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a conplste’ leaning se'vice ^ssiosntial/csmr-.sncal/vacareies Mama Bears will close down to Alice's mild horror. (Not dig you want to support this cause, for O N E DAY in June, to remove nified during business hours, you and have goods and services to 'si's^snce? the chimney in the coffee house know). So, all these art-worked adcfto the raffle, contact us. For area. The exact date is not known squares, ranging from the.simple example, suave, debonair Mar- lanisu; lioochar 4 2 U - B 7 5 7 as we go to press, but it will be name to increasingly elaborate guereife Kotwitz, of Amazon d u rin g th e last half o f Ju n e . multi-color fantasies, are gather Earthworks, is donating some of We'll post the date on our ing a life of their own, as each her lovely earthware. (And a date, event board when we know. Re artistic flair inspires others. too, Marguerite? Did we hear moving the chimney itself isn't a T W e will photograph the floor in that right?) big deal, as the mortar between^ sections and piece them together. The raffle wifi be in Septem the bricks is so old it's re ad ^Ia -N to provide an accessible picture ber, so you have plenty of tirm^to crumble. But the 2-foot high of all th e tiles. donate in this calendar period cement base on which it rests is So if you haven't.done so yet, (June-July) and buy in the next goirrglo need jackhammers. buy a tile! and be concretely, as it (Aug.-Sept.)! (You-won't want to be here1.) were, connected to herstory. (If. In this issue Barbara Bull has ' Then of fourse, the next thing you can't get here, use the mail written a column to say she's not is tiling the coffee house floor; order form on back page, and going to any more. W e'll see. many of you have already bought indicate what you want us to put These creative wifd-card genius your space ($6.00) and according on your square.) And if you've types are all alike...when they go to Carol, we've received money already bought a rile, buy more! into "lying fallow now, and vege for almost300tiles, of the 750we Buy a whole group! You get to tating state"— which always need. A Iittte fill-in for new ar- leave a message 'that will still be necessarily comes before the ’ rivals: o u t original vision included here hundreds or more years sprouting and growing and bear 12x12 inch Mexican— those from 'n o w . ing fruit state— they are inclined gorgeous earth tfolor— riles, but In a way we'll miss seeing and to think it means rhe end. But I w e c o u ld n 't affort it; T h e co n cre te being aware Of the concrete un know that B.S. Bull has lots more floor was so uneven, that we derneath (Alice will, anyway); be to say to us.‘ Her thoughts, even couldn't just do it ourselves (by cause even though it's ugly and now, are murkily involving her the way, we're taking bids on the dirty-looking, it lets us know mind in "politics,” as you can see job)...our estimate of the cost of w e 're o n solid g ro u n d , airid that's from her column. installation plus the tiles them a good feeling. Mama Bears is on Co-incidently, a new book ar selves is $ b & ) per tile, with 750 solid ground: the grounding of rived at M a m a Bears, ca lle d The tHes needed. So, we got the our collective vision, a'nd from N e w Politics of Inequality, by bright idea, sparked on by that, all else follows. T h o m a s Byrne Ejdsall, S 5 .95 w h ic h Margaret Sloan-Hunter and Gayle If yo u b u y e n o u g h squares fast speks very much to that issue. As Marfe, of having our customers enough, maybe we can install the the book cover states: "A quiet and friends "buy squares"-r-at 6 floor iri August or September, be transfer of power has taken place bucks each. When you buy your fore the rains. And it will be so • in the nation's capital. Here is squae (or squares) you write, in bea u tiful! now il happened— and why it indelible magic marker, your Inrrepid non-smoking lawyer matters*..." Radical chaages have name or whatever you like. Leslie Levy is grimly tracking occurred, and we're only dimly Heather got the ball rollings by down the bankruptcy info for us, awace of them, and their implica showing up one morning, bright on the company we sent our tion. T'm making sure Barbara and cheerful, with a chalk marker, money to for a smoke-eater we reads this book...more to come. and she and Carol just started didn't get. Meantime, we've Many other chaoses are in the right-in, moving'Jpables and chairs opted to hold a raffle to raise germinatingstage, beautiful crea* % around and marking off sqUTares, money for another purchase. If tive notions flowering ip Carol's (Continued on page 19) Some B.S. from ... ESPRESSO CARDS JEWELRY DEAR FRIENDSAND BEAUTIFUL t & U i i i m CRAFTS WOMEN equal number ot people inform O n e c h o re re m a ins, fo r m e to. RECORDS/TAPES M y major purpose for writing a ed me that my fiction ripped off tell you my thoughts of the up WOMENS MUSIC coming California elections. CAFE column came to an end last issue the serious thought pieces, if I M I. told AHce about the weird bit CABARET when the submission of pieces by only knew how to tell one from ART GALLERY significant women writers reach the other.) of madness l.warited to pursue EVENTS ed a peak, and we could feel our It d o e s n 't se em right to just let for this issue and she translated . ENTERTAINMENT p a p e r soar by itself. It w as like the this column disappear without that into a suggestion that I write N E W B O O K S ending of a phase... in a course saying goodbye— while there are out why it's seriously im portant to U S E D B O O K S Alice Molloy and I plotted years things to be said. A phase is elect a Democratic LESBIAN ago, for an expedition in search ending for me, the medium of Governor in Californi^ G A Y M E N S of a multiplicity of minds . With change in a change of medium. Where's the fun in SPIRITUALITY the paper finally launched, fol- In this Gemini time, when every that? H uh? HEALTH/HEALING METAPHYSICAL lowing the necessary grieving in thing includes its opposite, some (C o n tin u e d C H IL D R E N S the.process of letting go, I had th in g is m o v in g b e y o n d m y on page 19) WOMENS FICTION some personal questions to words. Something finally begins. MYSTERY answer before I could go on with A pox on all serious words!— FANTASY a column. It meant assessing the M B s N & N is truly a w o m e n 's p u b SCIENCE FICTION intrinsic value of. my columns lication and if you know what I WOMENS POETRY WOMEN A BUSINESS themselves and looking at myself mean you know how rare that is. FEMINIST as a w riter. W e got enough serious writing 6536 Telegraph CULTURAL What I missed in the absence m th e last issue that I am ) Oakland^ NON FICTION of cny.column in the last issue, re le a se d to m y tru e fo rm ... \(41 5) 428*9684 . PERIODICALS was a-certain gonzo element^ ir GANZA. Off The Waifs! reverence and irrationality. (My A column, for me; means feedback from some people was taking it seriously a nd That. I should eschew my raving applying judgement. > polemic an^ sticlj to'fiction: An Doing chores. BY-ANN MEREDITH Mama Bears News & Notes/June-July 3
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After, she had come down from the mountain, she Levy, Oppenheimer & Scaparotti had found a job in Seattle, settled into a life that was. Attorneys at Law reasonably satisfactory: She worked at the university as a records clerk, though she had had some training as a technician in the Army. The job was boring and tedious, and the salary wasn’t much, but there were / 1y | yi\ 6536 Telegraph Avenue compensati'ons. She believed that eventually the job JL Oakland, California 946G9 would lead somewhere, given her special job in- the (415) 652-6201 & army and her almost obsessive interest in post-war technology-. She believed that Seattle was som e kind of We do general civil law, including family law, personal injury, mystic .center, both of the future and of the ancient employment law, contracts, and civil rights. earth of the tribal people. Her life there was free of the sense of oppression she had grown up with, and- her neck gleaming as soft as polished turquoise though she returned home as often as she'could stones, river rocks, agate, quartz, in th^ small vee her afford to, she returned to the northwest like a slightly opened blouse revealed. And why didn’t she magnetized needle to true north. She felt a strange wear her tie. Well,-it was evening. She wasn’t on duty. 'The R ainbow °Patli kinship to this place, its cool watefs and pale sun, its And something else: the Captain’s face seemed softer, her eyes gray receiving, not fiat and hand as they were seemingly endless rain. And there were other £>ene- PSYCHIC AND SPIRITUAL SERVICES fits. There was a community of lesbians, of sons, that during the day. Now all this was of interest to Allie. Of had grown up around their army days bar, the Silver interest and growing excitement • Psychic Readings Slipper, a lesbian bar that was discreetly tucked away This made Allie smile in herself, coil her muscles in * Spiritual Counseling on the second floor of one of the downtown buildings. another kind of tension, toss her head, however • Past Life Readings Sjie had been introduced to the bar by her first slightly, as she responded to Brandon’s questions * Past Life Regressions lover, a Captain who was her C.O. Barbara— Bee, about her life, whether she liked the service, the work • Dyke-Shaman - Warrior training they called her— had been military' all the way. Cor she did. Made her answer with less cynicism thati she * Counseling iQ selecting and/or rect and crisp, nearly brutal, she swaggered through would have in another place, to another face, made ifdaking spiritual items her days and staggered through her nights. 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She decided to try' it, hoping it would harm . work, somewhat surprised at her daring but under it IN BEAUTY IT IS FINISHED \ From the first time she saw Bee, shortly after arriv feeling somehow that what she was feeling and MAY IT BE BEAUTIFUL ALL AROUND ing on base the spring of 1944, Allie had felt her thinking about her C.O^was what was expected o f her stomach go weak with desire every time the woman in any case. . i had looked at her, her honey colored hair crisp and Not that she wasn’t afraid. This was something to be coldly •shining under her cap. From the first tim e she afjiid of. Suppose they did something, whatever it saw her, y^llie had wanted her. Bee was not the first was that two women did:’ Something like what she woman Ajlic feh that erotic charge around, but she an.d a couple, o f the girls in boarding school had * was the first who did.much about it. done— kissing, playing with each other, shy and filled She called Allie to her quarters one night, late, and with laughter, bold and scared they’d be caught. . questioned her sharply about her work that day. Allie ,She’d always wondered what they’d do if they found answered, feeling only mildly worried; she had faced out, going so far sometimes as ro imagine what she frightening white authorities often in Her life, so often would say as one of the matrons was slapping her or Bay Area that she was all but .indifferent to then* power. 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She refilled Allies glass, turning her Suppose thtrw om an there was only toying with her, body in such a wav that Allie could see the line of her tewing her, trying to find her out.-’ Suppose she wound throat as it blended toward the curve.of her breast ^up wanting the Captain, the Captain not wanting her.’ beneath her stiffly‘starched shirt. Allie had been ready Bui then she’d lobk at the woman, at.her pale.skin for many kinds of trouble, for any kind* she had lightly.flushed, pearly, the strong square hands hold < il\ Slate /.ip _ thought in her tough, youthful innocence. ing the wine glass* holding the bottle to pour more But desire, now. Wanting. Seeing Captain-Bran into their glasses.' Allie put her tlioughts behind her P h o n e ___ ,_____ don’s hair soft in the low light of her quarters. Seeing (Continued on page 14) ■4 Mama Bears N'ew«-&-Netas/dunesJufy
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Jewish culture I have inherited a sense of ethics and Through the pictured environments, flora and integrity, a spirit of inquiry into the nature of hu • Books, Reports, fauna, architecture, furniture and tools— by way of manity, and a respect and reverence for truth and Manuals, Newsletters movement, ^posture, gesture, costume and acces wisdom. These aspects of niy nature led me to an sories, significant aspects of my life were reveale^o abiding interest in the Tarot, which I perceive as a • Multiple Letters m e. A was shown visually. ratftttt' than told verbally, repository of lifelong learning for me. My deck is a • Mailing Lists what I needed to know to heljlm e through the dif book of knowledge, each card a chapter. ficulties and enable me to grow beyond them. Over the fifteen year period that I have been • Resumes : . i ( ■ studying, teaching and counseling with the cards, I The very next day I. bought my own deck and got have gradually come to utilize them in a variety of Bonnie Bozorg • (415) 848-8243 ahold off The PsychicTarot, $3 .5 0 , by Joanne Kowalski, ways: a feminist, humanist, and' woman of .political con sciousness. In conjunction with Joanne’s interpreta-' • transmitting guidance by doing readings for tions, I seemed to have an intuitive affinity with the mvself and others; pictures, and was immediately drawn to the distinc • integrating Tarot symbols with other healing tive, neoclassical style of the Tarot artist, Pamela techniques/systems, such as color therapy, ( i h T l s s d Colman Smith. 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I am familiar atmosphere, and meet Suzanne, this rsa.good chance By fa n m a rie with such woman-inspired decks as Motherpeace. to check it out. Also, Suzanne will be doing mini- • Relaxing Facials $ 1 9 .9 5 , Book oj A radio, $.15.95, Daughters oj the Moon, readings at Mama Bears regularly on Thursday nights • Deep Pore Cleansing' Amazon and Aquazon plus certain other neoclassical during-the summer, starting in June— see Caleiidai • Skin Analysis all-picture decks {Harris-Crowley. Parke-Case, Morgan- for details. Suzanne.Has just opened a Tarot Studio.. • Problem Skin Therapy Greer and Aquarian), as well. This special collection of • Lash Yinting For details, see h ^ ad in our classified section, storybook pictures has been one of mv.main sources • Complimentary Consultation classified section. • Electrolysis of guidance since first it appeared in my life. (Other excellent books are: Tarot for YourselJ, by Maiy.Greer, ° The a call these former [Kongur] men’s teams who hadn’t m ade it, because there was a little bit o f animosity there that women—a whole team ABBY ABINANTI WOMEN of women—were going to attempt the summit Attorney at Law And what would it mean to these men if we A sole practitioner emphasizing powers of attorney; reached the summit? wills; agreements to purchase real property; agreements MB: It would show them up! to purchase and manage businesses; contracts; small Jo an : Well, it’s going to make a lot of them feel business advice; adoptions; relationship agreements. CLIMB worthless. MB: Over ten 'years experience in-Indian Law. Civil Do you think it was hard for them to give her litigation expertise in all above areas plus employment [Kath] useful information? * discrimination and labor experience. Jo an : Yes. She actually got some resistance from some of them. Although the British man >vho 3163 Mission Street, San Francisco, CA 94110 (415) 285-8010 i l l MOUNTAINS led the British team, which actually summit- ted, was very co-operative. But that’s because he can’t be intimidated. He was not only a MOUNT KONGUR, PART II success on Kongur, he is also one of the Such fl T)eal world’s foremost mountaineers and has many O n Ju n e 5 at 3 p.m . nine wom en will board a China successes. H e will not be threatened by us and Junque, Funk and£ujhiture Airlines jet for Beijing, their ultimate destination this-climb. We Buy, Sell and Trade I being the 25,325 foot summit of Mt. Kongur in [Ed. note: “A man of quality is not threatened by a antiques, collectibles and /western China. woman seeking equality.”] Last issue we printed part of an interview with Joan MB: What do you want to accomplish personally? fine furniture Proveneer, a member of the climbing team. The rest Jo an : Well, personally, I want to reach the summit. Tu-We4 3-6, Thurs-Sat 12-6 of that interview follows: And I think it’s im portant that each and MB: You said that women climb much differendy everyone of us wants to reach the summit, so 3915 Telegraph Ave. - Oakland than men. What is that difference? that that desire and passion in each o n e o f us 655-2508 - Suzannejoi Joan: Well, men have this way about them. They’ll will get us there. We have to all really want it compete, and they won’t dare to show any But we also have to want it so badly that-we’re weaknesses. They don’t cooperate like wo going to cooperate for it. Of course, no one RAINBEAU'Z PRODUCTIONS PRESENT: men. There’s a really heavy competition that knows what’«s going to happen when it comes happens with men, whereas when women right down the line, to the actual place when climb they have more of a tendency to co everybody’s anxieties arise because of the operate and work together. Everybody has weather problems. It’ll be a really good test their difficulties.. There are always person for everyone. ality conflicts on any climb. It’s just hard to I guess so! Are you going to be filming the ex 4 stay together, but women try to work things pedition? ■ M g & S S i OUL Jo a n : Yes. We’re bringing video equipment. Susan enn U/nMCM 1 MB: Dovou think women are more nurturing with Hopkins, .who’s from Massachusettsf is a FJDR WOMEN one another than men are? photographer. She’ll be doing the filming t<^ Joan: Yes. Definitely. ThFdifference: when I climb probably about 2 0 ,0 0 0 ft. T hen, since she isn’q ^ EVERY FRIDAY - 10 p.m. with mates there’s no way I’ll let them know a really hard-core climber, whoever would be TALK OF THE TOWN (Formerly A Little More) 15th end Potrero - Sen Francisco I’m tireo^AVon’t be the last one! I would die i the climbers would be doing the video. 6 2 6 -3 1 8 } ( . before I would let them pass me up. Let’s talk about motivation a minute. Getting SUNDAYJUNE 22 - 7 MB: So they bring out that characteristic in you? DRIFTWOOD LOUNGE back to Adrienne Rich’s poem •’•—■I read that 22170 Mission Bfvd - Hayward Joan: Yes, because I don’t want anyone to say, “Oh, and I thought: Why do these women want to 581-2090 you’re just a'woman, and you’re weak.” But risk.their lives to cjimb-a mountain that they SATURDAY JUNE 28 - 8 p.m. DAYBREAK when I’m with women, I don’t have to be like know has already resulted in the death 9f one 1711 W. El Camino Real that. I don’t want to be like that, but it’s the expedition? Why do women climb mount Mountain View 940-9778 ' whole social thing of being a woman; I don’t ains? • V. ...and YOUR PRIVATEE P A R TY w ant them to take it out,on w om en as a whole, Jo an : 1 ’think there are various reasons. I think call 855-8098 or654-2000 so I have to be twice as good. there’s, among mountain climbers generally, for Bo oking Info. M B: You had said that it’s harder for women to be this passion, this love of mountains that come funded for things like your climb. Why- exists. And m ost people who really go for high is that? It seem s that it’s m o re unusual, m ore peaki—there’s something very special about STARRING gimmicky somehow. high mountains. I think it’s the challenge, but RAINBEAU Jo a n : It’s m o re gim m icky, but there’s still the “Old there’s some very spiritual thing about being Boys Network!” Boys still tend to support each up there in them. It’s an attraction. 1 started other more..Sure, an all-women’s expedition climbing in 1970, and it was just climbing is more gimmicky, because it’s still new that mountains in the northeast, in Vermont, New CAYUSE PRESS PRESENTS women go on expeditions without men. But Hampshire, the Adirondaks. It was a it’s the same as women working in surveying, thorough love and passion -that got me out BORROWED RITES for exam ple. T h at’s also very new., But it’s a there to Climb. 1 would sleep in 20° below LONGING very male-dominated world, and they (men] zero weather to.be out there on the weekends, fight, tooth and nail, to keep you out. to Just be the re. "There's something verv By Judith Stephens By Maria Espinosa beautiful about the mountains—very draw-/ ing, to some people.J think it’s this drawing A mystery that grapples A passionate and poetic that—’also, this mountain—going to climb a with lust, murder novel of a woman’s growth high peak awakens m e—this sense of adven and guilt ture. That kind of got settled down for awhile because I had gotten so use to climbing, and ISBN: 0-933529-08-2 the adventure that I feh when I firsti started ISBN: 0-933529-01-5 $7.95 clim bing got a little subdued because it's be- $10.00 toming old hat, it’s really not adventurous .any more because I’ve climbed so many EXISTENTIAL FOLKTALES mountains. This will be totally different. It'll be.high altitude clim bing, it’ll be reallv testing By Margaret Switzer us, it’ll be just really beautiful to be-orfa very A wiuy updating of favorUe folktales high mountain, with such power and such ret old with contemporary themes glacier fields that are very tremendous, and icefallsp'Just being there. Being there and ISBN: 0-933529-00-7 $7.00 being on the mountain and going to the top. 1 think it’s like an apex o f energy. T he leader of A vailable at local independent bookstores MB: Why do you think they do that? the expedition, Kath, puts it that all of-us have or order direct from Jo a n : 1 think it’s one o f their Iasi places whece thev ’*• phantasies for Elvira Shatavev— in Dream CAYUSE PRESS are all men. of A Comihon Language, Adrienne Rich, P.O . Bdx 9086 MB: Surveying and mountaineering? $4 95. Joan: . Yes. Mountaineering... Kath, our leader, got a Berkeley. CA 94709 lot of static. Ii was hard for her to sometimes (Continued on page 17) Add 6 1/2% tax plus $1 DO postage &. handling ' 6 ‘Mama 6«ar»hlaw« >'Not»»/june-Ju ly For Ubmen With Concerns About AIDS VNfe provide information on risk reduction, counseling and grief support A support group for women con THERAPEUTICALLY cerned about AIDS is currently forming. Call 420-8181. SPEAKING by Patricia Kurtz m m m Reading the classified ads in the women’s press blam e the ill o f society and society’s ills o n its^ strongly suggests that one-half the women’s com-* mothers? If we can be angry at our mothers rather munity are in therapy and the other half are thera than understand them, female solidarity is dealt a pists. deadly blow. PACIFIC CENTER AIDS PROJECT For those Of us intent on personal excavation, it’s And once we’ve written off Mom, our own demise certainly an improvement to have women supervising isn’t far behind. 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HEALTH But my concern is not with the quest for.the perfect But much of our, mistrust is based on realitv not CENTER therapist. There are several good books addressing paranoia. Much of our anger is rooted in experience that issue in detail. I’m more intrigued by the not repressed memories. AIDS isa disease that attacks Question that precedes “which therapist?” —the the body’s immune system and renders it defenseless. question of “why therapy?” To strip women of their defenses is often a psychic M arnv Hall in 'The Lavender Couch: .-I Consumer's form of AIDS. We need many of pur defenses. Abuse SUSAN RRENNAN Guide to Psychotherapyfor Lesbians anil Gay M en ( $ 7.95 ), of women is an institutional staple in our culture. Les CHIROPRACTOR asserts that we are rendered invisible by a homo- bians are even more targeted. phobic, misogynist culture, and, as a result,; are Finally, therapeutic indulgence can rob us of com hungry for validation. munity. .We save our intimate thoughts for the fiftv Applied Kinesiology 1 don’t doubt her observation. But the rusji _ip minute hour as if we had to process them through a PMS/Nutrition Counseling therapy isn’t ours alone. After all, the very homo* filter before we can share them with friends. We check Sports/Dance Injuries phobic misogynists who create our need for .valida our instincts in an office rather than testing them out in real life situations. And our relationships become Neurovascular Dynamics tion flock in droves to their own couches of another exercises in “talking about” our feelings rather than Allergy Testing color, f m inclined to let them remain in a supine position while more of us stand up to be valjjate'd in having them. . other ways. Wj- I’m not suggesting we strap ourselves to a stake in , Free Consultation Many years ago, as I w l about to embark on a ten the wilderness and heroically gut through our pain Also eve. & Sat. appts year therapeutic journey of my own (at the time, I or that we wander in aimless confusion. Needs do ~ 4/5-268-8557 thought it would be a short trip around thle block) an exist. The problem is that in a capitalistic, consumer astute politically radical friend remarked, “The more society every need becomes -a market to be cornered. 3838 Grand Ave.. Oakland As a result, we are conditioned to always look outside , personally involved you become, the less socially and politically.immersed you will be:” I said, something to have our needs m et We buy intimacy and under • profound like “Pshaw,” and proceeded to fulfill the standing the way we buy a suit or the newest brand of prophecy, becoming a therapist myself in the process. running shoes. We shop .for a therapist the way we shop for^a personal computer. r ¥ ~ paving been both on the couch and behind it, 1 render some thoughts on why psychotherapy, There are times of crisis when a trained, objective especially where women are concerned, might some “third ear” can shepherd us through the storm. We times be the problem rather than the solution. need to reach outside ourselves for support and a "I I I IIV*| s For starters, most therapies are quintessential patri reality check. There are also those among us whose , archal institutions. We’ve heard thi* before, but we egos are so poorly developed or badly battered that don’t act as if we believe it More often than hot, the simpliest tasks of daily living are overwhelming. I I I III/* therapy fosters dependency, despite its protestations External assistance is required, but. often the most Winner of the . to the contrary. If we do n ’t b e co m e d ep en d en t on o u r fragile am o n g us find these su p ports available; if at all, 1984 and 1985 therapists, we are resisting the transference. Until we in bureaucratic bastions of inhumanity with a tum- Coble Car Award buckle under and submit, w’e are not being a good style of helpers. The fact is, that In our society therapy A Dance for Women Only patient. It’s a role that smacks awfully much of being a is big business— a service business to be sure— but a “bad girL” Many therapists will allow us to be bad business nevertheless. And it follows, with few excep presented by . girls for years at S50-S75 an hour while therapy be tions, that only the middle-class can 'afford'to comes an endless dance between patient and thera- “patronize” iL As a result, when we pledge allegieoce BAY AREA CAREER WOMEN "-pist with the original problem s we walked in to resolve to therapy, it’s essential to ask w hether we are solving a In C a lib ra tio n of iM btan/O ay Prtd* Waok hopeless wallflowers. } problem that can’t be approached some other way or - Second, most therapies are a closed feedback loop. whether we’re simply expressing a lifestyle. Saturdpy Evening. 28th of June 1986 For example, Freudians believe that all behavior is Am I recommending we trash therapy altogether as 8:30 p m -.2:00 a m purposive. Nothing we do escapes clinical judgment. an option? No! Only that we ask ourselves even.- step at If we are eariy for an appointment, we are anxious. If along the therapeutic path— why am I here? What do f K m (an Franct*co we are on time, we are compulsive. If we are late, we I want to get and how will I know when I’ve gotten it? See Braonaci Sfeet are .resistant. Any way we cut it, we are neurotic and And finally after we’ve asked the questions to have the . the therapeutic game can continue. courageto avoid discounting the answers. The latter is No Ho* Cocma* h o t O' O n m i When you are a hammer, you see every problem as the real litmus test. The reason most of us overstay our a nail. Even eclectic therapists ascribe to a panopolv need in therapy— indeed, the reason we seek it out at of theories that influences the questions thev ask, the all— is that we are conditioned to disregard our own responses they give, and the interpretations they truths. Formal Attire Optional make. If it’s an enabling frame of reference, we’re in A therapeutic relationship that frees us to go into rickets $22°° perpenon luck. If it’s not, we may simply toss out old “shoulds” the world and prevent, for ourselves and others, the at the door $28“ per p* for new “shoulds.” repetition of pain and self-annihilation that accom One of the most dangerous shibboleths for women panies incest, rape, battering and the panorama of in in general and lesbians in particular is the therapeu justices and indignities that lured us to the couch is tic ritual of worshipping the shrine of“ Mother-Hate.” laudable. Therapy that remains a private wallowing in It all started with Sigmund Freud and we haven’t o u r own past histories is a loss to the individual and to moved far off the .dime. Even if our fathers raped us, all women. ‘ mothers usually get the rap for not stoppng them. It’s If it is true that o n e-h alf the w om eri’s co m m u n ity - E E'J more than sheer coincidence that Freudianism and are in therapy and the other half are therapists, these •psychotherapy took hold in this country when wo remarks may be cause for anger as well as reflection. men’s suffrage and feminism were at their height. But don’t despair, we can always ventilate our rage W hat better wav to keep w om en in their place M A M A B E A R S Tuesday SUNDAYS Friday JUNE 10 Tuesday JUNE 17 Tuesday JUNE 24 S O F TB A L L LIONS & TIGERS vs. Just Us/Bill W right 6:45 p.m. M AM A B EAR S II vs. A-1 Spring 8:00 p.m. Burckhalter Field. JUNE 19 Thursday WOMEN’S SOCIALIZING ALL EVENING, TAROT READINGS by Suzanne Judith and Free Mas sage. SEE JUNE 5 FOR DETAILS. A GATHERING OF GENERA GYNOSOPHtC GATHERING S O F T B A L L WOMEN ONLY. TIONS WOMEN CENTERED WOR THE BIG GAME!!! 7-11 p.m. JOYLETTA ALICE and JOANNA S H IP - “Celebrating the bond LIONS & TIGERS vs. MAMA B EA R S II 9:15 p.m. Burckhalter J U N E 20 Friday G R IF FIN , tw o of the B a y'A re a ’s- of womanness among our Field. women’s community finest poets, selves and In connection with are celebrating their 30th & 50th our sisters on every continent, MAMA BEARS SOFTBALL. Lions birthdays a nd the co ntinuance of island, sea and sky" - Paula and Tigers, and Mama Bears II play women’s love and culture across G u n n Allen at Burckhalter Field (foot of Edward the gen^atio'ns by sharing .an BECKY REARDON and J U D Y exit off 580 East). Come out and evening of their poetry with us. Spirituality, feasting and gos MUNSEN, versatile synthesist support both our teams! The teams Special reading intfieir honor by combines with the distinctive siping in the marketplace, play in the Oakland Recreation Paula Gunn Allen. M am a Bears, as w e did in past vocals of Becky Reardon to'set League every Tuesday night at WOMEN ONLY- the stage for a fun filled Cabaret women centered cultures. Burckhalter. Games are at 6:45, 7 :3 0 p.fn., $5.00 show featuring swing, jazz, origi W O M E N O N L Y 8 :0 0 & 9:15. Specific are posted at nals, and a touch of “tastefully Mama Bears. 1 0 :3 0 A M sleazy rock!” J U N E 11 Wednesday JU N E 1 Sunday WOMEN ONLY.. PAT PARKER(poet/author) and 8:30 p.m., $5.00______, SANDY BOUCHER’S long time AVOTCJA (poet/musician)— the writing group will give a reading of JUNE 7 Saturday finest of poetry and music. (See new works. Proceeds to benefit review of Pat’s latest book, Jo n e s B.AW.AR. (Bay Area Women tow n and O th er Madness, on p 16). Against Rape). Grace Harwood, WOMEN ONLY. • Kris Brandenberger, Teri Greun- EtSlNE BLAKE— astrologer- 6 :3 0 p.m., $5.00 -$7 .0 0 wald, Denise Jacobson, Catherine talks about Gemini women. Dunsford, Joan Lohman, Nora WOMEN ONLY. J U N E 24 Tuesday McLaughlin,v Lois Helmbold. 7:30 p.m. $5.00 S O F T B A L L MAMA BEARS II vs. Oakland 3 p.m., $ 5.00 J U N E 12 Thursday Mixers 8 :0 0 pjn. J U N E 4 Wednesday WOMEN’S SOCIALIZING ALL LIO N S A T IG E R S vs. Base Cadr GAYLE MARIE. Another captiva EVENING, TAROT READINGS ets 9:15 p.m. Burckhalter Field. ting performance complete with by Suzanne Judith and Free Mas romantic love songs, delicate bal J U N E 26 Thursday sage. SEE JUNE 5 FOR DETAILS. lads and even a littje rock ‘n ’ roll WOMEN’S SOCIALIZING ALL WOMEN ONLY. ^ .\^ith special guests Mary Watkins EVENING, TAROT READINGS '7-11 p.m. and Jan Martinelli. P.S. Happy by Suzanne Judith and Free Mas Birthday Gayle. sage. SEE JUNE 5 FOR DETAILS. lads and even a little rock ‘n ’ roll! WOMEN ONLY. WOMEN ONLY. 7-11 p.m .. 8 :3 0 p.m., $5.00 -$7 .0 0 BATIK ARTIST LINDA KAUN opens her art show: Indonesia— A Personal Journey, with a buffet re ception v/lvX'.vlvX’l JU L Y 1 Tuesday JULY 9 Wednesday JU L Y 16 Wednesday JU L Y 24 Thursday AUGUST 1 Friday LESBIAN HEALTH. Gabriella WOMEN’S SOCIALIZING ALL Heinsheimer, M.D. and Marilee' EVENING, TAROT READINGS Coombs, Certified Acupuncturist by SuzanneJudith and Free Mas discuss how lesbians can treat sage. SEE JUNE 5 FOR DETAILS. themselves for simple health prob WOMEN ONLY. lems. Sponsored by Lesbian Clinic, 7-11 p.m. at the Berkeley Women’s Health' Center. JU L Y 25 Friday WOMEN ONLY 7:30 p.m.. $4.00 ($2.00). ------.------1 about the I J U L Y 1 Tuesday PAULINE BART-author of Stop warm, loving, sensitive, nurturing m ANGIE ROBINSON sings with ping Rape will talk about some of /• SOFTBALL Cancerian crab women. (I’m one!) 5 Tami Hall and the Beyond Defini- the women who’s accounts ate LIONS & TIGERS vs. Oakland WOMEN ONLY " tion Band. They perform a magical told in this book. Of avoiding or m blend of J a z z & Blues fusion along Mixara 8:00 p.m. 7:30 p.m., $5.00 stopping an attempted rape; what M AM A B E A R S II va. JuatUa/Bill 0 with a selection of favorites. J U L Y 10 they said, what they did and why W right 9:15 p.m. Burckhalter Thursday 1 WOMEN ONLY m en rape. Reid. ° 8 p.m., $5.00 WOMEN’S SOCIALIZING ALL WOMEN ONLY. EVENING, TAROT READINGS OVER OUR HEADS— A L L W O J U L Y 9 Thursday 7 p.m., $3.00 A U G U S T 2 Saturday by Suzanne Judith and Free Mas MEN INPROV. Summer fun & fro WOMEN’S SOCIALIZING ALL sage. SEE JUNE 5 FOR DETAILS. JU L Y 17 Thursday lic with Karen Ripley, Teresa EVENING, TABOT READINGS Chandler, Annie Larson arid WOMEN ONLY. WOMEN’S SOCIALIZING ALL Marion Damon. by Suzanne Judith and Free Mas 7-11 p.m. EVENING, TAROT READINGS WOMEN ONLY sage. SEE. JUN E 5 FOR DETAILS. by Suzanne Judith and.Free Mas J U L Y 11 Friday 8 :0 0 p.m., $5.00 -$7 .0 0 WOMEN ONLY. sage. SEE JUNE 5 FOR DETAILS. 7-11 p.m. WOMEN ONLY. J U L Y 26 Saturday J U L Y 4 A 5 Friday/Saturday 7-11 p.m. H APPY H O U D A Y I W e re taking a JU L Y 18 Friday little bit of a break ourselves— We *51 will clofee at 9 p.m. both nights in \ 1 3 NANCY VOGL in concert. Nancy stead of 11 p.m. y 0i < [ is a long time favorite in the local » and National women’s music J U L Y 6 Sunday [ scene. Warm, rich vocals and a • ! great guitar sound— Her album is » available at Mama Bears! o WOMEN ONLY = 8 :3 0 p.m., $ 5.00 MELANIE MONSUR in Concert. Here is an entertainer with her H U N T E R DAVIS— In concert. A U G U S T 3 Sunday own way of doing it. She will set Don’t miss Hunter— just back TINA RUMBAUGH-Art Show the mood tonight with a blend of from a national tour celebrating OpeningV-reception and buffet. original, traditional, and spon the release of her second album Tina will be visiting from Iowa, taneous music performed on “Harmony.” She will be perform com e in and w elcom e her and her piano, synthesizer, guitar & vocals. ing a delightful mixture of folk, artwork to Mama Bears. WOMEN ONLY country, blues and pop. 3 -6 p.rp. 8:30 p.m., $3.00-$6.00 WOMEN ONLY J U L Y 12 8 :3 0 p.m., $ 5.00-$7.00 * A U G U S T 9 Saturday SDIANE BOGUS reads The Path J U L Y 27 Sunday of my Development as a Black- Lesbian Poet” culled from her four books of published poetry: I'm Off to See the G odam n Wizard, A lright! (1 9 7 1 ), Woman in the M oon (1-979), H er Poem s (1.980), and Sapphire's Sampler (1982). REGISTRATION (2-4 p.m.) for She will augment the two-set M IM I FOX & RO B IN F L O W E R in reading with personal narrative PAULA GUNN ALLEN S Rainbow concert. Special event! This con and readings from, newly created Path/Dyke .Urban Warrior. This cert is a fund raiser with many of . and published poems..Power and class is an overview of metaphysi C O U N TR Y JAM -com e and join your favorites making special cal & occult systems including PAHM PEERY A.K.A. KIRBY grace and joy in this woman. She in for an afternoon jam session. guest appearances— Put this date shares itj Native American & women’s spirit J O N E S . Kirby is a recent addition 3 p.m., $2.00 on your calendar— M ore info, next uality. Focuses on growing into to the Bay ARea Women's Music WOMEN ONLY issue! yourself & your vision in conflu J U L Y 30 Wednesday community. She performs original, 8 p.m., $3.00-$5.00 ence with teacher & other«wQmen traditidnal and popular tunes with JU L Y 19 Saturday on the path. Mondays July 7-Augv a rich voice that speaks directly to 18 s/s 150/175/225. Call 420- the hearts of women, their victories CHULA— all w o m e n ’s latin jazz/ 1191 for information. and. struggles. She accompanies salsa band in co ncert— D on’t miss herself on guitar and sometimes them! ~ J U L Y 6 Sunday the mandolin. WOMEN ONLY VICTORIA CARLSON-Racap- WOMEN ONLY. 8 p.m., $ 3.00-$5.00 8 :3 0 p.m., $ 3 .00 -$6 .0 0 tion— Last year I (Susan) had a J U L Y 21 Monday dream about an art show at Mama J U L Y 15 I Bears with' fabulous Goddess KANIKA AJANAKU, MONIFA DAILY oriented art work and awesome AJANAKU, ANITA COUNTEE, and masks. Three days later Victoria w ; VIVIENNE LOUISE— are four Afri- M AM A B EAR S IS O P EN 7 DAY* tthen from Oregon) drove up with kan-American lesbians whb re A W EEK 10 A.M . to 7 P.M . Incl«- ding all holidays, for your enjoy a truck full of-the artwork from my cently attended the ILIS lesbian ment. Come in to browse, buy dream — You can see it this month conference in Geneva, Switzerland. SUZANNE JUDITH-Tarot Work books and crafts, relax, study,.hang Mama Bears— Join us this, after Jhey will share their personal feel shop. out, or eat a light breakfast, lunch noon .for the artists reception/ ings, perceptions and general in WOMEN ONLY Or dinner. You can also get some buffet. <4 formation regarding the confer 7 p.m., $ 3.00-$5.00 f t r sun on the patio— now open (alao 3 -6 p.m. ence. The re wrH be a slide show S O F T B A L L JU L Y 31 Thursday known as Bears Beach} On Thurs 2nd Bl6 GAME A FINALE OF and a general report on the 6tatys Tuesday WOMEN'S SOCIALIZING ALL day, Friday, and Saturday we stay 1 JULY a THE SEASON of lesbians in different parts of the EVENING, TAROT READINGS open u n til'11 p.m., and have w o - S O F T B A L L M AM A B EA R S II vs. L IO N S & world. (See article in the June is by Suzanne Judith and Free Mas m%n-only events and socializing MAM A B EA R S II va. B ata C ad T IG E R S 6 :4 5 p.m. M am a Bears sue* of C dm ing Up). sage. SEE JUNE 5 FOR DETAILS. between 7 and 11 p.m. (may also ets 6 :4 5 p.m. “All-Stars” will be playing in the w o m e n O n l y . stay open after 7 p.m. pther even WOMEN ONLY. L IO N S & T IG E R S vs. A-1 Spring G a y Gam es II— Please go otit & .7 p.m., $ 3.0 0 -$ 5 .0 0 ings; see calendar.) 9 :1 5 p.m. Burckhalter Field. show them our support! 7-11 p.m. # , 12 Mama Bears News A Notes/June-'July CnamOnv Cjratms Co-Depend ence • • TypesettingTvDesettina &. I Design Studio. Competitive rates on type S. graphics. 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Schaef discusses each saying that “Co-dependents also develop addictions characteristic at some length, provoking a personal (like eating disorders, hyperactivity, workaholism, inventory and a clarifying understanding of issues a over-spending) and they sometimes even move into co-dependent must grapple with. chemical addictions.” (p. 55).-. Among’the characteristics she discusses are'“Ex O ne m ajor chkracteristic she discusses is “Self- ternal Refercnting/’ which she says “m probably the Centered ness,” of which she writes: “Co-dependents most important characteristic of the disease...” (p. take responsibility for Others— their feelings,, their 44^. U nder this, general heading she includes such, thoughts, even their lives. This is the most gentle, aspects of other-.directedness as relationship addic loving, killing‘kind of self-centeredness. It is the co- tion— where relationship is used “in the same wav dependent’s brand.” (p.56). She relates self-centered- . drunks use alcohol: to ‘get a fix’. Since co-dependents ness to lack of boundaries, “Because self-centered . PAPER TIGER feel they have no intrinsic meaning of their own,-al persqns place themselves at the center of the universe, C’L'OD. USED BOOKS most all of their meaning conies from outside; |hey everything else is defined by and through them. are almost completely externally referented.” (p.44). Hence, they do not really know where thev end and . BOUGHT SOLD G TRADED “Cling-Clung Relationships” (don’t .you like that 1543 Shottuck Avenue .• Berkeley CA 9 4 7 0 9 • begin.” (p. 56) but she does not relate seff-centered- one!), “Lack of Boundaries,'’ “Impression Manage (415) 540-6699 ness to “Control Issues” which is her next category. ment” (one of my favorites) and “Not Trusting Your “Co-dependents believes (sic) that they can control w o m a n o v n eo ano operated Own Perceptions” are other dimensions of external others’ perceptions (thrpugh impression manage referenting she explores. Of these, "Impression- ment); control how others see their families; and con Management” was unfamiliar to me. It signifies the trol. what their children perceive and feel'and how absolute necessity co-dependents feel that “others'see they will turn out...There is almost nothing that co ’them the wav they want to be seen. Co-dependents dependents do not try to control: (p 57). are always trying to be ‘good’ persons, and they actually believe they.can control others’ perceptions." (p. 48). U nder “ Feelings”' she says thar cv-dependents ex Impression Management is about being an actor in perience being out of touch with and distorting their • one s pwn life—and the consequence of impression feelings: “Co-dependents cannot do what they want management is lack of intimacy: deep loneliness, a to do because they have grown so out of touch with feeling of invisibility, a sense of never being able to do their feelings: that they cannot determine whaf it is enough to gain the approval so frantically sought. She they even want.:.Since co-dependents have learned discusses the situation of the' client who “did not only acceptable’ feelings can be felt, they have also really believe or experience that she existed.” (p. 4 8 ) .1 learned ty distort feelings...when feelings are repres should say that “Impression Management” was un sed and distorted; resentment, anger, and depression familiar to me only jn name: I am painfully familiar build up and then tend to find expression in devious with its course and consequence—as with the other •ways that frighten and confuse |the) co-dependents dimensions of this process. • and the persons around them... For example, if co dependents want to see themselves as kind; loving Under her “Caretaking” category, Schaef includes pe rsons and yet inwardk resent the drinking and/or “Making Yourself Indispensible,” and “Being a • addictive behavior (o f others) they are caught in a sell- Martyr.” How many women do you know who have cemercd bind...In order to maintain that self-image, made a lifetime’s work out of these two! I know more they will distort their feelings o f anger into self- thanl caii count—and I am one of them. Earlv in her righteousness.” i p. 58). % discussion, Schaef mentions that co-dependence is ■ O ther characteristics she disc usses include "Di<* properly termed a disease process because it shares honesty” -under which she includes denial, projection these characteristics of disease: onset, definable and delusion; 'Being Central”; “Gullibility*; and course, and predictable outcome. "W e now know that "Loss of Morality." This last includes- d ish o n estt co-dependence resultsin such physical complications neglect of self and those one is responsible to such as as gastrointestinal problems, ulcers; high blood pres dependent children and' others we love, which she sure, and even cancer," she savs' (p. 61- In’ my Identifies .as “spiritual deterioration" “You cannot Mama Bears News A Notes/Juna-July 13 recover from this disease, I believe, without recon addictive system, find persons with whom we can necting with your spirituality.” (p. 62). The last MAUDE CHURCH develop co-dependent-relationships, and perpetuate category of major characteristics which she discusses the system by passing its characteristics oh to our ofT- NEW PAINTINGS is “ Fear, Rigidity, Judgm ental ism,” and she indicates spring.” (p. 68). She does not include the women’s & OIL PASTELS that fear leads to rigidity, and rigidity leads to judg- community and its institutions as an example of our mentalism: “As co-dependents experience failing JUNE 17-JULY 22 ollspring, alas, but she does give us a way-to think self-esteem, an inability to control the world, and about them as such. It should be evident to all of us RECEPTION: SATURDAY confusion, they become progressively judgmental of JUNE 21: 3 -6 p.m. that patterns of social interaction learned in the in others. JudgmentaJism is so inherent in ouf svstem music by W. Dithrich on synthasizar stitutions we experience early In our lives will.be that we often fail to see it as the disease process that it transferred to those we generate and/or join later. The is. However, when we look more closely at what it women s Community is composed of .women who does to people who are judgmental (it leads to grew to adulthood in America; as American women, BAY BRICK INN physical illness, alienation, unhappiness, and bitter we will of necessity bring American characteristics 1190 FOLSOM SAN FRANCISCO HRS: 5 p.m .-2 a.m. ness), it is easy to see that ju d g m e n ta lism is indeed (addictive process characteristics, if SchaePs argu INFORMATION: 547-5030 pan of a disease process. ment is valid) to our own institutions, creating a space In her discussion of “triggers,” she describes how that will maintain.and reinforce our co-dependency. indulging in the characteristics of the addictive pro How-we can recover from our addiction to co- cess “triggers” the disease, essentially causing a new dependency is the subject of this valuable little book. flare-ujJ. At first, individuals don’t know they are in It s analysis and hopeful treatment of our situation the midst of a disease process, but as they enter re provides us with at least beginning possibilities- of covery they have periods in which they are free of the healing ourselves and our community— enabling it disease, a state she characterizes as “ being clear.” She and ourselves to make a system shift from the haS discovered that recover)' entails a “systems shift,” addictive process to the life process. ‘ , a movement from the addictive system of co- This is a useful book— particularly- if read in con dependencv to “a living process system.” (p. 64). She junction with Another Chance (Sharon Wegschieder, says that she and her trainees have developed a list of $ 1 4 . 9 5 , Out From L'nder (Jean Swallow, $8.95 ) and some one.hundred behaviors that generally push re lor Your Own Good { Alice Miller, $8.95). One wishes covering persons, back into co-dependence and the everyone had already read them, had already begun disease process” (p. 64) and then lists several, in- to struggle up the long hard [but singularly empower- • eluding dishonesty,' controlling and manipulating, ing) path to recover)'. Co-Dependence: Misunderstood blaming, comparisons, and dualistic thinking. Her and Mistreated is a book to be studied, put to use, and brief discussion gives a reader some sense of how kept in mind on “Iraught” occasions. It is surelv a engaging in co-dependent behaviors or falling into .deeply spiritual book— though perhaps not easily co-dependent ways of thinking restimulate the dis -seen as such- because it wears no incense and incor ease and slow the process of system shift necessary for porates no prayers,, rituals, or evocations of goddes full recover)1. What’s hopeful here is that she shows ses. it js a spiritual handbook nonetheless, because it how. recovery is possible; I think many of us have empowers women to build lives and communities deeply believed that it is not (whether we acknowledge based on real life and connection to real people (each that fear consciously or not). other), lives based in compassion, integrity and In chapter 5 Schaef discusses the major charac honesty ol a self-responsible kind. And what could be teristics of addictive process inUTeir cultural context, more pote ntially whole and spiri(^invoking than a focussing on the faniiKi the school and the church as reality sandwich such as SchaePs discussion oftefs— major institutions that-establish and maintain the caringly and kiio.wledgebly prepared and inteljigentlv addictive process. She also examines “how these digested.’ institutions form us into people who will lit into an bv Paula Cunn Allen "...despite oi±r best intentions, means of perpetuatingoppres- our interactions with each other s io n ." v misfired much more often than T h e p re m is e is t(iat becau se not, we attacked each other far there are no other definitions of more vehemently than we(ever ethics to work from, we lesbians dared to attack men, and gen are still trying to use the tradition "lesbian Ethics/Particle by Sara erally we were doing each al ones, with perhaps some adap Hoagland (April/May Lesbian In o th e r in. tations, to fulfill our needs for. c iter, fri-.s o . It seemed to me that the.de some context for making "good" I have been thinking a lot about structiveness of our inter decisions and "right" actions. W e ethics in the last couple of year*: actions resulted partly because also use traditional ethics in our business ethics, personal ethics, o f o u r lack o f aw areness of h o w attempts to control others' de relationship ethics. W hen my we use our survival skills and cisions and actions. I agree with mother said recently that I am partly because of our depen Ms. Hoagland that these are not "rock hard ethical,” I.was sur dency on traditional anglor the highest forms that we are p rise d tth a t s h e s a w m e so cle a rly) european ethical values to capable of. and pleased/proud to be named . structure'our judgements about T h e article, wfoich is th e first and in that way. Sarah Lucia Hoag- ttow to interact with each introductory installment in a land's article "Lesbian Ethics" in o t h e r." series, and is takeh from a manu Th e Lesbian Inciter was; for me, Sarah methodically goes back script (for a book?) titled Lesbian one of those times when ju^t the and looks-at what ethics has Ethics: Toward a New Valuation, right information came along at meant in the heterosexual world, has captured my interest. I appre- just the right moment. which has served to fornrthe ciate.the way the information is O ne important aspect of this basis ofour own Lesbian brand of presented clearly and lovingly; I article is the analysis of what has e thics: am excited by the visionary happened to us as a community; ‘The focus and direction of quality to-it. where we have succeeded and tra d itio n a l e thics, in d e e d its "M y sense here is that with an where we have failed. Ms. Jhoag- function, has not been indi- * ethics which functions to pre land suggests that in the early vid u a l Amoral a g e n cy a n d in serve individual integrity, com years of the W om en's liberation tegrity but rather social organ munity interaction will be Movement in this-country, we ization and social control. more a matter of mutuality, of ' were successful in forming a com the foundation of traditional sharing, of taking each com munity as we— with our enthu e thics is d o m in a n c e a n d s u b - munity m em ber seriously, of siasm and love for each other and ' mission rather than autonomy po^er as ability through cen- our own woman-selves— found or self-centering. teredness and connection new ways of relating.to each traditional ethic* undep^ rather than dominance and other, our work and our play. W e mines rather than promotes in control..." came together and got things dividual moral agency and in la n e Sipe going: women's bookstores, wo- tegrity. • * You can also read essays and nien's.music, wom en's press, etc articles by Sarah Hoagland in the No soohier did we get things roll- this combines to legitimate Lesbian Ethics quarterlies on the ingthan we.began to experience oppression by redefining it as » stands at Mama Bears now! the falling apartfrom the inside of s o c i a l organization. Thus tradi $ 4 5 0 . what, we had created. tional ethics becomes one 14 Mama Bears News & Notes/June-July Raven’s Road Allie never wondered about the arrangement She Come shop at: C on’t from page 3 accepted it just as she accepted Bee’s refusal to let J^NET SCOLL eves, like putting her eyes behind dark glasses. She Allie make love to hfr. She seldom understood what went on in white people’s heads, and never expected The Backyard was barely 18, and while she had a lot o f experience in ELECTRIC herself to: Sometimes the others would gossip, and Market war, and some experience in sex from hooking and she would listen. That was part of her life, she cruising and hanging out, she didn't have any at all in thought to listen and learn. Watch and wait that was An outdoor market providing loving women. She looked at her hands, wondered if what the old women had said, and so she did. They space for craftswomen, they \yere weak. talked about how the Captain protected them from women vendors and women She felt the burning in her crotch that knit h to her discovery for being gay girls, how she had . such a entrepreneurs to sell belly as though they were one organ, a limb ora heart, special position in the service because she worked on their wares. a head. And as she sat, and answered to what was the development and staffing of the computers, asked, and grew more and more tense, more and Th .-Sat.'12-6 because she kept her private life private and only took 3911 Telegraph more langorous with her inward heat, dully pulsing with wine and desire, feeling her throat thickening, lovers she could trust In a way she was like a Oakland for godmother to them, and most of them had a real !,«y information her voice deepening, hearing her breath wing its way crush on her. She was mentor, protector and com ..fip* and booth past her nostrils. Captain Brandon leaned forward, 236 - 5876 : reservations took hold of Allie’s wrist, looked for some time mander, and they giggled and gossiped endlessly call Suzanne appraisii^ly into her eyes. Then nodded briskly, about how women in uniforms turned them on. UC. #439559 ! SomeoFth^jn expected to get married after the war, « 6 5 5 -2 5 0 8 some question asked and answered in that moment but whlleThey were in uniform they saw no harm in juuuuuuuuuuuu u j j j j j j l She stood, and drawing Allie to her, until th.eir breasts touched, until their breasts fell into the softness of playing around, as they put it In,fact they preferred each other. Then slowjv, deliberately, the Captain being part of what they named “The Queen Bee’s kissed Allie, and that was all there was to it, and just Hive,” rather than dating the dreary procession of like1 that, swiftly and silendy as a deer pauses a officers or enlisted men who tried to make it with moment then vanishes into the bush, Allie was taken them. As Ruby, a muscular blond with untameable bv the twilight world, m ade a citizen o f it, an outcast hair and a mouth to match phrased it ‘‘at least spit who forever would belong to wilderness, and there ain’t p o te n t” would'be at home. When the war ended, Allie considered re-enlisting. They had stories about it, the Indian people. Some She didn’t want to lose her circle of friends, the first of them, not her tribe, But her friends, had told her she’d known since leaving OklahonVa, and she didn’t . about Deer Woman, how she would'corrfe to a dance, want to lose the noticably more comfortable life she so beautiful, so enchanting. She would choose you to had enjoyed for over a year. T he idea o f going back to dance with,.circling the drum slowly, circling, circling no hope-at home, or to drifting through the civilian in the light that blazed darkly from the tall fires that white world filled her-with fear. She didn’t know what ringed the dance ground; she would dance with you, > -she would do, out there, without a uniform, a ready . .. her elbow just touching yours, her shawl spread care- made social group,, an income. And there was her . fully around her shoulders and'arms, held with dream, her knowledge—whatever you called it She , . ^FISHER'S^ breathtaking perfect precision over her cocked right knew she was in this world for some particular work, arm, torso rftaking just the right sidward bow, tiny that she Ijad a clear road to walk, though she didn’t ■^Custom Design steps perfect in their knowing of the drum. She woj£i have m uch o f an idea o f what it m ight be. Bu.t she dance you, dance into you, IfcWing your gaze with suspected it had something to-do with .being a les her eyes, for if your eyes looke^ldown at her feet you bian, and with the new technology that was being Tues.-Sat H:00-5:30 ^ ' / would see her hooves and the spell would be broken. >1488 ScUte/Avei**" developed here, in the army. And she was sure that on And after a time she would incline her'head ,1 say, vBertefey,,; Q lifp rn ia the outside she would have no chance of being even 524 0400 perhaps, come,.and you would follow. Away from the remotely associated with any of it. fire and the dancing, into the brush, into the night. If she was lucky, she figured she coul,d be a waitress, And you would oot return, or if you did, it would be as m aybe find work in an office as a file clerk, m aybe in a som ebodv else. hospital or nursing home emptying bed pans and scrubbing floors. The prospects didn’t seem attrac- • tive. She couftl return to prostitution,, but after the The woman undressed Allie slowly, shifting her past year she felt slighdy sick when she thought o f it It gaze from Allie’s breasts, belly, the dark thin brush of wasn’t because she had developed a case of Christian hair beneath it to her eyes. She held Allie frozen with morality, bur because she had developed her pre- them; looking at her intently, as though commanding >viously unrealized but always present under the her to rem ain still for .this deliberate unclothing. She surface, luflting there like brightly colored fish lurk in knelt to draw Allie’s panties down her legs, gesturing the shadowy cool of a deep lake, unseen, but there, for her to lift her feet, one, then the other, and when love for wom en, for a wom an, for herself as a wom an, the panties were free. Bee tossed them aside and as a sweet warm pulsing cunt longing, reaching, stodd, a foot or so away, and looked Allie up and tasting nipples, glossy hair and skin, eves that could down as though she was reporting for roll call before watth the intense face of a woman fingering her deep LES&IAN and WOMYN’S dawn. inside, of a womans’ buried face between her thighs. IMAGERY But her lips were slighdy parted, her skin was That knowing, surging glee, desire, joy and life- OVER 90 DESIGNS slightly m oist Allie could hear her breathing, see her . affirming power that burst into flame within when (catalogue $ 2) chest.rise and fall beneath the stiffly starched blouse. 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You long to act,, to create, to “ Elaine Blake, 1986 • healings - ( •spirit-path coaching N a n c yK death need not be an end but a transformation: A C o n ’t from page 9 curious thought and an enlightening one for many of 6 5 5 -6 0 9 5 We .can assume answers but I speculate that our as us.' Most of all, we see a woman who, in the face of sumptions will barely skim the surface. I also wonder death, can give herself over to living. No longer is she what .impact living Ln Berkeley, ihe disability “m ecca” afraid to feel the freedom of.the unknown. She is even of the country' (if not the world; had on Kaye (a fairly readv to relinquish control of her wheelchair so that .new resident): An impact'which might have facilitated she could be tilted back and pushed through a field of self-permission to explore her spiritual dimension! grass, stretching out her arms and feeling her body Perhaps these questions couldn’t be answered by glide through wind, for the first tim e in her life, anyone. 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