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AUTUMN 2020 / LIV FUN 1 AUTUMN 2020 Open Eyes: A Publication of “Love does not see with the eyes, but with the soul.” — William Shakespeare www.leisurecare.com 999 Third Avenue, Suite 4550 FEATURES: Seattle, WA 98104 5. Thoughts From the Home Office Leisure Care Staying apart, staying together 6 Chelsia Andreassen Senior Director of Marketing 14. The Nun Study Published four times per year for The startling research on aging with grace distribution to our residents and their families. 24. The Big Squeeze We don’t all get an angel to show us the truth Created by Wise Publishing Group 38. A Tomato Named Beefsteak www.wisepublishinggroup.com What can one expect from a garden like this? Publisher/Editor-in-Chief Max Wells [email protected] Managing/Copy Editor DEPARTMENTS: Carol Pearson [email protected] CREATIVE LOAFING Art Director 8. Entertain Your Brain! Mike Inks, MLI Design www.mlidesign.co Book, movie and music reviews [email protected] 12. Out and About: 500 Words a Day Ad Sales Let your words fill your sails [email protected] Production: 20. Brain Games MLi Design Crossword and Sudoku www.mlidesign.co Printing: USEFUL NOW Journal Graphics www.journalgraphics.com 6. Style Wise: The Vanishing Point Oyster bar or wine bar? Depends on your view … Contributing Authors 21. Healthy U: Greet the Day Nancy Gertz Push your physical edge a bit more each day Mazduda Hassan Julia Hogan 22. Money Matters: Splurge When It Matters Robert Horton The wisdom of being selectively frugal Pam Mandel Skye Moody 31. Advice for the Journey: No Extreme Measures John Pearson George A. Santino How to look ahead when we want our old lives back Misha Stone David Tumbarello PERSPECTIVE SHIFTING Jeff Wozer Rabbi Elana Zaiman 32. Your Life Well Lived: Watch Me True learning begins with our eyes Proofreaders Cheryl Knight 34. Live Big, Live Bold: Little Habits, Big Difference Diane Smith 5 ways to grow happiness a little more each day 40. Ethics & Spirituality: Yachad The art of connecting as a community Cover Photo © lisegagne Advertisement 2 LIV FUN / AUTUMN 2020 AUTUMN 2020 / LIV FUN 3 THOUGHTS FROM THE HOME OFFICE Staying Apart, Together Greetings everyone, This issue of LivFun could not have been more timely. Leisure Care communities have never been more creative in cultivating connectedness and finding happiness in uncon- ventional ways. As the last few months have forced us to stay physically apart, our communities have come together What’s the most fun way to keep your mind and body active? like never before. From virtual happy hours and meal delivery to video calls Learning to play the piano! and car parades, our communities continue to exemplify the best of the human spirit. We have seen our communities come together in extraordinary times, and we continue to do ◊ Fun! so. We could go on forever, telling you how our residents are embodying our Five-Star Fun promise while staying apart ◊ Easier and faster together, but we know that a picture is worth a thousand than you think words. All our best, ◊ Research shows Greg Clark and the entire Leisure Care team playing the piano keeps your mind and body healthy It’s YOUR turn to play! Let 6X Emmy winner Scott “The Piano Guy” Houston show you how at: www.pianoinaflash.com/livfun 4 LIV FUN / AUTUMN 2020 AUTUMN 2020 / LIV FUN 5 Style Wise: Expressing Your Unique Self “flâneur: (French) a stroller, with all of its accompanying associations.” This belated noticing of an object, or what we see is what we get, I hope the place, or article of clothing, etc., has camel’s vision is borne out. kicked my Achilles heel for as long as Yet when it comes to witnessing I can recall. Teachers and other adults homeless camps, video replays of often admonish me for interludes of bloody violence, robbery, child abuse, inattention and daydreaming; no doubt fights, even murder in our streets, I possess a nomadic mind. I’m paying viewers’ points of view swing from attention alright, just to different phe- blind disregard to denial to righteous nomena. Simply put, Robyn and I see anger. When witnessing trouble brew- the world through different eyes. ing, some refuse to watch; whether DNA and education have formed out of skittishness, cowardice, fear, or Robyn’s sharp, focused, left-brained denial, they intentionally go blind, es- view of the world. She’s a keen caping harsh realities and intervention. observer, a data gatherer who, in one Any excuse to avoid confrontation. glance, drinks in a million fact-based Reality can be so offensive. Change items of information. By profession a the channel, quick. Whew! medical cost accountant, Robyn col- In the face of injustice or physical lects everything she sees in a lexicon violence, Robyn and I see alike. While I can’t translate, storing her visual I dive right in, place my body between experiences in detailed columns and the fighters, try to diffuse the tense VANISHING POINT indices, numbers, lists and transcripts situation, Robyn’s feistiness and moral impressed on her unfailing memory. outrage similarly erupts. Her former My brain tends to ride the odd San Francisco ’60’s flower girl morphs zephyr; thus, my visual experiences into a fierce freedom fighter, and she’s record differently. Today, for example, all in for justice and (hopefully, even- © middelveld while Robyn can name and cite the his- tually) peace. V tory of every commercial space along The sightless possess their unique Newport Avenue toward the beach and adaptation of seeing. I fear most losing Oyster bar? Wine bar? the Pacific Ocean, I am focusing on my eyesight. When, twice each day, a the vanishing point, where a squadron pandemonium of wild Amazon parrots Depends entirely on your point of view. of pelicans flies single file above the zooms amongst the local palm trees in ocean, while on the strand, a bunch of streaks of bright green painted across kids are burying a toddler up to his head an electric blue sky, an injection of by Skye Moody in sparkling sand. Meanwhile Robyn such joy inhabits my spirit that my Novelist, essayist, photographer and world traveler swallows in the whole panorama, en- whole day is better for the experience. graving it onto her brain. Where Robyn Likewise, witnessing an act of sees a man with a red beard wearing a kindness — neighbor to neighbor, strolling along Newport Avenue with my friend Robyn when we pass an polka-dot shirt and sunglasses, I per- children to parents, stranger to upscale oyster bar. ceive a guy with an ungroomed beard stranger — infuses me with a glad- I’m“Wow,” I say. “It’s great to see a snazzy new bar in the neighborhood.” and Ray-Bans but couldn’t tell you if he ness that soars my heart. Even while Robyn whips her head around to stare at me. Appalled, she says, “That bar has was wearing a shirt. we must not blind our eyes to others’ been there 40 years. It’s the most popular wine bar in Ocean Beach, and you’re The world is full of vanishing suffering, we can allow our hearts to just now discovering it?” points, angles, shadows, light and per- ride the rainbows of gratitude and joy. Oyster bar? Wine bar? Which best describes it? spective. The eye can be easily fooled. Our rainbows are gifts, kaleidoscopes Robyn should know; she’s lived in the neighborhood most of her life. I’m a To a desert camel’s eyes, the mirage brightening grayer landscapes. newbie. I squint and stammer, “Oh. Guess I never noticed it. You know ... being ahead registers as an oasis of water, Avid flâneurs both, Robyn and I top new ...” but his thirst-starved passenger, nearly off our afternoon stroll with wine toasts Robyn planes her eyes at me and scoffs at my tiresome newbie alibi. dead, has lost all hope and interprets and oysters on the half shell at the slick “How can you have missed that bar for so many months?” the optical illusion as a lake of fire. If old/new bar on Newport Avenue. u 6 LIV FUN / AUTUMN 2020 AUTUMN 2020 / LIV FUN 7 Entertain Your Brain: Books Entertain Your Brain: Movies by Misha Stone by Robert Horton Readers’ advisory librarian & Booklist Magazine blogger Member, National Society of Film Critics “While the crisis lasted, people loved each other.” “Acting is really about having the courage to fail in front of people.” — Catholic activist Dorothy Day — Adam Driver A Paradise Built in Hell: The Extraordinary Communities That Arise in Disaster Devs (2020) by Rebecca Solnit (Penguin, $16) If you like a lot of science in your science fiction, writer-director Alex Garland (he did the ter- Popular opinion holds that in times of catastrophe, people turn on one another and cannot be rific Ex Machina) has you covered. This eight-part miniseries looks inside a technology cam- trusted to rise above primal instincts; Solnit’s sweeping, inspirational survey of catastrophic pus where a hush-hush project is hatching, the specifics of which are best discovered gradu- events tells a different story. When the 1906 earthquake devastated San Francisco, class strati- ally. As the series unpacks its secrets, the speculations on quantum physics and the possibility fications broke down and impromptu soup kitchens sprung up to feed the needy. Generosity of seeing time in a new way become as many-sided as the multiverse. In its most adventurous abounded as mutual aid flourished in solidarity with fellow sufferers; everyday heroes helped episode, most of the action appears to take place in various kinds of speculative timelines.