Hate the Sin, Not the Sinner, They Say Immigration Reform Applies To

2 • The Rainbow Times • TheRainbowTimesMass.com April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 Hate the sin, not the sinner, they say Immigration reform applies to everyone By: Jason Lydon*/ TRT Columnist order to meet the “structural adjustment” re - By: Nicole Lashomb*/ TRT Editor-in-Chief rectly addressed the LGBT community. “Please understand that we don’t hate you, he national newspa - quirements mandated for loans and financial n modern politics where the con - pers, Internet blogs support. During his State of the Union servative movement is losing and that we are not motivated by animus or S bigotry; it is not our intention to offend any - Tand every television speech, President Obama reiterated his com - ground as the country moves in I one, and if we have, I apologize; please try news program are all cover - mitment to immigration reform, while in the N favor of supporting LGBT rights, the to listen to us fairly, and calmly, and try to ing the political dialogue on same speech pushing for a finalized agree - rhetoric of such Conservatives has be - “comprehensive immigra - ment on the Trans Pacific Partnership. While O come more than manipulative and is understand us and our position, as we will try

I to do the same for you.” tion reform.” Questions claiming to be supporting the needs of immi - consistent of falsely reversed victim - grants on the one hand, President Obama ization. Somehow, although these A group of people that discriminate against range from issues of incar - N others are bigots, even ceration (incorrectly called detention), drones continues to push forward policies that force I anti-equality people to flee their home Conservatives by the most basic defini - at the Mexico border, P have equal A group of people that tion of the word. And, pathways to citizenship, countries to try to find rights under the yes, it is offensive in the DREAM Act eligible We must stop the work. Any immigration O law and no one discriminate against same way it would be if youth, family unifica - reform that does not in - attempts to strip them the LGBT community tion, “good” vs. “bad” president from allow - clude a critical reflection of their rights, they others are bigots , even tried to invalidate and immigrants, Secure on the role of globalized claim that they are the overturn heterosexual Communities initiative ing drones to surveil capitalism is a false solu - ones being persecuted by the most basic defini - marriage and write-off and so much more. tion. by others who assert tion of the word. their children. I’m confi - Comprehensive immi - the border of Mexico . I had the pleasure of that they are bigots. dent that they would not gration reform has cre - attending an event organ - Ironic, isn’t it? Even be interested in hearing ated a reputation of We need to have a ized by a coalition of more confusing and grossly ludicrous is our “position on it.” Discrimination is dis - being a catch-all phrase Asian/Pacific Islander, when those same Conservatives profess to crimination, no matter how you try to sugar - for solving all the prob - conversation about API, organizations on love and support the LGBT community. Yes, coat it with “love” or not. lems with immigration March 21st at MAP for the same community that they rally against It is impossible to “love” the LGBT com - in the United States. I white supremacy . Health in Boston on the to deprive it of its rights and take hostage the munity and want it to thrive when those same impact of immigration opponents work endlessly to ensure that it is would encourage read - lives of many through declarations and ac - ers to keep a few of the on LGBTQ API commu - tions that demoralize the human spirit. I’ve not seen as equal, that our marriages, sexual orientation and gender identity are invali - following things in mind when you hear nities. There were around 40 people in atten- personally heard it and maybe you have too about immigration reform and consider — hate the sin, not the sinner. dated, that believe we are not worthy of being parents despite many scientific studies that where we as LGBTQ people need to direct See Immigration on Page 14 Most often, these types of imprudent and our attention. conflicting statements and actions stem from have proven them wrong, and that condemn us to hell. Those words and oxymoronic ac - One of the pieces that continues to be com - religious leaders and their congregations like pletely ignored is the role of Free Trade The Rainbow Times San Francisco’s Archbishop Salvatore tions are hateful, prejudicial and intolerant bigotry at its best. Being a member of the Agreements in causing immigration. 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E queer) mayor in U.S. history, most recently by MassEquality, who re - of who they love helped establish Boston as Menino’s letter to Chick-fil-A president Dan leased a statement following the one of the most LGBTQ-friendly cities in Cathy last year after the restaurant chain an - M the nation to live,” said Yarbrough and Mar - nounced plans to open locations near the

I mayor’s announcement. “He was an early supporter of mar - shall. “As our vision states, ‘We envision a Freedom Trail in Boston. Because of Chick- L world where Latino/a and Black LGBTQ in - fil-A’s open proclamations against same-sex

riage equality,” said MassEquality Executive Director Kara Suffredini. dividuals can comfortably and unapologeti - marriage, Menino told Cathy the company E “He was an early supporter of trans - cally incorporate themselves in their would not be welcome in Boston. gender equality. He was an early racial/ethnic community and mainstream “You called supporters of gay marriage H supporter of programs addressing LGBTQ community simultaneously.’ We ‘prideful.’ Here in Boston, to borrow your T public health needs related to feel that Mayor Menino also believes in this own words, we are ‘guilty as charged.’ We HIV/AIDS. And he has never been vision as his office has met with us multiple Boston Mayor Thomas M. Menino, on are indeed full of pride for our support of times over the years to discuss making our March 27th, showing his support again for same-sex marriage and our work to expand

N shy about using his office as a bully vision a reality.” freedom to all people,” Menino wrote in his I pulpit to encourage other political marriage equality during MassEquality’s leaders to do the same.” Stephen L. Boswell, MD, President and Boston Rally for DOMA. A day later, Mayor letter. “There is no place for discrimination When Boston citizens began applying for CEO of Fenway Health, also commented on Menno announced he would not run for re- on Boston’s Freedom Trail and no place for the Mayor’s vital role as an ally for the your company alongside it.” marriage licenses after same-sex marriage election. became legal in Massachusetts in 2004, LGBTQ community. Rebecca Haag, President and CEO of Mayor Menino’s office ensured their safety “Mayor Menino has been an incredible world. We’ll be losing a valuable ally when AIDS Action, shared in a press release how as they filed with the City Clerk. Most re - ally to Boston’s LGBT community from his Mayor Menino leaves office, but hopefully Mayor Menino has been an advocate for cently, Menino participated in the DOMA first term as Mayor until today,” Boswell our next Mayor will be equally supportive people living with HIV and AIDS through - (Defense of Marriage Act) justice rally at said. “His visible and vocal support of civil of our community.” out his tenure, championing the cause even City Hall Plaza on March 28th, where he in - rights and equality for all Boston residents According to Boswell, the mayor has at - when other politicians during the time were structed that the rainbow flag be flown in has helped to make this city one of the most tended almost every major fundraiser for afraid to come forward with their support. welcoming places for LGBT people in the Fenway Health during his time in office and honor of the historic Supreme Court hear - See Mayor Menino on Page 12 4 • The Rainbow Times • TheRainbowTimesMass.com April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 High Court on DOMA: Exclusion and animus, blame on Pres. Obama By: Lisa Keen/ Keen News Service Surviving spouses in male-female marriages Ruth Bader Ginsburg all questioned dicate Congress “had something else in WASHINGTON, D.C.—On March do not have to pay estate taxes. Clement on it. mind than uniformity….something that’s 28th, the argument in the U.S. The first 50 minutes of the two-hour argu - “What gives the federal government the never been done before.” She quoted a pas - Y Supreme Court over the Defense of ment was given to a discussion of whether right to be concerned at all about the defini - sage of the House report that said that the case was properly before the court, given tion of marriage?” asked Sotomayor, noting DOMA was intended to express “moral dis - R Marriage Act sounded at times as if President Obama was on trial for en - procedural questions. On the issue of that marriage has always been considered an approval” of marriage for same-sex couples. O forcing the law even though he con - whether DOMA’s constitutionality,former area of state law. She suggested members of “That’s a pretty good red flag,” said George W. Bush Solic - Congress appeared to Kagan. T siders it unconstitutional. At other times, it sounded like Congress was itor General Paul create a law to disfavor Clement seemed to be caught off guard by S on trial, for attempting to cloak its Clement, an attorney a “class they don’t the excerpt. “Does the House Report say I moral disapproval of gay people hired by the Republi - “What gives the fed - like.” that?” can-led Bipartisan When Clement sug - The challengers of DOMA appeared off H under the guise of seeking “unifor - eral government the mity.” And at the end of two hours, Legal Advisory Group gested Congress was guard at times, too. LGBT legal activists seemed cau - (BLAG), said the Con - right to be concerned helping the states by & tious but optimistic that there are five gress, in passing the putting the issue on Purposeful exclusion leading to animus votes to find DOMA unconstitu - law in 1996, did not at all about the defi - “pause” and letting the Chief Justice John Roberts asked both So -

Y tional. discriminate against states work through the licitor General Donald Verilli and plaintiff’s It was the second and final day of two gays but simply de - democratic process in attorney Roberta Kaplan whether it would T nition of marriage? ” cided to define the term deciding the law in be permissible for Congress to adopt a defi - I historic sessions at the nation’s high - est court to hear oral arguments in “marriage” “solely for asked Sotomayor , each state, Kennedy nition for federal purposes that included gay L cases challenging the federal law federal law” in order to noted that DOMA couples, rather than excluded them. ensure “uniformity” in seemed instead to be Verilli said the House Report excerpt A denying recognition of marriage li - noting that marriage censes granted to same-sex couples the deliverance of ben - “helping states if they “makes glaringly clear” that DOMA was in - U and challenging a state law banning efits. has always been do what [members of tended to exclude lawfully married same-sex same-sex couples from obtaining “It’s rational for Con - Congress] want them couples. Q marriage licenses. gress to say its treating considered an area to do.” “Are you saying that 84 senators were mo -

E same-sex couples in Justice Ginsburg said tivated by animus?” asked Chief Justice Edith Windsor New York the same as of state law . DOMA appears to af - Roberts in follow-up to both Verilli and Ka - Wednesday’s case, U.S. v. Windsor, posed same-sex couples in fect same-sex couples plan. the question of whether Section 3 of DOMA Nebraska,” said by turning their mar - Both Verilli and Kaplan clearly avoided violates the equal protection clause of the Clement. riages into a sort of “skim milk,” in compar - saying that think DOMA was motivated by Fourteenth Amendment. New York lesbian That assertion did not go unchallenged. ison to whole milk version enjoyed by animus. Edith Windsor filed the lawsuit with the help male-female couples. “It could have been a lack of reflection or of the ACLU when the federal government 5 Justices challenge DOMA proponents Justice Kagan perhaps hit the hardest note ...” demanded she pay more than $360,000 in Justices Sonia Sotomayor, Elena Kagan, when she said the record of House proceed - To read the rest of this story visit: estate taxes after her same-sex spouse died. Stephen Breyer, Anthony Kennedy, and ings around DOMA in 1996 seemed to in - http://tiny.cc/mruruw April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 TheRainbowTimesMass.com • The Rainbow Times • 5 Hundreds stand for equality at rally and candlelight vigil in Boston

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ganized by MassEquality , featured an im - T the world, we push LGBTQ youth onto the O pressive lineup of speakers, including Mayor H streets,” said O’Brien. “History has never Tom Menino who was joined by members of P been made by waiting for those at the top of Boston Pride in raising the rainbow flag. society to deliver it for us. It is made by peo - “It’s encouraging to see politicians finally ple like you and I coming together and organ - catching up to the people on this issue. … izing.” America is for equality,” Menino said as he Kara S. Suffredini, Esq., executive director addressed the crowd. “This issue is about of MassEquality described O’Brien as a ris - equality also. We’re going to make sure ing star in the LGBT community. everyone has equal opportunity … not just for An ally who spoke to The Rainbow Times some of the people, but for all [emphasis without revealing his last name, Terrence R., added]. … As other states followed our lead from Cambridge, Mass., explained that he at - in recent years, it should be an easy call for tended LGBT events, rallies, etc. in honor of the Supreme Court today and tomorrow. … his brother “who died of AIDS in 1973 and We shouldn’t let justices stop our momentum was instrumental in the Dallas, TX gay move - Needham, Mass. couple Jennifer Collins and Gretchen Randall, and their two children, Addison and Shea ment of the late 70’s, 80s and 90s. Everything [that] we have in America today.” attended the MassEquality rally on March 26th at Boston City Hall Plaza. The event was attended by GLAD , ACLU , I try to do is in honor of my brother.” as well as several city and state politicos, in - Community leader and executive director affect their family and other people’s under - Terrence had accolades for the LGBT cluding Senate candidate Congressman Ed of ¿Oíste? , Alejandra St. Guillen, spoke of standing of it. movement and power, while also explaining Markey. Many attendees in the crowd held her personal experience as an openly lesbian “It will allow us to not have to justify our his views of what seems as an unregulated LGBT for Markey signs. Markey thanked Latina and explained that, though she has had existence to our kids and explain to them why body—the U.S. Supreme Court—making a Mayor Menino for “being a fearless leader” to negotiate with relatives about her sexual people might not understand or might not decision about the rights of citizens of the for the LGBT community and other minori - identity, she “will not negotiate with the fed - agree that they can be normal, that they can U.S. ties. eral government of the United States, which be normal,” said Randall. “I have no idea what the Supreme Court Rep. Carl Sciortino, of Somerville, deliv - was built on individual liberty.” “I think it’s time that my family and my will actually decide on. I have an opinion of ered a powerful statement, saying, “We will, A lesbian couple from Needham, Jennifer kids can grow up in a time when everyone is the Supreme Court and it is that that body is in the end, overcome every obstacle to our Collins and Gretchen Randall, and their two treated equally and it will prevent me from children, Addison and Shea, were also at the having to continue to explain to them why our Read the rest of this story online at full equality.” He added that he is planning to http://tiny.cc/k96ruw marry his partner in October. rally. The difficulties of not having full rights family is treated differently just because of 6 • The Rainbow Times • TheRainbowTimesMass.com April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 Connecticut transgender conference explores health, law and transgender community By: Ashley Mark/ TRT Reporter discrimina - tions of dis - firmation,” Lombardi stated. The conference Transgender individuals face complex tion, docu - crimination, also qualifies as Continuing Education challenges within the health care and legal mentation law and Credits for the National Association of So - systems, but a leading conference in Con - for transi - health and cial Workers and Certified Health Education necticut is held to specifically address these tioning indi - the devastat - Specialists, according to Lombardi. issues and facilitate movement through these viduals, ing effects “This year’s keynote speaker will be Mara realms. transition - that can re - Kiesling, a nationally recognized trans ad - The Connecticut TransAdvocacy Coali - ing and em - sult when an vocate from the National Center for Trans - tion is hosting its seventh annual Transgen - ployment, already vul - gender Equality,” Lombardi added about the der Lives Conference on April 27 at the family dy - nerable conference highlights. “We will also have a University of Connecticut Health Center in namics and community ‘hang out’ lounge where attendees can net - Farmington, CT. The theme of the confer - protecting is subjected work, exchange ideas and engage in conver - ence is “The Intersection of Health and transgender to wide - sations related to the conference.” Law” and will focus on the transgender and children. spread dis - Dunham attended the conference last year, gender non-conforming perspective of the Emilia as a representative of the LifeSkills team and healthcare and legal systems. Dunham, Fenway Health, and said it is a great oppor - study coor - tunity to meet likeminded people with sim - “The everyday lives of transgender indi - PHOTO: GLENN KOETZNER viduals are made more difficult by a compli - dinator at ilar community goals. cated system of healthcare and laws, The Fenway Tony Ferraiolo and Dru Levasseur presenting a workshop crimination,” “This conference provides a fantastic av - creating confusion and constant vigilance to Institute, is presenting a conference work - Levasseur explained. enue to make meaningful connections with protect homes, families and jobs,” explained shop with her fellow LifeSkills team mem - Levasseur is impressed with the growth individuals from all different backgrounds, Diana Lombardi, a conference coordinator bers that focuses on the LifeSkills Project, and reach of the conference, citing it as one to share resources and connect in ways that at the CT TransAdvocacy Coalition. an HIV study for young transgender women. of the leading transgender conferences in the will improve the health and wellbeing of the According to Lombardi, the conference’s “We hope to lead a practical discussion on country. transgender community,” she said. goal is to help transgender people navigate ways to connect with traditionally under - “They started by tapping into the expertise According to the CT TransAdvocacy these systems effectively, focusing on health served populations within the transgender at home, in Connecticut, then built it from Coalition website, the conference seeks to care, legal protection and documentation, community, including young trans women, there,” he said. “The conference now attracts redefine the relationships of transgender and employment, education and family. In the trans people of color and low-income folks,” national attention from experts in the legal gender non-conforming individuals. seven years since its inception, the confer - Dunham explained. “We hope this workshop and health field, as well as transgender com - “This conference is about our community ence has expanded to include keynote will lead to practical conversations that we munity members, families, allies and cut - redefining our interaction with the systems speakers and more diverse presenters. can all take home around how we can best ting-edge activists.” that have written our history. It is Connecti - “Additionally the conference has drawn a serve all members of our community.” While the conference is geared toward the cut’s trans community organizing around much larger diversity in age, race, ethnicity, Dru Levasseur, Transgender Rights Attor - transgender and gender non-conforming our shared experiences to erase the invisibil - sexuality and gender,” Lombardi said. “Over ney with Lambda Legal, has participated in community, service providers and allies, ity that has disempowered us for so long,” the years, youth and family issues have several of the previous Transgender Lives anyone with an interest in the health and law Lombardi said. grown in importance and engagement at the conferences and is presenting a workshop issues of the community is encouraged to at - The conference is open to anyone inter - conference.” about the impact of discrimination on trans - tend. ested in attending. For more information or This year’s conference will include dozens gender health. “We are open to all, provided they adhere to register, visit the CT TransAdvocacy of workshops that address health care rights, “The workshop will explore the intersec - to our basic tenets of confidentiality and af - Coalition website at http://tiny.cc/l4fpuw . April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 TheRainbowTimesMass.com • The Rainbow Times • 7 DOMA on the ropes: Will the Supreme Court deliver the knockout punch? Bernadette Stark, Esq.*/ Special to TRT peal and that the Supreme Court will dismiss defending the constitutionality of Section 3” asked, there were several significant mo - The country has been riveted this week as the case without ever answering the big of DOMA. With a standing issue – can ments, which might give some clues on how the United States Supreme Court heard oral question of equal protection. That would BLAG pursue this action? Also, since the the justices perceived the case. Most court arguments in two cases directly affecting leave Judge Walker's 2010 decision intact – United States, under the Obama administra - observers were keeping a close eye on Jus - LGBT individuals and families. At stake is and Proposition 8 would be considered un - tion, agrees with the Circuit Court's decision tice Kennedy, who is usually the “swing federal recognition for same-sex marriages, constitutional, opening the way up to same- that DOMA is unconstitutional, can the vote” on close issues and who has histori - as well as whether or not California will be sex marriages in California. However, if the Supreme Court even hear the case since both cally sided with the more liberal justices on the 10th state (plus the District of Columbia) Court chooses this path, the effect of the of the “aggrieved parties” (the United States cases affecting LGBT rights. He appeared to allow gays and lesbians to marry. The con - Court's decision could be limited to Califor - and Windsor) agree that DOMA is unconsti - persuaded that DOMA intruded into the stitutionality of both the federal Defense of nia, unless it addresses the equal protection tutional? Once again, the Supreme Court power of the states to regulate marriage, to Marriage Act (DOMA) passed in 1996 and arguments. could choose to avoid the larger question of which the federal government must usually Proposition 8, a California voter-initiative The case heard on Wednesday, Windsor v. equal protection for gays and lesbians and defer. At one point during oral arguments in which repealed legal same-sex marriage in United States , provides a direct attack on decide the standing and jurisdiction issues. Windsor , Kennedy also noted that the federal California, are being challenged before the DOMA, Section 3, which is the part of the Although there is no way to tell how the government was “intertwined with citizens’ Supreme Court. law that defines marriage as between a man Court will rule simply by the questions they See Knockout DOMA on Page 12 In Hollingsworth v. Perry , the Court ad - and a woman for the federal government's dressed the constitutionality of Proposition purposes. That case involves an 84 year-old 8, which was passed by a narrow margin of widow from New York, Edie Windsor. Ms. Californians (52 to 48 percent voted in favor Windsor’s wife of 5 years, but partner for of it). Proposition 8 repealed a decision by over 40 years passed away in 2009. Had her the California Supreme Court which legal - partner been a man, she would have paid ized same-sex marriages in the state. Fol - nothing in estate taxes. However, since her lowing a two-week trial in 2010, Federal spouse was a woman, the federal govern - District Court Judge Vaughn Walker issued ment, because of DOMA, did not recognize a sweeping decision declaring Proposition 8 her marriage and she was billed over unconstitutional. He wrote that preventing $363,000 in federal estate taxes. She filed a gay and lesbian marriages violated equal lawsuit in federal court challenging DOMA, protection under the law guaranteed by the which she won at both the district court and U.S. Constitution. The Ninth Circuit Court the circuit court level, when both courts de - agreed and also struck down Proposition 8. clared that DOMA was unconstitutional. That’s the big question the U.S. Supreme Since then, the Department of Justice issued Court can address in this case. But there's a statement explaining that it could no longer also another legal issue: since the state of defend DOMA’s constitutionality and it California refused to defend Proposition 8, stopped defending the law in Court. Later, its supporters are carrying on the appeal. the Bipartisan Legal Advisory Group of the Many legal observers think that the support - House of Representatives (BLAG), inter - ers do not have standing to carry on the ap - vened in the suit “for the limited purpose of 8 • The Rainbow Times • TheRainbowTimesMass.com April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 LGBTQ news from around the country: The good, the bad and the ugly By: Emily Scagel/ TRT Assistant Editor by SAGE that will help service providers col - Providence, Cumberland and Providence. Washington, D.C. Charlotte, NC lect the information they need to better under - Latino voters want inclusive immigration re - LGBT athletics report reissued, urges stand and serve LGBT older adults. The guide, Catholic group forms, urges same-sex mar - form for lesbian and gay couples D systemic change Inclusive Questions for Older Adults: A Prac - riage legislation Immigration Equality/Latino Decisions re - tical Guide to Collecting Data on Sexual Ori - Catholics from across Rhode Island have an - leased results of a poll that show that 64 percent

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O Athlete Report in lieu of recent devel - providers ask questions in a safe and respectful Catholics for Marriage Equality, and are urging form for lesbian and gay binational couples. opments in college athletics, as well as way. Identities of LGBT older adults are rarely the Senate to pass marriage equality legislation. The executive director of Immigration Equality H the ongoing LGBT harassment impact - included in research studies, service intake The group has more than 100 members and is stated that immigration reform is the most im - ing sports culture. The executive direc - forms and client notes on federal and local lev - made up of Catholics from parishes and com - portant issue to Latino voters, and the voters R tor of Campus Pride stated that videos els, so if providers want this information, they munities across the state. want reform that includes all families. must collect it themselves.

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B temic change is what is needed. The or - Puerto Rico urged to reverse same-sex parent inatory bill positive recipients lifted ganization is committed to releasing an ruling A group of religious leaders in Rhode Island The Senate Health, Education, Labor and Pen - Y online index that will allow colleges to Lambda Legal and Fundacíon Artículo II are have spoken out against a new Senate bill that sions Committee has approved the HIV Organ

A benchmark LGBT-friendly policies, urging Puerto Rico's Supreme Court to recon - would allow individuals and small business to Policy Equity Act, which will lift a federal ban programs and practices. sider and reverse a ruling, and either grant a discriminate against same-sex couples, and on the donation of HIV-positive organs to HIV- G second-parent adoption to a lesbian couple, or would roll back existing discrimination laws positive recipients. This act could save as many Los Angeles, CA to hold their case until the federal Supreme under the claim of protecting religious liberty. as 1,000 people yearly, and would decrease Study finds 900,000 LGBT immigrants Court rules on DOMA. A Lambda Legal Staff The executive minister of the Rhode Island waiting time for HIV-infected individuals as A study estimated that there are approximately Attorney stated that Puerto Rico's adoption law State Council of Churches stated that faith well as uninfected individuals. 637,000 LGBT-identified adult documented condemns gay and lesbian couples, as well as should uplift us and bring us closer together, immigrants in the United States, as well as their children, to an inferior and stigmatized not used as an excuse to divide and exclude. $45 million lost HIV/AIDS funding 267,000 undocumented. The report found that status. Congress approved a spending bill that failed 71 percent of the undocumented LGBT adults Santa Fe, NM to continue $35 million in emergency relief were Hispanic, and 15 percent are Asian or Pa - Providence, RI Case made for marriage equality in New Mex - funds for AIDS Drug Assistance Programs. cific Islander. The leader of the study said that Coalition of Mayors in support of marriage ico, declared legal This loss could result in 8,000 individuals liv - under current immigration policies, the 900,000 equality forms New Mexico's capital city has issued a legal ing with HIV being removed from ADAPs and LGBT immigrant adults in this country may Rhode Islanders United for Marriage has memo and resolution declaring same-sex mar - losing access to lifesaving medication. The bill face separation from their partners if they are launched Mayors for Marriage Equality. The riage legal in New Mexico. The memo notes also fails to continue $10 million in emergency not able to sponsor each other for work visas. campaign director for Rhode Islanders United that New Mexico's laws define marriage in gen - funds for Ryan White Part C clinical programs. for Marriage stated that it is an incredible tes - der-neutral terms and that a list of prohibited The director of legislative and public affairs for New York, NY tament to their leadership that so many city ex - marriages does not include same-sex couples, the National Minority AIDS Council stated that Guide released for elder care service ecutives have chosen to stand up and endorse among other statements that outline the case this will have a devastating impact on those liv - providers same-sex marriage legislation being considered that marriage equality is already legal under ing with HIV or AIDS, and will inhibit A new data collection guide has been released in the Senate. The group includes the Mayors New Mexico law. NMAC's ability to combat the spread of the dis - of Warwick, Central Falls, Pawtucket, North ease. April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 TheRainbowTimesMass.com • The Rainbow Times • 9 Fenway’s 22nd Annual Women’s Dinner Party: Health, fun & fundraising By: Brook Rosini/ Special to TRT doors, regardless of and their friends and Through her long and distinguished career The Women’s Dinner Party is an annual their ability to pay,” supporters,” says as a physician and a researcher Dr. Matulo - fundraiser for Fenway Health that brings to - explains Harwood. Harwood. “Both nis has proved her commitment to the health gether more than 1,200 lesbian, transgender, “This helps us do events are a lot of and wellbeing of women everywhere. Like and bisexual women and their friends and things like begin of - fun!” Dr. Love, Dr. Matulonis is a leader in her supporters for a night of dinner and dancing. fering mammo - Co-chaired this field of gynecologic cancer care, treatment, This year, the Women’s Dinner Party will be grams to help detect year by Lori Grif - and research, caring above all else for the held on Saturday, April 6, from 6 p.m. to 1 breast cancer early, fiths, Pat Hamilton, health of the individual. a.m at the Boston Marriott Copley Place. before it can be felt and Jennifer L. “Dr. Matulonis is a true inspiration who The event starts out with mingling and a and when it is easier Jones, all women has dedicated her career to improving the silent auction, with the program and dinner to treat; help nearly who are active sup - lives of women with cancer. Warm and com - taking place at 7, followed by dancing. The 300 victims of bias porters of and advo - passionate on the personal level and a Women’s Dinner Party serves as a social crimes, domestic vi - cates for the LGBT thought leader in the scientific community, event for women in the LGBT community, olence, sexual as - community, the she has significantly advanced our knowl - and raises awareness of women’s health is - sault and police event is also an oc - edge on how to treat ovarian and uterine sues as well as funds for Fenway Health. misconduct each casion for present - cancers,” said Dr. Jennifer Potter, Director According to Timothy Harwood, Vice year; care for nearly ing the Dr. Susan M. of Women’s Health at Fenway and a former President of Development at Fenway 1,800 young people Love award. The Love Award winner. “A strong advocate for Health, The Women’s Dinner Party was the at our Sidney award is given to systems change, she also works tirelessly to first event of its kind in the country. Now in Borum, Jr. Health honor and celebrate improve the entire experience of cancer its twenty-second year, Harwood character - Center; and provide a woman or organi - care, from initial diagnosis through years of izes the first Dinner Party as a guerilla effort more than $300,000 zation that has made survivorship and end of life care. I am to instill philanthropy and increase the pa - in free and dis - a significant contri - thrilled to see her honored with this award.” tient population by presenting Fenway’s counted medication bution to the field of To donate to Fenway Health or purchase women’s health services before over 500 el - to patients in need women’s health. tickets to the Women’s Dinner Party, visit egantly dressed women. each year.” The Love Award is www.womensdinnerparty.org or contact “It was also hoped that it would galvanize Although both given in honor of its Fenway at 617.927.6350. the attention of Fenway’s Board and staff events serve essen - founding recipient, and result in an increased focus on women’s tially the same function, the difference is in Dr. Susan M. Love, a pioneer in the fields of health,” Harwood says. the audience they serve. “Everyone is wel - women’s health and breast cancer. Online Coverage As a result of its success, Fenway’s devel - come at either event, but the crowd at The This year, the Love Award will go to Dr. Prop 8 : http://tiny.cc/h5otuw opment office ended up creating a similar Women’s Dinner Party tends to be made up Ursula Matulonis, Medical Director and gala for men — The Men’s Event. of lesbian and bisexual women, transgender Disease Center Leader of the Medical Gy - St. Patrick’s : http://tiny.cc/4rptuw “Both events raise critical unrestricted people, and their friends and supporters. The necologic Oncology Program at Dana-Far - Photos : http://tiny.cc/4iptuw funds that allow us to provide care and serv - Men’s Event skews more heavily towards ber Cancer Institute and Associate Professor ices to every person who comes through our gay and bisexual men, transgender people, of Medicine at Harvard Medical School. Trans : http://tiny.cc/svptuw 10 • The Rainbow Times • TheRainbowTimesMass.com April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 Being who you are and finding that elusive peace with your true self By: Deja Nicole Greenlaw*/ TRT Columnist You may notice that something is not quite You may try to deny your confusion and try You have no confidence, no peace, just con - ver since I right but you don’t question it because you your best to fit in with your “assigned” gen - fusion. You become anxious. You become

S can re - are confused and afraid, especially if you are der. You may try to be tough and do manly anxious because you now know that you are Emember socialized as male, as it happened to me. You things or be soft and do womanly things or very different from everyone you know. You I’ve wanted to ex - see other males who do not fit the male roles you may just withdraw from the world. Any may hear your friends, relatives, or cowork - W press female. and they are ridiculed. You keep quiet. way you deal with it, you are building your ers talk about these folks who change gender

E However, I don’t and they may make fun of them. Your heart know how I felt sinks as you hear everyone laugh. N before my memo - Deeper and deeper you go into your con - You fall into one group or the other determined ries began. When fused, anxious closet, until one day you S we are very young it doesn’t really by what gender clothes you wear . Your clothes know that you can’t take it anymore. You matter because we don’t know any - now know that you must explore who you N thing about gender. Oh sure, your are chosen by your parents who dress you ac - really are before you go to your grave. You

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T It is not a concern until you get to a time. Those minutes and hours grow into situation, such as school, where there As time goes, on you grow older and the life on confusion. You have no real confi - nights and weekends and the more that you is a very noticeable gender divide. If you are feeling that something is not right remains dence. You have no real peace. You try your spend in your true gender, the better you trans, that’s when the confusion begins. with you. That feeling will haunt you all best to live your life as your assigned gender feel. Finally you get to the point where you All of a sudden you realize that there are through your life. and the confusion is thrown deep in your know that you must live full time as your girls and boys. This is when the socialization When you get to the age of puberty things “closet.” true gender. All of a sudden the confusion of gender begins. You fall into one group or get worse. The secondary sex characteristics Then one day you learn about people who goes away, the anxiety goes away, your con - the other determined by what gender clothes begin, there is an even sharper divide of gen - are physically born one gender but become fidence rises and that wonderful feeling of you wear. Your clothes are chosen by your der and your confusion grows deeper. You the other gender. You research all you can peace is finally within you. It’s an incredible parents who dress you according to your are now on the way to becoming an adult, on these people, their stories and although feeling that you’ve never had before. You genitals. I had boy genitals, my mom male or female, whether you like it or not. you want to be like them you feel that you have finally found your peace! dressed me as a boy, and therefore I was so - Most of the children your age are very could never do what they did, live in their *Deja Nicole Greenlaw is a local cialized as a boy. happy with these changes but you are not. true gender. It is the very essence of who transwoman who has 3 grown children and At first you just accept your parents’ take All the while this confusion is rapidly grow - you are, but you do not believe that you works at 3M. She can be contacted at de - on your gender, after all, you are dressed ing and it occupies a huge part of your time. could do it. You do not believe in yourself. [email protected]. like all the others of your assigned gender. Ask a Transwoman: The etiquette & power of names; how to handle uncomfortable situations By: Lorelei Erisis*/ TRT Columnist Unfortunately, this is something that most cheese …”) still makes me twitch when I ning, I’ll generally give the well-intentioned Hi Lorelei, trans people have to deal with more than hear it, and surprisingly for such a simple, ones a couple of passes before I speak up. I had this happen to me we’d like to. In fact, it is something I have short name, no one could ever get it right. I Then, whenever they use the wrong name, I

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tuve la oportunidad de trabajar para Le doy gracias al alcalde [Menino] por esta bella ciudad. Gracias a su liderazgo la Ciudad de Boston unos años atrás podemos tener orgullo de todas nuestras co- N y para este increíble hombre y munidades en la ciudad de Boston. I su liderazgo y por apoyar iniciativas y político. También tuve la oportunidad Al alcalde le quiero decir gracias y debe- T de trabajar con él y su personal al or- mos celebrar su liderazgo como aliado a posiciones para la comunidad LGBT . nuestra comunidad LGBT. Por supuesto que A ganizar las actividades de Orgullo de Boston y Orgullo Latino. Le doy gra- él no fue perfecto, pero ¿qué alcalde es per- L cias a él por muchas cosas, entre ellas Menino siempre tomó posiciones de in - fecto/a, y que político cumple con todo lo por tener un personal tan increíble que ahora que promete? Nadie. ¡Gracias Alcalde puedo llamar amigos. Menino por todo! Trabajé para su administración en la clusión … ¡gracias! Gracias por tomar posiciones que no son Comisión de Salud Publica de Boston como populares todo el tiempo pero que son nece- el director de la oficina y asuntos de salud sarias para una total igualdad. Se que en los para la comunidad LGBT; aprendí tanto de próximos nueve meses podemos contar con esta experiencia y pude trabajar con per- policía. Le doy gracias al alcalde por su lid- parada homofóbica de South Boston en el su apoyo y que todavía va a hacer mucho por sonas increíbles como John A. Roger, erazgo y por apoyar iniciativas y posiciones día de San Patricio. ¡Gracias! nuestra comunidad y ciudad. A los/as líderes Odessa, Rita, Hortensia, y tantos/as otros/as para la comunidad LGBT. Es el primer al- Menino también fue el alcalde que par- que quieran esta posición van a tener que que dejaron sus marcas en mi para toda una calde en una ciudad cosmopolita donde ex- ticipó activamente (siempre) para hablar a llenar un espacio grande y aprender de todos vida. ¡Le doy gracias al Alcalde por apoyar isten estas tres posiciones y es el primer favor de beneficios iguales para todos/as en los años de liderazgo de nuestro Alcalde esta Comisión y escoger a un Comisionado alcalde que apoyó pólizas de inclusión para nuestra comunidad; él incluyó a la comu- Menino. Va a ser una campaña interesante. y líderes en el campo de salud publica tan la comunidad Transgénero. nidad gay en su personal de empleo, en las ¡Gracias Alcalde Menino, alcalde del increíble! ¡Gracias Alcalde Menino! Menino siempre tomó posiciones de in- pólizas, en sus discursos, y en el gobierno pueblo, y lo veo en la Parada de Orgullo en Durante esta experiencia conocí a dos clusión… ¡gracias! de Boston. Fue el alcalde que dejó izar la Junio para darle las gracias en persona!

Sin-Sinner from page 2 Pregúntale a Lambda Legal: La reforma migratoria - Un asunto LGBT Just as any movement in American history, Por: Por: Iván Espinoza-Madrigal/ Abogad0 personas transgénero, personas no apegadas a las investigaciones y a resolver crímenes. one day we will be equal, whether it is a los estereotipos de género y personas que Este tipo de temor y el ocultar hechos trae through a Supreme Court ruling or an exec - P. ¿Por qué trabajan los utive order by the President’s administration, grupos LGBT en asun - viven con el VIH huyen a EEUU para es - consigo un alto número de riegos a la seguri - capar de varias formas de persecución. dad pública para comunidades enteras. as it was through the Emancipation Procla - tos de inmigración y mation. Although the Constitutionality of qué tiene que ver el re - Muchas de estas víctimas dependen del am - La amenaza de deportación también crea DOMA is currently under review by the ciente debate de la re - paro que les ofrecen nuestras leyes migrato - peligros para la salud pública. Las personas Supreme Court, it is my hope that the Jus - forma migratoria con rias de asilo político. sin documentos a menudo tienen miedo de tices also consider the historical context of los derechos de per - La reforma migratoria debe crear una vía buscar tratamiento médico en los hospitales. its construction. Following the Constitution sonas y familias LGBT? a la legalización y a la ciudadanía esta - Esto presenta una barrera significativa para as originally transcribed has proven to be er - R. Nosotros a menudo dounidense. Se aproxima que actualmente contrarrestar la epidemia del VIH ya que el roneous and dangerous. Groups like women escuchamos que nuestro hay más de 418,000 inmigrantes indocu - acceso a la prueba de VIH y el tratamiento and African Americans would still not be sistema de inmigración está roto. Pero pocas mentados lésbico, gay, bisexual y trans - son pautas importantes en esta lucha. De freed people, as it was declared so many personas comprenden cómo este sistema years ago. daña desproporcionadamente a muchas per - * Nicole Lashomb, TRT’s editor, holds an sonas LGBT y a personas que viven con el MBA from Marylhurst University and a VIH. Ahora que se consideran propuestas Siendo así, la ley migratoria ha re - Bachelor’s from SUNY Potsdam. Reach her para revisar y reparar el sistema de inmi - at: [email protected] gración, se deben incluir una serie de pro - conocido que al cónyuge extranjero tecciones cruciales que necesitarán las personas de la comunidad LGBT y las per - de un ciudadano/a de EEUU debe sonas que están viviendo con el VIH. ¡Anúnciate en la Por ejemplo, el fortalecimiento de la Guía de Orgullo de unidad familiar ha sido un principio funda - proveérsele amparo por las leyes de mental y bien establecido por la política mi - Boston/Boston Pride gratoria. La unidad familiar y las redes de inmigración . apoyo que éstas generan, contribuyen a una comunidad más estable y una sociedad más The Rainbow Times fue el saludable. Siendo así, la ley migratoria ha género en los EEUU. Sin esta vía, estos esta forma, abriendo un vía a la legalización Patrocinador Oficial de inmigrantes LGBT se quedarán atrapados en y ciudadanía estadounidense, beneficia a reconocido que al cónyuge extranjero de un Boston Pride, Latino ciudadano/a de EEUU debe proveérsele am - un “doble clóset”—con miedo de revelar su cada norteamericano sin importar la ori - paro por las leyes de inmigración. Sin tal orientación sexual o identidad de género, y entación sexual, identidad de género, estatus Pride, NAGLY, HBGC, y ayuda, las familias pueden ser separadas de - también atemorizados de revelar su estatus de inmigración o estatus de VIH. otros eventos a través de spiadadamente. Muchas personas LGBT migratorio. La amenaza de deportación tam - Si crees que has sido discriminado/a todo el año 2012. sufren esta pesadilla ya que a las parejas bi - bién trae riesgos de seguridad pública, ya basado en tu orientación sexual, identidad nacionales del mismo sexo se les niegan que se ha reconocido que los inmigrantes de género o estatus de VIH, por favor llama ¡Reserva tu anuncio para la Guía estas protecciones. Una reforma migratoria son más vulnerables a ser víctimas de vio - a nuestra línea de ayuda en 1-866-542-8336 de Boston Pride Rápidito! integral debe promover y proteger la unidad lencia. Las víctimas indocumentadas de dis - o visita lambdalegal.org/es/linea-de-ayuda/. familiar al reconocer los derechos de estas criminación y de crímenes de odio a menudo Si desea leer este artículo en inglés visite parejas. se encuentran sin resolución porque son el portal del periódico en la Internet al: También, la reforma migratoria debe ser renuentes a buscar justicia por temor de ser www.therainbowtimesmass.com y haga una ilustrada por las experiencias de los inmi - arrestados y deportados. Así mismo, los tes - búsqueda con las palabras “Lambda Legal ” 617-444-9618 grantes especialmente vulnerables. Muchas tigos sin documentos también dudan ayudar y conseguirá éste y otros artículos en inglés. 12 • The Rainbow Times • TheRainbowTimesMass.com April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 Knockout DOMA from page 7 marriages would still not be recognized in ClimACTS! is uniquely FUN because it con - many states. As a result, if you travel or stantly explores new venues and themes. Since daily lives” as a result of DOMA and he move to a state where same-sex marriages the fabulous Liz Page and Joan Parker created Cli - questioned Congress’ authority to pass such aren't recognized, you could still be at risk. mACTS! in 2001, it’s been the hottest queer ben - a broad law. If Kennedy does side with the Therefore, I would still advise same-sex cou - eﬁt in Boston. This year's theme was UNBOUND four liberal justices, who all seemed poised ples to engage in estate planning with an at - and included live performances by Sherry Vine, to strike down DOMA, then we could see the torney who is experienced in DOMA and Cazwell, and comedienne Marga Gomez. The end of this law and the beginning of federal LGBT family law issues. Health care prox - Theater Oﬀensive raised over $100K to expand its recognition for same-sex marriages. This ies, powers of attorney and second-parent youth leadership and development program, True would not allow same-sex marriages in adoptions may still be advisable, even if Sec - Colors: Out Youth Theater. states where it is currently prohibited, nor tion 3 of DOMA is struck down. Therefore, would it necessarily require those states to you should consult with an attorney to dis - recognize marriages from other states where cuss these issues if you are in a same-sex it is legal (unless the court’s language is marriage. broad and addresses the equal protection ar - It is clear that this is a historic opportunity guments). for the Supreme Court to address the history If Section 3 of DOMA is struck down by of discrimination and inequality faced by the Supreme Court, how will it affect LGBT Americans. “Marriage is a vital social those in same-sex marriages where it is institution,” wrote Chief Justice Margaret H. recognized by the state (as in Massachu - Marshall in the Goodridge v. Department of setts, New York and Connecticut)? It Public Health decision (which legalized would finally allow same-sex couples in same-sex marriages in Massachusetts). “The legal marriages to be treated equally with re - PHO exclusive commitment of two individuals to TOS: STE : BO spect to social security, taxes, health insur - each other nurtures love and mutual support; EPHA SGUY NIE Y.COM ance, immigration and over 1,100 federal LAFO M & it brings stability to our society.” The “mar - RTE benefits and programs which are marriage- riage ban” the court held, “works a deep and based. These couples would be able to re - scarring hardship” on same-sex families “for ceive a social security benefit if one spouse no rational reason.” In both Hollingsworth Mayor Menino from Page 3 ity of drug treatment programs. He also passed away. They could be able to inherit and Windsor, the Supreme Court has an op - pushed to implement a needle exchange pro - from a spouse without estate taxes being ap - portunity to affirm the dignity and equality “In the mid-1980s, during the darkest days gram in the city.” plied. They could sponsor a same-sex fiancé of all individuals, and to halt the perception of the AIDS epidemic, City Councilor According to Haag, the Mayor event for a visa to the United States and sponsor of LGBT individuals and relationships as Menino advocated employing 24 full-time helped raise money for a liver transplant for him or her for lawful permanent residency, “second-class.” outreach workers in the city of Boston to ed - one of AIDS Action Committee’s employees, allowing them to live in the United States to - *Bernadette Stark is an attorney who prac - ucate intravenous drug users about the risk Belynda Dunn, when her health insurer de - gether. There are hundreds of ways families tices in Family Law/Domestic Relations with of AIDS,” Haag said. “This was cutting edge nied payment for the transplant due to her would benefit financially and otherwise with a concentration in LGBT issues. She is a public policy at the time. He also insisted on HIV positive status. the repeal of Section 3 of DOMA. Unfortu - founder and partner at the law firm of Dins - two community health vans to be deployed In a recent interview with WBUR Boston’s nately, LGBT families would still have to en - more Stark, Attorneys at Law, which has a to at-risk neighborhoods to provide general NPR, the mayor said he would “stay very en - gage in extra legal planning if the Court does principal office in Northampton, Massachu - health education as well as AIDS prevention gaged in Boston’s future,” after leaving of - not adopt the equal protection arguments re - setts. She can be reached at 413-341-3639 information and on increasing the availabil - fice, but did not give specific details. garding gays and lesbians because same-sex or [email protected]. April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 TheRainbowTimesMass.com • The Rainbow Times • 13 Sara Gilbert, Elton John, another Yves Saint Laurent Documentary, more

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Pope Francis from Page 2 marriage equality. Added to this shift, is Op-ed: Obama, Clinton, & Gay Marriage As noted, the pope has the benefit of being the increasing number of non-Catholic de - nominations celebrating the sacrament of By: Keegan O’Brien/ Special to TRT a Jesuit, an order that loves learning and campaign contributions, and further build knowledge. Its rigorous educational stan - marriage for same gender couples. A few weeks ago, former Secretary of State support for U.S. austerity and militarism is dards are some of the best. Jesuits teach stu - Although significant change regarding the Hillary Clinton released a video political opportunism, plain and simple. The dents to think, not parrot information all too church’s position on certain LGBTQ rights (http://tiny.cc/97htuw ) officially announcing reason why politicians have recently come is unlikely, the new pope may realize Rome out in favor of same sex marriage is a direct common in public and private education. her support for same sex marriage, shortly Some have described Francis as a re - must quietly re-think some of its positions. after her husband ( http://tiny.cc/ubituw ) and result of the enormous pressure and organiz - Otherwise, history and other Christian de - former President Bill Clinton did as well, and ing placed on the political establishment by former expecting him to crack open the door LGBTQ activists. to support LGBTQ civil and human rights. nominations will make Rome increasingly just months after Obama ( http://tiny.cc/ui - irrelevant. Perhaps Pope Francis will plant ituw ). The same week several prominent Unfortunately, most in the LGBT political He is a reformer as it pertains to shaking up GOP figures ( http://tiny.cc/vjituw ) also an - establishment have been unwilling to criticize the byzantine, cloak and dagger Vatican bu - seeds, which will enable the Vatican to an - nounced their support for marriage equality. Obama, Clinton or much of the Democratic reaucracy. The pope will be a managerial nounce someday a blessing ceremony, dis - This all occurred only a week before the Party and their tremendous gap between rhet - and administrative reformer, not a doctrinal tinguished from marriage, for same gender Supreme Court is scheduled to hear historic oric and action. No one at the Human Rights one. His top priority is dealing with bureau - couples. It will not be perfect or complete cases challenging Prop 8. and the Federal De - Campaign has found it necessary to ask tough cratic inertia, corruption and institutional in - justice and it will be delayed justice, but still fense of Marriage Act (DOMA), in which the questions; why in a matter of months can the competence, not LGBTQ rights. progress. Obama Administration has publicly come out Obama Administration carry out an occupa - At the same time, he is a street-savvy on the side of LGBTQ rights. tion in Afghanistan ( http://tiny.cc/6lituw ) and man who cannot avoid the worldwide shift *Paul is an author, attorney, and a semi - Compared to President Bill Clinton’s sign - spend billions of tax payer dollars to bail out on LGBTQ civil and human rights. This nary trained, ordained priest in greater Al - ing of DOMA and ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ Wall St. ( http://tiny.cc/8mituw ), but can’t find includes South America and his native Ar - bany, NY. He recently authored “Lost Sense and Bush’s attempt to pass a constitutional the time or energy to prioritize passing an all gentina where Catholicism thrives. In ad - of Self & the Ethics Crisis – Learn to Live amendment banning same sex marriage, inclusive Employment Non-Discrimination dition, the latest poll in the United States and Work Ethically,” and is founder of politician’s support for basic civil rights — Act (ENDA)? Kind words are appreciated, indicates over half of all Catholics support www.CorporateChaplaincy.biz.” such as marriage equality — is an enormous but when in 29 states ( http://tiny.cc/3nituw ) it advancement for our community. Any time is completely legal to be fired or not hired due dance, Uniting American Families Act, inclusive of political figures recognize our humanity and to your perceived or known sexual orienta - Immigration from Page 2 many of same-sex partners, we all must remember to advocate the simple idea that we should be tion, in 37 states for gender identity or expres - whom were youth. The co-director of the Na - keep the inclusion of siblings and adult chil - treated with respect and dignity, it is wel - sion, and 37 states have passed constitutional tional Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance dren as sponsors for citizenship. Mainstream comed. And, if the Supreme Court rules in amendments banning same sex marriage, ac - (NQAPIA), Ben de Guzman, was one of the LGBT groups need to work in coalition and favor of equality this week, that will be his - tions speak louder then words. speakers that evening. In a recent Huffington listen to the needs of all LGBTQ people im - toric break through in the long struggle for You wouldn’t know this by watching CNN Post article, de Guzman wrote a reflection on pacted by immigration so as not to fight for justice. or listening to anyone in the Obama Admin - a study examining the realities of LGBT im - some at the expense of others. That said, we deserve — and should de - istration most of the time, but there is an epi - migrants. In the article he states, “Some of the The conversation around “enforcement” mand — much more then rhetorical support demic of LGBTQ youth homelessness and key findings reveal that the actual number of begs a much larger question of who, how and from political figures. There’s nothing brave suicide. LGBT undocumented people in the U.S. are why people are being targeted for arrest, ha - or groundbreaking about politicians embrac - Read the rest of this story at: disproportionately younger and Asian than rassment, violence and deportation. An im - ing same-sex marriage well after a majority http://tiny.cc/hrituw the overall undocumented population. The mediate moratorium on deportations is a of the populations support it. Coming out in percentage of Asian, LGBT moral requirement for any authentic immi - support of marriage equality to gain votes, undocumented immigrants gration justice to be possible. Private corpo - is significantly larger than rations must be removed from the TOP 10 BEST SELLER VIDEOS that of our straight counter - conversation, specifically the Corrections Courtesy: WolfeVideo.com parts. We are 15 percent of Corporation of America and Geo Group, as the LGBT undocumented they continue to be financially invested in immigrant population, as locking people up. We must stop the president LESBIAN TOP 10 opposed to 11 percent of all from allowing drones to surveil the border of undocumented immigrants.” Mexico. We need to have a conversation 1. Strange Frame The work of NQAPIA is about white supremacy. The long list of anti- 2. Face 2 Face an important reminder that immigrant legislation in the United States 3. Mosquita y Mari while Latin@ people are began with the Chinese Exclusion Act in constantly the public face of 1882, included the racist named Operation 4. A Perfect Ending immigration, our approach Wetback in 1954 under President Eisenhower 5. Nicole Conn Romance 4- to justice needs to acknowl - to attack Mexican immigrants, and continues Pack edge the realities of all im - today fueled by white power structures' inten - migrants. During the event, tion to maintain power and domination. 6. Bob's New Suit de Guzman told attendees As we engage this debate as LGBTQ peo - 7. 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The Wise Kids 5. Yossi 6. Morgan 7. What Happens Next 8. Gayby 9. Keep the Lights On 10. The Men Next Door April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013 TheRainbowTimesMass.com • The Rainbow Times • 15 To cook is to love: A foodie’s journal; too much salt intake The OutField: Jarod Bormann By: John Verlinden*/ Special to TRT reaking R ! E news: New W

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But on campus visits, he real - health are well established as scientific fact. cooking process, not after or on top. Experi - ized those colleges were just larger versions Our bodies need it to function properly – ment by reducing the salt in your favorite of high school. He wanted something dif - Jarod Bormann sodium maintains fluid balance and it keeps recipes and spice them up with peppers and ferent. If he’s there, you have to respect him.” muscles strong and nerves firing properly. But, herbs. Substitute sea salt or salt sense for table So Bormann headed off to Iowa State. He Bormann knows of no openly gay too much sodium can lead to fluid retention salt – they are both real salt with real salt fla - was not good enough to wrestle there. But wrestlers. He thinks that, in such a “testos - and raise blood pressure, and over the longer vor, but because the salt crystals are larger and the 31,000-student school in Ames—2 ½ terone-driven” sport, coming out would be term, to hypertension, kidney and heart dis - lighter, the amount of sodium per teaspoon can hours from home—was exactly what he very hard. (Last year, in the state high ease. be up to a third less. was searching for. school tournament, a heavily favored Most of us know that moderating salt con - Until next time – ¡Mucho Gusto!, ¡Muchas “I met all kinds of different people there,” wrestler forfeited rather than compete sumption is in the best interest of our long term Gracias! y ¡Buen Provecho! Bormann says. “I loved it. I no longer felt against a girl.) health, but how do we do it? It’s not simple, *Share your thoughts, ask a question or sug - secluded. I experienced a lot of things I And, he admits, “there’s a stigma that salt is in everything. And, it’s not the salt we gest a topic for a future article – contact me: never had before.” wrestling is a ‘gay sport’ – you know, ‘two use cooking at home or add at the table that’s [email protected] or visit www.mu - As part of his growth, he reconnected dudes in tights rolling around with each killing us. On average, we Americans get 75 chogusto.com and join our food forum. with his biological father. other.’” percent of our salt intake Bormann’s parents divorced when he was Once, he heard a student in a hallway call from packaged processed 3. In seventh grade, as part of a court-or - it exactly that. Bormann told the boy to foods and from the meals dered visitation hearing, Bormann learned knock it off. That night at practice, the we eat out at fast food out - his biological dad was gay. coach told his athletes, “Anyone who says lets and restaurants. While That was an intense moment. “Middle this is a ‘gay sport’ doesn’t have what it cutting back on the obvious school is a tough time for everyone,” Bor - takes to wrestle. They don’t have the dedi - offenders (chips, cheese mann notes. “Then, when the therapist said, cation, work and passion that puffs, pretzels and salted ‘Your dad is gay’ and added, ‘We don’t you do. So that’s why they try to put it peanuts) can help, much of know if it’s hereditary,’ I kind of stopped lis - down.” He emphasized that “gay” should the sodium we consume is tening to the rest. I’d always found girls at - never be used as a slur. hidden in other ready to eat tractive, but I wondered if that meant I was By talking openly with his wrestlers, he processed foods including gay too.” says, “I hope they respect me more.” cereals, vegetable juices, Bormann never was angry that his father His openness extends to the media. In No - soups, canned vegetables, is gay, he says. He just wanted to have a vember, Des Moines television station deli meats, salad dressings, normal life with his friends, without worry - KDSM aired a series on LGBT youth. Bor - sauces, baked goods and ing about visitation with his grandparents. mann was cited as “an incredible ally, and more. (His father lives in Florida.) a role model for educators everywhere.” There are some simple But in college—spurred by his wife— “Students who are born that way, and who things we can do to reduce Bormann and his dad rebuilt their relation - put themselves out there, are very mature,” sodium in our diets. ship. Bormann says. “As an adult, I should be • Make fresh and frozen “When I visited him, and saw him with mature enough to support them.” fruits and vegetables a big - his partner and the way they interacted, I re - Bormann said that he has three children. alized they’re just like any other couple,” His youngest is 4 ½. “If one of them real - Bormann says. They talked about shared in - izes he is born gay—and he’s brave enough terests—technology, videography—and to talk about it—I’d want any adult to stand Bormann realized “who I came from.” He up for him.” is now, he says, “much happier as a person.” The response was overwhelmingly posi - Bormann’s respect for his father has in - tive. Former athletes and the parents of cur - fluenced him as a high school and middle rent students emailed him. Some thanked school English teacher, in tiny Elkader, him in person. One said, “I’m proud my Iowa. It’s also influenced him as a wrestling kids go to Central.” coach. Central Community School no Bormann did not hear one negative com - longer has a high school squad—the num - ment—from a parent, a student or an ath - bers are too low —so Bormann coaches lete. middle school and youth teams. On and off the mat, that silence speaks Whenever he can, Bormann talks with his volumes. team about respect. He does not necessarily cast it in specifi - * Dan Woog is a journalist, educator, soc - cally gay terms, but his intent is clear. cer coach and gay activist. His latest book “You have to respect anyone who is will - is “We Kick Balls: True Stories from the ing to go toe to toe with you on the mat,” Youth Soccer Wars.” He can be reached via Bormann explains. “It doesn’t matter who his e-mail at: [email protected]. that person is, or what he does off the mat. 16 • The Rainbow Times • TheRainbowTimesMass.com April 4, 2013 - May 1, 2013