FOSTER CARERS CARING FOR MUSLIM CHILDREN

A Mercy Mission Guide MERCY MISSION UK ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

Mercy Mission UK is a faith inspired community We would like to thank you for helping the We would like to acknowledge the development organisation. We have a vision community manage its responsibility in unprecedented support and investment to see a Great Britain, ‘where every Muslim raising its children, and hope to help and from the Better Communities Business can live faithfully to their belief building an support you in your efforts. Network for believing in the work of Mercy exemplary Muslim community that benefits Mission UK and supporting this effort from society’. We are driven by creating safe spaces the very start of its relaunch. for people of all faith traditions and none, to better understand one another and create We would also like to support from Islamic opportunities for challenging inequalities and Relief UK in helping shape the project and empowering the most vulnerable in society. its community engagement with a specific interest in unaccompanied minors. A key priority in this regard is children in care, and recognising the different needs of Muslim Last but not least, our deepest thanks to children, we are seeking to support those carers Kay Mirza and Sharma Jung who helped who would like more knowledge on how best make this guide become a reality, and our to meet the needs of these children. This guide utmost gratitude to Savita de Sousa and is a key component of our support offering, John Simmonds for their continued support and along with our new website and forum, and advice. we hope to be able to support you take a wonderful journey in fostering a Muslim child. Thankyou

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The UK offers some of the highest living standards cultural dimensions from those they have or make a new life here, is priceless. We are in the world. For the parents amongst us, this known in their homeland. These children grateful to every foster carer who undertakes INTRODUCTION 6 LOOKING AFTER MUSLIM CHILDREN 20 Disability wonderful country is full of potential for our are traumatised by their experiences, and to offer this gift. Pets children. We take for granted that they will enjoy desperately in need of support as they enter our & FOSTERARE 7 WHY HELP CHILDREN MAINTAIN 21 Family Composition THEIR RELIGION? full access to world class , sports facilities, foster care system. I hope this guide will help you make the best INTRODUCTION TO ISLAM AND 8-9 REFUGEES IN FOCUS 40 arts and culture. We assume that they will feel possible home for children from the Muslim What is Islam? HOW TO HELP A MUSLIM CHILD TO BE 22-23 safe, understood and accepted in our society. As foster carers, you can create a sanctuary community, as you have done for children Who are Muslims? PROCTIVE IN HIS/HER FAITH BUILDING FUTURE FOR NEW ARRIVALS 41 for these vulnerable children to help them from other traditions. Who is ? However, we all know that there are other find stability in difficult times. We know how What is the Qur’an (Koran)? SUMMARY OF BASIC REQUIREMENTS 24-39 MOVING FORWARD 42 parents and children who experience a starkly vital your contribution is and how much of a Food different reality. There are families which, for difference you make to young lives. WHAT DO MUSLIMS BELIEVE? 10-11 Eating Habits RESOURCES 43 I. Six Essential Muslim Beliefs Cigarettes, Alcohol and Substance Misuse a variety of reasons, have become broken. Thankyou II. Five Actions Muslims Must Practise: Dress Children have become separated from their We have worked with Muslim children to put Tariq Usmani Five Pillars Of Islam Gender Relations parents, have been displaced by war, famine together this guide. They themselves have BCBN Chair Personal Care and natural disaster, and have made their way identified the essential information that WHAT IS SHARI’AH LAW? 11 Prayer (Salah) to the UK, often by perilous routes. they would want their own foster carers to Facilitating Prayer have. They have told us that they want to ISLAM & MUSLIMS 12 Fasting (Sawm) Facilitating Fasting In recent times, the majority of these children feel understood, accepted and connected to a THE IMPORTANCE OF FAMILY IN ISLAM 13-19 Case Study Two have emerged from mainly Muslim communities familiar community. The gift of a placement Birth EID in the Middle East and Asia. They arrive here as which ensures a degree of cultural continuity, Male And Female Circumcision Facilitating Eid unaccompanied minors to find very different whether they return to their own homeland Marriage In Islam Case Study Three Rights & Responsibilities in the Muslim Family Gambling Domestic Violence Physical Divorce in Islam Illness Case Study One Mental Illness

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INTRODUCTION ISLAM & FOSTERCARE

This guide seeks to provide a better Muslim children in Britain are from the most This guide has been drawn up after much Islam is one of the largest religions in the world, that is now changing in the understanding of the needs and dispositions of diverse of backgrounds, ranging from those that consultation with children, professional affirmed by over 20% of the global population. It and as the community matures, and socio- Muslim children. The focus being to ensure an have ancestry in the Scottish Highlands to those staff, parents and foster carers across is founded on recognising there is only one god economic circumstances improve, participating optimal foster care placement through reducing from ethnic backgrounds spanning right across Muslim and Non-Muslim circles. We hope worthy of worship, and the Prophet Muhammad, is increasing. as much disruption as possible to the norms the the globe, from to the Philippines. In that you find it beneficial in finding the (Upon whom be peace) is his final messenger. It child may have from a psycho-social perspective. recent years’ conflict across the Middle East and best possible outcomes for the children comes as the final installment of the Abrahamic Unlike some religious traditions, the Islamic Many Muslim children have a cultural and faith parts of Africa have led to an increase in children you care for. traditions, as such has many shared and faith has a single source for its religious tradition which has a major impact on their from these countries. However, their diversity common values with traditional Christianity and doctrine, with the single and same edition of understanding of the world, and we are focused in ethnicity is offset in a unity in faith tradition. Judaism. In the UK context it is the largest of the , being in use globally. However, over on ensuring that carers understand this, so as Like all children, they deserve to be cared for in a all minority religions and is a major stakeholder time certain small but recognisable differences to be as sensitive to many of their perspectives culturally and religiously sensitive manner. This in the religious demography of the country’s have emerged in the community, which as a as possible. Through the guide we simplify guide seeks to support you in doing just that. largest cities and metropolitan centres. carer should be easy to accommodate due to explanations of Muslim rituals and practices their only very slight variances. Nevertheless, and explain their context, and allow you to Islam considers the family unit as being a the guide will help you navigate any such better understand the ‘why’ behind many very noble structure, at the heart of which issues too, so worry not. nuances that come with a successful placement are children. Islam praises individuals of a Muslim child. who seek to support those in distress, so the concept of fostering is beloved to this Together with this guide, we have created a faith, and his precedence as being an act of website (www.muslimfosternetwork.org.uk) faith. Unfortunately over the years various and forum, where you can learn more and cultural norms have negatively impacted the raise any specific questions about caring for participation of the Muslim community in the Muslim children. fostering space. However, this is something

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INTRODUCTION TO ISLAM AND MUSLIMS

WHAT IS ISLAM? WHO ARE MUSLIMS? WHO IS MUHAMMAD? WHAT IS THE QUR’AN (KORAN)? 1. The Qur’an (Divine Revelation from God)

Islam is a monotheistic religious tradition based on a firm Muslims are people who ascribe to the Islamic faith Muhammad is the final Prophet sent to mankind, The Qur’an is the speech of God 2. The Sunnah (Prophetic Guidance of Muhammad which belief, that there is only one god worthy of worship, and and as such affirm five pillars of the tradition. The to call people to the worship and obedience to God Almighty and is the primary source of includes his statements, actions and tacit approval.) Muhammad, (Upon whom be peace) is his final messenger. first being the statement of faith, the second being (Allah) alone. Muslims do not worship Muhammad Islamic teachings and law. The Qur’an It affirms the traditions of Christianity and Judaism and their to pray five times a day, the third to pay , a nor do they pray to him. Rather, they acknowledge was revealed to the Prophet Muhammad prophets, Jesus and Moses, upon whom be the peace of tax on net wealth, to fast in the month of Ramadan, him as the final Prophet of God and affirm to all the in the Arabic language through the God. It identifies itself as the third and final statement in this and for those that are able, to make at least a single Prophets sent before him, from Adam to Jesus. He like Angel Gabriel. As the final revelation of Abrahamic chain, and is currently followed by about 20% of pilgrimage to the Grand Mosque in , Saudi all prophets are revered for their service to the call to God, today it still exists in its original the people of the world. Linguistically, ‘Islam’ is the Arabic word Arabia. Linguistically though, a Muslim, simply refers monotheism and as such have a suffix to the mention and complete form and and can be for submission, peace, and obedience, to God (in Arabic, Allah). to the one who submits to God. of their name, such as ‘upon whom be peace’. bought in all good bookshops or online.

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WHAT DO MUSLIMS WHAT IS BELIEVE? I. SIX ESSENTIAL MUSLIM BELIEFS II. FIVE ACTIONS MUSLIS MUST PRACTISE: FIVE PILLARS OF ISLAM SHARIA LAW?

As mentioned earlier, to be Muslim means 1. Allah 4. Prophets 1. The Muslim Declaration 4. The obligatory This is a complete governance to believe there is only one god worthy of There is only one God and that he alone is These include Adam, Noah, Abraham, Jacob, of Faith (Shahadah) Charity (Zakat) structure, covering all aspects worship and that the Prophet Muhammad worthy of worship. He is perfect in every way Moses, David, Solomon, Jesus, Muhammad, as that concern human life; The declaration of belief that Allah is the only The giving of 2.5% of a Muslim’s net savings after is his last and final messenger. This is the and is distinct from His creation. well as others. Muslims also believe that other worship, social issues (including one worthy of worship and that the Prophet it has reached above a specified minimum level, to fundamental belief, which enters one into prophets were sent by God but many are not marriage, divorce and family Muhammad is his last and final Messenger. provide the means to ensure dignity and financial explicitly mentioned by name. the religious tradition. It is qualified and 2. Angels freedom for the vulnerable of the community. law), economics, commerce and further matured through a set of beliefs They are created from light and follow Allah’s 2. Prayer (Salah/ Namaaz) political governance (including and actions, as follows: 5. Predestination the criminal justice legislation). command perfectly, and spend their time in Muslim’s pray to Allah five times a day, facing 5. The Haj j Pilgrimage the worship of God All Mighty. These include Adam, Noah, Abraham, Jacob, towards Mecca. Muslims pray at dawn, This is the pilgrimage to Mecca in Saudi Islam is based on: Moses, David, Solomon, Jesus, Muhammad, as afternoon, mid-afternoon, sunset and nightfall. Arabia which is to be performed at least well as others. Muslims also believe that other I. Beliefs - six essential beliefs once in a lifetime if one has the financial 3. Books prophets were sent by God but many are not II. Actions - five pillars of Islam means and physical ability to perform it. The divinely revealed books contain the explicitly mentioned by name. 3. The Fast (Sawm/ Roza) commandments and injunctions from God Muslim’s abstain from food, drink and sexual All Mighty. These include the Torah (Old 6. Resurrection relations during the daylight hours of the Testament), the Zabur (Psalms), the Injil month of Ramadan (the ninth month of the (New testament) and finally the Qur’an All people, believers and non-believers, will be Islamic lunar calendar). (Final Testament), which was revealed to the resurrected on the day of Judgement to be Prophet Muhammad. judged upon their actions in this life.

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ISLAM & MUSLIMS THE IMPORTANCE OF THE FAMILY IN ISLAM

Islam is clear in the way it prescribes a In Britain, Muslims are from different ethnic It may be difficult to fully understand the religious The family unit is something that is venerated With the realities of the current pressures in the complete way of life for a Muslim. Its legislation and cultural backgrounds. Some have migrated needs of the Muslim child under your care, in Islam, and as such many families will draw fostering system, there are many children in care encompasses prayer, diet, financial transactions here and others are second or third generation however it is important to ensure that children many lessons and principles from their tradition. that have come from good and stable homes, have access to their faith and faith community and family life. However, as with any religion, Muslims, whilst others, have converted to These rulings govern the etiquettes of upbringing however due to immigration problems have as a source of strength in a difficult time. The the extent to which Muslims practice their Islam from other faiths. In recent times, the freedom to practice the basic tenets of faith in a and nurturing of children and even support on found themselves in care. Foster carers should religion often differs from person to person. This proliferation of war throughout the Middle supportive environment can have a very positive inculcating compassion in the family unit. Many bear in mind that young people who come from is due to a multitude of factors, such as level of East and parts of Africa has also increased this effect in young people and the self confidence Muslim children entering the system in the UK such homes, may be confused about their own faith and piety, culture, environment, personal diversity significantly. they require in a politically challenging time have not come from such homes, however will identity, simply due to forced separations, and commitment and varying knowledge regarding for the Muslim community. This is increasingly know about what they should have had from as such the faith that gave them strength ‘back understood from wider than an Islamic the practices of Islam. As such you may find that their community experience. As such, access to home’ maybe an essential tool for their new perspective, as Dr Eric Wood highlights, which is described in this guide may not always their faith tradition, will be a key part of the relief lives in the UK. be observed. Nevertheless, it is our belief that ‘Faith and spirituality provide a sense of purpose, you can provide in your home. children should be given access to their faith and allow people to connect to something greater their faith community to build and nurture within than themselves, and enable us to release themselves a sense of identity. control. These abstract gains then translate into concrete ones: an expansion of social networks and improved health. All of these points are essential to stress reduction.’

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BIRTH MARRIAGE IN ISLAM

In Islam babies are considered to be pure and This is done within moments of the baby Male And Female Circumcision Marriage is encouraged in Islam and is Muslim marriage customs vary from marriages are acceptable in Islam. A forced sinless. As soon as the baby is born the Adhan being born or before any food has entered Islam prescribes, by way of obligation, the intended to be a simple process although community to community. However, validity marriage, on the other hand is a marriage (the call to prayer) is read in the baby’s ear, his/her stomach. This practice is encouraged circumcision of boys. This is preferable to be cultural influences may affect its simplicity. is ensured by way of the contract being conducted without the consent of one or both allowing the first thing that he/she hears to be and a key part of the Islamic tradition on carried out within seven days. However, the Potential spouses can be introduced to conducted in the presence of witnesses, parties, where the contract is undertaken the name of Allah. This rite is usually performed the birth of a child. obligation is that it must be done prior to each other through family, friends or the with the explicit permission of the bride’s under pressure or duress. Such a marriage by the father but can be done by anyone. him having obtained puberty, but obviously community and in recent times, matrimonial male guardian. This is similar to the Christian is invalid in Islam and has no legal standing, the early months/ years are much easier for The final part of the birth ritual, is, naming forums including websites and social tradition of the father of the bride ‘giving and as such is annulled with ease. Theses the boy. The family of the new child are encouraged the child. The child’s name should be a networking. Regardless of the method of away’, the bride. The marriage contract cases are very rare, but knowledge of this will to purchase and slaughter one sheep for good name and it is preferable to name On the other hand female circumcision is introduction, Islam makes it very clear that (Nikah) involves the consent of bride and then be very relevant if dealing with a young a girl and two sheep for a boy. These are the child by the seventh day. The child something that is not agreed to be obligatory both the man and woman must give consent groom and a vow by the groom, to provide person who has experienced the trauma of sacrificed in gratitude to God and the meat should be named with a name of meaning in Islam, however is permitted and often for the marriage to legitimately take place for his wife properly and evidencing this with such a ‘marriage’. is distributed in thirds: one third for their own and substance, people often name after a practiced in Arab and African cultures. and for it to become legally binding. Any dowry from the very start. immediate family, second third to family and pious person of good moral character in marriage undertaken without the consent Although some people may consider friends and the final third to the poor. the hope that the child will take after Female Genital Mutilation of either of the two partners is considered It is important to note the differences such a practice permissible in Islam, it is this person. This is something prohibited in the Islamic faith invalid in Shariah law. between arranged marriages and forced important to emphasise to your foster child Another common practice in Muslim and traces specific guidance to its condemnation marriages. An arranged marriage is one that their faith condemns such an activity. communities is the practice of ‘tahneek’. to the Prophet Muhammad himself. where potential suitable spouses are Understanding and appreciating this will introduced through various channels. The create confidence in the young person and This is where a softened date or anything parents and son/daughter are involved in will allow them to realise they have been sweet is rubbed upon the baby’s palate. approving the match and both partners victims of a crime, rather than have done enter the marriage with full consent. Such anything wrong themselves.

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RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES IN THE MUSLIM FAMILY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE DIVORCE IN ISLAM

“O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female, and have It is important to note that it is not necessarily Domestic violence is a short hand term used England and Wales by a current or former Divorce is permissible in Islam, although not the wife’s duty to maintain the house and prepare made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. to describe various abusive behaviors such partner’ (Office of National Statistics, 2015) actively encouraged. Divorce proceedings the food; a concept which is often misunderstood as physical, psychological and emotional, would never be something we would connect involve a period of reconciliation, during this by both Muslims and non-Muslims. Whilst it is Indeed the most honored of you in the sight of Allah is the most sexual and financial abuse and neglect. to the religion of Christianity, recognised as time the couple are encouraged to reconcile. righteous. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted” [Qur’an 49:13] recommended and commendable for her to do so, it is not obligatory upon her. Islam condemns domestic violence. The the national faith of the country. Christianity Often couples seek help from family, an Imam Prophet Muhammad made clear, ‘Among is free from such crimes, as Islam is free from (religious leader from the mosque) or a marriage In Islam, men and women are spiritually equal for them as much as he is able to. The Prophet Children will sometimes feel responsible for Muslims his Faith is more perfect whose the incidences we may see reported within the counsellor. If, at the end of this period the in the sight of God and distinguished only by Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, ‘The issues stemming from dysfunctional family life, behavior towards (everyone) is good, and Muslim quarter of the community. couple were unable to reconcile, then they can their level of piety. However, this does not most perfect believer in faith is the one whose or breakdown of their family. It is important to (particularly), towards his wife is of love and be divorced and are free to marry. Islamic Law mean that men and women are charged with character is the finest and the one who is emphasise to your Muslim foster child that their kindness.’. Therefore no one should add a faith provides guidance on child custody rulings the same responsibilities. Islam defines the kindest to his wife’. faith places this responsibility on the parents and dimension to the domestic violence that may following divorce. not the children themselves. rights and responsibilities of all family members occur in this part of the community, as it is to protect and maintain the family unit and Both husband and wife are responsible for free from it. It is worthwhile considering this in Islam also gives children rights and society at large, which is why equity is of greater protecting each other’s honour and chastity responsibilities. They have the right to be cared the light of the wider community, and the fact significance than equality. and should show respect, love and mercy to one for and educated. Any unmarried females in we would never add a faith dimension to the another. From an Islamic perspective though, a family unit have the right to be financially general statistics of the country. For example, Within the Muslim family, the husband is there is nothing to stop women working and supported by the male members of their family the fact ‘2 women are killed every week in considered to be the head of the household earning financial independence, the only concern until they are married, after which the husband and the ultimate decision-maker. However, it is that she should not feel that she must. takes on this responsibility. Again, the point to is encouraged for him to seek advice from his note this does not have a bearing on their own desire to be economically active. Children also wife and the family unit to ensure their interests have responsibilities towards their parents. They are acknowledged in building a harmonious are required to respect and obey their parents’ family. He is solely financially responsible for wishes, providing what their parents ask of them his wife and children and is required to provide does not contradict the teachings of their faith.

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Maryam aged 14 years old, came Maryam was placed with a White British non- Ted and Francine wanted to try and better understand quickly settled in her new home and was comfortable how is domestic violence viewed in Islam, however enough to reach out to her community. She felt eager into the care of the Local Authority Muslim couple, Ted and Francine, in an area with a diverse Muslim community. Maryam they had a number of failed visits to local mosques to embrace her faith and her community again as where they could not find an imam that spoke her temperament settled and she felt comfortable in because both her father and mother struggled to settle in with her foster family were unable to care for her. Maryam’s English. Finally, from searching on the web, they herself again. and held a considerable degree of rage and found the details of a good local Imam. They decided father had been abusing her mother resentment towards her faith community for to discuss Islam’s position on domestic violence Ted and Francine were then for nearly a decade, until an episode not getting involved or supporting her mother with the Imam, who was also well respected in their able to support Maryam to of such extreme violence led to her earlier. She resented her faith and herself for community. They were struggling to understand allowing this to continue, as her father always how any faith would condone violence in one of the stabilise her circumstances and most sacred relationships, that of man and wife. The mother finally having the courage falsely maintained he was allowed to beat her in this time with them, she to report this incident to the Imam explained to them the Prophetic tradition, ‘The mother in Islam. This hatred and rage made best amongst you is the one who is best towards his built a life-long relationship. police. Her father was convicted life very difficult for her foster parents, who family.’ This helped the foster carers realise that Islam CASE STUDY 1 and was given a custodial sentence. saw her struggling with her emotions and condemns all forms of abuse and that it encourages struggling to cope with the anger inside her. Muslims to be good and kind in their conduct towards Unfortunately for Maryam her their family. mother was so traumatised and badly This anger led to Maryam doing things that Ted and Francine decided to discuss what they affected that she was detained under were out of character in a rebellion to her faith MARYAM learned from the Imam with Maryam. By doing so the Mental Health Act. tradition such as binge drinking, and this was Maryam was able to reconcile her misunderstanding AGED 14 YEARS followed be bouts of serious depression due to about Islam’s position on domestic violence and free guilt Maryam felt for her actions. As such her herself from the burning rage she was experiencing. emotions were all over the place. The change in Maryam was remarkable and she

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A point to note is, if no advice was given from LOOKING AFTER MUSLIM CHILDREN either the parent or the child and the carer does WHY HELP CHILDREN MAINTAIN THEIR RELIGION not appear to have a clear view of his/her faith, then it is important for foster carers to encourage the child to learn about their religious and cultural heritage. Stakeholders from across the It is important for a child’s physical, intellectual These issues have become even more important The faith of the individual can be an important With Muslim children, the need for this is more where their parents are first generation migrants development spectrum can identify the value of and emotional wellbeing that consideration in the modern time, where Muslim young strength in personal identity in the development aspect of their life and Muslim families and significant due to the context of the contemporary from a very different country/culture. This is a major is given to their religious and cultural identity. people are confronted with enormous negativity process and no doubt religious identity, especially children are no different in this regard. Out of image of Islam and Muslims. Many Muslim youth problem for young British Muslims who are trying to For the Muslim child, this does not only mean, surrounding their religious identity. From the rise in minority groups is very influential. King and respect for the faith and values of the child, it are currently undergoing an identity crisis. They establish their own identity which incorporates their supporting their wishes to fulfill obligations of the right wing, change in political landscape Boyatzis in ‘Exploring adolescent spiritual and is important that the individual’s background is feel they are unable to integrate into mainstream British identity without compromising their faith. such as eating halal food, praying and fasting in in the USA and mainland Europe, rapidly growing religious development: current and future treated with sensitivity. This guide aims to enable British society as they are often suspected of being Ramadan but also facilitating the Muslim child to Anti-Muslim hate crime, and heightened theoretical and empirical perspectives’ highlight, foster carers to support Muslim children in their terrorists or supporters of terrorism. This, combined ‘that adolescence may be a particularly important remain connected, or to renew their connection negative reporting in the media, young Muslims care in fulfilling their faith needs and a religious with the fact that many Muslim youth have not time period in which to study spiritual and with the Muslim community and their faith. are increasingly struggling with their identity. religious development’. (Applied Developmental cultural identity from which they draw strength. been able to fully relate to their parents, especially This is something carers must consider, and Science, vol. 8, no. 1, pp. 2–6, 2004.) It is important to understand that while the recognise, in trying to support any Muslim child child may come from a Muslim family and settle and develop in their teenage years. identify themselves as Muslim, their knowledge and practice of Islam can vary greatly from Foster carers can play a major role in empowering For those looking after unaccompanied minors In the course entitled “Tomorrow’s Leaders” developed other Muslim children. For some children, the Muslim children to feel confident about their British or children from refugee families this is issue is in The Hong Kong Polytechnic University, the following implementation of all the Islamic requirements Muslim identity, so that they do not feel their Muslim compounded by the claims upon them around Islamic elements pertinent to the construct of spirituality are listed below could be quite foreign and for others heritage needs to be concealed, regardless of where terrorism. With the US administration being the topic of included: definition and basic concepts of spirituality, completely normal. Therefore, it is important to they are living. most news reporting and their aggressive positions in theories of spirituality, antecedents of spirituality, ascertain the wishes and feelings of the children this regard, this has become even more demoralising for spirituality and adolescent developmental outcomes, and their parents in relation to what Islam means This issue will impact more on teenagers, especially young Muslims who have fled to the UK fleeing war and spirituality and leadership, and ways to promote spiritual where young Muslim women wish to cover themselves terror. If this is something that can be understood and leadership. This is from a recognition that embracing to them and their everyday life. For some people, and observe the hijab, or young Muslim men who recognised in the engagement of the Muslim foster child, spirituality and its source from faith communities faith provides the perfect structure to help them wish to grow their beards and/or attend the this is sure to have an exponential impact in the success contributes directly with the successful development of cope, especially in times of emotional trauma. congregational prayers. of any placement. young people in their formative years.

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- Visiting the local Mosque/ large landmark mosques HOW TO SUPPORT - Empowering the child to engage the congregational gatherings A MUSLIM CHILD of the community; - Friday prayers (many schools facilitate this) TO BE PROACTIVE - Evening prayers in Ramadan (most imams will facilitate for you IN HIS/HER FAITH to leave and collect them) - Eid Prayers (easy to attend as a family due to them increasingly being offered in public places such as parks and various community spaces) There are many ways that a Muslim - Attending community festivals such as ‘Eid Festivals’ child can be made to feel part of his / her faith community. Some - Enrolling the child in an after-school Islamic Education Program suggestions are listed on the right: - Enrolling the child in Muslim run family day care - Attending community events such as Mosque BBQs/ Open days, etc. - Taking the child to Muslim play groups - Enrolling the child in a Muslim scout group

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SUMMARY OF BASIC REQUUIREMENTS

FOOD For example, if an egg was cooked EATING HABITS CIGARETTES, ALOCOHOL AND SUBSTANCE MISUSE in sunflower oil or vegetable oil Muslims have a ‘halal’ diet. The concept of *The following meats are forbidden to be consumed in which a non-halal meat was Muslims have a different preference in the way that they Cigarettes and alcohol are forbidden in Islam, together If you believe your Muslim foster child is involved in halal refers to that which is considered ‘lawful’ by Muslims: cooked previously the oil, it would eat. You may notice that your foster child prefers eating with all substances which are harmful and have a direct substance misuse, you might find it helpful to engage and is permissible for Muslims to consume. - Pig meat and all its products (ham, bacon, while seated on the floor and he/she may be particular detrimental impact on one’s health. The preservation with them to understand why. You may also wish to pork, gelatin, gammon) be considered unlawful and not about washing his/her hands before and immediately of the intellect is one of the primary objectives of inform your foster child’s social worker so they are Although it is often associated with meat and - Wild animals that use their claws or teeth permissible for a Muslim. after eating. You may also find that they prefer eating the Sharia law and mind-altering substances are able to access the services required to support you poultry alone, halal refers to all things that are to kill prey with their fingers, as opposed to using cutlery. Muslims subsequently forbidden. and your foster child with their substance misuse. permissible for Muslims and the opposite being - All birds of prey usually observe the left and right hand rule of hygiene, in This is important not from a perspective of trying to haram, that which is unlawful. - Rodents Similarly, if the food was prepared which the right hand is used for eating and the left hand The Islamic ruling states, ‘that which intoxicates in push religion to them, but rather often usage of such - Reptiles on the surface that a forbidden used for personal private hygiene and therefore, not a large amount, is [also] forbidden even in a small substances will be a coping strategy from a particular Muslims are allowed to eat all meat slaughtered per - Worms used for eating. This often differs from the British norm amount.’ For this reason, most observant Muslims avoid pain/ difficulty they are struggling to manage. Islamic law (with certain exceptions*), all types of - Dead animals (e.g. Roadkill) food was prepared, the surface of eating with the left hand, and as such encouraging alcohol, even in small amounts that are sometimes seafood, fruits, vegetables and dairy products provided - Birds that are not slaughtered according would need to be cleaned. a child to eat with the left, would often be viewed as used in cooking. that they do not contain any unhalal content. to Islamic rites humiliating. However, this practice may vary from child to child as it depends on the degree of knowledge and/ If someone in the home does smoke or drink alcohol, There are no restrictions on who can cook halal food, Animals and their by-products that are slaughtered or willingness to practise, especially if left handed. your Muslim foster child might remove themselves provided that the food does not come into contact according Islamic rites are considered halal (e.g. cattle). from the area, or they might show through their with foods that are not halal, nor is it prepared with the Halal meat is available in most towns and cities and can behaviour that they are uncomfortable. This reaction same utensils that are used when preparing forbidden also be bought online. should not be taken personally but rather understood ingredients, without being properly cleaned first. within the context of your foster child’s religious dislike Anything that is s suitable for vegetarians and vegans of these substances. Utensils and surfaces can be cleaned using normal is permissible except if it contains alcohol, even if the washing methods, such as running water over the alcohol is boiled out. Vinegar is permissible, even though utensils and cleaning the surface with any domestic it produces alcohol through the fermentation process, cleaning products. however, it does not intoxicate given the level of usage.

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DRESS GIRLS BOYS GENDER RELATIONS PERSONAL CARE

Islam prescribes dress requirements From the onset of puberty, a female is required to The Muslim male is obliged to cover the area between Islam provides guidelines for mixing between the An important part of the Muslim’s daily life is cleanliness. for both men and women, with the observe a ‘modest’ style in address when in the the navel and knees in front of everyone. They are also genders. Any interaction between the genders should Muslims, after using the lavatory, usually cleanse aim of consistently maintaining presence of those men that are not from her immediate required to dress modestly and avoid wearing tightly be done with the correct etiquette so that it does not themselves with clean running water; this is achieved by family (father, brothers, paternal and maternal uncles, fitted, transparent and revealing clothing or that which instigate a path to the impermissible gender relations, using a water container which in most cases has a spout morality without compromising the grandfathers). As such a young Muslim girl when she resembles the female dress. as pre-marital sex and adultery are both prohibited and is used like a bidet. It would be helpful to provide integrity of either gender. feels she is becoming a young woman will often adopt in Islam. your foster child with a water container. a ‘modest’ dress. This will typically mean covering her Some British Muslim youth prefer to wear clothing from head with a scarf and wearing long loose clothing. the East. This desire to dress in traditional Arab or Asian For this reason, it is also important to recognise that the Before a Muslim can undertake their prayer, they must dress should not be seen as ‘strange,’ but considered young person you are caring for may not be interested first ensure that they are in a state of purity by washing Women from a more conservative culture maybe drawn within the context of the young person’s desire to wear in having a girlfriend or boyfriend. This is perfectly themselves in a specific manner. This involves washing REFUGEE BOYS to also consider the face veil, which is a widely accepted traditional Muslim/cultural attire. normal, and should not be misunderstood as anti-social of the hands, rinsing of the mouth and nasal passage, sign of religious observance in the Muslim community. behaviour. At the same time, even in the home, your washing of the face, forearms (including hands), the AND GIRLS None of this should be considered becoming too Muslim children come from different ethnic and cultural child may prefer a distance from foster siblings of the wiping of the head and ears and washing of the feet. ‘religious’ or by any stretch, ‘extreme’, this is the norm backgrounds and have different styles of clothing which opposite gender or their behavior may change when More details on the specifics of purification and prayer For those children who are very new into from Islamic culture. often represents their culture. You may find that the those siblings enter upon them in the home. can be found across the internet and a good place to this country, wearing the clothes of their young person may prefer to wear a traditional dress, for start would be Iman Projects (www.imanprojects.com). country of origin maybe something they Islam encourages women to dress modestly and to e.g., a Pakistani girl may wear Shalwar Kameez which Recognising these cultural norms can help you ensure really enjoy or cherish as a way of staying avoid wearing tight fitting, transparent and revealing is a long tunic with trousers. Alternatively, she may the foster child feels as comfortable as possible in the Knowledge of this would be useful in helping a child attached to what they left behind. With clothing as well as that which resembles the clothing of prefer to wear an Islamic dress which is a long, loose presence of the opposite gender in the home. The key settle, as for example, just ensuring a small watering the vast majority of such children coming men. There are varying levels of adherence to this dress dress (similar to a maxi dress) that conceals the shape issue to note here is not that all children will engage can is in the bathroom will allow them to feel they can from predominantly Muslim countries, this code depending on the individual; this may be due to of her body. It is important to ascertain the wishes in such a way, as religious cultural observance differs approach you about issues. will mean long gowns for boys and long level of piety or culture. It is important that the foster and feelings of the child or young person in a culturally, enormously family to family, but that, those that dresses for girls will be the norm. If you can carer understands this and supports his/her foster child religiously appropriate and sensitive manner. do, should not be judged negatively or with fear for support the child to express his/ her desire in their choice and desire to learn more. A good way to exhibiting the identified behaviour. Such behaviours are in this regard it will help mature the bond support a young Muslim woman in this journey would not a reflection of religious extremism, but only a sign between you and them, as many crave an be to take her shopping for clothes that fit this style, of the individuals’ desire to draw confidence from their attachment to the homes and traditions Debenhams and H&M are among high street retailers own religious tradition. war and famine has forced them to leave. now serving the Muslim women’s modest fashion style.

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PRAYER (Salah in Arabic/ Namaaz in Many Asian languages)

Muslims observe five obligatory Muslims observe five obligatory prayers daily. These Prayer can be performed anywhere as long as the place/ FACILITATING PRAYER prayers daily. These prayers are prayers are obligatory for all Muslims, post-puberty who area is free of impurities and distractions (e.g. statues obligatory for all Muslims, post- possess a sound mind. However, girls are not required and pictures). Prayers can be offered individually, alone, to pray when they are menstruating. The act of prayer or in congregation. The only exception to this is the To assist your foster child with prayer it would puberty who possess a sound mind. comprises of standing, bowing, prostrating sitting and Friday prayer, Jumu‘ah, which must be performed in be helpful to provide: However, girls are not required to reciting the Qur’an and praising God whilst facing the congregation in a Mosque. (Jumu‘ah is not an additional pray when they are menstruating. direction of the Ka‘ba in Mecca, This direction is called prayer as it replaces ‘Zuhur’ on the Friday – it is a regular - A water container for ablution The act of prayer comprises of the Qiblah. prayer meeting of the Muslim community every Friday - A prayer mat; there is no religious significance of this, standing, bowing, prostrating sitting at noon. This is a time when Muslims gather together, however, it is used to ensure that the place of prayer and reciting the Qur’an and praising and is critical in developing a community spirit. Teenage is clean. THE FIVE DAILY PRAYERS boys are often able to take much guidance and support God whilst facing the direction of the - Provide a space which is clean and free from from the gathering, as typically sermons will call for civic photographs, statues and dogs. Ka‘ba in Mecca, This direction is 1. Fajr engagement, better manners, respect and dignity. Foster - Purchasing (from local Mosque) or downloading called the Qiblah. carers should try and facilitate attendance for Muslim (www.salahtimes.com) a prayer timetable 2. Zuhur boys especially once they have reached puberty, and - A compass to ensure the child is performing the many schools now accommodate this. Jumu‘ah is not prayers standing in the correct direction, facing the 3. Asr mandatory for girls, however, some may want to attend Ka’ba in Mecca, Saudi Araba (this is called the Qibla). and this should be encouraged. Please note that in the United Kingdom the direction 4. Maghrib is South East and as such can easily be found with a regular compass app on any smartphone. 5. Isha

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FASTING (Sawm in Arabic/ Roza in Many Asian languages)

Fasting in the month of Ramadan is Ramadan is the ninth month of the Islamic calendar, These people are required to make up for the missed FACILITATING FASTING compulsory for all healthy and sane which follows the lunar cycle. The lunar year is shorter fast(s) later in that year. The sick person should consult Muslims once they have attained puberty. than the solar year. This means that the month of a physician before fasting. Please note that injections Ramadan changes each year in relation to the Gregorian are not permitted for the fasting person and if taken the To assist your foster child with prayer it would - To allow/ facilitate the foster child to stay up during The fasting person must not only abstain calendar, moving “back” approximately eleven days fast is invalid and must be made up later without any be helpful to provide: the night so he/she is able to perform prayers. from eating and drinking and marital each year. Islamic calendars are widely available online additional penalty being imposed on him/her. - To allow/ facilitate the foster child to attend other Muslim homes to break his/her fast. This could also relations but also from any other vices such as: https://www.islamicfinder.org/islamic-calendar. - To ensure that the foster child wakes up for the pre- be an opportunity for you to experience and learn such as anger and argumentation and Children are also encouraged to fast although there is dawn breakfast meal (suhur/ sehri) – you may choose much about this special month. immoral behaviour in general. This is The next few years will broadly be as follows: no obligation upon them. This is because it allows them to remind them to set their alarm or you may opt to because one of the wisdoms of fasting 2017: May 27 – June 25th to participate with the rest of the Muslim community wake them up yourself and perhaps even partake in 2018: May 16 – June 14th and provides them with an opportunity to prepare is rectification of weakness of character. this meal with them. 2019: May 5 – June 3th themselves for fasting when it will be obliged upon - To ensure the foster child has a healthy breakfast Fasting allows people to empathise with them to do so. which ideally consists of wholemeal grains as those less fortunate than themselves. The fast commences from the first light (dawn) and ends at this type if meal will release energy throughout Thus, fasting teaches self-discipline and sunset. During this time, Muslims abstain from all food and During Ramadan your Muslim foster child may wish the day. more importantly is an act of worship drink, sexual relations, ingesting medication through the to pray more than usual or attend a mosque for night - To ensure that the foster child breaks the fast at dusk which young people often benefit fromas oral cavity and smoking. After sunset, the Muslim can eat prayers. This is a key part of Ramadan for most of the (the time for the evening prayer) and not to delay in an evidence of their maturity. and drink as per usual until dawn, the next day. The daily Muslim community. Ramadan witnesses an increased breaking their fast. routine of a fasting person involves waking up just before sense of God consciousness amongst the Muslims and - To ensure that the foster child has dates the first light and having a pre-fast, breakfast meal. often many of them engage themselves in extra acts (if they enjoy eating them) and water to break of worship in the home and the mosque, especially their fast. Fasting does not apply to women who are menstruating during the night. Any effort to accommodate this will be - To allow/ facilitate the foster child to attend the however, women who are either pregnant or enormously appreciated by the Muslim foster child. mosque for the Ramadan night prayer (Taraweeh). breastfeeding, or those who are sick or travelling are not required to fast unless they feel up to being able to.

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Geoff and Lamara welcomed Ramadan started, but Aisha’s initial The change in her was almost 15-year-old Aisha into their home optimism soon disappeared, and she instantaneous, and she became happier slipped further into depression. Geoff and after she had struggled to settle Lamara felt that Ramadan was quite a than when she first arrived. She became with two other families. Aisha had personal thing, so did not want to interfere. so much more engaged with her foster been taken into care nine weeks However, as the first week passed and the parents, attributing her improved previously, and was emotionally second week continued without any of her experience of Ramadan to them. quite unstable, unhappy and showing expectations being met, they decided to investigate the month of Ramadan and its symptoms of suffering depression. relationship with Muslims. They very quickly When she arrived at Geoff and realised Muslims fast from dawn until dusk Lamara’s home, she mentioned having that the fast is preceded with an early pre- CASE STUDY 2 a great degree of hope with the dawn breakfast which Aisha was not having. arrival of Ramadan. They could not They spoke with Aisha about Ramadan and understand exactly why, but were she began to cry and shared with them her happy that she was optimistic. feelings. She was genuinely upset at being AISHA unable to have the early pre-dawn breakfast, AGED 15 YEARS and thus felt her whole fasting experience was compromised. Geoff and Lamara then decided to wake up early themselves and to wake Aisha up every morning to take her early pre-dawn breakfast.

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EID The end of Ramadan is followed Special Eid prayers are offered on both of these FACILITATING EID by the first Eid, Eid-Al-Fitr, as a occasions. This prayer is a congregational prayer celebration for the completion of a traditionally read in an open ground (like a park). However, in the UK this is mostly offered in the To assist your foster child on Eid: month of fasting. The second Eid, Eid- Mosques, depending on weather conditions. Al-Adha, occurs approximately two - Ensure that he/she wakes up early. months later, following the Islamic For a Muslim foster child, being away from their - Ensure that he/she takes a bath before going out to Hajj Pilgrimage. Eid is a special time family in this time is likely to be very difficult and the Eid prayer. for the Muslim community, a day one in which they feel very vulnerable. It may - Ensure that he/she has either new clothes or wears of celebration which unites them in be beneficial for your Muslim foster child to try their favourite clothes on this special day. and engage the community at this time, perhaps - Ensure they have breakfast or eat something sweet prayer, thanksgiving, food, exchanging something as simple as arranging for them to attend (such as dates or sweetened porridge) before leaving of gifts and family gatherings. the Eid prayers or one of the festivals in your locality for the Eid prayer. will make a difference. The best way to find out - Help your foster child to get to the place of the Eid about local Eid prayers will be Google, as there are prayer early if possible to enable them to offer the likely to be many options. prayers in congregation.

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Arif was aged nine when he In the first month of the placement, They did some research and found The whole family had a great day, came to the UK from Iraq as an Arif spent time thinking about life in information on an Eid event close to and Arif felt for the first time that Basra and drew pictures of a big festival, their home in a local park. John and Laila unaccompanied new arrival, and where the whole community joined in contacted the organiser and shared with he could be himself completely and was taken into care. He was very the celebration. Arif said very little to his them Arif’s story and they were all invited reveled in the company of other afraid and troubled by his new living foster carers and was unable to share his to attend the Eid prayers and celebrations. Muslim children. This was a turning arrangements and circumstances feelings with them. However, John and John and Laila kept it secret until the day point in their relationship and in Penthurst, Kent and genuinely Laila were originally from Egypt which arrived as they wanted it to be a surprise allowed Arif to regain enormous has a predominately Muslim population for Arif. struggled to settle in with John and knew Eid celebrations well. This confidence and become comfortable and Laila, even though they were helped them to understand that the Then as the day of Eid arrived, Arif was around his foster family. from an Arab Christian background. pictures Arif drew were of the festival of awoken nice and early and the whole family CASE STUDY 3 Eid which was fast approaching. They went to the Eid event, attended breakfast wanted Arif to experience a great Eid there and received a number of gifts. where all the community celebrated the festival together. ARIF AGED 9 YEARS

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GAMBLING PHYSICAL ILLNESS MENTAL ILLNESS DISABILITY PETS FAMILY COMPOSITION

Islam prohibits all forms of games of chance, especially Muslims are required to look after themselves physically, A person diagnosed as having a serious mental illness, In Islam disability is neither seen as a curse nor an There is no prohibition on Muslims to keep pets with the It is important to recognise that, due to the issues where money is involved which includes raffles and intellectually and spiritually. This includes seeking for example psychosis, dementia or severe intellectual immediate blessing. A person with a disability is exception of dogs and pigs. Guide dogs, guard dogs and relating to inter-gender relations, Muslim foster children lotteries. The reason why gambling is prohibited in medical help when required and following through with disability, is free from all the obligatory requirements expected to be given the same respect and rights as the hunting dogs are acceptable, however, for the specific may interact with different members of the family in Islam is similar to the prohibition of alcohol and drugs prescribed treatments as instructed. The preservation in Islam, i.e. they are not required to pray obligatory person who has no specific condition that affects their purpose they are needed. Please note, however, that different ways. As such, sensitivity should be shown to all of which are addictive. Such an addiction might of life is of paramount importance in Islam. As children prayers, fast, or to perform the pilgrimage. daily life. dogs are not to be allowed to enter a place of prayer, the Muslim foster child and respect given to the way cause not only the gambler harm, but also the gambler’s become young adults, wherever possible, a female for example where the foster child identifies they wish they may interact with a foster parent and their children loved ones. To avoid such an outcome Islam prohibits it doctor should be sought for females and likewise for People with learning difficulties are encouraged to to pray. Ultimately your family may have a pet dog, of the opposite gender. It may seem that a Muslim altogether. males. The key issue here is supporting the one in your perform their obligatory deeds to encourage them to and the point to note here is the child may have a teenager is being unsociable or distant towards certain care to be able to self advocate and for them to feel feel empowered and self confident as possible. A person natural desire to keep a distance due to the religious members of the family. This may simply be indicative On a practical level this is an issue to consider if you play they have your support should they wish to specify such who has a physical disability and uses a wheelchair is and cultural predisposition to do so. It is important to of them not wanting to breach Islamic etiquettes in the a lottery or any of the endless gaming apps. Your Muslim preferences. encouraged to perform all acts of worship too under the note the distance they put between themselves and home. This does not mean that they may not interact foster child may not agree with this and so they may find same premise. However, it is encouraged to approach yourselves when with the dog is unlikely to be a product with the opposite gender; rather, that they may wish it offensive if you wanted to involve them in choosing an Imam in such circumstances as many concessions of fear, but more a product of genuinely not wanting to to limit their interaction with the opposite gender to the numbers or take them to buy lottery tickets. The key are awarded to those with any difficulties that impede be near the animal. collective gatherings and avoid one to one discussion here is to simply be sensitive to their disposition and regular abilities. This will also give the young person when other family members are not physically present. respect the fact they may not want to be involved. confidence and support in making decisions in line with religious observance and the strength they can draw from that.

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REFUGEES IN FOCUS BUILDING A FUTURE FOR NEW ARRIVALS

With wars across much of the Middle East and It is important as carers if such a child is placed UNACCOMPANIED ASYLUM WE BELIEVE AT THE HEART OF THIS PROCESS drought in vast parts of East Africa, recent with you, that you respond in a supportive way years have seen a mass migration of vulnerable that helps them come to terms with their past, SEEKING CHILDREN: ARE THE FOLLOWING THREE KEY ISSUES: people from their home countries. These rather than try to ignore it. For these children individuals have taken tragic journeys across to have the best chance of a bright future, - 2,630 unaccompanied asylum seeking A. EMBRACING CULTURAL B. RESOLVING SECTARIAN C. CONFIDENCE BUILDING deserts and seas, walking and swimming, and it is critical that carers support them in their children were looked after on 31st NUANCES FEAR AND HATRED UTILISING THE FAITH TRADITION unfortunately more often than not, running individual journeys of reconciliation. March 2015 from an ever-evolving threat to life. - 90% (2,360) were boys and 10% (260) Children that have fled from conflict in the Unfortunately, a reality of the collapse of Syria The United Kingdom has a young and were girls Middle East and Africa have typically come from and the mass migration of much of its population, vibrant Muslim community. It is a faith relatively conservative territories. Cultural norms is due to extreme sectarian violence. This is community building a large and significant - 75% (1,970) were aged 16 and over After such epic journeys where they have will differ considerably in terms of contact with something hard to understand, but nevertheless community infrastructure, from community potentially lost family members, a growing the opposite gender, dress code and observance it is likely to be a fear that those in care carry with centers to schools, from mosques to TV number of children find themselves taken into http://www.baaf.org.uk/res/ of religious duties. Carers are best to try and have them. They would have been witness to neighbours channels and essentially facilitating journeys care. These are children that are of the highest statengland#uas conversations with children and young people turning on one another and blood being shed due from scripture to contemporary lifestyle. vulnerability, lacking language skills, family about what they, for example miss from their to their various sectarian affiliations. It is important home countries and use this to try and gauge how to empower those in care that sectarianism is structures and having to face every day with best to serve their needs. NOT something they need worry about in the UK. the trauma of war and migration. What is more Here Sunni and Shia communities have flourished important is that a significant number are together, and as such they should not be worried heading into the care system and as such we as about such things. They should look forward to a carers must be prepared. British Muslim community that will embrace them regardless of their sectarian tradition.

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MOVING FORWARD

This guide is intended as a reference tool to help RESOURCES you provide optimal care for your Muslim foster child. We appreciate that its contents may Muslim Youth Helpline (MYH) Connect Muslim Directory Discover Islam New Muslim Academy have raised further questions and to support you with this, we have created an online forum. The MYH is a registered charity Connect Online provides Muslim Directory is a printed This is a community education This website provides lots of This will allow you to discuss any issues that Mercy Mission UK would like to thank which provides pioneering valuable resources and is a place and electronic medium organisation which provides basic but essential resources you may require support with, so that you can faith and culturally sensitive to explore and share work with which allows consumers to exhibitions and materials for for people new to the faith, provide the best outcomes for the Muslim foster services for Muslim youth in Muslim youth and contribute to seek products, services and learning more about the Islamic and as such is an excellent the UK. this emerging practice. information at their fingertips. faith without any charge. resource for young people too. children under your care. you sincerely for taking the opportunity

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