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June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 3 Letter from the publisher Considering fathers oday’s urban fa- They are sitting in seems to me. No longer is anyone’s Every Father’s Day I naturally think thers are setting pediatric offices and role so clearly defined. Urban par- of my own Dad, and who doesn’t? T a new tone and signing kids up for pro- ents are changing the landscape and Times have changed a great deal are more active in the grams and waiting until it can’t help but be good for both since I was a kid and fathers spend daily parenting experi- the swim class or the men and women. It most certainly a lot more quality time in every way ence than ever before. music lesson is over. will be more interesting and more with their families and children than One sees it all the This issue talks a lot inclusive for the children as the new they use to. The whole society is time especially in the about Dads and has a role models emerge and they have sure to benefit from this as we move streets of our communi- lot written by Dads. So more input from both the masculine forward. ties. Fathers are pushing many fathers want to and feminine, the yin and the yang. To the very generous, thoughtful, carriages and strollers, communicate about Balance and harmony and shared dedicated and knowledgeable Dads are in the playgrounds, dropping kids their kids and about the issues they responsibilities, love and devotion who write for this magazine, we’re off and picking them up; one sees as parents are confronting. It’s no sound like a positive recipe to me. grateful to you for shared struggles today’s fathers in a whole new light. longer, “Ask your mother” in most I’m personally impressed with and wisdom. They are primary caregivers and families. How lucky these children many of today’s progressive families Happy Father’s Day to all of you. more and more of them are opting to are in the new family structure, to and I admire their mutuality and Thanks for reading. take on greater responsibilities with have multiple parental love, interest, shared nature. It’s not easy to be the day-to-day decision-making. guidance and input. both worker and parent and finding They are shopping in the markets How fortunate for our society that the right rhythm to benefit the whole and making meal plans. They are we have all kinds of Dads too. We family is not an easy task. It takes wearing slings and Snugglies and have single Dads and double Dads enormous commitment and lots of buying and changing diapers. They and with newly created extended patience. It also takes having a game Susan Weiss-Voskidis, are packing lunch boxes and doing families, many kids have two Dads. plan and finding a way to positively Publisher/Excutive Editor laundry. All of this is good for everyone it implement it. [email protected]
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June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 5 for dads to be part of something their children enjoy while teaching sportsmanship, teamwork and re- spect for others in the process. Children benefit from a dad who provides consistent love and dis- Dear Dad, cipline. Discipline teaches children self- control and right from wrong, while helping them feel secure and cared Your kids need you! for. Boys, in particular, need more guidance from fathers due to their nature toward “out of bounds” be- BY GAYLA GRACE Rick an interactive computer. Rick havior. Dr. James Dobson, author Being the controlled the cursor by touching of “Bringing up Boys,” says, “Boys ick Hoyt was born a quad- a switch with the side of his head, are more likely to get off course best father riplegic with cerebral palsy. finally able to communicate with when they are not guided and su- R His parents, Dick and Judy those around him. pervised carefully. When left to Hoyt, were told he would be a veg- Rick immediately relayed his their own devices, they tend to you can be etable for life and should be insti- love for sports and at 15 years old, drift toward the center divider or tutionalized. But his dad refused asked his dad to participate in a into the ditch, toward misbehavior to believe it. five-mile benefit run for a class- or danger.” Dick noticed Rick’s eyes followed mate paralyzed in an accident. Al- Children gain healthy standards him everywhere he went and de- though not a distance runner, Dick from a dad with spiritual prin- termined to find a way to com- agreed to join in the run and push ciples. Studies show that children municate with him. He solicited Rick in his wheelchair. That day who actively engage in a commu- help from Tufts University, where changed their lives. After the run nity of faith increase their odds a skilled group of engineers built Rick said, “Dad, when I’m running toward a happier, healthier, and it feels like I’m not handicapped” longer life, while significantly re- (www.teamhoyt.com). ducing the likelihood of life prob- Inspired to offer Rick more op- lems and risky behavior. portunities for that feeling, Dick Children need a dad who re- began training every day with a flects a stable male role model. bag of cement in Rick’s wheelchair We’ve all heard the saying, “I’d while Rick was at school. The two rather see a sermon than hear one began participating in marathons, any day.” Children mirror their par- triathlons, and other grueling ath- ent’s behavior and learn relation- letic events. ship skills and healthy social skills, They have now completed including how to treat others, by more than 1,000 races to- watching them. They benefit from gether, including 247 tri- a father who regularly shows them athlons and 70 mara- physical affection and treats his thons. Rick knows he marriage partner with love and has an incredible dad respect. whom he refers to as Our generation sees too many “The Father of the children reared without fathers. Century.” A high divorce rate, unbalanced Most dads don’t career priorities, and prevailing have the same op- addiction rates contribute to an portunity Dick absent father for many, emotion- Hoyt had with his ally and physically. However, study son. But every dad after study reflects the impact of has the chance to a child’s well-being from the influ- show love and ac- ence of his father. ceptance to his It’s not always possible to be an children, giving of active dad on a daily basis, but it his time to provide is possible to stay involved in your nurturing and guid- child’s life in other ways. A dad’s ance. role is a high calling that not ev- Children gain secu- eryone gets to experience. But for rity from a dad willing those who do, it’s a role to be hon- to make time for them. I ored and cherished, carried out love watching dads with with intentional purpose. their sons at the baseball Gayla Grace is a freelance writer, fields playing catch, practicing wife, and mom of five children. She is batting, or offering encouraging thankful for the role her husband plays words. Athletics offer a great way as their childrens’ father.
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June 2014 • MANHATTAN FAMily 7 (Above) Kids and their dads get into the spirit at the group’s annual Halloween celebration. (Right) NYC Dads Group co-founder Lance with his wife Jessica and son Jake at Victorian Gardens in Central Park. (Opposite) The NYC Dads Group’s families visit a CitiField Mets Game for the “Big League Dads” program. NYC Dads Group
out to decompress.” group recently visited LEGOLAND wards of caring for our children. to become positive and consistent And so NYC Dads Group was Discovery Center in Westchester. They also discuss: forces in the lives of their children. born. Dads’ Nights Out (movies, sport- s $EVELOPING A BOND WITH YOUR The awards will be one of many ing events, bars): Recently, 50 new baby. opportunities to show that, despite About the group dads went to a sports bar to watch s "EING SUPPORTIVE OF YOUR BABYS the crisis of father absence facing The group meets several times the NCAA Basketball Tournament. mom. communities across the country, each week, membership is free, and Special events: These include s .AVIGATING WORK AS A NEW PAR- these New York dads show up every Devoted dads it’s all about having fun and doing family picnics, trips to ball games, ent. day and are present and active in BY TAMMY SCILEPPI on the challenging role of stay-at- Dads Group and now City Dads exciting, stimulating things to- and sponsored fairs and events. s $EVELOPING A PARENTING PART- the lives of their child and com- The NYC Dads home dad, after his son, Jake (now Group has given me a new identity gether with the kiddies, who enjoy Visit the website for details nership. munities. hey say the hardest job in the 5) came on the scene. beyond my role as Max and Sam’s spending time with their dads and Educational workshops: The s #REATING A BABY SAFE ENVIRON- The Fatherhood Initiative was es- Group helps world is being a parent. So, “It was extremely important for dad,” said Schneider, who lives in learning new things. group hosts a variety of parenting ment. tablished in 2010 to focus on impor- T this Father’s Day and every our family to have my wife Jessica Battery Park City with his wife and “It’s a diverse and active com- workshops, including child passen- s -ANAGING RELATIVES tant issues, such as: fathers take day, dads who step up to the plate or me providing quality child care two boys (ages 8 and 5). “I’m proud munity of dads who are looking for ger safety, potty training, healthy s - A KE ALL CITY AGENCIES AS hFATHER and go above and beyond the call of for our son the first few years. Con- to be finishing two years as the PTA the same kind of parental camara- and happy sleep habits, introduc- How important is a friendly” as possible. care of their duty deserve a big thumbs up — and sequently, we made the decision president at my kids’ school.” derie and network that the moth- tion to nursery school, positive dis- father in a child’s life? s 5NCOVER AND REMOVE ANY BARRI- a great big hug from the kiddos (and that was the most practical for our So, what’s it like being a stay-at- ers they encountered had built and cipline, travel with babies, and the “Very important!” says Somer- ers that fathers may face in interact- ladies) who love them. family: that I would take a child care home dad? relied upon,” says Somerfeld. “Dads featured weekly class for expectant feld. “Research shows that when a ing with the city. children — and Cool New York City dads Lance leave of absence from the Depart- “I absolutely love spending qual- Group members include stay-at- fathers: New Dad Boot Camp. father is involved in his child’s life s ! S S I S T IN THE CREATION OF MEMO- Somerfeld and Matt Schneider are ment of Education, and she would ity time with my son,” says Somer- home and working, married and New Dad Boot Camp is offered al- they’re more likely to graduate from rable moments between fathers and themselves co-founders of a very special sup- continue working full-time,” Somer- feld, who lives on Manhattan’s single, gay and straight, young and most every weekend at the group’s college; that fathers are more physi- their children. port playgroup — NYC Dads Group feld recalls. Upper East Side. “I’m fortunate to old, freelancers, teachers, and even partner locations: 92nd St. Y (92Y), cal with their children (in a good s 3 U P P O R T FATHERS AS THEY IMPROVE — for papas who bond over their But after his wife (a corporate ac- have the opportunity to relish in all a few professional clowns.” Tribeca Parenting, and CityBirths. way, and kids need it); that we might their capacity to be good dads. children and have a collective de- tuary) returned to work, the newbie of those small, wondrous moments Activities include: “Being engaged from pregnancy push them to take more risks; that s s s sire to change the face of modern fa- dad discovered how isolating stay- that occur each day. Being an at- Group playdates: Parent and me through the diaper years sets the although we might do less house- If you’d like to get involved with therhood through the group’s multi- ing at home could be. home dad really helps me appreci- classes at Gym at Gymboree or foundation for a man to be an in- work, and we are the ‘fun’ parent, NYC Dads Group’s events, here are channel platform: blogs, meetups, “I wanted to avoid the common ate seeing things through my child’s New York Kids Club; soccer with volved father and active parent- we are more strict disciplinarians. some upcoming dates: workshops, and a podcast. pitfalls of isolation, and find my eyes. I get to be a kid again. Super Soccer Stars; and music with ing partner for life. New Dad Boot “Bottom line?” he adds, “Parent- s ! N N U A L &ATHERS $AY FAMILY PIC- The idea was conceived one bor- people — a social group of fathers “My challenges are probably sim- Music Together. There’s also yoga, Camps offer expectant and new ing is challenging work, but it’s so nic on Sunday, June 7. ing winter afternoon in 2008, when looking to connect, share ideas, ilar to those of other stay-at-home fencing, and sign language classes dads a frank discussion along with much easier when you’re able to s # E N T R A L 0ARK 3TROLLER 7ALK WITH the two adventurous at-home dads vent frustrations, and go on adven- parents: I’m so involved in caring with the little ones. They also hold practical advice and hands-on tackle and navigate all of the re- Britax Affinity on Sunday, June 7. decided to take their cozy little play- tures together with our children,” for my child that I often neglect an annual Halloween party and Fa- training in essential parenting du- sponsibilities together, as a team, s 3UMMER hPLAYGROUND TOURv VIS- group to the next level. After team- he explains. carving out personal time for myself ther’s Day picnic. This year’s picnic ties, such as holding, changing, and with your significant other.” its to different playgrounds in the ing up — babies and toddlers in He’d hang ou occasionally with to pursue hobbies, be spontaneous is on June 7. comforting your baby,” Somerfeld This June, in an effort to spread five boroughs each week). tow — the group was created, and good friend and fellow pop Matt with my wife, or make plans with Outings to museums, parks and says. the message that fathers matter, the For specific details, visit: www.ny- now it’s nearly 1,000 dads strong Schneider, who had been an at- friends. And, I have those frustrat- playgrounds: Including the Ameri- These three-hour workshops, fa- city’s program Fatherhood Initiative cdadsgroup.com; the Meetup page and growing. home dad for three years. ing moments where my child won’t can Museum of Natural History, cilitated by a nationally certified will present the fourth annual Dads www.meetup.com/New-York-City-Dads- Somerfeld, 40, was a public “Looking back, I realize how iso- stop crying or he pushes my but- Central Park Zoo, Jane’s Carousel trainer, connect experienced dads Matter Awards. These awards will Meetup-Group; on Facebook at www. school teacher at an elementary lated I felt from the world outside tons to the brink of insanity. I need at Brooklyn Bridge Park, and taking (and their babies) with newbies to recognize 10 fathers from across the facebook.com/NYCDadsGroup; or on school in the Bronx when he took my family. Helping to build NYC to walk away and give myself a time- the tram to Roosevelt Island. The talk about the opportunities and re- city who have overcome challenges Twitter, twitter.com/#!/NYCDadsGroup.
8 MANHATTAN Family • June 2014 (Above) Kids and their dads get into the spirit at the group’s annual Halloween celebration. (Right) NYC Dads Group co-founder Lance with his wife Jessica and son Jake at Victorian Gardens in Central Park. (Opposite) The NYC Dads Group’s families visit a CitiField Mets Game for the “Big League Dads” program. NYC Dads Group
out to decompress.” group recently visited LEGOLAND wards of caring for our children. to become positive and consistent And so NYC Dads Group was Discovery Center in Westchester. They also discuss: forces in the lives of their children. born. Dads’ Nights Out (movies, sport- s $EVELOPING A BOND WITH YOUR The awards will be one of many ing events, bars): Recently, 50 new baby. opportunities to show that, despite About the group dads went to a sports bar to watch s "EING SUPPORTIVE OF YOUR BABYS the crisis of father absence facing The group meets several times the NCAA Basketball Tournament. mom. communities across the country, each week, membership is free, and Special events: These include s .AVIGATING WORK AS A NEW PAR- these New York dads show up every Devoted dads it’s all about having fun and doing family picnics, trips to ball games, ent. day and are present and active in BY TAMMY SCILEPPI on the challenging role of stay-at- Dads Group and now City Dads exciting, stimulating things to- and sponsored fairs and events. s $EVELOPING A PARENTING PART- the lives of their child and com- The NYC Dads home dad, after his son, Jake (now Group has given me a new identity gether with the kiddies, who enjoy Visit the website for details nership. munities. hey say the hardest job in the 5) came on the scene. beyond my role as Max and Sam’s spending time with their dads and Educational workshops: The s #REATING A BABY SAFE ENVIRON- The Fatherhood Initiative was es- Group helps world is being a parent. So, “It was extremely important for dad,” said Schneider, who lives in learning new things. group hosts a variety of parenting ment. tablished in 2010 to focus on impor- T this Father’s Day and every our family to have my wife Jessica Battery Park City with his wife and “It’s a diverse and active com- workshops, including child passen- s -ANAGING RELATIVES tant issues, such as: fathers take day, dads who step up to the plate or me providing quality child care two boys (ages 8 and 5). “I’m proud munity of dads who are looking for ger safety, potty training, healthy s - A KE ALL CITY AGENCIES AS hFATHER and go above and beyond the call of for our son the first few years. Con- to be finishing two years as the PTA the same kind of parental camara- and happy sleep habits, introduc- How important is a friendly” as possible. care of their duty deserve a big thumbs up — and sequently, we made the decision president at my kids’ school.” derie and network that the moth- tion to nursery school, positive dis- father in a child’s life? s 5NCOVER AND REMOVE ANY BARRI- a great big hug from the kiddos (and that was the most practical for our So, what’s it like being a stay-at- ers they encountered had built and cipline, travel with babies, and the “Very important!” says Somer- ers that fathers may face in interact- ladies) who love them. family: that I would take a child care home dad? relied upon,” says Somerfeld. “Dads featured weekly class for expectant feld. “Research shows that when a ing with the city. children — and Cool New York City dads Lance leave of absence from the Depart- “I absolutely love spending qual- Group members include stay-at- fathers: New Dad Boot Camp. father is involved in his child’s life s ! S S I S T IN THE CREATION OF MEMO- Somerfeld and Matt Schneider are ment of Education, and she would ity time with my son,” says Somer- home and working, married and New Dad Boot Camp is offered al- they’re more likely to graduate from rable moments between fathers and themselves co-founders of a very special sup- continue working full-time,” Somer- feld, who lives on Manhattan’s single, gay and straight, young and most every weekend at the group’s college; that fathers are more physi- their children. port playgroup — NYC Dads Group feld recalls. Upper East Side. “I’m fortunate to old, freelancers, teachers, and even partner locations: 92nd St. Y (92Y), cal with their children (in a good s 3 U P P O R T FATHERS AS THEY IMPROVE — for papas who bond over their But after his wife (a corporate ac- have the opportunity to relish in all a few professional clowns.” Tribeca Parenting, and CityBirths. way, and kids need it); that we might their capacity to be good dads. children and have a collective de- tuary) returned to work, the newbie of those small, wondrous moments Activities include: “Being engaged from pregnancy push them to take more risks; that s s s sire to change the face of modern fa- dad discovered how isolating stay- that occur each day. Being an at- Group playdates: Parent and me through the diaper years sets the although we might do less house- If you’d like to get involved with therhood through the group’s multi- ing at home could be. home dad really helps me appreci- classes at Gym at Gymboree or foundation for a man to be an in- work, and we are the ‘fun’ parent, NYC Dads Group’s events, here are channel platform: blogs, meetups, “I wanted to avoid the common ate seeing things through my child’s New York Kids Club; soccer with volved father and active parent- we are more strict disciplinarians. some upcoming dates: workshops, and a podcast. pitfalls of isolation, and find my eyes. I get to be a kid again. Super Soccer Stars; and music with ing partner for life. New Dad Boot “Bottom line?” he adds, “Parent- s ! N N U A L &ATHERS $AY FAMILY PIC- The idea was conceived one bor- people — a social group of fathers “My challenges are probably sim- Music Together. There’s also yoga, Camps offer expectant and new ing is challenging work, but it’s so nic on Sunday, June 7. ing winter afternoon in 2008, when looking to connect, share ideas, ilar to those of other stay-at-home fencing, and sign language classes dads a frank discussion along with much easier when you’re able to s # E N T R A L 0ARK 3TROLLER 7ALK WITH the two adventurous at-home dads vent frustrations, and go on adven- parents: I’m so involved in caring with the little ones. They also hold practical advice and hands-on tackle and navigate all of the re- Britax Affinity on Sunday, June 7. decided to take their cozy little play- tures together with our children,” for my child that I often neglect an annual Halloween party and Fa- training in essential parenting du- sponsibilities together, as a team, s 3UMMER hPLAYGROUND TOURv VIS- group to the next level. After team- he explains. carving out personal time for myself ther’s Day picnic. This year’s picnic ties, such as holding, changing, and with your significant other.” its to different playgrounds in the ing up — babies and toddlers in He’d hang ou occasionally with to pursue hobbies, be spontaneous is on June 7. comforting your baby,” Somerfeld This June, in an effort to spread five boroughs each week). tow — the group was created, and good friend and fellow pop Matt with my wife, or make plans with Outings to museums, parks and says. the message that fathers matter, the For specific details, visit: www.ny- now it’s nearly 1,000 dads strong Schneider, who had been an at- friends. And, I have those frustrat- playgrounds: Including the Ameri- These three-hour workshops, fa- city’s program Fatherhood Initiative cdadsgroup.com; the Meetup page and growing. home dad for three years. ing moments where my child won’t can Museum of Natural History, cilitated by a nationally certified will present the fourth annual Dads www.meetup.com/New-York-City-Dads- Somerfeld, 40, was a public “Looking back, I realize how iso- stop crying or he pushes my but- Central Park Zoo, Jane’s Carousel trainer, connect experienced dads Matter Awards. These awards will Meetup-Group; on Facebook at www. school teacher at an elementary lated I felt from the world outside tons to the brink of insanity. I need at Brooklyn Bridge Park, and taking (and their babies) with newbies to recognize 10 fathers from across the facebook.com/NYCDadsGroup; or on school in the Bronx when he took my family. Helping to build NYC to walk away and give myself a time- the tram to Roosevelt Island. The talk about the opportunities and re- city who have overcome challenges Twitter, twitter.com/#!/NYCDadsGroup.
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Ask your Tips and tales TIGERS AND save time and to avoid unnecessary younger kids to snap random pho- “We had a taco food truck come stress. tos. Afterward, create a poster-size for my daughter’s graduation party. TEENS After the ceremony, our family and collage for her dorm room wall. Everyone loved it, and it was an easy MYRNA BETH HASKELL close friends packed into a half-dozen Activities: Sunshine calls for vol- cleanup!” cars to head home. While chatting leyball, KanJam (a Frisbee game), Joan Bullock, Hopkinton, MA with my daughter’s godmother, she water balloon tosses, or tug of war, “We plan a graduation brunch.” casually asked who took my daugh- but plan for rain just in case. Guess Debbie Yaeger, Saugerties, NY ter. Panic quickly set in because I the teacher: teachers’ names are “Set up a ‘photo booth.’ You can had no idea. 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Experts who work extensively Harris also endorses a collab- with defiant children and families orative approach with kids who insist that challenging kids do not push your buttons, and her excel- enjoy tormenting or offending peo- lent tips for coping include: challenging ple. Harris states, “Children want s 7HEN EMOTIONS ARE HEATED to be successful. No child is happy stop dangerous actions only. Do BY MICHELE RANARD being manipulative or out of con- not react. Sanity-saving trol.” s .EVER TRY TO TEACH A LESSON OR f you are parenting a behavior- child These kids frequently have trou- solve a problem in the heat of the advice and ally challenged child — one who ble reading social cues and use moment. I is highly inflexible, defiant, and aggression and defiance for self- s 7A L K AWAY IF YOU THINK YOU WILL in trouble much of the time — then that go with the territory. for non-compliance at home, school, preservation. yell, blame, or shame. solutions for you may be all too familiar with the Challenging kids make life sig- or both. They have difficulty fol- s # O U N T TO confusion, anger, guilt, and shame nificantly more difficult for their lowing instructions, switching gears, The importance s )NHALE AND EXHALE DEEPLY AT concerned families, teachers, and others with getting along with others, and re- of empathy least three times. whom they interact. They are often sponding appropriately to a vari- Being responsive and showing s & I N D A WORD OR PHRASE TO REPEAT poor problem solvers with rigid in- ety of social situations. They have empathy is critical to managing to yourself that will hold you back parents terpersonal styles. They may have outbursts and may swear, hit, spit, challenging behavior. Dr. Greene from reacting even for a second. meltdowns and explosive episodes throw things, or assault others. asserts that when parents show s 2EMIND YOURSELF THAT YOUR a few times a week or dozens of Parents of challenging kids often empathy and teach skills for adap- child is having a problem not being times daily. feel stuck and desperate when the tive behavior, behavior improves. a problem. But there is help — and hope. use of rewards and punishment is in- On Greene’s Lives in the Balance s ) F YOUR EMOTIONS ARE HIGH AC- effective, especially given that such site, he teaches the definition of knowledge that you are having a Snapshot of the strategy is often prescribed and is at good treatment which is “being re- problem as well. Own it. challenging child times effective with less-challenging sponsive to the hand you’ve been s $ O N T MAKE YOUR CHILD RESPON- Because of the variety of children. Challenging kids may em- dealt” and is not “treating every sible for your feelings or reactions. symptoms and severity, chal- barrass their parents with noncom- kid exactly the same.” s $ O N T TAKE IT PERSONALLY $O BE lenging kids may receive a di- pliance so much that they become Philip and Nancy Hall, who a sounding board. agnosis of Oppositional Defi- convinced their child enjoys being wrote “Parenting a Defiant Child” s ! P P E A L TO YOUR CHILDS SENSE OF ance Disorder, Asperger’s Syn- hostile and mean! (AMACOM, 2007) believe parents fairness and logic. drome, Conduct Disorder, need to display empathy and “the s 2EMEMBER THIS TOO WILL PASS Obsessive-Compulsive Dis- What causes the know-how to help their children Because challenging and defiant order, or others. outbursts? develop and sustain meaningful children come in all shapes and Challenging kids Too often, parents mistakenly relationships.” sizes, there is not a one-size-fits- may get in trouble blame themselves for their child’s And in “Confident Parents, Re- all treatment or prescription. An misbehavior. Blame may also come markable Kids” (Adams Media, important first step, even if you are from well-meaning friends or school 2008), Harris explains that par- struggling to define the problem, personnel who believe their parent- ents’ expectations of their child is to seek help, stay positive, and ing is not strict or consistent enough. must be based on who he is, not cling to hope. But parenting techniques are only on who they wish he would be. She Michele Ranard has a husband, two one factor impacting children’s writes, “To affect their behavior, children, and a master’s in counseling. behavior. their internal state must first be Visit her at hellolovelychild.blogspot. Author of “Lost at School” understood, then accepted, then com. (Scribner, 2008) and “The addressed.” Explosive Child” (Harper, Resources: 2010), Harvard Medical School Help for families Greene, Russ W. “The Explosive Child: instructor and pediatric psycholo- Because of varying philosophies A New Approach for Understanding and gist Dr. Russ Greene writes, “Chal- Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically and approaches to helping challeng- Inflexible Children.” Harper, 2010. lenging behavior occurs when the ing kids, parents should educate Greene, Russ W. “Lost at School: Why Our demands of the environment ex- themselves to choose experts and Kids With Behavioral Challenges are Falling ceed a kid’s capacity to respond solutions which offer a good fit. Through the Cracks and How We Can Help adaptively. In other words, it takes A fairly new approach is Greene’s Them.” Scribner, 2008. two to tango.” Collaborative Problem Solving, Hall, Philip S., and Nancy J. Hall. “Parenting In “When Your Kids Push Your which involves three parts: learn- a Defiant Child: A Sanity-Saving Guide Buttons” (Grand Central Publishing, ing about your child’s perspective, to Finally Stopping the Bad Behavior.” AMACOM, 2007. 2004), parent educator Bonnie Har- clarifying your own concerns, and ris explains, “Children feel under brainstorming solutions. The role Harris, Bonnie. “Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising attack from negative judgments and of parents is to figure out what is Kids You’ll Love to Live With.” Adams criticisms and are often left with no getting in their child’s way of not Media, 2008. choice but to engage in counterat- doing well. Harris, Bonnie. “When Your Kids Push Your tack.” Greene stresses that solutions Buttons: And What You Can Do About It.” On the surface, challenging kids to behavior problems take great Grand Central Publishing, 2004.
18 MANHATTAN Family • June 2014 may appear to be attention-seek- effort, bravery, and practice. But ing, manipulative, limit-testing, and since this method eliminates any poorly motivated, but this may not power struggle, the outcome is Parenting a be the case! Children often har- win-win. To learn more about it, bor unsolved cognitive problems, visit www.livesinthebalance.org/ which they lack the skills to solve what-collaborative-problem-solv- on their own. ing-and-why-it-important. Experts who work extensively Harris also endorses a collab- with defiant children and families orative approach with kids who insist that challenging kids do not push your buttons, and her excel- enjoy tormenting or offending peo- lent tips for coping include: challenging ple. Harris states, “Children want s 7HEN EMOTIONS ARE HEATED to be successful. No child is happy stop dangerous actions only. Do BY MICHELE RANARD being manipulative or out of con- not react. Sanity-saving trol.” s .EVER TRY TO TEACH A LESSON OR f you are parenting a behavior- child These kids frequently have trou- solve a problem in the heat of the advice and ally challenged child — one who ble reading social cues and use moment. I is highly inflexible, defiant, and aggression and defiance for self- s 7A L K AWAY IF YOU THINK YOU WILL in trouble much of the time — then that go with the territory. for non-compliance at home, school, preservation. yell, blame, or shame. solutions for you may be all too familiar with the Challenging kids make life sig- or both. They have difficulty fol- s # O U N T TO confusion, anger, guilt, and shame nificantly more difficult for their lowing instructions, switching gears, The importance s )NHALE AND EXHALE DEEPLY AT concerned families, teachers, and others with getting along with others, and re- of empathy least three times. whom they interact. They are often sponding appropriately to a vari- Being responsive and showing s & I N D A WORD OR PHRASE TO REPEAT poor problem solvers with rigid in- ety of social situations. They have empathy is critical to managing to yourself that will hold you back parents terpersonal styles. They may have outbursts and may swear, hit, spit, challenging behavior. Dr. Greene from reacting even for a second. meltdowns and explosive episodes throw things, or assault others. asserts that when parents show s 2EMIND YOURSELF THAT YOUR a few times a week or dozens of Parents of challenging kids often empathy and teach skills for adap- child is having a problem not being times daily. feel stuck and desperate when the tive behavior, behavior improves. a problem. But there is help — and hope. use of rewards and punishment is in- On Greene’s Lives in the Balance s ) F YOUR EMOTIONS ARE HIGH AC- effective, especially given that such site, he teaches the definition of knowledge that you are having a Snapshot of the strategy is often prescribed and is at good treatment which is “being re- problem as well. Own it. challenging child times effective with less-challenging sponsive to the hand you’ve been s $ O N T MAKE YOUR CHILD RESPON- Because of the variety of children. Challenging kids may em- dealt” and is not “treating every sible for your feelings or reactions. symptoms and severity, chal- barrass their parents with noncom- kid exactly the same.” s $ O N T TAKE IT PERSONALLY $O BE lenging kids may receive a di- pliance so much that they become Philip and Nancy Hall, who a sounding board. agnosis of Oppositional Defi- convinced their child enjoys being wrote “Parenting a Defiant Child” s ! P P E A L TO YOUR CHILDS SENSE OF ance Disorder, Asperger’s Syn- hostile and mean! (AMACOM, 2007) believe parents fairness and logic. drome, Conduct Disorder, need to display empathy and “the s 2EMEMBER THIS TOO WILL PASS Obsessive-Compulsive Dis- What causes the know-how to help their children Because challenging and defiant order, or others. outbursts? develop and sustain meaningful children come in all shapes and Challenging kids Too often, parents mistakenly relationships.” sizes, there is not a one-size-fits- may get in trouble blame themselves for their child’s And in “Confident Parents, Re- all treatment or prescription. An misbehavior. Blame may also come markable Kids” (Adams Media, important first step, even if you are from well-meaning friends or school 2008), Harris explains that par- struggling to define the problem, personnel who believe their parent- ents’ expectations of their child is to seek help, stay positive, and ing is not strict or consistent enough. must be based on who he is, not cling to hope. “A delight for both But parenting techniques are only on who they wish he would be. She Michele Ranard has a husband, two one factor impacting children’s writes, “To affect their behavior, children, and a master’s in counseling. kids and adults behavior. their internal state must first be Visit her at hellolovelychild.blogspot. Author of “Lost at School” understood, then accepted, then com. 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Special Advertising Section June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 23 New dad nerves Helping first-time fathers adjust to their postpartum life
BY DENISE YEARIAN “There are a myriad of emotions Wuttke found. that come with being a new father,” “When my son David Jr. was hen a child is born, much says Armin Brott, author of mul- born, I had overwhelming feelings emphasis is placed on tiple books and a DVD on father- of anxiety and excitement all at W helping the new mother hood. “Most often it’s a feeling of once,” he says. “I had been babysit- and baby adjust. But they aren’t the pride and excitement, at the same ting since I was 16, so my anxiety only ones undergoing change. time there can be apprehensions wasn’t about child care, it was the Most first-time fathers experi- — ‘Will I be a good father?’ ‘Can we reality of the responsibility that this ence stress due to sleep deprivation, afford this?’ ‘How is this going to was my son — and that sent a shock change in routines, and their own ap- change our lives?’ ” to my system.” prehensions about parenting. This was what dad David Just knowing there’s another per-
24 MANHATTAN Family • June 2014 son to care for can be a big stressor for first-time fathers. Couple that before-baby lifestyle, but deter- with the fact that many men don’t Resources for new dads mine what is most critical for each initially know how to bond with Dads have an important role with the couple can take a walk. parent to relieve stress — sleep, their newborns. babies, too. And being a new father s % X TE N D E D FAMILY CAN BE A HUGE exercise, time out of the house — “If a mother is nursing, it natu- can be tough. Here are some tips: help or significant stressor. En- and schedule that into the week. rally brings her in contact with the s 2EALIZE THE FATHERS ROLE IS AS courage well-meaning but intrud- s . E W FATHERS SHOULD BE AWARE baby,” says Brott. “Dads don’t have important to the baby as the moth- ing relatives to refrain from giving of their emotions. If they feel anx- that same natural bonding method, er’s. unwanted input with regard to ious or depressed for an ex- so they often get stuck doing the s 2EMEMBER EXPERIENCE IS THE child care. tended period of time, dirty work, but it shouldn’t be that best teacher. If the new dad came s / N E OF THE FATHERS they should talk with way.” from a home where there were biggest roles is to sup- their physician. Susan Maroto, a licensed social younger siblings or he has friends port the mother. This s 2EALIZE IT GETS worker and parent educator in pre- with babies, he may fall into the includes keeping an Top better. The more time natal care and postpartum adjust- parenting role quicker. eye out for postpartum fathers spend with ment, agrees. s %NCOURAGE THE NEW FATHER TO depression, which may Tips their baby, the easier “There are things moms can do get involved in all aspects of child have a delayed onset. IT WILL GET 2IGHT NOW to help dads feel competent in that care — bathing, feeding, reading, s #OUPLES SHOULD KEEP things aren’t normal, role,” she says. “Encourage them and putting the baby to sleep. If he a constant line of commu- but life will take on a new to take part in all areas of child needs a little coaching, give him nication open with one another normalcy in time. care — feeding, bathing, reading, the basics then let him develop his and discuss how the adjustment and putting the baby down. Just be own style. is going. Talk about things that are Looking for more? careful you aren’t overly critical. s 4 H E WIFE SHOULD BE CAREFUL NOT and are not working, and make Here are some resources for Standing behind your husband and to criticize her husband’s efforts, suggestions for change. new fathers. correcting his every move will only as this will only frustrate him. s - A KE SURE THE NEW FATHER HAS Books and DVDs: frustrate him. Show him what needs Encourage him and make him feel an outlet where he can share his s h " E 0REPARED ! 0RACTICAL to be done then let him develop his competent in his new role. stress. Look for a father support Handbook for New Dads” by Gary own style.” s 2EALIZE THAT SOME BABIES SUCH group or friend who is or has gone Greenberg and Jeannie Hayden Fortunately for Wuttke, basic as those with colic, are more of a through this stage in life. If he s h 4 H E %XPECTANT &ATHER &ACTS training occurred as a teen sitter challenge to soothe. If the baby doesn’t share his concerns, that Tips and Advice for Dads-to-Be” by and paid big dividends when his is crying, look for obvious signs stress may build. Armin Brott son was born. Soon after his wife of discomfort — diaper change, s #OUPLES SHOULD WORK AT NUR- s h 4 H E &ATHERS !LMANAC &ROM Christine delivered, she enrolled in hunger, fatigue, gas. Try to spend turing the marriage relationship, 0REGNANCY TO 0RE SCHOOL "ABY college and David was thrust into 10 minutes at any one strategy. If as this will benefit the parents and Care to Behavior, the Complete solo evening child care. it doesn’t work, try another one. child. If extended family is local, AND )NDISPENSABLE "OOK OF 0RACTI- “I never had to think about how 2EMEMBER NEWBORNS CAN ALSO SUF- schedule occasional date nights. cal Advice and Ideas for Every to take care David. I just fell back on fer from over stimulation due to If this isn’t an option, look for cre- Man Discovering the Fun and Chal- my babysitting days,” says Wuttke. lights, motion, sounds and people ative ways to give the marriage lenge of Fatherhood” by S. Adams “If he was crying, I would say, ‘Okay, — things that may seem normal attention — back or foot rubs, a Sullivan let’s guess what he needs?’ Then I’d are a drastic change from a quiet note in the spouse’s lunch box, or s h . E W &ATHER "OOK 7HAT %VERY check his diaper. If that was okay, womb. a quick e-mail sent to the office. New Father Needs to Know to be a I’d try to feed him. If he wasn’t hun- s 4 H E NEW FATHER SHOULD TAKE Couples’ communication should 'OOD $ADv BY 7ADE & (ORN 0H$ gry, I thought maybe he had gas or on the role of communicator include more than just baby talk. AND *EFFREY 2OSENBERG -37 needed to sleep. One of those usu- with outside family and friends, s - A KE TIME FOR INTIMACY #OU- s h 4O O LB OX FOR .EW $ADS "E- ally did the trick.” and set limits and boundaries, ples should be sensitive to each cause Babies Don’t Come with In- For Anthony Franco, the adjust- if needed. Encourage others to others needs and work together to structions” by Armin Brott (DVD) ment wasn’t that easy. When his help in practical ways, such as find a compromise. Websites: wife Lisa gave birth to the twins, dropping off meals, running er- s 4R Y TO FIND TIME FOR ONES SELF )T s WWWNEWDADSCOM Franco seemed to be fine. But four rands or watching the baby so may be impossible to maintain the s WWWMRDADCOM months into it, things changed. “I started experiencing panic at- tacks and didn’t know why,” he re- men to have someone with whom after a while and we just fit sleep in needed, limit visitors,” says Maroto. members. “I would be in the su- they can share their stress. whenever we could.” “Encourage others to help in practi- New dad nerves permarket when all of the sudden I “Some men have close friends The Wuttkes solved this problem cal ways such as dropping off meals, would get this overwhelming sense they can confide in. But a lot don’t, by enlisting the help of relatives. running errands, or watching the of dread and lightheadedness.” so they keep all those concerns in “There were times Chris and I baby for 20 minutes so the couple Helping first-time fathers adjust to their postpartum life This went on for several months and the stress level builds,” he says. said, ‘We need a break,’ and my mom can take a quick walk.” until Franco finally went to the doc- “They shouldn’t be afraid to talk would take David so we could rest. What’s most important is to real- BY DENISE YEARIAN “There are a myriad of emotions Wuttke found. tor. with other men and find out what We even called my grandparents so ize this is a period of adjustment and that come with being a new father,” “When my son David Jr. was “He asked me where it was hap- they have gone through. Chances we could have an occasional night life does get easier. hen a child is born, much says Armin Brott, author of mul- born, I had overwhelming feelings pening, and I told him it was when are they’ll find others felt the same out.” “It’s like anything new, it takes emphasis is placed on tiple books and a DVD on father- of anxiety and excitement all at I was buying diapers, formula, and way too.” Extended family and friends can a little time,” says Franco. “It took W helping the new mother hood. “Most often it’s a feeling of once,” he says. “I had been babysit- other things for the twins,” he con- One concern most new fathers be a huge help or add significant about 18 months before I became and baby adjust. But they aren’t the pride and excitement, at the same ting since I was 16, so my anxiety tinues. “That’s when he pinpointed share is fatigue. Franco and Wuttke stress, depending upon the dynamic completely comfortable with the only ones undergoing change. time there can be apprehensions wasn’t about child care, it was the the problem. He said this happens both had a hard time with this. of the relationship, say experts. This twins. Now we’re pretty much in- Most first-time fathers experi- — ‘Will I be a good father?’ ‘Can we reality of the responsibility that this to a lot of new fathers. He pre- “The one thing I really didn’t ex- is where husbands can help their separable.” ence stress due to sleep deprivation, afford this?’ ‘How is this going to was my son — and that sent a shock scribed a little anti-anxiety medica- pect was that time on a 24-hour wives by setting boundaries. Denise Yearian is the former editor change in routines, and their own ap- change our lives?’ ” to my system.” tion and then I was fine.” clock had no meaning anymore,” “Dad should take the role of com- of two parenting magazines and the prehensions about parenting. This was what dad David Just knowing there’s another per- Brott believes it’s important for says Franco. “It became irrelevant municator outside the family and, if mother of three children.
June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 25 Matilda Cuomo with her family on her birthday.
formance, and reduce the rate of school drop-out, substance abuse and teenage pregnancy. Most importantly, a mentor pro- Unlikely summer vides reliability in a child’s life. A mentor is a positive, adult role BY FRANCES KWELLER model who can help build and Studying can’t maintain a consistent and trusting inter has turned to spring relationship with a child. stop in June and with the warm This invaluable relationship is W weather comes thoughts something a child will carry with when there’s of summer. For many New York City him or her for the rest of his or parents, this is the time to start her life. thinking about planning summer TS: What was growing up in a big test on activities for the kids. Your children Brooklyn like? have worked hard for the past 10 MC: I am very proud to be a the horizon months, and visions of hot summer Brooklyn girl and I feel blessed to days, ice cream cones, and water have grown up there at the time sports dance in their heads. It’s I did. tempting to let them sit back, relax, We shared a sense of commu- and watch the days fly by. After all, nity, discovery and creativity that isn’t this the time in their lives to let has contributed to some of the them lounge at the beach with their greatest achievements of our city. friends and get a tan? And it was great, great fun. The answer: your kids have the TS: Why did you decide to em- rest of their lives to do those things. bark on this cause? But they only have this one moment MC: In 1982, when Mario be- to prepare for the New York City came governor, the state was faced Specialized High School Admis- with serious social and economic sions Test program. This is the time problems, including an escalating to make preparations for the future high-school dropout rate in our — preparations that will have sig- public schools. nificant and profound effects on I led an effort to bring mentors their lives. to children in grades kindergarten In an increasingly competitive world, getting into a specialized Photo by Don Pollardl through 12th, in the strategic effort to support youth, with a trained, high school can make a pivotal dif- committed mentor. ference in your child’s future. As TS: What do you enjoy doing in former New York City Comptroller your spare time? John C. Liu wrote for The Huff- A mom that inspires MC: Mario and I are blessed to ington Post, “The Specialized High still be busy with matters and is- Schools are the equivalent of New BY TAMMY SCILEPPI Tammy Scileppi: How can men- sues we feel passionately about. I York City’s Ivy League. Admittance How Matilda tors help build positive attitudes remain committed to finding men- to these schools is a ticket to suc- iving back seems to run in and self-confidence in young- tors for every child who can bene- cess. They bring an almost certain Cuomo gives families. sters? fit by the support of a caring adult. guarantee of high school gradua- top New York City high schools. your child truly grasp the material G Inspiring mother of five Matilda Cuomo: There is no I also love to share time at home tion, in a city where the graduation Classes often take place four days a to an extent that no prep book can and former New York State First question that a child benefits from with my family and dear friends rate is 65 percent, and an almost week, with both morning and after- match. back to the Lady Matilda Cuomo taught her the support of a caring adult. We — and, of course, to travel (mostly certain guarantee of college accep- noons sessions offered. In addition, And if you’re still not sure that children the value of giving back. know that attitudes toward school, to Italy.) tance. More than a quarter of the students can elect to attend week- you want your child to sacrifice community Throughout her life, the for- teachers, academics improve, as TS: Your grandchildren? graduates of Stuyvesant and Bronx end sessions instead. Some even his endless pool-lounging, just mer teacher has worked hard to do family and social dynamics. MC: Mario and I have 14 jewels: Science go on to university in the offer trips for both high school and think about it. There is, in fact, still improve the lives of many New Every child needs the support 13 girls and one boy (diamond in real Ivy Leagues, at Harvard, and college tours on Fridays. plenty of time to lounge by the pool Yorkers, and continues to be a of school, home and community the rough) — our precious little Yale, and Brown, or other top-tier You may be thinking that your or at the beach this summer. And mentoring champion through the working together. Mario. Each one is a treasure and colleges.” child can simply study for the test that relaxation will feel so much organization she founded, Mentor- Numerous studies provide pow- inspiration for the dreams that can Getting a high score on the test on their own, in their spare time, better after a hard day of working ing USA. erful evidence that caring adults still come true in America. is the only way to gain possible en- and ace it nonetheless. This is not and learning, knowing that you are Since its inception, the organi- can positively influence youth. As TS: What do you like to do in trance into a New York City special- a mistake you or your child can af- taking key steps towards a suc- zation has provided mentors for role models, mentors demonstrate New York City? How did you spend ized high school and enrolling your ford to make. Even the most disci- cessful future for your child. Over more than 5,000 children. the tangible rewards of completing Mother’s Day? child in a competitive test prep plined students need a structured indulging won’t make you happy Matilda and her husband Mario an education and the responsibil- MC: I enjoy everything about course gives your child the stron- setting in order to properly prepare — but your child’s admission to Cuomo, the former governor of ity and benefits of being a pro- New York City. I try to just walk gest advantage. for this challenging exam. Espe- Stuyvesant, Bronx Science, or the New York, live in Manhattan. ductive member of society. The the fascinating streets and neigh- There are many local test prep cially during the summer, procrasti- college of his dreams most cer- Here, Matilda Cuomo shares her individual attention provided by borhoods as much as possible. We companies that offer comprehen- nation is far too easy of a trap to fall tainly will. wisdom and giving back experi- a mentor can introduce a child have many wonderful mothers in sive summer camp tutoring pro- into, and these classes are neces- Frances Kweller is an education and ences with New York Parenting’s to new interests, talents and op- our family and we love to celebrate grams that have had tremendous sary to keep your child focused. In testing standards expert, and founder of readers. portunities; improve school per- together. success in helping students get into addition, top-notch tutors will help Kweller Prep. 26 MANHATTAN Family • June 2014 Unlikely summer Studying can’t BY FRANCES KWELLER inter has turned to spring stop in June and with the warm W weather comes thoughts of summer. For many New York City when there’s parents, this is the time to start thinking about planning summer a big test on activities for the kids. Your children have worked hard for the past 10 the horizon months, and visions of hot summer days, ice cream cones, and water sports dance in their heads. It’s tempting to let them sit back, relax, and watch the days fly by. After all, isn’t this the time in their lives to let them lounge at the beach with their friends and get a tan? The answer: your kids have the rest of their lives to do those things. But they only have this one moment to prepare for the New York City Specialized High School Admis- sions Test program. This is the time to make preparations for the future — preparations that will have sig- nificant and profound effects on their lives. In an increasingly competitive world, getting into a specialized high school can make a pivotal dif- ference in your child’s future. As former New York City Comptroller John C. Liu wrote for The Huff- ington Post, “The Specialized High Schools are the equivalent of New York City’s Ivy League. Admittance to these schools is a ticket to suc- cess. They bring an almost certain guarantee of high school gradua- top New York City high schools. your child truly grasp the material tion, in a city where the graduation Classes often take place four days a to an extent that no prep book can rate is 65 percent, and an almost week, with both morning and after- match. certain guarantee of college accep- noons sessions offered. In addition, And if you’re still not sure that tance. More than a quarter of the students can elect to attend week- you want your child to sacrifice graduates of Stuyvesant and Bronx end sessions instead. Some even his endless pool-lounging, just Science go on to university in the offer trips for both high school and think about it. There is, in fact, still real Ivy Leagues, at Harvard, and college tours on Fridays. plenty of time to lounge by the pool Yale, and Brown, or other top-tier You may be thinking that your or at the beach this summer. And colleges.” child can simply study for the test that relaxation will feel so much Getting a high score on the test on their own, in their spare time, better after a hard day of working is the only way to gain possible en- and ace it nonetheless. This is not and learning, knowing that you are trance into a New York City special- a mistake you or your child can af- taking key steps towards a suc- ized high school and enrolling your ford to make. Even the most disci- cessful future for your child. Over child in a competitive test prep plined students need a structured indulging won’t make you happy course gives your child the stron- setting in order to properly prepare — but your child’s admission to gest advantage. for this challenging exam. Espe- Stuyvesant, Bronx Science, or the There are many local test prep cially during the summer, procrasti- college of his dreams most cer- companies that offer comprehen- nation is far too easy of a trap to fall tainly will. sive summer camp tutoring pro- into, and these classes are neces- Frances Kweller is an education and grams that have had tremendous sary to keep your child focused. In testing standards expert, and founder of success in helping students get into addition, top-notch tutors will help Kweller Prep.
June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 27 Style magic BY TAMMY SCILEPPI on the runway. Manhattan I loved the kilt skirt for boys this hen popular children’s- season. I find that a man who can kids clothes wear designer Bonnie wear a skirt well has a great confi- W Young waves her sparkly dence and masculinity. In fact, soccer fashion wand, she seems to bring out star Tim Cahill’s son, Kyah, rocked designer the budding fashionista in girls and a that skirt with confidence! cool, princely attitude in boys. The inspiration was futuristic ro- The style magic happens in her mance. It was about a mix of classical inspired by SoHo studio, attached to the ultra- mohair plaids, faux fur, and metallic. modern, all-white, canvas-like loft The colors were mostly pale grays space she shares with her husband, and lavender, with a touch of silver family Luca Babini, and two children: Celia, and black, against the starkness of 13 and Brando, 11. white shoes. Young’s fun, très-chic creations My background is women’s. I was for kids, tweens, and teens have the creative director for Donna Karan graced the pages of top international for 16 years, so I believe that defi- publications. Her brand conveys a nitely influenced my aesthetics in my fresh, timeless quality — evident children’s line. Designer Bonnie Young and (opposite) in her classic, well-tailored skirts, TS: It seems your love of all that dresses, blazers, and outerwear. She her cool, trendy designs. is ethnic and multicultural fuels your is best known for looks that are philosophy? infused with surprising, exotic un- catch a few moments of downtime at BY: Because I have traveled exten- dertones — signature touches of no- home — relaxing or working in your sively, my clothes that I design have madic glamour, inspired by her trav- light-filled studio. It sounds like a influences from all over the world. I els to many faraway places. wonderfully inspiring place, and our have an incredible collection of tribal We caught up with the elegant readers are probably thinking, what jewelry and vintage and tribal cos- designer in March, shortly after her better spot for an artist to create? tumes. exciting fashion show in Chelsea’s Bonnie Young: It’s extremely chal- While I was at Donna Karan, I trav- gallery district, part of the Vogue lenging when it comes to focus. When eled extensively, looking for inspira- Bambini-petitePARADE/2014 Kids you work where you live, it is very tion. Fashion Week NYC. Adorable young difficult to make divisions, and your I met Donna in 1992, through her models — including her own chil- life becomes a big balancing act. We daughter’s ex-boyfriend. I was living dren — owned the runway, sporting always seem to be busy between in Italy at the time and was in New the brand’s must-have trends for the my daughter’s acting coach on 104th York for a week, visiting my grand- fall 2014 season. Street and the Downtown United Soc- mother, who was ill. Young was one of the five featured cer Club training at Pier 40. (Her son, Donna hired me on the spot. I did designers. Highlights from her new Brando, practices there). not want to move back to New York, line for tweens and teens included I want to please my kids, yet I have and Donna was thrilled because all comfy, sophisticated coats and jack- to work, so there is always this tug of the fabric mills and factories were in ets with plaid and geometric pat- war within myself. Italy, anyway. She opened an office terns (for girls’ and boys’ markets); TS: What are your plans for Moth- for me in Milan, and I began my bi- a cool, black, retro “Brando” motor- er’s Day? weekly, trans-Atlantic life. cycle jacket; a striking silvery dress, BY: We go to Long Island, where my In ’97 I started to get antsy, and worn with a dark shearling jacket; parents have a house by the beach, I was offered a position at Prada, and a champagne-colored gold dress, and we hang around the pool and which I ended up not taking. I had paired with a white, faux fur poncho play tennis all day with my family. explained to Donna that I was not — combos that any little fashion bug TS: What were the strongest ele- very inspired and needed to make a would love. ments at the fashion show, and what change, or travel around the world to In this interview, Young talks was the inspiration for your new fall get inspired. The latter happened and about her family, career, and trend- collection? Donna sent me to India, Nepal, Tibet setting creations. BY: I would say, for me, [the Fall and China for two months. Tammy Scileppi: Your au courant 2014] season was about outerwear. I returned with more inspiration to designs have taken New York City’s The double-breasted coat, for me, do many, many collections — more kids’ fashion scene by storm. So, was the key silhouette. Coats are than she could have ever imagined! when you’re not working on your col- back. Perhaps because of the arctic And so, for years I was between lection, or running about town with winter we have been forced to en- Milan, Florence, New York, and some the kids, you probably can’t wait to dure, designers showed a lot of coats exotic location, which became the in-
28 MANHATTAN Family • June 2014 Style magic BY TAMMY SCILEPPI on the runway. Manhattan I loved the kilt skirt for boys this hen popular children’s- season. I find that a man who can kids clothes wear designer Bonnie wear a skirt well has a great confi- W Young waves her sparkly dence and masculinity. In fact, soccer fashion wand, she seems to bring out star Tim Cahill’s son, Kyah, rocked designer the budding fashionista in girls and a that skirt with confidence! cool, princely attitude in boys. The inspiration was futuristic ro- The style magic happens in her mance. It was about a mix of classical inspired by SoHo studio, attached to the ultra- mohair plaids, faux fur, and metallic. modern, all-white, canvas-like loft The colors were mostly pale grays space she shares with her husband, and lavender, with a touch of silver family Luca Babini, and two children: Celia, and black, against the starkness of 13 and Brando, 11. white shoes. Young’s fun, très-chic creations My background is women’s. I was for kids, tweens, and teens have the creative director for Donna Karan graced the pages of top international for 16 years, so I believe that defi- publications. Her brand conveys a nitely influenced my aesthetics in my fresh, timeless quality — evident children’s line. Designer Bonnie Young and (opposite) in her classic, well-tailored skirts, TS: It seems your love of all that dresses, blazers, and outerwear. She her cool, trendy designs. is ethnic and multicultural fuels your is best known for looks that are philosophy? infused with surprising, exotic un- catch a few moments of downtime at BY: Because I have traveled exten- dertones — signature touches of no- home — relaxing or working in your sively, my clothes that I design have madic glamour, inspired by her trav- light-filled studio. It sounds like a influences from all over the world. I els to many faraway places. wonderfully inspiring place, and our have an incredible collection of tribal We caught up with the elegant readers are probably thinking, what jewelry and vintage and tribal cos- designer in March, shortly after her better spot for an artist to create? tumes. exciting fashion show in Chelsea’s Bonnie Young: It’s extremely chal- While I was at Donna Karan, I trav- gallery district, part of the Vogue lenging when it comes to focus. When eled extensively, looking for inspira- Lee Clower Photography Bambini-petitePARADE/2014 Kids you work where you live, it is very tion. spiration for the next collection. being designed for her. I wouldn’t Amy Sacco’s, nightclub, Lot 61. My when we can, we love to bike ride on Fashion Week NYC. Adorable young difficult to make divisions, and your I met Donna in 1992, through her Some of those places included ever say she is a fashionista … she husband was a fashion photographer the river; eat between Bar Pitti, Taka models — including her own chil- life becomes a big balancing act. We daughter’s ex-boyfriend. I was living Papua, New Guinea; Mali; Japan; just has great fashion style within (and now he has moved into photog- Taka, and Lupe’s, and hang out with dren — owned the runway, sporting always seem to be busy between in Italy at the time and was in New Benin City, Nigeria; Vietnam; Turkey; her. She basically grew up in design raphy relating to social initiatives, friends. the brand’s must-have trends for the my daughter’s acting coach on 104th York for a week, visiting my grand- the Middle East; and the North Pole. rooms. marketing, and online strategies. He TS: Please tell our readers about fall 2014 season. Street and the Downtown United Soc- mother, who was ill. In those years, during my travels, I My fall 2014 collection was filled is also the founder of www.citizen- your inspiring work as founder of Young was one of the five featured cer Club training at Pier 40. (Her son, Donna hired me on the spot. I did also published a book, “Colors of The with amazing, new double-breasted brooklyn.com — an online magazine Fashion Fights for Children’s Rights. designers. Highlights from her new Brando, practices there). not want to move back to New York, Vanishing Tribes.” I took photographs coats; that came from her wishes. catering to the new youth). He had BY: I have worked with a range line for tweens and teens included I want to please my kids, yet I have and Donna was thrilled because all of tribes around the world, docu- Brando, on the other hand, has photographed Jade Jagger for her of children’s charities, from Solving comfy, sophisticated coats and jack- to work, so there is always this tug of the fabric mills and factories were in menting indigenous people who have his own fashion point of view, strictly jewelry line, and the party was at Lot Kids Cancer, for which I am one of ets with plaid and geometric pat- war within myself. Italy, anyway. She opened an office inspired me — and hence the Donna revolving around soccer. He has the 61. I would say it was definitely for me, the hosts of the annual benefit for terns (for girls’ and boys’ markets); TS: What are your plans for Moth- for me in Milan, and I began my bi- Karan collections — over the years. It largest collection of soccer jerseys love at first sight. the past five years, my daughter is a cool, black, retro “Brando” motor- er’s Day? weekly, trans-Atlantic life. was an exciting and memorable time from around the world. We were both traveling a lot at that the junior ambassador, to being on cycle jacket; a striking silvery dress, BY: We go to Long Island, where my In ’97 I started to get antsy, and of my career. I design soccer pants for him con- time, so it took months for us to even the board of Innocence in Danger worn with a dark shearling jacket; parents have a house by the beach, I was offered a position at Prada, TS: What are Celia and Brando stantly because that is all he will wear have a first dinner together. (protecting children against traffick- and a champagne-colored gold dress, and we hang around the pool and which I ended up not taking. I had into? on the bottom. In a way, he is a soccer TS: Who is your favorite designer? ing and sexual abuse), to hosting paired with a white, faux fur poncho play tennis all day with my family. explained to Donna that I was not BY: My kids, of course, wear my fashionista! BY: I would say the designer I events, raising money, and produc- — combos that any little fashion bug TS: What were the strongest ele- very inspired and needed to make a clothes. Celia loves to mix my pieces TS: Does Celia want to follow in always loved the most is Jean Paul ing charity T-shirts for End Child would love. ments at the fashion show, and what change, or travel around the world to in her own way. She is inspired by Au- your footsteps? Gaultier. Karl Lagerfeld is someone I Prostitution and Trafficking, Reach In this interview, Young talks was the inspiration for your new fall get inspired. The latter happened and drey Hepburn, and while I am a bit of BY: She loves fashion; however, respect tremendously. This industry Out To Asia, Nest Foundation, Free about her family, career, and trend- collection? Donna sent me to India, Nepal, Tibet a chic hippy, she is just chic! she has an incredible voice and is is such a young industry, yet Karl is Arts, and Fair Fund, amongst others. setting creations. BY: I would say, for me, [the Fall and China for two months. My daughter is very lucky to have an extremely talented actress. She is quite old, and manages to put on the s s s Tammy Scileppi: Your au courant 2014] season was about outerwear. I returned with more inspiration to an entire studio as her closet — an very clear that she wants to sing and most influential collection and show, Bonnie Young’s fall 2014 line of designs have taken New York City’s The double-breasted coat, for me, do many, many collections — more extremely large closet with new col- act, and have children fairly early in ever. The direction he took for Chanel children’s wear can be found at Bar- kids’ fashion scene by storm. So, was the key silhouette. Coats are than she could have ever imagined! lections to choose from every six life. She is amazing with little kids! is so clever and cutting-edge. neys, New York; boutique stores in- when you’re not working on your col- back. Perhaps because of the arctic And so, for years I was between months. TS: How did you and your husband TS: What’s family time like? cluding Mon Petit in Brooklyn; and lection, or running about town with winter we have been forced to en- Milan, Florence, New York, and some Celia has a big influence on the meet? BY: We rarely get to just hang out. her store in Aspen, Colo. For more, the kids, you probably can’t wait to dure, designers showed a lot of coats exotic location, which became the in- collection, so clothes are constantly BY: We met at my very close friend, We leave the city quite often, but visit bonnieyoung.com.
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30 MANHATTAN Family • June 2014 WOMEN Father’s Day in NYC Know the t’s that time of year again: Fa- ther’s Day! But, not just any- I where: celebrating Father’s Day in New York is a unique opportunity, filled with plenty of opportunities to score spoil all of the FabULyss dads in your life. From the best places to shop for BY FRANCES KWELLER unique, personalized gifts, to where Uncloaking FABULYSS to get the most DeLysscious brunch or many New York City par- FINDS or dinner, the DivaMoms team has specialized ents, finding the right high the best Father’s Day itinerary for F school for your child to at- LYSS STERN your family! To all the real life super- tend can be a daunting and exhaust- heroes, this is your day to be spoiled high-school ing process. There are several spe- — Batman, Spider-Man, and Super- cialized high schools in New York laureate scheduled its entrance exam s !NDERSON -ANHATTAN 4HIS IS man don’t hold a candle to you. City — Stuyvesant, Bronx High for Jan. 27. On Jan. 2 — less than four a new testing opportunity given in What dad doesn’t love a good testing School of Science, Brooklyn Techni- weeks earlier — the school posted the spring. The school sends an e- shave? A beautiful and complete cal School, Queens High School for the time and location of the exam on mail invitation to parents of fifth- shaving kit from everyone’s go-to secrecy the Sciences at York College, Brook- its website (surprise!). Sticking fliers grade students who score in the shave-spot, The Art of Shaving, is lyn Latin School, LaGuardia High on the windows of parked cars would sixth percentile on the English and like the man’s version of being gifted School of Music & Art and Perform- have been more effective in spread- math exams. a spa day! The Perfect Lexington Gift ing Arts, Baccalaureate School for ing the word. Set — complete with a fine brush Global Education, and High School All of the specialized high schools Grade 7 and some DeLysscious lavender — is for Math, Science and Engineering are free, all are excellent, but even s )NDEPENDENT 3CHOOL %NTRANCE the perfect shaving set; and YOU will at City College — whose success can parents of current and former stu- Examination and Scholastic Achieve- love the way he smells post-shave! be measured by where its students dents say that gaining admission is ment Test for private schools and You can also make an appointment go to college: Yale, Columbia, Brown, like joining a secret society. Unfortu- scholarships. This test is in Decem- for your husband, father, son — who- Michigan, Barnard, and Sarah Law- nately, several of these elite schools ber. ever — at one of the city’s great Art rence, to name just a few. do a poor job advertising to their of Shaving locations. The FabULyss Not surprisingly, gaining admis- target clientele: families who can’t af- Grade 8 products are also carried at every which is perfect, especially if you’re ing things that even the pickiest dad sion to Baccalaureate School for ford a private education. The younger s 3PECIALIZED (IGH 3CHOOL !DMIS- girl’s go-to gift spot: Bloomingdales. cruising with little kids who get will enjoy: chocolate, wine, cheese, Global Education and several other siblings of current students, or the sion Test. Test is in late October for Nothing will make the men in your antsy. The cruise includes the most salad, truffles, paninis and more! specialized high schools is serious children of former students, have no all seven city specialized math and life feel more prepared to take on the beautiful scenery from New York One location is nearby Penn Station competition. For Baccalaureate, for trouble getting the date of the next science high schools. fun-filled day that’s all about him like Harbor, a DeLysscious buffet, and if you’re coming into the city for the example, prospective students must big entrance exam. What few parents s 4E S T FOR !DMISSION INTO #ATHOLIC a clean shave. the opportunity to view the Statue day from Long Island, and situated pass a multiple choice, tightly timed, know is that the secret society of New High Schools exam. Test is in Novem- Art of Shaving (373 Madison Ave., of Liberty and the famous New York near the Broadway theaters, the Em- advanced math and English-based York Public Schools opens its doors ber. Free tuition is available if a stu- 520 Madison Ave., 87 E. 42nd St.; www. City skyline! What better way to ei- pire State Building, and more. entrance exam as step one of the as early as fifth grade. To remove the dent scores in the top percentile. theartofshaving.com). ther begin or end the day than on the AZYA Wine & Chocolate Bar [11 W. admissions process, which is held in secrecy, I compiled a list of the city’s Early awareness is a key compo- This year, Bryant Park is offering beautiful water with your family? 31st St. between Fifth Avenue and Broad- January of sixth grade. Students must best public schools along with their nent for parents to learn about the ad- some quality bonding time with dad Skyline Cruises [300 W. 23rd St. at way in the Flatiron District, (212) 714– also present the school with their test dates. Here they are: missions process and testing oppor- the day before Father’s Day at its Eighth Avenue in Chelsea, (212) 757– 2992; 1 Seventh Ave. S at Carmine Street current teacher’s letter of recommen- tunities that are available for the New Fifth Avenue Terrace. Best part? It’s 7567, www.skylinecruises.com]. in the West Village, (212) 365–2992; / dation, and provide both their en- Grade 5 York City specialized high schools. free! Professional instructors from Nothing quite says “I love my dad” www.ayzanyc.com]. tire fifth grade report card and first (all tests given in the fall) But success doesn’t just start with Orvis will instruct you on how to fly than tickets to a baseball game on If you want a more personal and in- quarter of sixth grade report card, s 4 H E .EST 0LUS - "ROOKLYN awareness, alone. Parents need to cast and outfit rig: “fly fishing!” This Father’s Day! The New York Mets timate dining experience for brunch including state test scores. The top s !NDERSON -ANHATTAN be involved in encouraging their chil- is the perfect father-son bonding ac- and San Diego Padres are scheduled or lunch on Father’s Day, organize percent of students are then selected s - A R K 4WAIN "ROOKLYN dren to take on extracurricular activi- tivity to start the day — Hmmm, I to play at 1:10 pm at Citi Field on Fa- a fun multi-generational picnic in for a group interview, generally held ties and expose their children to as may just send the boys with my hus- ther’s Day 2014, so get your tickets Central Park’s Sheep Meadow! We’re in March of that year, hosted by cur- Grade 6 many cultural events as possible, all band while I set up brunch! ASAP if your husband and little ones talking all the fathers in your family rent Baccalaureate admissions offi- s ( U N TE R #OLLEGE (IGH 3CHOOL of which helps them to become as Bryant Park Fly Fishing, northside go crazy for baseball (like mine do)! in one place for all of their favorite cers, teachers and students. (Manhattan). Tests are in January well-rounded as possible. This, cou- of Fifth Avenue Terrace (Fifth Avenue New York Mets game at Citi Field picnic foods; not only will the beauti- In 2014, although more than 1,000 and are invitation-only. You can only pled with a strong educational foun- at 41st Street, /www.nycgovparks.org/ (123-01 Roosevelt Ave in Willets Point) ful setting make for great photos and students applied for admission, and register if you score in the 90th per- dation, can help parents successfully events/2014/05/24/bryant-park-fly-fish- June 15, 1:10 pm. Tickets available at some much-needed sunshine, but it not even 100 were selected. 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June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 31 ADVICE The deal on trusts What is a “trust” and why would I uted to the heirs. A trust can also help spouse. It can be drafted for the need one? minimize disputes among your heirs, donor to pay the annual income tax particularly if you intend to disinherit for the trust without that payment living trust (also called an one of your children. It can also help being considered an additional gift. inter-vivos trust) is funded control your assets seamlessly if you The benefit is that the trust principal A with assets during your life- are incapacitated or when you die. appreciates and grows faster outside time and can be a useful tool to mini- And, in the case of second marriages, the donor’s estate. mize an estate for New York State a trust can insure that you can leave Life Insurance Trust: This is cre- ASK AN estate tax purposes. Living trusts assets for the benefit of your second ated to avoid estate tax on insurance can be revocable or irrevocable. In (or third) spouse during the spouse’s proceeds at the insured’s death. The ATTORNEY truth, even irrevocable trusts are not lifetime, while protecting those assets common misconception is that life ALISON ARDEN BESUNDER, completely irrevocable, but are more and ensuring that they will be left to insurance is “tax free.” Whole life ESQ. inflexible, as they can be amended, your children (and not the spouse’s insurance policies are income tax modified, or revoked with the con- children) when he or she dies. free, but whole and term policies sent of all of the adult beneficiaries. Trusts can be tailored to meet a are not estate tax-free. They are tax- The current federal estate tax ex- client’s specific objectives. Not all able if the insured and decedent has emption is $5.34 million and will an- trusts are the same and there is no an “incident of ownership” in the nually adjust for inflation. The New one-size-fits-all trust. Here is a brief policy. If a trust owns the policy, the York State estate tax exemption was explanation of some types of trusts insured no longer has an incident of recently amended and is now $2.065 that are commonly used: ownership in the policy. Annual pay- million, and will also be annually ad- 2503 (c) Trust: This is a minor’s ments to the trust will qualify for the justed. However, whereas New York trust for the benefit of minor chil- annual exclusion and can be used to once did not have a gift tax, now New dren. The trust by its terms must ter- pay insurance premiums. York State will “add back” gifts made minate when the beneficiary reaches Supplemental Needs Trust: These within three years of death into a de- the age of 18 or 21. This trust is pref- are trusts created for disabled ben- cedent’s gross estate. erable to making gifts to an Uniform eficiaries. Assets transferred to this Aside from taxes, there are other Transfer to Minors Account or an trust is not counted as an asset of incentives to create a trust. Maintain- Uniform Gift to Minors Account ac- the beneficiary and therefore, does ing assets in a trust rather than in count as it can protect assets from not render the beneficiary ineligible your individual name helps to avoid creditors. Furthermore, the invest- for Supplemental Security Income probate, a court process that is re- ment opportunities are unlimited. or Medicaid. When the beneficiary quired in order to transfer assets from Inter-vivos Bypass-Credit Shelter dies, the trust proceeds are payable the name of someone who has died Trust: This is the same type of trust to the donor’s named beneficiaries. into the estate, where it can be distrib- that is included in a last will and Retirement Trusts: These trust testament for a spouse and descen- are drafted to receive required mini- dants, only it is created during the mum distributions and additional donor’s lifetime. If funded now, the principal from retirement funds. transferred amount and all the ap- There are very specific IRS rules for preciation will escape gift and estate naming a trust as a beneficiary of tax. Another added bonus — the qualified funds. If drafted correctly, spouse can be both a beneficiary the trust can preserve the ability to and a co-trustee. stretch out the IRA payments over Health Education Expense Trust: the beneficiary’s life expectancy and A “Heet” is used to pay beneficiaries’ name alternate beneficiaries upon health and education costs. Both the primary beneficiary’s death. contributions to the trust and dis- Alison Arden Besunder is the found- tributions from the trust will be tax- ing attorney of the law firm of Arden free. This is a good option for people Besunder P.C., where she assists new inclined to gift money who have al- and not-so-new parents with their estate ready exhausted their generation- planning needs. Her firm assists clients skipping tax exemption. in Manhattan, Brooklyn, Queens, Nas- Intentionally Defective Grantor sau, and Suffolk Counties. You can find Trust: This trust is created for the Alison Besunder on Twitter @estatetrust- benefit of descendants and others, plan and on her website at www.besun- but may also include the donor’s derlaw.com.
Disclaimer: This column is provided by the Law Offices of Alison Arden Besunder P.C. and New York Parenting Media as a public service to inform readers of legal issues. It is not intended to advise. Since legal issues vary with an individual’s situation and needs, one should consult with an attorney. It is impossible to cover all aspects of the law in an article. Please be advised that the laws are constantly changing. The content in this article reflects the current law. Nothing contained in this article is intended as advice and does not create an attorney-client relationship between the reader and the firm. Individual consultation with an attorney is required to determine the specific facts and circumstances of any particular situ- ation. A written retainer agreement between you and the firm is required before any attorney-client relationship may be created. Circular 230 Disclosure Notice: To ensure compliance with Treasury Department rules governing tax practice, we inform you that any advice contained herein (including in any attachment) (1) was not written and is not intended to be used, and cannot be used, for the purpose of avoiding any federal tax penalty that may be imposed on the taxpayer, and (2) may not be used in connection with promoting, marketing or recommending to another person any transaction or matter addressed herein. 32 MANHATTAN Family • June 2014 ADVICE PARENTINGParenting The deal on trusts Comics vs. classics What is a “trust” and why would I uted to the heirs. A trust can also help spouse. It can be drafted for the need one? minimize disputes among your heirs, donor to pay the annual income tax Story time holds great value regardless of genre particularly if you intend to disinherit for the trust without that payment living trust (also called an one of your children. It can also help being considered an additional gift. y kids love books. They inter-vivos trust) is funded control your assets seamlessly if you The benefit is that the trust principal love everything from clas- A with assets during your life- are incapacitated or when you die. appreciates and grows faster outside M sic hits like “The Cat In time and can be a useful tool to mini- And, in the case of second marriages, the donor’s estate. The Hat” to “Pete the Cat.” Well, at mize an estate for New York State a trust can insure that you can leave Life Insurance Trust: This is cre- least they did. ASK AN estate tax purposes. Living trusts assets for the benefit of your second ated to avoid estate tax on insurance DOWNTOWN Until they discovered “The Super can be revocable or irrevocable. In (or third) spouse during the spouse’s proceeds at the insured’s death. The Friends.” Now during story time, I ATTORNEY truth, even irrevocable trusts are not lifetime, while protecting those assets common misconception is that life MOMMY don’t get very many requests for ALISON ARDEN BESUNDER, completely irrevocable, but are more and ensuring that they will be left to insurance is “tax free.” Whole life NOTOYA GREEN Dr. Seuss anymore. It’s all about ESQ. inflexible, as they can be amended, your children (and not the spouse’s insurance policies are income tax Batman, Superman, and Wonder modified, or revoked with the con- children) when he or she dies. free, but whole and term policies Woman. sent of all of the adult beneficiaries. Trusts can be tailored to meet a are not estate tax-free. They are tax- For a while I didn’t mind the The current federal estate tax ex- client’s specific objectives. Not all able if the insured and decedent has change in genre. After all, it never emption is $5.34 million and will an- trusts are the same and there is no an “incident of ownership” in the hurts to switch things up. But for nually adjust for inflation. The New one-size-fits-all trust. Here is a brief policy. If a trust owns the policy, the the last few months it’s been all they York State estate tax exemption was explanation of some types of trusts insured no longer has an incident of want to hear. Every now and then I recently amended and is now $2.065 that are commonly used: ownership in the policy. Annual pay- try and sneak in some other options million, and will also be annually ad- 2503 (c) Trust: This is a minor’s ments to the trust will qualify for the only to be told “no” by them and justed. However, whereas New York trust for the benefit of minor chil- annual exclusion and can be used to met with yet another request for once did not have a gift tax, now New dren. The trust by its terms must ter- pay insurance premiums. “Superman Saves Smallville” — not York State will “add back” gifts made minate when the beneficiary reaches Supplemental Needs Trust: These exactly considered a literary classic within three years of death into a de- the age of 18 or 21. This trust is pref- are trusts created for disabled ben- in most circles. cedent’s gross estate. erable to making gifts to an Uniform eficiaries. Assets transferred to this So, I started to worry a bit that Aside from taxes, there are other Transfer to Minors Account or an trust is not counted as an asset of perhaps our story time was going incentives to create a trust. Maintain- Uniform Gift to Minors Account ac- the beneficiary and therefore, does from fun and educational to just ing assets in a trust rather than in count as it can protect assets from not render the beneficiary ineligible plain-old fun. Reading “Superman your individual name helps to avoid creditors. Furthermore, the invest- for Supplemental Security Income Saves Smallville” is still considered probate, a court process that is re- ment opportunities are unlimited. or Medicaid. When the beneficiary “reading,” but it just seemed wrong quired in order to transfer assets from Inter-vivos Bypass-Credit Shelter dies, the trust proceeds are payable somehow to choose stories about the name of someone who has died Trust: This is the same type of trust to the donor’s named beneficiaries. comic book superheroes over clas- into the estate, where it can be distrib- that is included in a last will and Retirement Trusts: These trust sic children’s books. testament for a spouse and descen- are drafted to receive required mini- Then I came across two great ar- dants, only it is created during the mum distributions and additional ticles that changed my perspective donor’s lifetime. If funded now, the principal from retirement funds. on everything. transferred amount and all the ap- There are very specific IRS rules for The first was a New York Times preciation will escape gift and estate naming a trust as a beneficiary of article entitled “Read, Kids, Read” tax. Another added bonus — the qualified funds. If drafted correctly, by Frank Bruni. In the article, the spouse can be both a beneficiary the trust can preserve the ability to writer talked about the importance and a co-trustee. stretch out the IRA payments over of reading and how it positively Health Education Expense Trust: the beneficiary’s life expectancy and impacts the brain. No big surprises A “Heet” is used to pay beneficiaries’ name alternate beneficiaries upon there. Right? I know, but in the ar- straight-A student, and do you know them make up their own stories health and education costs. Both the primary beneficiary’s death. ticle he also mentioned something what books he loved to read? Well, (the latest being what happened to contributions to the trust and dis- Alison Arden Besunder is the found- else — that research now shows that it wasn’t John Steinbeck’s “Of Mice them when they were babies on the tributions from the trust will be tax- ing attorney of the law firm of Arden American kids are reading less. and Men.” He loved to read “The planet Krypton). free. This is a good option for people Besunder P.C., where she assists new The second article was by Dan Amazing Spider-Man.” So, yes, story time for them is fun, inclined to gift money who have al- and not-so-new parents with their estate Hurley from the U.K.’s The Guard- Now, reading that made me very and that is precisely what makes ready exhausted their generation- planning needs. Her firm assists clients ian entitled, “Can reading make you happy. You see, it really doesn’t it educational. I see that now and skipping tax exemption. in Manhattan, Brooklyn, Queens, Nas- smarter?” In it, the writer provided matter if my kids prefer stories of I hope for them their love of story Intentionally Defective Grantor sau, and Suffolk Counties. You can find research showing that reading can the Caped Crusader to that award- time will never end and they too will Trust: This trust is created for the Alison Besunder on Twitter @estatetrust- actually make you smarter and winning “Pete the Cat.” What mat- find themselves reading all the time benefit of descendants and others, plan and on her website at www.besun- claims that it made him smarter, ters most is that they are happy as children and as adults. but may also include the donor’s derlaw.com. too. He said that when he was 8 when I read to them. And when I Notoya Green is a parenting expert he couldn’t read and was labeled a and former family law attorney. You Disclaimer: This column is provided by the Law Offices of Alison Arden Besunder P.C. and New York Parenting Media as a public service to inform readers of legal issues. It is not intended to advise. Since legal issues vary with an individual’s read the stories they love most, situation and needs, one should consult with an attorney. It is impossible to cover all aspects of the law in an article. Please be advised that the laws are constantly changing. The content in this article reflects the current law. Nothing contained “slow learner” by teachers. Then, their eyes light up. They ask me can read her blog at www.tripletsin- in this article is intended as advice and does not create an attorney-client relationship between the reader and the firm. Individual consultation with an attorney is required to determine the specific facts and circumstances of any particular situ- he discovered a genre of books that questions about what the characters tribeca.com. You can also follow her on ation. A written retainer agreement between you and the firm is required before any attorney-client relationship may be created. Circular 230 Disclosure Notice: To ensure compliance with Treasury Department rules governing tax practice, we inform you that any advice contained herein (including in any attachment) (1) was not written and is not intended to be used, and cannot be used, for the purpose of avoiding any federal tax penalty that may be imposed on the taxpayer, and caused him to read — all the time. are doing and why they’re doing it. Facebook at www.facebook.com/trip- (2) may not be used in connection with promoting, marketing or recommending to another person any transaction or matter addressed herein. By the following year, he became a The superhero stories even inspires letsintribeca and on Twitter @NotoyaG. June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 33 CalendarJune Photo by Lois Greenfield
Ballet Tech Foundation pres- designed to showcase the in- Young dancers ents Kids Dance for five perfor- nate talent of the Ballet Tech mances at The Joyce Theater students. from June 12 to 15. June 12–15, Thursday at 8 pm, take flight Forty talented dancers, rang- Friday at 7 pm, Saturday at 2 and ing in age from 9 to 14, will 7 pm, and Sunday at 2 pm. Tick- dance three works of Elliot Feld, ets are $10–$39. an amazing choreographer and The Joyce Theater [175 Eighth dancer who started at the age of Ave. between W. 18th and W. 19th 11 himself. “KYDZNY,” “A Stair streets in Chelsea, (212) 242–0800, Dance,” and “Apple Pie” are all www.joyce.org].
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Sat, May 31 In Manhattan A Children’s Festival of Flow- ers: Jefferson Market Garden, Green- wich Ave., Sixth Avenue & W. 10th Street; jeffersonmarketgarden.org/ Images/flowerfest_flyer_color.jpg; 11 am–2 pm; Free. This event for children of all ages features free educational and craft ac- tivities, music, and entertainment fea- Photo by Gisel Florez turing Dave The Worm Guy. “Eeek! A Mousical”: Stage 72, 158 W. 72nd St., between Co- All in the family ... band lumbus and Amsterdam avenues; www.brownpapertickets.com/ Grammy-nominated Elizabeth Mitchell will be performing with free. event/596463; 11 am; $15-$49.50. Mitchell and her family band You her daughter Storey, and audience David Rubenstein Atrium at Lin- This musical fable is brought up to Are My Flower are taking the stage participation is encouraged, too. coln Center [Broadway between 62nd date in a fun and lively show for all ages. for an all-ages show at the David With admission being free, seating and 63rd streets on the Upper West Rubenstein Atrium at Lincoln Cen- is limited and available on a first- Side, (212) 875–5000 http://atrium. Mural Mural on the Wall Work- ter on June 7, as part of Meet the come, first-served basis. lincolncenter.org/index.php/2014- shop: Museum of the City of New Artist series. June 7, at 11 am. Admission is elizabeth-mitchell]. York, 1220 Fifth Ave., between E. 103rd and E. 104th streets; www. mcny.org/content/museum-explora- tion-stations; 11 am–2 pm; Free with Further Afield vance), $55 (day of). Open Air Street Fair: Housing Works Book Store & Cafe, 126 Crosby museum admission. Meet the authors: New York Players ages 4 and up to adult will St., between Prince and East Hous- Families will be inspired by the styles, Transit Museum, Boerum Place at participate in four rounds of the tour- ton streets; www.housingworks.org/ colors, and inspirations used by graffiti Schermerhorn Street, Brooklyn; (718) nament, with trophies, medals and events/open-air-street-fair; 10 am–5 artists in New York City in the Muse- 694–1600; www.mta.info/mta/mu- cash prizes will be awarded to winners. pm; Free. um’s exhibition City as Canvas: Graffiti seum; 1:30 pm; Free with museum First Annual Indoor Triathlon: This 10th annual block party will Art from the Martin Wong Collection, admission. Asser Levy Recreation Center, 392 As- feature books and CDs for only $1, then create a large-scale mural. Poets Paul Dubois Jacobs and Jen- ser Levy Pl., at E. 23rd Street; Trevor. shopping, live music, and good food. Puppets with Cameron: Epiphany nifer Swender, share their prose with [email protected]; www.nycgov- Library, 228 E. 23rd St., between children 3 years and older. parks.org/events/2014/06/01/asser- The Epiphany School Spring Second and Third avenues; (212) Family walk: Brooklyn Botanic levys-first-annual-indoor-triathlon; 10 Carnival: The Epiphany School, 234 679–2645; www.nypl.org/events/pro- Garden, 1000 Washington Ave., at am; Free. E. 22nd St., between Second and grams/2014/05/03/puppets-cameron; Eastern Parkway, Brooklyn; (718) 623– Participants of all ages are invited to Third avenues; www.theepiphany- 11 am; Free. 7220; www.bbg.org; 3–4 pm; Free swim, bike and run in this first annual school.org/index.html; 11 am; Free. Children ages 2–5 will enjoy puppet with admission to the gardens. indoor triathlon. Children of all ages will enjoy this classic carnival, with games, rides, and shows of their favorite stories. Celebrate 100 years of the children’s The Ultimate Science Street even a silly string squirting area. Saltbush: The New Victory Theater, garden with an interactive walk and Fair: Washington Square Park, Wash- 209 W. 42nd St. between Seventh hands-on activities. ington Square S., between Macdou- Twelfth Annual Drums Along and Eighth avenues; (646) 223–3010; gal Street and Waverly Place; www. The Hudson: Inwood Hill Park, W. www.newvictory.org/Show-Detail. Sun, June 1 worldsciencefestival.com/tag/2014- 218th Street and Indian Road; www. aspx?ProductionId=5292; Noon and world-science-festival-youth-family- drumsalongthehudson.org/index. 5pm; $25. In Manhattan programs; 10 am–6 pm; Free. shtml; 11 am–6 pm; Free. Children ages 5 and up will discover Chess Tournament: Bryant Park, Aspiring scientists of all ages can Families will enjoy activities like Na- the language, lore and music of an in- 42nd Street and Avenue of the Ameri- find entertainment both inside the tive American crafts, storytelling, and digenous culture in the latest at the cas; (212) 768–4242; www.bryant- buildings and outside at performances international cuisine, plus the only New Vic Theater. park.org; 9 am–4:30 pm; $45 (in ad- and demonstrations. Continued on page 36 June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 35 Calendar Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar
Continued from page 35 ters: Columbus Library, 742 10th open air pow wow in Manhattan. Ave., at W. 51st Street; (212) 586– 5098; www.nypl.org/events/pro- 21st Annual Spring Crafts Fes- grams/2014/06/03/bristly-bots-crawly- tival: Lincoln Towers, Broadway from critters; 3:30 pm; Free. W. 65th to W. 72nd streets; projec- Children in grades first to fifth will topenlincolntowers.org/activities.html; perform experiments with bugs and 11 am–6pm; Free. crayfish, and compare them to robots Festival goers can expect to find arti- that they will build. sans, food, street performers and more at this annual event. Art Explorers: 67th Street Library, 328 E. 67th St., between First and Sec- Macy’s Sunday Story Time: ond avenues; (212) 734–1717; www. New-York Historical Society DiMenna nypl.org/events/programs/2014/06/03/ Children’s History Museum, 170 Cen- art-explorers-0; 4 pm; Free. tral Park West at 77th Street; (212) Children ages 3-6 will enjoy stories 873–3400; nyhistory.org; 11:30 am; and a craft that involves the senses and Free with museum admission. art education concepts in a fun setting. From the 17th century to the 21st, through fiction and through fact, hear tales of New York City and the people Wed, June 4 who made it great. In Manhattan “Little Red’s Hood”: St. Cath- Children Sing and Celebrate erine’s Park, First Avenue and E. Around the World: Seward Park 67th St.; nfo@cityparksfounda- Library, 192 E Broadway, between tion.org; www.nycgovparks.org/ Clinton and Essex streets; (212) events/2014/06/01/cityparks-pup- 477–6770; www.nypl.org/events/pro- petmobile-presents-little-reds-hood; grams/2014/06/04/children-sing-and- Noon & 2 pm; Free. Circus on the river celebrate-around-world; 1 pm; Free. CityParks PuppetMobile is partner- Children will learn about the great ing with the Swedish Cottage Mari- The Showboat Circus returns can enjoy many free activities variety of ways that people sing and onette Theatre to present this retell- to Tribeca with “DeadPan Alley,” happening on Pier 25. celebrate around the world to kick off ing of the classic tale with hand-made featuring Will Shaw, on Sunday, June 22 at 1 and 4 pm. Tickets the summer. marionettes and modern twists. June 22. are $13 for adults and $10 for Radical Robots Stations: Seward Saltbush: Noon & 5pm. The New This one-of-a-kind, one-man children if purchased in advance. Park Library, 192 E Broadway, be- Victory Theater. See Saturday, May 31. show will feature juggling, boo- Tickets at the door are $15 for tween Clinton and Essex streets; (212) 477–6770; www.nypl.org/events/ World Science Festival Presents merangs, hat tricks, physical adults and $12 for children. comedy, and of course, audience Hudson River Park Pier 25, [225 programs/2014/06/04/radical-robots- Cool Jobs: NYU Skirball Center, 566 stations; 3:30 pm; Free. LaGuardia Pl. between West Third participation. An hour long and West St. at N. Moore Street in Tribeca, Children will learn about and play Street and Washington Square South; perfect for all ages, even adults (718) 624–4719, www.waterfrontmu- with robots while we discuss what (212) 998–4941; www.worldsciencef- will be left wondering, “How’d he seum.org/events/performances/ makes robots different from humans estival.com/programs/cool_jobs; 1 pm; do that?” After the show, families showboat-circus-2014]. by conducting experiments. $30 (adults,) $15 (children). The World Science Festival has as- The Industrious Mr. Franklin: St. Agnes Library, 444 Amsterdam Ave., sembled an interesting group of scien- in case of inclement weather. through drills and games to learn the between W. 81st and W. 82nd streets; tists with the most unique jobs to tell basics of the sport. Children 7-8 years (212) 621–0619; www.nypl.org/ you first hand about their explorations old from 3 to 4 pm. Children 9-10 and much more. Mon, June 2 events/programs/2014/06/04/industri- years old from 4 to 5 pm. ous-mr-franklin; 4 pm; Free. In Manhattan Reading into History: New-York Animal Odyssey: Jefferson Market Children will meet the inventor, au- Historical Society DiMenna Children’s Scavenger Hunt: George Bruce Li- Library, 425 Avenue of the Ameri- thor, scientist, and founding father: History Museum, 170 Central Park brary, 518 W. 125th St., between Am- cas, at W. 10th Street; (212) 243– Mr. Benjamin Franklin in this new play. West at 77th Street; (212) 873–3400; sterdam Avenue and Broadway; (212) 4334; www.nypl.org/events/pro- Buzzy Bots and Crawly Critters: nyhistory.org; 3 pm; Free with mu- 662–9727; www.nypl.org/events/pro- grams/2014/06/03/animal-odyssey; Mulberry Street Library, 10 Jersey St., seum admission. grams/2014/06/02/scavenger-hunt- 3:30 pm; Free. Book club families and author Kris- between Prince and E. Houston streets; animal-dads; 4 pm; Free. Participants will enjoy visits from 1-2 (212) 966–3424; www.nypl.org/events/ tin Levine will discuss “The Lions of A hunting game using the Intenet/li- live animal ambassadors, plus experi- Little Rock” and the history of segre- programs/2014/06/04/buzzy-bots-and- brary resources to find answers to a list ments and investigations using real an- crawly-critters-0; 4 pm; Free. gation in American schools. Best for imal artifacts to discover more about a of questions/clues about “how animal Children will create their own robots ages 9-12. variety of amazing creatures. For ages fathers help raise their young.” and conduct experiments with excit- 7 and up. Further Afield ing, living creatures. Buzzy Bots & Crawly Crit- Garden tour: Brooklyn Botanic Tues, June 3 Biology Workshop: Battery Park ters: Countee Cullen Library, 104 Garden, 1000 Washington Ave., at Public Library, 175 North End Ave.; In Manhattan W. 136th St., at Lenox Avenue; (212) Eastern Parkway, Brooklyn; (718) (212) 790–3499; www.nypl.org/ 491–2070; www.nypl.org/events/pro- 623–7220; www.bbg.org; 2–3 pm Children’s Tennis Clinics: Wash- events/programs/2014/06/04/gross- grams/2014/06/03/buzzy-bots-crawly- and 3:30–4:30 pm; $12 ($15 non- ington Market Park, Chambers Street biology; 4 pm; Free. critters; 3:30 pm; Free. members). and Greenwich Street; www.washing- Children ages 5 and up discover Elementary school participants will Family-friendly peek inside the gar- tonmarketpark.org/events/childrens- what’s inside of them, how their body enjoy a free hands-on, science-based dens. Learn about garden plots and tennis-clinics; 3 & 4 pm; Free. works hard to keep them healthy and workshop series. make a tasty treat. Pre-registration re- Children will be grouped by age to why it is important for each one of us quired and available online. Cancelled receive instruction from the tennis pros Bristly Bots & Crawly Crit- to make healthy choices. 36 MANHATTAN Family • June 2014 Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar Calendar Teen Beach Volleyball: Hudson Visitors from near and far will come Beach in Riverside Park, W. 103rd St. to celebrate America’s authentic cu- and Riverside Drive; www.nycgov- linary and musical traditions, with a parks.org/events/2014/06/11/teen- special appearance by Celebrity Chef beach-volleyball; 5–7 pm; Free. Lorena Garcia. This sports program lets teens learn Puppets with Cameron: 11 am. the basics of volleyball while making Epiphany Library. See Saturday, May new friends. 31. Saltbush: Noon & 5 pm. The New Thurs, June 5 Victory Theater. See Saturday, May 31. In Manhattan Jeffrey’s Hook Lighthouse Locomotive Lawn Live: Riverside Open House: Little Red Light- Park South, Riverside Drive between house in Fort Washington Park, W. W. 65th and W. 72nd streets; www. 181st St. and Plaza Lafayette; (212) nycgovparks.org/events/2014/06/05/ 304–2365; www.nycgovparks.org/ summer-on-the-hudson-locomotive- events/2014/06/07/jeffreys-hook-light- lawn-live; 10:30 am; Free. house-open-house; 1–4 pm; Free. This music class encourages children Urban Park Rangers will open the to dance, play, and sing along with a doors and allow visitors to enjoy the live rock band. views and sights on this self-guided The Industrious Mr. Frank- tour. lin: Chatham Square Library, 33 E. Natural History of Owls: Inwood Broadway, off of Market Street; (212) Park’s biggest show Library, 4790 Broadway, near Dyck- 964–6598; www.nypl.org/events/pro- man Street; (212) 942–2445; www. grams/2014/06/05/summer-reading- The largest free festival cel- comedy and theater — there’s nypl.org/events/programs/2014/06/07/ kickoff-industrious-mr-franklin; 3 pm; ebrating the performing arts something to please everyone in clone-birds-prey; 2:30 pm; Free. Free. of the city is back! City Park’s your family. You and your fam- Families will learn about these fas- Children will meet the inventor, au- cinating birds by meeting live owls Foundation SummerStage 2014 ily will be having a great time all thor, scientist, and founding father: and investigating owl artifacts such as Mr. Benjamin Franklin in this new play. will feature a variety of perfor- summer! feathers and pellets. mances at Rumsey Playfield in June 3 to Aug. 24, various Mighty Action Racket Theater Further Afield Workshop: Kips Bay Public Library, Central Park. times. Admission is free. 446 Third Ave., at E. 31st Street; (212) With food and drink options Rumsey Playfield [69th Street and Sproutfest: Brooklyn Botanic 683–2520; www.nypl.org/events/ from Brooklyn Flea, and your Fifth Avenue in Central Park on the Garden, 1000 Washington Ave., at programs/2014/06/14/mighty-action- choice of local music artists — Upper East Side, (212) 360–2789 Eastern Parkway, Brooklyn; (718) 623– 7220; www.bbg.org; Noon–4 pm; racket-theater-workshop; 3 pm; Free. ranging from American pop, http://cityparksfoundation.org/sum- $10 ($5 seniors and students; free for Young actors between the ages of Latin and World music to dance, merstage/]. members and children under 12). 5-12 are guided on a unique theatrical path, based on their own questions, Children enjoy 100 years of the thoughts, and imaginations. garden with music, storytelling, face- soda truck. Reserve tickets in advance. painting, workshops and games for all Cross-Stitch Circle: New-York His- Sat, June 7 ages. Entertainment by the Ebony Hill- torical Society DiMenna Children’s His- In Manhattan billies and Shine and the Moonbeams. tory Museum, 170 Central Park West Fri, June 6 I am an Artist Workshop: George at 77th Street; (212) 873–3400; nyhis- Mils Trills: Brooklyn Children’s Mu- Bruce Library, 518 W. 125th St., be- tory.org; 3:30 pm; Free with museum In Manhattan seum, 145 Brooklyn Ave. at St. Marks tween Amsterdam Avenue and Broad- admission. Avenue, Brooklyn; (718) 735–4400; Art Adventures: 96th Street Li- way; (212) 662–9727; www.nypl.org/ www.brooklynkids.org; 4 pm; Free Beginning cross stitchers ages 6 and brary, 112 E. 96th St., at Park Avenue; events/programs/2014/06/07/i-am- with museum admission. up will learn the basic stitch and create (212) 289–0908; www.nypl.org/ artist; 10:30 am–1 pm; Free. a bookmark with their new skill. Amelia Robinson plays her electric events/programs/2014/06/06/art-ad- Children ages 7-12 will explore art uke with surprise musical guests — Summer Reading Party: Battery ventures-plastic-texture; 11 am; Free. through a brief art history lesson be- join in for interactive songs that fea- Park Public Library, 175 North End fore each art-making process. ture urban funk, honky-tonk, and ca- Ave.; (212) 790–3499; www.nypl.org/ This early childhood program ex- Frederick lypso beats. events/programs/2014/06/05/sum- plores formal art themes through story “Little Red’s Hood”: Douglas Circle, W. 110th St. and Cen- mer-reading-celebration-birds-prey; 4 time, body movement, and art projects. pm; Free. tral Park West; www.nycgovparks.org/ Sun, June 8 Buzzy Bots & Crawly Critters: events/2014/06/07/cityparks-puppet- Start your summer reading log, and mobile-presents-little-reds-hood; 11 In Manhattan enjoy a special performance from the Stephen A. Schwarzman Build- am; Free. LES Kids Rock: The Manny Cantor New Canaan Nature Center. ing, Fifth Avenue at 42nd St.; (917) CityParks PuppetMobile is partner- Center, 197 E. Broadway, at Jefferson 275–6975; www.nypl.org/events/ Further Afield ing with the Swedish Cottage Mari- Street; www.MannyCantor.org; 11 programs/2014/06/06/buzzy-bots- am; $10 per family. Antique Car Collection: Brook- onette Theatre to present this retell- crawly-critters-pillbug-investigation; lyn Historical Society, 128 Pierrepont ing of the classic tale with hand-made Shine and the Moonbeans are ready St. at Clinton Street, Brooklyn; (718) 4:30 pm; Free. marionettes and modern twists. to party with families celebrating the community. 222–4111; www.brooklynhistory.org; Students ages 6-12 will create their Big Apple Barbeque Block 6:30 pm; $15 ($10 members). own robots and conduct experiments Party: Madison Square Park, Madi- Almost Summer Celebration: Explore Lenny Shiller’s collection of with exciting living creatures. son Ave., between E. 23rd and E. 26th Robert F. Wagner, Jr. Park, 20 Battery antique autos, including a 1929 Durant streets; www.bigapplebbq.org/barbe- Pl., between West Street and First Place; rumble seat coupe, a 1953 Packard Saltbush: 7 pm. The New Victory cue.php; 11 am–6 pm; Free admission, www.mjhnyc.org; 11 am–2 pm; Free. convertible and a 1947 international Theater. See Saturday, May 31. food available for purchase. Continued on page 38 June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 37 Calendar Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar
Continued from page 37 The day will include a family con- cert featuring Brady Rymer and the Little Band That Could, interactive per- Rhyming and miming formances by Native American hoop dancer Marie McKinney-Poncé, plus This unique event on June 8 at families are invited to participate in lawn games, arts and nature activities. Pono is one that combines poetry, an art workshop with Poppy Luca, Big Apple Barbeque Block miming, and art! where you can use your imagina- Party: 11 am–6 pm. Madison Square Everyone’s favorite nanny, Mary tion to create a masterpiece to take Park. See Saturday, June 7. Poppins (sorry, not the actual Julie home. Andrews), will be on hand to read June 8 from 3 to 5 pm. Admission Macy’s Sunday Story Time: 11:30 am. New-York Historical Society her favorite poems to children be- is $15. Workshop fee is $5 per per- DiMenna Children’s History Museum. tween the ages of 3 and 8. son. Children under 2 are free. See Sunday, June 1. Plus, Haruka Moriyama, one of Pono [2002 Fifth Ave. at W. 124th the world’s best mimes, will mime Street in Harlem, (646) 490–8517, Drawing at Dyckman Farm- house: Dyckman Farmhouse Mu- the illustrations, too! Afterward, www.ponolearning.org] seum, 4881 Broadway, at W. 204th Street; (212) 304–9422; www.nycgov- parks.org/events/2014/06/08/history- between E. 23rd and E. 26th streets; Square Park, Madison Ave., between Noon; Free. play-date-drawing-at-dyckman-farm- (212) 538–1884; www.nycgovparks. E. 23rd and E. 26th streets; (212) Erin Lee and the Up Past Bedtime house; Noon–2 pm; Free. org/events/2014/06/10/mad-sq-kids- 538–1884; www.nycgovparks.org/ Band will perform songs all children Children ages 5 and up can draw father-goose; 10:30 am; Free. events/2014/06/12/mad-sq-kids-josh- can relate to, like losing a lunchbox or their own interpretations of the classic The kickoff performance for the the-jamtones; 10:30 am; Free. having a loose tooth. 2014 Madison Square Kids concert se- Get ready for an all ages dance farmhouse. Summer on the Hudson Play ries, this show will feature new and party with Josh & the Jamtones, as Dates: West Harlem Pier Park, Saltbush: Noon & 5 pm. The New classic songs by Father Goose of the part of the Madison Square Kids con- W. 125th St. and Henry Hudson Victory Theater. See Saturday, May 31. Dan Zanes and Friends band. cert series. Pkwy.; www.nycgovparks.org/ Lost Arts Series Presents Quilt- Children’s Tennis Clinics: 3 & Locomotive Lawn Live: 10:30 am. events/2014/06/14/summer-on-the- ing: New-York Historical Society 4 pm. Washington Market Park. See Riverside Park South. See Thursday, hudson-play-dates; 1–4 pm; Free. DiMenna Children’s History Museum, Tuesday, June 3. June 5. These monthly family play dates will 170 Central Park West at 77th Street; feature children’s entertainment, arts (212) 873–3400; nyhistory.org; 2 pm; Animal Odyssey: 3:30 pm. Jef- Cross-Stitch Circle: 3:30 pm. New- and crafts, and new friends. $15, $12 (members). ferson Market Library. See Tuesday, York Historical Society DiMenna Chil- Visitors will explore the quilts in the June 3. dren’s History Museum. See Thursday, The World of Nocturnal Ani- June 5. exhibition “Homefront and Battlefield: Buzzy Bots & Crawly Critters: mals: 67th Street Library, 328 E. 67th Quilts & Context in the Civil War” then 3:30 pm. Countee Cullen Library. See Rhythm and Sound: Webster St., between First and Second ave- create their own quilt pattern. Tuesday, June 3. Library, 1465 York Ave., at E. 78th nues; (212) 734–1717; www.nypl.org/ Street; (212) 288–5049; www.nypl. events/programs/2014/06/14/world-
Bristly Bots & Crawly Critters: org/events/programs/2014/06/12/ nocturnal-animals; 3 pm; Free. Mon, June 9 3:30 pm. Columbus Library. See Tues- rhythm-and-sound; 4 pm; Free. Children ages 4 and up will learn day, June 3. In Manhattan Children ages 4 and up will use per- about the world of nocturnal ani- Butterfly Boogie: Webster Library, Art Explorers: 4 pm. 67th Street cussion instruments from all over the mals as presented by the New Canaan 1465 York Ave., at E. 78th Street; Library. See Tuesday, June 3. world to tell stories, create moods, and Nature Center as they bring these (212) 288–5049; www.nypl.org/ enhance movement. live animals and their sounds to this events/programs/2014/06/09/butter- workshop. Story Time with LuAnn Adams: fly-boogie; 4 pm; Free. Wed, June 11 125th Street Library, 224 E. 125th St., Family Camping: Central Park, Children ages 5 and up will see a In Manhattan between Second and Third avenues; Near 79th Street Transverse; www. giant cockroach puppet explain why Abracadabra: Hamilton Grange Li- (212) 534–5050; www.nypl.org/ nycgovparks.org/events/2014/06/14/ insects are important, then enjoy an brary, 503 W. 145th St., between Am- events/programs/2014/06/17/how- family-camping; 6 pm; Free. interactive musical performance which sterdam Avenue & Broadway; (212) parrot-got-beautiful-colors-and-other- Camp out with your family in Cen- demonstrates the interdependence 926–2147; www.nypl.org/events/ tales-celebrate-earth; 4 pm; Free. tral park! Tents are provided, par- among plants and animals. programs/2014/06/11/abracadabra; 4 Children ages 4 and older will enjoy ticipating families will be chosen by Earthquakes and Volcanoes pm; Free. hearing the tale of How the Parrot Got lottery. Workshop: Countee Cullen Library, Children will be wowed and amazed Beautiful Colors and Other Tales to Further Afield 104 W. 136th St., at Lenox Avenue; at the sleight of hand tricks and the Celebrate Earth. (212) 491–2070; www.nypl.org/ comedic talents of children’s magician Birthday Bash: New York Tran- events/programs/2014/06/09/space- Evan Paquette, then test their own sit Museum, Boerum Place and oddities-earthquakes-and-volcanoes; magic making abilities. Sat, June 14 Schermerhorn St., Brooklyn; (718) 4 pm; Free. In Manhattan 694–4952; 51281.blackbaudhosting. Biology Workshop: 4 pm. Battery com/51281/subway-birthday-bash; 9 Children ages 6-12 will get an intro- I am an Artist Workshop: 10:30 Park Public Library. See Wednesday, am to 11 am; $55 ($30 children; Free duction to geology, how mountains am–1 pm. George Bruce Library. See June 4. for children under 2). are made, how earthquakes are mea- Saturday, June 7. sured and how volcanoes change the Teen Beach Volleyball: 5–7 pm. The New York City subway system face of the Earth. Hudson Beach in Riverside Park. See Puppets with Cameron: 11 am. is celebrating 110 years of service. Ride Wednesday, June 4. Epiphany Library. See Saturday, May historic trains, costumed interpreters, 31. Tues, June 10 craft project and live entertainment. Thurs, June 12 Erin Lee and the Up Past Bed- Block Party: Brooklyn Children’s In Manhattan time Band: Bryant Park, 42nd Street Museum, 145 Brooklyn Ave. at St. Father Goose Dance Party: In Manhattan and Avenue of the Americas; (212) Marks Avenue, Brooklyn; (718) 735– Madison Square Park, Madison Ave., Josh & the Jamtones: Madison 768–4242; www.bryantpark.org; 4400; www.brooklynkids.org; 11:30 38 MANHATTAN Family • June 2014 Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar Calendar am; Free with museum admission. Wed, June 18 Children enjoy erecting new build- ings with an assortment of blocks. In Manhattan Craft workshop: Brooklyn Botanic Big Jeff Music Show: Mulberry Garden, 1000 Washington Ave., at Street Library, 10 Jersey St., between Eastern Parkway, Brooklyn; (718) Prince and E. Houston streets; (212) 623–7220; www.bbg.org; 1–4 pm; 966–3424; www.nypl.org/events/pro- $31 ($28 members) includes $8 mate- grams/2014/06/18/big-jeff-music; 4 rials fee). pm; Free. Make your own journal using na- Award-winning singer/songwriter ture’s materials; then explore the gar- “Big Jeff” DeSmedt presents a show dens and collect specimens for your for children of all ages. book. Pre-registration required. Biology Workshop: 4 pm. Battery Father’s Day: Brooklyn Children’s Park Public Library. See Wednesday, Museum, 145 Brooklyn Ave. at St. June 4. Marks Avenue, Brooklyn; (718) 735– Teen Beach Volleyball: 5–7 pm. 4400; www.brooklynkids.org; 2:30 Hudson Beach in Riverside Park. See pm; Free with museum admission. Wednesday, June 4. Celebrate the daddy in your life, lis- ten to jazz music and make a great gift to dear old dad. For children under 5 Thurs, June 19 years old. In Manhattan Rabbit Days and Dumplings: Sun, June 15 Madison Square Park, Madison Ave., In Manhattan between E. 23rd and E. 26th streets; (212) 538–1884; www.nycgovparks. Macy’s Sunday Story Time: org/events/2014/06/19/mad-sq-kids- 11:30 am. New-York Historical Society rabbit-days-and-dumplings; 10:30 am; DiMenna Children’s History Museum. Free. See Sunday, June 1. This Madison Square Kids concert Further Afield will feature children’s folk songs from all over East Asia. Block Party: 11:30 am. Brooklyn Children’s Museum. See Saturday, Locomotive Lawn Live: 10:30 am. June 14. Riverside Park South. See Thursday, June 5. Father’s Day: 2:30 pm. Brooklyn Children’s Museum. See Saturday, “Little Red’s Hood”: Union June 14. Square Park, Broadway and E. 14th Street; www.nycgovparks.org/ events/2014/06/19/cityparks-puppet-
Tues, June 17 Paramount Pictures mobile-presents-little-reds-hood; 11 In Manhattan am; Free. CityParks PuppetMobile is partner- Happy Birthday Gertrude Ed- Celebrate Spielberg ing with the Swedish Cottage Mari- erle Recreation Center: Gertrude onette Theatre to present this retell- Ederle Recreation Center, 232 W. Love Steven Spielberg? You’re are required, and are given on a ing of the classic tale with hand-made 60th St., between 10th and West marionettes and modern twists. End avenues; (212) 397–3159; www. in luck! Eight of his classic films first come, first served basis. nycgovparks.org/events/2014/06/17/ will be screened this summer at Wednesdays, June 25 to Aug. 13 Meet Gustafar Yellowgold: Kips open-house-oneyear-anniversary-of- The Jewish Museum as part of its at 6:30 pm. Tickets are free with Bay Public Library, 446 Third Ave., at gertrude-ederle-recreation-center; Close Encounters of the Spielberg museum suggested admission. E. 31st Street; (212) 683–2520; www. 6:30 am–9:30 pm; Free. Kind series. The Museum of Jewish Heritage nypl.org/events/programs/2014/06/19/ Celebrate the one year anniversary Every Wednesday, audiences (36 Battery Pl. at First Place in Bat- meet-gustafar-yellowgold; 3 pm; Free. of the rec center by swimming, exercis- will enjoy another free screening, tery Park City, www.mjhnyc.org/ Children of all ages will meet ing, or playing sports at the facility. Gustafer Yellowgold, the friendly crea- along with raffle prizes. Tickets spielberg/). ture who comes to Earth from the sun, Audra Rox: Madison Square Park, in this multimedia program by Morgan Madison Ave., between E. 23rd and E. Taylor. 26th streets; (212) 538–1884; www. ferson Market Library. See Tuesday, 228–4747; www.nypl.org/events/pro- nycgovparks.org/events/2014/06/17/ Cross-Stitch Circle: 3:30 pm. New- mad-sq-kids-audra-rox; 10:30 am; June 3. grams/2014/06/17/kids-project-come- York Historical Society DiMenna Chil- Free. Buzzy Bots & Crawly Critters: you-are-puppet-show; 4 pm; Free. dren’s History Museum. See Thursday, Audra Rox has performed at the June 5. 3:30 pm. Countee Cullen Library. See A program of disability awareness Madison Square Kids concert series Tuesday, June 3. Bristly Bots & Crawly Critters: for children ages 5 to 12, featuring ac- since its inception, and will bring her 3:30 pm. Columbus Library. See Tues- rocking kiddie music back for another Bristly Bots & Crawly Critters: tivities, a puppet friend who is blind, day, June 3. round this year. 3:30 pm. Columbus Library. See Tues- stories, sign languages, adaptive equip- Going on a Mystery Hunt: Har- Children’s Tennis Clinics: 3 & day, June 3. ment and song. lem Library, 9 W. 124th St., between 4 pm. Washington Market Park. See Come as You Are Puppet Show: Madison and Lenox avenues; (212) Tuesday, June 3. Tompkins Square Library, 331 E. 10th Art Explorers: 4 pm. 67th Street 348–5620; www.nypl.org/events/ Animal Odyssey: 3:30 pm. Jef- St., between Avenues B and A; (212) Library. See Tuesday, June 3. Continued on page 40 June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 39 Calendar Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar
Continued from page 39 rich culture by sampling Jamaican Art Explorers: 4 pm. 67th Street Terrace, between W. 162nd Street programs/2014/06/19/going-mystery- buns, desserts and snacks. Children Library. See Tuesday, June 3. and Edgecombe Avenue; (212) hunt; 4 pm; Free. 2 and a half to 5 years old chew on 923–8008; www.nycgovparks.org/ Children ages 4 and up will go on a sweet sugar cane, then wash it down Wed, June 25 events/2014/06/28/family-day; 11 hunting adventure with Robin Brady, with Jamaican Punch. am–4pm; Free. singing songs and listening to stories. Krik Krak, storytelling: Brooklyn In Manhattan Play colonial games, make a historic craft project, watch live music perfor- Further Afield Children’s Museum, 145 Brooklyn Ave. Biology Workshop: 4 pm. Battery at St. Marks Avenue, Brooklyn; (718) Park Public Library. See Wednesday, mances, take a tour of the mansion, Celebrate Haiti: Brooklyn Chil- 735–4400; www.brooklynkids.org; 4 June 4. and more. dren’s Museum, 145 Brooklyn Ave. pm; Free with museum admisison. Puppets with Cameron: 11 am. at St. Marks Avenue, Brooklyn; (718) Teen Beach Volleyball: 5–7 pm. Celebrate Haitian art and culture Epiphany Library. See Saturday, May 735–4400; www.brooklynkids.org; Hudson Beach in Riverside Park. See with songs and stories that tell the oral 31. 11:30 am and 2:30 pm; Free with mu- Wednesday, June 4. history of the island. seum admission. Spinning Straw Into Gold Magi- What would you eat if you lived in Thurs, June 26 cal Tales of Alchemy: Stephen A. a place surrounded by water? What Sun, June 22 Schwarzman Building, Fifth Avenue at 42nd St.; (917) 275–6975; www. would you wear? Children discover the In Manhattan In Manhattan wonder of Haiti by viewing art forms Lucky Diaz and the Family nypl.org/events/programs/2014/06/21/ Saltwater Fishing: East River Es- like Drapo flags. Little ones — 5 years Madison Square Park, spinning-straw-gold-magical-tales-al- planade, 96th Street and FDR Drive; Jam Band: and younger — make a craft inspired Madison Ave., between E. 23rd and E. chemy; 3 pm; Free. (212) 628–2345; www.nycgovparks. by the Haitian art. 26th streets; (212) 538–1884; www. Award-winning storyteller LuAnn org/events/2014/06/22/saltwater-fish- Adams will present magical tales to ing; 11 am; Free. nycgovparks.org/events/2014/06/26/ mad-sq-kids-lucky-diaz-and-the-fam- children ages 4 and up. Fri, June 20 Families with children 8 and up ily-jam-band; 10:30 am; Free. In Manhattan will learn the basics of catch and re- lease in this program. All equipment is Latin Grammy award winning duo Sun, June 29 Build a Wood Bird feeder: Ot- Lucky Diaz and the Family Jam Band provided. In Manhattan tendorfer Library, 135 Second Ave., are the definitive kindie rock band, and between E. Ninth Street & St. Mark’s Macy’s Sunday Story Time: they’re performing as part of the Mad- Summer on the Hudson River- Place; (212) 674–0947; www.nypl.org/ 11:30 am. New-York Historical Society ison Square Kids concert series. Fish Celebration: West Harlem Pier events/programs/2014/06/20/build- DiMenna Children’s History Museum. Park, W. 125th St. and Henry Hud- wood-birdfeeder; 3:30 pm; Free. See Sunday, June 1. Locomotive Lawn Live: 10:30 am. son Pkwy.; www.nycgovparks.org/ Children ages 9 and up can build a Riverside Park South. See Thursday, events/2014/06/29/summer-on-the- bird feeder and decorate it as they wish. “DeadPan Alley”: Waterfront Mu- June 5. hudson-riverfish-celebration; 11 am–3 seum and Showbarge at Hudson River pm; Free. Park, 225 West St., Pier 25; (718) 624– Cross-Stitch Circle: 3:30 pm. New- A celebration featuring fishing, live Sat, June 21 4719, x 11; www.waterfrontmuseum. York Historical Society DiMenna Chil- dren’s History Museum. See Thursday, music, and river-related arts & crafts. In Manhattan org/events/performances/showboat- circus-2014; 1 & 4pm; $15 (adults,) June 5. Macy’s Sunday Story Time: GreenThumb Summer Festival: $12 (children). 11:30 am. New-York Historical Society Marcus Garvey Park Amphitheater, W. Audiences of all ages will enjoy the DiMenna Children’s History Museum. 125th St., between Madison and Le- Fri, June 27 latest Showboat Circus presentation, a See Sunday, June 1. nox avenues; (212) 788–8070; www. one-man show full of physical comedy, In Manhattan nycgovparks.org/events/2014/06/21/ “Little Red’s Hood”: Bennett sight gags and audience participation Family Camping: Inwood Hill Park, greenthumb-summer-festival; 10 Park, Ft Washington Ave., between called “DeadPan Alley,” starring Will Dyckman St, Hudson River, Harlem am–4 pm; Free. W. 183rd Street and Pinehurst Shaw. River S; (212) 304–2365; www.ny- Families will enjoy live music and Avenue; www.nycgovparks.org/ cgovparks.org/events/2014/06/27/ events/2014/06/29/cityparks-puppet- dance, gardening workshops, chil- Further Afield family-camping; 6 pm; Free. dren’s activities, food demonstrations mobile-presents-little-reds-hood; 1 Jamaica!: 11:30 am. Brooklyn Chil- Camp out with your family in In- pm; Free. and much more. dren’s Museum. See Saturday, June 21. wood Hill park! Tents are provided, CityParks PuppetMobile is partner- Portraits of the Past: Dyckman participating families will be chosen by ing with the Swedish Cottage Mari- Farmhouse Museum, 4881 Broadway, lottery. onette Theatre to present this retell- at W. 204th Street; (212) 304–9422; Tues, June 24 ing of the classic tale with hand-made [email protected]; www. Further Afield In Manhattan marionettes and modern twists. nycgovparks.org/events/2014/06/21/ Joanie Leeds and the Night- Superhero day: Brooklyn Chil- “Mia and the Mingoo”: Alianza history-play-date-portraits-of-the- lights: Madison Square Park, Madi- dren’s Museum, 145 Brooklyn Ave. Dominicana Cultural Center, 530 W. past1; 10:30 am; Free. son Ave., between E. 23rd and E. at St. Marks Avenue, Brooklyn; (718) 166th St. and Amsterdam Avenue; Children ages 6 and up will learn 26th streets; (212) 538–1884; www. 735–4400; www.brooklynkids.org; (212) 740–1960; 2 pm; Free. about the original selfie, the painted nycgovparks.org/events/2014/06/24/ 10 am –2:30 pm; Free with museum portrait, and then create one of their mad-sq-kids-joanie-leeds-and-the- admission. Children’s movie to support learn- own. nightlights; 10:30 am; Free. Celebrate the Man of Steel and ing, in an artistic environment for teens and families to improve skills in critical Puppets with Cameron: 11 am. Everyone’s favorite band, Joanie other comic book legends by making thinking and literacy. Epiphany Library. See Saturday, May 31. Leeds and the Nightlights, will be per- a fun cape, honing detective skills, and forming as part of the Madison Square for the ladies, make the lasso of truth Reading into History: New-York Further Afield Kids concert series, and launching their with Wonder Woman. Children who Historical Society DiMenna Children’s Jamaica!: Brooklyn Children’s Mu- latest album, Good Egg. come dressed as their favorite charac- History Museum, 170 Central Park seum, 145 Brooklyn Ave. at St. Marks ter get half off admission. For all ages. West at 77th Street; (212) 873–3400; Children’s Tennis Clinics: 3 & Avenue, Brooklyn; (718) 735–4400; nyhistory.org; 3 pm; Free with mu- 4 pm. Washington Market Park. See www.brooklynkids.org; 11:30 am; seum admission. Tuesday, June 3. Sat, June 28 Free with museum admission. “A Diamond in the Desert” by Kath- Caribbean-American heritage month Buzzy Bots & Crawly Critters: In Manhattan ryn Fitzmaurice explores the incredible continues with an exploration of the 3:30 pm. Countee Cullen Library. See Family Day: Morris-Jumel Man- history through the life of the fictional island nation of Jamaica. Discover the Tuesday, June 3. sion in Roger Morris Park, 65 Jumel Tetsu, an 11-year-old baseball fanatic 40 MANHATTAN Family • June 2014 Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar Calendar living in an internment camp with his It’s a bird, it’s a plane, no — it’s family. Best for ages 9-12. Bessie the cow! Based on the Pup- petMobile show of the same name, this popular production is making its Long-running debut at the Swedish Cottage Mari- In Manhattan onette Theatre. City as Canvas: The Museum of Storytime: Nolen Library, The Met- the City of New York, 1220 Fifth ropolitan Museum of Art, Fifth Ave- Ave., between E 103rd and E 104th nue at E. 81st Street; (212) 570–3788; streets; (212) 534–1672; www.mcny. www.metmuseum.org; Sundays – org; Daily, 10 am–6 pm; Now – Sun, Wednesdays and Fridays, 10:30 am– Aug. 24; $10 (adults), Free for children 11 am, Now – Thurs, July 3; Free. under 12. Look, listen, and have fun with pic- This new exhibit, Graffiti Art from ture books. Children 3 to 7 years old the Martin Wong Collection, explores start with a book and then explore the relationship between the city and the museum on a self-guided gallery graffiti art through the works of Mar- hunt. tin Wong, featuring nearly 150 histor- Storytime: Books of Wonder, 18 W. ical photographs of graffiti, paintings, 18th St., between Fifth and Sixth ave- and sketchbooks. nues; (212) 989–3270; www.booksof- A Year with Children 2014: Solo- wonder.com/storytime.php; Fridays, 4 mon R. Guggenheim Museum, 1071 pm, Sundays, 11:30 am, Now – Mon, Fifth Ave. at 89th Street; (212) 423– June 30; Free. 3500; www.guggenheim.org; Sun- Bring your young readers and lis- days – Wednesdays and Fridays, 10 teners for this super popular weekly am–5:45 pm, Saturdays, 10 am–7:45 story time, where the books are cho- pm, Now – Wed, June 18; Free with sen based on the ages of the partici- museum admission. pating children. The annual exhibition showcases Bobbi Beck’s Special Art Ex- select artworks by students in grades hibit Just for Kids: Washington two through six from 11 public Heights Library, 1000 St. Nicho- schools representing each of New las Ave., at W. 160th Street; (212) York City’s five boroughs, and fea- 923–6054; www.nypl.org/events/ tures collages, drawings, found ob- programs/2014/06/01/bobbi-beck- jects, prints, paintings, sculptures, special-art-exhibit-just-kids; Daily, 11 and photographs. am–7 pm; Mon, June 2 – Mon, June Kayaking on the Hudson: 16; Free.
Riverside Park, 72nd St. and Hud- Photo by Paul Watt Families will enjoy seeing ani- son River; www.nycgovparks.org/ mals, decorative objects, machines events/2014/06/08/summer-on-the- and many other mysterious symbols hudson-kayaking-on-the-hudson; Ready for a close-up woven into her drawings. Saturdays and Sundays, 10 am–5 pm,; Children’s Basketball: Nelson Free. We all can relate to Martin — a on the floor of the actual stage A. Rockefeller Park, Chambers Street These 20-minute instructional young boy who moves to a new as they watch the one-man show & River Terrace; www.bpcparks.org; paddles are suitable for all ages who school where he knows no one. unfold. Mondays, 3:30 pm & 4:30 pm,; Free. know how to swim. Until he meets Simon McGurk, Fridays, Saturdays, and Sun- Children can learn to play basket- A Mercantile Novel: David that is. days, June 13 to 22. Fridays at 7 ball with adjustable height hoops for Zwirner Gallery, 519 W. 19th St., be- This latest show, “The Bal- pm, Saturdays at 2 and 7 pm, and all sizes, with fun drills to improve tween 10th and 11th avenues; (212) lad of Pondlife McGurk,” running Sundays at noon and 5 pm. Tick- skills. Ages 5-6 play from 3:30 to 4:30 pm, and children 7 and up play 727–2070; www.davidzwirner.com/ June 13 to 22 at the New Vic- ets are $25, $18 for members. from 4:30 to 5:30 pm. exhibition/a-mercantile-novel; Tues- tory Theater, will take the audi- The New Victory Theater [209 W. days – Saturdays, 10 am–6 pm, Now ence through Martin’s story in a 42nd St. between Seventh and Eighth Children’s Soccer: Nelson A. – Sat, June 14; Free. Rockefeller Park, Chambers Street & unique way. avenues in Times Square, (646) 223– This one-of-a-kind art exhibit by River Terrace; www.bpcparks.org; Oscar Murillo depicts the inside work- Families with children ages 8 3010, www.newvictory.org/Show-De- Tuesdays, 2:30 pm, 3:30 pm, & 4:30 ings of a candy making factory- and years and older will be sitting tail.aspx?ProductionId=5295]. pm,; Free. tens of thousands of candies are pro- Children will learn the basics of duced and given away to visitors. soccer at this weekly workshop. Ages Avengers. park.org; Daily, 11 am–7 pm; Free. Marvel’s AVENGERS 3-4 play from 2:30 to 3:15 pm, ages Head over to the park for a break- S.T.A.T.I.O.N: Discovery Times Park Ping Pong: Bryant Park, 42nd 5-7 play from 3:30 to 4:15 pm, and to play your favorite board games, ages 8-11 play from 4:30 to 5:30 pm. Square, 226 W. 44th St., between Street and Avenue of the Americas; from Scrabble to Candy Land and ev- Seventh and Eighth avenues; (866) (212) 768–4242; www.bryantpark. Little New Yorkers: New-York erything in between. 987–9692; www.discoverytsx.com/ org; Daily, 11 am–7 pm; Free. Historical Society DiMenna Children’s exhibitions/avengers; Sundays – Tues- Grab a paddle and show your table “Bessie’s Big Shot”: Swedish History Museum, 170 Central Park days, 10 am–7 pm, Wednesdays and tennis skills at one of the two state of Cottage Marionette Theater, 79th West at 77th Street; (212) 873–3400; Thursdays, 10 am–8 pm, Fridays and nyhistory.org; Tuesdays and Fridays, the art tables in Bryant Park. Street & West Drive; (212) 988–9093; Saturdays, 10 am–9 pm,; $19.50-$27. Tuesdays – Fridays, 10:30 am & Noon, 3:30 pm, Tues, June 3 – Fri, June 27; Fans of all ages will be immersed Bryant Park Games: Bryant Park, Saturdays and Sundays, 1 pm, Now – Free with museum admission. in this experience that brings them 42nd Street and Avenue of the Ameri- Sun, June 29; $10, $7 (children under This program introduces New York deep into the world of Marvel’s The cas; (212) 768–4242; www.bryant- 12). Continued on page 42 June 2014 • MANHATTAN Family 41 Calendar Our online calendar is updated daily at www.NYParenting.com/calendar
Continued from page 41 way and Henry Hudson Parkway; (212) 699–0005 X 353; www.nyscience. has fully animatronic dinosaurs as and American history to the littlest 795–1388; www.nycgovparks.org/ org; Weekdays, 9:30 am–5 pm, Satur- they move and snarl. New Yorkers with weekly age-appro- events/2014/06/21/parent-me-yoga; days and Sundays, 10 am–6 pm,; $4, Touch tank: Brooklyn Children’s priate themes and engaging hands- Saturdays, 9 am, Sat, June 21 – Sat, plus museum admission. Museum, 145 Brooklyn Ave. at on activities. Best for ages 3-5. Aug. 9; Free. Children are encouraged to ex- St. Marks Avenue, Brooklyn; (718) This weekly free yoga session is per- Technique-Based Workshops: plore science through slides, seesaws, 735–4400; www.brooklynkids.org; fect for the entire family. Children’s Museum of the Arts, 103 climbing webs, a water play area, Wednesdays, Saturdays and Sundays, sand boxes, and more. Charlton St. at Hudson Street; (212) Further Afield 11:30 am–12:30 pm and 2:30–3:30 274–0986; www.cmany.org; Thurs- Rocket Park Mini Golf: New York pm, Now – Sun, Aug. 31; Free with Little Kids, Big Stars: MCU Park, museum admission. days, 2–6 pm, Now – Sun, Aug. 31; 1904 Surf Ave. at W. 17th St., Brook- Hall of Science, 47-01 111th St., at Children of all ages touch a star- Free with museum admission. lyn; (718) 37-BKLYN; info@brooklyncy- Avenue of Science, Queens; (718) fish, a horseshoe crab, or a sea snail. Children 5 and over will experiment clones.com; www.brooklyncyclones. 699–0005 X 353; www.nyscience. with alternative photo processes, both com; Now – Saturday, June 7; Free. org; Weekdays, 9:30 am–5 pm, Satur- The Art of Math: Brooklyn Chil- manually and digitally. Baseball is back and the Cyclones days and Sundays, 10 am–6 pm,; $6 dren’s Museum, 145 Brooklyn Ave. (adults,) $5 (children and seniors,) plus Sunset Singing Circle: Robert F. want the little ones to experience the at St. Marks Avenue, Brooklyn; (718) museum admission. Wagner, Jr. Park, Battery & First Place; game. Coaches of little league and 735–4400; www.brooklynkids.org; Golfers of all ages can learn about (212) 267–9700; www.bpcparks.org/ softball leagues throughout the bor- Saturdays and Sundays, 12:30 pm, key concepts such as propulsion, bpcp/home/index.php; Fridays, 7 pm, oughs can nominate one player their Now – Sun, Aug. 31; Free with mu- gravity, escape velocity, launch win- Now – Fri, June 27; Free. team to be named Little Kids, Big seum admission. dow, gravitational assist, and more! Share rounds and folk songs at this Stars of the week. For boys and girls Children learn all about shapes, tri- weekly singing circle for families. between the ages of 5 and 14 years Dinosaur Safari: Bronx Zoo, 2300 angles, squares. old. The child should have a passion Southern Blvd. at Boston Road, The Hester Street Fair: Hester St., and Urban gardening: Brooklyn Chil- for baseball/softball, serve as a leader Bronx; (718) 220–5103; www.bronx- dren’s Museum, 145 Brooklyn Ave. Essex St.; www.hesterstreetfair.com; to the team and be helpful to the zoo.com; Weekdays, 10 am–5 pm, at St. Marks Avenue, Brooklyn; (718) Saturdays and Sundays, 11 am–6pm, coaches. The winners will receive an Saturdays and Sundays, 10 am–5:30 735–4400; www.brooklynkids.org; beginning Sat, June 7; Free. invitation to a baseball clinic with the pm,; $20.95 ($16.95 children; Free for Saturdays and Sundays, 1:30 pm, Visitors will enjoy artisanal food, vin- Cyclones a chance to throw out a first children under 3; $18.95 seniors). Now – Sun, June 1; Free with museum tage clothing, jewelry, crafts, home pitch and a commemorative T-shirt. Mysteries Revealed features more admission. goods and much more. Science Playground: New York than 30 dinosaur species and how Children 4 years and older learn Parent and Me Yoga: Fort Tryon Hall of Science, 47-01 111th St., at scientists reconstruct the fossil pieces. about seeds, planting, and how to Park, Fort Tryon Pl., between Broad- Avenue of Science, Queens; (718) The ride runs through the zoo and make a garden more efficient.
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