The Art of Non-Conformity
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Table of Contents Title Page Copyright Page Dedication PART I - The Remarkable Life CHAPTER 1 - Sleepwalkers and the Living World CHAPTER 2 - Setting the Terms of Your Unconventional Life CHAPTER 3 - Smashing Through the Brick Wall of Fear CHAPTER 4 - How to Fight Authority and Win PART II - Reclaiming Work CHAPTER 5 - Competence Is Your Security CHAPTER 6 - Graduate School vs. the Blogosphere CHAPTER 7 - The Power of Your Own Small Army CHAPTER 8 - The Personal Finance Journey PART III - The Power of Convergence CHAPTER 9 - Radical Exclusion and the Quest for Abundance CHAPTER 10 - Contrarian Adventures CHAPTER 11 - Your Legacy Starts Now CONCLUSION POSTSCRIPT: GRATITUDE PARTNERSHIP WITH CHARITY: WATER AND ETHIOPIA FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ONLINE RESOURCES ABOUT THE AUTHOR EXTRAORDINARY PRAISE FOR The Art of Non-Conformity “This is a direct, honest, and truly scary book. I hope you have the guts to listen to what Chris has to say, and not become one of the monkeys he warns you about.” —Seth Godin, author of Linchpin “Chris Guillebeau is the Indiana Jones of career experts. With his signature insight and humor, he tackles a critical question: How do we forge the life of our dreams in the face of overwhelming pressure to conform and avoid risks? Chris adds a fresh perspective, drawn from his non- conforming adventures, to the lively debate.” —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project “The Art of Non-Conformity is like a lightning bolt to the head. Read it and your brain will spark and sizzle.” —Neil Pasricha, author of The Book of Awesome “Some people are content to report on others’ success. Not Chris. He lives and breathes what others dare to dream, pushes the envelope of possibility, then shares his experiences, lessons, tools, ideas, and strategies in a way that makes it all seem not just doable . but imperative. Go! Read this book now!” —Jonathan Fields, author of Career Renegade “The conventional world order has blown up, much to the relief of students, cubicle dwellers, artists, and activists who knew there was a better way. This brilliant book will wake you up and inspire you as it guides you to create a new life on your own terms.” —Pamela Slim, author of Escape from Cubicle Nation “Chris Guillebeau’s delightfully rebellious book teaches us how to live with gusto and bring excitement into our lives. His encouraging and witty tone will inspire even the least courageous person to make bold steps. I love this book!” —Barbara Sher, author of I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was “Here’s the way to find your own path, set your own rules, and find your own purpose—and all with courage and grace, resilience and style.” —Michael Bungay Stanier, author of Do More Great Work “Chris Guillebeau is an inspiration. Many people talk about l iving their dreams, and here’s a person who has actually done it. He derives valuable life lessons from all of his experiences, and we have been privileged to go along for the ride.” —Alexandra Levit, author of New Job, New You “The Art of Non-Conformity is not just a book; it’s a beloved companion for those who know that life is an adventure worth exploring. And it’s hard to imagine a better adventure guide than Chris Guillebeau.” —Barbara J. Winter, author of Making a Living Without a Job A PERIGEE BOOK Published by the Penguin Group Penguin Group (USA) Inc. 375 Hudson Street, New York, New York 10014, USA Penguin Group (Canada), 90 Eglinton Avenue East, Suite 700, Toronto, Ontario M4P 2Y3, Canada (a division of Pearson Penguin Canada Inc.) Penguin Books Ltd., 80 Strand, London WC2R 0RL, England Penguin Group Ireland, 25 St. Stephen’s Green, Dublin 2, Ireland (a division of Penguin Books Ltd.) 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For details, write: Special Markets, Penguin Group (USA) Inc., 375 Hudson Street, New York, New York 10014. http://us.penguingroup.com To Jolie, my partner in world domination and life PROLOGUE When you were a kid and wanted to do something your parents or teachers didn’t like, you may have heard the question “If everyone else jumped off a bridge, would you?” The idea is that it’s not good to do something stupid, even if everyone else is doing it. The logic is, Think for yourself instead of following the crowd. It’s not bad advice, even if it’s sometimes used to exert control more than to support independent thinking. But one day, you grow up and suddenly the tables are turned. People start expecting you to behave very much like they do. If you disagree and don’t conform to their expectations, some of them get confused or irritated. It’s almost as if they are asking: “Hey, everyone else is jumping off the bridge. Why aren’t you?” I wrote this book to help bring the childhood message up to adulthood application. Screw those people jumping off the bridge. Make your own decisions. Live your own life. Asking “why?” to everything like a three-year-old is helpful in making sure you don’t jump off the bridge without at least considering the alternatives. Whenever you find yourself confronted by a request, obligation, or expectation you don’t like, it helps to look carefully for the motivations and rationale behind what you hear. When you ask why and the answer comes back, “Because that’s what you’re supposed to do,” you know you’re looking out over the bridge again. In the average day, you’ll confront this reality many times—in work, relationships, and the countless decisions and choices you are required to make. The presence of the bridge and the expectations of other people are somewhat unavoidable. Whether you jump or not, however, is entirely up to you. Even if the people giving it to you weren’t that great at following it themselves, the counsel you may have heard at a young age was correct. Why jump off the bridge just because everyone else is doing it? You can step back from the ledge, turn around, and walk away into new adventures that had previously been only fleeting ideas. You can also help other people walk away from the bridge, or you can rewrite the rules that brought you to the bridge in the first place. The possibilities are unlimited, but it all begins with the deliberate choice to think differently. PART I The Remarkable Life It’s your own life, so why not set your own rules? You can do good things for yourself while helping other people at the same time. This section will get you started. CHAPTER 1 Sleepwalkers and the Living World Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with their song still in them. —HENRY DAVID THOREAU The purpose of this book is to transform your thinking about life and work. You’ll benefit from the transformation if you’re in a season of life where you’re getting ready to make some changes. Alternatively, if you don’t see any big decisions on the horizon but you’d like to create an opportunity for change, this will help too. Lastly, if you’re feeling stuck in something and have always believed “there must be more to life,” this book is for you. As you set out on your journey, you’ll meet a variety of people. Along the way some of them will help you, while others will stop at nothing to prevent you from succeeding. We’ll look at how to connect with the people you need, and how you can help them while they’re helping you. We’ll also meet some of the people who set out to harm you—gatekeepers, critics, and vampires among others. I’ll show you their agenda and their tactics—and how you can beat them. You’ll learn about world domination, creative self-employment, career independence, radical goal-setting, contrarian travel, and a number of other unconventional ideas.