ANO INDEPENDENTU VOICE FOR THE TLESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENDER COMMUNITIES March 21, 2014 | Volume XI, Issue 22

By Steve Charing Iron Crow to Present The Baltimore-based Iron Crow Theatre Company will be pre- The Homo Poe Show senting The Homo Poe Show from March 22 to April 5, way towards this definition of ‘queer.’ His which will feature short pieces in- take on the world is so idiosyncratic and spired by or adapted from the leg- unexpected (twisted, in some cases) that endary Baltimore writer Edgar Al- he created his own genre of literature. He lan Poe and seen through a queer deals often with obsession and lost love, lens. which, while it is not explicitly sexual in his “Iron Crow has always had a stories, is an easy path into the territories very big definition of ‘queer’ – to of gender and sexual desire.” Satta, along include expression that skews with Ryan M. Clark, directs this theatrical or re-invents things in a dramatic event. way that connects to gender or “I think the audience will get a lot of Alec Weinberg and sexual themes,” Steven J. Satta, bang for their buck,” says Satta. “It is an Nick Horan in Iron Crow Theatre’s artistic direc- evening of short pieces by a range of art- ‘Grieving and Sequins’ tor, told Baltimore OUTloud. “I think ists in a range of media and styles. There credit: Zachary Handler that Poe is already more than half- —continued on page 22 Southern Baptists Sissies Comes to Baltimore By Chuck Duncan Baptist Sissies, which is actually a filmed You may not know the name Del Shores, presentation of the stage play. but you are probably more than familiar The story focuses on Mark (Emerson with one of his most recognized projects, Collins) and his three friends, TJ (Luke Sordid Lives, which was a movie in 2000 Stratte-McClure), Andrew (Matthew Scott and a TV series prequel in 2008. Shores Montgomery) and Benny (Willam Belli, best has written several plays and has written known from RuPaul’s Drag Race). Mark and produced for a variety of television is the narrator of his and the boys’ sto- shows from Touched by An Angel to Dhar- ries as each of them grapple with leading ma & Greg and Queer as Folk. good Southern Baptist lives while knowing But it’s Sordid Lives that really brought they’re different… sissies. Mark has a seri- Shores and his patented brand of “South- ous crush on TJ, TJ enjoys fooling around ern Tragic Humor” his largest audience (as with Mark until he… finishes, Benny has well as a huge following on Facebook), fully embraced himself and performs in and now he’s finally returned to those drag at the local gay bar, and Andrew is a Southern roots with his new film Southern lost soul searching for himself, by himself. Most of the story takes place in the church setting, with asides to Mark’s or Andrew’s bedrooms, and the bar. Two of the bars patrons are also on hand to quip Del Shores (left) and with each other, but Odette (Dale Dickey) Emerson Collinsn —continued on page 23 credit: Zachary Handler

—continued on page 10 news // viewpoint St. Patrick’s Day: Beer Firms and Mayors Take a Stand for LGBT Rights By Rodney Burger ties were unable displayed. When Mayor On Sunday, March 16, I stood on Charles to come to an de Blasio dropped out Street in Baltimore and sipped a Guinness understanding of the parade in pro- as I enjoyed our city’s annual St. Patrick’s that would have test, Guinness quickly Day parade. Baltimore Mayor Stephanie made that possi- dropped sponsorship. Rawlings-Blake waved to the cheering ble.” When local Heineken followed suit. crowd as she joined other politicians in bars and restau- Prior to their announce- Baltimore’s popular parade, which has en- rants threatened ment, the Stonewall Inn tertained locals for over 50 years. I would to stop serving and other New York not usually buy a Guinness – my beer of Samuel Adams gay bars had planned choice is another brand – but drinking that beer because of to boycott sales of popular Irish dry stout has become a big their sponsorship Guinness. St. Patrick’s Day tradition. on the parade, “Today, Guinness Miles away in Boston, another St. Pat- the beer compa- sent a strong message rick’s Day Parade was taking place. Bos- ny dropped its sponsorship. Boston’s St. to its customers and employees; discrimi- ton Mayor Marty Walsh, an Irish-American, Patrick’s Day Parade dates from 1901 and nation should never be celebrated,” stated refused to appear in his city’s parade when in the second largest St. Patrick’s Day Pa- GLAAD president Sarah Kate Ellis. he was unable to convince the parade’s rade in the U.S., viewed by 600,000 to one It is just unbelievable that in New York organizers, the conservative South Bos- million people, in addition to appearing on and Massachusetts – two states where ton Allied War Veteran’s Council, to allow live television. gay marriage is legal – that this type of dis- LGBT Veteran’s for Equality to march in On Monday, March 17, the world’s larg- crimination is allowed. Thank you Mayor the annual procession. Mayor Walsh stat- est parade celebrating Irish heritage was Marty Walsh, Mayor Bill de Blasio, and the ed, “So much of our Irish history has been held in New York City. New York Mayor Bill good folks at Samuel Adams, Heineken, shaped by the fight against oppression. As de Blasio became the first New York mayor and Guinness for taking a stand for LGBT mayor of the city of Boston, I have to do in two decades to sit out the parade. The rights. I’m glad I spent my money on that my best to ensure that all Bostonians are New York parade dates from 1766 and also Guinness beer. I plan to have another one free to participate fully in the civic life of has a policy under which any symbol regard- soon. We all need to support those compa- our city. Unfortunately, this year the par- ing sexual orientation is not allowed to be nies that support us! t

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news // LOCAL Providing Support in the Face of Stigma

By Steve Charing support meetings have occurred at the orga- It’s hard enough, even today, for folks to be nization’s West Chase Street location but that LGBT. Although there has been significant is about to change. Starting April 5 Hearts & progress in gaining rights, there are still many Ears will be holding weekly transgender sup- issues to face from being a sexual minority. port groups on Saturdays from noon to 2 p.m. And if one also has some mental health prob- at their new Wellness and Recovery Center, lems, it could be very distressing, especially if 611 Park Avenue, Suite A, in Baltimore. one is stigmatized as a result. All trans and gender-queer identified indi- Those who are dually stigmatized (i.e. be- viduals are welcome to attend. (The standard ing both LGBT and having mental-health is- operating hours for visits to the Center are sues) can find it difficult to be fully accepted by Wednesday through Saturday from 10 a.m. to others. To help those in need there has been 6 p.m.) More information on the weekly sup- a Baltimore-based organization called Hearts port groups can be found at their website at & Ears that for 16 years Heartsandears.org. has extended a welcom- In regards to the trans- ing hand. gender group itself, it is Hearts & Ears – a held once a week and is non-profit organization for open to any trans-iden- LGBT, intersex and ques- tified individual whether tioning individuals with pre- or post-transition, mental health issues and trans male, trans female, concerns – aims to be a gender queer, question- community where people ing, and so forth. Support can feel safe, supported, and welcomed. It is in Transition, (SIT), is a unique, safe space for funded by a grant from Behavioral Health Sys- trans individuals to meet, exchange valuable tem Baltimore. experiences, and gain strong support during “As a matter of course we serve the LG- all phases of transition, including the question- BTQI population who self-identify as consum- ing phase. ers of mental-health services,” says Hearts & “What sets SIT apart from other local Ears director Jessica Blum. “However, we at- groups is that Hearts & Ears specializes in tempt to help any queer individuals who seek peer-to-peer support, and is attuned to indi- our assistance with finding therapists, locat- viduals living with mental health challenges,” ing housing, seeking advice related to gender says group moderator Vann Millhouse. “Par- transition, preventing and/or managing HIV/ ticipants receive an added layer of aid while AIDS and other STDs, and so forth.” they undergo stressors from being trans and The organization was started by Paula Laf- manage a mental health disorder. The friend- ferty in 1998 as primarily a peer-support group ly group freely and openly discuss medica- where members could help each other deal tion management, body image, employment, with the double stigma of having mental-health and general health issues, in conjunction with issues and of being LGBT. Hearts & Ears was mental health, as well as common trans-spe- a grassroots organization made up of individu- cific hurdles.” als who recognized that their needs were not Facilitated by Black Transmen, a national being met at most traditional mental-health non-profit trans advocacy organization, SIT programs and services. attracts individuals from as far as Glen Bur- They believed that recovery comes nie and Timonium, and as close as Baltimore through helping others and opening them- City, which proves to be a well-rounded, var- selves to them. In a culture where there is so ied group with many indispensable insights. much stigma towards LGBT folks with mental Hearts & Ears maintains a “warmline,” illness, it would be hard not to internalize some which is not an emergency crisis line. People of society’s negative messages. Listening are welcome to call 410-523-1694 during nor- compassionately to others could help mem- mal operating hours. If no one is available, bers develop compassion toward themselves. folks are urged to leave a message and some- Hearts & Ears offers resources that range one will get back to you as soon as possible. from information on LGBT-friendly doctors, If you need to talk with a hotline immedi- therapists, transgender transitioning, housing, ately please call Baltimore Crisis Response, a food and clothing assistance, medication man- multi-service crisis intervention center provid- agement and illness education – as well as a ing 24-hour crisis intervention services, shel- whole host of other information that will aid in- ter, transitional housing, and community edu- dividuals to make well-informed decisions on cation. Crisis intervention program services 201 N. Charles Street, Suite 2300 Baltimore, MD 21201 the road to recovery. are available to anyone in need 24-hours a Offices: 410-332-1170 Fax 410-836-0288 There has been a concerted effort to help day, seven days a week. Call 410-433-5175 Lyndamdee@aol.com www.lyndadeelaw.com transgender individuals in this regard. Regular or 410-433-5255. t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD march 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 3 news // LOCAL A ‘Chance’ to Raise Money for Moveable Feast

By Steve Charing The goals of both Play for the Feast On April 5, “Play for the Feast” will be held and Ride for the Feast are to raise funds to benefit Moveable Feast, a Baltimore- for Moveable Feast’s services, to increase based non-profit organization that provides awareness of nutritional needs of people nutritious meals and other services at no living with HIV/AIDS, breast cancer and cost to people with HIV/AIDS, breast can- other life-threatening conditions, and to cer and other life-threatening conditions. have fun. The event, which will include such ca- Moveable Feast provides healthful sino-style games as Blackjack and Texas meals to affected persons and their fami- Hold ’em Poker competitions, a money lies and allows clients to focus on their wheel, silent auction and a 50-50 raffle, health and overcome their life-threatening will take place from 7 to 10 p.m. at the Silo conditions. Moveable Feast’s staff and Point Games volunteers Room, 1200 also have daily Steuart Street, face-to-face Baltimore. Food contact with from local es- clients, which tablishments improves their and beverages quality of life as well as three by giving them chances at the attention and 50-50 raffle are moral support included in the that they often admission cost don’t receive of $15. anywhere else. Tickets On top may be pur- of providing chased in ad- meals and nu- vance from any Volunteer Mike Johnson at last year’s tritional coun- member of the Play for the Feast seling, Move- credit: Steve Charing cycling team able Feast listed at Ride- offers a trans- fortheFeast.org. Additional information portation service for their clients to attend is available by calling 443-866-6365 or their medical appointments. To address emailing [email protected]. the staggering figures of HIV-infection Play for the Feast is an annual event rates among Baltimore City’s homeless, produced by The Shirley Temples, an of- several years ago Moveable Feast began ficial cycling team for Moveable Feast’s supplying hot meals, seven days a week Ride for the Feast, which is a two-day, to local shelters. In addition to their ac- 140-mile bike ride through the state of tive kitchen, the organization also offers Maryland, from Ocean City to Baltimore a 12-week culinary training program that City. This year’s ride is a special Mother’s teaches former clients and other individu- Day edition, with special attention to the als the skills they need to work in the food moms who are supporters or clients of service industry. Moveable Feast. For more information, visit Mfeast.org. t Healing For The Whole Self Pain Relief Stress Reduction Tanisia Smith Energy Medicine BA, LMT, NCBTMB, MBLEX Massage Therapist Couples’ Massage Instruction Reiki Master Intuitive www.GoddessWithinHealing.com 8700 Old Harford Road, Suite L5B Mention This Ad To Receive Parkville, MD 21234 A FREE 15-Minute Upgrade! 443-803-4876

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ner-up Sabrina Sommers. so if the good Lord keeps me, I’ll be there hibit discrimina- Shawnna Alexander The organizers honored Miss Hippo so everyone has an invite. I hope to be tion based on Maryland America Araya Sparxx. The ready by then and thank you in advance to gender identity Crowned Miss Hippo pageant also featured such performers Team Alexander!” t in matters of as Josie Foster, Joanna Blue, Stephanie employment, Popular drag performer Shawnna Alexan- Michaels, D’Marjie, Sue Nami, Jada Bee, housing, and der (Center) captured First Place in the Charity Suade and Tatyanna Voche. Poll: Majority of public accom- annual Miss Hippo pageant on March 9. “I didn’t expect to win but I am pleased,” modation. This Shawnna is seen here with Second Run- Shawnna Alexander told Baltimore OUT- would mainly affect transgender individu- ner-up Kit Valentine (left) and First Run- loud. “My next stop is Miss Gay Maryland, Marylanders Support als – people who self-identify as a gen- der different from their sex assigned at Trans Rights birth. That being said, do you [support or oppose] including gender identity in the A new poll finds that 71 percent of Mary- state’s antidiscrimination laws?” landers support proposed legislation that The Fairness for All Marylanders Act of would prohibit discrimination based on 2014 would amend the state’s anti-discrim- gender identity in the areas of employ- ination laws that already include sexual ment, housing, and public accommodation. orientation.Like The bill Uswas approved On March 4 The Goucher Poll, conducted by the Sarah in the Maryland State Senate and is await- T. Hughes Field Politics Center at Balti- ing action Facebook!in the House of Delegates. t more-based Goucher College, found that of those supporting, 39 percent strongly support the measure. Of the 20 percent who oppose the legislation, only 10 per- Shawnna Alexander (cen- ter), first-place winner in cent strongly do so. the annual Miss Hippo A total of 861 Marylanders were inter- pageant.Second runner- viewed and the margin of error was plus/ up Kit Valentine (left) and minus 3.3 percent. first runner-up Sabrina The respondents were asked: “As you Sommers join her may have heard, the Maryland State Leg- credit: Bev Wilson islature is considering a bill that would pro-

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD march 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 5 beyond the beltway compiled by Jim Becker week revealed that Cosby died of blunt pants, as well as discussion groups, social force trauma and Jackson was shot to networking opportunities, and a resource death. fair featuring information and tools in a va- Lesbian couple Cosby’s arrest came during an inter- riety of topic areas of importance to LGBT view with sheriff deputies after he made parents and prospective parents. killed; father certain statements and deputies found The 2014 Conference will offer four evidence, Galveston County Sheriff Henry learning “tracks” for participants: Paths arrested for Trochesset told the Chronicle. He said the to Parenthood; Educating Our Children, home “appears to be a secondary crime Changing Our Schools; Supporting Our evidence scene.” Cosby lived in the Houston home Families; and, Legal, Financial, and Leg- with his daughter and his daughter’s great- islative Hot Topics. It also includes ac- tampering grandmother. Police are still searching for tivities designed for children 2.5 years old a person of interest in the case and the and above. Online registration is $40 per Galveston, Texas – The Galveston couple’s silver 2006 Kia Sorrento. Anyone person for Rainbow Families DC members County sheriff’s office has arrested the fa- with information about the case should and $50 for non-members Registration ther of the one of the women found dead contact the Galveston County Sheriff’s Of- Rusty Doll and Lisa Sipes fees for kids’ activities are $25 per child two weeks ago in Port Bolivar. James fice tip line at 866-248-8477. (Dallas Voice for members and $30 per for non-member Larry Cosby, 46, was arrested March 13 – Anna Waugh at Dallasvoice.com) child and must be made online. Learn and charged with two counts of tampering called names and harassed because he is more about the 2014 Family Conference with evidence gay. We want people to have a place to and Rainbow Families DC at www.rain- in the deaths go where there is some sense of commu- bowfamiliesdc.org. (Bay Windows at Bay- of his daugh- Home planned nity, basically a family environment.” The windows.com) ter, Britney shelter will be geared toward ages 18-21, Cosby, and her for Gay youth in and youth 16-17 who are legally emanci- girlfriend Crys- pated. The house has two bedrooms, and tal Jackson, Philadelphia the shelter will accept up to eight residents Lesbian couple the Houston at a time, for either crisis intervention or Chronicle re- Philadelphia, Pennsylvania – Two long-term residency. For more information, sues Vermont ports. Cosby is Philly transplants are looking to tackle the visit Phillychangetoday.com. (Philadelphia in the Galves- issue of LGBT youth homelessness head- Gay News – Jen Colletta at Epgn.com) town and ton County jail on. Rusty Doll and Lisa Sipes are in the with bail set at process of launching nonprofit Change neighbors for $500,000. He is Philly Today, which will focus on their ef- James Larry Cosby believed a sus- forts to open a residential space for home- Conference for bias pect in at least less LGBT young people. The residence one of the murders and charges could be will be located in North Philadelphia, sexual minority Addison, Vermont – Barbara Ernst upgraded to capital murder as the investi- and the pair is planning to have its doors and Barbara Supeno have been partners gation continues. opened by early summer. families to be for 21 years. In 2004 the pair moved to Britney Cosby and Jackson, both 24, Doll, 32, is a native of Iowa who moved Addison, Vermont on the banks of Lake were found March 7 near the trash bin of to the area several years ago and current- held in D.C. Champlain. While known as a state with a convenience store. Police have since re- ly works at a New Jersey-based mental- a liberal and welcoming reputation, that is leased a sketch of the man who was last health facility. Sipes, also 32, a quilter, Washington, D.C. – Rainbow Families not the Vermont experienced by “the Bar- seen with the women. Police believe the hails from Nebraska and came to Philly DC announced its 2014 Family Conference baras”. They have filed a lawsuit against women were killed somewhere else before last summer, meeting Doll shortly after will take place in Washington on Saturday, the town of Addison, the zoning director in being moved to the trash bin. They were moving into her apartment building, where April 26 from 8:30 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. at the town, and several of their neighbors. in Galveston County last week celebrat- he is also a resident. Doll purchased a Georgetown Day School (4200 Davenport According to their attorney, David Bond, ing Mardi Gras before family members lost row-home in 2012 with the intention of re- Street NW; high school campus). The con- the couple is suing for alleged discrimi- contact with them. Autopsy reports this habbing and renting it out. Sipes said, “We ference, which is held every two years, is started tossing ideas around about what to sponsored by CT Fertility and Pink & Blue do with it when it was finished, and we both Surrogacy and Fertility and provides an just have this need to help people. So we opportunity for LGBT parents, family mem- These news notes have been compiled, started talking about opening it as a shelter bers and their children, as well as prospec- with permission, from the online version and then decided to do that and focus it on tive parents, to come together for a day of of various newspapers and other web the people who needed it the most.” learning, networking and fellowship. The sites. We thank these publications for Sipes, a straight ally, said she and Doll, Conference keynote will be provided by allowing us to bring you their news sto- who is openly gay, saw a need for housing Judy Gold, Emmy award winning actor and ries. Usually the reports have been sig- options for young LGBT people, whom she comedian. nificantly edited and you can read the said may face harassment or discrimina- The 2014 Family Conference will bring full story by going to the web site men- tion at mainstream shelters, as was the together hundreds of parents and families, tioned following the item. Comments experience of a young gay man they met, expert panelists, service providers, busi- are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker Charles. Sipes said. “The inspiration be- nesses, schools and others interested in and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride hind our shelter is Charles. He is currently connecting with the Rainbow Families DC Media. living in a shelter and dealing with dis- community. A full day of diverse workshops crimination, with hate speech, with being will be available to conference partici- Barbara Ernst and Barbara Supeno

6 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com beyond the beltway nation and intimidation. Bond claims that munity Switchboard. By 1995, the center 2001, shortly after transitioning to the oppo- has been transferred to nine different library the couple has been harassed since they was hiring staff. A library was established site gender. She filed suit in 2009, citing viola- branches within six years. But the city’s brief first moved into Addison 20 years ago. and Valley 1n10 was formed as a program tions of city, state and federal anti-bias laws denies the transfers were bias-motivated, “It’s entirely based on their sexual orienta- of the center for LGBT youth. However, af- that protect transgender individuals and ban and notes that Burnett requested several of tion,” Bond said. “Neighbors insulted them, ter losing a major tenant, in 1998 the cen- gender stereotyping. the transfers. Concerning Burnett’s allegation made obscene gestures to them. There ter had relocated to office space. A cyber The city’s brief addresses three main al- of unfair performance reviews, the city denies were dead animals left on their property.” center opened, and in 1999 478 meetings legations by Burnett: unfair restroom restric- that her negative reviews were bias-motivat- Then there is ‘the letter’. In 2011 a let- were held at the center, up by almost 200 tions, excessive transfers and negative per- ed or based on gender stereotyping. ter surfaced around the town claiming that meetings the previous year, and calls to formance reviews Attached to the brief are numerous exhib- Ernst and Supeno were scam artists. From the Community Switchboard nearly dou- based on gender its detailing a wide range of complaints lodged the letter, “It has been over six years that bled. But by 2000, problems were brewing stereotyping. As against Burnett over the years that Burnett the Subject two women have been pass- again. The coordinator of the youth pro- to the restroom is- maintains are frivolous. The complaints run ing themselves off as involved citizens and gram quit and the board didn’t renew the sue, the city’s brief the gamut – that Burnett “grunted” too loud- very concerns about the town direction and contract for the center’s executive director. notes Philadel- ly when defecating, that she spoke with her in particular with Zoning, the school and Arizona Human Rights Fund moved to its phia’s anti-bias law mouth full during lunch, that she was lazy, the environment. Beware: This is a totally own office space. Soon, the center was no protecting trans- that she referred to a transgender lesbian phony perception that they have fabricated more. gender individu- as a “transbian,” that she spoke about “black is a front to cover their devious and vicious In 2005, the current center, 1 Voice als was relatively hardship” too frequently, that she would “cry behavior.” Community Center, was founded after a new when Burnett all day” after hearing male-chauvinist remarks Jeff Kaufmann, head of the local zon- letter to the editor published in Echo Mag- began transition- and that she asked a co-worker how deep her ing committee, and a Baptist minister, is azine generated support for the idea. It ing to the opposite vagina should be. Complaints that Burnett named in the suit, as is Kaufmann’s wife wasn’t until 2007 that 1 Voice established Bobbie E. Burnett gender and that the used vulgar language when confronting a su- and two former neighbors of Ernst and a space with an office. In 2009, 1 Voice city did its best to pervisor – and that she hit a coworker with a Supeno. The six counts in the complaint held a grand opening at a new location for accommodate the “chaos” allegedly caused book and called her a “stupid bitch” – resulted are defamation, false light invasion of pri- 1 Voice, a 2,700-square-foot space in a by Burnett’s attempts to use gender-appro- in short periods of suspension. According to vacy, tortious interference with prospective strip mall that included space for meetings, priate restrooms. “[Burnett] cannot establish court papers, Burnett apologized profusely for business relations, sexual orientation dis- a resource center, a cyber-center and art that the employer’s reason for denying her the book incident, explaining that it was due to crimination, common-law retaliation, and exhibits. The library came out of storage. access to the women’s restroom (to preserve frustration because the coworker continually violations of common benefits clause. (Bay But by early 2011 another financial crisis the safety and the decorum of the library) was referred to her as a male. t (Philadelphia Windows & Boston Spirit Magazine- David loomed when 1 Voice lost a grant. After illegitimate,” the city’s brief states. Burnett Gay News – Timothy Cwiet at Epgn.com) Zimmerman at Baywindows.com) two years, when the landlord increased the rent, 1 Voice was on the move again. The center opened in August 2011 at its current site. By the end of 2011, the center cel- Lacking ebrated its survival at a fundraising gala. But a dinner in 2012 raised little money, an anchor, setting up some of the center’s financial problems in 2013. By early 2014 it was gay centers revealed that the center couldn’t cover its bills, leading to its acquisition by Phoenix in Phoenix Pride. (Echo Magazine – Glenn Gullickson at Echomag.com) [Comment: Let’s hope struggle Baltimore’s Community Center does not face a nomadic future now that the GLCCB Phoenix, AZ – A crisis at the Phoenix has sold the building it owned for more LGBT community center is nothing new than 30 years. J.B.] and the current financial troubles that led to Phoenix Pride to take over the One Voice Center is just the latest example. There’s a twisty history to establish a cen- Philadelphia ter and keep it alive in the nation’s sixth largest city. denies After two earlier attempts to estab- lish a community center failed, in 1993 a mistreatment of group of community leaders organized the Valley of the Sun Gay and Lesbian Com- trans worker munity Center as a centralized location for meetings and social activities. Opening in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania – Attor- 1994 with volunteer workers, the center neys for the City of Philadelphia have filed was described as one of the largest LGBT a lengthy brief denying any wrongdoing in the community centers in the country. Tenants case of Bobbie E. Burnett, a transgender city included the Lesbian Resource Project, Ar- employee who alleges pervasive workplace izona Central Pride (now known as Phoe- bias. Burnett, 58, a city library assistant, says nix Pride) and the Gay and Lesbian Com- she began experiencing problems at work in

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD march 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 9 Thinking OUTloud REAL TRANS TALK: What Does it Take to Walk to move our community ahead. I wonder if there are any political axes being ground By Vann Michael During this time he began to experience the when you see them and other “awards.” Remember Madonna in her heyday? The symptoms associated with stopping hor- Rational I am further concerned that we are megahit “Vogue”? “Let your body dance to the mones, which for trans men means female T-hought only supporting successful stereotypes. music!” How can you forget the sleek, black- body composition returning, reproductive sys- Sharon Brackett Laverne Cox recently described her “suc- and-white vintage video, slender men dis- tem activity, anxiety, and depression. Then his cess” as a “possibility model.” I like the playing hand-and-arm precision as exact as greatest fear was realized: he was assaulted. general concept. But if the message to a an antique timepiece? That video introduced Later he learned that the incident was planned young trans person is you need to be tall, mainstream to a subculture in existence for and his life remained in danger after the as- thin, gorgeous, “passable,” and theatrically many years called the ballroom scene. Far sault. Jolted into rigid survival mode, a WBT The Problem talented then it does not help. Not all trans from “Dancing with the Stars,” this demimonde Coalition member helped him find a safe haven persons will fit this mold. It is akin to tell- was illuminated by the sultry moon. and gain his bearings. He recalls finally return- With Lists ing kids on the high school basketball team Same-gender loving men founded a way ing to Baltimore, walking from the Greyhound someday you could play in the NBA. Pos- to showcase natural raw talent like sewing, bus station to his home four miles away – “The Recently there have been a lot of public sible, yes, probable, no. We need to start modeling, themed presentations and skits, walk to freedom.” When he stepped onto his “lists” for trans persons. The Trans 100 will promoting models other than “models.” and choreography – and most of all a place to block the neighbor said, “It’s good to see you!” have an awards program at the end of this Here’s a few names for you to Google boast about their ‘house’ members and earn He recounts, “Home never felt so good.” month to announce the 2014 Trans 100. that you did not find on those two lists, per- cash and trophy priz- Mr. Scruggs openly shed light It is not clear to me if you can repeat on haps they will appear on a new one soon es, along with brag- on the realities of men of trans the Trans 100 year after year so I guess (apologies to anybody who is already on ging rights. A male- experience and crimes commit- we will see how many of the 2013 crew is a list, or not as the case may be). Jillian dominated scene, the ted against them. He tells us men “reaffirmed.” The Huffington Post has 48 Weiss, Amanda Simpson, Shawn Skelly, only women who were of experience often do not report Transgender Pioneers, done in 2012, even Dana Beyer, Denise Norris, Monica York- usually seen were crimes committed against them though the article says 50 I guess they lost man, Shannon Minter, Kelly Lepley, and those who presented because they do not want to deal a few. Unfortunately about 20 of those 48 Stephanie Battaglino to name a few. Yes, female but were male- with law-enforcement bias, or the are somehow connected with the enter- those folks are not your typical hipster gen- bodied; whether they stigma of being perceived as weak tainment industry in one way or another. derqueer looking youthful sorts. But they identified as what is now termed transgender or deserving. He desires to maintain privacy And to be frank, are all indeed “pio- was reserved for the individual. and as much dignity and respect as possible. not many of those “I think I would just neers” in my book. As time progresses there is now an ad- With many healthcare facilities not being trans on that list fit a per- Recently a friend ditional place for women, butch and trans friendly, many of the men would be re-victim- spective of pioneer like to see such lists and I compiled our persons to showcase their talents. The WBT ized while reporting the assault, like mis-gen- for me. I was always start to focus on the own list. We called it Coalition is growing in numbers since its incep- dering, and classification uncertainty due to told you can easily the “100 Sane Trans tion in 2012. It offers bragging rights, cash, and binary gender forms. spot the pioneers as garden variety trans Women.” Yes, any- trophy prizes – and most importantly, a safe Why does AJ prefer to use the term man they are ones with persons and not so body can compile a space to express oneself. It is a positive outlet of trans experience? “I am and always have the arrows in their list. I am not going to for women who may fall on the masculine side been a man first. My journey to manhood is backs. much on ‘celebrities’ or share it with you as of the trans spectrum. secondary.” Another hot-button topic in the I guess it is inev- I do not think it will Native Baltimorean Mr. Scruggs identifies community is the decision for some persons itable for any group ‘activists’ regardless of serve to do so for the as a queer man of trans experience who is to live ‘stealth’ – no one knowing of their past to seek recognition their pedigree.” same reasons I have making an impact in the WBT Coalition. He is life experience. When asked if living stealth is after some point of already cited. What the father of the Outstanding House of Promi- a form of lying, Mr. Scruggs simply stated, “My being organized. did scare me though nence / La Casa de Prominencia. Started in history or another person’s history is no one’s My question is who gets to choose who is was that I could, or needed, to make such 2008, Mr. Scruggs, affectionately known as business.” He explains that protecting one’s on such a list? And what are the criteria? a list. It clearly infers that there are some AJ, aspired to guide LGBTQ youth and offer identity is not about being shameful or secre- With the Academy awards we know those of us who are not “sane.” Based on per- a family outside of bloodline ties. His inspira- tive, it’s about not feeling obligated to reveal are chosen by the “members,” the Golden sonal experience and interaction I would tion came as a direct result of his personal personal matters because someone else mis- Globes, the Hollywood foreign press. The have to say this is true. There really are experiences. Prom’s mission is to “aid in the understands, is biased or unwilling to respect Trans 100? The website says “curators.” I some nutty trans folks out there. Be it in transition from youth to adulthood for LGBTQ me as a human being. have no idea who those folks are but I am their thinking, or worse, their actions. youth.” With strong guiding principles – “Excel- Recently being outed at school caused encouraged that there appears to be a pro- The flip side of this is that these lists do lence, Community Service, Self Betterment, him to take time off from his educational pur- cess. At the HuffPo I am guessing that an expose that trans persons are everyplace, and Guidance” – the house is growing at a suit and wait until things settled down before editor just picked them. My problem is that and in many walks of life. I think I would steady pace. Addressing the obstacles that resuming his studies. These types of incidents for every one of these nominees I could just like to see such lists start to focus on challenged its members in the “traditional’ ball- can be avoided if people would take the time probably name one or two others who are the garden variety trans persons and not room scene, the WBT Coalition signifies unity. to think about the repercussions of their ac- equally worthy if not more so. I worry that so much on “celebrities” or “activists” re- Father AJ Prominencia’s knows first-hand tions. Father AJ resorts to his WBT Coalition these lists are more representative of “who gardless of their pedigree. the hardships many of the coalitions mem- family for support and guidance during trying do you know” or “who do you like” or “who The LGB movement made their mark bers face: homelessness, joblessness, lack of moments of being a black queer trans man of scored some press” rather than who is and progress by becoming the “couple health insurance. His quest to live fully as his experience. worthy. I have a concern that leaving some next door” or the “guy/gal I work with” not true identity placed him at the mercy of preda- Looking back at his journey, the Outstand- “off” these lists leaves me wondering what by celebs saying “hey I am gay.” I propose tors. Without shelter, he trusted community ing House of Prominencia Father, AJ Scruggs impact that has or what message is sent we take all of these lists with a grain of members who voluntarily opened their home humbly says, “Struggle builds character.” t to the non-members, who are also doing salt and work on who is not on them much to him. No health insurance complicated mat- Learn more at Thehouseofprominencia. very important, critical and fantastic work more than who is. t ters and forced him to stop hormone therapy. weebly.com.

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act with their elected ing with the po- more daunting in those areas given the social- officials whether they lice and busi- ly conservative mindset, but that is where the are county executives, nesses to create work is most needed. Again, one should stress councilpersons, state a comfortable that those folks are their neighbors, custom- OUT representatives, or environment for ers, teachers, physicians, and friends. It has other elected officials. a growing LGBT worked before; it should work again. Spoken Maryland is a diverse population in All this localization is not designed to re- Steve Charing state with each juris- what was once duce Equality Maryland’s role in the quest for diction having unique a very conserva- LGBT rights. On the contrary, that organiza- problems. Residents of tive area. tion could be a significant factor in the suc- these localities are fa- There are cess of this effort. I believe it should serve Taking the miliar with these issues; other PFLAG as the umbrella organization for the local af- perhaps they know the chapters around filiates. Since the local groups would consist Local Road officials well enough to the state that of volunteers, it would not place a financial have a cup of coffee and initiate meaningful could serve as the root organization for the burden on Equality Maryland. They can use to Equality dialogue. equality affiliate. Chapters exist in Baltimore, their database to identify potential volunteers The same could be said for the local Carroll, Kent, and Montgomery counties, so around the state. As the transgender rights bill (Fairness for All school boards. Numerous LGBT families they would be off to a fast start. There has The larger organization would provide Marylanders Act) continues to work its way have children attending schools, and there also been some movement in organizing guidance on policy matters and connect the through the General Assembly with hopefully are, of course, LGBT kids all over. While the LGBT events in Anne Arundel. locals to elected officials. Equality Maryland positive results, the last big piece of legis- state has anti-bullying measures in place, The GLCCB perhaps could serve as the could hold an annual conference/fundraiser lation for LGBT Marylanders will be joining individual incidents need to be addressed principal organization in Baltimore City. They to discuss best practices among other sub- marriage equality in the rear-view mirror. at the local school board level. Who is bet- have already taken big strides through their jects. To the extent Equality Maryland would This is not to say the work is done, however. ter equipped to discuss anti-bullying policies partnering with city government on a number have control over the local groups would be Carrie Evans, the executive director than those people living in the same county of issues and have maintained a good rela- left to the affiliates to negotiate. of Equality Maryland, indicated that there and who may be members of the PTA or per- tionship with the police – key successes in an This is a big undertaking that will take are future legislative initiatives concerning sonally know members of the board? urban environment. time to succeed. But going local is the right equality and justice that intersect with being Getting the local business community Other affiliates, of course, would have to direction to take on the winding road to t LGBT. “We are more than our sexual orien- behind its LGBT neighbors cannot be over- be established in rural counties. The tasks are equality. tation and gender identity,” she said. “We emphasized. As the fracas in Arizona proved, are black, immigrant, parents, rural dwelling, business people saw discrimination as coun- disabled, young, and senior citizens, and ter-productive and applied strong pressure Equality Maryland will work on advocating on Governor Brewer to veto the preposter- for the whole of an LGBT person’s identity ous discriminatory bill. The local affiliate and issues.” representatives should meet with business While Equality Maryland re-tools its mis- owners – large and small – to determine how sion to take on matters that concern these supporting LGBT rights would be mutually groups, there are those who strongly believe beneficial. that the most effective way to deal with anti- I would also encourage each local group gay brushfires around the state is to go local. to form a speakers’ bureau consisting of at The recent physical attack of a gay couple in least one LGBT person, a parent of an LGBT New York’s West Village should underscore child, and another ally to foster trust and the fact that there are too many haters out understanding. The speakers would explain there, which cannot be masked by recent that as more and more people come out as victories in marriage and transgender equal- LGBT, they are your family members, friends, ity. classmates, neighbors, and co-workers. The Having local affiliates throughout the presentations and discussions concerning state, similar to what the NAACP does, LGBT issues should be directed at busi- makes patently good sense. Volunteers con- nesses, government entities, and even reli- sisting of LGBT folks and allies in each coun- gious organizations. They should push to get ty (or region) should form groups that could invited; such talks would resonate given that be called, for example, “Equality Allegany” or the presenters are neighbors and customers. “Equality Eastern Shore” or “Equality Prince Efforts at the local level have already paid George’s” depending on the jurisdiction. dividends over the years, and there are al- With an LGBT presence at the local ready such “equality organizations” in place. level, there could be more efficient ways to I’ve seen firsthand the myriad accomplish- interact with the police on crimes or bias in- ments of PFLAG-Howard County, which is a cidents directed towards LGBT folks. Local model for advocacy in the state. The chapter affiliates could meet with police representa- has been successful at the county and state tives to discuss such matters and hold con- levels as well as in the private sector to elimi- 1001 North Charles Street versations to educate the police on LGBT nate the last vestiges of discrimination. Baltimore, MD 21201 www.CentralStationPub.com concerns that cannot be accomplished at The progress being made by both the the state level. LGBT Center and the PFLAG chapter in Local equality affiliates could also inter- Frederick has been notable. They are work- BALTIMORE OUTLOUD march 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 11 quaTHINKINGlity of O UTlifLOe UD

times the worst happens no matter what the 40-plus single gay/SGL guy. They are: The you do. This is a reality that we don’t like Mood Create your vision – According to the Labor to think about or discuss, but it’s impor- Gay Love Coach, this is the most critical of tant to recognize and address. If an adult Swings first step – no matter how old you are. “It’s has a long, chronic illness and you know very important that you take the time to de- Love they are going to die of natural causes, Wyatt O’Brian Evans velop a clear and vivid image of who you Douglas Chay you have a chance to say goodbye. are and what you want out of life, including If your loved one commits suicide, you may your dating life. Are you seeking a long- experience what the American Psychiatric term relationship and a life partner or just Association terms “persistent complex be- Make Being casual dating? What does the rest of your In the Aftermath reavement,” including a host of additional life look like? What would your ideal part- emotional complications along with the a Little Long ner be like and how would your relation- of Suicide already-loaded grief process. The follow- ship function?” He adds, “Your answers to ing self-care strategies may alleviate some in the Tooth such questions will help give you the di- of the initial shock of the death and set a rection you need to accomplish your goals, The third in a series on depression. precedent for longer-term healing. Work for You giving you a measuring stick to keep you Suicide is the second leading cause of all Give it away: There are an enormous on track and assess your status.” deaths in the U.S. among 25- to 34-year- number of tasks associated with the sud- “’Dang,’ man! You look damn good for your Befriend the midlife crisis – “As gay olds. It is the third leading cause among 15- den death of a loved one, such as writing age!” men, many of our development tasks were to 24-year-olds, These numbers are prob- an obituary, making funeral arrangements, That soared out of the mouth of this skipped or neglected because of our re- ably higher because of the way suicides taking care of financial matters and notify- rather attractive twentysomething guy at a treat into ‘the closet’ in coping with the are tallied. If someone hangs themselves, ing others. Many people find that throwing recent function. You see, he thought I was homophobic society we live in,” states Rz- the death certificate often attributes it to themselves into these tasks helps them. in my early forties; actually, I’m older. (And, epczynski. “Successful integration of your “asphyxiation” rather than “self-inflicted However, others feel too overwhelmed to yo. Don’t even ask me by exactly how gay identity into your sense of self allows asphyxiation.” be making arrangements. If this is the case much – ’cause I ain’t gonna tell ya! LOL.) you to then address those developmental In your lifetime, you are likely to know for you, enlist help and have someone else After that comment, if he thought he had tasks that were suspended until you were someone, directly or indirectly, who com- manage the details. any chance with me, he was dead wrong. ready. So the next step for you is to ex- mits suicide. Sometimes families conceal Don’t blame yourself: People commit Dating can be full of potholes and plore any developmental tasks that still re- the true cause of death from acquain- suicide mainly because they want to be out minefields; but the experience can be even quire mastery from earlier years and start tances, coworkers, or even close friends of emotional pain and can’t see another more daunting for those single gay/SGL working at them.” He adds, “And then the to avoid prying questions, or because they solution. At that moment, they aren’t think- (Same Gender Loving) men who are 40 next step for your success is to discover want to protect their loved one’s memory ing of you or their loved ones. Their emo- and up. According to Brian L. Rzepczyn- something that you can do that will give from a “suicide stigma.” Many believe that tions have become so overwhelming that ski, certified personal coach and colum- you a sense of meaning and purpose and that the deceased didn’t care enough about they can’t think rationally. Some people nist for The Gay Love Coach, “In a society begin to express that.” the people around them to stay alive. This end their lives believing it to be an act of where youth and beauty Destroy the mon- belief belies a lack of understanding of the love due to a distorted belief that others are highly valued, many ster in your head – nature of severe depression and the extent would somehow be better of without them. middle-aged men report The Gay Love Coach to which it can affect someone’s life. Our brains have a tendency to want to feeling segregated and says, “The ‘monster in In the last two columns, we focused on figure things out that don’t make sense. You unappreciated in dating your head’ is that little identifying depression and ways to help a won’t be able to make emotional sense of pools, making it difficult voice that whispers (and clinically depressed loved one. But some- suicide and only frustration will come out of to meet and sustain re- sometimes screams) lationships with potential negative statements dating prospects.” about yourself and the Rzepczynski contin- world around you. Our ues, “The problem can internal dialogue im- dating partners, make sure you are hon- friends and people who care about you.” seem even more compli- pacts whether we look est about all aspects of yourself and don’t Be proactive and have the right stuff cated in the gay commu- at life through a lens fudge on your age.” – Rzepczynski advises that you have to be nity in which the empha- Still one hot cat of optimism and hope Align yourself with the right venues proactive and pursue what you want – to sis on youth and brawn versus pessimism and – Rzepczynski asks, “Where do you meet get what you want. “Strengthen your social is amplified, causing many mature gay negativity. Don’t fall into the trap of creat- other quality guys? The key is to match skills, build more assertiveness and com- men to feel undesirable and like outsiders ing a self-fulfilling prophecy.” That’s why your values, needs, preferences, and life fort with boundaries, enhance your self-es- within gay circles. They feel unwanted and I’m such a follower of self-help guru Dr. purpose with a venue that has some of teem and body image, resolve unfinished their age hinders them and limits the pool Wayne Dwyer’s Wishes Fulfilled, a book I these qualities and characteristics.” He business from the past, and get yourself of men available to them for dating, par- strongly suggest that everyone study – not adds, “This way, you’re surrounded by into good physical and emotional shape.” ticularly when they report being rejected by just read. other men who share at least some sem- And, the Gay Love Coach shares these men in their own cohort for younger guys.” Embrace your age – The personal blance of your vision; that makes you one parting words of wisdom: “Get yourself However, we can “Keep hope alive!” coach counsels, “There’s no point be- step closer to possibly finding someone armed and ready for love!” The Gay Love Coach says, “So let’s push coming preoccupied with your youth ‘in who’d be a ‘good fit’.” I couldn’t have said it any better. t aside those fears that you won’t be able to the days gone by.’ Learn to accept all the Build your support team and mem- Wyatt O’Brian Evans is a journalist, in- attract someone after you reach a certain physical and emotional changes that ac- bership club – The Gay Love Coach structor, motivational speaker and author of age. Midlife is sexy!” company midlife and be proud of who you makes it simple. “Nothing helps you the new novel, “Nothing Can Tear Us Apart To enhance your readiness for a rela- are and your story. For example, if you uti- through the trials and tribulations of dat- – Rage” For more, visit Wyattevans.com and tionship, Rzepczynski gives seven tips to lize personal ads as a venue for seeking ing better than a solid support system of follow him at Facebook.com/wyattoevans. 12 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com Leon’s little quality of life leprechauns taking great efforts to do so. People often help you. If you don’t have a good support have a fantasy that if they had done some- system, or if you need another person to talk thing differently, they might have saved to, seek professional help. their loved one. They may chide them- Healing through time: Don’t make any selves for missing “clues” which may not big life decisions until time has passed. Life have been there. Sometimes suicide is an changing decisions should come out of a ra- impulsive act, with little to no pre-planning. tional space rather then an emotional one. If When it is planned, the depressed person it is difficult to be in the same house in which often feels relieved, appearing happier your loved one committed suicide, you may just prior to their death. If survivors have want to move. If so, stay with friends or fam- witnessed this, it can intensify feelings of ily, but don’t start calling realtors just yet. confusion and anger in the grief process. Research has shown that the passage Feel: Allow yourself to feel and express of time is the most important factor in less- your emotions without judging them. There ening the pain of grief. Remind yourself of are no good or bad emotions. Emotions this, and that yours will get better. just are. You are allowed to be angry with The suicide of a loved one is a devas- your loved one and scream at them. You tating, life-altering experience. You may are allowed to feel nothing. You are al- feel like you will not survive it. You will. You lowed to be happy, relieved that your loved will find resources within yourself you nev- one is out of pain. If you feel like crying, er knew were there. Do whatever it takes cry. Many believe that they should respond to take care of yourself, be kind to your- a certain way to death. Don’t fall into that self and use healthy coping mechanisms. trap. Don’t judge yourself or compare your- You will be forever changed, but you can self against some standard set by others. rebuild a meaningful life and feel joy and Accept and ask for help: If others are happiness once again. t reaching out to you, let them in. Sometimes Douglas Chay (dchay@pridecounsel- this can be difficult, as you may not want ing.net) specializes in LGBT-focused coun- to see anyone. Other times it may be a re- seling and practices in the Pride Counseling lief. But you need extra support right now, Center in Ellicott City, Maryland (410-744- so communicate to them how they can best 4867; Pridecounseling.net).

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DON HUBER KAY HALLE Provincetown, Massachusetts, as an owner of 1947 – February 21, 2014 concerts at the Meyerhoff Symphony Hall. A 1947R – MA CH 1, 2014 Halle’s Inn, an activist, and leader in town poli- friend, John Ampster, remembered that Don tics and the business community. She worked Donald Huber, a musician, who for a number had an interest in a variety of musical styles. Kay Halle, a Baltimore native, lifelong advocate with others to build a safe and strong community, of years was accompanist for the Baltimore He said, “[Don] held a fascination for Ameri- for social justice, and a leader in the Baltimore including promoting an early, very controversial Men’s Chorus, and retired Baltimore County can Blues due to its significance in the devel- chapter of the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Educa- and hard-won ban on smoking in bars and res- schoolteacher, died from heart failure on Fri- opment of American contemporary and pop tion Network (GLSEN), died on March 1 shortly taurants, community clean up efforts, and Wom- day, February 21, at Union Memorial Hospi- music. He was indeed a musician and was after being diagnosed with cancer. The longtime en’s Week. She participated in and coached oth- tal. The Baltimore native and lifelong city resi- rightfully proud of his musical knowledge and Charles Village resident was 67 years old. ers in the Swim for Life AIDS fundraiser. dent was 67 and had been diagnosed with a talent.” Kay was born on June 14, 1946, in Balti- Kay is survived by her son, Stefan “Bean” heart condition several years ago. In retirement, Don took up woodworking more. She graduated from Park School in 1964 Rubin, daughter, Kyra Hartnett, sister, Pat Halle, Don was born in South Baltimore to Avis and built a “deck-system” at his home. He en- and promptly joined the civil-rights movement. brother, David Halle, and her six grandchildren. Mildred Cameron Huber and John Edward joyed reading World War II history. He was Although only five feet tall, she dedicated her Richard Rubin, her husband of 15 years, passed Huber, who at one time played piano for silent an avid and skilled skier and took his last two intelligence and ferocity to fighting away March, 2013. Amy Gaver, movies and was scouted by the minor league ski trips to Ski Liberty and Ski Roundtop with inequality in many forms. She held her partner of 20 years, lives in Baltimore Orioles. Don grew up in South Bal- friend David Boyd a year ago. leadership positions in the strug- Washington, D.C. timore and lived there for more than 55 years Don fell in love with Montreal after a trip gle for racial equality, the women’s Kay will be remembered by until he moved to Hamilton in there with friends in the ear- liberation movement, the anti-war the friends and neighbors she 2005. ly 1990s. He enjoyed the movement, labor organizing, and inspired – many of whom will Don graduated from South- city, its cuisine, St. Cath- economic justice initiatives in miss spotting her on daily runs ern High School in 1964 and erine Street, and its free Baltimore. However, Kay will be through the city, no matter the played the piano as a member spirit. He organized numer- most permanently remembered weather – but she will be truly of the school choir. After gradu- ous trips to Montreal out of by her work on behalf of children. missed by the children of Bal- ation, he attended Baltimore the now closed Unicorn Bar Threaded through her life as an timore, young and old, whose Junior College, now Baltimore in Canton and maintained activist, was a steadfast love for lives she brightened in ways big City Community College, and friends there. Recently, he all children and a desire to make and small. later graduated from Towson took up French. the world a better place for them. A memorial service will be State Teachers’ College, now Don is being remem- In the early 1970s, Kay es- K ay Halle held on Friday April 4th, from Towson University. He also bered as a kind and giving tablished the Red Wagon Child 5:30 to 8:00 p.m. at the 29th studied piano at Peabody Con- person. Richard Sturms, Care Center, a parent-run facility Street Community Center, 300 servatory, after winning two a friend of 30 years, said, where many Charles Village and Waverly chil- E. 29th Street. The memorial will be an oppor- scholarships to the prestigious Donald Huber “Don was a gentle, lov- dren were nurtured. Ten years later, during the tunity to talk, visit, share remembrances, and, in school. ing man who looked for Orioles’ heyday, Kay started and coached a co- Kay’s honor, play ball. Please RSVP to pathal- Don taught music – history, the best in people. When I ed neighborhood little league team, the Waverly [email protected]. voice, and instrumental – in Baltimore public was young, he was a tremendous help and Warriors. As a teacher, community member, The family is suggesting that friends help schools for 32 years, including Holabird Mid- stuck with me through the ups and downs of and coach, she touched the lives of children at continue Kay’s work, “Safe Space for All Bal- dle School and Dundalk Senior High School. growing up. Our friendship grew closer as I Bryn Mawr Little School, Barclay Elementary / timore,” with contributions to the Kay Halle He was the choir director for the student got older and I’ll miss him greatly. He was an Middle and Friends School. Memorial Fund at the Baltimore Community choirs and was dedicated to the advance- all-round good guy and loyal friend.” Henry Given her activism and devotion to children, Foundation. Checks may be made payable to ment of the students’ musical education. Wisniewski, a bartender at the Quest, and it was only natural that Kay would become in- the Baltimore Community Foundation, specify- Don joined the Baltimore Men’s Chorus, friend since the 1980s echoed this sentiment. volved with GLSEN. Until her death, she was a ing the Kay Halle Memorial Fund and mailed the oldest gay men’s chorus in Baltimore, and “Don was a loyal friend,” Henry said. “If Don member of the Baltimore GLSEN steering com- to the Kay Halle Memorial Fund, c/o Baltimore was an important contributor. He performed was your friend, you had a friend for life.” mittee, where she worked as program manager Community Foundation, 2 East Read Street, in numerous recitals with the chorus and of- Fifty-years earlier his classmates at Southern for Safe Space for All Baltimore, a citywide proj- 9th Floor, Baltimore, Maryland 21202. Credit ten arranged the music. Tony Bianca, chorus expressed similar opinions in cards to Don ect to promote the safety and success of LG- Card donations over $100 can be made at the director said, “[Don] was a really wonderful at the time of their graduation: “To one of the BTQ youth in public schools. Baltimore Community Foundation (Bcf.org/kay- musician and composer and the chorus was nicest guys I’ve known”; “To the nicest guy at Kay spent 13 years living and working in halle). t honored to debut a few of his compositions. Southern”; “The nicest and most understand- He was also a very giving man and often ing boy I have ever met.” Henry also said, opened his home to us for chorus events. He “Don was a very proud, open gay man, who A NEW YEAR, A NEW ERA will be missed.” Tony remembers the chorus took me to gay marches in Washington and debuting Don’s original composition “Angels to view the AIDS Quilt. His phone number re- Metropolitan Community Church of Baltimore We Have Heard On High” at a holiday con- flected his outlook on life – 410-BE-HAPPY.” cert. Tony remembers that Don had a special In addition to his many friends, Don is 401 West Monument Street interest in Mahler and organized a trip of the survived by a sister, Fern Stolzberg, a brother Baltimore, Maryland 21201 Chorus to Philadelphia for a performance on Carmen, and ten nieces and nephews. A sis- Mahler’s Resurrection symphony. ter and two brothers predeceased him. www.mccbaltimore.org Music was Don’s life and passion and he A memorial service is planned for Sunday, Phone: 410-669-6222 (410-NOW-MCCB) continued to play the piano and organ until his May 4 at 1 p.m. at St. Stephen and James death. He was organist at Martini Lutheran MCC Reverend Victoria Burson Evangelical Lutheran Church, 938 South METROPOLITAN Church in Federal Hill, where he enjoyed per- Hanover Street. The service will be presided COMMUNITY CHURCHES Service: Sunday 10:00 a.m. forming at church services, marriage ceremo- over by his brother, Carmen Edward Huber of nies, and other special events. He regularly Philadelphia. t We are a Christian Church proclaiming God's LOVE to the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered attended the Baltimore Symphony Orchestra – Jim Becker communities and anyone who is willing to walk with us in our journey of faith.

14 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com BALTIMORE OUTLOUD march 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 15 What is STRIBILD? • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. What should I tell my healthcare STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used as If you also have HBV and stop taking provider before taking STRIBILD? a complete single-tablet regimen to treat HIV-1 in STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used STRIBILD, your hepatitis may suddenly get adults who have never taken HIV-1 medicines to treat HIV-1 in adults who have never worse. Do not stop taking STRIBILD without • All your health problems. Be sure to tell before. STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. taken HIV-1 medicines before. It combines fi rst talking to your healthcare provider, as they your healthcare provider if you have or had 4 medicines into 1 pill to be taken once a day will need to monitor your health. STRIBILD is any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including with food. STRIBILD is a complete single- not approved for the treatment of HBV. hepatitis virus infection. tablet regimen and should not be used with Who should not take STRIBILD? • All the medicines you take, including other HIV-1 medicines. prescription and nonprescription medicines, STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 infection Do not take STRIBILD if you: vitamins, and herbal supplements. STRIBILD or AIDS. To control HIV-1 infection and may affect the way other medicines work, and decrease HIV-related illnesses you must • Take a medicine that contains: other medicines may affect how STRIBILD I started my keep taking STRIBILD. Ask your healthcare alfuzosin, dihydroergotamine, ergotamine, works. Keep a list of all your medicines and provider if you have questions about how to methylergonovine, cisapride, lovastatin, show it to your healthcare provider and personal revolution reduce the risk of passing HIV-1 to others. simvastatin, pimozide, sildenafi l when used pharmacist. Do not start any new medicines ® Always practice safer sex and use condoms for lung problems (Revatio ), triazolam, oral while taking STRIBILD without fi rst talking to lower the chance of sexual contact with midazolam, rifampin or the herb St. John’s wort. with your healthcare provider. body fl uids. Never reuse or share needles or • For a list of brand names for these • If you take hormone-based birth control Talk to your healthcare provider other items that have body fl uids on them. medicines, please see the Brief Summary (pills, patches, rings, shots, etc). on the following pages. about starting treatment. • If you take antacids. Take antacids at least IMPORTANT SAFETY • Take any other medicines to treat HIV-1 2 hours before or after you take STRIBILD. infection, or the medicine adefovir (Hepsera®). INFORMATION • If you are pregnant or plan to become STRIBILD is a complete HIV-1 What is the most important information What are the other possible side pregnant. It is not known if STRIBILD can treatment in 1 pill, once a day. I should know about STRIBILD? effects of STRIBILD? harm your unborn baby. Tell your healthcare provider if you become pregnant while STRIBILD can cause serious side effects: Serious side effects of STRIBILD may taking STRIBILD. Ask if it’s right for you. • Build-up of an acid in your blood also include: • If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical • New or worse kidney problems, including plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. emergency. Symptoms of lactic acidosis kidney failure. Your healthcare provider HIV-1 can be passed to the baby in include feeling very weak or tired, unusual should do regular blood and urine tests to breast milk. Also, some medicines (not normal) muscle pain, trouble breathing, check your kidneys before and during in STRIBILD can pass into breast stomach pain with nausea or vomiting, treatment with STRIBILD. If you develop milk, and it is not known if this can feeling cold especially in your arms and legs, kidney problems, your healthcare provider harm the baby. feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or a fast or may tell you to stop taking STRIBILD. irregular heartbeat. You are encouraged to report • Bone problems, including bone pain or negative side effects of • Serious liver problems. The liver may bones getting soft or thin, which may lead prescription drugs to the FDA. become large (hepatomegaly) and fatty to fractures. Your healthcare provider may Visit www.fda.gov/medwatch, (steatosis). Symptoms of liver problems do tests to check your bones. or call 1-800-FDA-1088. include your skin or the white part of your eyes • Changes in body fat can happen in people turns yellow (jaundice), dark “tea-colored” taking HIV-1 medicines. urine, light-colored bowel movements (stools), Please see Brief Summary of full loss of appetite for several days or longer, • Changes in your immune system. Your Prescribing Information with important nausea, and/or stomach pain. immune system may get stronger and begin warnings on the following pages. to fi ght infections. Tell your healthcare provider You may be more likely to get lactic • if you have any new symptoms after you start acidosis or serious liver problems if you are taking STRIBILD. female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking STRIBILD for a long time. In some The most common side effects of STRIBILD cases, these serious conditions have led to include nausea and diarrhea. Tell your healthcare death. Call your healthcare provider right away provider if you have any side effects that bother if you have any symptoms of these conditions. you or don’t go away.

16 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 21, 2014 • balt PALIOimor Date:eoutloud 3.11.14.c •o mClient: Gilead • Product: Stribild • File Name: 16873_pgiqdp_E_Winston_BaltOutLoud_ .indd Winston PALIO Date: 3.11.14 • Client: Gilead • Product: Stribild • File Name: 16873_pgiqdp_E_Winston_BaltOutLoud_ .indd Winston Ad Page 1 Ad Page 2 Trim: 9.875” x 9.6” Baltimore OUT Loud Trim: 9.875” x 9.6” Baltimore OUT Loud What is STRIBILD? • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. What should I tell my healthcare STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used as If you also have HBV and stop taking provider before taking STRIBILD? a complete single-tablet regimen to treat HIV-1 in STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used STRIBILD, your hepatitis may suddenly get adults who have never taken HIV-1 medicines to treat HIV-1 in adults who have never worse. Do not stop taking STRIBILD without • All your health problems. Be sure to tell before. STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. taken HIV-1 medicines before. It combines fi rst talking to your healthcare provider, as they your healthcare provider if you have or had 4 medicines into 1 pill to be taken once a day will need to monitor your health. STRIBILD is any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including with food. STRIBILD is a complete single- not approved for the treatment of HBV. hepatitis virus infection. tablet regimen and should not be used with Who should not take STRIBILD? • All the medicines you take, including other HIV-1 medicines. prescription and nonprescription medicines, STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 infection Do not take STRIBILD if you: vitamins, and herbal supplements. STRIBILD or AIDS. To control HIV-1 infection and may affect the way other medicines work, and decrease HIV-related illnesses you must • Take a medicine that contains: other medicines may affect how STRIBILD I started my keep taking STRIBILD. Ask your healthcare alfuzosin, dihydroergotamine, ergotamine, works. Keep a list of all your medicines and provider if you have questions about how to methylergonovine, cisapride, lovastatin, show it to your healthcare provider and personal revolution reduce the risk of passing HIV-1 to others. simvastatin, pimozide, sildenafi l when used pharmacist. Do not start any new medicines ® Always practice safer sex and use condoms for lung problems (Revatio ), triazolam, oral while taking STRIBILD without fi rst talking to lower the chance of sexual contact with midazolam, rifampin or the herb St. John’s wort. with your healthcare provider. body fl uids. Never reuse or share needles or • For a list of brand names for these • If you take hormone-based birth control Talk to your healthcare provider other items that have body fl uids on them. medicines, please see the Brief Summary (pills, patches, rings, shots, etc). on the following pages. about starting treatment. • If you take antacids. Take antacids at least IMPORTANT SAFETY • Take any other medicines to treat HIV-1 2 hours before or after you take STRIBILD. infection, or the medicine adefovir (Hepsera®). INFORMATION • If you are pregnant or plan to become STRIBILD is a complete HIV-1 What is the most important information What are the other possible side pregnant. It is not known if STRIBILD can treatment in 1 pill, once a day. I should know about STRIBILD? effects of STRIBILD? harm your unborn baby. Tell your healthcare provider if you become pregnant while STRIBILD can cause serious side effects: Serious side effects of STRIBILD may taking STRIBILD. Ask if it’s right for you. • Build-up of an acid in your blood also include: • If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical • New or worse kidney problems, including plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. emergency. Symptoms of lactic acidosis kidney failure. Your healthcare provider HIV-1 can be passed to the baby in include feeling very weak or tired, unusual should do regular blood and urine tests to breast milk. Also, some medicines (not normal) muscle pain, trouble breathing, check your kidneys before and during in STRIBILD can pass into breast stomach pain with nausea or vomiting, treatment with STRIBILD. If you develop milk, and it is not known if this can feeling cold especially in your arms and legs, kidney problems, your healthcare provider harm the baby. feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or a fast or may tell you to stop taking STRIBILD. irregular heartbeat. You are encouraged to report • Bone problems, including bone pain or negative side effects of • Serious liver problems. The liver may bones getting soft or thin, which may lead prescription drugs to the FDA. become large (hepatomegaly) and fatty to fractures. Your healthcare provider may Visit www.fda.gov/medwatch, (steatosis). Symptoms of liver problems do tests to check your bones. or call 1-800-FDA-1088. include your skin or the white part of your eyes • Changes in body fat can happen in people turns yellow (jaundice), dark “tea-colored” taking HIV-1 medicines. urine, light-colored bowel movements (stools), Please see Brief Summary of full loss of appetite for several days or longer, • Changes in your immune system. Your Prescribing Information with important nausea, and/or stomach pain. immune system may get stronger and begin warnings on the following pages. to fi ght infections. Tell your healthcare provider You may be more likely to get lactic • if you have any new symptoms after you start acidosis or serious liver problems if you are taking STRIBILD. female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking STRIBILD for a long time. In some The most common side effects of STRIBILD cases, these serious conditions have led to include nausea and diarrhea. Tell your healthcare death. Call your healthcare provider right away provider if you have any side effects that bother if you have any symptoms of these conditions. you or don’t go away.

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Re ll your prescription or talk to your The most common side effects of STRIBILD include: - estazolam healthcare provider before your STRIBILD is all gone ® STRIBILD® (STRY-bild) • Nausea - ethosuximide (Zarontin ) (elvitegravir 150 mg/cobicistat 150 mg/emtricitabine 200 mg/tenofovir • Do not stop taking STRIBILD without  rst talking to your healthcare provider • Diarrhea - ecainide (Tambocor®) disoproxil fumarate 300 mg) tablets • If you stop taking STRIBILD, your healthcare provider will need to check Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effect that bothers - urazepam Brief summary of full Prescribing Information. For more information, please your health often and do blood tests regularly for several months to check you or that does not go away. - uticasone (Flovent®, Flonase®, Flovent® Diskus®, your HBV infection. Tell your healthcare provider about any new or unusual see the full Prescribing Information, including Patient Information. • These are not all the possible side effects of STRIBILD. For more Flovent® HFA, Veramyst®) symptoms you may have after you stop taking STRIBILD information, ask your healthcare provider. - itraconazole (Sporanox®) What is STRIBILD? Who should not take STRIBILD? • Call your healthcare provider for medical advice about side effects. You - ketoconazole (Nizoral®) may report side effects to FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088. ® • STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used to treat HIV-1 in adults - lidocaine (Xylocaine ) Do not take STRIBILD if you also take a medicine that contains: who have never taken HIV-1 medicines before. STRIBILD is a complete What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking STRIBILD? - mexiletine ® regimen and should not be used with other HIV-1 medicines. • adefovir (Hepsera ) - oxcarbazepine (Trileptal®) ® Tell your healthcare provider about all your medical conditions, including: • STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. You must stay on continuous • alfuzosin hydrochloride (Uroxatral ) - perphenazine ® ® • If you have or had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis B HIV-1 therapy to control HIV-1 infection and decrease HIV-related illnesses. • cisapride (Propulsid , Propulsid Quicksolv ) - phenobarbital (Luminal®) infection • Ask your healthcare provider about how to prevent passing HIV-1 to • ergot-containing medicines, including: dihydroergotamine mesylate - phenytoin (Dilantin®, Phenytek®) others. Do not share or reuse needles, injection equipment, or personal (D.H.E. 45®, Migranal®), ergotamine tartrate (Cafergot®, Migergot®, • If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if STRIBILD can harm your unborn baby. Tell your healthcare provider if you become - propafenone (Rythmol®) items that can have blood or body uids on them. Do not have sex without Ergostat®, Medihaler Ergotamine®, Wigraine®, Wigrettes®), and pregnant while taking STRIBILD. ® protection. Always practice safer sex by using a latex or polyurethane methylergonovine maleate (Ergotrate®, Methergine®) - quinidine (Neudexta ) - There is a pregnancy registry for women who take antiviral medicines ® condom to lower the chance of sexual contact with semen, vaginal • lovastatin (Advicor®, Altoprev®, Mevacor®) - rifabutin (Mycobutin ) secretions, or blood. during pregnancy. The purpose of this registry is to collect information ® • oral midazolam about the health of you and your baby. Talk with your healthcare provider - rifapentine (Priftin ) about how you can take part in this registry. - risperidone (Risperdal®, Risperdal Consta®) What is the most important information I should know about STRIBILD? • pimozide (Orap®) ® ® ® ® ® • If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed - salmeterol (Serevent ) or salmeterol when taken in combination with • rifampin (Rifadin , Rifamate , Rifater , Rimactane ) if you take STRIBILD. uticasone (Advair Diskus®, Advair HFA®) STRIBILD can cause serious side effects, including: ® • sildena l (Revatio ), when used for treating lung problems ® ® ® ® 1. Build-up of lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis). Lactic acidosis - You should not breastfeed if you have HIV-1 because of the risk of - sildena l (Viagra ), tadala l (Cialis ) or vardena l (Levitra , Staxyn ), can happen in some people who take STRIBILD or similar (nucleoside • simvastatin (Simcor®, Vytorin®, Zocor®) passing HIV-1 to your baby. for the treatment of erectile dysfunction (ED). If you get dizzy or faint (low blood pressure), have vision changes or have an erection that last analogs) medicines. Lactic acidosis is a serious medical emergency that ® - Two of the medicines in STRIBILD can pass to your baby in your breast • triazolam (Halcion ) longer than 4 hours, call your healthcare provider or get medical help can lead to death. Lactic acidosis can be hard to identify early, because milk. It is not known if the other medicines in STRIBILD can pass into • the herb St. John’s wort right away. the symptoms could seem like symptoms of other health problems. your breast milk. - tadala l (Adcirca®), for the treatment of pulmonary arterial hypertension Call your healthcare provider right away if you get any of the Do not take STRIBILD if you also take any other HIV-1 medicines, - Talk with your healthcare provider about the best way to feed your baby. including: - telithromycin (Ketek®) following symptoms which could be signs of lactic acidosis: Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take, including ® ® ® • feel very weak or tired • Other medicines that contain tenofovir (Atripla , Complera , Viread , prescription and nonprescription medicines, vitamins, and herbal - thioridazine ® Truvada ) supplements: ® • have unusual (not normal) muscle pain - voriconazole (Vfend ) • Other medicines that contain emtricitabine, lamivudine, or ritonavir • STRIBILD may affect the way other medicines work, and other medicines - warfarin (Coumadin®, Jantoven®) • have trouble breathing (Atripla®, Combivir®, Complera®, Emtriva®, Epivir® or Epivir-HBV®, may affect how STRIBILD works. ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® - zolpidem (Ambien , Edlular , Intermezzo , Zolpimist ) • have stomach pain with nausea or vomiting Epzicom , Kaletra , Norvir , Trizivir , Truvada ) • Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you take any of the following STRIBILD is not for use in people who are less than 18 years old. medicines: Know the medicines you take. Keep a list of all your medicines and show • feel cold, especially in your arms and legs it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. • feel dizzy or lightheaded - Hormone-based birth control (pills, patches, rings, shots, etc) Do not start any new medicines while you are taking STRIBILD without  rst What are the possible side effects of STRIBILD? talking with your healthcare provider. • have a fast or irregular heartbeat - Antacid medicines that contain aluminum, magnesium hydroxide, or calcium carbonate. Take antacids at least 2 hours before or after you Keep STRIBILD and all medicines out of reach of children. 2. Severe liver problems. Severe liver problems can happen in people who STRIBILD may cause the following serious side effects: take STRIBILD take STRIBILD. In some cases, these liver problems can lead to death. Your • See “What is the most important information I should know about - Medicines to treat depression, organ transplant rejection, or high This Brief Summary summarizes the most important information about liver may become large (hepatomegaly) and you may develop fat in your STRIBILD?” blood pressure STRIBILD. If you would like more information, talk with your healthcare liver (steatosis). Call your healthcare provider right away if you get provider. You can also ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist for • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare - amiodarone (Cordarone®, Pacerone®) information about STRIBILD that is written for health professionals, or any of the following symptoms of liver problems: provider should do blood and urine tests to check your kidneys before you - atorvastatin (Lipitor®, Caduet®) call 1-800-445-3235 or go to www.STRIBILD.com. • your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow (jaundice) start and while you are taking STRIBILD. Your healthcare provider may tell - bepridil hydrochloride (Vascor®, Bepadin®) Issued: October 2013 • dark “tea-colored” urine you to stop taking STRIBILD if you develop new or worse kidney problems. - bosentan (Tracleer®) • light-colored bowel movements (stools) • Bone problems can happen in some people who take STRIBILD. Bone problems include bone pain, softening or thinning (which may lead to - buspirone • loss of appetite for several days or longer fractures). Your healthcare provider may need to do tests to check your bones. - carbamazepine (Carbatrol®, Epitol®, Equetro®, Tegretol®) • nausea • Changes in body fat can happen in people who take HIV-1 medicine. - clarithromycin (Biaxin®, Prevpac®) • stomach pain These changes may include increased amount of fat in the upper back and - clonazepam (Klonopin®) neck (“buffalo hump”), breast, and around the middle of your body (trunk). You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or severe liver problems Loss of fat from the legs, arms and face may also happen. The exact cause - clorazepate (Gen-xene®, Tranxene®) if you are female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking and long-term health effects of these conditions are not known. - colchicine (Colcrys®) STRIBILD for a long time. • Changes in your immune system (Immune Reconstitution Syndrome) can - medicines that contain dexamethasone COMPLERA, EMTRIVA, GILEAD, the GILEAD Logo, GSI, HEPSERA, STRIBILD, the STRIBILD Logo, 3. Worsening of Hepatitis B infection. If you have hepatitis B virus (HBV) TRUVADA, and VIREAD are trademarks of Gilead Sciences, Inc., or its related companies. ATRIPLA happen when you start taking HIV-1 medicines. Your immune system may - diazepam (Valium®) is a trademark of Bristol-Myers Squibb & Gilead Sciences, LLC. All other marks referenced herein infection and take STRIBILD, your HBV may get worse ( are-up) if you stop get stronger and begin to  ght infections that have been hidden in your are the property of their respective owners. ® taking STRIBILD. A “ are-up” is when your HBV infection suddenly returns body for a long time. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you start - digoxin (Lanoxin ) in a worse way than before. having any new symptoms after starting your HIV-1 medicine. - disopyramide (Norpace®) © 2014 Gilead Sciences, Inc. All rights reserved. STBC0078 03/14

18 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 21, 2014 • balt PALIOim orDate:eoutloud 3.11.14.c •o Client:m Gilead • Product: Stribild • File Name: 16873_pgiqdp_E_Winston_BaltOutLoud_ .indd Winston PALIO Date: 3.11.14 • Client: Gilead • Product: Stribild • File Name: 16873_pgiqdp_E_Winston_BaltOutLoud_ .indd Winston BS Page 1 BS Page 2 Trim: 9.875” x 9.6” Baltimore OUT Loud Trim: 9.875” x 9.6” Baltimore OUT Loud Patient Information • Do not run out of STRIBILD. Re ll your prescription or talk to your The most common side effects of STRIBILD include: - estazolam healthcare provider before your STRIBILD is all gone ® STRIBILD® (STRY-bild) • Nausea - ethosuximide (Zarontin ) (elvitegravir 150 mg/cobicistat 150 mg/emtricitabine 200 mg/tenofovir • Do not stop taking STRIBILD without  rst talking to your healthcare provider • Diarrhea - ecainide (Tambocor®) disoproxil fumarate 300 mg) tablets • If you stop taking STRIBILD, your healthcare provider will need to check Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effect that bothers - urazepam Brief summary of full Prescribing Information. For more information, please your health often and do blood tests regularly for several months to check you or that does not go away. - uticasone (Flovent®, Flonase®, Flovent® Diskus®, your HBV infection. Tell your healthcare provider about any new or unusual see the full Prescribing Information, including Patient Information. • These are not all the possible side effects of STRIBILD. For more Flovent® HFA, Veramyst®) symptoms you may have after you stop taking STRIBILD information, ask your healthcare provider. - itraconazole (Sporanox®) What is STRIBILD? Who should not take STRIBILD? • Call your healthcare provider for medical advice about side effects. You - ketoconazole (Nizoral®) may report side effects to FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088. ® • STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used to treat HIV-1 in adults - lidocaine (Xylocaine ) Do not take STRIBILD if you also take a medicine that contains: who have never taken HIV-1 medicines before. STRIBILD is a complete What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking STRIBILD? - mexiletine ® regimen and should not be used with other HIV-1 medicines. • adefovir (Hepsera ) - oxcarbazepine (Trileptal®) ® Tell your healthcare provider about all your medical conditions, including: • STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. You must stay on continuous • alfuzosin hydrochloride (Uroxatral ) - perphenazine ® ® • If you have or had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis B HIV-1 therapy to control HIV-1 infection and decrease HIV-related illnesses. • cisapride (Propulsid , Propulsid Quicksolv ) - phenobarbital (Luminal®) infection • Ask your healthcare provider about how to prevent passing HIV-1 to • ergot-containing medicines, including: dihydroergotamine mesylate - phenytoin (Dilantin®, Phenytek®) others. Do not share or reuse needles, injection equipment, or personal (D.H.E. 45®, Migranal®), ergotamine tartrate (Cafergot®, Migergot®, • If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if STRIBILD can harm your unborn baby. Tell your healthcare provider if you become - propafenone (Rythmol®) items that can have blood or body uids on them. Do not have sex without Ergostat®, Medihaler Ergotamine®, Wigraine®, Wigrettes®), and pregnant while taking STRIBILD. ® protection. Always practice safer sex by using a latex or polyurethane methylergonovine maleate (Ergotrate®, Methergine®) - quinidine (Neudexta ) - There is a pregnancy registry for women who take antiviral medicines ® condom to lower the chance of sexual contact with semen, vaginal • lovastatin (Advicor®, Altoprev®, Mevacor®) - rifabutin (Mycobutin ) secretions, or blood. during pregnancy. The purpose of this registry is to collect information ® • oral midazolam about the health of you and your baby. Talk with your healthcare provider - rifapentine (Priftin ) about how you can take part in this registry. - risperidone (Risperdal®, Risperdal Consta®) What is the most important information I should know about STRIBILD? • pimozide (Orap®) ® ® ® ® ® • If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed - salmeterol (Serevent ) or salmeterol when taken in combination with • rifampin (Rifadin , Rifamate , Rifater , Rimactane ) if you take STRIBILD. uticasone (Advair Diskus®, Advair HFA®) STRIBILD can cause serious side effects, including: ® • sildena l (Revatio ), when used for treating lung problems ® ® ® ® 1. Build-up of lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis). Lactic acidosis - You should not breastfeed if you have HIV-1 because of the risk of - sildena l (Viagra ), tadala l (Cialis ) or vardena l (Levitra , Staxyn ), can happen in some people who take STRIBILD or similar (nucleoside • simvastatin (Simcor®, Vytorin®, Zocor®) passing HIV-1 to your baby. for the treatment of erectile dysfunction (ED). If you get dizzy or faint (low blood pressure), have vision changes or have an erection that last analogs) medicines. Lactic acidosis is a serious medical emergency that ® - Two of the medicines in STRIBILD can pass to your baby in your breast • triazolam (Halcion ) longer than 4 hours, call your healthcare provider or get medical help can lead to death. Lactic acidosis can be hard to identify early, because milk. It is not known if the other medicines in STRIBILD can pass into • the herb St. John’s wort right away. the symptoms could seem like symptoms of other health problems. your breast milk. - tadala l (Adcirca®), for the treatment of pulmonary arterial hypertension Call your healthcare provider right away if you get any of the Do not take STRIBILD if you also take any other HIV-1 medicines, - Talk with your healthcare provider about the best way to feed your baby. including: - telithromycin (Ketek®) following symptoms which could be signs of lactic acidosis: Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take, including ® ® ® • feel very weak or tired • Other medicines that contain tenofovir (Atripla , Complera , Viread , prescription and nonprescription medicines, vitamins, and herbal - thioridazine ® Truvada ) supplements: ® • have unusual (not normal) muscle pain - voriconazole (Vfend ) • Other medicines that contain emtricitabine, lamivudine, or ritonavir • STRIBILD may affect the way other medicines work, and other medicines - warfarin (Coumadin®, Jantoven®) • have trouble breathing (Atripla®, Combivir®, Complera®, Emtriva®, Epivir® or Epivir-HBV®, may affect how STRIBILD works. ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® - zolpidem (Ambien , Edlular , Intermezzo , Zolpimist ) • have stomach pain with nausea or vomiting Epzicom , Kaletra , Norvir , Trizivir , Truvada ) • Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you take any of the following STRIBILD is not for use in people who are less than 18 years old. medicines: Know the medicines you take. 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AN INTERVIEW WITH ADVICE COLUMNIST AMY DICKINSON Have you ever found it necessary to a dad, not a mom. give a longer than usual response? GS: I’m really glad you brought that AD: Yes. I’m a little trapped in the for- letter up because you recently made Asking Amy AD: No [laughs]. I would say no. I’m mat that I been provided with. I wish, and quite a splash with your response to the youngest in a large family and I’m more I thought about trying this, that once in a that homophobic parent regarding their By Gregg Shapiro likely to take advice and ask for advice while I could just do one Q&A. My column gay son. Have any other letters gone vi- A project of the Chicago Tribune, in con- than to offer it. is about 700 words and there are times ral to this extent? junction with Agate Publishing, Ask Amy: GS: Do you ever hear back from the that I wish I could just do one Q&A. As it AD: No! Oh my God, no! I have not Advice For Better Living (Midway, 2014), people whose letters you use in your is, my answers tend to be longer than in changed my stand, so to speak, on LGBT compiles several columns featured in the column? other advice columns in newspapers. One issues in 10 years. I’ve been saying the “Ask Amy” column by advice columnist AD: I do, but it’s pretty rare. But it’s of the great things about online is that you same thing over and over and over again. Amy Dickinson. In the book, Dickinson, very gratifying when it does happen. One don’t have length constraints. [Laughs] I What’s interesting is that social media has who also authored the recent memoir, The I’m thinking of is the guy who wrote to me heard from a reader once years ago who changed the equation so much. I could Mighty Queens of Freeville, provides in- and he said, “What am I supposed to do? said something like, “Your answers are so probably find Q&As similar to this from sightful and intelligent guidance on a va- Everybody in my family tells me I have a long. So many words. It just years ago, but be- riety of themes, including family, dating, drinking problem. But I don’t have a drink- requires so much reading cause there wasn’t work, boundaries, and life online. There ing problem.” I responded and said that [laughs].” I’m like, “God for- Twitter and Face- are even questions and answers pertain- “if everybody in your world tells you that bid you should be reading book and George ing to LGBT issues within the book. Dick- you have a drinking problem, you do have all the words in the newspa- Takei didn’t have five inson’s embrace of the LGBT community, a drinking problem. They are being pretty per” [laughs]. million followers, it which differs greatly from her late-to-the- brave to disclose this to you and to try and GS: Earlier you men- was just confined to table predecessor, Ann Landers, recently talk to you about it. You should respect tioned removing identify- people who read the made headlines when she set a parent that.” Anyway, he wrote to me about a year ing characteristics such newspaper. Now, oh straight, so to speak, regarding their ho- later and he said that he was shocked as names of cities. Does my God, it’s unbeliev- mophobic treatment of a gay son. I spoke when he saw my answer. It was like a slap geography play a role, as able. I actually heard with Amy in January 2014 about the book in the face. He had gone into rehab and he in is there one part of the from people who said and her column. was doing well. That was great [laughs]! country that reads and that the letter wasn’t Gregg Shapiro: In addition to your GS: You must feel like you’ve made writes to you for advice real and that I planted “Ask Amy” column, many people also a difference. more than others? that letter so it would know you from your time on the pub- AD: Yes, I really do feel like that made AD: Actually, I haven’t go viral. My response lic radio program “Wait, Wait Don’t Tell the difference there. noticed that. The column is is, “If I could make Me.” What do you enjoy most about do- GS: Do the questions come to you very national. Now it’s also something go viral, I ing that show? in the state we see them in the paper in Canada. It is interesting in would do every day.” Amy Dickinson: I have to say, espe- and in the book or is there some editing that a letter from San Fran- It’s in the very nature cially given what I do for a living, to be able work done to them? cisco does tend to be differ- of virality, you can’t to go on stage and laugh and crack jokes AD: Actually, there is very little editing. ent from a letter from Fort make it happen. I’m and to be around these other people who That is a choice I made when I first started Worth, Texas. I really notice really out there on are so funny and fun, it’s a complete joy. writing the column because I really like the that. But otherwise, no, I social media and you I fell into that opportunity and it’s made way people express their own problems. don’t hear from anyone part can tell people who me really, really happy. You can tell. I’ve I think they are very revealing in the way of the country more, I don’t are cynically trying; become known for, I guess, my giggle think. Most people don’t say it’s pretty sad. and my laugh, which I keep trying to sup- “Very early on, I started where they’re from. GS: It would be press [laughs], but I can’t seem to do it. GS: Does gender play a role or are obvious when it’s a plant as opposed to Last week I was on. I was sitting next to deliberately running a questions received from both women the real thing. Luke Burbank. His bluff was so funny that and men equally? AD: Right. First of all, I’m actually sit- we had to stop tape while I had to collect lot of letters from men AD: I would say it’s two-thirds women ting here with my laptop open looking at myself. I was literally sitting up there and because I want men to writing. It’s interesting, because you can my mail. I need to clean up my email box could not get it together. It’s a complete control to a certain extent who writes into but I have 31,442 emails in this email box. joy. It’s work too. I’m one of the few non- write to me. I do feel I the column by the letters I carry. I love I don’t need to look very far for people who comedians on the show. I know a lot of co- communicating with kids, so when I run have problems [laughs]. medians now and making comedy is hard can made an impact in a question in my column from a kid, other GS: In light of the recent letter re- work. Whenever I talked to Brian Babylon terms of opening up the kids will write in. Very early on, I started garding the gay son, would you mind or Paula Poundstone, these are people deliberately running a lot of letters from saying something about your relation- who work so hard. I feel really fortunate column to men.” men because I want men to write to me. ship with the gay community? because I can just sort of phone it in once I do feel I can made an impact in terms of AD: I feel sometimes like it’s hard for a month and I don’t have to go to Scranton, opening up the column to men. me to describe. First of all, I feel like the Pennsylvania, and Mobile, Alabama. they choose to write to describe their own GS: That’s great. gay community is just looking for people to GS: You don’t have to work the com- problem. I trim for length and I changed AD: In fact, Gregg, you know the let- love, in a way. I feel that I have been em- edy circuit. identifying details, such as if someone ter (from the homophobic parent) that braced, honestly, for no particular reason, AD: Oh, my God, they work so hard! I says a specific city, I will change that be- went viral? That parent who wrote in was just because I’m a decent human being. I cannot get over it. But it’s a total joy and cause I don’t want for people to get burned a man. I’m 90% certain. A lot of people would say that this is the most significant a blast. by their own indiscretions. But otherwise, I assume that that’s a mother. I’ve commu- cultural issue in my professional life. That GS: Prior to becoming an advice do very little editing. nicated with the person a couple times, over ten years the LGBT community has columnist, were you someone people GS: Throughout the book you give emailing back and forth before I ran the just grown, blossomed, changed and come would come to for advice? succinct answers to the questions. letter, and I’m pretty sure it was written by into its own. It’s a really beautiful thing. t 20 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com THE OSCAR®-WINNING FILM NOW ON STAGE is the registered trademark and service mark of the Academy Motion Picture Arts and Sciences. Photo by Joan Marcus. ® OSCAR

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Iron Crow to Present ways to collaborate with him again. Mara ful love story that grows out of a chance explains she has also been training some The Homo Poe Show Neimanis and I have known each other for encounter between two women – it is also Iron Crow actors in aerial techniques, and – continued from page 1 a decade and have wanted to create to- wildly funny as Megan’s work always is. It working with he and Ryan Clark to inte- gether for a long time. We had great suc- is much more of a riff on ‘The Raven’ than grate aerial elements into “Grieving and The segments include: cess with full-length works by Daniel Tal- an adaptation in any way.” Sequins” – a piece Satta wrote and is di- • “The Trick” by Rich Espey – An ag- bott (Slipping) and Megan Gogerty (Bad Rich Espey mashed together a few Poe recting – and “The Trick” (written by Espey ing man comes up with a bizarre scheme Panda) and consider them part of the Crow pieces but mostly found his path through and directed by Clark. to literally stop Time in her tracks. family.” the theme of “Many people confuse Mara’s work • “In-Flight Theatre” / Mara Neimanis Satta gave them obsession, with aerial dance, but it is aerial theatre,” – Aerial choreography and performance no other prompt than which is promi- Satta points out. “In essence, we use aeri- with sculptures by Tim Scofield. Poe through a queer nent in many al apparatus to take actors off the ground, • “Thomas,” by Daniel Talbott – Af- lens. “I was confident Poe stories. giving us another dimension in which to tell ter losing his lover, a young man descends that, since these artists This turned into our story. It has been incredibly invigorat- into erotic madness. have distinctly different a bizarre piece ing for the company to expand our vocabu- • “Super-Hot Raven” by Megan Go- voices, we would end called “The lary in this way. The result is very exciting!” gerty – A sexy repair-woman helps a neu- up with a rich variety of Trick.” The Homo Poe Show contains nu- rotic poet get over her ex-girlfriend Lenore. work, and we did.” “The final dity, adult themes and language and will • “Duet: Untitled,” by Tony Byrd – An He pointed out that scripted piece be performed at the Theatre Project, 45 exploration of obsessive relationships by Daniel Talbott’s piece (“Grieving and West Preston Street, Baltimore. The per- the Baltimore choreographer. (“Thomas”) is the most Sequins”) was formance dates and times are as follows: • “Grieving and Sequins,” by Steven literary, in that it’s mostly developed by Saturday, March 22 is opening night – J. Satta – A grieving man struggles with a monologue told to the myself with a 8 p.m.; Thursday-Saturday, March 27-29 supernatural forces to return to the world audience that travels group of actors, – 8 p.m.; Sunday, March 30 – 7 p.m.; and of the living. in time and place – the using tech- Wednesday-Saturday, April 2-5 – 8 p.m. “I simply approached playwrights and dramatic action is the niques from Tickets are $20 for general admission artists who had interest in working with act of storytelling itself. Tectonic The- and $15 for students / seniors / artists / the company or who had worked with us It is based fairly directly on Poe’s story “El- atre Company,” said Satta. “This is the first military. For more information and ticket already,” Satta explains. “We did a short eonora.” ensemble developed piece that Iron Crow reservations visit IronCrowTheatre.com or piece of Rich Espey’s in one of our Pride Megan Gogerty’s piece (“Super-Hot has done, and it won’t be the last. It was call the Iron Crow box office at 443-637- celebrations, and I’ve been looking for Raven”) is, according to Satta, “a wonder- a very rich experience for all of us. We CROW (2769). t took Poe’s “Masque of the Red Death” as our starting place, and for a while it was a fairly direct adaptation, but then it took on Season Opener a life of its own. It became the story of one Westminster- Mainstage man’s confrontation with his own internal fears.” Carroll County June 13, 14, 20, 21, 26, 27, 28 at 8pm “Tony Byrd was involved in the ensem- Chapter June 15, 22, 29 at 3pm ble development process, which was very often based in image and gesture. He was inspired to take those images in another Cabaret direction, and create a dance for two men. Parents, Families, and Friends June 14, 20, 21, 27, 28 at 8pm The duet is an exploration of caregivers/ of Lesbians and Gays June 15, 22, 29 at 3pm caretakers and the double-edged sword of that kind of interdependence.” www.pflagwcc.org Mainstage Satta adds, “Mara Neimanis will be MovinG EquaLity Forward July 18, 19, 25, 26, 31 August 1, 2 at 8pm performing two amazing solo pieces – one Call us at 410-861-0488 of which she created for this show.” He July 20, 27, August 3 at 3pm

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B’More Queer Fest Presents Del Shores the time the story comes to a close. Southern Baptist Sissies is funny, sad, loud. The film, and Sordid Lives, will be Double Bill Southern Baptist Sissies is definitely tragic, and hopeful, and quite a different screened on the Southern Tragic Humor – continued from page 1 a film worth seeing, and even though it is animal than Sordid Lives – so don’t expect Double Bill on April 6th. Shores and Col- seems to have more on her mind than just a filmed version of a play (complete the same kind of comedy from this one. It lins will also be in town to present the hanging with Peanut (Leslie Jordan). with an audience) instead of a regular the- is watchable and perhaps it will gain the films, and for $50 you can attend a spe- While the two bring some humorous mo- atrical film, it still does have its cinematic same kind of following, and Shores’ mes- cial “Church Potluck” meet & greet prior to ments to an otherwise heavy subject, their moments, particularly with the lighting de- sage of love and hope will spread across the double feature. You can find out more presence in the story does not seem really sign. Collins (who I would wager is a thinly the land. Southern Baptist Sissies will be about the event, and the upcoming perfor- relevant until nearly the end. veiled version of Shores) handles the role a featured attraction of the B’more Qfest, mance by Leslie Jordan on June 10th, by As you can expect – especially if you’re of Mark very well, taking us from childhood which is co-sponsored by Baltimore OUT- visiting Bmorequeer.org. t a Shores follower on Facebook – the char- to adult in various scenes. He really does acter of Mark is quite ready to challenge carry the full load of the production, and the seeming hypocrisy of his religion, seems to almost always be on stage ob- A Recreational Homestead confronting a preacher who spews more serving from the background when he’s not for Your Best Friend anger and hatred than he does love and the focal point of the scene. compassion, and any time one of the boys’ Stratte-McClure handles the revulsion mothers comes to him with concerns about TJ feels after Mark tries to kiss him with their “sissified” sons, his solution is to pray heart-breaking realism, basically ending the gay away, and in one ill-advised case, their friendship after that incident. (And for to leave a “we need to talk” note on top of those interested in that sort of thing, he an uncovered porn stash. and Collins do have a couple of bare-butt 9619 Stauffer Road Offering Supervised, Off-leash If you’ve ever been brought up in a re- moments.) Montgomery doesn’t seem to ligious household, whether it be Southern have a lot of dialog, but as the boy who can Walkersville, MD Daycare and Boarding for Dogs Baptist or Pentecostal Christian (and the quote the Bible back and forth, you really (301) 845-2705 Prices Include All Amenities two don’t seem very far apart from my ex- feel for him the most as he explores the Shuttle Transport Available perience), then Southern Baptist Sissies gay bar, hooks up with a male stripper, and may hit home particularly hard for you. is ultimately, tragically “outed” by his moth- www.ADogsHaven.com @ /ADogsHaven Shores doesn’t sugar-coat how people er. Of all the characters in the story, An- can twist religion to fit their own agendas, drew is the one you most want to just give or perhaps they’re just missing the point a big hug to and tell him it will get better. of the whole “God is love” thing because Belli steals the show when he’s performing they’ve been so blinded by fear and a lack in drag, belting out his own vocals, and be- of understanding over the years. The film ing pretty matter-of-fact about his life. We certainly brought me back to my formative may not all aspire to do drag, but wouldn’t years in the church, and at times it was it have been nice had we been able to uncomfortable but Shores does leave us have Benny’s carefree attitude when we with a bit of hope, even after tragedy, by were growing up.

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with Animal (Something-Music/Fontana), is drawn, is a soul dance sensation. The Does Disco Still Suck the first studio disc of new material in more dance mood is maintained on the thumping By Gregg Shapiro the addictive “Addicted To You,” sung by than 10 years. Whether Nunn and her “The Walker” and the vintage disco of “Last Disco doesn’t still suck if you don’t call it southwestern songbird Audra Mae. Avicii Berlin mates were listening to Lady Gaga Raindrop,” as well as the dizzying “Merry- disco. If you call it EDM (aka electronic breaks up the mountaintop momentum or vice versa, Animal is a purebred EDM GoRound” and “Break The Walls.” dance music) you make it safe for straight with hardcore dance-floor workouts such creature. Propulsive songs such as “With A number of other artists are also clam- people and their gay friends (who have as “Dear Boy,” the ballroom blitz of “Shame oring for your dance dollar. On Good Mood been dancing to it for years). But there On Me,” Adam Lambert’s stand-up perfor- Kaleidoscopic pop band Fool (Secretly Canadian), Luke Temple (of are traces of disco everywhere, includ- mance on “Lay Me Down” and the twisted Here We Go Magic fame) puts listeners in ing a renewed interest in disco pioneer retro soul screamer “Liar Liar.” Grouplove summons a booty-shaking good mood on songs such Giorgio Moroder, who was rediscovered Kaleidoscopic pop band Grouplove be- Philip Glass but with a as “Those Kids,” “Katie,” “Jessica Brown by EDM gods Daft Punk and embraced gins its second disc Spreading Rumours Findlay” and “Love Won’t Receive.” Ultra by their legion of fans. However, as the (Atlantic) with the exuberant “I’m with kick-ass dance beat. Naté has been making us dance since the homophobia-laced Disco Demolition in You,” a song that not only summons Philip early 1990s (her songs “Free” and “Found Chicago (of course) approached its 34th Glass but also has a kick-ass dance beat, A Cure” are classics of the genre) and con- anniversary, the three-day Wavefront Mu- perfect for hippies and hipsters alike. “Bor- The Lights On,” “Nice To Meet You,” “Don’t tinues to do so on Hero Worship (Peace sic Festival, featuring derlines & Aliens” arrives Make Me Regret It,” “Secrets,” “Break The Biscuit) via songs such as “Everybody Diplo, Timo Maas, Holy on a funk-rock flotation Chains,” “Somebody To Love” and the title Loves The Night,” “Unconditional,” “Right Ghost, Frankie Knuck- device and “Ways To tune would all fit comfortably alongside Now,” “Planet Called Love,” “Save Me” les, staked its claim in Go” goes a long way in Gaga on any playlist. and “Hero” (featuring fellow dance diva the Windy City, while promoting the electro- After listening to Fitz & The Tantrums’ Jocelyn Brown). Dance-floor philosopher electronic music fests funk cause. “Shark At- 2010 debut album, it was easy to lump Robert DeLong (think Owl City’s Adam were held around the tack” has teeth, “Sit Still” them in with soul revivalists such as JC Young after he grows up and grows a pair) globe. makes it impossible to Brooks & The Uptown Sound and Sharon gives you something to think about while The aforementioned sit, still or otherwise, and Jones & The Dap-Kings. But on its second moving your feet from start to finish on mastermind Moroder, “Raspberry” is tart and album, More Than Just A Dream (Elektra/ the amazing and suitably titled Just Move- along with his muse the tangy. Dangerbird), Fitz & The Tantrums expands ment (Glassnote). Dance multi-hyphenate late Donna Summer, They’re dancing and updates its repertoire to move in a Colette continues to represent the Second were the driving force in Canada if Olympia dance-oriented direction. Opener “Out of City on her latest full-length When The Mu- behind disco during (Domino), the second My League,” from which the disc’s title sic’s Loud (Candy Talk). t its heyday. The Donna album by Austra, is any Summer remix disc indication. The mixed Love to Love You Donna Grouplove gender sextet has cre- (Verve) is less an hom- ated an irresistible tri- age to the original disco diva than it is a umph, merging beauty and the beats. The chance for those cursed remixers to get spooky crackling that opens “What We their grubby paws on her classic material Done?” becomes a plaintive love call when and leave what they think is their imprint the vocals begin. “Forgive Me” increases on it. Because “remix” means something the beats and “Painful Like” adds a funky different than it did when it was applied bass-line that is sure to go right to your to extended 12” single versions of tracks hips and spine. “Home” takes the classic during the 1970s (and the dawn of Donna disco diva approach – Katie Stelmanis’ Summer), only a few of the 13 revisited dramatic vocals draw you in and then the cuts are worth listening and dancing to. beats and bass assume control taking the Not surprisingly, the Director’s Cut Signa- listener home and back. ture Mix of “Hot Stuff” by Frankie Knuckles On its self-titled Interscope/Vagrant (a gay DJ who has been around since the debut UK quartet The 1975 actually sound birth of disco) and Eric Kupper is one, as is more like 1985. Synth beats, retro key- the Hot Chip Dub Edit of “Sunset People,” boards and big drum gives the listener a the Gigamesh Remix of “Bad Girls” and (false) sense of nostalgia, as the group the Afrojack Remix of “I Feel Love.” revives ‘80s dance moves from the Moon- On his full-length debut True (Island), walk to the Sprinkler to The Belinda to Avicii (aka Tim Bergling) is this year’s Da- slam or break-dancing. Your best bets for vid Guetta, but so much betta (if you will). strutting your `80s stuff are “Sex” (with its Like Guetta, Avicii employs guest vocal- U2 guitar), the synthy “Heart Out” and the ists, but what he does with them is far white funk of “Girls,” to mention a few. more compelling. Opener “Wake Me Up” When Lady Gaga’s influences are dis- finds modern soul singer Aloe Blacc in a cussed, people invariably mention Madon- Rich drama. Intrigue. 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Over 15 nationally and internationally rec- renewed strength and pride to the people ognized artists from Baltimore and around who live and work there,” said Ben Stone, the world have been hand-selected to par- executive director for Station North Arts & ticipate in an outdoor mural project called Entertainment. “Our hope is that this proj- Open Walls Baltimore 2 (OWB2). The ect will serve as a catalyst for change, con- program aims to bring bold, colorful and nectivity, and urban vibrancy.” provocative large-scale painted murals to Curating the project will be Gaia, inter- private and publicly owned buildings in the nationally celebrated street artist and MICA Station North Arts & Entertainment District. graduate, who lives both in Baltimore and The goals of this inventive project are Brooklyn, New York. His highly acclaimed to provide an outlet for creative expression work has been documented and featured where artists are able to paint their vision in various articles and books on urban art, including, most recently, Be- yond the Street: the 100 Lead- ing Figures in Urban Art. He was responsible for hand-select- Josh van Horne bringing art to a wall ing each artist credit: Martha Wilson based on their professional tal- Station, Mount Vernon, Charles Village, similar programs in dozens of states. Sta- ents and expe- the Maryland Institute College of Art, the tion North continues to serve as a national of urban legacy and revitalization in that rience as well as their ability to positively University of Baltimore, and Johns Hop- model. t area and to draw tourists and locals alike connect with people who live in diverse kins University. There are now 22 arts & For more information, visit Station- to a neighborhood experiencing growth urban settings. The artists for OWB2 hail entertainment districts in Maryland and north.org. and renewed vibrancy. from Baltimore, New York, Germany, Fin- To launch OWB2, there will be a spe- land, Italy, Poland, Spain, and Peru. In ad- cial VIP reception on March 24 from 6 to 8 dition to murals, OWB2 will include Play p.m. at the Metro Gallery located on 1700 the Plaza, a residency by the Urban Play- North Charles Street in the heart of Station ground Team, a British performance-park- Follow Us On Twitter & Like Us On Facebook! North arts and entertainment district. Vari- our team, who will animate Penn Station ous political dignitaries, community lead- plaza with free performances and interac- ers, and business partners will be in atten- tive workshops. dance at the event in addition to several of Located in the heart of Baltimore, Sta- /BaltOUTloud the participating artists. This event is open tion North was the first area in Baltimore to the public. to receive the State designation as an arts “We are building on the success of the and entertainment district in 2002. Span- original Open Walls Baltimore project that ning the neighborhoods of Charles North, /BaltimoreOUTloud literally transformed an area of our great Greenmount West, and Barclay, Station city and allowed important conversations North is a diverse collection of artist live- to take place about integrating art and the work spaces, galleries, row homes, and arts into a community to provide vitality, businesses, all just steps away from Penn Life and Small Business Coach Ava Barron-Shasho, MSW The Power of Change is in Your Hands • Fluent in ASL • Sessions provided Face to Face, Skype, FaceTime or Relay Phone: 410-356-0796 www.avabarronshasho.com

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sources generalist for a business group. Over time, my duties included recruitment Hot Deals? Not All Online The More you for other business groups throughout the Know About U.S., and facilitating training workshops BY WAYNE CURTIS The next grouping of search results is throughout the company. Had I been more Spring is near, we hope, and with it comes where most of the big Realtor-driven web- Business rigid, my employment would not have last- the opening round of 2014’s real estate sites were clustered. These are sites that Richard Finger ed another two years. (I did leave this com- market. That means potential buyers have only list properties that are represented by pany voluntarily.) While this is a very per- already started making the rounds of re- real estate agents in the multiple list. FS- sonal example, I am sure there are many al-estate websites to see what there is to BOs are not there, and rentals are usually a Theory of others just like it that will resonate with the buy, and sellers have been trying to find separate search. Realtor dot com brought readers of this article. out what homes are potential competition up 294 such properties in zip code 21218, There is no doubt that there is inher- for the one they have to sell. If you’re in while Remax returned 290, Coldwell Bank- Employability ent conflict in remaining flexible. Employ- the market this year, you er sifted out 263, Long ees must ask themselves if remaining have probably started do- and Foster found 250, Last issue, I focused on actions employers employed with a company is more impor- ing some basic internet and Listingbook brought can take to drive employees’ engagement tant than pursuing their passions. Is the searching, too. But can up 243. MRISHomes dot and commitment in organizations. This employer asking you to perform tasks that you trust what you find? com, previously known as week will focus on my theory of “employ- are too far away from what you draw the It’s widely known HomesDatabase, returned ability.” In today’s business climate, with most energy from? The answers to these among real-estate profes- 237. organizations leveraging “at-will” employ- delicate questions are personal, and de- sionals that many of the The differences in list- ment at a moment’s notice, it is very im- pendent on so many factors such as age, post popular websites are ing totals can be confus- portant for employees to consider how to years of service, or financial status, for ex- simply not providing an You can’t find me on Google ing to consumers. Most make themselves marketable within orga- ample. accurate snapshot of the buyers I’ve talked with use nizations. On the flip side, remaining amenable market. Several national publications have multiple websites because they find homes My theory of employability is based to perform new tasks may result in broad- done mathematical studies on those “zesty on one site that they don’t find on another. on an employee’s flexibility, his or her ening an employee’s knowledge base, estimates” of market value that some web- The real “gold standard” is, of course, the willingness to perform expose him or her to sites promote, but one of the more diffi- private Multiple Listing Service, which is tasks that may or may “As for employers, new aspects of the cult to prove inaccuracies has to do with available to real-estate agents. We pay not be listed in a job organization, or even current housing inventory. Plainly stated: quarterly fees that provide the funds that description. I’ve often it also important open a new oppor- if you find a house on one of these web- update and maintain the MLS, and there heard powerful people tunity that he or she sites that is supposed to be “for sale”… is are a host of employees who do their best in organizations use to remember not to never knew existed. it really? How much junk are you pulling to make sure that the data we get from the the phrase, “Do more take advantage of If anything, by per- up along beside the gems that you really MLS is the most accurate and consistent with less.” Likely, this forming new tasks can buy? that’s possible. is a result of organiza- the flexible employee. and developing new I took an informal look at eight of the So, how many properties did the MLS tions looking to gain ef- skills, one’s resume most popular real-estate search engines/ say were available for sale in 21218 on ficiencies and improve It is common to see is enhanced as a websites in this region to get a sense of March 7? 236. productivity with less employees who are result of the experi- what a consumer might find out from their That’s right: 236. staff on board. Also ence. Saying “Yes” inquiries. I went to these sites and did their Why did Zillow bring up 1,844? If you likely, the same amount overworked in the to new things can be most basic search: whatever came up on remove the 236 valid listings, are there of work exists with less quite powerful. their home page, that’s the search I did. really over 1,600 rental units and FSBOs staff on board. With this pursuit of remaining As for employ- And I kept it simple, with only one search in that one zip code looking for new resi- approach, there is no employed.” ers, it also important criteria: I wanted to find out what was for dents? Probably not. Zillow’s ‘kitchen sink’ room for employees to to remember not to sale in one zip code here in Baltimore City approach of throwing everything at you respond, “That is not take advantage of – 21218. all at once is just part of the issue when my job.” When employers are faced with the flexible employee. It is common to see Originally, I thought I would only bring it comes to internet information. Such a the tough decision to reduce staff, besides employees who are overworked in the pur- up what was officially listed in the Multiple pile of data is intimidating to look through, assessing knowledge, skills, and abilities, suit of remaining employed. This will result List, but the two largest websites, Zillow especially when you realize that among they are also considering other factors in employee burnout and ultimately, lack of and Trulia, also seem to include in their the houses that are supposed to be for such as employee behavior. Those who engagement. basic search properties that have been sale are a lot of houses that have already have demonstrated a more collaborative Admittedly, employee flexibility is not advertised by their owners as private “For sold, their listings expired, or they were attitude will be rated more favorably than 100% foolproof from a position elimination. sale by owner” homes. These listing ads withdrawn from the market and so are no those who have not. The bottom line is for employees to con- are the most unreliable and inaccurate, longer available. It means a lot of wasted Over 10 years ago, my employer had tinuously demonstrate that they are add- because there is no one who checks be- time, and a good deal of frustration. decided to centralize the Human Resourc- ing value to the organization, and ensuring hind this information and makes sure the Why did the Realtor-driven websites es function to the home office. The choice that the decision makers are aware of it. owners are truthful. It’s also the case that have the smaller number of inaccuracies? was to relocate to a not-so-desirable lo- The more flexible you are and the more their prices are normally the least reason- The differences between these sites and cation in the U.S., or be laid off. Over an perceived value you are adding will yield able of any home listings you’ll find on the the actual number is most likely explained 18-month period, I saw many colleagues a higher probability that your employer will internet today. Buyer beware! by the frequency with which they refresh decide not to relocate. I was fortunate in want to keep you around. t Here are the results of my searching, their database from the source, and when that I had not been approached to make Richard Finger is president of Fresh done on Friday, March 7. Zillow listed a to- they remove a property that has gone un- this decision. I truly believe my willingness HR Consulting 410-599-3173… and moon- tal of 1,844 properties available in 21218. der contract or has sold. These sites are to remain flexible was the primary reason lights as Baltimore OUTloud’s restaurant (Their basic search also includes rentals!) also national and even international in for this. I had been hired as a human-re- reviewer! The basic search on Trulia brought up 413. scope, and so you will lose a bit of ac- 26 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com REAL ESTATE curacy just as a part of the scale of their The best practice for you, as a con- undertaking: the number of listings they sumer who wants accurate and timely in- make available, and the number of indi- formation in your home search, is to work vidual MLS systems with which they have with a local Realtor. We can even assist to coordinate data downloads. you with buying that For Sale by Owner, if Real-estate agents are the solution for you wish, and can help you make certain the inaccuracies of the websites. We are the information the owner provides is ac- the ones who – in baseball terms – bat in curate. Start your search online, of course, the ‘cleanup’ position. We take the buyers by using one of the more accurate sources and sellers who have been misguided by I pinpointed above. 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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD march 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 27 dining out Artful & share side orders of the chicken sausage Delicious ($4) and maple pork sausage ($4), both very delicious. Gertrude’s Other egg-based selections on the 10 Art Museum Drive “Brunch Favorites” menu include, eggs Baltimore, Maryland 21218 Gertrude ($20), eggs crabette ($18), Tligh- 410-889-3399 man Island eggs ($18), sirloin steak ran- Gertrudesbaltimore.com chero ($20), Chessie’s country breakfast platter ($10), garden omelet ($13), Ger- trude’s crabmeat omelet ($19), Gutman By Richard Finger Avenue eggs ($13), and Back Creek Inn I was quite excited to have brunch at Ger- crab quiche ($16). For those not in egg eat- trude’s, as I had heard nothing but good ing mode, there are other selections, Tom- things from friends about their experience my’s hot cakes ($8), stuffed French toast there. Upon walking up to the restaurant ($10), buttermilk waffles ($10), and Middle entrance, I was slightly concerned that the Eastern platter ($13). renovation work might impede upon our There are various soups, salads, sand- enjoyment, but that concern was quickly wiches, and hamburger possibilities on alleviated when the brunch we walked into the menu as well. open dining room. It should be I was immediate- noted that ly struck by the Gertrude’s amount of natural prides itself sunlight and could on procuring see a multitude of its ingredients people enjoying from local themselves. farms. We were read- We did ily escorted to our not want our Create Your Perfect Day table for two and visit to end so presented with the quickly, so de- impressive brunch cided to finish menu. There is off our delight- an assortment ful meal with of brunch cock- a cup of cof- tails from which to fee. The din- choose. I selected ing room was the peach Bellini quite busy on ($7), made of Fit for a locavore this particu- lhirondelle.com sparkling wine and lar Saturday peach nectar. My boyfriend decided on the morning, but we did not feel at all rushed. blood-orange mimosa ($8), with sparkling We continued to enjoy our conversation L’ Hirondelle Club of Ruxton wine and blood-orange juice. Other cock- and our time together. Blessed by a some- 7611 L’Hirondelle Club Road Ruxton, MD 21204 tails include the standard mimosa ($6) up what warm and sunny day, once we decid- 410.825.2400 to Saint Sangria ($11). The peach Bellini ed to depart Gertrude’s, we paid a visit to was light and refreshing. There was a sub- the Baltimore Museum of Art (BMA), and tle hint of the alcohol in the drink, enough took a leisurely stroll through the Wyman to know I was drinking an alcoholic bev- Park Dell. erage, but not overpowering. The drinks I’ve only lived in Baltimore for less than a were a perfect way to start. year, and I am just beginning to discover the The brunch options are plentiful. I hidden treasures our city offers. Gertrude’s is decided on Eggs Benedict ($12), which certainly one of them. Whether it be for a fam- is prepared with grilled Canadian bacon ily day outing or a casual day out as a couple, and poached eggs on a toasted English I highly recommend kick-starting the morning muffin with hollandaise sauce, accom- with a pleasant brunch at Gertrude’s. Con- panied by home fries. I was grateful the sidering other more expensive options – for poached eggs were not undercooked, and example, $100 for a full adult admission day not smothered in too much sauce. The pass to one of Disney World’s theme parks home fries were not at all greasy, with just – a moderately priced meal at Gertrude’s, Luncheon Wedding Receptions to fit every budget enough peppers and onions to add the followed by a gratis visit to the museum is a right amount of flavor. We also decided to great bargain. t 28 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD March 21, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com was a leather / Levi dress code for the There are many companies making munity to grow and we want to reach out to back bar. Those who attempted to order a leather fetish clothing and accessories to- the next generation – we have to embrace drink at the back bar who were not prop- day and some companies are well-known change. Attendees today at major leather erly dressed were very politely asked to for their well-crafted, high quality products. events can also be found in spandex wres- move to the front bar. The leather commu- There are also some companies mak- tling suits and tight football uniforms. This Leather nity only wore black leather in those days. ing less expensive leather items for the “gear” has become a big part of the leather Line Someone showing up in a brown leather masses. Those in the higher priced range community. I love it. It is a fetish and not Rodney Burger jacket was laughed at and looked upon as would include Northbound Leather from only does it not cost as much as a pair of someone who was trying to fit in, but didn’t Toronto, Mr. S. Leather from San Francis- leather pants and a leather shirt, it allows quite “get it.” Sunday afternoon happy hour co, and The Leather Man from New York the younger generation to express them- was packed and the room was filled with City. Their products are all very well made. selves and join the party. (Plus, many of The Cost smoke and the smell of leather. I remem- Those leather guys and girls who are will- the guys at MAL looked really hot in their ber one Memorial Day Weekend in the ing to spend even more and take their look gear!) We can’t put a price on kink. A $200 of Kink early ‘80s when two regulars showed up in a step further will have their leather out- pair of leather cuffs, a piece of clothesline, all white leather. When everyone stopped fit custom made. This is particularly true and a roll of duct tape from the dollar store to stare they quickly joked that it was their for those leather titleholders who plan to will all get the job done! One of my friends got quite irate the other “summer leather.” The crowd roared! It hit the stage in Chicago at the Interna- A man stops by a convenience store in night about “designer leather people.” He was an expensive joke but I am sure it was tional Mr. Leather Contest. The judges will the morning and gets himself a cup of cof- thinks of himself as an old-school, throw- told repeatedly by those in attendance that be looking closely are not only what the fee for a dollar. Another man walks into an back, and basic biker-type leather guy. He day. Over the years the leather community contestant is wearing, but how well does upscale cafe and pays $5 for a cappuccino. wondered when the leather community has changed. Change is inevitable – ex- it fit. You can’t go wrong with something What can you say about these two men? became all about $400 leather pants and that was made just for you. Yes, They both like coffee! A person involved in custom made leather shirts. How did we leather can be expensive – but the leather community should not be judged go from dark, sleazy backrooms to the Hy- Marlon Brando – my mother always said, “You by the cost of his leather or even if he isn’t att Regency on Capitol Hill and the Mar- Did leather make get what you pay for.” I am also wearing any leather at all. I was once out the man, or the man riott Magnificent Mile in Chicago? It was a often reminded of the immortal on the town in New Orleans with my friend make leather? good question. words of Dolly Parton who once Jamie who owned a popular leather bar. He The gay leather community got its remarked to Johnny Carson was dressed in a plaid shirt and a pair of start in the 1940s and grew out of the on “The Tonight Show” that, “It jeans. At one establishment the bartender post-World War II motorcycle culture. cost a lot of money to look this hollered at my friend, “Hey Jamie, where’s Many sources trace the clone leather guy cheap.” you leather?” Jamie placed his hand above look to the 1953 film The Wild One star- Unfortunately just like in his heart and said, “Its right here.” t ring Marlon Brando. The iconic image of society as a whole there can a young, handsome, and very masculine be a somewhat elitist quality in Brando dressed in tight jeans, a white t- the leather community. Attend- shirt, leather motorcycle jacket, and a ees can spend lots of money at Follow Us On leather cap was quickly adopted by the major leather events that are gay leather culture. Leather guys copied now held in upscale hotels. Yet, Twitter & Like Us this look because not only was it hot, but isn’t it wonderful that the beau- it also was a way to separate themselves tiful Hyatt Regency on Capitol On Facebook! from the stereotyped idea that gay men Hill Hotel in Washington, D.C., were effeminate or girly. This standard would shut down their entire lasted for decades. hotel on a holiday weekend to When I moved to Baltimore in the warmly welcome a group of gay early 1980s I discovered the Gallery Bar leather folks? We have come a on Maryland Avenue. I had just arrived long way! Some attendees will in town and friends, who I had met while book suites and dine in high- working in Ocean City, Maryland, the sum- end restaurants. And unfortu- mer before, took me to the Gallery Bar nately some of those leather /BaltOUTloud for dinner. When we pulled up in front of folks who have money will look this rather forlorn looking building my first down on some of the less fortu- thought was: This is where we are going to nate in the community. eat? Once inside I discovered that not only cept from a vending machine! Early auto- This snobbery can sometimes be did the Gallery have wonderful food in the mobiles only came in black, but cars today found among some of the elders in the restaurant at the front of the building, but are available in a countless assortment of tribe and is often directed at the younger /BaltimoreOUTloud the bar in the back was filled with mascu- colors. Leather now comes in all colors as folks. (These are the same leather people line looking men in black leather. Growing well. If you had a chance to visit the leath- who are still holding on to the idea that up I often fantasized while looking at the er mart at January’s Mid-Atlantic Leather leather should only be black.) I remember leather man on my Village People album Weekend in Washington, D.C. you saw taking a very young and recently sashed covers. At the Gallery I discovered the real leather shirts, pants, chaps, armbands, leather titleholder to Mid-Atlantic Leather deal! etc. available in a wide range of colors. Weekend a few years ago who was criti- Between the Gallery’s front bar and There were even leather camouflage pants cized because his leather did not fit quite back bar was a red neon sign. (Many years and leather blue jeans. One could buy any as well as it should have and was not later the sign would be moved to the Bal- color and style of leather clothing and toys custom made. At the age of 23 how many timore Eagle Bar.) The sign read “L / L” imaginable as long as one was willing to $1,000 custom made leather outfits was and the message was quite simple. There run up that credit card! he expected to have? If we want our com-

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