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nor win we be rf»nwn fsr MVMnf"dl^ AIDS ride continued from p. i LETTENS TO THE EDITOIt: putw becwMA IndMduais. W« reterv* for the Study of Women and Gender In Church The opmioes of colunwiiMs, •ditortaf TMTfto the r%|n to ttdlt Ibr space and cbwrfty. We '•We are honored to be a part of The Empire and Society at Colgate Rochester Crozer Di «rs and otli«r concrtbtitinf vtritts am wHI prim anonymous )««tert if tIte ftame State AIDS Ride, and thrilled to be chosen as vinity School. Twice a year It brings outstand th«;r own and do not n«c««»rity raflvct and phone mimber are provided to the a beneficiary since thousands of people in the ing LGBT speakers and straight allies in the th« coif vctiv* actitudtt of th« Gay AHJanca Editor, «onfld«ntiaility wiO be respected Perspectives of ch« G«n«SM Vatlay or th« Empty CtoMC Suhrtvissions are dite by the ISth ofthe Finger Ukes r^on will benefit from the Christian tradition to exemplify sonrte aspect Wc wHI print l«cc*rs at th« «ditor't discra month acTbe Empty Ooeet f 79 Atbn- generosity of those involved In this event. As of what i$ known as "gay liberation theology". tion and on a space availabi* baals.W« wiH tic Ave. Hodiester NY l.4«07'l255; ematf government funding sources become less avail- Dr. Wilson's lecture on Sunday evening is viewpoints that matter not print personal attacks on individuais. [email protected] abJe« we depend on the canng of people in our particubHy addressed to the LGBT commu communities to step up to the plate. AIDS nity and its supporters. There is no admission Ride funds will help support a whole con charge, and a reception will follow. tinuum of prevention services, and will help Lake Avenue Baptist Church is located a half stabilize the lives of those who are HIV posi mile north of Kodak ofRce, virhere a traffic light • LOCAL AND STATE NEWS tive by providing them with meals, groceries, marks the intersection of Lake Avenue, Jones housing, transportation and emergency funds." St., and Ambrose Stv There is ample parking For additional information contact Mary behind the parish house at 57 Ambrose St., Lesbian peoples Goodbye Ann Gaglio, AIDS Rochester (585)442-2220; v/hich is one-way from Plymouth Ave. The Marty Rosen. Empire State AIDS Ride church, which is entered from Jones and (212)496-2254. Ambrose streets, is barrier free; ASL interpre tation will be provided on Sunday evening. For An Bmpty Closet Editorial by Susan Jordan By Pam Barres, Interim Executive Director 1973 more information about the Sunday evening event, call Ken Setera at Lake Avenue Church at (585)458-5765 or Darrell Lance at (585)442- he lesbian feminist writer Monique Wittig died recently. Bom in France, she had been he time has come for me to move pleasure than being yout Executive Director. 5486. living in southern Caiifornia. Her books deserv'^e to be much better known than they o 2003 and leave the position of Interim I am very proud to have been allowed the Dr. Wilson's lecture at Colgate Rochester are in this country'. One ofthem, J^isbtan Peoples: Material for a Dictionary (>J Y,: Avon T Executive DirecK.ir. i look forwrird honor of occupying this position. Thanks to Crozer on Monday wii! be entitled "Counter Books, 1976) re-visions kistory and my^h through women-centered eyes to create a "Giorious T to welcoming Chuck Bowen as the new the Board of Directors for entnisting mc with ing Homophobic Culture in an African Church", .'Xgc" of lesbian freedom. Executive Director on March 17. Chuck is this taskj and to Bill Kelly, President of the it is free and will be foiiowed by an optional I ushian PeopleSy ^vritten Mvith Wittig's partner zons on earth.... going to do a great job for the GA.GV, He Board of Directors, for his support and lead buffet luncheon and discussion. The charge for GAGV anniversary: wliat's coming up Sande Zeig, exudes an extraordinary atmo OREITHYIA. Celebrated as Oreithyia the has the great background of both business ership. the luncheon is $5, and reservations are re- sphere of fantasy, f)oetry, sensuality, Amazon MARCH 2003: The Gay Alliance will sponsor a series of community open forums Black. Ancient amazon, queen ofthe Scythian and not for profit management, and also Special thanks to the GAGV staff, each quired. Please call Karen DeSantIs at (58.5)340- tt and kind w-otds as weii. COMPANION LOVERS. Tlie compan thar after the treat)' that ended the four-m.onth is to eradicate homophobia, and make it pos MARCH 1973: According to the April 73 issue of the Etnpty Closet, a 21-year-old job with the understanding that it would be My plans are to return to the Board of Da Marie >A^ilson to ion lovers are those who, violendy desiring one seige, when discovering that her oath to de sible for all the future LGBT people growing up sophomore at MCC "plunged a knife Into his chest, and struggled with bystanders and for no longer than three or four months. Directors and serve out my terni. As 1 said last anf)ther, live/love in p>eoples, following the stroy Athens would not be accomplished, speaic on perspective in this country to reach their goals. ambulance attendants to drive it in further; in the hospital he pulled the life-keeping Nine months later, I will be leaving. As they ntonth, I believe 2003 and beyond will see the verges of Sappho, 'in beauty 1 will sing my Oreithyia died of rage. "The Board of Directors sees that Mr. needles and tubes from his arms. David has been obsessed with fear of venereal disease say, good things take rime, and once you all GAGV continue to grow and improve our since a homosexual encounter three mondis ago, despite a clean bill of health by companions'.The companion lovers gather THERMODONTINES An ancient race ^^ g^y Baptist pastor Bowen will bring new skills, talent and a pas ger a chance to meet Chuck, I know you will efforr.s ro eliminate homophobia and to se physicians. Early treatment included the administration of hormones. (The Gay Libera from lesbians all of the culture, the past, the of amazons who lived throughout aU of the Sociologist and pastor Dr. D. Mark Wilson sion to the job of Executive Director, as the agree that the Board of Directors made an cure equal rights for all. I want to continue to tion Front has had reports of a doctor attempting to 'treat' homosexuals with hormones in^^cnuons, the songs and ways of life. Bronze Age and into the Iron Age. Their will be the next speaker in the series "Chris GAGV continues to advocate, educate and excellent choice. be a part of that effort and of this organiza- previously. Such treatments have proven to be ineffective.)" i-.CSTASY. Internal movement ofthe body glorious empire 'extended from the Sarmatian tian Faith and IGBT Experience". The first celebrate in this the 30th anniversary year." It has been a real privilege, as well as an ti;.)n, The EC tornmente<^, "NA/ho xaugVvt David that homosexuaVitr/ was worse than death? \ -A lit.'-; Teaching an extreme harmony, lives Viave plains to the Aegean Sea'.,., vhat is to SLI\ , trosr: openly gay man to head a traditional African A native of tf.e Tarheel State. Bowen's enjoyable experience for mc to have been 1 urge all ot you to also get mv(.>lved. Be Was tt peers, society, the church cr gays? Those who condemn gay love as a joke or a Ix t n seen falling during ecstasies, ears becom the Baltic Sea to the Mediterranean Sea ... American congregation, he will speak on "Af career has included starting a security com* your E.xecutive Director for the last nine come a member, donate money, and/or vol sin should consider their action carefully; how funny is the joke? How major the sin? Is ing jonger, hearts becoming visible nn the Some founded a capital city in Themiscyra, at rican American. Baptist Pastor, and Gay: An pany, America's Best Security, which attained months, 1 have done a lot of neat things in unteer your time. Ifyou won't, who will,^ it worth a life?'* svirf.ice ofthe chest, bellies turning around the the mouth of the Thermodon River. At thar Unusual Perspective" on Sunday. April 6, at muiti-state annual sales o^ $2 million in less my working career, most of which I am Again, thanks to all for your kind words n;i ^ el ai full speed, all that without death result- time their influence spread to either side of 7:30 p.m. at the Lake Avenue Baptist Church. tiian three years. As CEO, he then oversaw its Board of Health, and served as Chairman j openly gay candidate for the South Caro proud of and found enjoyable, but nothing and support. (iood bye for now. •no t"t>r the persons concerned. It seems that He will aiso preach at the 10 a.m. service at successful acquisition and merger into a new during the planning, construction and dedi lina House of Representatives). He was the Black Sea. The Scythians originated frorn has given mc more personal sarisfacdon and ih.5^ state IS not to be feared. them. Later, the Thermodonrines Cvonquered Lake Avenue on Sunday, and give a public firm. He worked with "a diverse team of cation of a $2 million health center. A also involved in the campaign of Gov. Jim filSTORY. ...fr)he lesbian peoples who ali of Anacolia The Thermodonrines in lecture at Coigate Rochester Crozer Divinity decorated law enforcement veterans", as well talented writer and public speaker, he is Hodges, advising the candidate on issues bc^an our history -- if this histon, ever had a vented short swords and integrated them inro School on Monday morning, April 7, at I 1:30 as other staff, and developed a yearlong train Guest Lecturer for the Strategic Manage concerning the Igbt community. He raised beginning — were gathering the fruit from their dances.... For weapons, the Frbrrv Our Reatlers a.m. ing program for 20-plus senior managers, in ment and Business Policy (for graduating funds for the campaign and developed a tTt.es, hunting, raising their infants together Thiennodonunes had a shield in a crescent Dr. Wilson is currently pastor of tl^je McGee addition to conducting weekly seminars on seniors) at Moore College of Business telephone bank calling over 1,000 mem ing, and eye-opening. And we were especially and moving m small groups all over the earth, form, the double-headed axe which they ai Avenue Baptist Church In Berkeley. Calif. He strategy and business growth. Administration ofthe University of South bers of the glbt community,urgJng them to honored to be the first group you appeared which at that time was a garden. They were ways earned in rheir belt, and which they has served on the adjunct Acuity of a number Before starting the company, Bowen was Carolina, his alma mater. getout the vote. After Hodges' election, he before as the new Liaison to the GLBT com calJed amazons and they created harmony on handled with great dextenty when they had to Carbon copy: of Institutions In die San Francisco Say area, Executive Director ofthe South Carolina As As an openly gay man. Chuck Bowen is served as advisor to the governor during munity. eanh. This was easy because their w^orld was dismount their mares and fight hand to hand. and is currentJy professor/lecturer at the sociation for the Handicapped and Disabled, a member ofthe Board of Directors ofthe his four-year term. Bowen aiso was media I know you'll be one of the most sought- gende and good to live in. Work, suffering, On their left they had their quiver and on the Thanks to Officer University of California at Berkeley, He was administering the operations ofthe non-profit South Carolina Gay and Lesbian Pride advisor, speechwriter, GOTV (get out the after speakers once the word gets out, so I just dearh did not yet exist m the terrestrial garden. right, their bow. They dressed in a long, nar awarded a prize in preaching while a student organization, which had a $1 million budget. Movement, and a member of the South vote) strategist and glbt community liaison Jim Hali of RPD want to extend an open invitation to come to Thev k>ved one another, it is said, it was the row tfouser, a coat, high and soft boots It at Harvard Divinity School, and has taught He has also worked as genei'al manager of First Carolina Gay and Lesbian Business Guild. to Leon Lott, who was runniiig for sherrif. our meetings/poducks any rime you're io the courses in preaching, andiropology, and soci Municipal Finaiicia! Services in Columbia and He is also a member ofthe South Carolina Golden Age. It has left diverse traces m our can be said ofthe Thermodonrines as of other Officer Jim Hall Lott defeated a well-known incumbent and vicinity of the Gay Alliance on ^•\e. second ology. He is active in AIDS ministry and served Washington, D.C. and as Executive Director memories. One day an amazon thought of amazons that their daughter empires had an Rochester Police Departmetit Steering Committee for the Victory Fund, openly recognized the glbt community for Tuesday of the month, around 7;30 p.m. on the mayor's HIV/AIDS Housing Task Force of the South Carolina Dental Association. ouilding a place in which everyone could live or amazonian structure without compromise in Dear Jinn: and chaired the South Carolina Rainbow their participation in his campaign. March 11 is a poduck and will feature lots of Mt Berkeley. return to at night. It was a good enough idea in contrast to the mother empires iamg after On behalf of the Adantic Five-O mem- Bowen's other accomplishments include Family Coalition Grant.s Committee in Bowen has also served as Volunteer good food — - eat your heart out, Emeril! itself, exacdy like getting dressed to protect their splendor has 'paled, however, some- bers I just wanted to express my apprecia The series in which Dr. Wilson is appearing receiving the National Distinguished Service 1999, among many other activities. Development Director for Palmetto AIDS Sincerely, • oneself from the cold. Other tribes iinitated diing of their indestructible nature simmers tion for your visit widi us on Feb. 11. is sponsored by Lake Avenue Baptist Church, Award from Alpha Phi Omega, and serving on Bowen has also been active in poiiticai Life Support Services, and has been a vol Phii Darrow and Dick NieUen this first setdement. This was the origin of on, and, from time to rime, breaks out of its Your remarks were enlightening, inspir- the Downtown United Presbyterian Church, its nationai board of directors. He v^s ap organizing. He was an advisor to the Com unteer fundraiser for the AIDS Benefit cities, jut also of the dissension among ama- obscurity.'... " Third Presbyterian Church and the Program pointed by the Richland County Council to the mittee to Elect Charlie Smith (the first Foundation.
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program helping low-incom« p«opi« with Phillips Petroleum merged vvith Conoco cember 1999 when the companies merged. nors both in the past and present as welt as egories of day-wear, swim-wear, and evening HIV/AIDS. . last Aug. 30 and did not apply Conoco's of calls, according to police chiel inspec Atthe same time. It closed Mobil's domes those that will come in the future. The mem wear. The event Is emceed by Panti. who for "We are pleased that the administration is non-discriminatkm policy covering sexual tor Mike Barkhuizen's statement to the tic partner benefits program to any more bership program will also heip the Foundation the past few years has held audiences capti raising the public discussion on HIV/AIDS. orientation to the newly merged corpora Cape Times. employees. In its ef^rts to raise more funds for distribu vated by her beauty and talent. and heartened by the new commitment to tion. ConocoPhiilips' move leaves &ocon Early on Jan. 20, 10 men were tied up -Human Rights Campaign tion to the lesbian community and increase St Patrick's weekend wiil see Ireland's AIDS-reiated treatment and services," said Mobil Corp. as the only U.S. company ever and their throats slit, before being shot in public awareness of the organization. queen colleens competing for the titie of Winnie Stachelberg, political director of the to rescind a sexual orientation non*dis- the head. One nf>an survived. No arrests An Uncommon Legacy Foundation will be Alternative Miss Ireland. And, unlike in the Human Rights Campaign. She added, "It is crimination policy. Lesbian foundation have been made, but sketches are aiding worldng through cooperative relationships with U.SA., where the Ancient Order of Hiberni extremely disappointing that the president "ConocoPhiilips is and aiways has been the investigation. other not-for-profit and for-profit LGBT orga wouid cut preventk>n programs domestically deeply committed to fair and nondiscrimi creates membership ans bans Irish gay men and lesbians from South African gays rallied immediately nizations to buikJ the membership base. "I Newsfronts natory treatment for all employees," marching in the N.Y.C. St. Patrick's Day pa !• NAT!ONAL AND INTERNATIONAL NEWS while increasing them intemationally." in response to the killings, and the Gay & progrann for baclcers believe that corporations and sponsors will be rade, the real Irish have included gay contin Patrick Guerriero, executive director of ConocoPhiilips* management committee Lesbian Equality Project of South Africa's Deborah Bonsack, Executive Director of surprised to see the volume of individuals who gents in the Dublin St. Patrick's Day Parade the Log Cabin Republicans, said, "It is clear said in a statement obtained by HRC. "The Director Evert Knoesen said his group Belgium recognizes Bush increases AIDS An Uncommon Legacy Foundation and the are part of this movement, who have built and for years. that the Bush administration is fully commit management commiuee has amended (ef met with p>olice to talk about issues re Lesbian Leadership Fund announced on believe in Legacy and the Lesbian Leadership ted to combatting HIV/AIDS here and across fective immediately) the company's EEC lated to the crime. He said. "It was appar same sex marriage; fundings but reduces Feb. 13 that the organization has created a Fund," stated Bonsack. "Besides, what self- the worid." Guerriero added that in cases policy to include the term 'sexuai orienta Killer of Arizona gay ent that the police are making every effort membership program for ail grant and respecting lesbian wouldn't want to have their European Union prevention nnoney vvhere the administration's proposals ^11 short tion' to more accurately reflect this com to investigate and resolve this matter as scholarship recipients, donors, volunteers own membership card? It's fun with a pur of the group's expectations, LCR "is commit mitment." man gets life in prison quickly as possible." In early February President George Bush sub and other supporters. pose!" votes to approve too ted to lobby the Bush administration and A total of 307 of the Fortune 500 have A Phoenix, Ariz, man convicted of beating and -TTie Washington Blade mitted a proposed fiscal year 2004 budget to The Foundation which v/as Incorporated More information on the membership pro Belgium became the second nation in the Congress to ensure this fight against HIV/ non-discrimination policies that include dragging to death a 54-year-old man who the Congress v^ich calls for spending $ 16 billion in 1993 has provided grants to more than gram is available online at the An Uncommon Gay military activists world to recognize same sex marriages on AIDS is focused, fully funded, and ultimately sexual orientation, according to HRC killer perceived as gay was sentenced to life in for domestic AIDS programs. This represents ISO organizations that benefit and serve Legacy Foundation website, Jan. 30, when the Belgian Parliament ap successful." WorkNet, which tracks this and other prison on Jan. 27, according to the Associated a seven percent increase in domestic AIDS the lesbian community and annually awards www.UncommonLegacy.org. call for lifting of ban proved the measure with a large majority. -Lou Chibbaro Jr., The Washirtgton Bkide workplace trends. Oil companies with Press. programs over the 2002 budget. a series of Lesbian Leadership Scholarships The Servicemembers Legal Defense Net On Feb. i J the European Union, the demo sexual orientation non-discrimination poli Aaron Ray James Miguel, 26, was convicted However. AIDS activists are concerned to "out" graduate and undergraduate les work marked the 10th anniversary of "Don't cratically elected representative body for cies include Amerada Hess; Shell Oil Co.; Irish gays to hold last October of second-degree murder in the that the proposal also seems to reduce spend ConocoPhiilips adds bian students with leadership potent!i=L!. Ask, Don't Tell" by releasing a five-year i 5 countries, voted to recognize gay regis BP; ChevronTexaco Corp.; Maratl-^on Oil death of Justin "Pete" Enos. The jury found ing for domestic HIV prevention programs, "Legacy has touched so many lives Alternative Miss strategic plan to help repeal the Pentagon's tered partnerships, civi! solidarity pacts, protection for gays Corp.; Occidental Petroleum J Sunoco Int. that the murder was motivated by Miguel 's TB and non-HIV sexually transmitted diseases through our grants and our Lesbian Lead and marriages across international bor and Valero Energy Corp. Ireland pageant hatred for Enos's sexual orientation. Pros ban on Igbt servicemember?. by $4 million. Petroleum giant ConocoPhiilips has made a ders. "We are gratified that ConocoPhiilips ership Scholarship Fund. This is an attempt ecutors said during the trial that Miguel lured The plan is intended to educate members The budget shows that $ 1.281 billion will be sound business move by amending its employ to maintain the contact, the commitment of Congress, Pentagon officials and others Belgian Justice Minister Marc Verwilghen acted swiftly to protect all its employees By Sherrili Fulghum Enos out of a party before beating him and spentfor combined global and domestic AIDS ment non-discrimination policy to include and the belief that so many individuals have in power about why the current policy said that marriage should be open to gay from discrimination based on sexual ori On March 16. queer Ireland wiil present the dragging him behind a horse. Enos was hit with prevention programs for fiscal year 2004. sexual orientation. Human Rights Campaign m Legacy," Bonsack stated from the "harms national security and offends basic and iesbian coupies. "Mentalities have entation," said HRC Education Director ninth Alternative M»ss Ireland pageant. What a shovel 10 times before he was buried with under the auspices ofthe Centers for Disease officials said on Feb. 12. organization's National Headquarters in notions of equality." changed. There is no longer any reason not Kim l.MiHs.who oversees HRC WorkNeL sets th'\s contest apart from any other beauty his genitals exposed. Control, a $46 million increase over rJie Bush "We applaud ConocoPhiilips for acting re Washington, D.C. "Legacy is al! about the to open marriage to people of the same "We look forward to continuing our work contest is that the pageant is open to anyone Another man. Dorian Brown, pleaded guilty SLDN officials hired a lobbyist in Novem proposal for fiscal year 2003. However, $50 sponsibly to meet the needs of its diverse power of lesbian philanthropy, and it is sex," he told United Press International. with other corporations to help them male, female or animal ~ although only one to second degree murder in the case, and will ber and will aiso focus on a renewed million of that allotment Is set aside for the work force," said HRC Executive Director truly exciting to see the vision of our grassroots effort to organize at a level the The Netherlands approved same sex enact policies that respect and value the dog has ever been entered in the contest. be sentenced on March 14. Global AIDS Program, leaving $1,231 billion Elizabeth Birch. "There are a lot of gay, lesbian founders coming to fruition. Our early SLDN has not attempted before. '-carriage two years ago, but allowed same work of al! employees." Alter native Miss Ireland has seen judges like for domestic prevention programs — $4 and bisexual ConocoPhiilips employees who scholarship recipients are riow moving into Meanwhile, the current issue of Interna sex couples to adopt children, which the The recent merger made Van Morrison, John Reynolds, and Agnes South African police million less that Bush sought for them in 2003. will surely feel better about going to work F>ositions of influence where they tan make tional Security, a prestigious military journal Be'gian law does not do. Denmark, Hun ConocoPhiilips, based in Houston, Texas, Bemelle (the one who once entered her dog The Bush proposal calls for a $93 million today knowing they have the full support of significant contributions to the Foundation gary, France and Portugal also have laws the third largest oil and gas company In in the contest). Proceeds from the event go to investigate mass compiled at Harvard University, has pub increase for AIDS research funds at the Na management. ConocoPhiilips has done the and continue the cycle of giving and helping recognizing same sex unions and granting America behind ExxonMobil and support HIV/AIDS related programs. lished a study challenging the privacy ratio tional Institutes of Health, and a 45 million right thing by joining many leading corpora killing It gay bar some legal, tax and property rights. ChevronTexaco. ExxonMobil rescinded young lesbians achieve their goals." The contest is held at the Olympia Theatre nale (the idea that lifting the gay ban would increase in funding for the Housing Opportu tions in the petroleum industry that have Through the membership program the violate heterosexual privacy in barracks). -The Washington Biade Mobil's non-discrimination policy in De- in Dublin, The pageant includes the typical Release of composite sketches of two men nities for People with AIDS (HOPWA). a implemented fair non-discrimination policies." organization plans to strengthen the links criteria of a beauty pageant of poise, personal wanted in connection with a mass murder at a The Washington B/ode; Witeck Combs between recipients, volunteers and do ity, and originality in the time-honoured cat Cape Town gay bar has produced "hundreds" Communications
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KW5S the agendas we have, how we structure organi aU walks of life and different ages; at least two zations, the cultures and values we bring to the transgender people who are people of color— oirganization—in innumerable ways we main we want to get as large and diverse a group as tain racism without even being aware of it, just possible.... The MOCHA board and stiiff wili as heterosexuals maintain organizations that cotKie; in addition wc*re pulling out, proud terview: exclude gays, and aren't aware of it." black folks who may not particulady be lead Stan said, ''White people don't have a sense ers, but the fact they're out, proud black folks Carmen Vasquez of the N.Y.C. Center will give a of white privilege until it's brought to their makes them leaders in a way — they're com workshop on dismantling racism on March 22 attention." fortable being out." Tanya added, "I think most of us who are LiQOklng at our successes white people have a sense of guilt around Both Tafiya and Stan feel that rhe ongoing planning, you need a vision, you need specific By Susan Jordan racism; you need to move past guilt to effec* collaboration between die GAGV and MO plans, you need to assess and evaluate what Carmen Vasquez, director of public policy tiveiy QtvA racism. VC^cn wl\ite people hear CHA is an example of effective and creative you're doing. It*s based on a premise that racism for N.Y.C.'s Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and about racism, the guilt and shame arc trig work against racism, although much more is not just personal, but structural and institu Transgender Community Center, will present a gered, and when you're in that mode, you*re heeds to be done. Referring to the facilitators tional. So we want to take people from the full-day interactive workshop, "Building Our not able to think cleariy ot be effective. We of die GAGV and MOCHA Youdi Groups, personal to structural ways they can help create House: Dismantling Institutional Racism," here have a kneejerk reaction to racism, and that Tanya said, "A white, a Latino and tuo black an anti-racist movement." on Samrday, March 22. makes our efforts against it less effective." indi\'iduals are working together and feel a \J(liat can people expect on March 22? Vasquez The workshop will run from 9 a.m, to 4 p.m. Stan agreed. "Regardless of what we've great sense of pride in their accomplishments. said, "There'll be some opportunity to ... share at Bausch Sc Lomb, learned about others," he said, *Sjvhen fear We need to have successes, llhis (March 22) experiences, define sucesses and failures. There'll Carmen Vasquez has presented this work triggers che primitive part of our brains, all workshop is a place to form alliances and get to be a litde bit of teaching, because sometimes shop to a variety of g;roups and organizations those fears of not having enough make people know each other." people aren't aU in the same places. So I'll need around the country. She is a veteran activist on thmk they need to oppress others before they Stan commented, "The tw(5 youth groups to define terms and values, so that everybody several fronts for progressive social change, are oppressed. You aren't thinking effectively are so separate. So the last Sunday of Ianuar\' I knows where I'm comiing from. The rest ofthe including activism for peace, women's equality, and creating solutions — you're )ust reiicting iead a Youth .Summit r'n Race iirni (.^la.ss, iti- workshop is very interactive, and is about work racial and economic justice and immigrants' tc tht' moment ^nd not doing effective things." volving between 30 and 40 individuals. There ing VX'ith smaller groups of people to define rights. Carmen is the founding Director ofthe "People have a hard time even thinking were about 10 or so youth of color, and 20- problems and develop a plan for creating change. Women's Building in San Francisco, and served about the issue of racism/' Tanya said, "and som.e youth who usually go to the Sunday £ There will also be at some point an opportunity six years as Coordinator of Lesbian and Gay this workshop gives people a safe place to talk. group at the GAGV. We talked about how % for fun!" Health Services for the S.F. Department of We have an experienced facilitator who will race and class overlap. People talked about ^ ^X^en asked why she feels it's important for Public Health. She was a member ofthe Na- create a :>afc place It's a two-pronged ap- their experiences of i>cing '•.>pprc«.--ivt .ind '-i!' • >rMl Lesbian and Gay Task Force (NGITF) white people and people of color to work to proach — yr.-u cirff \\\s\ keep having work being vicum^- (of oppression:. Tlv: b;g •>Z<)AI gether on this issue, Vasque:^ said, '"l think, '.^ ird of Directors from 1991 - 1994, and was shops, but you need a workshop in order to was to help them see what they liave in com although there's certainly a need for white people LiKi) a founding Board memberof the Lavender have a place to put the fear and guilt on the mon — sexism, ageism and racism — and at "The workshop is based on the premise that racism is not just to look at and examine racism among them ^ mih Recreation and Information Center in table." the end we brought in the issue of class, it was personal, but structural and institutional. So we want to take San b'rancisco. selves, I think at some point it becomes much The workshop, both said, will not be a place very successful, and 1 said to Pattv (Hayes, more useful to have a dialogue beta-een whites people from the personal to structural ways they can help create an X'risquez has been published in several an- where people r,{ color will be forced into the C.7 AGV Y;>uth Progratn Coordinator), 'I chink and people of color about becoming aiiies. It's anti-racist movement.... It's not possible to dismantle racism in this il^iijogics and she is an eloquent and prized position of having ttj "explain racism" or "edu we should do more.' We're trv-ing to work with not possible to dismande racism in this country public speaker. About her work as an activist, cate" white people. Tanya commented, "I don't youth to bridge those barriers. Thev believe country without involvement by both white people and people of unthout involvement by both whites and people shic says, "I became an activist to give voice to believe it's useful to just have the oppressed tliey have nothing in com.mon -— and then you color, it's about how do we do it, and how do we do it together." of color, it's about how do we do it, and how do tht oppressions that cross lines of race, class, group explain their experience in order to hear them talking and they have so much in we do it together." -Carmen Vasquez ecnder and sex. Atthe core of my political work move forward. The dominant group (in this common." ind public message are three principles: work A safe place to talk about racism case, whites) needs to look at their own expe Another MOCHA group recently started is t<) end racism, fight for individual autonomy in Stan Byrd, program director of the Men of rience. Wc as whites need to acknowledge that Sacred Space. Stan said, "We do have to do our ministers) talked about the social perspective — are not enough. "Workshops can't be the be- liutnan sexuality, and establish econoinic jus- Color Health Awareness (MOCHA) Project, we have privilege, and talk about what it means own individual work within our own groups that, what was hflppt;ning at the timt^ influenced all and end-all." he said. "Tm hopir>>i that one and Tanya Snriolinsky, proj^ram director for tbe ro h'." an ;.illv. \X'c n«.:e'.i i; > he st:!!-TCIIL-CHVL.. Carmen Vasquez T! icrc Arc ^{ \ OM sttli (.-•JVCCI!'! isMjc-^^ tor vvh-.v ^J -.IS wT'iun !•> ;\M_: H\\->U-. Thai j.!.Tovip ;s rcs'a\\ lit \\\v N\a.rc\-\ 22 ^vorksb.<:>p w\\i be tViat Gay Alliance, discussed their views on why this \ ;3squez created the workshop four years When wc (in the C^ommunjty Fid uc ari on youth and others. \X'c recendy started a spiritu another w.iy of helping people reconnect with we can plan some future mutual activity." workshop pro\ndes an important opportunity :jm. for the Creating Change conference spon aren't the ones to look at these issues, no one Byrd said, "In a wav it's bothersome to sec Prt^ject) do work.shop-S with heterosexuals, we ality' group called Sacred Space. XX'c'rc not their self esteem, because they have been >lgbt community. sored bv the National Lesbian and Gav Task else will." that in 2003 we have to do this again. It's don't talk about what it is to be gay. We ask trying to be the church, but to h(dp people deeply hurt bv the church. Oppressed groups to do this work — we a.s aduits need to be on Stan Byrd said, "The first thing that com.es to lorcc. She told the Empty Closet, "It came as a After several decades during which the igbt unfortunate. 1 don't teel that we've moved at them to see how they are privileged as hetero reconnect with the spijitual parts of them need to do their own v^ork in order to be able bc->ard too." mind is that I get a sense there are still a lot of result of work Bett)' Powell (a trainer on diver iriovement nationwide has talked a lot of well- ail, althc.^ugh we've tried a lot of things." sexuals, and to look at theii own issues around selves, that thev io:>t when their chufches re lo do work m the larger c<.)mmunjry. Tliat's r-or more information, or to r< ceive a regis people who feel that racism doesn't exist any sity and organizational development) was do- meaning talk about diversity, anrj-racist com He added, "One ofthe things we all need to being an ally. Similarly, 1 need tt} look at my jected them. IJ.ven thtj.-sc who havcti'* bee-fi in uhat MOCHA is — a place pe<..>ple can call tration ff>rn-i for the "Building Our Hf^use" more, and certainly a lot of people feel it doesn't inii; at the Center on a diversity initiative. I really mentators frequendy obser^-^e that many lgbt do for each other is teach each other to be own issues about rarism. Racjsin isn't iust church have bten deeply hurt, and haxe sepa their o«'n, and where the}- can be treated rc- workshop, piease call Tanya zi 244-8640, or exist in the gay communit)-. So I tliink it's really i] ked what she did and, to move it to a broader organizations are still dominated by allies to each other. VC'hen you have a barrier aliout people t>f col;jr, but .'w7peoplc — and we rated themselves from themselves VC e meet spectfuilv." tanva(a gavailiance.fjrg. important that those of us who consider our audience, we did it at Creating Change. People middleclass white gays, who tend to assume this bigs it's not going to happen naturally, we need to see how we are all affected." monthly, and are a non-dcnomtinadonal, inter Stan agreed with Tanya that workshops alone selves leaders get together on the subject of liked it a lot, and we decided to do an institute that they will be the ones to set the agendas have to work at it in a formal way." Bjrrd feels that the workshop experience on faith group." racism." , a daylong workshop preceding the confer and control the organizations, and yet who Tanya Smolinsky commented, "Like Stan March 22 wili be enriched by a diverse group of At the first meeting of the group, Stan said, He said he feels that the GAGV has worked ence). WeVe done it for three years and are would define themselves as non-racist or anti- said, I do think that people in our communit)' participants. "We realiy are trying to invite a lot participants sa.id they wanted to know what the committed to doing another two. I've also hard to combat racism, but it is still a problem. racist. Far from racism being dead, these com who are white want to do the right thing by of people of color to the workshop.... The Bible says about homosexuality, "At the sec done it for different groups who've heard of it "MOCHA is seen as the 'other' social commu mentators say, we are living in a society which diversity, and on a individual level we might experience wili be so rich for us... people from ond meeting, I and Tony Albert {both men are niry agency — in some ways we're still viewed Bicycle Sttrtnf^gep^^ at Creating Change." is still economically and geographically segre not be overtty racist. I think what this work that way, although we're really an HIV/AIDS Vasquez said that the workshop is for people gated, and the gay rights movement, Uke ev shop has to offer is to show us as white prevention agency. It's important that these two who have done some work on the topic of erything else in society, exists in that context individuais how we maintain racism within comfort bikes agencies work together, and I'd like to see more racism; it is not "Racism 101". She said, "The of segregation and denial. our organizations — by the priorities we set, basic premise is that people who come to (the of a tnix. road workshop) have a basic commitment to anti- "There are a lot of folks who use MOCHA racist work, but need planning tools for looking services who don't interact in any way with non- mountain HOURS black people," Byrd continued. "We really need MORTGAGE RATES at ways racism is institutionalized in our tnove- weekdays 10-6 to break down these barriers. If we as leaders ment. 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News includes $ I nniilion servk:es to LGBT individuals across the state." -Empire State Pride Agenda BaB jaHivsam for LGBT Network The Governor's Executive Budget proposal Timotiiy Draper dies for SFf 2003-2004, unveiled Jan. 29. includes $1 nniiiion to support health and iiuman at 49; was founder of EHE^BaLET service programs specifically tat^getin^ the Rochester City Ballet lesbian, gay. bisexual and transgender (LGBT) communities across New York State. Timothy Draper, founder and artistic direc Although the proposed appropriation is tor of the Rochester City Ballet, head of the significantly less than last year's $2.5 million Draper School of Dance, and winner of Lin- (the first time such funding was ever included ,coln Center's Outstanding Teacher Award, in the Executive Budget), advocates maintain died suddenly in Ireland on Feb. 17 at the age that survival of this new program in the of 49, Governor's budget is nothing less than a Draper went into diabetic shock while on a victory, given the state's grim financial posi flight from London to the U.S. His plane made tion. an emergency landing in Ireland, and he was "Continued funding during this time of taken to Limerick Regional Hospital, where financial crisis is a real win for our community he was stabilized, but he then went into and continues the governor's commitment cardiac arrest and died. "The World Says No to War" rally on Feb. 15 at the NYC Public Library. Pictured is to 'institutionalize* funding for gay-targeted Draper, a gifted professional ballet dancer longtime gay activist Bob Kohler, programs \ri the state budget," said Matt, sidelined by injury, was founder In 1986 of the \^-l^^:M'^^ v«;*Si*j-:r'/S.:, ^Wii-^^iwsis'^ Foreman, Executive Director of the Empire Draper Schoo! of Dance. In 1987 he founded State Pride Agenda, the statewide lesbian the Rochester City Ballet, &n^ over the fol and gay civil rights organization and prime lowing decade he built both into strong insti advocate for the state funding for gay-tar- tutions. Many of his students went on to dance geted services. "!n a year where the budget for major companies, and after many years, gap is estimated to be $!2 billion, the pres Rochester City Ballet had recently become a sure to eliminate this new line rnust have collaborator with the Rochester Philharmonic, been enormous/' continued Foreman, "It including its annual production of Tht Nut sur~vived, however, and is another indication cracker. In January, Rochester City Ballet had that our voices are being heard and our announced plans to build a permanent $i needs are being recognized by our leaders in million headquarters on the campus of the New Yor8< State. We thank Governor Pacaki Harley School. and we are looking forward to working with The board of the Cfty Ballet announced on Speaker Silver and the Assembly Majority to Feb. ! 7 that Draper's work will go forward as aiso help sustain these programs, as they planned. have done for five consecutive years." Timothy Draper, a native of Rochester, is Five years ago. New York State began survived by his partner. Randy Stringer of Queer Marriage Action, sponsored by MCC/NY, seelcs marriage licenses at the NYC funding till.? unique program to provide non- Richmond, Va.. and by his parents, sisters, Clerk's Office on Feb. 14, Valentine's Day. Pictured are Rev. Pat Bumgardner and her HIV/AIDS health and human services specifi brother and other family members. A dance partner Mary Jane Gibney with their marriage application. (See www.mccny.org) cally targeted to the LGBT community. St is performance in his memory W\\\ take place believed to be the only such program among this spring; see the April Bmpty Ooset for tfie SO states. Over the five years, more than details. $ 10.8 million has been appropriated and has Contributions in Draper's memory may be THE •oa.c.h.elor made to the Rochester City Ballet. 320 N. i launched over 40 new programs, from Buffalo Goodman St., Rochester NY 14607. I to Suffolk County, for Igbt youth, seniors, •eve-e crime victims and others^ (Rochester's MO CHA Project and GAGV have aiso received Oneonta Scout funding.) Until last year, when a portion of this leaders resign to FKinw; :M.t.K('ii mi ttiesday. March 4tb funding was included for the first time in the MARDI GRAS protest intolerance FATTtTESDAV Executive Budget. Speaker Silver and the HEADS, BEADS & MORE Assembly Majority bad provided the vast Two Upstate New York Scout leaders have ^mm^^'i&m&i majority of tiie funding through its discre quit the organization over its anti-gay policies, *kmr eir CK o/atufAr V 2 pHce diinlcs lopra -aam tionary budget. Today's continuation of the and the future of their troops is uncertain. budget line in the Executive Budget further Chris Wood, former scoutmaster of • y.-rv>.- ... V ••-. . strengthens che prospects of a predictable Oneonta Troop 23, and james Greenberg, • .- >• V ' o" • ft-": '^•v: o SmtmSair. Mstth Sib •" -^.^^ - ^^ - - • funding stream in future years. who served as leader of Oneonta's Cub Scout iJKooMfMl. vMnrv Despite the huge budget gap and Gover Pack 91, relinquished their positions saying Emfit» B0t0t Night BAOmitaikThemt mSSf OMAMMYS nor Pataki's statements that no programs they could no longer be members of an a»« ^A except antiterrorist initiatives would be ex organization that discriminates against gays empt from the cuts, the Pride Agenda did and atheists. 671 Urmrati 8niK • ledRstK ff 1^37 MSIISI271-^ advocate for funding equal to the $2.5 million "The Scouts arc sending the wrong mes Sob provided in last year's Executive Budget. sage about tolerance of people with different "We asked for no decrease in funding this beliefs," said Wood, vi^o has two sons who '^f- -Jr.: • •••• i'-eTk:.;-^?'!; ^-^^ ••:5V;V.«.;-:^ year due In large part to the fact that our have been part ofthe Scouting program. "You community has long been overlooked by the need to judge every individual as an individual state In critical non-HIV/AIDS health, mental and not because of any other associations ,/-!^l"l* health, alcohol and substance abuse treat they may have." Our iMislttty dettctciMsiMfNttslan mcnui ment, violence prevention, and social ser Though he said he has long frowned on the «M»«npa«ws tiM Oitatow cirOtea, jsi^^ vices," said Foreman. "However, given the Boy Scouts' position on gays. Wood kept his ¥h»»iNd M>d Vtfli««wt WRh ain|pl» pMtkM^ unprecedented size ofthe budget gap and the views to himself until he learned about an anrf iMflwndibl» prices s«e at« iBOfi^lM pain so many programs and commun iti«$ will £agle Scout In Washington who vtiras kicked iMpflmct tf Rinc Nkom and bea; ^nm'ett S4#i» be facing this y^ar. we have to be realistic out of the organization last year for being an ::,:#:^s^;;ji>^jgj; about what is possible." atheist. Wood, an Episcopalian, says he has a Sheila Healy. Program Director of Pride deep faith in God, but doesn't see how one's Agenda Foundation and coordinator of the fijth should be a prerequisite for good moral SJC OFF Dinner activities ofthe New York State UGBT Health character. Greenberg desctlbes himself as an B^Jolin»n and Human Services Network ("Network"), atheist. 585.244*1052 :7fbr2ataja a coalition of over 50 or^gviiiations providing Both scout troops are leaderlcss, and some LGBT'targeted services, agreed with perents say they have been unable to find F^rtmen's assessment. "By iiKkidlng $ I mil enyone to take on the responsibility. 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PLOWER ORL: Ambrosia Salad was in full bloom as mistress of ceremonies when Flowers by Marie Baetjer won the prestigious President's Cup for best flora! designer ~ I * Erin Dove. i¥S- FROM ROCHESTER WITH LOVE: Gary Groth ofthe Denver-based Gill Foundation GAGV Open House: made his final visit to Rochester in January, after a year of advising the Gay Alliance on its Celebrating 30 years of Pride strategic planning process. The Gill Foundation also co-presented workshops for local non Kodak provided a photographer to profits with the GAGV in 2002. The Foundation, a $260 million-endowed organization take pictures of Bali/Bash partiers. committed to securing equal opportunity for ail people, recently granted over $1 million to -•":•• •••i•^•:!^'^ Above, Susan Zorn and Tim Cotter 62 organizations or programs supporting Igbt initiatives and HIV/AIDS programming. have their portraits made. Left Tony Perri, an organizer of the event, takes to the dance floor. I From left to right GAGV Interim Executive Director Pam Barres, new ED Chuck Bowen, I and Youth Program Coordinator Patty Hayes get together at the Bail. Above and below, members ofthe Rochester Igbt community attend the Gay Alliance Open House at the Community Center on Jan. 19. Around 200 people celebrated the Alliance's 30th anniversary, and the passage of SONDA, which had become law two days before. Above: Board members Tom Carlock, Evelyn Bailey and Bill Kelly get up close and persona! at the Open House. Beiow: the ciowd at the Open House watches the videotape on Rochester Pride parades (see the article on page B2 to order your own copy). Cooki Krisp, Tim Evans s^6 Jerakj Creer. j Dni^ Kir^ Warren P«acc reiateai to an audianca mambcr. You SHALL go to the Ball, said the Faeiy Godmother... »> ™ <':» PAGE B5 PAGEBI2 Columnists Gay Groups • Misaelvfntuns in BtrylaiuL Are • open Arms MCC hosts gay you a Ben person or a Matt person? Christian singers Jason & deMarco. PAGE B!8 pyi Hie (U4Jj44/t^^^^(^^ S. eJ4^ PAGE BIO Calendar Check it out B The GAGV holds open HAVK YOU €<>T THf SCO 'VS..^'.: S- '• y •••••• •}ii^-p^^ • ••• •••••• i&k'^^'if^rm:;^- '^ Coming up... Lesbian singer Tret Fure wiii perform here on May 9 Tret Fur* Greater Rochester Repertor)'^ Conipanies, Inc. presents lesbian singer/songwriter Tret Fure, v^iio wiil pt^rftJrm at Vjsual Studies '\'<7ork.shf >p liO'CumerTitiiry 'About CHrista McAuMfte (\eft). Auditorium, 31 Prince St., on May 9. Fure wiil perform songs from her nevt CD, My Shots. The show starts at 8:30 p.m., and tickets are S15 in advance and $18 at the door. ers document our collective past Fc-r infoimation, call (585) 624-8360. Reser vation?, are recommended, MasterCard and Tlieir project^ originally due to be completed what NASA WTII do). But on a n^ore in:^pK.5r- Visa welcome. Maisyof^siiefKkimber^l^^ J 985, when Barbara Morgan, the "second teachet in tant note, suddenly our filiti is not 17 years ^wbcn we saw the de»tmction of the Chal- Space^" wa& to huve takers the shuttle ncKt old, it's current. People who may not have jason and deMarco November, may be af6ectepottauce of our film cer- to sing March 29 with Colttmbia. taitily do now.Chrisia waa a TEACHER. We ••'•• Hlmmakcjt^ Renee Sotile (a Rochester t\»r grew up looking up co teachers and respect Rainbow Choir ing thexn. They ate our true heroesi With thia •••On:lPieb»-9».*^" ' ••-..••• land. m " •• '""ill r^»JS»5 •^ 'M* J*. •-t. ••* ; j I *-fam^'.-gkS^-^- -Jif': • it-^f^nuniiiiiiWUMifc fcn>n>.. B6 fe^^'«'«i^i*^^^c^.4^a.?J Mac, 41, teaches at a private high school in sions. I am not sure how or what I can do to a Ionian. They would be seen as not "fitting' Hear Me People who are parents have some sense of Heliopolis, a wealthy section ofthe dty where make him want to bottom fbr me and enjoy it the p j>per criteria for transition. Logical re- Inaccuracy of this specific artide aside, how permanence. For most it*s through thdr chil tnany government offidals live, induding Presi I also do not know if I should break up with spona^ **We are transsexual, we are not gay." ever, there is a bigger issue here. The fact is that Out dren. It becomes their lifeline to a purposeful Heafthy and dent Hosni Mubarak. Mac is unusual in that he him because of my dissatisfiiction with our Butr^ait, if we transition and live with a while they certainly sensationalized it. Rolling existence. They can fed their lineage and an By Mubarak lives alone in his own place. Most unmarried sex life. Jfoman^^wh^ are we? What are we if we lived Gay Stone did not make up bugchasing. It does exist, cestry, Thdr very DNA will be around long Egyptian men, regardless of their age, still live A: There are numerous reasons why your >*^''th a^oman as a woman, and we transition to even here in our own community, and so it's an Dahir TransGender Vi< after they are gone. Gay and lesbian people at home. But because Mac is "family," living at parmer does not want to get fucked. And being apnan? Are we straight? What were we issue worth addressing. who are parents, or those who have been lucky By Erik Libey home witih his parents would be "unbearable," unfottunatdy only he has the answers. I would By K.K (with Jim C.) hefor*|^Etc. etc. etc. Why would someone be a bugchaser? This is Cruising the Nile enough to adopt, probably understand this he says. He doubts he'll ever be able to live with suggest that you continue to try to have a "Assimilatfon*' Part I (o^ Ut'^k Intetsexual. If you're bodi (M & a complex question, and certainly no magic I am sitting at the Taveme Bar in Cairo's Nile feeling. However, many people in the gay The Great Chase a boyfriend, should he find one. '*That would dialogue with him. For many men, it is a huge "Lefs get rid of ail of Fj, sd^ial orientation" is an even more in- answer is to be found in this paragraph — but Hilton hotel, waiting for a man I know only as world might be asking themselves, **Where is be highly unusual, and very difficult" to pull connection, emotionally, and you might want vo!ved%rml Are you Bi? If you read Roiling Stone magazine or any of there are some ideas. For some, an HIV diag 'Mac". damned letters") my legacy**? off. to talk about how being inside of him con irj- ^ one commanity. These once helpful, the major GLBT press or internet sites, chances nosis opens doors to medical services and Mac is the sole gay man in Egypt who would As has been written recendy Undeniably, irresponsible risk-taking be are that you've seen or heard the words His parents still ask him when he will find a nects you to him. There is a good book byjack now mosdy politically correct Utters do not financial assistance resources previously un :ommunicate with me via e-mail before I made Bntpty Closet;, the RTG is doing sot havior is a definitive dement of 21st century "bugchaser" and "giftgiver" recentiy. woman and settie down. "I just tell them I Morin, Ph.D. ^ded Anal Health andPkasure. describe with any kind of accuracy, a human available. For others, sharing infection with a tiy trip here. Ever since the May 2001 police gay culture. It's possible that the ptesence of A recent article printed in Rolling Stone has haven't found the right woman yet," he says, The book may be a way to open up tliis ferent at our Saturday meetings. For i ^% Itpathologises us. We become described beloved partner creates a stronger sense of .-aid ofthe Queen Boat, a floating gay disco on AIDS makes gay men feel limited, as if "get stirred up quite a controversy around these "To some degree, they know I will never find conversation. are calling it a "Gender" meeting, simply by a word, an initial, a Urm. intimacy OR helps alleviate feelings of guilt he Nile, where 52 men were arrested and put "Transgender" or words to that eff ting older is not an option". This ideology terms — and has started a lot of discussion the right woman. It's a situation of 'don't say, No Time Like the Present ^e probably should do away with these let- that may arise as one watches their friends/ 3n trial for "obscene behavior" and "con- te? fiieis a sense of unfounded immediacy to have within the community about what they mean. don't tell, don't know.*" But he believes his Q: About a week ago I was homy and The idea is to talk about gender as \ lovers become ill (often referred to as survivor's empt for religion," gay life has gone deeply as many experiences as soon as possible, I feel This discussion has found its way even to our famiiy does know he's "fannuJy". stupidly dedded to put one of those long to deal with the various manifestatic That seems to me to be the futuristic ^zy of guilt). For others, getting infected takes on a inderground. And while the arrest and trial of that some gay men express a futility of trying own community, and so I thought it was worth "WTien the extended family gets together, I pointy candles up vcij butt, I felt a really sharp der, and to stop treating gender i| dtjJing with our community: move forward, feeling of "rite of passage" — buying into the he "Cairo 52," as the Queen Boat victims have to live a healthy gay Ufe in the face of disease, addressing briefly, can feel the odd looks, and I know they whis pain as it passed my anal canal. Usually I use gender identities as something of pr gress into the 21st century. Otherwise, we notion that living with HIV is an inherent part jecome known, has garnered international at- and self-proclaim, "wdl, it's just a matter of VC'hen contemplating this topic, the most per behind my back. They pity me, because in objects that are not long enough to surpass ogy-" w!' never be one group, we will be splintered ofbeing a gay man. For still others, this behav ;ention and protest, the Egyptian government time". They indulge to excess. trr^ftant thii^ to understand is what these terms Egypt, everything is built on family. Without a my anal canal. I feel like my whole insides are Not everyone whose gender is aro potentially open to being alienated from ior is rooted in ignorance about the reality of rontinues to harass gay men with other, stnaller As ridiculous as this notion is, this mindset mean. A "gif^iver" is an HIV-positive indi famiiy, you are not considered whole or com ripped up. I read somewhere that you need differendy than the straight/Heteroa or: another. living with HIV and this is a potentially danger .•ound-ups. Police aiso sometimes go online in needs to be educated to the idea that every life viduai who is vn'illing and/or interested in in ous condition. plete or normal." The vast majority of gay men immediate surgery ifyou tear your colon. I called norm, has any type of "patholt ^le ultimate goal is of course, to see usallzs 'sting" operations, where they pose as gay is truly sacred. To be socially responsible, one tentionally infecting theit sexuai partners with in Egypt do end up marrying, he says, and am really scared snd was wondering what thing wliich needs to be dtatt with^ cha si-;y human beings; orientation, gender, skin ru close by addressing the last of these -nen, set up meetings, then arrest their dates, should also recognize that their individual HIV. A "bugchaser" is an individual who is secretiy having sex M'ith men on the side. possible damage has been done. worked at.) Many people who have cc^r, national origin, aU aside. points: HIV is the virus that causes AIDS. rhough there is no law against homosexuality behavior has significant ramifications for the HIV-negative, but wants to be infected, and so Before the evening is over, Mac drives me A: I know this is a very sensitive time for "gender issued* are perfecdy happy ant This is the place to start. Getting infected with HIV is not something n Egypt, it's not difficult for the police to make gay community and society at latge. Taking intentionally seeks out unprotected sexual en around Cairo and points out the top cruisy you, but you need to go to an ER or walk-in with their identities. "Homosexual" Ln's do it that should be taken lighdy, because once in jp all kinds of charges against the men, includ- persona] responsibiliry is the first step to the counters with partners who are HIV-positive. places where men still go to meet. We drive clinic now to have this examined tight awav. bian) people,as well as many "straight**! fected, there is no cure. VCTiile everyone's expe .ng unfounded claims of prostitution. key to personal survival. Giving up that per The article in Rolling Stone, v/hile it did bring past an old movie theater, infamous for sex in You will fed a lot better once this is checked often (as is finally now being adniittec rience with HIV is f>ersonal and uruque, for Shordy before my arrival, a police Internet sonal responsibility is tantamount to becom.- these teims to lig^.t, was flawed. First of ail, in the balconies. He shows me a disco called the out. Please go now and take care of yourself. arross the hoard) have identities whicl Conundrums many/most itcan be an unpleasant experience, mng resulted in several entrapments. In at ing a 'v'ict.im. what many have identified as a homiOphobic Tiffany Bar, that attracts a lot of gay men on Ask a friend to go witii you ifyou do not want conform to the ultra mai»culine or ultra as the disease progresses to frequent chronic east one case, the poUcetnan posed as a gay The legacy question recently surfaced for "Tine print^" the article painted the issue of the weekends. Mac points out one sauna where to gtj by yourself. cliche of past time.s. This is/w/f of what^ By Ove Overmyer illness(es) and intense medication regimens, tourist from Italy looking to meet locals. The me after a sudden temporary illness rendered bugchasing as a gay male phenomenon — and men go to have sex, warning it is more dirty Helping a Friend to deal with at our meetings, from no^ with sometimes severe side effects. And make subsequent fear diat created made it almost me useless in the working worid. It was a time while these specific terms have been linked to than dangerous. A second sauna, he says, is Q: I'm a 14-year old girl at a ccted boarding The other thmg that we want to des no mistake, it is still safe to say that while rnp>ossible for me to arrange online to meet of unparalleled introspection. In the hospital, gay men primarily, it's imp^ort^nt to mention clean and comfortable, but "there's no p>en- high school. My best friend came out as a "community". By that I mean "Queei medically manageable, HIV infection wiU even nen for interviews. Mac alone would ans^ver Vhere is my legacy? I was never alone. My mother was there like that not everj^onc who seeks is a gay man. etration. If you're lucky you can get a hand job. lesbian right after I met her. She recentiy told munity, not ihe initials GLBT(r). At oi tually lead to death. ny electronic notes, much less agree to mecL clockwork, dispensing information to all who Second, the article clouds some core issues But ifyou get caught, they fine you and, worst me that she has been in love with me since die adage was "We're here, we're qucei If you are unsure about HIV facts, have ^fter a flurry of cautious e-mails, where Mac )u see, the thing is, there will always be a have chosen other-worldly locales in which to by \^siting the issue of barebacking. Often of all, ban you." We end up at Ramses Square, then, she cries about me when I'm away and we art here (by we, i mean T and I). Bj questions/thoughts about bugchasing, or are *rouid not send me his picture, and a few tf-orrow. There is also the possibility you live. My colleagues at work were incredibly bugchasers and giftgivers may meet using a huge transportation hub for buses. We walk that I'm all she ever thinks about. She knows mean in the Gay/Homosexual comm» struggling with your own feelings about HIV •5hone calls once I arrived in Cairo, Mac told m.nt not be a pan of it You don't give supportive, offering me v/aim wishes for a internet sites targeted at eroticising unsafe sex, to a large, concrete square area with benches that I'm straight and not interested in her The GLBT(I) suggests seeminglyyw infection, talk to someone before you make an -ne to meet him at the Taveme. tf-orrow a second thought? Well maybe you speedy recovery. There were many phone calls or barebacking. The piece that is missing is, and sit. This, Mac says, is where he usually sexually. She said that she wants to get over munities (five?) irrevocable decision.Be gay. Be proud. Be The bar is designed as an old-fashioned si- M. and mailed greeting cards telling me that in that while bugchasers do bareback \t\ order to comes to meet men. me but she can't. She's my best friend and I We are ali one. healthy! English pub, with heavy dark woods and plush, .ople call death many things. He- "passed some small way 1 reailv do matter. Even a few achieve infection, NOT ^\IJL people who bare Frik Ubey ts Gay Health Coordinator for ,'\ IDS The square is literally in the shadow of a don't want her to be this unhappy. I don't At one point in history, the "Homt Dverstuffed chairs around small round tables. 3' '", she's "gone to a better place", or they readers of the Bmpty Closet said rhey truly back ;ire intentionally trying to caich HIV. Rochester, Irw. and can he reathtd ut-142 2220, or ^^y huge mosque, and I can't help but comment totally understand her feelings but I want to commutiity encompassed all "Qu< The wails are lined with booths, made semi- iijuestion: docs anyone not kiiOw thic^ • ed on". I find il parricLilarSy ironic rhat missed mv Cvilurnn. U -A'AS then that I reaU^td i'iii«Uy, tVu itiucU: c^iiorcs staus-tics tV.:it. arc nv^^t e-miiil at ftihfiy(a}iJidsrrjchesifT: ' •si/o*!'**:**-.' 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E-mail: uninsured and underinsured women. servicces for people with HIV/AIDS and their fiamiiies; presents educational programs related •IItistC ] [email protected] Web page: to HIV/STDs to community groups; offers free, confidential testing every Monday and Elizabeth Wende Breast Clinic, 170 www.mcK>rere$ults.com.NOW Thursday* 5-8 pm (no apointment necessary). Also testing on Outreach Van throughout city. Sawgrass Drive. 442-8432. Dr. Wende Lo ^585) 389-1099 iinvw.selzhouses.com A WELCOMING CULTURAL: Contact information: business line (585)442-2220 V/TTY; www.aidsrochester.org.Rural TkmKM /kmtt gan-Young and an all-woman staff provide Rochester Wonnen*s Comnnunity counties served by ARI offices in Geneva (I-800-422-0282) and Bath (1-800-954-2437). mammograms, ''Let us help make a difference in your life '* AFFIRMING Chorus. 234-4441. (See Ongoing calendar). Helping People with AIDS, Inc. (HPA) P.O. 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Out-patient treatrnents your professtonalism, and your patienoe wfth me exceeded every expectation I had. I wouW, and have, highly Alternatives for Battered Women. GENERAL: and infusions on-site. Liaison nurses to coordinate home care needs. Educational resources recommended you, espedaily to anyone who wants to remove the anxiety from searching fbr a hoise. 11:20 AM: 232-7353. Shelter, counseling. Lesbians wel >Aromen's Resource Center. YWCA and support groups, Access to clinical trials, lab and Pharmacy services on-site, and Referrals Thank you I am truly at home." YOUTH & ADULT CLASSES. come. 175 N. Ciinion Ave. 546-7740. to substance abuse programs, psychotherapy, and other specialised health services. Nancy Bfxfy^n Yictifti Resource Center of Wayne Coalition for Lesbian Visibility, Di (7!6)244-9000.TT>' (535)461-9202 Clin^DCARE & SUNPAY SCHOOl County. Newark N.Y. 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HIV prevention focus for men l^m^:M-^$&^ where Jones and Ambrose Streets meet Mon-Fh. 6:30-9:30 pm 458-5728. Calendars and the Gay Groups section who have sex with men (MSM) in the minority community. Support groups, one on one peer Lake Avenue, about one half mile north POLITICAL: for more groups and events, and cal! education, safer sex workshops, referral services, buddy testing. Sibley Tower Building, 25 ofthe Kodak Office Building. Women Against a Violent Environ the GaySource Infoline for referrals, at Franklin St.. Suite 1060. 420-1400. ment (WAVE.) issues of violence against 244-8640. And send us your Informa Monroe County Health Department, at 855 W. Main St., offers testing and counseling women. PO Box 15650, Rcchester NY For more, icfortnatioii call 458-5765 tion! for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. (585)464-5928. t-U ARK WVEG. BUILDING ACCESSIBLE t AUDIO LOOl Strong Mferrxjriall Hospital provides a corrtptete range of HW rned\ca\ care, \nc\ud\ng AVAilABLE. access to experimental treatment pr otoco'ts, and HW testing. A\so provides »ridw\dua\ and group psychotherapy. Training oT health care professionals also avaitable. Infectious AID^I^II^ECiTORt COlslTfNiiib Disease Clinic. (585) 275-0526. Department of Psychiatry. (585) 275-3379. AIDS Training Project, (585) 275-5693. SANDYRELLA Catholic Charities AIDS Services. A multicultural and bi-lingual staff providing services CLEAfilFiG SERVICES 0 a diversity of people infected and affected with HIV. We provide intensive home-based Planned Parenthood of Rochester and Genesee Valley offers testing and informa case management for aii ages; a clinical crisis manager; a child/adoiescent case worker; tion (585) 546 2595. MAKE YOUR MOME OR OFRCE •t-ansitional case management for children and family members going through bereavement; Threshold Youth Center provides confidential testing for young people ages 12-25. Fees SPARKLE LIKE A CASTLE "ecreadona! and support groups for children and teens, and camping experiences including on sliding scale, no one denied service. Threshold Center for Alternative Youth Services, Cimp SOAR We coordinate HOPWA (Housing Opportunities for People with AIDS) 80 SL Paul St. 454-7530. Free oral HIV testing Thursdays 2-4 pm.. ages 12-25. Fully insu««d. CaU tor i in^ ««tlmat« today. short term emergency assistance with rent/'mortgage/utility payments and limited subsi Rural HIV testing, anonymous and confidentiai, in Alleghany, Livingston, Ontario, •r:;--A6i^iT*^ dized housing. 1945 E. Ridge Rd.. Suite 24. Rochester NY 14622. (716)339-9800. Schuyler, Seneca. Steuben, Wayne or Yates Counties, call 1-800-962-5063. AIAI^K SlAVII-< SANDY JACQUES (585) 787-2081 CeM: (685) 752-4604 Action Front Center (Action for a Better Community.) Provides HIV prevention sandyr«Had«an#aoJ .com education and case management set-vices. Training and technical assistance to service providers. Resource library open to public. All services free and confidential. Multicultura! iv.ii'k>.r\\ i'i.t',v." CDC National STD and AIDS Hotline. 1-800-342-2437; 1-800-227-8922. English mk service 24 hours a day, seven days a week, Spanish service: I -800-344-7432, 8 am- 2 am, COMMUNr seven days a week. TTY service: 1-800-243-7889, 10 am- 10 pm. Monday-Friday. Laarn to: Public Interest Law Office of Rochester (PILOR). 80 SL Paul SL. Suite 70!, Free legal • Oiv« volc« to your •motions services to HIV positive persons, families. Spanish bilingual advocates available. All civil cases HEALTH m Dovolop your strongths except divorce; no criminal cases. Ask to speak to someone in PILOR. 454-4060. 496 White Spruce BW"^ a improvo your rolotioitsliipo a Conquer your foors Health Association HART (HIV/AIDS Resources and Treatment) Program. 250 Rochester. NY 14623 East Ave. (585)232-6382. Provides housing assistance, acupuncture, massage, reiki, support . 585-327-2121 NETWORK IndMduais, Couples^Family and Group Fsychotharapy groups, referral services. Positively Alive (HIV + women's support network). firakffliyfnsw(aja<»ici Edith Bernstein, CSW Westside Health Services. Brown Square Health Center. 175 Lyell Ave. (254-6480); Woodward healdi Center, 480 Genesee St. (436-3040). HIV/AIDS servkes. support, more. Weekly Gay Men's HTV/AIDS 624-A Pittsfoni-Victor llMMl Group Since 1997 flexible hours Bushn^ls Basin 14534 McCreo McCull«r Wellness Center at Unity Health's Connection Clinlc.(585)368- Sliding fee scale Tal: 716-69e-M30 3200. 89 Genesee St., Bishop Kearney BWg.. 3rd floor. 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A topic with news and views wili start the meeting, personal experi Patrick's Day with us a ^ \.'N.^.''>^^J Spiritus Christi Church "They will know^ we are Chtisdstns by our love,.. 9t £>art:>ara Debes, M-5* A Cbrist'Centered Catholic Churcli reaching beyond the institutional Elaine Elkins M.S. church to be inclusive of all (^^ounsclor^/Lesbian Liturgies Thurjsday: 7:00 p.m. at Spiritus Christi Church Dignity-Integrity Psychotherapist Saturday; 5:00 pm at Spiritus Christi Church (Roman Catholic-Episcopal) Individual and relationship counseling: Sunday: 7:3 0 a. m. at Spiritus Christi Church Encouragement 9 30 am. at Hochstcin, 50 N Ptymouth Ave. An active faith coaununity since 1975. anxiety & depression Rainbow Bridge Meetings: 3"* Monday 7:00-8:30 pm. -y Vjv^' loneliness & separation Caring 60 Bittner St Roche«ter NY 144SG • 325-11»0 Liturgy every Simday at 5:00 p.m. resolving conflicts tL C. UtuTgy oftbc Word - Btat, ihkdt mad £ilih Sundays oftbc month. (3u8aance Bpiscopad MASS - second ttnd fourth Sundmys of tbe month. communication skills Third Presbytdrian Church Social Hour following Liturgy. sexual abuse recovery {Respect a More Light Church Church of St. Luke and St. Simon Cyrene drug & alcoholism 17 South Fitzhugh Street (Comer of Broad and S. Fitzhugh) where glbt persons are welcomed as grief & loss {the church mth the pink steepk) ^^^ Park Avenue partners in ministry 244-4837 D-I Info-Line: (585) 234-5092 (/ \6)l/\ -^6 1 Q Sunday Worship 10:30 a.m. (RecorrJed information and voice mad) (Child care available, wTieelchair accessible, E-maiL' [email protected] '4 looped for hearing impaired) Web Site: http://www.ggw.org/DI-Roche8ter/ Monday (1st and 3rd) Pastoral care is available. GLBT Support Group 7:30 p.m All are welcome regardless of worship tradidon, e r Stanton gender ide&dty or sexual orientadon. hgether we Will create an at East Ave and Meigs St environment that promotes Rochester. 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Our g^ve tt a tty. be it watching ESPN or playing on a 4619, e-mail GAGV 7 p,m. or look us up on our website, mMMCting dates for Much are. on the WegMhcred mt the PizaA Cafe on team! 7 - 9 pjn. at die GAGV, 179 DressyFemme^aoLcom to join our www.gayrochester.com/COAP 4th af^ 18th, fixxn 6:30-S;30 pan. £. Heittietfcft Rd. for our February Adandc Ave., comer of Elton/Adan online meeting notification Uat, or Psychottierapy 9t Therapojdc Coitimunity Center Russell SpMH^iffid-Body Work Information GAGV CommunHy C«nter, 179 At Board President: Bill Kelly lantk Ave^ Rochester N.Y. 14607-12S5. Acting Executive Director: Pam Tell us a little about yourself, and I wanted to be a part of an I went to was one of the most tnov jhcJAvldual, Cowpte and f amiy Community Center phons: Barres »unseiing^ i.e. how long you have been out, organization that has such a fxjsitive ing experiences of my life. 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Saturday, March 29, 2003 at 7:30 PM Western New York's Premier Source for Greeting Cards, Pride Jewelry, Stickers, ClubWear, Android & P Downtown United Presbyterian Church (Chapel) Storm Watches, E-Shirts, Azenta Sands Incense, T-Shirts, Books, Magazines, Toys, and much, more.... 121 N. Fitzhugh Street, Rochester Plus! A kff^selectionifBarsamPricedNewandBieiieH^AiM Videos & DVDs For Sale Also - The Rochester Rainbow Gospel Choir * Tickets $15 - Availabie at The Pride Connection, XJTI rud Outlandish Videos and Gifts, & Parkieigh % 'i -.^y, .V, ^ ^ . ^Videos & c^lfts I Jason & deMarco will also appear I 9 Sunday, March 30, 2003 at 11:00 AM \A/here l+'s IK +o Bo OUT Open Arms Metropolitan Community Church 175 Norris Drive, Rochester WWW.OUTIandishl.com [email protected] Hours: 11AM - 11PM Monday - Saturday & Noon - 5PM Sunday + After-hours Video Return Drop For more infomiation call 271-8478 i Watch IN THE LIFE Monthly on WXXI TV. Check local listings for time and date or e-mail Rainbowchoir@hotmaiLcom Underwritten by OUTlandish Videos and Gifts TJS... ^MS^^' mmm f ii: 133 'T-«i%-: concert. ''Yesterday and Today", 8 pm, Hochstein Music School, Ply- Church (chapel), 121 N. Fitzhugh moutKAve. at Church St. Door price: St $15; tickets available at Ptide c;./v M/5b ."-/ . :? $18; advance sale: $15; student/se Connection, Outlandish, rhe O N GO IN G Galendar nior. $12; children 12 and under: $6. Parkieigh. March 14: GAGV Op«n Forunrw Downtown United Presbytetian Tickets available at Parkieigh, Out Women's Wellness Day. Uni- SUNDAY American Baptists Concerned Valley board of directors I # start at Bachelor Forum. Maixh landish, Pride Connection, through Third Mondays, 7:30 pm. Webster Meeting, second Wednesdays, 7 Church. 121 N. Fitzhu^ St 7.9;30 ^zian Universalist Church of Buf More Light Support Group pm, 179 Adantic Ave. 244-8640. pm. 423-0650. 15: Avenue Pub; March 20: Hi's; for gay and lesbian people and House, 57 Ambrose St 442-5486. chorus members. Call Chorus Une falo, Eimwood at W, Ferry. 9 am- New Freedom New Happiness Free confidential welk-in HIV March 22: Anthon/s S22; March ^cnds, 12:15 pm, last Sundays. Uobfoken Threads at (585)423-0650. 3 pm. Alternative methods for AA Gay meeting testing Downtown United Presbyterian First, third Mondays, 7-9 pm, 23: Tara; March 28: Muthers. 7 pm, Unttanan Chutch, 220 Wirnxxi Evety Thursday ni^t, 5-9 pm, GAGV Open Forum. Anthony's women to care for body, mind and Church, 121 N. Fitzhugh St. 325- GAGV, 179 Adantic Ave. Rd. Menandwomen. ADDS Rochester, 1350 University 522, 522 E. Main St., 8:30 pm. spirit. For infonnation and reser 4000. Triangle Talk Suppoft Group for Parents Ave. 442-2220. vations call (716)879-0999. Parento and Friendb LGBT book discussion seties. Last Night". Wear your toughest SUNDAY 23 Who Have Lost Chiklren MOCHA movie night of LesMans and Gays (PFIAG) Monday, Borders Books & Music, workclothes; meet tough guys. Bach GAGV Open Forum. Tara's SUNDAY 30 First, third Wednesdays, 11 am- Second Thursdays, 6:30 pn>. MO 2:30 -5 pm. Last Sunday. Call fot 7-8:30 pm* Co-sponsored by 12:30 pm. Third Presbytetian CHA Project, 25 Franklin St, Suite FOR THl^ \l/U),MAl> ^lONTIl OP MARCH elor Forum, 670 University Ave. CocktaU Lounge, 153 Uberty Pole Jason & DcMajTco appear at location: 234-0156. GAGV. Free. Church, 4 Meigs St Sponsored by 1060.420-1400. SUNDAY 16 Way. 4 pm. Open Arms MCC, 175 Norris Dignlty^Integrity HIV Positive Gay Men Support Genesee Region Home Care. Free. Countiy line dan<:kig WEDNESDAY 12 Butch Femme Connection Drive, 11 am. 271-8478. 5 pm, St. Luke's/SL Simon Cjnene group SATURDAY 1 THURSDAY 6 Dignity Integrity St. Patrick's 325-1880. Mudiers, first and third Thursdays Church, 17 S. Fitzhugh SL Evety Every Monday, 5 pm, AIDS Roch ImageOut fundtai&er. Under One Pleading Iris (women's alterna Day potiuck supper, after 5 pm bowling trip. AMF Ol>-mpic Lanes, Single Bears Night Out. Call Frontrunners/Frontwalkers ftom 6-9 pm. CaU Kevin, 325-6745. , ^^OAP skating at MCC Tim, 415- Sunday. 234-5092. ester, 1350 University Ave. 442- Roof. 9 pm, Litde Theatre. Advance tive folk/rock band) performs at services at St. Luke/St. Simon Cyrene Scottsviiie Rd. For time, call Kerry at 234-3381 or see FRIDAY 7898. Open Arms Metropolitan 2220x3051. 6 pm run/walk; meet George Rocket Coffee Co., 8 pm. [email protected], or Eastman House parking lot 271- SUNDAY 2 tickets $10; at door $12. Chutch, 17 S. Fitzhugh St. 865-4619. Community Church Green Party (political) Women's Movie Night SATURDAY 8 FRIDAY 14 TUESDAY 18 TUESDAY 25 www.empirebears.org. 175 Norris Drive, Cobbs HiU. Second Mondays, 7 pm, GAGV 2709. Third Fridays, 7 pm, GAGV Com The Big Voice: God or Merman Bmpire Bears International Womcn*8 Day. GAGV Open Forum. Bachelor Wilde/Wolfe Society open mike Advocacy Day. Lobbying for ROMANS will be having a 10:30 am., 6:30 pm 271-8478. Cotnmunity Center, 179 Adantic munity Center, 179 Adantic Ave. has been extended at Downstairs Ave. 234-6470. Rrst Wednesdays, 7:30 pm, Gay Men's AA nteeting Union Teachers Building, 30 N. Forum, 670 University Ave. 6 pm. for lgbt writers, 7 pm. Writers & state funding in Albany. Empire Sute (clothed) brunchabout 11:30 a.m. Gay Men*s Alcoholics Anony- Cabaret Theatre, 172 E. Main St., mious Bassically Treblentakers Band GAGV Community Center, 179 Asbury Methodist Church, 1050 Union St. "Feeling Secure: the New The first in a series of six fomms to Books, 740 University Ave. complete with sausage, eggs, pan Atiantic Ave. through today. The musical stars its Pride Agenda, (212)627-0305, St. Luke's/St. Simon Cyrene Rehearsals 4:30-6:30 pm, every East Ave. 7:30-8:30 pm. cakes, maple syrup, etc. Call 585- Transgender Group creators, Steve Shalchdin and Jim Realities". Registration starts at 8:45 be held in area bars this month. Dia THURSDAY 20 FRIDAY 28 Church, 17 S. Fitzhugh St 8:30 pm, Monday. Call Tim, 242-0237. SATURDAY am. Workshops through 3:30 pm; logue on die past (when the bars GAGV Open Forum. RJ's Pub, 234-7641 and leave a message re 232-6720. Weekly. Rochester Transgender Group Third Wednesdays, 6:30-9 pm, Rochester Rame bar night Brochu. For informarion call 325- GAGV Open Forum. Muthers GAGV Community Center. 179 performance by Thunder Lizard were our onlv meeting place), the 140 Alexander St. 7 ptn. questing furtlier details. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual Second Mondayis, Open Arms Third Samrday. 8 pm-2 am. Bach 4370. 40 Union, 40 S. Union St. 6 pm. Adantic Ave. elor Forum, 470 University Ave, Singers. S10 donation includes lunch. present, and die future of the lgbt Empty Closet deadline Cam In the Life. The l_^gacy of and Friends Association MCC, 175 Norris Dri^^e. 6:30-9 MONDAY 3 Spirituality and Intimacy: Sth (GLBFA) pm. Muiticom-4 Coffee Talk 271-6930. For information call Beth Ares at community. ^Tiat is your individual era-ready ads, photographs. 244- AIDS. 11 pm,WXXI. 7 pm. Spin Cafe (739 Park Ave.) Boys Will Be Girls. VHl cable, annual Winter Retreat for Gay, Bi U. of Rochester, Sundays, 5 pm, TUESDAY Frontrunners/Frontwalkers MONDAY 31 Social for former Multicom-4 BBS 10 pm. Features Rochester drag 235-4136. experience of being L, G, B or T in 9030. sexual and Transgender Men. Morey 401. 275-9379. E-mail: Atlantic Five 0 9 am run/walk. Meet George Empire Bears potiuck. "^rheme: Rochester? FRIDAY 21 Triangle Talk. Oar Daughter Gay men 50 and over. Second members; other ^bt cyber geeks Eastman House parking lot 461- queens Pandora Boxx and Darienne Through March 30. Easton Mtn. g^[email protected], rochester.edu welcome, every fourth Wednesday, "Foods Beginnirig with a B." 6:30 Empty Cioset deadline. Articles, COAP Game Night. 7 pm. Martha, by Marcy Hendrickson. GAGV Youth Group Tuesdays, 7 pm, GAGV Commu 4246, Lake, taped in performance at Retreat Center, Greenwich NY (40 8 pm. Coalition for Lesbian Visibility pm at the GAGV, 179 Adantic Ave. classified ads. display ad space reser Shaim, 271-5868. Discus.sjon leaders: Karen and Sy Ages 13-18. Evejy Sunday, 2-4 pm, nity Center, 179 Adantic Ave. 461- Muthers on Jan. 10. i-ninutes north of Albany). For infor 0821. THURSDAY Second Saturdays. Finger Lakes ROMANS and Rochester vation, lotteiT. to editor. 244-9030. Zivan o*" PFI^tG. ' cm. Borders GAGV Commuruty Center, 179 Lysistrata. Worldwide readings SATURDAY 11 mation on fees, registration etc.. con Adantic Ave. 244-8640. Orleans Rainbow Fellowship Presbyterian* for J...esbian area, poducks/socials. Call Becky Books & Music Co-sponsored by of Aristophanes' anti-war play. In Namrists invite persons of aU per SATURDAY IS Building Our House: Disman tact Mike Moran, (212)807-8853. Rainbow Amateur Radio Assoc. Support/sociai group, meets sec and Gay Concerns Bly, (315)539-6271. suasions, ages, and orientations to a GAGV Open Forum. Avenue tling Institutional Racism. Work GAGV. Free. Finger Lakes chapter. ond Tuesdays, 7 pm. For location 6:30 pm, first Thursday. For loca Hmpire Bears Rochester: JCC, 1200 Edgewood Empty Closet mailing party. tion call Ralph, 271 -7649. naked swim and gym event at a local Pub, 522 Monroe Ave. 5 pm. shop by Carmen Vasquez, director APRIL Business meeting/lunch. Call Bob, call Dale, 589-9107, or e-mail Second Saturdays, Bachelor Fo Ave., 7 pm. In Brockport: SUNY Socialize, munch and stuff envelopes, Mercy Spiritual Companion rum, 470 Umversity Ave. Beariine: health club in Rochestet 17 till 10:30 ROMANS will have its March of public poiic>' at N^C I.£.sbi0n, SATURDAY 5 442-7185, DLAubacl 86<:;^aoLcom 1i*c«:kport, 7:30 pm, MainStage in noon to 2 pm,. Bulk mailing and Gay Fathers' Support Group Program 234-3381. p.m. Call 585-385-7651 for more meeting from 7 to 10 p.m. Call 585- Rochester Gay Mcn*8 Cho Food Not Bombs firee meal line .Arts Tower. In Buffalo: Temple Gay, Bisexual andTransgeriderCom.- distribution, 6:45 8 pm. 244-9030. First and third Tuesda>'s, 6:30-8:,30 Evening of reflection for those im Cross Dresser Support Group information. 2 pm, every Sunday, St. Joseph's pacted by HIV/AIDS. 7-9 pm. Beth Zion, 805 Delaware Ave., 7:.30 234-7641 and leave a message re munitv Center. 9 am- 4 pm, Bausch SATURDAY 29 rus: "Soiree of the Season". Stay Park, N. Clinton & Pleasant, 234- pm, GAGV Community Center, First Samrdays, 6:.30-10:30 pm, SUNDAY 9 questing further details on the meet & Lomb. For information call the tuned for April EC; call the Cho 179 Atiantic Ave. Call 671-6070 or 473-6893, GAGV, 179 Atlantic Ave, Info: pm. Jason & DeMarco in concen 0884, Chess and Science Fiction Club COAP Trick Brunch. 11 am. ing. GAGV at 244-8640. rus Line at 423-0650. Rainbow Seniors MOCHA coffee chat (716)251-2132, TUESDAY 4 with Rainbow Gospel Choir. 7:30 Second Thursdays, 6:50-9 pm, Transgender Group Tom, 454-3609. Rams Bar Night. "Carhartt SUNDAY 6 Third Sundays, Potiuck at ARI, Open "^discussion for men cf color Mardi Gras. Rochester Gay Men's Chorus pm. Downtown United Presbyterian who have sex with men. Coffee, GAGV Commuruty Center, 179 Last Saturdays, 2-5 pm, GAGV jyt. D. Mark Wilson speaks on 1350 University Ave. 4 pm. Adandc Ave. MONDAY refreshments. First and ihird Tues Community Center, 179 Adantic Greater Rochester Gay and Les "African American, Baptist Pas Gay and Lesbian Support Group days. 6:30 pm. MOCHA Project, Ave, bian Business Forum tor, and Gay: An Unusual Per Thitd Ptesbytcnan Church, 4 Meigs 25 Franklin St. Suite 1060. 420- Countiy line dancing Professionals* sodal group. Second spective". 7;30 pmi. Lake Avenue St First and third Mondays, 7:30-9 1400. Second and fourth Saturdays, 6-9 Thursdays, 5:30-7 pm. 234-8706. pm, 33a .3466. Youth of Color Group pm. Call Kevin, 325-6745. Baptist Church, 57 Ambrose St. Caregivcra Suport Gtoup AIDS Rochester After AIDS Bereavement Support 3-5 pm, MOCHA Project, 25 Saturday Night Special Gay AA He -w-'iU also preach at the 10 am Fit^t, diird lliursdays, 5:30-7 pm, Second, fouith Mondays, 4-5:30 Franldirs St., Sibley Cct>ter, Suite 7 pm. Unitarian Church, 220 service at Lake Avenue. 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