She’arim Update Pesach 5765, Spring 2005

She’arim Cultivates Leaders he’arim is proud to unveil a new good leader. When I became a teen- provide role models and inspiration for S program for talented women with ager, I realized that a person had to be growth, She’arim will take these stu- the potential to take on leadership roles chosen by the people he was leading. dents to visit outstanding Jewish in their communities. The Young Lead- But as an adult, I learned that leader- women and leaders in Jerusalem. ership Training Program will sponsor ship is taking responsibility. And if By the end of the program, partici- selected women from the English- you lead in a pleasant and inclusive pants will have developed their personal speaking world, who have been nomi- way, people will follow." skills and acquired a deeper awareness nated by Jewish outreach professionals Once at She’arim, Young Leader- of , leaving them well-equipped abroad. Nominees must have previous ship Fellows will engage in a full- to assume leadership positions in their involvement in Jewish activities and time learning program in the regular respective communities. strong interpersonal and intellectual ca- She’arim classes and an additional The program begins September pabilities. Potential candidates will be agenda tailored to hone their leader- 2005, and nominations should be sub- bright, balanced, and responsible; adept ship skills. They will attend special mitted by June 1st. Applications can be in social skills; and committed to courses to learn to interact with di- sent to She’arim by mail: She’arim, PO growth in Torah. The program also verse groups of people and will learn BOX 34629, Jerusalem, Israel, 91346; stipulates that nominees be between 20 about the structure of Jewish commu- by fax at 972-651-8370; or by email at and 25 years old and able to spend a nities in the diaspora. They will also [email protected]. minimum of 10 months at She’arim. receive assignments such as organiz- Commenting about leadership, Reb- ing community activities or chesed betzin Pavlov said, "When I was a projects and complete workshops in AVAILABLE SOON: child, I always thought that if only the people skills, group work, account- Rebbetzin Pavlov’s new book teacher would pick me, I could be a ability, and fundraising. In order to WATER FROM THE WELL: She’arim teachers are mentored on mentoring Reflections on Being a Jew at the End of History s part of She’arim efforts to create innovative and improved programming and A training for both staff and students, our staff attended a training course this Copies will be available from summer on counseling. The in-house training, led by the eminent psychologist Dr. She’arim by June Steve Sherr, was designed to teach advanced skills in counseling students. Dr. Sherr, newly retired Professor Emeritus from San Diego State University, volunteered his time to run the six-part course. The teachers benefited from his diverse experience in the field: he spent 34 years working as a faculty member Rebbetzin’s Corner counseling students, supervising masters and doctoral interns, and teaching coun- seling practice. He also developed a peer counseling program at SDSU. He retired two years ago when he made with his wife Marianne, a She’arim alumna. n Tehillim 131, She’arim's teachers learned how to integrate conventional counseling techniques I King David into their roles as educators and mentors through role-playing, lively discussions, compares himself to and reading material. Dr. Sherr highlighted the questions and issues with which "a suckling child at students may grapple as they become more religious. When "emotion hits ethics his mother's side; like and morality," he said, teachers tend to be natural magnets for support. a suckling child is my Speaking about She’arim's staff in particular, he said, "They were phenomenal soul." What does it mean to be a people with caring, empathy and psychological savvy. They've got more than theo- child? A child trusts his mother, retical knowledge - they've refined themselves, and it was an honor to work with running to her for comfort, seeking them. I admired their willingness to throw their work open to scrutiny." her discipline, accepting her She’arim would like to thank Dr. Steve and Marianne Sherr for their time and decisions. A child has no need to effort as well as their continuing support! understand the wondrous – the wondrous simply is, and he is exhilarated by each new discovery. A child's faith is simple and innocent. SHE’ARIM FAMILY IN CYBERSPACE So we should be before God – Share information, simchas and keep in touch trusting, accepting, innocent, and Email [email protected] exhilarated by life. To join the new She’arim email group Page 2 Up Close & Personal She’arim Passport Glimpses of She’arim Rebbetzin Pavlov and Nina Fixler are very thankful to everyone who helped earning at She’arim is a life -changing experience. Some of our students share make their travels so successful. L what makes their time at She’arim so meaningful to them:

US Trips In California: Annie & Michel Bennaroch, Phyllis Folb, Marilyn Greenberg, LINK, Judy & David Leonard, Ronne & Josh Penn, Miriam Sokol, Bluma Trapp, Rabbi Jeff & Shoshy Wohlgelenter In Atlanta: Lindsay Baron, 26 Amy Rubin, 32 Linda Adler, Marsha Alterman, Yael Masters candidate, occupational Information technology consultant Azran, Terry Eden, Rabbi Binyamin therapy, Temple University Washington, DC & Dena Friedman, Chana & Gene Atlanta, GA “I’ve been wanting to push myself Jew- Rudnick, Rabbi David Silverman, the “The knowledge and skills I am ac- ishly for a long time. She’arim has the Atlanta quiring at She’arim are far exceeding perfect atmosphere in which to do so. I In : my expectations. I am finding that feel privileged to have access to the Lesley Alterman, Jocelyn Berman, She’arim is not just about developing absolutely brilliant, knowledgeable, Robyn Barsky, Lloyd & Judith Ep- skills to learn Torah, but about acquir- dedicated staff.” stein, Rivka Feen, Blema Hannah ing skills for life.” Feinstein, Rabbi Aaron & Dena Glaser, Barbara Goldstein, Sharon Green, Batsheva Haber, Melanie Har- ris, Nancy Hilsenrath, Barbara Hol- lander, Yehudis Baila Kurs, Ronnie Schonzeit, Lily & Philip Schwebel, Chaya Silverstone, Danielle & Sammy Straus, Judy Tuchman, Robyn Ziffer, Manhattan Jewish Experience. Batya Maranz, 23 In Detroit: Claudine Baker, 26 Event Co-ordinator Rabbi Aaron Eiseman, Sharon Moses, Radio journalist Cape Town, South Africa Daphna Zuckerbrod, Machon LeTorah London, England “The moment I walked into She’arim, I In Maryland: “She’arim, through its innovative felt part of something special and Rachel Baden, Karin Cohen, Kim textual approach to learning Torah, important. I could not have found a Graham, Gary & Liat Shyken has literally brought Tanach to life for more suitable school for learning. In New Jersey: me. I feel like I can relate to every She’arim is warm, caring, serious, and Yaffa & Dovid Baslaw, Devora Blum- figure in Jewish history and integrate open to all people and their individual berg, Chana Mesberg, Lisa & Brian their messages into my outlook.” needs. If you are one of the lucky ones Silvey, Suri & Dovid Spector who finds your way here, you could not In Boston: find a more incredible place.” Rebbetzin Bier, Ronelle Landy, Sarah Langer, Joanne Strickon, Miriam Trout In Chicago: Pesach: Beyond the Four Questions Rabbi Deutch, Sara Aviva Dalton, he She’arim Pre -Pesach Seminar (April 10th – 14th) will prepare She'arim Sharon Schwartz, Miriam & Marc T students, as well as women from the community and visitors to Jerusalem, Sommer, Chicago Community Kollel, for the practical and spiritual aspects of Pesach, specifically the seder. Chicago Torah Network This year marks the first dedication of the annual pre-Pesach seminar at In Connecticut: She'arim to the memory of Morton and Beatrice Goldstein. Their daughter, Bar- Edward & Robin Milstein bara, a She'arim alumna, says of them, "My parents were simple people who led In Florida: remarkable lives. Together they raised a family guided by Torah values and dedi- Rabbi Hershel & Sima Becker, Bar- cated to the Jewish community. Chesed was who they were, not what they did." bara Berman, Liz & Joel Brauser, If you would like to attend the seminar, please contact She’arim for more in- Rabbi Bregman, June Daniels, Chanu formation. Goldis

England Trip - January 2005 Joanne Dove, the JLE, Shirley Ellis, Michele & Izzy Gabel, Rabbi Steven & Alexis Rabbi Harvey & Vicki Belovski, Gaffin, Romy Gamzu, Lisa Lyons, Siobhan Newman, Vanessa & Mark Radom, Rabbi Jeremy & Jo Bruce, Rabbi Rabbi YY & Aliza Rubinstein, Kate Salasnick, Rabbi Michael & Aidel Treblow, Fischel & Esther Cohen, Yael & Andrew White, and Lana Ziskind Page 3 Dvar Torah The True Celebration of Pesach By Rebbetzin Malka Kaganoff, She’arim Educational Director hen we think of the Pesach se- In our Haggadah rendition we tell do we mention the negative at all? W der, many images come to mind: of our years of slavery, clearly a nega- Would it not be better to bury the past, the matza, the traditional festive meal, tive, and then proceed to describe the gloss over our deficiencies, and focus the precious family experience, and the positive outcome – our redemption on our current successes? However, Haggadah. Each year we take out our and liberation. Avadim hayinu … since the Sages required us to begin Haggadah and endeavor to gain new v’hotzienu. with reporting negative information, it insights into the powerful words of our It would seem as if we have would seem that we cannot properly sages. thereby accomplished this directive. gauge our successes without a frame of An in-depth analysis reveals that the However, there are those who dispute reference. When we see our current sages created the Haggadah based on that the Rabbis were referring to state we can rejoice; but when we see several distinct principles. The main physical slavery and freedom. Ac- how far we have come, that is indeed a goal of the evening is to recount the cording to this opinion, it is spiritual cause for celebration. It is the contrast story of the Exodus (Maggid). But a re- poverty that is the ultimate negative that defines our success. Closeness to cital of the story is not sufficient; we that must be addressed in the Hag- Hashem is to be praised, but closeness need to include – praise of the gadah. The corresponding positive to Hashem for one who had humble be- Redeemer, as well as symbols of matza declaration is the ensuing spiritual ginnings is truly remarkable. and marror to concretize the experi- wealth. In order to cover this opinion, May we all enjoy the seder and ence. we include a description of our hum- delve into the Haggadah to discover its One of the less-known underpin- ble beginnings – referring to the messages. Let us remember that our nings of the Haggadah is the directive idolatrous behavior of Avraham’s fa- connection to Hashem is our ultimate of the Sages that our recitation must be- ther Terach, and conclude with the praise, and it is our spiritual level in gin with the negative and end with the positive state of the Jewish people – comparison to our past that is most positive: Matchilim b’gnai u’msayamim closeness to our Father in Heaven. praiseworthy. b’shevach. The question can be pondered – why Summer at She’arim She’arim Students Awarded MASA Scholarships

re you planning to visit Jerusalem he’arim is proud to be a part- clusion in Masa by meeting strict A this summer? Do you know S ner in a new scholarship ini- criteria, such as strengthening per- someone else who is? Why not get a tiative of the Jewish Agency for sonal and Jewish identity, leadership spiritual pick-me-up at She’arim? She’arim will offer two exciting short- Israel (JAFI) and the Government development, and community in- term programs: of Israel. The Masa project is a volvement. This was the pioneer scholarship fund designed for stu- year of Masa, and six She’arim stu- The Power of Perception: dents in long-term programs in Is- dents received scholarships from the July 3rd – 28th, 2005 Learn to see the good in every situa- rael. Funded by Jewish federa- fund. The scholarships covered a tion. See others through the prism of tions and generous individuals large portion of school and living Torah. Explore the impact of your from around the world, Masa pro- expenses. thoughts. Develop deeper trust in G-d. vides young adults, from high If you, or someone you know, are

Living Consciously: school graduates to the age of 26, interested in attending She’arim, but July 31st – August 11th, 2005 with scholarships to over 100 dif- find yourself financially limited, Living consciously is living life to the ferent Israel programs – including this is an opportunity you will not fullest within a Torah perspective. Gain She’arim! want to miss. We are now accepting insights in interpersonal relationships. The Israeli government has dis- applications for the next school Discover the power of prayer. Learn to covered that attending a long-term year. Applications are currently live life to the maximum. Find joy in study program increases the likeli- available from She’arim’s Adminis- the mundane. hood that a young adult will make trative Director, Miriam Shaul at Individualized tutoring will be avail- aliyah. She’arim qualified for in- [email protected] able throughout the day at She’arim th st August 15 – September 1 . The 2005- 2006 school year begins with the Elul BECOMING A BETTER HALF: st program on September 1 . Creating Greater Happiness and Unity in Marriage She’arim has something to offer women of all ages and levels, with our based on Torah Principles Taste of Torah introductory program and three levels of text -based shiurim. A series of shiurim by Rebbetzin Brussel is now available. Contact [email protected] Contact the She’arim office for details: for more information. [email protected] Page 4

She’arim Family Mazal Tov From the Ideal to the Real On the birth of a… ore than 50 women from around the world, including many She’arim Daughter: M alumni, traveled to Jerusalem this past winter to participate in the mid- Hadassah to Miriam & Chaim Beinash winter program, "From the Ideal to the Real." Over two intense and inspiring Miara Sarah to Esther & Avraham Berkowitz Chaya Esther to Yona & Izzy Bernath weeks, participants explored ways to actualize Torah's life lessons in the real Sara Dena to Malka & Leib Cass world, and discovered methods for invigorating even the most seemingly mundane Batsheva to Dena & Aaron Glaser parts of daily living with meaning and purpose. Yosefa to Andrea & Jonathan Kamens The mid-winter experience included two afternoons at the Sephardic Education Gila Leeba to Audrey & Jake Levant Miriam Chaya to Avigayil & Yaakov Levin Center in the Old City of Jerusalem where Rabbi Benarroch, the Educational Di- Hadassah Esther to Frances & Avi Marcu rector of the Center and She’arim staff member, treated participants to fascinating Sara Leia to Chaya & Chaim Menasse tours of lesser-known parts of the ancient Jewish Quarter. Guest speakers included Tamar to Esther & Nachum Sabag Holocaust survivor Ruth Brand and Rabbis Harvey Belovski, David Gottlieb and Aviva Shana to Liat & Gary Shyken Tzvi Bloch. She’arim's emphasis on personalized teaching, intellectual challenge, Son: and building textual skills created a dynamic mid-winter experience. Raphael Yechezkel to Suzanne & Eliot Balaban For more information about our next short-term programs, see page 3 about our Yehoshua to Avigail & Emanual Cansino Yosef Yitzchak to Chana & Yehuda Forster summer sessions, or email us at [email protected]. Shrage to Leah & Yerachmiel Friedman Yechiel to Simcha & Yehonason Gefen On the Bar Mitzvah of… Tara Bredin to Azriel Friedman Oriel Tzedek to Shari & Yoni Gershan Rivka Madar to Gershon Freishtat Uriel Avigdor to Elouise & David Ghedini Aryeh Yehuda, son of Rabbi Avraham & Rivi Brussel Chana Berebichez to Shlomo Goldman Aharon to Erica & David Goldberg Sarah Steinberg, daughter of Yaakov & Shaindel, Naphtali Tzvi to Kim & Barry Graham Yitzchak Simcha, grandson of Rabbi & Mrs. Zev Leff to Chananel Greenwald Aron Tzvi to Melanie & Richard Harounoff Batsheva, daughter of Joanne & Moishe Bane to Yaakov Naphtali to Joanna & Marc Iskowitz Eliyahu Meir, son of Sandra & Lawrence Littlestone Yitzchak Simcha, son of Ita Rochel Russek Eli Kerzner Yehoshua Uriel to Nirit & David Jasse Leah Goldstein to Yisrael Kolsky Eytan Yair to Liza & Saul Kramer Elazar Noah son of Rabbi Stu & Fanny Schwartz Baruch, son of Rabbi & Mrs. Moshe Weiden Francine Lazarus to Dov Raiz Gavriel Moshe to Caroline & Michael Leonard Debbie Cobden to Moshe Chaim Rowe Zecharia Aharon to Ari & Shoshana Lerner Aaron Nechemiah son of Yael & Andrew White Rabbi Y.Y. Rubinstein to Aliza Meir Yisrael to Laura & Josh Marder Yael Behar, daughter of Yonaton & Jackie, to Moshe Yitzchak to Levi & Brachi Pavlov On the Bat Mitzvah of… Chana, daughter of Liz & Joel Brauser Dovid Sharfer Eli Shemaya to Vanessa & Mark Radom Shoshana Hopner to Zev Youngwirth Yisroel Meir to Dahlia & Yechezkel Ratner Chava, daughter of Tovia & Tzipporah Breiness Chava, granddaughter of Rabbi & Mrs. Zev Leff Naftali Simcha to Kineret & Yitzi Rifkind Condolences to… Yitzchak Yirmiyahu to Pam & Murray Rose Shira Rachel Adelman on the loss of her grandfather Nachum to Dalia & Asher Saposh On the marriage of… Ruth Brand on the loss of her husband Yedidya Moshe to Shoshie & Oren Shaul Suzanne Nieberg to Mark Asherson Heather Cirota on the loss her brother Eitan Micha to Jackie & Gershon Sheffield Orah, daughter of Rabbi & Mrs. Binyamin Linda Derovan on the loss of her father Chaim Dov to Malka & Moshe Zeldman Friedman to Avraham, son of Rabbi & Mrs. Julia Frank and Andrew White on the loss of their Hershel Becker mother And... Avigail Sutton to Meir Dobkin triplets Ariella Chana Frayda, Netanya Tova and Yael Siman Tov to Noam Elbaz Phyllis Folb on the loss of her mother brother to Denise & Josh Herschberg Leah Melamed to Aaron Feder, son of Celia & Chava Hoch on the loss of her father Yanky Feder Eva Issacs on the loss of her mother Grandson: Avigail Loketch to Avi, son of Rabbi & Mrs. Esti Klebanow on the loss of her grandmother Aaron Yaakov to Hayley & Joe Douek Yitzchak Feigenbaum Yanina Kuklenko on the loss of her mother Ariel to Sharon & Harvey Erlich Sheryl Cristol to Shmuel Firestone David Leonard on the loss of his mother Mordechai to Sandie & Alan Freishtat Pia Matthews, daughter of Cheryl & Simon, to Sora Leah Maltz on the loss of her father Aharon to Linda & Simcha Grossbard, as well as Eitan Fogel Yosef Mendelson on the loss of his father a second grandson also named Aharon. Michal Fendrick to Gidon Frank Leah Malka Pasch on the loss of her father Netanel Elazar to Rabbi Michael & Marci Sharon Geller to Shai Franklin Emma Robbins on the loss of her mother Jablinowitz Jacqueline Speyer to Arnon Friedman Dina Zehngut on the loss of her mother Gershon Chanoch to Rabbi & Rebbetzin Kaganoff Gavriel Moshe to Judy & David Leonard Zecharia Aharon to Arleeta & Ivan Lerner SHIURIM FROM Double Your Dollars! Yehuda Tzvi to Marc & Annette Migdal Johan Scott to Lois & Bruce Nole SHE’ARIM We would like to bring to your atten- Moshe Yitzchak to Rabbi & Rebbetzin Pavlov Yisrael to Rabbi & Mrs. Shternbach tion a fantastic way to maximize finan- Eliezer to Miriam & Marc Sommer Your favorite cial gifts to She’arim. Many busi- to Sora & Yitzchak Youngwirth Shiurim from She’arim nesses in the U.S. have "matching funds" programs that will match em- Granddaughter: are now available Vered Rivka to Linda & Dov Chaitowitz ployee donations to charitable organi- Rivkah Hallel to Linda & Dov Chaitowitz in CD form. zations. If you are interested in sup- Roni Rnana to Toni & Phil Chernofsky porting us, this is an excellent way to Gila Leeba to Geri Goldstein contribute twice as much as you other- Gila Leeba to Sidney Goldstein Contact the office Dina to Rabbi & Mrs. Zev Leff for details: wise could. We encourage our support- Chaya to Rabbi & Mrs. Zev Leff [email protected] ers to explore this option - ask your Shlomit Romema to Sue & Larry Zeifman employer about matching funds today!