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בּסדאהיה כּטל לישׁראל אהיה כּטל לישׁראל אהיה כּטל לישׁראל אהיה כּטל לישׁראל אהיה כּטל לישׁראל אהיה כּטל לישׁראל This week’s edition is sponsored Lehatslachat Raaya Bat Liora Yehudit Vechol Mishpachta KI TEITZEI COMMUNITY PARASHA SHEET 13th ELLUL 5776 Shabbat begins: 18:59 Shabbat ends: 19;58 these wives have children and the father The Tomer Devorah explains that the twelfth wishes to give his inheritance - Vehaya Ben mida is Asher Nishbata Lavotenu – The Habechor LaSenia – the Bechor (first born) Merit of our Forefathers - Zechut Avot . states the Torah will be born to the Hashem looks down towards us with certain wife. The Torah does not say ‘Im’ – the first aspects of mercy. There are times that we born is born to…, rather it states ‘Vehaya’ – are not worthy, and all we have going for us the first born be born to the hated wife. is the Zechut Avot. Our forefathers merit What is the Torah teaching us? have weight until today, and helps carry Hashem is Kel Rachum Vechanun a through even those that are not worthy. merciful G-d, He is a G-d full of love and We are taught to emulate Hashem’s RABBI JONATHAN TAWIL care. We are taught VeHalachta Bedrachav attributes. Thus we are also obligated to DIRECTOR, TAL – that we should emulate His deeds, just as view others, (even if we think they are not He is loving and merciful so to we should be. worthy) as worthy. For they carry the merit Two Wives! Hate should not exist between us, of their fathers. This is how Hashem’s mercy especially between husband and wife. extends towards us and this is how we should view others. When we don’t like a Are you married? No? What you waiting for certain person, when we think that they are join the club. worthless, we should remember that they Yes – for how long? Has it been a while too descend from Avraham Yitzchak and since you were under the chupa with your Yaakov, they to carry this merit and we must spouse to be? How’s married life treating love them as Hashem loves them. you? There exists a further attribute of mercy. The When we are young we all desire to settle Thirteenth attribute is Mimei Kedem. down with the perfect spouse. Yet when we What does that mean? Mimei Kedem refers hear adults talking about married life, it to the early years. Observing children can doesn’t seem all that desirable. In a be fun. They are so cute and innocent. Their generation of high divorce rates and many early years and limited understanding singles around, how can we put the impetus cause us to look favourably upon them. It’s back into marriage? difficult to really punish a cute kid. This weeks parsha relates the law of a man Hashem says, when you sin, I don’t punish who married two wives. The Torah hints that The Sefer Tomer Devorah is relatively small you straight away, I take into account your in such a case, one of the wives will be loved yet it is embalmed with potent words of youth. I remember your cute early years – and the other despised. It’s not an ideal wisdom. The Sefer authored by the Saintly when you were relatively innocent and free situation. Rabbi Moshe Kordovero is built on the 13 from sin. The Torah continues to discuss the laws of attributes of mercy mentioned at the end of Similarly we too are taught to look the children of these two wives. When both Micha. (Mi kel Kamocha) favourably at others. To remember that not long ago 1. The Torah says that a firstborn gets double inheritance. How can people nowadays go against this commandment and give in- heritance equally to all children? 2. What important halacha do we learn from the parsha regarding how to deal with Jewish burial? 3. Why is it wrong for a man to remove white hairs? 4. When else in the year do we read from Parshas Ki Seitsei? 5. Which two of the six remembrances said after davening appear in Parshas Ki Seitsei? 6. How many mitzvos appear in Parshas Ki Seitsei? 7. Which mitzva in Parshas Ki Seitsei do you get without doing anything? 8. What mitzva to you get a reward for by not even intentionally giving? www.torahactionlife.com אהיה כּטל לישׁראל אהיה כּטל לישׁראל אהיה כּטל לישׁראל אהיה כּטל לישׁראל אהיה כּטל לישׁראל אהיה כּטל לישׁראל in the early days of our relationship we move. Does he remember the difficulties eager to get married. Why does it say they viewed them differently. she went through to serve him and respect passed by ? Do you remember the first date? The man his every wish. Does he recall the pain of The answer is that for Yaakov, due to his probably got out of the car and opened the pregnancy. Does the wife remember the love of Rachel, seven years for him were a door for the lady. He listened to every word way the husband turned his timetable cheap price to pay for such a wonderful she had to say that night. She was so upside down to please her, how he spent kalla! He appreciated her so much, the time excited to speak to him. They saw the his monthly salary delighted to please his was worth it and passed by quickly. potential of building a great family together. wife? Rav Dessler Ztsl used to give sound advice That potential several years later still exists These are the Yemei Kedem. This is the way to every chattan and Kalla. So long as you and should be close to reality. Hashem deals with us. It’s difficult, but it’s think about to the other side your Hashem deals mida keneged mida not impossible. If we look at people with a marriage will be constantly steady and suc- (Sanhedrin 90). In the same way as we different light, then many of the futile cessful. The moment either side thinks judge others, we will be judged. Thus when arguments and problems fall aside. about taking that’s when the challenges we look favourably upon others, Hashem When Yaakov was conned into working come. looks favourably upon us. seven years for Rachel, the Torah states In an age where singles are the norm, and When we get in an argument with our (Bereishit (29:20)) they were in his eyes like marriages need fortifying let us take the spouse, children friends, do we look at yamim achadim – they passed by quick with message from the Torah, let us emulate them with the eye of these attributes. Do we his love for them. Hashem. Open our eyes, remember that remember their Zechut Avot, does it enter Our sages are surprised by this statement. first love, remember the merit of the forefa- our minds at the heat of an argument to If you love someone and are told you have thers, respect our spouses and build won- remember that these are holy individuals to work seven years, then time passes by derful families for the next generation. Let us who were once free from sin(mime Kedem). very , it should have said that the shine new light on our marriages and may Does a husband remember the days when years were like for Yaakov who was Hashem deal with us in kind. Amen. his wife followed him in trust of his every the end he will bear a child who is a ben sorer Not only does Rashi teach us that performing umoreh. one mitzvah will lead to other mitzvot, but we also see that Hashem will send a person the The Arizal says that when the Torah discuss- physical and material possessions es waging war against one’s enemy, it refers necessary to facilitate the continuity of metaphorically to the war against the yetzer performing other Mitsvot. Since Rashi says hara. The Sefat Emet explains that our great- that having a house is in the zechut that it will est enemy is our own yetzer hara and so this be used in order to do the mitzvah of ma’ake, concept can relate to other sins one may it is implied that when a house is used as a transgress. The yetzer hara may trick one means to do mitzvot, it will bring other into thinking that transgressing a opportunities to do mitsvot with other RABBI DAVID GARSON particular sin will not be relevant and material possessions. Hashem will send a important enough to impact other areas of person further material items, e.g. clothing, a The Effects Of his life. Yet the Torah tells us that one’s field, etc. in order for him to be able to fulfil actions do have consequences that arise in other mitsvot. Our Actions unexpected areas and can begin a slippery slope from bad to worse transgressions. This In summary, the two sequences of parashiot The first three topics discussed consecutively idea is reinforced by Tosafot Daat Zekenim of mitsvot and aveirot discussed above, in the parasha are: “Eshet Yefat Toar,” “Isha on these pesukim who say that the sequence reflect the concept taught to us in Pirkei Avot Senuah” and “Ben Sorer Umoreh.” of parashiot teach us “Aveira goreret aveira – (4, 2), that one transgression drags along a sin brings about other sins.” (Although the other sins, as well as one mitsvah drags “Eshet Yefat Toar,” concerns the laws of Torah permits marrying a woman captured in along other mitzvot.

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