tecti— A ^^im^^. NYC news: Black pHde. Newffroots ...•aia hwwvlew: RGMC. ^^ Oplnkm: MX worker. Making dw Scene: MOCHA». SWKUOH B Entertainment: imageout.. Columnists „ 3 NonWTravel/Styte. 10 Gay Groups , „ 12 Community Center News....-....-14 Cbsssif{«d$ , 15 Calendar 18 3«pt»mb«r 2002 Cartoons , .. 23 A Publication of the Gay Althince of th« Genesee V^ky Harry Bronson to NewsFronts run for state Senate mLOCAL AND STATE Gill Foundaiticin/GAGV Non-profit lender was GAGV president, attorney workshops resume with By Susan Jordan publican — part of a majority in our grant-writing theme on On Aug. 5. Harry Bronson, execu­ Senate which has not addressed glbt Sept. J 7 and 8 8 tive director of Cepl-ias Attica, issues or the need for ecoriomic The series of workshops for non­ inc., attorney, and former presi­ development and revitalization of profit organizations sponsored by dent of the Gay Alliance board, upstate New York. The issues for the Gay Alliance and Denver's announced his candidacy for the upstate reaHy are new voices, nevv Gill Foundation resume this New York State Senate seat re­ ideas, and a new approach, espe­ month, looking at the topic "Nitty cently vacated by Richard cially in tfie areas of economic revi­ Gritty of Getting Grants". Doiiinger, longtime supporter of talization, human rights for ail, edu­ Part one wil! be held on Sept. i 7 lgbt rights. cation, and women's right to and part two on Sept. 18, at the The Republican Party would like choose," Red Cross headquarters. 50 Prince to replace Doiiinger with a Repub­ A lifelong resident of upstate New Harry Bronson announced his candidacy for N«w York State St The workshops begin at 2 p.m., lican — or with a Democrat who York. Bronson, the I ! th of 12 chil­ Senate on Aug. 5 at Denmocratic party headquarters. with registration, refreshments is willing to turn Republican, jike dren, worked his way out of pov­ and networking. The workshops Joseph Robach, Bronson's oppo­ erty, graduating from SUNY Os­ themselves run from 2:45 to 6:15, nent. wego and jetting his bw degree JfiTSX and each workshop costs $ 10. In his announcement at Demo­ from the University of Bufblo Law October workshops will be on cratic headquarters,Bronson high- School. He practiced law for 14 domestic rclvfl Moions "Super Special Events'* and iighted the issues which his cajD- y^ars, most rescendy as a partner in "INw^r^York Oty \m$ tak«n ^ "Incorporate Corporate Spon­ paign^^^j^l focus o^: t;flfi ?Y^d for the prominent firm of Blitman and N«w York^« stAwM46 g^ and rrufldt-rte^ded &te(> thac we hc^ie sorship" (Oct. 9 and 10), and on econDTpic revitalization of upstate King, where he worked to enforce Eesb^ civH rights or^^mization, v^H be foltowed by other jurisdic­ Nov. 13 and 14 the topics will be New^^York; the human rights and non-discrimination ajmd human rights praised the New York ClVfCoun' tions throtighout the United "Conquer a Capital Campaign'* dignify.6f each individual; the right laws, representing unions and em­ States^* 'sakt j.oe G^r^bari, Execu- and "Breathe Ufe Into Planned of w^h^en to choose; iiiio need in ployee benefit funds. He now heads t^e:D{r«ctor of the'Smipfre State Giving". For more information, A!baV>y for a new voice'calling for Cephas Attica, which works to break Priffe A^da. **We thank every- ca!! Lhe GAGV at 244-8640. reform and change, and the needs d^ie cycle of crime by offering re­ 'lo|Sf:«>f*:d|«:<2i«y<^if^^ of the pfeople of the 56th Senate sources to those in the criirtinal RIT VS^omen's Center ;iit;^4»<^^MtiMs :£>i{i^:?f>d' particulars' District corrections system, and offering in­ to mark Global •:11j«k'Wll,:tetrOi'::|:i.4-^>:l|WiS;^i^^ :il^iifek:i||otir^ S^)«aiCfir:'' :^:or of Read My (th Advocates for Gay, Les- of Rochester and in sodety at large. in ih%ir pard«;uiar faith communi­ or Casey Lopata (271 -7363). Res­ Upa: Sexuo/ Subversion <3nd the End Bisexuai and Transgender The group Is highly aware that reli­ ties, and their hof>es for the future. ervations are due Sept. 26. St. e^ Gender, and author/co-editor fe will host a festhre recep- gious traditions have often inlikted The panel includes the Rev. Peter Mary's Church is located near Geva dfC£NDEi<<^EER: Yokes from Be­ td dinner on Thursday, Oct. great pain on their fgbt members, Carman, pastor of Ladke Avenue Theatre, and free parking is avaiU yond the Sexua/ Binary. Her third and works on strategies to over­ Baptist churdv f^bbi Alan ICatz of able for this event. book. Queer Theory/Gender Theory: come this legiMy. Symbolizing Its Temple Sin9i» smdHary EHen Ijopata IA Is co-chaired by Nancy ! event, with the theme of **A An hstant Primer, is due in spring interfaith character, IA led o4f the of Catholic Gay «nd LjBsbian Family Eckerson Fitts of First Unitarian fng Light," wili take place at 2004. igan Center of St. Mary's contingent of religk>us bodies that Ministry. Mdowntown Rochester, marched together in the July 13 Gay be the Rev. John Wilkinson, pastor Third Presbyterian Church. Nancy for details, or call the Women's )pen to all. Pride Parade. of Third Presbyterian Church. Fitcs has been a leader of the group Center at 475-7464. faith Advocates (IA) is an The celebration on Oct. 3 will Tickets are $2S per person, and ition tliat brings together begin with a reception at 6:15 p.m.. the even is open to all. The pro­ IA continued on p. 10 Newsbriefi cont. on p. 10

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eb- «/ Bronson contimiod frx»m p* I LeTTERS TO THE EDITOIti and tombs of the woHd have finally realized Th« opiniom of eoUimnltti, •dkertel writ­ th«d|M«»«dltfer«pic«afidduily.We mana^r is T«d O'Brten. chair of th« this." he continued, "and that's why they offer ers tnd oth«r conUibuUnf writer* »r» wW print OTOfiQiiaioui tacBir* If-the name Monroe County Democratic Party. domestic partner benefits and sexual orienta­ th«ir own ind «io not n«c««»rily rrfl*ct and plKN»« nunkfrn-wtm f»ravlded to the Bronson said, •*WeVe put together a very tion human rights policies. The state needs to th* cott«ctlv« tttlttKto of «§»« G»y Alltanc* Editor; cowWdamlillqf wW be rwpected. solid commitcee to work on the campaign* take that next step and extend equal — not ectives of th« G«n«»«« Viltay or th« Empty Ck»«t. Subnriisloni. are due 4)y the ISth ol the We wIM print l«tt»n it the •dH»r'» dls«r«- month ttC'tlwiftiiHy Ctoeait. l79Adaft. inciuding individuals focusing on field op­ 'special'—rights to all of its citizens. And, let me tion and on 1 «pac* avalUWe b»fl».W« will tic Av«^ RodMStarNY l4«07-t255; emaU erations, media, fundraising, and the gen­ add, not only by passing legislation but also by viewpoints that matter not print personal MOdai on individuals. LOirg eral logistics involved in running a cam­ getting more funding to the State Division of paign for state office. I welcome anyone Human Rights to enforce this and earlier human who would like to get involved and work ri|^ts legisbtion, and end the backlog in the on the campaign. Even ifyou can't do that, Division." this is a MUST WIN for our area and our Bronson pointed out that as an attorney he • LO GAL AND STATE NEWS !Pf community, so it's "^ery important that has had experience drafting polkies on domestic you get out and vote!" partnership for businesses, and was active in the Empty Cioset ITTW^IO?^ A letter from tfie _.* The campaign phone number is drive for Rochester domestic partnership in "i Executive Director (585)615-8989. and the website is 1994, and in 2001 in the push for the city to update ?^' • ••• iS:'-;.-:: •. www.harrybronson2002.com. Campaign extend civi! rights protections on the basis of it;':- meetings are held weekly. Bronson said, sexual orientation and identity.

• •'-: •••••: •.'•: By Pain Barres, GAGV Executive Director "This is not a flashy campaign — it's a Even if Bronson can overcome the monetary An Efnpty Closet Editorial by Susan Jordan grassroots campaign by the people and for advantage Robach will have, can he win as a the people." He has been endorsed by the Democrat in the S6th District? T'he 56th Senate Empire State Pride Agenda. District includes most of the city of Rochester, raise more money from you, your friends and ur new G4 Mac arrived last month, swiftly foiiowed by a ne\v scanner. This should The GAGV needs your help and we need it Bronson's opponent, Joseph Robach. and all of Brighton. Greece and Parma. "Demo- families etc. We need more new tnembers. \XT. mean that our problem.s with an. old Mac clone wirh low memor>' arc past (I w>sh now' Like most not for profits, this year we son of a powerful poiiticai figure, is a graphicaily speaking, " Bronson said, "there are WANT YOl) TO JOIN NOW! If you 3rc a I had low-enough rncmoty to forget ali the hassles it caused). EC ptodurtion will find our funding sources not as reliable as we longtime Democratic Assemblymember 20,000 more Democrats than Republicans In the O member, gteac, get a friend to join and con­ now be a mote effective, not to mention less stress-filled, process in many ways. would like. We have been recei-ving a major who will now be running on the Republi­ district, more people of color and women vot­ I sider making an additional donation yourself We also have a new ad sales rep, Alicia Kibitlcwski. (See masthead box below for her number). grant frot^i New York State. Tliis year not can line, with the advantage of a huge ers. My platform, the Democratic platform, is only is it beingdelayed, it is also beingcut back Any amount is helpful and wiU be appreciated, treasure chest. Bronson delineated the more in tune with the voters ofthe district than Alicia's task •will be to bring in enough revenue vative bias in the media. At least the small lgbt & by about .30 percent. The blUs keep coming, Most people believe that what ever the lotiii differences between Robach and himself. the Republican platform. to add another four pages to the paper, and, media wears its "Uberal" bias on its sleeve. and they are tiot .30 percent less. percent of queer people in the total populii- "First of all, Robach has been In the (Demo­ "Two things are important to note: first. NYC BLACK PRIDE: Vernon Scott and Martin Lofsnes of Brooklyn with their ultimately, to hire a part time'b.vout editor, who "Fox News; fair and balanced"—well, maybe, \X'ha.t K. > do"-^ Two obvious choices: one, cut tion, wc seem to concentrate in metrop'>ii-nn cratic) majority in the Assembly for over Robach's voting record doesn t show he has son Damien at the Black Pnde Beach Party and Cultural Celebration festival in turn ••^'ill impro'..c the look ^A the piip.'r if vour d^jfinitio'"; of '"'^•liXT and balanced" is wav back on rhe scmces we provide or nvo, areas. The current population of the Grcarcr 10 years and as such has not delivered truly been a part of the Democratic tici- alone, there are over 50,000 GLBT Albany to realize it's important for up­ Even if elected, however, Harry Bronson is volunteers wili be cutting back his participa clear that lgbt Vermonters don't see Dean in about the Info hne which fields hundreds of folks. We should therefore have several tens of state New York to be revitalized. bound to experience the frustration of being a tion in 2003, so we are looking for pC'rjpie who the same heroic mode that out-of-staters do. questions per year? Perhaps we need to elimi­ thousands of members. We are not even clc^se, "On other issues, this constituency has minority legislator, in the same way that Rick can help with the evening shift ofthe monthly 0/7/V/writes: "Does it bother anyone else nate the Communiry Out Reach and Sensitiv­ not even in the game. At a minimum we need a majority of women who are pro-choice Doiiinger was frustrated, and also openly gay bulk mailing, and can commit to taking on a that the politician who did least to advance ity Progra*r.s, and trairting we offer to schools. tcj add 500 new members over rhe next few and who deserve a representative who Sen. Tom Duane (D Manhattan), who both have distribudon route for the Cf>ming year. Call me the cause a^ c\\n\ unions without actively gcjvernm.*nt agencies and companies each months. will support their right to choose. Robach found tiieir every move blocked by those in at 244-9030, or iust come to our next mailing, cjpf)0&ing them is now being feted and awarded vear. Should wc cut out the Breaking the Ice, Help us to meet this modest goal and move has given no indication that he supports control of the Senate, sometimes in petty, ha­ on Friday, Sept. 27, at 7 p.m here at the by GBLTQ groups all ox^er the United Stares l^ating itd and other programs offered to bevond it. Let's keep -.he service levels up anti that right. On Igbt issues, he has done rassing ways, according to Doiiinger. (j AGV. ^'e weigh, count ai^d l>ag — it doesn't for iiis courageous' acrion, h.js ic;adtrship\ those of us who are newlv coming our, and increasing. You will be hearing more a!>(Mji nothing to move SONDA (the Igbt rights "Frustration comes with the territory," tiike Jong — and tiicn we go out to disseminate jus 'pro-civil nghts stand'-' This is the govcr even to those ot us who have been ovat for this from different sources here at the G AC V bili) through. The dynamics are there: joe Bronson acknowledges. "But throughout my r our queer propaganda at a lot of coo! places. not" whose total pubiic utti^ranccs c insisted vcar;-, and want :\ little help or fresh perspec­ as the months progress. Different voices, one Bruno (Senate Majority Leader) has re­ career i have built collaborations and partner­ O 'ITiis month 1 will be at the National Lxsbiari o '.""^i) ct^mment; let the- courts dccide'.TlTis us tive ?^XV CO' Jr cose the building at night and message — we need your help. fused to allow SONDA out of committee. ships, and ! have brought different people to­ o and Gav Journalists Association Convention the gi.^\"crnor who sf) desired not lo be associ­ elimi nate a meeting place for the many jxroups ^X'e will keep you posted as to ho'* wc -irc At this point Robach, if elected, is going to gether to work for the benefit of all. That same LAVENDER/GREIEN FIREFIGHTER: Tom Ryan, openly gay NYFD firefighter, in Philadelphia. Aith<:>ugh it focuses ;.)n lgbt ated with the bill becoming law that \\c signed that currently meet here. Should we stop hav­ doing. ^X"e knc>w we can count on you. Thank;- be in Joe Bruno's back pocket; he will do approach can be used as a Senate minorir/ at the Lavender Green Alliance Bth Annual Oiche Crerach (Gay Night) lournaiists working in the straight media, the the bill 'm rhe closet,'withi>ut photographers ing the Picnic or no longer publish the Emprv' lor caring enough to help and make a ditier what Bruno wants him to do. And Bruno person. The question is a red herring, because celebration at St, Paul the Apostle Church in Manhattan. Ryan, president of NLGjA also includes the gay medi;'.. 1 wiU be or supporters in attendance, without handing Clcisct? once, has done nothing for this community. what gay person hasn't .had to deal witii frustra­ FireFLAG/EMS, received the Roger Casement ajid Eva Gore>Booth Award. on a panel called "Let's Look at the Smail out souvenir pens or shaking hands, unhke "I will do everything in my power to tion in our lives? But as individuals and as a LGBT Media!". I hope to learn a lot from my ^-irtuallv everv other bill he has ever signed... The other choice, ar?d the one 1 feel confi­ P.S.:^'ou can find a nicmbersliip tear shp on bring SONDA to tfie floor for a vote. community we keep making a difference.*' t'ellow hacks for queer liberation. Dean has been greeted with standing ova­ dent you, our readers, will choose, is to help us page 3 of this paper. WeVe been trying to pass gay rights leg­ On the topic of economic revitalization, My only regret is that 1 will miss a panel tions bv CJLBT<^,) audiences and organiza­ islation for 3 I years. How long do we have Bronson comments, "My opponent has been a which will run at the same time: "Is Naked tions in California, V<'ashington D.C, Roch­ to wait? No more excuses. It's time to let member ofthe majority in the Assembly for over News the Future of Online News?". App r- ester N.Y. and elsewhere. In September, he this come up for a vote." j 0 years — he hasn't delivered. Joe Bruno has endv a site called "Naked News" feature? nude shares the honored speakers biU... at the Na­ If you are reading this been majority leader ofthe Senate and he hasn't anchor-p>ersons, which certainly creates a whole tional Lesbian and Gay Journalists Associa­ Bronson added, "Not only do I have a delivered. Why should we think that now in a new frontier in journalism. tion conference in Philadelphia. I sure hope newspaper.• ee vested interest in seeing SONDA passed, partnership between Robach and Bruno the Talk about compeddon... Maybe we could someone is asking the tough quesdons when but it's important for the stJite economy upstate economy will be addressed? It won't be. entice more people to our panei if we re-tide it he says — as he did in Rochester at tbe and morale, and it's important for people The Gay Alliance already means something to you. They don't get it. '"Sex Hot Off the Wires: Behind the Scenes in Empire State Pride Agenda Dinner on May 4 in the Empire State to make this truly a the SmaU LGBT Media". (Would that it were — 'The most important act in the I,GBT Please consider beconning a member ofthe GAGV state for all the people — gay. straight, "It's time to challenge them. It's not about true.) community is the act which is so difficult — and supporting the work we do.Take a look at the form people of color, whites, rich, poor, urban, delivering pork to this area. It's about realizing suburban and rural. Our differences should A less arousing fearure of the Convention to stand up and say, I am who 1 am and I that ail of New York is in tfiis together. We on the next page and think about which membership be celebrated and used to keep us to­ haven't experienced the economic boom the vt'ill be the presence of Greta van Susteren and demand to be accepted tor who I am."' THE INViSmtE (LESBIAN) FAN: Mary Titus hancfs out fliers in front of gether, not used to divide us. rest of the nation experienced in the *90s. We Bill O'ReiUy ofFox News, pontificadng on the Stay tuned for the October Empty Closet's level is the right one for you. Get connected and help Madison Square Garden, In protest ofthe >^NBA and NY Liberty basketi>all "The Kodaks and Xeroxes and Bausch topic of "Liberal Bias in the Media". I wonder coverage of a convention which should prove others do the same! S«"«n»on contJniMKl on p. II team policy of ignoring lesbian ^ans. >^omen staged kiss-ins at all timeouts. if anyone wiU be lecturing thenrx about conser- interesting in a variety of ways. I 'our confidential GAGV Membership includes an Empty Closet A Publication of the Gay Alliance I 244~9030 or .-aHlil I e)>pld $240 GAGV w in Ofgitiization, business I Q 1 year: Sl 5 (123 Canadian; $28 Intema- A cme-year subcnptkm indudes 11 issues. " Street Address: Papenazem^ledifiplaiiietivelopes. Return • (DtcHnfaat iMd JwMiiKjp ceaditendl) bf IIM Baipqr GUMM PfeH* ikr dM G*r or cotponte member call 244-8640. I tional) ! «rfd»» CiiuM* v«a*r. 1*6. Affwaiiwtir $ott Programs and Services! Home Phone: Business: In MdelH h «N M iadtefdon of dw mewmt ot I donal) GAGV. I ^^» •SpiWk ^^WP^W^w ^^» WHV gagv minAf ers to equality for women in tha areas of cannot by law. do business with orgwiliattons this same ami*woman. anti-^y rhetoric tp old IXC foster child In 1992. and has been tently barred gay people from adopting chil­ to murder. It is time for action.** education, employment, marriige and di° that discriminate." oppose reproductive freedom and aqui^ tryinf to adopt a sibling for him since 1999. dren. The bvvsuit filed last year by Lambda in her statement. vorce. health care and many others. In California. San Francisco Superior Court ity fbr gqr. lesbian, bisexual and transfender A Vki^ntan adoption agency and D.C. offi­ Legal with co-counsel ACLU of Vir^nla dial- According to news reports, | Conservative opf>os{tion to women's judges and commistoners were the first to cut people, both here in the U5. and abroad.*' cial determined that she is well qualified to lenged that practice in Kaufman's out-of-state Deon Davis. 18, and Stephanie rights has caused the Bush administration ties with the BSA. adopting a policy on July 11 -Rhonda Smith. 77ie Washingtcm Bhde provkle a honte for a second chlW — but adoption application. 19, in the front seat of Thomas' to ask the Senate to postpone a vote on that says that they will not have dealings wfth Virginia officials refused to approve the adop­ "WeVe seen this problem elsewitere. The Camry in a southeastern part of th«l the measure until the U.S, Department of any organization that "discriminates on the Study says one in five tion placement because Kaufman is a lesbian. lack of a state law banning gay adoption less than a block from Thomas' i justice reviews h. D^^nocrats rq|ected that basis of sexual orientation." Stitewlde ethical Kaufrnan works in Washington. D.C, but doesn't necessarily mean gay people are able Each victim had at least 10 bullet request. gay men plan suicide standards for judges, due to a Supreme Court lives In Arl^igton. Va. with her partner, Liane to adopt in that state," said Michael Adams, and was pronounced dead at the scisexual men has This is a common-sense settlement that lic Affairs. "Ekit in each of these states, there their mid-teens when they met at an agency tration to say the justice Department needs g^iys. The BSA is exempt from this ruling, but planned suteMe. and ! 2 percent have actu­ puti the ibcus of adoption back where it are hundreds and sometimca thousands of that serves transgender youth. to review it is disingenuous. If he's op­ gay activists hope the San Francisco decision ally attempted to kill themselves. belongs — on the kkis," saki Lambda Legal kids waiting to be adopted. More of them will Police have not yet identified either sus' New Archbishop of Connecticut can posed to it, he shouki come out and say v^ll become a statewide policy. Psychobgtst jay Paul, co-author of the staff attorney Greg Nevins, wfK> argued be adopted if we forget about old prejudices pects or a motive for the shootings. In diat" Canterbury in favor remove Boy Scouts -The Washington Blade study and an investigator at the University Kaufiman*s case in state court. 'Toda/s settle­ and base adoption on children's needs, which response to the killings, several GLBT ad­ Sen. Jesse Helms, ranking Republkran on of Califomia at San Francisco's Center for ment isn't only a vktory for Linda's family— is wttat today's settiement does." vocacy groups, including the Task Force, from list of charities the Senate Foreign Relations Committee, of gayt female priests Task Force backs AIDS Prevention Studies, says that suicide it's a beacon of hope for some ofthe 1.016 The case is Kaufrnan v. Wginki Dept of Sodal joined together in planning a vigil for Tues­ and longtime opponent of women's and A Welsh clergyman who is In favor Of the A U.S. District Court ruled onjuly 22 that the attempts and plans are especially common chikiren In foster care In D.C who are Services In Ariington Country Circuit Court. day night in the vicinity of the shootings. women's rights treaty gay rights, said in a letter that U.N. reports ordination of gay and female priests has state of Connecticut did not violate the first among younger gay men. who lack a sup­ waiting to be adopted." Rebecca Glenberg of the ACLU of Virginia is Several community leaders spoke at the on women's oppression vi«>ridw!de are been named Archbishop of Canterbury. Amendment rights of the Boy Scouts of The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force port system of peers. LNKJer the settlement, signed by Kaufman co-counsel, and Joseph Price of Arent Fox event, including Task Force communk:a- "out of step with generally hekl values of Rowan Williams* 52. was named by America (BSA) when it removed the organi­ (NGLTF) is tebbying for ratification of a 22- Between 1996 and 1998. Paul and his and state officials, Kaufman is clear to begin Kintner Plotkin & Kahn, PLLC is Lambda tions Director jubi Headley. and DC Mayor democratic nations," and that the treaty's Prime Minister Tony Blair on June 22 to zation from a list of charities that state em­ year-old treaty which would promote equal­ colleagues reviewed the findings of a phone the process of adopting anotifer D.C. foster Legal's cooperating attorney. Anthony Williams. supporters have "a radical abortion become the spiritual leader ofthe worid's ployees contribute to, via a payroll deduction ity for women worldwide. Supporters hope survey of 2,881 gay and bisexual men in child, Virginia's Dept. of Social Services will Go to www.iambdalegal.org for a newly -NGLTF agenda". 70 million Anglicans next month. He will pian. for a vote in tiie U.S. Senate this month. New York, Los Angeles, Chicago and San also send Its local departments and agencies updated overview of adoption statutes and Two thirds of the Senate, or 67 mem­ also become the first non-English Arch­ The Connecticut State Eftiployee Cam­ "Basic equality for women should be a no- Francisco. The study appeared in August's a directive Instructing that consideration of case law In each state and additional back­ bers, will have to vote in favor of granting Conservative British bishop since the founding ofthe Church of paign Committee removed the BSA from its brainer," said Lorrie L jean, NGLTF execu­ American journal ofPubHc Health. all applications for adopting out-of-state chil* ground on Linda Kaufman and her lawsuit. advice and consent for the ratification. England in the I ^th century. list in 2000, after the state's Commission on tive director. "Yet the anti-gay right vnng in By contrast, study researchers claim dren ''will be limited to whether the pro­ -Lambda Legal politician comes out Williams was a peace activist in his Human Rights determined that Inciuding the America has blocked this treaty for nearly a Supporters hope to schedule a vote this that nine to 15 percent of heterosexual posed placement is contrary to the interests In early August, Alan Duncan, a Conserva­ youth. Although he was in New York City BSA violated the state's anti-discrimination quarter century." month, before the midterm elections, hop­ men have planned to commit suicide. Trans teens killed in of that child." The directive also says that tive party lawmaker, became that party's near the Worid Trades Center on Sept. laws, due to the BSA policy of excluding gays. The NGLTF is lobbying for the treaty, ing that women voters will pressure mod­ -Detro^ Free Press "there are no absolute barriers'* to potential first member to announce that he is gay. I 5, he opposes U.S. involvement in Af­ The BSA headquarters in h-ving^ Texas *iled known as the Convention for the Elimination erate Republicans to approve. Washmgton D,C. adoptions. Previously, Virginia officials re­ The traditionally right-wing party, pres­ ghanistan, and the sanctions and threats of a federal discrimination lawsuit, based on the o^Al! Forms of Discrimination Against Womer> Over 170 countries have ratif«e.d the Lesbian may adopt in response to the murder of two transgender fused to consider applications from gay men sured by Prime Minister Tony Bbir and his war against Iraq. He also has criticized the U.S. Supreme Court ruling that the BSA has (CEDAW). because it will directiy affect the treaty, which President Carter signed as teenagers in Southeast Washington, D.C. on and lesbians. Labor Party, Is trying to promote a new United States for rejecting environmental a right to discriminate against people based lives of lesbian, bisexual and heterosexual he left ofRce In 1980. The United States is foster child; rules Aug ! 2. National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Kaufman said she will immediately begin image of openness and moderation. treaties. on their sexuai orientation. One Connecticut women. Sean Cahiil, director of the NGLTF the only industrialized nation, out of 21 Executive Director Lorri L Jean issued a change in Virginia the processof»doptinganother child. 'These Duncan is the foreign affairs spokesper­ In spite of these views* and of his sup­ scouting council filed a federal discrimination Policy Institute, said, "Half of gay people are countries, that has not ratified the treaty. statement Aug. 13 calling for quick action to A lesbian Episcopal priest in Northern kids ne^ a fovlng. stable, pem^anent home, son for the Conservatives, or Tories, Britain's port for Igbt and women clergy, he is seen lawsuit against the state, claiming that exc!u> women, so it will have a direct impact on Other nations that have rejected it include bring the killers to justice; she hjrther urged Virginia will be able to adopt another which is wfiiat my family provides," Katjfman main opposition party. He told the Times as a unifying and inspirational figure in the sion from the list was a First Amendment lesbians. But also, it's about equality. As a gay Iran, Sudan, Syria, Somalia, and the United local and national leaders to heighten their foster child from the District of Columbia said. This settiement is what I've wanted al! that "living in disguise as a politician in the church, due to his gentie manner, willing­ violation. * man, 1 should be concemed about this passing Arab Emirates. efforts to prevent hate-motivated violence — and Virginia child placement officials along — for my application to be processed modem worid simply isn't an option. The ness to listen to opposing views, and The dectsion was praised by State Comp­ as well." Lorrie Jean said, "The reality ss that the against all gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgc»nder will no longer bar such adoptions based and assessed like ali the others, and for kids Tory point of view has always been, 'We acknowledgement that radical change does troller Nancy Wymaii, a named defendant in On July 30, the Senate Foreign relations right wing fears that these treaties will (GLBT) people. on the parents* sexual orientation — un­ who badly need homes to have that chance." don't mind, but don't say.' Well, that doesn't not happen overnight. the lawsuit, who said, "It just basicaily states Committee voted 12-7 in favor of ratifying the undermine their own rigid concepts ofthe *'When ignorance and fear pose daily risks der a lawsuit settlement made public on Uke neariy every state in the country, work anymore." -New York Times that the state of Connecticut does not, and treaty, which urges nations to remove barri­ family and religion. The rightwing has used Virginia does not officially ban adoption by to a segment of our community, it is cause for Aug. 14. concern. When tiiat ignorance and fear lead -77ie Washmgton Sikide Linda Kaufman adopted a then^fSve^year- gay people. But state officials have consis­ iLTiunmijiLimifmai^^ ynuiunLrmjiUfiun^ / ART, GIFTS, FILMS &More www.prideconnection.net

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Nlaitlins Aimual PINION sssorics Festival Festival Fever Begi '^rl He Sedester Lesbiai & Gay Fiin & Video Festival While the Festival doesn't start until October 4, the excitemt^ starts now! There are many important dates in September to^ Confessions of a Rochester call boy tt.m mark on your calendars - 2 screenings, an evening of perforr.. By Grant Mason celebrating our 10th anniversary and Festival ticket sale dates.J relationship, either married or partnered. >\\ >\\>\i] AB^L F .^1 NIAI ri.lN> For three yeats 1 earned my money the old- Hardly any single gay men made an appoint­ Look for the Festival program distributed throughout the Rochesi. fashioned way - the world's oldest-fashioned area and posted on our website the second week of September. ment. The conventional thinking appears to A in} A SM A RT Ni' \^ WQ K Tl> A t) L ii ii 4>M h: t; H U FF IC H way.... Lastmonth 1 retired as a sex worker. I am be, "Why pay for what you can get for free?" writing this artide to counter the myths and The twelfth and last screening of our 10th anniversary series. Except that, as we all know, it is never without \V;jTH i3feTlNCtl\:F SOF^ misconceptions perpetuated by such films as cost. ^Iiat pnce are guys paying forgetting up CifTMlt and 701 Runt Boys that such activity Show Me Loire their hopes, girding their loins, going out, and ;;---^:'v';..;.•••''- • '.A^N;T>:;t^:ARPFTS- F DEFFA Rr yni^jA :•; •:'[;.'_ invariably leads to depravity, despair, and death. then notgettingany? Or finally meeting some­ (Sweden, 1999) 35nim 89 min. The idea of becoming a pleasure profes- one, only to hear the dreaded, "I'll call you"? It takes a prank on lonely Agnes for Elin to discover her own sionsiJ never would have entered my mind, Occasionally an enlightened couple would Thursday evening sexuality. A frank, sensitive, and remarkably cliche-free story except that the opportunity virtually fell in my make an appointment together. Adding me to 7:00pm @ Littie Ttieatre about the pain of first love, that's humorous and charming. lap at the same moment 1 ended a long-term rhe mix certainly seemed to help their cake Tickets are $6 and available now at Gutenberg Books, 675 Monroe Avenue; relationship and also lost my job. I was ready to rise! 240 East Avenue Outlandish Video, 274 North Goodman Street and Pride Connection. 728 South give it a try, but first did some research to ir)' to The transactional nature of the exchange Avenue. Remaining tickets will be available at the Little Theatre box office on understand tbe risks involved. An amazing enabled me to provide a peak performance. It the night of the show beginning at 6:00pm (theatre doors open at 6:30pm). .*••• amount ofinformation is available, including a makes for probably the best realization of the website, ^^"vvw.hocjkonline.org, and various "no strings" concept; everyone understands books, the best of which is Hus.'krs, Bscoris and the rules. My regular clients and i were able to Pom Stars: An Insider's Chide to Male Pro.stttuHcn achieve a high degree of sexual inumacy in a Ncivif This Year - IA:S.' 7«'//(jf7 ;r/ /-''^ns ^orx ot wav. ! '.va^' nc.''! alwjjvs all proved to be accurarc. .i C'ansidmers Ghjdi tc sure I knew their real names. M'-j^-t men wanted Online Ticket Ordering. Male Hustlers, by Joseph Itiel, ss written from a daytime appointments at my place, but i did go For the first time this year ImagOut will offer online ticket ordering. From client's point of \'iew, and John Preston wrote to a few homes, and businessmen calling from Saturday, September 14 at 10am through noon on Friday, September 20. the more lurid Hustling:y\ Ctntkmafi's Guide to hotels usually made for an excellent encoun­ Online ordering begins: If you're paying by credit card we can mail you your tickets, if you're paying the Fine Art of Homosexual Pmstitutior.. ter, by cash or check you can pay and pick up your tickets at the ImageOut The three main nsks-1 identified were poten­ What happened dunng an appointment? www.imageout.org office on September 21 from 1-5pm, we'll have a separate line for online tial health risks,, possible risks to my satet)', and With a new client I wouid start by giving a back order pick up to make it quick and easy. the iegai gray area surrounding the field. The rub, and then roll hirn over and take my cues best defense in all cases was to carefully screen from there. Some guvs expected nothing fur­ potential clients: i f an\nhing seemed at all wrong ther, but that was rare. Usual action ranged when i was chatting with a guy, 1 would not from a hand job at the minimum to all out sex, Ticket Sales Begin accept the appointment. I also tot)k a yer^- although ry-picaUy the level of invoivr.;ment ;,..'•. yi:u:^-Xiy\. ?rhursiki-y: TO it:m\. t: H'p/m. • ', ''..•:•. conservative approach to marketing my ser­ increased as we got to know each other over Tickets can be purchased at 274 N. Goodman St. (Village Gate vices, avoiding) the mainstream media and in­ successive appointmcn's. Mu;i men were,* ea­ Square) outside our office in tfie C wing at the far rear of the stead concentrating on gav ;>utlcts, including a ger to reciprocate, and many were good lovers main Village Gate building. Ample parking is available and the classified ad in the Empty Closet, flyers posted at 1 was fortunate to make some lasting friend­ Advance ticket sales building is accessible by wheelchair. ImageOut tickets will be Outlandish and Pride Connection, and a ships, and having friends who are also sex begins at the ImageOut for sale at this location on the following dates only: website accessible through gay-oriented por­ partners is great! tals. NX'hat kind of person becomes a sex v/orker? office: 274 N. Goodman St. As it turned out, I never encountered any Not ail of us are runaways in search of their From ProvincetoujD via England September 21&22,28&29, from 1-5pm. scnous problems. 1 did not contract any dis­ next fix. In my pre\-ious career I had been a eases, which is a better track record than 1 manager, coUege-cducated, coinmunity vol­ enjoyed when I was conventionally "tricking" unteer, all-around conttibubng member of (USA, 1983) 35mm 110 min. (how ironic that gay culture adopts the termi­ &'.>ciery. i am a nice looking guy but no Lianna nology but admonishes the pracace), even superm-odei, and leallv rather shy. Ail rny pre- Continuing a year long series in honor of ImageOut's 10th anniversary, we are with orders of magnitude more encounters. I \Tous partners can be counted on my fingers proud to present, in conjunction with George Eastman House, this rarely seen was worried briefly that one client had turned and toes. 1 doubted 1 would succeed, but as gem, in a newly restored 35mm print, once touted as "the best lesbian movie into a stalker, but he soon dropped out of Itiel points out in liis book, sotne guys are just nobody has seen." At a time when neither society nor cinema was very open sight. And the likelihood that society will take naturals and 1 turned out to be one. At first I Wednesday evening to exploring notions of sexuai identity, director John Sayies {Lone Star, a sane, sensible approach to this issue remains attributed mv clients' effusive praise to their Sunshine State) crafted this poignant and sensitive lesbian coming-out drama. about the same as for a«) social justice issue - need to fantasize being with an awesome stud, 8:00pm @ Dryden Theatre Tickets are $5.50 ($4.50 for museum members and students) and will be very reinote. but even after appointments were ovei they 900 East Avenue available at the Dryden Theatre box office only. NX'hat kind of p)erson hires a sex worker? would make follow-up thank ycva calls and Lewis •: VCithout exception my ciients were polite, con­ bring me gifts! (Need I make another compari - siderate and well groomed (which, once again, son to my past "dates"? I didn't think so.) Of is more than I can say for some of my past course, the best compliment of ail was their ^he*s a band in a bodyf A Performance tricks). Far from being hard luck cases with repeat business, and after a while, my client Hi-cnergy world-beat grooves played on a ton of unusual instruments. nowhere else to turn, many were very attrac­ base was large enough that I no longer needed Quirky lyrics, a Uttle jazz, a little salsa, a lot of etitertainment! Celebration of ImageOut tive men that I am glad to have met. It was like to advertise. She's not just a singer-songwriter, she's more like a circus! Forrest Gutnp's box of chocolates, I opened So why have i retired? Eventiialiy I obtained Thursday evening, Thomas Warfield - Producer my door to every kind of guy and almost ali of another traditional job, some other life changes Mi$s Gay Rodiaster, Aurora Borealis (Erik Libey) - Mistress of Ceremonies them had soirjcthing going on. I jfuJly expected occurred, and my available time simply disap­ 7:30 pm @ Downtown Some ofthe performers helping us celebrate ImageOut's 10th anniversary to have to endure some unpleasantness, but peared. I decided to quit while I was ahead and Appearing Presbyterian Church will be: Rochester Gay Men's Chorus, Rochester Women's Community never had an unacceptable experience. Friends die experience was still rewarding. Apparendy 121 N. Fitzhugh St Chorus, Bassically Treblemakers, Rainbow Gospel Choir and others! The have wondered how I could just take on who­ society once again paints a picture consider­ M.'••\••\\^ [^OHt AllS' evening is free and open to the pubiic (suggested donation - $5) ever showed up. Like most people^, I would ably darker than the reality turned out to be. Saturday, September 14,7:30 p.m. rather be picked up than do the picking, so Or perhaps I was incredibly lucky. Likely being picked andpjkid was no hardship. the truth is somewhere in between. Calvary St. Andreiv*s Most of the men were in some form of Averiil at Ashland, South Wed^e Opening Night! Tickets $10 in advance/ $ 12 at tli|^4l3oi' 7:00pm By Hook or By Crook tmageOut is proud to present one ofthe most exciting and ground^ caia.32s^4^o..:;;::,:.,yM. breaking new films of the year that made a splash at The Sundance > •"•>>!Isi^-"^-"' Friday evening, Rhn Festival. A gritty, yet affectionaite, uncompromising triumph, Opmiing Nlgiit ® often dubbed *the lesbian Midnight Cowboy." Hew'*- Zoelewis@fahoo. com For iriformation: www.provincetown.eom/zoe Little theatre 1 9:30 pm Notorious C.H.O. •A« « «Y«1UilAMt Margaret Cho at her laugh-OMt*loud best. The outrageous Asian American queer stand-up comedian has been touring the country £ VM y F r i (j j y AII D r i n k ; H i\! f P r i c with her new show, now on film and making its Rochester premiere. • ••iwr—

Syphilis: most new traditions, and the discussion that day can* diffexent crowds, it also opened up the op­ NYC continuod from p. I ment jurisdictions in tha areas of chfll rights Albany and New York City tered around how and if the indivkJual fiiiths F ro m Our R c a d en s portunity fbr mote intermingling in the com­ marringa b probably dws most controversial and rebtionship recognition for iesbians. gay Funding ^lout from cases here are MSM that not only does upstate handled gay union cerenK>nies. These people munity. aspect of the bill. When local and state men, bisexuals and transgender people, the were from diffiarent denominations but dkjn*t them, but they rely on upstate as^ By Kelli HcMshoiv MOIMXM County Howevet, I fed the commumty was tro^ government jurisdictions deliberate about Pride Agenda said. the Sept. 11 attacks one state," he said. "You can't i Health D«p«rtmMit necessarily represent them. GAGV iield picnic at kd. AdveTtisemeats posted thxoi:^bout the whedwsr to recognize same-sex relation­ New York State, on die other hand, falls far by saying one area should have \ ' Since our Hr^ artkle in the Auguft Empty This is true to this day though many commuoiiy buainease^ advertised, 'Tbtee ships and offer benefits, such as access to short of New Yoric City and even with respect By Brad Smith G.V. Paric in 1975 boom and the rest should be exc Goset I've had •oroe Intaresting and enMght- indhldual congrcfations and denominations Studs, Thtee Stages, Thwe DoBats." I have heahh-cara benefits, they usually avoki men­ to other states can only be seen as a laggard. Pride Agenda. ImageOut, Dignity USA. If patents are one example. We si enitigconversatiom. Hostquostions re^ohfed have taken a positive stand on lgbt issues. To the Editor: discussed this with many paople, and the tioning the word "marriage," ghren its sym­ While the state did finally enact a hate crimes you belong to an LGBT group, chances are Susan Jordan, in het At^;ust editonal, "Fttst educational institutions to the around the number oC cases armmg MSM \n We don't meet very often—only five times genetal oonsenaoa se^ns to be that one $3 bolic meaning among religious groups. law in 2000 that includes sexual orientation youVe heard from them lately. And they a year on Sunday afternoons. And vye dM not times," wiote that the Gay Alliance*s Pride about v<^t they're doing, their new i Rochester and other dties mentioned In the donation would have granted admission to The City Council, however, fek It was and extend health benefits to domestic part­ have their hand out for a check. These adopt a mission statement or goals until Picnic startedtn 1975 in someone's backyard. and products, and. as there are Ir article. Naturally, the answer Is not clear cut all thtee venues. Unfottunatdy, this was not important to make a statement that New ners of state employees, the legisbture still organizations are not immune from the Sept. 20. l992.This,asyoucanimaginevtook But the Annual Gay Alliance picnics began in for high tech projects, we should When the Heahh Def»artment becomes the case. Not only were we expected to give York City considers all relationships to be refuses to pass basic civil rights protections in difficult economic xXmeA that have followed a great deal of discussion, but states simply, Genesee Valley Park in July 1975. incubators for all the patents. aware of a new syphHis case, the first pHorfty the donation, but we wete expected to pay equal and specifically took this action to employment, housing and pubiic accommoda­ the terrorist attacks of September 11.2001. "As members of faith communities we seek Among hundreds of people I was thete, "The other point is to offer Incentives for is to assure prompt medical treatment for the standatd entrance fees at each of the recognize same-sex marriages from other tion forgay men and lesbbns across the sute. Now, a year bter, these organizations are increased awareness, understanding, and eating food £toin the gdil, bcixigdisappointed businesses to stay in the area, and create Jobs that person. With proper treatment, syphilis establishments that charge one I would have jurisdktkms as being auton>atically entitied Such a bill has been pending In Albany for 31 trying to get your attention once again. The inclusion of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and by the rain, but soaking in the spirit of com­ years and has been blocked by the Republican- and a manufecturing and service hsse here. and its symptoms (lesions or rashes) are gladly donated $3 to HPA at each k>cation. to various benefits in New York City. anthem is repeated: "You've given to the transgender people by our individual con^ munity and tibe newness of the event. Vice controlled Senate for the past 10 years. New VSfliat we haven't done is the other side of It curable, and sexual transmission to others is However, if this event was intended to ben­ Beyond the use of the word "marriage," New York City relief funds, youVe given gregations and by the larger community." Mayor Midge CostanTia I can recall misdng York City passed such a measure in 1986. — If we offer Incentives we have to get prevented. If the patient is unaware of their efit the community, I believe that the busi­ the real impact of the bill is much less contro­ blood, donated food and supplies, now let's i think that the members would agree that •viath the cK>wd, after speaking to us with a measurable results. If the results aren'tforih- HIV s^tus, they will t>c strongly encouraged ness establisiinsents should have waived en­ versial. Intro. 114-A simply allows couples in Despite the ftict that poll after poll show get back to taking care of our ovm here In one of the most valuable things that we do is microphone while trading jokes with Whitcy coming, there need to be consequences to , to take the test, regardless of gender or trance fees in intetest of divetting funds to registered domestic parmershlps, civil unions that about three out of four New Yorkers Rochester." to share at the beginning of each meeting, for LeBlanc, one ofthe Alliance's pioneers. The that. For example, if I. as a business, say, 'Gh^e sexual orientation; persons who are HIV HPA for that one evening. and marriages not recognized by New York believe that gay men and lesbians should not The competition In fundraising is fierce. support, but also to get ideas of how differ­ unscheduled climax ofthe entertainment was me tax credits and Tli create 200 jo(>s fa^ positive and have syphilis may require addi­ i do not beUeve that we should have re­ State to automatically receive the benefits of be discriminated against in the workplace, or Even the Gay Alliance of the Genesee Val­ ent faith communities work on these issues. a. drunken male picmcker doing a striptease 2004,' a government that agrees to that tional treatment and follow-up. These activi­ ceived anything free from these establish­ being In a registered domestic partnership in when seeking housing, it is still legal in New ley, publishers of T?>e £mpfy QoseU are trying By the way, new members are ahvays wel­ ftom near the ceiling of a shelter. On the approach should say, 'OK, but we wil! moni^ ties are targeted toward the patient and are ments. However, I believe that admission to NYC without re-registering their relation­ York State to do so. And while every other to get a better place In line. The GAGV plans come. down side: a policeman waniing us that he toryoursuccessand ifyou don'tsucceedand only the first step In preventing sr< outbrealt each establishment should have been open ship. state in the northeast, except for Maine, have to hire a development director to raise DL: What else has IA been up to? ns\d odier cfficers would be patrolling the similar measures in place, New York State still create those jobs, we won't continue to fund ot syphilis. to 'AXiy individual donating to HPA and re­ "We do not ask those in traditional mar­ money for its many programs and services. NF: We have a lending library of videos park and its men's room and the group in the resists. Last year, Governor Pacaki pledged to you'. That's what we didn't do with Frontier The next step in the process is for Health ceiving a wristband. Free cocktails, food, riages to re-register their marriage in every And there are not many places offering that congregations &nd other groups may nearby shelter complaining about men kiss­ the gay community to pass a statewide gay Field. The bottom line Is, hold corporatiorts Department staff to- meet with the person lockers or rooms were not expected and jurisdiction to ensure legal recognition of grant money for LGBT organizations. The borrow by calling me at 381-4846. Also ing men. rights bill, but then did not follow through on accountable. Our obligation as government with syphilis to explore who else may have should not have been. their relationship,** said Grabarz. "Nor should GAGV has aligned itself with The Gill Foun­ we've had a number of special programs. Which oniy shows, as Susan w^rote, how his pledge by the end of this year's regular Is to make sure they do what they say they been exposed. This is Public Health versus I genuinely hope that the proceeds for we ask those In same-sex relationships to do dation out of Colorado. The man behind ) think one of the outstanding ones that 1 much times have changed and stayed the legislative session. It remains one of the wili do." personal health; a necessary process, but HPA were outstanding. I hope the Empty the same." Quark Express software =s working in our remember was in May of 1994 at First same. session's major unfinished pieces of business. often misunderstood. Once we have the Chstt wiU r-eport on the results. I bclievr, that Former Mayor Rudolph Giuliani signed community and many othe^^ to leverage his Unitarian Church. !t was truly an interfafti-i Tom Kroiak New York press and political commenta­ information necessary to locate •"-he expK>sed it is time for fundraising e^-ents to be ac­ New York City's current domestic partner­ millions into real impact across the country. Corporate Annerica project, a memorial for gay and lesbian vic­ (Ed nose: TIJC earliest GACX^pi^ics did staff itt tors regularly note this when reviewing Pataki's person (contact), we notify thfrn of their countable to the community for their end- ship law Into effect In 1998. The Pride Agenda Gill will finance some outreach programs tims of Nazi bigotry, called "In Remem­ a board member^s hackyard, bnt ohtfioMsly before record and writing about the upcoming elec­ gets the idea... or not exposure to syphilis. This Is an anonymous results. If we are continually being asked to worked with the Mayor's office on this issue as long as organizations such as the GAGV brance of the Pink and Black Triangles." The 1975!) tions. It wiii undoubtedly be an issue during process; not only do we not give the name(s) participate in events that benefit tliesc "wor- for over 10 months and the law fulfilled a work to better network in their communi­ procession was led by a Jewish woman who the general election as both Democratic gu­ By Brad Smith of the person(s) that gave their names, we do tliy causes, I believe we should know if we promise made by Giuliani to the Pride Agenda ties, and not just with other LGBT organiza­ was carrying burning incense from the Catho­ Charge for event bernatorial candidates seeking their party's Corporate America is getting the message: not give a time frame for when the exposure really made a difference- in October 1997 during his race for re­ tions. Gill provides the seed money to build lic church. Chuck Collins wrote a great nomination on Sept. 10 have criticized Pataki it's good business to encourage diversity on occurred. Our goal is to assure that the was misleading Unfortunately, I am afraid that the busi­ election. NYC's domestic partnership law bridges to help strengthen groyps such as narrative about stories of four gay and les­ for felling to fiilfi!! his pledge to pass the gay the job. The Human Rights Campaign is out contact goes to their doctor or the STD To the Editor: nesses charging admission charges that extends a number of rights and responsibili­ the GAGV. Here in Rochester, it has led to bian Germans with their roles enacted dur­ rights bili. with Its first Corporate Equality Index on clinic for testing and treatment. A person I am writing in regards to the benefit for evening were probably the ones that ben­ ties to same-sex couples, including visitation ongoing training programs on topics such as ing the service. The Gay Men's Chorus sang companies with nondiscrimination policies recently exposed to syphilis will receive treat­ Helping People with AIDS on Aug. 17, hosted efited tlie most from this event. rights in City-run hospitals, succession rights New York's less than welcoming environ­ fundraising, for not only the GAGV, but and the late joe! Bloom, the cantor from that include sexual orientation as a pro­ ment to prevent syphilis from progressing by Tara, Tilt and Rochester Spa and Body Gary D. Leenhouts to apartments under City jurisdiction and ment for the state's estimated S57,000 regis­ other community non-profit groups who Temple Ssnai, sang the mourners' Kadd'ish. tected category. HRC examined policies at during the 90-day incubation stage. Tim Tonntpkins responds: tered gay and lesbian voters was further high­ wish to take part and learn. Club. the ability of a person to apply for various 319 top companies with 500 or more em­ Another program was a celebratory din* lighted on May 30 when advocates for reform Pamela Barres, interim Executive Direc­ The second arm ofthe public health inter­ Since The Empty Chset was the primary Monday Morning Quarterfi>aclc*. licenses and permits on behalf of their do­ ployees and found that 92 percent of them ner to honor four faith community leaders in the state's domestic violence law revealed tor at tiie GAGV, told the £C that even vention is more community-based "case find­ outlet to advertise this event, I thought it I don*t see how the businesses benefited mestic partner. City employees registering have such policies. who have made significant contributions to that New York and Mississippi were the only money promised from New York State to ing." When we offer testing at the bath wouid be appropriate to address my con­ the most — there were hours and hours of their domestic partnerships also are eligible In Rochester. Kodak and Xerox scored justice for Igbt people — Virginia Davidson. two states to prohibit domestic partners, fund educational programs is slow in com­ house, the GAGV picnic, ARI or other ven­ cerns in this forum. preparation for this event, and the businesses for a number of spousal benefits, such as 100 percent based on seven criteria, includ­ Walt Szymanski, Sister Kay Heverin, SSj, and including same-sex domestic partners, from ing in these difficult times. "Everyone is ues, that is what we're doing: trying to find 1 was excited when 1 heard ot the event, it absorbed aUexpenses^&^X:>^%XJ^6. with this event. bereavement leave and medical and dental ing whether die company XTX question has a r Rabbi Judea Miller who was informed about having access to family court The Pride Agenda fiurting," said Barres. "We will certainly additional new cases early enough to prevent seemed exciting for die Rochester commu­ That means that all GROSS RECEIFTS went benefits. writte/1 nondiscrimination policy covering this before his death and seemed very pleased. was a participant in that press conference. keep that in mind when we begin our budget further spread as well as possible serious nity, since it was the first entertainment event to HPA, as opposed to Net Proceeds. HPA is Currendy only Dutch same-sex married sexuai orientation, a written nondiscrimina­ His wife accepted the certificate. And the "New Yorkers view their state as one of the % health problems. So, how many cases? which involved something other than our planning this fell for our new fiscal year that > Rev. Jane Spahr was the guest speaker. That delighted with the results and most of the couples moving to or visiting NYC fall under tion policy covering gender identity and/or Locally, wc do not have an outbrcal< at this standard fare of drag shows. My comments more progressive states in the country," com­ begins in January It could affect the p.'-o- was on Nov. 16, !995. It was held at High CUSTOMERS at all three businesses enjoyed the "marriage" provision of the bill, as only expression, health insurance for gay employ­ time, but we have more cases now than we j are not meant to cast a bad light on drag mented Grabarz. "And when you look at their grams we offer. More competition makes Fails. About 250 people — it was a sellout! the evening. the Netheriands has legalized marriage be­ ees' partners, and a commitment not to be did all of last year and the year before that. shows, since I love them and highly respect viev/s on the issues, this is generally substan­ the fundraising harder for everyone." We also had two programs at Temple It's easy to complain; it's hard to do tween same-sex couples. Vermont is the involved in any activities that would "under­ The critical local issue is the fact that atl but the efforts of outstanding commuruty mem­ tiated. Voters, however, would be shocked if ImageOuc The Rochester Lesbian and B'rith Kodesh co-sponsored with Women fundraising. only state in the U.S. that enables same-sex mine the goal of equal rights for lesbian, gay, one ofthe new cases were among MSM. Over bers such as Michael Dealc, Rick Love and they really knew that their elected represen­ Gay Film and Video Festival depends on of Reform Judaism, BVith Kodesh Sister­ I personally am tired of Tvorking on parmers to enter into a civil union. There bisexual and transgender people." the past couple of years, no MSM were David Catchpole. tatives routinely ignore their wishes on mat­ financial suppKart from volunteers and the hood. They were in 1997 and a repeat in fundraising events — but I do it because I are, however, at least eight states and more Bausch and Lomb did well, but doesn't yet diagnosed with syphilis. ters like gay civi! riglits and maintain a status community in order to present a nationally- 2000. The second one, Rochester GLSEN I was also pleased that this fundraiser pro­ believe in the causes. than 100 city and county governments that have a written non-discrimination policy cov­ The most recent syphilis statistics from quo in this state that was discarded a decade known festival each October. Money raised joined in planning and sponsoring. We called vided a chance for everyone in the commu­ Wouldn't it be nice if we all just wrote provide some type of domestic partner rec­ ering gender identity and/or expression in its the Centers for Disease Control illustrate ago by almost every other state in this region." by ticket sales barely pays for the film the program, '"Respect Is Elementary," based nity to participate. Many ofthe events in our checks?! ognition and benefits. employee handbook or manual. Other large the ongoing challenge: Upstate NY (any­ -Empire State Pride Agenda rentals, organizers say, on the film hfs Elementary: Talking about Gay cotnmunity arc priced so high that many of us Thanks to aU who worked so hard to make NYC is a Leader in LGBT Rights local companies such as Paychex, Valeo, Blue where north or south of NYC) has a 67 are not able to parddpate. The thought of AIDS Rochester Executive Director Paula Issues in SdiooL The program won two Re­ this event successfiil in two ways: raising While NY State is a Laggard Meanwhile, the N.Y. Times has an­ Cross and Blue Shield and Wegmans were percent increase over the number of cases participating in one huge event, hosted on Silvestrone says her agency works to raise form Jewish social action awards for the money for HPA and educating some young The action by the City Council and its April nounced that it will join 69 other national not included in the nadonai survey. Accord­ seen last year through July; NYC a 50 percent money In as many ways as it can think of, B'rith Kodesh Sisterhood. one city block, with three gay establishments people about that cause. 24 decision to extend non-discrimination ing to HRC, Wegmans does not have policies publications in printing civil union announce^ including direct mail and special events such increase; Califomia a 73 percent increase, for a $3 donation, was great. Since the three Tim Tompldna, Vice President, He^ protections to transgender people continue regarding sexual orientation or gender ex­ DL: What would you like to see the ments in its weddings section, which will be as the annual AIDS Walk. "One thing most and Washington DC, a 218 percent increase! establishments participating tend to attract ing People with AIDS NYC's leadership role among local govern­ pression In its employee handbooks, nor group do in the hiture? re-named "Weddings/Celebrations". people don't realize is that the foundations Florida is about the same as last year, which does it provide benefits to same sex part­ NF: We would like to have more pro­ that provide us with some funds have also is not good news. ners. grams in the community. It takes energy and real injustice gay people had to put up with. had a difficult yc^r with their own invest­ So, now what? Like we said last month, we HRC offers the information as a guide to effort and it would be nice if more people I don't think nuny of us realized that Jobs ments, creating pressure on them too." knew it v^as just a matter of time before Color Outside the help Americans decide what products to came forth with some ideas — and not just might be threatened, or your apartment, and syphilis reared its head in Rochester. Get buy, where to seek employment or invest. ideas. We wouid like to get more hith it goes on and on. Td been involved for quite Bronson continued from p. 3 tested, get treated, get cured. And, take care. Line Crew plans gala Many companies have long histories of sup­ communities invoh^ed. 1 think an interfoith a few years in other social justice areas and, IA continued! from p. I porting nondiscrimination, but adding the presence at many different things in the to me, this |ust became another one. Over weekend in Nov. like other parts of the country. Wc*!l have words to employee handbooks puts them in for most of its existence and often writes community really matters, an interlbhh pres­ the years IVe met many people also working to woric even harder to have economic an elite group. Rochester's Kodak and Xerox I letters to the local press in support of igbt ence on 1^ issues. in diis area and it has been roaily a joyful The Color Outskle the line Crew, a sodal revitalization. are two of just 13 companies v/hoVe done it. Issues on behalf of IA. Recently she was DL: How did you gat involvad In lgbt experience In nviny ways. The first time dut organization by and fbr African American "The way to do this Is by tapping into the Which industries tend to t>e more inclu­ interviewed in the breakfast room of the issues? we saw the Gay Men's Chorus, my reaction women, will hold a Weekend Extrav^^nza educational institutions we have kically. We sive? Banking and financial services receWe4 Victorian house she shares wHh her husband NF: I became involved, and I can't remem­ was sadness, feeling sorry for all th«aa people, and Ntght of Bagance Nov. 1-3. have one of the highest rates of patents filed a median score of 71 percent; high-tech Dkk in the village of Pittsford. ber the year, but (it was) when the Chamber for what their life was. h took ma a whHe to Evants vt^H indude a big party, dinner every year—but we don't help researchers equipment manufacturers had a n>edian score Darrell Lance: How dkf IA eonne of Commerce rdused to rent space CO the reattsa the |oy and happiness and that this dance, brunch, tho^f show and mora. The work with local businesses — the patents of 79 percent and consulting firms liad a about? Gay Men's Chorus. I had never heard ol the diorua Is cijlabi aHng baing i^f. (Dick and I single ticket pHca is $70 par fiaraon. Tha gat shaped elsewhere. We have to do median score of 86 percent. In contrast, Nancy Fitts: The Episcopal Diocesan Com> Gay Men's Chorus. I am from Rrsc Unitarian ara now subscribers!) dkmar dance and party wiK ba held at averydiing to help small businesses grow: that's where our IMebtood is. It's no longer market sectors that scorad consistandy low mfttae on Homophile Ministry and the Pres- Church and our minittar at that tiroa^ Dick I had a ttaiigbta^ who was a laabian, and D'Andraa*s Hrvf House. 1713 LyaM Am in the Big Three (Kodak, Xerox and Bausch were engineering and construction (median bytarian Task Force on Homophobia had the Gilbert, stated that ha was going to in^gair mawyyiopla think I sMrtad doli« this ba» For out^«4ownian,.or thoia who wwit a to the board that we no bngar uaa iha & Lomb). We have to tap into state and score: 29 percent); food, beverage and gro­ idaa to call tQfachar some people from dif- eauae oTHar. But I iwa deing It bi« bafora I n|#itawy Irom heme. 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fbr acquiring AIDS. Nonetheless, Rush so- shows a skeletal man reaching for a hand to lift On a more setious note. Issue 159 (May orofir^ ^^A . A J EC History: the ^*t lOyeais bedy admitted that *'Male homosexuals re­ him out of the barbed wite that surrounds liim. 198585) feam«d Trm Mains', annour^cement ^^ T ^^'""'"' '^^''^ main the major group affected, accounting AIDS would gain even more EC coverage in diat he would tun fi>r Qty CoundL Through­ 1 ne t.oors boycott was not the only subject By Tony Leuaad the central issue in the years to come, but its iot approximately 75 percent of the cases." the months to come. By issue 139 Q\xae 1983), a out the next severalmOntfasyMains's ounpaign diat preoccupied die commumty. Issue 168 DediaiteJS9 Lht^Mes^ debut in print was almost understated. Issue And while no Rochesterian males had yet monthly AIDS update surfaced; it was com­ was dosdy covetJed by EC staff writer Tom focused on gays and lesbians who suffered After its Htst decade of rapid growth and 119 saw the first mention ofthe disease appear been found to suffer ftom this disease. Rush's prised mostly of syndicated blurbs from larger Krolak. Although Ktolsk admitted in a De­ from chemical dependendes, while 173 ad- vast coverage of the k^ and social changes on page nine in an unsigned hybrid newsbrief dressed the now~infamous Bowers and artide was a far cry from tl^ic "puzzled" view national news presses. But still, local f:onscious~ cember artide (Issue 16ort for d^ose who were suffer­ policing public park sex were varied: some was devoted almost entirely to book reviews, tionship between "gay culture" and "AIDS" deinonsiTate.s examples of all these interests. though 111 gay men were reported to have ing from the loss of loved ones. Unfortu­ considered Mains's camf>aign a significant fac­ while 201 included an extensive book supple­ was becoming perhaps ail-too apparent in the Local fiction writers, poets and non-fiction succumbed to the disease at this time, no one nately, much of the dialogue about AIDS at tor, while others thought the blatant homopho­ ment. 195 featured an adorable illustrated cover monthly updates, calendars of events, adver­ enthusiasts were given space to showcase their from Rochester had y^t contracted it. As one this time cojild not offer any quick solutions to bia of the then current Chief of Police was of people reading at Durand Beach. tising for spedfic services or providers, fund­ efforts in two sections of the paper — "Les­ of six cities under close CDC observation, those who were suffering. In.stead, the estab­ responsible. Another theory considered the Other theme issues oi note included "Gay raisers, and artistic endeavors. bian lines" for women and "Hangers" for Rochester's Les-Bi-Gay Alliance officials lished organizations spent much of their en- complaint of a woman who, walking bet sev^n- and Lesbian Parents" (Issues 190), "Disabled Issues 202 (April 1989) and 205 Quly 1989) men. Illustrators and photographers, in addi­ promised its readers that it wouid obtain as 19805 F-mpty Closet volunteers work on layout the old-fashioned way. erg}'- promoting preventive behaviors, which year-old son through the park one day, saw a I_>esbians and Gays (196), Domestic Violence once agajin centered on AIDS-reiafed subjects. tion to providing news visuals and graphicaily much mfon-nadon as p<.>ss!b!c about this "puz­ included using condoms for anaJ snd oral sex of Allia^oce officials one year earbcr ness WHS not entirely under the dark wing of the man masturbating in the bushes. (However, (197), "Gay and Ixsbianjews" (Issue 20g),and In the former, a wonderful article by Cynthia appealing cover artwork, often contributed zling situation'* as it became available • and warnings not to share IV needles. Issue The center spread of Issue 131 continues epidemic. Despite an AIDS benefit mentioried her report does not indicate whether or not she the age-old concern of "Activism vs Assimila­ Van Ness sets forth views about the correla­ images to these sections as well. The following month (October 1981), an­ 183 also recognized the establisliment of the the AIDS dialogue, i^presenting it graphj- on page one and an extensive health update by knew the man was gay.) tion" (Issue 209). This last i.ssue boasted wcU- tion between AIDS and artistic resjxsnses to it. Coverage of nationwide events also in­ other unsigned articie appeared, this rime on AIDS quilt, which would become a ritual form written contributions on the topic from City "Some believe art cannot begin to address cally in two side-by-side drawings from an Michael j. Fierce on page 15, much ofthe Roch­ As the Highland Park bust suggests, gays creased. Issue 118 featured no less than 19 page two of Issue 120. Entided "No 'Gay' of unity, emotional bonding, and artistic ex­ coJumnistJack Bradigan-Spula, EC staff-writer AII5S without trivializing it," she noted. But, uncredited artist, a Sue Cowell interview ester community was still immersed in celebra­ and lesbians had not come as far as fhey diough t signed *'news briefs," largely culled from larger Diseases Here," the more locally-pointed piece pression for years to come. Mark Siwiec, and skilled poet and playwright as Van Ness's essay demonstrated, several with Thomas Rush, a brief report oo a Gay tions for gay pride, theater, and even its own in obtaining equal rights and mass acceptance. periodicals like The Washington Blade and The reported that the CDC*s search for "gay pneu­ Issue 189 (Febmary 1988) is similarly cen­ Beth Bailey. artists had been responding to it in ways that Rights National Lobby directed at obtaining history (feanired as a list on page 12). Around Issue 191 (May 1987) retumed to the bold, AdtHKnte. These newsfronts varied consider­ monia jind gay cancer" in the Rochester area tered on AIDS, thought this rime Grass Roots Spula attacked the complacency of the ma­ opened up dialogue around the disease itself. funding for AIDS research, and a syndicated this timCj tributes to such liteiaty giants as Ten­ committed activism of the community's ear­ ably, from a mention of the recipients for the had been terminated because no cases were Activism is given some prominence through jority of gays and lesbians who would rather One way this dialogue was expanded is through story from The Washin^n Blade which com­ nessee Williams (Issue 136) and Gertrude Stiein lier years when Coors beer became avsujabie American Library Association's annual Gay reported in Monroe County. The anonymous the efforts of ACT-UP. Many ofthe articles in blend into the mainstream culture than ques­ the artist's insistence of living witii, not d^ing plained about Ronald Reagari vetoing a (Issue 120) were not uncomtrson. And three for purchase in the Rochester community Book Awards (John Boswcll and Audre Lorde) author went on to explain that "the (CDC's) the issue, furthermore, concentrate on the tion it. With pointed indignation he claims, from, the disease: "The media has toid us more "supplemental appropriations bill" that consecutive issues (139-41) featured local pa­ Aware of the company's long-standing sup­ to the disturbing report of three Wasliington first impression was that the diseases were failure of the government to fund adequate "assimilationists try to have it both ways: gay about what it means to die of AIDS than what would have allowed for $500, 000 in AIDS rade and picnic photographs celebrating the port of the so-called Moral Majority and its D.C. gay men killed in a mass hate crime. somehow linked to the gay lifestjde.... How­ research, wliile the medical establishment is identity, of a sort, and a veneer of respectabil­ it means to live with AIDS." research. Indeed, many of the issues sur­ armual march fot gay rights. blatant offenses against gap and lesbians, Whatever the subject, these briefs reflected ever, this has not been confirmed in anyway by taken to task for its unsuccessful "solution" to ity. Instead they experience a double loss; of This shift from the doom and gloom men­ rounding ALDS and the gay community, Perhaps one ofthe reasons an AIDS-related women, and people of color, many local gays the pulse of the nation and — for our reader­ research." treating the disease with AZT. Certainly, local their own inner values, and, through an alliance tality of the mid-'80s to the hopeful, sdf- such as creating an appropriate terminology, graphic did not appear on the cover ofthe paper and lesbians picketed a Coors distributor in ship — proof that Rochester's I^s-Bi-Gay By this time, "gay cancer" was given a more organizations continued to plug their services with the oppressor, of the aid and comfort of advoc;acy ofthe late-'80s and eariy-*9(te is ech­ rallying fc>r government support, and estab­ until Issue 165 (November 1985) is that several front of Minett Hall at the Monroe County commiuiity did not stand alone. So necessary clinical term: Kaposi's Sarcoma, which, ac­ for people witii HIV/AIDS in the local up­ thdr true allies." oed in Issue 205 Mindi a dear and thorough lishing local networks, were already in place other issues were pressing to the gay community Fairground. Moreover, all the local gay bars, were the inclusion of these briefs that the cording Chicago's Gay JUfe^is assumed to t>e dates and calendars of events. If AIDS Roch­ Spula blamed consumerism and desire for artide by Martin Delancy cailetl ""Staying Alive: by this time. locally, not least of all the temporary shut down under the directive of Tun Mains, refused to \ format continues to this day. "extremely rare in America." Apparendy, the ester was the most prominent organization at material success as the primary factor in the New Reasons to Consider the Antibody Test.'* But while the tone of these artides is of Rochester's bars. Gotcha'! This spoof artide seJi Coors in their establishments. As the In terms of op-ed advice columns, the EC CDC estimated the appearance of only two this time, other groups and consortiums had majority of gays and lesbians desiring to iden­ The author b»cgan his essay by noting a disturb­ anything bat reassuring, and the seriousness was presented on page one of Issue 148 (1984) as article's author J. Bowker noted, tbJs boycott currendy boasts a number of regular nionthiy cases in every three million Amencans. But emerged as well. The Rochester Area Task tify with their oppressors. According to Spuia, ing division among L-es-Bi-Gays: "Our com­ ofthe disease was accompanied by a growing an April Fool's joke. The fact that there was symbolizes a dissatisfaction not only with com­ installments. In 1981, however, such writing even this statistic is misleading: a sudden mass Force on AIDS, for example, was featured in this "gain" can oniy bring loss, as he sarcasti­ munity is rapidly splitting into two diverse anger and resentment from the community room for humor during fiuch politically reaction­ pany itsdf but its affiliates: **The Coors politi­ was not alwa]^ separated from the "hard" death of a few dozen people is nothing lo a much earlier issue (169—April 1986). cally sneered: "Material success for the few, groups: those who have already taken the test towards the government, AIDS was still not ary times was a testament to the healthy oudook cal influence reaches as far as the White House," news of the pafjcr. Issue 118 features a bold sneeze at, especially when the majority of them the central issue ofthe EC. For example, an of many of the EC's active writers. In the midst of die late '80s' "AIDS Rage," continued oppression for the many and a steady and are acting on its implications liSvA those and forthright article titled "How to Fight the were gay. Bowker explained. **The Coors family main­ unintentionally related story made the cover On a more serious note. Issue 159 (May 1985) other topics still found space in the EC, which dilution of cultural identity for nearly all. Mass who have not and atc sick of hearing about IL" Radical Right." Authored by M. L. Wells, Rose­ As the disease wa-s given a new name, it was tains a long-standing friendship with the tihsat month: "Day of Remembrance: Gay featvued Tim Mains's Announcement that he is a testament to the paper's versatility and produced consumers in an ocean of advertis­ Dclaney then set forth reason after reason why mary CahiU, and Elaine Smith, this artide sets also freshly descrit>ed: "The cancer usually Reagans...." Thankfully, Bowker claimed, "the and Lesbian Victims of the Holocaust and would mn for City Council. Throughout the comprehensiveness. Issues 195 (August 1988), ing. What a deal'" testing is important. Perhaps most crudal to out its agenda in a direct, practical tone: "Since appears first in one or more spots anywhere on boycott has been successful Its grip has drained Continuing Oppression." The cover image next several months, Mains's campd.ign was 201 (March 1989) and 207 (September 1989) Mark Siwiec considered this materialism to his argument is the fact that, because HFV had the election of Ronald Reagan, gays have been the body... though it is not really skin cancer. be a kind of "aesthetic dosct." As he insisted, become manageable through appropriate drugs winding their way through a maze of conserva­ The spots generally do not itch or cause other Corporate continued from its or companies with fewer than 500 employ- "(I)t is important to fed proud and comfort­ and therapy, the earlier someone knows of his tive politics. 'Conservative* is the background, symptoms, often can be mistaken for bruises, previous page ees. able in our environments. That is partiy why or her positive status, the better. Once again, but 'Christian Right* is more specifically what sometimes appear as lumf>s, and can turn brown from the 20G2 Fortune 500; the 200 largest Contact: The Lambda Network at Kodak. P.O. aesthetics are so important in gay male culture. the emphasis is on living with, not dying from, we (and everyone else) are up against.*' after a period of rime." The description con­ privately hekl companies from the. 200 i Box 67234, Rochester. NY U617-7234; MYKONOS However, when wardrobes and dinners and the disease. More than 20 years later, wc are still con­ cluded "with a mention of swoUcn lymph glands. Forbes Private 500; and. information col­ (585)234^388; [email protected]. furnishings become all-consuming and begin Ihis thumbnail sketch of the EC's history fronting this baclcground-foreground issue. Meanwhile, the article further explained an­ lected by H RC WorkNet (the organization's GALAXe. PO Box 25382, (585)423-1336; Toil to obscure what is truly important, maybe we throughout the 1980s is more problematic Note, too, that "gays" is used as a collective other theory of the disease's origins, this time workplace advocacy project) on other conv free: (800)773-3691; vmw.gakxe.org. ^n the Viflage Gate Square) need to step back and reevaluate our priori­ than the previous artide on the EC's growth term for gay men, lesbians, and bisexuals — linked somehow with certain regions of Af­ panies wHh at least 500 empfoyees. The Bausch and Lomb, Workforce Developnrtent, 274 N. Goodman Street ties." throughout the '708. Given the eisormous ex­ signalling that such terminology condnued to rica, where at least 10-20 percent of Uganda's index was not applied to coUagas and uni' Alicia Kibitlewski, (585)338-5354; 585 271 5510 Beth Bailey's approach to the topic was pansion ofthe paper and the mass increase in be fluid, even after a decade of dialogue and and the Congo's cancer deaths stemmed from varsities, fovemmantemployars, non-prof­ [email protected]: more personal and philosophical. Upon seeing the visibility of gays and lesbians in the culture, activism. it each year. As a result, the author discouraged £xfto«ffoince lloclt«3t«r's One orKl Ortty her shadow on rhe sidewalk, she realized she sjrstematicaUy tracking any one subject alone Age-old issues, such as gays in the military, premamre panic: "Rochesterians should not needed to look inward at hcrsdf to address the for an artide such as this is a harrowing task. gay marriages, lesbian mothers, and ageism be unduly alarmed since the cause and link GO Triangle Talk 4I/7H£I^77C Gf^££K Resto urctfit subjject. "Culturally, gays and lesbians are like Indeed, the history of the EC — which is within the cotnmunity, were not forgotten gayness remains undefined,** shadows, silent and conciliatory, blending into essentially a history of the legititmate gay and either. Page six of issue 118 offers five While both of the aforementioned articles Borders and the GAGV every background, never standing out or up. lesbian community of Rochester—could and newsbriefs relating to Lcs-Bi-Gay presence in were brief, they mapped out a discourse on the Jolfi us.«v^y Tuesday and Wednesday for But we ate not shadows! We are full-bodied should be recorded with rigor, thoroughness, the church. The subject of religion would con­ subject that would eventually supetsede most people, capable of having healthy relation­ and sensitivity. An ideal book project. Any tinue throu^iout the 80s, with features in — other concerns in the newspaper. By issue 131 Martini Specials ships, good jobs, children, aod fulfilling lives..: takers? but not restricted to — issues 121, 137, and (October 1982), full-blown symptoms of (to this end) we must refuse to assimilate into bi« EC Editors throughout the SOs: 134. Kaposi's Sarcoma were now caUed AIDS (Ac­ Happy Hour our environments or we will remain unheard.'* Elaine Smith: Issues 118-26 At this time in the EC*s evolution, no one quired Itmnuno Deficiency Syndrome). In s Monday - Friday 3 PM.6 PM While only Siwiec's stride discussed AIDS Rosemary CahiU: 127-38 pressing news topic dotninated the pages, which front-page artide hj Thomas Rush, MD, non- in direct relation to the topic, all three essayists YveSkcet: 139-49 gives these eady '80s issues a kind of eclectic gay gmups of people wete identified along were ttodoubted3y awate of this vast, seem- Michad Pierce: 150-51 scope that would soon be intermpted until the with gays as at-nsk populations. Accotdsng ta Miimlay,Se r 30, at 7pin OUTDOOR SEATING ingly uadiconttoUafale pcoblem. And while the Maidand Matthews and Michelle Moore late 1990s. Meanwhile, the design ofthe paper Rush, ddetiy Meditettanean patients recetviiig dash between assimilation and activism was (Unaambeied) was largely stable, consisting of a tabloid lay­ immunosupresstve drugs wete likely to con^ renewed in dtis issue, the fact that some of the Missy Bdtwood: 152 f tract K^x>si*s Sarcoma; but once Uie dzqgs out on newsprint adorned with a dynamic OPEN 7 DAYS legttiniate'' AIDS network—perhaps out of Bob Oaidano and Scottie Marks: 153 cover image. Only issues 123-26 deviaee slightly wete stopped, symptoms wouki disi^spear. In foaMwMy, b hM Ol the hat ftariqr tf 4M>y fiuiMi« Boniers ..v.j/.f-.-'r ,*••• necessity—seemed to support assinrilationist Daniel Tayk>r: 154-57 terms of full-blown cases, Haitian tefugees, fitom this format, presumably i>ecause no im­ politics had become increasingly clear as the Sue Cowell: 158-60 abusers of I-V drugs, hemophiliacs, and •— 1000 Hylan Dr. ages wete fonhomning for the folded-over MYKONOS «REEK CUISINE decade wore on. Indeed, an immense btireau- Howani Pollack: 164-84 surprisingly—lieterosezual males not belong* cover. Rochester cracy eme^ed around the disease and fur­ Micheik Moore: 185-205 ing to any of the alcove groups, were all at risk ) R D £ R S Widiout cjuestion, AIDS would emerge as I 716-292-5900 nished many well-meaning peopJe with ca- Susan Jordan 206-Current i'^-'.lLf''i«,^' ,^^.::«^ • --.^^id

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i SIGNING OFF: (left to right) Marge Keller. BobI Sherwood and Jean West hold the •— CHURCH Wmm i^ w '^ «" ^ Slice of Life sign at the farewell party on Aug. 4. Fnends, regulars, f^ily and extended — Z3 ^ HEART OF MOCHA: On Aug. 15, the Men of Color Health Awareness (MOCHA)Project B^^^•^H^HH 9„™J t ^o^ 1— ^ IJJ ij^ held its awards dinner at Tonic. Winners were (left to right) NYS Assemblymember Susan family thanked them for 10 years of delicious vegetarian food* and what was really an Informal A WELCOMING AND ^^HIHI Q£. • o- *-• 5 IHIIIH S ^ 2 UJ John (i 31 st District); Arlisha Massey, community activist; Timothy Welder, former Executive women's center. Days later the three left for the Michigan Women's Musk Festival, AFFIRMING CONGREGATION ie X -^ ^ sx HH i^ y- LT! Director of Rochester Center for Independent Uving; LaSharon Hasklns, Program Director B^^^^BI ^ - >- :- at < invito You CO - UJ o !•— of HAART Program; Patricia Courtney-Donigcr, Program Director of Monroe County STD I^H o ^ .^ ^ Clinic; Tim Tompkins, V ice President, MOCHA Board of Directors; Susan Cowell. founding ^I^BBI IT) ^* Ui —' liJ v_> •BmH o o< UJ (J- MOCHA Board member. Missing: Hazel Jeffries, founding MOCHA Board member. HHA? < ^J t= > G UU E^H^B •^ z: < u^ z; < • Q — a. K- H^P"V ^ o •> a "^ ^ 2 % Good Food, Good Conversation... r^** I 9 - - - * H ^" ^ ^ * SUNDAY MORNING ^ C WORSHIP SERVICE ^^Hj 3: ^ ^ < >- i« fie FRIDAY NIGHT FISH FRY HK^ n: '^ o < 5 < LikJ 10:00 AM ; ? -" ^ ^— s A TIME FOR FELLOWSHIP AND u.' Ct X "^ COMING IN OCTOBER c HB^HMH ac r*> :2r < o >• 00 COFFEE. 11:00 AM X CO •Q — »- HH UJ Mayor William Johnson speaks at the Heart of MOCHA dinner. Speakers also included I i 20 ^M: YOUTH AND ADULT CLASSES. B^BMH m ^- ty-- i "^^ «B« £:L tn or < X ifti 'T~ U.S. Rep. Louise Slaughter, Assembly Member Susan John, and Harry Bronson, CHILDCARE & SUNDAY SCHOOL FOR HHHHIi \ y^St > m e - " =: \ Democratic candidate for NYS Senate, interim Executive Director Pam Barres w THE CHILDREN ARE AVAJttABLE. Ct: <^ ^ ^ ^ represented the GAGV. People of color groups from all over the state were represented. li" -- = " != CO < o o o o — or COME TO OUR WEEKJ.Y SUNDAY HHH LU PENGUIN MORNING CLASS AT 1L20 THAT READS rtOME OF THE ilOCHESTEft^^^^^^R^^ Bf«v tx. o y-) '•'-J ^ W AND DISCUSSES LGBTQ THEOLOGY! S i 2 12 Ui.. (SOTE: YOUBON'T HAVE TO ATTEND wj Q X SB 0 £: Q. <^ •« RESTAURANT lAKEAVEN-UE CHURCH TO DO SO!} IM liJ ^ 1/1 '**^ ^ 5 v_j 5 785 EAST MAIN X Q; CJ * 21 + Lake Avenue Baptist Church is located § ?~ LT, 2pm BUILDING ACOBSmUB t AUDIO LOOP 1 in FORlIM •f J' • 'J.. •..>/' Take Out 5(.i^1l'!i' ""-^.i——.HIS 442-4172 Wipi^iSliECOHES !! \: i. \ V) I ; 1 Ml !<>> r ^ j {) k •• r coNsiiHn iiii vAMie oi^ WomawMacle Products RATED'S' FOR • II Central New York'* First CHolc* for T-Shlrts • Puzzles • Ntght Ltghu • Oooks • Pottery • Umps • Kit** • Drums • |«w*lfy VERY, VERY • Jounuis • Candles • Sun Catchers • SU>«I Scuiptur* • C«ffis ft Stones • Clocks • • Tarot Cards • PHIows > Mirrors • Refrigerator Magrtett • Children's Toys • Posters artd much, much mtsm... • •-.. ^•^'•'.^^•' S C A R Y Featuring The Most Unique n T-shlrts • Souvenirs • Gifts k •;:>/'• '• - . In The Finger Lakes '^Sftm pa^fm 4^.mUM^/UC Corporate and IrxIMduai Airport Trarwportalksn, Local and Lona OistancA 91 Fall Street, Seneca Falls, IMY 131-48 • 313-368-9364 VVinary Tours * Casino Packaoa* • NIoht Out on ma Tow^^ •^ Only qf^Owmad U Wjf >*'*SC» •-• i>^*MMM^*i*-'M^..^

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By Susan Jordan Follow die sparkly pink road..,. AUTWaik, Rochester's outdooi muscuiTL,will hoJdits open­ ing festivities at various sites sdoog-University Ave. in the Neighborhood ofthe Arts on S<;pt. 22, frotn noon to 4 p.m., with performances by the winners of the Dances on the Avenue second compctidcn. The ArtWalif itself is a speoaJ pink sidewalk with braided borders which runs from the Memorial Art Gallery at Goodman and Uni^ versity down to the George Eastman House, where it enters the grounds through the gar­ den. Along the way are art galleries aiod artists's studios, not to mention lampposts»etc. deco­ rated with mosaics or paintings, and the deco­ rative benches, sculpture and handmade tiles which have won ARTWalk compcddons. some of which arc yet to be installed. The performers on Sept. 22 will indude Bush Maingo Drum and Dance (Colleen Hendricks, choreographer with eig^e drum- mer.s); Henrietta Senior Stompers (danoe» fiom the HenrictM Senior Center); La Danse Work­ shop (Trish Bcrtino, choreographer); Park Avenue Dance Company (Christine Fendley, emy award-wirming screenwriter and creator choreogrspher—includes audience pttrddpa- Tickets are J27.50 and $3Z50 and can be of the Emmy-nominated HBO series, SixFtit to call them, Casdng Agents. Casting Agents don); Sahara Shimmer Egypdan Belly Dancers purchased at Fantastic Records or through Umdur, inatts the new home of ONE Institute & arc asked to assemble a group of 10 or more (Corinne Thornton, director — indudes a Ticketmaster (232-1900; guests who will purchase tickets and attend the Archives; and features dw work of Dr. Virginia www.dcketmastcr.com). drummer); School of the Arts (Maty Lee Miller, Uribe who estftblished Project 10. the first festivities. Invitations and detailed instructions teacher and choreognqiher—perfotmance by pubUc schooA support services program for MaskSy Music and will be provided. Those interested in becom­ advanced dance class from SOTA);TWO, high LGBT Slid qaesikmiag youth. ing Agents should attend the Casting Agent ^e? dom to Read is observed during the last week of mates the number represents only about^ and song, al<»qg^tfich traditional dramatic en­ nearly^ as sensational or titilkuif^ as HBO By Brad Snndth September each year. Observed since 1982, the quarter ofthe actual challenges. "Most C actment, Alexie creates a tsUdoe. sin&ine, mov­ might have o^pected. StiUbachln* annual event reminds Americans not to take this lenged" tides include the popular "Harry Poi ing literary tK>vel on the screZ 7^1^«^. of Romance in the City ABC's The Bofbehr is still that way. The man precious democratic freedom for granted. The ter" series of fantasy books for children by; Faneydattattgha»f»kiea every ma)Or G\m festival Where will this relationship take u«? If >vho showed America his choice in women date for Banned Books Week this year is Sept 21, J.K. RowUng. The series drew complaints ' audience «mwed mmymti,- Co-star Michdle St. you'n: a fan of HBO's "Sex in the City," never proposed as expected, and is now con­ and the theme is "Let Freedom Read". ftom parents and others who believe the books John will be in attentfatioe. you've seen Sarah's gay pal Stanford Blatch tent for his would-be bride to live in Kansas Banned Books Week is sponsored by the promote witchcraft to children. 2002 marks aood&et tnikstone for loriageOut, has a new romance. He's dating handsome City, wliiic he does whatever it takes to launch American Booksellers Association, the Ameri­ The challenges reponed reflect a continu­ the fifth anntvetsaty of The Youth Project. dancer Marcus as proof you don't need to be a career in Hollywood. Or was that West can Booksellers Foundation for Free Expres­ ing concern with a wide variety of themes. Special hig^O^ts ftom The Youth Project ripped or sculpted to find love. Hollywood (where we last left our Michel)? sion, the American Library Association (ALA), Other "Most Challenged" tides include Tbe include the U.S. premiere of Pnm Fight, the Badfella Harry and Grace the Association of American Publishers, the Adventures of Hutkleberry Finn by Mark Twain, story of Canadian teenager Marc Hall*s fight to One HBO character that you will also see Fans of singer Harry Connick,Jr might get American Society of Journalists and Authors and for its use of language, particularly references lake his boyfriend to his Catholic high school more of is on **Thc Wire". Omar is agay drug excited hearing he will begin a visit to NBC's the National Association of College Stores. It is to race; "It's Perfecdy Normal," a sex educa­ prom. A regular suburban kid usually more dealer who steals from the rich and gives to WiU and Grace later this month. But he's only endorsed by the Library of Congress Center for tion book by Robie Harris, for being too interested in coffee dates, cds and clothes. the poor. He does some bad things, but there to date Grace. For 12 shows. Kevin the Book. explicit, especially for children and "I Know Marc has become an intemadonal hero for his people Uke him. The director so enjoys the Bacon shows up in October, playing himself. Many bookstores and libraries across the na­ Why the Caged Bird Sings" by Maya Angelou, refusal to backdown in his fight against church work of actor Michael K. Williams that Omar What's that all abouL> tion join in the celebration with displays and for the description of rape she suffered as a and state. will be back more often. The show also HUen gets the square readings of books that 'nave been banned or child, (Editor's note; In addition, any book about Equally inspiring is Novela, Novela, the award- features lesbian cop Shakima Greggs. Ellen DeGeneres shows up as the new threatened throughout history'. These include gays and lesbians is likely to be censored by the rascal winning documentary from Nicaragua about What you talldn* *bout WilUe? center square at mid-month. She and AJec works ranging from the Bible and "Littie Red right.) how fl popular /^awiiL'-Iike TV show is chang­ Mrs. Garrett never looked so good. The Baldwin are the first in a line of rotating Riding Hood" to John Steinbeck'? Of Mice and For more infonnation, contact the Office ing perceptions of homosexuality and domes- matriarch on "The Facts of Life" and featured performers on "Hollywood Men. for Intellectual Freedom at 800-545-2433, ext. ric violence — and changing the law as well. "Diff rent Strokes" is back this summer in Squares". EUen also has another new deal: a Each year, the American Library Association's 4223, send e-mail to [email protected] or see the Gypsy 83 provides lighter fare. A road trip NBC's "Rerun Shov/". This time, she's got million dollars for a new book of comic Office for Intellectual Freedom receives hun­ ALA Web site at wT*-w^.ala.org/^bbooks. from Ohio to New York City's Night of 1000 some secrets tucked away, as actor Paul Vogt essays, from Simon and Schuster. dreds of reports on books ar^d other materials -.American Library Association Stevies takes a Stevic Nicks wannabe and her might tell you. The show remakes episodes The G-Man that were "challenged" or asked to be removed jtjjay best friend, Clive (a Robert Smith look- Keep your eyes peeled for this tarings stunt. from TV sitcoms and allows the actors a lot alike) on pometiirtes-fi-inny, sometimes-sad CBS promises to "explore all aspects" ofthe of room U} interpret tliose old scnpt.s. iournev of discoverv of themselves and tiieir life of legendaiy FBI chief J. Edgar Hoover. Green Lantern lights the way relationsliips. Filmmakers Tony and Ridley Scott (RKO Perhaps one ofthe new comic books will Keep in mind that all tickets for designated From Lan Yu, a film to be shown at ImageOut next month. 281, The GatheringStorm) will use Curt Gentry's make its way to a TV near you someday. DC Youth Project programs are free to filmgoers booky. Edgar Hoover: The Man afid the Seirets to Comics' The GreenEantern^ts applause frotn under 21. school debutante, she is pop^Jar and all tbe Lukas Moodysson and stars Alexandra make a three-hour event for the old-folks' The Gay and Lesbian j\lliance against Defa­ Additional Festival highlights include Sing- ImageOut for Sept.: coolest girls want to be her best friend, and she Dahlstrom and Rebecca Liljeberg. it was se­ network, We'U be on the lookout to see how mation (GLAAD). Green Lantern No. 154 Along Grease with director Randal Kieiser in Uanna, Shaw Me Love is the ra^ of all the boys on campus. Agnes lected as the opening film in Outfest '99 and they portray his longtime relationship with hits newsstands this month with main char­ attendance, and featuring scenes not released (Rebecca Liljeberg) is not part of the "in- the closing film for the 1999 San Francisco Gay his assistant Clyde Tolson, and Hoover's pref­ acter Terr/ Berg nearly beaten to death in a on either video or DVD — feel free to come in Uanna; written and directed by John Sayies crowd," she is considered an outcast and Lesbian Film Festival. (Sweden, 1999, erence for softer, more elegant clothing. street hate crime. The teenager and his boy­ your slickest '50s costume! We'll also screen 1983, no min. Young and pretty, but unconcerned with 35nrim 89 min.) The Fire's out friend are mugged by three men who yell an the first lesbian feature to come out of China, Liaiuia and her husband Dick have been her social status. Agnes is getting leady for a ImageOut The Rochester Lesbian and Gay One show you won't see on your tele\nsion anti-gay curse and attack them. The Green Fish ianti. Publidv, Who's your daddy? Webcam Boys, Eofi Yu, arid Sugar Su^t, Our Ruth, a teachei. Tl-ic people who know vliem accidentally goes to the wrong party and her topics presented over the past decade in Roch­ the pay channel blames concerns from other \'ou will hear if this ad makes it to rhe L\S. seven programs of sh.-'rf /ILms ^^M tack/'C issues behave very differendy: her husband wi'fh feel- life takes a new direction. On a date, Klin ester. This is the final program in that scries; the Islanders worried about being outed acciden- Ikca is selling furniture in Europe with help ini s of sexual betrayal, her children with curi­ /.^rigiiig from aitetnative sexual identities to kisses Agnes to see sf Agnes really is a "les­ festival itself is scheduled for next month. tallv. The project VLUS beirjg shiit bv Rob frotn an ad that shows a child and his "Ta-o AJ DS in the 21 st century — and of course we'll osity and Ijaana's friends "Mth ambivalence. bian" ^nd her life is transformed. Elin discov­ Advance ricket sales for ImageOut Tenth Epstem and jcffrcv Friedman, wlio gave us gay daddies". Europeans tend to be a littje John Saylcs's lesbian coming-out drama of­ ers that she has been repressing something le;;.'^ uptight about such things, but vou can continue to have our popular Boys Shorts and Anniversary Film Series programs are $6 at 1 he Celluloid (-..loiet, Commoti I'hreads: Stories jrom 1891 Pidge l^oad. Webster NY Gitls Shorts programs. fers a sensitive, if slightly dated, |x>rtrayai of an that was innately there ail the time. Gutenberg Books, 675 Monroe Ave.; the Pride the. Qmlt^ and Paragraph 175. They are Oscar- expect a different reacuon should the ad, the academic housewife's sexual awakening. I.janna iad and the dads, show up here. (Next to the Union HIU fire House) To w^rap it all up. Closing Night (Saturday, winning directors of landmark GLBT films. PHONE: (585) 265-4A43 Oct. 12) will feature our traditional Gala party has its share of flaws (as do most lesbian com­ L FAX: (585) 265-4270 at George Eastman House and tlie film All the ing-out fiirrts ofthe 'SOs), but Linda Griffiths's Queen's Men. Starring Matt LeBlanc and Eddie portrayal of the titular lesbian shines through. Lzzard, this gorgeous-looking World War II And Rex Reed called it "100 times better than spy sp>oof is a cross between Some Like it Hot Personal Best." and The Guns of Navarrone. This may be the best lesbian movie nobody Now that you've gotten a sense of this yea 's l-ias seen. It is directed by one of America's best Festival, remem.ber that tickets sell fast, and directors, John Sayies. While many movies fo­ son-ie shows will sell out. With that in mind, cus on a love story, this is one of the feu- that here's some information to help make sure you focuses on identity. ^XTicn Lianna fails in love get the tickets you want. with a woman for the first time, that is die This year, for the first time ever, you will be beginning of a complicated journey into self able to order imageOut tickets online the week discovery, culminating in one of the best ^ ''^ke ^iane /HlLUt ^Aam'' before live ticket sales begin. Although our lines delivered in a lesbian movie. I won't give «u^ server cannot handle online payments, this it iiway, but it may be hard for you to get a hold This is the story of two giris, Elin and Connection, 728 South Ave., and at Outiandish. of this movie. The issue of identity in this way you can reserve your tickets ahead of the Agnes, who fall in love. \i is a contemporary Village Gate, 274 N. Goodman SL . Tick­ Courtney Wells, executive director of CW film is dealt with in a pcrsotial way, not in rhetori­ crowd. tale of longing, the joy and pain of being in ets may also be ordered by telephone by leaving productions 1- cal filled monologues (i.c. Clain ef tbe Moon), I Here are the details: order tickets online love^ the corrjlcal and heartbreaking aspects of a message at the ImageOut office at (585) 271 - Showtime is scheduled for 8 p.m. SHARP! think what makes this movie so gteat fbr me ^585) 389-1099 www.selzhouses.com TflMm /tUiU* fiom Saturday, Sept. 14 to Friday, Sept. 20 at growing up and the courage it takes to be 2640 or by email The doors will open at 7 p.m. A Limited nuin- was the true portrajral ofbeing a lesbhm. It isn't wwwinuigeout.otg. Pick up your tickets at the differeoL It is a universa} of love and under­ atamageout@rDche$ter.rr.com. t>er of VIP tickets, which include reserved a fairy tale. It doesn't have a happy ending, but "Let us help make a difference in your Ufe " knageOut Office in Village Gate on Sept. 21 standing. Wida its quirky handheld zooms and Pot this special anniversary sedes, a half- seating, may be purchased in advarice begin­ it isn't hopeless either. This movie isn't a love before 5 p.tn. and snake your payment then. grainy 16mm blow-«:^ look, ilfr«r.^Z.M4r gives price student (up to age 21) discount (with ID) ning Oct. t and will be sold on a first come, story and hence the low rating of lips. It isn't (Any tickets ordered online not picked up by 5 a channtt^ and genuine pottxayal of teenage is available. Sign latetpreting may be arranged first serve basis. General admission tickets will *My partner and I were refcXBting to Rodiester and had less than a week to find and tniy a house. We were so shy about kisses or love scenes, but it isn't a p.m. on Sept. 21 wili be put back into circula­ life ^— hangup around, bek^ mean to each by contacting ImageOut one week befote the also be available in October, as well as being luciy to And The Wane Milter Team. They were professk)nal, friendly, and thorough. They went tar above and romantic movie. However, it is a must see. It is tion.) other, wttchtngTV and compttdf^odl phones program. Theatte doots open at 6:30pJ3i. Bnd sold at the door the day of the event, if avail­ tieyond *the call of duty^. More than that, we felt so comfbrtabte with thern. Diane went out of her way to vety dated, so don't expect a tnodetn kx>kix^ In-person ticket sales take place at the — all against a hackdiop of noisy schonl ImageOut on the web at http:// able. introduce us to this new oMnmunity. You cant Imagine hcwv mudi that meant to us." hnageOut Office in Village Gate on Saturday, film. cafetents and weli'metniflg but ineffective wwwJmageouLoi^. This year, the theme of the pageant will be Natasha EkHy and Jaanne Newiand Sept. 21. Sunday, SepL 22, Saturday, SepL 28, How could a man shoot such a good lesbian patents. And like iti AmetJctn countctpan. **A Night In Ma«di Gras NewOd««ns."The and Sunday, SepL 29, running from 1 p.m. - 5 movie? Pethaps it is Sayies* afaiUtf to see other's Aha Skhd's AM Om- Ak^ the film offina a Hiss Gay Empira contestants will be judged in the/olk>wing The Diane MHIer Team made buying our home a joy. Everything was great!" p.m. each day. people's perspective (Lmt ^M). Perhaps it is po^^ntnt vision of teenage g^ in lowe, categories: Opening Prdseritaeibn; X5n Sta^ Lynda Baudanxa and DmbCoffay Remember that after 5 p.m. on SepL 29, the fact that he has ahray* wofked outside die State pageant is in Rochettefiant may nmpntt. the wntie of Question; Talen|; 1Evenir(g.Gown; arid j*^- tickets wili not be available until the Festival Hollywood s^tem. Ehher way, Sayies even native son Lou Gfamm and Fora^pet. Ite Syracuse this Nciv. sonal Male Interview. 'When I first axisidered buying a house, my first readion was, *I dont know how to do that," followed very htfffim, Duting the Fesdval, advance tickets fundcaised in dch letbttn dfdes In order to gtoup*s "I Want tt> Kacm What Lonm W* k cMddy by, n need a realtDri' How glad I am that >fx/were that realtor, ftxsm the very beginning, your escpertise, finish the movie. What he emmet up with it a For up-to-date information, go to our web will beavailafaie at evety venue. featured in die movie. 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I get a AAA trip tick and an low-toned grunts. So although Jeffrey was easy out to be inhabited mainly by the kids "who I made myself go to in Junior High, dances I internet touting (which are totally unalike). on the eyes, he was hard to listen to for more work here, all rather blond, all, it seems, with kne>\' I did not belong at. One ba* me in New Jersey for a stretch. En than a few aggravating seconds. The women in regulation dread-locks — am! so out of touch So I left- Went back to niy cabin. J ust w^anted Celebrating Ten Years of route I discover that the advance info t>acket the tribe knew immediately after hearing to have missed this fashion tiend? — and cost to smoke. I sat on my bed and after a few sent in the mail has the clearest map. Jeffrey's voice that they should not be wasting aware to the point of rolling their own dga- minutes dedded I was a fool. I found a red Interfaith Advocates To my astonishment I get there, having thdr time trying to gain his affection with their rertes. bandarma and tied it around my head, a gender stopped once for coffee and having boosted feminine mating rituals. God had spared the Our non-physical activities are, to say the bender statement. I looked either like Heidi or for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and my nicotine level high enough to sustain me for ladies from heartache. least, challenging. The five days will be a pro­ Ingrid Bergman. I felt kind of bailsy. I went half a week. My only question when I regis­ Transgender People cess. To find empowerment, alas, one must back to the dance hall, strode inside, went up to Basically, my theory is that we sound the way tered, by the way, was "Is there a place I can EXTRA! EXTRA! consider that which holds one back. Our my tear-cheeked man and said, "Hey, one of vfc do so that w^omen knou* not to chase gay smoke?" I was advised one could go "off- wounds. The work done in these sessions is my short term goals is to SI0^3f dance xv-it.h a. men iti the hope of catching a mate. Unfortu­ All are invited to a benefit dinner and celebration property" ;ana Fve made my therapist draw me difficult. There are tears. And those partici­ handsome man. Wanna give it a shot?" nately, in modem times, women who are des­ a map so I'll know exacdy where I can high-tail perate to get hitched choose to ignore the Bearnight at the Forum pants who've had lots of therapy lead that And in the throng of gyrating bodies dancing it with my drug of choice. teUtale signs ofthe lisp. (Have you heard Liza's THURSDAY, OCTOBER 3, 2002 pack. to really lame rock and roil (don't these bozos Entry is smooth enough. Lots of counjer new husband speak? She's dther tone deaf or \X1hiat I've learned is that I can g*5 to the know anything about gay culture?), we danced. culture-type kids giving directions: park there, in real deep demal.) 6.15 SOCIAL TIME; 7:00 PM DINNER edge, feei tetrible, and not die. I've done this First he led, dien 1 led, then we just held each Saturday, SepteiT\ber 28 lea^'e your bags here, here's a layout map to I admit mv voice is not what I would call atthe before. Have I ever done this before! Feelings other a while and danced. How's that for joyful your cabin, etc. Off to my room. My shared masculine. I absolutely abhor it! One of my w^on't kill me. Keeping sorrow, secrets or em.powerment? And it was over like that. We room. W'he^-e I find my bunkmate's many suit­ biggest fears is having to record an outgoing DUGAN CENTER OF ST MARY'S CHURCH shame locked up might. Eariy on in the work­ bopped around in dusters of changing dimen­ cases piled high and in the middle of his bed, message on my answering machine. That damn The Empire Bears will be hosting an Extra (15 St. Mary's Place, downtown, off Clinton Avenue, shop I realize that I have no interest in estab­ sions. Yikes, the meditation lady is dancing. three, count them, three Teddy Bears' device magnifies the queeniness in my voice to lishing communit). 1 don't know these men. Wild, too. Then, hang one, a staff girl zips by mar GEVA Theater) When Dick arrives, he explains that he was the p>oint where Fd be better off recording The Special Bearnight at the Forum on Saturday, None are particulady appealing. A couple look topless. Then another. Oh tliese kids. This is not really sure he was up for this experience, ViUagc People's disco dassic YMCA as my lethal. I am interested in myself. And so, when beyond cool. Who knew summer camp could September 28th. Con« and meet the bears just a teensy bit apprehensive, so he brought outgoing message. That would be less gay than Free parking is available after 6:00 PM at the Blue Cross/Blue Stiidd Garage the fadiitator asks if everyone feels connected, be so much fun? along Fluffy, Muffy and Tiger lily, or whatever my voice. on Woodbury near South Avenue and at Vic and Mike's, next to (SVA. my hand slowly rises. The facilitator questions em^k [email protected] from all around Lake Ontario! the hell their names are. He is ^s^agging these So if you ever caU me and you get the: me. A bit tumbles out. He announces that he damn toj'S in my face as he introduces them. ansTvering machine, please don't laugh. I'm will derail the intended afternoon agenda and Now J am all for growth and tolerance and new doing the best with what God gave me. And A Catholic, Protestant and Jewish panei will highlight '*work ^th Eric." Two queens glare at me. Misadventures Festivities begin at 10 PM at the Bachelor horizons, but I am going to regress just a bit don't be a smart ass and leave an order for a The afternoon is a crash session. Every­ progress in ttieir respective communities. and make it clear to Dick that his bunkmate in Boyland box of Thill Mint cookies. thing tumbles out. The whole long odjrssey of Forum. requires space and plenty of quiet while back in As for those of you who are wondering emotional neglect, nervous breakdown, ad­ the cabin. I>ick, for ail his ftagiiity, gets the By Troy Robinson whatever happened to our cavestud hero diction, loves gone sour^ despair. To my right THE COST IS $25.00 PER PERSON. message. He leaves me alone. Jcffi:ey...well it turned out that Rocko was one I see someone with tears on his cheek. I am Please bring a teddy bear to help kick off our And that's the end of the schdck. From of the five percent who could not be detected Reservations are due by September 26*^. now connected. That's how it's done. Monday morning on, our group of 18 men Good food and a fine whine by gay sonar, and after he swept Jeffrey off his Time for lunch. And just how many ways do Teddy Bear Drive in memory of Steven engages in exercises that explore our pasts, "Would you hke cracked pepper for your hairy feet, they opened a saber-tooth tiger you think tofu can be prepared? You haven't For reservations contact build community and define strengths. Gtound salad?" grooming pador. They also invented the wheel, Chabot. Bears wil! be donated to sick a clue. A veritable groaning board. You know rules are established. No drugs or alcohol No Every time the waiter pronounced the letters the hair dryer, Feng Shui, and the Bloody Ralph Carter (271-7649), Nancy Fitts (381-4846). what tops vcgetariatj cooking^ Vegan cook­ sex. Ifyou decide to split you must notify the P and S, shivers went down my spine. He lisped Mary. They also invented the answering ma­ children. ing, if one can call it "cooking." One morning Darrell Lance (442-5486) or Casey Lopata (271-7363), facilitator. Keep a jouttial. like Sylvester the cat, This waiter was the chine, but quickly dropped a boulder on that we had something that was eitherve^an French epifome of a high-pitched, card-carrying fairy. We work in groups of two, three and six, and monstrosity. Toast or roof tile. I knew this simply because of his speech pat­ Because of a limited number of spaces, please call eariy. fi^quentiy reconvene into a single circle where Ours was not the only workshop. Next tern. we share ^'Quaker'* style, as the spirit moves us door was a spixited group of leobians. Their I don't have vety good Gaydar (gay radar). I See you there! to speak. In the eady sessions two, perhaps w«G eveqr tetsioo it begun with a pfaytkal activity. Becauae these were tivo cpAeer contingenta, attt homo. Straight men are dM new fags of this Cum What May One mocnii^ we ptey ''aafe" bomper cats, For all your home andmMll otRoe eompum needs call the fiidiitatnca of each had decided «D produce century (aa £yr as Q: When masturbating with my boyfriend, I ie Raubcr 716^5-9156 716-820:9214jC# fonmng a laige giDop that gendy folk atound. notice he makea a lot more cum than me. He Turnquist Computer Services fmt an evening fMOgram, a dance, a "gender iea). MENTION THIS AD AND GET 10% OFF www.tuniquist.w8 288-2785 [email protected] has commented diat I don*t make very much. during unprotected sex because it can lead to I worry that theas"* aomediing wrong with me, decreased sexual inhibitions, faeighiened ex- Healthy and What j«p as guest speakei* tried to convey to m^ and that I producii^ less cum than noraiaL dtement, and increased intimacy with a part­ diese doctors and heatth-cate ptofesiional? IVe started wearing boxer shorts and drinking Gay ner. was simply that, as has been stat^ before, more water in the hopes of correcting my "Condom fatigue**: This is a term that has aside from our gender difificulttes (and the (ircalStvlc. Selecti()iy^vV problem^ Is there something wrong with me, By Erik Libey been coined in the HtV prevention field that possible and probable depressions that go vnih or do people )ustptoduce diffotingamounts of describes exactly whatit is—guys being tired dealing with this personal struggle) we cum? I'm a bit worried, because I really don't of condoms. Thb seems especiaUy prevalent •c TransGenderVlew are like everyone else. We want the same things N() liiat's Ni make that muchi What do you recommend I Baring" the souls of gay nnen among gay men over 40 wtto were sexuaUy ByK*K as any other padents. Expertise, compassion, should do? active before the AIDS pandemic struck and 1 !*• To use a condom or not to use a condom? and a willingness to ffsUn.T o ta^ tts serioMsly. A: Heaae don't let your boyfriend lead you can remember the days when condoms were Coficiousnes»-llmising auid Ml That is the question. In the 19805, for most Actually, this is what wc want ttoni society to beUcve diat you are abnormal. TypicaUy, the not such a necessary precaution. %. men this question was a "no>brainer", AIDS nrMMMcaS science in general. mote often you otgasm, the less amount of HIV Complacency: Do guya even care if ripped through the gay cottununity and the I was going to try to write about one of die It looks as if Transgenderism is turning out tm semen you will ejaculate. Everyone produces a they get HIV? While it is difficuh for some to ilv- response was a coUective push for education many other issues, problems, or life experi­ to be a truly/>/$;^^/thing, in the brain itself. diffetent atnount of semen when they cum* cotnprehend, some leaders have proposed \^'s. and safer sex. As a result, there was a notice­ ences associated with being Transgendered... Not a whim, not a choice, not a perversion. Don't worry about id However, if you con­ diat for various reasons men just don't care able attitudinai and behavioral shift amongst but, as I was just involved widi this thing you This, I guess, is the goal ofthe "consciousness tinue to experience anxiety regardiiig this, piease about HIV anymore; younger gay men have gay and bisexual men—condom use increased could caU cveudmsmts-mi^g at a local medical taiser": acceptance. share this with a medical professional. not experienced the horror of AIDS killing ••••-• ,a,*i**r.> ; and new infections of HIV decreased. institution* I decided diat this made a perfect And I felt, after the experience was over, Chani^ing Times their peers; rrtedications are keeping people a-TKttei-' In more recent years, however, another shift topic for my September column. that we had made a contribution to achieving to Q: Is beic^ gay genetic or envitonmental? aUve and healthy so HIV is ao longer per­ has been noted. In studies that have become of AU in all, the experience itself was everything that goal. My parents and grandparents weren't gay, so ceived as deadly; so many men have HFV, why increasing concern to professionals in the HIV from ncrvcwracking, as we sat and listened to a See our RTG website at; -*:-aii4>^ why am I? bother protecting yoursdf — whatever the pfevention field, data seems to be showing long Ust of the possible medical side effects www.geocities.com/ A: I do believe that being gay is genetic and/ reasoning, it's clear that people's attitudes that gay men are not protecting themsdvcs involved in tiding to Uve this Ufe; to heart- rochestenraiisgendergroup/RTG.hmil or induced by stress duritig pregnancy. Fol­ about HIV are playing a tole in their tiak- '=''^-^;-^m. diey way they used to. New HIV infections wrenching, as we Ustened to Pam and Kaye lowing the genetic argument however, there taking. amongst gay/bi men are back on die rise in relate the various difficulties, traunnas, and cvcn- w^ arc more members belonging to your family Here in Rochester we ate certainly not almost every major dty nationwide — San tuaUy successes which they have lived through Write for a free 2 -iysue trial subscription tree than just your parents and grandparents. immune to the trends that play out in major Frandsco even reported that new infections dties Uke San Frandsco and New York City. as Transgendered people; to fascinating, as we Name Think about the p>ossibility of one or more of Address • actuaUy tripled! Wliat's leading to this increase We have had an outbreak of HcpA with in the heard of tlie truly amazing things that modem TkBnm^v&le your aunts, uncles, cousins, great-aunts, great- Ciry. State, Zip 4:E-n:F^-;5TVi-:t\ L;jy.ES in HIV transmission? Cleariy due answer Ues in medical sdencc can actuaUy offer us. undes, and others who could be gay. There past two years. We are currendy faced with a increased sexual risk. If you ever think that you would be happy '^'KiPV^ couid have been someone in your family who potentiaUy serious outbreak of syphiUs among &^- \3C1iar*s intcxesung, however, is that this phe­ ipMitn is now deceased that was gay. Older genera­ gay/bi men. HIV rates among gay/bi living in the past^ you arc soon disabused of that nomenon of condom-free sex which used to tions grew up and Uved in a sodety with differ­ Rochestarians ARE on the rise. In the past notion when you reaUaie the amount of invalu­ just be called "unprotected" or "unsafe" anal gi Culiinfj^ edge ent norms and support networks than we do yeac, AIDS Rochester tested 16 HIV-positive able progress attained in the modem world. As sex has ncrw become so body discussed an sotnething of an Anarchist, I usually question a Irreven^nt K now. There were tnany gay people in previous gay/bi men — this is the most tested in the % Activist issue that it has taken on a cultural labd: generations in the past, ^(^ho did not come out history of ARI's testing program. lot of technology (although I sit here writing Controversial n BAREBACKING. As discussion of this issue llsionary -^:-^- to their ftiends, famiUcs, or sometimes even to AU of this infotmation makes us wonder this on a PC! I use funky new technology like the m has developed, a number of questions hav^e Womati-cunlered n themselves. They suppressed their sexual iden­ about the attitudes and l>chaviors ofour own dictate software, which I use for writing, and If Radical been raised, some of which have dear answers tity because it was not acceptable in sodety to community. To dut end we are beginning a yes, it*s cool!) and, not to mention, the essential Subversive m and others generating further discussion. come out as a homosexual. series of short anonymous surveys for gay/bi role played by the Internet in the lives of S Are gay/bi men barebacking? Yes. Certainly Pitching Tenta men in Rochester. To partidpate in the sur­ Transgendered people and aU other so-caUed •fi the increase in HIV transmissions would lead "alternative" groups (indudiug Anarchists...). Q: I am a gay male who has a straight best vey, just go to our gay health website at The femittist newsjournal us to this condusion; but additionaUy, sodal But what the medical estabUshmcnt can offer y" friend. I would love die chance to fool around www.aidsrochesterx>ig/gayhealth and dick for over 30 years surveys have demonstrated that rates of un­ to those who AMF^ their help is actuaUy amazing, with him. Part of him teases me about trying on the image of the "Naughty Nurse". The o protected sex among gay/bi men are higher and truly hopeful. The doctors took in this huge ^ gay sex, but he is married and ssLys he would survey is very q .tick and -rasy^ but wiU generate oftourlwckii than they have been in previous years, and amount of information, and you reaUzed how never cheat on his wife. I am not sure if that very useful information for us and will hope­ « 2337B mh Suwj, NW continue to rise. much pure memory one would actually need to be W«diwi8tan. IXC. 30009 one blow ')ob from a friend would be cheating fully pose some questions that can help o Is barebacking a health risk? Yes. Unpro­ in this profession! The session (or dass, or Ht.HrvA'iv u Aui, •.t>;^:4-i>-fi\; male or female. We are going to be alone for you..-be gay, be proud and be HEALTHY! tected anal sex carries with it the risk of HFV whatever you'd Ukc to caU it) took about two the first time camping next month. Should I Erik Ubey is Cay Health Coordtnaiorfor AIDS and STD transmission (outside of a monoga­ and a half hours. The physician directing it (a make a move? 1 feel that this may be my only Rcchester Inc. He can be reached at 442-2220, or by mous relationship with an HIV/STD-frce part­ resident at Strong) offered a very in-depth un­ chance ever, and this has always been a sexual e-mail at [email protected]. An arthivt of bis ner). If they know it's risky, why are guys derstanding of the technology and medianc fanta.sy of mine since I have known him. What prsvioHs articles, as mill as othergctf health informa­ barebacking? It is THIS question that has Rus2»ow Consulting do you think? tion, can befoMndat http://amfw.aidsrochester.o7g/ needed to Uve as a Transgendered or Trans­ presented the biggest chaUenge to leaders in A: I think it's up to your best friend to gayhealth. sexual person. S the field of HFV prevention. 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www.conHnunityhealthnet.opg Spodal emphasis Is givan to women wito liava limitad access to services. 716.244.9000 Choosing Jonathan's Choice By Jo«ci»h 0*Too]« we could survive (m the resuufloit business), JoxiJidian*s Choice b one ofthe i. rea's best-kept because someone was gou^ t& die,^ West secECts. Located in the village ot Hast Rochca- joked, "a mother and daughter in a litde dinerl tef» this cestaurant is a tntic 10 minutes fixnn Then my fathst said he fbiibcE a locadon. He downtown. The ddidous food and welcomii:^ said, "Okay. Let's give this a tty/ FU be honest atmosphere make this a great place to go oo a with you. That was before there was a restau­ thelookingglass.com), owned by the ever so try choice: Seared Muscovy duck breast with date or to celebrate a special occasion with a rant on every comer." charming Heather Mackenzie, affords both white bean rsi^ut and a sour cheiny-port wine gtoup of friends. Another member of West's fimiily is also an excellent and innovative menu as well as sauce. Juicy chops are buttt«ssed by a crisp Oh Canada How Gay We Are Years ago. East Rochester seemed like actively involved with diis collaborative effort- some great entertainmenc The two-story joint rosd of carrots and parsnips. Service is always friendly- Brigadoon — the mythical village that ap­ **If you"ve been here on Fridays, you've met ByMetleBait always open for a beverage or snack. Saturday is is classy and elegant, yet casual. If you're Sept 5 through 14 brings the Totonto Inter­ peared once every 100 years. It was hard to my aunt (Sophie Brooks), the hostess. It really The communication read, **Tourism Toronto High Tea and there are a few common rooms, upstairs in the lounge check out chef Hani national Film Festival, one of the four biggest find East Rochester, except by accident, and is a family business," West said. There is an Increases Mazketiiig Commitment to Encour­ one of which has a grand piano. Christopher's Ben Shabat's unique menu of appetizer plat­ on the ^obc. There are various venues so one could not imagine leaving the comfbit and added benefit for Brooks: "It keeps heryoimg. age Gay and Lesbian Travel". They even pub­ niche is running the "Spahh". Massages, ters. check bdl.ca/filmfest for further info or call familiarity of the city to head to die suburbs. West explained diat cooking was an impor­ lished a 32-page Gay and Lesbian Guide for the aromatherapy, baths, body wraps, facials. Do I Everyone goes to Zelda's restaurant and 416/967-7371. Check the website of Now, thanks to exit 24 on Route 490 East, tant factor when growing up. "Our family traveler who "wants to indvdge in the gay and hear the word "'pamper'*? Go to rhe website of bar (at least once). Located on the comer of torontotourism.com for more information on it is minutes from Rochester. The exit ramp revolves around food. It's an Italian family. lesbian community. SlecpWidiFriends.com or caU 800/259-5474. Church and Wellesley (542 Church St., further events and attractions. becomes Commercial Street which dead ends Sundays at noon were always at my Toronto's gay and lesbian village offers busi­ Missed seeing *The Lion King" and "Mamma zeldas.ca), the outdoor cafe lends itself to a Note: Fm proud to say that the New York ac Main Streets Jonathan's Choice is one block grandmother^s with sausage and meatballs." nesses that arc proudly and distincdy lesbian or Mia" on Broadway, but I'm happy to say that great view of the strip, and all who walk there. Tina West, co-owner of Jonathan's Choice restaurant In East Rochester. Sharks, women's tackle footbaU team, won the to the left at the comer of Chestnut Street. She smiled as she reminisced. **Wow, I was just gay, along Chutch St. north and south of the Toronto venue did not disappoint me! Ed The menu is a cross between U.S. Southwest- IWFL National Championship. Tliey made it There is ample on-strcet parking. remembering that. It was fun. My friends al­ French (melt-in-your-mouth artichoke hearts here because a friend of Tina's brought mc WeUcsley Ave. Considered to be upscale and Mifvish and his son David have the best theatre ern and a hamburger joint. 1 can liighiy rec­ with nine wins, 0 losses and five shutouts. They Burgundy canopies above the entrances on ways wanted to spend the night on Saturday, sauteed in lemon, butter and sherry); Shrimp here on a date. He wanted me to meet Tina. I safe, it*s a busy scene from breakfast to the going up there. "The Producers" is slated for a ommend the food. You'U just love the atmo­ got a congtatvUatory letter from Senator Hikr\' both sides of the building armounce that you because they knew that Sunday we were going Mediterranean (served with fresh tomatoes bring everybody I know here" latest hours of die night. txjn. sphere. Tourists, towiiies and fellow drag Rodham Clinton and celebrated at the famed have arrived. The decor is basic: nothing trendy ic Grandma's. and feta in a white wine garlic sauce); and The fnendly pcvJplc at Jonathan's Choice Por those who think xh^tQueer^4sFolk really But, before we explore the gay area, let me queens frequent this weU known eatery. You Mickey Mantic's restaurant in Manhattan. This or nouveau, just familiar. The restaurant is "Everything is food. Even now when we get Portabella Mushroom (with toasted red pep­ keep Rand coming back. "One ofthe things is takes place in Pittsburgh—get a Ufe! Toronto put in a word for a sightseeing tour on die may just wind up having your photo in Zelda's is aU about women making history in the pro­ divided into three sections: the bar, the dining together with our friends, it's about food." pers and mozzarella). Prices for appetizers I love watching Tina serve people. She's just is the true venue and I wanted a tour. Airlines water. After checking ail of them at the magazine. fession of tackle footbaU. A uniform will be room and the party itjom. The fully stocked Then she added, laughing, "It's food, wine and range from $5.50 to $9.95. amazing in her attention to people — she booked and now need a place to stay. Harbourfront, the best was Matiposa Cruise Speaking of eating, one restaurant that sent to Tlie Women's History Museum in Dal­ bar seats a dozen people and has plenty of garlic," Chicken Cacciatore (boneless chicken sim­ doesn't have to write anything down." Rand is "Straight friendly" Great Inns of Toronto Line (800/976-2442; mariposacru.ises.com). topped my palate was Wish, located at 3 las, Texas. You're never too old to play. The standing room. Tliis area also functions as the West said the restaurant was named after her mered in marinara sauce with onions, peppers, a regular customer, as are many people who seemed the perfect place. Its gay atea location Top ofthe boat is open and it costs less than the Chatles St. East (416/935-0240). Sorry, no o-vt'ner, 43-year-(>!d Andra Douglas.plavs quar­ smoking section for dinner, with six booths brodiei and was c*rigjnaLHy kno-w/n simply as mushrooms, And ser\'cd with pasta) tops tbe dme here. "You get ro know the fseopk'," she was the least of the pluses (ot these two inns: others. vv-ebsite. It's the fasliionabie new hotspot. terback. Check out their website of and a table for four. Tbe nonsmoking dining Joniithan's. "llicn Jonathan's Fish and Sea­ list of highlighted entrees. Lasagrta is offered said, "It's a great place to network. Everyone's \0 Cawthra Scjuare and 512 jarvis St. (a third Church Street, the "gay strip", is the main Pricey, but worth it: especiaUy since our dol­ nysharksfootbaU.com. room has table seating for 50. The party room, food moved into Henrietta, TTiey were going in both traditional and vegetarian st^'les. Co- so friendly. And I live clear on the other side of lar gets us $1.58 (ish). Appetizers include a called Gloucester Square Manor should be locale oi'Queer As Folk. We see bar scenes and which must be reserved in advance, can ac­ by Jonathan's," she explained. This situation quille Saint-Jacques (scallops and mush^rooms the city." weU-marbled beef carpaccio with truffle oil, Also of note: Romantic pianist Jim Brickman finished by the dme you read this). disco scenes. The bar is Woody's at 465 Church commodate 25 to 80 people. Atmospheric was very confusing to people who were mis- baked in a momay sauce) is one of several Rand also enjoys the food. "I don't eat fish, mushrooms and shaved grana padano. Two (jimbrickinanxom) wiU be appearing at the I stayed at 10 Cawthra Square Ric Tremaine St., and the disco is Fly at 8 Gloucester St. Lots lighting adds an intimate feel throughout. taiung one restaurant for the other. "People delicious seafood dishes. Almond-crusted but I do eat tl-'c fish frv'. This is the only place of the eight entrees are vegetarian Auditorium Theatre, Sept. 26-29. He has a new and Christopher Churchville are the owners, of hot spots to recommend. Buddies In Bad Chef Tina West owns the restaurant in part­ were complaining about the ftx>d over there chicken breast is perfecdy prepared with a fruit I come to get one." And she caters to her sweet (mascarpcne - and walnut-6Ucd agnolotri with CD out caUed "Love Songs &t. LuUabies". Jane and what a team! The BEST "b&b" IVe ever Times Theatre is both a theatre and non- smok­ nership with her parents, Mary and Bob West, and they were calling us. We had to add some­ curry sauce and fresh crisp onions. Pasta alia tooth. "The desserts are great. I like die key tomato a^id sage, grilled mushrooms with fall Krakowski (the secret^arj' on Alfy McBeal) cut a \>''en to. Rooms are great and the ambiance ing disco and cabaret venue. Strange Sisters, a and manages the day-to-day operations widi thing to ofjf name that had more style or Romana is a choice of fettuccini, linguini, an­ lime pie. I like the crenie brulee — that's really vegetables and pomegranate molasses). Poul­ song C5»Ued, "^'ou". and hospitality may malce you want to pack and sexy uncensor«d lesbian cabaret, is in its 15th chef/partner Lisa Cunliffe. Jonathan's Choice something. It wasn't good for us." The word gel hair or penne tossed with prosciutto, peas good." Rand's advice to other people is simple: move in — but you can't. Breakfast is more than year of music and comedy: Oct. 25, 2002 and has been open since 1985. "WeVe been in Choice was added and the rest is history. By the and garlic in a tomato-basii cream sauce. "If you just want a comfortable meal that's contincntaJ and you never know what the chef June 20, 2003. business for 17 years," said West. ^'! had worked way, the seafood restaurant in Henrietta is no Meal selections range from $6.95 for pasta going to be reasonable and the amiosphere is is going to cook up. In addition, the kitchen is The Looking Glass (582 Church St., in many restaurants from the time 1 was 14 or longer in business. in red sauce to $17.95 for Veal and Shrimp great, come to Jonathan's." Premier Pet. (Silting 15, and I talked to my parents about hosting Jonathan's Choice does have seafood on its (sauteed in a brandy cream sauce). AU entrees Another customer, Matt Clingerman, also AfHeA0^*» Pf^A • tff/f#»y OtMia^Mi • ^^M*** ^^w^/o^or* • V^tda^U lAt4^t%Pi and serving. menu, which can be dtscribed primarily as are serv'ed with a garden salad and cVioice of compliments Wesi'<. attentiveness. 'Truly, the ^ A Pliilcsophy of Superior Care "A couple of years prior to opening this, my Italian. Noteworthy appctizety include Crispy pjotato. pasta or vegetable. Homemade des­ service is impseccabie, One feels looked after as family and I decided to try a diner — to see if Caiamari ("a signature dish"); Artichokes serts vary daily and range in price from $3.50 to at a friend's' dinner parry.'* Ciingerman Yiax been coming to the restaurant fot several years Good Food. I MM9KM 4^ 41 $4.95. Recent offerings include key lime pie, Dogs, CaU. Dird^ & Exotica apple pie, peach pie and chocolate torte. and makes it a point to dine here at least once West has a secufft method of choosing dishes: a month. "You can*t be unhappy at Jonathan? Good People, f i:\[3crUy Cared For According lb Your Iii^LrucLioii* Thai-ing one on *'l cook what I like/' She lim.iL«> the number of Choice," he said. "You're cared for at ever> with Susan Plunkett menu items to ensure quality. "You can only turn. No one pays more attention to you than Good Times. ?, do so many things well, so you have to decide diese people." Chngcrman compliments the food selections as well. "The menu is astute/' By Sixaan Jordan Susan P.: "A very subde curry. Absolutely where to draw the line." ^ Pel (Silling -^-Dait)^ Dog Walkft H^Homc Services he said. Bring this ad and get a PUBB glass | Chef Susan Plunkett and our friend Lucia, fantastic. I don't like food that's just hot with­ West believes that being a chef and running Jonathan's Choice provides a welcoming of wine with dinner purchase! | also an excellent cook, have teamed up with out flavor. This is good because the flavor a restaurant is an intuitive profession. "I think environment for all people. As a result, it (Valid September 2002) j this reporter to review several Thai restau­ stayti 20 seconds or more on your tongue. in this business, you either get it or you don't. Proudly Irving 6incc Jimuaiy. 1994 attracts a diverse group of customers who rants in the Rochester area. Our 6rst destina­ Where the fiavor lasts and lingers because It's in your blood. You can't teach somebody keep cormngback for the great food and cama­ Member of Pet fitters Ijiteraatioaal tion was PATTAYA (located at 1843 Rte. there's so much of it....'* timing and everything." raderie. West said that approximately 30-35 441, at die Four Comers in Penfield. Open Susan** entree was CHARBROILEO Training can help develop a chefs irmate Jonathan's Choice ! percent of her clientele are gay. Jonathan's seven days a week; 383-6088.). Pattaya's laigie CHICKEN with lemon grass marinade, ac­ skills, however. When West's partner of nine Choice IS only 10 minutes away, and definitely 546-2266 (Voice/TTY) menu includes all die standard Thai dishes. companied by steamed broccoli, and daikon years, Ijsa Cunliffe, was asked how she got 122 Main Street worth the trip. Only 10 minutes from downtown! Luda noted that the decor features "gor­ and cucumber salad. involved in the restaurant business, she re­ [email protected] (Jonathan's Choice, 122 Main St., East Racbestur. East Rochester Take 490 Bast to exit 24 (East Rochester). geous prints," and that dierc is a "nice ambi­ Susan P.- *Thc marinated grilled chicken is plied, "IVc just been doing it my whole life. Turn i&ft on Main Street miammmm^ammm 585-248-2470. Lunch Hours: Tntsday-Friday 585-24S-2470 ance", Tlie music is unobtrusive and so is the delicious, like barbecue. And there's a litde WTiat happened was I was doing it to go to 11:30-2. Dinner Hdnrs: Mondajt 5-9; Tmsday-Sat- service, in addition to being quick and polite. cucumber salad ajdd daikon with vinegar and college, and I liked it." To hoiie her skiUs, she urday 5-10; Closed Sttndays.) It all a n Cu isin e • W c UominU t n v i rO ri m IEMI t • R e a son able :^ r ic e & And, I^ida added, **The bathroom is clean". sugar solution. It's nke to see something like attended the Culinary Institute of America in i Susan Plunkett commented, **The children this on the menu, because I don't see it very Hyde Park, NY. at the next tabSe seem vety happy with their often." It is evident that Cunliffe enjoys her job. Richard n. fresh fruit drinks" (which come in mango, My entree waa a special, MANGO "Oh, I love it. I do. I love it. I just love people.'' stxawbeccy, Jdwi^ pincapplf and banana). SHKXMI^c wbi4i came wkh snow pfeas, red She esp>ccially enjoys the creative aspects of Fenwick We shared aai appa^r of CRISPY peppeft^ man^ and^irnxons, making a very her work. Eventually, she would like to chan­ 9/QVti> TENTAOJS^, which provoked colorful plate. nel that creativity in a different directitMi — Contractor iht foUowing reactions: Susan Jo *'fb» is good, buf I tliink ifike the writing. "It would be just a fnxn book -^ a .;Susan P.: "Oh my G<>d. loctedible. Oh chicken bett^* bestseller—that restaurant people can pick up Now ofMng Htmler-DoiiSjiat and relate to. Like Monty Python stuf^ but {or KHivirdnipisftKiridtfnN j^^s the best thirig IHT ffver had here. That's SUftaa P^ **tbe Ptaago shdqip has a.stfange iOMixing. Fabulous.** taste d^t geo^faBy comes because the oil has restaurants. Then I would th)K>w in a iew signature recipes. It could evtn be for a cock­ ind virlleal bfindt. Lucia: **Cti«py outside, succulent inside, buhiedoff wl&iMHttairi^ t)«Niraly wine bums tail. Most cookbooks are generic. This would r#be happy with thit m an entree." off. It isn't a bottad taste, but It ^ared up from Diiign,DryWil,Dickft, be fun." fitofkft P»'l^amddertvfkatBDia* they tiae^ die oil while itSi^ cooking.'^ ResidMtial IteiviriiHI Our Spec^ CiqMiitry; Propirty ilanag^ Not only does Cunliffe like working daily at OA^fbe cocnstaxch.'* (/^ mtstM^ wkit tb» Luda: '^t'sHtnao^ipri;^ pccsa^ed — att the Free Estimates • Fully Insured • Licensed Master Electrician disbea lie at^CMrdvefy sieved, tlie buiDfid o^ die restaurant, she also likes to work on spedal Repairs to Ml roftasement events, both off-site and in their party room. Phone# 654-8642 • [email protected] • Emergency# 202-0402 : jSaeh of us oz«feted an entree wfa^ we tas«e Is oi^fet by the tweetnesaof ihe inai]|go. *^e do off-premise caterings" she said. **We ^^llied with dbe

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information line and leave your name For those of you who have not nually for a weekend-long getaway. TG folks are as always encouraged 6:30 p4n. The BEARS provide the fl^t of Hottywood's best. and 6 when we wiU be and how we may contact you at 585- noticed, there has been a dearth of Coming up in September,., Back tostopinl fur, fun, and family (also taUe ser­ For furdier info on the Connec­ our 27th Anniversary. Details ID fafct. 234-7641 or use our E-mail address: activities for the GLBT community to the Old West. Dusty flarmels and llie RTG itself also welcomes all vice i^d beverages). You provide a tion, e-mail Kerry, Facilitator, at low at our services and in the OcftOBi^^ r [email protected] or write over 50 who are not into the bar brown leather. Stiff lassos and shiny getkler questioners, of all races, cul- fantastic dish to share. See you there [email protected], phone her Empty Closet. o^;* [ ROMANS, PO Box 92293, Roches­ scene. The public image is that gay spurs. Big Texas skies and big Tex- ttifet «t^ ages. Meeting times have on Sept 14. Aiso on the 14th is our (585)865-4619, join our online meet­ Dignity-Integrity Rochester is 4:^:-: ter, NY 14692. men and lesbians are young people, ans. Propane and propane accesso­ been mentioned in this paragn^h monthly Bearnight, which this ing notification list at living faith community of gay, le»"^^^i^ livingthis "ephemeral'*Ufe style, with ries. Evctythtog you think of when Transgender and further information is, as always, month features the theme of **Show [email protected], or bian, bisexual and transgender people t|j^(^ no place that allows for the aging you think **Westem" — bring it on available oo said website. Pamphlets Your Belly." The fun and food start send mail to (NOTE NEW AD­ and their friends who wotslttp openly on the RTG are available at the the process. in for "Studs & Stetsons'* Barnight. at 10 at the Forum. Our Bearnights DRESSI): P.O. Box 18734, Roches­ with one another. We celebratelitur- Group GAOV Community Center (located Well folks, we're here, we're queer Find a cowboy and let him ride you are the major source of funds fbr the ter, NY 14618. See you there! gies in the Episcopal and ROCQAH at 179 Adantic Ave., Rochester), with and WE ARE getting OLDER! And like a buckin* bronco, or find a cow- The Rochester Transgender Gtoup donations the chib makes to ARC, Catholic traditions, and welcotne ftfl existing relationships; issues with RTG information, contact informa­ surprise, surprise, you will be joinir^ poke to poke. That's Saturday, Sept has experienced mote changfes this die RGMC, die GAGV, ^€ Emptf Dignity Integrity to come — regardless of your «eli- children and your parmer. tion, and meeting times. Don't tbiget Monday, Sept. 2 (La­ Gay Fathers us too! (Eventually.) So ALL are wel­ 21 at The Bachelor Forum, 670 Uni­ last month, as we have started an Closet Preservation Fund, and other gious affiliation (or lack of one). The meetings are held on the first RTG board of ditecton as an over­ deserving charities. Please stop in bor Day) when Dignity-Buffalo and Wotship with us on Sunda3^ at 5 After a short two and a half month come to join us! See what we are versity Ave and third Tuesday ofthe month (ex­ seeing gtoup, with about 10 mem­ Empire Bears and support the Empire Bears. Dignity-Integrity Rochester will be p.m. in St Luke and St. Simon CyiesM summer break ofour twice monthly about — *cause even if you don't Be sure to check the Rams' website cept July and August and the first bers, including former RTG head Also this month, the BEARS will co-hosting a Labor Day Picnic in Church, 17 South Fitzhugh St. — support meetings we wiU be starting need us now — someday you will, at http://www.rochcstcrrams.com The BEARS have big plans fbr Sep­ Tuesday of September, we do not Pam Barres, and GAGV board mem­ ride down to I-etchworth Park for a Medina. There's plenty of room atf yes, the church with the pink steep2el back up, on Tuesday, Oct. 1. and we will be here foryou ! for the latest in news, events and tember. The biggest is a visit by the meet), from 6:30 to 8.30 p.m. at the ber and present RTG Head Facilita- picnic, poduck style. Meet at the Ted and Jerry's place on MarshaU After services each week we social­ Ehic to other circumstances, the As we get underway, our next information. Buffalo Bears, and some friends from GAGV, 179 Atiantic Ave. Please call tor AltyHowelL dam overiook by 1 p.m.; then well Road, (one mile south of Rte. 104 ize at a coffee hour where you are first regularly scheduled meeting in meeting is Sunday, Sept. 15 at 4 p,m. Syracuse, London, and Toronto die GAGV at 244-8640 if you arc We hope to represent all aspects fire up the barbecue, play some heading west from Rochester). welcome to join us. September had to be cancelled. Sorry at AIDS Rochester. Wc will be meet­ ROMANS bearciubs on Saturday, Sept 28. interested in finding out more infor- of the gender community, from MTF, games, and take a hike. Rain or shine, the picnic begins at For more information about Dig­ for any inconvetuence it may have ing in the training center there for a An ail-day party will culmiitatc in a cnation. We have brochures about Rochester Male Naturists (RO­ FTM, and Trans to Intersexcd. The The camping season is winding 1 p.m. and goes until dark. Besides nity-Integrity, please call the D-I caused some of you. We're looking for Potiuck Supper and a program. special BEARNIGHT AT THE our group also available at the MANS) is a social organization of meetings on Wednesday (6:30-9 down, and the Bears will go to the great company, we've got games, Info-Line at (585)234-5092 for re­ ward to seeing everyone again, and Please join us, bring a dish to pass FORUM on die 28th. We're calling GAGV. gay naturists who enjoy camaraderie p.m.,third Wednesday of each Oneida Campground for the week­ dancing and a bonfire to end the day. corded information or to leave a voice getting the 2002 - 2003 year started. and join m the fellowship. this the Lake Ontario Bear Rendez­ in the nude. Our affiliations indude month, at the GAGV) will be run by end of Sept. 21-22. Hope some of Reservations suggested so that we message, see our Web page at http:/ As always we encourage all fathers to For more mfoimatioa, you can vous, so come on over tc the Foruffi Rainbow Seniors Gay Naturists International (GNI) myself Ock) in conjunction with RTG you wili join us. are sure to have enough food and /www.ggw.org/DI-Rochester/ or Chess/Science come to our meetings, both past and call Charlie Lytic at AIDS Rochester and join in the fun. We're kicking off and International Men Enjoying member I>eb T. (MTF). We plan As always, the BEARS are at Mel's parking spaces. Contact us at send us E-mail at present And we •welcome new mem­ By Saundm Ehman at (585)442-2220 ext 3063. our fall teddy bear collection eariy Naturism (IMEN). new '*young to middling^' age-range EHner every Monday at 6 p.m. for (585)234-5092 if you and/or your [email protected]. Fiction Ciub bers at anytiine. Please feel free to HURRAYl We arc finally up and run­ this year, so start bringitig your teddys We have reserved a site at Jones meetings, in the hopes of better serv­ supper and conversation. An outing friends want to join in the fun. The Chess Oub is expanditig to en­ come, and your friends / parmers ning! Rainbow Seniors of the Finger Rochester Ranns to Bearnights to contribute to the Pond for 11 weekends for use by ing that aspect of the TG commu­ to a mo'-nc foUows for those that After the service oo Sept 15 we compass the topic of science fiction. are welcome to come as well. See Lakes! Steven Chabot Memonal Teddy Bear The Rochester Rams (or, officially, club members during th« summer. nity, with more concentration on that want to join us. Tf you Uke to get will have a traditional poduck dinner. It stil! meets on the second Thurs* everyone on Oct. II Our first event, a Poduck Picnic DriV-. Well be collecting ^ through GAGV •*llie Battering Ram, M.C") is the Other dinner parties/meetings are paracular age range. Infc» ran be togerfier with other men who enjoy Ail are welcome. days, at the GAGV, 179 Atlantic Ave., The group consists of men and in and Brown Bag Auction, was on die fail. ride of Rochester's foremost gay held at members' homes during tbe found on the RTG website at laughit^ig, eating, and enjoying life, On Sunday, Sept 22 we wiii be from 6:50 to 9 p.m. some cases, their same sex parmers. August 20. Flyers had be^n sent to ail We'll finish out the weekend by Youth motorcycle club. It is a stnall band ()f year. Our naked sAvim/gym events www.geocities.com/ come meet rhe BEARS. WOOF! joining the Episcopal Bishop ofRoch- In the meetings, chess games will We arc aU at different points in our those who .signed up at the Pride going to brunch at Mario's on Sun­ men of similar interests; motorcycles, for next October thru April arc now rochestertransgcndergroup/ estcr. Jack McKelvcy, and the con* be played, and grandmaster games lives: some are married; some ate Parade and Picnic tables where we day at 1 p.m,, getting back to our club Group leather, fraternity, and good times. scheduled. Some of ourtneetings arc RTG.html. Butch Femme gr^ation of St Luke and St Sitnon's will be shown by Paul Forcella, presi­ going through the separation/di­ were represented, plus to others who The Rams provide community ser­ routine of Fourth Sunday brunches. clothed events. In other news, the RTG will be in bidding farewell to Rev. Gayle dent of the club. .Mso, science fic­ vorce process; and are in various have expressed interest in our group. vice botVi to the gay community — We hope that all the BEARS out Fall has arrived! Due to wedding The Youth Group Membership is open to males over havingits annual picnic this year, and Harris, the rector of Two Saints, who tion will be discussed, if all agree, stages of coming out. This is a sup­ There wiil be ongoing events, such through our series of bar nights — there will want to be a part of this fun plans, there will not be a Discussion 21 years of age who have an interest diat information wili aiso be avail­ is leaving Rochester to become update for the from topics such as "Dr. Who" and port group (not therapy) intended to as a poducJk dinner and programs and to the community-at-largc weekend. See you on Sept. 28 and 29. Event this month. Meet us on in social nudism. Most members able on our website, or through our Suffragan Bishop of Massachusetts. "Star Trek" to the U.S. Space Pro­ discuss the challenges facing gay fa­ each month, as well as other special through charity work, donations and Call our Beariine at234-3381 orcheck Wednesday, Sept. 25, outside the month can be found come from the greater Rochester new voice mail service (so sec above GAGV Community Center, 179 Tiie farewell Mass will be at our regu­ gram, and Carl Sagan, as well as oth­ thers. Some topics for discussion interest groups forming according to our annual toy drive at Christmas. out the website at empirebears.otg on page B15 (Conn­ area, though Buffalo, Syracuse, Utica, homepage for infof) We will wel­ Atlantic Ave., between 6:45 p.m. and lar time, 5 p.m. at Two Saints. Help us ers. Refreshments will be provided. include dealing with wives, ex-wives, demand. For example, there has been Once a year, wc hold the celebrated for more info. and the southern tier arc also repre­ come all gender questioners, Cds, 7 p.m. fbr Out to the Movies Night! wish Rev. Gayie the best in her new munity All arc welcome, and we meet in the or chUdren; coming out to children, expressed interest in brid^, euchre Rams Run in a seduded campground POTLUCKS ARE BACK! The sented. SOFFAS,and anyone from the Well pick from that night's listings position! first floor small conference room. parents, spouses, co-workers; build­ and theatre, to mention a few activi­ in Upstate New York, where over a place to be every second Saturday is Center News) For more information, call our GLBT community at large, and new and head out to the movies for a Finally, save the weekend of Oct 5 For more information, call Paul ing new relationships or maintaining ties. hundred Leathermen converge an­ the GAGV Community Center at Forcella at 266-7356. See you there! =^ Spiritus Christi Church A Christ-cenlsred CAtiiolk Church reaching beyond the institntioaija Elaine Elkins M.S. church to be imrhisive of sll (^ounselofy^Lcsoian Liturgies: Thursday: 7 00 p.m. at Spiritus Christi Church Psychotherapist Saturday' 5:00 p.m at Spiritus Christi Church Sundav: 7:30 a. m. at Spiritus Christi Church Individual and relationship counseling: r^ ncouragcmcnt 9:30 am. al Hochstein, 50 N Ptymouth Ave. anxiety & depression Rainbow Bridge Meetings: 3"^ Monday 7 00-8:30 p m Caring 60BKttiierS« Rochester NY 14450 • 325-1180 loneliness & separation X^SJ^U resolving conflicts communication skills sexual abuse recovery Kcispcct Dtgnlty-Integrily Rochester drug & alcoholism (Roman CatholSc-Episcopal) grief & loss Wc welcome all regardless of worship traditLoo ^^^ parte Avenue or sexual ojdetitation. 244-4837 (7 \6)Z7\ ^6 1 O litiugy evety Sunday at 5:00 p^nou

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•Sn ^ — * « ilH Board member of the month; David Scott GAGV 4> David C. Scott, 29, is a native of GAGV Pride Picnic in 2002 and I am ester Gay and Lesbian Business Volunteer o#^ Rochester. He is a Human Re- a member ofthe program oommittee. Forum. the Month: sources/StalBi^ {Mtofessional aod What do you fe«l are die moat Ia ccMttmuAity service impor- Communi^Center adjunct insttucior, atid is interested important things the GAGV does taut to you* axid if ao, why? in music, daocii^ |»hotography, and for the lgbt conununity? YES. I feel that if everyone gave Bruce VN^Ibuf^' David ScofCt movies. The counseling resources fbrpeople a litde bit of theii time to support David says that his special favorite who atc just coming out. The diver­ the communities they lived in we performer ia "^Michael Jacksonll!" sity training that is offered to the Roch- could eliminate some of the prob­ Community Center David's ideal way of spending a Sat­ ester Police Department, various lems that have such a stronghold school districts, and leading corpora- on our country. urday ni^fwould be "cuddling with GAGV Communitif C«nt»r, i 79 At> Board President: BiH Kdly What woukl you aay to some- J esse Ventura at the governor's man­ dons in the Rochester community. lantic Ave^ Rochester N.Y. J 4607-12SS. Acting ExecutWe Director: P^m one who is thinking of joinkig your ti^Cf and if so, who was it and What is your favorite thing sion in Minnesota." Where would you like to see the Community C«nt9030 board member? I would like the Rochester commu­ Smolinsky ever I go. Not wrap-me~in-a-rainbow- creativity at the same time, and I warding and/or enjoyable about boatd you have to have an open father). George always takes a stand has given me a unicpe view on life. I GAGV/EC fsac (565)244-8246 One year and four montlis. nity to be so enlightened that there Empty Cioset Editor. Susan flag out, or yeah-Pm-a-fag, wanna- don't have to crawl around under volimteering with the GAGV? ' mind. What is so great about our for what he believes in; that is one of have been forced co be introspec­ GAGVE-m«ii: [email protected] Jordan Why did yo«i decide to join the would not be a need for the GAGV! makc-somcthing-of-it out I'm a bit other people's desks. That's a real Two things. First, i get to do what board is that \pe have people with the many reasons that I admire and tive, the pain that I have experienced Empty Closet E-mail: Youth Program Coordinator: board? (Wishful thinking!) more low-key than that and beinggay plus! I do best without being asked to be a extremely different views involv­ love him. He is the first person who thifoughout life l»as given mc com­ emptydo$et@^ya]iianc«.org Patty Hayes To share my experience as a gay Are you out? GAGV Web site: is only one aspect of my life. But like When did you first become ac­ square peg in a round hole. Second, YTLS! I am out to fanuly and friends ing the lgbt community; however, told me it is OK to be myself at all passion for people and courage that AdmiffBi»tr*rive{A!jt|e Cindi Eveieigh black male and contribute to educat­ www.gaxalliaurtce.or;g Mteting sftitir it V^&iftiSasr accesiubk. at work, when Vtx\ not single anyway, quainted -with the GAGV? I feel appreciated. At some places and to anyone who asks. we don't let our opinions over­ times. He is the first person 1 came I feci would be lacking if I fit into ing the Rochester comniunity on Igbt Center hours: Mon/Thurs., 1-9 pm; Board fneettrigs afx scheduled firtb e st^nd I have a picture of my boyfriend on Years and years ago, back in the where I've volunteered, I've felt like shadow the gt>ai of justice and equal­ out to^ aad he and Ms family have everyday society. issues. Are you active in other gay Fri. I "^ pm. Wtdntsday ofthe month. my desk — diat sort of out. Genesee Co-op days. slave labor. Wlio needs that.^ Here ity. shown me support and love above Wbat committees/projects groups, or non-gay comnnunity "In my free rime, Tm either online In what capacities have you it's always "Please", "Thank you" Did an individuai influence and beyond what I have seen in my have you "worked on? groups, and if so, which ones? or reading a book. I do a lot of read­ volunteered with the GAGV? and "When can you come back.^". you in some fsiaior way during own family. Fall Programs I was the chaiq>erson for the T am a member ofthe Greater Roch­ Fall is a good ing online — there's so much good Vm helping out with the comput­ What wouid you say to others to at GAGV stuff people write out thers. I also do ers and the we"o site — sort of a encourage them to become a vol­ President of New York St^te, "In the time for youth The Chorus has been quite busy Know Yi»ur R%hts sorrie writing myself. I'm a member geek-on-oail. Pm working with a unteer with the GAGV? The cost 1.S $5 per person. Please Wbrnen's Hiking history oi the gay and lesbian com­ Wbmen^s this summer, even though no xe- to connect The GAGV Center Fonam en­ of Writers Sc Books and the down­ great group of people on the web Tliere's something here for every­ bring a dish to pass. G(?od food, good munity, there has not been an organi­ hearsals occurred. Receiving an Ladies, come join us each month fot By Patty Hayes, Youth Program titled "Tlie State of Our State: Legal town library is like my crackhouse. site redesign team, and we're all vol­ one, from the professional to the Fishing Group conversation, good women! Single and sation to take action on pro-life con­ ''honorable mention" fot our float our fun hikes at local parks. All differ­ Coordinator Rights and the GLBT Community*' "Professionally, i make web sites.I unteers. If oniy hair the great ideas menial. Whatever time, skills and partnered women are encouraged to victions until the Pro-Ljfe Alliance of entr)^ in the annual gsy pride parade ent ages and hiking abilities arc fine. RnrrrrrrrtTring!! Ah, it's that time of is scheduled for Monday, Sept. 23 at know. That's so '90s, isn't it? I used make the final cut, the web site wiil enei^' you have, they'll be used and XX'ltJt the approach of cooler weather, come celebrate the arrival of fall in the Gays and Ixsbiam. In 1990PLAGAL greatly pleased Chorines, And we Tliis is a gerat way to meet fun and year again. ..time to go back to school. 7 p.m. and '*ill feature Jennifer L. to be a PC Technician/Help Desk be completely translbrmed. (Editor's appreciated. They might even put it's almost trout and salmon tin^ie! company of others! Alcohoi-and- cayne into being out of the rock- wish to thank all those who pur­ interesting^B^omen. And moms, bring For some, the start of school means Gravitz, who specializes in GLBT geek. I still do a bit of that on the side, note: The tvebsite may include apa^ ofthe you in the EO. Due to wedding plarss, the two meet­ smoke-free, but packed with fun! bottom belief that when anythitig chased raffle tickets on the baskets your kids! They make it even better. an end to summer boredom and a law and is a local attorney and Assis but being a web geek is more chal­ Empty Closet — and ultimately, we'd Thank you, Bruce. ings of Fishing in The Fingeriakes We're also planning a Women's Fall threatens human life, rights, or dig­ we offered at the festival and picnic. Ask about our vctmont adventure chance to see friends again. For oth­ tant Professor at RIT. will occur back to back in September. Kayaking Advenmre in October. nity, that threat must go. to the public. Meanwhile the Board cf Direc­ coming up. ers, it can mean the remrn to harass­ Gravitz will discuss how current On Sanday, Sept- 22, meet outside UpstateLesConnect is a free online Homophobia's one such threat. "Survivin' and Thrivin' at Work" tors and the Staff have spent the Interested? Call Donna Marie ment and the incessant chanting of, local, state and federal laws affect the GAGV Community Center, 179 group for iesbians ail across Upstate Abortion*s another. Interested? Have is scheduled on Tuesday, Oct. 29 at sutnmer in preparation for the 20th Kearney at 95850442-6399. "That's sooooo gay!" VtTiatever the GLBT people in the areas of family Upcoming GAGV Programs Adantic Ave., between 10 and 10:15 New York. To join: contact http:// questions? Join us." 7p.m. Through interactive exercises season. The Board agreed to extend case, this is the perfect time of year to and relationships', civii rights, and a.m. and wcTJ head out to Cayuga groups.vahoo.com/group/ PLAGAJ^ P O. Box 33292, Wash^ and information sharing, this two- the time period for purchasing sea­ make sure you're connected to tlie employment- The Center Fotxim wili FaU 2002 Lake State Park (and a nearby rail- upstateiesconnect/. To sign up for PLAGAL ington, DC 20033. (202) 223-6697. hour workshop ^vil! help participants toad bridge riverbstnk that has j^eat son tickets ut a U) per cent discount youth programs at the GACJV be held at the GAGV Ccjmmunity our tree i-nonthly new^sletter Connrct- Says Donna Marie Kearney, ProLife Email: plagal(@plagal.otg. Website: identiiv concrete strategies on how bass fishing.') near Waterloo. until Sept. 15, So ifyou have not yet Center and is free and open to the The State of Our State: Legal flights and the GLBT ifjg Us!, enmail Alliance of Gays and Lesbians Vice- w"t. 21 ot 7 p.m. meet us outside the GAGV Com­ For info on great day and weekend Chorusline at (585)423-0650. 1 and where you can be yourself. For Coming Out Programis of employment. Pre-registration is munity Center between 10 and 10:1 .S trips for women go to http:// RGMC will again be collecting tliose who are out and are dciding October is N,idonaJ Con>mg Out reqmred and iJie registrataon fee is on More than Gay or Straight: Bisexual and Proud. a.m. and well head out to Chariottr:^ items for the food cupboard at ARI Psychotherapy S( Therapei^ic widi homophobia, it's a place to get Month, and the GAGV has sched­ Soturdoy^ Oct. 12, Pre-rcgiitration required, groupfi.yahoo.com/group/ Spirit-P^nd-Body Work a sliding scale from $10-S20. To reg­ Pier in Greece off Lake Ave., where divadestinations. during each rehearsal. And we wiU support and ideas on how to protect uled three programs to support ister, please contact Tanya at the killer -walleye and smallmouth fish­ ask the audience to again assist us your rights in school. For those who people in their coming out process. GAGS'at 244^8640. N«3Ct Step Group: six-week support group ing awaits! We fish in rain or shine by bringing items to the holiday have had good experiences in schoun9eiing& this is a place for you to share your triid-October and meet for six ses­ The Rochester Ciay Men's Choms Sexual Abuse Recowoy fir Heathig Because most people detemiine Call for fiirther info (or for central day and Saturday, Dec. 13 and 14, at stories and ideas with others who sions. It is open to gay, iesbian, bi­ When Boys WiU Be Girls and GiHs Wiil Be Boys. opens rehearsals for its 20th season at Rtetreat Center Depression another person's sexual orientation meeting locations in Waterloo and the Hochstein Music School need to hear tJiat things can be dif­ sexual and transgender individuals Monday, Oct. 21 at 7 p,m. 7 p.m. on Thursday, Sept. 5, at Down­ Ovonic phj^cal or emotional pain based on the sex of that person's Greece for both dates) — Kerry and On Sept. 29, RGMC will again be ferent. who want co take the next step in town United Presbyterian Church, 121 Exploration fit Dewlopment of partner, or on the context that they Cindy (585)654-8776, or e-mail singing on the Prism Corum, the Our Youth Adult Group for their coming out process, whether Survivin' and Thrwin* at Work:. N. Fitzhugh St. spkSual glRs are in, most bisexuals often remain semi-annual production of the they have been out for years or are Thur»doy, Oct, 29 at 7 p,m, Prtt-reglMtratlon required. FishingFolksNnt'@aol.com. If you are interested in joining people 18 23 meets every Sunday invisible to gay, straight, and even Rochester Choral Consortium. The just newly coming out. RGMC, please come to the first re­ Leant to Fromote your own Health from 12-1:30 p.m. at the Gay AUi other bisexual people. Ifyou are bi­ concert will feamrc approximately Tlirough interactive exercises, fa­ hearsal, and Music Director Nick ance (179 Atlantic Ave.). The Youth sexual, you literally need to wear a Above programs will be held at the GAGV Upstate 30 choral groups from the Roches­ Leigh Woodley E^resman, MS£cL cilitated discussions, and journal writ­ Comfnunity Center, 179 Atlantic Ave, Williams will listaen to your voice and Gioup for people 13-18 meets ev­ sign reading "bisexual" to be recog­ ter area and begins at 4 pjn. in the ing, group participants will gain sup­ To register, contact Tanya at 244-8640. LesConnect place you in thie appropriate section. 315-524-7588 ery Sunday from 2 - 4 p.m., also at the nized for who you are. And then Eastman Theatre. The performance port, confidence and insight that wili You need prepare nothing for the Gay AUiance. The Youth of Color there are ail those stereotypes that go On Saturday, Sept. 7, from 5-9 p.m., is free to the public. enable them to achieve their per­ Mi voice placemenL V('Tiiie all vocal parts Group meets every Tuesday from 3 along with being bisexual that can UpstateLesConnect will host a sonal goals, whetiicr tt be feeling are needed. First Tenors and Basses - 5 p.m. at die MOCHA Project (25 keep people from wanting to come Women's Potiuck at Brighton Town more comfortable with their sexual are especially welcome. Franklin SL, Suite 1060). All die out as bisexual. Lodge, 777 Westfall Rd. groups are drop-in, so you can just orientation or gender identity, com­ A new GAGV workshop entided Message from the president: show upl For more information on ing Out at work or to family mem­ "More Than Gay orStraight Bisexual money squeeze J3J9J3J9JaJSJOJ3J3J9J9JSJSJ3J3J9J3J9JaaJ3^ our groups and services^ call bers, or feeling more integrated into and Proud" will provide a safe, sup­ -^ (.585)255*8640, ot drop tne an e-mail d»c glbt community. Prc-regi.?trarion portive space where 'oi&exuals can JS By Bill Kelly, President ofthe GAGV Board J3 « paaybry-'third-: ,' The Triangle Talk discussion, detstanding bisexuality as a disttoct JS allies can help by becoming members, by renewing their member­ J9 scheduled for Oct 28 at 7 p.m. at sexuai orientation, overcoming ships or by upgradii^ their metnbership. JS Borders, will feature a book focused tephobia within the straight and gay JS Gospel mornh :st iln At bat count, the GAGV has less-than 1000 active members! The on the coming out process (see Oc­ communities, cieatii^ intimate and J3 G AG V ConilnalUr y Greater Rochester area, conservatively estimated, has over 3K),000 CVwrfr tober EC for more details). The sexual rdaekMidhips that nurture one's LGBT people. Doubling our membership numbers would go a long JS Ccn-t i-it, discussion wili be lead by Dr. Den­ bisexuality, and validating and eel- way «o addtess our cash shottfoll for ttiis year. • C i\ Vi.' nis Foley, who is an Assistant Pro­ ebtatifig 6 40- Bookstote. The talk is free and open 8640. JSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJSJS

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