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Bulletin VOl.70, NO. 3 | ADAR 5781 • MARCh 2021 | WWW.BEth-tzEDEC.ORG Happy Passover! In this Issue Special Events Searching for My Voice Word Premiere 1 OPENS MARCH # See p. 2 Pesah Katan for Families ˙ 2 MARCH ! See p. 13 Our People are Your People with Prof. Stephen Berk 3 APRIL " Spring Program Guide 2021 Countdown to Passover See back cover See p. 22 See p. 32 “I Am My Beloved’s and My Beloved is Mine”: Officiating at Same-Sex Weddings My journey to this There is a tradition to recite Shir is a celebration of Jody and my growing Hashirim, the Song of Songs, during partnership. (I like to kid Ani L’Jody, moment has been Passover. Why do we do this? Some v’Jody li.) have suggested that spring is the link. As a rabbi, one of the most fulfilling long, thoughtful Passover occurs in the spring, when things I do is working with couples in the green returns, the sun shines and preparing them for their special day, and enriched by life is renewed. The Song of Songs is and more importantly, for their lives about young love—it too has a sense of together as rey’im ahuvim, loving experience. renewal, of the future. companions. Every time I stand under Even more controversial is how the the huppah with a couple, I see the love ˙ Song of Songs was codified into the in their faces and the joy they and their Bible. Like Esther, the book contains no families share at this moment of overt mention of God. And unlike the celebration and covenantal commitment. other books of the Bible, it is love poetry, Shir Hashirim is the logical liturgical at times sensuous and erotic. The Song choice. contains neither the subject matter nor In 2006 the Conservative Movement, is it written in the style of the rest of after years of learning and debate, took the Bible. So what is it doing here? a major step toward permitting the Rabbi Akiva famously argued that while normalization of the LGBTQ+ community all of the books of the Bible are holy, within Jewish life. This decision was Shir Hashirim is the “holy of holies!” based on the principle of Kavod The commentaries state that Rabbi Habriut, the honour/dignity of all of Akiva understood the Song as an God’s creation, articulated in a allegory for the love of God and Israel. teshuvah (responsa) accepted by the Just as the unnamed man and woman Rabbinical Assembly’s Committee on pursue each other through fields and Jewish Law and Standards (CJLS) and valleys, so too do Israel and God pursue written by Rabbis Elliot Dorff, Daniel each other through history. The love of Nevins and Avi Reisner. This acceptance one for the other—whether human love led to the admission of LGBTQ+ or divine love—brings a life of bliss. community members to the rabbinical schools of the Conservative Movement The beautiful imagery of love in the and more. It did not allow for Jewish Song reminds us of our own memories marriage for same-sex partners and it of love’s magic—the twinkle in the eye, maintained the biblical prohibition of the skip in the step and the longing to sexual intimacy between gay men. spend every moment together. No wonder “Ani l’dodi v’dodo li, I am my A dissenting opinion authored by Rabbi beloved and my beloved is mine” (2:16) Gordon Tucker, entitled “Halakhic and is often recited under the huppah. It is Metahalakhic Arguments Concerning ˙ an expression of our anticipation of a Judaism and Homosexuality” was also life of loving partnership. discussed. When I read the opinions and debate from 2006 today, I am I still remember my own wedding day convinced that Rabbi Tucker’s in vivid detail; feeling elated, excited approach is the more authentic and and very much in love. Twenty-eight rational approach to normalizing and a half years later, each anniversary COMMENtARY Rabbi Steven Wernick | ADAR 5781 • MARCh 2021 3 LGBTQ+ people in Jewish life. I am not alone in making this determination, as many rabbis in our movement are relying on Rabbi Tucker’s opinion to BEth tzEDEC BullEtIN | Spring officiate at same-sex weddings and other halakhic innovations.1 VOl. 70, NO. 3 | ADAR 5781 • MARCh 2021 At Beth Tzedec, we too value Kavod Habriut. For many years we have Beth Tzedec Congregation worked to be more welcoming of LGBTQ+ Jews to our synagogue through 1700 Bathurst Street, Toronto, Ontario Canada M5P 3K3 sponsorship of, and participation in, Pride Shabbat, Pride Month and Tel 416-781-3511 / Fax 416-781-0150 other programs. We’ve also welcomed same sex couples to celebrate b’nei www.beth-tzedec.org mitzvah, baby namings and brit milah with us. And we have seen to the pastoral care of everyone in our community without regard to gender, President Debbie Rothstein sexual identity, colour, age or ability. [email protected] In our research to formulate our Strategic Plan of 2017, you told us that it Chair of the Board Bernie Gropper was important that the synagogue work to be even more inclusive. [email protected] Toward that end, our Board of Directors formed a task force for LGBTQ+ Rabbi Steven C. Wernick, Anne and Max inclusion that reviewed our policies, forms and culture to make Tanenbaum Senior Rabbinic Chair recommendations on how we could do that. We partnered with Keshet to ext. 218, [email protected] update our documents and to train our staff and Board in strategies for Associate Rabbi Robyn Fryer Bodzin welcoming. That training is ongoing. ext. 219, [email protected] Cantor Sidney Ezer Our LGBTQ Task Force also identified that having our rabbis officiate at ext. 296, [email protected] same-sex weddings is a necessary and imperative step to becoming a fully Ritual Director Lorne Hanick welcoming community. This is a step that we are proud to announce we ext. 240, [email protected] are taking today, after consultation and study with our Ritual Committee, Director of Community Building & Executive Committee and with the unanimous support of our Board of Spiritual Engagement Yacov Fruchter Directors. ext. 279, [email protected] We will be offering a number of educational opportunities in the spring Executive Director Randy E. Spiegel for our members to learn why we believe this decision is so important, ext. 211, [email protected] why we are excited to make it, on what halakhic basis it is made and why Director of Education & Programming Coordinator it matters so much to those who are most directly impacted. We are Daniel Silverman ext. 231, [email protected] pleased to have invited Rabbi Tucker to teach his teshuvah to us, and we hope that you join us for these sessions in March. Director of Youth Engagement Shirel Barkan ext. 290, [email protected] We know that some may find this particular change challenging, and we Teen En gagement Associate Sylvie Moscovitz are happy to sit with you to discuss those feelings—change is always hard. ext. 246, [email protected] Though Rabbi Fryer Bodzin has previously officiated at same-sex Receptionist Avital Narvey weddings, I have not yet done so. My journey to this moment has been 416-781-3511, [email protected] long, thoughtful and enriched by experience. Or if you prefer, please Executive Assistant & Events Coordinator reach out to us privately. We welcome every opportunity to discuss this Florence Bendelac with you. ext. 213, [email protected] As spring approaches, as we celebrate Passover and our redemption from Manager of Marketing & Communications Linda Marleny Dow slavery to freedom, as we renew our sacred covenant with God, as we ext. 281, [email protected] recite Shir Hashirim, we look forward to celebrating the many rey’im ahuvim, loving partnerships, that will flourish under the huppah in the Production Manager Terri Humphries ˙ ext. 212, [email protected] months ahead, including those of the LGBTQ+ community. As is the Member Engagement & Development custom for everyone who attends a wedding, let’s say mazal tov! Klara Romm ext. 220, [email protected] Museum Curator Dorion Liebgott 1 ext. 232, [email protected] Each rabbi of a community is an independent mara d’atra, decisor of Jewish Law. One can use the CJLS for guidance, but one is not bound to hold by its decisions unless they become To contribute your news, congratulations, member updates or other listings, send an a Standard of Rabbinic Practice, of which there are only two. As mara d’atra of Beth Tzedec, email to [email protected], call the Senior Rabbi is free to hold by any teshuvah they see fit, with consultation, for their 416-781-3514, ext. 212 or fax 416-781-0150. community whether accepted by the CJLS or not, written by another rabbi or written by themselves. 4 ADAR 5781 • MARCh 2021 | CONtINuED Rabbi Steven Wernick ADAR 5781 • MARCh 2021 5 Community in a Crisis I have belonged to Beth Tzedec for my And since COVID-19 began, the entire life. Beth Tzedec is literally my Kiddush Club L’Chaim every Friday has second home, having grown up in its been my lifeline, touching me with halls and, until COVID-19, having spent stories and wisdom from across our an inordinate amount of time in the kehillah. It allows me to come into building. Shabbat on a spiritual high, even when We will continue to While one’s shul can represent many that felt impossible.