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A2 nor we w be. VVDVURI far enadvig- ee* LETfCRS TO TMS eMTOKE pttoe^ iMrtMMn InvrfvuHi-. Vv^ TCtCKve the ff^^Sc tt> edkSsT specemtf dvl^. vVt BtawBtpNS'Contlnftied-fcaaii p* I s 10 to nine margin in the County Lsfisb- and «Hhir caMribudnf fUipMbtestiiesders persuaded him to nijein ture. entfing ovar 8 00 years of Republican thsip own. Md d» not SfejMtMdidsetfie tha Htif^ die ^90s. Stewart wlio is a csr control, and also endk^ tba bfeddng cf pro-gay inWadvas bodi at tike kKal leval and ortK»G«M»M^^a«p«rdMCnv^aoMt wedteetythctSdiddM dsslar; sbo served fer sm, years on the ectives in Albany, judty Jacobs, main sponsor of W« «rill print iMttrett dfeteObr^ dfacra- PIsctsburgh City Coundl, and was ms/or tk»»Jo»s«>iiiiJ mtifhhk^kmmWm^em tTf AdMtfcAve^ pro tam fram 1996 to'1998. councy and-discriminaiion laws Including viewpoints that matter noc pfWK p^nofwi Nri4ia7.i25S Stewart said. The Republkan iVty has saxual orientation discrimination, is stated charged dramatjcany. Ifyou look at 1^^ to t>ecome majortcy leader of the Lcgisia* *92 and then at l996-*96, die more radical tui:e. •s;. iiii!|ga elements of tha party have suffiered Homophoiiia played a role in at least two # ^ lo«s*k Even the frontrunning candldatas, races lost l>y gay candidates* Judy Crete's • LOGALAND STATE NEWS Ftx>nn NcCain and Bush, ars more open to pys. campaign-was shackled when a^e defeated Budianan has left the party andis now vykh fhaiocal Democratic party cantKdata in the kind donations. For more information on kid in every school, etc. People pretty much Referm. In the last Congressional Section primary^ and the l^srty '"essentially alnn*^ sponsoring xhe event or buying tickets, calf have that information now and where we Hostile climate bec^ has hclpcdf mc bdcbtne a better film Thanks and adieu year, 33 parcmit of gays voted for the doned her,** as the PHde Agenda put it. tiie GAGV at 244-8640. ^ink our focus needs to be is with the prognmmer and, in. ruid» be^^ shape the Republicans. Up here I know so many Pride Agenda Executive Director Matt Fore­ All proceeds raised at the Sweetheart Ball highest risk population, whlcj^h certainly in­ from Chris Russo festival into what itis todsy. Oneof the most registered Republicans vt^ are gay. This man s^, "We are disgusted and appalled go direcdy to supporting the many programs dudes the gay community." en|oysble sspects of my ^ hss been to per- To the Editon question d^t gay Republicans always re­ by the behavfer of Poughktepsle's Dento^ of the Gay Alliance such as the GaySource Silvestrone said that there will be a new sonsDy cAg^ige widi the audience during the As a long-time voiuncecr of ImagcOot, 1 ceive — 'How can you be gay and Repub­ cratic party organization. It was dear to me Info-line the Community Education Profect, focus on more specific infermation related festival "weefc atKl Usten to your thot^ts, am writing to express my unccfegtatxtnde to lican?* — is one cf the oldest lines and dwy didn't care If Judy won or lost." and the Strengthening Ourselves series of to helping people change risky beitaviors. opiniofts Sfid overall icspohse to thc work everyone in the community who hts made someerseK "the support groups and workshops. "k's not just passirig out condoms any more.^ programmed. I have come to know msny of enate Republicans led by thc homophobic Trent Lott have done away with the federal my six-year tenure as a film programmer for more. We (in the gay community) n^etH to proud mother of a ^y son," lost her bid to Michael Beatty said, "We're not going to you as not only audience members, but as hate crimes bill. This in spite of thc fact that a recent FBI report shows hate crimes on the festival one ofthe most rewarding expe­ -get more respect for each other whether become Orangetown Qeric After two sue* ARI says changes abandon our traditional outreach to com­ friends whose conversations i wili rniss very Sthe rise. Once again, radical conservatives are giving a green light to the haters and riences I fiavC ever had. we are Democratic or Republican. This cessful terms as a Republican ntember of munities. What you can expect to see are mtach. won't affect gay bashers. When it comes to queers, women, people of color, and minondes in general, diis is Over ttie years, IxnagtOut has intioduced political separation is ludicrous and has to the Orangetown Town Council, she was more innovative programs that will look at a It is with mixed emotions that I will be definitely not a kinder, gender America. tne to,some esttxordinary people who have stop." dropped by the local Republican Party, who comnriunity outreach holistic approach to LGBT health. Changing resigning firom ImageOuc, as I will be relocat­ been involved with die festival on various New York gay activists had also hoped objected to her involvement with the AIDS behaviors through a holistic model." People for the American Way issued their for some years now, and it is unlikely that Jerry ing at tiie beginning of the year. I want to wish By Susan Jordan levels. It hss been an honor to work along­ that Judy Green, an open lesbian and a service group Gods Love We Deliver, and Paula Silvestrone confirmed, "There will annual report. Hostile Climate, on Nov. 9. This Fahvell's recent meeting with Me! White will ImageOut all the best in continuing to be the Since four HIV/AIDS prevendon educators side the gtoup of extremely dedicated and Democrat, would win her race for mayor with PFLAG, saying that "she did not repre­ left AIDS Rochester on Nov. 9, rumors have be no substantial change in services provided sixth chronicle ofnationwidc anti-gay discrimi- do much, if anything, to change that. The stellar queer film venue that we have created enthusiastic individuals that make up thc of Poughkeepsie, but she lost by a J-2 sent Republican politics^" been circulating in the gay community that to the gay community in either prevention nation and violence describes almost 300 inci- Right will only cease its "holy war" against gay here in Rochester, and would also like to film festivd volunteer staff. I have made margin to Republican Conservative Colete Tim Sweeney of the Pride Agenda com­ ARI is cutting prevention education programs or client services." Michael Beatty added, dents in 47 states, more than twice as many as Americans when they are sute that it is losing encourage audience members and friends to were reported in the 1998 edition. New York them votes. Let's hope that this will continue some great firiends who have inspired me by Lafuente. a one-term incumbent. mented, "What the Republican Parcy did to in fovor of the more financially stable dient "We plan to move ahead even though there join the ImageOut organization. Ic may just be is not enough funding. Thc EU>ard remains has the dubious distinction of being the state to be the trend in the second tnillcnmum. their unwavering dedication to tbe politics Other victories for openly gay candi­ Eileen Larkin wai wrong, bigoted, and inex­ services program. The Empty Ooset spoke one of the most rewarding experiences of committed to that. We currentiy have two with the fourth-highest ranking on the list. Thosewho watched Ken Bums'documen- and promotion of lesbian atui gay represen­ dates in the Nov. 2 election include that of cusable" with ARi executive director Paula Silvestrone your Hfe as well. outreach vans. One is the red and white van Fiftcen incidents were reported here over the tary on Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady tation on the big screen. Jonathan Cooper, who won election to the -Empire State Pride Agenda: Tom and Associate Executive Director Michael Yours in Queer Fikn, which will continue to be around. Unfortu­ past 12 months. There were 31 in California Stanton in November will recall that it took 45 But it would not be the rewarding job that Suffolk County Lc^slature, defeating his McGeveran, The New Yotk fitode Beat^ about upcoming changes. Chtis Russo nately, it will be in the shop a lot. We have (where a gay male couple werc murdered in ^ears of introducing thc suffrage bill tn Con- it has been without thc members of the Republican opponent. Ken Stubbolo, by Ball continued from p* I Paul SHvesif one said that the agency has (Cbris RMSSO is reheating ttf Eos Angeies to ttvrk another that is too large for city streets that their home recendy by a rightwing terrorist); 18 gress before women were finally given thc commutiity. Whether you are hissing or ap­ 8,022 to 6,278 votes. The Conservative- been in a long-range planning process for the in tbe filtn ituiMStry and infiltrate ber q$$eerpolities in will be a special rate of $8 fer students and we hope to sell to provide a more utilitarian in Texas (where Gov. George W. Bush feels vote in 1920. It has been oniy 20-some years plauding daring the scr<:ening, or making Ri^t-to-Life candidate gained only 927. In past five months. "We have started aggres­ H0lfyte>ood We teisb ber aU tbe best) individuals on a limited income Tickets will van to provide client services." there is no need for hate crimes l^slatioh), nowthatgayNcwYorkert have been waiting suggestions or filing a complaint, your feed- the final week of the campaign, the Conner' sively addressing our fiscal concems," she go on sale the week of Jan. 16 at Parkleigh, and 17 in Florida. for any icind of gay rights protection, Tlie vative mounted a vidous homophobic at­ said "In the last five years of a Republican Referring to the departure of most of the Pride Connection. Outlarniish, and Silkwood Activists will hand-deliver copies of Hostile Bums documentary reminds us that 19th cen- tack on Cooper's "lifestyle,** calling it **thc administration (in Albany), we have recetved prevention educators, Silvestrone said, "We Books. There will be limited dinner/dance C/r>wtf/r to state legislators in J antsary, when the tury wonnen were regarded as property and opposite of the judeo-Christian family val­ only two minor increases in funding. So m had some recent turnover. Four people \eft On free speech, censorship and the tickets available and these tickets will no 2000 legislative sessions will begin. Let's hope had no legal rights, and that 19th century men ues/' Nonetheless. Cooper won the chird essence we're going backward — expenses and that's an unusual amounc to leave at longer be sold after Feb. 8. The $50 dinner/ that these legislators pay morc attention to the were not at all pleased with Susan B. Anthony*s ;^ Rochester Public Library highest number of votes of any candidate are growing faster than the govemment money once, but we see it as an opportunity to dance tickets and the $8 dance tickets will report than the Senate GOP in-crowd, who challenge to their traditional prerogatives, running for the County Legislature. He and ts coming in. There's one qualification, though, restructure the prevention program. The CITY n«wspap«r noCvd in its New. 10-16 issue that Ch« Roch«sCer Public onty be available through the GAGV. can be expected to ignore it. If westem culture has always seen women his partner are raising five adopted chil­ which is why people will see client services turnover does not affect ongoing services to XJktirwr/ has choaan to placa the Empty Closat and CITY In Cha outat- lobby of This year the Gay Alliance is offering The "homosexual panic" defense used by as subhuman objects, gay men (and the tnen of dren. continue to grow. The Medicaid portion of the gay community, except to make them Its flaw btiHdfng, fallowifi^ protests from "soma mambers of tha public" groups of eight a special opportunity to buy Aaron McKinney's lawyers at his recent trial colonized nations)have been seen as "fcmi- In New York City, Christine Quinn took clinet services continues to grow, so we can better." about tha content of this newspaper, 9xtd abcHit CITY*s cover of late October was a blatant attempt to blame Matthew nized" and therefore as having lost their male 89 percent of the vote in the race for New a group package which entitles the^ to a grow back part of the program. Our case Michael Beatty added, "We will be hiring a with the headana ''Dump Doyla**' The library then decided to place ^it» Shepard for provoking his own murder. Blam- (i.e. human) sutus. It may well take another 20 York City Council (District 3-Manhattan). reserved table of their choice, eight dinner/ managers are able to bill enough to Medicaid training specialist within the prevention de­ publications with their subversive content In the cHiter lobby, apparently to ing the victim is a traditional justification for years before society rejects thc traditional jus- Quinn had won a special election last Feb­ dance tickets at the $50 reduced rate, a for services they provide to their dients to partment. We've hired an associate director show thit the library does wo^ endorse aitliar gay rigfttts or €»pposition to our gay-bashing killings, comparable to the tradi- tifications for gay-bashing. Gloria Steinem ruary to fill the vacated Coundl seat of Tom bottle of champagne, and a listing of their pay for their salaries. That part ofour services of prevention services. She wilt be respon­ beloved County Executive. tional defense of rapists on thc grounds that has called the recent series of murders by Duane, who was elected to the state senate group in the program booklet. is the way things should be. The money will sible for the training end, that is, training Tlie Empty Closet does not understand why ti«e concems of titese anony*- trainers and marketing our services to the thc victim "asked for it." The defense implies straight white males "entidement killings." It in November 1998 as its first openly gay The Gay Alliance is also offering several grow to meet our needs. That's not true for mous "mernben of tha putyllc" take precedence over tha concerns of tiie gay community. We will have a training specialist thatit is still quite acceptabte for "real" men to is surely no coincidence that these shootings/ member. The fourth successful gay candi­ levels of sponsorship for indtviduals. At dte non-Medtcaid dients. We're dependent on in addition, whose responsibility will be to strike out and kill any male who makes a pass at beatings/bombings, which seem to occur al- comtfNinity, who 9Brm also membara of tha'puivlic date was John Sliields, who wss r«-elect«d $200 ($150 fer GAGV members) Sv/eet~ grants A'om New York Stata fer thac UnfartunatAly. it seems dtat the library administrBiion Is allowing itself to ba tieirt Sponsorship level, couples will re- develop specific trainings fer different popu­ them. it's lucky for heterosexual men that nK>st monthly now, usually target women, gay a Trustee of tiis village of fNiyack. **Currer>tty we're In the mklst of firudizing pusiied around by conservatlvas In a yrtmy inapipraprlata way. Since when does cehw two dinn»*/danctt tickets, 4x6 photo, lations of people, to provide in-depth, be- societydoesn'tcutthatkindofsiackforwomen rocn,JewB and people of color, Progressive candidates, and issues sup* the programmatic aspect of the plan, which a library "endorse** a cartabt pottttcal or other view simpiy by making tika one iorig-stem ros8t one sorig request* a haviorally based information about risk re­ who have experienced unwanted sexual ha- Eventually, attitudes will change -—sooner ported by the LGBT community aiso. won covers three years' time," Silvestrone said. materials available? The library stocks Das Ka^iiCal by Karl Narx. Does that persor^ message writen In the program duction, new information about HIV/AIDS, rassment-^—otherwise, there wouid be a straight if wc create a strong, united queer political in several areas. Eva Moskowitz won a ^'When we dki tiie fiscal planning we looked mean tite Monroe County Lttirary Systent endorses cemmunlsm? It has a booklet, and acknowle<%ement in ti)e March ^ including treatments, testing, etc. We will man lulled every five seconds. movement, later if we remain apolitical and deci«ve victory tn the Hanhatcm City Coun­ three years ahead and tfie Board 6ec\tied we copy of Main Kanipf by Adolf Hitter. Does that mean the Bbrary endoraas issue of The Empty Ooset At the $250 ($300 have a behavioral specialist, a new person Of course, it is unlikely that hate crimes firagmented (much later). But we have to be- cil race In Westchester County, the Demo­ needed to lay off some sttf There were four Nazism? Or is It |ust a problem of giveaway publications Oka CITY and the for GAGV menr^>ers) Valentine Sponeol^- wiiose rote will be to work one on one with would suddenly cease ifstate or federal protec- Heve that someday the bias of people like crats maintained their majority in the Leg­ people laid off, but two of those were par^ EC? It it not at aH clear wity the presence of ft«e tocal puMicattons kidlcadbas ship level, couples will recefve the above people Interested in dian^ng behaviors. This tions should ITC passed. That would be a step in Trent Lott will seem as wrong to society as the islature, virtually ensuring passage this lime workers* Two of the people laid off were endorsement wlien it would seam that spending motiey on mataHal rapra- plus an 8x10 photo irtstead of the smaller person will be the link with the dient ser­ the right direction, though, ifonly because the contetnpt showed by 19th century men for month of a rron-dtscrimination law and the admintstnitive and two were preventive edu- sents a much higher level of endorsement. photo, a bottle of champa^e and a box of vices department and will also provide HIV state and nation would be saying cleariy dhat Susan B. Anthony docs today, creadon ofa Human Rights Commission to catiors. The reason we diose prevention — Ironically, the EC and CiTY ara now mora vtelMa than they ware befbre Hie Gotiiva diocobces. counseling and testing. The ti)jrd new person hate violence will not be tolerated in our sod- Changing old assumptions and coding old enforce ic arid it ^vasn't an easy dioice — is tint in wttf be a prevention specialist, whose role move* Mayba we shouM thank the censors and thek Mends at the llochester There are also a rmmber of sponsorsiiip ety. Unfortunately, the Religious Right has hatreds is a long^kx^ process. Okangtng laws In Nassau County, long a Republican and prsvlotis years we used to do a lot of ^'even* PubBc Library. opportunities for btisinesses induding in^ sent a very diffeccnt and much louder mcssa^ to pcotect the victims of hatred shouldn't be. Conservative stronghold. 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N % prevalfcig In ft rynnoir dec^orT^ rece kMS than three weeks before the tiiey wM file a lawsuit unless die prindpal gives Zimbabwe gays fer Dec'l4. lie wouM become the first Nov. 2 elecdon as a write-in candlAte with a them die right to meet openfy|pymeyororam^brU5,city.The budpt oforily |2S,000. He came in second homosexual encounters McKinney had lied adverdslf^ campalgn.fay a Biro^^ tes- "Tiie RntAnmndmentghfes diese kkis ttie challenge Mugalie in childhood and as a taenagar had medehftn bivi ifot^ They chefttjirvge thoaiS'enObnv- Victory Fund made is endorsement with ahsMdlfenmirfi;^ Frenk Jordan and 12 rfgiit to meet and express dieIr Indtvldtoal a desrondersteMingQf Its mMones the oA|er«iBliii^^ Htfinbers of tiie ghMip Gays and Lesbiaiis of Kable to violent reactions ff someone mtde fcMtaUe vvliii UabiMnltm bf msAtk% hdm viewpoints. Every day of defay Is a day of rfghts only nedonei orgpnlndon fecused ex^ i3mbai>wed fadoi uiaCiotVi _ of tlie voce Acimiaifio forced tiie run-off. to secure their rights,** said Carole Shields, major U,S. dty« Tom Ammiano would Tile latest round of protests and repres­ ming law. Howev«-, Vo^ aHowed the de­ Tiie posters have been dtspbqntd in Ammfawo'lrcampelgft iias already fKed dis- presldentof People fer tiie American Way make iiistory fer our communhy and our sion was sparked in London on Oct. 30. fense to call two witnesses wiio said that Dublin, Cork. GaNvay. Limerick. BiettitSt crimlioderL Moac dissurbfr^. an anti -gay Foundation. counpy wiiile standing up for aH of San wiien menibers of the British ^y activist • NATIONALAND INTERNATIONAL NEWS Shepard was a **sexual predator.** and Derry, covering territory In bodi tiie deM diraec - Induding eerily deailed de- Accon^r^ to People for die American Way, Francisco's hard-working fimUMes. Tom group Outrage! attempted to carry out a Although Judge Voi^ had banned one northern and southem parts of tiie island. Sicrlpcfons of Arnmieno's usual wiiereabouts die sciiool officials'action vk>lates not only die pulled off a stunning grass-roots write-in citizens* arren of Mugabe who was in Lon­ aspect of a "homosexiAl panic" defense 'Offourbada ahd commucing hribto—was posted on the Rrst Amendment but also the federal Equal British gay Cainriilies McKinney ^ts two life eflbrt, and his election would buHd on die don on a private visit. observers were stunned when the defense kitemet on Nov. 10. Ammbno and tiHi'San Access Act, wiiich prohibits sdiool districts legacy of Marvey Milk,** said Gay and Three activists jumped on his car as it win legal status in terms for Shepard went ahead anyway wtth ^he attempt to Nigerian lesbians Francteco Police Department are taking tiie from discriminating agsinst secondary school Lesbian Vktory Fund Executive Director pulled away from his hotel. Group member place responsibility for his own murder onto threat seriou^ and stepping up security non-curricular dubs on die basis of tiie politi­ launch newsletter Peter Tatchell told Mugabe that he was relation to Rent Act killing; avoids death Brian K, Bond, refarrir^ to tiie late gay efferu, the Nov. 12 edition o^ the Exttrt^^er cal, philosopiilcai, religious or otiier view­ Shepard. Tfie Nigerian group Lesten Sisters ins San Frandsco supervisor wiio, along with reported. under arrest for torture, which is a crime Britain's gay ftunHies won a victory on On Nov. 3, Aaron MciCinney was found guihy 'To a targe d«^|ree dhis type of defense ins points expressed at dub meetings. In ackfition, launched a newsletter, (Anon/ Defbider. tile dty's mayor at tiie time, was slain t>y under intemational bw. The Outrage! mem­ Oct. 28 wtien the HcMise of Lords jucHdal of murdering Mattiiew Shepard, and on Nov. been exposed for wiiat k is, a ploy for putting "Tfie fact tiiat even In San Frandsco in Califomia recently amended its Education Ifrnoni is the tt>lbo word for "vaglne" an anti-gay colleague In 1978. ''Harvey bers were arrested, Ixit die action caused a panel, tiie highest level of Britain's Judicial 4 he was sentenced to two life terms in a gay victim on trial," said Jeffrey Montgom­ 1999, a gay candidate cannot run for mayor Code to make it unlawful to iiarass or dis­ There is aiso a godd«»s named Umani, Milk tau|^ us that, while having ^r- diplomatic stir. system, ruled tiiat a gay couple may fulfill piison. Some commentators said tiiat he had ery, spokesperson for tiie Nationai Coali­ witiiout his very life being threatened is a sad criminate against gay and lesbian students, or traditionally Invoked ythet\ a woman has minded friends in office is essential, we all In response the Mugabe administration tiie legal definition of fvnily as laid tlown in escaped the death penalty due to his "homo­ tion of Anti-Violence Programs, v4iich moni­ commentary indeed** noted Bond The bias- tiiose perceived to be so. been raped or when her sex organs have must have a place at the table of public has stepped up repression of gays. Two til* Rent Acc sexual panic"* defense, while others felt that tors anti-gay hate crimes. He said tfiat some motivated threat against Tom reminds us that The students first applied to meet after been verbally abused^ Umani is invoked to policy. Indeed, Supervisor Milk himself GALZ members charge that they were The 3-2 dedsion came in the case of the conviction sent a strong message against jurors may have concluded that Shepard we still have for to go until all Americans can sdiool in September. Although approval nor­ fight the abuser. said **lt is not enough to have fHends assaulted by drunken law enforcement Mariin Fitzpatrick, a gay man wiio had lived homophobic violence. made sexual advarKes toward McKinney, live free from discrimination.** mally occurs at che sdiool level, the high The newsletter takes a stand against represent us, no matter how good those agents on Oct. 31, and were t>lamed for the with his partner Joim Thompson fer over A jury in Laramie, Wyo. found McKJnney and tiiat this may have affected their dedson People wandng te find out more inferma­ school refused permission and passed on the female genital mutilation, and also sup­ friends may be. We must give people the London IrKident, wiiich they had not even 20 years. He sought to transfer the lease to guilty of fek»iy murder, kidnappii^ and aggra­ to find him not guilty of premedicited tion ai>out Tom Ammiano's mayoral bid can request to the school board. On Nov. 9 the ports Gloria Bassey, a woman who feught chance to judge us by our own leaders heard about at tiie time. One activist was the apartment he shared with Thompson vated robbery. Afcer consulting with the murder. However. Montgomery said, the visit his Web site at board held a pubiic forum to discuss the issue back against two rapists. Siie was ciiarged and our own legislators. forced to sign a fiilse confession of prostitu­ after the latter died in 1994. Tiie lease was defense and Matthew Shepard's parents, the jury probably chose to convict on tiie seri­ wvin^.ammiano4mayor.com; call his campaign at v^ich time the students were subjected to with attempted murder, but the court ^'Incumbent Mayor VVillie Brown has tion. in Fftzpatrick's name, and according to the court canceled xhe sentencing phase of the ous charge of felony murder because it did at (4! 5)503" 1529; or write to Tom Ammiano hostility and derision. Rather than accept the dismissed the charges. been a tremendously fair-minded leader GALZ plans to diallenge the arrest in British Rent Act, the lease could be trans­ trial, and McKinney accepted the automatic not believe that he should be let off the hook for Mayor, 3583 16th Street, San Francisco, club, as it must under federal iaw, the board To contact the newsletter, write to The and we have a great deal of respect for court. The courts, which are relatively inde­ ferred only to a member of Fitzpatrick's life sentence. for the vicious killing. "In the past, " Mont­ CA 94114. Please note tiiat contributions are put off a decision until sometime this month at Editor, Urt}Qni Defender c/o W.R.C., P.O. him and his supporters. But our mission pendent of the government, are aware tiiat fiamily. During the seven-day trial, the defense gomery said, "juries did excuse people fer limited to $250. the earifest. Box 3571. Calabar, Cross River State. to elect great openly gay and lesbian victims of polke harassment often sign false kl the majority dedsion,'Lord Justice lawyer claimed tiiat Shepard had provoked doing that." -Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund *Tfie saddest part is tiiat the students have Nigeria. public servants is clear, even wiien thvf confessions and the burden wili proi>at>ly i>e Donald Nicholls said tiiat the Act recog­ ills own murder by making sexual advances to -Lou Chibbaro Jr, The Washitigtttti Blade been let dov«m bf the very people whose job -off our backs are not running against anti-gay extrem­ on the govemment to prove that the GALZ nized unmarried, opposite-sex coupies as McKinney. The jury found McKinney not Students may sue for it is to protect them? These sciiool offidals • ists. We must open up the political pro­ member was engaged-in prostitution. fiamiifies, and "there can be no rational or guilty of premeditated first degree murder, Irish lesbians start siiould be setting an example of ccnnptying Gay man runs for cess wherever we can tmtH sexual oriefi- gay-straight alliance In London, the Outrage! activists have otiier basis on which the like condusion which had been allied by the prosecution. with the law and showing tolerance and mu­ poster campaign tation is no loi^ger a barrier to pubKc been fi-eed on bail and charges have not can be withheld from a similariy stable or The defense claimed that McKinney and his San Francisco mayor Student at B Modena t4|gh School in Orange tual respect in the community," Shields said. service," been filed, pending investigation. permmanent sexual relationship between accomplice Russell Henderson had not origi­ Irish lesbians are promoting lesbian visibility The Gay and Lest>ian Victory Fund an­ * Co.« CaUf., iiavtt \item\ denied their legal right Irell and Manelle a leading Califomia law -Kal Wright and WiH O'Bryan, The Wts^ two men or two women." naily planned to kill Shepard, and that through a pbster campaign. nounced on Nov. 16 its endorsement of Ammiano, the president of San to form a gay-strMght alliance Tiieir attomeys firm, is serving as co-counsd with PFAW. ifigttmBlade -Will O'Bryan. The Washitigtoti Biade McKinney had been under the influence of The posters, which arc funded by the Euro­ Tom Ammtano in his historic bid fot mayor Francisco's Board of Supervisors, entered have notified tiie sciiool administration tiiat -People for the American Way Foundation drugs and alcohol. They atso claimed that pean Union, represerit the first high-profile of San Francisco. i

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By Susen Jotdan social workers, and administrators, and trying Patty Hayes was hired on Nov. 10 as thc new to form an alliance between the GAGV and Youth Program Coordinator for the Gay Alli­ some schools, to provide not only informarion ance of the Genesee Vaiiey. She has been a but whatever support they may need. Part of facilitator for the GAGV Youth Group for the the grant from the state is the book distribu­ past two years, and formeriy was a music teadier tion project, which wiS be distributing books in the city school district. Patty is now working sf»eciftcally geared to gay youth to local high toward her masters in divinity with an emphasis school libraries. Tiie cotnmittee has selected Patty Hayes on counseling at St. Bernard's Institute. Last the books and we're getting ready to approach summer she completed 500 hours of clinical high school librarians, who can each choose Sundays the format is more open, where we approftdung that. In my own case I have a pastoral education at Strong Hospital, combin­ four books for free. A stnall group of us wiil allow die kids to bring in what thcy need. Tiic dieolc^^cal background and I see everytiiing ing traditional clinical counseling techniques deliver the book list personalty. Tuesday group at Thr^hold is much more through spiritual Ictuses. It*s not just a job but with theology. Another component 111 bc working on is a structured and is more psycho-educational. It there's akK> a deep spiritual component when Patty was a member of a gay youth, group web page for youch, which will be parr of the is facilitated by tCitty Moran, a clinical sodal I work with other Iiuman bdngs. Even as a Cantiection herself when she lived in San Francisco. She GAGV website. I'll be asking community worker, Ruben Rodriguez, a health educator at young child, I was taught by my parents thc aiso was a member of Dignity USA, thc na­ members who have experience in designing Action Front Center, and Joim Morgan, pro­ impottance of serving odhers, and how we are tional otganization for gay Catholics, and served web pages to help with thc project. They can gram director for thc MOCHA Project. IT! be personaUy served by serving others. That's a for the delightfully naughty and the very very meet on the Dignity National Youth Outreach Task call die Alliance at 244-8640 if they are inter­ stopping in so there's a bridge between thc two core part of my being and family upbringing. Force, helpir^ to research religious and spiri­ ested in hdping, and leave a message for me. groups. I have a lot of hope and excitement and tual youth needs in relation to Dignity's search We're hoping thc web page will contain some EC; Do tlie youth show any concern creative ideas in serving, and serving with, thc for a national youth outreach program coordi­ supportive words and advice, and links to about topics cotmected with religion and youth. 1 will have regulariiours at the Commu­ nator. other gay-related agencies in the community, spititualitir? nity Center, posted as of January, for youth to Here in Rochester, Patty is a member of but eventually I hope to include input from PH: One topic that comes up is* spirituality drop in and sec me personally. The hours will Dignity-Integrity, and serves on the D-I youth — poetry; drawings, etc. — a section and religion. I hear questions like ** Am I going be listed on the youth bulletin board in the Community CounciL Siie also prcaclies and pre­ where the youth can be creative. Perhaps an to hell,^" or "Is what my church teaches right or lounge and on thc youth extension on the sides at Dignity services on a r^ular basis. Internet web *2ine, wrong"? Each facilitator has their own way of GAGV line, 244-8640. Patty says, "I am very passionate about queer WeVe hoping to plan more social activities youth and about connecting them with the for the youth. We haven't determined thc adult community, not only to meet their imme­ details yet but widi mc in place it will be easier diate needs but to mentor them to be produc­ to plan parties and outings. Because we've only tive adult members ofthe queer community." had one group sc far, it's been hard to plan Empty Closet: What issues do you see as activities for so many diverse kids. Some have cruciai to queer youth today? just realized their identity and others have Patty Hayes: The issues with queer youth been out for years. So having this second arc very wide in scope: everything from kids group for youth newly out wili enable us to •wrestling f>ersonally and trying to come out to start filling a broader and deeper range of themselves, ro kids trying to come out at school needs. and to family. Other issues connected with EC: Did your experience in thc San Fran­ identitv and sexuality include substance abuse, cisco youth group provide you ^th any problems with school and family, homelessness. ideas that you are using now? All may or may not be tied together, but they PH: I think my experience allows me in often get interwoven. Often our sexuality" has a some ways to relate to the youth, even though bearing on everything we do, and this is also some of them are 10 years younger than me. 1 true for vouth. also have a deep resp>ect for what youth can I don't want to paint a totaUy bleak picture. 1 bring to thc community, not just what the see opportunities for mentoring and a tremen­ community can do for kids. I see a iot ofhope dous amount that queer youth have to offer to and excitement in rhc faces of the youth 1 the adult community as well, something the meet. It doesn't all have to be gloom and adult community is just beginning to realize doom, though there are serious issues at stake. and tap into. 1 guess ! see two sides to the coin: Both youth and adults have a K)t to offer first, to deal with serious issues relating to each other. The youth, by coming out so young, orientation, and the other to develop mentoring have a lot for those in the community who and leadership opportunities for youth. came out at an older age — they offer a fresh EC: What are some ofthe projects you'll perspective as well as energy and excitement. i>e working on this winter? The adult commuruty can offer youth a longer PH: Some ofthe things we have to do and and broader perspective of what it is to be have been doing are, first, \^orlring on a second queer; to show that life doesn't end in the teens support group for teens which has just started. or 20s, but that it's possible to have a produc­ It's on Tuesdays from 3;30 to 5 p.m. at Thresh­ tive life as adults doing everything thcy ever old Youth Services, 80 St. Paul St. The purpose wanted and hoped to do. of the group is to help youth who arc newly EC: Wliet is goitig on now witb theGAGV coming out, and address specific issues like Youth Group? family and school. Kids can just show up to that PH: Right now with thc Sunday group SOMETHING FOR EVERYONE IN YOUR LIFE! group as well as at the GAGV group, which there's a guest speaker the first Sunday ofthe Chat I Personals j News j Travel \ Entertainment j People meets 2-4 p.m. on Sundays at the GAGVCom­ month. We get speakers based on what the munity Center. That group is a litde more kids' needs sseattd what we lieac dwm tsStnl^ .•\ • ^.hr. r. social, but is still a support group. about. If we hear a lot about safer sex, fot Second, Til be trying to get into schools to instance, we try to bring in soineefN^^f^to ^pS talk to teachers, guidance counsdors, school address that. The second^ diitd and Gourth .^* •!^fras. gifts PlaneHDutJcom videos 4& more wMw^teeiouLoom | AOLICiywMdffhntfOut engage-^eryiy

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answered questions In three languages* ra- he's fed samkon for 26 years ac Kkkridge l.4>cal iMWfs cotitinu«dl from pi 2 and support servkes. CHN accepts patiencs regMtless of their spowdiiy kl the faogupfi In w4ifie|i ike <|U^ Conference Cantar. Bangor, f^ haacked to wM be to fsc basic inisnnttdon to schools, abii^ to pay. More titan 35 percentof CHN tion was posed He was imvdad Aa dsfpae bor as we have. In the eariy years resources wem *1c is because i have a 34^/Bar profotmd subjact, and bkama a hoc sub)acc ki the aojdiEit die American AnocsBtion of Suiddo^ (visit w^ your fHends, and make new ones) into helping people with end of Mfe issues for experience ofgay kyve thac Tve been able to sacUiar matfta, Deriqga Todoy Shewintrvfew OB^hada4tic|uad prk^rcxflKerns in iMs area (easily attach pictures to your ads) a short time That's how the nioney lowed. carry on tiib ministry.*. I speak out of a deep inSepearotoer i976,McNegpubftdlyackmwi» as "i(g|rd»okig^car and anecdo^ Tm starting to see a shifit in funding priorities personal experience of g^ kyve, whidi made edged his giyness. The Catholic Churdi puc raocrtdyg 1995. the American Assodatfon from tt^e federal govemment and the CDC in me reaffy aware of God's love for nieu. It ever-ti^wer restrictions on his ministry, whkh of Suiddology vras reporting that "there is no ^^assified Ad System particular in Iooidng at prevention modeb fi-eed TTte fram my childhood reladonship to McNeill acquiesced to for II years, ki 1987, population-based avkHwice that seaiual ori* that woric Whenever a grant opportunity (now you can modify your existing ads) Cruising Section lists bars and a God of fear." VatMsMi Cardkni RaOiBjgcr ordered McNeS em»tk>n and striddafity are Ikiked In some comes up for prevention, we wiN always be Former Jesuit Dr. John J MdNeHI tinis to either leave the Jesuits or give up his direct or Indirect manner.** With this Con­ other local hangouts on top of it. The Board and F^ujb and I are ackrK>wMged debts {^gratitude ac the be­ ministry to GLBT people. McNeil chose CO gress, The American Association of Suiddol- very committed to prevention.** ginning of his Rochester lectures. His part­ leave the Jesuits, ahhoogh he said he has Ogy fkmlly relented, acknowledgmg the con­ PSuub Sttvestrone concluded. *iVevention ner, Charies Chiarelli, accomfKunied him to never been defrocked as a priest. He's still a vincing "hard dacs" and legitimate risk wttiiin Rochester and Toronttfl^ide Resources for Women is a bottomless pit. We can't eiimir»te i^lV Rochester and tended the book-sellir^ table. Catholic and attends moats and confession in tilts population. Photos from 1^S€^;. infection. How many prevention programs Mcf^eiK also adcnowledged his late sister his local parish. Addkional suidde risk has been docu­ are enough? it's very concrete to us how ^leHa. who was the only member of his McNeill's Rochester leaures covered the mented during die holiday season, a tkne many HfV postthfe fieople need clienc ser^ immediate family to support his ministry. He topics of Mature Spiricualtty and Mature Pn^rer wiien indivkiuals may feel ati^iated from Coming Out vices." Michaei Beatty added. ^Our foai is to dispbyed a rainbow stole that she gave htm. Ufe* His views echo the subjectivity of the tradKk^nai femily and reHgkHes gatherings. Personal Home Pages move into the new millennium with more Information The 74-year-old. soft-spoken priest mixes French phik^sopher abouc whom McNeill did Loc^. help is avaHabie through the Health innovaove. tiolistically based programs that and-Local Links the intelleccual with the anecdotal. He fielded his doctoral woric Maurice Bfoodd (1861- Association's UFE LINE by caHkig (716)275- look at tlie whole person, CKM: just HtV." questions often induding phitosophical ref­ 1949): "Our God dwells wfthki us and the 5151 or l-(800) - 310-1160. UFE UNE can erences or a book quote fram memory. He only way we can become one with our God dkpatch Crisis fVofesslonab to assess sui­ CHN memorial fund seemed eqially wiHing to toss in a personal is to become one with our authentic self." ddal indtviduals in their homes anywhere in honors Bill Coleman story. For example, eariy in their relation­ McNeHI said we ''need a connmunity or Monroe. Seneca, Yates. Ontario, or Wayne ship, ftis partner. Chariie, poured a jar of spiritual guide or personal counseling to help County. fViends who witnessed the lovir^ quality wheat germ over McNeiH's head. When each other discern what is from God atid Several of the studies presented at the care ttte lace William Coleman received from asked why he orial fund as a way to the label to pour this over your favorite pends," McNeill said. If a person has a dcsep search was presented from both Belgium and suffporc 2nd thank the ditUc. The fund will fruit." spiritual life and faith conviction and wii! not New Zealand. Notably, two studies appeared provkie holiday trees to finance services for Lecturer, writer, teacher, ar>d psycho- in the October issue of che prestigious Ar­ those living with HIV/AIOS. be humed by it. then he recommends being chives of General Psjrchiatry, induding three William Coleman, fbr vehom the fund is ti>eraptst Dr. MdMeill was in Rochester Oct part of a churdi in order to reform it. Other­ named, was a Rochester craftsman and de­ 24-25 as guest ofthe Divinity Schools. Down­ wise, he recommends GLBT people find a follow-up commentaries. Elased on the ac­ signer who died in 1998 at the age of 44. town United Presbyterian Church, and Lake supportive sptritual group in their denomina­ knowledged increased suidde risk whkrh these Coleman was known as **Father Chnstmas" Avenue Baptist Church. The two churches tion, such as the Dignity orjganization. (Roch­ studies have documentedv one commentary for his creative displays and generosity to the take part in their denominations* groups estcr office: 17 S. Fitzhugh Sc 262-2170.) advocated '*the education of mental health community during ttte holiday season. urging fiill inclusion ofgay. lesbian, bisexual, Dr. McNeill's latest book. Both f=eet Fttmly professionals, as well as the development of and transgender (GLBT) people in church t^nteti ifi Midair. My Sf^titutd Journey, is d>e preventative interventions for GLB youths." ''We saw how wonderful and caring ti>e eCo0righl 1996, 1997. 1998. 1999 staff was to Bill wftten he was sick," says life and leadership, the More Light and Wel­ most accessible of his four non-academic While documentitig the increased risk for Gay Rochester Online. Rochesier. NY Kathleen M. Hanney, chairwoman for the coming and Alllm>ing movements, respec­ books. He takes the tide from his seminary suiddaltty is essential in pkumkig for the Ail rights raerveti memorial fund. *'We wanted to thank CHhi tively. teacher's assessment, thoy^ Mc^4eHI said needs of the lesbian, ^y and bisexual com­ for taking such good care of our friend and Dr. McNeill's views have not found fovor "midair" has a different meanir^ for him munity, some of tiiese studies itave si^gested we wanted to support thetn in thor efforts in the official Catholic hierarchy. In semi­ today, namely, the Holy Spirit. a distressing "association between homo- to care for ochers in our community.** nary. <3ete of his favorite prpfiKsors satd. The book weaves its author's personal segcuak^ and pcychopatiiok:^.'* More con­ "^{ohn McNeill is the only Jesuit I know who ventional wisdom has interpretad kicraasad A mailer oKptriiiing die foftd and otiter story from his eariiest nMBmories of his sukfcfelky among gays and ladbfens as dar^ Gay Rochester Online is Rociiester's Original Website CHN progiams wfll be senc to prospective has boch faecfirntty planted in midair. Wher- mother's death when he wu four. He de­ donors in early f4ovember. Donatfons will ever he goes, wiiatever he does, there WtH be dded to become a priest after an mddenc as wig frtxm the dIfAcuhy of comk^ out kt a for the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Cotnmunity! be used co place holiday trees in patient trouble trouble, troubfe!" a prisoner in a WW 11 German POW camp; homophobic sodety. Each of the studies _ homes or hospice rooms, as weM as to help And from the hierardty's perspective, so a feSow prisoner risked his life to give McNeff poffitad to the need for forther researdi. finance programs and services ac CHN. it was. McNeiH^ sakl his oriencation was food, then made the s^ ofthe cross. He Such research WiH be best kiforined by draw- evkienc from eariy on. ''By 17 I was iuRy ends with a dncourse on his recent feith kig upon the lived experience of gays and ''Holidays are especiaily difficult times for aware af gay atcractiort.'' McNefH abo fek Views. peof>le dealirtg with serious and terminal lesbians, emphttizkig the adversity of comk% dravm from an early ^ge to the Catholic ittnesses," says Jetffr^ W. Baritice. CHN de­ Skx3ahefefcsh«Jesuia,McNaiasMitotie ^ ouc amite homophobk: kistitutions, racher Chwch of his Irish ancestry. The collision velopment coordinator. *niie trees and deco­ day occurred to Nm he abo gave up the righc than amy misperceived psydhopathokigy kv CO be buried ki the Jesulcs* cemetery. Skice rations WiU show the caring spiric of the was perhaps ittevitable m a church which harcnt to die fesbian or gay condition. coinmunity.remifKlingpaciencsandtiMBirfami- vows dergy to cdifaacy and views GLBT Ues that ti>ey have noc been for^gocten.** parishioners who act on their sexuiNcy as sinfol. Since 1989, Community Health Necwork. FneDdtaeryVm^ McNcM became a priest in I9S9 and was Inc has been committed to maint^nir^ tfte Oni^pf 'knift ArttMMc SOMSIm hiighest possMe quality of lifo for people accepced into the Sodety of Jesus, a tochlag living vvith or alfocted t^ Hn^. tttrough oriy. order in the church. He acquired seven Email, Call, or Write for more information jgpessive. and comprehensive medtoi care academic jflcgrees. 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I go to a diimer meeting with wotk distinctions so diat it doesn't matter who you colleagues and Tm wearing some nifty sum­ sleep with. But in fact societal discrimination A new, fast-growing and competitive business! mer sandals that I will admit might only bc proved that the distinction does matter. So found on sale in a store with a mainly Black lesbian feminists btiilt up categorical bound­ clientele* So what? The one other gay man in aries between heterosexuals and lesbians, and attendance, a friend I should add, snaps as he diat left bisexual women out in the cold." passes by, "No self-respecting gay man would HouseMen Services provide professionally-trained^ alt Paula feels that t-hc idea of Queemess is wear those shoes/' (Hc can only bc seen in somewhat similar to the original idea of gay public in '80s clone drag: levis, bomber jacket, bartenders and servers for private parties andban^tets q liberation, of working towards a time when the baseball cap, etc.). Put aside the fact that an boundaries don't matter, andAvherc who you opinion was not solicited and you remain with occasions. it wouid bc like if there was no one to call and What I find truly nightmarish is that visual sleep with doesn't define your sexuality. "Queer a put-down. From my own team. In point of share with after thc concert. But do you want media seem to have become the substance of really has two meanings. One meaning is that fact I am self-respecting to the point that I'm to know what I really think? 1 think this behav­ our culture; there is otUy facade. Walk into a it's an umbrella term. It includes anyone who cool enough to wear exacdy what amuses mc. ior is internalized self-hatred twisted and made bar, walk along the 9th Avenue in New York, doesn't fit into what might be considered tra­ Our professional residential/cotnmercial cleaning service has been Weil, I will admit to occasional fashion anxi­ sneaky and then squirted out as snide cracks. go to a fundraiser or some other gathering, ditional sex and gender cat^ories. The other ety. Once, edgy and eager to make a favorable In our culture this mean-spirited crap passes and it's all about image, vision. Strike up a meaning is almost in contradfctiori to thc first. established for over fiveyear s in the gay and lesbian community. impression on a gent, I asked a "pal" who'd for conversation. We are so clever, ever bright. conversation and it's attitiide. That's all there This meaning focuses on queer as a way of stopped by what he thought of my outfit. He, On the topic of conversation. What to make is and it ain't much. breaking down those very categories. So thc dressed head to toe (ot I'd like to say impris­ of dinner conversations that oniy sparkle with question is, is *queer' a way to include bisexuals oned hcad-to-toe), in Gap gear, smiled conde­ life when the topic is how cute that waiter is or Dyke Psyche as one ofmany groups, or is bisexuaiity part of scendingly and drawled, "Lose thc shirt." I'm is the bus boy gay or I saw the other waiter at the queer movement which has as its end goal dumb enough or numb cnou^ that it took GQ ad infinitum on into the night. I mean, has By Esther Rothblum thc removal of all categories?" ^ about a week before 1 reflected that that is not anybody read a book? There's nothing sadder Lesbians and bisexual women: a In general, Paula thinks that lesbians are a how friends treat friends. pr maybe scarier than having a friendly conver­ growing aiiiance? Accepting applications for sation with someone whose interactive skills littie less threatened than we used to be about Item. I'm talking with a chum. OK, with a bisexuaiity, and therefore morc able to open man I'm hot for. To jerk him around (we take arc exclusively provocative, seductive; he's How do lesbians feel about bisexual women? never leamed any other way to communicate. Have these feelings changed over time? I asked up or own boundaries. Also, she sees bisexuai­ motivated, energetic individuals! turns doing this to each other, our odd dating ity becoming more ofa political identity and so style), I point out another man and say how hot I asked one of those sexy waiter types (actu­ Paula Rust, a professor of sociology at the State University of New York at Geneseo, who has there is less concern that including bisexuals . I think /ftis. Boyfriend says, "Hah, he's a bigger ally he works with computers) who is hand­ will **water down" the politics oflesbians. sleaze than I am!" I get a sinking feeiing, Hc some, buffed, and 27 what ricked him off conducted research on bisexuaiity ever since For further reading, see Paula Rust's books: means that the man I've pointed out enjoys his about gaymen and he sighed, "Drugs." Hmmm. she was a graduate student. Bisexuaiity And The ChaUenge To Lesbian Politics: sexuality and is, in his view, promiscuous, a I guess there are gcneradonai aspects at play "I have been out five or six years by the time il 1 -was in graduate school," sVtc said, "and what Sex, Loyalty .And Revolution (New "York V3mvet- word I hate. Why does sexual activity, one of here that I'm out of touch wirh. Maybe I sity Press, 1995) and S/r^Jfj^^/r'/y /ft Thf IJ^J/^/f interested me was how thc yvocid looked dif­ the major perks of beinggay have to be phrased shouldn't gripe when my dinner companions States:^ Soaa/SctemrMea^r(Q^olutxxhia. Univer­ in the negative? A busy sex life is not a bad idea dribble at the mouth over the bus boy. Still it ferent when you're in a different sociaJ loca­ sity Press, in press). per se. What I object ro, excuse me if I belabor rankles. tion. All of a'sudden I could see heterosexual Esther Rothblum is Professor of Psychology at the the point, is carrying into our lives the pejora­ OK, what's my pan in this? 1*11 share the privilege everywherCj The world looked dif­ University of Vermont and Editor o/"/Adjournal of THE tive values and terminology of thc dominant blame. For one thing I've always wanted my ferent. But once I was in thc lesbian commu­ Lesbian Studies. She can he reached at John Den^ (need I remind you puritanical, and largely icons to bc flawless* Because of buying into the nity, I began to see the same kinds of dynamics. Hailt University of Vermont, BurUnglony VT, emaiL nutso) culture. I am sexually active. I am not a unexamined lie of beir^ less-than, not as good, Some people reject the other people because estber. [email protected]. sleaze. £ am honest, generous in spirit, and I've scrutifiized everythii^ that has come into of their social tocation." deeply grateful for good gcncs^ good thera­ my range of vision with a very cold eye. I've At a petsosial level, Paula began having an Becoming a pists, and good luck. been hard on other gay peopie because I haven't affair with a man and identifying as a lesbian. "I figured out how to be compassionate, forgiv­ was keeping that relationship hidden the same person I itemize my current state of irritation to a way that most heterosexual women keep their chum and he chimes in witb, •'Don't forget to ing towards myself. And when that work of By Dr. Dennis unravdii^ and rebuilding is underway, what relationships with other women hidden. The comm^it on all those personal ads that insist similarity really struck me." TTie relationship Foley the respondent mustbe 'straight acting*." He's you want, ^irhat you need, is the support of 70ur own kind* Maybe your therapistwill prop ended^ but the result of this was that Paula Bridging gaps got a point. We want gay people—at least our began to study prejudice and boundaries within you up. You'll never find it when ycni traipse Lesbians and gay men share so much, yet it hoped for heart throbs —- to bc as un-gay-Oke tke lesbian community. Her dissertation was into bars. Attending a support groc^ fbr males often seems that we are worlds apart. At times, as pottstblc. Dear me. I'm old enough to re­ on **controvcrsiaI issues within the lesbian over 50» die greetcr smiled as I stood nervously it feels like the prejudice between gay men and ' member the love-generation peacock revolu­ communi ty," including how lesbians felt about 60 Browns Race - 262-2700 tion of thc '70s where hets, espedaliy the bot and Mid, "Honej everyone's seeit your coat." lesbians rivals that which heterosexuals hold bisexual women. hurUty ones, started wearing k^ hair, ear How'a that for a welcome? towards us, and the prejudice between gay men '•The tension is thc strongest among the tu^^ atkl ^velvet shirta audit absohttdy devaa- Wt^ is ^y li£e so coni|>^«itivc? Why can't we and lesbians is bome out of the same evil, Overlooking the High Falls Gorge lesbian feminist generation," she said. 'These .imd «ri>ft£i pj men triioiiMM locfcedinto the ^st the.bitchy p>e? Is any one ftee curious ignorance. are women who came oul in thc 1970s. They about tlvs? Ift^^lire |iH1a»d ktosy di^^ My initial intent in directing this column 4ofl^Mc^s'^NFfr:PuiAcives- came out in a feminist context where they Across trom Kodak on State Street never eiKK^ ^anj) Vafidatkm ttflfid never the toward gay men was to balance thc already ntMcdiqg culⅈ^' diah. viewed lesbianism and fieminiam as interre­ f^c k»yc,dv ctxiu^ aex» 9f» wt ate needy, existing women's development article in the Toii^^ema^pu^ ^aaai^Nf l&l--^ IwifcjJbeeA lated. Becoming a lesbliii wasn't just a per­ greedy afkl A^ttcNMncitt. QaiM Please check Frontier Field events special hours ^jsjtcd itfto a stifgk 4a»MLS of'^1^^ sonal stance. It had to do with a political Empty Chset. However, one thii^ diat I failed some. !« thete a sohidon? Teil mr. Oh yeah, awakening." to appreciate was that despite th£ column's •tsy home and vatcfa TV. titie ISccomnaga Man,** its teadership went Pattla fe^ tfaat for tfaatyoeiationofwomen, ' Wcof]^ We a^ MtiKficNty gratcCtd fcc gay beyondi|[^^i«yi SAd ourdievelopment. Over hetrtigjiyxoality t» *'itee|qng%id! the enemy." «n mei&.iod M ib:qacillMi the the psic f^^MAftuK i heve received some Hr Hii^lw mrf y wiy tf -wyte not to be trusted; #tai:«D»b«tog Ibis^ «t otily keep­ CENTER ^irppin Feichit comk charartcr tfaat Blacks that I should change it. i agree, and I apologize *ite^ mancK! V^entet aeen. Six moathrakfteer Td ing your foot in the door of heterosexual PAAKINQ Dlnner Mon.-Thurs. 5 -10 pm had to endure. I love Jack but if Will of "Will for being exclusive and fbr reinforcing an seen him in N.Y.C. and you don't know what privil^jc, but, even worse, wanting the best of BROWN RACE and Grace" doesn't grope some guy soon, uimecessary distinctiori. Fri. & Sat 5-11 pm weeping is until you've Heand^ ^^Sbmewhete both workls. So bisexual women were in some I—1 C doesn't ser out to get laid, doesa^t get real, I'm Theiefbfe, in an attempt to be morc inclu­ MRXSTREET « Reservations Recommended over ^ Rainbow" sung in«Ytddisht Tbe per- throwing the TV out the window. ways even more suspect than heterosexual m^mm Gift Certif'tcaiBs Always AvaHablB fbm^Uicc here was bettxir. Elated, 1 phoite a women. With heterosexual women you could sive i would like to refocus thb column sp as to Print media is not better. Actually it's a lot addfess issues of personal development for a MRMNO chu^ Vm cut off with, "/ don't like Mandy always come up with the excuse that they don't aooa wor»c. It lies there and coafroots us page after broader range of sexual minorities. In thar OARAGE More ct^um^fricndly rcsppoacs know any better yet. But a bisexual woman is Coming Fmm ttm Clty^, [range fmm, 'Hlwt't f^, dear. Clad ym piige with perfect buffed Abefcrombie and mote threatening becauae she knows what ^he sfSliit, this cohmm will now be known as *1Be- IXnEaTRBET 1. Off Stale Straet rime,- to Tdl mc about it," which Btch icoha. Momentarily the a«^ pom allure altemattve is but still chooses to be involved in comif^ a Person," and in diat vein, this month •K '5 2. Right onto put Street be scrctchir^ it ityou tmi^ di<)n't like wq^ on me. Then I snap. I htte that ^hir. 1 heterosexuality, or to say that she's willir^ to I woukl like to explore thc prejudice between 3. RigM onto Browne Raoe PatirUdn. What I got was a combina- bio^ t wodkderful man who fl^r out will not go that way. And that's threatening co lesbians gay men and lesbians and to present a chal- \f spodight snatching and taste one- deal with real life because of hiiic>bsession for who see sexual orieniation as a political ded­ lei^ for increased inclusion and understand­ 4. Follow oobbleetone drive aon AdcF dumm|4ft« Whoever is responsible, be it upm^ship. sion. So bisexuals were labeled traitors, as ing between us. 5. Paridng ie avaHabie in the parking garage Bruce Webber or Cahrin Klctii thcy shoukl SoA swallow hard, try not to dwell on what fence-sitters, make-up-your-mind-you- In thinking about pre^idice, one thing that is or after 4 p.m. on the left, just pael the buMng. bum in hell. Free paridng flflpr 4 p.m. The Easy Rider shuttle slope dtoectly at our doori lonii m etmjvna mn \u.i/i^k^vfi,^m^m»'-^---' »ti 11 Mim—wii I^J .-WWV^.

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Part of that deep feelings of great disappointment feitici^ed (71«442'4«47 Your pace, my pace. in a homophobic society, we also all grew up in My &dker toni^ 86 li^pcttibef.-1 attempted to worid which did not undcrstaiKi, accept, and about not having a fathM who knew me and a very sexist society. It would be naive to think reach him by phone fer a %eek belbte giving tolerate difference comprised gays and lesbi­ who could guide, ptotect and support txtc^ that sexism would not cross the sexual orien­ up. We had talked last on.Father's Day. In ans as well as chat non-gay worid. In additiop, f lease call wlien \ matj assist tjou tation boundary. One thing, however, that is J anuary, when I was back in the Mid-Vest, we In my outer lifis, I wrestled with the ways I these exclusive spaces often were piaces that different is that we, as sexual minorities, all had met for dinner. Beforci that it had been had recreated these patterns in my work, my witn antj real estate neecJ. cdebrated hyper-feminism and hyper-mascu­ already belong to a disenfranchised group, and several years sitKC we had spoken. relationships, and in my own parenting. I by virtue of our minority status we should linity, such respective places as the Michigan oruggied with allowif^ my own creative ideas I I lllii" III *^—^ From my earliest memories, our relation­ (hopefully) possess a lower tolerance fbr ineq­ Womyn's Festival and hard-core leather bars. to flourish. 1 hated the fiither I^had internalized ;<»y ship lacked ezkergy and seemed mutually uity and injustice. As we enter into thc year 31 P. S. (Post Stone­ who was weak and unprtnective and silent unfiilfiiling. I remember the dirUl of being Put another way, as lesbians and gay men, waU, that is), I believe that it is now necessary One day it occurred CO mc chac my father was to b^n to challenge the rigid need for so many asked to accompany him to the grocery store Wendy Webb we should have an increased sensitivity to when I was three years old. It was che only time very limited. I tried to imagine What it was.like sacred spaces and separate experiences. Edith H. Bernstein, C.S.W. JuJy ColunrbbuS \e\c Sales Associate prejudice by virtue of the fact that we feel I had ever had his undivided attention or to be in his shoes. I began co understand thac discriminated against. Yet at times we don't, In both academia and industry, the hot opportunity to do anything alone with him. I his limitations were his own. Yea, they gready Licensed Socicri Woricer 244.8200 ext. 30 > rtnf dtff^iic-^ re/*c«f;o^ aixi we don*t because it's really about power. As buzzwords are multiculturalism, diversity, and felt such a profound sense of betrayal when he affected mc, but he was not trying to intention­ Expertise In self Image, problem resohjfion, already disenfranchised people, we too play integrationism. Suddenly there has been an (under my mother's orders) took me instead tb ally torture me with them. My feelings began to couple communteotton thc game of jockeying for power and accep­ explosion in the attempt to understand how thc hospital for an immunization shot My change. tance in the larger world. Gay men and lesbians multicultural systems of people fit together, outrage became the foundation of our rela­ I found that once I stopped waiting for him (716)427-0960 step on each other so that we can seem more systems made up ofpeoplc from many differ­ tionship. to be strong and take care of me, I began to (Sliding Fee Scale) acceptable. We say things like "we're so much ent walks of life. In the lesbian and gay com­ create and develop steady, inner strength of My mother and her family thought poorly of better than those man-hating dykes," or "we're munity, though, wc have long lived with thc my own. I no longer felt like a victim. I stopped my father, and I know their disdain for him so much better than those sex-crazed promis­ illusion that by virtue of our common sexual projecting thc need for others to take care of greatiy infiuenced my perception of him. My cuous fags." Wc play thc game of "I'm better, orientation, no further discussion about diver­ mc, as well as taking care of everyone I met. I mother, in her unhappiness. would belittle and I'm not like them because...." sity needs to exist. This is not true. Even began to cake charge ofmy own life. I began to verbally batter my father every night. She would though we hold sexual orientation in com­ identify an inner resource—an inner Father In addition to growing up in a sexist society, complain thac he gave too much time and He's been around mon, we are a very diverse people, and the who has the strength to protect, the freedom one of the ways in which gender prejudice is attention to che customent at her father's lum­ male-fcmaJe issue is just thc tip ofthe iceberg. to create, the wisdom to guide and an interest sintpCe aritfimetic reinforced with the gay and lesbian commu­ beryard where hc worked. It was not OK for It remains, however, a good place to start. in knowing who I am. nity is that we do not often enough share him to use his creative ideas. Every Block.. spaces and exp>eriences. For example, at our Rather than advocate tbe entire abolition of I wanted him so much to make her stop. I As thc holidays approach and I know my community's recent vcry excellent film festi­ separate spaces (for thcy do serve an important Pat & Chris pay $730 a month in rent over a period wanted him to understand how much I needed father is blind. 1,000 miles away and nearing val, I -frequently hcaid people making film function), what I propose is that wc as a com­ his protection- I wished he could bc scrong. the end ofhis life, I wonder how ro integrate of four years that totals $36,000, Is it time for them choices based exclusively on rhe gender ofthe munity create more shared spaces, that each of What I didn't realize was that thc abuse that thc pain, growth and wisdom into an experi­ characters. Films often became categorized as us welcome the other into some of our own was directed at him was also internalized by ence of acceptance. Learning to love my father to buy a home? cither a gay or lesbian movie. Yet, regardless of separate places, and thac we as individuals me. The patterns established from my parents' and myself has been a lesson of grace, patience the gender of the characters or themes of the more often risk entering these weicoming "sa­ arguments become the template of my wound­ and compassion. Maybe thc next time I call films, we could leam much from any of them cred" spaces. More simply put, we need to ing that I have spent many years and a lot of him, I'll bc able to make thc connection, to feci and thereby increase our understanding of break down the walls of separation and differ­ energy unraveling and re-otganizing to find genuine Jove for him just for being who hc is. ourselves, our history, and our experience as a ence and make attempts to learn about each meaning. Mavbe I'll even tcll him so, united people. Many of us tinut our opportu­ other. Despite thc fact that I consider myself a Paula deCheUy it att tducator and psydsotherapist in In the years after my mother died my father Let Micheal and Richard anstver your questions. nities for icaming about Iseing a scxuaJ minor­ pro-feminist man, I am just as guiity as my next private practice who spedati^ in o*omem*s issues. and J drifted apart. What J realized, though, ity hy categorizing issues or events as either a gay brother at creating distance and space How much do we qualify for? was that I could work with my feelings about gay thing or a lesbian thing. based on gender. I believe, though, that it is •1 high time that we all begin thc important work my father inside myself in a much safer way What are the tax benefits to us? The issue of separate space and experiences, than creating more hurt and wounding through however, is complicated. Earlier in our move- of reducing the space between us. What are the steps we need to take? Rochester s Rental Specially

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g, . ~ ^'"" " ' rriTiihffi.irriB.firi iiifi I r.- •••• ''•f^ -.J^/y::---:-'-'^- fWite oMningna#3te4s; CGAPs after services on Sunday, Jani 1^. bu83^^)6da!«atort in IS>99. Center on Nov. 12 with a CnH phuv- upstates ta Celebradon HalL Des­ Cabin Party on Sotuatday, Jaa 29. We At the first meeting* &med garden greater ItOcfaester area. Our mem­ because of racial, ethnic, gender, Our monthly social hour is held nirig meeting and Year 2000 eiec- serts, punch, and coffee will be plan to chow down oncomfort food, designer Robert Wilcox of Gardens bers f^|i^ in i^ firom mid 20s to sexual orientation, disabilities and on the second Thursday of the • served. We will also be hokiing our play silly board games, and toast our for Ail Spaces presented a slide show nons* religious rdated reasons is part of month, from 5:30-7:30 p.m., at the first annual silent auction in the Cel- early 40s. Oiirgoiis are CO get out and toocsies in front ofa roaring fire. Call of magnificent gardens of his own Adtvttics fortbc'comingyearwere be acth^fc. Wc plan acttvitieft that al­ the curriculum; encourage school Gateway Poster and Framing Com­ ebcatioflu- on this event, or woukl like to know The second meeting featured an selected by voting. Members shared tnembers are ahvays welcome, and students, parencs, staff and the'com- Square on South Goodman St.). Year, and throwing a party for Bring a to(HC or come as one inter­ Ttity fbr our patrons to pick up that whac to bring. extraordinary presentation on or­ pictures of the events of che past there areim membership dues. munity regarding how hacred and Please join us for a holiday social BEARS and their guests. ested in leaming/discu9«»g Copies special holiday gift, and aid the cho­ Dignity-Integrity is a living faith chids and a hands-on demonstration year. A prize was awarded to the Anyooe is welcome to stop in for bigotry based on race, edmici^,gen- hour on Dec. 9 from 5:30-7:30 p.m. Come January, our meeting will be abouc butch/femtnc cultarcv Topics rus in its on-going mission to our communicy ofgays, lesbians, bisexu­ of orchid potting byJim and Mike of mentfter with the most popular pic­ our meetings at the GAGVCommu­ der, sexual orientation, disabilities The BASSically TREBLEmakers will itE> on Wednesday, the Sth. Beamight is will also be considered for upcomit^ community. Pfease cotne out and als, and cransgender people and Jim Mallow Orchids. Each parcict- arddes in tite Bti^ C^uw^so ifyou'd ture. nity Center, 179 Atiantic Ave., or and religion endanger the "pluralistic perform holiday music. Wc will have g)CoypA^ Saturday Jan. 8« and the theme is hdp m^cc our 17th season d<^uc a friends who worship openly with pant goc an orchid to take home. The next local LambdaCar Oub- attend one of our events to see what and diversity principles for which hors d'oeuvres and rcfreshments. yoo? If 3rc3^ ace Flannel, so wear the most outrageous like ep contxtbute please show t^H each other. We celebrate liturgies in The first winter meeting of the Hnger Lakes Region evcot will be great one. wc arc aH about. Our tnonthly sched­ this nation stands..." This wiii be a great way to start the flannel shirt youVe gpU md get a Oor two social evenir^ will ccl>^ the Episcopal and Catholic tradi­ club will be a holiday party at 7 p.m. jQagixnit>^$end the Holiday Social on Sacurday^ Dec. January will sec the new year aiad a ule is published in thc Empty Closet holiday season. prize. On Saturday, Jan. 15, we'U ebrate the holiday seasonl In De- tions, and welcome aU to come, re­ Dec. 10, the second Friday of the Wordy and awkward? Yes. But it updbtr 11, beginning at 7:30 p,m. We will new concert cycle fbr die chorus. and can be found on our web sice: have a game and card party at the ceastber, our second annual HoZtday gardless of your religious affUiation month. Call Amic. 377-2581, to re­ is the bcgimiing of a hirger wave of To get the new millennium off to to dx; Eaap.m. During diis social hour downtown members. For more in- holdingvoicc placement at 6:30 p.m. 1 Slft'ioCdie aKHi^ femme; femmes, bring the same for us at 271-3755 (Frank) or 454-3609 Fitzhugh St. across from the Mon­ Start a conversation with your local we u-ili preview the art work for the game. Jan. 23 will find the BEARS # Concert rehearsal begins prompdy a butch! In January, come to our (Tom) roe County Office building. You can't GLSEN school board members and school silent auction which wili benefit doing Sunday brunch at Runds on fbrmatson,confeict Rob at225-0769. at 7 p.m, every Thursday evening at Hobby/Pastime Night on Jan. 21 Happy holidays to everyone from miss it. It's the church with thc pink GLSEN Rochester is achapter of the administrators about the fseed for AIDS Rochester. For more infor­ the Ridge. For tnore information, visit our the Downtown United Presbyterian and share with us a hobby or pas­ COAP! Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education schools to be safe places for all mation please call our.message cen­ Empire Bears Our movie nights evciy Monday Lambda Intemational website at steeple! After services eacb Week, we time. This is your chance co highlight Church, 121 N. Fitzhu^ Street. Network. Our goal is co assure that people. Talk to chem about the risks ter ac 234^8705. Grrr! It'sgetdf^cold out titcrc. Time condnue to be. a popular draw for . Drop us an e-nudl Dignity-Integrity dinner where you are welcome to that youVe always wanted to show COAP munit}' is valued and respected, re­ dents and staff members every day in Latino Mission The Empire Bears have a lot of bookclub that meets to talk and haVe at lccfingcrlake$car@junoxom or The Dignity-Inttigricy Advent Plan­ join us! off, whether it's poetry, musical abil­ Winter is here and COAP is "busy gatdless of sexual orientarion or oc­ school. Call us for support, data, and latino Mission is a group for gay, indoor activities planned for thc win­ coffee every month. If this sounds write to us at LCC-Finger Lakes ning Team has put cogcthcr a series of For general queries about Dig- ity, or arts and crafts. planning another great winter sched­ cupation, who is committed to see­ advise, as some of us here at GLSEN lesbian, bisexual and transgendered ter tnonths ahead. Our lioliday party like fun to you, give us a call at 234- Region, P. O. Box 20545, Roches­ Advent liturgies to help you prepare nitj'-Integrity, call the D/1 Infoline ule of fun and friendship. ing chis philosophy realized in K-12 Rochester have experience with just Hispanics, although everyone is wel­ vvill be Saturday, Dec. 4 at a private 3381 to find oul more details. WcVe Both meetings will be held at the ter, NY 14602-0545. or call (716) spiricualJy for che Christmas celebra­ at 262-2170, December 'brings our annual schools. such conversations. come to join us. (We hate discrimina­ home with a hot tub. Bearsoup, yum always interested in meeting new GAGVCommunityCenter, 179 At­ 225-0769. tion. There wiil bc special music and cookie party in Com Hill, a ftm night Women's cross tion!) yum. On Friday fught, the lOth,weT! friends. We don't bite, unless you lanric Ave., from 7-9 p.m. Pieasc decotatioEttoaccompany the services. In lace October, the New York If you would like more informa­ sampttng the culinary talents ofsome attend the RGMC concert. On Sat­ ask nicely. WOOF! bring a snack or non-alcoholic bev- Men's Chorus You'd expect ho less from a LGBT State School Board Association took rion about GLSEN, write to GLSEN Our goals include learning about of our members (and che bakery country siding urday, the Ilth, we'll have our cr^c to pass. Children are ahvays The Rochestcr Gay Men's Chonis group! We will hold these services an astounding step toward eradicat­ Rochester, P.O. Box 10697, Roch­ different issues of common interest, shopping talents of others...) with Women's cross country skiing is Beamight at the Forum. This month *s welcome. proudly presents "Holiday Pride fnjm during our usual 5 p.m. Sunday time ing hate and bigotry in our schools ester, N.Y. 14610, call Jeff Long at making friends in a supportive at­ Butch-Femme plenty of leftovers! New to COAP meeting on Dec. 5 at 9;30 a. m. If theme is canned gpods for ARI, so For further information on these Many Lands** on Friday, Dec, 10 and slot during December. by passing, with no negative votes, 271*4937, or e-mail us at mosphere, socializing with one an­ Ho, bo, ho! It's that time of year this month will be '"T^ldred Pierce there's no snow wc will hike instead. other in a spirit of common caring raid the cupboards *til thcyVe bare, events, please contact Kerry, facillta- Saturday, Dec. 11 at 8 p.m.. Dignity-int^ty will hold a Christ­ the following resolution: [email protected]. Check out the again! Come join in the revelry ofthe Night** for the classic movie lover, Come out and join us. It's a great and sharing, and doing service BEARS. Our monthly F>ot/uck at the tor,at 865-4619, or write us (NOTE! The concerts will be held ac the mas poduck dinner after services on "Resolved, that thc New York GLSEN website at www.glsen.ofg. holidays this year in true butch and hosted by our classic movie diva — way to meet new ftiends and to enjoy projects which will improve the life GAGVCommunityCenter, 179 At­ OUR ADDRESS HAS Downtown Uatted Presbyterian Sunday, Dec. 19. Please bring a fa­ State School Board Association take Join us with your doUars and your femme style and join us for our two Marion. I>on'c fotget to catch up thc outdoors. For location and more ofour community. Our meetings are lantic Ave., wiil be held on Saturday, CHANGED!) at: The Rochester BF Church, 121 N. Fitzhugh Sv, imme­ vorite holiday dish to pass. Injanu­ a leadership role in encouraging talents as we work to make our local December and January meetings! with us in mid-December when we info, call Lauren at 395-9456 or fun times of friendship building and Dec. 18. Bring Santa's favorite foods, Connection, P. O. Box 60698, Roch­ diately behind City Hail. Doors will school boards to develop successful schools safe for all. Discussion evenings will be held retum to our popular ice skating ary. D-I will hoW a poduck ihnner Arlene ac 436-1945. mutual suppon around personal and and we'U eat at 7 p.m. Well also bc ester NY 14606. open at 7:30 p.m. Tickets arc avail­ strategies for integrating respect for Friday, Dec. 3 and Friday, Jan. 7. nights at RIT as well. fttayingin to^wn this year for thc New able frorn chorus mennbers, tlie Cho- community issues. First Universalist Church Came t» th€6. SCobfe Geri Stanton cH 7i«-54C-2a2* I5« CttMMB Ave nuthiUMii. NY. Rev. Beth O'ShaughiMMMyBanlG* a special holiday musicai presentation of ^^ W« amrm Mid pramote th« Inheront worth mnd cNonity of £>art>ara Debes, M-5- OF>EN ARMS METROPOLITAN COMMUNITY CHURCH ly SM-rkn a» ItsM AM Calfw/Haglal H«ar «llBr aervicc Sunday, Decennber 19th at 7 PM EXPERIENCE YOU CAN TRUST C.ounsclory'Lesbjan iMWffttave <;LBTcrMy7S*.«21-S22l C^b Individual, Qoapk and MS.EA, MS.Ed also, piease jcnn us at II F*M on Friday December 2Mth Group Therapy National Certified X>)unse!or for a Christmas Eve Celebration of Lessons ar)d Carols Certified Clinical Mental Speciali2ing in Concems (rf: ft«i t ii followed by a refresKng fellowship time Isolation and Loneliness, Health Couaseior Relationshi{K, Sq^aration, Neu} ADDRESSJ Self-Esteem, Abuse, and Sexual Orientation (Roman Cathoiic-Episcopai) TDD (716) 533-2041 (71^)271-4^10 175 Norris Oive (near Cobbs HiH Park) Ragular Sunday Worvhip SdMdule: Voice (716) 325-7180 Phonec 271-8476 B-ttmi: OAMCC NYQaoLecm ia30AM jssmssai^Vbamat We wdc^Hue aH regardless of worship tradition, 6:30PM WcmrrfifwrPrvw or sexual orientation. A Liturgy every Sunday at 5:00 p.ni. ^ SMfall BiHir aroand «J00 p.m. Westminster Presbyterian bgethertve ttn$cmttem , Poduck Dinner every third Sunday ofthe month. Church T mviroimtetti ^Iat0^$ote$ -iGhfffCll^St. Lube and St. Simon Cyrene 17 South Fitzhugh Street A MORE LIGHT congregation Thercipy for indMcfuQls. healing, prtnndes s^^Htr0fi^ ^^or»er or Broad St and S. Fitzhngh St) i/tHhire fi^ple of aU sexual orientations RADIANT couples, cNldren. FhoM262-2170 WELLNESS gay and lesbian families your persottal journey atid etnpowers Parent/chHd confHct ^n^t^Ship and minister together ASSOCIATES you to nutke self-respecting choices. This Eiuitutistic ammmmty exists-

Sexuai abuse recovery %•••': Chronic physicori and » \ toworMpGctd LeHdIh Ehresman, MS. Ed. Ibq»ted in Rochester's I9th Ward Rsychofheropy and enrx>tiorKtf pain • ^ to proclaim^ good news qf Jesus Christ Therdpetftic Resotutton of conflicts *^aVv "VIA. ui:«4.V^ , MS. B(L • I towt^mkloa^ ne»ty ofChristian gay. Iesbtan, LUTSton JRoad 436-6200 SpW/Mind/Bodywork Anxiety and depr€H>tlpn Nationally Certified I iiamat, tmd tnmt^ientler pecpie Individual, C6iq>]es, Gimms ip: 10:30 aum. Sundays Sgn Langme Fkpficient I Join us in celebrating 24 years For Appointrnent. cdl 482-^96 i in otk comraunity! •y''^.*. • -^^^.<.

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The group meets on the second On the sub ject ofBar Night, thank * ter twoand a htfycaaik Mocfacft with uoseer. Ploue jean ^ QtO Oonna and fburth Thucadays of eath tnonth you all "v^io gave to our annual Toys celebrate the dawn of the new fnMkfi>- dietr ehUno m ahrays wekome. Macie alt 442-6S99 fi>r tnoce infor­ for Tots drive in November. Your matton. ftom 7 to 9 p.m. at AIDS Rochester, niuml Ouc hflbea ate definitdy exdtis^ and The GAGVs Stteogcbeniog genccosity is helpii^ to brighten the 1350 University Ave* If you want The December meetings of a Utt of fun. Alwaya new wooien Outschres Progcam, of which the hofidays of needy chikiren for yet further information, ivrite to Latino UnBtokenThreads^tifil be heki Moo­ jotnuig us. We travel to various xe^^ Breaking the Ice group is a party wiU another year. PLAGAL Mission, P.O. Box 20510, Roches- day, Dec. 6 and Monday, Dec. 20. gknu^ packs. This is agceat way to be offering die Next Step Group, . The Rams wish you all well for the P.LJLGA.L. - Pro-Life A^ance of ter, N.Y. 14602-0510, or just show The January meetings will be held meet exccptioiMl ladies. For more the Pemianent Pattners gtoup^ and coining New Year. Well see you at Gays and Lc»biana. P.O. Bea 33292, up at our next meeting. We will be Motiday, Jan. 3 ard Monday, Jan. 17. information, call Donna at (716)442- the Dating 101 workshop this win­ D6cember^s Bar Nig^t: our popular Washingioa, D.C 20033; Tel.t (202) glad to see you and say "bienvenido Ail meetit^ last from 7-9 p.m. at the 6399. ter. Long John's Night, That's on Satur­ 223-665*7; Fix: (202> 265-9737. amigo" to you. GAGV Community Center, 179 At­ The Next Step Gtoup is a six- day, Jan. 15,2000, at die Forum. lantic Ave. Brii^ a new ot current [email protected] Hospital visiting V.P. - Donna Marie Kearney, P.O. week support group for gay, les­ Rochester Rams For the latest tiews, pieasc visit the arts and crafts or needlework project bian, bisexual and trangender indi- Please join us visiting residents at Box 10035, Rochester, NY 14610; Our Bar Night for December will be Rams* website at . information, contact Kerry, Facilita­ step in their coming out process. hours weekly. are always weO-recetved by ^cril^e Just wear leather, all leadier, aiKl noth­ tor, at 865-4619. See you there! Through interactive excrdses and Unbroken audiences. Those wishing to contact ing else. That's the spirit of it. That's » It makes such a positive differ­ fadUtated discussion, the twogroup Women's Hiking ence for those, that live there, and is PLAGAL fbr speakers should e-mail Community Center on Saturday, Dec. 18 at The Bachelor Threads faciUtators wiU help partidpants Fonun, 670 University Ave. Women's Hiking is going strong %^' so rewarding to those of us that vol- [email protected]> identify their strengths and re­ Come join us and make something to Information Susan Prynz holds the GLSEN banner ac the 1998 Gay PHde Parade OIIGV Cofiwtttwity Cmtmtr, 179 sources that wiU support them as Board Prasidant: Kim Brumber they take their next step in coming AHMIC AV«« KOCHMMT NX 14607- Progrwvi Directors Tanya I25S. Smolinsky out. The groi^ is appropriate for GAGV Volunteer ofthe Nohth: u^P^^mnrHljplty CoMtar phone: individuals who arc newly coming :* Empty Closet Editor Susan Jor­ dan out, or who have been for years but Susan Prynz Empty Ooaatphonas (716)244-9030 &vipty Cfoset Business Menager: want to feel morc comfortable in •'44 ook would be in •which helped mc back then. was going nowhere before coming meet potential partncFs for a suc­ coHTiinistry and life celebration within our worshipping famiiy. tnember Barbara Reimcnsyndcr, a addition to the four books thatwould GAGV: In what capacities do out. Straight fnends were beginning cessful, longterm reladonship. Some \m CniYer Ruad committee of volunteers, comprised be donated through funds provided you and have you volunteered to marry and have famiUes and 1 felt ofthe topics that wiU be addressed of educators, students and librarians for by the grant. It*s a nice way to with thc GAGV? like I had no future. Being able to include creating an effective daring Two services every Sunday at 11:00 am worked together for several months heip gay youth in the high school you SP: I stancd volunteenng less than suppott those in thc same process of strategy, overcoming dating ob­ 323-1690 - a traditional service in the Sanctuary - to create a list of the best gay-themed went to, or currendy work at, or to a year after coming out. That was coming out, and see positive changes stacles such as shyness and fear of - a contemporary service in Celebration Hall - books available to youth and their make gay issues more visible in the when you and I created the curricu­ rake place for them, is particularly rejection, and learning how to iden­ Near Seabreeze Pirk parents. They choose 16 books that high school your children are cur­ lum that was much like the one used rewarding. Adult Education 9:46 am tify agood potential partner. Nearly each fell within one ofthe following rendy attending or will be attend- for the Breaking tbe Ice group to­ GAGV: What do you personaUy 20 people participated in the Dat­ OpeiTiesdi^-SaMay categories: research-oriented, fiction, ing" day. 1 have faciUtated several ses­ gain from volunteering with the Call for dates and times when Rev. Jane Spahr ing 101 workshop that was first cotning out narratives and guides, To learn more about the Book sions ofthe Breaking the Ice group. GAGV? ^-, will be worshipping with us. offered last April. and parent-oriented. Thc committee Distribution Project or to donate a GAGV: In the paat 11 years, SP: I gain a certain richness in my also dctetmined die best book wirhin book through the Project, call To find out when these programs you have facilitated more ses­ life that I wouldn't obtain anywhere wiU be scheduled this winter, please For informatioii call Isabel Morrison, at 325-4000 each of these four categories. Smolinsky at 244^8640. sions of the Breaking the Ice else. I feel 1 am giving back to my check our " web site at The tiext step, according to the group than anyone else. How else community — my family, that has k Support group www.gayaUiance.org. To be placed have you volunteered witb the given so much to me. 1999 WRAP-A-BOOK project coordinators. Is to make area on a maiUng Ust to receive a regis­ GAGV? . GAGV: We would Uke to thank A FUNDRAISER BENEFITING pubtic and high school librarians tration form for any one of these participants SP: I am on the Speakers Bureau you for the tremendous amount AIDS ROCHESTER, INC. aware of this project and invite chem programs, please call Tanya (a component of the Community oftime that you have volunteered to choose tbe four booics that thcy evaluate process Smolinsky, Program Director, at «5fe«^3Sl]-l|ffl Educadon Project) and I served on to the Gay Alliance over the paat would like to bk^ donated to thetr Seven wotnen completed this faU's 244-8640. rhe Board of Directors for five years. 11 yeats. Vour intelligence, .com- coUection. Breakii^ the Ice, a six-week gmup BORDERS BOOKS, THE DOWNTOWN UNITED PRESBYTERIAN CHURCH GAGV: And don*t forget, you paasion, leadership and hardwork •This is an eactt^emtly excitti^ and for people newly coming out as gay MUSICftCAFg Triangle Talk has coordinated the GAGV^s Gay have been absolutely invaluable NOV. 26-DEC 24 121 North Fitzhugh St. Rochester, NY 14614 (716) 325-4000 imponant opp^atOB^py^^ good, or lesbian. They join dozens of other Pride Picnic for aereral yean and to the growth and a4C«:eaa of thia lL:____iss_i^^^I^_-:i!-^-.^_... V I . .11 gay rnen and lesbians vsrho have par­ 5th anniversary accutace,alidhelpG2tiTO«mit^ ofganiaeatioa. Tbe Ga^ Anfamoe Triangle Talk, co-s^pfMcedTby Bor­ headed up tbe Stxateg^ Plflnnittg, BARNES&N08LE to youth," explains TaoySkSmplinsky, ticipated in the group ducing the past wouki not be "wlietefttia foday if it ders and i^^^Qdt^'^^^iidmy «#]b« Coaunittee. Tell us wfay you vol- GAGV Program Directo^^ •'For 11 years and have ficMond support at a weren*t for the work you have December Special celebradng to ^l^.'^&lyeicstt^ oh liateer with the GAGV? GREECE many people the first step pi the cnxtal sts^ lA their coming out pro­ 4one* Monday, Jaftr^iji^|M^ iMl-a - -^ SP: Twdve yean agq I was very DECEMBER 11-18 coming out j>£0^;)pss is tb seek out cess. ready to "come out*' and find com­ Weil, throushout the year infonortacioEi, Too roany of us can AU seven partidpants indicated on dessett and cxsl^tA ^eceptioh in the PITTSFORD Botders Esftfcsso Bar, followed by ^emen^tlict goir^ to tbelibtary to get their evaluation fotm that they found ffta^ Program Director for the Men DECEMBER 13-19 ¥e treat ourselves to little gifts the book disoisaion ac 7 pjn. lead by GAGVs most successful pro­ ttifonxu^n on homosexuality only that their experience in thc group of Cok>r HeaMi Awareness Project; Michele Spcuig-Mooie, poet* jour­ grams," sutes Tanya Smolinsky, to fiod Cftitdated books Thar drtrribad was **vcry positive" and that the two tzan«geoder activist Anne Neimeau; nalist and bi-activitt. GAGV Program Director. "Our us as dcariant Novgay andnon-^y ^dliUtatots were "exceUent." "I felt presence at Borders on a monddy GeMi founder and editor, Tony Volunteers are needed for This time ofthe year is for sivins. The series, which bcg^ in 1995, teens wJD have access to fiction with very comfortable with both (Susan basis for the past fhre years has con- Leuzzi; cetrified sex therapist, WiU­ 3 to 4 hour jhift$ focuses on booka aad issues of pair- Give a friend the special sift posttiv^gRy chatacters central to the ahd Amanda). They were thorough* ststendy gi^en visibility «o gay, Jes­ iam A. Kelly; and Cathy Mazzota, dcular interest to Ar .0iy. iesbtan, throughout the holiday story* cabocAs about gay history and articulate, good Usteners* and non- bian, bisexual and tramgeixler is­ Executive Director for Alternatives bisexual and traip|i||B||ar conunu­ shopping season. This is ofalhrmassase. cuItute^^JKttd «o real Hlie comii% out judgemental. They also made it ftm,'* suei in a mainstream environment. for Battered Women* who wiU lead nity and is hdd ifejmjfcri^ across a great way to spend wfote one participant. Another ex­ *The success of Trian^ Tafit is December's discussion.** ^ 1 plained that what she Ukbd nK>st fircmi Mackciplaca Ifairon the last time with a friend \wefCi aH due to the extremdy lalMaadinMl For more infonnation on upcom- Happy Holidaysn about Aa gwup was *5fcaliag ooa* Moadby of evety or family member. dhreiae group of {MKkple nAo voh»r ii^ TiiaQg^ Talks, check the Gay * • M w necccd to others who a«c ip the tame Tlie fint ^ook To sign. up. please Contact teer their time in otder to kad each AlUance of die Genesee VaUey's web v 159 paople. Hoie ,400 people \ - A AIDS ROCHESTER situation at mc." Everyone com­ mondi^a discuaaion.'* ;^oobttnuet mm at www.gayalliance.ot{^ or caU ttialihi^' NVS Ucen^e*^ A«aes«c|c Therapist pleted tfie grbi^leefingmuch better Smolinsky. *Teople socb at Daicefi die GaySource Info-Ufie at 244-8640 , 716-442-2220. about tlidr aexQal ofieaiatioa, and the past fivcycan, aveaii^20f92S ihSUmm wWcife;! t (ppiM:^ of Lance, Professor Emeritus at and preas 1 for upcoming events. most !ft«caeed experiencing a near peopfe at ea^ event . 7t6«464^8957 tnote stotiea vHt^ by ptocsfiiutnt CMpte OMnity Scbooljoiitt llifi)e> S^ you at Ttiang^ TrikI yousig aduk authot^ and edhed by sense of pride in identifying as gay. '^triangle T«lk «a M^ of ^e

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Pose space reservation, articles, Fttst, thirdMondays, 7-9 pm, Fitzhugh St. General seating: advaiKe bcadon: 234-0156 GAGV Communi^ Center, 17$ 7 pm, Unttanan Chutch, 220 Wkaon in Area 67 laige confcrersce room at screening party ac GQ Club, 444 dassifieds, tetters to editor, non- Rd. dw Optk Center. Vok^e mail 338T tickets $12, at door $14, Seniors/ Digttity-Int^:tity Atlantic Ave. Centcal Aye. ctmeta-teady ads. 244-9030. 5pm, Sc Lukc*s/Sc Simon Cyrene Support Group for Parents 8977. FOR THF jO\C3rS MONTHS OI DEC.-JAN. studenu $10. Preferred seaypg: ad­ Tfiangle Talk. Rochestcr Rams bar nigfat. SATUMMY IS Church, 17 S. Fitzhu^ Sc Every LGBT book discussion series. Last Who Have Lost CfaHdnm Rodbester Giqr Men*a Choma vance $16, at door $18, seniors/stu­ First, third Wednesdays, 11 am- "Lcachet Ni^t." Bachelor Forum, Rodieater Rama Bar Ni|^t. Sunday. 262-2170. Monday, Borders Books Sc Music, Downtown UnitBd Presbyterian WEDNESDAY 8 dents $14. 423-0650. Open Arma Metropolitan 12-30 pm. 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Second, fourth Sun­ Second ar*d fourth Mondays, 6:15 Biaexual Discuaaion group Geneva NY 14456. have caused. ebration Fair, 10 am- 3 pm. First lage Gate Square. Bassically 6 pm. First Unitarian Church, 220 S. In the Life. National gay way for Jan. 15 live auction). days. Last Wednesdays, 7-9 pm, GAGV SATURDAY Treblemakers will perform. 234- Winton Rd. To register for prize pm, AIDS Rochester, 1350 Uni­ THURSDAY 2 Unitarian Church, 220 Winton Rd. newsmagazine. WXXi channel 21 THURSDAY 20 Gay» Lesbian, Bisexual versity Ave, Facilitated by Dennis Commuruty Center, 179 Atlantic Gay/Lesbian Al-Anon drawing ac thc dirmer, visit NOW Ave. Men and women welcome. First Unitarian Church, 220 S. Health Threats in the Environ­ South. Crafts, cards, gifts, music, 8706. (11 cable), 11 pm. Bmpty Cloaet deadline. Cam­ and Frienda Aaaociadon Foley, PhD. Li^t supper served. FRIDAY 10 website at www.rochestemow.org. (GLBFA) No charge. 442-2220 x 3012. Thitd Wednesdays, 7 pm. School Winton Rd, 7 pm. ment. 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GAGV Lesbian Gay Bi Youth Ave. 546-5122. tal Colaition, Empire State Consumer Presbyterian Church, 121 N. VYEDNESDAY 15 Triangle Talk, Discussion Icad Group TUESDAY GAGV Community Center, 179 Deaf CaU Keith, 546-4717. Hobby/Pastime Nighc 7-9 pm, ' Atlantic Ave. Association, Sierra Club Rochester Fitzhugh St. Advance tickets 512, at Rep* Bamey Frank (D-Mass) Ages 14-21. Every Sunday, 2-4 pm, Gay Alcoholics Anonymous Secorwi Saturdays, 7 pm. Gay Alli­ Rochester Women's Commu­ by Cathy Mazzotta of Alternatives GAGV Community Center, 179 Transgender Organization ance, 179 Atiantic Ave. Write PO regional group. 237-6378; CEC 885- the door S14, senior/student $10. speaks in Syracuse at the Onondaga GAGV Community Center, 179 8 pm, Genesee Hospital, 244 nity Chorus concert. "Holidays for Battered Women. 7 pm. Borders Atbmdc Ave. 865-4619. Adantic Ave. 244-8640. Third Wednesdays, 6:30-9 pm, Box 20093, Rochester NY 14618. 6848. Preferred seating: advance $16, at County Civic Center Carrier The­ Alexander Sc GAGV Community Center, 179 from the Heart.'* 8 pm. Lake Avenue Books & Music. Free, open to pub- THURSDAY 27 Rainbow Amateur Radio Aaaoc. Finger Lakes Gay/Lesbian Sup­ Lambda Health Sciences FRIDAY 3 Baptist Church, 57 Ambrose St. Tick­ door $ 18, seniors/students S14.423- ater, 7 p*m. Reception follows. Tick­ Hc- Finger L^dcea cluq>ter. Adantic Ave. Sixth Saturdays, dirmer/meeting. COAP movie nig^c 7 pm. Call ped Group THURSDAY Metro Jusdce Alternative Cel­ ets $10 regular; seniors/students $8; 0650. ets $20 advance, $25 at door. Tickets JANUARY Bufiiness meetit^/lunch. Call Bob, Third Tuesdays, first Fridays. Call Vinnie, 244-4118. E>ave, 2B8-8758. Presbyterians for Lesbian Frontruimera/Frontwalkers ebration Fair. 6 pm- 9:30 pm. First children 12, under $5. Men's Garden Club holiday for reception $75 ($85 for both). For THURSDAY 6 442-7185. Write PO Box 941, Geneva NY FRIDAY 28 MONDAY and Gay Concems 8:30 am run/walk. Meet George Unitarian Church, 220 Winton Rd. party, 7 pm. Tor location and reser­ information call (315)475-2135 or 14456, or call (315)536-7753, ask SUNDAY 5 Gay Men's Chorus voice place­ En^Hy Cloaet mailing party. Gay and Lesbian Support 6:30 pm, first Thursday. For loca­ Eastman House parking loc461- vations call Arnie at 377-2581. visit website atwww.cnydiversity.org for Sam Edwards. S. Crafts, cards, gifts, music, food, COAPChristmas shopping^^^th ment. 6:30 pm. Rehearsal for March Buik mailing of February issue. Group AtlandcFiveO . tion call Ralph, 271-7649. 4246. SATURDAY 11 or www.acrgrads.com. Mercy Spiritual Companion more. 325-2560. Wheelchair acces­ Tom. Noon. 454-3609. concert begins 7t30 pm. Downtown Labd envdopes 2-5 pm; bulk mail­ Third Presbyterian Church, 4 Meigs Gay men 50 and over. Second Coalition for Lesbian Visibility Rochester Gay Men's Chonis FRIDAY 17 Prc^ram Second Saturdays. Finger Lakes sible, childcare provided. Sl admis­ Candlelight concert. William United Prcsbvterian Church, 121 N. ing 6:30-8 pm. Upstairs at GAGV Sc Fust and diird Mondays, 7:30-9 Tuesdays, 7 pm, GAGV Commu­ sion. concert. Holiday Pride from Many ' Butch Femme Connection holi­ pm, 271-6513. nity Center, 179 Atiantic Ave. 461- Evening of reflection for those im­ area, poducks/sodals. Call Becky Wisnom, organ. 8:30 pm. Compline, Fitzhugh St. 423-0650. ConMnunity Center, 179 Atlantic pacted by HIV/AIDS. 7-9 pm. Bly. (315)539-6271. Lands. 8 pm. Downtown United day party. GAGV Community Cen­ Women's baaketball 0821. MCC World AIDS Day event. 9 pm. Christ Church, 141 East Ave. MONDAY 10 Ave. 244-9030. Monday and Thursday nights, 7-9 Call 671-6070 or 473-6893. Tranagender Ofganization Presbyterian Church, 121 N. ter, 179 Atlantic Ave., 7-9 pm. Bring GettingOut Karen Malecki. AIDS Vaccine Evalu­ 454-3878. COAP dart nighc 7 pm. CaU SATURDAY 29 pm. 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