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Please fill out the above information, tear off and mail to: Magnet Programs, 415 89th Street - 5th Floor, Brooklyn, NY 11209 Queens Family October 2012 Features 6 Harvest & Halloween celebrations By Denise Morrison Yearian 8 Becoming a better stepmother Five tips for success on the stepmom journey By Gayla Grace 10 Circumcision: Small cut, big decision The health benefits of male infant circumcision By Kiki Bochi 12 Fear & safety The best way to acknowledge dangers to promote safer habits for kids By Meagan J. Meehan 14 Getting organized Mastering the daunting challenge of a busy new school year By Jenny Grace Torgerson 20 Finding the upside of parenting teens Seeing the joy and savoring this phase amid the challenges By Michele Ranard, MEd 22 Real world math How to use tangible tools for teen math success By Heather Shanks 30 Teens and dishonesty Eye-opening truths parents need to hear By Michele Ranard, MEd 30 32 Teenage smoking Six helpful tips for parents trying to prevent teens from taking up a bad habit columns 34 Beach treat 18 Dear Dr. Karyn Family fun grows up at Beaches Turks and Caicos By Dr. Karyn Gordon By Stacey Zable 36 Mommy 101 37 Buck up! By Angelica Seradova Study shows good posture makes you tougher By Kiki Bochi 38 The Book Worm By Terri Schlichenmeyer 42 Visiting the gynecologist What your daughter can expect on her first trip 39 Healthy Living By Jamie Lober by Danielle Sullivan 40 Divorce & Separation calendar By Lee Chabin, Esq. 46 October Events 44 Dear Teacher by Peggy Gisler and Marge Eberts special sections 45 Growing Up Online 24 High Schools Directory by Carolyn Jabs 52 The Marketplace 54 New & Noteworthy 12 53 Party Planners By Lisa J. Curtis
October 2012 • Queens Family 3 Letter from the publisher Teen awareness hen my daugh- to 13 really changes so have often wondered, but I have the In this October Issue we do a focus ter became much. There were cer- answer. on teens and there is ample reason Wa teenager it tain friends of hers that In cultures where childhood ends why. Teens present very real prob- seemed as if she was pos- stayed sweet and obedi- early and adult responsibilities like lems and struggles, both for them- sessed with a new inter- ent, but not many. Most work and children take over, there is selves and for their parents too. Sex, nal structure. Gone was of them turned into typi- no opportunity for the teen phenome- smoking, drugs, cutting classes, lying, the sweet, mostly com- cal teen “club members.” non that seems to have largely begun eating disorders, and a possible drop pliant, cuddly, good girl, They dressed alike and here in the US in the 20th Century, as in grades are some of the new issues and replacing her was a often moved in a pack our society formed protective labor that parents may have to deal with. person with much more wherever they could con- laws and unions. With no demanding It’s a foolish parent who doesn’t think cunning. Not a bad girl by gregate. It’s not easy to need to send our children out to work, their kid is possibly going to need any means, but a different tempera- find places to “hang out,” especially they were free to develop in other so- some special attention. ment and a more personal agenda. in the winter, and since teens seldom cial ways and to become this newly I hope these articles will be inter- Her friends seemed to matter wear sensible things like hats and named teenage demographic. esting and helpful. Thanks for read- more than ever and our relation- gloves, they were usually freezing and Me too, I was the same. I wore club ing. ship went through a definite change. coming down with colds. jackets and followed the boys in a I began to be somewhat excluded What happens when that magic pack with my girlfriends, and whereas from her plans, and instead of being birthday is reached? What force todays teens text each other, in my the director, I morphed into being reaches inside of them and alters day we “hung” on the corner or talked her personal chauffeur, driving her their inherent nature and turns them on the phone for hours. The boy thing back and forth from our house to her into teens? hits almost all girls at the same time Susan Weiss-Voskidis, various friends and hangouts. Is it hormones? Does it happen in and puberty’s an amazingly scary ex- Publisher/Excutive Editor It’s odd how that change from 12 other cultures too, or only in ours? I perience sometimes. [email protected]
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October 2012 • Queens Family 5 ACTIVITIES Harvest & Halloween celebrations BY DENISE MORRISON YEARIAN
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Melt a you can move on to the next s " R O O M BALL 0URCHASE HALF 14-ounce package of caramel can- Soon activity. sized brooms for each party guest dies with two tablespoons of water. s "LACK CAT CANDY JAR and two different colors of sea- Have children dip and swirl their Place black electrical tape sonal garland. Decorate half of the apple balls in caramel, then roll in over the sharp edges of a tin brooms with one color of garland crushed Oreo cookies, nuts, sprin- can. Cover the can with black con- and the remaining half with the kles, nonpareils, or mini-chocolate struction paper and glue in place. other garland to specify teams. Es- chips. Place on waxed paper to Glue two wiggly eyes to the can, tablish goals at opposite ends of cool for 15 minutes. then use a thin paintbrush and resemble a pumpkin stem. the yard, and divide the children s 0 U M P K I N PANCAKES -IX DRY white paint to draw a mouth, nose, s 0 U M P K I N NOISEMAKERS 0AINT A into teams. Place a kickball in the ingredients: one cup flour, one and whiskers. Draw and cut out a 12- by half-inch dowel rod black; let center of the yard, then give each tablespoon sugar, two teaspoons black tail shape and two triangular- dry. Trace and cut out two leaves child a broom to sweep the ball to baking soda, one-quarter tea- shaped ears. Cut two smaller trian- using green craft foam, then cut his team’s goal. The first team to spoon salt, and one-half teaspoon gles from pink paper for the insides a small slit in the center of each score five goals wins. CINNAMON 3ET ASIDE 3EPARATE TWO of the ears; glue to black triangles. leaf. Draw a face onto the bottom s 2ING AROUND THE PUMPKIN eggs. Mix yolks with half a cup s NEWBORN YRS Glue ears to the top inside edge of side of an orange paper plate with Place three large pumpkins with of plain pumpkin puree, one cup the can and the tail to the back side a black permanent marker. Line up stems in a line several feet apart. milk, and two tablespoons canola s AGE SPECIFIC CLASSROOMS of the can. Fill with treats. the face plate with a second orange Gather four hula hoops. To play, OIL !DD DRY INGREDIENTS "EAT s PART TIME FULL TIME OPTIONS s *ACK O LANTERN POTS "UY VARI- plate, rims together and bottoms children should take turns stand- egg whites until fluffy, then fold ous-sized terracotta pots and turn facing out. Use a hole punch to cre- ing behind the designated tossing into the batter. Pour one-quar- LEARNING THROUGH STIMULATED them upside down so the drainage ate holes one-inch apart around line and try to ring the pumpkins ter cup of batter onto a greased hole is facing up. On yellow con- the perimeter of both plates. Place with the hula hoop. The child with griddle; flip when bubbles form PLAY MUSIC DANCE DISCOVERY struction paper, draw and cut out DRIED BEANS AND SMALL JINGLE BELLS the most rings wins. on top. Kids can make jack-o- two eyes, a nose, and a toothy grin between the two plates. Also put s 3CARECROW RELAY 3EPARATE CHIL- lantern faces using raisins, dried #ALL FOR MORE INFORMATION REGISTRATION — the wackier the better. Apply the dowel between the plates, mov- dren into two teams. Choose one fruit, nuts, chocolate chips, and Mod-podge with a paintbrush ing a short end of the stick above child from each team to be the whipped cream. under and over the facial features, the facial features to represent the scarecrow. Place scarecrows at one Denise Morrison Yearian is the for- TH !VENUE "AYSIDE then attach them to the pot. Place a pumpkin stem and a long end below end of the room, along with hay and mer editor of two parenting magazines short, wide stick out of the hole to for the handle. Sew plates together oversized scarecrow-type clothing and the mother of three children. WWWLITTLEAPPLEPRESCHOOLCOM
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October 2012 • Queens Family 9 HEALTH Circumcision Small cut, big decision BY KIKI BOCHI percent of newborn boys in 1980 to of urinary tract infections in the first The health around 55 percent to 58 percent in year of life. o circumcise or not to circum- 2010, according to the U.S. Centers Recently, a team of Johns Hop- benefits of cise? If you are the parent of for Disease Control and Prevention. kins University disease experts and T a baby boy — or expecting Some parents are opposed to cir- health economists warned that that to be one soon — this little question cumcision, viewing it as mutilation. steadily declining rates of U.S. infant male infant can be a huge issue. For some parents, such as Hispanics, male circumcision could add more The American Academy of Pediat- it is not part of their culture. But others than $4.4 billion in avoidable health- rics recently issued a statement say- who are ambivalent or uncertain may care costs over the next decade. In a circumcision ing new scientific evidence shows have turned away from the practice report published in the Archives of that the health benefits of newborn because some insurance and public Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine, male circumcision outweigh the health programs are declining to pay it said the added expense stems from risks of the procedure, but the ben- for the procedure. Eighteen states, in- new cases and higher rates of sexu- efits are not great enough for them cluding Florida, have stopped paying ally transmitted infections and re- to recommend routine circumcision for circumcision under Medicaid, the lated cancers among uncircumcised for all newborn boys. state-federal health program for the men and their female partners. In other words, parents should poor. The American Academy of Pe- Already, the decline in circumci- decide. diatrics believes the health benefits sion rates has cost upwards of $2 Hospitals once circumcised new- are great enough that infant male billion, it said. born boys routinely, but the practice circumcision should be covered by “Our economic evidence is back- is becoming less and less common insurance, which would increase ac- ing up what our medical evidence has in the United States. While it is rou- cess to the procedure for families already shown to be perfectly clear,” tinely done for religious and cultural who choose it. health epidemiologist and patholo- reasons among groups such as Jews “Ultimately, this is a decision that gist Aaron Tobian, MD, said when and Muslims, the overall numbers parents will have to make,” Susan the study was released. “There are have dropped — from around 79 Blank, MD, chair of the task force health benefits to infant male circum- that authored the Academy policy cision in guarding against illness and statement, said when it was released. disease, and declining male circumci- “Parents are entitled to medically ac- sion rates come at a severe price, not curate and non-biased information just in human suffering, but in billions about circumcision, and they should of healthcare dollars as well.” weigh this medical information in The medical data shows that the the context of their own religious, procedure is safest and offers the most ethical, and cultural beliefs.” health benefits if performed during the The issue arises every few years. newborn period. The Academy policy The last time the organization of pe- recommends infant circumcision be diatricians tackled the question was performed by trained and competent in 2005, and before that in 1999. providers, using sterile techniques Since the last policy was published, and effective pain management. Par- scientific research has shown clearer ents who are considering newborn health benefits to the procedure than circumcision should speak with their had previously been demonstrated, child’s doctor about the benefits and the Academy says. According to a risks of the procedure, and discuss systematic and critical review of the who will perform the circumcision. scientific literature, the health ben- It’s a good idea to have this con- efits of circumcision include lower versation during pregnancy, and to risks of acquiring HIV, genital herpes, learn whether your insurance will human papilloma virus, and syphilis. cover the procedure, so you have Circumcision also lowers the risk of time to make the decision. penile cancer over a lifetime, reduces KiKi Bochi is the mother of two and the risk of cervical cancer in female an award-winning writer and editor who sexual partners, and lowers the risk specializes in family topics.
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As a col- As the first Catholic high school Empowering Young Women lege preparatory school, we have Through Education Since 1905 s Wide selection of electives such as American for boys in Queens, Holy Cross Sign Language, Forensic Science & Astronomy, educated generations of young High School has been educating Broadcasting & Journalism, Fashion Design, women to meet their scholastic the minds and hearts of young Digital Photography and more! potential. men since 1955. Sponsored by s Great Sports Program: Basketball, La Crosse We offer a number of Honors and the Congregation of Holy Cross, Soccer, Softball, and Volleyball. AP courses as well as Medical, Law, founder of Notre Dame University, s Various extracurricular activities: Student and Business programs. Students Holy Cross High School is commit- Council, Newspaper, Marching Band, Travel & in these programs are places as ted to providing challenging aca- Culture Club, Dance Club, Drama, and more! interns in institutions such as Lenox demic programs within the context s Centrally located in the heart of Manhattan’s Hill Hospital, Mount Sinai Medical of a vibrant spiritual atmosphere Come and explore all that Center and at prestigious New York rooted in Gospel values. Our small Cathedral has to offer you! East Side. Our school is just blocks away from the 4, 5, 6, E, M, N, & R trains and most buses. law firms. size and caring faculty provide a OPEN HOUSE s Academic scholarships are awarded annually We offer a very competitive tuition safe environment where each stu- Sunday, October 21, 2012 incoming qualifying freshmen. and our graduates earn millions of dent is treated as an individual. This personalized approach focuses on 12-3PM s The Class of 2012 earned over $10 million in dollars in college scholarships and th 350 East 56 Street, New York, NY 10022 college scholarships and grants and will be grants. They go on to colleges such the academic, physical, emotional 212-688-1545 attending schools such as Vassar College, as Colombia, Fordham, NYU, Yale and spiritual well being of each of www.cathedral.org Wesleyan University, University of Miami, and and many more. our students. Accredited by the Middle States Association of Colleges & Schools College of the Holy Cross. We offer a full college-preparatory curriculum and over 98% of our Catherine McAuley graduates continue their education High School C A T H E R I N E in colleges and universities across 710 East 37th Street, Brooklyn the country. The school’s nation- 718-462-7282 or www. ally recognized Service Learning mcauleybrooklyn.org Program encourages students McAULEYMcAULEYMcAULEYMcAULEYMcAULEYMcAULEY to develop skills of leadership, Celebrating the 10th anniversary of H I G H S C H O O L our BOARDING PROGRAM responsibility and compassion through service to the community. Nationally recognized by the The Religious Education Program U.S. Department of Education supplements classroom instruction Celebrating and sponsored by the Sisters of by providing school and class litur- Mercy, McAuley has met the needs gies, retreat programs, as well as the 10th of young women for 70 years. opportunities for the sacrament of Anniversary McAuley continues to serve the Reconciliation. Holy Cross offers a of our young women of today and is dedi- full interscholastic Athletic Program cated to preparing young women with teams competing in: Baseball, Boarding for life. Basketball, Bowling, Cross Country, Program! The school’s mission is to stimulate Football, Golf, Ice Hockey, Soccer, students academically, develop Tennis and Track (Indoor and good moral character, awaken inner Outdoor). There is also a full intra- “Preparing Women, strength, provide self-awareness mural program that is run through- and offer social and athletic experi- out the year. Producing Leaders: ences. Over 98% of McAuley’s graduates The Kew Forest Education For Life” go to college, many on scholarship. Fall 2012 Open House Dates Graduates have been accepted to School Thursday, October 18th 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm Adelphi, Georgian Court, Hampton, 119-17 Union Turnpike in Forest Wednesday, November 7nd 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm Hofstra, Iona, Johnson & Wales, Hills, Queens NYU, Notre Dame, Pace, Penn State, 718-268-4667 extension 125 or Call: 718-462-7282 Polytechnic, Spellman, St. John’s, www.kewforest.org Tour: 710 East 37th St. (Corner of Foster Avenue) Syracuse, Temple and Virginia State The Kew Forest School is one of Brooklyn, NY 11203-5600 University. Queen’s oldest and finest indepen- Visit: www.mcauleybrooklyn.org Preparing Women, Producing dent day schools. Since 1918, this OR Leaders: Education for Life - That’s co-ed, college preparatory institu- call to schedule a visit to McAuley at your convenience! McAuley! Continued on page 26 24 Queens Family • October 2012 Special Advertising Section
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Continued from page 24 advanced placement courses focus- OPEN tion has provided students from ing on her strengths and interests Kindergarten through grade 12 and leading to a Regents Diploma with an academically challenging with Advanced Designation. curriculum in a small, caring envi- SMARTBOARD Technology is used HOUSE ronment. Among its hallmarks are a throughout the school. Over 100 Sunday, diverse student body, small classes, computers are available for student a low student/teacher ratio and an use. October 14, 2012 outstanding record with college placements. There is a Lower (K-4), Guidance Counselors offer personal Doors Open at 12:30 pm and academic counseling begin- Presentations in the auditorium Middle (5-8) and Upper School (9-12). ning in Freshmen year. TMLA has a beginning at 1:00pm, 2:00pm & 3:00pm unique and extensive college pro- Kew Forest also offers a breakfast gram which focuses on acceptance ALL PROSPECTIVE STUDENTS AND program beginning at 7:30 a.m., to top level colleges and universi- THEIR PARENTS ARE WELCOME! and an After-School program. ties. The Class of 2009 received col- FOR MORE INFORMATION CONTACT lege scholarships totaling more than Mr Paul Gilvary, Director of Admissions $20 million. 718.886.7250 ext. 525 La Salle Academy 718.886.7257 (fax) 215 East 6th Street, Manhattan Student talents are developed and [email protected] 212-475-8940 or www. interests cultivated through partici- lasalleacademy.org pation in more than 50 extracur- 26-20 Francis Lewis Blvd La Salle Academy, founded in ricular clubs and activities. Flushing, NY 11358 1848, is the 3rd oldest Catholic www.holycrosshs.org high school in New York City. It has Monsignor McClancy Holy Cross was established in 1955 by the provided educational, spiritual and Brothers of Holy Cross as the first Catholic athletic excellence to young men for Memorial High School high school for boys in Queens. over 160 years. La Salle meets the 71-06 31st Avenue, Queens needs of those families that want 718-898-3800, ext 11 or www. to send their boys to an affordable, msgrmcclancy.org private, all-boys Catholic college Monsignor McClancy Memorial High preparatory school in NYC. School is one of the outstanding co Did you Know…LSA is the oldest –educational college preparatory continuously operating Lasallian high schools in Queens. Guided by School in the United States; the traditions of the Brothers of the LSA is recognized by the Middle Sacred Heart, students are offered L i k e u s o n States Association of Schools and a comprehensive academic program Colleges and accredited by the that exceeds the New York State U.S. Department of Education as curriculum requirements. a “Blue Ribbon National School of Opportunities are provided for Excellence.” The student/faculty college credit courses, AP classes ratio is 13:1, Average class size is as well as a challenging Honors 23, 65% of faculty and Staff hold Program. a Masters Degree or higher, LSA represents a variety of cultures, LSA The School’s co-curricular program has won 8 City Titles in Basketball of clubs and activities offers stu- or follow us on & 2 City Titles in Baseball. Over 8 dents the opportunity for social, alumni have excelled in professional cultural and creative experiences. sports from basketball, baseball, Msgr. McClancy’s athletic teams are soccer, & the Olympics. highly competitive and have their share of city titles. “The value of what you invest now will produce dividends when your Celebrating over 50 years of son graduates from high school.” Catholic education in Queens, McClancy is permanently chartered by the State of New York and fully Mary Louis Academy accredited by the Middle States 176021 Wexford Terrace, Association of Secondary Schools Jamaica Estates, Queens and Colleges. [TACHS CODE:#017] 718-297-2120 or www.tmla.org The Mary Louis woman is offered St. Francis an array of intellectually challenging courses that provide academic foun- Preparatory School Facebook Search: NYParenting dation. Each student develops her 6100 Francis Lewis Boulevard, program incorporating honors and Continued on page 28 26 Queens Family • October 2012 Special Advertising Section Educational Excellence Since 1848 La Salle Academy %AST TH 3TREET s .EW 9ORK .9 s OPEN HOUSE DiscoverDiscover thethe Leader Leader within within you. you. for Students & Families interested in Grades 9-12 DiscoverDiscoverDiscover thethe the LeaderLeader Leader within withinwithin you. you. you. 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Continued from page 26 National Honor Society, French ON PARENTING Queens and Spanish Honor Societies, 718-423-8810 or www. Ambassadors, softball, soccer, track, Currently, New York sfponline.org step team, as well as clubs in art St. Francis Preparatory School and photography, cooking, Latina Parenting Media is seeking knows that choosing a high school dance, public speaking, French, and can be difficult; for four years you Global Concern. a highly motivated full-time will learn new things, meet new Enrollment: 350. 100 percent of sales representative to sell friends and have new experiences. graduates attend college. Principal: At St. Francis Prep, new students Sister Maria Cassano, CND; tuition: advertising in our magazines have the opportunity to receive a 2012-2013 - $7,100, $500 fees; rich, well-rounded education. The information: (212)288-1645, ext. and digital properties. Join Prep is known for its excellence 134. Open House: Sunday, October our dynamic team and in learning, but it offers so much 21st, from 10:00 am to 1:00 pm. more. www.stjean.org. become a part of our family. St. Francis Prep is a Catholic college preparatory school in the Franciscan St. John’s Preparatory tradition. Its mission is to enable all School Requirements include: students to develop and broaden their spiritual, intellectual, creative, 21-21 Crescent St. Queens • Prior sales experiences emotional, social and physical abili- 718-721-7200 or www. ties. stjohnsprepschool.org (print and digital ad St. John’s Preparatory School was sales a plus) founded by the Vincentian Fathers St. Jean Baptiste High in Brooklyn in 1870. It is currently • Excellent written and School located in the residential com- 173 East 75th St., Manhattan munity of Astoria, Queens. The verbal communication 212-288-1645 or www.stjean. school building features large and skills org well equipped science laboratories, St. Jean Baptiste High School, a state-of-the-art computer labs, • The ability to develop Catholic girls’ school, was founded wireless capability, smart boards, a new business and grow by the Sisters of the Congregation well stocked library, a band room, of Notre Dame in 1929. The School art room, a magnificent auditorium, existing business is accredited by the Middle States beautiful chapel, spacious guidance Association of Secondary Schools. center, a large gymnasium, a fully- equipped weight room, an outdoor • Car and valid driver’s The school partners with St. track, and its own retreat center. license required Joseph’s College and student earn college credits in Writing, French St. John’s Prep seeks to fulfill its Literature and Spanish Literature. Mission by providing a vigorous Advanced Placement courses in academic education that prepares Our offi ce is located in English, social studies, math, science students for the challenges they will downtown Brooklyn, but and Spanish, as well as advanced meet in the 21st Century. Advanced science and math electives are Placement courses are offered in knowledge of the entire city offered. all subject areas. Students in the Honor Program take supplementary Students participate in programs courses in Latin and Art History. is essential. such as The Cornell Weill Medical Research Internship, the Futures and To ensure all students at the Prep Options Career Essential Program, are successful, courses are offered Please submit your resume the Cooper Union Summer Research on different levels of difficulty; to [email protected]. Institute in Science and Engineering, placement in the appropriate level is The Telluride Association Summer done on a subject by subject basis. Seminar at Indiana University, St. John’s Prep has a unique aca- the Hugh O’Brien Leadership demic affiliation with St. John’s Conference at Adelphi University. University. T All seniors participate in a full he Baccalaureate Program is a spe- day of service each week at local cial program that allows qualified hospitals, schools, soup kitchens, students at the Prep to complete senior centers, and other social their senior year of high school at service agencies, earning 140 hours the University. For eligible students throughout the school year. this is a great saving of time and Activities include Student Council, money. 28 Queens Family • October 2012 Special Advertising Section St. John’s Preparatory School Educating the Leaders of Tomorrow ST. FRANCIS PREPARATORY SCHOOL Nurturing Christian Environment
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Teens and dishonesty BY MICHELE RANARD, MED findings of Dr. Nancy Darling as about why kids are lying and what Eye-opening they deconstruct the science of — if anything — parents can do. arents often desire emo- teen rebellion in an eye-opening truths parents tional closeness with their chapter about lying. Why they lie P teens, which should culti- One of the most shocking statis- Darling, of Penn State University, need to hear vate honesty in their relationships. tics revealed is the sheer number studied high schoolers and learned But research shows that a shock- of teens who lie: 96 percent! that 96 percent of them hid the truth ingly high percent of teens lie, and Does that mean parents are mis- from their parents. What were they not always for the reasons you may judging the quality of the relation- lying about? She found that teens think. ship or love shared with their teen? lie about what they spend allow- In their 2009 book, “Nurture Probably not. ance on, whether their homework is Shock,” authors Po Bronson and To understand the discrepancy, done, whether they are dating, the Ashley Merryman summarize the we must understand a little more clothes they wear away from home,
30 Queens Family • October 2012 ents don’t care and don’t want the PARENTING Dr. Nancy Darling, of job of being a parent. It definitely ® does not pay to be permissive. TONY AWARDS Penn State University, WINNER! 5 Should you be studied high schoolers worried? For many parents who fear that and learned that 96 their already rebellious tweens will be more rebellious in their 7 REASONS percent of them hid teenage years, you may actually WHY YOU the truth from their not have to worry. Research in Bronson and Mer- parents. What were ryman’s book suggests that teens objecting to their parents’ author- MUST SEE they lying about? ity peaks at around age 14 to 15. What is shocking is that this need for autonomy is stronger at age 11 the movie they’re seeing, and with than at age 18! So if you’ve been whom they’re spending time. They thinking the high school years are also lie about drinking and drug the high-risk years, think again. use, what music they listen to, how Most parents get stressed out they spend afternoons, whether by arguing with their teens, but a party is being supervised, and Bronson and Merryman note that riding in a car driven by a drunk it appears that in families with teen. the least amount of lying, there is Are you thinking that your a higher ratio of arguing or com- honor student probably lies less? plaining. Why? Teens don’t neces- Well, it turns out that kids who lie sarily see arguing and fighting as don’t fall into one demographic harmful or destructive. — honor students, overscheduled The authors suggest the flip- kids — they all reported decep- side to arguing for many teens tion. Of 36 potential topics, the is lying! So, a teen can lie to the
average teen lies to his parents parent and then go do what he Entertainment about 12 of them. wants behind the parent’s back, 1. Weekly It’s got Bronson and Merryman report or argue — in his mind, negotiate says it’s 2. that: with his parent — and avoid lying. MOREthan any PIRATES show s 4E E N S REPORTED TELLING AN OUT- More than anything else, it seems “ABSURDLY on Broadway. right lie 25 percent of the time. to be most important to the teen s 4E E N S REPORTED AVOIDING THE how an argument gets resolved It’s an illegitimate ” 3. love child of topic 25 percent of the time. and whether he feels heard. FUNNY! s 4E E N S REPORTED SIMPLY WITH- MONTY PYTHON holding relevant details about 50 Encouraging It’s won and Peter Pan. percent of the time. honesty 4. Before her research, Darling ad- The research suggests teenag- mits that she believed kids prob- ers are destined to lie about some ably lied to avoid getting into trou- things, but there are some ways ® Teens and ble. So, she says, it was surprising parents can create a climate so TONY their teens lie about less. 5 to learn that the most common reason for the teens’ deception “The parents who are the most . was actually: “I’m trying to protect consistent in enforcing rules are the AWARDS the relationship with my parents; same parents who are most warm If you don’t, I don’t want them to be disap- and have the most conversations 5. pointed in me.” with their kids,” indicates Darling. THIS MERMAID They do love you. But in their Such parents set a few key rules (it’s will take her top off. dishonesty mind, loving you might mean pro- too unrealistic and impossible to en- tecting you — by lying. force 20 rules) and explain why the Have we mentioned it’s BY MICHELE RANARD, MED findings of Dr. Nancy Darling as about why kids are lying and what And Darling says she was sur- rules are in place. By doing so, these 6. Eye-opening they deconstruct the science of — if anything — parents can do. prised by the number of parents parents demonstrate flexibility. arents often desire emo- teen rebellion in an eye-opening with anxiety about pushing their This spirit of collaboration en- truths parents tional closeness with their chapter about lying. Why they lie kids into rebellion. courages teens not to lie. Extend ABSURDLY teens, which should culti- One of the most shocking statis- Darling, of Penn State University, “Many parents today believe the freedom to your teen so he can P You’ll love it need to hear vate honesty in their relationships. tics revealed is the sheer number studied high schoolers and learned best way to get teens to disclose is make his own decisions. Instead of ? 7. But research shows that a shock- of teens who lie: 96 percent! that 96 percent of them hid the truth to be more permissive and not set hiding 12 areas from you, he might FUNNY MORE THAN BREAD. ingly high percent of teens lie, and Does that mean parents are mis- from their parents. What were they outright rules,” she indicates. only be hiding as few as five. not always for the reasons you may judging the quality of the relation- lying about? She found that teens However, being permissive does Michele Ranard has a husband, two TICKETMASTER.COM t 877-250-2929 think. ship or love shared with their teen? lie about what they spend allow- not open the door to learning more teens, and a master’s in counseling. BROOKS ATKINSON THEATRE, 256 W. 47 ST. In their 2009 book, “Nurture Probably not. ance on, whether their homework is about a teen’s life! When parents Resources: Shock,” authors Po Bronson and To understand the discrepancy, done, whether they are dating, the lower their standards, teens inter- Bronson, Po and Merryman, Ashley. WWW.PETERANDTHESTARCATCHER.COM Ashley Merryman summarize the we must understand a little more clothes they wear away from home, pret the lack of rules to mean par- “NurtureShock.” Hachette, 2009.
October Ì ÊÓä£ÓÊUÊ 2012 • QueensXXXXX FamilyFAMILY 3113 HEALTH Teenage smoking
ccording to the Surgeon Gen- Six helpful tips eral’s 2012 report on “Pre- A venting Tobacco Use Among for parents Youth and Young Adults,” each day in the U.S., approximately 3,800 trying to young people under 18 years of age smoke their first cigarette. prevent teens The overwhelming majority of smokers, experts estimate approxi- mately 90 percent, started smoking from taking up before they were 18 years old. About 20 percent of American a bad habit teens smoke. One-third of smokers who began smoking as teens will die prema- turely due to a smoking-related ill- ness. According to Shahriyour Andaz, MD, FACS, lung cancer specialist and director of thoracic oncology at South Nassau Communities Hos- pital, it is important to proactively try to prevent teen smoking. Nicotine, one of the more than 4,000 chemicals in tobacco, is highly addictive. Among teens who do smoke, three out of four say they keep smoking because it’s really hard to quit. A nearly equal number say they wish they had never started smoking. “Someone who begins smoking as a young adolescent will have a far more difficult time quitting, can have more serious health prob- lems, and may die younger than a person who begins to smoke in adulthood. It’s important that par- ents and teachers do everything they can to dissuade teens and director of community education. Be a good role model: help them realize the health dan- “Add to that the fact that tobacco 1 Smoking is more common gers and negative effects of smok- companies spend billions of dol- among teens whose par- ing,” said Dr. Andaz. lars on cigarette and smokeless ents smoke. The earlier you can stop “Adolescents and young adults tobacco advertising, and it can be smoking, the less likely your teen are extremely vulnerable to social a true challenge for any parent to will become a smoker. A parent who and environmental influences pro- help their child stay tobacco-free.” successfully quits also provides an moting the use of tobacco,” notes Kearney offers the following pre- equally strong positive message. It’s Gina Kearney, RN, South Nassau’s vention tips for parents: not only a way to show your child
32 Queens Family • October 2012 HEALTH “Someone who begins smoking as a young adolescent will have a far more difficult time quitting, can have more serious health problems, and may die younger than a person Teenage who begins to smoke in adulthood.” how much you care about him, it other media depictions are not real also demonstrates that you under- and are misleading. The majority stand the challenge he faces. of actors who smoke in movies are Appeal to your teen’s non-smokers off the screen. Smok- 2 vanity: Since most teens ing does not add reality to the film believe they are invinci- — it generates revenue for the film smoking ble and will not die from cancer industry. or any other disease associated Become an expert on with tobacco use, parents should 5 smoking: Making the ccording to the Surgeon Gen- appeal to a teen’s vanity. Remind- case against smoking isn’t Six helpful tips eral’s 2012 report on “Pre- ing them that smoking makes their hard, but having a full grasp of all A venting Tobacco Use Among clothes, hair, and breath smell bad, the facts and using them in ways for parents Youth and Young Adults,” each day and that it can also turn their teeth that are relevant to your child is in the U.S., approximately 3,800 yellow and cause wrinkles, can be important. For example, discuss- trying to young people under 18 years of age extremely effective. ing how smoking affects a young smoke their first cigarette. Talk dollar and cents: smoker versus the health effects on prevent teens The overwhelming majority of 3 Teens are big consumers older smokers is more relevant. smokers, experts estimate approxi- and generally enjoy buy- Be a supporter and from taking up mately 90 percent, started smoking ing clothes or electronic gadgets 6 sounding board: Lectur- before they were 18 years old. with whatever money they have. ing and ultimatums do not About 20 percent of American Explaining the current high cost work; empathy and understanding a bad habit teens smoke. of tobacco products and the effect are the better options. It’s unlikely One-third of smokers who began it will have on their purchasing that your teen will find peers who smoking as teens will die prema- power can be a reality check. Do a will quit with him or with whom he turely due to a smoking-related ill- simple math problem — if the cost can even discuss quitting. ness. of cigarettes is $10 a pack and if “Parents are the single biggest According to Shahriyour Andaz, you smoke a pack a day, how much influence in the lives of their chil- MD, FACS, lung cancer specialist money will you spend in a year? In dren and it’s never too early to start and director of thoracic oncology 10 years? warning your kids against smoking at South Nassau Communities Hos- Discuss the glamoriza- and other forms of tobacco use. pital, it is important to proactively 4 tion of smoking: When It’s important to get into the habit try to prevent teen smoking. you see actors smoking of talking openly with your chil- Nicotine, one of the more than in TV or movies, or see ads fea- dren when they are younger. Eight 4,000 chemicals in tobacco, is turing adults smoking, discuss it percent of middle school students highly addictive. with your teenager. Make sure he are already cigarette smokers!,” Dr. Among teens who do smoke, understands that advertising and Andaz concludes. three out of four say they keep smoking because it’s really hard to quit. A nearly equal number say they wish they had never started Find out more... smoking. For more information, edu- s WWWCDCGOVTOBACCOTIP- “Someone who begins smoking cational tools, and preventive s4youth.htm as a young adolescent will have a assistance, Kearney recom- s WWWFDAGOVTOBACCOPROD- far more difficult time quitting, can mends: UCTSRESOURCESFORYOU have more serious health prob- s 4 H E 53 $EPARTMENT OF s ! M E R I C A N ,UNG !SSOCIA- lems, and may die younger than Health and Human Services, tion’s smoking cessation pro- a person who begins to smoke in National Cancer Institute’s gram Freedom From Smoking, adulthood. It’s important that par- “Quit Now TXT Program,” teen. ffsonline.org ents and teachers do everything smokefree.gov (a mobile sup- s . 9 3MOKERS 1UITLINE they can to dissuade teens and director of community education. Be a good role model: port, 24-7 assistance for quit- www.nysmokefree.com – (866) help them realize the health dan- “Add to that the fact that tobacco 1 Smoking is more common ting and social media pages, “a 697–8487 gers and negative effects of smok- companies spend billions of dol- among teens whose par- must for teens that truly speaks In addition, South Nassau pe- ing,” said Dr. Andaz. lars on cigarette and smokeless ents smoke. The earlier you can stop their language in a way they are riodically offers smoking cessa- “Adolescents and young adults tobacco advertising, and it can be smoking, the less likely your teen comfortable communicating,” tion classes. For more informa- are extremely vulnerable to social a true challenge for any parent to will become a smoker. A parent who she says); tion contact the Department of and environmental influences pro- help their child stay tobacco-free.” successfully quits also provides an s WWWNOTOBACCOORG Community Education at (516) moting the use of tobacco,” notes Kearney offers the following pre- equally strong positive message. It’s s WWWTOBACCOFREEORG 377–5333. Gina Kearney, RN, South Nassau’s vention tips for parents: not only a way to show your child
October 2012 • Queens Family 33 FAMILY TRAVEL Beach treat BY STACEY ZABLE virtually everything is Family fun included in the pack- he first time my family visited age rate. The resort is Beaches Turks and Caicos one that your family grows up T my girls were ages 3 and 6 can grow with, and is years old. Imagine how thrilled they ideal for multi-genera- were to mingle with such beloved tional family reunions at Beaches “Sesame Street” favorites such as where all ages can Big Bird, Elmo, and Zoe. Our return have fun doing what Turks and visit, when the girls were then 7 they love. The list of and 10, held equal excitement with included activities in the characters and the long list of the water and on land Caicos kid-friendly activities designed for is long, and even your the youngest guests. But when we picky-eaters will find made our third visit this August to something to please the all-inclusive beachfront resort, them with the resort’s I wondered if Beaches Turks and 16 restaurants. Caicos could deliver for my now “so- The resort offers an extensive Families with young kids will be phisticated” tween and teen, ages 10 children’s program divided by age delighted by all the “Sesame Street” and 13. group from newborn to age 17. Dedi- specials: the weekly parade, stage The answer is “yes!” Families cated programming featuring age- shows, a twice-weekly breakfast with newborns to college-age chil- specific activities include sandcas- where kids sing and dance with dren will find a stress-free vacation tle-building, crafts, scavenger hunts, seven characters (at an additional at Beaches Turks and Caicos, where and boat rides. cost), and the chance to “Bake with Cookie Monster.” The characters are often seen walking around the resort, where they provide hugs for kids and the coveted photo op. Tweens and older kids will want to spend time at the Shadow Lounge, a game room with a pool table and foosball, and home to Scratch DJ Academy, where they can learn how to mix and blend music. The Xbox 360 Game Garage provides free-play video games. Pirate’s Island Water Park features nine slides, a lazy river, surf simulator, water cannons, cranks, and spray features. Our tween and teen found hap- piness at the Shadow Lounge and water park, and, yes, even spending time with us. We had epic family foosball games (the one “sport” I excel in), and spent long fun-in-the- sun days. The resort fronts the Ca- ribbean Sea bordered by a 12-mile pristine white beach. The water was so calm and clear that you could spot fish even without use of the complimentary snorkeling gear. We spent most days dividing our time between the beach, where we tried kayaking and aqua trikes, and relax- ing or participating in family activi-
Photo by Steve Sanacore ties, such as water balloon toss and 34 Queens Family • October 2012 FAMILY TRAVEL Beach treat BY STACEY ZABLE virtually everything is Family fun included in the pack- he first time my family visited age rate. The resort is Beaches Turks and Caicos one that your family grows up T my girls were ages 3 and 6 can grow with, and is years old. Imagine how thrilled they ideal for multi-genera- were to mingle with such beloved tional family reunions at Beaches “Sesame Street” favorites such as where all ages can Big Bird, Elmo, and Zoe. Our return have fun doing what Turks and visit, when the girls were then 7 they love. The list of and 10, held equal excitement with included activities in the characters and the long list of the water and on land Caicos kid-friendly activities designed for is long, and even your the youngest guests. But when we picky-eaters will find made our third visit this August to something to please the all-inclusive beachfront resort, them with the resort’s I wondered if Beaches Turks and 16 restaurants. Caicos could deliver for my now “so- The resort offers an extensive Families with young kids will be phisticated” tween and teen, ages 10 children’s program divided by age delighted by all the “Sesame Street” and 13. group from newborn to age 17. Dedi- specials: the weekly parade, stage The answer is “yes!” Families cated programming featuring age- shows, a twice-weekly breakfast with newborns to college-age chil- specific activities include sandcas- where kids sing and dance with dren will find a stress-free vacation tle-building, crafts, scavenger hunts, seven characters (at an additional at Beaches Turks and Caicos, where and boat rides. cost), and the chance to “Bake with Cookie Monster.” The characters are often seen walking around the resort, where they provide hugs for 19 hours a day, the 1950s-style diner At Beaches Turks and Caicos, noth- kids and the coveted photo op. offers kid-friendly food staples, as ing beats the soft sand and clear Tweens and older kids will want well as made-to-order sundaes and water at the beach (above). But you to spend time at the Shadow Lounge, milkshakes. And for us, no matter can also enjoy a boat ride, take a dip a game room with a pool table and what age the kids are, nothing says in the pool, or enjoy kids activities at foosball, and home to Scratch DJ family togetherness more than shar- Bobby Dee’s.
Academy, where they can learn how Photo by Steve Sanacore ing a banana split sundae under a to mix and blend music. The Xbox moonlit sky. 360 Game Garage provides free-play relays, at one of the seven resort beds with trundles, flat-screen TVs, Stacey Zable is an award-winning video games. Pirate’s Island Water pools. The girls loved the never- Xbox, and lower-sized vanity sinks, veteran travel writer and family travel Park features nine slides, a lazy ending virgin pina coladas available all of which the kids will love. expert who has written about destina- river, surf simulator, water cannons, at the swim-up bars, and lounging Kid-friendly fare is easy to find tions, resorts, and cruise lines around cranks, and spray features. on rafts in the pools. My husband among the 16 restaurants, which the world. Her favorite trips are those Our tween and teen found hap- played tennis each morning with feature a range of cuisine includ- that she shares with her husband and piness at the Shadow Lounge and the resort pro, and my 13-year-old ing Caribbean, Japanese, Italian, two daughters. Send travel questions water park, and, yes, even spending and I were pampered at the Red French, and seafood with a la carte, and comments to Stacey at info@fami- time with us. We had epic family Lane Spa with a “Couple’s Massage.” buffet, and casual- to fine-dining lytraveltrails.com. foosball games (the one “sport” I It was her first and long-anticipated choices. Our favorite was Barefoot excel in), and spent long fun-in-the- massage, and needless to say, she is by the Sea, due to its unique set- sun days. The resort fronts the Ca- hooked for life. ting literally in the sand seated at Beaches Turks and Caicos ribbean Sea bordered by a 12-mile The resort is made up of three upscale picnic tables. Children even pristine white beach. The water was “villages,” creating an intimate feel, have their own picnic tables sized Here are some family fun facts premium brand wine and spir- so calm and clear that you could despite its large size of 614 rooms for them so parents can eat on about Beaches Turks and Caicos, its, nightly entertainment, water- spot fish even without use of the and suites on more than 65 acres. A their own. Evening entertainment Providenciales sports (including snorkeling and complimentary snorkeling gear. We guest room in any village allows for beyond the “Sesame Street” shows s ) D E A L FOR FAMILIES WITH CHIL- scuba diving for certified divers), spent most days dividing our time the use of amenities at all three. The included beach and swim parties, dren of any age. airport transfers, and all resort between the beach, where we tried Italian Village, where we stayed, is family karaoke, and live entertain- s .IGHTLY STARTING RATE FOR A taxes and fees. kayaking and aqua trikes, and relax- the most-recently added accommo- ment poolside. family of four is $761 including ac- s # O N T A C T WWWBEACHESCOM ing or participating in family activi- dations with spacious Family Suites We ended every night of our trip commodations, dining, unlimited (888) BEACHES [(888) 232–2437]. with separate kid’s rooms with bunk with dessert at Bobby Dee’s. Open
Photo by Steve Sanacore ties, such as water balloon toss and October 2012 • Queens Family 35 PARENTING
pen if he dropped it. What would she do? Was she really going to leave the toy on the floor? Would she throw it onto the subway tracks to try and Tough love teach him a lesson? Or would she hit him? These were the thoughts racing through my head as I sat there pre- Watching another mother tending to be interested in my iPad. Ironically, I was reading a book on discipline her son isn’t easy French parenting, “Bringing Up Bebe,” by Pamela Druckerman. According to was sitting at the subway platform this book, a French parent would tell MOMMY 101 recently, waiting for my morn- the child once not to drop the toy, ask Iing train, when I noticed a little if the child understood, and expect ANGELICA SERADOVA boy sitting next to me playing with a him not to drop it. toy car. He was pushing it along the As luck would have it (or just armrests of the platform seating, and plain-old carelessness of a child), he being scolded by his mother. dropped the toy car. Ugh! The mother “Don’t you dare drop that car!” she yelled and said, “You see! That’s why told him. “If you drop that toy on the you’re not getting it back!” floor, it’s going to stay there!” I felt sympathy for the little boy as From the tone of her voice, I knew he cried and begged his mother to that this mom meant business. She give him the toy. He didn’t yell back was clearly annoyed with the boy and, or kick or scream. He simply asked apparently, he had a habitual problem her, through his tears and puppy-dog of dropping things on the floor. At eyes, if he could get it from the floor. An least that’s the conclusion I came to older woman who was sitting beside from hearing her yell about how he me picked up the toy car and handed “always drops his toys on the floor.” it to the boy. She was on my side and What’s the big deal? That’s what kids she, too, was secretly cheering the boy do, they drop things, or worst, fling on. He immediately grabbed it from them at you. the woman and soon after, his mother But I secretly hoped that he wouldn’t snatched it and threw it back on the drop the toy. I feared what would hap- floor, where it had originally fallen. This was definitely a case of mean mommy. I wanted to tell her that she was being mean and cruel. “He’s just a baby!” I wanted to shout at her. But I decided to mind my own business. The older woman next to me and I exchanged looks of annoyance toward the mother. The mother obviously be- lieved in tough love. Or, maybe, the kid has a serious problem of dropping toys on the floor and she had had enough. The truth is, the mother was trying to teach her son a lesson, even if it was a harsh one. Maybe she wants him to have a higher regard for his things, or maybe she’s tired of him losing toys all over the city (which no doubt, us parents work hard to pay for). As the boy and his mother got on the train, I felt sad for him. But, like most children, he’ll probably forget the trauma of losing his toy by lunchtime, and hopefully the lesson will last much longer than that.
36 Queens Family • October 2012 PARENTING SHORT STUFF pen if he dropped it. What would she do? Was she really going to leave the toy on the floor? Would she throw it onto the subway tracks to try and Tough love teach him a lesson? Or would she hit him? These were the thoughts racing Watching another mother through my head as I sat there pre- Buck up! tending to be interested in my iPad. Ironically, I was reading a book on discipline her son isn’t easy French parenting, “Bringing Up Bebe,” Study shows good posture makes you tougher by Pamela Druckerman. According to was sitting at the subway platform this book, a French parent would tell BY KIKI BOCHI powerful and in control — and out, and expanding your body to MOMMY 101 recently, waiting for my morn- the child once not to drop the toy, ask are able to tolerate more distress. create a sense of power. Adopt- Iing train, when I noticed a little if the child understood, and expect others have Among the individuals studied, ing an expansive posture rather ANGELICA SERADOVA boy sitting next to me playing with a him not to drop it. been telling those who used the most domi- than constricting your body may toy car. He was pushing it along the As luck would have it (or just M their children nant posture were more comfort- also lead to elevated testosterone, armrests of the platform seating, and plain-old carelessness of a child), he to stop slouching for ably able to handle pain than associated with increased pain being scolded by his mother. dropped the toy car. Ugh! The mother ages, and it turns out those assigned a more neutral tolerance, and increased cortisol, “Don’t you dare drop that car!” she yelled and said, “You see! That’s why they’re onto some- or submissive stance. Dominant which can make experiences less told him. “If you drop that toy on the you’re not getting it back!” thing. postures also made remembering stressful. floor, it’s going to stay there!” I felt sympathy for the little boy as Poor posture an unhappy, emotional event less Don’t wait until things are From the tone of her voice, I knew he cried and begged his mother to not only makes a painful. difficult to adopt a stand-tough that this mom meant business. She give him the toy. He didn’t yell back bad impression, it The research suggests that stance. was clearly annoyed with the boy and, or kick or scream. He simply asked can actually make you crawling up into a ball when Practice makes perfect. You’ll apparently, he had a habitual problem her, through his tears and puppy-dog physically and emotion- things go bad just makes things be better able to withstand the of dropping things on the floor. At eyes, if he could get it from the floor. An ally weaker. worse by leaving you feeling like stresses of everyday life if you least that’s the conclusion I came to older woman who was sitting beside Research published in the Jour- you have no control over your cir- adopt a stronger backbone. from hearing her yell about how he me picked up the toy car and handed nal of Experimental Social Psy- cumstances. KiKi Bochi is an award-winning free- “always drops his toys on the floor.” it to the boy. She was on my side and chology has shown that by stand- Instead, try sitting or standing lance writer and editor who specializes What’s the big deal? That’s what kids she, too, was secretly cheering the boy ing up straight, people feel more up straight, pushing your chest in health and family topics. do, they drop things, or worst, fling on. He immediately grabbed it from them at you. the woman and soon after, his mother But I secretly hoped that he wouldn’t snatched it and threw it back on the drop the toy. 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October 2012 • Queens Family 37 BOOKS HEALTH Teens can learn from ‘Charly’s Epic Fiascos’ Healthier choices for our teen may not like hearing casino. So Charly is packing her be- the word “no,” but she needs longings and leaving town on the trick-or-treat snacks Y to know that sometimes you first bus out. don’t get where you want to in life Charly’s aunt lives in the Big s soon as back-to-school sea- kids hyper after they eat it, and It goes without saying that par- if you don’t yield to the negative re- Apple too, and she’s sure that her son begins, it seems like Hal- sluggish and groggy the next day. ents need to inspect each piece of sponse every once in a while. auntie will help her get an audition A loween is just right around Are you wondering what are the candy before giving any to their If this sounds like your daughter, for a reality show that will hope- the corner. We purchase new deco- best treats to give out to trick-or- child. Throw out anything with THE BOOK she might learn something by read- fully start filming soon. In Charly’s HEALTHY rations and plan pumpkin-picking treaters at your door? Here are opened wrappers or looks oth- WORM ing Kelli London’s “Charly’s Epic Fi- head, it’s practically a done deall. trips, but we also think about what some things to consider: erwise old or tainted. Watch out ascos,” about a young woman who They’ll be no more frontin’ for LIVING our own kids will get while trick-or- for candy from foreign countries TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER has never met a “no” she likes. Charly — there’d be fame and fortune DANIELLE SULLIVAN treating, because that’s when the Keep it safe where there is no Food and Drug Charly has a crush on Mason, but in her near future, fo’ sure. in which London places her charm- sugar-infused inundation begins. First and foremost, make sure Administration mandate for food she’s been lying to him about every- That is, as long as she can keep ingly cheeky character, readers will Due to the large amount of candy that what you give out is age-ap- quality. thing. She’s from the South Side of away from dealers, juvie, scammers, fall in love with her. I know I did. acquired that night, many parents propriate and as non-allergic as Chicago, not New York, and she isn’t creeps, thieves, and other haters. Parents should be aware that limit the number of sugary items possible. Make it nutritious just going to visit her father in Brook- When I first picked up “Charly’s “Charly’s Epic Fiascos” does roman- that their kids are allowed to ingest Try to avoid handing out candy (or at least less junk- lyn — she hasn’t seen him since she Epic Fiascos,” I was surprised at what ticize the idea of running away. And in the days following the big event. with peanuts in it. Parents of aller- like) was 5. And despite her new phone, I was reading. It seemed to be about a is that good? I think that depends on Others let their kids enjoy their gic children are cautious, but it’s Calorie wise, there are a few she’s not wealthy — Charly bought it lying, young hustler who manipulated who is reading this book. For 13-to-17 loot on Halloween night but ship it nice when you can have the peace things you can give out if you are with money she made at her part-time everyone around her to get what she -year-olds who can see the story as a out to shelters and food pantries of mind that any child who comes looking to avoid adding to the pure job at Smax’s BBQ. And it was money wanted. It didn’t seem like an appro- story, I think it’s a really fun read. But the day after. (Of course, many to your home will be able to safely sugar overload: fruit-based snacks, she had to hide from her recently laid- priate book for young women. for teens that struggle to recognize parents steal a few treats here and enjoy your snack. pretzels, or individual packs off mother, Brigette who claims every But “yes,” it is. London gives her fiction, “Charly’s Epic Fiascos” is a there, which lightens the load con- Avoid handing out large hard of Goldfish and Cheez-its are a cent Charly makes! main character plenty of reasons for big NO go. siderably.) candies and gumballs, which pose few. Apples are still an option, of Bridgette is nasty — she stole her doing what she does, as well as a bit “Charly’s Epic Fiascos” by Kelli Lon- Whatever method you choose a choking risk, especially to small course, but you’ll surely lose points daughter’s bankroll and lost it at a of regret. Because of the situations don [288 pages, 2012, $9.95]. for Halloween candy consump- children. There is nothing worse with the neighborhood kids in the tion, remember that too much of than seeing people hand out over- “cool” department. a good thing can have residual sized rock-like circular candies to It also doesn’t have to be food- Can you guess what he dreams effects. Sugar overload can make toddlers. It happens every year. based. Brightly colored pumpkin A bedtime story that will about? and witch pencils, stickers, and Blackmore writes sparingly, using rings are always a big hit with make sleep come easily very few words but lots of simple kids. ideas that little sleepyheads won’t t may be difficult for minute — about a silent night along have any trouble grasping. Kids who Mind those teeth your child to catch the water and tells him that sleep love to ask “just one more ques- Chocolate is better than anything I the train to Dream- sometimes comes creeping in like tion” will readily identify with young sticky for teeth, so avoid gummy ville without a bedtime fog. She tells him that it’s big and Jacob. worms and bears, Starbursts, and story. If so, “How Does wraps itself around you. But while the story in this book is anything else that causes a glue- Sleep Come?” by Jeanne Jacob listens, and yawns. He perfect for nap or bedtime reading, like bond between the teeth, which C. Blackmore is a story stretches and rolls over. I thought that the illustrations by can loosen fillings and crowns. she’ll want you to read. His mom tells him that sleep can Elizabeth Sayles are the real appeal. Don’t give out any sour candy be- The book tells the come in like a cloud in the sky, just Done in lush, soft, shadowy blues cause even though kids love them, story of Jacob, who floating along with nothing to say. and grays, Sayles’s artwork is quietly some dentists compare it to bat- knows it’s bedtime but You can’t hear clouds, and you can’t soothing, like a calming backrub. tery acid on the enamel. Sour and isn’t very sleepy. His call them to come to your house. They even made this adult long for gummy is a recipe for disaster! eyes are wide open. Sleep comes like that — just like some shut-eye. Dentists also tend to agree that Still, he climbs into bed and his floating along on a breeze. Meant for kids ages 3 to 5, I think a one-time candy splurge on Hal- mommy tucks the covers around Jacob is still awake, but he starts a quiet 2-year-old might enjoy this loween night won’t hurt a child’s him tight. It’s dark. Jacob should to curl up under the warm blankets. book, so find it and keep it around. teeth. It is repeated exposure that be sleeping, but he isn’t ready yet. Maybe he is a little sleepy after all. When it’s time for a bedtime story, will cause damage. That’s when he asks Mama, “How Sleep comes comfortably, Jacob’s “How Does Sleep Come?” will surely Have a happy and safe Hallow- does sleep come?” mother says, like a kitten curled up come in handy. een! She imagines a quiet, snowy night in front of a fire, purring happily, and “How Does Sleep Come?” by Jeanne Danielle Sullivan, a mom of three, filled with snowflakes falling softly. then snoozing on its pillow. Sleep C. Blackmore [32 pages, 2012, $16.99]. has worked as a writer and editor in the Sleep sometimes comes quietly, she comes softly, like a butterfly’s wing Terri Schlichenmeyer has been read- parenting world for more than 10 years. tells Jacob as he snuggles under brushing gently on the petals of a ing since she was 3 years old, and Sullivan also writes about pets and par- the covers, his eyelids sagging just tiny, white flower. she never goes anywhere without a enting for Disney’s Babble.com. Find her a little. And now Jacob is very sleepy. He book. She lives on a hill with two dogs on Facebook and Twitter @DanniSull- Jacob’s mom thinks for another closes his eyes and starts to dream. and 12,000 books. Writer, or on her blog, Just Write Mom.
38 Queens Family • October 2012 BOOKS HEALTHealtHh Teens can learn from ‘Charly’s Epic Fiascos’ Healthier choices for our teen may not like hearing casino. So Charly is packing her be- the word “no,” but she needs longings and leaving town on the trick-or-treat snacks Y to know that sometimes you first bus out. don’t get where you want to in life Charly’s aunt lives in the Big s soon as back-to-school sea- kids hyper after they eat it, and It goes without saying that par- if you don’t yield to the negative re- Apple too, and she’s sure that her son begins, it seems like Hal- sluggish and groggy the next day. ents need to inspect each piece of sponse every once in a while. auntie will help her get an audition A loween is just right around Are you wondering what are the candy before giving any to their If this sounds like your daughter, for a reality show that will hope- the corner. We purchase new deco- best treats to give out to trick-or- child. Throw out anything with THE BOOK she might learn something by read- fully start filming soon. In Charly’s HEALTHY rations and plan pumpkin-picking treaters at your door? Here are opened wrappers or looks oth- WORM ing Kelli London’s “Charly’s Epic Fi- head, it’s practically a done deall. trips, but we also think about what some things to consider: erwise old or tainted. Watch out ascos,” about a young woman who They’ll be no more frontin’ for LIVING our own kids will get while trick-or- for candy from foreign countries TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER has never met a “no” she likes. Charly — there’d be fame and fortune DANIELLE SULLIVAN treating, because that’s when the Keep it safe where there is no Food and Drug Charly has a crush on Mason, but in her near future, fo’ sure. in which London places her charm- sugar-infused inundation begins. First and foremost, make sure Administration mandate for food she’s been lying to him about every- That is, as long as she can keep ingly cheeky character, readers will Due to the large amount of candy that what you give out is age-ap- quality. thing. She’s from the South Side of away from dealers, juvie, scammers, fall in love with her. I know I did. acquired that night, many parents propriate and as non-allergic as Chicago, not New York, and she isn’t creeps, thieves, and other haters. Parents should be aware that limit the number of sugary items possible. Make it nutritious just going to visit her father in Brook- When I first picked up “Charly’s “Charly’s Epic Fiascos” does roman- that their kids are allowed to ingest Try to avoid handing out candy (or at least less junk- lyn — she hasn’t seen him since she Epic Fiascos,” I was surprised at what ticize the idea of running away. And in the days following the big event. with peanuts in it. Parents of aller- like) was 5. And despite her new phone, I was reading. It seemed to be about a is that good? I think that depends on Others let their kids enjoy their gic children are cautious, but it’s Calorie wise, there are a few she’s not wealthy — Charly bought it lying, young hustler who manipulated who is reading this book. For 13-to-17 loot on Halloween night but ship it nice when you can have the peace things you can give out if you are with money she made at her part-time everyone around her to get what she -year-olds who can see the story as a out to shelters and food pantries of mind that any child who comes looking to avoid adding to the pure job at Smax’s BBQ. And it was money wanted. It didn’t seem like an appro- story, I think it’s a really fun read. But the day after. (Of course, many to your home will be able to safely sugar overload: fruit-based snacks, she had to hide from her recently laid- priate book for young women. for teens that struggle to recognize parents steal a few treats here and enjoy your snack. pretzels, or individual packs off mother, Brigette who claims every But “yes,” it is. London gives her fiction, “Charly’s Epic Fiascos” is a there, which lightens the load con- Avoid handing out large hard of Goldfish and Cheez-its are a cent Charly makes! main character plenty of reasons for big NO go. siderably.) candies and gumballs, which pose few. Apples are still an option, of Bridgette is nasty — she stole her doing what she does, as well as a bit “Charly’s Epic Fiascos” by Kelli Lon- Whatever method you choose a choking risk, especially to small course, but you’ll surely lose points daughter’s bankroll and lost it at a of regret. Because of the situations don [288 pages, 2012, $9.95]. for Halloween candy consump- children. There is nothing worse with the neighborhood kids in the tion, remember that too much of than seeing people hand out over- “cool” department. a good thing can have residual sized rock-like circular candies to It also doesn’t have to be food- Can you guess what he dreams effects. Sugar overload can make toddlers. It happens every year. based. Brightly colored pumpkin A bedtime story that will about? and witch pencils, stickers, and Blackmore writes sparingly, using rings are always a big hit with make sleep come easily very few words but lots of simple kids. ideas that little sleepyheads won’t t may be difficult for minute — about a silent night along have any trouble grasping. Kids who Mind those teeth your child to catch the water and tells him that sleep love to ask “just one more ques- Chocolate is better than anything I the train to Dream- sometimes comes creeping in like tion” will readily identify with young sticky for teeth, so avoid gummy ville without a bedtime fog. She tells him that it’s big and Jacob. worms and bears, Starbursts, and story. If so, “How Does wraps itself around you. But while the story in this book is anything else that causes a glue- Sleep Come?” by Jeanne Jacob listens, and yawns. He perfect for nap or bedtime reading, like bond between the teeth, which C. Blackmore is a story stretches and rolls over. I thought that the illustrations by can loosen fillings and crowns. she’ll want you to read. His mom tells him that sleep can Elizabeth Sayles are the real appeal. Don’t give out any sour candy be- The book tells the come in like a cloud in the sky, just Done in lush, soft, shadowy blues cause even though kids love them, story of Jacob, who floating along with nothing to say. and grays, Sayles’s artwork is quietly some dentists compare it to bat- knows it’s bedtime but You can’t hear clouds, and you can’t soothing, like a calming backrub. tery acid on the enamel. Sour and isn’t very sleepy. His call them to come to your house. They even made this adult long for gummy is a recipe for disaster! eyes are wide open. Sleep comes like that — just like some shut-eye. Dentists also tend to agree that Still, he climbs into bed and his floating along on a breeze. Meant for kids ages 3 to 5, I think a one-time candy splurge on Hal- mommy tucks the covers around Jacob is still awake, but he starts a quiet 2-year-old might enjoy this loween night won’t hurt a child’s him tight. It’s dark. Jacob should to curl up under the warm blankets. book, so find it and keep it around. teeth. It is repeated exposure that be sleeping, but he isn’t ready yet. Maybe he is a little sleepy after all. When it’s time for a bedtime story, will cause damage. That’s when he asks Mama, “How Sleep comes comfortably, Jacob’s “How Does Sleep Come?” will surely Have a happy and safe Hallow- does sleep come?” mother says, like a kitten curled up come in handy. een! She imagines a quiet, snowy night in front of a fire, purring happily, and “How Does Sleep Come?” by Jeanne Danielle Sullivan, a mom of three, filled with snowflakes falling softly. then snoozing on its pillow. Sleep C. Blackmore [32 pages, 2012, $16.99]. has worked as a writer and editor in the Sleep sometimes comes quietly, she comes softly, like a butterfly’s wing Terri Schlichenmeyer has been read- parenting world for more than 10 years. tells Jacob as he snuggles under brushing gently on the petals of a ing since she was 3 years old, and Sullivan also writes about pets and par- the covers, his eyelids sagging just tiny, white flower. she never goes anywhere without a enting for Disney’s Babble.com. Find her a little. And now Jacob is very sleepy. He book. She lives on a hill with two dogs on Facebook and Twitter @DanniSull- Jacob’s mom thinks for another closes his eyes and starts to dream. and 12,000 books. Writer, or on her blog, Just Write Mom.
October 2012 • Queens Family 39 RELATIONSHIPS For Tom vs. Katie, values in divorce ’m not much for the gossip col- of Tom Cruise’s $250-million fortune.” dence; privacy; the ability to help de- umns or celebrity news, but as s h4HEIR DAUGHTER CANNOT ATTEND termine Suri’s educational upbring- I a professional who specializes boarding school, or any school that ing; her own emotional well-being DIVORCE & in divorce, there was one article has anything to do with Scientology.” and that of her daughter, and maybe that caught my eye recently, entitled Is this result really sad for ladies Cruise’s well-being as well; being SEPARATION something like “Tom Cruise and Katie and unfortunate for Holmes? Or, is able to move on with her life without LEE CHABIN, ESQ. Holmes settle divorce, and Katie gets it possible that Holmes is satisfied bitter and lengthy court proceedings no spousal support.” with the agreements? Consider the before her; and enough money to Here’s a quote from the article: following: provide for Suri in the manner that “As for the final divorce settlement s # R U I S E WILL BE PAYING Suri has been accustomed to. … sadly for ladies and fans of Hol- a year for the next 12 years or so If so, is Holmes disappointed? Or mes, Katie did not fare too well.” for expenses when Suri is with her did she get exactly, or close to, what mother. Additionally, he will she was looking for? pay a good portion of Suri’s Who could argue here that mother educational, health, and other and daughter are not financially se- expenses. Suri will be well cure? provided for. Whether Holmes and Cruise made s ) N BARELY DEALING WITH THE the choices you or I would have made courts, Cruise and Holmes is unimportant. What matters is if avoided a toxic battle between they were able to reach agreements themselves and over Suri. The that reflect their own values, and process was very quick. Emo- whether the agreements provide for tionally, they are all winners Suri’s welfare. I would like to think as far as divorces go. that the couple’s agreements did so. s 4 H E R E ARE INDICATIONS THAT If this is the case, Katie fared very Holmes wanted to limit their well indeed. daughter’s exposure to Scien- As a mediator and collaborative tology. If so, she accomplished divorce lawyer, I work with couples, this goal. assisting them to better understand s 0E R H A P S (OLMES DOESNT what they and their children need want anything from her ex. — and how these needs may be met. Many women don’t. (Caution: The goal is the same whether the a hasty decision based on couple is rich like Holmes and Cruise, such feelings may lead to later or, like most of us, just managing: to regrets). A Google search re- facilitate a fair, affordable agreement veals that Holmes has a net that both parties can live with. worth of $25 million — not Here, with so much at stake, the that I can vouch for the accu- parties chose a fast, mutually re-
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external exam, she looks at the vulva and may give the girl a mirror so she can look as well, and learn about her body. The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists Visiting the states that the pelvic exam involves looking at the vulva, looking at the vagina and cervix with a speculum, and checking internal organs with a gloved hand. If your daughter understands the purpose of the Pap test, she will be gynecologist more likely to comply. “The Pap smear is a screening test for cervical cancer, as well as any sort BY JAMIE LOBER worry about,” said Hayes. Young of cervical cell abnormality, and it is What your girls are encouraged to keep a men- also a way to test for certain infec- ccording to the American strual calendar so they can see their tions, primarily HPV,” says Hayes. Dur- daughter can Congress of Obstetricians pattern. “Write down the first day ing a Pap test a sample of cells is taken A and Gynecologists, girls you start bleeding and the date you from the cervix with a small brush and should have their first gynecologic stopped, and do that monthly,” says the doctor may put one or two lubri- expect on her visit between ages 13 and 15. De- Hayes. They will find that every- cated fingers into the vagina, up to the pending on your family doctor, some body’s period is not the same and cervix, and the other hand will press first trip prefer that girls go earlier or later de- does not come on the same day on the abdomen from outside. pending on their health issues, con- every month. “The Pap smear is recommended cerns, and personal circumstances, Your daughter may have her own to be done three years after you have such as if a teen is going off to col- agenda for the first visit and the gy- started being sexually active or if you lege. You know your child best. necologist will be accommodating. have what we call high-risk sexual It is normal for a young girl to feel “Your daughter may want to start behavior, which would include early nervous and it can ease some of her on some sort of birth control, may sexual activity, history of sexually stress if she understands what to have a vaginal discharge, or may be transmitted diseases, or pregnancy,” expect. Basically, the first visit may having abdominal pain,” says Hayes. explains Hayes. simply be a conversation between She may wa nt to find out about screen - The American Congress of Ob- your daughter and her gynecologist, ings or just be reassured that she is stetricians and Gynecologists urges in which she discovers what to antici- developing normally. “Depending on girls to talk about cramps, problems pate at future visits and gathers in- the sexual history of the patient, we with menstrual periods, acne, weight, formation about how to stay healthy. may need to do what we call anticipa- sex, sexuality, birth control, sexu- Your daughter should be prepared tory guidance with someone who is ally transmitted diseases, alcohol, to answer some personal questions not sexually active to talk about their drugs, smoking, and emotional ups about her menstrual period or sexual level of knowledge about protection, and downs. The gynecologist pro- activities including vaginal, oral, or preventing sexually transmitted dis- motes maintaining a healthy weight anal sex. eases, and preventing pregnancy, through a well-balanced diet and “Heavy periods, heavy menstrual and if someone is active, we want to frequent exercise. The doctors ask bleeding, missing periods, and irreg- find out if they are interested in using that girls avoid smoking, drinking, ular menstrual cycles are all reasons protection or adding another birth and using illegal drugs. If a patient to see the gynecologist,” says Dr. control method,” she says. is having emotional ups and downs Leslie Hayes, chief of adoles- Girls are often worried about con- or feels depressed, she is asked to cent medicine in the de- fidentiality and should be reassured turn to a mental healthcare provider. partment of pediatrics that information shared is kept pri- If girls are having sex, birth con- at New York Methodist vate. If they feel more comfortable, trol is suggested, as well as protec- Hospital. Young girls they may have a nurse or family tion from sexually transmitted dis- may feel relief just to member accompany them for any eases by using a latex condom. The know that changes part of the general physical exam or gynecologist asks that girls know in their body are external genital exam that are often their partners, limit sexual encoun- normal. performed. A pelvic exam is not typi- ters, and most importantly, keep up “During the cally part of the first visit unless the with routine exams, screenings, and first two years girl complains of abnormal bleeding immunizations. The gynecologist is or so, it is or pain. If she is sexually active, tests meant to be a young girl’s partner not unusual for sexually transmitted diseases and advocate for good health. for the men- may be advised, but most can be Jamie Lober, author of Pink Power strual cycle done by a urine sample. 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October 2012 • Queens Family 43 EDUCATION TECHNOLOGY Can classroom walls Why casino games be too busy for kids? are risky for kids Dear teacher, situation of visual overload. Teach- to use them regularly. Or, if they Our daughter’s fourth-grade ers should be aware that too-small do, they invariably lose them. Fortu- ambling provokes powerful money changes hands. Bets are may be susceptible to the “get rich DEAR TEACHER teacher scarcely has a free space on print size and little spacing between nately for our children, all the teach- emotions. Winning makes placed with virtual currency and quick” appeal of gambling, especially her walls. She has hung up all kinds letters do slow down the students’ ers in their school put all their as- G people feel euphoric and rewards exist only within the games. if they are involved in sports where PEGGY GISLER AND of charts, pictures, and examples of reading rate. signments on the school website. GROWING UP even invincible. Losing can lead to Many experts, however, believe such betting is prevalent. Understanding MARGE EBERTS the children’s work. The doors, and The children never have the excuse discouragement and even despera- games normalize gambling, making why your child is drawn to these even the blinds, have stuff on them. Is text messaging of not knowing what their assign- ONLINE tion. Such strong feelings call for ma- it seem like harmless fun. games will help you steer him to- Is this visual overload? Does it affect considered reading? ments are, and parents always know CAROLYN JABS turity, so gambling has traditionally “It’s well-established that the w a r d m o r e w h o l e s o m e a l t e r n a t i v e s . students’ ability to concentrate? Dear teacher, if their children have homework. been regarded as something only younger children start gambling, Talk about risks. Online games sep- Dear parents, I am really puzzled about what Dear parents, adults should do. the more likely they are to become arate gambling from consequences. Teachers are usually encouraged to counts as reading today. My children We’ll admit that it is handy to have The Internet changed all that by habitual gamblers,” notes Dr. Caro- Point out to your child that real life have bright colorful displays on class- feel that they are reading when they assignments put up on websites. It is making casino games readily avail- lyn Downs, a British researcher who casinos make money, lots of money, room walls. But when a classroom read text messages or comments decidedly helpful for parents, chil- able to children. In 2006, Congress took an interest in online gaming and all of it comes from people who on social-networking sites. Are they dren who are absent, and those who tried to put the genie back in the after her own daughter experienced thought they would win and didn’t. correct? may or may not have written the as- bottle. The Unlawful Internet Gam- a meltdown provoked by virtual Adults can gamble responsibly only Dear parents, signment down accurately. losses in her favorite game. if they use “extra” money that would Reading on electronic devices is But there is a big negative to not How should parents respond to have gone to entertainment, and stop reading. Your children are right about having to write down assignments: these chancy new games? Here are a when the money is gone. Children also this. However, a survey by Scholastic it doesn’t prepare students for high few suggestions: need to know that for a small number and the Harrison Group points out one school or college, where the respon- Set your own age limits. Every of people — experts estimate between big downside to this view: they found sibility for knowing what the assign- state prohibits offline gambling by four and six percent — gambling can that from age 6 to 17, the time children ments are, is usually the responsibil- children under 18. Consider estab- become compulsive. For these people, spend reading books for fun declines, ity of the students. lishing the same in-house rule for on- the “high” of winning becomes ad- while the time they spend going online line games of chance. Or tie access dictive and, like alcoholics or other for fun and using a cellphone to text Ways to make test to casino games with other bench- addicts, their lives begin to revolve or talk increases. Incidentally, most taking easier marks of maturity, such as handling around getting their next fix. If you or parents do not consider reading on Dear teacher, time and money responsibly. your child are worried that someone social-networking sites reading. My children do well in school — Distinguish between luck and has developed a gambling problem, The survey also found that tech- even on most tests. Are there any skill. A child who shoots a hundred help is available at the National Coun- nology could motivator kids to read. tricks that they can use that will help baskets increases the likelihood that cil on Problem Gambling (npgaw.org) Fifty-seven percent of the children in them do even better? she will score on the next shot. A and Youth Gambling International takes on the appearance of a super- the survey said they were interested Dear parents, child who reads a hundred books (youthgambling.com) market, some educators believe that in reading an e-book, and a third of the The book, “The Simple Way to an has a better vocabulary, which Control credit cards. Many on- it can make it difficult for children to children said they would read more A,” lists three steps that can make test makes winning at word games more line games allow players to convert concentrate. They believe that when books for fun if they had access to taking easier. You might suggest that likely. Contrast those accomplish- virtual gaming into real gambling teachers are presenting a lesson, stu- them on an electronic device. your children try them. Plan: find the ments with the random events at the with a credit card. Although there dents need to pay close attention to This year, the sale of e-books has questions with the highest point value bling Enforcement Act made it harder heart of gambling. No matter how are supposed to be age restrictions, the teacher — and not the wall. dramatically increased — especially and do them first. Prioritize: if children for Americans to wager online and, many times you flip a coin, roll the motivated kids can get around them. On the other hand, more educa- in the children and young adult cat- are unsure on an answer, they can at first, casinos took their business dice, shuffle the deck, or pull the Don’t give your child unrestricted tors think this is a ridiculous view egory. use a number system to show their elsewhere. Eventually, they found handle on a slot machine, you can’t access to credit cards and check and that students need to be stimu- Parents understandably have con- level of confidence in an answer and ways around the law. By 2008, the increase the likelihood of getting the statements every month for unau- lated. There is no solid research on cerns about the amount of time their go back and check the answer again. Annenberg Public Policy Center esti- outcome you want. Help your child thorized charges. When you pay this subject. Why don’t you ask your kids spend on electronic or digital Strategize: for example, when match- mated that, despite age restrictions, understand that, even though luck is bills, talk about the importance of daughter if she finds all the things on devices, but e-books do offer a way ing answers, read the longer column 700,000 young people were gambling often a factor in life, the rewards to a good credit rating. Be sure your the wall bother her concentration? to get more kids to read. The survey first, as it will give more clues to the for money online. be had from personal effort and hard child understands that, if someone If so, you might ask the teacher to also found that the more time strug- answer. Then look for the correct an- Today that figure is likely to be work are more reliable and durable. goes deeply into debt, he may not be evaluate how other students regard gling readers spend reading e-books swer in the shorter column. higher because of a flood of social Understand the appeal. Some able to borrow money for a car or a the classroom walls. for fun, the more proficient readers In addition to these steps, we apps that mimic casino games. Popu- young people play casino games sim- college education. One area in which some research they become. would add the necessity of reading lar Facebook games like Jackpotjoy, ply because their friends play. Oth- Carolyn Jabs, MA, raised three com- has been done is on worksheets, the directions more than once. Slotomania, and DoubleDownCasino ers turn to the games because they puter-savvy kids, including one with spe- handouts, and tests that are crowded. Should children use Parents should send questions and appeal to children because they use are bored or want an escape from cial needs. She has written Growing Up Students will look at a math test with assignment books? comments to dearteacher@dearteacher. the same colorful graphics and engag- stressful situations or emotions. Ad- Online for 10 years and is working on 10 problems and think that they can Dear teacher, com or ask them on the columnists’ web- ing cartoon characters that are prev- olescents who can’t yet think about a book about constructive responses to handle it. Seeing 50 problems on a You often mention that children site at www.dearteacher.com. alent in other kid-friendly games. long-term consequences may find conflict. Visit www.growing-up-online. page can them believe the task is should have assignment books. How- ©Compass Syndicate Corporation, 2012. Supporters of the games insist the instant rewards of gambling at- com to read other columns. impossible to accomplish. This is a ever, in my experience, children fail Distributed by King Features Syndicate that they are harmless because no tractive. Young men, in particular, @ Copyright, 2012, Carolyn Jabs. All rights reserved.
44 Queens Family • October 2012 TECHNOLOGYTechnology Why casino games are risky for kids ambling provokes powerful money changes hands. Bets are may be susceptible to the “get rich emotions. Winning makes placed with virtual currency and quick” appeal of gambling, especially G people feel euphoric and rewards exist only within the games. if they are involved in sports where GROWING UP even invincible. Losing can lead to Many experts, however, believe such betting is prevalent. Understanding discouragement and even despera- games normalize gambling, making why your child is drawn to these ONLINE tion. Such strong feelings call for ma- it seem like harmless fun. games will help you steer him to- CAROLYN JABS turity, so gambling has traditionally “It’s well-established that the w a r d m o r e w h o l e s o m e a l t e r n a t i v e s . been regarded as something only younger children start gambling, Talk about risks. Online games sep- adults should do. the more likely they are to become arate gambling from consequences. The Internet changed all that by habitual gamblers,” notes Dr. Caro- Point out to your child that real life making casino games readily avail- lyn Downs, a British researcher who casinos make money, lots of money, able to children. In 2006, Congress took an interest in online gaming and all of it comes from people who tried to put the genie back in the after her own daughter experienced thought they would win and didn’t. bottle. The Unlawful Internet Gam- a meltdown provoked by virtual Adults can gamble responsibly only losses in her favorite game. if they use “extra” money that would How should parents respond to have gone to entertainment, and stop these chancy new games? Here are a when the money is gone. Children also few suggestions: need to know that for a small number Set your own age limits. Every of people — experts estimate between state prohibits offline gambling by four and six percent — gambling can children under 18. Consider estab- become compulsive. For these people, lishing the same in-house rule for on- the “high” of winning becomes ad- line games of chance. Or tie access dictive and, like alcoholics or other to casino games with other bench- addicts, their lives begin to revolve marks of maturity, such as handling around getting their next fix. If you or time and money responsibly. your child are worried that someone Distinguish between luck and has developed a gambling problem, skill. A child who shoots a hundred help is available at the National Coun- baskets increases the likelihood that cil on Problem Gambling (npgaw.org) she will score on the next shot. A and Youth Gambling International child who reads a hundred books (youthgambling.com) has a better vocabulary, which Control credit cards. Many on- makes winning at word games more line games allow players to convert likely. Contrast those accomplish- virtual gaming into real gambling ments with the random events at the with a credit card. Although there bling Enforcement Act made it harder heart of gambling. No matter how are supposed to be age restrictions, for Americans to wager online and, many times you flip a coin, roll the motivated kids can get around them. at first, casinos took their business dice, shuffle the deck, or pull the Don’t give your child unrestricted elsewhere. Eventually, they found handle on a slot machine, you can’t access to credit cards and check ways around the law. By 2008, the increase the likelihood of getting the statements every month for unau- Annenberg Public Policy Center esti- outcome you want. Help your child thorized charges. When you pay mated that, despite age restrictions, understand that, even though luck is bills, talk about the importance of 700,000 young people were gambling often a factor in life, the rewards to a good credit rating. Be sure your for money online. be had from personal effort and hard child understands that, if someone Today that figure is likely to be work are more reliable and durable. goes deeply into debt, he may not be higher because of a flood of social Understand the appeal. Some able to borrow money for a car or a apps that mimic casino games. Popu- young people play casino games sim- college education. lar Facebook games like Jackpotjoy, ply because their friends play. Oth- Carolyn Jabs, MA, raised three com- Slotomania, and DoubleDownCasino ers turn to the games because they puter-savvy kids, including one with spe- appeal to children because they use are bored or want an escape from cial needs. She has written Growing Up the same colorful graphics and engag- stressful situations or emotions. Ad- Online for 10 years and is working on ing cartoon characters that are prev- olescents who can’t yet think about a book about constructive responses to alent in other kid-friendly games. long-term consequences may find conflict. Visit www.growing-up-online. Supporters of the games insist the instant rewards of gambling at- com to read other columns. that they are harmless because no tractive. Young men, in particular, @ Copyright, 2012, Carolyn Jabs. All rights reserved.
October 2012 • Queens Family 45 CalendarOctober Copyright 2011 Bubblemania!
hat bubb-licious, bodacious, trapped in a gigantic soap bubble, bubble artist Casey Carle re- and being surrounded by thou- Bubblemania at T turns to amaze and delight sands of bubbles filling the stage. with bubbles, bubbles, and more The fun, giggles, and bubbles bubbles at the Queens Theatre on never stop. Queens Theatre Oct. 21. Don’t miss either of Bubblema- Brilliant bubbles, spontaneous nia’s two shows at 1 and 3 pm. comedy and fog blobs of helium- Tickets are $14. filled foam are the earmarks of Bubblemania at Queens Theatre bubble artist Carle’s entertaining [Flushing Meadows Corona Park, Box show. Children of all ages enjoy a Office 718-760-0064, www.queensthe- game of bubble ping-pong, getting atre.org]. Oct 21 at 1 and 3 pm.
46 Queens Family • October 2012 Calendar Moving Image workshop: Mu- seum of the Moving Image, 36-01 35th Submit a listing Ave. (718) 777–6888; www.movingim- Going Places is dedicated to age.us; Noon–5 pm; Free with museum bringing our readers the most admission. comprehensive events calen- Children 7 and older accompanied by dar in your area. But to do so, an adult (12 on their own) visit the mu- we need your help! seum and learn about moving images. Send your listing request to Toddler time: Queens Zoo, 53-51 queens[email protected] 111th St. (718) 271–1500; queenszoo. — and we’ll take care of the rest. com; Noon–1 pm; $125 ($150 non- Please e-mail requests more members) for all six classes. than three weeks prior to the event to ensure we have enough Children 2 to 3 years old meet the time to get it in. And best of all, furry, scaly and feathery denizens of the it’s FREE! zoo. Must be accompanied by an adult. Pre-registration required. Garden in the fall: Queens Botanical Thurs, Sept. 27 Garden, 43-50 Main Street; (718) 539– 5296; www.queensbotanical.org; 2–4 Art and ecology: Astoria Public Li- pm; $15 ($12 members) per session. brary, 14-01 Astoria Blvd. at 14th Street; Children enjoy the changing seasons (718) 278–2220; www.queenslibrary. in four separate workshops. Go to one org; 3:30 pm; Free. or all four, the choice is yours. Events in- Children learn how famous artists Spooktacular thrills clude making a scarecrow friend, learn- like Picasso used throwaway things and ing about healthy snacks, learning about turned them into masterpieces. Then birds and their nests, and how to reap children use buttons, beads and recycled at Alley Pond the veggies from the garden and get the toys to make their own creation. earth ready for spring. Open mic: East Elmhurst Public Li- alling all boys and ghouls! training, 18 months to 4 years Kinder kritters: Queens Zoo, 53-51 brary, 95-06 Astoria Blvd. at 95th The time has come for old, can enjoy Teeny Tiny Trick- 111th St. (718) 271–1500; queenszoo. Street; (718) 424–2619; www.queensli- C trick-or-treaters and all or-Treaters on Oct. 31, from 1 to com; 2–3 pm; $125 ($150 non-mem- brary.org; 6 pm; Free. things eerie to have some spooky 2:30 pm, and have a fun-filled day bers) for all six classes. Writers, musicians, comedians and or- fun at the Alley Pond Environ- of carnival capers, not-so-scary For children 4 and 5 years old with an ators are invited to share the stage. mental Center on Oct. 29 and 31. hands-on activities, games, and a adult. Hands-on activities, animal guests Adventurous children 5 to 12 delightfully devilish snack. and scavenger hunts. Pre-registration Fri, Sept. 28 years old can dress up and enjoy Admission to the Haunted Hal- required. the festive Haunted Halloween loween Hike is $13 for non-mem- Toddler time: Queens Zoo, 53-51 Sun, Sept. 30 111th St. (718) 271–1500; queenszoo. Hike on Oct. 29. After the uphill bers and $7 for members. To get com; 10:30–11:30 am; $125 ($150 non- trek, kids dressed up as their fa- into Teeny Tiny Trick or Treaters Invention convention: 10 am–6 members) for all six classes. vorite Trekkie (our fave is Spock!) the cost is $16 and $10 for mem- pm. New York Hall of Science. See Sat- Children 2 to 3 years old meet the can listen to spooky stories, cre- bers. urday, Sept. 29. furry, scaly and feathery denizens of the ate creepy crafts, and sip on a hot Space is limited, so sign up “Dora’s Pirate Adventure”: 11 am zoo. Must be accompanied by an adult. chocolate to keep the chills away. early. Pre-registration is required and 1 and 3 pm. Long Island Children’s Pre-registration required. Wear your scariest costumes, for both events. Museum. See Saturday, Sept. 29. Arts and crafts: East Flushing Public bring a flashlight, and don’t forget Haunted Halloween Hike at the Autumn Moon festival: Queens Library, 196-36 Northern Blvd. at Fran- plenty of courage! The Haunted Alley Pond Environmental Center Botanical Garden, 43-50 Main Street; cis Lewis Boulevard; (718) 357–6643; Walk is offered in two sessions, [228-06 Northern Blvd. in Douglas- www.queenslibrary.org; 4 pm; Free. (718) 539–5296; www.queensbo- children ages 5 to 7 from 4:30 to 6 ton, (718) 229–4000, www.alley- tanical.org; 4–6 pm; Free with Garden Children 4 years old and up make fun pm and children ages 8 to 12 from pond.com]. On Oct. 29 from 4:30 to admission. projects. Limited to 15 children. Pre-reg- 6 pm and 6:30 to 8 pm; Teeny Tiny istration required. 6:30 to 8 pm. Celebrate the ancient holiday of Alley Pond doesn’t leave the Trick-or-Treaters on Oct. 31 from 1 bounty, harvest and the fullness of the Annual Steak and Lobster Din- toddlers out. Tiny terrors-in- to 2:30 pm. moon and learn all about the myth of ner: United Methodist Church, 35 Ver- the immortal moon Goddess. Bring pic- bena Ave. 516-354–4969; umcfloral- nic blankets and summer chairs; enjoy park.org; 7 pm; $35. Invention convention: New York Hulse Landing Rd. (631) 929–4262; moon cakes, arts, crafts and activities. Includes dinner and a pick-a-prize Hall of Science, 47-01 111th St., at Av- www.nysparks.com; 11 am–4 pm; Free. auction. enue of Science; (718) 699–0005 X 353; Enjoy a fun day out in the country. Tues, Oct. 2 [email protected]; www.nyscience. Changing seasons: Theodore org; 10 am–6 pm; $5–$25. “Dora’s Pirate Adventure”: Long Sat, Sept. 29 Roosevelt Nature Center, Jones Beach, The World Maker Faire is an all-ages Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave. Bug Superheroes!: Queens Zoo, Bay Parkway; (516) 785–3614; 10:30– gathering of tech enthusiasts, crafters, at West Road; (516) 599–6870; www. 53-51 111th St. (718) 271–1500; queen- 11:30 am or 1:30–2:30 pm; $4 (children educators, tinkerers, hobbyists, engi- szoo.com; 10–11:30 am; $35 members, licm.org; 11 am and 1 and 3 pm; $12 under 3 free; plus parking fee). neers, science clubs, authors, artists, $40 non-members. ($10 for members). Let’s Discover Nature allows children students, and commercial exhibitors to Children will go on an insect hunt Dora the Explorer joins her best friend 3 to 5 years old to explore the environ- show what they have made and share with staff urban ecologists to learn Boots the Monkey and embarks on a ment through hands-on activities. Reser- what they have learned. about many super-powered insects. trip to Treasure Island. Suitable for chil- vation required. Ages 7 to 10. Fall festival: Wildwood State Park, dren 4 years old and older. Continued on page 48 October 2012 • Queens Family 47 Calendar
Continued from page 47 35-20 Greenpoint Ave. (718) 729–8957; Wed, Oct. 3 9 am–4 pm; Free. Outdoor event featuring new and Veterans day: Douglaston/Little Neck used items. Public Library, 249-01 Northern Blvd. at 249th Street; (718) 225–8414; www. Autumn discovery: Caleb Smith queenslibrary.org; 2:45 pm; Free. State Park, W. Jericho Turnpike; (631) Celebrate the day by making cards for 265–1054; 10–11:30 am; $4 ($3 chil- our service members. dren; Free for children under 3; $8 park- ing fee per car). Children 5 years old and up take a Thurs, Oct. 4 short hike followed by an indoor craft. Along Came a Spider: Caleb Smith Reservations required. State Park, W. Jericho Turnpike; (631) 265– Overnight adventure: 10 am. 1054; 10–11 am; $4 ($3 children; Free for Queens Zoo. See Saturday, Oct. 6. children under 3; $8 parking fee per car). Let’s Discover Nature offers children 3 Fall festival: 10 am–4 pm. Bayard Cut- to 5 years old the opportunity to explore ting Arboretum. See Saturday, Oct. 6. the natural world with hands-on activi- ties. Reservations required. Apple Festival: Queens County Farm Museum, 73-50 Little Neck Pkwy. (718) Flower dance: Flushing Public Library, 347–3276; www.queensfarm.org; 11 am. 41-17 Main St. at Parsons Boulevard; Rev your engines! Watch as the nation’s largest apple (718) 661–1200; www.queenslibrary. cobbler bakes on site. org; 6:30 pm; Free. tart your engines, the Long dream car. Art day: 11 am–4 pm. Heckscher Mu- Ying Dance Center presents ballet and Island Auto Show is roar- Representatives from lead- Chinese folk dance, Flower, Rain and seum. See Saturday, Oct. 6. ing its way to the Nassau ing manufactures will also be on Maternity. For all ages. S Coliseum from Oct. 12 through hand to answer any and all au- Batten down the hatches: 11 Oct. 14. tomotive questions. The Long Is- am–4 pm. The Heckscher Museum of Fri, Oct. 5 Don’t detour, take the family land Auto Show is produced by Art. See Saturday, Oct. 6. Toddler time: 10:30–11:30 am. on a fantasy ride through dream Motor Trend Auto Shows. Visitors Glass painting: 1:30–2 pm. Lewis H. Queens Zoo. See Friday, Sept. 28. highway and stroll through the will receive a free one-year sub- Latimer House. See Saturday, Oct. 6. newest models of mechanical scription to Motor Trend maga- Halloween at the Addams’ marvels for 2013. More than 200 fo zine, thanks to the dealers at Sat, Oct. 6 House: 2 pm. BayWay Arts Centre. See Fall Festival and Pumpkin Patch: the latest and greatest selections Subaru Distributors Corp. Saturday, Oct. 6. All Saint’s Church, 214-35 40th Ave. — including crossovers, trucks, Long Island Auto Show at Nassau (718) 229–5631; 9 am. alternative fuel vehicles, family- Veterans Memorial Coliseum [1255 Garden in the fall: 2–4 pm. Queens Botanical Garden. See Saturday, Sept. 29. Enjoy the weather, the golden leaves, friendly sedans and sports utility Hempstead Tpke. in Uniondale, and pick the best pumpkin ever. vehicles, and hot-and-sassy hot (516) 794–9300, www.autoshowlong- island.com]. Oct. 12 from 5 to 10 pm, Scavenger hunt: Caleb Smith State rods — will be on display. Come Mon, Oct. 8 Park, W. Jericho Turnpike; (631) 265- on down and take the chance Oct. 13 from 10 am to 10 pm, and Fall festival: 10 am–4 pm. Bayard Cut- 1054; 10–11:30 am; $4 ($3 children; to sit behind the wheel of your Oct. 14 from 10 am to 6 pm. Free. ting Arboretum. See Saturday, Oct. 6. Free for children under 3; $8 parking fee per car). Ship Signals: Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Davis Ave. at West Road; Fun for the whole family to follow vorite characters from any of the movies Main St. (631) 581–2700; www.broad- (516) 224–5800; www.licm.org; 2:30, the course and find clues. Reservations and enter to win a prize. hollow.org; 2 pm; $10 ($22 tea party 4:30 pm; Free with museum admission. required. and show). Art day: Heckscher Museum, 2 Prime Children discover Columbus. Fall festival: Bayard Cutting Arbore- Ave. (631) 351–3250; www.heckscher. They’re creepy and they’re spooky, tum, S. Country Road and Ruland Road; org; 11 am–4 pm; Free. they’re altogether kooky, they’re the Addams Family. Come and enjoy Hallow- Tues, Oct. 9 (631) 581–1002; www.nysparks.com; 10 Children are invited to design and een with the spookiest family around. am–4 pm; Free with an $8 vehicle fee. imagine their own whimsical boat. Health forum: Central Library, 89-11 Take garden tours, see demos, pre- Kinder Kritters: 2–3 pm. Queens Merrick Blvd. (718) 990–0700; www. Batten down the hatches: The sentations, soil testing, hayrides, a pet- Zoo. See Saturday, Sept. 29. queenslibrary.org; 3:30 pm; Free. ting zoo, pony rides, wool spinning and Heckscher Museum of Art, 2 Prime Ave. Teens learn to take care of them- weaving. (631) 351–3250; www.heckscher.org; Overnight adventure: Queens Zoo, selves in a healthy way. Topics include 11 am–4 pm; Free. 53-51 111th St. (718) 271–1500; queen- Suzi Shelton: Symphony Space, Nutrition; Self Empowerment; Healthy Inspired by the museum’s Robert S. szoo.com; 5 pm; $100 ($85 members) 2537 Broadway at W. 94th Street; (212) Relationships. Neuman’s Ship to Paradise exhibit, chil- per person. 864–5400; www.symphonyspace.org; dren of all ages are invited to imagine, Families can explore the zoo after 11 am; $20 ($17 members; $13 children; design and create their own whimsical Wed, Oct. 10 $11 children members). hours and learn all about the animals. boat on the terrace. Portfolio advice: The Heckscher The Brooklyn-based kindie artist will Recommended for children 5 years old Museum of Art, 2 Prime Ave. (631) be performing as part of the Just Kid- Glass painting: Lewis H. Latimer and older. Bring your own tent, sleeping 351–3250; www.heckscher.org; 7–8 ding Saturday series. House, 34-41 137th St. and 32nd Av- bags and picnic dinner. Beverages, des- enue; (718) 961-8585; 1:30–2 pm; Free. sert, late-night snack and breakfast pro- pm; Free. Star Wars Reads Day Storytime: Cristina Cipriani demonstrates the art vided. Pre-registration required. An admission counselor from the Barnes & Noble, 176-60 Union Tpke. of glass painting. School of Visual Arts will be on hand (718) 380–7077; 11 am. Sun, Oct. 7 to help prospective college students Join us in celebration of Star Wars Halloween at the Addams’ work on their portfolios and admission Reads Day! Come dressed as your fa- House: BayWay Arts Centre, 265 E. Fleamarket: St. Raphael’s church, process. 48 Queens Family • October 2012 Calendar Fri, Oct. 12 351–3250; www.heckscher.org; 6–9 pm; Free. Toddler time: 10:30–11:30 am. Students can bring in their works for a Queens Zoo. See Friday, Sept. 28. one-on-one evaluation. Long Island Auto Show: Nassau Coliseum, 1255 Hempstead Tpk. www. Thurs, Oct. 18 nassaucoliseum.com; 5–10 pm; Free. Arts and crafts: Ridgewood Public Take a gander and stroll through new Library, 20-12 Madison St. at Forest Av- 2013 models. enue; (718) 821–4770; www.queensli- brary.org; 4 pm; Free. Sat, Oct. 13 Teens create the perfect tote bag to carry all their stuff. Walk for epilepsy: Eisenhower Park (Field 6/6A), Park Blvd. and Hempstead Italian celebration: Howard Beach Turnpike; (516) 739–7733; www.efli. Public Library, 92-06 156 Ave. at 92nd org; 9 am–1 pm; $30 (Free for children Street; (718) 641–7086; 6:30 pm; Free. under 12). Viva Italiano and make a stained-glass Fund-raiser begins with early registra- candle holder, and then listen to ethnic tion, then the walk, followed by a con- music performed by AcquAria. cert by “The Vinyl Plane.” Star gazing: Old Westbury Gardens, Fishing festival: Hempstead Lake 71 Old Westbury Rd. (516) 333–0048; State Park, Eagle Ave. and the South- www.oldwestburygardens.org; 8:30 ern State Parkway; (631) 321–3510; 10 pm; $5 (Children 17 and under accom- am–4 pm; Free. panied by an adult free). Join fellow anglers for a day of fresh- Grabe a flashlight and take a stroll water sport. Discover childhood through the gardens, then take a view of the moon and stars above. Long Island Auto Show: 10 am–10 pm. Nassau Coliseum. See Friday, Oct. 12. rtist Marc Chagall on pastel drawings that record shared his childhood in their own memories of child- Fri, Oct. 19 Toddler time: Noon–1 pm. Queens Russia through fantas- hood, dreams, and fantasy. Zoo. See Saturday, Sept. 29. A Toddler time: 10:30–11 am. Queens tical paintings where memory “Discover Chagall’s Childhood Zoo. See Friday, Sept. 28. Rat Pack Birthday celebration: and fantasy combine. To cel- World” at the Nassau County Mu- Long Island Children’s Museum, 11 Da- ebrate the work of this mas- seum of Art [1 Museum Dr. on Route Sat, Oct. 20 vis Ave. at West Road; (516) 224–5800; ter artist, the Nassau County 25A in Roslyn Harbor, (516) 484– www.licm.org; 1 pm; Free with museum Museum of Art is presenting 9338; www.nassaumuseum.org]. On Family Day: Nassau County Mu- seum of Art, 1 Museum Drive; (516) admission. “Discover Chagall’s Childhood Oct. 20 from 11 am to 2 pm. Gen- 484–9338; www.nassaumuseum.org; Join Frankie and Sammie for a Rat World” on Oct. 20. eral museum fee, plus $5 per fam- Pack-themed celebration, with a special 11 am–2 pm; $5 materials with museum Families can tour the exhibit, ily material fee and a $2 parking birthday cake. admission. interact with the animals in a fee. Members free. No reservations Discover the works of Marc Chagall Fall fun: Long Island Children’s Mu- petting zoo, and collaborate necessary. and enjoy an entire day full of art, pet- seum, 11 Davis Ave. at West Road; (516) ting zoo, art workshops and a tour of 224–5800; www.licm.org; 2 pm; $4 the museum. with museum admission ($3 for mem- bers; $10 theater only). botanical.org; 11 am–4:30 pm; Free Children 5 years old and up discover Halloween blood fest: Flushing Alice and Connie are back on the with garden admission. how things are built. Public Library, 41-17 Main St. at Par- stage to entertain and celebrate fall. Join in the fun-filled afternoon of sons Boulevard; (718) 661–1200; www. Recommended for children 3 and older. music, good, crafts and, of course, Tues, Oct. 16 queenslibrary.org; Noon–4 pm; Free. pumpkins. Music, magic, and mayhem; Blood Kinder kritters: 2–3 pm. Queens Five senses: Theodore Roosevelt Moon Rising horror magazine presents Zoo. See Saturday, Sept. 29. Family hour: Heckscher Museum, Nature Center, Jones Beach, Bay Park- this ghoulishly good affair. 2 Prime Ave. (631) 351–3250; www. way; (516) 785–3614; 10:30–11:30 am Halloween at the Addams’ Toddler time: Noon–1 pm. Queens heckscher.org; 1–2 pm; $5 plus museum or 1:30–2:30 pm; $4 (children under 3 House: 2 pm. BayWay Arts Centre. See Zoo. See Saturday, Sept. 29. admission. free; plus parking fee). Saturday, Oct. 6. Take a friendly tour of the museum Let’s Discover Nature allows children Kinder kritters: 2–3 pm. Queens and then do a project. RSVP requested. 3 to 5 years old to explore the environ- Zoo. See Saturday, Sept. 29. Sun, Oct. 14 Sea turtles: Theodore Roosevelt Na- ment through hands-on activities. Reser- Halloween at the Addams’ ture Center, Jones Beach, Bay Parkway; vation required. Hispanic heritage month: New House: 2 pm. BayWay Arts Centre. See (516) 785–3614; 1:30–3 pm; $4 (chil- York Hall of Science, 47-01 111th St., at The perfect pillow: Pomonok Public Saturday, Oct. 6. dren under 3 free; plus parking fee). Avenue of Science; (718) 699–0005 X Library, 158-21 Jewel Ave. at Parsons Biologist from Riverhead Foundation 353; www.nyscience.org; 10 am–5 pm; Bloulevard; (718) 591–4343; www. Sun, Oct. 21 Free with museum admission. for Marine Research and Education leads queenslibrary.org; 4:30 pm; Free. discussion on this creature and what you Celebrate La Ciencia y Yo with Teens use a variety of materials to cre- Deedle Deedle Dees, Moona can do to volunteer. Recommended for hands-on activities. ate the perfect cuddle partner in this Luna, and Babe the Blue Ox Con- older children. Reservations required. cert: 92nd Street Y, 1395 Lexington Long Island Auto Show: 10 am–6 workshop. Ave. at E. 91st Street; (212) 415–5500; pm. Nassau Coliseum. See Friday, Oct. 12. Build it!: Long Island Children’s Mu- seum, 11 Davis Ave. at West Road; Wed, Oct. 17 www.92y.org; 11 am; $15, babies under Harvest fest and pumpkin patch: (516) 224–5800; www.licm.org; 3 pm; 2 free. Queens Botanical Garden, 43-50 Main $3 with museum admission ($2 for Portfolio review I: The Heckscher Pack up the posse and come on in for Street; (718) 539–5296; www.queens- members). Museum of Art, 2 Prime Ave. (631) Continued on page 50 October 2012 • Queens Family 49 Calendar
Continued from page 49 Garden in the fall: 2–4 pm. Queens a bagel, a coffee, or juicebox and some Botanical Garden. See Saturday, Sept. tiny tushy-kicking tunes. It’s not your 29. granny’s kids’ music (unless she’s one of those hip New York City grannies). Kinder Kritters: 2–3 pm. Queens Zoo. See Saturday, Sept. 29. Bubblemania: Queens Theatre, Flush- ing Meadows Corona Park; Box Office Halloween at the Addams’ (718) 760–0064; www.queenstheatre. House: 2 pm. BayWay Arts Centre. See org; 1 pm, 3 pm; $14. Saturday, Oct. 6. The show returns with brilliant works “And Then There Were None”: of bubble art and feat of trickery. Houghton Hall at Trinity Episcopal Sea turtles: 1:30–3 pm. Theodore Church, 130 Main St. (631) 732–2926; Roosevelt Nature Center. See Sunday, www.minstrelplayers.org; 8 pm; $15 Oct. 14. ($12 seniors children). Agatha Christie’s novel is performed Tues, Oct. 23 by the Minstrel Players of Northport. For children 5 years old and older. Health forum: 3:30 pm. Central Li- brary. See Tuesday, Oct. 9. Sun, Oct. 28 Monster making: Hillcrest Public Halloween: 10 am–5 pm. New York Library, 187-05 Union Tpke at 188th Hall of Science. See Friday, Oct. 26. Street; (718) 454–2786; www.queensli- brary.org; 4:30 pm; Free. Franken fish: Theodore Roosevelt Na- Calling all artists to create their own ture Center, Jones Beach, Bay Parkway; original mask. All materials provided. For (516) 785–3614; 1:30–3 pm; $4 (chil- children 6 to 14 years old. dren under 3 free; plus parking fee). Roadmap to College Admissions: Children 7 to 12 years old learn The Princeton Review, 104-70 Queens Don’t miss this about the anatomy of fish. Reservation Blvd. at Yellowstone Boulevard; (800) required. 273–8439; www.princetonreview.com; “And Then There Were None”: 3 7 pm; Free. fancy musical pm. Houghton Hall at Trinity Episcopal An admissions expert will advise stu- Church. See Saturday, Oct. 27. dents and parents on the college admis- ancy Nancy the Mu- of the dreary old tree. Will Nancy sions process, including topics such as admissions factors, selectivity, college sical” is singing and bring her usual “fancy-flair” to Tues, Oct. 30 dancing its way into her role, even though it isn’t the searching, standardized tests, and time- “F Happy Halloween: Theodore the McGinn Cazale Theatre for an one she wanted? lines. Registration required. Roosevelt Nature Center, Jones Beach, extended stay until Nov. 12. “Fancy Nancy the Musical” is Bay Parkway; (516) 785–3614; 10:30– Wed, Oct. 24 Based on the children’s picture suitable for children 3 to 10 years 11:30 am or 1:30–2:30 pm; $4 (children book series by Jane O’Connor, old. under 3 free; plus parking fee). Portfolio review I: 6–9 pm. this musical production has “Fancy Nancy the Musical” at The Heckscher Museum of Art. See Let’s Discover Nature allows children The McGinn-Cazale Theatre, [2162 Wednesday, Oct. 17. Fancy Nancy and friends, Bree, 3 to 5 years old to explore the environ- Rhonda, Wanda, and Lionel, com- Broadway at 76th Street on the ment through hands-on activities. Reser- Roadmap to College Admissions: peting for the coveted role of mer- Upper West Side, (212) 579–0528, vation required. The Princeton Review, 4513 Manhattan http://vitaltheatre.org]. Saturdays maid in their very first ever per- Halloween craft: Lefrak City Library, College Pkwy. at W. 242nd Street; (800) formance of “Deep Sea Dances.” and Sundays through Nov. 12. Perfor- 273–8439; www.princetonreview.com; 98-30 57th Ave. (718) 592–7677; www. When the role goes to another mances at 11 am and 1 pm. Tickets 7 pm; Free. queenslibrary.org; 4:30 pm; Free. girl, Nancy is stuck with the role from $29.50 to $45.50. An admissions expert will advise stu- Children create holiday projects using dents and parents on the college admis- pony beads. Pre-registration required. sions process including topics such as admissions factors, selectivity, college Science, 47-01 111th St., at Avenue of State Park, W. Jericho Turnpike; (631) Wed, Oct. 31 searching, standardized tests, and time- Science; (718) 699–0005 X 353; www. 265–1054; 1:30–3 pm; $4 ($3 children; lines. Registration required. nyscience.org; 11 am–4 pm; Free with Free for children under 3; $8 parking fee Teeny Tiny Trick O’Treaters: Al- museum admission. per car). ley Pond Environmental Center, 228-06 Get out your goggles and explore the Northern Blvd. (718) 229–4000; 1 pm; Fri, Oct. 26 Families learn about history. Reserva- $16 per child. wonderful world of science. tions required. Halloween: New York Hall of Science, Please join us for a special festival for Halloween: 10 am–5 pm. New York 47-01 111th St., at Avenue of Science; Halloween bash: Crowne Plaza the little ones ages 18 months to 4 years Hall of Science. See Friday, Oct. 26. (718) 699–0005 X 353; www.nyscience. Hotel, Exit 63 Long Island Expressway; old. Join us for a not so scary craft, play org; 10 am–5 pm; Free with museum Halloween: Beach 84, Beach Channel (631) 207–1681; www.protectallergick- Halloween games, eat a haunted snack, admission. Drive and Beach 84th St. (718) 318- ids.org; 2–4 pm; $10 per child. and more! Create edible tricks and treats with 4000; www.nycgovparks.org; 11 am–1 Sponsored by Protect Allergic Kids; Halloween party: Seaside Public candy makers, molecular gastronomists pm; Free. and food scientists. come in costume, DJ entertainment, Library, 116-15 Rockaway Blvd. (718) Dress up your canine companions for craft table, play area for toddlers and 634–1876; www.queenslibrary.org; 4 this annual costume bash. Prizes, games face and body painting. Children 18 and pm; Free. and pet adoption. Sat, Oct. 27 younger must be accompanied by an For children 4 to 18 years old. Come Chemistry day: New York Hall of Plundering pirates: Caleb Smith adult. in costume, and party down. 50 Queens Family • October 2012 Calendar Thurs, Nov. 1 Farmer’s market: Roy Wilkins Fam- ily Center, Baisley Blvd & 177th St. Sat- Halloween Spooktacular: Caleb urdays, 10:00am, Now – Sat, Nov. 17; Smith State Park, W. Jericho Turnpike; Free. (631) 265–1054; 10–11 am; $4 ($3 chil- Fresh fruits and veggies along with dren; Free for children under 3; $8 park- health screenings. ing fee per car). Let’s Discover Nature offers children 3 Winged Tapestries Moths at to 5 years old the opportunity to explore Large: American Museum of Natu- the natural world with hands-on activi- ral History, Central Park West at 79th ties. Reservations required. Street; (212) 769–5200; www.amnh. org; Daily, 10 am–5:45 pm; $24($14 Long-running children, $18 seniors and students). This exhibition features 34 striking im- Science Playground: New York Hall ages of moths, displaying the beauty of Science, 47-01 111th St., at Avenue and surprising diversity of moths from of Science; (718) 699–0005 X 353; Ottawa-based photographer Jim des Riv- www.nyscience.org; $4 per person, plus ieres. Runs through September 2013. general NYSCI admission. Beginner’s trainer program: Long Weather permitting. The nation’s larg- Island Aquarium & Exhibition Center, est science playground features 60,000 431 E. Main St. (631) 208–9200, X H2O; square feet of exhibits for children of all [email protected]; www.longis- ages. Slides, seesaws, climbing webs, landaquarium.com; Saturdays, 10:15 am a water play area, drums, mirrors, sand & 2:00 pm, Now – Sat, Sept. 29; $150 ( boxes and more allow kids to explore Members: $125). science by playing. Children 10 years old and above have Intrepid Air and Space Museum: an opportunity to learn how to be a Intrepid Sea Air and Space Museum at trainer and work with seals and sea Pier 86, 12th Ave. at 46th Street; www. Rocking out with the lions. intrepidmuseum.org; Weekdays, 10 am–5 pm, Saturdays and Sundays, 10 Arts and crafts: Lakeshore Learn- am–6 pm, Now – Wed, Oct. 31; $30 Suzie Shelton Band ing Store, 2079 Hillside Ave. at Marcus general admission ($26 seniors and col- Avenue; (516) 616–9360; mgermain@ lege students; $23 children 7-17 and ock out at Symphony you long after the concert is over. lakehsorelearning.com; www.lakeshore- veterans; $16 children 3-6; Free for ac- Space as it kicks off its Symphony Space also offers learning.com; Saturdays, 11 am – 3 pm, tive and retired military and children “Just Kidding Saturday” se- music, theater, dance, and a whole Now – Sat, Dec. 29; Free. R Children 3 and up create fun projects. under 3). ries with a special performance by lot more for children of all ages. Come aboard and explore the 12,240 the Brooklyn-based kindie group The Suzi Shelton Band at “Just The Amazing Maize Maze: Queens square foot interactive Exploreum, fea- (indie rock for kids under 10), Kidding Saturdays” on Oct. 6 at County Farm Museum, 73-50 Little turing a variety of hands on exhibits Neck Pkwy. (718) 347–3276; www. as well as the Space Shuttle Enterprise the Suzi Shelton Band, on Oct. 6. 11 am. Tickets are $20, ($17 mem- The Suzie Shelton Band delights bers) and $13 children ($11 chil- queensfarm.org; Saturdays and Sun- which now has a permanent home in days, 11 am, Now – Sun, Oct. 28; $9 ($5 the museum. audiences with a musical mix of dren members). children 4-11, under 3 free). sounds that illustrate a world full The Suzi Shelton Band at Sym- Fair: Soho, 100 Varick St. (914) 295– Enjoy getting lost in our three-acre in- phony Space [2537 Broadway at W. 4794; [email protected]; www. of slumbering lions, squishy jelly- teractive corn maze. meetup.com/varicks; Daily, 10 am–4 fish, and slithering serpents. Her 94th Street in Midtown, (212) 864- catchy, snappy tunes stay with 540, www.symphonyspace.org]. Basketball clinics: North Meadow pm; Now – Sat, Dec. 29; $55/Space. Recreation Center, 97th St. Transverse Enjoy shopping and schmoozing in the Rd. (212) 348–4867; www.nycgov- all day market. parks.org; Saturdays, Noon–2 pm, Now Creatures of Light: American Mu- www.czechcenter.com; Daily, 6:30– Children 2 to 4 years old explore the – Sat, Oct. 27; Free. seum of Natural History, Central Park 8:30 pm; Now – Wed, Oct. 17; Free. exhibits and collections, play, listen to Children 9-17 get help with the B-ball West at 79th Street; (212) 769–5200; Play Well is a series of site-specific in- stories, and crafts. game. [email protected]; www.amnh.org; stallations in which artists and children Game day: Howard Beach Public Li- Family Sundays: Nassau County Daily, 10 am–5:45 pm; Now – Sun, Jan. collaborate to create experiences in visu- brary, 92-06 156 Ave. at 92nd Street; Museum of Art, 1 Museum Drive; (516) 6, 2013; $24, $14 children, $18 seniors als, sound and motion. (718) 641–7086; www.queenslibrary. 484–9337; www.nassaumuseum.org; and students. Poetry workshop: Barnes & Noble, org; Wednesdays, 4 PM, Now – Wed, Sunday, Sept. 23, 1 pm; Sunday, Sept. This interactive exhibit explores organ- 176-60 Union Tpke. (718) 380–7077; 30, 1 pm; Sunday, Oct. 7, 1 pm; Sunday, isms that produce light, from the flicker- Oct. 31; Free. Mondays, 7:30 pm, Now – Mon, Nov. Teens and tweens partake of friendly Oct. 14, 1 pm; Sunday, Oct. 21, 1 pm; ing fireflies to alien deep-sea fishes. 26; Free. Sunday, Oct. 28, 1 pm; Sunday, Nov. 4, competition on Nintendo Wii, checkers, 12 pm; Free ($2 parking fee). Le Carrousel: Bryant Park, W. 40th Budding poets perfect the craft with chess, and other board games. St. between Fifth and Sixth avenues; Bob Trabold and Amanda Konstantine Take a docent-led tour of the museum ww.nycgovparks.org; Daily, 11 am–8 Perlmutter. Rocket mini-golf: New York Hall of and then be creative and make fun art pm; Now – Wed, Oct. 31; $2 per ride. Science, 47-01 111th St., at Avenue of projects. Yak Packers: Rubin Museum of Fashioned to complement the park’s Art, 150 W. 17 St., between Sixth and Science; (718) 699–0005 X 353; www. Pick Your Own Pumpkin: Queens French style, this classic ride features Seventh avenues; (212) 620–5000 X nyscience.org; Saturdays and Sundays, County Farm Museum, 73-50 Little brightly colored animals and French cab- 344. www.rmanyc.org; Wednesdays 10 am–6 pm, Now – Mon, Dec. 31; $6 Neck Pkwy. (718) 347–3276; www. aret music. and Thursdays, 10:30–11:30 am, Now ($5 children and seniors) plus museum queensfarm.org; Saturdays and Sun- Orbis Pictus: The Gallery of the Czech – Thurs, Oct. 25; $10 ($5 seniors and admission. days, 11 am, Sat, Oct. 6 – Sun, Oct. 28. Center New York, 321 E. 73rd St. (646) students; Free for children under 12 and Putt your way through a nine-hole Wander through the patch to find the 422–3399; [email protected]; members). course and learn all about spaceflight. perfect one. October 2012 • Queens Family 51 theMarketplace
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