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Cronecle Newsletter of the Lower Hutt Women’s Centre Vol. 28 | No. 1 | Hakihea 12- 2020 In this issue... Viewpoint p 2-4 From LHWC By Our Dearest Ally Andersun p 5 Mosaics Fundraiser p 6-7 Posters p 8-9 Communtiy Events The Lower Hutt Women Centre, creating, enabling, reflecting, p 10 Observation the home of women, the reviewing, playing, building, sanctuary for me for more than cleaning, food preparation, p 11 Poster half of my employed life, what a striving, education, vulnerability, p 12 Ongoing Events privileged position to be in, being realisation, ritual, empowerment. p 13 Self Esteem for Women paid for working in my cause. By their fruits ye will know them. p 14 Support at LHWC My perception is the ethnic Feminism is the backbone of strength that has held the Women empowerment for me, it also has p 15 - 19 Workshops Centre so generously was laid my back. Behind us stands such p 20 Register Online down by the Pacific Island women wealth of knowledge, strength and p 21 Inspirational Women who gathered within her for their conviction from our ancestors, of p 22 Grief Relief Kit weekly Mama’s group in the mid every walk of life, creed and to late 80’s. This holding has been culture. The women who have p 23 The Treaty of Witangi a constant source of strength gone before us, and left us the p 24 Join Us throughout the years of laughter, legacy to carry on forward, are at planning, meeting, gathering, our back in force to join and swell learning, training, celebrating, the movement for a humane Women’s Centre mourning, consulting, existence for all. To free ourselves Opening Hours challenging, dancing, singing, from the shackles that have bound crying, growing, child rearing and our foremothers to the roles of Mon & Tues 10am-2pm loving, resolving, reinventing, only ever being a daughter, a wife, Wed - Fri 9.30am-3.30pm a mother. Reclaim ourselves as women, first and foremost, getting The Women's Centre will up from our knees and standing Contact Us close for the summer strong in our own truth of who break: we are, shedding the confines of 186 Knights Road, Waterloo stereotype and attitudes of being Lower Hutt 5011 Tuesday 22-12-2021 grateful for crumbs. The Lower Hutt Women Centre provides the Phone: 04 920 1009 and will reopen space, energy and encouragement Tuesday 26-01-2021 for all women to rise to that Email: [email protected] continued on page 5...... Web: www.lhwc.org.nz [email protected] Lower Hutt Women’s Centre | Hakihea 12-2020 Cronecle 1 From LHWC Whakatauki E iti noa ana nā te aroha A small thing given with love. Aroha mai aroha atu. Love received demands love returned. Me te mea ko Kōpū ka rere i te pae. (The beauty of a women is) like Kōpū (Venus) rising above the horizon. Ahakoa he iti kete, he iti nā te aroha. It is the thought that counts. He taonga rongonui te aroha ki te tangata. Goodwill towards others is a precious treasure. Taku toi kahurangi. My precious jewel. Ka nui taku aroha ki a koe. My love for you knows no bounds. Source: https://www.massey.ac.nz/massey/maori/resources/pronunciation/maori-proverbs.cfm Free Legal Advice The Women’s Centre has free 30-minute consultations available during the first week of each month. The primary objective of a consultation is to advise you if you have a legal problem, and whether you need to see a solicitor. If you do need to see a solicitor the lawyer can advise you about your eligibility for Legal Aid and give you some idea of the legal procedures involved in solving your particular problem. If you don’t have a legal problem the lawyer is sure she can give you some sound practical advice anyway. The lawyer can also advise you about facilities available to help you solve your own problems, such as the Disputes Tribunal, Family Court Counselling, etc. All consultations are held in private and are strictly confidential. When: First week of the month How to book: Please do not contact the lawyers without first booking with the Women’s Centre. Phone the Women’s Centre at any time during the month to register your interest in an appointment. We will phone you at the beginning of the month to check if you still require an appointment, and if you do, we will give you the phone number to make the appointment directly with the lawyer. Where: Thomas Dewar Sziranyi Letts Level 2, Corner of Queens Drive and Margaret Street, Lower Hutt 2 Cronecle Lower Hutt Women’s Centre | Hakihea 12-2020 www.lhwc.org.nz From LHWC she was getting a balanced view on gender norms and I put all my energy into not boxing her up in one particular category. She had blue T-shirts that said "Rad like Dad", with tags that called it a "boy T-shirt". What made it a boy T-shirt? I am yet to understand, as it was being worn by a girl without somehow self- destructing. I wanted to see the whole world available to her, not just the "girly" part of it. In my quest to show her that all colours of the rainbow were born equal, I found myself falling for the old trick of seeing "pink" as the lesser How my 3-year-old colour. daughter changed my Real equality comes in all colours - and that includes views on feminism. pink. The girliest of pinks, preferably sparkly. And with some frills thrown in for good measure. And that's exactly what she loves. By Vera Alves When she started communicating enough to tell me what she wanted (something that happened a lot It took me making a whole new person to learn an earlier than I was prepared for) she left no room for important lesson about feminism. doubt: this girl loves pink. The sparklier the better. Well, crap. My daughter turns 3 today. At her request, she'll wear a pink organza dress, with a giant butterfly on I have spent the past few months having to come to it, and "sparkly shoes". My worst bloody nightmare. terms with the fact that her personal choices do not (Okay, I'm exaggerating, my ACTUAL worst make me a failure as a feminist mother. She's right. nightmare involves flying lizards and people If everything is equal and all options are just as chewing loudly - but you get my point.) good, why was I putting pink down? At 3, she's Ever since I found out I was having a girl, I worked already taught me the biggest feminist lesson I've hard to make sure she didn't feel constrained by her ever learnt. gender. Feminism means equality for all and it's not very That meant ensuring she had positive female and equal of me to think "not the f***ing pink one male role models in her life, in equal measure. again" when she gets a top out of her drawer. Luckily for her, she's got plenty of those. Because being feminine is a feminist act. It's time to And it also meant ensuring, at least for the first stop devaluing femininity. couple of years of her life, I was giving her all the options, outside the scope of gender. I scrutinised every toy, every cartoon, to make sure Continued on page 4..... [email protected] Lower Hutt Women’s Centre | Hakihea 12-2020 Cronecle 3 From LHWC Continued from page 3 We keep trying to teach our girls they can be anything but most of the examples we give them of girls who achieve their goals show girls who are not your stereotypical female. The problem is not one girl liking "pink" - the problem is society defining "pink" as a "girly"colour and associating that with concepts of fragility and weakness. Real equality will only come from elevating it and putting it truly on par with masculinity. For girls like my daughter, Serena Williams uber- feminine manicure at the Australian Open is important. 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