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Dr. MD Hubers Author Note Master Thesis Investigating Nonviolent Communication Skills as a Tool for Managing Anxiety and Attributional Confidence to Foster Effective Communication in Difficult Interpersonal Encounters 22.10.2020 Word count: 12575 Supervisor: Prof. Dr. R. E. de Vries 2nd Supervisor: Dr. M. D. Hubers Author Note Ly Lutter, s1479148, Faculty of Behavioural, Management and Social Sciences, University of Twente, P.O. Box 217, 7500 AE Enschede, The Netherlands. Phone: +4915752666166 Fax: +31 53 489 2849; E-mail: [email protected] NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION IN DIFFICULT ENCOUNTERS Content Acknowledgements ......................................................................................................................................................... 4 Summary .............................................................................................................................................................................. 5 Problem statement ...................................................................................................................................................... 6 Literature review .............................................................................................................................................................. 9 Effective communication ....................................................................................................................................... 10 Nonviolent communication .................................................................................................................................. 10 Anxiety and attributional confidence ............................................................................................................... 13 Difficult Interpersonal Encounters .................................................................................................................... 16 Dishonesty as a nightmare trait. .................................................................................................................... 17 Carelessness as a nightmare trait. ................................................................................................................ 19 This study ..................................................................................................................................................................... 22 Method ............................................................................................................................................................................... 24 Participants ................................................................................................................................................................. 24 Instruments ................................................................................................................................................................. 26 Questionnaires. ..................................................................................................................................................... 26 Vignettes. ................................................................................................................................................................. 28 Procedure ..................................................................................................................................................................... 29 Data analysis ............................................................................................................................................................... 29 Results ................................................................................................................................................................................ 30 Group differences in nonviolent communication ........................................................................................ 30 Determining the direct relations between the study variables ............................................................. 30 Determining the mediation effect of anxiety management and attributional confidence ......... 34 Determining the influence of carelessness and dishonesty on the relation between nonviolent communication skills and anxiety ..................................................................................................................... 35 Determining the influence of carelessness and dishonesty on the relation between nonviolent communication skills and attributional confidence ................................................................................... 36 Determining the effectiveness of NVC skills for managing anxiety and attributional confidence at presence of carelessness and dishonesty .................................................................................................. 36 Additional moderated regression analysis .................................................................................................... 40 Discussion ......................................................................................................................................................................... 42 Perceived communication effectiveness ......................................................................................................... 43 Nonviolent communication effectiveness at presence of carelessness .............................................. 45 Nonviolent communication effectiveness at presence of dishonesty ................................................. 46 Scientific and practical implications ................................................................................................................. 48 Limitations................................................................................................................................................................... 49 Future research ......................................................................................................................................................... 50 Conclusion ........................................................................................................................................................................ 51 References ........................................................................................................................................................................ 53 2 NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION IN DIFFICULT ENCOUNTERS Appendix A ....................................................................................................................................................................... 60 Adjusted scales of the interpersonal reactivity index ............................................................................... 60 Perspective taking scale. ................................................................................................................................... 60 Empathic concern scale. .................................................................................................................................... 60 Personal distress scale. ...................................................................................................................................... 60 Appendix B ....................................................................................................................................................................... 61 Vignettes ....................................................................................................................................................................... 61 Vignette 1: Robin. ................................................................................................................................................. 61 Vignette 2: Taylor. ............................................................................................................................................... 62 Vignette 3: Sam. .................................................................................................................................................... 63 Vignette 4: Cameron. .......................................................................................................................................... 64 Appendix C ....................................................................................................................................................................... 66 Manipulated sentences in vignettes per personality dimension and facet ...................................... 66 3 NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION IN DIFFICULT ENCOUNTERS Acknowledgements Starting this master programme was one of the best, most exciting and challenging choices I have made. For making this journey such a rich and colourful experience, I would first like to thank my supervisor Prof. R. E. de Vries for giving me the freedom to indulge in the field of psychology by doing research on nonviolent communication and the dark side of personality. I am deeply grateful to be able to contribute to the understanding of peaceful communication. Further, I am extremely grateful for your constant support, patience, and your open mind, and most of all, for providing me with profound and actionable feedback, teaching me aspects I still had to learn. I would also like to thank Dr. Mireille D. Hubers. Your concise and invaluable feedback pushed me to sharpen my thinking and brought my work to a higher level. Further, I would like to
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