GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Wisdom and Wander – 1Kings 1-11 Wisdom and Wander – 1Kings 1-11

Message 1 – Solomon becomes King Message 1 – Solomon becomes King 1Kings 1-4 1Kings 1-4

The entire Bible is the story of God seeking relationship with The entire Bible is the story of God seeking relationship with people, in every age and stage of history. He is Immanuel – “God people, in every age and stage of history. He is Immanuel – “God with us.” Thus, as we read the stories of other people, we learn the with us.” Thus, as we read the stories of other people, we learn the about the character and ways of our God. As we see how He about the character and ways of our God. As we see how He related with them, we will better understand how He desires to related with them, we will better understand how He desires to relate with us. As you read these ancient stories, therefore, do not relate with us. As you read these ancient stories, therefore, do not just look at the history. Look deeper for the ways of God – His just look at the history. Look deeper for the ways of God – His story – as He seeks to relate with what is most precious to Him – story – as He seeks to relate with what is most precious to Him – human beings made in His image. human beings made in His image. Introduction Introduction As King David was nearing the end of his life, the issue of his As King David was nearing the end of his life, the issue of his successor came to a head. Who would take the throne as Israel’s successor came to a head. Who would take the throne as Israel’s next king? In that day, the heir was typically the firstborn son (or next king? In that day, the heir was typically the firstborn son (or the oldest surviving son). In David’s case, his firstborn son the oldest surviving son). In David’s case, his firstborn son Amnon had been murdered by Absalom, the third son. In turn, Amnon had been murdered by Absalom, the third son. In turn, Absalom had been killed by Joab, David’s general. This would Absalom had been killed by Joab, David’s general. This would leave the second son, Daniel (also called Chileab), to be named leave the second son, Daniel (also called Chileab), to be named king. However, Daniel never appears in the narrative of David’s king. However, Daniel never appears in the narrative of David’s life, leading many scholars to conclude that he died before his life, leading many scholars to conclude that he died before his father, David. This leads us to the fourth son of David, Adonijah, father, David. This leads us to the fourth son of David, Adonijah, who would (typically) succeed his father on the throne, being the who would (typically) succeed his father on the throne, being the oldest living son of David. But God had other plans, as He had oldest living son of David. But God had other plans, as He had announced to David: “His name will be Solomon and I will give announced to David: “His name will be Solomon and I will give peace and quiet to Israel during his reign. I will secure the throne peace and quiet to Israel during his reign. I will secure the throne of his kingdom over Israel forever” (1Chronicles 22:9,10). of his kingdom over Israel forever” (1Chronicles 22:9,10). Adonijah attempts to claim the throne: 1:1-10 Adonijah attempts to claim the throne: 1:1-10 Adonijah did not wait for his father to die or for him to be Adonijah did not wait for his father to die or for him to be appointed as successor. He took matters in to his own hands. appointed as successor. He took matters in to his own hands. “Now Adonijah the son of Haggith began boasting, saying, “I “Now Adonijah the son of Haggith began boasting, saying, “I will make myself king.” So he prepared for himself chariots and will make myself king.” So he prepared for himself chariots and horsemen with fifty men to run before him” (1:5). horsemen with fifty men to run before him” (1:5). 10/2/16 427 10/2/16 427

His self-willed spirit was fueled by his history with his father. He His self-willed spirit was fueled by his history with his father. He was the kind of son that always got what he wanted. was the kind of son that always got what he wanted. “His father had never disciplined him at any time by asking, “His father had never disciplined him at any time by asking, ‘Why have you done so?” (1:6). ‘Why have you done so?” (1:6).

David failed to discipline (train) his children. The result was self - David failed to discipline (train) his children. The result was self - willed, proud sons who thought they knew better than their father. willed, proud sons who thought they knew better than their father. Both Absalom and Adonijah rebelled against their father and Both Absalom and Adonijah rebelled against their father and sought to take his throne. A Proverb of Solomon: “He who loves sought to take his throne. A Proverb of Solomon: “He who loves his children will discipline them diligently” (Proverbs 13:24). his children will discipline them diligently” (Proverbs 13:24). It is instructive to note that both Absalom and Adonijah (the two It is instructive to note that both Absalom and Adonijah (the two sons who rebelled and sought the kingdom for themselves) were sons who rebelled and sought the kingdom for themselves) were both noted as being very handsome. Externally, they were very both noted as being very handsome. Externally, they were very impressive and had ‘the looks’ of a king. When David was chosen impressive and had ‘the looks’ of a king. When David was chosen from among his brothers to be Israel’s king, however, God from among his brothers to be Israel’s king, however, God specifically noted that it was not the outward appearance that He specifically noted that it was not the outward appearance that He was looking at; rather, the heart (1Samuel 16:7,17). was looking at; rather, the heart (1Samuel 16:7,17). For thousands of years, humanity as accentuated the externals as For thousands of years, humanity as accentuated the externals as the standard for status. Yet, God is always looking beneath the the standard for status. Yet, God is always looking beneath the surface into our hearts. The heart is the inner place of character, surface into our hearts. The heart is the inner place of character, sincerity, love for God, desire to know Him and love Him, desire to sincerity, love for God, desire to know Him and love Him, desire to put God on display for others to be drawn to Him, rather than to put God on display for others to be drawn to Him, rather than to ourselves. When God looked at young David, He saw a heart that ourselves. When God looked at young David, He saw a heart that He could relate with and love. Even today, good looks and status He could relate with and love. Even today, good looks and status do NOT equal a heart that God is drawn to . . . a heart that He can do NOT equal a heart that God is drawn to . . . a heart that He can use for His purposes. Take time to ponder how this principle use for His purposes. Take time to ponder how this principle applies in your own life. How’s your heart? applies in your own life. How’s your heart? Adonijah held a grand feast and, with the support of key men from Adonijah held a grand feast and, with the support of key men from David’s administration, had himself proclaimed the next king of David’s administration, had himself proclaimed the next king of Israel. His self-determined rule would, however, be short-lived. Israel. His self-determined rule would, however, be short-lived.

Adonijah had a lot going for him: rank, resources, willpower, good Adonijah had a lot going for him: rank, resources, willpower, good looks, friends in high places and family backing. Yet, he lacked looks, friends in high places and family backing. Yet, he lacked the most important thing: God’s approval. When we decide for the most important thing: God’s approval. When we decide for ourselves what we are going to be or do, we are setting out upon a ourselves what we are going to be or do, we are setting out upon a dangerous course. The wiser course is to walk in step with God, dangerous course. The wiser course is to walk in step with God, and to ask for His plan. A proverb from Solomon: “Trust in the and to ask for His plan. A proverb from Solomon: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own under- Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own under- standing. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make standing. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes” (Prov.3:5-7). your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes” (Prov.3:5-7). Bathsheba appeals to David: 1:11-27 Bathsheba appeals to David: 1:11-27 Bathsheba was the wife that David stole from Uriah the Hittite Bathsheba was the wife that David stole from Uriah the Hittite 10/2/16 428 10/2/16 428 (see 2Samuel 11, where David committed adultery with Bathsheba, (see 2Samuel 11, where David committed adultery with Bathsheba, and then tried to conceal his sin by having Uriah her husband and then tried to conceal his sin by having Uriah her husband killed in battle). In spite of this great sin, God showed mercy to killed in battle). In spite of this great sin, God showed mercy to David and Bathsheba by giving them a son named Solomon. In David and Bathsheba by giving them a son named Solomon. In accordance with the promise of God concerning Solomon accordance with the promise of God concerning Solomon (1Chronicles 22:8-10), David had promised to Bathsheba that (1Chronicles 22:8-10), David had promised to Bathsheba that Solomon would succeed him on the throne of Israel (1Kings Solomon would succeed him on the throne of Israel (1Kings 1:13,17,30). When Adonijah proclaimed himself king, Bathsheba 1:13,17,30). When Adonijah proclaimed himself king, Bathsheba immediately went to David to claim her son’s right to the throne. immediately went to David to claim her son’s right to the throne. “My lord, you swore to your maidservant by the Lord your God, “My lord, you swore to your maidservant by the Lord your God, saying, ‘Surely your son Solomon shall be king after me and he saying, ‘Surely your son Solomon shall be king after me and he shall sit on my throne . . . Now, my lord the king, the eyes of all shall sit on my throne . . . Now, my lord the king, the eyes of all Israel are on you, to tell them who shall sit on the throne of my Israel are on you, to tell them who shall sit on the throne of my lord the king after him’” (1:17,20). lord the king after him’” (1:17,20). Bathsheba’s appeal was seconded by Nathan the prophet who Bathsheba’s appeal was seconded by Nathan the prophet who came in and reported to David what Adonijah had done. came in and reported to David what Adonijah had done. David proclaims Solomon king: 1:28-40 David proclaims Solomon king: 1:28-40 David immediately gave orders for his key leaders to have a public David immediately gave orders for his key leaders to have a public ceremony anointing Solomon as his successor. ceremony anointing Solomon as his successor. “. . . have my son Solomon ride on my own mule . . . anoint him “. . . have my son Solomon ride on my own mule . . . anoint him as king over Israel, and blow the trumpet and say, ‘Long live as king over Israel, and blow the trumpet and say, ‘Long live King Solomon!’ Then he shall come and sit on my throne and be King Solomon!’ Then he shall come and sit on my throne and be king in my place; for I have appointed him to be ruler of Israel king in my place; for I have appointed him to be ruler of Israel and Judah” (1:33-35). and Judah” (1:33-35). David’s men did as he instructed and publicly anointed Solomon as David’s men did as he instructed and publicly anointed Solomon as king. The response of the people was heard for miles around: king. The response of the people was heard for miles around: “They blew the trumpet, and all the people said, ‘Long live King “They blew the trumpet, and all the people said, ‘Long live King Solomon!’ And all the people went up after him, and the people Solomon!’ And all the people went up after him, and the people were playing on flutes and rejoicing with great joy, so that the were playing on flutes and rejoicing with great joy, so that the earth shook at their noise” (1:39,40). earth shook at their noise” (1:39,40). Adonijah’s terror: 1:41-53 Adonijah’s terror: 1:41-53 When the report of Solomon’s coronation reached the ears of When the report of Solomon’s coronation reached the ears of Adonijah and the guests at his coronation dinner, they all feared for Adonijah and the guests at his coronation dinner, they all feared for their lives and ran away. Adonijah, fearing for his life, ran to the their lives and ran away. Adonijah, fearing for his life, ran to the place of worship and took hold of the horns of the altar (saying, in place of worship and took hold of the horns of the altar (saying, in effect: ‘I have sinned greatly. Have mercy on me.’) Solomon’s effect: ‘I have sinned greatly. Have mercy on me.’) Solomon’s first act as king was to forgive Adonijah. first act as king was to forgive Adonijah. 10/2/16 429 10/2/16 429

“If he will be a worthy man, not one of his hairs will fall to the “If he will be a worthy man, not one of his hairs will fall to the ground; but if wickedness is found in him, he will die” (1:52). ground; but if wickedness is found in him, he will die” (1:52).

Solomon was a child of grace. He was born from an immoral Solomon was a child of grace. He was born from an immoral union between David and Bathsheba. Yet, God did not hold that union between David and Bathsheba. Yet, God did not hold that against him. It was not his fault. He could not determine the against him. It was not his fault. He could not determine the morality of his parents. What may seem like a “mistake” to us is morality of his parents. What may seem like a “mistake” to us is never a mistake with God. The very fact that you are here means never a mistake with God. The very fact that you are here means that God values you as His unique creation, one made in His that God values you as His unique creation, one made in His image and made for relationship with Him. How you got here is image and made for relationship with Him. How you got here is not the issue. The issue is that God longs for you to know Him not the issue. The issue is that God longs for you to know Him personally and for you to experience His great love. Immanuel personally and for you to experience His great love. Immanuel (God with us) wants to be WITH YOU as you journey through this (God with us) wants to be WITH YOU as you journey through this life, and even on into eternity. life, and even on into eternity. David’s final words and death: 2:1-12 David’s final words and death: 2:1-12 As David’s death drew near, he rallied the strength to give a final As David’s death drew near, he rallied the strength to give a final charge to Solomon and to ask his son to deal with some old charge to Solomon and to ask his son to deal with some old relational business. Solomon was rather young (scholars think he relational business. Solomon was rather young (scholars think he was 20 or younger), so his father’s charge was very significant as was 20 or younger), so his father’s charge was very significant as he prepared to assume such a huge role: he prepared to assume such a huge role: “Be strong, therefore, and show yourself a man. Keep the charge “Be strong, therefore, and show yourself a man. Keep the charge of the Lord your God, to walk in His ways, to keep His statutes, of the Lord your God, to walk in His ways, to keep His statutes, His commandments, His ordinances, and His testimonies, His commandments, His ordinances, and His testimonies, according to what is written in the Law of Moses, that you may according to what is written in the Law of Moses, that you may succeed in all that you do and wherever you turn, so that the succeed in all that you do and wherever you turn, so that the Lord may carry out His promise which He spoke concerning me, Lord may carry out His promise which He spoke concerning me, saying, ‘If your sons are careful of their way, to walk before Me saying, ‘If your sons are careful of their way, to walk before Me in truth with all their heart and with all their soul, you shall not in truth with all their heart and with all their soul, you shall not lack a man on the throne of Israel’” (2:2-4). lack a man on the throne of Israel’” (2:2-4).

Theological insight: Prosperity promises in the O.T. – Theological insight: Prosperity promises in the O.T. – Do they apply to the N.T. follower of Christ? Do they apply to the N.T. follower of Christ? David’s message to his son was simple: Walk in God’s ways so David’s message to his son was simple: Walk in God’s ways so that you, your sons, and your nation will “succeed in all that you that you, your sons, and your nation will “succeed in all that you do.” This is one of the many prosperity promises made by God to do.” This is one of the many prosperity promises made by God to the nation Israel in the Old Testament. Essentially, these promises the nation Israel in the Old Testament. Essentially, these promises went like this: IF you as a people OBEY Me, then I will cause you went like this: IF you as a people OBEY Me, then I will cause you to PROSPER in every aspect of life. The foundational prosperity to PROSPER in every aspect of life. The foundational prosperity promises are found in Deuteronomy 28:1-14 where God promised promises are found in Deuteronomy 28:1-14 where God promised many tangible, material blessings (health, wealth, safety, etc.) to many tangible, material blessings (health, wealth, safety, etc.) to Israel IF they walked in obedience to the covenant. Physical Israel IF they walked in obedience to the covenant. Physical judgments and loss were also promised to Israel if they failed to judgments and loss were also promised to Israel if they failed to 10/2/16 430 10/2/16 430 walk in obedience to God’s laws (28:15ff). walk in obedience to God’s laws (28:15ff). David’s charge to Solomon carried this same obedience = David’s charge to Solomon carried this same obedience = prosperity theme. Solomon, his sons and his nation would be prosperity theme. Solomon, his sons and his nation would be tangibly blessed IF the king walked in God’s ways. If he failed to tangibly blessed IF the king walked in God’s ways. If he failed to walk in God’s ways, devastating loss would come to Israel. walk in God’s ways, devastating loss would come to Israel. Many modern Bible teachers err when they take these Old Many modern Bible teachers err when they take these Old Testament, Israel-specific prosperity promises and attempt to apply Testament, Israel-specific prosperity promises and attempt to apply them to New Testament Christians (the so called “prosperity them to New Testament Christians (the so called “prosperity gospel”). The New Testament church (the body of Christ) is NOT gospel”). The New Testament church (the body of Christ) is NOT heir to the promises made to Israel as a nation in the Old heir to the promises made to Israel as a nation in the Old Testament. It is an error of Bible interpretation to take promises to Testament. It is an error of Bible interpretation to take promises to Israel and attempt to apply them to the Church and modern-day Israel and attempt to apply them to the Church and modern-day individuals. Moreover, we do NOT find prosperity promises being individuals. Moreover, we do NOT find prosperity promises being made by Jesus to His followers. On the contrary, He promised that made by Jesus to His followers. On the contrary, He promised that His followers would have tribulation in this world (see John His followers would have tribulation in this world (see John 16:23); that their lives would be marked by persecution because of 16:23); that their lives would be marked by persecution because of their association with Him (see John 15:20). Thus, the first their association with Him (see John 15:20). Thus, the first Christians believed that suffering was a reward! “For to you it Christians believed that suffering was a reward! “For to you it has been granted for Christ’s sake, not only to believe in Him, has been granted for Christ’s sake, not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for His sake” (Philippians 1:29). but also to suffer for His sake” (Philippians 1:29). It is a fact that the majority of Christ-followers around the world It is a fact that the majority of Christ-followers around the world today do NOT live in circumstances marked by prosperity. Rather, today do NOT live in circumstances marked by prosperity. Rather, they live with hardship, deprivation, suffering and, in some places, they live with hardship, deprivation, suffering and, in some places, severe persecution. Their only true hopes for “prosperity” are severe persecution. Their only true hopes for “prosperity” are found in the words of James: “Has not God chosen the poor of this found in the words of James: “Has not God chosen the poor of this world to be RICH IN FAITH and HEIRS OF THE KINGDOM world to be RICH IN FAITH and HEIRS OF THE KINGDOM promised to those who love Him” (James 2:5). They do not expect promised to those who love Him” (James 2:5). They do not expect to live in mansions here and now; but they certainly expect to to live in mansions here and now; but they certainly expect to enjoy manifold blessings in the next life. enjoy manifold blessings in the next life. Thus, while the New Testament believer must avoid the error of Thus, while the New Testament believer must avoid the error of living by the O.T. obedience = prosperity formula, we can (and living by the O.T. obedience = prosperity formula, we can (and should) live by the timeless principle underlying the formula: should) live by the timeless principle underlying the formula: Walking with God is the only way to find the unique life that He Walking with God is the only way to find the unique life that He has designed for you. “For we are His handiwork, created in has designed for you. “For we are His handiwork, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which He has prepared in advance Christ Jesus for good works, which He has prepared in advance for us to walk in” (Ephesians 2:10). Those “good works” may for us to walk in” (Ephesians 2:10). Those “good works” may involve health and wealth, or they may involve suffering and loss. involve health and wealth, or they may involve suffering and loss. We are to seek HIM, and allow HIM to write the script for our We are to seek HIM, and allow HIM to write the script for our lives. This IS the charge we must make to our sons and daughters. lives. This IS the charge we must make to our sons and daughters. Walk with God . . . and let Him write the story of your life. Walk with God . . . and let Him write the story of your life. 10/2/16 431 10/2/16 431

After charging Solomon to walk with God, his words take an After charging Solomon to walk with God, his words take an unexpected tone. He asked Solomon to exact revenge upon two unexpected tone. He asked Solomon to exact revenge upon two men who had brought trouble to him during his lifetime: Joab was men who had brought trouble to him during his lifetime: Joab was David’s loyal general; yet he had overstepped his bounds by killing David’s loyal general; yet he had overstepped his bounds by killing some of David’s enemies without his consent. Shimei had cursed some of David’s enemies without his consent. Shimei had cursed David during the rebellion of Absalom. David asked Solomon to David during the rebellion of Absalom. David asked Solomon to apply the death penalty to both men. apply the death penalty to both men.

A proverb from Solomon: “Do not say, ‘I will repay evil’; Wait for the A proverb from Solomon: “Do not say, ‘I will repay evil’; Wait for the Lord, and He will save you” (Proverbs 20:22). “Do not say, ‘I will Lord, and He will save you” (Proverbs 20:22). “Do not say, ‘I will do to him as he has done to me; I will pay him back according to do to him as he has done to me; I will pay him back according to his work’” (Proverbs 24:29). “If your enemy is hungry, give him his work’” (Proverbs 24:29). “If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink . . . .” food to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink . . . .” (Proverbs 25:21). Paul wrote: “Never take your own revenge, (Proverbs 25:21). Paul wrote: “Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,’ says the Lord” (Romans 12:19). ‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,’ says the Lord” (Romans 12:19). Adonijah’s foolish request: 2:13-25 Adonijah’s foolish request: 2:13-25 Proud spirits never cease to strive to have their way (Matthew Proud spirits never cease to strive to have their way (Matthew Henry). Adonijah held fast to his proud dream of being Israel’s Henry). Adonijah held fast to his proud dream of being Israel’s next king. Thus, he asked Bathsheba to implore Solomon to grant next king. Thus, he asked Bathsheba to implore Solomon to grant him the right to marry Abishag the Shunammite, the young woman him the right to marry Abishag the Shunammite, the young woman that cared for David in his dying days (1:1-4). She may have been that cared for David in his dying days (1:1-4). She may have been perceived by the people to be one of David’s concubines (half- perceived by the people to be one of David’s concubines (half- wives), though she was not. Thus, by claiming one of David’s wives), though she was not. Thus, by claiming one of David’s “wives” as his own, Adonijah would be claiming his throne. When “wives” as his own, Adonijah would be claiming his throne. When you secured the ruler’s bed, you thereby secured his throne you secured the ruler’s bed, you thereby secured his throne (Henry). Solomon saw right through his brother’s shrewd attempt (Henry). Solomon saw right through his brother’s shrewd attempt to unseat him, and had him executed for this act of treason. to unseat him, and had him executed for this act of treason. Solomon dispenses with other opponents: 2:26-46 Solomon dispenses with other opponents: 2:26-46 Solomon dismissed Abiathar from his priesthood since he had Solomon dismissed Abiathar from his priesthood since he had supported Adonijah (2:26-27). Abiathar was the last priest in the supported Adonijah (2:26-27). Abiathar was the last priest in the lineage of Eli, who, a century earlier, had disobeyed God and lineage of Eli, who, a century earlier, had disobeyed God and forfeited the right to an enduring line of priests (1Samuel 2:30-32). forfeited the right to an enduring line of priests (1Samuel 2:30-32). Solomon also had Joab and Shimei put to death, as David had Solomon also had Joab and Shimei put to death, as David had requested. The final line summarizes the main point of the first 2 requested. The final line summarizes the main point of the first 2 chapters: chapters: “Thus the kingdom was established in the hands of Solomon” “Thus the kingdom was established in the hands of Solomon” (2:46). (2:46).

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The timing of God and His ways of bringing about justice is often a The timing of God and His ways of bringing about justice is often a great mystery. Though judgment was pronounced upon the great mystery. Though judgment was pronounced upon the household of Eli the priest, it was a century later when the household of Eli the priest, it was a century later when the judgment went into effect. So often, when we suffer an injustice, judgment went into effect. So often, when we suffer an injustice, we cry out, “Not fair!” We want God to move immediately to we cry out, “Not fair!” We want God to move immediately to remedy the situation and impose justice. Additionally, we often remedy the situation and impose justice. Additionally, we often resort to “getting even” through our own schemes. Is there a resort to “getting even” through our own schemes. Is there a situation in your life where you are yearning for God’s justice to be situation in your life where you are yearning for God’s justice to be revealed? Are you willing to let God deal with this situation, in His revealed? Are you willing to let God deal with this situation, in His way and on His timetable? God is trustworthy. way and on His timetable? God is trustworthy. Solomon’s two compromises: 3:1-4 Solomon’s two compromises: 3:1-4 In the opening lines concerning Solomon’s reign we find two little In the opening lines concerning Solomon’s reign we find two little details that will have huge long-term implications. First . . . details that will have huge long-term implications. First . . . “Solomon formed a marriage alliance with Pharaoh king of “Solomon formed a marriage alliance with Pharaoh king of Egypt, and took Pharaoh’s daughter and brought her to the city Egypt, and took Pharaoh’s daughter and brought her to the city of David . . .” (3:1). of David . . .” (3:1). The Law of Moses forbade the taking of foreign wives, even by the The Law of Moses forbade the taking of foreign wives, even by the king of Israel (see Deuteronomy 7:3,4 and 17:16-20). Further, the king of Israel (see Deuteronomy 7:3,4 and 17:16-20). Further, the forming of alliances with foreign powers was a sign of lack of forming of alliances with foreign powers was a sign of lack of dependence upon God for protection. It would, ultimately, be dependence upon God for protection. It would, ultimately, be Solomon’s love for foreign women that would lead to his demise. Solomon’s love for foreign women that would lead to his demise. Secondly . . . Secondly . . . “Now Solomon loved the Lord, walking in the statutes of his “Now Solomon loved the Lord, walking in the statutes of his father David, except he sacrificed and burned incense on the father David, except he sacrificed and burned incense on the high places” (3:3). high places” (3:3). The “high places” in the O.T. were those places where The “high places” in the O.T. were those places where unauthorized offerings were made to pagan gods and goddesses. unauthorized offerings were made to pagan gods and goddesses. Even if Solomon was not worshipping foreign gods (which at this Even if Solomon was not worshipping foreign gods (which at this point in his life seems unlikely), there is here a hint of his point in his life seems unlikely), there is here a hint of his willingness to compromise on spiritual practices. It would, later, willingness to compromise on spiritual practices. It would, later, be his love for foreign women and his willingness to allow them to be his love for foreign women and his willingness to allow them to erect altars for their foreign gods in Jerusalem that would lead to erect altars for their foreign gods in Jerusalem that would lead to God’s judgment on Solomon and the people of Israel. God’s judgment on Solomon and the people of Israel. Airplanes have been known to take flight with very minor errors in Airplanes have been known to take flight with very minor errors in the electronic compass. Yet, after hours in the air, they have the electronic compass. Yet, after hours in the air, they have strayed hundreds of miles off course into prohibited airspace. strayed hundreds of miles off course into prohibited airspace. Similarly, small compromises in our lives can, over time, turn into Similarly, small compromises in our lives can, over time, turn into bigger compromises, leading to major consequences. Be attentive bigger compromises, leading to major consequences. Be attentive to the little ‘drifts’ in your life today. They may be far greater to the little ‘drifts’ in your life today. They may be far greater issues than you realize. Ask God to reveal any ‘drifts.’ issues than you realize. Ask God to reveal any ‘drifts.’ 10/2/16 433 10/2/16 433

Solomon’s request for wisdom from God: 3:5-15 Solomon’s request for wisdom from God: 3:5-15 At the very beginning of his reign, Solomon worshipped the Lord At the very beginning of his reign, Solomon worshipped the Lord and offered 1,000 burnt offerings. That same night, the Lord and offered 1,000 burnt offerings. That same night, the Lord appeared to him and said: “Ask what you wish Me to give you” appeared to him and said: “Ask what you wish Me to give you” (3:5). Solomon responded by 1) acknowledging that he was young (3:5). Solomon responded by 1) acknowledging that he was young and unprepared to serve as Israel’s king, and 2) asking for wisdom and unprepared to serve as Israel’s king, and 2) asking for wisdom from God in order to rule the people well. from God in order to rule the people well. “Give Your servant an understanding (wise) heart to judge Your “Give Your servant an understanding (wise) heart to judge Your people to discern between good and evil” (3:9). people to discern between good and evil” (3:9). The Lord was pleased that Solomon had not made a selfish request The Lord was pleased that Solomon had not made a selfish request for a long life, or riches. for a long life, or riches. “Behold, I have done according to your words. I have given you “Behold, I have done according to your words. I have given you a wise and discerning heart, so that there has been no one like a wise and discerning heart, so that there has been no one like you before you, nor shall one like you arise after you” (3:12). you before you, nor shall one like you arise after you” (3:12). This is how Solomon became the wisest man on earth in his day, This is how Solomon became the wisest man on earth in his day, and why he wrote such a significant part of the “wisdom literature” and why he wrote such a significant part of the “wisdom literature” of the Bible. His wisdom was a supernatural gift from God. of the Bible. His wisdom was a supernatural gift from God.

What would YOU ask for, if God told you that He would grant you What would YOU ask for, if God told you that He would grant you just ONE request? Take a moment to ponder this question. Be just ONE request? Take a moment to ponder this question. Be honest. (Don’t just mimic Solomon for the sake of doing the ‘right’ honest. (Don’t just mimic Solomon for the sake of doing the ‘right’ thing.) Your biggest ASK of God will tell you something very thing.) Your biggest ASK of God will tell you something very important about your heart. What is your #1 request? important about your heart. What is your #1 request? The first test of Solomon’s discernment: 3:16-28 The first test of Solomon’s discernment: 3:16-28 Two women came to Solomon, both claiming to be the legitimate Two women came to Solomon, both claiming to be the legitimate mother of one baby. Solomon wisely used the protective instinct mother of one baby. Solomon wisely used the protective instinct of a mother for her newborn to reveal the truth in the dispute. of a mother for her newborn to reveal the truth in the dispute. Only one woman (the real mother) was willing to do anything to Only one woman (the real mother) was willing to do anything to spare the child’s life. As a result of Solomon’s actions . . . spare the child’s life. As a result of Solomon’s actions . . . “When all Israel heard of the judgment which the king had “When all Israel heard of the judgment which the king had handed down, they feared the king; for they saw that the wisdom handed down, they feared the king; for they saw that the wisdom of God was in him to administer justice” (3:28). of God was in him to administer justice” (3:28). Solomon’s officers: 4:1-19 Solomon’s officers: 4:1-19 Every great leader begins by surrounding himself/herself with Every great leader begins by surrounding himself/herself with other great leaders. Solomon’s officials in the central government other great leaders. Solomon’s officials in the central government are listed by name (4:2-6). Further, each of the 12 tribes was are listed by name (4:2-6). Further, each of the 12 tribes was responsible to support the government (“the king and his responsible to support the government (“the king and his household”) 1 month per year. A deputy from each tribe was household”) 1 month per year. A deputy from each tribe was 10/2/16 434 10/2/16 434 appointed to ensure that this system of ‘taxation’ was effectively appointed to ensure that this system of ‘taxation’ was effectively carried out. carried out.

An effective leader once said: If my voice is the only one being An effective leader once said: If my voice is the only one being heard in a room, then I am in the wrong room! Or, maybe you heard in a room, then I am in the wrong room! Or, maybe you have failed to invite the right people into the room with you. Have have failed to invite the right people into the room with you. Have you surrounded yourself with competent and confident voices that you surrounded yourself with competent and confident voices that can speak into the issues and decisions you are responsible for? can speak into the issues and decisions you are responsible for? A great leader is surrounded not only by great followers, but also A great leader is surrounded not only by great followers, but also by other great leaders. by other great leaders. The scope of Solomon’s kingdom: 4:20-28 The scope of Solomon’s kingdom: 4:20-28 The kingdom of Israel enjoyed a time of prosperity and joy under The kingdom of Israel enjoyed a time of prosperity and joy under Solomon. The geographical boundaries of Israel were wider than Solomon. The geographical boundaries of Israel were wider than at any other time in Israel’s history. There was prosperity, peace at any other time in Israel’s history. There was prosperity, peace and safety. The proverbial phrase used to describe such times of and safety. The proverbial phrase used to describe such times of blessing in Israel was this: “Every man lived under his vine and his blessing in Israel was this: “Every man lived under his vine and his fig tree . . . all the days of Solomon” (4:25). Now that’s the life! fig tree . . . all the days of Solomon” (4:25). Now that’s the life! The breadth of Solomon’s wisdom: 4:29-34 The breadth of Solomon’s wisdom: 4:29-34 The greatest thing about Solomon’s kingdom was its impact on the The greatest thing about Solomon’s kingdom was its impact on the surrounding nations, an impact that came about as a result of the surrounding nations, an impact that came about as a result of the unusual wisdom that God gave to him. His wisdom . . . unusual wisdom that God gave to him. His wisdom . . . “ . . . surpassed the wisdom of all the sons of the east and all the “ . . . surpassed the wisdom of all the sons of the east and all the wisdom of Egypt . . . they came from all peoples to hear the wisdom of Egypt . . . they came from all peoples to hear the wisdom of Solomon, from all the kings of the earth who had wisdom of Solomon, from all the kings of the earth who had heard of his wisdom” (4:30,34). heard of his wisdom” (4:30,34). At this juncture in the narrative of Israel’s history, it is important to At this juncture in the narrative of Israel’s history, it is important to recall the original purpose God had in mind when he brought them recall the original purpose God had in mind when he brought them out of Egypt and called them to be His own unique people: out of Egypt and called them to be His own unique people: “Now then, if you will indeed obey My voice and keep My “Now then, if you will indeed obey My voice and keep My covenant, then you shall be My own possession among all the covenant, then you shall be My own possession among all the peoples, for all the earth is Mine; and you shall be to Me a peoples, for all the earth is Mine; and you shall be to Me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation” (Exodus 19:5,6). kingdom of priests and a holy nation” (Exodus 19:5,6). Israel was to be a “kingdom of priests” displaying the character of Israel was to be a “kingdom of priests” displaying the character of God to all the nations of the earth. It had been more than 400 God to all the nations of the earth. It had been more than 400 years since those words were spoken through Moses to the people years since those words were spoken through Moses to the people of Israel, as they were gathered at Mt. Sinai, awaiting God’s laws of Israel, as they were gathered at Mt. Sinai, awaiting God’s laws and commandments for their nation. Now, in the time of Solomon, and commandments for their nation. Now, in the time of Solomon, the nations of the world were flocking to hear the wisdom of the nations of the world were flocking to hear the wisdom of 10/2/16 435 10/2/16 435

Solomon, beholding the glory of God’s kingdom under his rule. If Solomon, beholding the glory of God’s kingdom under his rule. If there was any period during Israel’s history when they came close there was any period during Israel’s history when they came close to fulfilling their purpose as the O.T. “light of the world,” pointing to fulfilling their purpose as the O.T. “light of the world,” pointing all nations to God and His character, it was during the early years all nations to God and His character, it was during the early years of Solomon’s reign. of Solomon’s reign. A Summary thought: A Summary thought: Throughout the pages of the Old Testament, many lives and many Throughout the pages of the Old Testament, many lives and many nations are showcased. Whether we are reading of an individual or nations are showcased. Whether we are reading of an individual or a nation, God consistently demonstrated HIS AMAZING GRACE. a nation, God consistently demonstrated HIS AMAZING GRACE. Take the life of Solomon as an example. God knew the grave sins Take the life of Solomon as an example. God knew the grave sins that Solomon would later commit, leading to disaster for the house that Solomon would later commit, leading to disaster for the house of David and the nation of Israel. Yet, God allowed Solomon to: of David and the nation of Israel. Yet, God allowed Solomon to: 1) become a great king and lead Israel in their greatest years as a 1) become a great king and lead Israel in their greatest years as a nation, 2) become the wisest man on earth with a reputation that nation, 2) become the wisest man on earth with a reputation that spread worldwide, and 3) author 3 books of Scripture – Proverbs, spread worldwide, and 3) author 3 books of Scripture – Proverbs, Ecclesiastes and Song of Solomon. Ecclesiastes and Song of Solomon. Perhaps you have made choices that went against God’s will for Perhaps you have made choices that went against God’s will for you and His revealed Word. Maybe you have resigned yourself to you and His revealed Word. Maybe you have resigned yourself to the fact that God could never make much of your life, or use you the fact that God could never make much of your life, or use you for His purposes. Because of His amazing grace (as demonstrated for His purposes. Because of His amazing grace (as demonstrated in Solomon, David, and so many others), you can be assured that in Solomon, David, and so many others), you can be assured that God desires to walk with you and bless you again . . . even using God desires to walk with you and bless you again . . . even using you and your former choices for His greater purposes in this world. you and your former choices for His greater purposes in this world. God’s GRACE turns our messes into masterpieces, for His joy and God’s GRACE turns our messes into masterpieces, for His joy and glory, and our amazement. It’s never too late to turn back to God glory, and our amazement. It’s never too late to turn back to God and trust Him to make something beautiful of your life. “May the and trust Him to make something beautiful of your life. “May the kindness of God lead you to repentance” (Romans 2:4). kindness of God lead you to repentance” (Romans 2:4).

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GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Wisdom and Wander – 1Kings 1-11 Wisdom and Wander – 1Kings 1-11

Message 2 – Solomon builds the Temple Message 2 – Solomon builds the Temple 1Kings 5-9 (and 2Chronicles 2-8) 1Kings 5-9 (and 2Chronicles 2-8)

Introduction Introduction King David desired to build a temple for God in Jerusalem. He King David desired to build a temple for God in Jerusalem. He was prohibited, however, because he had fought many wars. was prohibited, however, because he had fought many wars. While God gave David the plans for the temple (1Chronicles While God gave David the plans for the temple (1Chronicles 28:19) and allowed him to amass many materials and offerings for 28:19) and allowed him to amass many materials and offerings for the project, the task of building it fell to Solomon. He made this the project, the task of building it fell to Solomon. He made this project a major 7-year priority early in his reign as king. project a major 7-year priority early in his reign as king. Solomon’s intention: 2Chronicles 2:4-6 Solomon’s intention: 2Chronicles 2:4-6 In a letter to Hiram, king of Tyre, Solomon revealed his heart In a letter to Hiram, king of Tyre, Solomon revealed his heart concerning the temple project: concerning the temple project: “The house which I am about to build will be great, for greater is “The house which I am about to build will be great, for greater is our God than all the gods. But who is able to build a house for our God than all the gods. But who is able to build a house for Him, for the heavens and the highest heavens cannot contain Him, for the heavens and the highest heavens cannot contain Him? So who am I, that I should build a house for Him…? Him? So who am I, that I should build a house for Him…? (2Chronicles 2:5,6). (2Chronicles 2:5,6). Solomon knew two things about God: 1) He is GREATER than all Solomon knew two things about God: 1) He is GREATER than all other gods and 2) He is SO GREAT that there is no earthly house other gods and 2) He is SO GREAT that there is no earthly house that could possibly be suitable for Him. Solomon’s temple- that could possibly be suitable for Him. Solomon’s temple- building efforts were his sincere attempt to reflect to the world his building efforts were his sincere attempt to reflect to the world his view of the character of his God. view of the character of his God. Do you live with the awareness that your everyday works are a Do you live with the awareness that your everyday works are a reflection of your view of God’s glory? Paul wrote: “““Whatever“ you reflection of your view of God’s glory? Paul wrote: “““Whatever“ you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve” (Colossians inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve” (Colossians 3:23,24). It matters HOW you work at your: business, studies, 3:23,24). It matters HOW you work at your: business, studies, relationships, church, career, community involvement, caring for relationships, church, career, community involvement, caring for people, doing housework … ALL of your ‘building’ efforts today are people, doing housework … ALL of your ‘building’ efforts today are a reflection of your view of God. It doesn’t matter WHATEVER you a reflection of your view of God. It doesn’t matter WHATEVER you do … you are ultimately serving Christ. He deserves your very best. do … you are ultimately serving Christ. He deserves your very best.

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Solomon asks for help: 5:1-16 Solomon asks for help: 5:1-16 King David had a good relationship with Hiram, king of Tyre. King David had a good relationship with Hiram, king of Tyre. Solomon drew on that friendship to secure help building the Solomon drew on that friendship to secure help building the temple. He asked King Hiram for quality building materials and a temple. He asked King Hiram for quality building materials and a skilled craftsman to help him. Solomon affirmed the abilities of an skilled craftsman to help him. Solomon affirmed the abilities of an outsider to help him in significant ways. outsider to help him in significant ways. “Behold, I intend to build a house for the name of the Lord my “Behold, I intend to build a house for the name of the Lord my God, as the Lord spoke to David my father, saying, ‘Your son, God, as the Lord spoke to David my father, saying, ‘Your son, whom I will set on your throne in your place, he will build the whom I will set on your throne in your place, he will build the house for My name.’ Now therefore, command that they cut for house for My name.’ Now therefore, command that they cut for me cedars from Lebanon, and my servants will be with your me cedars from Lebanon, and my servants will be with your servants; and I will give you wages for your servants according to servants; and I will give you wages for your servants according to all that you say, for you know that there is no one among us who all that you say, for you know that there is no one among us who knows how to cut timber like the Sidonians” (5:5,6). knows how to cut timber like the Sidonians” (5:5,6). Hiram provided valuable wood and an exceptionally gifted Hiram provided valuable wood and an exceptionally gifted craftsman to serve as construction manager for the project. craftsman to serve as construction manager for the project. “Now I am sending Huram-abi, a skilled man, endowed with “Now I am sending Huram-abi, a skilled man, endowed with understanding . . . who knows how to work in gold, silver, understanding . . . who knows how to work in gold, silver, bronze, iron, stone and wood, and in purple, violet, linen and bronze, iron, stone and wood, and in purple, violet, linen and crimson fabrics, and who knows how to make all kinds of crimson fabrics, and who knows how to make all kinds of engravings and to execute any design which may be assigned to engravings and to execute any design which may be assigned to him, to work with your skilled men and with those of my lord him, to work with your skilled men and with those of my lord David your father” (2Chronicles 2:13,14). David your father” (2Chronicles 2:13,14). Who are the skilled people that you are bringing alongside of you Who are the skilled people that you are bringing alongside of you to help accomplish your work? It is unwise and unhealthy to think to help accomplish your work? It is unwise and unhealthy to think that you can do it all alone. Is there some area of your life where that you can do it all alone. Is there some area of your life where you need to look for a Huram-abi . . . a skilled person who can add you need to look for a Huram-abi . . . a skilled person who can add value to your work? Pray for discernment as you begin to search value to your work? Pray for discernment as you begin to search for the special someone who can assist you. If you get the right for the special someone who can assist you. If you get the right people working with you, you will have more peace and joy in the people working with you, you will have more peace and joy in the process, and your works will turn out much better in the end. process, and your works will turn out much better in the end. The location of the temple building: 2Chronicles 3:1 The location of the temple building: 2Chronicles 3:1 The location of the temple had been previously selected as a result The location of the temple had been previously selected as a result of a major failure/sin in King David’s life. of a major failure/sin in King David’s life. “Then Solomon began to build the house of the Lord in “Then Solomon began to build the house of the Lord in Jerusalem on Mount Moriah, where the Lord had appeared to Jerusalem on Mount Moriah, where the Lord had appeared to his father David, at the place that David had prepared on the his father David, at the place that David had prepared on the threshing floor of Ornan the Jebusite” (3:1). threshing floor of Ornan the Jebusite” (3:1). 10/9/16 438 10/9/16 438

Near the end of David’s life, his pride moved him to count his Near the end of David’s life, his pride moved him to count his troops (2Samuel 24:1-13). As a result, God sent a plague in Israel troops (2Samuel 24:1-13). As a result, God sent a plague in Israel that lasted for 3 days. The plague was stopped by the threshing that lasted for 3 days. The plague was stopped by the threshing floor of Ornan the Jebusite (2Samuel 24:16). David then built an floor of Ornan the Jebusite (2Samuel 24:16). David then built an altar on that spot and dedicated it to the Lord. It was a place that altar on that spot and dedicated it to the Lord. It was a place that represented divine MERCY intervening to check the JUDGMENT represented divine MERCY intervening to check the JUDGMENT of God against human SIN. How fitting, then, that the temple – of God against human SIN. How fitting, then, that the temple – where God would accept sacrifices and forgive peoples’ sins – where God would accept sacrifices and forgive peoples’ sins – should be built on that very spot. should be built on that very spot.

Our God is a God of grace! While we continually go astray and fall Our God is a God o f grace! While we continually go astray and fall short of His glory, He always interposes with a way of salvation short of His glory, He always interposes with a way of salvation growing out of His grace. Today, Jesus Christ – the crucified and growing out of His grace. Today, Jesus Christ – the crucified and risen Savior – stands between guilty sinners and a holy God, risen Savior – stands between guilty sinners and a holy God, offering mercy and grace. The apostle John put it like this: “My offering mercy and grace. The apostle John put it like this: “My dear children, I am writing this to you so that you will not sin. But if dear children, I am writing this to you so that you will not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an Advocate who pleads our case anyone does sin, we have an Advocate who pleads our case before the Father. He is Jesus Christ, the One who is truly before the Father. He is Jesus Christ, the One who is truly righteous. He himself is the sacrifice that atones for our sins – and righteous. He himself is the sacrifice that atones for our sins – and not only our sins but the sins of all the world” (1John 2:1,2). Have not only our sins but the sins of all the world” (1John 2:1,2). Have you accepted God’s gracious gift of forgiveness through Jesus??? you accepted God’s gracious gift of forgiveness through Jesus??? The building of the temple: 1Kings 6:1-38 The building of the temple: 1Kings 6:1-38 The 6 th chapter of 1Kings records the details of the construction The 6 th chapter of 1Kings records the details of the construction process. The work was started in the 4 th year of Solomon’s reign process. The work was started in the 4 th year of Solomon’s reign and completed in his 11 th year. In the midst of this detailed and completed in his 11 th year. In the midst of this detailed description, God had a message for Solomon concerning His description, God had a message for Solomon concerning His stipulations for dwelling among His people by His Spirit: stipulations for dwelling among His people by His Spirit: Now the word of the Lord came to Solomon saying, “Concerning Now the word of the Lord came to Solomon saying, “Concerning this house which you are building, if you will walk in My statutes this house which you are building, if you will walk in My statutes and execute My ordinances and keep all My commandments by and execute My ordinances and keep all My commandments by walking in them, then I will carry out My word with you which I walking in them, then I will carry out My word with you which I spoke to David your father. I will dwell among the people of spoke to David your father. I will dwell among the people of Israel, and will not forsake My people Israel” (6:11-13). Israel, and will not forsake My people Israel” (6:11-13). To God, His main issue was not the glory of the temple (as if God To God, His main issue was not the glory of the temple (as if God needed anything that could add to His glory); rather, it was the needed anything that could add to His glory); rather, it was the devotion of His people in their daily lives. IF the people walked devotion of His people in their daily lives. IF the people walked in His ways, THEN He would be pleased to dwell among them. in His ways, THEN He would be pleased to dwell among them. But IF they did not walk in His ways, He had no desire to remain But IF they did not walk in His ways, He had no desire to remain in this “glorious house” built for Him. We might recall what the in this “glorious house” built for Him. We might recall what the prophet Samuel said to Israel’s 1 st king, Saul, when he kept prophet Samuel said to Israel’s 1 st king, Saul, when he kept disobeying God (and then expecting God to bless his life and rule): disobeying God (and then expecting God to bless his life and rule): 10/9/16 439 10/9/16 439

“Has the Lord as much delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices “Has the Lord as much delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed than the fat of rams” (1Samuel 15:22). sacrifice, and to heed than the fat of rams” (1Samuel 15:22).

Buildings, rituals and routines do not move God’s heart; rather, He Buildings, rituals and routines do not move God’s heart; rather, He is looking for people whose heart is fully devoted to Him. Many is looking for people whose heart is fully devoted to Him. Many years later, through the prophet Isaiah, God would say this about years later, through the prophet Isaiah, God would say this about the temple: “Heaven is my throne, and the earth is my footstool. the temple: “Heaven is my throne, and the earth is my footstool. Where is the house you will build for me? Where will my resting Where is the house you will build for me? Where will my resting place be? Has not my hand made all these things, and so they place be? Has not my hand made all these things, and so they came into being?” declares the Lord. But these are the ones I look came into being?” declares the Lord. But these are the ones I look on with favor: those who are humble and contrite in spirit, and who on with favor: those who are humble and contrite in spirit, and who tremble at my word” (Isaiah 66:1-3). God has always cared much tremble at my word” (Isaiah 66:1-3). God has always cared much more about the condition of our hearts than the condition of our more about the condition of our hearts than the condition of our buildings and external forms of religion. Ask yourself this simple buildings and external forms of religion. Ask yourself this simple question: Do you have a deep reverence for God’s voice (His word) question: Do you have a deep reverence for God’s voice (His word) in your life? Does it move you to love and obey Him? Is your spirit in your life? Does it move you to love and obey Him? Is your spirit sensitive to His invitations, moving in the directions He invites? sensitive to His invitations, moving in the directions He invites? Solomon’s personal buildings: 7:1-12 Solomon’s personal buildings: 7:1-12 Following the construction of the temple, Solomon built his own Following the construction of the temple, Solomon built his own house and various other royal buildings over a period of 13 years house and various other royal buildings over a period of 13 years (thus taking a total of 20 years to build all of his structures). (thus taking a total of 20 years to build all of his structures). Along with a residence in Jerusalem, he built a country home in Along with a residence in Jerusalem, he built a country home in the forest of Lebanon, to which he could retreat from the busy life the forest of Lebanon, to which he could retreat from the busy life of a ruler. He also built a hall of justice where he could sit on a of a ruler. He also built a hall of justice where he could sit on a seat of judgment and render decisions for the people. seat of judgment and render decisions for the people. Details of Huram’s work on the temple: 7:13-51 Details of Huram’s work on the temple: 7:13-51 Great detail is given to the description of the construction process. Great detail is given to the description of the construction process. The temple was ornate, to say the least, even the door hinges being The temple was ornate, to say the least, even the door hinges being made of gold (7:50)! A very large basin (measuring 15 feet across made of gold (7:50)! A very large basin (measuring 15 feet across and 7-1/2 feet deep, holding 11,000 gallons of water) was made for and 7-1/2 feet deep, holding 11,000 gallons of water) was made for various purification rituals (7:23-26). The priests would purify various purification rituals (7:23-26). The priests would purify themselves in this large basin. The immersions that took place themselves in this large basin. The immersions that took place here were the forerunner to the immersions in water that formed here were the forerunner to the immersions in water that formed the basis for John the Baptist’s ministry (Matthew 3:6). John’s the basis for John the Baptist’s ministry (Matthew 3:6). John’s baptisms, in turn, became the basis for the ‘believers baptism’ in baptisms, in turn, became the basis for the ‘believers baptism’ in water that we find in the book of Acts. Thus, when we participate water that we find in the book of Acts. Thus, when we participate in modern water baptism we are connecting to a very long tradition in modern water baptism we are connecting to a very long tradition of water-immersion ceremonies that depicted purification from of water-immersion ceremonies that depicted purification from sins and standing holy (spotless) before God. sins and standing holy (spotless) before God.

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Another interesting feature of the temple was the two tall columns Another interesting feature of the temple was the two tall columns erected at the entrance (7:15-22). Each pillar was 27 feet tall, and erected at the entrance (7:15-22). Each pillar was 27 feet tall, and each was named. The pillar on the right was named Jachin (He each was named. The pillar on the right was named Jachin (He shall establish), while the one on the left was named Boaz (In it is shall establish), while the one on the left was named Boaz (In it is strength). The names reminded the worshippers that their strength strength). The names reminded the worshippers that their strength and security grew out of their right relationship with God, as and security grew out of their right relationship with God, as maintained through confession, sacrifice and worship. maintained through confession, sacrifice and worship.

What does it really mean to have a ‘relationship with God ?’ First, it What does it really mean to have a ‘relationship with God?’ First, it means that you turn to God from your own ways. You means that you turn to God from your own ways. You acknowledge your need for His forgiveness. You believe (accept) acknowledge your need for His forgiveness. You believe (accept) that Jesus died for your sins. At that moment, you become a child that Jesus died for your sins. At that moment, you become a child of God. His Holy Spirit enters your being (much like God’s Spirit of God. His Holy Spirit enters your being (much like God’s Spirit would enter Solomon’s temple). But having a relationship with would enter Solomon’s temple). But having a relationship with God further means that you live in daily, moment-by-moment God further means that you live in daily, moment-by-moment dependence upon Him. He is your foundation and strength in life. dependence upon Him. He is your foundation and strength in life. Everything is built on Him (the foundation), and everything is done Everything is built on Him (the foundation), and everything is done with Him (the strength). As King David wrote: “I love you, Lord, my with Him (the strength). As King David wrote: “I love you, Lord, my strength. The Lord is my rock . . .” (Psalm 18:1). strength. The Lord is my rock . . .” (Psalm 18:1). The ark brought into the temple: 8:1-11 The ark brought into the temple: 8:1-11 Having completed the construction, it was time to bring the sacred Having completed the construction, it was time to bring the sacred Ark of the Covenant into the temple, along with all of the other key Ark of the Covenant into the temple, along with all of the other key items from the Tabernacle (tent of meeting) that had been items from the Tabernacle (tent of meeting) that had been constructed in Moses’ day. At that time, the Tabernacle and its constructed in Moses’ day. At that time, the Tabernacle and its furnishings were at Gibeon (about 5 miles northwest of Jerusalem), furnishings were at Gibeon (about 5 miles northwest of Jerusalem), while the Ark of the Covenant was already in a temporary tent in while the Ark of the Covenant was already in a temporary tent in Jerusalem (2Chronicles 1:3,4). The elders of Israel accompanied Jerusalem (2Chronicles 1:3,4). The elders of Israel accompanied the priests in bringing these sacred items into the new temple. the priests in bringing these sacred items into the new temple. When the Ark reached its resting place in the inner sanctuary, the When the Ark reached its resting place in the inner sanctuary, the presence of God filled the place. presence of God filled the place. “When the priests came out of the Holy Place, a thick cloud filled “When the priests came out of the Holy Place, a thick cloud filled the Temple of the Lord. The priests could not continue their the Temple of the Lord. The priests could not continue their service because of the cloud, for the glorious presence of the service because of the cloud, for the glorious presence of the Lord filled the Temple of the Lord” (8:10,11). Lord filled the Temple of the Lord” (8:10,11). Once again, we see the central message of the Bible: God desires Once again, we see the central message of the Bible: God desires to be with us – Immanuel. In every period of history, He is seeking to be with us – Immanuel. In every period of history, He is seeking to dwell with people. Even today, He desires to make your heart to dwell with people. Even today, He desires to make your heart His home. His home. Solomon’s prayer of dedication: 8:12-61 Solomon’s prayer of dedication: 8:12-61 After addressing the people of Israel (8:12-21), Solomon turned to After addressing the people of Israel (8:12-21), Solomon turned to 10/9/16 441 10/9/16 441 the Lord and offered a prayer of dedication (8:22-53). Throughout the Lord and offered a prayer of dedication (8:22-53). Throughout this lengthy prayer, one request is repeated over and over again. It this lengthy prayer, one request is repeated over and over again. It may be paraphrased like this: When Your people sin, and they may be paraphrased like this: When Your people sin, and they come to this place to repent and confess, please hear from heaven, come to this place to repent and confess, please hear from heaven, forgive their sins and restore them. forgive their sins and restore them. Finally, Solomon blessed the people (8:54-61) and dedicated the Finally, Solomon blessed the people (8:54-61) and dedicated the temple with a massive number of sacrifices (8:62-66). The temple with a massive number of sacrifices (8:62-66). The celebrations lasted for 14 days before the people returned with celebrations lasted for 14 days before the people returned with incredible joy to their homes. God’s new house was open! incredible joy to their homes. God’s new house was open! Today, we have immediate access into the presence of the Lord at Today, we have immediate access into the presence of the Lord at any moment of any day. We do not need to go to a specific any moment of any day. We do not need to go to a specific location to approach God. We can come confidently to Jesus “to location to approach God. We can come confidently to Jesus “to receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16). There is no need to sit in defeat over our failures. Go 4:16). There is no need to sit in defeat over our failures. Go directly to our faithful and merciful High Priest, Jesus. “This High directly to our faithful and merciful High Priest, Jesus. “This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin” (Hebrews 4:15). same testings we do, yet he did not sin” (Hebrews 4:15). God’s Answer to Solomon’s prayer: 9:1-9 God’s Answer to Solomon’s prayer: 9:1-9 (see also 2Chronicles 7:11-22) (see also 2Chronicles 7:11-22) In response to Solomon’s prayer of dedication, God had two In response to Solomon’s prayer of dedication, God had two messages. First, concerning Solomon’s request that God hear His messages. First, concerning Solomon’s request that God hear His peoples cries for forgiveness, God said: peoples cries for forgiveness, God said: “If My people who are called by My name humble themselves “If My people who are called by My name humble themselves and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sin and will heal their I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sin and will heal their land. Now My eyes will be open and My ears attentive to the land. Now My eyes will be open and My ears attentive to the prayer offered in this place” (2Chronicles 7:14,15). prayer offered in this place” (2Chronicles 7:14,15). God is looking for humility and brokenness, not perfection. As God is looking for humility and brokenness, not perfection. As Solomon put it in his prayer of dedication: “For there is no man Solomon put it in his prayer of dedication: “For there is no man who does not sin” (1Kings 8:46). who does not sin” (1Kings 8:46). 2Chronicles 7:14 is often used on the National Day of Prayer in 2Chronicles 7:14 is often used on the National Day of Prayer in America. This is, indeed, a fitting call to national repentance and America. This is, indeed, a fitting call to national repentance and confession. But now that we see the original context of this verse confession. But now that we see the original context of this verse (Solomon’s dedication of the temple, and God’s response), we can (Solomon’s dedication of the temple, and God’s response), we can make a much more personal application of this famous verse. make a much more personal application of this famous verse. God was saying that He is open ANY DAY, and ANY TIME to the God was saying that He is open ANY DAY, and ANY TIME to the humble prayers of His people, even individually. We need not wait humble prayers of His people, even individually. We need not wait for a National Day of Prayer to claim the promise of 2Chronicles for a National Day of Prayer to claim the promise of 2Chronicles 7:14. It is God’s promise to you, today. When was the last time 7:14. It is God’s promise to you, today. When was the last time you humbled yourself before God, confessed your sins, and asked you humbled yourself before God, confessed your sins, and asked Him to bring healing and wholeness to your life? 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On Solomon, the house of David, and the whole nation of Israel. On the other hand, disobedience would have grave consequences . . . the other hand, disobedience would have grave consequences . . . “But if you or your sons indeed turn away from following Me, “But if you or your sons indeed turn away from following Me, and do not keep My commandments and My statutes which I and do not keep My commandments and My statutes which I have set before you, and go and serve other gods and worship have set before you, and go and serve other gods and worship them, then I will cut off Israel from the land which I have given them, then I will cut off Israel from the land which I have given them, and the house which I have consecrated for My name, I them, and the house which I have consecrated for My name, I will cast out of My sight . . . this house will become a heap of will cast out of My sight . . . this house will become a heap of ruins . . .” (1Kings 9:4-9). ruins . . .” (1Kings 9:4-9). Sadly, Solomon would not remain faithful to God; rather, he would Sadly, Solomon would not remain faithful to God; rather, he would eventually turn away, allowing his love for many women to rule eventually turn away, allowing his love for many women to rule his heart. It took him 20 years to build all of his structures. The his heart. It took him 20 years to build all of his structures. The last 20 years of his reign he destroyed them through disobedience. last 20 years of his reign he destroyed them through disobedience. The house of his God would become the house of his wives’ idols. The house of his God would become the house of his wives’ idols. As a result, the kingdom of Israel was torn apart, and would never As a result, the kingdom of Israel was torn apart, and would never again see the glory of the early years of Solomon’s reign. again see the glory of the early years of Solomon’s reign.

The apostle Paul wrote to 1 st century Christians about the temple The apostle Paul wrote to 1 st century Christians about the temple of God: “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy of God: “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price (the precious your own? For you have been bought with a price (the precious blood of the perfect Son of God): therefore glorify God in your blood of the perfect Son of God): therefore glorify God in your body” (1Corinthians 6:18-20). The glorious presence of God no body” (1Corinthians 6:18-20). The glorious presence of God no longer dwells in a building made by human hands; rather, He longer dwells in a building made by human hands; rather, He dwells in human hearts that choose to enthrone Him. If you have dwells in human hearts that choose to enthrone Him. If you have received Jesus Christ as your Savior, you must realize that YOU are received Jesus Christ as your Savior, you must realize that YOU are now the temple of the Holy Spirit. This is why Paul so strongly now the temple of the Holy Spirit. This is why Paul so strongly admonished the early Christians to be careful to maintain holiness admonished the early Christians to be careful to maintain holiness in their “temple” (their bodies). How well are you taking care of in their “temple” (their bodies). How well are you taking care of the God’s modern temple? Is He pleased, today, to make His the God’s modern temple? Is He pleased, today, to make His dwelling with you? dwelling with you?

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GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Wisdom and Wander – 1Kings 1-11 Wisdom and Wander – 1Kings 1-11

Message 3 – Solomon’s Rise and Fall Message 3 – Solomon’s Rise and Fall 1Kings 10-11 1Kings 10-11

Introduction Introduction As we study these summary chapters of Solomon's life, the As we study these summary chapters of Solomon's life, the haunting question is: What went wrong and what can we learn haunting question is: What went wrong and what can we learn from a man that had such wisdom , yet combined with a wandering from a man that had such wisdom , yet combined with a wandering heart? We’ve all seen modern examples of people who have, heart? We’ve all seen modern examples of people who have, through poor choices, squandered tremendous potential and made a through poor choices, squandered tremendous potential and made a ruin of their lives. In Solomon’s day, there was no one more richly ruin of their lives. In Solomon’s day, there was no one more richly blessed and gifted than he was. His father, David, handed him a blessed and gifted than he was. His father, David, handed him a massive, united kingdom; Solomon did not have to fight a single massive, united kingdom; Solomon did not have to fight a single war. He was given a strong spiritual heritage, being the son of “the war. He was given a strong spiritual heritage, being the son of “the man after God’s own heart.” Further, at the beginning of his reign man after God’s own heart.” Further, at the beginning of his reign he was given the unusual opportunity to ask God for any one thing. he was given the unusual opportunity to ask God for any one thing. He asked for wisdom to rule well since he was only around 20 He asked for wisdom to rule well since he was only around 20 years old . In response, God gave to Solomon a supernatural gift of years old . In response, God gave to Solomon a supernatural gift of wisdom covering every aspect of life. Solomon had unparalleled wisdom covering every aspect of life. Solomon had unparalleled potential to glorify God through his life and to help Israel fulfill potential to glorify God through his life and to help Israel fulfill her unique national purpose to be a witness for God to the world. her unique national purpose to be a witness for God to the world. He began well, but sadly over the years his heart wandered and he He began well, but sadly over the years his heart wandered and he squandered everything entrusted to him. "Above all else, guard squandered everything entrusted to him. "Above all else, guard your heart, for it determines the course of your life" (Proverbs your heart, for it determines the course of your life" (Proverbs 4:23). Solomon failed to guard his heart and, as a result, he 4:23). Solomon failed to guard his heart and, as a result, he squandered his great God-given potential. squandered his great God-given potential. A Responsive Heart Should Flow from Extravagant Love A Responsive Heart Should Flow from Extravagant Love "Since you have asked for wisdom… I will give it to you, and "Since you have asked for wisdom… I will give it to you, and moreover I will give you riches and honor… And IF you walk in moreover I will give you riches and honor… And IF you walk in My ways and obey My statutes and commands as David your My ways and obey My statutes and commands as David your father did, I will give you a long life" (1Kings 3:10-14). father did, I will give you a long life" (1Kings 3:10-14). The extravagant love of God was poured out on Solomon in the The extravagant love of God was poured out on Solomon in the form of incredible wisdom, earthly fame and fortune of all kinds. form of incredible wisdom, earthly fame and fortune of all kinds. God pours out such love, waiting to be loved in return. The God pours out such love, waiting to be loved in return. The greatest response of gratitude for Solomon was to constantly greatest response of gratitude for Solomon was to constantly remember who had given him all of these privileges, and most remember who had given him all of these privileges, and most 10/16/16 444 10/16/16 444 importantly to be vigilant to CULTIVATE HIS LOVE FOR GOD importantly to be vigilant to CULTIVATE HIS LOVE FOR GOD who had loved him first (2Samuel 12:24,25). Sadly, and subtly, who had loved him first (2Samuel 12:24,25). Sadly, and subtly, Solomon used his position and power to acquire wealth , Solomon used his position and power to acquire wealth , possessions and women far beyond what God had ordained. possessions and women far beyond what God had ordained. Although his life looked right on the outside, other loves in his Although his life looked right on the outside, other loves in his heart were quietly driving him to disobey God's commands and heart were quietly driving him to disobey God's commands and warnings that he should have been learning and heeding with a warnings that he should have been learning and heeding with a holy fear of the consequences. (See God's warnings through holy fear of the consequences. (See God's warnings through Moses – Deuteronomy 6:10-15. ) Moses – Deuteronomy 6:10-15. ) During the first 20 years of his reign, Solomon specifically During the first 20 years of his reign, Solomon specifically disobeyed commands God gave to Israel’s kings (see Deuteronomy disobeyed commands God gave to Israel’s kings (see Deuteronomy 17:16-20 ): 17:16-20 ): 1. The king must not acquire great numbers of horses for himself 1. The king must not acquire great numbers of horses for himself or make the people return to Egypt to get them (Dt.17:16). or make the people return to Egypt to get them (Dt.17:16). 'Solomon accumulated… 12,000 horses… which were imported 'Solomon accumulated… 12,000 horses… which were imported from EGYPT' (1Kgs 10:26-28). from EGYPT' (1Kgs 10:26-28). 2. He must not take many foreign wives, or his heart will be led 2. He must not take many foreign wives, or his heart will be led astray (Dt.17:17). 'He had 700 wives of royal birth…and his astray (Dt.17:17). 'He had 700 wives of royal birth…and his wives led him astray' (1Kgs 11:3). wives led him astray' (1Kgs 11:3). 3. He must not accumulate large amounts of silver and gold 3. He must not accumulate large amounts of silver and gold (Dt.17:17). 'The weight of gold yearly was 666 talents- (Dt.17:17). 'The weight of gold yearly was 666 talents- $20,000,000…not including the revenue from the traders and $20,000,000…not including the revenue from the traders and foreign kings. He made 500 shields of gold…his throne was foreign kings. He made 500 shields of gold…his throne was overlaid with gold…' 'the king made silver as common in overlaid with gold…' 'the king made silver as common in Jerusalem as stones' (1Kgs 10:14-18,27). Jerusalem as stones' (1Kgs 10:14-18,27). Solomon also disrespected King of Hiram who had lavishly Solomon also disrespected King of Hiram who had lavishly provided much of the materials and skilled workers to fulfill the provided much of the materials and skilled workers to fulfill the mandate to build the temple and palace the 1 st 20 years. He gave to mandate to build the temple and palace the 1 st 20 years. He gave to Hiram cities that were basically worthless. Hiram cities that were basically worthless. "Solomon gave 20 towns to Hiram, King of Tyre, in Galilee, "Solomon gave 20 towns to Hiram, King of Tyre, in Galilee, because he had supplied him with all the cedar and pine and gold because he had supplied him with all the cedar and pine and gold he wanted. But when Hiram went to see the towns, he was not he wanted. But when Hiram went to see the towns, he was not pleased with them. 'What kind of towns are these you have given pleased with them. 'What kind of towns are these you have given me, my brother?' And he called them the Land of Cabul - good- me, my brother?' And he called them the Land of Cabul - good- for-nothing. Now Hiram had sent 120 talents (4 1/2 tons) of for-nothing. Now Hiram had sent 120 talents (4 1/2 tons) of gold" (1Kgs 9:10-14). gold" (1Kgs 9:10-14).

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When someone shows you extravagant love, what is your When someone shows you extravagant love, what is your response? Do you take it for granted with an entitlement spirit? response? Do you take it for granted with an entitlement spirit? OR- Do you seek to love, honor and show gratitude to the giver, OR- Do you seek to love, honor and show gratitude to the giver, who has lavishly loved you without obligation? It is an insult to do who has lavishly loved you without obligation? It is an insult to do otherwise. God's LOVE is free and extravagant, but our human otherwise. God's LOVE is free and extravagant, but our human heart is prone to selfishly feel that the blessings are ours to own. heart is prone to selfishly feel that the blessings are ours to own. We often feel entitled to dictate the outcome, and stretch the We often feel entitled to dictate the outcome, and stretch the boundaries. Are you personally abusing blessings that have been boundaries. Are you personally abusing blessings that have been lovingly poured out on you? Ask those who know you well, if you lovingly poured out on you? Ask those who know you well, if you want an honest answer. want an honest answer. The Queen of Sheba visits Solomon: 10:1-13 The Queen of Sheba visits Solomon: 10:1-13 Earlier we were told that the kings of the earth were flocking to Earlier we were told that the kings of the earth were flocking to hear Solomon’s wisdom, ranking him wiser even than Egypt: hear Solomon’s wisdom, ranking him wiser even than Egypt: “Solomon's wisdom was greater…than all the wisdom of Egypt “Solomon's wisdom was greater…than all the wisdom of Egypt (4:30). All the kings of the earth sought an audience with (4:30). All the kings of the earth sought an audience with Solomon to hear the wisdom God had put in his heart" Solomon to hear the wisdom God had put in his heart" (2Chron. 9:23; 1Kings 4:34;10:24). (2Chron. 9:23; 1Kings 4:34;10:24). The visit of the Queen of Sheba provides an example of one such The visit of the Queen of Sheba provides an example of one such visit of a foreign monarch, and the huge impact upon her heart. visit of a foreign monarch, and the huge impact upon her heart. “Now when the queen of Sheba heard about the fame of “Now when the queen of Sheba heard about the fame of Solomon concerning the name of the Lord, she came to test him Solomon concerning the name of the Lord, she came to test him with difficult questions. So she came to Jerusalem with a very with difficult questions. So she came to Jerusalem with a very large retinue, with camels carrying spices and very much gold large retinue, with camels carrying spices and very much gold and precious stones” (10:1,2). and precious stones” (10:1,2). The queen not only heard the wisdom of Solomon; she also The queen not only heard the wisdom of Solomon; she also observed the magnificence of his palaces, the manner in which his observed the magnificence of his palaces, the manner in which his household operated, even “the stairway by which he went up to the household operated, even “the stairway by which he went up to the house of the Lord.” Seeing all of this glory, "she was house of the Lord.” Seeing all of this glory, "she was overwhelmed" (10:5 – NIV). overwhelmed" (10:5 – NIV). Then she said to the king, “It was a true report which I heard in Then she said to the king, “It was a true report which I heard in my own land about your words and your wisdom. Nevertheless I my own land about your words and your wisdom. Nevertheless I did not believe the reports, until I came and saw it with my own did not believe the reports, until I came and saw it with my own eyes." And indeed, the half was not told me. You exceed in eyes." And indeed, the half was not told me. You exceed in wisdom and prosperity the report which I heard. How blessed wisdom and prosperity the report which I heard. How blessed are your men, how blessed are these your servants who stand are your men, how blessed are these your servants who stand before you continually and hear your wisdom. Blessed be the before you continually and hear your wisdom. Blessed be the Lord your God who delighted in you to set you on the throne of Lord your God who delighted in you to set you on the throne of Israel; because the Lord loved Israel forever, therefore He made Israel; because the Lord loved Israel forever, therefore He made you king, to do justice and righteousness” (10:6-9). you king, to do justice and righteousness” (10:6-9). 10/16/16 446 10/16/16 446

The visiting queen gave GOD the glory for all of Solomon’s The visiting queen gave GOD the glory for all of Solomon’s success. She herself had great insight into WHY Solomon was so success. She herself had great insight into WHY Solomon was so blessed and successful (1Kings 10:9). His GOD had blessed him. blessed and successful (1Kings 10:9). His GOD had blessed him. We may wonder if comments like these, coming from foreign We may wonder if comments like these, coming from foreign leaders, made any impact on Solomon’s heart. Here, after 20+ leaders, made any impact on Solomon’s heart. Here, after 20+ years of his reign, God sent a foreign queen to remind him of WHY years of his reign, God sent a foreign queen to remind him of WHY he had been so extravagantly blessed. he had been so extravagantly blessed. 1. God had delighted in Solomon. 1. God had delighted in Solomon. 2. God had placed him on the throne of Israel. 2. God had placed him on the throne of Israel. 3. God made Solomon king because of His eternal love for Israel. 3. God made Solomon king because of His eternal love for Israel. 4. Solomon was to maintain justice and righteousness. 4. Solomon was to maintain justice and righteousness.

God often uses unexpected messengers to remind us of His work God often uses unexpected messengers to remind us of His work in our lives and the blessings He has bestowed upon us. We so in our lives and the blessings He has bestowed upon us. We so easily become forgetful, and may even take for granted all that He easily become forgetful, and may even take for granted all that He has done for us (or become bitter that He has not done more). has done for us (or become bitter that He has not done more). Has God sent you an unexpected messenger to remind you of His Has God sent you an unexpected messenger to remind you of His great love for you? Or, maybe the opposite question should be great love for you? Or, maybe the opposite question should be asked: Can you be that unexpected messenger of God’s love for asked: Can you be that unexpected messenger of God’s love for someone else who has lost sight of God’s great love for them? someone else who has lost sight of God’s great love for them? The visits of these many kings and queens to Solomon fits in The visits of these many kings and queens to Solomon fits in beautifully with the whole point of Israel’s existence as a nation: to beautifully with the whole point of Israel’s existence as a nation: to represent the character of Yahweh (God) to the world (Exodus represent the character of Yahweh (God) to the world (Exodus 19:5,6). It was happening in Solomon’s glory days. God was 19:5,6). It was happening in Solomon’s glory days. God was fulfilling His word to Solomon that HE had promised in his dream fulfilling His word to Solomon that HE had promised in his dream (1Kings 3:5-15). The world WAS seeing the character of God (1Kings 3:5-15). The world WAS seeing the character of God revealed in the wisdom and ways of Solomon and his people. revealed in the wisdom and ways of Solomon and his people. The queen exchanged an extraordinary amount of gifts with The queen exchanged an extraordinary amount of gifts with Solomon and then departed to her own country. Solomon and then departed to her own country.

With PRIVILEGE comes RESPONSIBILITY . Jesus said : "To whom With PRIVILEGE comes RESPONSIBILITY . Jesus said : "To whom much is given, much is required" (Luke 12:48). We are held much is given, much is required" (Luke 12:48). We are held responsible for what we have been given. God expects that we use responsible for what we have been given. God expects that we use our privileges well to glorify Him and benefit others. What our privileges well to glorify Him and benefit others. What privileges have you been given? Education, athletics, music, privileges have you been given? Education, athletics, music, artistry, gifts of leadership, wealth, opportunity to travel, spiritual artistry, gifts of leadership, wealth, opportunity to travel, spiritual gifts and natural talents, etc. When people praise you, try gifts and natural talents, etc. When people praise you, try answering "Thank you, but I give GOD the glory for these talents answering "Thank you, but I give GOD the glory for these talents and the opportunities I have had to develop them. I know that and the opportunities I have had to develop them. I know that without Him I would not be where I am today". without Him I would not be where I am today".

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(There is uncertainty as to the precise location of Sheba. Jesus (There is uncertainty as to the precise location of Sheba. Jesus referred to this woman simply as “the Queen of the South” referred to this woman simply as “the Queen of the South” [Matthew 12:42]. Many extra-Biblical sources support the theory [Matthew 12:42]. Many extra-Biblical sources support the theory that the Queen of Sheba was from Ethiopia. The long-standing that the Queen of Sheba was from Ethiopia. The long-standing Ethiopian legend goes well beyond the biblical account of the Ethiopian legend goes well beyond the biblical account of the queen’s visit to Solomon by stating that she had a child from queen’s visit to Solomon by stating that she had a child from Solomon and, as a result, the entire dynasty of Ethiopian kings Solomon and, as a result, the entire dynasty of Ethiopian kings were ‘sons of Solomon’ and heirs to God’s blessings. They also were ‘sons of Solomon’ and heirs to God’s blessings. They also believe that the sacred Ark of the Covenant was at some point believe that the sacred Ark of the Covenant was at some point taken to Ethiopia, and that it is still there today, in an unknown taken to Ethiopia, and that it is still there today, in an unknown location. Many Ethiopian churches have symbolic “Arks” that are location. Many Ethiopian churches have symbolic “Arks” that are consecrated by church leaders, thus making the place of worship consecrated by church leaders, thus making the place of worship truly holy. In contrast to these Ethiopian legends, some scholars truly holy. In contrast to these Ethiopian legends, some scholars think that it is more likely that Sheba was located in Southwestern think that it is more likely that Sheba was located in Southwestern Arabia. The precise location of Sheba remains a mystery, and is Arabia. The precise location of Sheba remains a mystery, and is not critical to our understanding and application of the biblical not critical to our understanding and application of the biblical account of the queen’s visit). account of the queen’s visit). Solomon’s unparalleled fame and glory: 10:23-29 Solomon’s unparalleled fame and glory: 10:23-29 "So King Solomon became greater than all the kings of the earth "So King Solomon became greater than all the kings of the earth in riches and in wisdom. The whole world sought audience with in riches and in wisdom. The whole world sought audience with Solomon, to hear his wisdom which God had put in his heart. Solomon, to hear his wisdom which God had put in his heart. Every man brought a gift- articles of silver and gold, garments, Every man brought a gift- articles of silver and gold, garments, weapons, spices, horses, and mules, so much year by year” weapons, spices, horses, and mules, so much year by year” (10:23-25). (10:23-25).

God is always seeking to make Himself known to the world. And God is always seeking to make Himself known to the world. And His method is to use people to convey His message to other His method is to use people to convey His message to other people. This is why Jesus called His followers “the salt of the people. This is why Jesus called His followers “the salt of the earth” and “the light of the world.” Similarly, the apostle Paul earth” and “the light of the world.” Similarly, the apostle Paul described the early Christians as “ambassadors of Christ” and described the early Christians as “ambassadors of Christ” and “stars shining in the world.” God wants to use YOU to represent “stars shining in the world.” God wants to use YOU to represent HIM to the people in your sphere of influence. He WILL shine out HIM to the people in your sphere of influence. He WILL shine out through your life of integrity- your actions, your values, your through your life of integrity- your actions, your values, your responses, your words, your relationships , your character, your responses, your words, your relationships , your character, your works . . . through ALL of you, if you desire it. Think about your works . . . through ALL of you, if you desire it. Think about your own life right now, and your own sphere of influence. WHO is able own life right now, and your own sphere of influence. WHO is able to see and hear wise words and actions in your life that bring to see and hear wise words and actions in your life that bring GLORY to GOD and put HIM on display? GLORY to GOD and put HIM on display?

10/16/16 448 10/16/16 448 Solomon’s fall: 11:1-8 Solomon’s fall: 11:1-8 The 11 th chapter of 1Kings opens with surprising and sad words The 11 th chapter of 1Kings opens with surprising and sad words concerning Solomon: concerning Solomon: “Now King Solomon loved many foreign women along with the “Now King Solomon loved many foreign women along with the daughter of Pharaoh: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian, daughter of Pharaoh: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian, and Hittite women, from the nations concerning which the Lord and Hittite women, from the nations concerning which the Lord had said to the sons of Israel, “You shall not associate with them, had said to the sons of Israel, “You shall not associate with them, nor shall they associate with you, for they will surely turn your nor shall they associate with you, for they will surely turn your heart away after their gods.” Solomon held fast to these in love” heart away after their gods.” Solomon held fast to these in love” (11:1,2). (11:1,2). Solomon had not only been collecting wealth and wisdom . . . but Solomon had not only been collecting wealth and wisdom . . . but somewhere along the way he began collecting women from every somewhere along the way he began collecting women from every nation. The text specifies that he had 700 wives and princesses, nation. The text specifies that he had 700 wives and princesses, along with another 300 concubines. The most telling line is the along with another 300 concubines. The most telling line is the last one: Solomon held fast to them in love. Foreign women were last one: Solomon held fast to them in love. Foreign women were the first love of Solomon’s heart (starting with the Princess of the first love of Solomon’s heart (starting with the Princess of Egypt - 1Kgs. 3:1). Pleasing them was his primary preoccupation. Egypt - 1Kgs. 3:1). Pleasing them was his primary preoccupation. “For when Solomon was old, his wives turned his heart away “For when Solomon was old, his wives turned his heart away after other gods; and his heart was not wholly devoted to the after other gods; and his heart was not wholly devoted to the Lord his God, as the heart of David his father had been” (11:4). Lord his God, as the heart of David his father had been” (11:4). Solomon not only loved these women; but he caved in to the Solomon not only loved these women; but he caved in to the desires of their hearts to be able to worship their own idols in and desires of their hearts to be able to worship their own idols in and around Jerusalem. Furthermore, Solomon himself joined his wives around Jerusalem. Furthermore, Solomon himself joined his wives in the worship of these idols. He did not remain loyal to the Lord; in the worship of these idols. He did not remain loyal to the Lord; rather, he built worship sites for these other gods and then rather, he built worship sites for these other gods and then participated in the pagan worship rituals. participated in the pagan worship rituals. God’s judgment upon Solomon: 11:9-13 God’s judgment upon Solomon: 11:9-13 “Since you have not kept My covenant and have disobeyed My “Since you have not kept My covenant and have disobeyed My decrees, I will surely tear the kingdom away from you and give it decrees, I will surely tear the kingdom away from you and give it to one of your servants. But for the sake of your father, David, I to one of your servants. But for the sake of your father, David, I will not do this while you are still alive. I will take the kingdom will not do this while you are still alive. I will take the kingdom away from your son. And even so, I will not take away the entire away from your son. And even so, I will not take away the entire kingdom; I will let him be king of one tribe, for the sake of My kingdom; I will let him be king of one tribe, for the sake of My servant David and for the sake of Jerusalem, My chosen city” servant David and for the sake of Jerusalem, My chosen city” (11:11-13). (11:11-13). Imagine . . . if many years ago America had a president that so Imagine . . . if many years ago America had a president that so incurred the anger of the Lord that God decided to split the incurred the anger of the Lord that God decided to split the “United” States into two separate countries – north and south – “United” States into two separate countries – north and south – 10/16/16 449 10/16/16 449 permanently. Imagine, further, that the majority of the states went permanently. Imagine, further, that the majority of the states went with the north and formed an entirely different constitution, based with the north and formed an entirely different constitution, based on different principles. This is what happened to Israel as a result on different principles. This is what happened to Israel as a result of Solomon’s sin. Israel was permanently split into 10 northern of Solomon’s sin. Israel was permanently split into 10 northern tribes that went their own way politically, economically and tribes that went their own way politically, economically and spiritually . . . with just 2 southern tribes that remained loyal to the spiritually . . . with just 2 southern tribes that remained loyal to the laws of Moses and the house of David (the little tribe of Benjamin laws of Moses and the house of David (the little tribe of Benjamin was counted as one with the huge tribe of Judah). Israel’s history was counted as one with the huge tribe of Judah). Israel’s history was forever changed because of Solomon’s unfaithfulness. was forever changed because of Solomon’s unfaithfulness. Throughout the remainder of the O.T. narrative, “Israel” will refer Throughout the remainder of the O.T. narrative, “Israel” will refer to the wayward northern ten tribes that split off after Solomon. to the wayward northern ten tribes that split off after Solomon. “Judah” will be the name for the remaining southern tribes (Judah “Judah” will be the name for the remaining southern tribes (Judah and Benjamin) that continued the Davidic royal lineage and sought and Benjamin) that continued the Davidic royal lineage and sought to preserve the true worship of Yahweh. to preserve the true worship of Yahweh.

We often fail to consider the long -term ramifications of our choices We often fail to consider the long -term ramifications of our choices to disobey God. We fall for what the Bible calls “the passing to disobey God. We fall for what the Bible calls “the passing pleasures of sin” (Hebrews 11:25). We put the blinders on and pleasures of sin” (Hebrews 11:25). We put the blinders on and dive headlong into the opportunity, only to suffer greatly for our dive headlong into the opportunity, only to suffer greatly for our choices in the end. Learn the skill of ‘playing the tape forward’ in choices in the end. Learn the skill of ‘playing the tape forward’ in your mind. When you are being tempted, stop and actually your mind. When you are being tempted, stop and actually envision the future - the likely impact of your sin upon your own life envision the future - the likely impact of your sin upon your own life and the lives of others; what you stand to lose if you continue and the lives of others; what you stand to lose if you continue down this path. At the same time, ponder what you will gain by down this path. At the same time, ponder what you will gain by saying NO to sin, and YES to God’s way. A proverb that was saying NO to sin, and YES to God’s way. A proverb that was repeated twice by Solomon (but he himself did not follow it): repeated twice by Solomon (but he himself did not follow it): “There is a way that seems right to a man; but the outcome of that “There is a way that seems right to a man; but the outcome of that way is death” (Proverbs 14:12 and 16:25). way is death” (Proverbs 14:12 and 16:25). God raises up adversaries to Solomon: 11:14-40 God raises up adversaries to Solomon: 11:14-40 Up until this time, Solomon had enjoyed a peaceful rule. Then, Up until this time, Solomon had enjoyed a peaceful rule. Then, toward the end of his life, chaos began to enter his kingdom. God toward the end of his life, chaos began to enter his kingdom. God tried to discipline him and get his attention with different men and tried to discipline him and get his attention with different men and pressures from the north and the south – first Hadad, then Rezon, pressures from the north and the south – first Hadad, then Rezon, and finally Jeroboam, who was actually called by God to take the and finally Jeroboam, who was actually called by God to take the northern tribes away from Solomon. But sadly, much like the 1 st northern tribes away from Solomon. But sadly, much like the 1 st king of Israel, King Saul, who tried to kill David, Solomon did not king of Israel, King Saul, who tried to kill David, Solomon did not repent of his sins; rather, he tried to kill the man Jeroboam, whom repent of his sins; rather, he tried to kill the man Jeroboam, whom God sought after to replace him. Herein we find the key difference God sought after to replace him. Herein we find the key difference between Solomon and his father, David: When David was between Solomon and his father, David: When David was convicted of sin, he repented as a broken and humble man. When convicted of sin, he repented as a broken and humble man. When Solomon was convicted of sin, he used his wisdom to try to evade Solomon was convicted of sin, he used his wisdom to try to evade the consequences and gain control of his own life. the consequences and gain control of his own life. 10/16/16 450 10/16/16 450

Solomon’s death: 11:41-43 Solomon’s death: 11:41-43 Finally, Solomon’s death is recorded. He reigned over Israel for Finally, Solomon’s death is recorded. He reigned over Israel for 40 years – such great glory and potential, ending with such sadness 40 years – such great glory and potential, ending with such sadness and tragedy. It is difficult to comprehend – that after all that GOD and tragedy. It is difficult to comprehend – that after all that GOD bestowed on Solomon, he could willfully turn is heart away from bestowed on Solomon, he could willfully turn is heart away from the God who had loved him so lavishly. His story is in the Bible to the God who had loved him so lavishly. His story is in the Bible to remind each of us that we are ALL capable of this. remind each of us that we are ALL capable of this. HOW DO I KEEP MY HEART FROM HOW DO I KEEP MY HEART FROM WANDERING AWAY FROM GOD? WANDERING AWAY FROM GOD? "Above all else, guard your heart, for it determines "Above all else, guard your heart, for it determines the course of your life" (Solomon: Proverbs 4:23). the course of your life" (Solomon: Proverbs 4:23). Solomon had the right answer. How tragic that he did not follow Solomon had the right answer. How tragic that he did not follow his own advice. To “guard your heart” is a day-by-day choice to his own advice. To “guard your heart” is a day-by-day choice to seek to draw my heart near to God and learn how much He really seek to draw my heart near to God and learn how much He really lavishly loves me. And then act on the privilege of that love, by lavishly loves me. And then act on the privilege of that love, by returning my love back to Him in the way that I live my life for returning my love back to Him in the way that I live my life for His pleasure and His glory. Following are some steps to ponder: His pleasure and His glory. Following are some steps to ponder: 1st - I must believe God's word when it says that my heart is 1st - I must believe God's word when it says that my heart is deceitful and dangerous. This is precisely why the heart needs to deceitful and dangerous. This is precisely why the heart needs to be “guarded” so fiercely. “The heart is deceitful above all things be “guarded” so fiercely. “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9). and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9). Because I still possess a “fallen” sin nature, my heart will not Because I still possess a “fallen” sin nature, my heart will not always lead me in the right direction. It will regularly deceive me always lead me in the right direction. It will regularly deceive me into thinking I am beyond certain beliefs, loves and behaviors. It into thinking I am beyond certain beliefs, loves and behaviors. It will invite me to walk down the wrong path. The apostle Paul will invite me to walk down the wrong path. The apostle Paul wrote: “For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, wrote: “For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing” (Romans the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing” (Romans 7:18,19). It is wise to recognize the severity of the sin problem 7:18,19). It is wise to recognize the severity of the sin problem that is within me. Thus, the first step to “guarding my heart” is to that is within me. Thus, the first step to “guarding my heart” is to recognize that my heart is seriously in need of guarding! recognize that my heart is seriously in need of guarding! 2nd - I must grow in understanding how much God really loves me 2nd - I must grow in understanding how much God really loves me and what it has cost Him to redeem me from my self-centered life. and what it has cost Him to redeem me from my self-centered life. In other words, the love of God for me must take deep root in my In other words, the love of God for me must take deep root in my heart. This takes intentional time soaking up His Word and filling heart. This takes intentional time soaking up His Word and filling my mind and heart with truth until it permeates my thinking. The my mind and heart with truth until it permeates my thinking. The apostle Paul prayed that his friends would “grasp how wide and apostle Paul prayed that his friends would “grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this 10/16/16 451 10/16/16 451 love that surpasses knowledge – that you may be filled to the love that surpasses knowledge – that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God” (Ephesians 3:18,19). If my measure of all the fullness of God” (Ephesians 3:18,19). If my heart is truly gripped by God’s love for me, then I will more heart is truly gripped by God’s love for me, then I will more seriously count the cost of offending the great Lover of my soul. seriously count the cost of offending the great Lover of my soul. 3rd - As the roots of His love grow into the rich good soil, (note 3rd- As the roots of His love grow into the rich good soil, (note Jesus’ parable of the soils in Mark 4) I must make choices every Jesus’ parable of the soils in Mark 4) I must make choices every day to walk away from the temptations (the thorns and thistles in day to walk away from the temptations (the thorns and thistles in the parable) that pull on my heart and invite me away from God. the parable) that pull on my heart and invite me away from God. It is not always easy to make the right choices, thus, accountability It is not always easy to make the right choices, thus, accountability partners are critical. Who helps to hold you accountable for your partners are critical. Who helps to hold you accountable for your choices? Who do you turn to for help and prayer when you feel choices? Who do you turn to for help and prayer when you feel the tug of sin on your heart? Who have you given the right to the tug of sin on your heart? Who have you given the right to speak firmly into your life, at any time, over any issue? As speak firmly into your life, at any time, over any issue? As Solomon himself would write: “Two are better than one, for they Solomon himself would write: “Two are better than one, for they have a good return for their labor” (Ecclesiastes 4:9). Who is on have a good return for their labor” (Ecclesiastes 4:9). Who is on your team in the fight to remain faithful to the ways of God? your team in the fight to remain faithful to the ways of God? 4th - Finally, as was stated earlier, it is good to engage in sober- 4th - Finally, as was stated earlier, it is good to engage in sober- minded long-term thinking. Play the tape forward. Consider the minded long-term thinking. Play the tape forward. Consider the outcomes of your choices, and the impact your life will have on outcomes of your choices, and the impact your life will have on others. If I may paraphrase the first 9 chapters of the book of others. If I may paraphrase the first 9 chapters of the book of Proverbs, it would go something like this: Choosing to walk in Proverbs, it would go something like this: Choosing to walk in wisdom leads to life. Choosing to follow folly leads to wisdom leads to life. Choosing to follow folly leads to destruction. destruction.

Note: Next week, we being to explore the Book of Proverbs, Note: Next week, we being to explore the Book of Proverbs, written by King Solomon. Read through the first 9 chapters in written by King Solomon. Read through the first 9 chapters in preparation for our study. You will see the repeated themes of preparation for our study. You will see the repeated themes of wisdom and folly. Looking forward to pondering Proverbs with wisdom and folly. Looking forward to pondering Proverbs with you all! you all!

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GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Direction and Drift – Proverbs Direction and Drift – Proverbs

Message 4 – Lady Wisdom Message 4 – Lady Wisdom Proverbs 1-9 Proverbs 1-9

Introduction Introduction The book of Proverbs is part of the “Wisdom” tradition in the Old The book of Proverbs is part of the “Wisdom” tradition in the Old Testament. The Wisdom literature collection consists of Proverbs, Testament. The Wisdom literature collection consists of Proverbs, Ecclesiastes and Job. It was during the lifetime of Solomon (and Ecclesiastes and Job. It was during the lifetime of Solomon (and due to his unique God-given gift of wisdom) that Israel’s Wisdom due to his unique God-given gift of wisdom) that Israel’s Wisdom tradition reached its peak. Solomon wrote “three thousand tradition reached its peak. Solomon wrote “three thousand proverbs” (1Kings 4:32) , some of which were included in the book proverbs” (1Kings 4:32) , some of which were included in the book of Proverbs. Yet, both before and after Solomon, wise men and of Proverbs. Yet, both before and after Solomon, wise men and wise sayings were parts of Israel’s culture. Wise men served in wise sayings were parts of Israel’s culture. Wise men served in King David’s court (1Chronicles 27:32,33), and the wise woman King David’s court (1Chronicles 27:32,33), and the wise woman of Tekoa made a visit to David (2Samuel 14). Even outside of of Tekoa made a visit to David (2Samuel 14). Even outside of Israel, wisdom and wise men were popular: in Egypt (1Kings Israel, wisdom and wise men were popular: in Egypt (1Kings 4:30), Edom and Arabia (Jeremiah 49:7) and Babylon (Isaiah 4:30), Edom and Arabia (Jeremiah 49:7) and Babylon (Isaiah 47:10). An Egyptian collection of wise sayings have been 47:10). An Egyptian collection of wise sayings have been discovered dating back to 2,450 B.C. even before Abraham, the discovered dating back to 2,450 B.C. even before Abraham, the father of Israel was alive. Israel’s Wisdom literature is set apart father of Israel was alive. Israel’s Wisdom literature is set apart from the rest by the fact that the fear of the Lord (Yahweh) is the from the rest by the fact that the fear of the Lord (Yahweh) is the foundation for all true wisdom concerning the issues of life. foundation for all true wisdom concerning the issues of life. The Organization of Proverbs The Organization of Proverbs The book of Proverbs contains two major sections. The first The book of Proverbs contains two major sections. The first section (chs.1-9) is an extended discussion of the value of wisdom section (chs.1-9) is an extended discussion of the value of wisdom and the importance of seeking it. This discussion takes the form of and the importance of seeking it. This discussion takes the form of “a series of fatherly talks that press home to the pupil (son) the “a series of fatherly talks that press home to the pupil (son) the fateful choice he must make between wisdom and folly” (Derek fateful choice he must make between wisdom and folly” (Derek Kidner). The second section (chs.10-31) contains the actual Kidner). The second section (chs.10-31) contains the actual proverbs of wisdom from various sources: Solomon (chs.10-22 & proverbs of wisdom from various sources: Solomon (chs.10-22 & 25-29), wise men (chs.22:17-24:34), Agur (ch.30), King Lemuel 25-29), wise men (chs.22:17-24:34), Agur (ch.30), King Lemuel (ch.31). An A-Z collection of proverbs describing the (ch.31). An A-Z collection of proverbs describing the wise/excellent wife concludes the book (31:10-31). wise/excellent wife concludes the book (31:10-31). The Purpose of Proverbs The Purpose of Proverbs At the very outset, the writer announces the purpose of the book: At the very outset, the writer announces the purpose of the book:

10/23/16 453 10/23/16 453 “The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: for “The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: for gaining wisdom and instruction; for understanding words of gaining wisdom and instruction; for understanding words of insight; for receiving instruction in prudent behavior, doing what insight; for receiving instruction in prudent behavior, doing what is right and just and fair; for giving prudence to those who are is right and just and fair; for giving prudence to those who are simple, knowledge and discretion to the young - let the wise listen simple, knowledge and discretion to the young - let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance - and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance - for understanding proverbs and parables, the sayings and riddles for understanding proverbs and parables, the sayings and riddles of the wise” (1:1-6). of the wise” (1:1-6). Summarizing, we see these four purposes of the book of Proverbs: Summarizing, we see these four purposes of the book of Proverbs: - To train the young, the naïve or the inexperienced person in - To train the young, the naïve or the inexperienced person in wisdom to succeed in life (1:4; 4:13). wisdom to succeed in life (1:4; 4:13). - To encourage the wise and discerning person to gain more - To encourage the wise and discerning person to gain more wisdom, guidance and understanding (1:5,6). wisdom, guidance and understanding (1:5,6). - To warn those who are foolish and mock wisdom to turn back - To warn those who are foolish and mock wisdom to turn back and avoid a variety of costly consequences (1:22,23). and avoid a variety of costly consequences (1:22,23). - To teach ALL who desire to grow in wisdom, that in their pursuit - To teach ALL who desire to grow in wisdom, that in their pursuit they will understand more of GOD and His ways, and learn to they will understand more of GOD and His ways, and learn to reverence and 'fear' Him (1:7; 2:1-6). reverence and 'fear' Him (1:7; 2:1-6). What is Wisdom? What is Wisdom? In the opening lines (and throughout the book) the writer uses In the opening lines (and throughout the book) the writer uses synonyms to help us understand what wisdom is: synonyms to help us understand what wisdom is: - Instruction (training/discipline). Wisdom is training in the art - Instruction (training/discipline). Wisdom is training in the art of life. It involves intentional teaching, and discipline - with of life. It involves intentional teaching, and discipline - with warnings, strict coaching, correcting with love, requiring learning warnings, strict coaching, correcting with love, requiring learning and skills - to encourage a wise life ( 12:1; 15:32; 24:30-32). and skills - to encourage a wise life ( 12:1; 15:32; 24:30-32). “To learn, you must love discipline; it is stupid to hate “To learn, you must love discipline; it is stupid to hate correction” (12:1). correction” (12:1). - Understanding (discernment). Wisdom is insight into the - Understanding (discernment). Wisdom is insight into the issues of life. Gaining insight from God's perspective; learning to issues of life. Gaining insight from God's perspective; learning to discern between good and evil. discern between good and evil. “Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered “Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul” people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul” (22:24,25). (22:24,25). - Wise behavior. Wisdom is common sense in how to live life. It - Wise behavior. Wisdom is common sense in how to live life. It is being life-smart; learning how life works, how to navigate it; is being life-smart; learning how life works, how to navigate it; how to take advantage of the opportunities that life offers. how to take advantage of the opportunities that life offers. 10/23/16 454 10/23/16 454

“A wise youth harvests in the summer, but one who sleeps during “A wise youth harvests in the summer, but one who sleeps during harvest is a disgrace” (10:5). harvest is a disgrace” (10:5). - Prudence (discretion). Wisdom is good judgment that leads to - Prudence (discretion). Wisdom is good judgment that leads to success. It is living with eyes wide open; learning to look beyond success. It is living with eyes wide open; learning to look beyond the moment and anticipate what could happen depending on what the moment and anticipate what could happen depending on what choice is made - either with words or actions. choice is made - either with words or actions. “A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The “A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences” (22:3). simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences” (22:3). - Knowledge (learning). Wisdom is intellectual skill in grasping - Knowledge (learning). Wisdom is intellectual skill in grasping truth. Choosing to learn from wise people concerning God and His truth. Choosing to learn from wise people concerning God and His Word - which is true and reliable - to have confidence in how to Word - which is true and reliable - to have confidence in how to speak, make choices and live wisely. speak, make choices and live wisely. “Listen to the words of the wise; apply your heart to my “Listen to the words of the wise; apply your heart to my instruction. For it is good to keep these sayings in your heart and instruction. For it is good to keep these sayings in your heart and always ready on your lips. I am teaching you today - yes, you - so always ready on your lips. I am teaching you today - yes, you - so you will trust in the Lord. I have written thirty sayings for you, you will trust in the Lord. I have written thirty sayings for you, filled with advice and knowledge. In this way, you may know the filled with advice and knowledge. In this way, you may know the truth and take an accurate report to those who sent you” truth and take an accurate report to those who sent you” (22:17-21). (22:17-21). How do I become wise? How do I become wise? There are 3 steps in the process of gaining wisdom. There are 3 steps in the process of gaining wisdom. The first step is repeated at the beginning and end of the opening The first step is repeated at the beginning and end of the opening father-son dialogue: father-son dialogue: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction” (1:7). despise wisdom and instruction” (1:7). “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding” (9:10). of the Holy One is understanding” (9:10). To “fear” the Lord is to personally believe in and become rooted in To “fear” the Lord is to personally believe in and become rooted in the GOD OF WISDOM. His Word is His revealed wisdom and the GOD OF WISDOM. His Word is His revealed wisdom and choosing to live in His World, following His revealed wisdom is choosing to live in His World, following His revealed wisdom is “to fear the Lord.” Therefore, I must: “to fear the Lord.” Therefore, I must: > Realize who God is. > Realize who God is. > Revere what He says. > Revere what He says. > Submit to His voice. > Submit to His voice. Secondly , I must cultivate an appetite for godly wisdom. The more Secondly , I must cultivate an appetite for godly wisdom. The more

10/23/16 455 10/23/16 455 I 'taste' and 'apply' His wisdom, the more I will 'hunger' for it. The I 'taste' and 'apply' His wisdom, the more I will 'hunger' for it. The Lord will delight in giving it to me. Lord will delight in giving it to me. “If you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and “If you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God. For the Lord gives wisdom; from his the knowledge of God. For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding” (2:3-6). mouth come knowledge and understanding” (2:3-6). Wisdom will be given to “the humble eager person – the ‘suitor’ Wisdom will be given to “the humble eager person – the ‘suitor’ (lover) – that watches daily at the gates to meet her” (Kidner). (lover) – that watches daily at the gates to meet her” (Kidner). Third, I must be teachable in all areas of learning new skills. Third, I must be teachable in all areas of learning new skills. There are people all around me who have knowledge and skills There are people all around me who have knowledge and skills that I don't have. I should seek them out and invite their teaching. that I don't have. I should seek them out and invite their teaching. Where do I learn Wisdom? Where do I learn Wisdom? “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm” (Proverbs 13:20). suffers harm” (Proverbs 13:20). - We glean wisdom from people who already have it (parents, - We glean wisdom from people who already have it (parents, elders, teachers, coaches, mentors, etc. 4:1,10,20; 5:1; 6:20). I will elders, teachers, coaches, mentors, etc. 4:1,10,20; 5:1; 6:20). I will learn wisdom by being in community with wise and skilled people. learn wisdom by being in community with wise and skilled people. - We learn wisdom from the consequences (discipline), that result - We learn wisdom from the consequences (discipline), that result from poor choices (3:11,12; 6:23). from poor choices (3:11,12; 6:23).

It is good to have a handful of wise men and women in your life, It is good to have a handful of wise men and women in your life, the people you really listen to in order to gain wisdom for your own the people you really listen to in order to gain wisdom for your own life. Who are those wise people in your life? Is there someone life. Who are those wise people in your life? Is there someone that you are overlooking, someone that you should be listening to? that you are overlooking, someone that you should be listening to? In turn, who are you offering your wisdom to? Whose life do you In turn, who are you offering your wisdom to? Whose life do you speak into? speak into? What are the benefits of Wisdom? What are the benefits of Wisdom? - Wisdom will adorn my life with dignity and a good reputation. - Wisdom will adorn my life with dignity and a good reputation. “Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake “Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. They are a garland to grace your head your mother’s teaching. They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck” (1:8,9; also 3:4). and a chain to adorn your neck” (1:8,9; also 3:4). “You will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and “You will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man” (3:4). man” (3:4). - Wisdom rescues me from the negative consequences of a life of - Wisdom rescues me from the negative consequences of a life of folly. folly. “Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you. “Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you. 10/23/16 456 10/23/16 456 Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men whose words are perverse, who have left the straight paths to whose words are perverse, who have left the straight paths to walk in dark ways” (2:11-13; also 1:10-19). walk in dark ways” (2:11-13; also 1:10-19). - Wisdom also offers: length of days, peace, happiness, security, - Wisdom also offers: length of days, peace, happiness, security, restful sleep, and confidence (3:2,4,5-6;13-26; 4:8,9; 8:32-36). restful sleep, and confidence (3:2,4,5-6;13-26; 4:8,9; 8:32-36). “If you become wise, you will be the one to benefit. If you scorn “If you become wise, you will be the one to benefit. If you scorn wisdom, you will be the one to suffer” (9:12). wisdom, you will be the one to suffer” (9:12). - Wisdom is beyond monetary value. Living a life of wisdom is - Wisdom is beyond monetary value. Living a life of wisdom is better than living a life of success and fame. better than living a life of success and fame. “For wisdom is more profitable than silver, and her wages are “For wisdom is more profitable than silver, and her wages are better than gold. Wisdom is more precious than rubies; nothing better than gold. Wisdom is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her” (3:14,15; also 8:19). you desire can compare with her” (3:14,15; also 8:19).

Some of the “richest” people on earth are those who possess very Some of the “richest” people on earth are those who possess very little earthly wealth, yet they possess vast amounts of godly little earthly wealth, yet they possess vast amounts of godly wisdom. For example, John the Baptist lived a wise and righteous wisdom. For example, John the Baptist lived a wise and righteous life. Even though his life was short, and seemingly obscure, Jesus life. Even though his life was short, and seemingly obscure, Jesus said that no one on earth compared to the greatness of John. said that no one on earth compared to the greatness of John. John was distinguished by his wisdom. On the other hand, King John was distinguished by his wisdom. On the other hand, King Herod, who killed John, was an extremely wealthy and powerful Herod, who killed John, was an extremely wealthy and powerful man. Yet, he lacked wisdom and lived a life of folly. Herod was man. Yet, he lacked wisdom and lived a life of folly. Herod was the one person to whom Jesus would not speak a word. “Do not the one person to whom Jesus would not speak a word. “Do not answer a fool according to his folly” (Proverbs 26:4). answer a fool according to his folly” (Proverbs 26:4). Wisdom is personified as a Lady in two different ways. Wisdom is personified as a Lady in two different ways. Wisdom is not a person; rather, it is the body of principles and Wisdom is not a person; rather, it is the body of principles and laws established by God to give order to the universe. There are laws established by God to give order to the universe. There are natural laws that govern how the material world works (eg. “What natural laws that govern how the material world works (eg. “What goes up must come down”), and there are moral laws that govern goes up must come down”), and there are moral laws that govern how life works (eg. “Pride comes before the fall”). To use other how life works (eg. “Pride comes before the fall”). To use other terms, we might say that Wisdom is both the ‘science’ and the terms, we might say that Wisdom is both the ‘science’ and the ‘conscience’ of the universe. In Proverbs chapter 8, Wisdom is ‘conscience’ of the universe. In Proverbs chapter 8, Wisdom is personified as a Lady in these two different ways. personified as a Lady in these two different ways. 1. Lady Wisdom calls out as a moral teacher (8:1-21). 1. Lady Wisdom calls out as a moral teacher (8:1-21). In the first personification of Wisdom, she appears as a lady In the first personification of Wisdom, she appears as a lady standing at the gate leading into the city, calling out to those who standing at the gate leading into the city, calling out to those who are entering to listen to her teaching and thereby gain wisdom as to are entering to listen to her teaching and thereby gain wisdom as to how to live successfully in the city (i.e., in ‘the world’). how to live successfully in the city (i.e., in ‘the world’).

10/23/16 457 10/23/16 457 “Does not wisdom call out? Does not understanding raise her “Does not wisdom call out? Does not understanding raise her voice? At the highest point along the way, where the paths meet, voice? At the highest point along the way, where the paths meet, she takes her stand; beside the gate leading into the city, at the she takes her stand; beside the gate leading into the city, at the entrance, she cries aloud: ‘To you, O people, I call out; I raise entrance, she cries aloud: ‘To you, O people, I call out; I raise my voice to all mankind. You who are simple, gain prudence; you my voice to all mankind. You who are simple, gain prudence; you who are foolish, set your hearts on it. Listen, for I have trust- who are foolish, set your hearts on it. Listen, for I have trust- worthy things to say; I open my lips to speak what is right. My worthy things to say; I open my lips to speak what is right. My mouth speaks what is true, for my lips detest wickedness. All the mouth speaks what is true, for my lips detest wickedness. All the words of my mouth are just; none of them is crooked or perverse. words of my mouth are just; none of them is crooked or perverse. To the discerning all of them are right; they are upright to those To the discerning all of them are right; they are upright to those who have found knowledge. Choose my instruction instead of who have found knowledge. Choose my instruction instead of silver, knowledge rather than choice gold, for wisdom is more silver, knowledge rather than choice gold, for wisdom is more precious than rubies, and nothing you desire can compare with precious than rubies, and nothing you desire can compare with her’” (8:1-11). her’” (8:1-11). Think of the role of a tour guide, as you prepare to explore a new Think of the role of a tour guide, as you prepare to explore a new city. They guide gives you the information necessary in order to city. They guide gives you the information necessary in order to have a successful trip in that city. They might steer your toward have a successful trip in that city. They might steer your toward certain sites and locations, as well as steering you away from other certain sites and locations, as well as steering you away from other locations that are either unfruitful or even dangerous. The goal of locations that are either unfruitful or even dangerous. The goal of the tour guide is to make your journey a huge success. In much the the tour guide is to make your journey a huge success. In much the same way, Lady Wisdom offers advice to people entering “the same way, Lady Wisdom offers advice to people entering “the city” (i.e., life, or the world) so that their journey will be a win. city” (i.e., life, or the world) so that their journey will be a win. If we accept her guidance, she 1) schools and trains us, 2) becomes If we accept her guidance, she 1) schools and trains us, 2) becomes a friend and counselor to us, and 3) later praises and blesses us. As a friend and counselor to us, and 3) later praises and blesses us. As her students, who learn of her ways, we are the only ones whom her students, who learn of her ways, we are the only ones whom she will help when we are being tested. If we choose to go our she will help when we are being tested. If we choose to go our own path, and don't follow her wisdom, we will be left to our own own path, and don't follow her wisdom, we will be left to our own fate when we are tested. fate when we are tested. 2. Lady Wisdom stood by God as a master architect (8:22-31). 2. Lady Wisdom stood by God as a master architect (8:22-31). In the second personification of Wisdom, she appears as God’s In the second personification of Wisdom, she appears as God’s assistant in the work of designing and fashioning the entire assistant in the work of designing and fashioning the entire universe. Her skill is reflected in every aspect of God’s creation. universe. Her skill is reflected in every aspect of God’s creation. “I was there when he established the heavens, when he drew the “I was there when he established the heavens, when he drew the horizon on the oceans. I was there when he set the clouds above, horizon on the oceans. I was there when he set the clouds above, when he established springs deep in the earth. I was there when when he established springs deep in the earth. I was there when he set the limits of the seas, so they would not spread beyond he set the limits of the seas, so they would not spread beyond their boundaries. And when he marked off the earth’s their boundaries. And when he marked off the earth’s foundations, I was the architect at his side. I was his constant foundations, I was the architect at his side. I was his constant delight, rejoicing always in his presence” (8:27-30). delight, rejoicing always in his presence” (8:27-30). 10/23/16 458 10/23/16 458

When we stand and marvel at some aspect of the universe, we are When we stand and marvel at some aspect of the universe, we are seeing the fruit of Lady Wisdom. She was the “blueprint,” the set seeing the fruit of Lady Wisdom. She was the “blueprint,” the set of “ordering principles” that God used to fashion our world. of “ordering principles” that God used to fashion our world. 3. Lady Wisdom’s final appeal. 3. Lady Wisdom’s final appeal. After the two personifications have been presented, Lady Wisdom After the two personifications have been presented, Lady Wisdom lifts her voice and calls out to all who would follow her and find lifts her voice and calls out to all who would follow her and find life: life: “And so, my children, listen to me, for all who follow my ways “And so, my children, listen to me, for all who follow my ways are joyful. Listen to my instruction and be wise. Don’t ignore it. are joyful. Listen to my instruction and be wise. Don’t ignore it. Joyful are those who listen to me, watching for me daily at my Joyful are those who listen to me, watching for me daily at my gates, waiting for me outside my home! For whoever finds me gates, waiting for me outside my home! For whoever finds me finds life and receives favor from the Lord. But those who miss finds life and receives favor from the Lord. But those who miss me injure themselves. All who hate me love death” (8:32-36). me injure themselves. All who hate me love death” (8:32-36). The choice is clear. Choose wisdom = life. Choose folly = death. The choice is clear. Choose wisdom = life. Choose folly = death.

“Women and Wisdom share femininity itself. By learning Lady “Women and Wisdom share femininity itself. By learning Lady Wisdom’s principles and emulating her roles and relationships, we Wisdom’s principles and emulating her roles and relationships, we (women) will find a powerful and mature aspect of our femininity.” (women) will find a powerful and mature aspect of our femininity.” “Ideally, Wisdom relates to humans in a mother-to-wife progress- “Ideally, Wisdom relates to humans in a mother-to-wife progress- sion. Wisdom first approaches a child (when he is young and sion. Wisdom first approaches a child (when he is young and foolish) as a mother or strict school teacher. If he obeys and foolish) as a mother or strict school teacher. If he obeys and listens to her, he becomes an adolescent with whom deeper listens to her, he becomes an adolescent with whom deeper communication and friendship are possible. During this time communication and friendship are possible. During this time Wisdom acts as a teacher and patron, showering her student with Wisdom acts as a teacher and patron, showering her student with knowledge and benefits. At maturity, the boy becomes a man, and knowledge and benefits. At maturity, the boy becomes a man, and Wisdom becomes his helper and intimate lover. She responds to Wisdom becomes his helper and intimate lover. She responds to him with her counsel and exalts him as he rules his domain him with her counsel and exalts him as he rules his domain maturely. As she has been moving from mother to wife, he has maturely. As she has been moving from mother to wife, he has been growing from fool to king.” (Barbara Mouser, Five Aspects of been growing from fool to king.” (Barbara Mouser, Five Aspects of Woman). Woman).

Note: Jesus is our wisdom; but Jesus is not “Lady Wisdom.” The Note: Jesus is our wisdom; but Jesus is not “Lady Wisdom.” The New Testament clearly teaches that Jesus Christ is our wisdom. New Testament clearly teaches that Jesus Christ is our wisdom. “Christ, the power of God and the wisdom of God” (1Cor.1:24). “Christ, the power of God and the wisdom of God” (1Cor.1:24). “It is because of Him that you are in Christ Jesus, who became “It is because of Him that you are in Christ Jesus, who became to us wisdom from God” (1Cor. 1:30). to us wisdom from God” (1Cor. 1:30). “My purpose is…that they may know the mystery of God, namely “My purpose is…that they may know the mystery of God, namely Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge” (Colossians 2: 2b-3). knowledge” (Colossians 2: 2b-3). 10/23/16 459 10/23/16 459

Jesus Christ is a person – the 2 nd person of the triune godhead. Jesus Christ is a person – the 2 nd person of the triune godhead. Lady Wisdom the set of principles (both natural and moral) that Lady Wisdom the set of principles (both natural and moral) that God used to bring order to our world. God used to bring order to our world. A Final Thought about EVE and WISDOM A Final Thought about EVE and WISDOM It is instructive to ponder the relationship between Eve and It is instructive to ponder the relationship between Eve and Wisdom, for it was the specific temptation to find wisdom apart Wisdom, for it was the specific temptation to find wisdom apart from God that caused Eve to fall. God had been imparting wisdom from God that caused Eve to fall. God had been imparting wisdom and knowledge of Himself to both Adam and Eve. The tempter – and knowledge of Himself to both Adam and Eve. The tempter – Satan – came to Eve disguised as a serpent. He is later referred to Satan – came to Eve disguised as a serpent. He is later referred to as “the great dragon, the ancient serpent . . . the one deceiving the as “the great dragon, the ancient serpent . . . the one deceiving the whole world” (Revelation 12:9). He tempted Eve to doubt God’s whole world” (Revelation 12:9). He tempted Eve to doubt God’s word and to search for wisdom apart from Him. word and to search for wisdom apart from Him. “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” When opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it” (Genesis 3:5,6). took some and ate it” (Genesis 3:5,6). Thus, the “original sin” was the sin of trying to find wisdom apart Thus, the “original sin” was the sin of trying to find wisdom apart from a relationship with God. This desire for wisdom led Eve to from a relationship with God. This desire for wisdom led Eve to disobey God’s word and His loving boundaries – to not eat from disobey God’s word and His loving boundaries – to not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Simply knowing God’s wisdom and commands (in our heads) does Simply knowing God’s wisdom and commands (in our heads) does NOT guarantee that we will walk in this wisdom. We often choose NOT guarantee that we will walk in this wisdom. We often choose to follow our own desires and senses. Today, so many voices of to follow our own desires and senses. Today, so many voices of intellectual and accomplished people call out to us to come and intellectual and accomplished people call out to us to come and taste of their wisdom. The only way to discern whether the taste of their wisdom. The only way to discern whether the wisdom being offered is truly good (and worthy of my trust) is to wisdom being offered is truly good (and worthy of my trust) is to have settled the issue that God’s wisdom is the true and right path. have settled the issue that God’s wisdom is the true and right path. I must be a continual student of Lady Wisdom through my entire I must be a continual student of Lady Wisdom through my entire life . . . and this means spending much time in God’s Word. life . . . and this means spending much time in God’s Word.

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GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Direction and Drift – Proverbs Direction and Drift – Proverbs

Message 5 – Lady Folly Message 5 – Lady Folly Proverbs 1-9 Proverbs 1-9

Introduction Introduction In the first 9 chapters of Proverbs we listen in as a father urgently In the first 9 chapters of Proverbs we listen in as a father urgently admonishes his son to move from being young and naïve to being admonishes his son to move from being young and naïve to being mature and wise. In the process, the son is warned of the danger of mature and wise. In the process, the son is warned of the danger of drifting into foolishness. Lady Wisdom – the personification of drifting into foolishness. Lady Wisdom – the personification of God’s true principles for life – is calling out to the young man to God’s true principles for life – is calling out to the young man to heed her voice and follow her advice. At the same time, Lady heed her voice and follow her advice. At the same time, Lady Folly – the personification of the voice of temptation to stray from Folly – the personification of the voice of temptation to stray from God’s path – is seductively calling the young man to come her way God’s path – is seductively calling the young man to come her way and enjoy her delicacies. There is a battle for the life of the young and enjoy her delicacies. There is a battle for the life of the young man. Will he move from youthful naiveté toward wisdom? Or, man. Will he move from youthful naiveté toward wisdom? Or, will he be lured toward foolishness and eventually become a will he be lured toward foolishness and eventually become a scoffer who openly mocks God’s ways? The opening father-son scoffer who openly mocks God’s ways? The opening father-son discussion ends in ch.9 with the two “women” making their final discussion ends in ch.9 with the two “women” making their final appeal, before the book of wise sayings begins (chs.10-31). appeal, before the book of wise sayings begins (chs.10-31). Who is Lady Folly? Who is Lady Folly? In the book of Proverbs, “Folly” is not really a person; rather, a In the book of Proverbs, “Folly” is not really a person; rather, a body of deceptive principles that influence common behaviors body of deceptive principles that influence common behaviors inherent to the human condition. Folly starts as the seed of inherent to the human condition. Folly starts as the seed of foolishness and the nature of sin: self-centeredness. Without foolishness and the nature of sin: self-centeredness. Without training, teaching + example, correction and the miracle of training, teaching + example, correction and the miracle of regeneration through believing in God and embracing His Son and regeneration through believing in God and embracing His Son and His truth, (the fear of the Lord), the potential for the progression His truth, (the fear of the Lord), the potential for the progression from 'simple' (naïve) to 'fool' to 'scoffer' (mocker) is probable. from 'simple' (naïve) to 'fool' to 'scoffer' (mocker) is probable. 'Lady Wisdom' is a strict teacher that celebrates and lifts up those 'Lady Wisdom' is a strict teacher that celebrates and lifts up those who follow her training; but in contrast 'Lady Folly' is a tempter who follow her training; but in contrast 'Lady Folly' is a tempter who allures with her schemes, with no intention to lead people to a who allures with her schemes, with no intention to lead people to a place of joy and freedom, only to bondage and death. place of joy and freedom, only to bondage and death. Three stages of Foolishness Three stages of Foolishness "Folly (foolishness) is bound up in the heart of the child"… "Folly (foolishness) is bound up in the heart of the child"… (Proverbs 22:15). Every infant starts out life as naïve and (Proverbs 22:15). Every infant starts out life as naïve and deficient in judgment – lacking good sense and understanding. deficient in judgment – lacking good sense and understanding. 10/30/16 461 10/30/16 461 Proverbs refers to them as a 'simpleton' or 'foolish'. The seeds of Proverbs refers to them as a 'simpleton' or 'foolish'. The seeds of foolishness are rooted and imprinted into human nature at birth. foolishness are rooted and imprinted into human nature at birth. They are driven to germinate and grow by the stimulation and They are driven to germinate and grow by the stimulation and activation of self-centered desires, the senses, varieties of activation of self-centered desires, the senses, varieties of temptations, and by current cultural values. Without heeding temptations, and by current cultural values. Without heeding God's wisdom to guide and correct, (by parents, teachers, coaches, God's wisdom to guide and correct, (by parents, teachers, coaches, mentors, Biblical wisdom, literature, wholesome friendships etc.), mentors, Biblical wisdom, literature, wholesome friendships etc.), he (she) will grow up and become a fool and, worse, a scoffer. he (she) will grow up and become a fool and, worse, a scoffer. 1. The Simple (naïve): Easily fooled, gullible, aimless, drifting 1. The Simple (naïve): Easily fooled, gullible, aimless, drifting into temptation without realizing it. into temptation without realizing it. "How long will you simple ones love your simple ways?" (1:22). "How long will you simple ones love your simple ways?" (1:22). “For the waywardness of the simple will kill them, and the “For the waywardness of the simple will kill them, and the complacency of fools will destroy them" (1:32). complacency of fools will destroy them" (1:32). “The simple believe anything…” (14:15). “The simple believe anything…” (14:15). From birth onwards, both 'Wisdom' and 'Folly' pursue the From birth onwards, both 'Wisdom' and 'Folly' pursue the simpleton. The simple one must choose to listen to wisdom and simpleton. The simple one must choose to listen to wisdom and learn discernment, and grow in a myriad of skills. Also he (she) learn discernment, and grow in a myriad of skills. Also he (she) must become a follower of God's ways in faith and morality, even must become a follower of God's ways in faith and morality, even when the voice of Folly is calling in the opposite direction. when the voice of Folly is calling in the opposite direction. Eg: A child has to be taught not to be allured by a stranger to come Eg: A child has to be taught not to be allured by a stranger to come over and accept a piece of candy. A youth needs to be taught not over and accept a piece of candy. A youth needs to be taught not to be allured by an invitation to join in a night of secretive to be allured by an invitation to join in a night of secretive behavior with friends or the opposite sex. behavior with friends or the opposite sex. If the “simple” person does not move toward wisdom, they will If the “simple” person does not move toward wisdom, they will drift into the next stage . . . drift into the next stage . . . “The simple inherit folly…” (14:18). “The simple inherit folly…” (14:18). 2. The Foolish: 3 different Hebrew words are used to describe the 2. The Foolish: 3 different Hebrew words are used to describe the fool: Kesyl – One who is dull and stupid - stubborn by choice. fool: Kesyl – One who is dull and stupid - stubborn by choice. Ewiyl – One who is corrupt, morally perverted and unreasonable. Ewiyl – One who is corrupt, morally perverted and unreasonable. Nabal – One who is like a stubborn brute or animal. (eg. Nabal, Nabal – One who is like a stubborn brute or animal. (eg. Nabal, Abigail's husband, was true to his name - 1Samuel 25.). Generally, Abigail's husband, was true to his name - 1Samuel 25.). Generally, with the fool there is no hunger for wisdom or understanding; they with the fool there is no hunger for wisdom or understanding; they cannot imagine they are wrong; their mind is closed to God and to cannot imagine they are wrong; their mind is closed to God and to reason. The fool within us manifests in all types of behaviors and reason. The fool within us manifests in all types of behaviors and issues in life. issues in life. “The way of the fool seems right to him... A fool shows his “The way of the fool seems right to him... A fool shows his annoyance at once” (12:15,16). annoyance at once” (12:15,16). 10/30/16 462 10/30/16 462

"A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish woman tears hers "A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands" (14:1). down with her own hands" (14:1). "He who trusts in himself is a fool… " (28:26). "He who trusts in himself is a fool… " (28:26). “It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to “It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel” (20:3). quarrel” (20:3). 3. The Scoffer: One who has contempt for wisdom and correction; 3. The Scoffer: One who has contempt for wisdom and correction; the “fool” has now turned into an arrogant opponent or the “fool” has now turned into an arrogant opponent or troublemaker, and one who desires to make followers. A scoffer is troublemaker, and one who desires to make followers. A scoffer is usually proud and toxic and wants to spread strife if they don't usually proud and toxic and wants to spread strife if they don't agree with or respect the leader (6:19). agree with or respect the leader (6:19). "He (the Lord) mocks proud mockers but gives grace to the "He (the Lord) mocks proud mockers but gives grace to the humble" (3:34). [This proverb is repeated twice in N.T. at humble" (3:34). [This proverb is repeated twice in N.T. at James 4:6 and 1Peter 5:5. Obviously a very important principle.] James 4:6 and 1Peter 5:5. Obviously a very important principle.] “Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise “Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man and he will love you” (9:8). man and he will love you” (9:8). “A wise son accepts his father’s discipline; but a scoffer does not “A wise son accepts his father’s discipline; but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke” (13:1). listen to rebuke” (13:1). “A scoffer resents correction; he will not consult the wise” “A scoffer resents correction; he will not consult the wise” (15:12). (15:12). Lady Folly’s goal is to take a simple person (one lacking under - Lady Folly’s goal is to take a simple person (one lacking under - standing) and, over time, turn them into a scoffer (one actively and standing) and, over time, turn them into a scoffer (one actively and vocally opposed to wisdom). This is one reason we must deal vocally opposed to wisdom). This is one reason we must deal seriously with any seeds of folly that might be present in our lives. seriously with any seeds of folly that might be present in our lives. Folly is a cancer that grows until it steals away our very lives. Is Folly is a cancer that grows until it steals away our very lives. Is there some aspect of folly that needs to be uprooted from your life there some aspect of folly that needs to be uprooted from your life today? Cry out for wisdom. God will give it to you. today? Cry out for wisdom. God will give it to you. Symptoms of Foolishness Symptoms of Foolishness How might we know if we are on the path of folly? There are How might we know if we are on the path of folly? There are many symptoms/areas of life where foolishness manifests (words, many symptoms/areas of life where foolishness manifests (words, wealth, work, family, morality, etc); but a few key symptoms stand wealth, work, family, morality, etc); but a few key symptoms stand out as the most important: out as the most important: 1. Choosing not to fear the Lord. 1. Choosing not to fear the Lord. “They hated knowledge and did not choose the fear the Lord” “They hated knowledge and did not choose the fear the Lord” (1:29). (1:29). If “the beginning of wisdom is the fear of the Lord,” then the first If “the beginning of wisdom is the fear of the Lord,” then the first step toward folly is to stop fearing (having reverence for) the Lord. step toward folly is to stop fearing (having reverence for) the Lord. 10/30/16 463 10/30/16 463

The minute a person begins to say “No” to God and His word, they The minute a person begins to say “No” to God and His word, they are stepping onto the path of folly. This is what the apostle Paul are stepping onto the path of folly. This is what the apostle Paul meant when he wrote these words to the people in Rome: meant when he wrote these words to the people in Rome: “For although they knew God, they neither glorified Him as God “For although they knew God, they neither glorified Him as God nor gave thanks to Him, but their thinking became futile and nor gave thanks to Him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. Although they claimed to be their foolish hearts were darkened. Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools . . . (Romans 1:21,22). wise, they became fools . . . (Romans 1:21,22). 2. Neglecting wise counsel. 2. Neglecting wise counsel. Once a person has turned away from God, they will begin to turn a Once a person has turned away from God, they will begin to turn a deaf ear to any people who represent the voice of God in their life. deaf ear to any people who represent the voice of God in their life. “Because I (Wisdom) called and you refused, I stretched out my “Because I (Wisdom) called and you refused, I stretched out my hand and no one paid attention; and you neglected all my hand and no one paid attention; and you neglected all my counsel and did not want my reproof” (1:24,25; also 17:10). counsel and did not want my reproof” (1:24,25; also 17:10). It is common for one on the path of folly to begin to cut off It is common for one on the path of folly to begin to cut off relationship with those who represent the voice of wisdom. Then, relationship with those who represent the voice of wisdom. Then, the next step is the obvious one: the next step is the obvious one: 3. Walking with the wrong crowd. 3. Walking with the wrong crowd. The fool will surround himself/herself with those who will affirm The fool will surround himself/herself with those who will affirm the decision to reject God and His wisdom. He/she will become the decision to reject God and His wisdom. He/she will become the companion of fools (or an adherent to opposing views). the companion of fools (or an adherent to opposing views). “He who walks with the wise will become wise; but the “He who walks with the wise will become wise; but the companion of fools will suffer harm” (13:20). companion of fools will suffer harm” (13:20). 4. Seeing folly as enticing and fun. 4. Seeing folly as enticing and fun. The final symptom of the decline into folly is when the person The final symptom of the decline into folly is when the person comes to the settled conviction that folly is life. He/she begins to comes to the settled conviction that folly is life. He/she begins to celebrate the life of folly, and even become an advertisement for it. celebrate the life of folly, and even become an advertisement for it. “Folly is a delight to him who lacks sense; but a man of under- “Folly is a delight to him who lacks sense; but a man of under- standing walks straight” (15:21). standing walks straight” (15:21). A commercial came on TV depicting a crowd of young, successful, A commercial came on TV depicting a crowd of young, successful, people in a bar, partying through the entire night with the help of people in a bar, partying through the entire night with the help of vodka. The message was clear: Stay up all night with your friends, vodka. The message was clear: Stay up all night with your friends, saturate yourself in vodka, and you will be happy and free. saturate yourself in vodka, and you will be happy and free. Another ad invites us more subtly to embrace views that are Another ad invites us more subtly to embrace views that are culturally popular, but opposed to God’s Word. Do you hear the culturally popular, but opposed to God’s Word. Do you hear the voice of Lady Folly calling out from your TV screen? voice of Lady Folly calling out from your TV screen?

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Consequences of Foolishness Consequences of Foolishness Lady Folly always holds out the promise of a better, more Lady Folly always holds out the promise of a better, more satisfying life. Yet, she always leads us in stages toward death. satisfying life. Yet, she always leads us in stages toward death. 1. Self-destructive behavior. 1. Self-destructive behavior. “These men lie in wait for their own blood; they ambush only “These men lie in wait for their own blood; they ambush only themselves” (1:18). themselves” (1:18). “But those who fail to find me harm themselves; all who hate me “But those who fail to find me harm themselves; all who hate me love death” (8:36). love death” (8:36). 2. Becoming increasingly enslaved to harmful behavior. 2. Becoming increasingly enslaved to harmful behavior. “The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them; the cords of their “The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them; the cords of their sins hold them fast” (5:22). sins hold them fast” (5:22). 3. “Death.” 3. “Death.” “But little do they know that the dead are there, that her guests “But little do they know that the dead are there, that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead” (9:18). are deep in the realm of the dead” (9:18).

One of the saddest funerals I ever conducted was for a young man One of the saddest funerals I ever conducted was for a young man who died of a drug overdose. It all started so subtly. He joined a who died of a drug overdose. It all started so subtly. He joined a sports team and soon was invited to a party. The other athletes sports team and soon was invited to a party. The other athletes offered him some marijuana to lighten up his spirits. He accepted. offered him some marijuana to lighten up his spirits. He accepted. It was not long before he was offered heavier drugs to heighten his It was not long before he was offered heavier drugs to heighten his mood. Soon, he was addicted to heroin. He went through detox mood. Soon, he was addicted to heroin. He went through detox during his time in a detention center, and things seemed like they during his time in a detention center, and things seemed like they were moving in the right direction. He even turned his broken life were moving in the right direction. He even turned his broken life over to Jesus. But upon his release, he ran into an old “friend” over to Jesus. But upon his release, he ran into an old “friend” who enticed him with some heroin. He accepted . . . and who enticed him with some heroin. He accepted . . . and overdosed . . . and died. Standing over his body at the hospital, overdosed . . . and died. Standing over his body at the hospital, with parents weeping by his side, was one of the most sobering with parents weeping by his side, was one of the most sobering moments of my life. Here was a talented, handsome, winsome moments of my life. Here was a talented, handsome, winsome young man with his life still ahead of him. He was gone … thanks young man with his life still ahead of him. He was gone … thanks to the voice of Lady Folly. to the voice of Lady Folly. The Two Rival Feasts of Wisdom and Folly The Two Rival Feasts of Wisdom and Folly The 9 th chapter of Proverbs is the final charge from the father to The 9 th chapter of Proverbs is the final charge from the father to the son before the actual proverbs begin. The two voices – Lady the son before the actual proverbs begin. The two voices – Lady Wisdom and Lady Folly – will be competing for the young man’s Wisdom and Lady Folly – will be competing for the young man’s attention and devotion. He must make the choice as to which attention and devotion. He must make the choice as to which voice he will heed, and which path he will walk. voice he will heed, and which path he will walk. “WISDOM has built her house; she has set up its seven pillars. “WISDOM has built her house; she has set up its seven pillars. She has prepared her meat and mixed her wine; she has also set She has prepared her meat and mixed her wine; she has also set 10/30/16 465 10/30/16 465 her table. She has sent out her servants, and she calls from the her table. She has sent out her servants, and she calls from the highest point of the city, ‘Let all who are simple come to my highest point of the city, ‘Let all who are simple come to my house!’ To those who have no sense she says, ‘Come, eat my house!’ To those who have no sense she says, ‘Come, eat my food and drink the wine I have mixed. Leave your simple ways food and drink the wine I have mixed. Leave your simple ways and you will live; walk in the way of insight’” (9:1-6). and you will live; walk in the way of insight’” (9:1-6). “FOLLY is an unruly woman; she is simple and knows nothing. “FOLLY is an unruly woman; she is simple and knows nothing. She sits at the door of her house, on a seat at the highest point of She sits at the door of her house, on a seat at the highest point of the city, calling out to those who pass by, who go straight on their the city, calling out to those who pass by, who go straight on their way, ‘Let all who are simple come to my house!’ To those who way, ‘Let all who are simple come to my house!’ To those who have no sense she says, ‘Stolen water is sweet; food eaten in have no sense she says, ‘Stolen water is sweet; food eaten in secret is delicious!’ But little do they know that the dead are secret is delicious!’ But little do they know that the dead are there, that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead” (13-18). there, that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead” (13-18). The following chart compares the appeals of Wisdom and Folly: The following chart compares the appeals of Wisdom and Folly:

LADY WISDOM LADY FOLLY LADY WISDOM LADY FOLLY 1. Wisdom (one with dignity). 1. Undisciplined/without knowledge. 1. Wisdom (one with dignity). 1. Undisciplined/without knowledge. 2. Builds her house w/7 pillars. 2. Sits at the door of her house. 2. Builds her house w/7 pillars. 2. Sits at the door of her house. 3. Prepares an elegant meal. 3. Entices to a delicious feast. 3. Prepares an elegant meal. 3. Entices to a delicious feast. 4. Serves wine and meat. 4. Serves stolen water, with secrecy. 4. Serves wine and meat. 4. Serves stolen water, with secrecy. 5. Invites all who are simple. 5. Invites all “on the straight path.” 5. Invites all who are simple. 5. Invites all “on the straight path.” 6. Invites w/strength & dignity. 6. Invites with sensuality & flattery. 6. Invites w/strength & dignity. 6. Invites with sensuality & flattery. 7. Promises life. 7. Hides the outcome – death. 7. Promises life. 7. Hides the outcome – death. Lady Folly never lets you know ahead of time that the Lady Folly never lets you know ahead of time that the consequences of your choices will inevitably take you into consequences of your choices will inevitably take you into bondage after the adventure is over. Folly is really the personified bondage after the adventure is over. Folly is really the personified evil lie that comes from the Evil One, who spurned God and His evil lie that comes from the Evil One, who spurned God and His holy order and tried to overthrow Him. (See the link below for a holy order and tried to overthrow Him. (See the link below for a detailed explanation of the fall of Satan – Lucifer. Here we see the detailed explanation of the fall of Satan – Lucifer. Here we see the origin of folly.) origin of folly.) http://christianity.com/theology/theological-faq/how-did-lucifer-fall- http://christianity.com/theology/theological-faq/how-did-lucifer-fall- and-become-satan-11557519.html and-become-satan-11557519.html How do I avoid Folly? How do I avoid Folly? Genesis 3:6 is where humanity chose to doubt God and His loving Genesis 3:6 is where humanity chose to doubt God and His loving wisdom, and follow the Serpent's counterfeit invitation to ‘wisdom wisdom, and follow the Serpent's counterfeit invitation to ‘wisdom

10/30/16 466 10/30/16 466 and freedom.’ This is the theme and ongoing struggle of humanity and freedom.’ This is the theme and ongoing struggle of humanity recorded in the entire Bible, and the story of humanity till today. recorded in the entire Bible, and the story of humanity till today. So, HOW do we escape from the path of Folly and walk in the way So, HOW do we escape from the path of Folly and walk in the way of Wisdom? of Wisdom? 1. Humility. We must recognize that we are ALL just steps away 1. Humility. We must recognize that we are ALL just steps away from choosing to follow Lady Folly because that is what comes from choosing to follow Lady Folly because that is what comes most naturally. The road less traveled is the way of Wisdom. We most naturally. The road less traveled is the way of Wisdom. We need to humbly acknowledge daily that it takes God's strength and need to humbly acknowledge daily that it takes God's strength and grace to keep us on His straight path. As the old hymn puts it: grace to keep us on His straight path. As the old hymn puts it: Prone to wander, Lord I feel it; prone to leave the God I love. Prone to wander, Lord I feel it; prone to leave the God I love. Take my heart, Lord, and seal it; seal it for Thy courts above. Take my heart, Lord, and seal it; seal it for Thy courts above. 2. Discernment. We must learn to recognize the voice of Lady 2. Discernment. We must learn to recognize the voice of Lady Folly when we hear it, and to know where that voice is seeking to Folly when we hear it, and to know where that voice is seeking to take us. She will call out in many arenas of life to those who lack take us. She will call out in many arenas of life to those who lack convictions. At the same time, we must fill our minds with God’s convictions. At the same time, we must fill our minds with God’s truth (wisdom) so that we have a strong filter to sift the various truth (wisdom) so that we have a strong filter to sift the various messages that are being hurled at us. The New Testament book of messages that are being hurled at us. The New Testament book of Hebrews puts it this way: Hebrews puts it this way: “But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have “But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern good and evil” (Hebrews 5:14). their senses trained to discern good and evil” (Hebrews 5:14). 3. Seek wisdom. It is often said that: “the best defense is a good 3. Seek wisdom. It is often said that: “the best defense is a good offense.” The best way to ward off folly is to pursue wisdom with offense.” The best way to ward off folly is to pursue wisdom with your whole heart. Seek teachers and mentors that can impart skills your whole heart. Seek teachers and mentors that can impart skills for living in all areas of your life – work, wealth management, for living in all areas of your life – work, wealth management, relationships, health, hobbies, education, retirement plans, etc. relationships, health, hobbies, education, retirement plans, etc. “For if you cry for discernment, lift your voice for understand- “For if you cry for discernment, lift your voice for understand- ing; if you seek her as silver and search for her as for hidden ing; if you seek her as silver and search for her as for hidden treasures; then you will discern the fear of the Lord and discover treasures; then you will discern the fear of the Lord and discover the knowledge of God” (Proverbs 2:3-5). the knowledge of God” (Proverbs 2:3-5). 4. Trust God’s LOVE for you. The LIE says that God's ways are 4. Trust God’s LOVE for you. The LIE says that God's ways are NOT good for us, and our OWN ways that feel and seem right and NOT good for us, and our OWN ways that feel and seem right and true. At the deepest root, there is this question: Does God really true. At the deepest root, there is this question: Does God really love me? Does He want what’s best for me? The more that God’s love me? Does He want what’s best for me? The more that God’s love for you becomes a settled conviction in your heart, the easier love for you becomes a settled conviction in your heart, the easier it will be to heed His voice (the call of Lady Wisdom) and to walk it will be to heed His voice (the call of Lady Wisdom) and to walk in His ways. in His ways. “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly” (John 10:10). they may have life, and have it abundantly” (John 10:10).

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Message 6 – Wisdom & Folly: Wealth Message 6 – Wisdom & Folly: Wealth Proverbs 10-31 Proverbs 10-31

Introduction Introduction The opening father-son discussion contrasting the ways of Wisdom The opening father-son discussion contrasting the ways of Wisdom and Folly ends with chapter 9. Then, the actual collection of and Folly ends with chapter 9. Then, the actual collection of “proverbs” covers chapters 10-31. The sayings are short and pithy, “proverbs” covers chapters 10-31. The sayings are short and pithy, ranging in topics: wealth, work, morality, family, words, planning, ranging in topics: wealth, work, morality, family, words, planning, etc. It is important to keep in mind that proverbs are principles for etc. It is important to keep in mind that proverbs are principles for life, not guaranteed promises. For example: “No harm befalls the life, not guaranteed promises. For example: “No harm befalls the righteous; but the wicked are filled with trouble” (12:21). It is righteous; but the wicked are filled with trouble” (12:21). It is obvious that harm does often come upon the righteous (eg. Job). obvious that harm does often come upon the righteous (eg. Job). But Proverbs is not intending to give us hard and fast promises; But Proverbs is not intending to give us hard and fast promises; rather, it is giving us the general principles governing life. Thus, rather, it is giving us the general principles governing life. Thus, while the righteous may suffer, the general principle still holds while the righteous may suffer, the general principle still holds true: Walking with God (being ‘righteous’) delivers a person from true: Walking with God (being ‘righteous’) delivers a person from much unnecessary harm in life, while living a wicked life usually much unnecessary harm in life, while living a wicked life usually results in negative consequences. When interpreting and applying results in negative consequences. When interpreting and applying a particular proverbial saying to your life, first look for the general a particular proverbial saying to your life, first look for the general principle underlying the proverb. Then, remember that it is a principle underlying the proverb. Then, remember that it is a principle of life, not a ‘promise’ from God. principle of life, not a ‘promise’ from God. Wisdom and Folly concerning Wealth Wisdom and Folly concerning Wealth Some topics are emphasized more than others in Proverbs. We Some topics are emphasized more than others in Proverbs. We will focus our attention on five of the most important topics. The will focus our attention on five of the most important topics. The first is one that concerns us every day of our lives: MONEY. first is one that concerns us every day of our lives: MONEY. I. Proverbs about Gaining Wealth I. Proverbs about Gaining Wealth According to Proverbs, there are both wise and foolish ways to According to Proverbs, there are both wise and foolish ways to gain wealth. To gain wealth with wisdom leads to many blessings gain wealth. To gain wealth with wisdom leads to many blessings and opportunities in this life, as well as rewards in the next life. and opportunities in this life, as well as rewards in the next life. On the other hand, to gain wealth by foolish means leads to great On the other hand, to gain wealth by foolish means leads to great harm and even eternal loss. harm and even eternal loss. A. Wealth is gained by Hard Work. A. Wealth is gained by Hard Work. Proverbs has much to say about hard work, diligence and Proverbs has much to say about hard work, diligence and perseverance. It also has much to say about laziness, carelessness perseverance. It also has much to say about laziness, carelessness 11/6/16 468 11/6/16 468 and pleasure seeking. There is a strong correlation between your and pleasure seeking. There is a strong correlation between your attitude toward work and the success you will likely have in attitude toward work and the success you will likely have in gaining wealth. gaining wealth. “Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth” “Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth” (10:4). (10:4). “Do not love sleep or you will grow poor; stay awake and you will “Do not love sleep or you will grow poor; stay awake and you will have food to spare” (20:13). have food to spare” (20:13). “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty” (14:23). poverty” (14:23). “Whoever loves pleasure will become poor; whoever loves wine “Whoever loves pleasure will become poor; whoever loves wine and olive oil will never be rich” (21:17). and olive oil will never be rich” (21:17). So many people want to “get rich quick and easy;” but that is not So many people want to “get rich quick and easy;” but that is not the way life works. It takes diligence and self-discipline to get to the way life works. It takes diligence and self-discipline to get to the top in any area of life. the top in any area of life. B. Wealth is gained by Wise Planning. B. Wealth is gained by Wise Planning. We have all made the mistake of jumping into a “deal” too We have all made the mistake of jumping into a “deal” too quickly, without reading all of the fine print, or doing our due- quickly, without reading all of the fine print, or doing our due- diligence on the investment idea or purchase. Planning and diligence on the investment idea or purchase. Planning and prudence have a lot to do with wealth/poverty outcomes. In prudence have a lot to do with wealth/poverty outcomes. In general, the old saying – ‘Haste makes waste’ – is confirmed by general, the old saying – ‘Haste makes waste’ – is confirmed by Proverbs (in fact, it is probably derived from Proverbs). Proverbs (in fact, it is probably derived from Proverbs). “The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to “The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty” (21:5). poverty” (21:5). “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed” (15:22). succeed” (15:22). Typically we like to be very private about our financial affairs. This Typically we like to be very private about our financial affairs. This can, however, lead to unwillingness to seek sound advice from a can, however, lead to unwillingness to seek sound advice from a trusted financial advisor. This, in turn, can result in unwise wealth- trusted financial advisor. This, in turn, can result in unwise wealth- management decisions. A good financial planner can help us management decisions. A good financial planner can help us assess our current situation and to make both short and long term assess our current situation and to make both short and long term plans for the future. Find someone with a sterling reputation and a plans for the future. Find someone with a sterling reputation and a proven track record. It is also very helpful when they understand proven track record. It is also very helpful when they understand our personal priorities and values, growing out of our faith in God. our personal priorities and values, growing out of our faith in God. Over time, the best financial planners will ‘pay for themselves’ as Over time, the best financial planners will ‘pay for themselves’ as they help us wisely navigate tricky micro and macro money they help us wisely navigate tricky micro and macro money matters. (Note: Oak Pointe offers a class: Financial Peace matters. (Note: Oak Pointe offers a class: Financial Peace University. While we do not offer personalized wealth manage- University. While we do not offer personalized wealth manage- ment planning, the class is a good place to get started with an ment planning, the class is a good place to get started with an understanding of the basic principles of wisdom and wealth.) understanding of the basic principles of wisdom and wealth.) 11/6/16 469 11/6/16 469 C. Wealth is a Gift from God. C. Wealth is a Gift from God. Ultimately, wealth (and the opportunity to gain it) must be viewed Ultimately, wealth (and the opportunity to gain it) must be viewed as a gift from the hand of God. We may mistakenly think that our as a gift from the hand of God. We may mistakenly think that our painful toil is the reason we have succeeded in gaining wealth painful toil is the reason we have succeeded in gaining wealth when, in reality, the hand of God stands behind any success we when, in reality, the hand of God stands behind any success we might have. Hard work and planning are certainly involved; but might have. Hard work and planning are certainly involved; but the blessing of the Lord trumps all of our efforts. the blessing of the Lord trumps all of our efforts. “The blessing of the Lord brings wealth, without painful toil for “The blessing of the Lord brings wealth, without painful toil for it” (10:22). it” (10:22). Recall King David’s words about his own wealth, when God gave Recall King David’s words about his own wealth, when God gave him the opportunity to contribute to the temple-building project: him the opportunity to contribute to the temple-building project: “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from you, and we give as generously as this? Everything comes from you, and we have given you only what comes from your hand” have given you only what comes from your hand” (1Chronicles 29:14). (1Chronicles 29:14).

When we “give” to God and His work in this world, we are actually When we “give” to God and His work in this world, we are actually “giving back” to Him what He has first given to us. So the real “giving back” to Him what He has first given to us. So the real question with our financial giving should not be: How much do I question with our financial giving should not be: How much do I have to give to God? Rather, the question should be: How much is have to give to God? Rather, the question should be: How much is God allowing me to keep for myself? True financial giving is God allowing me to keep for myself? True financial giving is returning to the Lord’s hand blessings that He has chosen to returning to the Lord’s hand blessings that He has chosen to entrust to us. The “tithe” (1/10 th ) is always the biblical starting entrust to us. The “tithe” (1/10 th ) is always the biblical starting point for your discussion with God over what He is asking you to point for your discussion with God over what He is asking you to give back to Him. give back to Him. D. Wealth gained through Dishonesty. D. Wealth gained through Dishonesty. Proverbs is a very realistic book of wisdom. It is clear that there is Proverbs is a very realistic book of wisdom. It is clear that there is more than one road to riches. There are both wise and foolish more than one road to riches. There are both wise and foolish ways to pursue wealth. Dishonesty, fraudulent practices, cheating ways to pursue wealth. Dishonesty, fraudulent practices, cheating and stealing have always been associated with wealth. Proverbs and stealing have always been associated with wealth. Proverbs has a lot to say about the folly of pursuing riches by these means. has a lot to say about the folly of pursuing riches by these means. “Dishonest money dwindles away, but whoever gathers money “Dishonest money dwindles away, but whoever gathers money little by little makes it grow” (13:11). little by little makes it grow” (13:11). “A fortune made by a lying tongue is a fleeting vapor and a “A fortune made by a lying tongue is a fleeting vapor and a deadly snare” (21:6). deadly snare” (21:6). “The Lord detests dishonest scales, but accurate weights find “The Lord detests dishonest scales, but accurate weights find favor with him” (11:1). favor with him” (11:1). “Detest” is a strong word. The Lord detests dishonesty in “Detest” is a strong word. The Lord detests dishonesty in 11/6/16 470 11/6/16 470 matters involving money because it shows that a person is willing matters involving money because it shows that a person is willing to do anything to get ahead . . . even at the expense of others. to do anything to get ahead . . . even at the expense of others. In fact, from God’s perspective you are better off if you are poor In fact, from God’s perspective you are better off if you are poor and righteous, than rich and unrighteous: and righteous, than rich and unrighteous: “Better the poor whose walk is blameless than the rich whose “Better the poor whose walk is blameless than the rich whose ways are perverse” (28:6). ways are perverse” (28:6). It is better to preserve a good reputation in society than to have ill- It is better to preserve a good reputation in society than to have ill- gotten wealth in the bank. Being rich in character is more gotten wealth in the bank. Being rich in character is more important than being rich in possessions. important than being rich in possessions. “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold” (22:1). is better than silver or gold” (22:1). E. Wealth gained by Exploitation and Oppression. E. Wealth gained by Exploitation and Oppression. Of course, many people become rich by exploiting the poor or Of course, many people become rich by exploiting the poor or taking advantage of those in financially weak situations. Since taking advantage of those in financially weak situations. Since wealth (and the opportunity to make it) is ultimately a gift from wealth (and the opportunity to make it) is ultimately a gift from God, it is a terrible evil to use this gift in order to harm humanity God, it is a terrible evil to use this gift in order to harm humanity and make ourselves even richer. (See James 5:1-6 for severe and make ourselves even richer. (See James 5:1-6 for severe words to the rich who oppress the poor.) words to the rich who oppress the poor.) “A person who gets ahead by oppressing the poor or by shower- “A person who gets ahead by oppressing the poor or by shower- ing gifts on the rich will end in poverty” (22:16). ing gifts on the rich will end in poverty” (22:16). “Don’t rob the poor just because you can, or exploit the needy in “Don’t rob the poor just because you can, or exploit the needy in court. For the Lord is their defender. He will ruin anyone who court. For the Lord is their defender. He will ruin anyone who ruins them” (22:22,23). ruins them” (22:22,23). Instead of exploiting or oppressing those who lack resources, we Instead of exploiting or oppressing those who lack resources, we are called to do the opposite: to be generous toward their needs are called to do the opposite: to be generous toward their needs and helpful in giving them pathways out of poverty. As you think and helpful in giving them pathways out of poverty. As you think about your own financial situation (investments, purchasing about your own financial situation (investments, purchasing patterns, labor practices, pay scales, etc.), is there any area that patterns, labor practices, pay scales, etc.), is there any area that comes to mind where you might be taking advantage of the less comes to mind where you might be taking advantage of the less fortunate in order to strengthen your own financial position? Is fortunate in order to strengthen your own financial position? Is there something within your power to do to remedy this situation? there something within your power to do to remedy this situation? F. Wealth gained by Hoarding and Market Manipulation. F. Wealth gained by Hoarding and Market Manipulation. In the day Proverbs was written, there was no Securities Exchange In the day Proverbs was written, there was no Securities Exchange Commission or Better Business Bureau to regulate market activity. Commission or Better Business Bureau to regulate market activity. Wealthy landowners could drive up prices by holding back their Wealthy landowners could drive up prices by holding back their grain supplies and creating the illusion of scarcity (still a common grain supplies and creating the illusion of scarcity (still a common practice today in commodities markets). The economics of practice today in commodities markets). The economics of 11/6/16 471 11/6/16 471 scarcity always works in favor of those who have resources , scarcity always works in favor of those who have resources , hurting those in need of resources. The poor become poorer and hurting those in need of resources. The poor become poorer and the rich become richer. the rich become richer. “People curse the one who hoards grain, but they pray God’s “People curse the one who hoards grain, but they pray God’s blessing on the one who is willing to sell” (11:26). blessing on the one who is willing to sell” (11:26). II. Proverbs about Attitudes toward Wealth II. Proverbs about Attitudes toward Wealth All of life is governed by our core beliefs, convictions and All of life is governed by our core beliefs, convictions and attitudes. This is never truer than in the area of wealth. Our attitudes. This is never truer than in the area of wealth. Our perspectives on wealth (or the lack of it) will determine the way we perspectives on wealth (or the lack of it) will determine the way we handle our financial matters. handle our financial matters. A. Contentment is the Key to Wealth Management. A. Contentment is the Key to Wealth Management. Throughout Scripture, we are taught that contentment is the most Throughout Scripture, we are taught that contentment is the most important attitude that must govern our approach to money important attitude that must govern our approach to money matters. matters. “Better a little with the fear of the Lord than great wealth with “Better a little with the fear of the Lord than great wealth with turmoil” (15:16). turmoil” (15:16). “Better a little with righteousness than much gain with injustice” “Better a little with righteousness than much gain with injustice” (16:8). (16:8). “Better a dry crust eaten in peace than a house filled with “Better a dry crust eaten in peace than a house filled with feasting – and conflict” (17:1). feasting – and conflict” (17:1). The apostle Paul stressed the issue of contentment: The apostle Paul stressed the issue of contentment: “But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought “But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. Those we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. Those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin many foolish and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs” (1Tim. 6:6-10). faith and pierced themselves with many griefs” (1Tim. 6:6-10). B. Greed is the Killer of Wealth Management. B. Greed is the Killer of Wealth Management. Contentment is wisdom. On the other hand, greed (an incessant Contentment is wisdom. On the other hand, greed (an incessant desire for more) is folly. The problem is that riches are like salt desire for more) is folly. The problem is that riches are like salt water: the more we get, the more we want. Driven by greed for water: the more we get, the more we want. Driven by greed for more, we bring great harm to our own lives and to those around us. more, we bring great harm to our own lives and to those around us. “The greedy bring ruin to their households, but the one who “The greedy bring ruin to their households, but the one who hates bribes will live” (15:27). hates bribes will live” (15:27). 11/6/16 472 11/6/16 472

“The greedy stir up conflict, but those who trust in the Lord will “The greedy stir up conflict, but those who trust in the Lord will prosper” (28:25). prosper” (28:25). “Do not wear yourself out to get rich; do not trust your own “Do not wear yourself out to get rich; do not trust your own cleverness. Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone, for cleverness. Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone, for they will surely sprout wings and fly off to the sky like an eagle” they will surely sprout wings and fly off to the sky like an eagle” (23:4,5). (23:4,5). This may be a good time to stop and ask God to search your heart This may be a good time to stop and ask God to search your heart on this question: Where have I lost CONTENTMENT and let GREED on this question: Where have I lost CONTENTMENT and let GREED get a foothold in my life? Where is my thirst for MORE out of get a foothold in my life? Where is my thirst for MORE out of control? Remember the saying: Greed brings ruin to households control? Remember the saying: Greed brings ruin to households (15:27). Is there an area of greed that needs to be uprooted from (15:27). Is there an area of greed that needs to be uprooted from your life? Wisdom shouts: Do it now, before you ruin your life!!! your life? Wisdom shouts: Do it now, before you ruin your life!!! (For an example of greed literally killing a couple, see the incident (For an example of greed literally killing a couple, see the incident involving Ananias and Sapphira – Acts 5:1-10.) involving Ananias and Sapphira – Acts 5:1-10.) C. Our ultimate Trust must never be in Wealth. C. Our ultimate Trust must never be in Wealth. Another folly associated with wealth is that it can quickly become Another folly associated with wealth is that it can quickly become the ultimate object of our trust and confidence in life. The Bible the ultimate object of our trust and confidence in life. The Bible teaches that wealth can be enjoyed as a gift from God; but it should teaches that wealth can be enjoyed as a gift from God; but it should never be trusted as a substitute for God. never be trusted as a substitute for God. “Those who trust in their riches will fall, but the righteous will “Those who trust in their riches will fall, but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf” (11:28). thrive like a green leaf” (11:28). “The rich think of their wealth as a strong defense; they imagine “The rich think of their wealth as a strong defense; they imagine it to be a high wall of safety” (18:11). it to be a high wall of safety” (18:11). (Note: The rich young ruler ruled was ruled by his trust in money – (Note: The rich young ruler ruled was ruled by his trust in money – Mark 10:22-23. This is why he could not bring himself to trust in Mark 10:22-23. This is why he could not bring himself to trust in God and become a follower of Jesus. His money had too strong a God and become a follower of Jesus. His money had too strong a grip on his heart. Wealth was his ultimate savior. ) grip on his heart. Wealth was his ultimate savior. ) “The rich are wise in their own eyes; one who is poor and “The rich are wise in their own eyes; one who is poor and discerning sees how deluded they are” (28:11). discerning sees how deluded they are” (28:11). The wise man, Agur, made this the subject of his prayer to God: The wise man, Agur, made this the subject of his prayer to God: “Two things I ask of you, Lord; do not refuse me before I die: “Two things I ask of you, Lord; do not refuse me before I die: Keep falsehood and lies far from me; give me neither poverty nor Keep falsehood and lies far from me; give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread. Otherwise, I may have riches, but give me only my daily bread. Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you and say, ‘Who is the Lord?’ Or I may too much and disown you and say, ‘Who is the Lord?’ Or I may become poor and steal, and so dishonor the name of my God” become poor and steal, and so dishonor the name of my God” (30:7-9). (30:7-9).

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D. Eternity’s reward must govern our use of Earthly Wealth. D. Eternity’s reward must govern our use of Earthly Wealth. Ultimately, earthly wealth is an opportunity to gain eternity’s Ultimately, earthly wealth is an opportunity to gain eternity’s reward. Wealth will not be able to “save us” in the day of reward. Wealth will not be able to “save us” in the day of judgment before God (i.e., God is not the sort of judge we can judgment before God (i.e., God is not the sort of judge we can bribe so that He will let us off the hook). Yet, we can be rewarded bribe so that He will let us off the hook). Yet, we can be rewarded in eternity for the way we deal with the privilege of earthly wealth. in eternity for the way we deal with the privilege of earthly wealth. “Riches won’t help on the day of judgment, but right living can “Riches won’t help on the day of judgment, but right living can save you from death” (11:4). save you from death” (11:4). “Ill-gotten treasures have no lasting value, but righteousness “Ill-gotten treasures have no lasting value, but righteousness delivers from death” (10:2). delivers from death” (10:2). Two of Jesus’ parables deal specifically with the folly of failing to Two of Jesus’ parables deal specifically with the folly of failing to use earthly wealth in light of eternity. See the parable of the rich use earthly wealth in light of eternity. See the parable of the rich fool (Lk.12:13-21) and the parable of the rich man and Lazarus fool (Lk.12:13-21) and the parable of the rich man and Lazarus (Lk.16:19-31). In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus actually told (Lk.16:19-31). In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus actually told His disciples to store up treasures in heaven: His disciples to store up treasures in heaven: “Don’t store up treasures here on earth, where moths eat them “Don’t store up treasures here on earth, where moths eat them and rust destroys them, and where thieves break in and steal. and rust destroys them, and where thieves break in and steal. Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal. Wherever your destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal. Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be” treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be” (Matthew 6:19-21). (Matthew 6:19-21). III. Proverbs about Using Wealth Wisely III. Proverbs about Using Wealth Wisely During our brief stay on earth, we must become wise in the During our brief stay on earth, we must become wise in the management and use of the wealth that God allots to us. Proverbs management and use of the wealth that God allots to us. Proverbs is very specific and practical at this point. is very specific and practical at this point. A. We should Know where we Stand financially. A. We should Know where we Stand financially. It is good, first of all, to know the condition of your accounts, It is good, first of all, to know the condition of your accounts, assets and investments. We must not assume that our investments assets and investments. We must not assume that our investments are appreciating in value. They could be depreciating, if they are are appreciating in value. They could be depreciating, if they are not watched carefully. Overall, we should have a clear-headed not watched carefully. Overall, we should have a clear-headed assessment of where we stand financially. assessment of where we stand financially. “Be sure you know the condition of your flocks, give careful “Be sure you know the condition of your flocks, give careful attention to your herds; for riches do not endure forever, and a attention to your herds; for riches do not endure forever, and a crown is not secure for all generations” (27:23,24). crown is not secure for all generations” (27:23,24). B. We should Loan wealth very Cautiously. B. We should Loan wealth very Cautiously. If you have wealth, chances are you will be asked for a “loan” at If you have wealth, chances are you will be asked for a “loan” at 11/6/16 474 11/6/16 474 some point in your life. While loans are not forbidden in Scripture, some point in your life. While loans are not forbidden in Scripture, caution is always encouraged and certain kinds of loans are caution is always encouraged and certain kinds of loans are discouraged: discouraged: - It is folly to make loans to complete strangers (who may not have - It is folly to make loans to complete strangers (who may not have the means to repay you). the means to repay you). “Whoever puts up security for a stranger will surely suffer, but “Whoever puts up security for a stranger will surely suffer, but whoever refuses to shake hands in pledge is safe” (11:15). whoever refuses to shake hands in pledge is safe” (11:15). - It is evil to make high-interest loans to vulnerable people. - It is evil to make high-interest loans to vulnerable people. “Whoever increases wealth by taking interest or profit from the “Whoever increases wealth by taking interest or profit from the poor amasses it for another, who will be kind to the poor” (28:8). poor amasses it for another, who will be kind to the poor” (28:8). C. We should Borrow wealth very Hesitantly. C. We should Borrow wealth very Hesitantly. It is unwise to continually borrow money in order to pursue one’s It is unwise to continually borrow money in order to pursue one’s lifestyle. Further, it is unwise to put valuable personal assets at lifestyle. Further, it is unwise to put valuable personal assets at risk by offering them as collateral for loans. risk by offering them as collateral for loans. “Do not be one who shakes hands in pledge or puts up security “Do not be one who shakes hands in pledge or puts up security for debts; if you lack the means to pay, your very bed will be for debts; if you lack the means to pay, your very bed will be snatched from under you” (22:26,27). snatched from under you” (22:26,27). The general principle of borrowing and lending is quite simple: The general principle of borrowing and lending is quite simple: “The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the “The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender” (22:7). lender” (22:7).

Cred it card debt is a major source of financial and marital woes . Cred it card debt is a major source of financial and marital woes . When we use a credit card, we are borrowing money. If that When we use a credit card, we are borrowing money. If that money is not paid back quickly (usually within the month), we will money is not paid back quickly (usually within the month), we will pay extremely high interest rates on the money we have borrowed. pay extremely high interest rates on the money we have borrowed. Only use credit cards IF you have the means to pay IMMEDIATELY. Only use credit cards IF you have the means to pay IMMEDIATELY. Never use credit cards IF you know you will likely NOT have the Never use credit cards IF you know you will likely NOT have the means to repay. With credit card companies, the saying is so true: means to repay. With credit card companies, the saying is so true: “The borrower is slave to the lender” (Prov. 22:7). That, in fact, is “The borrower is slave to the lender” (Prov. 22:7). That, in fact, is their goal. Avoid at all costs the slavery of credit card debt. their goal. Avoid at all costs the slavery of credit card debt. D. We should Share wealth very Generously. D. We should Share wealth very Generously. It is important to note that the greatest number of verses in It is important to note that the greatest number of verses in Proverbs concerning wealth have to do with GENEROSITY on Proverbs concerning wealth have to do with GENEROSITY on the part of the wealthy. The number of references to generosity is, the part of the wealthy. The number of references to generosity is, in itself, a lesson as to what really matters to God. in itself, a lesson as to what really matters to God. Those with financial needs will naturally be drawn toward those Those with financial needs will naturally be drawn toward those who possess wealth. Some will come with legitimate who possess wealth. Some will come with legitimate needs/opportunities while others will be scam artists. needs/opportunities while others will be scam artists. 11/6/16 475 11/6/16 475 “Wealth attracts many friends . . .” (19:4 and 14:20). “Wealth attracts many friends . . .” (19:4 and 14:20). Having done our best to determine whether the one in need is Having done our best to determine whether the one in need is legitimate, it is wise to be generous toward the needy. Giving to legitimate, it is wise to be generous toward the needy. Giving to the poor is actually loaning to the Lord, and He will repay with the poor is actually loaning to the Lord, and He will repay with great interest! great interest! “Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will “Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will reward them for what they have done” (19:17). reward them for what they have done” (19:17). “Whoever oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker, “Whoever oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker, but whoever is kind to the needy honors God” (14:31 and 17:5). but whoever is kind to the needy honors God” (14:31 and 17:5). Further, there is a principle (not a promise) in Proverbs that God Further, there is a principle (not a promise) in Proverbs that God will allow the generous person to be blessed even more, while the will allow the generous person to be blessed even more, while the stingy person hurts only himself. stingy person hurts only himself. “One person gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds “One person gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty. A generous person will prosper; unduly, but comes to poverty. A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed” (11:24,25). whoever refreshes others will be refreshed” (11:24,25). “The generous will themselves be blessed, for they share their “The generous will themselves be blessed, for they share their food with the poor” (22:9). food with the poor” (22:9). “Those who give to the poor will lack nothing, but those who “Those who give to the poor will lack nothing, but those who close their eyes to them receive many curses” (28:27). close their eyes to them receive many curses” (28:27). The wealthy person needs to realize that God is the Maker of both The wealthy person needs to realize that God is the Maker of both rich and poor. It is wise to recognize the inherent value of every rich and poor. It is wise to recognize the inherent value of every human being, regardless of their financial status. human being, regardless of their financial status. “Rich and poor have this in common: The Lord is the Maker of “Rich and poor have this in common: The Lord is the Maker of them all” (22:2). them all” (22:2). E. We should Leave wealth as an Inheritance Appropriately. E. We should Leave wealth as an Inheritance Appropriately. Quite often, families are torn apart by estate settlement issues that Quite often, families are torn apart by estate settlement issues that follow a death. To safeguard against such inheritance battles, it is follow a death. To safeguard against such inheritance battles, it is wise to plan in advance for the appropriate distribution of your wise to plan in advance for the appropriate distribution of your resources after your death. In this way, each person will receive a resources after your death. In this way, each person will receive a well thought out, wise gift. Such long-term planning will even well thought out, wise gift. Such long-term planning will even take into account blessing grandchildren with gifts. take into account blessing grandchildren with gifts. “A good person leaves an inheritance for their children’s “A good person leaves an inheritance for their children’s children, but a sinner’s wealth is stored up for the righteous” children, but a sinner’s wealth is stored up for the righteous” (13:22). (13:22). On the receiving end of inheritances, Proverbs has one piece of On the receiving end of inheritances, Proverbs has one piece of advice: Do not be hasty in clamoring for your inheritance. advice: Do not be hasty in clamoring for your inheritance. 11/6/16 476 11/6/16 476 “An inheritance claimed too soon will not be blessed at the end” “An inheritance claimed too soon will not be blessed at the end” (20:21). (20:21). We are reminded of the story of the “prodigal son,” who demanded We are reminded of the story of the “prodigal son,” who demanded his inheritance before his father had passed away (Luke 15:11,12). his inheritance before his father had passed away (Luke 15:11,12). The father graciously gave his son his ‘early inheritance’ after The father graciously gave his son his ‘early inheritance’ after which the son squandered it on loose living (Luke 15:13). While which the son squandered it on loose living (Luke 15:13). While the story of the prodigal son carries a message of redemption, the story of the prodigal son carries a message of redemption, forgiveness and hope . . . the principle of Proverbs still holds true: forgiveness and hope . . . the principle of Proverbs still holds true: An inheritance claimed in haste will end in waste! An inheritance claimed in haste will end in waste! Ten practical questions to ponder: Ten practical questions to ponder: Proverbs has so much practical wisdom about gaining and Proverbs has so much practical wisdom about gaining and maintaining wealth. Here are some summary questions to ask maintaining wealth. Here are some summary questions to ask yourself: yourself: 1. Am I working hard and growing in my ability to be financially 1. Am I working hard and growing in my ability to be financially responsible? responsible? 2. Am I developing and following a sound financial plan? 2. Am I developing and following a sound financial plan? 3. Am I learning to budget and live within my means? 3. Am I learning to budget and live within my means? 4. Am I living a life that pleases God, tithing back to Him and 4. Am I living a life that pleases God, tithing back to Him and honoring Him with the “first fruits” of my income? honoring Him with the “first fruits” of my income? 5. Am I being generous toward those with legitimate needs? 5. Am I being generous toward those with legitimate needs? 6. Am I guarding against greed, and cultivating contentment? 6. Am I guarding against greed, and cultivating contentment? 7. Am I avoiding excessive, expensive debt and/or loans? 7. Am I avoiding excessive, expensive debt and/or loans? 8. Am I remaining humble about the wealth God has given to me? 8. Am I remaining humble about the wealth God has given to me? 9. Am I preparing to leave wealth wisely after my departure? 9. Am I preparing to leave wealth wisely after my departure? 10. Am I using earthly wealth to store up a heavenly reward? 10. Am I using earthly wealth to store up a heavenly reward?

**Reminder: Oak Pointe’s course – Financial Peace University – **Reminder: Oak Pointe’s course – Financial Peace University – provides a great opportunity to address these questions and to provides a great opportunity to address these questions and to gather sound wisdom concerning financial issues. gather sound wisdom concerning financial issues.

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Message 7 – Wisdom and Folly: Words Message 7 – Wisdom and Folly: Words Proverbs 10-31 Proverbs 10-31

Introduction Introduction There is an old saying: Sticks and stones may break my bones, but There is an old saying: Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. The book of Proverbs disagrees with that words will never hurt me. The book of Proverbs disagrees with that saying. Instead: “The tongue has the power of life and death . . .” saying. Instead: “The tongue has the power of life and death . . .” (18:21). The power of the tongue is a major topic in Proverbs, with (18:21). The power of the tongue is a major topic in Proverbs, with over 90 references. How important is the use of the tongue in over 90 references. How important is the use of the tongue in God’s eyes? Of the seven things the Lord hates, three have to do God’s eyes? Of the seven things the Lord hates, three have to do with the tongue: “There are six things which the Lord hates, yes, with the tongue: “There are six things which the Lord hates, yes, seven which are an abomination to Him: Haughty eyes, A LYING seven which are an abomination to Him: Haughty eyes, A LYING TONGUE, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that TONGUE, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that run rapidly to evil, A FALSE devises wicked plans, feet that run rapidly to evil, A FALSE WITNESS WHO UTTERS LIES, and ONE WHO SPREADS WITNESS WHO UTTERS LIES, and ONE WHO SPREADS STRIFE AMONG BROTHERS” (6:16-19). This emphasis on the STRIFE AMONG BROTHERS” (6:16-19). This emphasis on the power of the tongue is echoed in the New Testament both by Jesus power of the tongue is echoed in the New Testament both by Jesus and the apostolic writers (see for example James 3:1-12). and the apostolic writers (see for example James 3:1-12). Ultimately, while the tongue has great power for good or evil, it is Ultimately, while the tongue has great power for good or evil, it is really just the voice of the heart. “The mouth speaks out of that really just the voice of the heart. “The mouth speaks out of that which fills the heart” (Matthew 12:34). The words we use are the which fills the heart” (Matthew 12:34). The words we use are the most important indicator of the condition of our hearts and the way most important indicator of the condition of our hearts and the way we love one another. This is the profound message of Proverbs we love one another. This is the profound message of Proverbs and the rest of the Bible: We are called, above all else, to love God and the rest of the Bible: We are called, above all else, to love God and love people (Matthew 22:34-40 and Romans 13:8-10), and our and love people (Matthew 22:34-40 and Romans 13:8-10), and our words reveal how seriously we are pursuing these two greatest words reveal how seriously we are pursuing these two greatest commandments. commandments. Proverbs has much to say about both wise and foolish words. Proverbs has much to say about both wise and foolish words. Following are 6 contrasting ways to use the tongue. Following are 6 contrasting ways to use the tongue. 1. Encouraging words: Build up, don’t tear down. 1. Encouraging words: Build up, don’t tear down. Proverbs makes it clear that our words DO have a major impact on Proverbs makes it clear that our words DO have a major impact on others. Words can encourage or discourage others. others. Words can encourage or discourage others. “The words of the godly encourage many” (10:21a). “The words of the godly encourage many” (10:21a). “The lips of the godly speak helpful words” (10:32a). “The lips of the godly speak helpful words” (10:32a). 11/20/16 478 11/20/16 478

“The tongue of the wise brings healing” (12:18b). “The tongue of the wise brings healing” (12:18b). “Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up” “Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up” (12:25). (12:25). “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” (16:24). to the bones” (16:24). The word “encourage” literally means to “breathe courage into” The word “encourage” literally means to “breathe courage into” another person. Words can have that effect. On the other hand, another person. Words can have that effect. On the other hand, unwise words can “discourage” – “pull courage out of” another unwise words can “discourage” – “pull courage out of” another person, causing them to lose heart. person, causing them to lose heart. “The words of the reckless pierce like swords” (12:18a). “The words of the reckless pierce like swords” (12:18a). “With their words, the godless destroy their friends” (11:9a). “With their words, the godless destroy their friends” (11:9a). “The words of the wicked are like a murderous ambush” (12:6). “The words of the wicked are like a murderous ambush” (12:6).

Psychologists h ave studied neurological/chemical changes that Psychologists h ave studied neurological/chemical changes that happen when we are exposed to positive and negative words. happen when we are exposed to positive and negative words. Negative words release dozens of stress-related hormones and Negative words release dozens of stress-related hormones and neurotransmitters, impacting memory, emotions, sleep, appetite, neurotransmitters, impacting memory, emotions, sleep, appetite, reasoning, and overall happiness. The impact is especially reasoning, and overall happiness. The impact is especially significant on children. “The more negative thoughts they have, significant on children. “The more negative thoughts they have, the more they are likely to experience emotional turmoil. But if the more they are likely to experience emotional turmoil. But if you teach them to think positively, you can turn their lives around.” you teach them to think positively, you can turn their lives around.” 2. Measuring our words: Less, not more. 2. Measuring our words: Less, not more. When it comes to words, the wisdom of Proverbs says: Less is When it comes to words, the wisdom of Proverbs says: Less is better. The wise person limits the number of their words carefully, better. The wise person limits the number of their words carefully, making sure they do not say too much. making sure they do not say too much. “The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and “The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered” (17:27). whoever has understanding is even-tempered” (17:27). According to Lady Wisdom, the more we talk, the more likely we According to Lady Wisdom, the more we talk, the more likely we are to fall into sin with our words. are to fall into sin with our words. “When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, but “When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise” (10:19). he who restrains his lips is wise” (10:19). The Living Bible translates this same verse in modern terms: The Living Bible translates this same verse in modern terms: “Don’t talk so much! You keep putting your foot in your mouth. “Don’t talk so much! You keep putting your foot in your mouth. Be sensible and turn off the flow” (10:19 TLB). Be sensible and turn off the flow” (10:19 TLB). In fact, a restrained tongue can even make a fool appear to be wise. In fact, a restrained tongue can even make a fool appear to be wise. Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues” (17:28). they hold their tongues” (17:28). 11/20/16 479 11/20/16 479 How do we know if we are talking too much? Ask the people who How do we know if we are talking too much? Ask the people who listen to you. It may be a blind spot in your life, requiring someone listen to you. It may be a blind spot in your life, requiring someone else to lovingly point this out. A good rule of thumb is to ask else to lovingly point this out. A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself this: When a conversation is over, does the other person yourself this: When a conversation is over, does the other person feel like THEY have been explored, understood and ‘known?’ If feel like THEY have been explored, understood and ‘known?’ If your conversations typically revolve around YOUR life, your issues, your conversations typically revolve around YOUR life, your issues, your family, your opinions . . . then you need to learn to talk less your family, your opinions . . . then you need to learn to talk less and listen more. Talking too much is not loving others well. You and listen more. Talking too much is not loving others well. You will have much more healthy and productive relationships when will have much more healthy and productive relationships when you learn to listen with your heart more . . . and talk less. you learn to listen with your heart more . . . and talk less. 3. Thinking before we speak: Thoughtful, not hasty. 3. Thinking before we speak: Thoughtful, not hasty. We’ve all had that terrible feeling when we let words carelessly We’ve all had that terrible feeling when we let words carelessly slip from our mouths: “Oh no. I shouldn’t have said that.” Hasty slip from our mouths: “Oh no. I shouldn’t have said that.” Hasty words are dangerous words. Therefore, according to Lady words are dangerous words. Therefore, according to Lady Wisdom, our minds not our emotions should govern our tongues. Wisdom, our minds not our emotions should govern our tongues. “The heart of the godly thinks carefully before speaking; the “The heart of the godly thinks carefully before speaking; the mouth of the wicked overflows with evil words” (15:28). mouth of the wicked overflows with evil words” (15:28). “Everyone enjoys giving good advice, and how wonderful it is to “Everyone enjoys giving good advice, and how wonderful it is to be able to say the right thing at the right time” (15:23 – LB). be able to say the right thing at the right time” (15:23 – LB). Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity” (21:23). from calamity” (21:23). Thoughtful, reasoned speech is wise. In contrast, hasty, impulsive Thoughtful, reasoned speech is wise. In contrast, hasty, impulsive speech is fitting for someone who is worse than a fool! speech is fitting for someone who is worse than a fool! There is more hope for a fool than for someone who speaks There is more hope for a fool than for someone who speaks without thinking” (29:20). without thinking” (29:20). Can you recall a time when you spoke rashly, without giving proper Can you recall a time when you spoke rashly, without giving proper thought to your words? Or, a time when emotion overtook your thought to your words? Or, a time when emotion overtook your rational side, and you said things in the wrong way? (Perhaps you rational side, and you said things in the wrong way? (Perhaps you need to go ask forgiveness from someone for hasty words.) need to go ask forgiveness from someone for hasty words.) Picture an imaginary “pause button” on your cheek. Now, reach Picture an imaginary “pause button” on your cheek. Now, reach up and use your index finger to push the pause button. Next time up and use your index finger to push the pause button. Next time you are tempted to blurt out your words, reach up and push that you are tempted to blurt out your words, reach up and push that pause button. (To an observer it will look like you are just putting pause button. (To an observer it will look like you are just putting your finger on your cheek.) While you are pushing the pause your finger on your cheek.) While you are pushing the pause button, ponder your response. You might even say: “I need time to button, ponder your response. You might even say: “I need time to think about how to respond to what you have said. Can I get back think about how to respond to what you have said. Can I get back to you in a few minutes after I process a bit?” It takes some time to you in a few minutes after I process a bit?” It takes some time to form a new habit; but if you practice this regularly you will find to form a new habit; but if you practice this regularly you will find that hasty, emotion-driven words are being replaced by calm, that hasty, emotion-driven words are being replaced by calm, thought-driven words. This is WISE use of the tongue. thought-driven words. This is WISE use of the tongue.

11/20/16 480 11/20/16 480 4. Listening before we speak: Listen, don’t react. 4. Listening before we speak: Listen, don’t react. An extension of the above (thinking before we speak), good An extension of the above (thinking before we speak), good listening must come before wise speaking. As the old saying goes: listening must come before wise speaking. As the old saying goes: There’s a reason God gave us two ears and one mouth! There’s a reason God gave us two ears and one mouth! “To answer before listening - that is folly and shame” (18:13). “To answer before listening - that is folly and shame” (18:13). “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion” (18:2). expressing his opinion” (18:2).

James instructs us: “““My dear brothers and sisters, take note of James instructs us: “““My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry . . . (James 1:19). One of the biggest complaints of become angry . . . (James 1:19). One of the biggest complaints of married couples is that the spouse doesn’t listen. We hear the married couples is that the spouse doesn’t listen. We hear the first part of a person’s statement, and begin formulating our first part of a person’s statement, and begin formulating our response without hearing the rest. We are “answering in our response without hearing the rest. We are “answering in our head” while the other person is still talking. OPC’s Listening Well head” while the other person is still talking. OPC’s Listening Well course is intended to help us to learn better listening skills. It is course is intended to help us to learn better listening skills. It is only when we listen well that we can speak well. Do you need to only when we listen well that we can speak well. Do you need to improve your listening skills? It is a wonderful experience to be improve your listening skills? It is a wonderful experience to be able to verbally process your thoughts and feelings with someone able to verbally process your thoughts and feelings with someone who has learned the art of listening well. In fact, listening well IS who has learned the art of listening well. In fact, listening well IS loving well. loving well. 5. The tone of our words: Gentle, not harsh. 5. The tone of our words: Gentle, not harsh. The wise person is not only careful to decide when, what and how The wise person is not only careful to decide when, what and how much to say; but also HOW to say it. Wise words are gentle words. much to say; but also HOW to say it. Wise words are gentle words. The tone and facial expression accompanying our words magnifies The tone and facial expression accompanying our words magnifies their impact for good or for ill. their impact for good or for ill. “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare” (15:1). flare” (15:1). “Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the “Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit” (15:4). spirit” (15:4). “Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the “Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body” (16:24). body” (16:24). When it comes to words, anger is the deadliest emotion that we When it comes to words, anger is the deadliest emotion that we can allow to govern our tongue. can allow to govern our tongue. “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end” (29:11). end” (29:11). “A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is “A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel” (15:18). patient calms a quarrel” (15:18). 11/20/16 481 11/20/16 481 “Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is “Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly” (14:29). quick-tempered displays folly” (14:29). This explains why James makes such a strong connection between This explains why James makes such a strong connection between the tongue and anger. “Be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow the tongue and anger. “Be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger, for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness to anger, for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God” (James 1:19,20). of God” (James 1:19,20).

Self -awareness is critical when it comes to governing the tongue. Self -awareness is critical when it comes to governing the tongue. You must learn to live with an awareness of the emotions that are You must learn to live with an awareness of the emotions that are lying just beneath the surface of your being. Feelings such as lying just beneath the surface of your being. Feelings such as sadness, fear, hurt, anger and bitterness can rise up in an instant sadness, fear, hurt, anger and bitterness can rise up in an instant and propel our tongue into damaging action. As James says: “How and propel our tongue into damaging action. As James says: “How great a forest is set on fire by such a small flame (James 3:5)!” great a forest is set on fire by such a small flame (James 3:5)!” When we are aware of our own deeper emotions, then we can When we are aware of our own deeper emotions, then we can push the pause button on our tongue and take time to process push the pause button on our tongue and take time to process these emotions before God, allowing the Holy Spirit to bring light these emotions before God, allowing the Holy Spirit to bring light and healing to negative emotions. and healing to negative emotions. A further issue has to do with speaking harsh words to people who A further issue has to do with speaking harsh words to people who have been wounded by anger in the past. If we are truly seeking have been wounded by anger in the past. If we are truly seeking to love well, we will be aware of the sensitivity to anger in another to love well, we will be aware of the sensitivity to anger in another person, and guard our tone accordingly. To one who has been person, and guard our tone accordingly. To one who has been wounded by anger in the past, even ‘strong’ words can be ‘felt’ as wounded by anger in the past, even ‘strong’ words can be ‘felt’ as angry words, and such words can shut them down or cause them angry words, and such words can shut them down or cause them to become defensive. to become defensive. 6. Honesty with our words: Truth, not lies. 6. Honesty with our words: Truth, not lies. One of the seven things the Lord hates is a lying tongue (6:16-19). One of the seven things the Lord hates is a lying tongue (6:16-19). In contrast, the wise person speaks truth with the tongue. In contrast, the wise person speaks truth with the tongue. “Truthful words stand the test of time, but lies are soon exposed” “Truthful words stand the test of time, but lies are soon exposed” (12:19). (12:19). “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips” (24:26). “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips” (24:26). “The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the “The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth” (12:22). truth” (12:22). While lying in general is folly, there are three particular forms of While lying in general is folly, there are three particular forms of lying that Proverbs warns against: gossip, flattery and slander. lying that Proverbs warns against: gossip, flattery and slander. GOSSIP is saying behind a person’s back what you would never GOSSIP is saying behind a person’s back what you would never say to his/her face. Proverbs has a lot to say about the gossip. say to his/her face. Proverbs has a lot to say about the gossip. “A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are “A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence” (11:13). trustworthy can keep a confidence” (11:13).

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“A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close “A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends” (16:28). friends” (16:28). “Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever “Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends” (17:9). repeats the matter separates close friends” (17:9). “A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too “A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much” (20:19). much” (20:19). “Fire goes out without wood, and quarrels disappear when “Fire goes out without wood, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops” (26:20). gossip stops” (26:20). “The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to “The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts” (18:8). the inmost parts” (18:8). “Rumors are dainty morsels that sink deep into one’s heart” “Rumors are dainty morsels that sink deep into one’s heart” (26:22). (26:22). Note: Those last two references (18:8 and 26:22) warn against us Note: Those last two references (18:8 and 26:22) warn against us becoming willing EARS for the gossipy TONGUE. Gossip is like becoming willing EARS for the gossipy TONGUE. Gossip is like a tasty piece of candy. But we should not bite on it. a tasty piece of candy. But we should not bite on it.

Fear of saying something to a person’s face turns one into a Fear of saying something to a person’s face turns one into a gossip. “The fear of man will prove to be a snare …” (Proverbs gossip. “The fear of man will prove to be a snare …” (Proverbs 29:25). Jesus told us that if we have something to say to 29:25). Jesus told us that if we have something to say to someone, we MUST go directly to that person and speak the truth someone, we MUST go directly to that person and speak the truth in love (Matthew 18:15). We commit a grave sin when we speak in love (Matthew 18:15). We commit a grave sin when we speak negatively about others behind their back. But the real question negatively about others behind their back. But the real question is: What are we afraid of? What makes us avoid difficult is: What are we afraid of? What makes us avoid difficult conversations? What are we trying to protect? It may take some conversations? What are we trying to protect? It may take some serious self-examination to get to the roots of this fear of speaking serious self-examination to get to the roots of this fear of speaking directly to others about difficult matters. It may take some healing directly to others about difficult matters. It may take some healing prayer in order to root out the fear-based lies and replace them prayer in order to root out the fear-based lies and replace them with faith-based truths, resulting in the ability to address difficult with faith-based truths, resulting in the ability to address difficult situations more forthrightly and honestly . . . instead of gossiping situations more forthrightly and honestly . . . instead of gossiping behind people’s backs. behind people’s backs. FLATTERY is another form of ‘lying.’ Flattery is saying to a FLATTERY is another form of ‘lying.’ Flattery is saying to a person’s face what you would never say behind his/her back. person’s face what you would never say behind his/her back. “A lying tongue hates its victims, and flattering words cause “A lying tongue hates its victims, and flattering words cause ruin” (26:28). ruin” (26:28). “In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than “In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery” (28:23). flattery” (28:23). “To flatter friends is to lay a trap for their feet” (29:5). “To flatter friends is to lay a trap for their feet” (29:5). SLANDER is the 3 rd category of dishonest words in Proverbs. SLANDER is the 3 rd category of dishonest words in Proverbs. Slanderous words seek to unjustly destroy another’s reputation. Slanderous words seek to unjustly destroy another’s reputation. 11/20/16 483 11/20/16 483 “Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense, but a man of “Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense, but a man of understanding remains silent” (11:12). understanding remains silent” (11:12). “Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow is one who gives false “Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow is one who gives false testimony against a neighbor” (25:18). testimony against a neighbor” (25:18). Final Thought: Words and Love Final Thought: Words and Love Words flow from the heart and reflect love or hate. Words flow from the heart and reflect love or hate. This is the simplest way to summarize what the Bible says about This is the simplest way to summarize what the Bible says about our words. Words are the most common way we love or hate God our words. Words are the most common way we love or hate God and man. “With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and and man. “With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My likeness. Out of the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be” (James 3:9,10). Thus, the brothers and sisters, this should not be” (James 3:9,10). Thus, the key to taming the tongue is in the heart not in the mouth . key to taming the tongue is in the heart not in the mouth . The real question then is this: What is the condition of my heart? I The real question then is this: What is the condition of my heart? I believe there are two core issues of the heart that must be believe there are two core issues of the heart that must be constantly examined. 1) What is the SPIRITUAL condition of my constantly examined. 1) What is the SPIRITUAL condition of my heart? Am I living in fellowship with Jesus? Am I “abiding in heart? Am I living in fellowship with Jesus? Am I “abiding in Christ” (John 15:1-10)? Am I allowing the Holy Spirit to rule in Christ” (John 15:1-10)? Am I allowing the Holy Spirit to rule in my heart (Galatians 5:16-25)? Our daily walk with Jesus will in my heart (Galatians 5:16-25)? Our daily walk with Jesus will in large measure determine what flows forth from our mouths into the large measure determine what flows forth from our mouths into the ears of God and man. 2) What is the EMOTIONAL condition of ears of God and man. 2) What is the EMOTIONAL condition of my heart? Am I living a self-aware, ‘examined’ life? Am I my heart? Am I living a self-aware, ‘examined’ life? Am I dealing with my wounds, lies and triggers that cause me to react dealing with my wounds, lies and triggers that cause me to react with harsh words, instead of responding with gentle, thoughtful with harsh words, instead of responding with gentle, thoughtful words? Am I dealing with the fear that makes me defensive, or the words? Am I dealing with the fear that makes me defensive, or the terror that causes me to avoid people and become a gossip? Am I terror that causes me to avoid people and become a gossip? Am I asking God to heal the “I’m not valued” wound that causes me to asking God to heal the “I’m not valued” wound that causes me to try to be the center of every conversation? try to be the center of every conversation? The tongue is one of the most important topics in the book of The tongue is one of the most important topics in the book of Proverbs. But there is one verse that must never be forgotten: Proverbs. But there is one verse that must never be forgotten: “Above all else, guard your heart . . . for everything you do (and “Above all else, guard your heart . . . for everything you do (and everything you SAY) flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23). everything you SAY) flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23). An Unforgettable Classroom Exercise An Unforgettable Classroom Exercise One day, a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other One day, a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name. Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could each name. Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down. It took the say about each of their classmates and write it down. It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers. students left the room, each one handed in the papers. 11/20/16 484 11/20/16 484 That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual. On Monday she gave each student his or her about that individual. On Monday she gave each student his or her list. list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. "Really?" she heard Before long, the entire class was smiling. "Really?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!" and, "I whispered. "I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!" and, "I didn't know others liked me so much," were most of the comments. didn't know others liked me so much," were most of the comments. No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. The teacher No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. The teacher never found out if they discussed them after class or with their never found out if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on. That group of students moved on. Several years later, one of the students was killed in Vietnam and his Several years later, one of the students was killed in Vietnam and his teacher attended the funeral. The church was packed with his family teacher attended the funeral. The church was packed with his family and friends. and friends. Mark's mother and father wanted to speak with his teacher. "We Mark's mother and father wanted to speak with his teacher. "We want to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out of his want to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket. "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you pocket. "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it." Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two might recognize it." Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him. "Thank you so much each of Mark's classmates had said about him. "Thank you so much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured it." it." All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk smiled and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home." Another student’s wife said, "My husband asked me to put at home." Another student’s wife said, "My husband asked me to put his in our wedding album." "I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my his in our wedding album." "I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary.” Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took diary.” Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. "I out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. "I carry this with me at all times," Vicki said. Without batting an eyelash, carry this with me at all times," Vicki said. Without batting an eyelash, she continued, "I think we all saved our lists." she continued, "I think we all saved our lists."

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Message 8 – Wisdom and Folly: Work Message 8 – Wisdom and Folly: Work Proverbs 10-31 Proverbs 10-31

Introduction Introduction The average person will spend roughly 1/3 rd of his/her life working The average person will spend roughly 1/3 rd of his/her life working in various settings. Next to sleeping, this will be the biggest time- in various settings. Next to sleeping, this will be the biggest time- consumer of our lives. It is wise, therefore, to make the most of consumer of our lives. It is wise, therefore, to make the most of our work lives. Proverbs has a lot to say about ways to work our work lives. Proverbs has a lot to say about ways to work wisely and ways to work (or not work) foolishly. Overall, the wisely and ways to work (or not work) foolishly. Overall, the message is this: The quality of our lives will be directly related to message is this: The quality of our lives will be directly related to our work habits. Hard work reaps a great reward. Poor work our work habits. Hard work reaps a great reward. Poor work habits lead to many forms of trouble. habits lead to many forms of trouble. 1. Diligence vs Laziness 1. Diligence vs Laziness The most repeated theme in Proverbs concerning work is the The most repeated theme in Proverbs concerning work is the contrast between diligence and laziness. An observation from contrast between diligence and laziness. An observation from everyday life highlights the tangible impact of laziness. everyday life highlights the tangible impact of laziness. “I walked by the field of a lazy person, the vineyard of one with “I walked by the field of a lazy person, the vineyard of one with no common sense. I saw that it was overgrown with nettles. It no common sense. I saw that it was overgrown with nettles. It was covered with weeds, and its walls were broken down. Then, was covered with weeds, and its walls were broken down. Then, as I looked and thought about it, I learned this lesson: A little as I looked and thought about it, I learned this lesson: A little extra sleep, a little more slumber, a little folding of the hands to extra sleep, a little more slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest – then poverty will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will rest – then poverty will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will attack you like an armed robber” (24:30-34). attack you like an armed robber” (24:30-34). There are many verses dealing with diligence and laziness. Here There are many verses dealing with diligence and laziness. Here are just a few: are just a few: “Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth” “Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth” (10:4). (10:4). “Diligent hands will rule, but laziness ends in forced labor” “Diligent hands will rule, but laziness ends in forced labor” 12:24). 12:24). “The lazy do not roast any game, but the diligent feed on the “The lazy do not roast any game, but the diligent feed on the riches of the hunt” (12:27). riches of the hunt” (12:27). “Despite their desires, the lazy will come to ruin, for their hands “Despite their desires, the lazy will come to ruin, for their hands refuse to work” (21:25). refuse to work” (21:25). 11/27/16 486 11/27/16 486 “As a door swings back and forth on its hinges, so the lazy “As a door swings back and forth on its hinges, so the lazy person turns over in bed” (26:14). person turns over in bed” (26:14). “A sluggard buries his hand in the dish; he will not even bring it “A sluggard buries his hand in the dish; he will not even bring it back to his mouth” (19:24). back to his mouth” (19:24). From the natural world, the ant provides the prime example of hard From the natural world, the ant provides the prime example of hard work. Lady Wisdom invites the lazy person to study the ant and work. Lady Wisdom invites the lazy person to study the ant and then go follow this example. then go follow this example. “Take a lesson from the ants, you lazybones. Learn from their “Take a lesson from the ants, you lazybones. Learn from their ways and become wise! Though they have no prince or governor ways and become wise! Though they have no prince or governor or ruler to make them work, they labor hard all summer, or ruler to make them work, they labor hard all summer, gathering food for the winter. But you, lazybones, how long will gathering food for the winter. But you, lazybones, how long will you sleep? When will you wake up? A little extra sleep, a little you sleep? When will you wake up? A little extra sleep, a little more slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest – then poverty more slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest – then poverty will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will attack you like an will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will attack you like an armed robber” (6:6-11). armed robber” (6:6-11). From the human world, the prime example of the hard-working From the human world, the prime example of the hard-working person is the woman of Proverbs 31. Her home/family is her person is the woman of Proverbs 31. Her home/family is her workplace, and there she excels. workplace, and there she excels. “She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is “She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night” her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night” (31:13-18). (31:13-18). According to Proverbs, “work” is ANY form of labor in ANY According to Proverbs, “work” is ANY form of labor in ANY situation: work in the home, in the field, in the city, in the school, situation: work in the home, in the field, in the city, in the school, and in the shop. This is why the woman in the home ranks as the and in the shop. This is why the woman in the home ranks as the great example of hard work in Proverbs. Her work is equally as great example of hard work in Proverbs. Her work is equally as important as the president of the company, or the principal of the important as the president of the company, or the principal of the school. In Proverbs, the place of our work is not the main issue; school. In Proverbs, the place of our work is not the main issue; rather, the manner of our work. As the apostle Paul wrote: rather, the manner of our work. As the apostle Paul wrote: “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving” (Colossians 3:23,24). Try to see your work (whatever are serving” (Colossians 3:23,24). Try to see your work (whatever and wherever it currently is) as your calling to glorify God and and wherever it currently is) as your calling to glorify God and represent Him well in your sphere of influence. represent Him well in your sphere of influence.

11/27/16 487 11/27/16 487 2. Realistic vs Unrealistic 2. Realistic vs Unrealistic Twice in Proverbs the contrast is made between those who choose Twice in Proverbs the contrast is made between those who choose to pursue common work and those who chase unrealistic fantasies. to pursue common work and those who chase unrealistic fantasies. “Those who work their land will have abundant food, but those “Those who work their land will have abundant food, but those who pursue worthless things have no sense” (12:11). who pursue worthless things have no sense” (12:11). “Those who work their land will have abundant food, but those “Those who work their land will have abundant food, but those who pursue worthless things will have their fill of poverty” who pursue worthless things will have their fill of poverty” (28:19). (28:19). The Hebrew word behind “worthless” could be translated: empty, The Hebrew word behind “worthless” could be translated: empty, vain, fantasy. Sometimes we pursue things that have little chance vain, fantasy. Sometimes we pursue things that have little chance of advancing our lives in any way. These are “empty” pursuits. of advancing our lives in any way. These are “empty” pursuits.

Many people wish to pursue a form of work that engages their Many people wish to pursue a form of work that engages their passion; not just a “practical” job that provides income (and leaves passion; not just a “practical” job that provides income (and leaves one feeling empty). It is a good thing to pursue your passion; but one feeling empty). It is a good thing to pursue your passion; but this must be done in a wise manner. As Kathy Caprino warns: this must be done in a wise manner. As Kathy Caprino warns: “Wishful thinking just doesn’t cut it. You have to understand “Wishful thinking just doesn’t cut it. You have to understand exactly what doing meaningful work in the way you want to will exactly what doing meaningful work in the way you want to will require of you, your family and your bank account – financially, require of you, your family and your bank account – financially, emotionally, and behaviorally. To make it work, you need a sound, emotionally, and behaviorally. To make it work, you need a sound, well-developed strategic plan that covers all bases, and that’s well-developed strategic plan that covers all bases, and that’s been vetted by a few key advisors who really know their stuff about been vetted by a few key advisors who really know their stuff about this type of transition and endeavor.” Kathy Caprino, The Top 8 this type of transition and endeavor.” Kathy Caprino, The Top 8 Reasons You’re Going Broke Pursuing your Passion - Forbes, June Reasons You’re Going Broke Pursuing your Passion - Forbes, June 7, 2014. (The entire article is excellent!) 7, 2014. (The entire article is excellent!) 3. Good work vs Bad work 3. Good work vs Bad work Proverbs reminds us that good work leads to promotions and Proverbs reminds us that good work leads to promotions and rewards from employers. Bad work, on the other hand, leads to rewards from employers. Bad work, on the other hand, leads to painful consequences for both the employer and employee. painful consequences for both the employer and employee. “Do you see someone skilled in their work? They will serve “Do you see someone skilled in their work? They will serve before kings; they will not serve before officials of low rank” before kings; they will not serve before officials of low rank” (22:29). (22:29). “Lazy people irritate their employers, like vinegar to the teeth or “Lazy people irritate their employers, like vinegar to the teeth or smoke in the eyes” (10:26). smoke in the eyes” (10:26). “One who is slack in his work is brother to one who destroys” “One who is slack in his work is brother to one who destroys” (18:9). (18:9). This reminds us of Jesus’ famous parable of the 3 stewards This reminds us of Jesus’ famous parable of the 3 stewards (Matthew 25:14-30). Each steward (manager) was given a (Matthew 25:14-30). Each steward (manager) was given a

11/27/16 488 11/27/16 488 different allotment of money to manage for the master (5 bags of different allotment of money to manage for the master (5 bags of gold, 2 bags, 1 bag). The issue was not how much each one had gold, 2 bags, 1 bag). The issue was not how much each one had been given; rather, the issue was what each one did with what he been given; rather, the issue was what each one did with what he had been given. The first two stewards doubled the master’s had been given. The first two stewards doubled the master’s money, while the last buried it in the ground and earned nothing. money, while the last buried it in the ground and earned nothing. Upon his return, the master was infuriated with the 3 rd steward. Upon his return, the master was infuriated with the 3 rd steward. His money was taken away and given to the 1 st steward. The His money was taken away and given to the 1 st steward. The punch line of the parable comes at the end: “For whoever has will punch line of the parable comes at the end: “For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them” not have, even what they have will be taken from them” (Matthew 25:29). (Matthew 25:29).

There is a principle in Scripture: “He who is faithful in little will be There is a principle in Scripture: “He who is faithful in little will be faithful in much” (Luke 16:10). This is why it is important to be a faithful in much” (Luke 16:10). This is why it is important to be a hard, faithful worker in the LITTLE, seemingly insignificant jobs you hard, faithful worker in the LITTLE, seemingly insignificant jobs you are given in life. Josh McDowell, the famous Christian apologist, are given in life. Josh McDowell, the famous Christian apologist, reminds us that his first job was cleaning toilets at the reminds us that his first job was cleaning toilets at the headquarters of CRU. Who would have guessed that the young headquarters of CRU. Who would have guessed that the young man cleaning bathrooms would go on to speak to more college man cleaning bathrooms would go on to speak to more college students than anyone in history, and write many valuable books students than anyone in history, and write many valuable books defending the Christian faith! Bloom where you are planted. You defending the Christian faith! Bloom where you are planted. You never know where your faithfulness will take you. never know where your faithfulness will take you. 4. Balance vs Burnout 4. Balance vs Burnout Proverbs warns against being driven to excess by our work, at the Proverbs warns against being driven to excess by our work, at the expense of other more important aspects of life. expense of other more important aspects of life. “Better is a little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure “Better is a little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and turmoil with it. Better is a dish of vegetables where love is and turmoil with it. Better is a dish of vegetables where love is than a fattened ox served with hatred” (15:16,17). than a fattened ox served with hatred” (15:16,17). “He who troubles his own house will inherit wind …” (11:29). “He who troubles his own house will inherit wind …” (11:29). “The blessing of the Lord brings wealth, without painful toil for “The blessing of the Lord brings wealth, without painful toil for it” (10:22). it” (10:22).

It is wisdom to ask: How is my work impacting my relationships, my It is wisdom to ask: How is my work impacting my relationships, my family and my ability to love well? If family members and/or family and my ability to love well? If family members and/or friends are suffering because of your work, you should do some friends are suffering because of your work, you should do some serious evaluation, including them in the discussion. You may be serious evaluation, including them in the discussion. You may be “making a living” but “failing to live” in the process. No job is “making a living” but “failing to live” in the process. No job is worth having if it is killing your relationships. Evaluate things like: worth having if it is killing your relationships. Evaluate things like: Time requirements, travel schedule, temptations stemming from Time requirements, travel schedule, temptations stemming from the environment, ethical compromises required, and other issues the environment, ethical compromises required, and other issues that are impacting your wider life. If your job is troubling your that are impacting your wider life. If your job is troubling your household, you will inherit the wind (i.e., gain nothing in the end). household, you will inherit the wind (i.e., gain nothing in the end).

11/27/16 489 11/27/16 489 5. Execution vs Excuses 5. Execution vs Excuses The wise worker forms a plan and then methodically executes The wise worker forms a plan and then methodically executes according to that plan. The fool, on the other hand, sits around according to that plan. The fool, on the other hand, sits around procrastinating and making excuses. procrastinating and making excuses. “The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to “The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty” (21:5). poverty” (21:5). “Put your outdoor work in order and get your fields ready; after “Put your outdoor work in order and get your fields ready; after that, build your house” (24:27). that, build your house” (24:27). “Those too lazy to plow in the right season will have no food at “Those too lazy to plow in the right season will have no food at the harvest” (20:4). the harvest” (20:4). “The lazy person claims, “There’s a lion out there! If I go “The lazy person claims, “There’s a lion out there! If I go outside, I might be killed” (22:13). outside, I might be killed” (22:13). “The lazy person claims, “There’s a lion on the road! Yes, I’m “The lazy person claims, “There’s a lion on the road! Yes, I’m sure there’s a lion out there” (26:13). sure there’s a lion out there” (26:13).

Thomas Edison said: “I never did anything worth doing by accident, Thomas Edison said: “I never did anything worth doing by accident, nor did any of my inventions come by accident; they came by nor did any of my inventions come by accident; they came by work.” Do you have a PLAN for your work? Whether it is work.” Do you have a PLAN for your work? Whether it is reorganizing your home to make it more efficient, launching a new reorganizing your home to make it more efficient, launching a new business, pursuing further education, or seeking a job change . . . business, pursuing further education, or seeking a job change . . . it is important to have a clear plan, and then to execute on your it is important to have a clear plan, and then to execute on your plan. Don’t procrastinate and keep putting things off. “Commit plan. Don’t procrastinate and keep putting things off. “Commit your works to the Lord and your plans will be established” your works to the Lord and your plans will be established” (Proverbs 16:3). Once you have a prayed-through, thought- (Proverbs 16:3). Once you have a prayed-through, thought- through plan, do the hard work and watch the fruit come. through plan, do the hard work and watch the fruit come. Additional Insight: Work and Rest Additional Insight: Work and Rest The Bible affirms that Sabbath-keeping is an important discipline The Bible affirms that Sabbath-keeping is an important discipline in achieving a healthy balance between work and rest. (The in achieving a healthy balance between work and rest. (The Hebrew word “Sabbath” means “rest.”) The Sabbath Hebrew word “Sabbath” means “rest.”) The Sabbath commandment (Exodus 20:8-11) is the longest of all 10 commandment (Exodus 20:8-11) is the longest of all 10 commandments. God knew that our tendency would be to ignore commandments. God knew that our tendency would be to ignore things like rest, devotion, trust, relationships . . . and to just work things like rest, devotion, trust, relationships . . . and to just work longer and harder in order to try to get ahead. This is why He longer and harder in order to try to get ahead. This is why He commands us to set aside 24 hours each week to rest and refill our commands us to set aside 24 hours each week to rest and refill our tanks physically, spiritually, emotionally and relationally. By tanks physically, spiritually, emotionally and relationally. By doing this, we are reflecting HIS pattern of working for 6 days are doing this, we are reflecting HIS pattern of working for 6 days are resting on the 7 th (Genesis 2:1-3). Our best productivity at work resting on the 7 th (Genesis 2:1-3). Our best productivity at work comes when we observe the rhythm of work – rest, and when we comes when we observe the rhythm of work – rest, and when we reflect upon our dependence upon God during our day of rest. reflect upon our dependence upon God during our day of rest. When do you take your Sabbath? When do you take your Sabbath? 11/27/16 490 11/27/16 490 GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Direction and Drift – Proverbs Direction and Drift – Proverbs

Message 9 – Wisdom and Folly: Purity Message 9 – Wisdom and Folly: Purity Proverbs 10-31 Proverbs 10-31

Introduction Introduction No topic in Proverbs is addressed with more urgency and graphic No topic in Proverbs is addressed with more urgency and graphic imagery than the topic of sexuality. This is because human imagery than the topic of sexuality. This is because human sexuality IS a powerful gift from God that can be used in ways that sexuality IS a powerful gift from God that can be used in ways that bring about great good, or great harm in our lives. Sex has been bring about great good, or great harm in our lives. Sex has been likened to a fire in a home. If you keep the fire within the likened to a fire in a home. If you keep the fire within the fireplace, it can bring warmth, light and pleasure. If you let the fire fireplace, it can bring warmth, light and pleasure. If you let the fire burn out of control, outside of the fireplace, it will bring about burn out of control, outside of the fireplace, it will bring about destruction. The main message of Proverbs is that God has destruction. The main message of Proverbs is that God has created sex for our good, but we must enjoy this gift within the created sex for our good, but we must enjoy this gift within the bounds He has set , otherwise it will bring us harm and sadness. bounds He has set , otherwise it will bring us harm and sadness. The Opening Warning: 2:16-19 The Opening Warning: 2:16-19 Proverbs is set in the context of a father-son discussion. This Proverbs is set in the context of a father-son discussion. This explains why, when dealing with sexual temptation, the father explains why, when dealing with sexual temptation, the father always uses “the seductive woman” as the example of one who always uses “the seductive woman” as the example of one who lures the man into immorality. If this were a father-daughter lures the man into immorality. If this were a father-daughter discussion, the example surely would have been “the charming discussion, the example surely would have been “the charming man” who lures the young woman into destructive sexual man” who lures the young woman into destructive sexual encounters. In general, then, we should see the female seductress encounters. In general, then, we should see the female seductress of Proverbs as any voice of sexual temptation that is seeking to lure of Proverbs as any voice of sexual temptation that is seeking to lure us away from God’s path, regardless of source or gender. us away from God’s path, regardless of source or gender. It did not take long for the father to broach the topic of sexual It did not take long for the father to broach the topic of sexual temptation with his son. In the 2 nd chapter of Proverbs the father temptation with his son. In the 2 nd chapter of Proverbs the father makes the connection between the need for Wisdom to avoid the makes the connection between the need for Wisdom to avoid the snare of sexual temptation : snare of sexual temptation : “Wisdom will save you also from the adulterous woman, from the “Wisdom will save you also from the adulterous woman, from the wayward woman with her seductive words, who has left the wayward woman with her seductive words, who has left the partner of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before partner of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before God. Surely her house leads down to death and her paths to the God. Surely her house leads down to death and her paths to the spirits of the dead. None who go to her return or attain the paths spirits of the dead. None who go to her return or attain the paths of life” (2:16-19). of life” (2:16-19). 12/4/16 491 12/4/16 491

It is important for parents to address issues of sexuality with It is important for parents to address issues of sexuality with children, and to begin doing so before the children learn about children, and to begin doing so before the children learn about these issues from other sources. There are resources available to these issues from other sources. There are resources available to help parents begin these discussions appropriately in early help parents begin these discussions appropriately in early childhood, continuing on into the teen years. If parents avoid the childhood, continuing on into the teen years. If parents avoid the discussions, then children are most likely to gather in information discussions, then children are most likely to gather in information from unhealthy sources, leading to a skewed view of the gift of from unhealthy sources, leading to a skewed view of the gift of sexuality. Bad/no information eventually leads to wrong choices. sexuality. Bad/no information eventually leads to wrong choices. The First Discussion: Beware of Temptation: 5:1-20 The First Discussion: Beware of Temptation: 5:1-20 The first major discussion on sexual purity comes in ch.5 where The first major discussion on sexual purity comes in ch.5 where the father discusses the lures and dangers of sexual temptation. He the father discusses the lures and dangers of sexual temptation. He tells his son how to steer clear of temptation and, eventually, to tells his son how to steer clear of temptation and, eventually, to develop a healthy and fulfilling sex life in the context of marriage. develop a healthy and fulfilling sex life in the context of marriage. Several points stand out in this first of three extended discussions: Several points stand out in this first of three extended discussions: 1. Sexual temptation focuses on the pleasure of the moment, 1. Sexual temptation focuses on the pleasure of the moment, not the consequences of a lifetime. not the consequences of a lifetime. “My son, pay attention to my wisdom, turn your ear to my words “My son, pay attention to my wisdom, turn your ear to my words of insight, that you may maintain discretion and your lips may of insight, that you may maintain discretion and your lips may preserve knowledge. For the lips of the adulterous woman drip preserve knowledge. For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; but in the end she is honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. She gives no thought death; her steps lead straight to the grave. She gives no thought to the way of life; her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not to the way of life; her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it” (5:1-6). know it” (5:1-6). Sexual temptation always INVITES but it never WARNS of the Sexual temptation always INVITES but it never WARNS of the consequences. It always exerts a powerful pull that overshadows consequences. It always exerts a powerful pull that overshadows and blinds us to the long-term implications of going down that and blinds us to the long-term implications of going down that path. Sexual temptation “gives no thought to the way of life.” path. Sexual temptation “gives no thought to the way of life.” Immediate gratification of desire is the only thing that matters. Immediate gratification of desire is the only thing that matters. 2. The wise way to resist sexual temptation is to stay far away 2. The wise way to resist sexual temptation is to stay far away from it; maintain safe boundaries and accountability. from it; maintain safe boundaries and accountability. “Now then, my sons, listen to me; do not turn aside from what I “Now then, my sons, listen to me; do not turn aside from what I say. Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her say. Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house, lest you lose your honor to others and your dignity to one house, lest you lose your honor to others and your dignity to one who is cruel, lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil who is cruel, lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich the house of another” (5:7-10). enrich the house of another” (5:7-10). “Keep to a path far from her.” “Do not go near the door of her “Keep to a path far from her.” “Do not go near the door of her house.” Why? Because sexual temptation is such a powerful house.” Why? Because sexual temptation is such a powerful 12/4/16 492 12/4/16 492 force that it can easily overcome our determination and defenses. force that it can easily overcome our determination and defenses. Thus, the best defense is to avoid situations where we will be Thus, the best defense is to avoid situations where we will be tempted. This is why the apostle Paul tells us: “Flee from sexual tempted. This is why the apostle Paul tells us: “Flee from sexual immorality” (1Corinthians 6:18). immorality” (1Corinthians 6:18).

Human nature has a tendency to over -estimate our ability to resist Human nature has a tendency to over -estimate our ability to resist temptation. When it comes to sexual temptation, this is the most temptation. When it comes to sexual temptation, this is the most foolish thing we can do. Instead, we should UNDER-estimate our foolish thing we can do. Instead, we should UNDER-estimate our ability to resist. We should have a healthy fear of falling, such a ability to resist. We should have a healthy fear of falling, such a fear that we are not willing to even stand close to the edge of this fear that we are not willing to even stand close to the edge of this cliff. Those who get too close to sexual temptation WILL fall. That cliff. Those who get too close to sexual temptation WILL fall. That is the rule of life that Proverbs teaches. Healthy boundaries are is the rule of life that Proverbs teaches. Healthy boundaries are essential when dealing with the opposite sex. To cross those essential when dealing with the opposite sex. To cross those boundaries is to invite a fall with very hurtful consequences. boundaries is to invite a fall with very hurtful consequences. 3. The consequences of falling to sexual temptation are long- 3. The consequences of falling to sexual temptation are long- lasting; regret being foremost. lasting; regret being foremost. “At the end of your life you will groan, when your flesh and body “At the end of your life you will groan, when your flesh and body are spent. You will say, “How I hated discipline! How my heart are spent. You will say, “How I hated discipline! How my heart spurned correction! I would not obey my teachers or turn my ear spurned correction! I would not obey my teachers or turn my ear to my instructors” (5:11-13). to my instructors” (5:11-13). Momentary pleasure comes at the expense of lifelong regret and Momentary pleasure comes at the expense of lifelong regret and shame. (See article at the end of this section for a case in point.) shame. (See article at the end of this section for a case in point.) 4. There are serious social implications to sexual immorality. 4. There are serious social implications to sexual immorality. “And I was soon in serious trouble in the assembly of God’s “And I was soon in serious trouble in the assembly of God’s people” (5:14). people” (5:14). We have all seen people whose lives, families and careers have We have all seen people whose lives, families and careers have been impacted by sexual immorality. This is Wisdom speaking: If been impacted by sexual immorality. This is Wisdom speaking: If you choose to engage in sexual immorality, you will pay a price in you choose to engage in sexual immorality, you will pay a price in the eyes of those you do life with. the eyes of those you do life with. If a culture is functioning anywhere close to biblical norms If a culture is functioning anywhere close to biblical norms concerning sexuality, marriage, family life, faithfulness, etc. then concerning sexuality, marriage, family life, faithfulness, etc. then there will be negative social implications for people who choose to there will be negative social implications for people who choose to engage in “immoral” behavior. On the other hand, when a culture engage in “immoral” behavior. On the other hand, when a culture comes to the point where “immoral” behavior IS the new normal comes to the point where “immoral” behavior IS the new normal (an “amoral” culture) then there will be much more public (an “amoral” culture) then there will be much more public acceptance of such behaviors. Those who continue to object to acceptance of such behaviors. Those who continue to object to these expressions of sexuality become the ones who feel the these expressions of sexuality become the ones who feel the pressure of social shame. Righteous Lot was a laughing-stock pressure of social shame. Righteous Lot was a laughing-stock because he could not change his views to keep up with the ever- because he could not change his views to keep up with the ever- changing sexual norms of Sodom and Gomorrah (see 2Peter 2:7). changing sexual norms of Sodom and Gomorrah (see 2Peter 2:7).

12/4/16 493 12/4/16 493 5. Sexual fulfillment in marriage is God’s gift to humanity. 5. Sexual fulfillment in marriage is God’s gift to humanity. In one of the more graphic passages in Proverbs, the father In one of the more graphic passages in Proverbs, the father instructs the son to find a good wife and to develop a mutually instructs the son to find a good wife and to develop a mutually satisfying sex life with her. (In that culture, marriages were often satisfying sex life with her. (In that culture, marriages were often ‘arranged’ and typically occurred at a much younger age than ‘arranged’ and typically occurred at a much younger age than today – early to middle teen years.) today – early to middle teen years.) “Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your “Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer – may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever graceful deer – may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Why, my son, be intoxicated with be intoxicated with her love. Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife? Why embrace the bosom of a wayward another man’s wife? Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman? For your ways are in full view of the Lord, and he woman? For your ways are in full view of the Lord, and he examines all your paths. The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare examines all your paths. The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them; the cords of their sins hold them fast. For lack of discipline them; the cords of their sins hold them fast. For lack of discipline they will die, led astray by their own great folly” (5:15-23). they will die, led astray by their own great folly” (5:15-23).

Both the Old and New Testaments encourage people to use the Both the Old and New Testaments encourage people to use the gift of marital sex as a protection against temptation (Proverbs gift of marital sex as a protection against temptation (Proverbs 5:15-23 and 1Corinthians 7:2-5). In American culture, however, 5:15-23 and 1Corinthians 7:2-5). In American culture, however, ‘delayed marriage’ continues to be the norm. In 1960 the average ‘delayed marriage’ continues to be the norm. In 1960 the average age for marriage was 20 for women/22 for men. In 2016 the age for marriage was 20 for women/22 for men. In 2016 the average was 27 for women/29 for men. The result of this trend average was 27 for women/29 for men. The result of this trend toward delayed marriage is that there is a much longer time frame toward delayed marriage is that there is a much longer time frame during which both men and women must deal with sexual urges in during which both men and women must deal with sexual urges in a society that is teeming with sexual temptations AND accepting of a society that is teeming with sexual temptations AND accepting of a wide variety of forms of sexual expression. A further result is a wide variety of forms of sexual expression. A further result is that when men and women do finally marry, they tend to bring into that when men and women do finally marry, they tend to bring into the marriage bed a great deal more baggage from past sexual the marriage bed a great deal more baggage from past sexual relationships and experiences, making it even more challenging to relationships and experiences, making it even more challenging to develop a healthy sex life within the marriage. develop a healthy sex life within the marriage. The Second Discussion: Beware of Revenge: 6:20-35 The Second Discussion: Beware of Revenge: 6:20-35 The second major warning passage specifically deals with the sin The second major warning passage specifically deals with the sin of adultery – having sexual relations with someone else’s spouse. of adultery – having sexual relations with someone else’s spouse. There is one major message here: If you engage with another’s There is one major message here: If you engage with another’s husband or wife you will stoke the flames of righteous jealousy in husband or wife you will stoke the flames of righteous jealousy in the offended spouse and he/she will not let you go unpunished. the offended spouse and he/she will not let you go unpunished. “My son, keep your father’s command and do not forsake your “My son, keep your father’s command and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. Bind them always on your heart; fasten them mother’s teaching. Bind them always on your heart; fasten them 12/4/16 494 12/4/16 494 around your neck. When you walk, they will guide you; when around your neck. When you walk, they will guide you; when you sleep, they will watch over you; when you awake, they will you sleep, they will watch over you; when you awake, they will speak to you. For this command is a lamp, this teaching is a speak to you. For this command is a lamp, this teaching is a light, and correction and instruction are the way to life, keeping light, and correction and instruction are the way to life, keeping you from your neighbor’s wife, from the smooth talk of a you from your neighbor’s wife, from the smooth talk of a wayward woman. Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let wayward woman. Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes. For a prostitute can be had for a her captivate you with her eyes. For a prostitute can be had for a loaf of bread, but another man’s wife preys on your very life. Can loaf of bread, but another man’s wife preys on your very life. Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife; no one who touches is he who sleeps with another man’s wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished. People do not despise a thief if he steals her will go unpunished. People do not despise a thief if he steals to satisfy his hunger when he is starving. Yet if he is caught, he to satisfy his hunger when he is starving. Yet if he is caught, he must pay sevenfold, though it costs him all the wealth of his must pay sevenfold, though it costs him all the wealth of his house. But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever house. But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away. For jealousy arouses a shame will never be wiped away. For jealousy arouses a husband’s fury, and he will show no mercy when he takes husband’s fury, and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge. He will not accept any compensation; he will refuse a revenge. He will not accept any compensation; he will refuse a bribe, however great it is” (6:20-35). bribe, however great it is” (6:20-35). Righteous jealousy is the desire to protect something that is Righteous jealousy is the desire to protect something that is rightfully yours to protect. The Bible says that God is righteously rightfully yours to protect. The Bible says that God is righteously jealous for our devotion. In a similar way, husbands and wives jealous for our devotion. In a similar way, husbands and wives should have righteous jealousy to protect the sanctity and should have righteous jealousy to protect the sanctity and uniqueness of their marital devotion to one another. uniqueness of their marital devotion to one another. At marriage ceremonies we often hear these words of Jesus near At marriage ceremonies we often hear these words of Jesus near the end: “What God has joined together, let no man separate” the end: “What God has joined together, let no man separate” (Mark 10:9). No human being has the right to insert himself or (Mark 10:9). No human being has the right to insert himself or herself into the midst of a holy union between God-husband-wife. herself into the midst of a holy union between God-husband-wife. This is sacred ground that must be kept holy! This is the force This is sacred ground that must be kept holy! This is the force behind the warning from the New Testament book of Hebrews: behind the warning from the New Testament book of Hebrews: “Marriage should be honored BY ALL, and the marriage bed kept “Marriage should be honored BY ALL, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral” pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral” (Hebrews 13:4). Forgiveness for adultery is certainly available; but (Hebrews 13:4). Forgiveness for adultery is certainly available; but lifelong consequences are equally certain. lifelong consequences are equally certain. The Third Discussion: Beware of Death 7:1-27 The Third Discussion: Beware of Death 7:1-27 The final lesson is a story drawn from real life. The father tells of The final lesson is a story drawn from real life. The father tells of a time when he observed a young man taken in by a seductive a time when he observed a young man taken in by a seductive married woman. As he foolishly followed the seduction, he failed married woman. As he foolishly followed the seduction, he failed to see that he was walking down the highway of death. to see that he was walking down the highway of death.

12/4/16 495 12/4/16 495 1. The opening appeal for the son to take heed to these words. 1. The opening appeal for the son to take heed to these words. “My son, keep my words and store up my commands within you. “My son, keep my words and store up my commands within you. Keep my commands and you will live; guard my teachings as the Keep my commands and you will live; guard my teachings as the apple of your eye. Bind them on your fingers; write them on the apple of your eye. Bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart. Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” and to tablet of your heart. Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” and to insight, “You are my relative.” They will keep you from the insight, “You are my relative.” They will keep you from the adulterous woman, from the wayward woman with her seductive adulterous woman, from the wayward woman with her seductive words” (7:1-5). words” (7:1-5). The father repeatedly precedes his lessons on sexuality with strong The father repeatedly precedes his lessons on sexuality with strong appeals for his son to heed his words and warnings. There is too appeals for his son to heed his words and warnings. There is too much at stake to take these admonitions lightly. Sexual temptation much at stake to take these admonitions lightly. Sexual temptation will easily overwhelm the man or woman who is not living with will easily overwhelm the man or woman who is not living with wisdom and determination in this area. wisdom and determination in this area. 2. The young man who got too close to the temptress. 2. The young man who got too close to the temptress. “At the window of my house I looked down through the lattice. I “At the window of my house I looked down through the lattice. I saw among the simple, I noticed among the young men, a youth saw among the simple, I noticed among the young men, a youth who had no sense. He was going down the street near her who had no sense. He was going down the street near her corner, walking along in the direction of her house at twilight, as corner, walking along in the direction of her house at twilight, as the day was fading, as the dark of night set in” (7:6-9). the day was fading, as the dark of night set in” (7:6-9). The young man being observed was either naïve (unaware of the The young man being observed was either naïve (unaware of the temptation awaiting him) or foolish (willfully flirting with temptation awaiting him) or foolish (willfully flirting with temptation). Given the fact that it was evening and this young man temptation). Given the fact that it was evening and this young man was walking alone in the direction of the house of the temptress, it was walking alone in the direction of the house of the temptress, it seems more likely that he was foolishly moving toward what he seems more likely that he was foolishly moving toward what he knew would be an enticing opportunity. He was out looking for knew would be an enticing opportunity. He was out looking for some adventure . . . and he found it in the temptress. some adventure . . . and he found it in the temptress. What are the modern versions of this story? A young man decides What are the modern versions of this story? A young man decides to spend the night with some friends (whose morals are to spend the night with some friends (whose morals are questionable) and finds himself drawn into the world of questionable) and finds himself drawn into the world of pornography. A young woman goes to a party (where she knows pornography. A young woman goes to a party (where she knows there will be trouble) and unwittingly accepts a drink with a date- there will be trouble) and unwittingly accepts a drink with a date- rape drug in it. A woman goes on Facebook to connect with an old rape drug in it. A woman goes on Facebook to connect with an old high school flame (she is, understandably, feeling lonely). Over high school flame (she is, understandably, feeling lonely). Over time, the casual conversation turns into a full-blown emotional time, the casual conversation turns into a full-blown emotional affair. A man begins to notice the new girl at work, the one that affair. A man begins to notice the new girl at work, the one that makes him feel alive (after all, his marriage has become boring). It makes him feel alive (after all, his marriage has become boring). It is not long before he is scheming for a way to escape with her. is not long before he is scheming for a way to escape with her. The story of Proverbs 7 is playing out every day, right before our The story of Proverbs 7 is playing out every day, right before our eyes. eyes.

12/4/16 496 12/4/16 496 3. The temptress appears and makes her appeal. 3. The temptress appears and makes her appeal. “Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute “Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent. (She is unruly and defiant, her feet never and with crafty intent. (She is unruly and defiant, her feet never stay at home; now in the street, now in the squares, at every stay at home; now in the street, now in the squares, at every corner she lurks.) She took hold of him and kissed him and with corner she lurks.) She took hold of him and kissed him and with a brazen face she said: ‘Today I fulfilled my vows, and I have a brazen face she said: ‘Today I fulfilled my vows, and I have food from my fellowship offering at home. So I came out to meet food from my fellowship offering at home. So I came out to meet you; I looked for you and have found you! I have covered my bed you; I looked for you and have found you! I have covered my bed with colored linens from Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with with colored linens from Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon. Come, let’s drink deeply of love till myrrh, aloes and cinnamon. Come, let’s drink deeply of love till morning; let’s enjoy ourselves with love! The man is not at morning; let’s enjoy ourselves with love! The man is not at home; he has gone on a long journey. He took his purse filled home; he has gone on a long journey. He took his purse filled with money and will not be home till full moon’” (7:10-20). with money and will not be home till full moon’” (7:10-20). This temptress uses what Proverbs calls foolish words to lure in her This temptress uses what Proverbs calls foolish words to lure in her prey. Flattery, manipulation, lying and backbiting are her prey. Flattery, manipulation, lying and backbiting are her weapons. By the time she is finished with her speech, the young weapons. By the time she is finished with her speech, the young man would feel like a fool if he said NO. This is the way that man would feel like a fool if he said NO. This is the way that sexual temptation works. The LIE is: This experience will be sexual temptation works. The LIE is: This experience will be unbelievable . . . and you will never get caught. The TRUTH is: unbelievable . . . and you will never get caught. The TRUTH is: This experience will be short-lived . . . you will get caught . . . and This experience will be short-lived . . . you will get caught . . . and it will cost you more than you ever dreamed you would pay. it will cost you more than you ever dreamed you would pay. 4. The young man walks toward the house of death. 4. The young man walks toward the house of death. “With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with “With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with her smooth talk. All at once he followed her like an ox going to her smooth talk. All at once he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter, like a deer stepping into a noose till an arrow the slaughter, like a deer stepping into a noose till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life” (7:21-23). will cost him his life” (7:21-23). This night of pleasure “will cost him his life.” The apostle James This night of pleasure “will cost him his life.” The apostle James agreed: “After desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, agreed: “After desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death” (James 1:15). when it is full-grown, gives birth to death” (James 1:15). 5. The closing appeal by the father to the sons: 5. The closing appeal by the father to the sons: “Now then, my sons, listen to me; pay attention to what I say. Do “Now then, my sons, listen to me; pay attention to what I say. Do not let your heart turn to her ways or stray into her paths. Many not let your heart turn to her ways or stray into her paths. Many are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty throng. Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the throng. Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death” (7:24-27). chambers of death” (7:24-27). The path to the house of the temptress was actually the highway to The path to the house of the temptress was actually the highway to the cemetery. Sadly, the young man did not read/heed the signs. the cemetery. Sadly, the young man did not read/heed the signs. 12/4/16 497 12/4/16 497

A Roomful of Yearning and Regret: New York Times A Roomful of Yearning and Regret: New York Times By Wendy Plump - Dec. 9, 2010 By Wendy Plump - Dec. 9, 2010 NOT long ago, the friend of a friend spent the night in a hotel room, NOT long ago, the friend of a friend spent the night in a hotel room, which is sometimes what you do when you find out your spouse has been which is sometimes what you do when you find out your spouse has been having a yearlong affair. His flight was sadly predictable — it’s all many having a yearlong affair. His flight was sadly predictable — it’s all many of us are capable of after discovering such a betrayal — though I am sure of us are capable of after discovering such a betrayal — though I am sure he now realizes that mere movement is not a fix for that kind of agony. he now realizes that mere movement is not a fix for that kind of agony. I know this for two reasons: No. 1, I have had an affair; No. 2, I have I know this for two reasons: No. 1, I have had an affair; No. 2, I have been the victim of one. When you unfurl these two experiences in the been the victim of one. When you unfurl these two experiences in the sunlight for comparison, and measure their worth and pain, the former is sunlight for comparison, and measure their worth and pain, the former is only marginally better than the latter. And both, frankly, are awful. only marginally better than the latter. And both, frankly, are awful. I recently offered my cheated-upon view of things to my acquaintance, I recently offered my cheated-upon view of things to my acquaintance, who has returned every night for a week to that hotel because he cannot who has returned every night for a week to that hotel because he cannot bear to look at his wife. A couple of years ago I offered the other side to a bear to look at his wife. A couple of years ago I offered the other side to a friend when she was considering having an affair. friend when she was considering having an affair. Start, I suggested to her, by picturing yourself in the therapist’s office Start, I suggested to her, by picturing yourself in the therapist’s office with your betrayed husband after you’ve been found out (and you will be with your betrayed husband after you’ve been found out (and you will be found out). You will hear yourself saying you cheated because your needs found out). You will hear yourself saying you cheated because your needs weren’t being met. The spark was gone. You were bored in your weren’t being met. The spark was gone. You were bored in your marriage. Your lover understands you better. One or another version of marriage. Your lover understands you better. One or another version of this excuse will cross your lips like some dark, knee-jerk Hallmark-card this excuse will cross your lips like some dark, knee-jerk Hallmark-card sentiment. sentiment. I’m not saying these feelings aren’t legitimate, just that they don’t I’m not saying these feelings aren’t legitimate, just that they don’t legitimize what you’re doing. If you believed they did, your stomach legitimize what you’re doing. If you believed they did, your stomach wouldn’t drop on your way out the door to your lover’s. You wouldn’t wouldn’t drop on your way out the door to your lover’s. You wouldn’t feel the need to shower before climbing into the marital bed after a feel the need to shower before climbing into the marital bed after a liaison. You wouldn’t feel like a train had struck you in the back when liaison. You wouldn’t feel like a train had struck you in the back when your son asked why you forgot his lacrosse game the other day. When your son asked why you forgot his lacrosse game the other day. When you miss a family function because of work, you get over it. When you you miss a family function because of work, you get over it. When you miss a family function because you were in a hotel room with your lover, miss a family function because you were in a hotel room with your lover, you feel breathless with misery. you feel breathless with misery. The great sex, by the way, is a given. When you have an affair you The great sex, by the way, is a given. When you have an affair you already know you will have passionate sex — the urgency, newness and already know you will have passionate sex — the urgency, newness and illicit nature of the affair practically guarantee that. illicit nature of the affair practically guarantee that. What you don’t know, or perhaps what you don’t allow yourself to think What you don’t know, or perhaps what you don’t allow yourself to think about, is that your life will become an unbearable mix of yearning and about, is that your life will become an unbearable mix of yearning and regret because of it. It will be difficult if not impossible to be in any one regret because of it. It will be difficult if not impossible to be in any one place with contentment. place with contentment. This is no way for an adult to live. When you’re with your lover, you’ll This is no way for an adult to live. When you’re with your lover, you’ll be working on your alibi and feeling loathsome. When you’re with your be working on your alibi and feeling loathsome. When you’re with your spouse, you’ll be dying to return to your love nest. When you are at spouse, you’ll be dying to return to your love nest. When you are at 12/4/16 498 12/4/16 498 home, everything in your life will look just a little bit out of register — home, everything in your life will look just a little bit out of register — the furniture, the food in your refrigerator, your children, your dog — the furniture, the food in your refrigerator, your children, your dog — because you’ve detached yourself from your normal point of reference, because you’ve detached yourself from your normal point of reference, and it now belongs to a reality you’ve abandoned. and it now belongs to a reality you’ve abandoned. You will be pulled between two poles, one of obligation and You will be pulled between two poles, one of obligation and responsibility, the other of pleasure and escape, and the stress of these responsibility, the other of pleasure and escape, and the stress of these opposing forces will threaten to split you in two. opposing forces will threaten to split you in two. I met the man I cheated with early in my marriage. He was the beautiful I met the man I cheated with early in my marriage. He was the beautiful twin brother of a friend, something like a young Errol Flynn. I was twin brother of a friend, something like a young Errol Flynn. I was entranced. My husband traveled a lot and I took advantage of that, finding entranced. My husband traveled a lot and I took advantage of that, finding myself at my lover’s apartment often. But at home with my husband myself at my lover’s apartment often. But at home with my husband during those ragged months, I was anxious and ill at ease. I should have during those ragged months, I was anxious and ill at ease. I should have been focusing on our new house, our new jobs, but my inability to resist been focusing on our new house, our new jobs, but my inability to resist the pull of the affair ruined all of that. I could not concentrate on our the pull of the affair ruined all of that. I could not concentrate on our coupled life and frankly did not care to. coupled life and frankly did not care to. I knew I needed to stop it, but didn’t have the will to do so on my own. I I knew I needed to stop it, but didn’t have the will to do so on my own. I had to enlist my husband, to tell him so that we could battle this together. had to enlist my husband, to tell him so that we could battle this together. So I admitted to the affair one evening after dinner. So I admitted to the affair one evening after dinner. Almost 20 years after that confession I can still remember how the whole Almost 20 years after that confession I can still remember how the whole world narrowed down to the two of us sitting there, that new truth world narrowed down to the two of us sitting there, that new truth congealing between us. congealing between us. Once the affair is out in the open, you will strive mightily to justify Once the affair is out in the open, you will strive mightily to justify yourself. You will begin many sentences with the phrase, “I never meant yourself. You will begin many sentences with the phrase, “I never meant to — ” But one look at the hollow-eyed, defeated form of your spouse to — ” But one look at the hollow-eyed, defeated form of your spouse will remind you that such a claim is beside the point. You can both get will remind you that such a claim is beside the point. You can both get over this, yes. But the innocence will have gone out of your union and it over this, yes. But the innocence will have gone out of your union and it will seem as if a bone has been broken and healed, but one that rain or will seem as if a bone has been broken and healed, but one that rain or cold weather can set to throbbing again. cold weather can set to throbbing again. So, now take the other side. You discover your cheating spouse, as I once So, now take the other side. You discover your cheating spouse, as I once did, and what you experience is not far removed from post-traumatic did, and what you experience is not far removed from post-traumatic stress. It is a form of shock. As your mind struggles to accommodate this stress. It is a form of shock. As your mind struggles to accommodate this wrenching reality, you won’t be able to sleep or focus. Your fight-or- wrenching reality, you won’t be able to sleep or focus. Your fight-or- flight mechanism will go haywire. You will become consumed with flight mechanism will go haywire. You will become consumed with where your spouse is at any moment, even if you see him in the pool with where your spouse is at any moment, even if you see him in the pool with your children. your children. You will lose your appetite. Stress will blow out your metabolism. You You will lose your appetite. Stress will blow out your metabolism. You will torture yourself with details known and imagined. You will fit will torture yourself with details known and imagined. You will fit together the mysteries of his daily patterns like a wicked puzzle. Every together the mysteries of his daily patterns like a wicked puzzle. Every absence or unexplained late night or new habit or sudden urge to join a absence or unexplained late night or new habit or sudden urge to join a gym, for instance, will suddenly make horrible sense. You will wonder gym, for instance, will suddenly make horrible sense. You will wonder why you were so stupid. why you were so stupid.

12/4/16 499 12/4/16 499 But as the writer Paul Theroux says in one of his travelogues, “It is very But as the writer Paul Theroux says in one of his travelogues, “It is very easy to plant a bomb in a peaceful, trusting place.” That is what the easy to plant a bomb in a peaceful, trusting place.” That is what the cheating spouse has done. Then detonated it. cheating spouse has done. Then detonated it. Sooner or later your illicit, once-beloved object of affection will become Sooner or later your illicit, once-beloved object of affection will become tawdry, wearying. You will come to long for simple, honest pleasures like tawdry, wearying. You will come to long for simple, honest pleasures like making dinner with your sons or going out to the movies without having making dinner with your sons or going out to the movies without having to look over your shoulder. to look over your shoulder. On the other side, your spouse’s philandering will cease to torment you On the other side, your spouse’s philandering will cease to torment you and instead the whole episode will leave you disgusted and bored and and instead the whole episode will leave you disgusted and bored and desirous to get out. You will just want to be with someone who does what desirous to get out. You will just want to be with someone who does what he says he is going to do, goes where he says he is going to go, and can he says he is going to do, goes where he says he is going to go, and can be found any time you need him because he is not hiding. be found any time you need him because he is not hiding. I say all this by way of hope, believe it or not. Affairs are one of the adult I say all this by way of hope, believe it or not. Affairs are one of the adult world’s few disasters that can be gotten over, with a lot of time and world’s few disasters that can be gotten over, with a lot of time and kindness. It has to burn out of you over months and months, flaming up kindness. It has to burn out of you over months and months, flaming up and then subsiding as you get used to the fact. and then subsiding as you get used to the fact. A great deal of comfort will come from your friends, many of whom will A great deal of comfort will come from your friends, many of whom will offer advice — hate him, leave him, move on — that you should listen to offer advice — hate him, leave him, move on — that you should listen to politely and then reject. After all, the consequences of your decisions will politely and then reject. After all, the consequences of your decisions will be visited upon you, not your friends. They will be only too happy to be visited upon you, not your friends. They will be only too happy to amplify your confusion, listen to you cry, and then get into the car and amplify your confusion, listen to you cry, and then get into the car and drive home to their own intact families. drive home to their own intact families. IN the end your marriage may not need to be trashed, though mine was. IN the end your marriage may not need to be trashed, though mine was. The affairs metastasized in our relationship from the inside out. By the The affairs metastasized in our relationship from the inside out. By the time all was said and done, there was little left to save. Our marriage had time all was said and done, there was little left to save. Our marriage had become like a leaf eaten away by caterpillars, where the petiole and become like a leaf eaten away by caterpillars, where the petiole and midrib remain with some ghostly connective tracery in between. Not midrib remain with some ghostly connective tracery in between. Not enough to hold even a drop of rain. enough to hold even a drop of rain. I look at my parents and at how much simpler their lives are at the ages of I look at my parents and at how much simpler their lives are at the ages of 75, mostly because they haven’t marred the landscape with grand-scale 75, mostly because they haven’t marred the landscape with grand-scale deceit. They have this marriage of 50-some years behind them, and it is a deceit. They have this marriage of 50-some years behind them, and it is a monument to success. A few weeks or months of illicit passion could not monument to success. A few weeks or months of illicit passion could not hold a candle to it. hold a candle to it. If you imagine yourself in such a situation, where would you fit an affair If you imagine yourself in such a situation, where would you fit an affair in neatly? If you were 75, which would you rather have: years of steady if in neatly? If you were 75, which would you rather have: years of steady if occasionally strained devotion, or something that looks a little bit like the occasionally strained devotion, or something that looks a little bit like the Iraqi city of Fallujah, cratered with spent artillery? A COMMENT Iraqi city of Fallujah, cratered with spent artillery? A COMMENT From where I stand now, it all just looks like a cheap hotel room, whether From where I stand now, it all just looks like a cheap hotel room, whether you’re in that room to have an affair or to escape from the discovery of you’re in that room to have an affair or to escape from the discovery of one. And despite the sex and the excitement, or the drama and the fix of one. And despite the sex and the excitement, or the drama and the fix of everyone’s empathetic attention, there is no view from this room that is everyone’s empathetic attention, there is no view from this room that is worth having. worth having. 12/4/16 500 12/4/16 500 GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Direction and Drift – Proverbs Direction and Drift – Proverbs

Message 10 – Wisdom and Folly: Family Message 10 – Wisdom and Folly: Family Proverbs 10-31 Proverbs 10-31

Introduction Introduction “By wisdom a house is built, through understanding it is “By wisdom a house is built, through understanding it is established . . .” (24:3). established . . .” (24:3). Building a great family does not come easily. It takes wisdom, Building a great family does not come easily. It takes wisdom, work and commitment, especially today when traditional ideas work and commitment, especially today when traditional ideas about the family are being rejected. As with other topics, Lady about the family are being rejected. As with other topics, Lady wisdom continues to show forth her impersonal principles of cause wisdom continues to show forth her impersonal principles of cause and effect with regard to the functioning of a family. and effect with regard to the functioning of a family. There are NO guaranteed formulas with people. Not even for God There are NO guaranteed formulas with people. Not even for God as He began a relationship with Adam and Eve in the Garden of as He began a relationship with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden and the beginning of ‘family’. God said: “If you obey Me Eden and the beginning of ‘family’. God said: “If you obey Me and do not eat from this one tree, you will live.” Humanity from and do not eat from this one tree, you will live.” Humanity from the beginning has challenged God’s love and wisdom and has the beginning has challenged God’s love and wisdom and has chosen to test God and His Word, even though the warnings of chosen to test God and His Word, even though the warnings of Lady Wisdom (His wisdom and consequences) have been clearly Lady Wisdom (His wisdom and consequences) have been clearly laid out. Yet, GOD continues to give hope and purpose for parents laid out. Yet, GOD continues to give hope and purpose for parents and children who choose to trust Him with their lives and family. and children who choose to trust Him with their lives and family. Proverbs discusses the different people/roles in the home: husband, Proverbs discusses the different people/roles in the home: husband, wife, father, mother and child. Each person must fulfill his/her wife, father, mother and child. Each person must fulfill his/her role in order for the home to function effectively. If anyone fails to role in order for the home to function effectively. If anyone fails to play the part assigned by Lady Wisdom, then life in the home will play the part assigned by Lady Wisdom, then life in the home will take a troubled and tumultuous turn. At the same time, being in a take a troubled and tumultuous turn. At the same time, being in a family is more than a role we play at any given time. It is a story, family is more than a role we play at any given time. It is a story, a journey of a lifetime as we all move through various stages. We a journey of a lifetime as we all move through various stages. We are born into a family. We grow up in a family as children. We are born into a family. We grow up in a family as children. We marry and start a new family as husband or wife. We then become marry and start a new family as husband or wife. We then become fathers and mothers, eventually launching out adults who form new fathers and mothers, eventually launching out adults who form new family units. Finally, it is family that gathers to our side as we family units. Finally, it is family that gathers to our side as we complete our journey and depart this earth. Family is the primary complete our journey and depart this earth. Family is the primary context in which we live out our lives. As Michael J. Fox (Back to context in which we live out our lives. As Michael J. Fox (Back to the Future actor) put it: “Family is not an important thing, it’s the Future actor) put it: “Family is not an important thing, it’s everything.” everything.”

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THE FAMILY ATMOSPHERE THE FAMILY ATMOSPHERE Every home has an atmosphere - a set of values that determine Every home has an atmosphere - a set of values that determine what it will be like to be in that family unit. The atmosphere is what it will be like to be in that family unit. The atmosphere is effective in a positive way only when each person in the family effective in a positive way only when each person in the family cherishes and embodies these attitudes. Further, the home is the cherishes and embodies these attitudes. Further, the home is the environment in which the child first learns these ideals that will, environment in which the child first learns these ideals that will, hopefully be carried on into the rest of his or her life. hopefully be carried on into the rest of his or her life. FAITH: FAITH: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding” (9:10). of the Holy One is understanding” (9:10). God is to be the center of one’s heart and home. Proverbs is strong God is to be the center of one’s heart and home. Proverbs is strong on this theme. Each individual must allow God to be the center of on this theme. Each individual must allow God to be the center of his/her life and to shape his/her interactions. It is in the home (not his/her life and to shape his/her interactions. It is in the home (not the church or the school) that a child is first taught about a the church or the school) that a child is first taught about a relationship with God (ie., the ‘fear of the Lord’) and the young relationship with God (ie., the ‘fear of the Lord’) and the young person is encouraged to develop a daily relationship with God. person is encouraged to develop a daily relationship with God.

What can you do to increase the level of love for God in your What can you do to increase the level of love for God in your home? Small things can have a big effect over time: Reading the home? Small things can have a big effect over time: Reading the Bible, praying together, discussing life issues in light of God’s Bible, praying together, discussing life issues in light of God’s Word, being active in the local church, doing mission work Word, being active in the local church, doing mission work together, blessing those in need. Can you think of one little step together, blessing those in need. Can you think of one little step you can take right now to increase the ‘spiritual temperature’ of you can take right now to increase the ‘spiritual temperature’ of your home by just 1 degree? your home by just 1 degree?

LOVE: LOVE: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity” (17:17). adversity” (17:17). “Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who “Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find” (20:6)? can find” (20:6)? In the home, we should find the truest expressions of unconditional In the home, we should find the truest expressions of unconditional human love and acceptance that we will ever find on this earth. human love and acceptance that we will ever find on this earth. Here, our core beliefs should be firmly formed: that we are loved Here, our core beliefs should be firmly formed: that we are loved (just because we belong), accepted, valued and secure. When we (just because we belong), accepted, valued and secure. When we experience this kind of love early on in the home, it is more natural experience this kind of love early on in the home, it is more natural for us to carry these same ideas over into our relationship with our for us to carry these same ideas over into our relationship with our heavenly Father as we grow up and into our later years. heavenly Father as we grow up and into our later years.

12/11/16 502 12/11/16 502 Have you ever considered how your experience in your family of Have you ever considered how your experience in your family of origin has impacted your experience in God’s family and, more origin has impacted your experience in God’s family and, more specifically, your experience with God Himself as your heavenly specifically, your experience with God Himself as your heavenly Father? Do you struggle to trust God as your Father? Is it difficult Father? Do you struggle to trust God as your Father? Is it difficult for you to believe that He loves you? Are you constantly trying to for you to believe that He loves you? Are you constantly trying to perform well in order to make Him happy? Do you often feel that perform well in order to make Him happy? Do you often feel that He is disappointed with you? Many of our ideas about God have He is disappointed with you? Many of our ideas about God have been misshaped by our experience in our family of origin. It is been misshaped by our experience in our family of origin. It is important to invite the Holy Spirit (and wise counselors) to point important to invite the Holy Spirit (and wise counselors) to point out these skewed ideas about God, and to replace them with His out these skewed ideas about God, and to replace them with His truth. This is one of the amazing things about Inner Healing Prayer truth. This is one of the amazing things about Inner Healing Prayer (also called Transformational Prayer) . . . the Spirit reaches into (also called Transformational Prayer) . . . the Spirit reaches into the innermost recesses of our damaged hearts and reveals lies the innermost recesses of our damaged hearts and reveals lies that have been planted there. In turn, He replaces lies with God’s that have been planted there. In turn, He replaces lies with God’s truth, allowing you to live in the freedom of your relationship with truth, allowing you to live in the freedom of your relationship with your GOOD heavenly Father. your GOOD heavenly Father. GRACE: GRACE: “Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs” “Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs” (10:12). (10:12). In the home, a child learns to take his/her first steps. Of course, In the home, a child learns to take his/her first steps. Of course, there is always more falling down than standing up at first. But there is always more falling down than standing up at first. But gracious parents and siblings encourage the toddler to get back up gracious parents and siblings encourage the toddler to get back up and try, try again . . . until the skill of walking is finally mastered. and try, try again . . . until the skill of walking is finally mastered. In a similar way, the family should be a place of grace, where we In a similar way, the family should be a place of grace, where we find forgiveness for our mistakes and encouragement to get back find forgiveness for our mistakes and encouragement to get back up and move forward after a fall. The family is where we learn up and move forward after a fall. The family is where we learn that it is OK to fail (in the context of folly), and it is a wonderful that it is OK to fail (in the context of folly), and it is a wonderful thing to turn failure into wisdom and maturity. thing to turn failure into wisdom and maturity. PEACE: PEACE: “Better a little with the fear of the Lord than great wealth with “Better a little with the fear of the Lord than great wealth with turmoil. Better a small serving of vegetables with love than a turmoil. Better a small serving of vegetables with love than a fattened calf with hatred” (15:16,17). fattened calf with hatred” (15:16,17). “Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of “Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife” (17:1). feasting, with strife” (17:1). Striving and working hard is a good thing in Proverbs, unless it Striving and working hard is a good thing in Proverbs, unless it turns into excessive striving at the expense of peaceful, loving turns into excessive striving at the expense of peaceful, loving relationships in the home. Lady Wisdom would argue that it is relationships in the home. Lady Wisdom would argue that it is better to live at a moderate level and pace with love, peace and better to live at a moderate level and pace with love, peace and quiet in the home than to be wealthy, successful and busy . . . with quiet in the home than to be wealthy, successful and busy . . . with anger and strife tearing into the relational fabric of the home. anger and strife tearing into the relational fabric of the home. 12/11/16 503 12/11/16 503 KINDNESS: KINDNESS: “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” (16:24). to the bones” (16:24). “The tongue has the power of life and death . . .” (18:21). “The tongue has the power of life and death . . .” (18:21). As we have seen, Proverbs says much about how our words have a As we have seen, Proverbs says much about how our words have a tremendous impact on others. The home is the place where we tremendous impact on others. The home is the place where we should learn to give and receive kind words. Our tone in society should learn to give and receive kind words. Our tone in society will largely be determined by the tone of words in the home. will largely be determined by the tone of words in the home. PRIDE: PRIDE: “Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the “Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children” (17:6). pride of their children” (17:6). Self-centered pride is a bad thing in Proverbs. Yet, it is a good Self-centered pride is a bad thing in Proverbs. Yet, it is a good thing to have great pride in the other family members that make up thing to have great pride in the other family members that make up your home. Grandparents see their grandchildren as the pride and your home. Grandparents see their grandchildren as the pride and joy of their lives. In a mutually respectful way, the children and joy of their lives. In a mutually respectful way, the children and grandchildren esteem their parents and grandparents with pride. grandchildren esteem their parents and grandparents with pride. DIVERSITY: DIVERSITY: “The first to present his case seems right, until another comes “The first to present his case seems right, until another comes forth and questions him” (18:17). forth and questions him” (18:17). In a healthy home, individuals will learn that they are not always In a healthy home, individuals will learn that they are not always right. There are other opinions, views and versions of this or that right. There are other opinions, views and versions of this or that event. (Mothers become master arbitrators of disputes between event. (Mothers become master arbitrators of disputes between children!) It is in the home that we first learn how to live children!) It is in the home that we first learn how to live interdependently, rather than independently. Yes, we are interdependently, rather than independently. Yes, we are individuals; but we are part of a community and we must learn to individuals; but we are part of a community and we must learn to respect the views of others. respect the views of others. HUSBANDS & WIVES HUSBANDS & WIVES In Proverbs, the home is pictured as one where there is both a In Proverbs, the home is pictured as one where there is both a husband and a wife, and this relationship is the most important one husband and a wife, and this relationship is the most important one in the home. Everything hinges upon this relationship being in the home. Everything hinges upon this relationship being healthy. Certain aspects of the husband-wife relationship are healthy. Certain aspects of the husband-wife relationship are highlighted: highlighted: GRATITUDE: GRATITUDE: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” (18:22). the Lord” (18:22).

12/11/16 504 12/11/16 504 “Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent “Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord” (19:14). wife is from the Lord” (19:14). “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown” (12:4a). “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown” (12:4a). “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life” (31:10-12). her life” (31:10-12). Recall that Proverbs is a discussion between a father and a son. Recall that Proverbs is a discussion between a father and a son. This is why the emphasis here falls upon finding a good wife. If This is why the emphasis here falls upon finding a good wife. If this were a discussion between a father and a daughter, surely the this were a discussion between a father and a daughter, surely the emphasis would have been on finding a good husband. In either emphasis would have been on finding a good husband. In either case, the idea is that finding a husband or wife of noble character case, the idea is that finding a husband or wife of noble character does not come automatically. We should search for this kind of does not come automatically. We should search for this kind of spouse wisely and, once we have found him/her, we should be spouse wisely and, once we have found him/her, we should be grateful to God for the rare gift of a spouse of good character. grateful to God for the rare gift of a spouse of good character. FAITHFULNESS: FAITHFULNESS: “Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your “Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth” (5:15-18). and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth” (5:15-18). Proverbs makes it very clear that there should be mutual and Proverbs makes it very clear that there should be mutual and exclusive commitment between husband and wife. No extra- exclusive commitment between husband and wife. No extra- marital relationships should ever be allowed to encroach upon the marital relationships should ever be allowed to encroach upon the sanctity of the marriage covenant. Boundaries should be created to sanctity of the marriage covenant. Boundaries should be created to protect the marriage. And of course . . . the best defense is a good protect the marriage. And of course . . . the best defense is a good offense. Develop a healthy, satisfying, intimate relationship offense. Develop a healthy, satisfying, intimate relationship (emotionally and physically) between husband and wife so that (emotionally and physically) between husband and wife so that you won’t be tempted to look elsewhere for your desires to be met. you won’t be tempted to look elsewhere for your desires to be met. COMMUNICATION: COMMUNICATION: “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome (nagging) wife” (21:9). quarrelsome (nagging) wife” (21:9). “The proud and arrogant man – ‘mocker’ is his name – he “The proud and arrogant man – ‘mocker’ is his name – he behaves with overweening pride” (21:24). behaves with overweening pride” (21:24). “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (15:1). anger” (15:1).

12/11/16 505 12/11/16 505 For the husband or the wife, loving restraint in the choice of words, For the husband or the wife, loving restraint in the choice of words, body language and kindness sets the table for an atmosphere of body language and kindness sets the table for an atmosphere of love and acceptance in the home. It models for the children (who love and acceptance in the home. It models for the children (who are watching and learning) how to treat other people. are watching and learning) how to treat other people. The principle that Proverbs is getting at is this: An environment of The principle that Proverbs is getting at is this: An environment of fighting and bickering is no way to live. The answer is not to run fighting and bickering is no way to live. The answer is not to run away and hide, rather, face the issues with gentle, understanding away and hide, rather, face the issues with gentle, understanding words that seek to bring about resolution and unity. words that seek to bring about resolution and unity.

Proverbs just scratches the surface when it comes to marriage. If Proverbs just scratches the surface when it comes to marriage. If you wish to go deeper and learn wisdom on strengthening your you wish to go deeper and learn wisdom on strengthening your marriage (or preparing for a healthy marriage), consider taking marriage (or preparing for a healthy marriage), consider taking Oak Pointe’s Loving Well marriage course. Results over several Oak Pointe’s Loving Well marriage course. Results over several years has shown that this course helps couples get to the deeper years has shown that this course helps couples get to the deeper issues that are hindering growth and intimacy in marriage. issues that are hindering growth and intimacy in marriage. PARENTS PARENTS In Proverbs, parents are portrayed as ‘teachers’ and ‘trainers’ while In Proverbs, parents are portrayed as ‘teachers’ and ‘trainers’ while children are ‘learners’ and ‘disciples’ under their parents. Through children are ‘learners’ and ‘disciples’ under their parents. Through their words and example parents instruct children in the way of their words and example parents instruct children in the way of wisdom. Through discipline they encourage their children to learn wisdom. Through discipline they encourage their children to learn that there are consequences for their choices. that there are consequences for their choices. The foundational understanding for what it means to discipline The foundational understanding for what it means to discipline (train) children comes from the way that God disciplines us as His (train) children comes from the way that God disciplines us as His children. God disciplines those whom He loves . children. God disciplines those whom He loves . “My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent “My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in” (3:11,12 see also Hebrews 12:5,6). father the son he delights in” (3:11,12 see also Hebrews 12:5,6). Similarly, loving parents discipline their children so that their Similarly, loving parents discipline their children so that their character can become fully formed. Proverbs speaks often about character can become fully formed. Proverbs speaks often about the importance of training. the importance of training. “Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a “Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death” (19:18). willing party to their death” (19:18). “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire” (29:17). bring you the delights you desire” (29:17). “Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who “Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them” (13:2). loves their children is careful to discipline them” (13:2). Teamwork is critical in parenting. Father and mother are most Teamwork is critical in parenting. Father and mother are most often mentioned together working as a team in the instruction of often mentioned together working as a team in the instruction of 12/11/16 506 12/11/16 506 children. Parents should first agree together as to their plans for children. Parents should first agree together as to their plans for raising children. Then, they should cooperate in the outworking raising children. Then, they should cooperate in the outworking and adjustment of the plan over time. and adjustment of the plan over time. “Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake “Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. They are a garland to grace your head your mother’s teaching. They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck” (1:8,9). and a chain to adorn your neck” (1:8,9). The parent’s sincere hope is that the children will take their The parent’s sincere hope is that the children will take their learning into their adult lives and continue to reap the benefits of learning into their adult lives and continue to reap the benefits of the ways of wisdom. the ways of wisdom. “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it” (22:6). they are old they will not turn from it” (22:6). FATHERS FATHERS “Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain “Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding” (4:1). understanding” (4:1). “My son, do not forget my teaching, but keep my commands in “My son, do not forget my teaching, but keep my commands in your heart, for they will prolong your life many years and bring your heart, for they will prolong your life many years and bring you peace and prosperity” (3:1,2). you peace and prosperity” (3:1,2). Proverbs 1-9 is a father-son discussion in which the father is Proverbs 1-9 is a father-son discussion in which the father is teaching, warning and guiding his son in the paths of life. The teaching, warning and guiding his son in the paths of life. The primary responsibility of a father is to be the voice and example of primary responsibility of a father is to be the voice and example of wisdom in the home, giving instruction both by his words and wisdom in the home, giving instruction both by his words and example. The father must realize the weight he carries in giving example. The father must realize the weight he carries in giving guidance to the family unit. guidance to the family unit. MOTHERS MOTHERS “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down” (14:1). foolish one tears hers down” (14:1). “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women do blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all’” (31:26-29). noble things, but you surpass them all’” (31:26-29). Mothers play an especially important role in building a strong Mothers play an especially important role in building a strong family. The home is her special platform for building up her family. The home is her special platform for building up her children and influencing her relational world through her children children and influencing her relational world through her children and her peers. The mother must realize the power she has to build a and her peers. The mother must realize the power she has to build a

12/11/16 507 12/11/16 507 strong home and family. If married, she has an essential and strong home and family. If married, she has an essential and integral role as co-discipler of her children with her husband. integral role as co-discipler of her children with her husband. CHILDERN CHILDERN The entire book of Proverbs is a book for a maturing child. This in The entire book of Proverbs is a book for a maturing child. This in itself points to the priority of children learning from their parents. itself points to the priority of children learning from their parents. A son or daughter can bring great joy or grief to parents, A son or daughter can bring great joy or grief to parents, depending on whether they live wisely or foolishly. depending on whether they live wisely or foolishly. “A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son brings grief “A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son brings grief to his mother” (10:1). to his mother” (10:1). “A wise son heeds his father’s instruction, but a mocker does not “A wise son heeds his father’s instruction, but a mocker does not respond to rebukes” (13:1). respond to rebukes” (13:1). “A fool spurns a parent’s discipline, but whoever heeds “A fool spurns a parent’s discipline, but whoever heeds correction shows prudence” (15:5). correction shows prudence” (15:5). “May your father and mother rejoice; may she who gave you “May your father and mother rejoice; may she who gave you birth be joyful” (23:25). birth be joyful” (23:25).

A final thought on Proverbs: A final thought on Proverbs: Proverbs is a book of principles, not promises. Lady Wisdom is Proverbs is a book of principles, not promises. Lady Wisdom is telling us how life works; but there are no guarantees. There will telling us how life works; but there are no guarantees. There will be exceptions to every rule. This is so true when it comes to trying be exceptions to every rule. This is so true when it comes to trying to raise a great family. Some families will try to do all the right to raise a great family. Some families will try to do all the right things, and the results will not be exactly as they had hoped. Life things, and the results will not be exactly as they had hoped. Life will be dotted with disappointments. On the other hand, some will be dotted with disappointments. On the other hand, some families will do all the wrong things, and great individuals will families will do all the wrong things, and great individuals will emerge from those chaotic homes. Life will be sprinkled with emerge from those chaotic homes. Life will be sprinkled with surprises. Lady Wisdom gives us principles of life that are true. surprises. Lady Wisdom gives us principles of life that are true. Nevertheless, there are some truly unpredictable factors in life, Nevertheless, there are some truly unpredictable factors in life, namely: 1) human nature, and 2) the amazing grace of God. So, namely: 1) human nature, and 2) the amazing grace of God. So, we do our best to live by the Wisdom of Proverbs, while always we do our best to live by the Wisdom of Proverbs, while always leaning into the grace of God to turn our failures into victories. leaning into the grace of God to turn our failures into victories. And whatever issue Lady Wisdom addresses (wealth, work, words, And whatever issue Lady Wisdom addresses (wealth, work, words, purity, family) we always remember this: there is no sin that is a purity, family) we always remember this: there is no sin that is a match for the amazing grace of God. match for the amazing grace of God.

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GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Love and Longing – Song of Solomon Love and Longing – Song of Solomon

Message 11 – The Courtship Message 11 – The Courtship Song of Solomon 1:1-3:5 Song of Solomon 1:1-3:5

Introduction Introduction The Song of Solomon (literally “Song of songs” or “Most excellent The Song of Solomon (literally “Song of songs” or “Most excellent song”) occupies a very unique place in the Bible. It is the only song”) occupies a very unique place in the Bible. It is the only book devoted entirely to the subject of love between a man and a book devoted entirely to the subject of love between a man and a woman. The book affirms God’s plan for marriage between a woman. The book affirms God’s plan for marriage between a husband and wife and celebrates the gift of sexual union in husband and wife and celebrates the gift of sexual union in marriage. (Solomon wrote 1,005 songs [see 1Kings 4:32]. And marriage. (Solomon wrote 1,005 songs [see 1Kings 4:32]. And this one was his “song to top all songs!”) this one was his “song to top all songs!”) Due to the graphic (though figurative) descriptions of physical Due to the graphic (though figurative) descriptions of physical love, in ancient Jewish culture young boys were not permitted to love, in ancient Jewish culture young boys were not permitted to read the Song of Solomon until they were ready to be married. read the Song of Solomon until they were ready to be married. Throughout history, many have struggled with the idea that God Throughout history, many have struggled with the idea that God would inspire a book dealing so directly with sexuality. Thus, would inspire a book dealing so directly with sexuality. Thus, allegorical (symbolic) interpretations have abounded (from AD allegorical (symbolic) interpretations have abounded (from AD 200 onwards) viewing it as a love story between God and Israel, or 200 onwards) viewing it as a love story between God and Israel, or Christ and the Church. However, while there are definitely Christ and the Church. However, while there are definitely parallels that may be drawn in the direction of divine-human love, parallels that may be drawn in the direction of divine-human love, the primary meaning has to do with love between a man and a the primary meaning has to do with love between a man and a woman. God is not ashamed to address the issues of love and woman. God is not ashamed to address the issues of love and sexuality. After all, these are special gifts that He gave to human sexuality. After all, these are special gifts that He gave to human beings to be cultivated and enjoyed. beings to be cultivated and enjoyed. There is a valid concern as to how Solomon could author a book on There is a valid concern as to how Solomon could author a book on love, given the fact that he ultimately had 700 wives and 300 love, given the fact that he ultimately had 700 wives and 300 concubines. (60 queens, 80 concubines and virgins beyond number concubines. (60 queens, 80 concubines and virgins beyond number are mentioned in 6:8, indicating that the book may have been are mentioned in 6:8, indicating that the book may have been composed earlier in Solomon’s reign. The Shulamite woman was composed earlier in Solomon’s reign. The Shulamite woman was queen #61!) Solomon was hardly an example of monogamous queen #61!) Solomon was hardly an example of monogamous love. However, it is the Shulamite, rather than Solomon, who is love. However, it is the Shulamite, rather than Solomon, who is the main speaker and ultimate heroine in this book of love. She the main speaker and ultimate heroine in this book of love. She sees deeper into the meaning of love than Solomon does. While sees deeper into the meaning of love than Solomon does. While the king’s poems focus entirely on her physical beauty, the poems the king’s poems focus entirely on her physical beauty, the poems of the Shulamite go beyond admiration of Solomon’s physical of the Shulamite go beyond admiration of Solomon’s physical traits, touching upon the deeper things that are required to build a traits, touching upon the deeper things that are required to build a 1/22/17 509 1/22/17 509 strong, happy marriage. The following excellent comments are strong, happy marriage. The following excellent comments are from the great German scholar, Franz Delitzsch, concerning the from the great German scholar, Franz Delitzsch, concerning the Shulamite heroin in this story: Shulamite heroin in this story: Shulamite is not Pharaoh's daughter. The range of her thoughts is not that Shulamite is not Pharaoh's daughter. The range of her thoughts is not that of a king's daughter, but of a rustic maiden; she is a stranger among the of a king's daughter, but of a rustic maiden; she is a stranger among the daughters of Jerusalem, not because she comes from a foreign land, but daughters of Jerusalem, not because she comes from a foreign land, but because she is from the country; she is dark-complexioned, not from the because she is from the country; she is dark-complexioned, not from the sun of her more southern home, but from the open sunshine to which she sun of her more southern home, but from the open sunshine to which she has been exposed as the keeper of a vineyard; in body and soul she is has been exposed as the keeper of a vineyard; in body and soul she is born to be a princess, but in reality she is but the daughter of a humble born to be a princess, but in reality she is but the daughter of a humble family in a remote part of Galilee; hence the child-like simplicity and the family in a remote part of Galilee; hence the child-like simplicity and the rural character of her thoughts, her joy in the open fields, and her longing rural character of her thoughts, her joy in the open fields, and her longing after the quiet life of her village home. Solomon appears here in loving after the quiet life of her village home. Solomon appears here in loving fellowship with a woman such as he had not found among a thousand fellowship with a woman such as he had not found among a thousand (Ecc. 7:28); and although in social rank far beneath him, he raises her to (Ecc. 7:28); and although in social rank far beneath him, he raises her to an equality with himself. That which attached her to him is not her an equality with himself. That which attached her to him is not her personal beauty alone, but her beauty animated and heightened by personal beauty alone, but her beauty animated and heightened by nobility of soul. She is a pattern of simple devotedness, naive simplicity, nobility of soul. She is a pattern of simple devotedness, naive simplicity, unaffected modesty, moral purity, and frank prudence, - a lily of the field, unaffected modesty, moral purity, and frank prudence, - a lily of the field, more beautifully adorned than he could claim to be in all his glory. We more beautifully adorned than he could claim to be in all his glory. We cannot understand the Song of Songs unless we perceive that it presents cannot understand the Song of Songs unless we perceive that it presents before us not only Shulamite's external attractions, but also all the virtues before us not only Shulamite's external attractions, but also all the virtues which make her the idea of all that is gentlest and noblest in woman. Her which make her the idea of all that is gentlest and noblest in woman. Her words and her silence, her doing and suffering, her enjoyment and self- words and her silence, her doing and suffering, her enjoyment and self- denial, her conduct as betrothed, as a bride, and as a wife, her behaviour denial, her conduct as betrothed, as a bride, and as a wife, her behaviour towards her mother, her younger sister, and her brothers, - all this gives towards her mother, her younger sister, and her brothers, - all this gives the impression of a beautiful soul in a body formed as it were from the the impression of a beautiful soul in a body formed as it were from the dust of flowers. Solomon raises this child to the rank of queen, and dust of flowers. Solomon raises this child to the rank of queen, and becomes beside this queen as a child. The simple one teaches the wise becomes beside this queen as a child. The simple one teaches the wise man simplicity; the humble draws the king down to her level; the pure man simplicity; the humble draws the king down to her level; the pure accustoms the impetuous to self-restraint. Following her, he willingly accustoms the impetuous to self-restraint. Following her, he willingly exchanges the bustle and the outward splendour of court life for rural exchanges the bustle and the outward splendour of court life for rural simplicity, wanders gladly over mountain and meadow if he has only her; simplicity, wanders gladly over mountain and meadow if he has only her; with her he is content to live in a lowly cottage (Keil-Delitzsch, with her he is content to live in a lowly cottage (Keil-Delitzsch, Commentary on the Old Testament, Vol.6). Commentary on the Old Testament, Vol.6). In short, the Shulamite is a real-life example of “Lady Wisdom” In short, the Shulamite is a real-life example of “Lady Wisdom” from the book of Proverbs, who called out to all who would learn from the book of Proverbs, who called out to all who would learn from her teachings. from her teachings. The book consists of a series of poems composed by Solomon and The book consists of a series of poems composed by Solomon and his bride, the unnamed Shulamite woman from the northern his bride, the unnamed Shulamite woman from the northern 1/22/17 510 1/22/17 510 countryside. There are occasional interjections from a ‘chorus’ of countryside. There are occasional interjections from a ‘chorus’ of friends or onlookers (“the daughters of Jerusalem” - 1:5; 2:7; friends or onlookers (“the daughters of Jerusalem” - 1:5; 2:7; 3:5,10; 5:8,16; 8:4). It is possible that this chorus was the other 3:5,10; 5:8,16; 8:4). It is possible that this chorus was the other women in Solomon’s harem, though we are not certain of their women in Solomon’s harem, though we are not certain of their identity. While it is difficult to detect a clear storyline, the highly identity. While it is difficult to detect a clear storyline, the highly lyrical poems can generally be divided into three sections: the lyrical poems can generally be divided into three sections: the courtship (1:1-3:5); the wedding (3:6-5:1); and the maturing courtship (1:1-3:5); the wedding (3:6-5:1); and the maturing marriage (5:2-8:4). A conclusion summarizes key lessons (8:5-14). marriage (5:2-8:4). A conclusion summarizes key lessons (8:5-14). Love in the countryside: 1:1-2:7 Love in the countryside: 1:1-2:7 The opening section describes a meeting between Solomon and the The opening section describes a meeting between Solomon and the Shulamite in the northern countryside. They are reveling in their Shulamite in the northern countryside. They are reveling in their love for one another while anticipating their marriage day. love for one another while anticipating their marriage day. 1:1-4. She begins by affirming that Solomon is a very desirable 1:1-4. She begins by affirming that Solomon is a very desirable man. He is not only physically attractive, but his name man. He is not only physically attractive, but his name (reputation) has gone forth like perfume that has been poured out. (reputation) has gone forth like perfume that has been poured out. She notes that it is no wonder that all the women adore him. She notes that it is no wonder that all the women adore him. 1:5. She comments on her own physical uniqueness, saying that 1:5. She comments on her own physical uniqueness, saying that she is dark but lovely. She explains to the daughters of Jerusalem she is dark but lovely. She explains to the daughters of Jerusalem that her skin was darkened due to long hours working in the sun. that her skin was darkened due to long hours working in the sun. “Dark am I, yet lovely, daughters of Jerusalem, dark like the “Dark am I, yet lovely, daughters of Jerusalem, dark like the tents of Kedar, like the tent curtains of Solomon. Do not stare at tents of Kedar, like the tent curtains of Solomon. Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun” (1:5). me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun” (1:5). You could say that the Shulamite woman was “comfortable in her You could say that the Shulamite woman was “comfortable in her own skin.” She knew she was different; but the stares of onlookers own skin.” She knew she was different; but the stares of onlookers did not undo her. A healthy sense of self-esteem is important in a did not undo her. A healthy sense of self-esteem is important in a relationship. While we can surely affirm the self-worth of another, relationship. While we can surely affirm the self-worth of another, we cannot give another person self-esteem. A healthy sense of we cannot give another person self-esteem. A healthy sense of self-worth is first formed (ideally) in our family of origin, as parents self-worth is first formed (ideally) in our family of origin, as parents and siblings pour love and affirmation into us. The Shulamite knew and siblings pour love and affirmation into us. The Shulamite knew that she was special to her mother (6:9). As we mature, our self- that she was special to her mother (6:9). As we mature, our self- worth must continue to grow based on our understanding of our worth must continue to grow based on our understanding of our value in God’s eyes, as His special sons and daughters. value in God’s eyes, as His special sons and daughters. 1:6. She further remarks that she was forced to work and, as a 1:6. She further remarks that she was forced to work and, as a result, did not have adequate time to care for herself. result, did not have adequate time to care for herself. “My mother’s sons were angry with me and made me take care of “My mother’s sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards; my own vineyard I had to neglect” (1:6). the vineyards; my own vineyard I had to neglect” (1:6). The reference to her “mother’s sons” makes it likely that they The reference to her “mother’s sons” makes it likely that they were stepbrothers who, uncaringly, forced their “sister” to do their were stepbrothers who, uncaringly, forced their “sister” to do their hard work. Her “father” is never mentioned in the story. hard work. Her “father” is never mentioned in the story. 1/22/17 511 1/22/17 511 The Old Testament narrative is full of blended families (eg. Jacob’s The Old Testament narrative is full of blended families (eg. Jacob’s 12 sons and daughter; or David’s sons and daughters). In every 12 sons and daughter; or David’s sons and daughters). In every case, there were examples of hatred, jealousy, abuse, neglect and case, there were examples of hatred, jealousy, abuse, neglect and lack of love. It takes an enormous amount of time and dialogue, lack of love. It takes an enormous amount of time and dialogue, along with the determination to be kind and respectful, to get to along with the determination to be kind and respectful, to get to really know new siblings and grow to love them. Anger and really know new siblings and grow to love them. Anger and harshness must be absolutely forbidden. Parents must be vigilant harshness must be absolutely forbidden. Parents must be vigilant and patient. Often, there is need for outside counsel and help to and patient. Often, there is need for outside counsel and help to “blend” the family effectively. “blend” the family effectively. 1:7-8. She inquires as to where she might find Solomon on this 1:7-8. She inquires as to where she might find Solomon on this particular day. particular day. “Tell me, you whom I love, where you graze your flock and “Tell me, you whom I love, where you graze your flock and where you rest your sheep at midday. Why should I be like a where you rest your sheep at midday. Why should I be like a veiled woman beside the flocks of your friends?” (1:7). veiled woman beside the flocks of your friends?” (1:7). She desires to be open and expressive of her beauty in the presence She desires to be open and expressive of her beauty in the presence of the man she loves and feels safe with, rather than hiding her of the man she loves and feels safe with, rather than hiding her beauty among strange and unsafe men. beauty among strange and unsafe men. 1:9-2:6. The lovers meet and exchanges words of affection . They 1:9-2:6. The lovers meet and exchanges words of affection . They may be resting upon grass underneath beautiful trees. “Our bed is may be resting upon grass underneath beautiful trees. “Our bed is green. The beams of our house are cedars; our rafters are firs” green. The beams of our house are cedars; our rafters are firs” (1:16,17). (1:16,17). He compares her to prize mare among Pharaoh’s chariot horses . He compares her to prize mare among Pharaoh’s chariot horses . She is beautiful. Her eyes are like doves. She is beautiful. Her eyes are like doves. She compares him to a sachet of myrrh resting between her She compares him to a sachet of myrrh resting between her breasts . . . a cluster of henna blossoms from the vineyards of En breasts . . . a cluster of henna blossoms from the vineyards of En Gedi. He is handsome and charming. Gedi. He is handsome and charming. She compares herself to a lily among a valley full of lilies. But He She compares herself to a lily among a valley full of lilies. But He responds saying that she is a lily among thorns (unique and one-of- responds saying that she is a lily among thorns (unique and one-of- a-kind). a-kind). She returns the compliment, telling him that he is like an apple She returns the compliment, telling him that he is like an apple tree in the forest (a rare find, indeed). She enjoys being alone with tree in the forest (a rare find, indeed). She enjoys being alone with him and is overcome with emotions of love. him and is overcome with emotions of love. “I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste. Let “I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste. Let him lead me to the banquet hall, and let his banner over me be him lead me to the banquet hall, and let his banner over me be love. Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am love. Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love. His left arm is under my head, and his right arm faint with love. His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me” (2:3-6). embraces me” (2:3-6).

1/22/17 512 1/22/17 512 Solomon and the Shulamite were not shy about using WORDS in Solomon and the Shulamite were not shy about using WORDS in order to make one another feel special rather than ordinary. Their order to make one another feel special rather than ordinary. Their “romance vocabulary” became a very powerful tool in fostering “romance vocabulary” became a very powerful tool in fostering their deep affection for one another. Such affirming words their deep affection for one another. Such affirming words breathe courage into us and make us feel desirable. When we feel breathe courage into us and make us feel desirable. When we feel desirable, we are more willing to be naked and unashamed in the desirable, we are more willing to be naked and unashamed in the presence of another (Gen.2:25). Words of praise may be spoken or presence of another (Gen.2:25). Words of praise may be spoken or written; but the important thing is to make sure they are sincere written; but the important thing is to make sure they are sincere and spoken from the heart. and spoken from the heart. The refrain: (2:7 also repeated at 3:5 and 8:4). The refrain: (2:7 also repeated at 3:5 and 8:4). “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires” (2:7). desires” (2:7). She admonishes the “daughters of Jerusalem” not to do anything She admonishes the “daughters of Jerusalem” not to do anything that would force their love relationship to move at an unhealthy that would force their love relationship to move at an unhealthy pace. Love must be given adequate time and space to blossom pace. Love must be given adequate time and space to blossom appropriately and fully. appropriately and fully. It is important to note how the Shulamite is described, later in this It is important to note how the Shulamite is described, later in this book, with terms that show her self-restraint and modesty – one book, with terms that show her self-restraint and modesty – one who protected her heart and her body. She was a garden locked who protected her heart and her body. She was a garden locked up, a spring enclosed, and a sealed fountain (4:12). She was a wall up, a spring enclosed, and a sealed fountain (4:12). She was a wall (8:10 - as opposed to a door that swings open to any and all). She (8:10 - as opposed to a door that swings open to any and all). She knew that her own vineyard (her body) was hers to give (8:12). knew that her own vineyard (her body) was hers to give (8:12). The Shulamite was a strongly emotive woman, but she was also The Shulamite was a strongly emotive woman, but she was also self-controlled. She allowed her lover to enter her garden (body) self-controlled. She allowed her lover to enter her garden (body) only when the time was right, on her wedding night (4:16b). only when the time was right, on her wedding night (4:16b). Love between a man and a woman has a ‘speed’ of development. Love between a man and a woman has a ‘speed’ of development. Sometimes our own desires will cause things to move too fast; at Sometimes our own desires will cause things to move too fast; at other times friends or relatives may try to push things along too other times friends or relatives may try to push things along too fast. One of the most common mistakes is to rush into physical fast. One of the most common mistakes is to rush into physical intimacy too soon. Physical (sexual) love must be built on other intimacy too soon. Physical (sexual) love must be built on other aspects of love, otherwise it will fail and disappoint us. The Greeks aspects of love, otherwise it will fail and disappoint us. The Greeks had several words for love, three of which are used in the New had several words for love, three of which are used in the New Testament. AGAPE is unconditional, committed love. This kind of Testament. AGAPE is unconditional, committed love. This kind of volitional love must form the foundation of a relationship. PHILEO volitional love must form the foundation of a relationship. PHILEO is emotional, friendship love. This companionship love is formed is emotional, friendship love. This companionship love is formed as a couple learns to do things together, and to appreciate more as a couple learns to do things together, and to appreciate more fully one another’s personalities and interests. Finally, EROS is fully one another’s personalities and interests. Finally, EROS is physical, sensual love. This kind of love is reserved for the marital physical, sensual love. This kind of love is reserved for the marital bed. It is the capstone and fruit of the other forms of love. bed. It is the capstone and fruit of the other forms of love.

1/22/17 513 1/22/17 513 An invitation to come away: 2:8-17 An invitation to come away: 2:8-17 In the second section, the Shulamite describes a time when In the second section, the Shulamite describes a time when Solomon came to her home and invited her to a getaway. Solomon came to her home and invited her to a getaway. She depicts him like a gazelle bounding over mountains and hills She depicts him like a gazelle bounding over mountains and hills to make his way to her house. Suddenly he is at her window to make his way to her house. Suddenly he is at her window tenderly speaking to her, wooing her away for an adventure. tenderly speaking to her, wooing her away for an adventure. He tells her that winter has passed and spring has sprung. It is He tells her that winter has passed and spring has sprung. It is time for them to get away together in order to allow their love to time for them to get away together in order to allow their love to further blossom. He uses very endearing words to invite her to be further blossom. He uses very endearing words to invite her to be with him. with him. “Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me. My “Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me. My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet and your face is lovely” (2:13-15). your voice is sweet and your face is lovely” (2:13-15).

Men tend to be great at initiating romance before marriage. Th is Men tend to be great at initiating romance before marriage. Th is tendency to initiate during courtship comes intuitively. Later in tendency to initiate during courtship comes intuitively. Later in marriage, however, men often become “responsible” but less marriage, however, men often become “responsible” but less “romantic” and adventurous. As a marriage moves through the “romantic” and adventurous. As a marriage moves through the years, it takes intentionality to initiate romance. There is no rule years, it takes intentionality to initiate romance. There is no rule against the wife initiating romance (see Song of Solomon 7:11- against the wife initiating romance (see Song of Solomon 7:11- 13). For the most part, however, women are wired to be 13). For the most part, however, women are wired to be responders and men are called to be initiators. Take a cue from responders and men are called to be initiators. Take a cue from Solomon. Surprise your woman with a romantic adventure she Solomon. Surprise your woman with a romantic adventure she can’t refuse. can’t refuse. She responds to his invitation, and appeals for the protection of She responds to his invitation, and appeals for the protection of their love from unwanted intruders and distractions. their love from unwanted intruders and distractions. “Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, “Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom” (2:15). our vineyards that are in bloom” (2:15). Solomon lived a very complex life. He not only had many Solomon lived a very complex life. He not only had many pressing duties; he also had many other women in his life that pressing duties; he also had many other women in his life that would demand his attention. The Shulamite wisely realized that it would demand his attention. The Shulamite wisely realized that it would take serious determination and protection in order to keep would take serious determination and protection in order to keep their love as passionate and pure as it was in this moment. their love as passionate and pure as it was in this moment. She basks in the warmth of their unique love for one another. She basks in the warmth of their unique love for one another. Nothing quite compares to a day out in the fields with your lover! Nothing quite compares to a day out in the fields with your lover! “My beloved is mine and I am his; he browses among the lilies” “My beloved is mine and I am his; he browses among the lilies” (2:16). (2:16).

1/22/17 514 1/22/17 514 “Catch the little foxes that are ruining our vineyard. ” There are so “Catch the little foxes that are ruining our vineyard. ” There are so many things that can rob love of the opportunity to thrive and many things that can rob love of the opportunity to thrive and grow. What are the little foxes that challenge the growth of love grow. What are the little foxes that challenge the growth of love today? An unforgiving spirit, mistrust, jealousy, pride, busyness, today? An unforgiving spirit, mistrust, jealousy, pride, busyness, exhaustion, other people, hobbies, children, social media, exhaustion, other people, hobbies, children, social media, television, fantasies, addictions, health issues, wounds hidden television, fantasies, addictions, health issues, wounds hidden deep in our hearts, lack of self worth . . . Only YOU can determine deep in our hearts, lack of self worth . . . Only YOU can determine what the little foxes are in your relational life. But it is important to what the little foxes are in your relational life. But it is important to identify these love-busters and to create healthy boundaries so identify these love-busters and to create healthy boundaries so that your love can grow appropriately. Only then will you reap the that your love can grow appropriately. Only then will you reap the full enjoyment God designed for you to experience. Don’t let the full enjoyment God designed for you to experience. Don’t let the foxes eat all your grapes! foxes eat all your grapes! Longing for the beloved: 3:1-5 Longing for the beloved: 3:1-5 The Shulamite had two dreams, one before the wedding and one The Shulamite had two dreams, one before the wedding and one after. Both dreams reflect tension in the relationship. In the first after. Both dreams reflect tension in the relationship. In the first dream, she longed to be with her beloved, but could not find him. dream, she longed to be with her beloved, but could not find him. “All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I “All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him. I will get up now and go looked for him but did not find him. I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves. So I looked for him but did not find him. the one my heart loves. So I looked for him but did not find him. The watchmen found me as they made their rounds in the city. The watchmen found me as they made their rounds in the city. ‘Have you seen the one my heart loves?’” (3:1-3). ‘Have you seen the one my heart loves?’” (3:1-3). She is experiencing the longings of a woman in the full bloom of She is experiencing the longings of a woman in the full bloom of romance, but not yet able to consummate her feelings of intimacy romance, but not yet able to consummate her feelings of intimacy in the context of marriage. She has had enough of the courtship in the context of marriage. She has had enough of the courtship phase. She wants to be with Solomon all of the time! phase. She wants to be with Solomon all of the time! Her dream concludes only when she finds him. She would not let Her dream concludes only when she finds him. She would not let him go until she had brought him in to her mother’s bedroom (the him go until she had brought him in to her mother’s bedroom (the room they would share on their wedding night)! room they would share on their wedding night)! “I found the one my heart loves. I held him and would not let “I found the one my heart loves. I held him and would not let him go till I had brought him to my mother’s house, to the room him go till I had brought him to my mother’s house, to the room of the one who conceived me”(3:4,5). of the one who conceived me”(3:4,5). The refrain: (3:5 also repeated at 2:7 and 8:4). The refrain: (3:5 also repeated at 2:7 and 8:4). “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” desires.” How fitting that the refrain should appear here again. Her strong How fitting that the refrain should appear here again. Her strong physical desires must be restrained until the right time – the physical desires must be restrained until the right time – the wedding night (which follows in the next section of the narrative). wedding night (which follows in the next section of the narrative). 1/22/17 515 1/22/17 515 Parallels between Solomon/Shulamite and Christ/Church Parallels between Solomon/Shulamite and Christ/Church While the Song of Solomon is not an allegory , we do recognize While the Song of Solomon is not an allegory , we do recognize that an ideal human-human love can (and should) be a reflection that an ideal human-human love can (and should) be a reflection of divine-human love. In the Old Testament, Yahweh describes of divine-human love. In the Old Testament, Yahweh describes Israel as His bride, while in the New Testament the Church is the Israel as His bride, while in the New Testament the Church is the bride of Christ. Further, the way that husbands and wives love one bride of Christ. Further, the way that husbands and wives love one another is supposed to be a reflection of the love between Christ another is supposed to be a reflection of the love between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Thus, it is valuable to ask and His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Thus, it is valuable to ask the question: What parallels can we draw between the relationship the question: What parallels can we draw between the relationship Solomon had with the Shulamite and the relationship Christ has Solomon had with the Shulamite and the relationship Christ has with His Church? Here are a few parallels to ponder: with His Church? Here are a few parallels to ponder: 1. Just as Solomon’s love for the Shulamite was more delightful 1. Just as Solomon’s love for the Shulamite was more delightful than the best wine (1:2,4), so the love of Jesus for us is sweet than the best wine (1:2,4), so the love of Jesus for us is sweet beyond measure, and deeply satisfying to our souls. The beyond measure, and deeply satisfying to our souls. The Shulamite truly felt that no one could ever love her more perfectly Shulamite truly felt that no one could ever love her more perfectly than Solomon did, even with her dark complexion and rustic than Solomon did, even with her dark complexion and rustic nature. His banner over her was love (2:4). She responded to his nature. His banner over her was love (2:4). She responded to his lavish love and went with him into the banquet hall. Ultimately, lavish love and went with him into the banquet hall. Ultimately, no one ever has or ever will love us more perfectly than Jesus does, no one ever has or ever will love us more perfectly than Jesus does, even with our flaws and our sins. Yet, we must respond to the love even with our flaws and our sins. Yet, we must respond to the love of Jesus by opening up our hearts to Him. When we do, He leads of Jesus by opening up our hearts to Him. When we do, He leads us toward the wedding supper of the Lamb in the banquet hall of us toward the wedding supper of the Lamb in the banquet hall of heaven (Revelation 19). heaven (Revelation 19). 2. Just as Solomon came to the Shulamite and invited her to come 2. Just as Solomon came to the Shulamite and invited her to come out to be with him (2:10-14), so Jesus comes to us and invites all out to be with him (2:10-14), so Jesus comes to us and invites all people to find true life in a love relationship with Him. God is an people to find true life in a love relationship with Him. God is an initiating God; but we must respond to His invitations in order to initiating God; but we must respond to His invitations in order to experience the joys of life with Him. experience the joys of life with Him. 3. The Shulamite had a troublesome dream in which she ran 3. The Shulamite had a troublesome dream in which she ran through the city searching for the one her soul desired (3:1-5). For through the city searching for the one her soul desired (3:1-5). For some time, she searched in vain before she finally found “the one some time, she searched in vain before she finally found “the one my heart loves .” Similarly, many people are out in the world my heart loves .” Similarly, many people are out in the world desperately searching for that person or thing that will fill the void desperately searching for that person or thing that will fill the void in their souls. There is a God-shaped hole in the heart of every in their souls. There is a God-shaped hole in the heart of every person, and only God can fill it. Whether we are single, married, person, and only God can fill it. Whether we are single, married, or re-singled, we must remember that God has made us, foremost, or re-singled, we must remember that God has made us, foremost, for a relationship with Himself. Human love will always fall short for a relationship with Himself. Human love will always fall short in trying to fill our deepest desires. Jesus said to the Samaritan in trying to fill our deepest desires. Jesus said to the Samaritan woman: It is ME you are searching for (see John 4). Only He has woman: It is ME you are searching for (see John 4). Only He has the water that quenches our deepest thirst and gives us life! the water that quenches our deepest thirst and gives us life! 1/22/17 516 1/22/17 516 The Shulamite’s Feminine Strength The Shulamite’s Feminine Strength Additional Notes to Message 11 - The Courtship: 1:1-2:17 Additional Notes to Message 11 - The Courtship: 1:1-2:17 by Shirley Shirock by Shirley Shirock

1. She had an accurate view of her worth and dignity. 1. She had an accurate view of her worth and dignity. A. She could AFFIRM SOLOMON'S FAME along with the other A. She could AFFIRM SOLOMON'S FAME along with the other 100's of women without feeling INSECURE. Solomon had 100's of women without feeling INSECURE. Solomon had MANY ADMIRERS! MANY ADMIRERS! “Your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the young “Your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the young women love you… How right they are to adore you” (1:3,4). women love you… How right they are to adore you” (1:3,4). B. She BELIEVED IN HER OWN WORTH and had COURAGE B. She BELIEVED IN HER OWN WORTH and had COURAGE DECLARE HERSELF as 'LOVELY' to the 'Daughters of DECLARE HERSELF as 'LOVELY' to the 'Daughters of Jerusalem' although she was NOT LIKE THEM. Jerusalem' although she was NOT LIKE THEM. “Dark am I, yet lovely, daughters of Jerusalem, dark like the “Dark am I, yet lovely, daughters of Jerusalem, dark like the tents of Kedar, like the tent curtains of Solomon” (1:5). tents of Kedar, like the tent curtains of Solomon” (1:5). C. She endured MISTREATMENT in her BLENDED- FAMILY C. She endured MISTREATMENT in her BLENDED- FAMILY which IMPACTED HER DAILY LIFE and HER PERSONAL which IMPACTED HER DAILY LIFE and HER PERSONAL APPEARANCE. Yet she had SELF-RESPECT and APPEARANCE. Yet she had SELF-RESPECT and CONFIDENCE as to WHO SHE WAS as a WOMAN. CONFIDENCE as to WHO SHE WAS as a WOMAN. She was not a 'throw-away', rather she valued herself. She was not a 'throw-away', rather she valued herself. “Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened “Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun. My mother’s sons were angry with me and made me by the sun. My mother’s sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards; my own vineyard I had to neglect” take care of the vineyards; my own vineyard I had to neglect” (1:6). (1:6). “But my own vineyard is mine to give” (8:12). “But my own vineyard is mine to give” (8:12). (She uses the IMAGERY of a VINEYARD to describe her (She uses the IMAGERY of a VINEYARD to describe her 'FEMALE BODY and PERSON-HOOD' in CH. 1 and at the END 'FEMALE BODY and PERSON-HOOD' in CH. 1 and at the END of CH. 8). of CH. 8). 2. She was not afraid to express her love and longings to 2. She was not afraid to express her love and longings to Solomon. Solomon. As she approached her wedding day she longed to be alone with As she approached her wedding day she longed to be alone with Solomon, away from Jerusalem and the harem of Queens and Solomon, away from Jerusalem and the harem of Queens and Concubines and virgins and to enjoy THEIR ROMANTIC LOVE. Concubines and virgins and to enjoy THEIR ROMANTIC LOVE. She was not intimidated. She was not intimidated.

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“For your love is more delightful than wine” (1:2). “For your love is more delightful than wine” (1:2). “Take me away with you - let us hurry” (1:4). “Take me away with you - let us hurry” (1:4). “Let him lead me to the banquet hall, and let his banner over me “Let him lead me to the banquet hall, and let his banner over me be love. Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I be love. Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love” (2:4,5). am faint with love” (2:4,5). 3. She knew her boundaries and affirmed them. 3. She knew her boundaries and affirmed them. “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires” (2:7, also 3:5 and 8:4). desires” (2:7, also 3:5 and 8:4). 3 TIMES she exhorts other women to use SELF- RESTRAINT 3 TIMES she exhorts other women to use SELF- RESTRAINT with their EMOTIONS and ROMANTIC PASSIONS until they with their EMOTIONS and ROMANTIC PASSIONS until they can be fully expressed in marital love. can be fully expressed in marital love. She MODELED it herself as was affirmed by SOLOMON and She MODELED it herself as was affirmed by SOLOMON and THE OTHER QUEENS. THE OTHER QUEENS. “You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a “You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain” (4:12). spring enclosed, a sealed fountain” (4:12). “The young women saw her and called her blessed; the queens “The young women saw her and called her blessed; the queens and concubines praised her” (6:9). and concubines praised her” (6:9). Throughout the SONG she was praised for her beauty, BUT she Throughout the SONG she was praised for her beauty, BUT she was able to guard her purity AND do HER PART to NOT was able to guard her purity AND do HER PART to NOT AROUSE THE PASSIONS OF MEN. AROUSE THE PASSIONS OF MEN. Men need to do their part to “not arouse love” by respecting a Men need to do their part to “not arouse love” by respecting a woman’s heart, boundaries and body. Keep the brakes on! woman’s heart, boundaries and body. Keep the brakes on! Opening her heart will pen her desire for physical intimacy. Opening her heart will pen her desire for physical intimacy.

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GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Love and Longing – Song of Solomon Love and Longing – Song of Solomon

Message 12 – The Wedding Message 12 – The Wedding Song of Solomon 3:6-5:1 Song of Solomon 3:6-5:1

Introduction Introduction There is a great deal of mystery surrounding the actual storyline in There is a great deal of mystery surrounding the actual storyline in the Song of Solomon. What scholars are almost universally agreed the Song of Solomon. What scholars are almost universally agreed upon, however, is that there is a wedding pictured in the middle of upon, however, is that there is a wedding pictured in the middle of the book (3:6-5:1). Those who interpret the Song literally see here the book (3:6-5:1). Those who interpret the Song literally see here the wedding of Solomon and his Shulamite bride, leading to the the wedding of Solomon and his Shulamite bride, leading to the physical consummation of their marriage in their private wedding physical consummation of their marriage in their private wedding chamber. The Song of Solomon is not a manual on sexual chamber. The Song of Solomon is not a manual on sexual technique in marriage. It is, on the other hand, endorsing and technique in marriage. It is, on the other hand, endorsing and celebrating the gift of emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy celebrating the gift of emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy within the bounds of marriage. This is what the Shulamite longed within the bounds of marriage. This is what the Shulamite longed for in her relationship with Solomon – a full-orbed intimacy that for in her relationship with Solomon – a full-orbed intimacy that included, but went beyond, sexual union. Her two dreams (one included, but went beyond, sexual union. Her two dreams (one just before the wedding scene, and one immediately after) seem to just before the wedding scene, and one immediately after) seem to picture her heart-longings for intimacy. Would her longings be picture her heart-longings for intimacy. Would her longings be met in her relationship with King Solomon? met in her relationship with King Solomon? The bridal procession arrives in Jerusalem: 3:6-11 The bridal procession arrives in Jerusalem: 3:6-11 “Who is this coming up from the wilderness like a column of “Who is this coming up from the wilderness like a column of smoke, perfumed with myrrh and incense made from all the smoke, perfumed with myrrh and incense made from all the spices of the merchant? Look! It is Solomon’s carriage, escorted spices of the merchant? Look! It is Solomon’s carriage, escorted by sixty warriors, the noblest of Israel, all of them wearing the by sixty warriors, the noblest of Israel, all of them wearing the sword, all experienced in battle, each with his sword at his side, sword, all experienced in battle, each with his sword at his side, prepared for the terrors of the night” (3:6,7). prepared for the terrors of the night” (3:6,7). Solomon sent a royal procession to fetch the Shulamite from Solomon sent a royal procession to fetch the Shulamite from Lebanon and bring her to Jerusalem. (Some scholars think that Lebanon and bring her to Jerusalem. (Some scholars think that Solomon went with the procession, while others think he stayed in Solomon went with the procession, while others think he stayed in Jerusalem to await her arrival.) The processional arrives, the Jerusalem to await her arrival.) The processional arrives, the splendid, custom-made carriage escorted by 60 warriors who splendid, custom-made carriage escorted by 60 warriors who doubled as both security-force and bridal party. Solomon appears, doubled as both security-force and bridal party. Solomon appears, wearing a special wedding-day crown given to him by his mother. wearing a special wedding-day crown given to him by his mother. The daughters of Jerusalem are invited to come out and celebrate The daughters of Jerusalem are invited to come out and celebrate the moment when Solomon appears to receive his bride. the moment when Solomon appears to receive his bride. 1/29/17 519 1/29/17 519

“Daughters of Jerusalem, come out, and look, you daughters of “Daughters of Jerusalem, come out, and look, you daughters of Zion. Look on King Solomon wearing a crown, the crown with Zion. Look on King Solomon wearing a crown, the crown with which his mother crowned him on the day of his wedding, the which his mother crowned him on the day of his wedding, the day his heart rejoiced” (3:11). day his heart rejoiced” (3:11). Solomon praises her beauty: 4:1-7 Solomon praises her beauty: 4:1-7 The wedding day is, typically, the day when a woman looks her The wedding day is, typically, the day when a woman looks her very best. The Shulamite was no exception. Solomon takes the very best. The Shulamite was no exception. Solomon takes the time to appreciate his bride’s beauty. The section begins and ends time to appreciate his bride’s beauty. The section begins and ends with the refrain: with the refrain: “How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful” (4:1). “How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful” (4:1). “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you” (4:7). you” (4:7). He speaks very passionately of his desire to consummate their He speaks very passionately of his desire to consummate their marriage in physical union. marriage in physical union. “Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, I will go to the “Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, I will go to the mountain of myrrh and to the hill of incense” (4:6). mountain of myrrh and to the hill of incense” (4:6).

Men are wired by God to enjoy female beauty. When God brought Men are wired by God to enjoy female beauty. When God brought Eve to Adam, he said: WOW! Yet, a woman longs for so much Eve to Adam, he said: WOW! Yet, a woman longs for so much more in the relationship; a much deeper level of intimacy and more in the relationship; a much deeper level of intimacy and exclusive commitment. In that relational context she will, over exclusive commitment. In that relational context she will, over time, feel safe to open up her mysterious feminine soul. time, feel safe to open up her mysterious feminine soul.

Bride and groom in the wedding chamber: 4:8-5:1 Bride and groom in the wedding chamber: 4:8-5:1 Alone together, Solomon is totally captivated by her and expresses Alone together, Solomon is totally captivated by her and expresses his feelings openly. his feelings openly. “You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen “You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace . . . How much more pleasing is your love than wine, necklace . . . How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice . . .Your and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice . . .Your lips drop sweetness as the honeycomb, my bride . . .The fragrance lips drop sweetness as the honeycomb, my bride . . .The fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon” (4:9-11). of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon” (4:9-11). At the same time, he praises her for keeping herself pure for her At the same time, he praises her for keeping herself pure for her wedding night. wedding night. “You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a “You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride; you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain” (4:12). spring enclosed, a sealed fountain” (4:12). He rejoices in the fact that he now gets to enter her garden and He rejoices in the fact that he now gets to enter her garden and taste of her choicest fruits. taste of her choicest fruits. 1/29/17 520 1/29/17 520 “Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates with choice fruits, “Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates with choice fruits, with henna and nard, nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with henna and nard, nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with every kind of incense tree, with myrrh and aloes and all the with every kind of incense tree, with myrrh and aloes and all the finest spices. You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water finest spices. You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon” (4:13-15). streaming down from Lebanon” (4:13-15). In highly figurative terms, she invites the wind to come and spread In highly figurative terms, she invites the wind to come and spread her fragrance throughout their chamber, to captivate her husband. her fragrance throughout their chamber, to captivate her husband. Then, she invites him to consummate their wedding sexually. Then, she invites him to consummate their wedding sexually. “Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, “Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits” (4:16). into his garden and taste its choice fruits” (4:16).

The pronouns in this section are important. She declares t hat her The pronouns in this section are important. She declares that her body is (still) hers to this point; but she invites her husband to call body is (still) hers to this point; but she invites her husband to call her body “his” garden. 1Corinthians 7:2-5 teaches that in her body “his” garden. 1Corinthians 7:2-5 teaches that in marriage the husband and wife no longer claim their bodies marriage the husband and wife no longer claim their bodies exclusively as their own. Marriage (“becoming one flesh” Genesis exclusively as their own. Marriage (“becoming one flesh” Genesis 2:24) involves the willingness to offer your body (mind, eyes, 2:24) involves the willingness to offer your body (mind, eyes, affections, availability, your whole being) to your spouse so that affections, availability, your whole being) to your spouse so that over the years your exclusive marital love will deepen and bring over the years your exclusive marital love will deepen and bring each other satisfaction and joy. Offering yourself as a gift to your each other satisfaction and joy. Offering yourself as a gift to your spouse is a lifetime commitment, fulfilling your marriage vows and spouse is a lifetime commitment, fulfilling your marriage vows and covenant before God. covenant before God.

After having made love, Solomon expresses his delight with her. After having made love, Solomon expresses his delight with her. “I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have “I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have gathered my myrrh with my spice. I have eaten my honeycomb gathered my myrrh with my spice. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk” (5:1a). and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk” (5:1a). As the wedding-day sequence comes to a close, the chorus of As the wedding-day sequence comes to a close, the chorus of friends encourages the lovers to enjoy one another to the fullest. friends encourages the lovers to enjoy one another to the fullest. “Eat, friends, and drink; drink your fill of love” (5:1b). “Eat, friends, and drink; drink your fill of love” (5:1b).

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The Shulamite’s Deepest Longings The Shulamite’s Deepest Longings Additional Notes to Message 12 - The Wedding: 3:6-5:1 Additional Notes to Message 12 - The Wedding: 3:6-5:1 by Shirley Shirock by Shirley Shirock

1. Longing for Connection (1 st Dream-3:1-5) 1. Longing for Connection (1 st Dream-3:1-5) A. God Created Women to Invite Relationship A. God Created Women to Invite Relationship "God made them MALE and FEMALE" (Genesis 1:26,27). "God made them MALE and FEMALE" (Genesis 1:26,27). Female Image Bearer: One who invites. God invites all people to Female Image Bearer: One who invites. God invites all people to relationship with Him. relationship with Him. "Come, all you who are thirsty…" (Isaiah 55:1). "Come to Me…" "Come, all you who are thirsty…" (Isaiah 55:1). "Come to Me…" (Matthew 11:28). (Additional Scriptures at end of this section.) (Matthew 11:28). (Additional Scriptures at end of this section.) Male Image Bearer: One who remembers and then moves Male Image Bearer: One who remembers and then moves relationally. One who initiates like God. relationally. One who initiates like God. "God remembered Abraham and sent Lot out…" (Genesis 19:29). "God remembered Abraham and sent Lot out…" (Genesis 19:29). The Shulamite longed for Solomon to share her desire for The Shulamite longed for Solomon to share her desire for exclusivity. In her recurring dream she anxiously realized that he exclusivity. In her recurring dream she anxiously realized that he was not with her and she sought him in the night until she found was not with her and she sought him in the night until she found him and wouldn't let him go. He was NOT remembering and him and wouldn't let him go. He was NOT remembering and moving toward her but rather she had to move to find him. moving toward her but rather she had to move to find him. B. The Core Fear of a Woman B. The Core Fear of a Woman Will my invitation be rejected? Will I be invisible, or dismissed? Will my invitation be rejected? Will I be invisible, or dismissed? Do I matter? Am I worth sacrificing for? Am I replaceable? Do I matter? Am I worth sacrificing for? Am I replaceable? The Shulamite feared that she would not be able to keep him. Love The Shulamite feared that she would not be able to keep him. Love can't control another person. SHE (not Solomon) is the one can't control another person. SHE (not Solomon) is the one dreaming and searching for him and then holding him tightly, not dreaming and searching for him and then holding him tightly, not letting him go. She represents GOD'S longing for OUR faithful letting him go. She represents GOD'S longing for OUR faithful love, yet often experiencing being replaced by other affections. love, yet often experiencing being replaced by other affections. The core fear of a man: to feel 'weightless', not having masculine The core fear of a man: to feel 'weightless', not having masculine strength RELATIONALLY. strength RELATIONALLY. C. A Woman Desires to be Known C. A Woman Desires to be Known Jesus prayed, "This is Eternal Life, that they KNOW you (Father), Jesus prayed, "This is Eternal Life, that they KNOW you (Father), the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent" (John the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent" (John 17:3). 17:3). We can know things about another person, but not really KNOW We can know things about another person, but not really KNOW 1/29/17 522 1/29/17 522 them at a deep, satisfying level. If a man opens up about himself, them at a deep, satisfying level. If a man opens up about himself, and also takes time to explore and 'know' his wife, or girlfriend, and also takes time to explore and 'know' his wife, or girlfriend, then she will open up like a flower, slowly testing his reactions: IS then she will open up like a flower, slowly testing his reactions: IS HE SAFE? IS SHE SAFE? (This applies to ALL relationships). HE SAFE? IS SHE SAFE? (This applies to ALL relationships). 'TRUE KNOWING' is a life-long choice because we are 'TRUE KNOWING' is a life-long choice because we are continually changing. continually changing. 2. Longing for Commitment 2. Longing for Commitment Why does God confine sex to the covenant relationship of Why does God confine sex to the covenant relationship of marriage? Because a covenant begins the process of building a marriage? Because a covenant begins the process of building a secure environment in which the relationship can thrive. secure environment in which the relationship can thrive. Covenant: A vow before God and to each other to be faithful and Covenant: A vow before God and to each other to be faithful and committed for life. This provides a secure relationship for opening committed for life. This provides a secure relationship for opening up and entering into the deep soul of each other. (Malachi 2:14-16) up and entering into the deep soul of each other. (Malachi 2:14-16) Covenant > Commitment > Security > Vulnerability > Covenant > Commitment > Security > Vulnerability > Soul oneness > Body Oneness Soul oneness > Body Oneness INTIMACY= IN-TO-ME-I-SEE. (Self-awareness, self-disclosure) INTIMACY= IN-TO-ME-I-SEE. (Self-awareness, self-disclosure) which leads to an opportunity for the other person to also be able which leads to an opportunity for the other person to also be able to say: IN-TO-YOU-I-SEE. to say: IN-TO-YOU-I-SEE. Give each other PERMISSION to express a NEED for Give each other PERMISSION to express a NEED for EMOTIONAL and EXCLUSIVE QUALITY TIME for EMOTIONAL and EXCLUSIVE QUALITY TIME for CONNECTION. This is the foundation that leads to loving touch CONNECTION. This is the foundation that leads to loving touch and a willingness to be 'naked and unashamed' with each other. and a willingness to be 'naked and unashamed' with each other. 3. Longing for Consummation 3. Longing for Consummation She loved Solomon and celebrated the wedding night by inviting She loved Solomon and celebrated the wedding night by inviting him into her 'garden'. She declared that her body was now “his him into her 'garden'. She declared that her body was now “his garden.” She had waited, and sadly Solomon had already given garden.” She had waited, and sadly Solomon had already given himself away to many women. himself away to many women. “But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should “But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control” (1 not tempt you because of your lack of self-control” (1 Corinthians 7:2-5). Corinthians 7:2-5). 1/29/17 523 1/29/17 523 Our body is no longer exclusively our own. We choose to give our Our body is no longer exclusively our own. We choose to give our body as a GIFT to OUR SPOUSE. body as a GIFT to OUR SPOUSE. Selfishness or Selflessness? No couple is the same. Honest Selfishness or Selflessness? No couple is the same. Honest dialogue about expressing love for each other physically is dialogue about expressing love for each other physically is essential. Emotional and relational problems WILL surface in the essential. Emotional and relational problems WILL surface in the bedroom. bedroom. "God loves a cheerful giver" (2 Corinthians 9:7) doesn’t just have "God loves a cheerful giver" (2 Corinthians 9:7) doesn’t just have to apply to our financial giving! to apply to our financial giving! WOMEN: Gift = willingness to be more open, available, inviting, WOMEN: Gift = willingness to be more open, available, inviting, and take pleasure in lovemaking. and take pleasure in lovemaking. MEN: Gift = willingness to be more sacrificial, loving like Christ! MEN: Gift = willingness to be more sacrificial, loving like Christ! To not demand, but exercise tenderness, respect and self-restraint, To not demand, but exercise tenderness, respect and self-restraint, yet be honest. yet be honest.

Additional Scriptures concerning aspects of God’s nature that Additional Scriptures concerning aspects of God’s nature that are reflected in male and female natures: are reflected in male and female natures: God Invites – ‘COME TO ME and ENJOY ME.’ God Invites – ‘COME TO ME and ENJOY ME.’ “But the Lord called out to the man, where are you?” (Gen. 3:9). “But the Lord called out to the man, where are you?” (Gen. 3:9). “Come, all you who are thirsty, come to the waters; Listen, listen “Come, all you who are thirsty, come to the waters; Listen, listen to Me… Give ear to Me; hear Me, that your soul may live” (Isaiah to Me… Give ear to Me; hear Me, that your soul may live” (Isaiah 55:1-3a). 55:1-3a). “Come, follow Me,” Jesus said (Mark 1:17). “Come, follow Me,” Jesus said (Mark 1:17). Jesus said, “Let the little children come to Me” (Matt. 19:14). Jesus said, “Let the little children come to Me” (Matt. 19:14). “Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give “Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest” (Matt. 11:28). you rest” (Matt. 11:28). “Come (draw) near to God, and He will come (draw) near to you” “Come (draw) near to God, and He will come (draw) near to you” (James 4:8). (James 4:8). “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem… how often I have longed to gather your “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem… how often I have longed to gather your children together, but you were not willing” (Matt. 23:37). children together, but you were not willing” (Matt. 23:37). God remembers and moves – ‘I WILL NOT WITHDRAW.’ God remembers and moves – ‘I WILL NOT WITHDRAW.’ "God remembered His covenant…and was concerned about "God remembered His covenant…and was concerned about them…and called Moses" (Exodus 2:24,25; 3:4,8). them…and called Moses" (Exodus 2:24,25; 3:4,8). "When Jesus saw His mother there (by the cross), and the disciple "When Jesus saw His mother there (by the cross), and the disciple

1/29/17 524 1/29/17 524 whom He loved (John), He said to His mother, 'Dear Mother, here whom He loved (John), He said to His mother, 'Dear Mother, here is your son…and here is your mother'" (John 19:26.27). is your son…and here is your mother'" (John 19:26.27). God wants to be Known – ‘KNOW ME, not JUST ABOUT ME.’ God wants to be Known – ‘KNOW ME, not JUST ABOUT ME.’ “If you are pleased with me, teach me your ways that I may know “If you are pleased with me, teach me your ways that I may know you” (Exodus 33:13). you” (Exodus 33:13). “Philip, have I been with you so long and you still don't know ME? “Philip, have I been with you so long and you still don't know ME? If you have seen me you have seen the Father” (John 14:9). If you have seen me you have seen the Father” (John 14:9). “This is Eternal Life, that they know you (Father), the only true “This is Eternal Life, that they know you (Father), the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent” (John 17:3). God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent” (John 17:3). ''Woman, I don't know Him!.. The Lord turned and looked straight ''Woman, I don't know Him!.. The Lord turned and looked straight at Peter… Then Peter remembered the Lord's word… And he went at Peter… Then Peter remembered the Lord's word… And he went out and wept bitterly' (Luke 22:56-62). out and wept bitterly' (Luke 22:56-62). “I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious “I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation so that Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation so that you may know him better'; 'how wide, long, high and deep is the you may know him better'; 'how wide, long, high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love (in experience) that surpasses love of Christ, and to know this love (in experience) that surpasses (just) knowledge” (Ephesians 1:17; 3:18,19). (just) knowledge” (Ephesians 1:17; 3:18,19). God makes Commitments – ‘I AM HERE TO STAY.’ God makes Commitments – ‘I AM HERE TO STAY.’ “Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you” (Deuteronomy “Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6 and Hebrews 13:5). 31:6 and Hebrews 13:5). “My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I “My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life and they shall never perish; no one can give them eternal life and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand… no-one can snatch them out of the snatch them out of my hand… no-one can snatch them out of the Father's hand. I and the Father are one” (John 10:27-30). Father's hand. I and the Father are one” (John 10:27-30). Books Referenced Books Referenced And the Bride Wore White - Dannah Gresh And the Bride Wore White - Dannah Gresh Fully Alive - Dr. Larry Crabb Fully Alive - Dr. Larry Crabb Biblical Femininity - Chrystie Cole Biblical Femininity - Chrystie Cole Intimacy Ignited - Jody and Linda Dillow & Peter and Lorriane Intimacy Ignited - Jody and Linda Dillow & Peter and Lorriane Pintus Pintus The Heart and Soul of Preparing for Marriage - Bridge to Life The Heart and Soul of Preparing for Marriage - Bridge to Life Ministries, Don Smith Ministries, Don Smith Gift-wrapped by God - Linda Dillow & Loraine Pintus Gift-wrapped by God - Linda Dillow & Loraine Pintus

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GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Love and Longing – Song of Solomon Love and Longing – Song of Solomon

Message 13 – The Marriage Message 13 – The Marriage Song of Solomon 5:2-8:14 Song of Solomon 5:2-8:14

Introduction Introduction After every wedding comes a marriage, and I have not yet seen a After every wedding comes a marriage, and I have not yet seen a marriage that does not encounter significant challenges requiring marriage that does not encounter significant challenges requiring an immense amount of determination and work. It is nice to know an immense amount of determination and work. It is nice to know that even the seemingly idyllic marriage between Solomon and the that even the seemingly idyllic marriage between Solomon and the Shulamite was not so perfect after all. “There is realism in the Shulamite was not so perfect after all. “There is realism in the Song that merits our respect. The course of true love seldom runs Song that merits our respect. The course of true love seldom runs smoothly for long. For every moment of ecstasy, there seems to be smoothly for long. For every moment of ecstasy, there seems to be the moment of hurt and pain. The openness that lovers experience the moment of hurt and pain. The openness that lovers experience with each other makes possible both extremes. Not even love can with each other makes possible both extremes. Not even love can guarantee perfect performance in personal relationships.” guarantee perfect performance in personal relationships.” (Dennis Kinlaw, Song of Songs, Expositor’s Bible Commentary, (Dennis Kinlaw, Song of Songs, Expositor’s Bible Commentary, Vol.5, p.1232). Vol.5, p.1232). The Shulamite’s 2 nd Dream: 5:2-8 The Shulamite’s 2 nd Dream: 5:2-8 The Shulamite’s 1 st dream (3:1-5) reflected her fear of losing The Shulamite’s 1 st dream (3:1-5) reflected her fear of losing connection with Solomon. Yet, she was able to find him and hold connection with Solomon. Yet, she was able to find him and hold on to him in the end. Her 2 nd dream seems to reflect some similar on to him in the end. Her 2 nd dream seems to reflect some similar tension in their married life, yet this time she is unable to find him . tension in their married life, yet this time she is unable to find him . In the dream, Solomon comes to her room late at night, In the dream, Solomon comes to her room late at night, presumably desiring to make love to her. presumably desiring to make love to her. “I slept but my heart was awake. Listen! My beloved is knocking: “I slept but my heart was awake. Listen! My beloved is knocking: “Open to me, my sister, my darling, my dove, my flawless one. “Open to me, my sister, my darling, my dove, my flawless one. My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the night” (5:2). night” (5:2). Still dreaming, she was unwilling to get up from bed and allow Still dreaming, she was unwilling to get up from bed and allow him to come in. She had reasons as to why she could not open up him to come in. She had reasons as to why she could not open up to him: to him: “I have taken off my robe - must I put it on again? I have “I have taken off my robe - must I put it on again? I have washed my feet - must I soil them again” (5:3)? washed my feet - must I soil them again” (5:3)? She sees Solomon passionately trying to open the door himself She sees Solomon passionately trying to open the door himself 2/5/17 526 2/5/17 526 from the outside. Seeing his striving, her heart changed and she from the outside. Seeing his striving, her heart changed and she felt moved to arise from her bed and let him in. felt moved to arise from her bed and let him in. “My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my “My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my heart began to pound for him. I arose to open for my beloved, heart began to pound for him. I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt” (5:4,5). myrrh, on the handles of the bolt” (5:4,5). She was too late, however, for when she opened the door, her lover She was too late, however, for when she opened the door, her lover was gone! was gone! “I opened for my beloved, but my beloved had left; he was gone. “I opened for my beloved, but my beloved had left; he was gone. My heart sank at his departure” (5:6). My heart sank at his departure” (5:6). Still in her dream, she arose and ran about the entire city searching Still in her dream, she arose and ran about the entire city searching in vain for Solomon. She was met by the watchmen of the city (as in vain for Solomon. She was met by the watchmen of the city (as in the previous dream). This time, however, she was beaten and in the previous dream). This time, however, she was beaten and bruised by them – perhaps symbolizing her self-condemnation for bruised by them – perhaps symbolizing her self-condemnation for having refused his movement toward her. having refused his movement toward her. Just as the previous dream ended with the Shulamite’s charge to Just as the previous dream ended with the Shulamite’s charge to the daughters of Jerusalem (3:5), so this dream ends with an the daughters of Jerusalem (3:5), so this dream ends with an adjuration similar in form, yet different in content: adjuration similar in form, yet different in content: “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you - if you find my beloved, “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you - if you find my beloved, what will you tell him? Tell him I am faint with love” (5:8). what will you tell him? Tell him I am faint with love” (5:8). The difference in the two adjurations may be accounted for by this: The difference in the two adjurations may be accounted for by this: In the first dream, she found Solomon and held fast to him; thus In the first dream, she found Solomon and held fast to him; thus she asked them not to hasten or disturb the process of their love. she asked them not to hasten or disturb the process of their love. In the second dream, she did not find him, and was heartsick over In the second dream, she did not find him, and was heartsick over it; thus she charged them that if they found him they were to tell it; thus she charged them that if they found him they were to tell him that she was longing to see him. him that she was longing to see him. So, what is the overall impression given by this dream? There is So, what is the overall impression given by this dream? There is tension in the marriage. Whereas earlier in their relationship, tension in the marriage. Whereas earlier in their relationship, nothing could keep the two lovers from being together, now certain nothing could keep the two lovers from being together, now certain issues are cropping up that, at times, keep them separated in soul issues are cropping up that, at times, keep them separated in soul and body. It is not clear what those issues are (this is a dream, and body. It is not clear what those issues are (this is a dream, after all). We can, however, make some guesses as to the possible after all). We can, however, make some guesses as to the possible causes of tension in their marriage: causes of tension in their marriage: - Solomon may have been demanding sex at unexpected and - Solomon may have been demanding sex at unexpected and unreasonable times. She, in turn, felt he was being uncaring of her unreasonable times. She, in turn, felt he was being uncaring of her feminine heart. At times, she felt guilty for saying No to him. feminine heart. At times, she felt guilty for saying No to him. - The Shulamite may not have felt securely connected to Solomon - The Shulamite may not have felt securely connected to Solomon 2/5/17 527 2/5/17 527 on a soul level and, therefore, she was unwilling to allow him to on a soul level and, therefore, she was unwilling to allow him to enter her body. They were not spending enough quality time enter her body. They were not spending enough quality time together. together. - She may have been (understandably) worried about Solomon’s - She may have been (understandably) worried about Solomon’s relationship with the many other women in his harem. Was she relationship with the many other women in his harem. Was she really unique and valuable to him? Was her rebuff born of marital really unique and valuable to him? Was her rebuff born of marital protective jealousy for their unique love relationship? protective jealousy for their unique love relationship? - She may have been fearful of raising any of her concerns over a - She may have been fearful of raising any of her concerns over a number of different issues. Would Solomon pull away from her? number of different issues. Would Solomon pull away from her? Reject her? Be angry and retaliate against her? Reject her? Be angry and retaliate against her? Whatever the precipitating concerns in her heart, the dream seems Whatever the precipitating concerns in her heart, the dream seems to indicate that she felt badly, perhaps even ‘guilty’ about pushing to indicate that she felt badly, perhaps even ‘guilty’ about pushing Solomon away. Thus, when she awoke, she determined to find him Solomon away. Thus, when she awoke, she determined to find him and reconnect with him. and reconnect with him.

There are SO MANY DIFFERENT TENS IONS that enter into a There are SO MANY DIFFERENT TENS IONS that enter into a marriage: tensions over money, work, children, extended family marriage: tensions over money, work, children, extended family tensions, etc. So, the question is: What’s a couple to do when tensions, etc. So, the question is: What’s a couple to do when tensions build up and create problems in the relationship? 1) Self- tensions build up and create problems in the relationship? 1) Self- awareness: Building a healthy marriage requires that we know awareness: Building a healthy marriage requires that we know what is going on inside of us. What are the tensions that we really what is going on inside of us. What are the tensions that we really feeling deep inside? What are our fears? What are our needs? IF feeling deep inside? What are our fears? What are our needs? IF we don’t know what’s going on inside, there is NO WAY we will be we don’t know what’s going on inside, there is NO WAY we will be able to bring another person into our true reality. Self-awareness able to bring another person into our true reality. Self-awareness is key! 2) Courage: We must bring our true selves into the open is key! 2) Courage: We must bring our true selves into the open (out of shameful or fearful hiding) with the other person. We (out of shameful or fearful hiding) with the other person. We cannot expect our spouse to “read our mind.” We must speak cannot expect our spouse to “read our mind.” We must speak directly, honestly and respectfully about what is going on in our directly, honestly and respectfully about what is going on in our hearts, minds and bodies. 3) Listen: We must cultivate our ability hearts, minds and bodies. 3) Listen: We must cultivate our ability to receive what our spouse wants to say to us, without reacting, or to receive what our spouse wants to say to us, without reacting, or becoming defensive? What are the issues in you (self-protective becoming defensive? What are the issues in you (self-protective measures) that keep you from being able to receive what your measures) that keep you from being able to receive what your spouse is trying to tell you (about you or about them)? 4) Resolve: spouse is trying to tell you (about you or about them)? 4) Resolve: We need to find ways to resolve the tension. How can we meet in We need to find ways to resolve the tension. How can we meet in the middle,” so to speak. How can we lovingly meet one another the middle,” so to speak. How can we lovingly meet one another in a place that brings mutual satisfaction? 5) Mediate: Call in a in a place that brings mutual satisfaction? 5) Mediate: Call in a mediator or counselor if necessary. Don’t be afraid to get some mediator or counselor if necessary. Don’t be afraid to get some help! We get help with every other area of our lives. Why are we help! We get help with every other area of our lives. Why are we so afraid to go and get some advice on how to resolve tensions in so afraid to go and get some advice on how to resolve tensions in our marriage? our marriage?

Describing Solomon to the Daughters of Jerusalem: 5:9-16 Describing Solomon to the Daughters of Jerusalem: 5:9-16 The daughters of Jerusalem ask the Shulamite to describe her The daughters of Jerusalem ask the Shulamite to describe her 2/5/17 528 2/5/17 528 beloved to them. (This could be occurring still within the dream; beloved to them. (This could be occurring still within the dream; but many scholars see here a transition back into the wide awake but many scholars see here a transition back into the wide awake world of the Shulamite.) world of the Shulamite.) “How is your beloved better than others, most beautiful of “How is your beloved better than others, most beautiful of women? How is your beloved better than others, that you so women? How is your beloved better than others, that you so charge us?” (5:9). charge us?” (5:9). The Shulamite launches into a head-to-toe description of the The Shulamite launches into a head-to-toe description of the handsomeness of Solomon (5:10-16). “This is one of the few handsomeness of Solomon (5:10-16). “This is one of the few poems that has come down to us from the ancient world in which poems that has come down to us from the ancient world in which the female gives and inventory of the male’s features.” (Kinlaw, the female gives and inventory of the male’s features.” (Kinlaw, p.1233.) In her eyes, Solomon is “outstanding among ten p.1233.) In her eyes, Solomon is “outstanding among ten thousand” (v.10). She concludes: thousand” (v.10). She concludes: “This is my beloved, this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem” “This is my beloved, this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem” (v.16). (v.16). The lovers reunite: 6:1-13 The lovers reunite: 6:1-13 The daughters of Jerusalem ask the Shulamite where her lover has The daughters of Jerusalem ask the Shulamite where her lover has gone. She immediately replies with a very clear answer: gone. She immediately replies with a very clear answer: “My beloved has gone down to his garden, to the beds of spices, “My beloved has gone down to his garden, to the beds of spices, to browse in the gardens and to gather lilies. I am my beloved’s to browse in the gardens and to gather lilies. I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; he browses among the lilies” (6:2,3). and my beloved is mine; he browses among the lilies” (6:2,3). The clarity and confidence in her answer seems to indicate that the The clarity and confidence in her answer seems to indicate that the fears she experienced in her dream were different from the reality fears she experienced in her dream were different from the reality she was experiencing. In “real life” she knows that Solomon has she was experiencing. In “real life” she knows that Solomon has gone down to one of his favorite places – his garden – and that gone down to one of his favorite places – his garden – and that they are very much in love with one another. (Yet, her inner they are very much in love with one another. (Yet, her inner psyche harbors fears and discomfort with their relationship.) psyche harbors fears and discomfort with their relationship.) When she meets Solomon, he immediately praises her from head- When she meets Solomon, he immediately praises her from head- to-toe (6:4-9). He seems to be unaware that she has had a to-toe (6:4-9). He seems to be unaware that she has had a troubling dream concerning their love. Or, if she did tell him about troubling dream concerning their love. Or, if she did tell him about her dream, he comforts her fears with his words of love, her dream, he comforts her fears with his words of love, culminating with his statement as to her incomparable worth: culminating with his statement as to her incomparable worth: “Sixty queens there may be, and eighty concubines, and virgins “Sixty queens there may be, and eighty concubines, and virgins beyond number; but my dove, my perfect one, is unique, the only beyond number; but my dove, my perfect one, is unique, the only daughter of her mother, the favorite of the one who bore her. daughter of her mother, the favorite of the one who bore her. The young women saw her and called her blessed; the queens The young women saw her and called her blessed; the queens and concubines praised her” (6:8,9). and concubines praised her” (6:8,9).

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One of the best things we can do in marriage is to bring our true One of the best things we can do in marriage is to bring our true fears out into the open. Only in this way can our spouse truly fears out into the open. Only in this way can our spouse truly KNOW us for who we really are, and enter into our journey toward KNOW us for who we really are, and enter into our journey toward healing and wholeness. Ironically, it is FEAR of being judged or healing and wholeness. Ironically, it is FEAR of being judged or rejected that keeps us from bringing our hidden fears (or hopes, or rejected that keeps us from bringing our hidden fears (or hopes, or longings, or needs) out into the open. If your spouse IS trying to longings, or needs) out into the open. If your spouse IS trying to explain to you some of her/his inner fears, it is important to listen explain to you some of her/his inner fears, it is important to listen in order to understand, and NOT to jump to try to talk her/him out in order to understand, and NOT to jump to try to talk her/him out of those fears or to “fix it.” Your spouse first needs to be heard of those fears or to “fix it.” Your spouse first needs to be heard and understood. Only after this has happened will she/he feel the and understood. Only after this has happened will she/he feel the freedom to pursue inner healing for those long-concealed hurts freedom to pursue inner healing for those long-concealed hurts and fears. Note: OPC’s Transforming Prayer Ministry is designed and fears. Note: OPC’s Transforming Prayer Ministry is designed to help with these issues. to help with these issues.

The Song of Solomon, with all of its figurative language, is The Song of Solomon, with all of its figurative language, is difficult to interpret on the whole. Yet, 6:10-13 brings the difficult to interpret on the whole. Yet, 6:10-13 brings the interpretation problem to a head. There is no consensus among interpretation problem to a head. There is no consensus among biblical scholars as to what is going on here, or even who is biblical scholars as to what is going on here, or even who is speaking at different points. Of course, the original readers would speaking at different points. Of course, the original readers would have understood the meaning, as they were familiar with the have understood the meaning, as they were familiar with the language, the poetic forms and the cultural customs. For modern language, the poetic forms and the cultural customs. For modern readers, however, these verses remain obscure and mysterious. readers, however, these verses remain obscure and mysterious. “I went down to the grove of nut trees to look at the new growth “I went down to the grove of nut trees to look at the new growth in the valley, to see if the vines had budded or the pomegranates in the valley, to see if the vines had budded or the pomegranates were in bloom. Before I realized it, my desire set me among the were in bloom. Before I realized it, my desire set me among the royal chariots of my people. Come back, come back, O royal chariots of my people. Come back, come back, O Shulammite; come back, come back, that we may gaze on you! Shulammite; come back, come back, that we may gaze on you! Why would you gaze on the Shulammite as on the dance of Why would you gaze on the Shulammite as on the dance of Mahanaim” (6:10-13). Mahanaim” (6:10-13). If the overall context provides any clue at all it is this: Solomon is If the overall context provides any clue at all it is this: Solomon is passionately describing his wife’s beauty and charm right before passionately describing his wife’s beauty and charm right before this section (see 6:4-9) and after it (see 7:1-9). Therefore, it is this section (see 6:4-9) and after it (see 7:1-9). Therefore, it is quite conceivable that 6:10-13 is describing something very quite conceivable that 6:10-13 is describing something very positive, not negative; perhaps a romantic garden encounter positive, not negative; perhaps a romantic garden encounter between Solomon and the Shulamite. When the daughters of between Solomon and the Shulamite. When the daughters of Jerusalem call her to come back so that they may again gaze on her Jerusalem call her to come back so that they may again gaze on her beauty (vv.10,13), Solomon replies that now is not the time for beauty (vv.10,13), Solomon replies that now is not the time for them to be gazing at his wife’s beauty. He was busy doing that them to be gazing at his wife’s beauty. He was busy doing that very thing! He is saying: Leave us alone! very thing! He is saying: Leave us alone! Romance in the countryside: 7:1-13 Romance in the countryside: 7:1-13 Solomon launches into yet another praise of his wife’s physical Solomon launches into yet another praise of his wife’s physical 2/5/17 530 2/5/17 530 beauty (7:1-8), this time working from her feet and ascending to the crown of her head. He concludes by stating (in figurative beauty (7:1-8), this time working from her feet and ascending to terms of course) his desire to make love to her. the crown of her head. He concludes by stating (in figurative terms of course) his desire to make love to her. “How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your delights! Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts “How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your like clusters of fruit. I said, ‘I will climb the palm tree; I will take delights! Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts hold of its fruit.’ May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on like clusters of fruit. I said, ‘I will climb the palm tree; I will take the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples, and your hold of its fruit.’ May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on mouth like the best wine” (7:6-8). the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples, and your mouth like the best wine” (7:6-8). Here, instead of spurning his advance (as in her dream), she makes Solomon an offer he could hardly refuse: a romantic adventure in Here, instead of spurning his advance (as in her dream), she makes the countryside, with lovemaking of course! Solomon an offer he could hardly refuse: a romantic adventure in the countryside, with lovemaking of course! “May the wine go straight to my beloved, flowing gently over lips and teeth. I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Come, “May the wine go straight to my beloved, flowing gently over lips my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in and teeth. I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Come, the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines pomegranates are in bloom – there I will give you my love. The have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every pomegranates are in bloom – there I will give you my love. The delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every beloved” (7:9-13). delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved” (7:9-13). The Shulamite uses strong language to describe Solomon’s “desire” for her (v.9). The Hebrew word for “desire” is used only The Shulamite uses strong language to describe Solomon’s 3 times in the entire Old Testament (here, Genesis 3:16 and 4:7). “desire” for her (v.9). The Hebrew word for “desire” is used only It refers to an “overpowering urge.” She recognizes that Solomon 3 times in the entire Old Testament (here, Genesis 3:16 and 4:7). wants and needs her. She responds to him with openness. It refers to an “overpowering urge.” She recognizes that Solomon wants and needs her. She responds to him with openness. Creativity in romance: new and old. Romantic interludes and getaways help to keep a marriage healthy and exciting. Solomon Creativity in romance: new and old. Romantic interludes and was often the one initiating the romantic escapes. Here, however, getaways help to keep a marriage healthy and exciting. Solomon it is the Shulamite that is doing the inviting. An interlude can be was often the one initiating the romantic escapes. Here, however, as simple as ordering a carryout meal and having an in-home it is the Shulamite that is doing the inviting. An interlude can be date. It could be a 24-hour getaway to a bed-and-breakfast in a as simple as ordering a carryout meal and having an in-home nearby town. Or, it can be as exotic as a week away at your date. It could be a 24-hour getaway to a bed-and-breakfast in a favorite resort. Take some time with your “beloved” to discuss nearby town. Or, it can be as exotic as a week away at your your next “journey to the countryside.” Keep the romance alive! favorite resort. Take some time with your “beloved” to discuss your next “journey to the countryside.” Keep the romance alive! Final expressions of love and longing: 8:1-14 Final expressions of love and longing: 8:1-14 Scholars consider chapter 8 to be the most important chapter in the Song of Solomon. Here, the Shulamite takes center stage and Scholars consider chapter 8 to be the most important chapter in the makes defining statements about the nature of true love. Whatever Song of Solomon. Here, the Shulamite takes center stage and makes defining statements about the nature of true love. Whatever 2/5/17 531 2/5/17 531

else this figurative song has taught us, the main lessons come to else this figurative song has taught us, the main lessons come to the fore in her defining monologue. There is little doubt that her the fore in her defining monologue. There is little doubt that her deepest longings were never met by Solomon (who went on to deepest longings were never met by Solomon (who went on to accumulate 700 wives and 300 concubines). It is the Shulamite’s accumulate 700 wives and 300 concubines). It is the Shulamite’s grasp of the meaning of love that makes her the true heroine in this grasp of the meaning of love that makes her the true heroine in this book, worthy of occupying the stage alone in the final scene. book, worthy of occupying the stage alone in the final scene. - Longing for open, unashamed love. - Longing for open, unashamed love. “If only you were to me like a brother, who was nursed at my “If only you were to me like a brother, who was nursed at my mother’s breasts! Then, if I found you outside, I would kiss you, mother’s breasts! Then, if I found you outside, I would kiss you, and no one would despise me” (8:1). and no one would despise me” (8:1). She longs to be free to express her love to Solomon anywhere and She longs to be free to express her love to Solomon anywhere and anytime, without fear of what other people are thinking or saying. anytime, without fear of what other people are thinking or saying. (Oh that the harem of 60 other queens would just disappear!) She (Oh that the harem of 60 other queens would just disappear!) She longs for the Garden of Eden, where Adam and Eve were naked longs for the Garden of Eden, where Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed . . . alone and undisturbed. and unashamed . . . alone and undisturbed. - Longing for endless alone, undisturbed time. - Longing for endless alone, undisturbed time. “I would lead you and bring you to my mother’s house – she who “I would lead you and bring you to my mother’s house – she who has taught me. I would give you spiced wine to drink, the nectar has taught me. I would give you spiced wine to drink, the nectar of my pomegranates. His left arm is under my head and his right of my pomegranates. His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me. Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arm embraces me. Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires” (8:2-4). arouse or awaken love until it so desires” (8:2-4). She wished they could escape the complicated palace-life and She wished they could escape the complicated palace-life and return to her mother’s home in the country. There, they could return to her mother’s home in the country. There, they could pursue love and romance any time they wanted, without fear of pursue love and romance any time they wanted, without fear of being interrupted or hurried by outside forces. The “little foxes” being interrupted or hurried by outside forces. The “little foxes” (2:15) would never destroy their vineyard (love) in their secret (2:15) would never destroy their vineyard (love) in their secret getaway! getaway! - Longing for a scrapbook full of romantic memories. - Longing for a scrapbook full of romantic memories. “Who is this coming up from the wilderness leaning on her “Who is this coming up from the wilderness leaning on her beloved? Under the apple tree I roused you; there your mother beloved? Under the apple tree I roused you; there your mother conceived you, there she who was in labor gave you birth” (8:5). conceived you, there she who was in labor gave you birth” (8:5). She pictures Solomon and herself blissfully strolling back into She pictures Solomon and herself blissfully strolling back into town, she leaning her head on his shoulder, after a romantic town, she leaning her head on his shoulder, after a romantic encounter under “the apple tree.” The onlookers stare and wonder encounter under “the apple tree.” The onlookers stare and wonder at the two lovers. (Recall, she had called him “an apple tree in the at the two lovers. (Recall, she had called him “an apple tree in the forest” earlier on – 2:3.) forest” earlier on – 2:3.) 2/5/17 532 2/5/17 532

- Longing for exclusive devotion. - Longing for exclusive devotion. “Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for “Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away” (6:6-7a). quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away” (6:6-7a). Here, the Shulamite utters “a strongly poetic request for ‘until Here, the Shulamite utters “a strongly poetic request for ‘until death do us part’” (Kinlaw, p.1241). She states that marital love death do us part’” (Kinlaw, p.1241). She states that marital love has an element of righteous, even fiery jealousy for the complete has an element of righteous, even fiery jealousy for the complete devotion of the spouse. Such holy jealousy is akin to God’s devotion of the spouse. Such holy jealousy is akin to God’s jealous desire for our complete devotion to Him (Exodus 20:4-6). jealous desire for our complete devotion to Him (Exodus 20:4-6). God desires that we have no other lovers that we put before Him. God desires that we have no other lovers that we put before Him. The Shulamite longs to be Solomon’s one-and-only love. The Shulamite longs to be Solomon’s one-and-only love. - Longing for a spouse that values love as much as she does. - Longing for a spouse that values love as much as she does. If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned” (8:7b - NLT). utterly scorned” (8:7b - NLT). The Beatles sang: Money can’t buy me love. Yet, the Shulamite The Beatles sang: Money can’t buy me love. Yet, the Shulamite was the first to express this sentiment. There is great irony here, was the first to express this sentiment. There is great irony here, for Solomon was the richest man on earth in his day. Yet, the for Solomon was the richest man on earth in his day. Yet, the Shulamite says to her husband (and to us), that love is more costly Shulamite says to her husband (and to us), that love is more costly and precious than ALL the wealth in the world. If a man tried to and precious than ALL the wealth in the world. If a man tried to buy love, everyone would scorn him, for love has no purchase buy love, everyone would scorn him, for love has no purchase price. The apostle Paul uttered a similar sentiment in his most price. The apostle Paul uttered a similar sentiment in his most famous love chapter: “If I give all I possess to the poor and give famous love chapter: “If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing” (1Corinthians 13:3). gain nothing” (1Corinthians 13:3). - Longing for sexual purity and wholeness. - Longing for sexual purity and wholeness. ‘We have a little sister, and her breasts are not yet grown. What ‘We have a little sister, and her breasts are not yet grown. What shall we do for our sister on the day she is spoken for?’ ‘If she is shall we do for our sister on the day she is spoken for?’ ‘If she is a wall, we will build towers of silver on her. If she is a door, we a wall, we will build towers of silver on her. If she is a door, we will enclose her with panels of cedar.’ ‘I was a wall, and my will enclose her with panels of cedar.’ ‘I was a wall, and my breasts are like towers. Thus I have become in his eyes like one breasts are like towers. Thus I have become in his eyes like one bringing contentment’ (8:8-10). bringing contentment’ (8:8-10). The Shulamite has experienced the joys of marital love. Her The Shulamite has experienced the joys of marital love. Her purity, prior to marriage, has brought Solomon great contentment. purity, prior to marriage, has brought Solomon great contentment. Now, there is concern for a younger sister. (Opinions differ as to Now, there is concern for a younger sister. (Opinions differ as to who is speaking here.) If the younger sister is promiscuous (a who is speaking here.) If the younger sister is promiscuous (a door), she will need to be protected from those who would gladly door), she will need to be protected from those who would gladly take advantage of her. If, on the other hand, she protects her own take advantage of her. If, on the other hand, she protects her own 2/5/17 533 2/5/17 533 purity (a wall), then her overseers would celebrate her as an purity (a wall), then her overseers would celebrate her as an example for others. Speaking of herself, the Shulamite recalls that example for others. Speaking of herself, the Shulamite recalls that she had protected her own purity. This, in turn, was a gift that she she had protected her own purity. This, in turn, was a gift that she gave to Solomon and it brought him great happiness. May this gave to Solomon and it brought him great happiness. May this happen with the younger sister as well. happen with the younger sister as well. - Longing to preserve a healthy sense of self-identity. - Longing to preserve a healthy sense of self-identity. “Solomon had a vineyard in Baal Hamon; he let out his vineyard “Solomon had a vineyard in Baal Hamon; he let out his vineyard to tenants. Each was to bring for its fruit a thousand shekels of to tenants. Each was to bring for its fruit a thousand shekels of silver. But my own vineyard is mine to give; the thousand shekels silver. But my own vineyard is mine to give; the thousand shekels are for you, Solomon, and two hundred are for those who tend its are for you, Solomon, and two hundred are for those who tend its fruit” (8:11,12). fruit” (8:11,12). Solomon had a massive vineyard operation involving many Solomon had a massive vineyard operation involving many workers and much money. The Shulamite uses the vineyard workers and much money. The Shulamite uses the vineyard analogy to refer to her own dignity. She “owned a vineyard” that analogy to refer to her own dignity. She “owned a vineyard” that was hers to give away to whomever she chose (the giving of her was hers to give away to whomever she chose (the giving of her complete self - body, soul and spirit – see also 1:6 where she refers complete self - body, soul and spirit – see also 1:6 where she refers to her body as “her own vineyard.”). She was delighted to give to her body as “her own vineyard.”). She was delighted to give herself to Solomon, but she also recognized the importance of herself to Solomon, but she also recognized the importance of acknowledging those special friends that had helped her to arrive at acknowledging those special friends that had helped her to arrive at such a favored position in life and love. such a favored position in life and love. - Longing for a lifetime of love. - Longing for a lifetime of love. ‘You who dwell in the gardens with friends in attendance, let me ‘You who dwell in the gardens with friends in attendance, let me hear your voice!’ ‘Come away, my beloved, and be like a gazelle hear your voice!’ ‘Come away, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or like a young stag on the spice-laden mountains’ (8:13,14). or like a young stag on the spice-laden mountains’ (8:13,14). The closing lines take us back to the beginning of the song where The closing lines take us back to the beginning of the song where the two new lovers were basking in the warmth of a newfound the two new lovers were basking in the warmth of a newfound romance. Now, at the end of the Song, Solomon calls out to the romance. Now, at the end of the Song, Solomon calls out to the Shulamite: Let me hear YOUR voice arising from among the Shulamite: Let me hear YOUR voice arising from among the throng of friends around you. She concludes with a familiar throng of friends around you. She concludes with a familiar invitation (see 2:7,9,17) to her lover: Be like a gazelle . . . come invitation (see 2:7,9,17) to her lover: Be like a gazelle . . . come and sweep me away in your arms and let us flee to our love nest! and sweep me away in your arms and let us flee to our love nest! Epilogue: Unmet longings? Epilogue: Unmet longings? At the time of their marriage, Solomon already had 60 wives and At the time of their marriage, Solomon already had 60 wives and 80 concubines. He went on to accumulate a total of 700 wives and 80 concubines. He went on to accumulate a total of 700 wives and 300 concubines. There is, then, a deeper lesson hidden between 300 concubines. There is, then, a deeper lesson hidden between the lines of this great love song. This deeper lesson does not arise the lines of this great love song. This deeper lesson does not arise from an allegorical interpretation of the Song. Rather, it arises from an allegorical interpretation of the Song. Rather, it arises from a realistic historical/emotional reading of the Song in light of from a realistic historical/emotional reading of the Song in light of 2/5/17 534 2/5/17 534 the larger context of Solomon’s life. He could never have fulfilled the larger context of Solomon’s life. He could never have fulfilled the Shulamite’s deepest longings for love. He would have been a the Shulamite’s deepest longings for love. He would have been a constant disappointment and heartache to her, even IF he showed constant disappointment and heartache to her, even IF he showed up at the door of her private room every now and then. His vast up at the door of her private room every now and then. His vast harem would daily remind her that his springs (love and sexuality) harem would daily remind her that his springs (love and sexuality) were dispersed throughout the streets, and that he was NOT were dispersed throughout the streets, and that he was NOT intoxicated exclusively with her love (see Proverbs 5:15-20). In intoxicated exclusively with her love (see Proverbs 5:15-20). In reality, marriage to Solomon was for a short while the most blissful reality, marriage to Solomon was for a short while the most blissful time in the Shulamite’s life. In the long run, however, it had to be time in the Shulamite’s life. In the long run, however, it had to be the most painful thing she ever experienced. the most painful thing she ever experienced. Like all of us, the Shulamite would have to find her deepest Like all of us, the Shulamite would have to find her deepest fulfillment in her relationship with God, the truest lover of her fulfillment in her relationship with God, the truest lover of her heart. Jesus said to the woman at the well (who had tried 5 heart. Jesus said to the woman at the well (who had tried 5 husbands, and was still searching for love): It is only ME who can husbands, and was still searching for love): It is only ME who can satisfy your deepest longings to love and be loved (see John 4). To satisfy your deepest longings to love and be loved (see John 4). To the Shulamite woman, sitting alone in her royal chamber night the Shulamite woman, sitting alone in her royal chamber night after lonely night, God must have whispered: Come away with Me, after lonely night, God must have whispered: Come away with Me, My bride, My lily. My banner over you WILL be LOVE. My bride, My lily. My banner over you WILL be LOVE. The Shulamite’s Fears and Longings The Shulamite’s Fears and Longings Additional Notes to Message 13 - The Marriage: 5:2-8:14 Additional Notes to Message 13 - The Marriage: 5:2-8:14 by Bob and Shirley Shirock by Bob and Shirley Shirock

1. The Shulamite’s Fears revealed by her Dream: 5:2-8 1. The Shulamite’s Fears revealed by her Dream: 5:2-8 The Shulamite’s 2 nd dream points to underlying unstated tensions The Shulamite’s 2 nd dream points to underlying unstated tensions in her marriage to Solomon. The dream does not specify her fears; in her marriage to Solomon. The dream does not specify her fears; but the context of the story and our own real-life experiences can but the context of the story and our own real-life experiences can suggest some of her likely concerns. suggest some of her likely concerns. A. Fear over differing expectations regarding sex. A. Fear over differing expectations regarding sex. In the dream, Solomon came to her room late at night, seeking In the dream, Solomon came to her room late at night, seeking entrance (with very flattering words). It seems evident that he had entrance (with very flattering words). It seems evident that he had in mind something more than a midnight chat. The fact that she in mind something more than a midnight chat. The fact that she initially refused his entrance seems to indicate different needs and initially refused his entrance seems to indicate different needs and expectations in their sex life. Problems and disappointments in the expectations in their sex life. Problems and disappointments in the area of sexuality are a common source of deep relational pain. area of sexuality are a common source of deep relational pain. B. Fear of saying what you REALLY want to say. B. Fear of saying what you REALLY want to say. The Shulamite may have had any number of concerns or needs on The Shulamite may have had any number of concerns or needs on her heart that she wished she had the freedom to speak to Solomon her heart that she wished she had the freedom to speak to Solomon about. Was she afraid of hurting him? That he would become about. Was she afraid of hurting him? That he would become 2/5/17 535 2/5/17 535 angry? That he would retaliate? That he would run into the arms angry? That he would retaliate? That he would run into the arms of his 60 other queens? That he would blame her for their of his 60 other queens? That he would blame her for their problems? That he would reject her? Fear over how the other problems? That he would reject her? Fear over how the other person will react when we speak up for ourselves causes us to bury person will react when we speak up for ourselves causes us to bury poisonous seeds of bitterness and resentment in our souls. It is poisonous seeds of bitterness and resentment in our souls. It is impossible to pursue true love with another person when our hearts impossible to pursue true love with another person when our hearts are filled with unstated feelings. are filled with unstated feelings. C. Fear of being disconnected and distant. C. Fear of being disconnected and distant. Solomon was, perhaps, the busiest man on earth. His time and Solomon was, perhaps, the busiest man on earth. His time and energy had to be divided among so many people and duties, not to energy had to be divided among so many people and duties, not to mention his own private projects (Ecclesiastes 2) and his many, mention his own private projects (Ecclesiastes 2) and his many, many other women. It is not hard to imagine that over time the many other women. It is not hard to imagine that over time the Shulamite felt increasingly disconnected from Solomon, to the Shulamite felt increasingly disconnected from Solomon, to the point where she did not really “know” him as she had at first. In point where she did not really “know” him as she had at first. In marriage, it is quite common over time for husband and wife to marriage, it is quite common over time for husband and wife to become more like “roommates” rather than “lovers.” It takes become more like “roommates” rather than “lovers.” It takes intentionality, time and loving communication in order to stay intentionality, time and loving communication in order to stay deeply connected to another soul. Otherwise, you will eventually deeply connected to another soul. Otherwise, you will eventually become like ‘strangers passing in the night.’ become like ‘strangers passing in the night.’ 2. The Shulamite’s Longings revealed by her Speech: 8:1-14 2. The Shulamite’s Longings revealed by her Speech: 8:1-14 So many hopes and longings are expressed in the Shulamite’s final So many hopes and longings are expressed in the Shulamite’s final speech. (The notes cover this section in detail. Here we highlight speech. (The notes cover this section in detail. Here we highlight just a few of her key themes.) just a few of her key themes.) A. Longing for exclusive devotion. A. Longing for exclusive devotion. “Place me like a seal over your heart . . .” (8:6). Marital love “Place me like a seal over your heart . . .” (8:6). Marital love should have protective jealousy, just as God has holy, righteous should have protective jealousy, just as God has holy, righteous jealousy for our exclusive devotion to Him (Exodus 20:4-6). The jealousy for our exclusive devotion to Him (Exodus 20:4-6). The Shulamite longed to be the one-and-only love of Solomon’s heart. Shulamite longed to be the one-and-only love of Solomon’s heart. Sadly, he dashed her longing to the ground as he pursued the lusts Sadly, he dashed her longing to the ground as he pursued the lusts of his heart and increased his harem to over 1,000 women. God of his heart and increased his harem to over 1,000 women. God designed marriage to be a relationship between 1 man and 1 designed marriage to be a relationship between 1 man and 1 woman. She was longing for a “till death do us part” kind of woman. She was longing for a “till death do us part” kind of marriage. That’s the way it’s supposed to be. She was right to marriage. That’s the way it’s supposed to be. She was right to long for that. long for that. B. Longing for a spouse that values love as much as she does. B. Longing for a spouse that values love as much as she does. “If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be “If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned” (8:7b - NLT). utterly scorned” (8:7b - NLT). The Shulamite was the first to sing: Money can’t buy me love. The The Shulamite was the first to sing: Money can’t buy me love. The 2/5/17 536 2/5/17 536 Beatles were just copying her song! There are no substitutes for Beatles were just copying her song! There are no substitutes for real love. Possessions, power, money, position – none of these can real love. Possessions, power, money, position – none of these can replace true love. Solomon said in Proverbs (I’m paraphrasing replace true love. Solomon said in Proverbs (I’m paraphrasing here) that it would be better to live in a little house with big love, here) that it would be better to live in a little house with big love, than to live in a big house with little love. The Shulamite believed than to live in a big house with little love. The Shulamite believed that. She was married to the richest, most powerful man in the that. She was married to the richest, most powerful man in the world. But all of his “stuff” was worthless to her without his true world. But all of his “stuff” was worthless to her without his true love. If you really want to “provide” for your spouse, make sure love. If you really want to “provide” for your spouse, make sure you are providing real love. Anything less is a cheap substitute. you are providing real love. Anything less is a cheap substitute. C. Longing for sexual purity and wholeness. C. Longing for sexual purity and wholeness. The Shulamite expresses concern for younger women, that their The Shulamite expresses concern for younger women, that their purity would be preserved for their marriage day. So, those who purity would be preserved for their marriage day. So, those who are listening say that they will try to help young women. If the are listening say that they will try to help young women. If the young woman is a wall (protects herself from men) then they will young woman is a wall (protects herself from men) then they will celebrate her. If she is a door (wanting to let everyone in) then celebrate her. If she is a door (wanting to let everyone in) then they will try to protect her from aggressive men. The underlying they will try to protect her from aggressive men. The underlying message is that sexual purity is valuable because it brings blessing message is that sexual purity is valuable because it brings blessing and contentment into the marriage relationship. So . . . help young and contentment into the marriage relationship. So . . . help young women (and men) to remain pure for their marriage day because women (and men) to remain pure for their marriage day because this will be a blessing to them and to their spouse. Purity before this will be a blessing to them and to their spouse. Purity before marriage is NOT being presented here as an issue of morality; marriage is NOT being presented here as an issue of morality; rather, it is presented as an issue of blessing upon oneself and rather, it is presented as an issue of blessing upon oneself and one’s spouse. In other words, purity is for your own good. one’s spouse. In other words, purity is for your own good. D. Longing for a lifetime of love. D. Longing for a lifetime of love. “Come away, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or like a young “Come away, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or like a young stag on the spice-laden mountains” (8:13,14). stag on the spice-laden mountains” (8:13,14). She utters the final line, echoing earlier longings for Solomon’s She utters the final line, echoing earlier longings for Solomon’s pursuit of her (2:7,9,17). She deeply desired to be cherished, pursuit of her (2:7,9,17). She deeply desired to be cherished, pursued and romanced for a lifetime, not just for one fleeting pursued and romanced for a lifetime, not just for one fleeting moment. She speaks here for all women, in all time! moment. She speaks here for all women, in all time! For further reading: For further reading: Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul - Stasi and Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul - Stasi and John Eldredge John Eldredge Wild at Heart - John Eldredge Wild at Heart - John Eldredge Healing the Masculine Soul - Gordon Dalbey Healing the Masculine Soul - Gordon Dalbey Sacred Romance - Brent Curtis and John Eldredge Sacred Romance - Brent Curtis and John Eldredge

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GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Vision and Vanity – Ecclesiastes Vision and Vanity – Ecclesiastes

Message 14 – In Search of Meaning Message 14 – In Search of Meaning Ecclesiastes 1:1-2:23 Ecclesiastes 1:1-2:23

Introduction Introduction The Hebrew name of this book is Qoheleth, which means The Hebrew name of this book is Qoheleth, which means “assembler (of students).” “Ecclesiastes” is the Greek translation “assembler (of students).” “Ecclesiastes” is the Greek translation of this title. Solomon is Qoheleth – the “teacher,” or “gatherer of of this title. Solomon is Qoheleth – the “teacher,” or “gatherer of students” and we, the readers are his students. Scholars believe students” and we, the readers are his students. Scholars believe that Ecclesiastes was composed later in Solomon’s life, while his that Ecclesiastes was composed later in Solomon’s life, while his heart was turning away from the Lord by his many wives. The heart was turning away from the Lord by his many wives. The book is a series of short essays and themed proverbs concerning book is a series of short essays and themed proverbs concerning the meaning (or, most often, the meaningLESSness) of life. the meaning (or, most often, the meaningLESSness) of life. Solomon recounts his own journey of seeking to find the true Solomon recounts his own journey of seeking to find the true purpose of existence, and how his search often led him to the dead purpose of existence, and how his search often led him to the dead end of skepticism and despair. end of skepticism and despair. The book of Ecclesiastes is not the only one of its kind in ancient The book of Ecclesiastes is not the only one of its kind in ancient literature. There are numerous similar examples of “pessimism literature. There are numerous similar examples of “pessimism literature” both before and after Ecclesiastes (eg. the Egyptian literature” both before and after Ecclesiastes (eg. the Egyptian work entitled The Man Who Was Tired of Life, 2200 BC and the work entitled The Man Who Was Tired of Life, 2200 BC and the Babylonian Dialogue of Pessimism, 1300 BC). Ecclesiastes stands Babylonian Dialogue of Pessimism, 1300 BC). Ecclesiastes stands in contrast to these other works, however in this: Life is in contrast to these other works, however in this: Life is meaningless only when it is studied “under the sun” – apart from meaningless only when it is studied “under the sun” – apart from belief in God and eternity. When we open up eyes of faith then belief in God and eternity. When we open up eyes of faith then life takes on new meaning. Our experience of life this side of life takes on new meaning. Our experience of life this side of eternity will always be stained by the effects of sin. With faith in eternity will always be stained by the effects of sin. With faith in God, however, life will be painful but not pointless. Purpose and God, however, life will be painful but not pointless. Purpose and pain will coexist in the heart of one who sees this present life as a pain will coexist in the heart of one who sees this present life as a small dot on the line of eternity – or as Rick Warren put it, life is a small dot on the line of eternity – or as Rick Warren put it, life is a test, a trust and a temporary assignment. test, a trust and a temporary assignment. The Endless Circle of Life: 1:1-11 The Endless Circle of Life: 1:1-11 A merry-go-around, with its bobbing horses and loud music, is A merry-go-around, with its bobbing horses and loud music, is supposed to be a fun ride at an amusement park. Yet, in reality it supposed to be a fun ride at an amusement park. Yet, in reality it is a false reality going in circles. When the ride stops, you get off is a false reality going in circles. When the ride stops, you get off right where you started, having gone nowhere. As Solomon right where you started, having gone nowhere. As Solomon 2/19/17 538 2/19/17 538 observed life, he began to feel like he was riding on a merry-go- observed life, he began to feel like he was riding on a merry-go- round – a circular, monotonous existence with no ultimate purpose. round – a circular, monotonous existence with no ultimate purpose. “The wind blows to the south and turns to the north; round and “The wind blows to the south and turns to the north; round and round it goes, ever returning on its course” (1:6). round it goes, ever returning on its course” (1:6). As he observed this endless repetition, day after day, he grew As he observed this endless repetition, day after day, he grew weary. Was there any real progress? Was life headed anywhere? weary. Was there any real progress? Was life headed anywhere? “All things are wearisome, more than one can say. The eye never “All things are wearisome, more than one can say. The eye never has enough of seeing, nor the ear its fill of hearing. What has has enough of seeing, nor the ear its fill of hearing. What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun. Is there anything of which one can is nothing new under the sun. Is there anything of which one can say, “Look! This is something new”? (1:8-10). say, “Look! This is something new”? (1:8-10). He realized that the past has almost no lasting value. What is past He realized that the past has almost no lasting value. What is past is mostly forgotten to those living in the present. And those who is mostly forgotten to those living in the present. And those who live in the present will be long-forgotten memories to those in the live in the present will be long-forgotten memories to those in the future. What use is there in living if you are forever forgotten? future. What use is there in living if you are forever forgotten? “No one remembers the former generations, and even those yet “No one remembers the former generations, and even those yet to come will not be remembered by those who follow them” to come will not be remembered by those who follow them” (1:11). (1:11). Certainly, there are rare exceptions where an individual becomes a Certainly, there are rare exceptions where an individual becomes a character remembered through the ages because of their impact character remembered through the ages because of their impact upon the world, either positively or negatively (Solomon is an upon the world, either positively or negatively (Solomon is an example). Yet, the vast majority will come and go without leaving example). Yet, the vast majority will come and go without leaving a significant, lasting impression upon the world. Thus, the a significant, lasting impression upon the world. Thus, the question is raised: IF my life does not have lasting value here in question is raised: IF my life does not have lasting value here in this world , then WHAT was the point of my life in the first place? this world , then WHAT was the point of my life in the first place? Trying to Make Sense of Life: 1:12-14 Trying to Make Sense of Life: 1:12-14 Solomon identifies himself and states his intention. Life “under Solomon identifies himself and states his intention. Life “under the sun” seems to be a heavy burden placed upon mankind by the sun” seems to be a heavy burden placed upon mankind by God. He will seek to find the meaning behind it all, if there is any. God. He will seek to find the meaning behind it all, if there is any. “I, the Teacher, was king over Israel in Jerusalem. I applied my “I, the Teacher, was king over Israel in Jerusalem. I applied my mind to study and to explore by wisdom all that is done under the mind to study and to explore by wisdom all that is done under the heavens. What a heavy burden God has laid on mankind! I have heavens. What a heavy burden God has laid on mankind! I have seen all the things that are done under the sun; all of them are seen all the things that are done under the sun; all of them are meaningless, a chasing after the wind” (1:12-14). meaningless, a chasing after the wind” (1:12-14). The phrase “under the sun” is used 22 times in Ecclesiastes to The phrase “under the sun” is used 22 times in Ecclesiastes to refer to life lived here on earth, without any reference or refer to life lived here on earth, without any reference or connection to a future life in eternity with God. connection to a future life in eternity with God. 2/19/17 539 2/19/17 539

Experiments in Satisfaction: 1:15 - 2:11 Experiments in Satisfaction: 1:15 - 2:11 Trying to find some sort of meaning and purpose in life, Solomon Trying to find some sort of meaning and purpose in life, Solomon engaged in an array of experiments in satisfaction. The Rolling engaged in an array of experiments in satisfaction. The Rolling Stones hit song said, I can’t get no satisfaction. Solomon will try Stones hit song said, I can’t get no satisfaction. Solomon will try to find some satisfaction in life before he concludes the same. to find some satisfaction in life before he concludes the same. - In pursuit of Wisdom: 1:14-18 - In pursuit of Wisdom: 1:14-18 Solomon was, by God’s unique gifting, the wisest man on earth in Solomon was, by God’s unique gifting, the wisest man on earth in his day. Thus, his first experiment was to see if he could find his day. Thus, his first experiment was to see if he could find ultimate meaning in the pursuit of wisdom and knowledge. He ultimate meaning in the pursuit of wisdom and knowledge. He became something of a “secular philosopher.” became something of a “secular philosopher.” “I said to myself, “Look, I have increased in wisdom more than “I said to myself, “Look, I have increased in wisdom more than anyone who has ruled over Jerusalem before me; I have anyone who has ruled over Jerusalem before me; I have experienced much of wisdom and knowledge.” Then I applied experienced much of wisdom and knowledge.” Then I applied myself to the understanding of wisdom, and also of madness and myself to the understanding of wisdom, and also of madness and folly, but I learned that this, too, is a chasing after the wind. For folly, but I learned that this, too, is a chasing after the wind. For with much wisdom comes much sorrow; the more knowledge, the with much wisdom comes much sorrow; the more knowledge, the more grief” (1:16-18). more grief” (1:16-18). Solomon found that with increasing knowledge comes increasing Solomon found that with increasing knowledge comes increasing grief. Why? He does not tell us why; but we can guess. First , grief. Why? He does not tell us why; but we can guess. First , knowledge increases our responsibility to do something with the knowledge increases our responsibility to do something with the knowledge that has been gathered. This boils down to work, and it knowledge that has been gathered. This boils down to work, and it is clear from Genesis 3:17-19 that all of man’s work on this earth is clear from Genesis 3:17-19 that all of man’s work on this earth will be painful . (Note Eccl.2:23 – “All his days his task is painful will be painful . (Note Eccl.2:23 – “All his days his task is painful and grievous; even at night his mind does not rest.” ) Second , as and grievous; even at night his mind does not rest.” ) Second , as we set about our work in this world we are confronted head-on we set about our work in this world we are confronted head-on with everything that needs to be fixed. (Note Eccl.5:13 – “I have with everything that needs to be fixed. (Note Eccl.5:13 – “I have seen a grievous evil under the sun . . .”. ) We live in a very broken seen a grievous evil under the sun . . .”. ) We live in a very broken world, and the increased awareness of the pervasive pain and world, and the increased awareness of the pervasive pain and brokenness of our world brings grief to our souls. Third , we will brokenness of our world brings grief to our souls. Third , we will never be able to do enough in our lifetime to make things right, never be able to do enough in our lifetime to make things right, regardless of how much knowledge we acquire and apply. (Note regardless of how much knowledge we acquire and apply. (Note Eccl.1:15 – “What is crooked cannot be straightened, and what is Eccl.1:15 – “What is crooked cannot be straightened, and what is lacking cannot be counted.” ) Fourth , as knowledge increases we lacking cannot be counted.” ) Fourth , as knowledge increases we become more and more aware of how much we do not know and become more and more aware of how much we do not know and will never know. (Note Eccl.12:23 – “Be warned: the writing of will never know. (Note Eccl.12:23 – “Be warned: the writing of many books is endless, and excessive devotion to books is many books is endless, and excessive devotion to books is wearying to the body.” ) wearying to the body.” ) Thus, the pursuit of wisdom and knowledge filled Solomon’s mind Thus, the pursuit of wisdom and knowledge filled Solomon’s mind with information ; but it did not fill his soul with satisfaction . with information ; but it did not fill his soul with satisfaction . 2/19/17 540 2/19/17 540

True “wisdom” is seeing life from God’s perspective, and living our True “wisdom” is seeing life from God’s perspective, and living our lives accordingly. When we try to understand life apart from God, lives accordingly. When we try to understand life apart from God, we will inevitably fall short in our understanding (and thus, in our we will inevitably fall short in our understanding (and thus, in our living). This is why Solomon, earlier in his life, made this living). This is why Solomon, earlier in his life, made this declaration: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and declaration: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding” (Proverbs 9:10). the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding” (Proverbs 9:10). Our knowledge of God is the hub around which all true wisdom Our knowledge of God is the hub around which all true wisdom and learning must turn. This is what the Lord Himself declared: and learning must turn. This is what the Lord Himself declared: Thus says the Lord, “Let not a wise man boast of his wisdom, and Thus says the Lord, “Let not a wise man boast of his wisdom, and let not the mighty man boast of his might, let not a rich man boast let not the mighty man boast of his might, let not a rich man boast of his riches; but let him who boasts boast of this, that he of his riches; but let him who boasts boast of this, that he understands and knows Me, that I am the Lord who exercises understands and knows Me, that I am the Lord who exercises lovingkindness, justice and righteousness on earth; for I delight in lovingkindness, justice and righteousness on earth; for I delight in these things,” declares the Lord (Jeremiah 9:22-24). these things,” declares the Lord (Jeremiah 9:22-24).

- In pursuit of Pleasure: 2:1-3 - In pursuit of Pleasure: 2:1-3 Solomon next put away his philosophical books and turned to Solomon next put away his philosophical books and turned to hedonism (the pursuit of sensual pleasures). He had everything at hedonism (the pursuit of sensual pleasures). He had everything at his disposal to become the world’s foremost pleasure-seeker. his disposal to become the world’s foremost pleasure-seeker. I said to myself, “Come now, I will test you with pleasure to find I said to myself, “Come now, I will test you with pleasure to find out what is good.” But that also proved to be meaningless. out what is good.” But that also proved to be meaningless. “Laughter,” I said, “is madness. And what does pleasure “Laughter,” I said, “is madness. And what does pleasure accomplish?” I tried cheering myself with wine, and embracing accomplish?” I tried cheering myself with wine, and embracing folly – my mind still guiding me with wisdom. I wanted to see folly – my mind still guiding me with wisdom. I wanted to see what was good for people to do under the heavens during the few what was good for people to do under the heavens during the few days of their lives” (2:1-3). days of their lives” (2:1-3). Ancient kings used court comedians to provide entertainment. Ancient kings used court comedians to provide entertainment. Comedy helped Solomon to laugh for a while; but soon the jokes Comedy helped Solomon to laugh for a while; but soon the jokes became stale and the laughter seemed like madness. “Like the became stale and the laughter seemed like madness. “Like the crackling of thorns under the pot, so is the laughter of fools. This crackling of thorns under the pot, so is the laughter of fools. This too is meaningless” (7:6). Experiments in drinking gave him too is meaningless” (7:6). Experiments in drinking gave him temporary relief; but when the effects of the wine wore off, he was temporary relief; but when the effects of the wine wore off, he was back in the painful real world (with a hangover and a headache). back in the painful real world (with a hangover and a headache).

There is nothing wrong with pleasure, unless you are pursuing There is nothing wrong with pleasure, unless you are pursuing pleasure for pleasure’s sake, which is a dead-end street. Scripture pleasure for pleasure’s sake, which is a dead-end street. Scripture teaches that neither laughter nor wine is wrong; but our soul’s teaches that neither laughter nor wine is wrong; but our soul’s deepest craving can only be met by God. Do you find yourself deepest craving can only be met by God. Do you find yourself needing comedy to laugh, or needing stimulants to make you feel needing comedy to laugh, or needing stimulants to make you feel good? God created the pleasures of this world for our enjoyment good? God created the pleasures of this world for our enjoyment (see 1Timothy 4:3-5). But He did not created these pleasures to (see 1Timothy 4:3-5). But He did not created these pleasures to act as a substitute for Him. “In YOUR PRESENCE is fullness of joy” act as a substitute for Him. “In YOUR PRESENCE is fullness of joy” (Psalm 16:11). (Psalm 16:11). 2/19/17 541 2/19/17 541 - In pursuit of Projects: 2:4,5 - In pursuit of Projects: 2:4,5 Turning from hedonism, Solomon decided to try to find meaning Turning from hedonism, Solomon decided to try to find meaning by being very resourceful and industrious. Perhaps if he built by being very resourceful and industrious. Perhaps if he built things, particularly things that would improve the environment, he things, particularly things that would improve the environment, he would feel satisfied with his life. would feel satisfied with his life. “I undertook great projects: I built houses for myself and planted “I undertook great projects: I built houses for myself and planted vineyards. I made gardens and parks and planted all kinds of vineyards. I made gardens and parks and planted all kinds of fruit trees in them. I made reservoirs to water groves of fruit trees in them. I made reservoirs to water groves of flourishing trees” (2:4,5). flourishing trees” (2:4,5). Solomon’s spared no expense to luxuriate all of his properties with Solomon’s spared no expense to luxuriate all of his properties with gardens and trees and ponds and, and, and . . . (He spent 13 years gardens and trees and ponds and, and, and . . . (He spent 13 years building his own residences – 1Kings 7:1-12). Yet, at the end of it building his own residences – 1Kings 7:1-12). Yet, at the end of it all, he walked through his vast real estate holdings and found all, he walked through his vast real estate holdings and found nothing deep enough to quench the nagging hunger in his soul. It nothing deep enough to quench the nagging hunger in his soul. It was as if the saying of Saint Augustine (300 AD) was playing out was as if the saying of Saint Augustine (300 AD) was playing out in the soul of a man living 1,300 years before him: “Thou has in the soul of a man living 1,300 years before him: “Thou has made us for Thyself, O God, and our heart is restless until it finds made us for Thyself, O God, and our heart is restless until it finds its rest in Thee.” its rest in Thee.”

Concerning earthly treasures, Jesus said: “Do not store up for Concerning earthly treasures, Jesus said: “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:19-21). IF we use is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:19-21). IF we use earthly treasures for heavenly purposes, we will find great earthly treasures for heavenly purposes, we will find great satisfaction and will receive a great reward. IF we use earthly satisfaction and will receive a great reward. IF we use earthly treasures only for earthly purposes, we will find little satisfaction treasures only for earthly purposes, we will find little satisfaction and will forfeit the rewards of heaven. Jesus gave this parable to and will forfeit the rewards of heaven. Jesus gave this parable to illustrate the wrong way to use earthly wealth: “The ground of a illustrate the wrong way to use earthly wealth: “The ground of a certain rich man yielded an abundant harvest. He thought to certain rich man yielded an abundant harvest. He thought to himself, ‘What shall I do? I have no place to store my crops.’ Then himself, ‘What shall I do? I have no place to store my crops.’ Then he said, ‘This is what I’ll do. I will tear down my barns and build he said, ‘This is what I’ll do. I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store my surplus grain. And I’ll say to bigger ones, and there I will store my surplus grain. And I’ll say to myself, ‘You have plenty of grain laid up for many years. Take life myself, ‘You have plenty of grain laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink and be merry.’ But God said to him, ‘You fool! This easy; eat, drink and be merry.’ But God said to him, ‘You fool! This very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself?’ This is how it will be with what you have prepared for yourself?’ This is how it will be with whoever stores up things for themselves but is not rich toward whoever stores up things for themselves but is not rich toward God” (Luke 12:16-21). God” (Luke 12:16-21).

- In pursuit of Possessions: 2:7,8 - In pursuit of Possessions: 2:7,8 Next, Solomon turned to increasing his net worth. If he were alive Next, Solomon turned to increasing his net worth. If he were alive 2/19/17 542 2/19/17 542 today, he would certainly top the annual list of the wealthiest today, he would certainly top the annual list of the wealthiest people alive. (See 1Kings 10:14-29.) people alive. (See 1Kings 10:14-29.) “I bought male and female slaves and had other slaves who were “I bought male and female slaves and had other slaves who were born in my house. I also owned more herds and flocks than born in my house. I also owned more herds and flocks than anyone in Jerusalem before me. I amassed silver and gold for anyone in Jerusalem before me. I amassed silver and gold for myself, and the treasure of kings and provinces” (2:7,8a). myself, and the treasure of kings and provinces” (2:7,8a). Materialism is rooted in greed : needing better, bigger, newer. It is Materialism is rooted in greed : needing better, bigger, newer. It is fueled by envy : jealousy over the possessions of others. It leads to fueled by envy : jealousy over the possessions of others. It leads to coveting : wishing that what others have could be mine. All three coveting : wishing that what others have could be mine. All three lead to an endless pursuit of MORE. When the culture encourages lead to an endless pursuit of MORE. When the culture encourages this desire for the newest and best of everything, then we are this desire for the newest and best of everything, then we are pulled into the endless pursuit of things that can never satisfy us. pulled into the endless pursuit of things that can never satisfy us. - In pursuit of Sexual Pleasure: 2:8b - In pursuit of Sexual Pleasure: 2:8b Here we gain insight into why Solomon accumulated 700 wives Here we gain insight into why Solomon accumulated 700 wives and 300 concubines. He was trying to satisfy his thirst for delight. and 300 concubines. He was trying to satisfy his thirst for delight. “I acquired male and female singers, and a harem as well – the “I acquired male and female singers, and a harem as well – the delights of a man’s heart” (2:8b). delights of a man’s heart” (2:8b). Hugh Hefner had his Playboy Mansion. Solomon had something Hugh Hefner had his Playboy Mansion. Solomon had something more the size of a Playboy City, teeming with beautiful women more the size of a Playboy City, teeming with beautiful women from all over the world. Yet, no amount of women could satisfy from all over the world. Yet, no amount of women could satisfy his sexual cravings. 1Kings 11:4 sadly records that his his sexual cravings. 1Kings 11:4 sadly records that his uncontrolled sexual lusts caused him to give in to his foreign uncontrolled sexual lusts caused him to give in to his foreign wives’ religions and gods. His own heart gradually drifted away wives’ religions and gods. His own heart gradually drifted away from the God of his youth. from the God of his youth. - A summary of his experiments: 2:10,11 - A summary of his experiments: 2:10,11 At the end of all of these experiments, Solomon could not say that At the end of all of these experiments, Solomon could not say that he was truly satisfied. He was satiated, but not satisfied. He he was truly satisfied. He was satiated, but not satisfied. He indulged all of his physical, intellectual and sensual appetites; but indulged all of his physical, intellectual and sensual appetites; but there was still something missing in his soul. there was still something missing in his soul. “I denied myself nothing my eyes desired; I refused my heart no “I denied myself nothing my eyes desired; I refused my heart no pleasure. My heart took delight in all my labor, and this was the pleasure. My heart took delight in all my labor, and this was the reward for all my toil. Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had reward for all my toil. Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done and what I had toiled to achieve, everything was meaning- done and what I had toiled to achieve, everything was meaning- less, a chasing after the wind; nothing was gained under the less, a chasing after the wind; nothing was gained under the sun” (2:10,11). sun” (2:10,11). The phrase “when I surveyed . . .” means to “come face to face.” The phrase “when I surveyed . . .” means to “come face to face.” When Solomon came face to face with the reality of all that he had When Solomon came face to face with the reality of all that he had 2/19/17 543 2/19/17 543 done, he had to conclude that nothing was gained under the sun. done, he had to conclude that nothing was gained under the sun. We could say of his experiments to find satisfaction: Everything We could say of his experiments to find satisfaction: Everything ventured, nothing gained. In fact, much was lost. His experiments ventured, nothing gained. In fact, much was lost. His experiments ultimately set his whole nation on a path of idolatries just like his ultimately set his whole nation on a path of idolatries just like his own, turning their hearts away from the God of his father, David. own, turning their hearts away from the God of his father, David. Wisdom and Folly both Meaningless: 2:12-16 Wisdom and Folly both Meaningless: 2:12-16 Solomon’s final reflection gives us an indication of how Solomon’s final reflection gives us an indication of how completely he had closed his spirit off to “above the sun” thinking completely he had closed his spirit off to “above the sun” thinking involving God, eternity, rewards for right living, etc. involving God, eternity, rewards for right living, etc. “The fate of the fool will overtake me also. What then do I gain “The fate of the fool will overtake me also. What then do I gain by being wise?” I said to myself, ‘This too is meaningless.’ For by being wise?” I said to myself, ‘This too is meaningless.’ For the wise, like the fool, will not be long remembered; the days the wise, like the fool, will not be long remembered; the days have already come when both have been forgotten. Like the fool, have already come when both have been forgotten. Like the fool, the wise too must die” (2:15,16). the wise too must die” (2:15,16). Two dead men have common fates: they both die and are buried. Two dead men have common fates: they both die and are buried. IF that is the end of the story, then Solomon was right: life is IF that is the end of the story, then Solomon was right: life is meaningless. Jesus, however, pointed out that two dead men may meaningless. Jesus, however, pointed out that two dead men may have very uncommon futures: One may hear GOD speak words of have very uncommon futures: One may hear GOD speak words of commendation and praise for a life well-lived. The other may commendation and praise for a life well-lived. The other may hear GOD speak words of condemnation and reproof for a life hear GOD speak words of condemnation and reproof for a life well-wasted. (See all of Matthew 25 where Jesus addressed the well-wasted. (See all of Matthew 25 where Jesus addressed the issue of how our earthly lives will be evaluated in eternity.) issue of how our earthly lives will be evaluated in eternity.) Solomon was not looking beyond the grave for answers. At this Solomon was not looking beyond the grave for answers. At this point in his spiritual wandering, the grave was truly a “dead-end.” point in his spiritual wandering, the grave was truly a “dead-end.” Conclusion: Life “under the sun” is Vanity: 2:17-23 Conclusion: Life “under the sun” is Vanity: 2:17-23 Solomon came to the conclusion that life “under the sun” had no Solomon came to the conclusion that life “under the sun” had no ultimate meaning. In fact, he came to the low point where he ultimate meaning. In fact, he came to the low point where he “hated” all of life and all of his works. “hated” all of life and all of his works. “So I hated life, because the work that is done under the sun was “So I hated life, because the work that is done under the sun was grievous to me. All of it is meaningless, a chasing after the wind. grievous to me. All of it is meaningless, a chasing after the wind. I hated all the things I had toiled for under the sun, because I I hated all the things I had toiled for under the sun, because I must leave them to the one who comes after me” (2:17,18). must leave them to the one who comes after me” (2:17,18). The Hebrew word “hebel” is usually translated “vanity,” or The Hebrew word “hebel” is usually translated “vanity,” or “meaningless.” It basically means, “zero.” So, what Solomon “meaningless.” It basically means, “zero.” So, what Solomon discovered was this: discovered was this: Life apart from God is a zero-sum game. Life apart from God is a zero-sum game. Up until this point in the book, Solomon has used the pronouns I, Up until this point in the book, Solomon has used the pronouns I, 2/19/17 544 2/19/17 544

me, my and myself a whopping 75 times! In contrast, he has me, my and myself a whopping 75 times! In contrast, he has mentioned “God” only once. Yet, as he opens the next section and mentioned “God” only once. Yet, as he opens the next section and begins to turn his eyes toward God (2:24-26), he will mention God begins to turn his eyes toward God (2:24-26), he will mention God 7 times and himself (“I”) only once. This change in grammar is no 7 times and himself (“I”) only once. This change in grammar is no mere coincidence. It points to the major theme of the book of mere coincidence. It points to the major theme of the book of Ecclesiastes. When my world revolves are “me, myself and I,” it Ecclesiastes. When my world revolves are “me, myself and I,” it becomes a pointless exercise in self-indulgence (vanity). When becomes a pointless exercise in self-indulgence (vanity). When my world revolves around “God and His eternal purposes,” then my world revolves around “God and His eternal purposes,” then everything else begins to come into focus. everything else begins to come into focus.

Solomon ’s search for satisfaction was 3,000 years ago. Yet , how Solomon ’s search for satisfaction was 3,000 years ago. Yet , how different was he from us, today? He had no stock market to invest different was he from us, today? He had no stock market to invest in; but he amassed riches beyond anyone in his day. He had no in; but he amassed riches beyond anyone in his day. He had no Bluetooth stereo systems to fill his house with music; but he had Bluetooth stereo systems to fill his house with music; but he had real-life singers and choirs to bring the music live. He had no real-life singers and choirs to bring the music live. He had no Internet to browse for sexual imagery; but he had more than Internet to browse for sexual imagery; but he had more than 1,000 real-life women he could call upon at any time. He didn’t 1,000 real-life women he could call upon at any time. He didn’t have late-night T.V. hosts to laugh with; but he had court jesters have late-night T.V. hosts to laugh with; but he had court jesters whose monologues were every bit as funny. He didn’t have the whose monologues were every bit as funny. He didn’t have the latest BMW to ride in; but he had the most exotic, handcrafted latest BMW to ride in; but he had the most exotic, handcrafted vehicles of his day, powered by the best horses in the world. Is vehicles of his day, powered by the best horses in the world. Is there really anything NEW under the sun? Our search methods there really anything NEW under the sun? Our search methods have advanced beyond Solomon’s; but our search for meaning have advanced beyond Solomon’s; but our search for meaning and satisfaction is essentially identical to his. The outcome will be and satisfaction is essentially identical to his. The outcome will be the same, IF we try to find satisfaction apart from a daily, the same, IF we try to find satisfaction apart from a daily, deepening relationship with our Creator-God. Where are YOU deepening relationship with our Creator-God. Where are YOU searching for satisfaction and joy? Asaph, the writer of Psalm 73 searching for satisfaction and joy? Asaph, the writer of Psalm 73 was, like Solomon, searching for meaning in life. His conclusion: was, like Solomon, searching for meaning in life. His conclusion: “Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire “Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but GOD is the besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but GOD is the strength of my heart and my portion forever” (Psalm 73:25,26). strength of my heart and my portion forever” (Psalm 73:25,26).

Epilogue: An Atheist’s Bible? Epilogue: An Atheist’s Bible? It is instructive to study the thinking of atheist when it comes to the It is instructive to study the thinking of atheist when it comes to the question of purpose – Why are we here? Richard Dawkins, the question of purpose – Why are we here? Richard Dawkins, the most outspoken atheist in our day, concludes that we are merely most outspoken atheist in our day, concludes that we are merely DNA propagating machines. We exist for no other reason than to DNA propagating machines. We exist for no other reason than to attempt to pass along a certain set of genes that will advance the attempt to pass along a certain set of genes that will advance the process of biological evolution. Similarly, the renowned process of biological evolution. Similarly, the renowned paleontologist Stephen Jay Gould concludes: "We are here paleontologist Stephen Jay Gould concludes: "We are here because one odd group of fishes had a peculiar fin anatomy that because one odd group of fishes had a peculiar fin anatomy that 2/19/17 545 2/19/17 545 could transform into legs for terrestrial creatures; because the could transform into legs for terrestrial creatures; because the earth never froze entirely during an ice age; because a small and earth never froze entirely during an ice age; because a small and tenuous species, arising in Africa a quarter of a million years ago, tenuous species, arising in Africa a quarter of a million years ago, has managed, so far, to survive by hook and by crook. We may has managed, so far, to survive by hook and by crook. We may yearn for a 'higher' answer but none exists." In other words, if yearn for a 'higher' answer but none exists." In other words, if you follow the philosophy of Naturalism (nature is all there is) our you follow the philosophy of Naturalism (nature is all there is) our purpose can only be derived from the biological/cosmological purpose can only be derived from the biological/cosmological accident that we find ourselves in. We are here to play our part in accident that we find ourselves in. We are here to play our part in this mysterious, unplanned accident called “LIFE.” this mysterious, unplanned accident called “LIFE.” Ursula Le Guin, described in 2016 by Time magazine as Ursula Le Guin, described in 2016 by Time magazine as “America's greatest living science fiction writer" put it this way: “America's greatest living science fiction writer" put it this way: “Things don't have purposes, as if the universe were a machine, “Things don't have purposes, as if the universe were a machine, where every part has a useful function. What's the function of a where every part has a useful function. What's the function of a galaxy? I don't know if our life has a purpose and I don't see that it galaxy? I don't know if our life has a purpose and I don't see that it matters. What does matter is that we're a part. Like a thread in a matters. What does matter is that we're a part. Like a thread in a cloth or a grassblade in a field. It is and we are. What we do is cloth or a grassblade in a field. It is and we are. What we do is like wind blowing on the grass.” ― Ursula K. Le Guin , The Lathe like wind blowing on the grass.” ― Ursula K. Le Guin , The Lathe of Heaven of Heaven Her conclusion reminds me of the famous song by the band Her conclusion reminds me of the famous song by the band Kansas: Dust in the Wind. Kansas: Dust in the Wind. I close my eyes, only for a moment and the moment's gone. I close my eyes, only for a moment and the moment's gone. All my dreams pass before my eyes, a curiosity. All my dreams pass before my eyes, a curiosity. Dust in the wind; all they are is dust in the wind. Dust in the wind; all they are is dust in the wind. Same old song, just a drop of water in an endless sea. Same old song, just a drop of water in an endless sea. All we do crumbles to the ground though we refuse to see All we do crumbles to the ground though we refuse to see Dust in the wind; all we are is dust in the wind Dust in the wind; all we are is dust in the wind Now, don't hang on, nothing lasts forever but the earth and sky Now, don't hang on, nothing lasts forever but the earth and sky It slips away, and all your money won't another minute buy It slips away, and all your money won't another minute buy Dust in the wind; all we are is dust in the wind Dust in the wind; all we are is dust in the wind Dust in the wind; everything is dust in the wind Dust in the wind; everything is dust in the wind How different a perspective we are given from the biblical point of How different a perspective we are given from the biblical point of view. 1. We are here because God created us in His image and view. 1. We are here because God created us in His image and gave us the gift of life (Gen.1:27; John 10:10; 11:25,26). 2. We gave us the gift of life (Gen.1:27; John 10:10; 11:25,26). 2. We are here because God desires to have a personal relationship with are here because God desires to have a personal relationship with each of us (John 17:3; Matt.11:28-30). 3. We are here because we each of us (John 17:3; Matt.11:28-30). 3. We are here because we reflect the nature of God to one another (1John 4:7; John 13:15). reflect the nature of God to one another (1John 4:7; John 13:15). 4. We are here to reproduce for the glory of God and rule the earth 4. We are here to reproduce for the glory of God and rule the earth as God’s viceroys (Gen.1:28). 5. We are here to enter into the as God’s viceroys (Gen.1:28). 5. We are here to enter into the cosmic struggle against evil, as God’s sons and daughters cosmic struggle against evil, as God’s sons and daughters (Eph.6:10-18). 6. We are here to walk in the good works He has (Eph.6:10-18). 6. We are here to walk in the good works He has prepared for each of us to walk in (Eph.2:10). 7. We are here to prepared for each of us to walk in (Eph.2:10). 7. We are here to live in such a way as to store up treasure in heaven (Matt.6:19-21). live in such a way as to store up treasure in heaven (Matt.6:19-21). 2/19/17 546 2/19/17 546 8. We are here to love God with all of our heart, soul, mind and 8. We are here to love God with all of our heart, soul, mind and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves (Matt.22:27,28). strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves (Matt.22:27,28). 9. We are here to prepare for eternity (2Cor.5:9,10). 10. We were 9. We are here to prepare for eternity (2Cor.5:9,10). 10. We were made to live forever . . . in the presence of our Creator-God (Luke made to live forever . . . in the presence of our Creator-God (Luke 23:42,43; John 14:1-3). 23:42,43; John 14:1-3). From the Christian point of view, this life is NOT a meaningless From the Christian point of view, this life is NOT a meaningless dot. It is, rather, a dot on the line of eternity. True purpose cannot dot. It is, rather, a dot on the line of eternity. True purpose cannot be derived from our place in this world. True purpose can only be be derived from our place in this world. True purpose can only be found in sources that transcend this world – namely, our Creator- found in sources that transcend this world – namely, our Creator- God and the eternal paradise that He made for us to inhabit. A. W. God and the eternal paradise that He made for us to inhabit. A. W. Tozer put it this way: Tozer put it this way: “The man who has God for his treasure has all things in One. “The man who has God for his treasure has all things in One. Many ordinary treasures may be denied him, or if he is allowed to Many ordinary treasures may be denied him, or if he is allowed to have them, the enjoyment of them will be so tempered that they will have them, the enjoyment of them will be so tempered that they will never be necessary to his happiness. Or if he must see them go, one never be necessary to his happiness. Or if he must see them go, one after one, he will scarcely feel a sense of loss, for having the after one, he will scarcely feel a sense of loss, for having the Source of all things he has in One all satisfaction, all pleasure, all Source of all things he has in One all satisfaction, all pleasure, all delight. Whatever he may lose he has actually lost nothing, for he delight. Whatever he may lose he has actually lost nothing, for he now has it all in One, and he has it purely, legitimately and now has it all in One, and he has it purely, legitimately and forever.” forever.” To put it differently, if you tear Genesis 1-3 out of the Bible, along To put it differently, if you tear Genesis 1-3 out of the Bible, along with Revelation 19-22 , you are left with a story of human with Revelation 19-22 , you are left with a story of human bloodshed – the “survival of the fittest.” In Genesis 4, Cain bloodshed – the “survival of the fittest.” In Genesis 4, Cain murdered Abel. Cain was stronger than Abel, thus he survived and murdered Abel. Cain was stronger than Abel, thus he survived and succeeded in passing on his genes. In the last line of Revelation 18 succeeded in passing on his genes. In the last line of Revelation 18 we read of the blood of the prophets and saints who have been we read of the blood of the prophets and saints who have been slain on the earth by those stronger than they. The slayers were slain on the earth by those stronger than they. The slayers were successful in surviving and passing on their DNA. The saints fell successful in surviving and passing on their DNA. The saints fell like Abel . . . into meaningless nothingness. And, of course, in the like Abel . . . into meaningless nothingness. And, of course, in the middle of the story, we find Jesus being put to death by rulers and middle of the story, we find Jesus being put to death by rulers and authorities. Pilate won . . . Jesus lost . . . in the ruthless biological authorities. Pilate won . . . Jesus lost . . . in the ruthless biological fight for survival. fight for survival. Our good friend Abdu Murray (North American Director for Ravi Our good friend Abdu Murray (North American Director for Ravi Zacharias International Ministries) wrote to me: Zacharias International Ministries) wrote to me: Without that objective purpose and value (provided by the Without that objective purpose and value (provided by the beginning and end of the story) then we are just a part of nature beginning and end of the story) then we are just a part of nature which, as Tennyson wrote, is "red in tooth and claw" (relentless in which, as Tennyson wrote, is "red in tooth and claw" (relentless in shedding blood). Thank God for the true beginning and end! shedding blood). Thank God for the true beginning and end!

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Message 15 – God in the Picture Message 15 – God in the Picture Ecclesiastes 2:24-5:7 Ecclesiastes 2:24-5:7

Introduction Introduction In the first 2 chapters of Ecclesiastes, Solomon recounted how he In the first 2 chapters of Ecclesiastes, Solomon recounted how he was unable to find meaning and satisfaction in life “under the sun” was unable to find meaning and satisfaction in life “under the sun” (i.e., apart from having God and eternity in view). Now, his (i.e., apart from having God and eternity in view). Now, his perspective changes as he brings God into view. We still live in a perspective changes as he brings God into view. We still live in a fallen world, beset by the implications of the curse (Genesis 3:14- fallen world, beset by the implications of the curse (Genesis 3:14- 24). Ejected from paradise, we will always experience pain in our 24). Ejected from paradise, we will always experience pain in our lives. Yet, God still allows us to find a measure of satisfaction and lives. Yet, God still allows us to find a measure of satisfaction and joy in this earthly existence, even though it is a mere shadow of the joy in this earthly existence, even though it is a mere shadow of the glory that is to come. The key is that we must use eyes of faith to glory that is to come. The key is that we must use eyes of faith to keep Him in view in this life. To borrow words from the apostle keep Him in view in this life. To borrow words from the apostle Paul, we must “honor Him as God and give thanks,” otherwise our Paul, we must “honor Him as God and give thanks,” otherwise our “foolish hearts will become darkened” (Romans 1:21). “foolish hearts will become darkened” (Romans 1:21). Seeing life as a gift from God: 2:24-26 Seeing life as a gift from God: 2:24-26 Solomon had tried in vain to find ultimate satisfaction in various Solomon had tried in vain to find ultimate satisfaction in various pursuits. It was as if he had made these pursuits gods in and of pursuits. It was as if he had made these pursuits gods in and of themselves, only to find that none of them (wisdom, pleasure, themselves, only to find that none of them (wisdom, pleasure, industry, possessions, sex) could satisfy the deepest longings of his industry, possessions, sex) could satisfy the deepest longings of his heart. Now, he begins to see that these pursuits are can never heart. Now, he begins to see that these pursuits are can never substitutes as gods; rather, they are gifts from the one true God. substitutes as gods; rather, they are gifts from the one true God. “A person can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find “A person can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in their own toil. This too, I see, is from the hand of satisfaction in their own toil. This too, I see, is from the hand of God, for without him, who can eat or find enjoyment? To the God, for without him, who can eat or find enjoyment? To the person who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and person who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness, but to the sinner he gives the task of gathering and happiness, but to the sinner he gives the task of gathering and storing up wealth to hand it over to the one who pleases God. storing up wealth to hand it over to the one who pleases God. This too is meaningless, a chasing after the wind” (2:24-26). This too is meaningless, a chasing after the wind” (2:24-26). The ideas expressed here are repeated like a refrain throughout the The ideas expressed here are repeated like a refrain throughout the rest of the book (see 3:12-14; 3:22; 5:18-20; 8:15; 9:7-9). There IS rest of the book (see 3:12-14; 3:22; 5:18-20; 8:15; 9:7-9). There IS a way to find satisfaction in the midst of this broken world. We a way to find satisfaction in the midst of this broken world. We must see that our eating, drinking, working, playing, knowledge, must see that our eating, drinking, working, playing, knowledge, happiness, wealth, etc. is all a gift from the hand of God. We can happiness, wealth, etc. is all a gift from the hand of God. We can 2/26/17 548 2/26/17 548 enjoy these gifts IF we receive them with gratitude and enjoy these gifts IF we receive them with gratitude and contentment, not entitlement. contentment, not entitlement. In the New Testament, the apostle Paul warns against false In the New Testament, the apostle Paul warns against false teachers who insist that being “spiritual” is based on denying teachers who insist that being “spiritual” is based on denying oneself the privilege of enjoying God’s gracious gifts: oneself the privilege of enjoying God’s gracious gifts: “ . . . men who forbid marriage and advocate abstaining from “ . . . men who forbid marriage and advocate abstaining from foods which God has created to be gratefully shared in by those foods which God has created to be gratefully shared in by those who believe and know the truth. For everything created by God is who believe and know the truth. For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with gratitude; good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with gratitude; for it is sanctified by means of the word of God and prayer” for it is sanctified by means of the word of God and prayer” (1Timothy 4:4,5). (1Timothy 4:4,5). Seeing God in every season of life: 3:1-8 Seeing God in every season of life: 3:1-8 It is easy to receive and enjoy the gifts of God when they are It is easy to receive and enjoy the gifts of God when they are positive in nature (eg. health, wealth, success, life, good positive in nature (eg. health, wealth, success, life, good relationships, etc.). Notice how often people say, “Isn’t God relationships, etc.). Notice how often people say, “Isn’t God good,” when they have experienced something they perceive as good,” when they have experienced something they perceive as good. But the key to living in a fallen world is to see that our good good. But the key to living in a fallen world is to see that our good God is in the midst of every season of life, whether that season God is in the midst of every season of life, whether that season seems like a positive one or a negative one. God is still good even seems like a positive one or a negative one. God is still good even when life seems to be not so good. when life seems to be not so good. This very poetic section of Ecclesiastes teaches us that there is an This very poetic section of Ecclesiastes teaches us that there is an appropriate season for every activity, even those that are on the appropriate season for every activity, even those that are on the more difficult side of the equation. more difficult side of the equation. “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace” (3:1-8). a time for war and a time for peace” (3:1-8). 2/26/17 549 2/26/17 549

These 14 opposites remind us of the wide pendulum swings that These 14 opposites remind us of the wide pendulum swings that come with life in this fallen world. Yet, we are not on a come with life in this fallen world. Yet, we are not on a meaningless merry-go-round driven by some merciless fate (as meaningless merry-go-round driven by some merciless fate (as Solomon felt earlier); rather, we are living in a world that IS Solomon felt earlier); rather, we are living in a world that IS broken, yet nonetheless overseen by our all-wise, all-loving, all- broken, yet nonetheless overseen by our all-wise, all-loving, all- powerful, all-merciful Father, the Sovereign overseer of heaven powerful, all-merciful Father, the Sovereign overseer of heaven and earth. “Your sovereignty rules over all” (Psalm 103:19). and earth. “Your sovereignty rules over all” (Psalm 103:19). Absolutely nothing that happens in the universe is outside of God’s Absolutely nothing that happens in the universe is outside of God’s influence, permission or authority. Thus, in every situation in life, influence, permission or authority. Thus, in every situation in life, we can trust Him and learn contentment when we choose to we can trust Him and learn contentment when we choose to believe that He ordains every season of life, even the difficult ones. believe that He ordains every season of life, even the difficult ones.

All of nature displays “seasons.” Circumstances in life al so have All of nature displays “seasons.” Circumstances in life also have seasons. When I choose to accept that life is full of seasons, then seasons. When I choose to accept that life is full of seasons, then it helps me to REST in a particularly hard season, reflecting on it helps me to REST in a particularly hard season, reflecting on what I am learning about myself, God, other people, and life. what I am learning about myself, God, other people, and life. When I am in a “good season” I can remember that even though I When I am in a “good season” I can remember that even though I hope and pray it will never change or end, the reality is that it will. hope and pray it will never change or end, the reality is that it will. So, receive the good season as a gift from God. Pay attention to So, receive the good season as a gift from God. Pay attention to God’s promptings and His unseen ways and choose to responsibly God’s promptings and His unseen ways and choose to responsibly respond in both hard and good seasons. Think about your life – respond in both hard and good seasons. Think about your life – some past seasons and a present season. Write out what was/is some past seasons and a present season. Write out what was/is gong on and what God is leading you to learn or to do. His gong on and what God is leading you to learn or to do. His sovereignty rules over every season. sovereignty rules over every season.

Eight perspectives that bring life into focus: 3:9-22 Eight perspectives that bring life into focus: 3:9-22 The remainder of chapter 3 is a collection of sayings that all The remainder of chapter 3 is a collection of sayings that all involve God and eternity. (“God” is mentioned 11 times in this involve God and eternity. (“God” is mentioned 11 times in this section.) The context of these sayings is important. Solomon is section.) The context of these sayings is important. Solomon is trying to help us learn how to live wisely in a broken and often trying to help us learn how to live wisely in a broken and often painful world. There are certain “above the sun” truths that make painful world. There are certain “above the sun” truths that make life “under the sun” more meaningful and satisfying. life “under the sun” more meaningful and satisfying. 1. Appointments 1. Appointments “God has made everything beautiful in its time” (3:11a). “God has made everything beautiful in its time” (3:11a). “Everything” means everything. The word “beautiful” has also “Everything” means everything. The word “beautiful” has also been translated “appropriate” or “right.” This is key to our been translated “appropriate” or “right.” This is key to our understanding of the message of Ecclesiastes. Even the things on understanding of the message of Ecclesiastes. Even the things on the negative side of the list in 3:1-8 are “appropriate” because God the negative side of the list in 3:1-8 are “appropriate” because God has appointed them for that particular season of our lives. There has appointed them for that particular season of our lives. There are no mistakes with God. There are appointed times and seasons are no mistakes with God. There are appointed times and seasons for everything. Choosing to believe this changes the way we for everything. Choosing to believe this changes the way we experience the undulations of life on this earth. experience the undulations of life on this earth. 2/26/17 550 2/26/17 550 2. Eternity 2. Eternity “He has also set eternity in the human heart” (3:11b). “He has also set eternity in the human heart” (3:11b). Have you ever said, “I wish this would never end”? We are made Have you ever said, “I wish this would never end”? We are made in the image of God. He is eternal. We were made to live forever. in the image of God. He is eternal. We were made to live forever. In fact, we really are “immortal” beings since we will live In fact, we really are “immortal” beings since we will live somewhere even after we “die.” Thus, we long for something somewhere even after we “die.” Thus, we long for something beyond this life. The heart longs for paradise – that “happily ever beyond this life. The heart longs for paradise – that “happily ever after.” We were wired for eternity. after.” We were wired for eternity. The Christian tradition asserts that God has made Himself known The Christian tradition asserts that God has made Himself known to us through Creation, Conscience, Christ and Canon. Thus, our to us through Creation, Conscience, Christ and Canon. Thus, our inner awareness of God and eternity is met by a God who inner awareness of God and eternity is met by a God who graciously steps out of eternity into time and space in order to graciously steps out of eternity into time and space in order to reveal Himself to us. When our gaze moves beyond our time- reveal Himself to us. When our gaze moves beyond our time- bound world to see eternity, this dramatically changes how we live bound world to see eternity, this dramatically changes how we live out our lives. out our lives. 3. Mystery 3. Mystery “… yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to “… yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end” (3:11c). end” (3:11c). Yet, though God has “set eternity in our hearts,” and though He Yet, though God has “set eternity in our hearts,” and though He reveals Himself in various ways, there is still much mystery this reveals Himself in various ways, there is still much mystery this side of heaven. We see Him and perceive His ways through a side of heaven. We see Him and perceive His ways through a blurred set of lenses. Even the apostle Paul had to admit the limits blurred set of lenses. Even the apostle Paul had to admit the limits of his understanding: of his understanding: “Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a “Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely” everything completely, just as God now knows me completely” (1Corinthians 13:12). (1Corinthians 13:12). Thus, it requires faith (trust) in God to produce the courage to Thus, it requires faith (trust) in God to produce the courage to press on, regardless of the terrain we find ourselves on. press on, regardless of the terrain we find ourselves on. “Oh, how great are God’s riches and wisdom and knowledge! “Oh, how great are God’s riches and wisdom and knowledge! How impossible it is for us to understand his decisions and his How impossible it is for us to understand his decisions and his ways! For who can know the Lord’s thoughts? Who knows ways! For who can know the Lord’s thoughts? Who knows enough to give him advice? (Romans 11:33,34). enough to give him advice? (Romans 11:33,34). 4. Contentment 4. Contentment “I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy “I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and 2/26/17 551 2/26/17 551 drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil - this is the gift of drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil - this is the gift of God” (3:12,13). God” (3:12,13). Solomon repeats the refrain that he opened with (2:24-26). The Solomon repeats the refrain that he opened with (2:24-26). The Greek cynical philosophers said: “Let us eat and drink, for Greek cynical philosophers said: “Let us eat and drink, for tomorrow we die.” While this sounds similar to what Solomon tomorrow we die.” While this sounds similar to what Solomon says, there is a distinct difference. The Greek cynics saw eating says, there is a distinct difference. The Greek cynics saw eating and drinking as the only relief in a life that surely leads to death. and drinking as the only relief in a life that surely leads to death. Solomon sees eating and drinking as God’s gift to humanity. Be Solomon sees eating and drinking as God’s gift to humanity. Be happy, do good, enjoy food and drink, live responsibly, learn happy, do good, enjoy food and drink, live responsibly, learn contentment (satisfaction) in working hard – because every breath, contentment (satisfaction) in working hard – because every breath, every earthly pleasure, and every opportunity to be fruitful in work every earthly pleasure, and every opportunity to be fruitful in work is a gift from God. is a gift from God. The apostle Paul, writing from a Roman prison cell , spoke of how The apostle Paul, writing from a Roman prison cell , spoke of how he had learned contentment in any and every circumstance of life: he had learned contentment in any and every circumstance of life: “I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I “I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:11-13). through Him who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:11-13).

Are you choosing to learn to be content and satisfied with the work Are you choosing to learn to be content and satisfied with the work God has provided for you to do? Are you at home with kids? A God has provided for you to do? Are you at home with kids? A student? In the workplace? Struggling with a health issue? Are student? In the workplace? Struggling with a health issue? Are you grumbling and complaining (Philippians 2:14), or choosing to you grumbling and complaining (Philippians 2:14), or choosing to be happy and thankful? Learning contentment is a choice. be happy and thankful? Learning contentment is a choice.

5. Permanence 5. Permanence “I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing “I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing can be added to it and nothing taken from it” (3:14a). can be added to it and nothing taken from it” (3:14a). Human life and activity is transient. We are here today, gone Human life and activity is transient. We are here today, gone tomorrow. Yet, God never changes (Malachi 3:6) and His will and tomorrow. Yet, God never changes (Malachi 3:6) and His will and works endure forever. This truth of an enduring, unchanging God works endure forever. This truth of an enduring, unchanging God gives us comfort and peace in the midst of an ever-changing world gives us comfort and peace in the midst of an ever-changing world full of uncertainty. God’s ultimate plan will be fulfilled. “Striving full of uncertainty. God’s ultimate plan will be fulfilled. “Striving after the wind” (9 times in Ecclesiastes) can be replaced by after the wind” (9 times in Ecclesiastes) can be replaced by walking in step with God (Galatians 5:25). As we join ourselves to walking in step with God (Galatians 5:25). As we join ourselves to the eternal, unchanging purposes and plans of God, our lives and the eternal, unchanging purposes and plans of God, our lives and our works take on enduring value and meaning. our works take on enduring value and meaning.

2/26/17 552 2/26/17 552 6. Reverence 6. Reverence “God does it (everything) so that people will fear Him” (3:14b). “God does it (everything) so that people will fear Him” (3:14b). Here we find the divine motive underlying God’s mysterious ways: Here we find the divine motive underlying God’s mysterious ways: He is trying to draw all people to Himself. This helps to explain He is trying to draw all people to Himself. This helps to explain much of the pain that we experience in this world. much of the pain that we experience in this world. “We can ignore even pleasure. But pain insists upon being “We can ignore even pleasure. But pain insists upon being attended to. God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our attended to. God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is his megaphone to rouse a conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is his megaphone to rouse a deaf world.” C. S. Lewis – The Problem of Pain deaf world.” C. S. Lewis – The Problem of Pain We can confidently assert that God harnesses all pain, all suffering, We can confidently assert that God harnesses all pain, all suffering, even all “evil” to this one end: to graciously call all people to come even all “evil” to this one end: to graciously call all people to come and find their refuge in Him. and find their refuge in Him.

To “fear God” is not to be constantly “afraid of Him.” Rather, it To “fear God” is not to be constantly “afraid of Him.” Rather, it means to have reverence and awe for God. He is so beyond our means to have reverence and awe for God. He is so beyond our understanding that we should be amazed and in awe of Him. understanding that we should be amazed and in awe of Him. When God allows circumstances in your life that you don’t like, When God allows circumstances in your life that you don’t like, what is your response? Do you blame Him and get angry, what is your response? Do you blame Him and get angry, choosing to not trust Him any more? Or, do you choose a choosing to not trust Him any more? Or, do you choose a demeanor of reverence and “fear” that says, “Lord, I don’t demeanor of reverence and “fear” that says, “Lord, I don’t understand what You are doing, or what You are trying to teach understand what You are doing, or what You are trying to teach me right now; but I believe that You are good and I want to follow me right now; but I believe that You are good and I want to follow You through this season. I ask that you show me Your ways, one You through this season. I ask that you show me Your ways, one step at a time.” step at a time.”

7. Responsibility 7. Responsibility “God will bring into judgment both the righteous and the wicked, “God will bring into judgment both the righteous and the wicked, for there will be a time for every activity, a time to judge every for there will be a time for every activity, a time to judge every deed” (3:17). deed” (3:17). The reality of God and eternity calls us to live responsibly, not The reality of God and eternity calls us to live responsibly, not carelessly. This theme is repeated in the final lines of the book carelessly. This theme is repeated in the final lines of the book (see 12:13,14). Instead of throwing up our hands in despair, we (see 12:13,14). Instead of throwing up our hands in despair, we must realize that eternity will bring to light the worth of all our must realize that eternity will bring to light the worth of all our earthly activities. Even the way we respond to suffering will be earthly activities. Even the way we respond to suffering will be evaluated in light of God’s plan and purposes for us. evaluated in light of God’s plan and purposes for us. 8. Mortality 8. Mortality “As for humans, God tests them so that they may see that they “As for humans, God tests them so that they may see that they are like the animals. Surely the fate of human beings is like that are like the animals. Surely the fate of human beings is like that of the animals; the same fate awaits them both: As one dies, so of the animals; the same fate awaits them both: As one dies, so dies the other” (3:18,19). dies the other” (3:18,19). 2/26/17 553 2/26/17 553 God allows us to constantly be reminded of our mortality. These God allows us to constantly be reminded of our mortality. These regular reminders are good for us in that they help us to wisely regular reminders are good for us in that they help us to wisely steward our short time here in this life. This is why Solomon will steward our short time here in this life. This is why Solomon will later say that there is great value in attending funerals! later say that there is great value in attending funerals! “It is better to go to a house of mourning than to go to a house of “It is better to go to a house of mourning than to go to a house of feasting, for death is the destiny of everyone; the living should feasting, for death is the destiny of everyone; the living should take this to heart” (7:2). take this to heart” (7:2).

Human pride causes us to believe that we are invincible. Human pride causes us to believe that we are invincible. Throughout life God tests us with reality checks. Can you recall Throughout life God tests us with reality checks. Can you recall some tests you have had that remind you that your life is fragile, some tests you have had that remind you that your life is fragile, tenuous and not really controllable? Read James 4:13-15. We tenuous and not really controllable? Read James 4:13-15. We are warned not to boast about our ability to control tomorrow and are warned not to boast about our ability to control tomorrow and determine our own destiny. determine our own destiny.

Key themes in Ecclesiastes 4-5 Key themes in Ecclesiastes 4-5 [Note: While there seems to be a clear progression of thought in [Note: While there seems to be a clear progression of thought in chapters 1-3 (total despair gives way to realistic hope), from chapters 1-3 (total despair gives way to realistic hope), from chapter 4 onwards, Ecclesiastes reads like a random collection of chapter 4 onwards, Ecclesiastes reads like a random collection of ideas (much like the book of Proverbs). Commentators agree that ideas (much like the book of Proverbs). Commentators agree that it is impossible to detect a clear outline from chapters 4-12. it is impossible to detect a clear outline from chapters 4-12. Further, there seems to be variance in Solomon’s perspective. Further, there seems to be variance in Solomon’s perspective. Many sections reflect the tone of pessimism and skepticism we Many sections reflect the tone of pessimism and skepticism we saw in chapters 1 and 2. Other sections lean toward the blend of saw in chapters 1 and 2. Other sections lean toward the blend of reality, hope and trust as found in chapter 3. We will not attempt reality, hope and trust as found in chapter 3. We will not attempt to cover everything in chapters 4-12. We encourage you to read to cover everything in chapters 4-12. We encourage you to read through these chapters at your own pace. Attention will be given through these chapters at your own pace. Attention will be given to a few major themes.] to a few major themes.] The importance of human relationships: 4:9-12 The importance of human relationships: 4:9-12 This world is filled with human oppression (4:1-3), rivalry (4:4-6) This world is filled with human oppression (4:1-3), rivalry (4:4-6) and isolation (4:7-8). In this context, it is important to find a few and isolation (4:7-8). In this context, it is important to find a few good people that we can do the journey with. good people that we can do the journey with. “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” (4:9-12). broken” (4:9-12). The “two” does not specify if it is close friends, partners in The “two” does not specify if it is close friends, partners in 2/26/17 554 2/26/17 554 marriage or business, or close community at church, or in a family. marriage or business, or close community at church, or in a family. The key here is that isolation is deadly. Two is better than one The key here is that isolation is deadly. Two is better than one alone. Three is even better. Living life in community is vital. alone. Three is even better. Living life in community is vital. (Some have taken “two” to refer to a marriage, and the “third” to (Some have taken “two” to refer to a marriage, and the “third” to be Christ. Indeed, when Christ is the strong cord of a 3-strand rope be Christ. Indeed, when Christ is the strong cord of a 3-strand rope then that union is hard to break. The goal is to keep Christ and His then that union is hard to break. The goal is to keep Christ and His strength at the center in each person’s heart, and in the center of strength at the center in each person’s heart, and in the center of the relationship.) the relationship.)

Are you in community with at least one other person, or are you Are you in community with at least one other person, or are you living in isolation? Temptations and addictions are strongest when living in isolation? Temptations and addictions are strongest when you are isolated. Companionship is key to standing against a you are isolated. Companionship is key to standing against a difficult world full of challenges and temptations. Is there difficult world full of challenges and temptations. Is there someone you know who needs to be invited into community? If someone you know who needs to be invited into community? If you feel isolated yourself, take a step toward connecting with safe, you feel isolated yourself, take a step toward connecting with safe, God-loving people. God-loving people.

Listening and speaking before God: 5:1-5 Listening and speaking before God: 5:1-5 Solomon has a lot to say about how we approach God. We should Solomon has a lot to say about how we approach God. We should do a lot more listening to God’s voice and a lot less giving voice to do a lot more listening to God’s voice and a lot less giving voice to our own ideas. our own ideas. - On listening to God: - On listening to God: “Guard your steps when you go to the house of God. Go near to “Guard your steps when you go to the house of God. Go near to listen rather than to offer the sacrifice of fools, who do not know listen rather than to offer the sacrifice of fools, who do not know that they do wrong. Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be that they do wrong. Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few” (5:1,2). heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few” (5:1,2). Why is it important to “be still and know that I am God” Why is it important to “be still and know that I am God” (Ps.46:10)? A relationship is mutual when both parties speak and (Ps.46:10)? A relationship is mutual when both parties speak and listen. How do we “listen to God?” Listening to God requires listen. How do we “listen to God?” Listening to God requires getting quiet and asking God to reveal something that you need to getting quiet and asking God to reveal something that you need to become aware of. Young Samuel said, “Speak God, for your become aware of. Young Samuel said, “Speak God, for your servant is listening” (1Sam.3:10). God speaks in many ways: His servant is listening” (1Sam.3:10). God speaks in many ways: His Word, something we learn in a Bible study or sermon, a worship Word, something we learn in a Bible study or sermon, a worship song, a recent conversation or conflict, a gnawing conviction of song, a recent conversation or conflict, a gnawing conviction of something we have said or done, a passing thought. 1) Get quiet something we have said or done, a passing thought. 1) Get quiet and enter into a receptive attitude of listening. 2) Desire to act on and enter into a receptive attitude of listening. 2) Desire to act on the promptings and thoughts we are having. Ask God to confirm the promptings and thoughts we are having. Ask God to confirm inside yourself or through the counsel of someone else if your inside yourself or through the counsel of someone else if your desires are good. 3) Follow through. Ask a friend or mentor to desires are good. 3) Follow through. Ask a friend or mentor to hold you accountable to obey God’s promptings. hold you accountable to obey God’s promptings. 2/26/17 555 2/26/17 555 - On speaking to God (making vows): - On speaking to God (making vows): “When you make a vow to God, do not delay to fulfill it. He has “When you make a vow to God, do not delay to fulfill it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. It is better not to make a no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it. Do not let your mouth vow than to make one and not fulfill it. Do not let your mouth lead you into sin. And do not protest to the temple messenger, lead you into sin. And do not protest to the temple messenger, ‘My vow was a mistake.’ Why should God be angry at what you ‘My vow was a mistake.’ Why should God be angry at what you say and destroy the work of your hands” (5:4-7)? say and destroy the work of your hands” (5:4-7)? Keeping a vow or a promise is a choice to be faithful to your word. Keeping a vow or a promise is a choice to be faithful to your word. Faithfulness is a fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22). As Faithfulness is a fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22). As humans, we are easily swayed away from being faithful. God humans, we are easily swayed away from being faithful. God Himself IS our faithful and loving Savior. “The Lord your God, He is Himself IS our faithful and loving Savior. “The Lord your God, He is the faithful God” (Deut.7:9 – see also 1Cor.1:9; 10:13; the faithful God” (Deut.7:9 – see also 1Cor.1:9; 10:13; 2Thess.3:3; 1John 1:9). Ask God to remind you of vows and 2Thess.3:3; 1John 1:9). Ask God to remind you of vows and promises you have made that you have NOT kept. Be faithful to promises you have made that you have NOT kept. Be faithful to follow through. Ask God to produce His faithfulness in and follow through. Ask God to produce His faithfulness in and through you. through you.

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GOD WITH US GOD WITH US Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Part 4: The Life and Writings of Solomon Vision and Vanity – Ecclesiastes Vision and Vanity – Ecclesiastes

Message 16 – Final Thoughts from Solomon Message 16 – Final Thoughts from Solomon Ecclesiastes 5:8-12:14 Ecclesiastes 5:8-12:14

Introduction Introduction Much of Ecclesiastes consists of random sayings concerning life. Much of Ecclesiastes consists of random sayings concerning life. It reads like the book of Proverbs, except that the sayings, lessons It reads like the book of Proverbs, except that the sayings, lessons and observations in Ecclesiastes are related to Solomon’s broader and observations in Ecclesiastes are related to Solomon’s broader search for meaning and purpose. Thus, he relates all subjects back search for meaning and purpose. Thus, he relates all subjects back to the big question: What does life “under the sun” really amount to the big question: What does life “under the sun” really amount to? He has already given us the basic answer: Life apart from God to? He has already given us the basic answer: Life apart from God has NO ultimate purpose. On the other hand, when we has NO ultimate purpose. On the other hand, when we acknowledge the reality of God and eternity, we can accept life as acknowledge the reality of God and eternity, we can accept life as a gift from God and live aware of the fact that we will meet God a gift from God and live aware of the fact that we will meet God someday and be held responsible for how we have used the gift of someday and be held responsible for how we have used the gift of life. Yet, even with this ‘eternal perspective’ in mind, Solomon life. Yet, even with this ‘eternal perspective’ in mind, Solomon continued to see that life in this broken world is always filled with continued to see that life in this broken world is always filled with many puzzles and disappointments that cannot be understood. many puzzles and disappointments that cannot be understood. “No one can comprehend what goes on under the sun. Despite “No one can comprehend what goes on under the sun. Despite all their efforts to search it out, no one can discover its meaning. all their efforts to search it out, no one can discover its meaning. Even if the wise claim they know, they cannot really comprehend Even if the wise claim they know, they cannot really comprehend it” (8:17). it” (8:17). “As you do not know the path of the wind, or how the body is “As you do not know the path of the wind, or how the body is formed in a mother’s womb, so you cannot understand the work formed in a mother’s womb, so you cannot understand the work of God, the Maker of all things” (11:5). of God, the Maker of all things” (11:5). Observations about Wealth: 5:8-6:12 Observations about Wealth: 5:8-6:12 Solomon was blessed with immense wealth. He found, however, Solomon was blessed with immense wealth. He found, however, that money brought many burdens to his life. No amount of that money brought many burdens to his life. No amount of money is ever enough (v.10). Ordinary laborers seem to worry money is ever enough (v.10). Ordinary laborers seem to worry less than rich people (v.12). Wealth can be lost in an instant less than rich people (v.12). Wealth can be lost in an instant through a poor decision or investment (v.13,14). Ultimately, you through a poor decision or investment (v.13,14). Ultimately, you can’t take your wealth with you when you die (v.15). can’t take your wealth with you when you die (v.15). “Everyone comes naked from their mother’s womb, and as “Everyone comes naked from their mother’s womb, and as everyone comes, so they depart. They take nothing from their toil everyone comes, so they depart. They take nothing from their toil that they can carry in their hands” (5:15). that they can carry in their hands” (5:15). 3/5/17 557 3/5/17 557

Solomon saw it as a “great evil” when people have the ability to Solomon saw it as a “great evil” when people have the ability to amass great wealth, but lack the ability to enjoy the fruit of all their amass great wealth, but lack the ability to enjoy the fruit of all their labor. If a person goes through life with absolutely no rest in labor. If a person goes through life with absolutely no rest in his/her spirit, better that he/she had never been born at all! Finding his/her spirit, better that he/she had never been born at all! Finding a degree of enjoyment in life is important, regardless of one’s a degree of enjoyment in life is important, regardless of one’s financial situation. Thus, the refrain reminds us to enjoy life (and financial situation. Thus, the refrain reminds us to enjoy life (and wealth, if we have it) as a gift from God: wealth, if we have it) as a gift from God: “When God gives someone wealth and possessions, and the “When God gives someone wealth and possessions, and the ability to enjoy them, to accept their lot and be happy in their toil ability to enjoy them, to accept their lot and be happy in their toil – this is a gift of God” (5:19). – this is a gift of God” (5:19).

Wealth does no t have meaning in and of itself. Yet, when it is Wealth do es not have meaning in and of itself. Yet, when it is viewed as a tool to accomplish other purposes, then wealth has viewed as a tool to accomplish other purposes, then wealth has true meaning. The question is: What are you using your wealth to true meaning. The question is: What are you using your wealth to accomplish? Ecclesiastes teaches that it is perfectly valid to use accomplish? Ecclesiastes teaches that it is perfectly valid to use some of your God-given wealth to enjoy life. At the same time, it is some of your God-given wealth to enjoy life. At the same time, it is wise to use much of your wealth to advance purposes that are wise to use much of your wealth to advance purposes that are dear to the heart of God. How are you using your God-given dear to the heart of God. How are you using your God-given wealth to advance the purposes of God in the lives of other wealth to advance the purposes of God in the lives of other people? Remember: You can’t take your wealth with you when you people? Remember: You can’t take your wealth with you when you die; but you CAN take with you the results of the works of God that die; but you CAN take with you the results of the works of God that have been accomplished with your earthly resources. have been accomplished with your earthly resources.

Observations about Wisdom: 7:1-8:1 Observations about Wisdom: 7:1-8:1 Various sayings are grouped here, many related to the value of Various sayings are grouped here, many related to the value of wisdom. Wisdom is more valuable than folly; yet not even a wise wisdom. Wisdom is more valuable than folly; yet not even a wise person will find completely satisfying answers to all the baffling person will find completely satisfying answers to all the baffling mysteries of life. Sometimes, the most valuable wisdom will be mysteries of life. Sometimes, the most valuable wisdom will be found where you least expect it: found where you least expect it: - Wisdom to be found at funerals: - Wisdom to be found at funerals: “It is better to go to a house of mourning than to go to a house of “It is better to go to a house of mourning than to go to a house of feasting, for death is the destiny of everyone; the living should feasting, for death is the destiny of everyone; the living should take this to heart” (7:2). take this to heart” (7:2). - Wisdom to be found in frustration: - Wisdom to be found in frustration: “Frustration is better than laughter, because a sad face is good “Frustration is better than laughter, because a sad face is good for the heart” (7:3). for the heart” (7:3). - Wisdom from the rebuke of friends: - Wisdom from the rebuke of friends: “It is better to heed the rebuke of a wise person than to listen to “It is better to heed the rebuke of a wise person than to listen to the song of fools” (7:5). the song of fools” (7:5). Solomon warns that it is not wise to overly romanticize the past Solomon warns that it is not wise to overly romanticize the past (7:10). It IS wise to accept both good and bad in life: (7:10). It IS wise to accept both good and bad in life: 3/5/17 558 3/5/17 558 “Consider what God has done: Who can straighten what he has “Consider what God has done: Who can straighten what he has made crooked? When times are good, be happy; but when times made crooked? When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider this: God has made the one as well as the are bad, consider this: God has made the one as well as the other” (7:13,14). other” (7:13,14). The above verse reminds us of the poem at the beginning of ch.3, The above verse reminds us of the poem at the beginning of ch.3, and the central truth that “God has made everything beautiful and the central truth that “God has made everything beautiful (appropriate) in its time” (3:11). (appropriate) in its time” (3:11).

One of the major lessons from Ecclesiastes is that we MUST learn One of the major lessons from Ecclesiastes is that we MUST learn the art of accepting BOTH the good and the bad aspects of life in the art of accepting BOTH the good and the bad aspects of life in this broken world. Things will never be perfect, until God makes all this broken world. Things will never be perfect, until God makes all things new (Revelation 21). Are you learning to process negative things new (Revelation 21). Are you learning to process negative aspects of life with God, asking Him to show you His eternal aspects of life with God, asking Him to show you His eternal purposes in such things? Are you learning to accept the “bad” purposes in such things? Are you learning to accept the “bad” with the “good?” One of the chief signs of spiritual immaturity is with the “good?” One of the chief signs of spiritual immaturity is when we want everything OUR WAY (i.e., “good”). This is the when we want everything OUR WAY (i.e., “good”). This is the language of the child: Give me, give me, give me. The spiritually language of the child: Give me, give me, give me. The spiritually maturing person says: “Not my will, but THY will be done, Lord.” As maturing person says: “Not my will, but THY will be done, Lord.” As Solomon put it: “When times are good, be happy; but when times Solomon put it: “When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider this: God has made the one as well as the other” are bad, consider this: God has made the one as well as the other” (7:14). (7:14).

Why is man’s life on this earth so difficult and confusing? Why is man’s life on this earth so difficult and confusing? Solomon agrees with the core assessment found from Genesis to Solomon agrees with the core assessment found from Genesis to Revelation. Mankind has turned away from God and now has a sin Revelation. Mankind has turned away from God and now has a sin problem (sin = separation from God). problem (sin = separation from God). “Indeed, there is no one on earth who is righteous, no one who “Indeed, there is no one on earth who is righteous, no one who does what is right and never sins” (7:20). does what is right and never sins” (7:20). “This only have I found: God created mankind upright, but they “This only have I found: God created mankind upright, but they have gone in search of many schemes” (7:29). have gone in search of many schemes” (7:29). It stands to reason that if the core problem of mankind is sin and It stands to reason that if the core problem of mankind is sin and separation from God, then the foundation of all solutions to separation from God, then the foundation of all solutions to mankind’s problems is reconciliation to God and redemption from mankind’s problems is reconciliation to God and redemption from sin. This is precisely the message of the gospel: God can bring sin. This is precisely the message of the gospel: God can bring about new things in our lives IF we allow Him to enter into our about new things in our lives IF we allow Him to enter into our hearts and begin to change us from the inside out. Solomon used a hearts and begin to change us from the inside out. Solomon used a very simple phrase to describe what it means for a person to allow very simple phrase to describe what it means for a person to allow God to come in and be central to our lives: “fear God” (3:14; 5:7; God to come in and be central to our lives: “fear God” (3:14; 5:7; 7:18; 8:12,13; 12:13). To fear God means to reverence Him and 7:18; 8:12,13; 12:13). To fear God means to reverence Him and give Him preeminence in your life. give Him preeminence in your life.

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Observations about Leaders: 8:2-17 and 10:1-20 Observations about Leaders: 8:2-17 and 10:1-20 Many sayings in chapters 8 and 10 have to do with leaders (and Many sayings in chapters 8 and 10 have to do with leaders (and followers.) Solomon gleaned these life-lessons from his own followers.) Solomon gleaned these life-lessons from his own experience as the leader of the nation Israel. experience as the leader of the nation Israel. - Opposing the leader: - Opposing the leader: “Do not be in a hurry to leave the king’s presence. Do not stand “Do not be in a hurry to leave the king’s presence. Do not stand up for a bad cause, for he will do whatever he pleases” (8:3). up for a bad cause, for he will do whatever he pleases” (8:3). - Obeying the leader: - Obeying the leader: Since a king’s word is supreme, who can say to him, “What are Since a king’s word is supreme, who can say to him, “What are you doing?” Whoever obeys his command will come to no harm, you doing?” Whoever obeys his command will come to no harm, and the wise heart will know the proper time and procedure” and the wise heart will know the proper time and procedure” (8:4,5). (8:4,5). - Staying calm with an irritated leader: - Staying calm with an irritated leader: “If a ruler’s anger rises against you, do not leave your post; “If a ruler’s anger rises against you, do not leave your post; calmness can lay great offenses to rest” (10:4). calmness can lay great offenses to rest” (10:4). - The value of a noble leader: - The value of a noble leader: “Woe to the land whose king was a servant and whose princes “Woe to the land whose king was a servant and whose princes feast in the morning. Blessed is the land whose king is of noble feast in the morning. Blessed is the land whose king is of noble birth and whose princes eat at a proper time – for strength and birth and whose princes eat at a proper time – for strength and not for drunkenness” (10:16,17). not for drunkenness” (10:16,17). - Not secretly harboring hateful thoughts about the leader: - Not secretly harboring hateful thoughts about the leader: “Do not revile the king even in your thoughts, or curse the rich “Do not revile the king even in your thoughts, or curse the rich in your bedroom, because a bird in the sky may carry your words, in your bedroom, because a bird in the sky may carry your words, and a bird on the wing may report what you say” (10:20). and a bird on the wing may report what you say” (10:20).

God calls all of us to live UNDER authority and IN authority. But God calls all of us to live UNDER authority and IN authority. But before we can be IN authority, we must first learn what it means to before we can be IN authority, we must first learn what it means to be UNDER authority. We learn to live under authority first in the be UNDER authority. We learn to live under authority first in the home, then in school and in society. The most important lesson home, then in school and in society. The most important lesson that Scripture teaches is to submit to authority whether you like that Scripture teaches is to submit to authority whether you like that authority or not (see 1Peter 2:13-20). Jesus exemplified that authority or not (see 1Peter 2:13-20). Jesus exemplified submission for us when He went to the cross (1Pet. 2:21-25). submission for us when He went to the cross (1Pet. 2:21-25). Increasingly, we may be given authority over others in the home, at Increasingly, we may be given authority over others in the home, at work, at school and in society. The most important lesson for work, at school and in society. The most important lesson for those in authority is to be a humble servant-leader to others. those in authority is to be a humble servant-leader to others. Jesus also exemplified this for us when He washed His disciples’ Jesus also exemplified this for us when He washed His disciples’ feet (John 13:12-17). Take some time to evaluate how you are feet (John 13:12-17). Take some time to evaluate how you are doing living under authority and being in authority. Are there any doing living under authority and being in authority. Are there any specific lessons you can take away from Ecclesiastes? specific lessons you can take away from Ecclesiastes?

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Observations about Death: 9:1-12 Observations about Death: 9:1-12 Solomon reflects on the certainty of physical death for every Solomon reflects on the certainty of physical death for every person, whether they have been good or bad. Death is one of the person, whether they have been good or bad. Death is one of the major themes in Ecclesiastes. Why? Because death brings into major themes in Ecclesiastes. Why? Because death brings into sharp focus the meaninglessness of this short, earthly existence if sharp focus the meaninglessness of this short, earthly existence if there is nothing more afterwards. there is nothing more afterwards. “All share a common destiny – the righteous and the wicked, the “All share a common destiny – the righteous and the wicked, the good and the bad, the clean and the unclean, those who offer good and the bad, the clean and the unclean, those who offer sacrifices and those who do not” (9:1,2). sacrifices and those who do not” (9:1,2). Further, no one can predict the time of his/her death. Further, no one can predict the time of his/her death. “Moreover, no one knows when their hour will come: As fish are “Moreover, no one knows when their hour will come: As fish are caught in a cruel net, or birds are taken in a snare, so people are caught in a cruel net, or birds are taken in a snare, so people are trapped by evil times that fall unexpectedly upon them” (9:12). trapped by evil times that fall unexpectedly upon them” (9:12). Solomon’s repeated refrain seems very fitting in this particular Solomon’s repeated refrain seems very fitting in this particular context dealing with the certainty of death (and this refrain is a bit context dealing with the certainty of death (and this refrain is a bit longer than the others at 3:12-14; 3:22; 5:18-20; 8:15): longer than the others at 3:12-14; 3:22; 5:18-20; 8:15): “Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a “Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart, for God has already approved what you do. Always joyful heart, for God has already approved what you do. Always be clothed in white, and always anoint your head with oil. Enjoy be clothed in white, and always anoint your head with oil. Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun – all your meaningless life that God has given you under the sun – all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun. Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with labor under the sun. Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom” (9:7-10). wisdom” (9:7-10). Solomon strikes a very delicate balance in Ecclesiastes between Solomon strikes a very delicate balance in Ecclesiastes between ENJOYING LIFE as a gift from God and LIVING RESPONSIBLY in ENJOYING LIFE as a gift from God and LIVING RESPONSIBLY in light of eternity and divine judgment. If we go too far in the light of eternity and divine judgment. If we go too far in the direction of enjoying life (hedonism) we fall into the trap of direction of enjoying life (hedonism) we fall into the trap of meaningless pleasure seeking, as Solomon did in chapter 2. This meaningless pleasure seeking, as Solomon did in chapter 2. This sort of life will, in the end, leave us feeling very empty. Yet, if we sort of life will, in the end, leave us feeling very empty. Yet, if we lean too far on the side of trying to be scrupulously responsible in lean too far on the side of trying to be scrupulously responsible in everything (asceticism/self-denial) and living totally in light of everything (asceticism/self-denial) and living totally in light of eternity, then we will likely miss out on many of the pleasures of eternity, then we will likely miss out on many of the pleasures of life that God has created for us to enjoy here and now. Life IS a life that God has created for us to enjoy here and now. Life IS a gift from God! Where do you think you are falling on the balance gift from God! Where do you think you are falling on the balance between the two extremes of self-indulgence and self-denial? Ask between the two extremes of self-indulgence and self-denial? Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any changes He might want you to make the Holy Spirit to reveal any changes He might want you to make in striking a better balance in how you are living this life. in striking a better balance in how you are living this life. 3/5/17 561 3/5/17 561 Observations about Investing and Working: 11:1-6 Observations about Investing and Working: 11:1-6 Modern investment advisors talk about diversifying your Modern investment advisors talk about diversifying your investments in order to reduce risk and optimize gain. They also investments in order to reduce risk and optimize gain. They also talk about including both foreign and domestic investments in your talk about including both foreign and domestic investments in your portfolio, for even greater balance. Solomon gave this same advice portfolio, for even greater balance. Solomon gave this same advice long ago: long ago: “Ship your grain across the sea; after many days you may receive “Ship your grain across the sea; after many days you may receive a return. Invest in seven ventures, yes, in eight; you do not know a return. Invest in seven ventures, yes, in eight; you do not know what disaster may come upon the land” (11:1,2). what disaster may come upon the land” (11:1,2). “Sow your seed in the morning, and at evening let your hands “Sow your seed in the morning, and at evening let your hands not be idle, for you do not know which will succeed, whether this not be idle, for you do not know which will succeed, whether this or that, or whether both will do equally well” (11:6). or that, or whether both will do equally well” (11:6).

When it comes to obtaining good returns on our investment When it comes to obtaining good returns on our investment and/or our work, Solomon seems to be putting two ideas together: and/or our work, Solomon seems to be putting two ideas together: 1) Life in this world is very unpredictable, often surprisingly 1) Life in this world is very unpredictable, often surprisingly disappointing. 2) If you “put all your eggs in one basket,” there is disappointing. 2) If you “put all your eggs in one basket,” there is a better than average chance you will LOSE everything. Thus, he a better than average chance you will LOSE everything. Thus, he advises us to spread our investments and/or our work efforts advises us to spread our investments and/or our work efforts around a bit, using several avenues simultaneously to obtain a around a bit, using several avenues simultaneously to obtain a decent return. If one or more investments fail (and they will), then decent return. If one or more investments fail (and they will), then hopefully the other things you are investing your wealth or your hopefully the other things you are investing your wealth or your work in will succeed, offsetting your losses. How about you? Are work in will succeed, offsetting your losses. How about you? Are you “betting everything on one horse?” Are you “putting all your you “betting everything on one horse?” Are you “putting all your hope in one venture?” Or, are you diversifying the investment of hope in one venture?” Or, are you diversifying the investment of your time, talent and treasure on several worthwhile ventures? your time, talent and treasure on several worthwhile ventures?

Finally . . . Fear God: 11:7-12:14 Finally . . . Fear God: 11:7-12:14 Solomon’s opening words in Ecclesiastes had one singular theme: Solomon’s opening words in Ecclesiastes had one singular theme: Life apart from God is totally meaningless (chs.1,2). Similarly, his Life apart from God is totally meaningless (chs.1,2). Similarly, his concluding words center around one clear theme: Life is short, so concluding words center around one clear theme: Life is short, so live with a healthy fear of God (chs.11,12). When Solomon live with a healthy fear of God (chs.11,12). When Solomon opened the book of Proverbs (written early in his life) he stated opened the book of Proverbs (written early in his life) he stated that the “fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom” (Proverbs that the “fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom” (Proverbs 1:7). Now, as he writes the final page of his wisdom literature, he 1:7). Now, as he writes the final page of his wisdom literature, he comes back to this simple theme: The most important thing in life comes back to this simple theme: The most important thing in life is to fear (reverence) God. Ultimately, this is the only way to live is to fear (reverence) God. Ultimately, this is the only way to live this life wisely and productively. this life wisely and productively. Solomon advises young people to find joy in the gifts of Solomon advises young people to find joy in the gifts of youthfulness and adventure (11:7-10). Yet, they must do so youthfulness and adventure (11:7-10). Yet, they must do so without losing sight of God and eternity (i.e., fearing the Lord). without losing sight of God and eternity (i.e., fearing the Lord). 3/5/17 562 3/5/17 562

“You who are young, be happy while you are young, and let your “You who are young, be happy while you are young, and let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth. Follow the ways of heart give you joy in the days of your youth. Follow the ways of your heart and whatever your eyes see, but know that for all your heart and whatever your eyes see, but know that for all these things God will bring you into judgment” (11:9). these things God will bring you into judgment” (11:9). He advises all people to develop a God-centered perspective on life He advises all people to develop a God-centered perspective on life before old age creeps in (12:1-8). This section has a somewhat before old age creeps in (12:1-8). This section has a somewhat dark and sad tone about it. It reads a bit like a funeral service. dark and sad tone about it. It reads a bit like a funeral service. Recall his advice about the value of attending funerals – 7:2. He Recall his advice about the value of attending funerals – 7:2. He seems to be taking us poetically to a funeral service in these seems to be taking us poetically to a funeral service in these closing lines! Yet, this is a good way to end the book in closing lines! Yet, this is a good way to end the book in Solomon’s mind, since there is great value in seriously pondering Solomon’s mind, since there is great value in seriously pondering end-of-life realities. end-of-life realities. At the same time, we wonder if the sadness in these final lines At the same time, we wonder if the sadness in these final lines might have been guided by Solomon’s look back over his own life. might have been guided by Solomon’s look back over his own life. Did he harbor regrets about how he had lived out his later years? Did he harbor regrets about how he had lived out his later years? Recall, he turned away from God toward the love of many women, Recall, he turned away from God toward the love of many women, and he filled Israel with shrines to all of their foreign gods. and he filled Israel with shrines to all of their foreign gods. Ecclesiastes on the whole pictures Solomon as one who, having Ecclesiastes on the whole pictures Solomon as one who, having turned away from the true God, spent much of his later life turned away from the true God, spent much of his later life wrestling and striving to make sense of life in general. His final wrestling and striving to make sense of life in general. His final words read like those of a man on his deathbed looking back and words read like those of a man on his deathbed looking back and giving advice to others who still have time to make mid-course giving advice to others who still have time to make mid-course corrections (i.e., Don’t make the same mistakes I have made!) corrections (i.e., Don’t make the same mistakes I have made!) “Remember your Creator in the days of your youth, before the “Remember your Creator in the days of your youth, before the days of trouble come and the years approach when you will say, days of trouble come and the years approach when you will say, ‘I find no pleasure in them’” (12:1). ‘I find no pleasure in them’” (12:1). “Remember Him – before the silver cord is severed, and the “Remember Him – before the silver cord is severed, and the golden bowl is broken; before the pitcher is shattered at the golden bowl is broken; before the pitcher is shattered at the spring, and the wheel broken at the well, and the dust returns to spring, and the wheel broken at the well, and the dust returns to the ground it came from, and the spirit returns to God who gave the ground it came from, and the spirit returns to God who gave it” (12:6,7). it” (12:6,7). If you could make a one -degree turn in your life right now, what If you could make a one -degree turn in your life right now, what would it be? What change would you make, based on Solomon’s would it be? What change would you make, based on Solomon’s closing words? Take some time to process this question. It would closing words? Take some time to process this question. It would be ideal if you could discuss your thoughts with a few other be ideal if you could discuss your thoughts with a few other people, and actually come up with a game plan to implement people, and actually come up with a game plan to implement some changes. Solomon would say: Don’t wait until it is too late some changes. Solomon would say: Don’t wait until it is too late for change! Make changes while there is still time to implement for change! Make changes while there is still time to implement them and receive some reward/joy from those decisions. You them and receive some reward/joy from those decisions. You don’t want to be lying on your deathbed muttering the words: “If don’t want to be lying on your deathbed muttering the words: “If only I had done . . .” “If only I had listened to . . .” “If only . . .” only I had done . . .” “If only I had listened to . . .” “If only . . .” 3/5/17 563 3/5/17 563 Solomon’s line of thought in Ecclesiastes is often difficult to Solomon’s line of thought in Ecclesiastes is often difficult to perceive. At times he seemed positive and God-centered. At other perceive. At times he seemed positive and God-centered. At other times he was pessimistic, inwardly focused and despairing. Still times he was pessimistic, inwardly focused and despairing. Still other times he seemed to blend hope and pessimism – realizing other times he seemed to blend hope and pessimism – realizing that life IS very broken and painful because of mankind’s sin that life IS very broken and painful because of mankind’s sin problem, yet life also DOES HAVE meaning and purpose if we problem, yet life also DOES HAVE meaning and purpose if we live in light of God and eternity. live in light of God and eternity. When he comes to the conclusion of Ecclesiastes, he states the When he comes to the conclusion of Ecclesiastes, he states the matter forthrightly, so that no reader can miss his final point: matter forthrightly, so that no reader can miss his final point: “Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: “Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep His commandments, for this is the duty of all Fear God and keep His commandments, for this is the duty of all mankind. For God will bring every deed into judgment, including mankind. For God will bring every deed into judgment, including every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil” (12:13,14). every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil” (12:13,14). FEAR GOD – OBEY GOD – YOU WILL ANSWER FOR IT. FEAR GOD – OBEY GOD – YOU WILL ANSWER FOR IT. In the final analysis, all of Solomon’s unparalleled God-given In the final analysis, all of Solomon’s unparalleled God-given wisdom led him to this simple conclusion about life: Put God first. wisdom led him to this simple conclusion about life: Put God first. Prove that you are serious about that by obeying His Word. And Prove that you are serious about that by obeying His Word. And live in light of eternal judgment/reward for how you lived. live in light of eternal judgment/reward for how you lived. His greatest wisdom was found in his simple, final statement! His greatest wisdom was found in his simple, final statement! A final thought on living out the wisdom of Solomon: A final thought on living out the wisdom of Solomon: Since Solomon made his conclusion simple, let’s make our final Since Solomon made his conclusion simple, let’s make our final questions simple. 1) How are YOU doing at FEARING GOD questions simple. 1) How are YOU doing at FEARING GOD (putting Him first in your life; worshipping Him in all things; (putting Him first in your life; worshipping Him in all things; maintaining your first love for Him; being reverent toward Him)? maintaining your first love for Him; being reverent toward Him)? 2) How are you doing at KEEPING HIS COMMANDMENTS 2) How are you doing at KEEPING HIS COMMANDMENTS (reading and heeding His words in every aspect of your life; (reading and heeding His words in every aspect of your life; seeking His will instead of your own)? seeking His will instead of your own)? It is clear that Solomon was a man of incredible insight and he It is clear that Solomon was a man of incredible insight and he gave the world lots of good advice. It is also clear that he was gave the world lots of good advice. It is also clear that he was woefully unable to apply his God-given wisdom to his own life. woefully unable to apply his God-given wisdom to his own life. This raises the question: If Solomon could not follow his own This raises the question: If Solomon could not follow his own advice, how can we expect to succeed? The answer is simple: We advice, how can we expect to succeed? The answer is simple: We can’t . . . if we strive in our own power. If we strive in our own can’t . . . if we strive in our own power. If we strive in our own strength, we will end up like Solomon, stumbling constantly over strength, we will end up like Solomon, stumbling constantly over our own lusts and worldly desires; or like the apostle Paul who our own lusts and worldly desires; or like the apostle Paul who tried to obey God in his own strength and failed, concluding: tried to obey God in his own strength and failed, concluding: “Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in “Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at 3/5/17 564 3/5/17 564 work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord! (Romans 7:21-25). Jesus Christ our Lord! (Romans 7:21-25). God has done two things to help us live well in this world. First, God has done two things to help us live well in this world. First, He sent Jesus to pay the penalty for our sins. Forgiveness is His He sent Jesus to pay the penalty for our sins. Forgiveness is His gift to each of us. Second, He sent the Holy Spirit to indwell those gift to each of us. Second, He sent the Holy Spirit to indwell those who believe and to help us overcome the power of sin. who believe and to help us overcome the power of sin. If you are a Christian, then God has placed His Holy Spirit within If you are a Christian, then God has placed His Holy Spirit within you. As you learn to walk in step with the Spirit, HE will produce you. As you learn to walk in step with the Spirit, HE will produce HIS fruit in your life (see Galatians 5:16-25). Then we will HIS fruit in your life (see Galatians 5:16-25). Then we will experience what the apostle Paul experienced in his own walk with experience what the apostle Paul experienced in his own walk with God: God: “I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, “I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and delivered live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and delivered Himself up for me” (Galatians 2:20). Himself up for me” (Galatians 2:20). The answer then is that we need to learn wisdom from the words of The answer then is that we need to learn wisdom from the words of God, and then receive power from the Spirit of God in order to live God, and then receive power from the Spirit of God in order to live it out. Wisdom without the Spirit leads to defeat. The Spirit it out. Wisdom without the Spirit leads to defeat. The Spirit without Wisdom leads to confusion. But when the Spirit of God without Wisdom leads to confusion. But when the Spirit of God teams up with the Wisdom of God, then we make progress in our teams up with the Wisdom of God, then we make progress in our journey of “fearing God and keeping His commandments.” journey of “fearing God and keeping His commandments.” If you want to learn more about walking in the power of the Holy If you want to learn more about walking in the power of the Holy Spirit and achieving more victory over sin in your life, I would Spirit and achieving more victory over sin in your life, I would recommend two books to you: recommend two books to you: The Wonderful Spirit-filled Life by Charles Stanley. The Wonderful Spirit-filled Life by Charles Stanley. Emotionally Healthy Spiritually by Pete Scazzero. Emotionally Healthy Spiritually by Pete Scazzero.

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