Cronecle Newsletter of the Lower Hutt Women’s Centre
Vol. 28 | No. 1 | Hakihea 12- 2020
In this issue...
Viewpoint p 2-4 From LHWC By Our Dearest Ally Andersun p 5 Mosaics Fundraiser p 6-7 Posters p 8-9 Communtiy Events The Lower Hutt Women Centre, creating, enabling, reflecting, p 10 Observation the home of women, the reviewing, playing, building, sanctuary for me for more than cleaning, food preparation, p 11 Poster half of my employed life, what a striving, education, vulnerability, p 12 Ongoing Events privileged position to be in, being realisation, ritual, empowerment. p 13 Self Esteem for Women paid for working in my cause. By their fruits ye will know them. p 14 Support at LHWC My perception is the ethnic Feminism is the backbone of strength that has held the Women empowerment for me, it also has p 15 - 19 Workshops Centre so generously was laid my back. Behind us stands such p 20 Register Online down by the Pacific Island women wealth of knowledge, strength and p 21 Inspirational Women who gathered within her for their conviction from our ancestors, of p 22 Grief Relief Kit weekly Mama’s group in the mid every walk of life, creed and to late 80’s. This holding has been culture. The women who have p 23 The Treaty of Witangi a constant source of strength gone before us, and left us the p 24 Join Us throughout the years of laughter, legacy to carry on forward, are at planning, meeting, gathering, our back in force to join and swell learning, training, celebrating, the movement for a humane Women’s Centre mourning, consulting, existence for all. To free ourselves Opening Hours challenging, dancing, singing, from the shackles that have bound crying, growing, child rearing and our foremothers to the roles of Mon & Tues 10am-2pm loving, resolving, reinventing, only ever being a daughter, a wife, Wed - Fri 9.30am-3.30pm a mother. Reclaim ourselves as women, first and foremost, getting The Women's Centre will up from our knees and standing Contact Us close for the summer strong in our own truth of who break: we are, shedding the confines of 186 Knights Road, Waterloo stereotype and attitudes of being Lower Hutt 5011 Tuesday 22-12-2021 grateful for crumbs. The Lower Hutt Women Centre provides the Phone: 04 920 1009 and will reopen space, energy and encouragement Tuesday 26-01-2021 for all women to rise to that Email: [email protected] continued on page 5...... Web: www.lhwc.org.nz [email protected] Lower Hutt Women’s Centre | Hakihea 12-2020 Cronecle 1 From LHWC Whakatauki E iti noa ana nā te aroha A small thing given with love. Aroha mai aroha atu. Love received demands love returned. Me te mea ko Kōpū ka rere i te pae. (The beauty of a women is) like Kōpū (Venus) rising above the horizon. Ahakoa he iti kete, he iti nā te aroha. It is the thought that counts. He taonga rongonui te aroha ki te tangata. Goodwill towards others is a precious treasure. Taku toi kahurangi. My precious jewel. Ka nui taku aroha ki a koe. My love for you knows no bounds.
Source: https://www.massey.ac.nz/massey/maori/resources/pronunciation/maori-proverbs.cfm
Free Legal Advice The Women’s Centre has free 30-minute consultations available during the first week of each month. The primary objective of a consultation is to advise you if you have a legal problem, and whether you need to see a solicitor. If you do need to see a solicitor the lawyer can advise you about your eligibility for Legal Aid and give you some idea of the legal procedures involved in solving your particular problem. If you don’t have a legal problem the lawyer is sure she can give you some sound practical advice anyway. The lawyer can also advise you about facilities available to help you solve your own problems, such as the Disputes Tribunal, Family Court Counselling, etc. All consultations are held in private and are strictly confidential.
When: First week of the month How to book: Please do not contact the lawyers without first booking with the Women’s Centre. Phone the Women’s Centre at any time during the month to register your interest in an appointment. We will phone you at the beginning of the month to check if you still require an appointment, and if you do, we will give you the phone number to make the appointment directly with the lawyer.
Where: Thomas Dewar Sziranyi Letts Level 2, Corner of Queens Drive and Margaret Street, Lower Hutt
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she was getting a balanced view on gender norms and I put all my energy into not boxing her up in one particular category.
She had blue T-shirts that said "Rad like Dad", with tags that called it a "boy T-shirt".
What made it a boy T-shirt? I am yet to understand, as it was being worn by a girl without somehow self- destructing.
I wanted to see the whole world available to her, not just the "girly" part of it. In my quest to show her that all colours of the rainbow were born equal, I found myself falling for the old trick of seeing "pink" as the lesser How my 3-year-old colour. daughter changed my Real equality comes in all colours - and that includes views on feminism. pink. The girliest of pinks, preferably sparkly. And with some frills thrown in for good measure. And that's exactly what she loves. By Vera Alves When she started communicating enough to tell me what she wanted (something that happened a lot It took me making a whole new person to learn an earlier than I was prepared for) she left no room for important lesson about feminism. doubt: this girl loves pink. The sparklier the better. Well, crap. My daughter turns 3 today. At her request, she'll wear a pink organza dress, with a giant butterfly on I have spent the past few months having to come to it, and "sparkly shoes". My worst bloody nightmare. terms with the fact that her personal choices do not (Okay, I'm exaggerating, my ACTUAL worst make me a failure as a feminist mother. She's right. nightmare involves flying lizards and people If everything is equal and all options are just as chewing loudly - but you get my point.) good, why was I putting pink down? At 3, she's Ever since I found out I was having a girl, I worked already taught me the biggest feminist lesson I've hard to make sure she didn't feel constrained by her ever learnt. gender. Feminism means equality for all and it's not very That meant ensuring she had positive female and equal of me to think "not the f***ing pink one male role models in her life, in equal measure. again" when she gets a top out of her drawer. Luckily for her, she's got plenty of those. Because being feminine is a feminist act. It's time to And it also meant ensuring, at least for the first stop devaluing femininity. couple of years of her life, I was giving her all the options, outside the scope of gender. I scrutinised every toy, every cartoon, to make sure Continued on page 4..... [email protected] Lower Hutt Women’s Centre | Hakihea 12-2020 Cronecle 3 From LHWC
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We keep trying to teach our girls they can be anything but most of the examples we give them of girls who achieve their goals show girls who are not your stereotypical female. The problem is not one girl liking "pink" - the problem is society defining "pink" as a "girly"colour and associating that with concepts of fragility and weakness.
Real equality will only come from elevating it and putting it truly on par with masculinity. For girls like my daughter, Serena Williams uber- feminine manicure at the Australian Open is important. We need more pink tutus and girly Flow Dance & Fitness Studio manicures in areas like politics and in academia. More girls kicking ass in all colours - including pink. Level 1, 127 High Street, Lower Hutt 021 025 82551 / 021 023 08205 I want to teach my daughter she can be anything, no matter what she wears. And that means I've got to Book your 7-Day-Free Trial Classes Today on be okay with all this pink organza crap she chooses to love - precisely because it's her choice to love it. Our Website; She wears pink not because "girls wear pink" but because "people who like pink wear pink". WWW.FLOWDANCEANDFITNESS.CO.NZ Yin Yoga - Hatha Yoga - Vinyasa Yoga - She loves it. She also loves dinosaurs and squeals Soma Yoga - Flow Core Yoga with excitement every time we drive past a digger. And she can run uphill with more energy than most. And jumps off the back of the sofa with a level of ABOUT US excitement I wish my worried mother heart didn't have to witness. She oves ballet and she also loves Flow Dance and Fitness Studio is changing the hot wheels. And she hugs the dog when she thinks concept of taking a dance and fitness classes he looks "sad" and helps her friends at daycare put by offering a high quality instruction in an their shoes on and brings me "coffee" from her toy kitchen while I'm working and tells me, in no environment that is financially and socially uncertain terms, what she wants (chocolate, toys) accessible. Our Instructors are ready to share and doesn't want right now (a nap). their passion for fitness with you. She's strong and delicate, she's brave and she's kind Flow for everybody! and, unlike what my biased views would have me believe and what the slogans on "kids" T-shirts imply, those things can co-exist and none of them are OUR SERVICES inherently "boyish" or "girly". - Yoga classes for all age groups They're what makes us fundamentally human.
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Kia ora Women’s Centre Whānau!
We have beautiful mosaic tiles that have been decorating the garden at the Centre in recent years and need a new home. This is a chance for you to take a part of the Women’s Centre home with you and they would also make great Christmas presents!
The price is $10 per tile or $15 for two tiles.
Payment can be made in cash or via online banking. Account details are 030531 0528525 03
Please put Mosaic Fundraiser and your name as reference.
The tiles will be available to view and purchase from the Lower Hutt Women’s Centre on Friday 11th and Friday 18th December 12pm-2pm. If you are interested in purchasing some tiles but these times don’t suit you please contact email Naomi at [email protected] to arrange an alternative time.
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...... self-challenge that allows us to heal and journey towards our authentic self and thrive within our own lives alongside other women who have the courage to be themselves. So with a heart filled with love and respect I have been preparing myself to leave this womb-like home that has sheltered and nurtured me and forced me to accept my strength and wisdom in a way that empowers me to depart from her as a grown child separates from the symbiosis of her mother. I arrived as a young woman in my late thirties and depart as a crone 70 years of age. What a privilege it has been for me to be a part of such a noble and reputable organisation. Thank you Lower Hutt Women Centre I am eternally grateful for all you have given me.
Ally
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Summer Play Days
Where: Naenae, Stokes Valley, Petone, Family Beach Nights All Ages - Free When: Our play days are back for summer! This is a free Thu 7 Jan 2021, 6:00pm–8:30pm event for kids and families to enjoy self-directed and unstructured play. Imagination play, sport play, our legendary water Where:Petone Beach, Petone Beach, Wellington play, giant bubbles, and more! All Ages - Free Locations: We’re running play days all summer long! Join us! Our beach nights are back for summer - coming to a Saturday 5th December, 10 am-1 pm, Naenae beach near you every Thursday in January! (behind pool) Saturday 12 December, 10am-1pm, Riddiford 07 Jan - Petone Beach near Petone Wharf Gardens 14 Jan - Petone Beach near Petone Settlers Museum Saturday 19th December, 10am-1pm, Queen St, Wainuiomata 21 Jan - Days Bay Wednesday 6th January, 2-4pm, Riddiford 29 Jan - Eastbourne near Rona Bay Wharf Gardens Wednesday 13th January, 2-4pm, Speldhurst Join us for hut building, marshmallow roasting, Park, Stokes Valley beach clean ups, beach cricket and more! This is a free event for whanau to enjoy self-directed and Wednesday 20th January, 2-4pm, McEwan Park, unstructured play on the beach! Petone This event will proceed at Covid-19 Alert Level 1, Wednesday 27th January, 2-4pm, Avalon Park with hygiene and contact tracing measures in place. (left of duck pond) Please note we will be taking photos during this event. Saturday 13 February, 10am-1pm, Walter Nash Park For more info, contact Active in the Hutt 04 560 0308 Saturday 20th February, 10am-1pm, Hutt Park
Source: https://www.eventfinda.co.nz/2021/family-beach-nights2/wellington
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Veranoa Hetet: Veranoa is a master Māori weaver and kaiako based in Waiwhetū, Lower Hutt, who comes Creating Potential from a long line of prominent makers.
The Dowse Art Museum, 45 Laings Rd, She first learnt the weaving techniques raranga, Lower Hutt, Wellington Region tāniko and whatu kakahu from her mother, the late Erenora Puketapu-Hetet, and learnt Sunday 29 November 2020 10:00am – 5:00pm ... tukutuku and kowhaiwhai from her father, more master carver Rangi Hetet.
All Ages - Free In her new exhibition, Creating Potential, Veranoa explores the notion that each of her When: works hold the past - building from traditional 10 October 2020 - 28 February 2021 methods, patterns and stories of whakapapa. But they also hold the future—the exciting potential of creating something new, using Where:The Dowse Art Museum, 45 Laings Rd, contemporary materials, colours and Lower Hutt, Wellington Region techniques.
Woven with a deep sense of aroha for both past The past and the future are woven closely and future generations, Veranoa’s weaving together in these works by prominent Māori upholds the creative legacy of her whakapapa weaver Veranoa Hetet QSM (Ngāti Maniapoto, by “seeing what can be, working out of what Ngāti Tūwharetoa, Te Ati Āwa). w a s”.
Source: https://www.eventfinda.co.nz/2020/veranoa-hetet-creating- potential/lower-hutt
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names being hard to pronounce. The words sitting at the tip of Racism is when you are responsible for addressing a crowd of thousands at the Anzac parade in Devonport my tongue that i need to share. but don’t even show the respect of pronouncing our names and place names properly. By Amie Berghan Paulet Racism is when my brother walks down the street, chocolate skin, hoodie on and you start walking faster. Racism is when I choose to connect to my heritage- The past several months I have had these words sitting spiritual, cultural, language- and you feel entitled to be on the tip of my tongue but have been too terrified to included. share them (even now I'm shaking) because I know Racism is when you label my people ‘dole bludgers’. they will be met with resistance but it's time. Racism is when you tell my people to just ‘get over it, Let’s get really real right now, racism against Māori is the past is the past’. a real thing in New Zealand. I feel it and have felt it, Racism is when you look at the ‘statistics’ and not the everywhere I go. I see it walking down the street, I feel truth that is hiding behind the statistics. it in meeting someone new, I even experience it in my Racism is when discussing history you expect my close friendships. people to walk towards you for healing instead of you Today I’m saying that’s enough. I will no longer be a walking towards us. second-class citizen in my own land. I am, we are Tan- Racism is when you take naked selfies on our sacred gata Whenua, and I stand proud of my heritage. mountains and then label us as ‘prudes’ or pass over I know recognising racism in the obvious is easy. It’s our offence as if it’s because we don’t understand free- when someone yells “nigga” to the brown boy walk- dom to self-expression. ing down the street that we know and feel it as racism, Racism is when you appropriate our culture. when someone is discriminated against because of the But most of all racism is when you refuse to recognise color of their skin we recognise and feel it as racism your ‘white privilege’ and entitlement. and by and large we’re angered by the overt racism Racism is real in New Zealand and it’s time for a that we see around us. change. I will no longer be a second-class citizen in my Racism is real in New Zealand and it’s time for a own land. change. I will no longer be a second-class citizen in my I am, we are Tangata Whenua, and I stand proud of own land. my heritage. Your names for me and my people will no But what about the subtle ways racism plays out in the longer stick. I choose the name of Mana Whenua. day to day against Māori in NZ? It’s so subtle that it’s You have thrown open the door to my whare, walked easy to pass over it, but I refuse to be ok with it any- in with your dirty boots, sat down and called it home. more. So, to be clear this is how I experience racism on All you had to do was knock on the door and you the daily: would have been welcomed in. It’s not too late. Racism is when you are surprised that I am Māori That’s Us is a campaign by the Human Rights Com- because I am ‘too beautiful’, ‘too smart’, ‘too educated’, mission that asks Kiwis to start sharing their personal or ‘too well travelled’ to be Māori. stories about racism, intolerance and hatred, as well as Racism is when you make derogatory remarks about their hopes for the future of New Zealand as one of the my people in front of me and then say ‘oh, but you’re most diverse countries in the world. Read more stories not like that’. and click here to tell your story. Racism is when our government debates whether Te Reo Māori should be included as a compulsory lan- guage in schools. https://www.thatsus.co.nz/amie-berghan-paulet Racism is when you complain about Māori place
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About our Computer Lessons ongoing events Our computer lessons cater to a range of abilities, starting from complete beginners. Bring your questions to your lesson and our tutor will help you out. This is our weekly ongoing Want to learn how to: programme. We have regular workshops and groups that - Surf the net? provide for a range of different - Find useful websites for news, shopping, books, timetables, health info, needs. These are free or low cost. maps, online travel sites, social media, online radio - Use your laptop? (bring it along to your lesson) - Use your phone — android and iphone All courses are held at the - Use your tablet or ipad Women’s Centre. - Use email and/or set up an email account? - Become proficient in Microsoft Word, Excel, Powerpoint, or Visio? - Use Facebook, Skype, TradeMe, DropBox, or YouTube? WEEKLY SCHEDULE - Scan documents and photos? - Manage and edit your photos - Upgrading or downloading apps Tuesday We run with two computers; both run Windows 10 and Microsoft Office 6:30 pm - Self Esteem 2016. One is a standard desktop and the other is touch-screen. 8:30pm Day: Wednesdays
Wednesday Time: 9:30am–3:30pm 9:30am– Computer lessons Appointments with the tutor are 30 or 60 minutes 3:30 pm (by appointment) Bookings: Bookings are essential and you must book in advance. You can book for 3 sessions at a time (usually 2 or 3 weeks in advance) Call 920 1009 to make an appointment Friday 9:45am– Self Esteem 12pm Free computer access The Women’s Centre has two public access computers available for all 1–2:30pm Women 's women to use during our opening Wellbeing hours. Our computers First Sunday of the Both computers run on Windows 10 month and one is touchscreen 1pm– Support group for Other facilities 4pm women who have Printing 20¢ per black and white page (free during experienced rape lessons) or sexual abuse Scanner Free Internet Access
++ Booking Phone us on 920 1009 to book your time. You can book up to one hour for each session 12 Cronecle Lower Hutt Women’s Centre | Hakihea 12-2020 www.lhwc.org.nz Self Esteem for Women
Our self esteem develops and evolves throughout our lives as we build an image of ourselves through our experiences with different people Tuesday evenings in 2020 and activities. 15 Dec Putting yourself in neutral 22 Dec Having the courage to be imperfect Experiences during our childhood play a particularly large role in the shaping of our basic self esteem. When we were growing up, our suc- Tuesday evenings in 2021 cesses (and failures), and how we were treated by the members of our immediate family, by our teachers, sports coaches, religious authori- 26 Jan Developing courage ties, and by our peers, all contributed to the creation of our basic self 02 Feb Willpower esteem. 09 Feb Anger as a strength 16 Feb Developing self knowledge The course is designed to give women the opportunity to develop awareness of how they live in the world, the influences on them, and 23 Feb Self love how they have the ability and power to make changes in their lives. 02 Mar Acknowledging self 09 Mar Enhancing self in terms of awareness Women will be given the opportunity to: 16 Mar Acceptance and use of strengths 23 Mar Positive thought and talk - develop skills to recognise the strengths in themselves 30 Mar Messages about self - look at the areas of self responsibility and self reflection - be encouraged to develop awareness around how beliefs about self 06 Apr Accepting responsibility for self develop and grow 13 Apr Coming to grips with feelings - build their emotional connection with themselves and develop a 20 Apr Talking about ourselves greater awareness of their own feelings and emotions - feel a sense of personal power and belonging 27 Apr Beliefs about self - celebrate positive aspects of being a woman. 04 May Expressing pride in self 11 May Letting go of the past Self esteem workshops are run on Tuesday evenings and Friday morn- 18 May Respecting self and others ings. Each workshop is separate. You may attend one or as many as you like. Self esteem runs on a 20-topic basis. Once the 20 topics have been completed, the cycle begins again. Friday mornings in 2020 11 Dec Acknowledging Self Tuesday evening workshops 18 Dec Enhancing Self in Terms of Time: 6:30pm–8:30pm Awareness Cost: $5 Booking: You don’t need to book; just turn up Friday mornings in 2021 29 Jan Acceptance and use of strengths Friday morning workshops 05 Feb Positive thought and talk 12 Feb Messages about self Time: 9:45am–12 noon ** This workshop starts at 10am and latecomers won’t be ad- 19 Feb Accepting responsibility for self mitted ** 26 Feb Coming to grips with feelings Cost: $2 05 Mar Talking about ourselves Facilitator: Stephanie Brockman 12 Mar Beliefs about self 19 Mar Expressing pride in self 26 Mar Letting go of the Past Booking: You don’t need to book; you can just turn up 09 Apr Respcting Self and Others Creche: Creche is provided for pre-school children only without extra charge only on Friday morning. 16 Apr Striving for Pure Motives If you want to bring your children please turn up earlier, with time to 23 Apr Putting Yourself in neutral settle your children in and bring some food for their morning tea. [email protected] Lower Hutt Women’s Centre | Hakihea 12-2020 Cronecle 13 Support at LHWC
Support Group Who Have Experienced Rape or Sexual Abuse
A monthly three-hour support group for women who have experienced childhood sexual abuse, sexual abuse, or rape is being offered at the Lower Hutt Women’s Centre. This group while still running is closed to new members until a new facilitator is appointed. Enquiries: phone 9201009
“The traumatised child doesn’t have the luxury of self reflection.” —John Briere “I thought I was so alone with this problem, but hearing about how others have coped helps enormously.” —Dr. Kim McGregor in Surviving and Moving On This group offers an opportunity for women to develop self awareness and self reflection at their own pace and in their own style, an opportunity to reclaim, and retrieve split-off hurt parts of themselves, and allow them to heal. Healing is not only possible, but also essential.
Alcohol and Drug Wellbeing Group for women
If you’ve experienced difficulties in the past or present with alcohol and drug misuse, and would like some support, then this group’s for you. This group’s aim is to promote wellbeing at whatever stage an individual may be. Wellbeing can be achieved by education, therapy, and going out to the community and enjoying experiences without the use of alcohol and drugs. This is a weekly support group for women who want ongoing support with drug and alcohol misuse. This weekly open group is available to all women. “If you want something different you need to do something different.” “To understand a woman you must understand where she comes from.” Day: Friday afternoons every week in 2021 Time: 1pm–2:30pm Cost and Enrolment: No charge. You do not need to book; you can just turn up. Creche: Creche provided
Facilitator: Janet Matehe is a DAPAANZ Registered Alcohol and Drug Practioner and Generic Counsellor. She recently finished a level four Te Reo course and has a Certificate in Supervision. Janet comes from a recovery background and she has been in recovery for 10 years. She is passionate about her work and she lives and breathes recovery in her personal life. The underlying principles she works with are Tika (correct), Pono (honest), and Aroha (love). She practices these principles on a daily basis, both professionally and personally.
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Workshop Topics : Self Esteem for Women p 13 Circle of Security Parenting p 16 Self Esteem for Teens p 17 Resilience p 18 Understanding the Blues p 19
Our workshops are designed around the group process where in the making and functioning of a group the participants learn from each other, from the group activities, and from the facilitator. All group participants learn different things, depending on their own life journey and what they are needing at the time. We welcome you to experience something new in yourself.
All courses are held at the Centre - 186 Knights Road, Waterloo, Lower Hutt • Courses must be paid in full to confirm your enrolment • Call us on 920 1009 if you have questions Other Groups meeting at LHWC
Continued Recovery is a support When: group for women living in recovery from disordered eating. We welcome women of all Second Monday of each ages with a history of anorexia, bulimia, month Facilitator: binge eating, or any other form of disordered Meeting time: 6–7:30pm Kimberley Bignall eating who are looking to continue strengthening their recovery journey. Cost: FREE We meet monthly to celebrate our successes, Dates for 2021: Enrolment: discuss challenges/on-going issues in our Enrolment not necessary; recovery, and gain support from others with just turn up their own experiences of both illness and Monday 08 February recovery. Phone: Reach Kimberley on Monday 08 March Please note: To ensure everyone’s safety and (027) 327 4466 or wellbeing we require participants to be Monday 12 April committed to their own recovery. If you’re Email: Monday 10 May unsure if Continued Recovery is right for [email protected] you, or if you have any questions, please Monday 14 June contact us.
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Circle of Security® Parenting™
For Mothers of Pre-School Children
Facilitator: Kay Riddler Course Duration: 8 weeks beginning Thursday 11 February 2020 Cost: Waged $40/low or unwaged $20 Time: 7- 9pm
Over the course of eight sessions the focus moves from discussing secure attachment and children’s needs to reflecting on self and developing new skills and resources for relating to your children. Video clips of parents and children are used to introduce you to attachment theory in an accessible manner – while enhancing observational skills, and engaging in reflective dialogue regarding your strengths and struggles in parenting.
“We spoke about filling her child’s cup, finding multiple times every day to snuggle her, cuddle her, talk with her, hold your arms open, make eye contact, delight in her, hug her, protect her. To consistently be available to her. Because in filling your child’s cup, it just may be that her forever empty will also feel a little less lonely.” www.circleofsecurity.com
At times we all feel lost about what our child might need from us. Imagine what it might feel like if you were able to make sense of what your child was really asking from you.
This course emphasises the importance for parents in maintaining a balance between being “wise and kind”, able to follow the child’s needs whenever possible and being “bigger and stronger” than the child – able to take charge when necessary.
Facilitator Bio: Kay is a certified Circle of Security® Parenting™ program facilitator and is a mellow parenting practitioner with over 15 years social work experience working with parents/families and individuals. She is a mother, grandmother and registered social worker. Kay is passionate about minimising the blame and shame game while supporting parents to build strengths without ignoring their struggles.
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Self Esteem for Teens
Self Esteem for Teens Facilitators: Scarlett Jones and Naomi Millane
Course Duration: An eight week self esteem course for girls aged 13 to 17 years. Cost: $20 Date: Thursday 11th May 2021 Time: 4-6pm
Do you want: - To learn more about yourself? - To have fun? - To be more confident? - To grow in self respect? - To grow in self worth? - To grow in self esteem? - To accept yourself as you are? - To develop an understanding and respect of yourself and others? We’re all different… Who we are, what we like and don’t like, our cultures and our backgrounds. There is no one else quite like you. Once you accept yourself there is no reason to hold anything back. This is your world, honour it as your own and enjoy it’s gifts.
Facilitator Bio Scarlett is a counsellor who loves working with women and girls, and celebrating their learning and growth with them. When Scarlett isn't counselling, she likes walking in nature, craft and listening to podcasts.
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Resilience
Resilience – The identification and use of resilience in everyday life Facilitator: Stephanie Brockman
Date: Date to be confirmed Time: 7-9pm
Cost: Waged $40/low or unwaged $20
Resilience is the ability to have difficult feelings, experiences, mistakes, disappointments or loss and to be able to move through them in constructive ways that allows us to maintain our authenticity and grow from the experience. Resilience is a crucial ingredient in what determines how high we rise above what threatens to wear us down, from battling an illness, to relationship breakup, to carrying on after a national crisis. Resilience can be defined as the capacity to cope and bounce back, in this course participants will identify strategies and techniques to recognise unhelpful ways of being and replace them with a mindset that enhances resilience. We are all resilient in many ways, and this course will assist in participants connecting with their capacity for resilience. A person connected to their capacity for resilient person will return to equilibrium after a disturbance.
It does not matter how strong your gravity is, we were always meant to fly.” - Sarah Kay
“Through suffering, comes wisdom.Through surrender, comes strength. Through resilience, comes hope. Keep going.” - Rita Said
"When we learn how to become resilient, we learn how to embrace the beautifully broad spectrum of the human experience." - Jaeda Dewalt
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Understanding the Blues
Facilitator: Diana Rickman
Course Duration: 6 Sessions No date set at this time
Cost: Waged $40/low or unwaged $20
Time: 7-9pm
This six week course is about finding new skills to move through Depression and Anxiety. With connection, support and gentle encouragement you can find a way out of Depression and Anxiety. This group is a structured educational group.
Is the group for me? If you have felt hopeless, panicky, tired, fearful or stuck this group may support you to see new possibilities. This group may also be for you if you have experienced depression and anxiety in your life and you want to break the cycle.
The topics we may cover are; - Positivity - Sleep - Respecting your body - Being friendly with feelings - Making a plan for healing - Relaxation - Assertiveness and relationships.
Please note: Six minimum for course to commence and 10 maximum.
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Register for Workshops Online through the LHWC Website
Now, you can register for workshops online using the LHWC website.
To register for a workshop through the website, first go to the LHWC’s homepage: www.lhwc.org.nz/. Next, click on the “Workshops/Groups” tab at the top of the page.
You can then register in one of two ways: 1. When you click on the “Workshops/Groups” tab, a small drop-down menu will appear. 2. Click on “Enrolment Form” to be taken to an online form where you will complete your contact details and select workshops. 3. Then, click the “Enrol Me!” button at the bottom of the enrolment form to submit your request 4. You can also enrol through each individual workshop page. 5. When you click on the “Workshops/Groups” tab, 6. select “Workshops” from the small drop-down menu. 7. A page listing upcoming workshops will appear. 8. When you find a workshop you’d like to attend, click on the purple “Enrol Now” button on the lower left-hand side of each workshop listing. 9. That will take you to the enrolment form. 10. Remember to click the “Enrol Me!” button at the bottom of the enrolment form to submit your request.
20 Cronecle Lower Hutt Women’s Centre | Hakihea 12-2020 www.lhwc.org.nz Inspirational Women
Whina Cooper, of Te Rārawa, was television broadcast of her pokapū o te tekau tau atu i 1950 e born in northern Hokianga in tangihanga (funeral). 300 ngā peka o te rōpū, e 4000 ana 1895. She took part in local affairs mema. Ka nui te āwhina a te rōpū and by the 1930s had become a Adapted from the DNZB nei ki te whakapai ake i te noho o leader of the northern Hokianga biography by Michael King ngā whānau Māori kātahi anō ka people. hūnuku ki te tāone, i te mea ka See: biography of Dame Whina rongo ēnei whānau i te In 1932 she played an active role, Cooper in the Dictionary of New whakatoihara iwi i a rātou ka rapu with Apirana Ngata, in setting up Zealand Biography kāinga, ka rapu mahi mā rātou. I Māori land development schemes Film of Te Roopu o te Matakite te tau 1953 ka whakawhiwhia a in the region. Eleven schemes march arriving in Parliament Whina ki te tohu MBE. (comprising 98,000 acres, or 40,000 hectares) were set up in the Mōhiotia Hokianga district, and Whina whānuitia supervised several. The schemes ai a Whina made rapid progress, although Cooper i several later proved uneconomic. te mea nāna i When her second husband (Bill ārahi te Cooper) died in 1949 Whina hīkoi moved to Auckland. Here she rongonui o found a new role as a pan-tribal te tau 1975 Māori leader. She was foundation mō te president of the Maori Women's whenua. Welfare League, and was active in Ka tīmata creating regional branches. By the tēnei hīkoi mid-1950s the League had over i Te 300 branches and 4,000 members. Hāpua, e It greatly improved improving ahu atu living conditions for Māori who ana ki te had recently moved to the cities Whare and faced discrimination in Pāremata i housing and employment. Whina Te was appointed an MBE in 1953. Whanga- nui-a-Tara. Whina Cooper is perhaps best He mea known for leading the famous whakarite e ngā rōpū mautohe 1975 land march from Te Hāpua Whina Cooper Māori e ātete ana i te ngaronga o (in the far north) to Parliament in I whānau mai a Whina Cooper ki ngā maramara whenua e noho Wellington. The march was Hokianga i te tau 1895. Ko Te tonu ana ki ngā ringaringa o te organised by Māori groups Rārawa tōna iwi. I whai wāhi ia ki Māori. He āhuatanga hou tēnei opposed to the further loss of their ngā nekeneke me ngā kaupapa o momo mautohe ki Aotearoa. land. It marked a new era of tōna hapori. Tae ana ki te tekau protest and reform. tau atu i 1930, e ārahi ana a Whina Ka hiki rā ngā manawa o ngā i tōna iwi e noho mai rā i te raki o tāngata tokomaha o Aotearoa i For most New Zealanders who Hokianga. I te tau 1932 ka mahi a tēnei rūruhi e 80 te pakeke kei te witnessed the march the most ia i te taha o Apirana Ngata ki te ārahi i te hīkoi. E 5000 pea ngā inspiring image was the seemingly whakatū kaupapa ahuwhenua ki tāngata ka tae ki te Whare frail but passionately articulate ngā whenua Māori o tōna rohe. Pāremata i te rā 13 o Oketopa o te 80-year-old woman who led it. Tekau mā tahi ngā kaupapa tau 1975. I reira ka tāpaea e Whina About 5,000 marchers arrived at ahuwhenua (e 98,000 eka, e 40,000 te pitihana nā te 60,000 i haina, ki Parliament on October 13, 1975, heketea rānei) ka tū ki te takiwā o mua i te Pirimia a Bill Rowling. where Whina presented a petition Hokianga, ko Whina te signed by 60,000 people to the kaiwhakahaere i ētahi. I te Ka noho tonu a Whina Cooper ki Prime Minister, Bill Rowling. tīmatanga ka whai hua ngā mahi mua i te aroaro o te iwi whānui o ahuwhenua; nāwai ā, ka hinga Aotearoa. Nāna ngā Whina Cooper continued in ētahi. Taumāhekeheke o te public life, opening the Auckland Commonwealth ka tū ki Tāmaki- Commonwealth Games in 1990. I te matenga o tana tāne a Bill makau-rau i whakatuwhera i te tau She told an international audience Cooper i te tau 1949 ka hūnuku a 1990. Ko tana kupu ki te tini o to remember 'that the Treaty was Whina ki Tāmaki-makau-rau Aotearoa me te ao e mātakitaki signed so that we could all live as noho ai. I reira ka tū ia hei ana, 'i hainatia te Tiriti e tareka ai one nation in Aotearoa'. kaiārahi mō te ao Māori whānui. te noho tahi o ngā iwi i Aotearoa'. Ka tohungia ko ia hei perehitini Whina Cooper died at Hokianga tuatahi o te Rōpū Wāhine Toko i Nō te tau 1994 ka mate a Whina in 1994, aged 98. More than a te Ora. He maha ngā peka o te Cooper ki Hokianga. E 98 tana million people watched the live rōpū nāna i tīmata. Kia tae ki te pakeke. Neke atu i te kotahi
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Kia ora koutou katoa, I have been associated with the Lower Hutt Women’s Centre for many years, participating in and contributing to. For as many years, I have been doing grief work in the home, community, and workplace, providing support, education, training, developing resources, facilitating groups and the occasional funeral for friends. I am delighted to tell you about a new and unique grief resource I created, the griefrelief kit. It is to support anyone going through loss and grief of any kind and cause, anywhere. It is also proving helpful for those experiencing mental distress and depression. The components have all been designed to ground, comfort, and uplift you in mind, body, and spirit, offering a safe and natural approach to managing loss, helpful in the immediate aftermath and ensuing weeks and months. Being well supported at this time ensures better long-term outcomes and integration back into life. The griefrelief kit is an alternative to food and flowers after a death and one that helps long after the food has gone, and flowers discarded. A gift to yourself or someone you care about – family member, friend, work colleague or someone else. Receiving more than one kit just means the components can be shared around to support other people who are impacted. I have had my fair share of personal losses and know from experience there is no magic pill to ‘fix’ grief nor can it be hurried or avoided; it is a painful process to be worked through yet has much to be learnt from. The griefrelief kit does not prevent the pain of loss, but it does provide ‘remedies, strategies and tools’ which have supported me and those I have supported over the last 25 years. My hope is that the griefrelief kit will reach and support many more people and provide the relief, comfort, and hope needed during this time. For more information about the kit and to order, see: https://www.griefrelief.co.nz/kit/
Nga mihi nui, Claire Laurenson, Grief Practitioner and Educator BA Women’s Studies
22 Cronecle Lower Hutt Women’s Centre | Hakihea 12-2020 www.lhwc.org.nz The Treaty of Waitangi/Te Tiriti o Waitangi
Treaty of Waitangi: Questions andAnswers What was Te Wakaminenga / The Confederation of Chiefs?
Te Wakaminenga, known to the British as the Confederation of Chiefs, was the author of the Declaration of Independence and is prominently named in the Treaty.
Te Wakaminenga operated as a true confederation, where the member hapū retained their authority and independence.
While Te Wakaminenga (the Confederation) had an important role in dealing with matters that were of common concern and particularly those that involved dealing with the growing number of foreigners, it was not intended that it would displace the authority held by the hapū and their rangatira. Source: https://nwo.org.nz/2020/02/19/what-was-te- wakaminenga-the-confederation-of-chiefs/
Stimulated by the rangatira Te Pahi, northern leaders began meeting from about 1808 in formal assembly to agree on law and policy concerning the newcomers.
This assembly was calledT e Wakaminenga o Ngā Hapū o Nu Tīreni (the General Assembly of the Tribal Nations). The name of the Assembly’s general secretary was Waikato. He and the renowned Ngāpuhi leader Hongi Hika went to meet King George IV of Britain in 1820, under the auspices of Te Wakaminenga.
In the years leading up the Declaration and the Treaty, the meetings of Te Wakaminenga were attended and supported by many key leaders from around Te Ika a Māui (North Island), and gatherings continued well after the Treaty was signed. There were also many South Island connections with the assembly through tribal associations that reached back for hundreds of years.
The flag chosen by the northern leaders in 1834 was known as the Te Wakaminenga flag.
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