Last Updated: 7/6/12 PK’s Fetish Checklist Checklists are useful ways to see what each person in a relationship is into. Sit down, together or separately, and fill this out. Be 100% honest and open; it’s the only way this will help you! This checklist is designed to help spark a discussion, not to act as the be-all, end-all of your sexual relationship.

Activity: Every attempt has been made to keep these obvious and fairly universal. If there’s something specific you’re into, that’s what the Notes column is for! For example, there’s no entry for “” (anal involving ginger root) on here, so if you’re into that, put it in the notes for the Anal Play activity. Why Two Columns: Nearly every fetish has two distinct roles. (The few that don’t list an “N/A” in the second line.) BDSM involves a dominant and a submissive, most forms of penetration have a giver and a receiver, and so on. Because of this, every activity has two columns defining the two common roles for that activity, with the labels appearing just above the Done and Rate column for that activity. (If you want to discuss a third, fourth, etc., that’s what Notes are for!) For activities involving people outside the relationship, it’s important to define what “Playing Around” means, in the Notes; for some relationships, it will be BDSM- related activities, while for others it may mean kissing and fondling. Done: Put “Y,” “X,” or a checkmark here if you have experience in this role in this activity. Alternatively, rate your experience from 0-5, with 0 being “none” and 5 being “mastery.” Rate: Rate both roles for this activity based on your feelings about it, using the guidelines below. It’s fine to choose an in-between rating (e.g., “3/4” if you only somewhat like it) or otherwise mix them together. Don’t hesitate to use the Notes column to explain your rating – that’s why it’s there!

Rating Explanation ! Essential Something you can’t live without. If your partner isn’t into this, it’s a real problem. 5 Love You love doing this. You’ll almost never say no, and probably want it frequently. 4 Like You like doing this. You want to do it from time to time, but not every time. 3 Don’t Mind You’re neutral. You’ll do it if your partner wants to, but it’s not really your thing. 2 Dislike You dislike doing this, but if your partner really wants it, you’ll put up with it. 1 Hate You hate doing this. You’ll do it for your partner, but you won’t enjoy it even a little. 0 Soft Limit You will not do this for your partner. You’re willing to discuss it, but are against it. X Hard Limit You will never, ever do this. If your partner demanded it, you would leave them instead. ? Curious You don’t know how you feel, but are definitely up for trying it at least once. Optionally, you can combine this with a number rating to specify how you think you’ll feel about it, from 1? for “I’m sure I’ll hate it it, but I’ll try it once to be sure,” to 5? for “I want to try this so much, and I’m sure I’ll love it!” / Not Applicable This is physically impossible for you to do, usually because you lack the anatomy for it. (For example, a female cannot give anal sex, due to her lack of a penis.) * See Notes Too complicated to sum up in this little space. See the Notes off to the right for details.

Keep this first page handy, off to the side, so you can reference it as you’re filling out the main checklist.

Much love to the CEPE BDSM Checklist and Yes-No-Maybe: A Kinky List, both of which inspired me to make a checklist that had as much detail as the former, but was as all-encompassing as the latter. You can always find the latest version of this checklist at http://sites.google.com/site/fetishchecklist/ Activity Done Rate Done Rate Notes Anal Play (Slim / Giving Receiving Gentle) | | | | Anal Play (Thick / Giving Receiving Rough) | | | | Anal Sex Giving Receiving Penis in anus; fingers and toys | | are Anal Play or Strap-Ons | | Beating (Fists / Giving Receiving Heavy Spanking) | | | | Beating (Padded Giving Receiving Objects) | | | | Beating (Hard Giving Receiving Objects) | | | | Bestiality Watching Participating | | | | Biting (Hard, Giving Receiving Leaving Marks) | | | | Biting (Breaking Giving Receiving the Skin) | | | | Blindfolds / Sen- Partner Wearing Wearing sory Deprivation | | | | Body Modification Giving Receiving Branding, piercing, tattooing, | | scarification, etc. | | Body Paint / Liquid Painting Being Painted Latex | | | | Bondage (Light) Dom Sub Tying up with some freedom of | | movement (cuffs, etc.) | | Bondage (Heavy) Dom Sub Totally restricted; no or nearly | | no movement possible | | Bondage (Rope / Dom Sub Intricate) | | | | Bondage Dom Sub (Encasement) | | | | Bondage Dom Sub (Suspension) | | | | Activity Done Rate Done Rate Notes Breath Play / Giving Receiving Choking | | | | Bruises / Marks Giving Receiving | | | | Cages / Cells Locking Someone In Being Locked In | | | | Catheters / Giving Receiving Speculums | | | | Chastity Belts Dom Sub | | | | Clothespins Dom Sub | | | | Clothing (Corsets / Partner Wearing Wearing Cinches) | | | | Clothing (Latex / Partner Wearing Wearing PVC) | | | | Clothing (Leather) Partner Wearing Wearing | | | | Clothing (Lingerie / Partner Wearing Wearing Sheer) | | | | Clothing (Masks) Partner Wearing Wearing | | | | Clothing (Nylon / Partner Wearing Wearing Spandex) | | | | Clothing (Rubber) Partner Wearing Wearing | | | | Clothing (Shoes / Partner Wearing Wearing Heels / Footwear) | | | | Cock Rings / Straps Partner Wearing Wearing | | | | Collars / Leashes Partner Wearing Wearing | | | | Crossdressing Partner Doing Doing Optionally plus Sissification, | | Masculation, etc. | | Activity Done Rate Done Rate Notes Cheating / Cheating Being Cheated On Cuckolding | | | | Cumshots Cumming On Being Cummed On Indicate where in the Notes, as | | well as any Bukkake interest | | Dildos / Vibrators Using On Partner Being Used On | | | | Dirty Talk Filthy Language Sexual Thoughts | | | | Discipline / Power Dom Sub Exchange | | | | Domination and Dom Sub Submission | | | | Double Penetration Penetrating Being Penetrated Anal penetration while | | engaging in coitus | | Drinking Bodily Partner Drinking Drinking Fluids (Specify) | | | | Electricity (Violet Dom Sub Wand, TENS, etc.) | | | | Erotic Dancing / Watching Performing Stripping | | | | Exhibitionism Flashing Being Sexual | | | | Feet (Licking, Partner’s Feet My Feet Footjobs, etc.) | | | | Film (Pictures or Filming Being Filmed Video) | | | | Fisting Giving Receiving | | | | Food Play Giving Receiving (Insertion) | | | | Food Play (What a On the Bodies All Over The Room Mess) | | | | Foursomes Playing Around Full Sex Usually with another couple, all | | together | | Activity Done Rate Done Rate Notes Gags (Ball, Cloth, Dom Sub Tape, etc.) | | | | Genital Pain / Dom Sub Beating / Torture | | | | Genital Sex / Coitus Engaging In | N/A | Hair-Pulling Dom Sub | | | | Hand Jobs / Giving Receiving Fingering | | | | Hot Tub / Jacuzzi / Private Tub/Pool Public Tub/Pool Pool / Shower Sex | | | | Hot Wax Dom Sub | | | | Humiliation / Dom Sub Degradation | | | | Ice Giving Receiving | | | | Kissing Shallow Kisses Deep, Tongue Ones | | | | Kneeling / Bowing Dom Sub | | | | Licking Giving Receiving | | | | Making Love Pillow Talk Slow, Tender Sex | | | | Massage Giving Receiving | | | | Master and Slave Master Slave Beyond domination – total | | subservience and servitude | | Masturbation (In Watching Performing Front of Partner) | | | | Masturbation Engaging In (Mutual) | N/A | Activity Done Rate Done Rate Notes Menstruation (Sex Genital Sex Oral Sex During) | | | | Nipple Clamps / Dom Sub “Torment” | | | | Nipple Play Giving Receiving | | | | Nudity (Enforced) Dom Sub | | | | Oiled Sex / Nuru Oiled Bodies Oiled Play Area | | | | Oral Sex Giving Receiving | | | | Orgasm Control Dom Sub (Forced / Denial) | | | | Orgies / Gangbangs Playing Around Full Sex Five or more people, often at a | | party or club | | Outdoor Sex Less Risky Very Risky | | | | Pain / Masochism Dom Sub | | | | Phone Sex While Masturbating Not Masturbating | | | | Porn (Watching / Before Sex During Sex Reading) | | | | Public Sex Less Risky Very Risky | | | | Publicly Using Sex Partner Doing So Doing So Toys (Discreetly) | | | | Rimming Giving Receiving | | | | Roleplay (Age Play) Older Role Younger Role | | | | Roleplay (Animal / Human Role Animal Role Pet Play) | | | | Activity Done Rate Done Rate Notes Roleplay Cheater Role Paramour Role (Cheating) | | | | Roleplay (Incest) Siblings Parent/Child | | | | Roleplay Kidnapper Role Victim Role (Kidnapping) | | | | Roleplay (Hypnosis Hypnotizer Role Victim Role / Mind Control) | | | | Roleplay (Medical) Doctor/Nurse Role Patient Role | | | | Roleplay Necrophiliac Role Corpse Role (Necrophilia) | | | | Roleplay (Prison / Guard Role Prisoner Role Interrogation) | | | | Roleplay (Rape) Rapist Role Victim Role | | | | Roleplay Religious Role Secular Role (Religious) | | | | Roleplay (School) Teacher Role Student Role | | | | Roleplay (Whore) Customer Role Whore Role | | | | Rough Sex Aggressive Painful | | | | Saran Wrap (etc.) Dom Sub Encasement | | | | Scat / Enemas Touching / Smelling Tasting | | | | Scratching or Giving Receiving Pinching | | | | Serving (Maid / Dom Sub Butler / Geisha) | | | | Sexual Preference Heterosexuality Homosexuality This isn’t a fetish – just rate it | | here “for the record” | | Activity Done Rate Done Rate Notes Sharp Play (Knives, Dom Sub Needles, etc.) | | | | Shaving (Genitals) Shaving Being Shaved | | | | Shaving (Other) Shaving Being Shaved | | | | Sixty-Nining Engaging In | N/A | Slapping (Breasts, Dom Sub Face, Chest, etc.) | | | | Slutty Clothing Partner Wearing Wearing | | | | Spanking Dom Sub | | | | Strap-Ons Using Being Used On | | | | Swapping Partners Playing Around Full Sex With another couple – pairing | | up in separate rooms | | Swinging Playing Around Full Sex Open relationship, hooking up | | with others without each other | | Threesomes (MMF; Playing Around Full Sex MMM if same-sex) | | | | Threesomes (FFM; Playing Around Full Sex FFF if same-sex) | | | | Teasing Teasing Being Teased | | | | Tickling Tickling Being Tickled | | | | Titty-Fucking Engaging In | N/A | Triple Penetration Penetrating Being Penetrated Anal penetration and fellatio | | while engaging in coitus | | Uniforms Partner Wearing Wearing Specify any particular favorites | | in Notes | | Activity Done Rate Done Rate Notes Voyeurism Discreetly Watching Openly Watching | | | | Watching Partner With a Male With a Female with Someone Else | | | | Watersports Touching / Smelling Tasting | | | | Worship (Feet / Worshiping Being Worshiped Heels / Boots) | | | | Worship (Genitals) Worshiping Being Worshiped | | | | Wrestling Engaging In | N/A | Other: | | | |

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