Perceptions of Marital Satisfaction Among Coptic Orthodox Christian Egyptian-American Husbands and Wives Monir Fuad Nazir Atta-Alla
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Duquesne University Duquesne Scholarship Collection Electronic Theses and Dissertations Summer 2009 Perceptions of Marital Satisfaction among Coptic Orthodox Christian Egyptian-American Husbands and Wives Monir Fuad Nazir Atta-Alla Follow this and additional works at: https://dsc.duq.edu/etd Recommended Citation Atta-Alla, M. (2009). Perceptions of Marital Satisfaction among Coptic Orthodox Christian Egyptian-American Husbands and Wives (Doctoral dissertation, Duquesne University). Retrieved from https://dsc.duq.edu/etd/253 This Immediate Access is brought to you for free and open access by Duquesne Scholarship Collection. It has been accepted for inclusion in Electronic Theses and Dissertations by an authorized administrator of Duquesne Scholarship Collection. For more information, please contact [email protected]. PERCEPTIONS OF MARITAL SATISFACTION AMONG COPTIC ORTHODOX CHRISTIAN EGYPTIAN-AMERICAN HUSBANDS AND WIVES A Dissertation Submitted to the School of Education Executive Counselor Education and Supervision program Department of Counseling, Psychology, and Special Education Duquesne University In partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of Doctor of Philosophy By Monir Fuad Nazir Atta-Alla August 2009 Copyright by Monir Fuad Nazir Atta-Alla 2009 DUQUESNE UNIVERSITY SCHOOL OF EDUCATION Department of Counseling, Psychology and Special Education Dissertation Submitted in Partial Fulfillment of the Requirements for the Degree of Doctor of Philosophy (Ph.D.) Executive Counselor Education and Supervision Program Presented by: Monir Fuad Nazir Atta-Alla Assiut University, B.A., 1981 Assiut University, Two Year Graduate Diploma, 1983 Assiut University, M.A., 1985 Glasgow University/Assiut University, Ph.D., 1989 June 25, 2009 PERCEPTIONS OF MARITAL SATISFACTION AMONG COPTIC ORTHODOX CHRISTIAN EGYPTIAN-AMERICAN HUSBANDS AND WIVES Approved by: _____________________________________________, Chair William J. Casile, Ph.D. Associate Professor ___________________________________________, Member Jocelyn Gregoire, Ed.D., C.S. Sp. Assistant Professor ___________________________________________, Member Nicholas J. Hanna, Ph. D. Professor iii ABSTRACT PERCEPTIONS OF MARITAL SATISFACTION AMONG COPTIC ORTHODOX CHRISTIAN EGYPTIAN-AMERICAN HUSBANDS AND WIVES By Monir Fuad Nazir Atta-Alla, August 2009 Dissertation supervised by Dr. William Casile According to Christianity, marriage was founded by God the Creator as a sacred relationship between a man, a husband, and a woman, a wife. Marriage in the Coptic Orthodox Church is a sacrament. Coptic Orthodox Christians are allowed to marry one spouse. Coptic Orthodox Christian husbands and wives have the right to divorce only in the case of evidenced adultery or apostasy. This qualitative study is the first of its kind to consider marital satisfaction among Coptic Orthodox Christian Egyptian-Americans. The study analyzed the relevant constructed meanings that emerged from all interviews and clustered them into five main themes in an attempt to reach an in-depth understanding of the lived marital experiences of Coptic Orthodox Christian Egyptian-American husbands and wives. These themes included their perception of what marital satisfaction is, the general factors that contributed to it, the effects of daily marital iv experiences, how they managed these factors, and what they would change to improve their marital satisfaction. The analysis of the collected data in this study provided a rich description of the Coptic Orthodox Christian Egyptian-Americans’ lived marital experiences and an identification of factors that influence their level of marital satisfaction. The conclusions of the study indicate that there is a conflict between the Coptic Orthodox Church’s view of marriage and that of the American society. Many Coptic Orthodox Christian Egyptian- American wives appear to question and reject their subordinate position in the family. They are beginning to seek more autonomy and equal power in marital relationships. Many Coptic Orthodox Christian Egyptian-American husbands also appear to reject their identity and role as a husband, and are more open to the life style and values of the American society. An analysis of the data collected provided the basis for future research on this phenomenon as well as some implications for couples, Coptic Orthodox Church leaders, and marriage counselors working with this population. v DEDICATION To my Lord Jesus Christ who is doing wonders with me every day. To my late mother, Fayza, the love river in my life. I feel your blessings as you smile upon me from Heaven. To my beloved wife, Manal. You are a very true compatible helper to me. Behind every successful man is a successful woman and you are that woman. To my two dear loving and understanding sons, Mark and Michael. I love you unconditionally. To H. H. Pope Shenouda III, the great teacher of many generations. To H. G. Bishop Paula, the open-minded and kind-hearted man. To all husbands and wives who believe in their marriage as a covenant and deal with their marital relationship as a sacramental relationship. vi ACKNOWLEDGEMENT My Heavenly Father and Creator, Lord my Father –God, thank you for blessing me each step of the way. Without You, nothing is possible. With You all things are possible. I would like to extend my deepest gratitude to Dr. Casile, my dissertation committee chair; his advice, support, direction, and outstanding reviews and insights have greatly contributed to the successful completion of this piece of work. In addition, Dr. Casile has been my advocate in many other aspects of my life, beginning with my admission to the Duquesne University School of Education up to the completion of my studies. I want to express my appreciation for the undivided support and encouragement of Dr. Hanna for not only being my dissertation committee member, but for being my anchor in my most trying times during my studies, and in my social life as well. Above all, Dr. Hanna has been a model counselor and educator for me. I want to extend special gratitude to Dr. Gregoire for taking time off his busy schedule to sit on my dissertation committee; his contribution, feedback, and encouragement have been an invaluable asset to me. My warmest thanks are extended to Dr. Levers for her continuous encouragement and for being a role model for me. I would like to say thank you to the professors in the counselor education and supervision program at Duquesne University; I have learned so much along this journey from each of you. I would like to thank Lori Jockel and Denise Clemente for their continued support. A special word of thanks is extended to my wife, Manal D. Mansour for her undivided love and support and for holding the port at home on my behalf—thank you vii very much. I am indebted to you forever. My deep appreciation goes to my two sons, Mark and Michael for their encouragement and care. My warmest gratitude is to father Roufail Yousif, the priest of St. George Coptic Orthodox Church in Norristown, Pennsylvania, for his support during data collection. Last, but not least, I would like to acknowledge the Coptic Orthodox Christian Egyptian-American husbands and wives who participated in my study, without them the completion of my dissertation would not have been possible. viii TABLE OF CONTENTS Page Chapter 1: Introduction........................................................................................................1 Statement of the Problem.............................................................................................15 Significance of the Study.............................................................................................17 Purpose of the Study ....................................................................................................18 Research Questions......................................................................................................19 Theoretical and Conceptual Framework......................................................................20 Operational Definitions................................................................................................29 Summary......................................................................................................................30 Chapter II: Literature Review ............................................................................................31 Marriage.......................................................................................................................31 Christian Marriage .................................................................................................33 Coptic Orthodox Marriage.....................................................................................37 Divorce.........................................................................................................................40 Divorce Assumptions.............................................................................................41 Effects of Divorce..................................................................................................42 Divorce in the Coptic Orthodox Church................................................................45 ix Marital Satisfaction......................................................................................................46 Marital Satisfaction and Gender ............................................................................51 Marital Satisfaction and Marriage Length .............................................................54