Nathaniel Parker The Inspector’s mystery solved Thandie Newton Embracing otherness The Enneagram explained by Tim Laurence Oliver James Love Bombing 2013 elcome to the second edition of the Hoffman magazine, Wnow celebrating over 45 years of the Hoffman Process around the world. Contents This issue contains a sumptuous smorgasbord of articles to help satisfy the The Story of Hoffman 2 appetite of your mind, body, and spirit. How I Learnt to be Me 4 I am grateful to all our contributors for their willingness to share their Nathaniel Parker 7 stories and experiences with us. I am also delighted that actor Nathaniel Help... I Sound Like 10 Parker agreed to be our front cover star and to share his story with you all. my Mother Our offerings this year include an introduction to the Enneagram with Tim Here to Learn About 13 Laurence, articles on yoga, parenting, mindfulness, addictions, and nutrition, Love as well as the chance to win a glorious hamper courtesy of Rude Health. Dunford House Thandie Newton 15 Embracing Otherness Historical, idyllic retreat at the foot of the South Downs This year also sees the launch of an intriguing menu of workshops for you to explore. Our parenting workshops, teenage workshops, one-day What’s Your Number? 18 relationship workshops for couples and individuals, and our Hoffman The Enneagram Explained introductory day, all offer you fresh ways to learn to be more present and The Power of Love 21 loving to those around you. Dunford House is a beautiful and discreet venue set in 60 acres of private Gymnastics for the Soul 24 woodland in West Sussex at the foot of the stunning South Downs, only one Whether this is your first contact with Hoffman, or you are coming back Living a Souful Life 28 for second helpings, I hope you find something here to stimulate your hour from London. It’s all about M.E. 34 taste buds. Living like Jekyll & Hyde 36 The house offers versatile, inspiring and comfortable facilities for up to 60 Bon appétit. Vicious Cycles 38 delegates with capacity for 40 residential guests in the peaceful atmosphere of a country house. Dates & Events 42 If you would like to advertise or contribute in our next issue we’d love to hear from you. Because of its size Dunford House is an ideal venue to hire for exclusive Please use the contact details below. Editor: Serena Gordon use for that special meeting, sensitive issue based course or group gathering [email protected] Sub Editor & Designer: Jo Sennett where you need space and do not want to be disturbed or interrupted by Serena Gordon [email protected] Hoffman UK co-Founder Features Writer: Nikki Wyatt outside distractions. 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With 46 years experience, the Hoffman Institute has helped more than 90,000 people worldwide improve their lives and their relationships with others. Published scientific research supports the positive effects that the Hoffman Process has had on coping with stress Serena Gordon & Tim Laurence and providing help with anxiety and depression. Hoffman UK Directors Bob Hoffman was born in New York birth to puberty. Then he looked at the to help people understand how to Hoffman UK AGM 2011 - Tilton House in September 1922. He had no formal negative emotional traits of each of change their self–destructive habits. training in psychology, psychiatry the birth parents and started to work Bob realised that offering a retreat world. They hold regular Processes in Bob Hoffman passed away in 1997, or psychotherapy. If Freud and his through a powerful understanding of When John Bradshaw published his setting would allow participants to England and Ireland and have also held warmly loved and admired by all those followers had brought to light the effect the emotional history of the client’s first book, The Family, as a self-help deepen their insights and personal them in South Africa, Bahrain and Abu who had come into contact with him. of childhood on our conditioning, Bob parents. This he termed ‘Negative guide for those who had grown up changes. So, in 1985, the first 8-day Dhabi. Tim’s first book on the Hoffman supplied a vital missing piece, the Love’. He could see that parents had in dysfunctional families, he highly residential Hoffman Process was held Process, entitled You Can Change It was his vision to heal families, bring one that could be said to make all the unwillingly adopted ‘negative traits’ recommended the Hoffman Process to in Sonoma, California. Your Life (Hodder and Stoughton), love back into our lives and heal the others fit together: Love. themselves, and were driven by their deal with the ‘original pain of childhood enabled people to read more about the world one person at a time. ‘My dream’ own emotional history. They could and get back in touch with the soul’. The years that followed saw the techniques and exercises used on the he said, ‘is that this work will eventually Love is the glue that keeps the family therefore not be blamed. These deep As this became an international work of the Hoffman Process spread Process. The growth in popularity since be recognised by all scientific unit healthy. If Love is missing, we understandings led to the experience of bestseller and Bradshaw a popular throughout the world with new Hoffman then confirmed that people were now communities, that it will be recognised need it so badly that looking for it forgiveness and compassion for one’s speaker, Bob’s work also became more centres starting in Brazil, Germany, ready to do deep, intensive emotional by the educational pontiffs of the becomes a main motivator parents. As Bob repeated widely recognised. Switzerland, Australia, Argentina, work in a safe environment. world and that it will be placed into of our behaviour patterns. throughout the rest of his Canada, France, Italy, Spain and compulsory educational programmes’. Forgiving our parents, “No one life: “Everyone is guilty and Over a period of twenty years, and with here in the UK. This in turn led to the Over the past few years Hoffman UK whether dead or alive, and is to no one is to blame”. the help of a variety of therapists and Hoffman Institute International (HII), has worked on maintaining a strong Tens of thousands have now benefited learning to love ourselves, doctors, Bob slowly built the Process which was created to regulate and reputation through word of mouth from Bob’s vision. As many have said is the healthiest way to start blame” Bob would lead his early structure as we know it today. monitor the standards, safety and as well as ensuring that the right after the experience, ‘It’s the best gift living. With that as a basis, Bob Hoffman clients through a series of delivery of the Hoffman Process people are doing the course at the you can give yourself’. It’s also a gift it becomes possible to (usually) eight to ten, two- Bob Hoffman around the world. right time. They work in conjunction that gets shared with family, friends and genuinely love others. hour sessions. These involved a variety with therapists, doctors, treatment work colleagues as its effect spreads of techniques and cathartic exercises In 1990, Tim Laurence trained as a centres, corporations, and educational over the months and years. Bob grasped that, while we are designed to help them reach a place Hoffman teacher with Bob in the US. establishments in order to provide growing up, we imitate our parents in of unconditional love for their parents. The following five years Tim taught in people with a way of resolving issues If you would like more information or order to win their (emotional) love and They learnt tools to break the habit of both the US and Canada and in 1995, and restoring relationships, leading to a articles on the Process visit attention. By copying their moods, negative behaviours and were taught with Bob’s support, he and Serena better quality of life. www.hoffmanprocess.co.uk or call their attitudes, their beliefs and even rudimentary self–awareness exercises. returned to the UK to introduce the 01903 88 99 90. their spoken expressions to gain their Hoffman Process to the British. Hoffman International Conference - Barcelona 2012 approval, our characters become Bob coined the term ‘Quadrinity’ to formed.