The Wisdom Box Version 3, Issue 1

August 15, 2000 The Wisdom Box The Official Newsletter of the Satir Institute of the Pacific

Board of Directors Upcoming Special Event— Saturday, November 18, 2000 2000—2001 Peace Within, Peace Between, Peace Among

President: dedicated her life focused workshops for personal your colleagues and clients to Michael Callaghan to helping individuals, families and professional growth. attend this event. and communities to experience Personal workshops may focus Early Registration—by Sept. 15 Secretary: inner and outer peace in order on areas such as: $60—SIP/Student; $70 non-SIP Pauline Mullaney to become more fully human. v Parenting children and Registration after Sept 15 Before her death in 1988, she Treasurer: adolescents $65—SIP/Student; $75 non-SIP worked towards promoting Alan Baiss v Couples and relationships Lunch is included! world peace. v Self esteem— wellness Director of Training: For registration please call: This year the United Nations Professional workshops may Wendy Lum— Registrar of Pro- John Banmen has dedicated 2000 as the In- focus on specific applications of grams— 604.540.4415 ternational Year for the Culture Director of the Satir Model such as: of Peace. Membership Services: v Addictions “Human beings must evolve a new Anne Morrison The Satir Institute of the Pa- v Grief and loss consciousness that places a high cific’s 3rd Annual Special Train- v Directors: ing Event has been named value on being human, that leads The afternoon session will be Martin Bartel, Peace Within, Peace Between, toward cooperation, that enables Wendy Lum, conducted by Dr. John Banmen. Peace Among. positive conflict resolution and that Kathlyne Maki-Banmen, This will be a one day workshop This will be a great opportunity recognizes our spiritual founda- Don Potkins, on Saturday, November 18/00 to hear from our peers. Mem- tions.” 9:00 a.m.— 5:00 p.m. at the Dara Rosenzveig, bers of the Satir Institute of the UBC Law Building. Encourage Sue Taylor. Pacific will be conducting Satir — Virginia Satir

Inside this issue: Message from the President

XII World Confer- 2 Paradoxically, in the warmest this gives us a rich opportunity thank those who ran for the ence part of our summer, I am think- to reflect on our experience of Board of Directors. Martin ing about the Iceberg, a winter our own internal world during Bartel, Pauline Mullaney, and The Evolution of : 2 metaphor. An Iceberg changes these times. myself were elected to fill the Who’s Who Anyway? as it melts in the heat. The long three vacant positions. A big What is happening with our feel- summer days often provide welcome to Pauline. She has News Around the Institute 3 ings, our perceptions, our ex- some kind of change. Our ex- taken on the job of Secretary pectations, our yearnings and perience of the physical world, from Kathlyne, who has done a our sense of Self? Are we look- Impressions of the Family Recon- 3 the longer summer days, the great job in that position and as ing forward to the fall and re- struction Workshop brightness and warmth of the a member of the Executive turning to our previous status sun, the flowers and fruits of Triad. Comments from Participants OF 4 quo or has our experience over the earth is different. the Training For Trainers Program the summer brought about Anne Morrison has taken on For many of us, our regular lives some permanent changes for the job of Director of Member- Euro 2000 5 slow down and change to ac- us? ship Services with a wider role commodate new places, experi- and set of expectations. Sue The AGM in May brought some ences and activities, visits with Ongoing & Upcoming Programs 6 changes and I would like to (Continued on page 3) friends and family members. All The Wisdom Box Page 2

XII World Family Therapy Conference— Oslo, Norway By— Kathlyne Maki-Banmen What do you get when 1500 sion with a 10 year old boy; Ja- Bartel who did a session on their cultural history. John at- people from 64 countries de- akku Seikkula, a psychiatrist “Satir & Spirituality” and my tended their workshop and was scend on the city of Oslo, Nor- from Finland who spoke about workshop on Working with Chil- very impressed with their pres- way, for five days in June to his work with psychotic patients dren and Families using the entations. learn about family therapy to- in terms of helping them proc- Satir Model. gether? Stimulation, growth, ess (in a very Satir-like way) the Once again, we were very aware excitement and fun! terror which cannot be spoken We each had an audience of that many of the people we (he has reduced hospitalization about 200 people in the second have in our Satir Institute would This year the International Fam- so dramatically that he is in largest meeting room at the have presented workshops at a ily Therapy held danger of having mental health conference and had very good much higher level than many of their annual conference in Oslo, services funding cut); E. Vrono feedback. the presenters we saw. I would and it seemed to be a great strongly urge any of you to sub- from Russia who presented re- There was also a triad from the success. For five days we heard search on the factors of moth- mit a proposal to present a from researchers and therapists Czech group John and I have Satir workshop at the next IFTA ers of suicidal children; and been working with for the past from around the world. Scott Miller from the U.S. who conference, scheduled to take three years, Olga Holobova, place in November 2001 in Bra- Highlights for me included: wowed John with his analysis of Milada Radosova and Larka (a 40 years of outcome research zil. We plan to and we hope you David Epston from New Zea- grad student) on their use of will join us there. land who demonstrated a crea- to find what works in therapy. Satir’s family reconstruction tive and effective therapy ses- Satir was represented by Martin process to heal the wounds of

The Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference: Who’s Who Anyway? By— John Banmen When nine members of the Jay Haley, Strategic Family and many, many more. It made books, provided us elegantly Satir Institute of the Pacific Therapy; the choices of who to see and with many research findings leave the country to attend the Thomas Szasz, Myth of Mental hear more than a dilemma. that have had great impacts on same event, something impor- Illness; our couples and family therapy tant must be happening. E & M Polster, ; It was great to meet, once practice. Zerka Moreno, ; again, so many founding lead- Every five years since 1985, the Irvin Yalom, ; ers, even though some of them And, like in politics, some big Milton Erickson Foundation has James Bugantal, Humanistic like , R.D. Laing, names are only big names, of- sponsored the Evolution of Psy- Therapy. Virginia Satir, , fering very little. To check with chotherapy Conference. It Lewis Wolberg, Murray Bowen them about their experiences brings together the founders and have passed and learnings, call on Alan and leaders of psychotherapy beyond and were missing from Baiss, Beth Lisson, John and family therapy to share with this 2000 conference. Riopka, Don Potkins, Wendy 5,000-7,000 professionals from Lum, Anne Morrison, Deborah around the world the old and In addition to the historical Fish, and/or Kathlyne Maki- the new in therapeutic evolu- value, many presenters added Banmen. tion. to my therapeutic understand- ing. I found Francine Shaprio, At the conference, we met and Jeff Zeig, Bert Hellinger and heard people like Alexander the most valu- Lowen, founder of bioenerget- Add to this the familiar list the able to my therapeutic learning. ics, , foun- likes of: James Hillman, author of The der of Strategic Family Therapy, John Gottman, Research on Soul’s Code, shared with us as well as: couples and families; some provocative, challenging, Aaron Beck, ; Claudia Black, Addictions illuminating throughts about the , Rational Emotive Treatment; external and internal worlds in Therapy; Francine Shapiro, EMDR; which we live and practice ther- Eugene Gendlin, ; Bert Hellinger, Family Constel- apy. William Glasser, Reality Ther- lation; apy; Herbert Benson, Relaxation Researcher John Gottman, au- Mary Goulding, Transactional Response; thor of Why Marriages Succeed Anaylsis; Jeff Zeig, Ericksonian Therapy and Fail and numerous other The Wisdom Box Page 3

News Around the Institute Deborah Fish has submitted workshop at the Canadian As- Model can be adapted to early 250.389.1776. her Master’s thesis to her the- sociation for Suicide Prevention intervention for youth and sui- The Board appreciates all the sis committee at Manchester (CASP) 11th Conference. Their cide. They are also involved in efforts of Brian Taylor (Sue’s University. It is on “Health Care workshop is titled “What Kids the Satir Task Force on Suicide. son) for setting up our website. Practitioner burnout and the Are Teaching Us.” Anne Morrison will be hosting Thank you Brian! Don’t forget to psycho-spiritual Satir Model: A Jim has worked as a behav- an one day workshop led by visit… www.satirpacific.org phenomenological study of ioral investigator for the BC Sass Anderson on August 26th, managing personal energy.” Coroner’s Services and to- 10:30—4:30 p.m. For more in- Jim Smith, Judy Ferris and gether with Judy and Wendy, formation and registration Wendy Lum will be presenting a they will share how the Satir please contact Sass at

New Members For information and Don’t forget to visit our A warm welcome to the follow- ing new member of the Satir membership applications new website!!! Institute of the Pacific: contact: www.satirpacific.org Upgraded to Clinical— Sue Taylor

Tim Head Coordinator of Submit ideas and content Membership Applications to Sue Taylor 604.988.5353

Impressions of the Family Reconstruction Workshop By— Wendy Lum The family reconstruction work- origin with her parents, as well I heard positive feedback from shop was another full day of as her present day family with various attendees of how pow- learning about the impact of the her children. erful the reconstruction was, family. and the acknowledgement of It was filled with significant mo- Kathlyne’s expertise and sensi- We were privileged to watch the ments of learning and healing tivity both in leading the recon- Star work through both her par- for both the Star, family stand- struction and processing the ents’ family of origin with her in participants and workshop impact of participants. grandparents, her own family of observers. It was filled with significant moments of learning and healing for both the Star, fam- ily stand-ins and workshop observers.

Message from the President continued (Continued from page 1) deserves thanks for being our am sure all of them have ing the Satir Model and increas- Taylor will continue to support first Treasurer and a member of changed in some way as a re- ing the visibility of the Institute. her in processing applications, the Executive Triad. sult. It is my hope that it has I look forward to seeing and a job she has been doing since also enriched and brought hearing some of them at our The summer has provided an the beginning of the Institute. about change for our Institute. Special Event on November opportunity for twelve members Thank you Sue for your hard The Institute now has more 18th at the UBC Law Building. of the Institute to participate in work. Faye Ann Karasick de- members who have increased the Training for Trainers Pro- Michael T. Callaghan cided not to run for the Board skills and the ability to become gram with John and Kathlyne. I President for a second term. She also leaders in teaching and spread- The Wisdom Box Page 4

Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference By– Wendy Lum I was thrilled to attend the Evo- leagues: sharing a room and the Satir Model. In fact, al- to demonstrate therapy ses- lution of Psychotherapy Confer- going to Disneyland with Anne though I like Eugene Gendlin’s sions and be able to discuss ence in Anaheim. It was won- Morrison; having breakfasts focusing, Francine Shapiro’s exactly why he chose certain derful to listen to so many of with Beth Lisson, John Riopka, EMDR, Salvador Minuchin’s choice points in a positive direc- the pioneers in the therapy Don Potkins and Alan Baiss; family work… I was left with a tional and intentional manner is field. I was especially surprised sharing lots of laughs with Deb- profound sense that Satir’s sys- truly the gift of a master. I real- when I realized that sixteen orah Fish; connecting with John temic brief therapy training with ized how fortunate we are to people that I had referenced in and Kathlyne. John and Kathlyne is an incredi- have John and Kathlyne here in my master’s thesis were also bly important therapy that must Vancouver, because their level One thing that I was struck by presenting at the conference. be shared within the therapy of intentionality and awareness was the absence of the Satir profession. seemed to surpass what I ob- Another highlight was the com- teachings at the conference, served and heard during the panionship of my Satir col- and the power and impact of I also realized that John’s ability live demonstrations in Anaheim.

Comments from Participants of the Training For Trainers Program “The Training for Trainers Pro- mony and congruency within design this week and lovingly and self has stimulated mean- gram was a wonderful opportu- our ‘community’ of learners/ nudge us into new experiences ingful personal and professional nity to connect with our Satir trainers.” and growth—not only as train- learning, inspiration and hope.” community and some of those — Marga Hanna ers, but as people. — Beth Lisson who wish to truly contribute to a Satir future vision. I became “An excellent experience. I Each person touched me deeply “I experienced a revitalization of aware of the importance to came away with more than I and their gifts will stay with me passion, energy and love for work on my own internal world hoped, personally and profes- always—in my training ability— Satir work and the people in- with areas of discomfort. sionally. The Institute is to be but also throughout my life.” volved. Thank you / apprecia- applauded.” — Anne Morrison tions to all the beautiful souls I I realized that the challenge of — Don Potkins shared time with in the training. becoming a congruent leader “This Training for Trainers Pro- Look out world!” takes determination and hon- “It was a very rich and challeng- gram has given me the neces- — John Riopka esty. I loved being embraced ing learning environment. I am sary skills to design, plan and and included among such lov- very impressed by the quality of lead workshops successfully. “Great, numerous and very use- ing friends. I also look forward the participants. I have great Also, the confidence to do so ful learnings and reminders to to the future endeavours of our hopes for the future.” and the support to engage my take back with me. Wonderful first training group!” — Steve Smith courage to take the steps nurturing experience with col- — Wendy Lum needed towards achieving my leagues. Thank you.” “I laughed, I cried, I made small goals to be a Satir trainer. — Gilles Beaudry, Invited guest “I feel ready and empowered to talk… I experienced this training from Winnipeg take Satir to the world.” as a deep, meaningful time of My many thanks and deep ap- — Carl Sayles building a base– a base of preciation to John, Kathlyne “Being the only Asian in the knowledge, support, and energy and the Board. Thank you.” group, I really appreciate the “Wow! What a deal. I got a week for springing forward into the — Mindy Kollman acceptance from the group and of personal therapy and some 21st century, spreading the gift, am enriched by the collective more skills for my workplace. which is the Satir Model.” “The whole week was a great wisdom from them.” Some things in life ARE as good — Sandy Ang learning experience, both pro- — Warren Tan, Invited guest as they sound.” fessionally and personally. I was from Singapore — Billy Weselowski “This was a memorable week in encouraged and supported and which I experienced community built up wonderfully. “A spirit of life, curiosity, in- and love with talented, creative volvement, risking, exuberance folks— exhilarating to connect I would like to thank John and and a sense of achievement around our passion to take Kathlyne for their generosity pervaded the ‘Training For Satir to the world and become and the many gifts they gave to Trainers’ week. It was gener- more expert translators of this the group.” ated by the generosity, encour- approach. — Karin Tschanz agement, support and spirit of appreciation of the leaders and I thank John and Kathlyne for “Tapping, externalizing and became the catalyst for har- their grace and selfless love to valuing my knowledge, skills The Wisdom Box Page 5

Euro 2000 By— Martin Bartel “Off to Slovakia” was truly a with this group of psychologists, by heart with gratitude. tion, sensing, and creating the highlight of my Europe itinerary. counsellors, teachers and psy- third energy of connectedness. The week went by quickly and Having accompanied John and chiatrists for the past two years, This opened up an opportunity soon it was time to move on to Kathlyne to the Czech Republic John quickly launed into review- of interactive teaching of the the second part of Euro 2000. in 1998 introduced me to a ing the model at a deeper level Satir Model regarding the rec- wonderful group of Satir thera- in order to once again empha- onciliation of self and reflec- pists working with exceptional size the foundational compo- tions for those who partici- commitment in developing their nents and build a supervision pated. Time went by quickly own personal and professional component into Czech/Slovak Oslo, Norway was my next desti- which resulted in continued skills throughout these two Satir Community. nation. It was the XII World Con- dialogue with may participants countries. It was with the fond gress of IFTA— International throughout the conference. My participation during the fol- memories of acquired friend- Family Therapy Association. The lowing days was filled with both It was also a time to meet famil- ships and my own personal de- theme for this years congress the contribution of learning for iar faces from the previous velopment as a Satir therapist was Reconciliation: New Voices others, and expanding my learn- years in Dusseldorf, Germany that I was filled with excitement for a New Era, and my contribu- ing in training and supervision. and in Akron, Ohio. Some cul- and enthusiasm in accompany- tion this year was presenting a Included in this process was tural experiences added to the ing John & Kathlyne once again. workshop on Satir’s spirituality: participating in a triad learning memories such as being down- The reconciliation of self. Vienna, Austria was the destina- group, debriefing with individu- town the night that Norway beat tion where I met John and als and small groups, and pro- My workshop was on the sec- Spain in the Euro 2000 soccer Kathlyne several hours later to viding supervision and feed- ond day of the congress, which championships, attending an be taken by car to the small back to triad members. definitely affected my concen- evening of organ music in the community of Stupave, just out- tration level those first two famous Oslo Cathedral, and an Socially we were treated to an side of Bratislava, Slovakia. Re- days. It was reassuring to meet evening boat cruise in the har- evening of opera and a tour of uniting with old acquaintances with other presenters and hear bour. Bratislava. A fabulous time was and meeting new faces was of similar experiences. Of the had by all on both Fourteen days of immeasurable truly a highlight that first day. estimated 1,600 participants, the evening and growth had gone by and my The torrential downpour on the there were about two hundred day trip of the city. heart was calling me home. drive was also quite the experi- in attendance for my workshop. Of all that was Thank you to all those both near ence. experienced in- After the introduction, we par- and far who were part of this The following days were filled cluding: food, ticipated with a meditation fo- valuable experience. with participation in both the sites, culture and cusing on connecting with the contributing to, and receiving entertainment; it was the es- energies of groundedness, the of, learning’s. Having worked sence of the people that filled energies of inspiration, imagina-

The Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference By— John Riopka The Fourth Evolution of Psycho- Kaplan, R.D. Laing, Carl Rogers, Wendy Huntington. Conference that Virginia Satir’s therapy Conference’s theme Carl Wittaker, Lewis Wolberg, work will not only be there in The conference faculty con- was Interaction/Inner Action: and Joseph Wolpe. spirit, but will be presented by sisted of well knows such as: The Psychotherapeutic Bridge. our own in-house master, John It was wonderful to see so many ; Albert Ellis; The conference was dedicated Banmen. of our collegues attending the Eugene Gendlin; John Gotman; to previous presenters who conference from the Satir Insti- Harriet Lerner; Peggy Papp; From what I saw at the confer- were recognized as always be- tute of the Pacific. Beth and Cloe Madanes; and Miriam Pol- ence the world of therapy is ing present in spirit. The foun- Alan from Victoria, and from the ster to name a few. It was like missing out on an amazing ap- dation saw their wisdom and mainland, Don P., John and being a kid in a candy store in proach which could be assisting knowledge as an addition to the Kathlyne, Wendy, Anne, and this workshop heaven. My fa- therapists and counsellors in well being of humankind. Deborah. Also present from the vourites consisted of Yalom, making transformational Recognition was given to the Manitoba Satir Institute was Szasz and Hillman, Minuchin, changes with their client following: Virginia Satir, Bruno Maria Gomori and Gilles Gendlin, Bugental and Zeig. groups. So let’s gear up for Bettelheim, Murray Bowen, Beaudry, and from the Satir 2005 and show the world what It is my wish for the upcoming Robert Goulding, Helen Singer Institute of the Northwest, we’ve got! Fifth Evolution of Psychotherapy The Wisdom Box Page 6

Training For Trainers Program By– John Banmen Over a year ago the Satir Insti- dent and competent and willing planned program for the rest of tute Board approved a training to provide a multitude of differ- the participants. for trainers program to develop ent Satir Model programs for Some energy was also directed a cadre of people willing and professionals and the public. towards what each participant able to offer Satir Model train- There was an opportunity to will be doing during the next ing programs in B.C. and work in dyads to develop a pro- year and beyond. You will see around the world. gram curriculum, develop a pro- and hear some of the people The main focus of the program was to The program was held during posal for a possible program, present at the Satir November build a community of leaders who would the week of July 9th-16th, 2000 work on a marketing brochure conference, Peace Within, feel confident and competent & willing in Victoria, B.C. Initially it was for the program and actually Peace Between, Peace Among. to provide a multitude of different Satir planned for 12 participant, but deliver a short portion of the Model programs for professionals and I appreciated the focus, produc- it ended up with 14, two of program to the other partici- the public. tivity, commitment and energy whom were guests invited from pants. of the group members. I am outside the Institute, one from To make the leadership more also looking forward to the ini- Winnipeg and one from Singa- collegial, most of the feedback tiative each member will take in pore. and evaluation of the presenta- developing, offering and leading The main focus of the program tions was done by the other various training programs. was to build a community of participants. Each dyad also I would say that the program leaders who would feel confi- produced a copy of their was a huge success!

Ongoing & Upcoming Programs Satir’s Systemic Brief Therapy Training Program—Phase I John Banmen & Kathlyne Maki-Banmen For program and Ten Day Program—Starting September 2000 Full registration information contact:

Satir’s Systemic Brief Therapy Training Program—Phase II John Banmen & Kathlyne Maki-Banmen Wendy Lum Ten Day Program—Starting December 2000 Registrar of Programs 16 Registered 604.540.4415

Satir’s Systemic Brief Therapy Training Program—Phase I John Banmen & Kathlyne Maki-Banmen Ten Day Program—Starting January 2001

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Other Programs Endorsed by the Board of Directors To submit articles, ideas, gossip or anything else to Family Reconstruction Workshop The Wisdom Box Karin Tschanz & Gloria Taylor contact: Two Day Workshop—November 3 & 4, 2000 Dara Rosenzveig For information and registration contact— Karin Tschanz at 987-8282 604.279.5599 Ext. #119 Next Deadline: Oct. 9th