored divorce, bereavement, placed improperly...Well, you get the point, and maybe are in the and other hurting/healing support groups. Valerie Maty, Associate same category. Director of the Office of Family Ministry, w ill lead this training COVID-19 restrictions have forced many of us to slow down our session ONLINE. Event link to follow upon registration. outside activities, placing ourselves within close quarters and possibly This training is for those who are facilitating or who are planning to wishing we had a larger home. And yet, many cats and dogs have facilitate self-help support group sharing sessions. The training will been adopted during this pandemic creating our home space even cover the role of the facilitator, listening skills, support group ground tighter. Could it be that we now have time for a furry kitten or puppy? rules, handling difficult situations, and role-playing practice sessions. Are our priorities shifting from “doing” to “relationships” creating a Participants should be endorsed by their parish for this ministry. deeper bond within our family structure? The fee is $10 and it starts at 9:00 am and concludes at 2:00 The regulations are lifting and our home doors are starting to swing pm. To register, please call 815-838-5334 or register Online: outward into the world. Will we maintain a priority on our family https://bit.ly/327PCy5 by August 31. relationships, or will frustrations and tension increase within the home? And, will the adoption centers be overloaded with unwanted pets? Will we lose the sacredness of home living with childcare and CATHOLIC ENGAGED ENCOUNTER schools opening? How will we merge outward into society? Catholic Engaged Encounter is an intensive weekend of marriage It is a time to reflect on the positive experiences gained by living preparation. Each couple is offered the time and opportunity to within our home sanctuary as family. Where have you felt God’s question, examine, and deepen their relationship with each other presence? Maybe, it was the laughter playing board games, doing and with God. Couples are challenged to explore their love for each chores together, water balloon fights, riding bicycles together, family other in a deeper and more honest way. meals, dinner conversations, and the list goes on. Has this time of The local Engaged Encounter community welcomes any new doing less made you become more? volunteer couples to assist so they can increase the number of engaged encounter weekends. The next Engaged Encounter EASTERN DUPAGE DEANERY Weekends will take place at the Portiuncula Center for MARRIAGE MINISTRY PROGRAM Prayer in Frankfort, Illinois on Saturday and Sunday, The Eastern DuPage Deanery Marriage Ministry Program September 12th-13th and November 14th-15th. The continues to have an active presence in the Diocese of Joliet dates for the weekends scheduled for the winter/ throughout these challenging times brought about by Covid-19 spring of 2021 will be available in October. – times when all relationships and life in general can tend to be Interested engaged couples should register as soon stressed with people looking for support. You Tube videos have as possible by using the Engaged Encounter website been prepared and launched by our ministry with useful everyday at www.jolietee.org. For questions, including inquiring stress and communication tools and techniques as well as fun about becoming a team couple, please call 815-277-1112 or send an “date nights at home” ideas brainstormed by some of our team email to [email protected]. members to support challenges unique to marriage. Here is the link to our You Tube site: https://www.youtube.com/channel/ WORLDWIDE MARRIAGE ENCOUNTER WEEKEND UClVVFUfaMdDSQUWn8p1e1Nw. All are welcome! For more Marriage Encounter is for any married couple who information, please reach out to us at easterndupagemem@gmail. desires a fuller, richer life together. com or call Sue Delvaux at 630-785-0256. Using a unique approach that was developed to SAVE THE DATE revitalize marriage, couples are given the opportunity The Inter-Parish Marriage Enrichment to examine their lives together and to strengthen their Team (IMET) invites you to join them for communication. their 13th annual marriage enrichment event For weekend dates information or to register, email applications- on Saturday, March 20, 2021 with Dr. Jim [email protected] or call 630-577-0778 or go to www. Healy. He has spoken on marriage in over 90 dioceses, both across wwme-chicagoland.org. the United States and internationally. Dr. Healy has contributed chapters to a number of books, and has written for such magazines ************************* as Family Perspectives, Catholic World, Liguorian, Marriage, For more information or to register for Spanish/Español dates in and Deacon Digest. He is also active online through articles, blogs, Chicago, call Marco & Olgita Arreaga at 815-210-7534 or 815-325- and videos on various sites. Save the date for this upcoming event. 3282. https://www.imetevents.org/ NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING CLASSES JOYFUL AGAIN! The Joliet Diocesan Natural Family Planning Program teaches A Widowed Ministry the Billings Ovulation Method (BOMA) of NFP. These two-session JOYFUL AGAIN! is a two-day program for widows classes in English and Spanish are offered for a pre-paid fee of $50 and widowers who want to resolve the grief they feel per couple. For registration and general information, call the Office of inside and begin to live again after the death of their Family Ministry at 815-838-5334 or contact us at familyministry@ spouse. The weekend employs a series of video presentations, dioceseofjoliet.org. For specific classes, please see locations followed by facilitated small group discussion and private reflection below. time. Through this process, individuals gain new insights and receive encouragement and support. Trained facilitators, who have been Locations for the Natural Family Planning classes are currently widowed themselves, help with the weekend and the discussions. under review: The following sites are available. Upcoming 2021 Date • St Matthew Parish in Glendale Heights: Two-session classes in March 13 & 14, 2021 at Our Lady of the Angels House of Prayer English are held on the second and fourth Wednesdays of the in Lemont. For more information, to register, or for other dates and month. The second session is arranged individually and two- locations, please contact Charlotte Hrubes at 708-354-7211 or check session classes in Spanish are offered by appointment. For more the web at www.joyfulagain.org. information, contact instructor Edna Pasillas at rpasillas5@ gmail.com or 630-441-7717. ANNULMENT INFORMATION DAY • Presence St. Mary Hospital, Kankakee: Two-session classes Saturday, November 14, 2020 in English are held on the second Friday of each month from An annulment information seminar will be held on Saturday, 6:00 pm to 8:00 pm. The second session is arranged individually. November 14, 2020 from 9:00 am to 4:00 pm at the Blanchette In the Kankakee area, classes are also offered in Spanish by Catholic Center in Crest Hill. Persons interested in petitioning for appointment. For more information, contact instructor Lupita annulment, those already in the process, or anyone who wants Sorich at [email protected] or 815-735-8439. information about the annulment process are welcome to attend. Independent NFP providers also offering instruction: Creighton FertilityCare The annulment process will be explained and all questions will be www.fertilitycare.org; Couple to Couple League (CCL) http://ccli.org; Harrisburg welcomed. This day does not start the process but offers a friendly Sympto-Thermal Method [email protected] or (847-922-5124). atmosphere to learn what annulment means and what is entailed in the process. During the day those in attendance will have a “hands- SUPPORT DAY FOR ANNULMENT PETITIONERS on” review of the Joliet diocesan annulment paperwork. Please January 23, 2021 register by November 6. A $25 fee includes morning coffee, lunch, Working on annulment papers alone without support can be and a binder with handouts. Check-in begins at 8:30 am. To emotionally painful, overwhelming, and frustrating. Papers often register, please call The Office of Family Ministry at815-838-5334 or get shoved into a desk drawer and more often than not are never register online at https://bit.ly/3fOolnP. worked on again. In an effort to help petitioners complete their part of the process, the Office for Family Ministry, in collaboration with the FOCCUS TRAINING Joliet Diocesan Tribunal, is once again offering a Day of Support for The FOCCUS Pre-Marital Inventory is part of Annulment Petitioners at the Blanchette Catholic Center in Crest Hill the marriage preparation process for all engaged on Saturday, January 23, 2021 from 9:00 am to 4:00 pm. Check- couples in the Diocese of Joliet. Priests, deacons, in begins at 8:30 am. and other parish staff members, as well as parish- This workshop is designed for divorced persons who have petitioned approved and trained lay couples, may use the Diocesan Marriage Tribunal to begin the annulment process, FOCCUS with engaged couples. There will be a one-day training program for have submitted basic data for introduction of their case, but have FOCCUS at the Blanchette Catholic Center in Crest Hill on Saturday, not yet completed the Marriage Summary Questionnaire. Catholics October 10 from 9:00 am to 3:00 pm. and non-Catholics are welcome to attend, whether remarried or not. Individuals or couples will need to purchase the Fourth Edition FOCCUS The day will include time for prayer, time for questions and input Facilitator Manual for $50.00. There will also be a $10.00 fee for the regarding annulments and the relational issues dealt with in the day, which includes lunch. Pre-registration is required by October questionnaire. Participants will have time to begin or continue filling 5, Please call 815-838-5334 for more information or register Online at out the questionnaire within a supportive environment. Pastoral https://bit.ly/3dv2mkj. ministers will be available for private consultation. Lunch and materials are included in the $25 fee. To register, please call the Office of Family Ministry at:815-838-5334 or register Online: https://bit.ly/2Bv0drA by January 18. Who’s Caring for the Caregiver? TREE OF LIGHT INFANT MEMORIAL MASS On Sunday, November 1, 2020 all families and individuals are Nourish for CaregiversTM is a Christ-centered, parish-based welcome to attend this Mass at the Blanchette Catholic Center in caregiver ministry which supports the practical, emotional and spiritual Crest Hill. This beautiful liturgy will remember babies who have been needs of family caregivers. By bringing Nourish for Caregivers to lost through miscarriage, stillbirth, infant death, other pregnancy parishes, family caregivers can find strength and blessings during this time of transition and change, all within their spritual home, the parish. losses or early childhood death. At 2:00 p.m., a special tree blessing Monthly gatherings, workshops, and communication materials enable ceremony for family members to commemorate these babies will a lay-led team at parishes to provide an outlet for caregivers to learn, precede the mass. Family members may wish to arrive at 1:30 share and grow. pm to sign in and to gather in the chapel. A reception with light Nourish for Caregivers helps family caregivers encounter Christ, so refreshments will be served immediately following. To register online, that they can thrive and grow in their faith as they care for a loved one. go to or call by. If you are not https://bit.ly/2zWNhtY 815-838-5334 For more information, contact: Kelly Johnson at 630-969-1063 x259 able to attend but would like your baby remembered, please call us. or [email protected] THE OFFICE OF FAMILY MINISTRY NON-PROFIT ORGANIZATION Blanchette Catholic Center U.S. POSTAGE 16555 Weber Rd. PAID Crest Hill, IL 60403 Permit Number 7 (815) 838-5334 ROMEOVILLE, IL FAX (815) 221-6089 E-mail [email protected] Website dioceseofjoliet.org/familyministry

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