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All this ac- bike- and friendly,walk-friendly youth- age-friendly, been designated have "Some noted. liams transit initiatives and more," Wil- projects, cycling lanes, road way-finddiets, schools, to connecting trail and plans. transportation tive ac- develop to municipalities ea workshops,ar- led turn whichin transportation active of series a ing no-cost activities after it held District foster- in part its for Muskoka Unit Health Simcoe the said. he concerts, or programs fitness "Some are now creating trails creating now are "Some However, Williams recognized Janis Ramsay/Torstar Janis simcoe.com Barrie Advance | Thursday, July 25, 2019 | 20 still easier foreasier still men." munity more accepting, it's com- LGBTQ the with and ly a lot easier - even in 2019 people "With said. gay men, it's definite- she meet them," through also you you start dating somebody, When do. of kind just you - today' friends gay some meet to going 'I'm myself, committee. nizing orga- the on sits now and eventsPride Barrie way her to found also She desk. pro- reception teen its on and gram, Centre's bert Gil- the with volunteering started she youth, helping said. she me," to normal seem doesn't This riously. g t a f friendships. developing in faced challenges her has she with gumption, even but true her self, about shy isn't newfriends. make her helped has ality County person- bold her but long, Simcoe in lived j J LONELINESS AND LOVE SAME-SEX [email protected] o Kthnr w years two Kitchener rom o see howseeisolated o Barrie's ANIS RAMSAY ANIS go and was almost shocked ay community was. 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